You have encouraged me to become a better person for the past 3 years of my life. I just wanted to tell you I truly appreciate what you do. Continue to make videos Leo.
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Hope 7 years later, you still check every while your incoming messages... Here's this question for you: AT WHICH POINT DOES SELF-IMAGE AND 'EGO' DIFFERENTIATE FROM EACH OTHER???
Great work Leo, what you are doing is pure and good, thank you for putting that into the world. AND thank you because you have put ALL this stuff in the best format available, your delivery is clear, honest and authentic. Thank you...
I find that using positive affirmations is what actually changes my self image. I will smile even if it doesn't feel genuine and proudly say what I am even if it doesn't feel right (I am rich) to reinforce what I want to be. The hardest part is being consistent. I'll be late for work or feel like I don't need it one day so blow off affirmations that day and the negative thoughts come sneaking back in. It's more powerful than it seems. Sort of like yoga or meditation, you may not notice a drastic change right after doing it but it's working its magic under the surface :) Just don't give up and be consistent with it!
Words are just subconcious shortcuts to images (or another sensorial information like tasting). Its a good tool, but the pure imagination is always more impressive for the brain.
I had been traveling down a very dark path for the last few months. I had something very traumatic and hurtful happen to me yesterday due to my poor choices. I came clean about all the secrets I had been keeping and decided it was time to focus on myself to distract the broken heart I was suffering from. I started watching your videos and you've helped me so much. I haven't been thinking about this individual as much because I am more focused on myself. I like how simple and to the point you make your videos. You don't sugar coat anything! Thank you for making these videos but then again you don't need good or bad opinions from anyone because you are independent ;)
Another good tip I live by and remind myself everyday is... If i say something negative about myself, like I think I'm ugly, I ask myself how I would feel if someone else said something like that to me, I wouldn't like it. *So why do I say ugly things to myself.*
this is wonderful - Michael Singer - "untethered Soul" covers this similarly in the first opening chapter or two. yes why do you say ugly things to yourself? but... takes it one step further, and it is "Why do you allow the Voice, the Chatter, the always going on incessent chatter, why do we allllllllowww it to say ugly things about ourselfs?" and what then is a quote that has helped me many times in coming to this and not just getting it as theory, but to actually implement this and bring it into ones own reality (from theory to KNOWING) "The mind is a tyrannical Master, or it is an loyal and obedient 'slave'" ---- essentially says we should not be the slave to our own mind (since we were never taught how to use it.... just thrown in and given one of the most incredibly gifts of evolution and never ever... .... no 'how to' guide, manual, installation pamphlet.... [let alone a warranty] lololol. **** quotes always help me to implement other tidbits of knowledge & wisdom
I am from Brazil and i can't understand english so correctly, but Leo has a fluid pronounce! It's easy to listen him speaking, I absorbe almost everything, It not happens when I am watching others videos on internet. Beyond actualize myself, I can improve my listening with him. Thank you Leo!
Same thing here, when i watched the content of the channel i feel finally i found something to listen and i like long content its really help to understand and improve listening
this is something I definitely struggle with. I have a bad habit of blaming my appearance for how others treat me. if I'm rejected, ignored, ect... right way I think it's because I'm not pretty enough. if I'm with someone people will focus on them in conversation and hardly involve me so I either back away or I feel like I have to talk over them to get a word in. right away I go to "they think I'm too ugly to talk to" I can't seem to shake it.
My parents destroyed my self-image. Even as an adult, they are toxic. However, for the last fifteen years or so, I've been feeding myself all these negative self-image statements--as if I were trying to parent myself in this way. What are the secrets to reconstructing the image of myself after all these years? How do I carve out enough time to do it?
You allowed them too. My dad has called me everything under the sun including a slave and it hasn’t changed the way I see myself. Period. Take responsibility over yourself and accept that you have them that change. Ignorantly but still.
Bethany Solomon when you’re a kid you don’t necessarily allow your parents to treat you a certain way. You are not mentally equipped to do that. As an adult you do. It gets tricky though when your parents’ reality becomes your reality. You are allowing it subconsciously. What this person was saying is they recognize it and asking how to change the internal dialogue. Not allowing other people to treat you a certain way is a part of it. A small part of it. Most of the work is internal though. I am actively working on changing the beliefs I grew up with and it took me over a year of being aware of my behavior and thoughts and questioning everything to see clearly what those beliefs actually are and how they shape my life. And I emphasize the word clearly. As in I can write them down in a list and immediately identify any trigger that comes my way. Now I am working on changing how I respond to that trigger.
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+Actualized.org When i was in middle school i was a skinny nerd and people used to look at me and laugh and at some point i started to realize it. I didnt have much luck with girls and i was not treated very seriously by my peers... It really got to my head and i fell into complexes. I stoped seeing my friends and lost some friends because of it. Because of it i quit school and didnt get out of my house for 2 years i was litterally afraid of people.... So i said 'Its time to make a change' I got a job, i went to weekend school and hit the gym. i found that it is my passion and in little over a year i put on 18 kg of weight from which 12-13 of muscle. I look way better now and people started to respect me because of my looks, and i have way more luck with girls but for a period of time i still had the ugly skinny self image but the experience with people over time with my new look are maki9ng my self image better and better. It is possible to be happy with yourself but you have to find what you love to do your passion , start doing it and benefit from it. Changing my self image was not easy and i took time but it was worth it cheers.
+Actualized.org Hi Leo, READ through system dynamics modeling, system thinking. Many of your ideas comes from there. specifically, read about archetypes. you can find many interesting things that help you understand how thins works and how we shape our mental model. www.systemdynamics.org/
+Actualized.org If I REALLY want to ingrain an AWESOME positive image, should I read psycho cybernetics? Does it give exercises that I can do? What else can I do to COMPLETELY reprogram my subconscious mind? Thanks.
Hey Leo, thank you for this beautiful video! I am definitely going to borrow that book! So my story is : I am 22yrs old student, and I know I have an amazing talent for dancing. I won a lot of competitions so people started calling me around the world to come and teach internationally. So I was so extremely excited, practicing a lot, seeing myself in a future as an international teacher, doing what I love for living, and then I hurt my knee. I practiced a lot and got a case of "chondromalacia patella". It's not that bad, I can still dance and but my doctor said "it's going to get worse if you countinue dancing" . And now I am affraid it's really going to get worse and can't stop thinking about it. So my self image from seeing myself in a future doing what I love, is starting to change in "I am going to fail, and I won't be able to do what I love for living"... The worst thing is my mom is totally not supportive about this. She doesn't take my dancing seriously at all, even after winning a lot of competitions and being called and admired around the world, she just takes my case for granted. She doesn't believe I can do that for living. Knee pain + Doctors say it's going to get worse + Mom not believeing in you = Bad image about me and my future. Do you have an idea what happens when you think everything is going well and you try hard and things just push you down like this? What to do, how can you NOT let theese things effect you? Can you explain what happens
Fantastic insights, I've been a personal development junky for the last 6 years , this is the first time I've come across you Leo , the way you explain things makes so much sense , you explain HOW and WHY these things work in such a way that I havnt heard before , feeling very inspired . Graham Cosier UK
This was amazing! It had me almost in tears because everything you said is true about myself and I didn’t realize the problem I have until my husband was ready to walk..we’ve been taking space for a week now and it’s very hard for both of us but we both need to find ourselves again on our own and it’s been bringing us closer. We haven’t argued in a week , we are so nice to eachother, long hugs etc. I have a lot of work to do before he comes home and I’m determined ♥️
Leo i Really appreciate your videos. I am practicing these teachings and with Gods help breaking free from So many things that have held me down that hid themselves but now cannot anymore!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!
Leo, man, your videos are amazing. You are helping a lot of people with this stuff. Just its important to say, i think, that people that want to change, needs to have a therapist or a coach or a good friend to dig them out of the hole they dig for themselves. Its not shamefull to ask for help and to need help. Be strong guys. Dont give up!
hows things? i think he means to work on your subconcious beliefs. so imo it's best to get psychotherapy for navigate through those waters. you can just ask him how do i work on my subconcious beliefs? hopefully he can bounce off that, but it's basically wanting to know what beliefs youre living your life under without realizing it. so i'd say get a psychotherapist. :)
I've heard a saying in Paganism, "As ye believe, so shall ye be". With that said, I've recently discovered that I may be a survivor of narcissistic abuse (more accurately, two sociopaths), from age 12. And I am deeply concerned and almost frantically worried, that I may become a sociopath myself. I do NOT want to be a monster. 😢
Not sure what happened, but I started realizing I was clever, attractive and had an amazing personality who truly enjoys sharing ideas, solving problems and finding the treasure in others, spreading appreciation and joy as often as I can. These beliefs make life magical and successful ventures a destiny I intend to share with other great people. I’ve always been terribly optimistic and cared a lot about people but I didn’t realize how wonderful I could be I just slow down to take in who I really was and what I wanted. I get the greatest pleasure from making people smile and laugh and appreciate sentiments or alleviating any problems they have if possible. It’s a bit late codependency but I’m a believer in interdependency the universe seems to always have my best interest in mind as long as I stay true to who I am and maybe have a bit more situational awareness than I used to have LOL
Man, you know when things just click? This video is maybe the 10th one of yours I’ve listened to and today’s “click” felt like more of an explosion and complete mind body shift. I really appreciate your no bullshit delivery, too. Thanks for being here.
I’ve tried therapy the last couple of years and they only scratch the surface. I’ve been on a long strange, winding road to enlightenment from a very young age and think you will help me make a breakthrough. Thank you
I was struggling with lower self esteem. And everytime I wanted to speak with someone about how keen I feel. People used to say I am stupid for thinking so. People including my parents told me I am speaking nonsense . But this vedio told me I am not speaking stupid and that Self love is really something that needs to have a focus on. Thanks... Leo , You don't know how big turn you have made in my life , And I agreed at each statement of yours. I can finally get some medications for my Mind now. Thanks a lot .
Finally, an intelligent clear message I can follow that isn't preaching about needing a religion to love yourself. I cant thank you enough, this has really helped. Your a badass!!
This is what I learned in trauma therapy. The therapist was using CBT. I had no idea about all the damaging beliefs I had and was astonished when we did the work to find the source of those beliefs (instances in childhood). Being able to identify the belief and the source was the foundation for my being able to challenge it. That changed everything. I am still working with a trauma therapist as I have C-PTSD, but I am hopeful as research shows the brain can heal from the development damage caused by severe trauma. Anyway, yes the unconscious self-image is a huge part of how reality unfolds. Great talk.
You have given me an feeling that directs away from my suicidel direction that I have harbored through tmes (great long stretches of being hapy=married, acutually loved the guy and had twins which were a miracle) we also obtained two dogs that proved to be a miracle for me. The one I loved the most died. Well the guy left. We sold the house (he forced) way below profit margin, failing big time. Thank you for giving me the low down again. After listenin to you, there is a glimmer of hope. Thank you at least for tonight. I
Hang in there. You're a good person who's survived tough experiences and you don't deserve to be killed by anyone, including yourself. When eventually you do pass on, let it be in a way that you, your children, and loved ones can feel at peace with. Hopefully you can add that to your more positive self-image.
I do agree with everything you said: I just list 25 Lbs; I am giving away things I do not need around the house (cleaning-in-cleaning-out). I graduated with a Masters in psychology and pursuing my PhD with emphasis in counseling Psychology. My grandmother told me that I was too ugly,; too dark, however I had a pretty body. Therefore I had it made.... ? This message bother me throughout my whale life. Thank you for kind words... 🙏🏻🙏🏻😘
I can vouch, my entire life up to a year ago, I knew arithmetic or just numbers in general were near impossible. I understand the fundamentals, barely. However, numbers all together remained alien and a never ending uphill struggle. Then something happened. I was shown how every single weakness that I carried, was in fact my strengths being suppressed. In a matter of months, 90% of the arithmetic I encountered became no more difficult than 1+1=2. If you believe that assumption. However the real proof in change that can be measured, a tangible difference, is in the fact I no longer have a single contact saved in my phone. It was like 1985. Every phone number that I needed I memorized. I actually dont even feel like I memorized them. Memorizing anything takes work. And thus literally required no effort. I dialed a number 2 or 3 times, and I just didn't forget it after that. I am just now discovering the power of the mind. I now know that I will never, ever suffer dementia, or Alzheimer's, or any mental illness real or not!! I also contribute alot of this change to the fact I kicked my TV out and have not watched any television since. I also refuse to listen to any news on the radio.
I love your entire series! i went to therapy for some time and I learned similar things there! so this is great to thave a chance to listen to the message as often as i need! Thankyou so much for doing all the leg work for us!
I've been overweight for as long as I can remember, I've always been insecure about my body ever since childhood and people often comment on my body, from family members to strangers I pass by on the street, even people I meet for the first time comment on how big I am. My parents put me on diets as a child, that I now realize were ridiculous because no one could eat like that for the rest of their life or the methods made no sense. Two years ago I went to a dietitian and started losing a lot of weight and everyone commented on how much weight I was losing and how good I looked and while it felt good I still missed all of the food I couldn't eat and the portions didn't make me feel full and even though everyone was positively commenting on my weight it annoyed me that my body was still the main focus and eventually I just got tired of restricting my food and went back to eating the way I did before and gained a lot of the weight back to date. I do sometimes feel like my weight is my identity in a way so you're saying that because I've had that "fat" image of myself since childhood that it's subconsciously part of or the reason that I had trouble sticking to my diet?
Thank you for being so generous. Your videos are amazing and thanks to you, we can get deep lessons about ourselves for free. It's great! Continue your videos, I'm really supporting you 100%!
Hi leo. Just came across you and your videos. Watched 2 so far. I just want to say thanks and i really look forward to checking out more of your videos. Really good stuff.
My self-image and efficacy have changed a lot over time, due to my own great efforts. Looking to surmount new hurdles. Somatic awareness explorations, meditation, and what else allows work on subsconscious? Good to see someone going deep and recognizing the subconscious rather than the usual superficial/band-aid self-help approaches.
In the quraan Allah says, that He does not change people unless they change what is in Thier SELF. psychology proofs it and we have better knowledge now. This thing is real and your vedieo is the best I have seen on this topic. Thank you very much. Love and peace 😘🌼
Leo, you move what I think about myself. These videos are amazing content and I hope I someday can get to meet you in person and thank you for lighting up my life with knowledge you share. I appreciate you!! Have a wonderful day!
I've had a lot of bad things happen in my life, along with the good. Although I know that I've grown from my past experiences, at random times, and a lot of the time, I'll just get the terrible memories flash into my head like they're screaming at me. I went to counselling for a few years and it helped me figure out where the problems stemmed from - boarding school, though some may have come from before that. The therapy helped me understand where it came from and they talked to me about my day but they never really worked on solving the deeper problem, instead they put me on medication. I left boarding school with anxiety, depression, paranoia, OCD and the need to always be addicted to something or other. I've recently found out that I may have BPD aswell. Ever since, I've had an interest in psychology. I know where it stemmed from and I know the anxiety happens when I feel trapped. But I don't know where to start and I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm drowning. Please help me.
There is always a perfect image you are compared to. It is so funny that we mostly do things as to please society than ourselves . Physical , mental and emotional attractiveness are key to having a successful life .
This is not for your ego but maybe for mine.... thank you!!!! You’ve helped me through a lot of difficult times. And hopefully slowing I’m changing myself for the better. Your calm informative no nonsense videos are amazing and very giving of you.
Ever since I was a child I had this belief that I was a bit ugly. I have no idea why, I would compare myself with others and just assume I wasn’t as good as them ( Oh they have tanned skin, they have slicker face etc ). I now realise that not only was I wrong about this, but I was actually close to a societal ideal... gorgeous , you may say. But I had no idea! This became more of an issue later in life when I first got acne ( now I WOULD be good looking, if only I didn’t have acne )... then I got obsessed with my skin and how uncomfortable it made me. Then in my 30s i realised for a while that I was quite good looking again but always found the flaws. Now in my late 30s, I believe that the years of negative self image have actually destroyed me, like I have finally actually become ugly. I’m hoping I can find a way out.
This makes so much sense and fits in exactly with what I've believed and thought about before, mainly about how all perception is a reflection of the self-concept, but this video goes deeper in some ways than I have been so I am thankful for this, and I will look into the book.
I feel like I was lead to this by synchronicity. Thanks. I'm going to get that book & read it, maybe it'll assist me. IDK. 🤞 I lost over 100lbs in 2019 eating right & speed walking. I have aggressive rheumatoid arthritis, was in a wheelchair, came out of that. I remembered the exact moment I told myself I was going to get fat. I felt like men only saw me for my looks, only cared about one thing. I was sick of it. I wanted them to see me for ME, what was inside of me, not on the outside, it didn't work. I still had this self image problem. I realized after I gained all the weight I couldn't allow them in, even when they tried, I'd push them away, act like I loved being alone, which I still do now that I'm thin again. So I realized when I gained the weight there was no real difference in how I felt. After I lost the weight, I still had body issues, I still felt like men only wanted one thing. I've realized I gained the weight because of being raped, more than once. I was also molested as a child. It's created serious issues within myself. It hasn't mattered what I weigh. I'm trying to learn to love my body, but my bodies been violated & it doesn't feel like it's mine when I let other's near me. Idk how to feel "comfortable" with men again. It's not easy. 😢 I'd been single for 11 year's. Prior to that I couldn't be with anyone unless I drank. I quit drinking 11 year's ago. So I quit men too. The first guy in I was with, is now stalking me. It's not helping my trust issues.
How can anybody hate on this man? I suspect it would have a large sum to do with bias and the inability to keep an open mind, So basically they just come off as a reflection of self-hate. Idk but I do know that watching his videos feel like the only true source of affirmation for the thoughts I tend to keep to myself.
Leo, I am really enjoying your videos. They are so informative and they have taught me my realisation of my 25 years of defence with the “who I am” idea. -- I thought that “doing as Romans do” was “not doing as I do”, hence the defence. After reading self help books such as “The 7 Habits...”, “Feel the Fear...”, “Pulling Your Own Strings”, and Jane Seymour’s “Remarkable Changes”, and going through cognitive behavioural therapy, I saw this from the outside in when my now ex-girlfriend left us and said, “I know who I am”. I was truly devastated, but I do remember talking to her about my self image boost when I put aside (though not away) my jeans, tee-shirt, and trainers, in place of chinos, collared shirt, and leather shoes post my divorce of my wife way back when... ‘She is who she is and that is final’ it would appear. She doesn’t want ‘to be anyone else’, and as I used gender egalitarianism for my ‘me-ness’, she seems to use props (clothes, jewellery, etc.) for her identity. Her choice of course, but her growth of her mind-set is then stunted as you clearly indicate because she is in defence, just as I was too before! I was seeing the old me in the mirror! I now realise that to be free is to be rid of my defence! Just let everything in life come in. Just invite it all and just grow! It doesn’t matter where to, just metaphorically ‘up’. Thank you so much. I will keep watching because through your videos about “who we are”, to put that loosely of course now, has made me see my enlightenment: I am now free of my “me”-ness, so now the world is my oyster! :)
self image video,pointed me in the right direction to whats needed to achieve the consistency i need to constantly feel in control of myself & my self image!!!! 💪💪💪💪
this video open daily my eyes and changed my life my self image was so bad I always think I am not good enough or I don't know how talk to people or people talking about me
I used to believe I was bad at math. I was scared of math. I did pass all the subjects in high school but the math. Later in my life , I realised I was actually really good at math. I was solving every problem in math even though I didn’t know where to start.
I am from TURKEY and I like to watch your videos because from your videos I get inspiration, I am learning from you so many stuff about psychology and etc. I passed my philosophy exam because of you. Thanks a lot. =)
I have read "Psycho Cybernetics" multiple times among other, similar books that aren't as good as the timeless original, but must say you have a very clear and focused way of teaching the core ideas of the book. I totally admire you for putting this out there and will subscribe to whatever you have on your website as soon as I finish this comment. What I always had difficulties with is the "mind movies" part that Dr. Maltz describes in the book...I don't feel like they go deep enough or I feel like being in the imagined situation, but as soon as I am back into Reality, old habits, behaviors just take over and snap me back into my old self - not the imagined self. It is quite frustrating and often I wished to be able to erase my mind...but with your yarn example, I realized, that this will be a work of patience...fiddling out the individual parts that don't serve me...identifying them and eradicating the belief in them...your Video was a eye opener and at the same time it made the whole task look more difficult than I first thought. THANK YOU!!!
Hi Leo, I've been listening to you for awhile now. I think this is part of an awakening that I am creating in myself. I am making changes in my life and your videos have been helpful. This one has been really helpful in particular. I am awakening to my thoughts, my beliefs and my actions. Today, the self fulfilling prophecy really struck a chord with me. It's a concept that I know well from my studies and from my teenage years. I think it was a popular way to help people to understand their beliefs when positive psychology was much younger. I realized today, when put into that context, not that I have self-fulfilling prophecies at work in my life. But it was a sudden realization as to what those are!!! I mean the truth came at me. So, you often say that people just listen and then they don't do anything. I'm not one of those people. I have always been involved in self improvement on some level, but I am going into a new level of that right now. Thank you for this video, thank you for the kindness with which you gave them message. It was a little gentler and made me feel more open. I have some new things to incorporate, think about, and to discover ways to overcome. Thanks!
Leo This One Was OH So Solid..... The Work STARTS With Self ! Working On My Subconscious Every Single Day To Create A Better Lasting Beautiful Self Image ! 🖤 Really Needed This Message !
The ego and self image seem very interconnected. As a visual artist, I conceptualize all words as images. I am seeing the ball of yarn has two knots. One knot has to become larger and the other has to become small. I like your style and delivery. I like your video's enough to watch them all... more than once
Loved this one. I thought of a great topic tonight that I think you could cover... This topic is "jealousy" I went to the bar tonight and happened to see my one girl get extremely jealous as her boyfriend was speaking to another girl. Of course, I don't judge her. Everyone experiences this feeling. However, I'm sure whatever you'd have to say about It could be enlightening to most
Good idea. I was just thinking of doing a video about jealousy and also envy. I personally find that jealous is a very very subtle emotion. For me, it slips under the radar and only now, after much study, do I even recognize it in myself when it is happening. It usually shows up as strong dislike towards someone or some idea. If you ever find yourself belittling or criticizing another person or idea, watch out! Jealousy rarely feels the way you'd think jealousy ought to feel. It is one of the most slipperyist emotions. We almost never admit to ourselves that we are jealous. But with your friend, it sounds like she's insecure and lacks self-esteem. She feels her bf is better than her and that if she loses him, her life will be significantly worse. She's using her bf as a psychological crutch to avoid facing her own ego. She's also trying to "own" him, making him "her's" -- this is very natural but also very unhealthy and will lead to a breakup, or a co-dependent, dysfunctional relationship. Is her boyfriend interested in having sex with another, hotter girl? He's a man, so most definitely. The only question is how much he wants to restrain himself. And she's not really helping the matter with her neediness. Yeah, relationship psychology is really fucked up. It's always about YOU. Never about the other person. But this can be really hard to believe. I'll have to shoot some videos on this too.
Actualized.org I think it's natural for a woman to be jealous. It is a primitive trait that today has come through evolution. The need of maintain the male protection and support. I find it more attractive and femenine than independent girls who don't need anybody.
Frare Anselm That kind of jealousy though usually comes from neediness. And that will really backfire in your relationship in very nasty ways. So although I personally have a soft-spot for attached women, in practice it makes relationships with them impossible. This is actually how I get myself into co-dependency, so I have to watch myself carefully and try to find more independent girls, because in the end, I'm highly independent myself and if the girl isn't at least somewhat independent, we will have conflict.
The three most important things that anchor a BELIEF (according to Maxwell Maltz) - Authority - Repetition - Intensity Look for things in your world view which have been imprinted and communicated to you via one of more of these factors. Advertisers know it. "Doctor's smoke Camel cigarettes" (authority)... saturation campagins (repetition)... shock tactics or emotional button pushing (intensity)... Religion usually relies on all three. Even if you intellectually know that you have had an authority figure repetitively beat down on you emotionally, you still have to do the work to dislodge the belief.
Hey Leo, I am really enjoying your videos. I myself started my voyage of self-development a couple of years ago, after a series of personal events that made me think I was probably doing it all wrong. I sought some professional help and they pointed me in the right direction. Once you swallow a couple of hard pills admitting things about yourself, It´s amazing and addictive in a way, because the more you discover about yourself, about what´s "in there" and what makes it tick, the more you want to learn. I feel like I´ve come a long way from where I was two years ago, but there´s always room for improvement. Some of your videos give me a "been there-done that" feeling, and others make me go "Hmmm.....Duuuude....you SO have a point there". However, I have noticed that in your videos you use the terms "shy" and "introvert" interchangeably, and as terms that somebody might apply negatively oneself in their self-image. I am very introverted and freakin´ love it, it´s who I am and I have a very rich inner world of my own. I am not shy in the least, and initiating conversations is not a challenge for me (I just choose carefully who I start them with). I can be a blast at parties but will usually leave early. Introversion is like being gay, it´s genetic. You can´t choose it, only embrace it when you realize it. I saw your video about not caring about what other people think, and I agree. But your message is a very good one, and by portraying Introversion as a negative thing you are limiting the people your message reaches. Anyhow, this is one introvert that will keep on watching. Cheers.
hey leo, about 5 years ago on my journey to find my passion i decided to get into tattooing. i had no tattoos of my own. i was mad at myself that i wasn't successful in life the way i thought i should be at age 25. i decided to tattoo my forearms with with very amateur tattoos. hated them almost instantly but felt like maybe if i had more i would be ok which was an even bigger mistake. about a year later i started having them removed but it wasn't working like id hoped. i decided to cover one arm up with even more tattoos that i didnt hate as much but are still bad and just don't fit my personality. tattoos are not for me i am actually a little ocd so idk how i talked myself into getting tattoos. i used to enjoy life. now this sucks the joy out of everything i do. i used to be into fashion now i don't even buy new clothes or shoes. i haven't be outside without long sleeves on in 4 years. i even wear long sleeves in the house because i don't like looking at them. summers are hell for me. idk wut to do i don't know how i will be able to deal with this the rest of my life. Even with them covered up during the winter i still think about how bad i messed my life up at least 4-5 times a day. its really exhausting. i just want to enjoy the simple things in life again. idk what to do just looking for some advice.
OMG, u have uncovered so much in me. I've been blind all this time. wow, as if you were talking about me. I gotta work on this and change. Thank you so much.
Hi Leo, I have just found your videos, I feel they help me straight away. I feel much better about myself and more positive. There is more work to be done to improve my life. Thank you
you are truly the best. any problem i'm going through, you have a video that has the answer, and my life is truly better because of your videos for years now
Im more than surprised how right you are about many of these things. I think the way you explain describe these various processes has a very easy-to-grasp touch to it. Great Job Mate!
I really enjoy your content. I'd like to see more regarding the nuts and bolts of working on self image - - How to "un-pack" the bad stuff that is deep in there (as you say I may have not been able to verbalize or label). What are some ways to explore my self-image and consciously choose what to keep and what to toss out - what to add and what to build on. Thanks Leo, my wife and I are going through your work together and we love it.
I think self image is very important in peoples lives. An old saying ' You reap what you sow.' Ifcyou wake up every day thinking cada and negative thoughts you will attract negative things. But if you wake up feeling positive and happy, you will attract positive and happy things. Simple. A positive self-image is very important 😀
The alcoholism one is tricky. I have been proven over and over again that i can't play with that without eventually becoming destructive, no matter my belief on it. I'm not JUST an alcoholic, but alcohol is not my friend.
you are a very good person. i appreciate your videos, they are really helpful and encouraging. keep doing what you do- people will only benefit from it. love from Israel.
Thanks for posting these videos. I have struggled many with myself.. also because my family is dissfunctional i cannot get help from them. Even more strange is that religion was a huge part of my upbrining.. but sadly that particular religion chooses not to help people when they go through problems. Thus, this has been part of the disfunctionalism in my family. Causing fear in future seperation.. cuz nobody knew how to analyze and find the key towards self image and improvement.
Excellent video. I already know all these concepts, but I'm glad that you're out there presenting, teaching and sharing them. They can never be repeated enough. And of course one needs to keep learning and internalizing them constantly which is why I tuned in. Thank you.
Hello, and thank you again for a great video. Now when I think that everything is linked strongly to positivity, like health, future, mindstate, relationships, etc.. i feel so good, when i release that i´m strong and loving to do this evelopement.. I just noticed one thing now on a video..I think you looked very motional around 4:00 minutes.? Just wanna say that you are great guy, and you are doing wonderful job uploading these videos. Keep it going! Ps. this kind of subjects really should be at schools. :/
You have encouraged me to become a better person for the past 3 years of my life. I just wanted to tell you I truly appreciate what you do. Continue to make videos Leo.
@Karan I weren't supposed to laugh at this
Thank you for expressing your gratitude here Asia! It inspires me in itself
This dude is good. He's really good.
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Hope 7 years later, you still check every while your incoming messages... Here's this question for you: AT WHICH POINT DOES SELF-IMAGE AND 'EGO' DIFFERENTIATE FROM EACH OTHER???
Great work Leo, what you are doing is pure and good, thank you for putting that into the world. AND thank you because you have put ALL this stuff in the best format available, your delivery is clear, honest and authentic. Thank you...
You bet
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I find that using positive affirmations is what actually changes my self image. I will smile even if it doesn't feel genuine and proudly say what I am even if it doesn't feel right (I am rich) to reinforce what I want to be. The hardest part is being consistent. I'll be late for work or feel like I don't need it one day so blow off affirmations that day and the negative thoughts come sneaking back in. It's more powerful than it seems. Sort of like yoga or meditation, you may not notice a drastic change right after doing it but it's working its magic under the surface :) Just don't give up and be consistent with it!
Words are just subconcious shortcuts to images (or another sensorial information like tasting). Its a good tool, but the pure imagination is always more impressive for the brain.
Are you rich now?
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I truly hope there has been a positive change in your life Jen 😊😊❤
I had been traveling down a very dark path for the last few months. I had something very traumatic and hurtful happen to me yesterday due to my poor choices. I came clean about all the secrets I had been keeping and decided it was time to focus on myself to distract the broken heart I was suffering from. I started watching your videos and you've helped me so much. I haven't been thinking about this individual as much because I am more focused on myself. I like how simple and to the point you make your videos. You don't sugar coat anything! Thank you for making these videos but then again you don't need good or bad opinions from anyone because you are independent ;)
Another good tip I live by and remind myself everyday is... If i say something negative about myself, like I think I'm ugly, I ask myself how I would feel if someone else said something like that to me, I wouldn't like it. *So why do I say ugly things to myself.*
this is wonderful - Michael Singer - "untethered Soul" covers this similarly in the first opening chapter or two. yes why do you say ugly things to yourself? but... takes it one step further, and it is "Why do you allow the Voice, the Chatter, the always going on incessent chatter, why do we allllllllowww it to say ugly things about ourselfs?"
and what then is a quote that has helped me many times in coming to this and not just getting it as theory, but to actually implement this and bring it into ones own reality (from theory to KNOWING)
"The mind is a tyrannical Master, or it is an loyal and obedient 'slave'"
---- essentially says we should not be the slave to our own mind (since we were never taught how to use it.... just thrown in and given one of the most incredibly gifts of evolution and never ever... .... no 'how to' guide, manual, installation pamphlet.... [let alone a warranty] lololol.
**** quotes always help me to implement other tidbits of knowledge & wisdom
I am from Brazil and i can't understand english so correctly, but Leo has a fluid pronounce! It's easy to listen him speaking, I absorbe almost everything, It not happens when I am watching others videos on internet. Beyond actualize myself, I can improve my listening with him. Thank you Leo!
Same thing here, when i watched the content of the channel i feel finally i found something to listen and i like long content its really help to understand and improve listening
You are saving so many people, thank you
You deserve 1000 times more viewers. Thank you for all these videos! What a great service to others!!
Thanks Miksiton :)
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this is something I definitely struggle with. I have a bad habit of blaming my appearance for how others treat me. if I'm rejected, ignored, ect... right way I think it's because I'm not pretty enough. if I'm with someone people will focus on them in conversation and hardly involve me so I either back away or I feel like I have to talk over them to get a word in. right away I go to "they think I'm too ugly to talk to" I can't seem to shake it.
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I'm in the same boat
My parents destroyed my self-image. Even as an adult, they are toxic. However, for the last fifteen years or so, I've been feeding myself all these negative self-image statements--as if I were trying to parent myself in this way. What are the secrets to reconstructing the image of myself after all these years? How do I carve out enough time to do it?
I wonder this too. Have you found anything?
Christopher Arendt Read Psycho Cybernetics and a book called soul without shame
You allowed them too. My dad has called me everything under the sun including a slave and it hasn’t changed the way I see myself. Period. Take responsibility over yourself and accept that you have them that change. Ignorantly but still.
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Bethany Solomon when you’re a kid you don’t necessarily allow your parents to treat you a certain way. You are not mentally equipped to do that. As an adult you do. It gets tricky though when your parents’ reality becomes your reality. You are allowing it subconsciously. What this person was saying is they recognize it and asking how to change the internal dialogue. Not allowing other people to treat you a certain way is a part of it. A small part of it. Most of the work is internal though. I am actively working on changing the beliefs I grew up with and it took me over a year of being aware of my behavior and thoughts and questioning everything to see clearly what those beliefs actually are and how they shape my life. And I emphasize the word clearly. As in I can write them down in a list and immediately identify any trigger that comes my way. Now I am working on changing how I respond to that trigger.
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+Actualized.org When i was in middle school i was a skinny nerd and people used to look at me and laugh and at some point i started to realize it. I didnt have much luck with girls and i was not treated very seriously by my peers... It really got to my head and i fell into complexes. I stoped seeing my friends and lost some friends because of it. Because of it i quit school and didnt get out of my house for 2 years i was litterally afraid of people.... So i said 'Its time to make a change' I got a job, i went to weekend school and hit the gym. i found that it is my passion and in little over a year i put on 18 kg of weight from which 12-13 of muscle. I look way better now and people started to respect me because of my looks, and i have way more luck with girls but for a period of time i still had the ugly skinny self image but the experience with people over time with my new look are maki9ng my self image better and better. It is possible to be happy with yourself but you have to find what you love to do your passion , start doing it and benefit from it. Changing my self image was not easy and i took time but it was worth it cheers.
+Actualized.org Hi Leo, READ through system dynamics modeling, system thinking. Many of your ideas comes from there. specifically, read about archetypes. you can find many interesting things that help you understand how thins works and how we shape our mental model. www.systemdynamics.org/
+Actualized.org If I REALLY want to ingrain an AWESOME positive image, should I read psycho cybernetics? Does it give exercises that I can do? What else can I do to COMPLETELY reprogram my subconscious mind? Thanks.
hey Leo. thanks for all your stuff.
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Hey Leo, thank you for this beautiful video! I am definitely going to borrow that book!
So my story is :
I am 22yrs old student, and I know I have an amazing talent for dancing. I won a lot of competitions so people started calling me around the world to come and teach internationally. So I was so extremely excited, practicing a lot, seeing myself in a future as an international teacher, doing what I love for living, and then I hurt my knee. I practiced a lot and got a case of "chondromalacia patella". It's not that bad, I can still dance and but my doctor said "it's going to get worse if you countinue dancing" . And now I am affraid it's really going to get worse and can't stop thinking about it. So my self image from seeing myself in a future doing what I love, is starting to change in "I am going to fail, and I won't be able to do what I love for living"... The worst thing is my mom is totally not supportive about this. She doesn't take my dancing seriously at all, even after winning a lot of competitions and being called and admired around the world, she just takes my case for granted. She doesn't believe I can do that for living.
Knee pain + Doctors say it's going to get worse + Mom not believeing in you = Bad image about me and my future.
Do you have an idea what happens when you think everything is going well and you try hard and things just push you down like this?
What to do, how can you NOT let theese things effect you?
Can you explain what happens
Fantastic insights, I've been a personal development junky for the last 6 years , this is the first time I've come across you Leo , the way you explain things makes so much sense , you explain HOW and WHY these things work in such a way that I havnt heard before , feeling very inspired .
Graham Cosier
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This was amazing! It had me almost in tears because everything you said is true about myself and I didn’t realize the problem I have until my husband was ready to walk..we’ve been taking space for a week now and it’s very hard for both of us but we both need to find ourselves again on our own and it’s been bringing us closer. We haven’t argued in a week , we are so nice to eachother, long hugs etc. I have a lot of work to do before he comes home and I’m determined ♥️
Leo i Really appreciate your videos. I am practicing these teachings and with Gods help breaking free from So many things that have held me down that hid themselves but now cannot anymore!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!
Leo, man, your videos are amazing. You are helping a lot of people with this stuff. Just its important to say, i think, that people that want to change, needs to have a therapist or a coach or a good friend to dig them out of the hole they dig for themselves. Its not shamefull to ask for help and to need help. Be strong guys. Dont give up!
You explain everything about self- image, but when you reach to how to change it , almost say nothing , please we need the practical steps to do that
hows things? i think he means to work on your subconcious beliefs. so imo it's best to get psychotherapy for navigate through those waters. you can just ask him how do i work on my subconcious beliefs? hopefully he can bounce off that, but it's basically wanting to know what beliefs youre living your life under without realizing it. so i'd say get a psychotherapist. :)
Most of your self image is imagination.
I've heard a saying in Paganism, "As ye believe, so shall ye be". With that said, I've recently discovered that I may be a survivor of narcissistic abuse (more accurately, two sociopaths), from age 12. And I am deeply concerned and almost frantically worried, that I may become a sociopath myself. I do NOT want to be a monster. 😢
Not sure what happened, but I started realizing I was clever, attractive and had an amazing personality who truly enjoys sharing ideas, solving problems and finding the treasure in others, spreading appreciation and joy as often as I can. These beliefs make life magical and successful ventures a destiny I intend to share with other great people. I’ve always been terribly optimistic and cared a lot about people but I didn’t realize how wonderful I could be I just slow down to take in who I really was and what I wanted. I get the greatest pleasure from making people smile and laugh and appreciate sentiments or alleviating any problems they have if possible. It’s a bit late codependency but I’m a believer in interdependency the universe seems to always have my best interest in mind as long as I stay true to who I am and maybe have a bit more situational awareness than I used to have LOL
My sister recommended me to watch this video.I'm glad I did!!
Thank you Leo, Good bless x
Cool, tell your sister Thanks from me ;)
Man, you know when things just click? This video is maybe the 10th one of yours I’ve listened to and today’s “click” felt like more of an explosion and complete mind body shift. I really appreciate your no bullshit delivery, too. Thanks for being here.
You are my new no hype, no alien, no guru, no excuses, no conspiracy, know thyself favorite teacher!!!
I’ve tried therapy the last couple of years and they only scratch the surface. I’ve been on a long strange, winding road to enlightenment from a very young age and think you will help me make a breakthrough. Thank you
Out of all the channels on yt. Leo has changed my life the most for the better. Thank you 🙏 so much for everything. Keep up the good work.
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I was struggling with lower self esteem. And everytime I wanted to speak with someone about how keen I feel. People used to say I am stupid for thinking so. People including my parents told me I am speaking nonsense . But this vedio told me I am not speaking stupid and that Self love is really something that needs to have a focus on. Thanks... Leo , You don't know how big turn you have made in my life , And I agreed at each statement of yours. I can finally get some medications for my Mind now. Thanks a lot .
Finally, an intelligent clear message I can follow that isn't preaching about needing a religion to love yourself.
I cant thank you enough, this has really helped.
Your a badass!!
This is what I learned in trauma therapy. The therapist was using CBT. I had no idea about all the damaging beliefs I had and was astonished when we did the work to find the source of those beliefs (instances in childhood). Being able to identify the belief and the source was the foundation for my being able to challenge it. That changed everything. I am still working with a trauma therapist as I have C-PTSD, but I am hopeful as research shows the brain can heal from the development damage caused by severe trauma. Anyway, yes the unconscious self-image is a huge part of how reality unfolds. Great talk.
You have given me an feeling that directs away from my suicidel direction that I have harbored through tmes (great long stretches of being hapy=married, acutually loved the guy and had twins which were a miracle) we also obtained two dogs that proved to be a miracle for me. The one I loved the most died. Well the guy left. We sold the house (he forced) way below profit margin, failing big time. Thank you for giving me the low down again. After listenin to you, there is a glimmer of hope. Thank you at least for tonight.
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Hang in there. You're a good person who's survived tough experiences and you don't deserve to be killed by anyone, including yourself. When eventually you do pass on, let it be in a way that you, your children, and loved ones can feel at peace with. Hopefully you can add that to your more positive self-image.
stay strong
I do agree with everything you said: I just list 25 Lbs; I am giving away things I do not need around the house (cleaning-in-cleaning-out).
I graduated with a Masters in psychology and pursuing my PhD with emphasis in counseling Psychology. My grandmother told me that I was too ugly,; too dark, however I had a pretty body. Therefore I had it made.... ? This message bother me throughout my whale life. Thank you for kind words... 🙏🏻🙏🏻😘
I can vouch, my entire life up to a year ago, I knew arithmetic or just numbers in general were near impossible. I understand the fundamentals, barely. However, numbers all together remained alien and a never ending uphill struggle. Then something happened. I was shown how every single weakness that I carried, was in fact my strengths being suppressed. In a matter of months, 90% of the arithmetic I encountered became no more difficult than 1+1=2. If you believe that assumption. However the real proof in change that can be measured, a tangible difference, is in the fact I no longer have a single contact saved in my phone. It was like 1985. Every phone number that I needed I memorized. I actually dont even feel like I memorized them. Memorizing anything takes work. And thus literally required no effort. I dialed a number 2 or 3 times, and I just didn't forget it after that. I am just now discovering the power of the mind. I now know that I will never, ever suffer dementia, or Alzheimer's, or any mental illness real or not!! I also contribute alot of this change to the fact I kicked my TV out and have not watched any television since. I also refuse to listen to any news on the radio.
I love your entire series!
i went to therapy for some time and I learned similar things there!
so this is great to thave a chance to listen to the message as often as i need!
Thankyou so much for doing all the leg work for us!
I've been overweight for as long as I can remember, I've always been insecure about my body ever since childhood and people often comment on my body, from family members to strangers I pass by on the street, even people I meet for the first time comment on how big I am. My parents put me on diets as a child, that I now realize were ridiculous because no one could eat like that for the rest of their life or the methods made no sense. Two years ago I went to a dietitian and started losing a lot of weight and everyone commented on how much weight I was losing and how good I looked and while it felt good I still missed all of the food I couldn't eat and the portions didn't make me feel full and even though everyone was positively commenting on my weight it annoyed me that my body was still the main focus and eventually I just got tired of restricting my food and went back to eating the way I did before and gained a lot of the weight back to date. I do sometimes feel like my weight is my identity in a way so you're saying that because I've had that "fat" image of myself since childhood that it's subconsciously part of or the reason that I had trouble sticking to my diet?
Thank you for being so generous. Your videos are amazing and thanks to you, we can get deep lessons about ourselves for free. It's great! Continue your videos, I'm really supporting you 100%!
Hi leo. Just came across you and your videos. Watched 2 so far. I just want to say thanks and i really look forward to checking out more of your videos. Really good stuff.
Welcome aboard
Keeping oneself stuck is so common. Digging in to self-image is the greatest thing about psychology.
Teachers are great. Let's give a shout out to teachers everywhere.
My self-image and efficacy have changed a lot over time, due to my own great efforts. Looking to surmount new hurdles. Somatic awareness explorations, meditation, and what else allows work on subsconscious? Good to see someone going deep and recognizing the subconscious rather than the usual superficial/band-aid self-help approaches.
thank you. this was amazing
In the quraan Allah says, that He does not change people unless they change what is in Thier SELF. psychology proofs it and we have better knowledge now. This thing is real and your vedieo is the best I have seen on this topic. Thank you very much. Love and peace 😘🌼
Thank you!
Now i understand how "i can't" destroying me, absolutely ridiculous!
Leo, you move what I think about myself. These videos are amazing content and I hope I someday can get to meet you in person and thank you for lighting up my life with knowledge you share. I appreciate you!! Have a wonderful day!
My mother when growing up always put me down and would also put me down infront of my siblings bravo Leo
I've had a lot of bad things happen in my life, along with the good. Although I know that I've grown from my past experiences, at random times, and a lot of the time, I'll just get the terrible memories flash into my head like they're screaming at me. I went to counselling for a few years and it helped me figure out where the problems stemmed from - boarding school, though some may have come from before that. The therapy helped me understand where it came from and they talked to me about my day but they never really worked on solving the deeper problem, instead they put me on medication. I left boarding school with anxiety, depression, paranoia, OCD and the need to always be addicted to something or other. I've recently found out that I may have BPD aswell. Ever since, I've had an interest in psychology. I know where it stemmed from and I know the anxiety happens when I feel trapped. But I don't know where to start and I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm drowning. Please help me.
I feel quite proud of myself that i have created the understanding i can do, what i believe i wont limit my mind .
There is always a perfect image you are compared to. It is so funny that we mostly do things as to please society than ourselves . Physical , mental and emotional attractiveness are key to having a successful life .
This is not for your ego but maybe for mine.... thank you!!!! You’ve helped me through a lot of difficult times. And hopefully slowing I’m changing myself for the better. Your calm informative no nonsense videos are amazing and very giving of you.
I feel I'm in therapy watching these
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Ever since I was a child I had this belief that I was a bit ugly. I have no idea why, I would compare myself with others and just assume I wasn’t as good as them ( Oh they have tanned skin, they have slicker face etc ). I now realise that not only was I wrong about this, but I was actually close to a societal ideal... gorgeous , you may say. But I had no idea! This became more of an issue later in life when I first got acne ( now I WOULD be good looking, if only I didn’t have acne )... then I got obsessed with my skin and how uncomfortable it made me. Then in my 30s i realised for a while that I was quite good looking again but always found the flaws. Now in my late 30s, I believe that the years of negative self image have actually destroyed me, like I have finally actually become ugly. I’m hoping I can find a way out.
This makes so much sense and fits in exactly with what I've believed and thought about before, mainly about how all perception is a reflection of the self-concept, but this video goes deeper in some ways than I have been so I am thankful for this, and I will look into the book.
I feel like I was lead to this by synchronicity. Thanks. I'm going to get that book & read it, maybe it'll assist me. IDK. 🤞
I lost over 100lbs in 2019 eating right & speed walking.
I have aggressive rheumatoid arthritis, was in a wheelchair, came out of that.
I remembered the exact moment I told myself I was going to get fat. I felt like men only saw me for my looks, only cared about one thing. I was sick of it. I wanted them to see me for ME, what was inside of me, not on the outside, it didn't work. I still had this self image problem.
I realized after I gained all the weight I couldn't allow them in, even when they tried, I'd push them away, act like I loved being alone, which I still do now that I'm thin again. So I realized when I gained the weight there was no real difference in how I felt. After I lost the weight, I still had body issues, I still felt like men only wanted one thing. I've realized I gained the weight because of being raped, more than once. I was also molested as a child. It's created serious issues within myself. It hasn't mattered what I weigh. I'm trying to learn to love my body, but my bodies been violated & it doesn't feel like it's mine when I let other's near me. Idk how to feel "comfortable" with men again. It's not easy. 😢
I'd been single for 11 year's. Prior to that I couldn't be with anyone unless I drank. I quit drinking 11 year's ago. So I quit men too. The first guy in I was with, is now stalking me. It's not helping my trust issues.
How can anybody hate on this man? I suspect it would have a large sum to do with bias and the inability to keep an open mind, So basically they just come off as a reflection of self-hate. Idk but I do know that watching his videos feel like the only true source of affirmation for the thoughts I tend to keep to myself.
your videos are so powerful, the mind is literally power 🌟
Leo, I am really enjoying your videos. They are so informative and they have taught me my realisation of my 25 years of defence with the “who I am” idea. -- I thought that “doing as Romans do” was “not doing as I do”, hence the defence. After reading self help books such as “The 7 Habits...”, “Feel the Fear...”, “Pulling Your Own Strings”, and Jane Seymour’s “Remarkable Changes”, and going through cognitive behavioural therapy, I saw this from the outside in when my now ex-girlfriend left us and said, “I know who I am”. I was truly devastated, but I do remember talking to her about my self image boost when I put aside (though not away) my jeans, tee-shirt, and trainers, in place of chinos, collared shirt, and leather shoes post my divorce of my wife way back when... ‘She is who she is and that is final’ it would appear. She doesn’t want ‘to be anyone else’, and as I used gender egalitarianism for my ‘me-ness’, she seems to use props (clothes, jewellery, etc.) for her identity. Her choice of course, but her growth of her mind-set is then stunted as you clearly indicate because she is in defence, just as I was too before! I was seeing the old me in the mirror! I now realise that to be free is to be rid of my defence! Just let everything in life come in. Just invite it all and just grow! It doesn’t matter where to, just metaphorically ‘up’. Thank you so much. I will keep watching because through your videos about “who we are”, to put that loosely of course now, has made me see my enlightenment: I am now free of my “me”-ness, so now the world is my oyster! :)
self image video,pointed me in the right direction to whats needed to achieve the consistency i need to constantly feel in control of myself & my self image!!!! 💪💪💪💪
this video open daily my eyes and changed my life my self image was so bad I always think I am not good enough or I don't know how talk to people or people talking about me
This talk is highly inspiring. The examples of distorted self-images sent shivers down my spine. Thank you!
I used to believe I was bad at math. I was scared of math. I did pass all the subjects in high school but the math. Later in my life , I realised I was actually really good at math. I was solving every problem in math even though I didn’t know where to start.
can't get enough of Leo! YOUR SO "RIGHT ON" ABOUT LIFE... IT'S KICK ASS!!!
U ROCK
I am from TURKEY and I like to watch your videos because from your videos I get inspiration, I am learning from you so many stuff about psychology and etc. I passed my philosophy exam because of you. Thanks a lot. =)
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Nice, I am from ENGLAND
I have read "Psycho Cybernetics" multiple times among other, similar books that aren't as good as the timeless original, but must say you have a very clear and focused way of teaching the core ideas of the book. I totally admire you for putting this out there and will subscribe to whatever you have on your website as soon as I finish this comment.
What I always had difficulties with is the "mind movies" part that Dr. Maltz describes in the book...I don't feel like they go deep enough or I feel like being in the imagined situation, but as soon as I am back into Reality, old habits, behaviors just take over and snap me back into my old self - not the imagined self. It is quite frustrating and often I wished to be able to erase my mind...but with your yarn example, I realized, that this will be a work of patience...fiddling out the individual parts that don't serve me...identifying them and eradicating the belief in them...your Video was a eye opener and at the same time it made the whole task look more difficult than I first thought. THANK YOU!!!
Hi Leo, I've been listening to you for awhile now. I think this is part of an awakening that I am creating in myself. I am making changes in my life and your videos have been helpful. This one has been really helpful in particular. I am awakening to my thoughts, my beliefs and my actions. Today, the self fulfilling prophecy really struck a chord with me. It's a concept that I know well from my studies and from my teenage years. I think it was a popular way to help people to understand their beliefs when positive psychology was much younger. I realized today, when put into that context, not that I have self-fulfilling prophecies at work in my life. But it was a sudden realization as to what those are!!! I mean the truth came at me. So, you often say that people just listen and then they don't do anything. I'm not one of those people. I have always been involved in self improvement on some level, but I am going into a new level of that right now. Thank you for this video, thank you for the kindness with which you gave them message. It was a little gentler and made me feel more open. I have some new things to incorporate, think about, and to discover ways to overcome. Thanks!
Leo This One Was OH So Solid..... The Work STARTS With Self ! Working On My Subconscious Every Single Day To Create A Better Lasting Beautiful Self Image ! 🖤 Really Needed This Message !
Thanks Leo for your videos. I started listening to you since 3 months ago. It's an amazing Chanel. Keep going Man
The ego and self image seem very interconnected. As a visual artist, I conceptualize all words as images. I am seeing the ball of yarn has two knots. One knot has to become larger and the other has to become small. I like your style and delivery. I like your video's enough to watch them all... more than once
Yes, they are very connected. And thanks :)
Loved this one.
I thought of a great topic tonight that I think you could cover... This topic is "jealousy"
I went to the bar tonight and happened to see my one girl get extremely jealous as her boyfriend was speaking to another girl. Of course, I don't judge her. Everyone experiences this feeling.
However, I'm sure whatever you'd have to say about It could be enlightening to most
Good idea. I was just thinking of doing a video about jealousy and also envy. I personally find that jealous is a very very subtle emotion. For me, it slips under the radar and only now, after much study, do I even recognize it in myself when it is happening. It usually shows up as strong dislike towards someone or some idea. If you ever find yourself belittling or criticizing another person or idea, watch out! Jealousy rarely feels the way you'd think jealousy ought to feel. It is one of the most slipperyist emotions. We almost never admit to ourselves that we are jealous.
But with your friend, it sounds like she's insecure and lacks self-esteem. She feels her bf is better than her and that if she loses him, her life will be significantly worse. She's using her bf as a psychological crutch to avoid facing her own ego. She's also trying to "own" him, making him "her's" -- this is very natural but also very unhealthy and will lead to a breakup, or a co-dependent, dysfunctional relationship.
Is her boyfriend interested in having sex with another, hotter girl? He's a man, so most definitely. The only question is how much he wants to restrain himself. And she's not really helping the matter with her neediness. Yeah, relationship psychology is really fucked up. It's always about YOU. Never about the other person. But this can be really hard to believe. I'll have to shoot some videos on this too.
Actualized.org I think it's natural for a woman to be jealous. It is a primitive trait that today has come through evolution. The need of maintain the male protection and support. I find it more attractive and femenine than independent girls who don't need anybody.
Frare Anselm That kind of jealousy though usually comes from neediness. And that will really backfire in your relationship in very nasty ways. So although I personally have a soft-spot for attached women, in practice it makes relationships with them impossible. This is actually how I get myself into co-dependency, so I have to watch myself carefully and try to find more independent girls, because in the end, I'm highly independent myself and if the girl isn't at least somewhat independent, we will have conflict.
I love you dude... You literally put my out with my head pulling me into actually understand it deep down. Thank you soooooo much😍😊
Just wow! This effected me instantly, amazing
The three most important things that anchor a BELIEF (according to Maxwell Maltz)
- Authority
- Repetition
- Intensity
Look for things in your world view which have been imprinted and communicated to you via one of more of these factors.
Advertisers know it.
"Doctor's smoke Camel cigarettes" (authority)...
saturation campagins (repetition)...
shock tactics or emotional button pushing (intensity)...
Religion usually relies on all three.
Even if you intellectually know that you have had an authority figure repetitively beat down on you emotionally, you still have to do the work to dislodge the belief.
Hey Leo,
I am really enjoying your videos. I myself started my voyage of self-development a couple of years ago, after a series of personal events that made me think I was probably doing it all wrong. I sought some professional help and they pointed me in the right direction. Once you swallow a couple of hard pills admitting things about yourself, It´s amazing and addictive in a way, because the more you discover about yourself, about what´s "in there" and what makes it tick, the more you want to learn. I feel like I´ve come a long way from where I was two years ago, but there´s always room for improvement. Some of your videos give me a "been there-done that" feeling, and others make me go "Hmmm.....Duuuude....you SO have a point there".
However, I have noticed that in your videos you use the terms "shy" and "introvert" interchangeably, and as terms that somebody might apply negatively oneself in their self-image. I am very introverted and freakin´ love it, it´s who I am and I have a very rich inner world of my own. I am not shy in the least, and initiating conversations is not a challenge for me (I just choose carefully who I start them with). I can be a blast at parties but will usually leave early. Introversion is like being gay, it´s genetic. You can´t choose it, only embrace it when you realize it.
I saw your video about not caring about what other people think, and I agree. But your message is a very good one, and by portraying Introversion as a negative thing you are limiting the people your message reaches.
Anyhow, this is one introvert that will keep on watching.
Cheers.
This is my first time on your channel. These are a lot of subjects in your playlist That I definitely want to tackle.
hey leo, about 5 years ago on my journey to find my passion i decided to get into tattooing. i had no tattoos of my own. i was mad at myself that i wasn't successful in life the way i thought i should be at age 25. i decided to tattoo my forearms with with very amateur tattoos. hated them almost instantly but felt like maybe if i had more i would be ok which was an even bigger mistake. about a year later i started having them removed but it wasn't working like id hoped. i decided to cover one arm up with even more tattoos that i didnt hate as much but are still bad and just don't fit my personality. tattoos are not for me i am actually a little ocd so idk how i talked myself into getting tattoos. i used to enjoy life. now this sucks the joy out of everything i do. i used to be into fashion now i don't even buy new clothes or shoes. i haven't be outside without long sleeves on in 4 years. i even wear long sleeves in the house because i don't like looking at them. summers are hell for me. idk wut to do i don't know how i will be able to deal with this the rest of my life. Even with them covered up during the winter i still think about how bad i messed my life up at least 4-5 times a day. its really exhausting. i just want to enjoy the simple things in life again. idk what to do just looking for some advice.
This man changes lifes!
You rock man. The content of your videos are like the juice of the juice. I watch your videos regularly.
you are a genius dear friend thank you and God Bless
OMG, u have uncovered so much in me. I've been blind all this time. wow, as if you were talking about me. I gotta work on this and change. Thank you so much.
You are so awesome and your videos have helped me so much in just a matter of days! Thank you!!
Hi Leo, I have just found your videos, I feel they help me straight away. I feel much better about myself and more positive. There is more work to be done to improve my life. Thank you
Leo you're helping me a lot . You change lives
you are truly the best. any problem i'm going through, you have a video that has the answer, and my life is truly better because of your videos for years now
Im more than surprised how right you are about many of these things. I think the way you explain describe these various processes has a very easy-to-grasp touch to it. Great Job Mate!
I really enjoy your content. I'd like to see more regarding the nuts and bolts of working on self image - - How to "un-pack" the bad stuff that is deep in there (as you say I may have not been able to verbalize or label). What are some ways to explore my self-image and consciously choose what to keep and what to toss out - what to add and what to build on. Thanks Leo, my wife and I are going through your work together and we love it.
Love the way you explain these things. Thank you!
Ah, never mind, found the video. One Simple Rule for Acing Life. Powerful stuff. Keep up the good work!
I think self image is very important in peoples lives.
An old saying ' You reap what you sow.'
Ifcyou wake up every day thinking cada and negative thoughts you will attract negative things.
But if you wake up feeling positive and happy, you will attract positive and happy things.
Simple.
A positive self-image is very important 😀
The alcoholism one is tricky. I have been proven over and over again that i can't play with that without eventually becoming destructive, no matter my belief on it. I'm not JUST an alcoholic, but alcohol is not my friend.
Damn. This was eye opening. I've very often sold myself short in all areas of life. But if feels good knowing I can change that whole way of thinking
Thank god I realized this!
you are a very good person. i appreciate your videos, they are really helpful and encouraging. keep doing what you do- people will only benefit from it. love from Israel.
Damn dude, you nailed it. Thanks
This is the best tip ever. Wish I had learned that as a kid, but it's never too late to turn it around. Thanks a lot. :)
you look so gay
Steve Leriger He looks jacked asf bro, wtf you talking about?
2018, and still watching Leo.
Ive seen a lot of videos like this, but this is pretty cool :) Well done
Thanks for posting these videos. I have struggled many with myself.. also because my family is dissfunctional i cannot get help from them. Even more strange is that religion was a huge part of my upbrining.. but sadly that particular religion chooses not to help people when they go through problems. Thus, this has been part of the disfunctionalism in my family. Causing fear in future seperation.. cuz nobody knew how to analyze and find the key towards self image and improvement.
Excellent video. I already know all these concepts, but I'm glad that you're out there presenting, teaching and sharing them. They can never be repeated enough. And of course one needs to keep learning and internalizing them constantly which is why I tuned in. Thank you.
Leo, I love your videos, especially the ones about self-image, they are so inspiring. Thanks for posting them.
Thanks a lot for this. I think the problem with my whole life is my self image.
Hello, and thank you again for a great video. Now when I think that everything is linked strongly to positivity, like health, future, mindstate, relationships, etc.. i feel so good, when i release that i´m strong and loving to do this evelopement.. I just noticed one thing now on a video..I think you looked very motional around 4:00 minutes.? Just wanna say that you are great guy, and you are doing wonderful job uploading these videos. Keep it going! Ps. this kind of subjects really should be at schools. :/
Yes, it should be taught in school. But now you can just send all those kids to this channel! ;)