I liked when Daniel (interviewee) tuned into an interviewer, to show to Tom how to handle the interviewing process properly. it pays off immediately and Tom start to give enough space and time for Daniel to finish his statement.
I was impressed by Daniel Goleman attitude. He really showed what empathy is during all the conversation till the point that he starts asking questions to Tom to show how he is interested in the other person! That's a great man and professional, even when Tom is a bit too impatient with his questioning something that could have disturbed more than one interviewee in a normal situation.
Yeah, I just purchased a book called Emotional Self-Awareness by Daniel Goldman and other authors and it was only $4! There are alot of ways to improve in emotional intelligence.
Tom I respect your chanel and the work you do and I want to aks you to kindly wait for your guests to answer whatever you're asking them. Sometimes you get very excited about a subject and at the end of the day you talk more than your guest.
This is called “conversations with Tom” The entire purpose of it is to dig down to the questions HE wants to ask and have a real conversation and to challenge people in real conversation. It’s the whole reason he made this apart from impact theory!
It’s incredible actually because it proves his emotional intelligence and maturity. If a conversation is focused on one individual it makes the relationship feel surface level. Asking people questions who ask you questions helps solidify trust and a bond with that person.
I am isolated alone and I am doing to many self improvement things that I never could do before. It's amazing. Remolding my home, more meditation, more reading, my animals are getting better care, I'm calmer , I'm happier , I am lonely but I know it's temporary .
I love this guy!! I feel Tom is getting better with interrupting his guests but I can only imagine it's hard not to when your so passionate and realize there is alot to learn from them.
AGREED!!!!! The fact that he still has this much passion in this area, after all the quality productive content he has curated and released for us, it's honestly super phenomenal and inspirational!!!!!
I spent all last year in solitude on purpose and meditated 3 to 4hrs a day. I did not feel lonely at all and felt very calm. At 41:00 I connected to this so much. I came out this year and a different person from having done that. My amygdala was very active due to trauma and now I don't feel anger very often - when I do it converts to compassion within a day.
I thought the same thing. But I am glad Tom was interrupting. Goleman has a script, he repeats everytime (which you read in his book(s)). Tom was successful in getting him to go beyond his script. Goleman didn't seem to mind and I suspect was flattered how deep Tom has studied his books. Anyway, the interview gets better, and becomes a genuine conversation towards the middle. Legendary interview.
Anyone else notice how Tom adapted his listening strategy after Daniel asked him about how he got into his current walk & subsequently listened until Tom was totally finished?
Another fab interview . I discovered something I do when I can't sleep. I go mentally up and down all the streets in my neighborhood wishing each neighbor who I know " may John Doe be happy" and so on. I keep on until I have visited each house. I have been very happy lately even though in lockdown and do not see these people. Now I understand that there is probably a connection between my practice and my positive emotions.
Wonderful technique, if you continue this practice and accompany it with a small act of kindness a day like giving a needy some etc, you will transform yourself from scarce to abundance mentality, which actually will increase your wealth health and social status. But please treat them as side effects when they come and dont do it for sake of those worldly side effects ;-)
Please Tom respect your guests and let them talk !!! It’s like you don’t listen what your gust is trying to say rather it’s about you and your questions ... Best interviewer nowadays is Peter Attia, he has mastered it , he listens, he asks appropriate questions in RIGHT TIME , he is calm , relax and full of respect to all his guests !!!
"The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you're in control of your life. If you don't, life controls you." Tony Robbins
Jottings: - Theme: Being EQ (Emotional Intelligence) smart - EQ: being smart about emotions - Self Awareness (knowing feelings, cognitive control) - Self Management (put positives forth) - Empathy - Social skills, relationships - EQ more important than IQ for growth-success. - EQ is learn-able, so teach in school, better before age 20. - Any Meditation works, makes calmer, focuses attention. - Meditation shifts from Sympathetic (flight or fight, amygdala) to para-sympathetic (calm, pre-frontal cortex) - Social brain: links to brains of others. Invisible influence just by presence. - Emotional control: Have ability to take down anyone, but don't do it. - Finding inner drive/purpose: by accident, self-awareness, evaluating choices - Successful entrepreneurs: growth mindset, visualization, get performance feedback, risk after homework, grit, help others (empathy)
I admire your channel, and it would be a good interview if there weren’t so many interruptions. There’s a time and place to talk about what you want to say, but you’ve got this incredible human to interview and it’s jarring when I’m listening to his response and suddenly bam, it’s completely cut off. Let’s incorporate active listening 👂🏻
Tom why do you keep cutting this man off bro. It’s like he tells you his observation and goes into theory then you cut him off every time he gets to his premise or hypothesis and you cut him off from his of thought Also have you ever heard the idea that if you let someone completely finish what they’re saying and the answer to your question might answer your question before you ask it..... by the way I think your inspiring and an awesome host.
Honestly Oprah does the same thing, but I realized that when you are the one who is steering the conversation, sometimes interrupting isn’t to be rude, but to keep the guest on the subject and that they don’t veer off. Also, I find myself preparing to receive the answer he asked of his guest and sometimes they misunderstand the questions; so he asks them to answer exactly what his listeners want to hear. I hope this helps! 😋
Tom’s passion for and commitment to helping others are undeniable and evident in all the interviews he has done. He seems to know intuitively the questions we are seeking answers for and does his best to ensure that we get those answers. Such an amazing human being and an inspiration.
Let Tom live! He's doing awesome! He can't be 100% all the time. I watch/listen to so many podcasts, and this guy is like top 1% in his interviewing/conversation skills. I think it's more valuable for him to be STILL so completely passionate on these topics, as a long-term educational benefit for us.
Be aware of your emotions, label them that is half the solution. Meditation, purpose. why you do what you do are some of the key words. Tom, you need to bring on one more interview with Dr. Daniel.
Omg!! When the discussion about the o overweight kid and the "so called cool kids".I broke out into tears.I am so emotional and so empathic .I have such a "doomsday" feeling on civilization and where this world is going. So when I hear stories or see situations that have a positive outlook,or compassion,or some kind of defending of the person or situation ,...it totally instills a positive and a faith in humanity.I love your program.You have an incredible sense of what matters to people or what WOULD POSSIBLY INSTILL THE GOOD AND POSITIVE in human beings.This particular program was most inspiring and made for a very positive outlook in my life today.Homeless for the first time,an every day maintenance drug and alcohol user, house burning down then husband leaving and wanting to die.Im in temporary housing,have a 25 yr old son who has suffered throughout his own life(is sleeping on his bosses couch) and a mum over 70 who I used to treat so badly but in the last 10-15 years I have changed that and love her more than I could say in words.A musical,American,Jewish,musical genius step father who also has assburgers,who I love dearly. I feel I have so much to say to people.Maybe that's my ego,regardless, thank you for the start of my day today.
Excellent interview thanks. Just some feedback Tom do not interrupt so much, let the guest talk and mentally reserve the Qs for after. He had barely even finished his sentence and he is being constantly cut off. Gracious guest 😁
Yes I normally like Tom's interview style but I felt he came across as abrupt here, and didn't respect the interviewee, like me on caffeine 😂 Hard to watch as he was cutting him off at the end of each answer almost demanding more info. Before the last point was complete. Interview held his position with grace and patience.
I have watched this multiple times. I got so many pieces of wisdom from this interview. Thank you Tom for organizing this and hosting the legendary Daniel Goleman who kindly gifts us with his wisdom so we can live better.
This is what it looks like to other people when you're self-absorbed. God, I worry that I sound like that...I'll pay more attention in the future. Thanks, Tom, for the (unintended) lesson!
Dear Tom, I have improved my life because of you! Thank you for bringing your amazing guest! You’re amazing, love the clarity of your interviews! Much love to you and family 2021!!!
@@jesusperalta2335 then why is he posting on youtube and expecting others to watch it. Why dont he use a PHONE rather a Video call if really want to have CONVERSATION with him
I’m eternally grateful to you Tom for your show. A special thank you for inviting Dr. Goleman. Very nice to finally put a face to his amazing book and work 🙏🏻
This one is my favourite interview with you, Tom, by far. This man is an exquisite human being besides Oprah. Listen to his warm voice. I don’t want to miss a word comes from him. Forget those like Jay Sherry, and keep interviewing genuine people people Daniel ad Dr. Joe Despenza
Reading comments many seem to criticize you for interrupting your guests. Not to be judgmental except to say It has taken you a lot of work to get where you are and I am thankful to have a computer to watch and learn more everyday that you and your guest put out, THANK YOU, Tom☺Keep up the good work, you are valued. ☺☺☺☺
We all have tough days ...for all of you bitching here ... think about the multiple times Tom has lifted you up ...perhaps this would be a good time to repay him for his free podcasts of some of the greatest visionaries of our time!!! I know I appreciate you Tom even on your bad days !!!
Tom you are just Amazing...When ever I become low with confidence or anxious about tomorrow, I just watch your videos. Emotional intelligence and Focus were two of the best books I have come across which helped me stabilise my thoughts when ever I get carried away with negativity
*Emotional intelligence is a valuable skill that everyone should acquire* 🙏 Empathy and giving importance to the other person is a form of love ❤️ work together, help together and grow together 😊
Geez this is a true gem! the guy wrote one of the best books about EI, this video is worth of millions views, it's truely underrated so far! Peace from Russia,Dagestan ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love these types of discussions on how to become people smart. I find the best way to become self aware it is to have a diary to name things that bothers and worries me. Also deep breathing meditation and exercises, weight lifting or dancing. I want people who becomes too angry about irrelevant and small stuff far from me.
One of the best conversations yet. Thanks, Tom and Daniel. The interest Daniel showed in Tom was fun to watch. I felt like Tom may wobble a bit with a couple of the questions/insights but, nope, everything he stands for stood true. Brilliant.
lots of back and forth wisdom enveloped towards the end 🙏 Daniel Goldman sounds like a deep, wise compassionate listener emitting peaceful energy and lots of light. Thankful. Thank you Tom for the opportunity to learn.🙏
Hi good morning blessings tom and my soul friend. I only watched ur last video 8years a go Daniel that was with George. I loved it showed me who I am. Now am with u again with tom nice to met u .let's carry on a see what's new .Daniel the video I watch was dated 8years a go.wow changes of life's you look learned with honor. Christina. X
Great advice- Asking yourself, “Who benefits? Is it for now or for the future?”. I couldn’t agree more! It is very important to know what you and others feel and how it affects you and other people as you pursue your purpose and meaning in life. Highly recommended video!
You are such a beautiful being of love and light. Thank you for being here on earth during this powerful transition :) The universe and God love you unconditionally ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
To me the interviewing skills are fine. For emotional work and awareness, the Mystical level of Torah (original and eternal Bible) teaches to tune in first to individual identitying physical symptoms. Then allows one to use pre-learned positive phrases that suit what this situation triggers. Tapping in to these positive suggestions, changes picture and allows for useful thoughts, words and actions. Great boost to feel one can decide how to behave, self- empowering, even confidence.
Tom - I have watched maybe 2 or 3 interviews and I love this content that you're bringing to your channel. The insightful questions are some of the highest quality, and they clearly provoke some interesting discussions that seem genuine. They appear to keep the interviewee interested in the topics they know best.
Here in New Zealand I am an early childhood teacher n we believe that emotional intelligence is far more important than intellectual intelligence. We have a respectful practice n play based learning curriculum that is enhanced by our unique curriculum Te Whariki. We also look at the first 1000 days of life as the most important time for a humans life. That is 1000 days from conception till 3 years old.
Wow tom that's all it takes just time to be still and concentrate on your breathing it all starts there helps you deeply knowing yourself. I am 66 born on a Paradise island Ceylon Sri Lanka. Vi am aware that when I was very young quietly waiting was now I see was like a meditation. I thought as young it was peace of mind. Humming and adding was a sound we made to relax .I did know it was meditation until long after I came to London.. I was about40when realized I have in a meditation nearly all my life.the same I hummed carrying my sons. I am 66 now .I am as clear as crystals and so are my sons and grandchildren. Love and blessing s .Christina. X
Great interview! No dout that emotional inteligence is the way to success. I been watching your show now for almost two years Tom and is always getting better. Thanks.
Excellent and lovely open conversation - the end discussion around the idea that the high achievers are neither labelled as male nor female is a very hope-filled and powerful concept. :)
I was silent for a moment when Tom said that “I am not your God” If you are a parent and other titles he mentioned😞 But I still want to listen to him and get inspired by him🥰
Tom, Always love how you ask questions around "what are the Real Life techniques to practise and How do we practice these" Daniel seems quite wishy washy .. Love your Inquisitive mind Tom ! You ask the questions I'm interested in!!
I think your work combined with your style is indeed unique as hell and helping plus giving me soo (soo) much. I love the hope, the wisdom, the skills and the joy combined with meaning with is definitely a big one in your talks. Even if we have and probably never will talk, since i am in a full blown different state/age group/background etc. you feel like a friend to me. Thank you very much for everything you have done and are still doing, Tom! I wish you and your wife may be friends for a really long time to go.
This was amazing! I was looking for ways to increase my Emotional Intelligence where it relates to romantic relationships. This show really touched on so many points! I find that in the business world my EI is very high and it is easy for me to relate to others. I am looking forward to reading Daniel's books as well as learning more about Tom and the type of business' he runs! :)
Thank you very much tom it's me joe from Iran. I've been researching about EQ for 4 months and you won't believe how dr daniel golman really changed my life tough. I hope one day I could come to America and visit Dr. Daniel Goleman. Dr. Richard Davidson. Pro. Erickson. And lastly Antony. Robins is
Could be ADHD... i used to do that and my friends and family have told me it is very annoying. But my enthusiasm ànd curious mind is always racing ahead to see conclusions or outcomes and consequences of something and then of course asking more questions while the other poor person is still "stuck" back on the "old subject". I am better with my meds but as they wear off i can begin to start doing my old stuff if i'm not mindful and the state of permanent mindfulness is exhausting as well as coping with the ADHD. It takes the patience of a saint to both live with it or live next to it coz i have found at this stage in my life now, every single criticism that anyone has about me can all be traced back to it...
Mr Golemans Podcast: First Person Plural, El & Beyond Just in case you got confused by the short discussion about grammar in the end ;-) Excellent talk, thank you so much!
Tom, when you’re ready to start a “Parenting Theory” show, let me know-I’m your gal. World-class interviewer 😜, obsessed with Impact Theory, and parent of 2. I realize you’re not a parent, but that would reach a lot of people and make a significant impact on generations to come (eg. parents’ influence on children, who become parents, etc etc). PS. This was an incredible episode. Profound!
मुझे इन्हें सुनकर बहुत अच्छा लगा और आपसे निवेदन है कि ऐसे ही साइंटिस्ट यानी कि मनोवैज्ञानिकों को आप अपने चैनल पर लाइव और हमें दिखाएं मैं इंडिया राजस्थान से हूं और आपका धन्यवाद हो सका तो इन को हिंदी में ट्रांसलेट कीजिए धन्यवाद वेरी-वेरी बहुत-बहुत धन्यवाद
Timothy Leary traveled around to Universities all over during late 60s, taught meditation, etc. I told myself I'd get into that stuff later in life. I did.
Always interesting to hear Mr. Goldman & he has in-depth knowledge on “emotional intelligence” subject matter. Its kind upsetting interviewer kept interrupting & not allowing him to explain. This means it’s annoying when we are listening carefully what scientist is saying & cuts off! Either I need to mute interviewer or I quit listening while session. I gave up in mid of this talk session coz it annoys me more than “pleasant feeling” as per topic I have expected. David I will hear your some other platform. Thanks.
This interview was truly illuminating and extraordinary, leaving me eagerly anticipating future conversations between you two. The depth of insight and the captivating dialogue showcased an incredible awareness that promises more awe-inspiring discussions ahead
wow cool, so cool to see this. I studied EQ back in 2004. I made a basic psychometric test around this for my uni dissertation. It's become the foundation of my understanding of personal development and human behaviour. To paraphrase, Emotional intelligence is the ability to monitor your own and other peoples feelings and emotions and then being able to use those feelings and emotions to pursue and attain goals. Feeling grateful I came across this back then as it set a very good foundation for me. So defiantly look into it and learn about it. 🙏🏻
Hospital Board: *Well, we're going to have to layoff 200 employees.* My sister: "Sure, you could layoff two-hundred people who WANT to work, save lives and keep the place running, OR you could layoff TWO executives, who effectively, really don't do shit, and you'll still have [40-50?- some ridiculous number] executives.🤷♂️" The tone she said that in was so sweet and earnest that it was hilarious.🤣🤣
Profit should NEVER EVER EVER be permitted into health care... EVER!!! We have a socialized medical policy here in Australia so profit is basically not involved in hospitals, ppl get paid properly, bills get paid, but this doesn't stop the pharma monster gouging ppl and private hospitals doing the same. And ever since private medicine has become more widespread here, bringing its profit margins with it, general health care seems to have taken a dive... Wherever there is profit involved in health care, there is a drop in the quality and standard, and if you can run a hospital sufficiently without a profit, why is profit even necessary? The ppl who go into medicine often do it coz they want to and becoz they care, so they just want to be paid properly for their work, they often don't want fat returns on their shares, so they can be run fine as a not-for-profit organization... profit is just not necessary, and it should be made law.
I have never used the word kid as in my younger years sent my life in library. Kid means young goat. Yes me I am a goat I found out I was born 25.12.1955.. I am a Capricorn I have climbed fallen many times ow I graze on the mountain. And reach the top now sky is no limits the universe can have me when she is ready. Bless u master Daniel. Xxx
Awesome interview! Love Goldman's book. Your energy as a host is wonderful. It kept me glued to the entire interview!! Goldman sure was comforted by you to ask about your success and getting there. Agree with needing a purpose and being kind.
Daniel I admire you for tolerating this interviewer the way you did
Empathy
I liked when Daniel (interviewee) tuned into an interviewer, to show to Tom how to handle the interviewing process properly. it pays off immediately and Tom start to give enough space and time for Daniel to finish his statement.
*There is nothing more beautiful than someone who goes out of their way to make life beautiful for others.*
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The way Tom keeps interrupting Dr Goleman is emotionally hijacking my amygdala.
😅😅😅same!
I was just about to complain about that too. He did the same thing in the Robert Greene interview!
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I had my amygdala taken out so I don’t have that problem 😳
Not a good way of driving things. Looks like he is very egoistic
I was impressed by Daniel Goleman attitude. He really showed what empathy is during all the conversation till the point that he starts asking questions to Tom to show how he is interested in the other person! That's a great man and professional, even when Tom is a bit too impatient with his questioning something that could have disturbed more than one interviewee in a normal situation.
Daniel is an exquisite person.
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Every interview is about Tom. He always go to me me me me.
Yeah, I just purchased a book called Emotional Self-Awareness by Daniel Goldman and other authors and it was only $4! There are alot of ways to improve in emotional intelligence.
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Tom I respect your chanel and the work you do and I want to aks you to kindly wait for your guests to answer whatever you're asking them. Sometimes you get very excited about a subject and at the end of the day you talk more than your guest.
Totally AGREE . that is the reason Tom invites someone to the show, let them to talk
This is called “conversations with Tom” The entire purpose of it is to dig down to the questions HE wants to ask and have a real conversation and to challenge people in real conversation. It’s the whole reason he made this apart from impact theory!
tom, give Daniel the talking stick!
It's amazing how Daniel Goleman becomes an interviewer and Tom the Interviewee in the middle of the conversation.
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It’s incredible actually because it proves his emotional intelligence and maturity. If a conversation is focused on one individual it makes the relationship feel surface level. Asking people questions who ask you questions helps solidify trust and a bond with that person.
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Terrific info!
I am isolated alone and I am doing to many self improvement things that I never could do before. It's amazing. Remolding my home, more meditation, more reading, my animals are getting better care, I'm calmer , I'm happier , I am lonely but I know it's temporary .
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You are not alone
The universe is with you
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keep going and come back stronger and healthier than ever
You will take the world by storm when you reemerge. Improved and focused
you are not alone. you are with you. sounds great what has been happening for/with you.
Jesus is with you❤
“Emotional self-control-- delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness- underlies accomplishment of every sort” - Daniel Goleman
Sounds like something Tom needs to learn
I love this guy!! I feel Tom is getting better with interrupting his guests but I can only imagine it's hard not to when your so passionate and realize there is alot to learn from them.
AGREED!!!!! The fact that he still has this much passion in this area, after all the quality productive content he has curated and released for us, it's honestly super phenomenal and inspirational!!!!!
I noticed that too!
I spent all last year in solitude on purpose and meditated 3 to 4hrs a day. I did not feel lonely at all and felt very calm. At 41:00 I connected to this so much. I came out this year and a different person from having done that. My amygdala was very active due to trauma and now I don't feel anger very often - when I do it converts to compassion within a day.
Tom, I really enjoy your interviews and I am just as impatient as you but you might want to consider letting Daniel finish his sentences.
I thought the same thing. But I am glad Tom was interrupting. Goleman has a script, he repeats everytime (which you read in his book(s)). Tom was successful in getting him to go beyond his script. Goleman didn't seem to mind and I suspect was flattered how deep Tom has studied his books. Anyway, the interview gets better, and becomes a genuine conversation towards the middle. Legendary interview.
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Zoom wasn’t helping on this one either - so easy to interrupt because of the technical overlap
Totally agree! stop - take a breath!!
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Anyone else notice how Tom adapted his listening strategy after Daniel asked him about how he got into his current walk & subsequently listened until Tom was totally finished?
Yes that was so powerful and kind
Another fab interview . I discovered something I do when I can't sleep. I go mentally up and down all the streets in my neighborhood wishing each neighbor who I know " may John Doe be happy" and so on. I keep on until I have visited each house. I have been very happy lately even though in lockdown and do not see these people. Now I understand that there is probably a connection between my practice and my positive emotions.
Wonderful technique, if you continue this practice and accompany it with a small act of kindness a day like giving a needy some etc, you will transform yourself from scarce to abundance mentality, which actually will increase your wealth health and social status. But please treat them as side effects when they come and dont do it for sake of those worldly side effects ;-)
This is so wholesome 🥺💕 Thank you for existing.
Wow!! I will do this!
It's an aspect of gratitude
Please Tom respect your guests and let them talk !!! It’s like you don’t listen what your gust is trying to say rather it’s about you and your questions ... Best interviewer nowadays is Peter Attia, he has mastered it , he listens, he asks appropriate questions in RIGHT TIME , he is calm , relax and full of respect to all his guests !!!
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Proud to be Indian , Dr. Goleman came to India , got so many insights about meditation. Meditation comes from India from very ancient Times,
"The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you're in control of your life. If you don't, life controls you." Tony Robbins
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Jottings:
- Theme: Being EQ (Emotional Intelligence) smart
- EQ: being smart about emotions
- Self Awareness (knowing feelings, cognitive control)
- Self Management (put positives forth)
- Empathy
- Social skills, relationships
- EQ more important than IQ for growth-success.
- EQ is learn-able, so teach in school, better before age 20.
- Any Meditation works, makes calmer, focuses attention.
- Meditation shifts from Sympathetic (flight or fight, amygdala) to para-sympathetic (calm, pre-frontal cortex)
- Social brain: links to brains of others. Invisible influence just by presence.
- Emotional control: Have ability to take down anyone, but don't do it.
- Finding inner drive/purpose: by accident, self-awareness, evaluating choices
- Successful entrepreneurs: growth mindset, visualization, get performance feedback, risk after homework, grit, help others (empathy)
Beneficial brother. Thanks.
Super helpful. Thanks. I would also add the importance of purpose and meaning. Those really resonated with me.
I admire your channel, and it would be a good interview if there weren’t so many interruptions. There’s a time and place to talk about what you want to say, but you’ve got this incredible human to interview and it’s jarring when I’m listening to his response and suddenly bam, it’s completely cut off. Let’s incorporate active listening 👂🏻
Tom why do you keep cutting this man off bro. It’s like he tells you his observation and goes into theory then you cut him off every time he gets to his premise or hypothesis and you cut him off from his of thought
Also have you ever heard the idea that if you let someone completely finish what they’re saying and the answer to your question might answer your question before you ask it..... by the way I think your inspiring and an awesome host.
Honestly Oprah does the same thing, but I realized that when you are the one who is steering the conversation, sometimes interrupting isn’t to be rude, but to keep the guest on the subject and that they don’t veer off. Also, I find myself preparing to receive the answer he asked of his guest and sometimes they misunderstand the questions; so he asks them to answer exactly what his listeners want to hear. I hope this helps! 😋
Exactly what I noticed. Tom needs to calm down and listen more...or maybe needs more meditation?
@@shyiarobinson9758 I don't think he did that at all...I think he interrupts to talk sometimes...almost too excited....
Without having seen the video, keep in mind there is a delay/lag virtually, which is not present in-person.
I have the same impression, bothered me a little 😏
Tom’s passion for and commitment to helping others are undeniable and evident in all the interviews he has done. He seems to know intuitively the questions we are seeking answers for and does his best to ensure that we get those answers. Such an amazing human being and an inspiration.
Let Tom live! He's doing awesome! He can't be 100% all the time. I watch/listen to so many podcasts, and this guy is like top 1% in his interviewing/conversation skills. I think it's more valuable for him to be STILL so completely passionate on these topics, as a long-term educational benefit for us.
Be aware of your emotions, label them that is half the solution. Meditation, purpose. why you do what you do are some of the key words. Tom, you need to bring on one more interview with Dr. Daniel.
Omg!! When the discussion about the o overweight kid and the "so called cool kids".I broke out into tears.I am so emotional and so empathic .I have such a "doomsday" feeling on civilization and where this world is going. So when I hear stories or see situations that have a positive outlook,or compassion,or some kind of defending of the person or situation ,...it totally instills a positive and a faith in humanity.I love your program.You have an incredible sense of what matters to people or what WOULD POSSIBLY INSTILL THE GOOD AND POSITIVE in human beings.This particular program was most inspiring and made for a very positive outlook in my life today.Homeless for the first time,an every day maintenance drug and alcohol user, house burning down then husband leaving and wanting to die.Im in temporary housing,have a 25 yr old son who has suffered throughout his own life(is sleeping on his bosses couch) and a mum over 70 who I used to treat so badly but in the last 10-15 years I have changed that and love her more than I could say in words.A musical,American,Jewish,musical genius step father who also has assburgers,who I love dearly. I feel I have so much to say to people.Maybe that's my ego,regardless, thank you for the start of my day today.
The 1% who's reading this may all your dreams come true.
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They are true! Keep rocking friend!
thx, btw not all dreams are good 😁
yours too!
but they are yours.
God bless u 2..thanku
Excellent interview thanks. Just some feedback Tom do not interrupt so much, let the guest talk and mentally reserve the Qs for after. He had barely even finished his sentence and he is being constantly cut off. Gracious guest 😁
I liked the measured rate that thus guest delivered his message. Don’t be afraid to let an idea settle before jumping to the next.
@@dakotablueskies almost unpleasant all the interruption
Yes I normally like Tom's interview style but I felt he came across as abrupt here, and didn't respect the interviewee, like me on caffeine 😂 Hard to watch as he was cutting him off at the end of each answer almost demanding more info. Before the last point was complete. Interview held his position with grace and patience.
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I have watched this multiple times. I got so many pieces of wisdom from this interview. Thank you Tom for organizing this and hosting the legendary Daniel Goleman who kindly gifts us with his wisdom so we can live better.
This is what it looks like to other people when you're self-absorbed. God, I worry that I sound like that...I'll pay more attention in the future. Thanks, Tom, for the (unintended) lesson!
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Dear Tom, I have improved my life because of you! Thank you for bringing your amazing guest!
You’re amazing, love the clarity of your interviews!
Much love to you and family 2021!!!
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The mind is a loyal servant but a very torturous master🙏
The same with money
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I LIKE that.
Only if you let it!
F A C T !!!!
Let your guest finish the sentence bro ✌🏽
I don’t watch him as much cause he always cut ppl off and thinks he’s smarter than everyone!
Sadly you don't understand the concept of 'Conversations with Tom' :)
@@jesusperalta2335 then why is he posting on youtube and expecting others to watch it. Why dont he use a PHONE rather a Video call if really want to have CONVERSATION with him
Tom was literally in my head when he asked, “ Can you teach Empathy”? Awesomeness 🥳
I’m eternally grateful to you Tom for your show. A special thank you for inviting Dr. Goleman. Very nice to finally put a face to his amazing book and work 🙏🏻
This one is my favourite interview with you, Tom, by far. This man is an exquisite human being besides Oprah. Listen to his warm voice. I don’t want to miss a word comes from him. Forget those like Jay Sherry, and keep interviewing genuine people people Daniel ad Dr. Joe Despenza
Reading comments many seem to criticize you for interrupting your guests. Not to be judgmental except to say It has taken you a lot of work to get where you are and I am thankful to have a computer to watch and learn more everyday that you and your guest put out, THANK YOU, Tom☺Keep up the good work, you are valued. ☺☺☺☺
This interview alone is material enough for great significant change...highly appreciated work....🙏🏾 thank you Dr Daniel Goleman for your wisdom.
When ever I find a new interesting person whose videos to watch, Tom always has an interview with them.
We all have tough days ...for all of you bitching here ... think about the multiple times Tom has lifted you up ...perhaps this would be a good time to repay him for his free podcasts of some of the greatest visionaries of our time!!! I know I appreciate you Tom even on your bad days !!!
Tom you are just Amazing...When ever I become low with confidence or anxious about tomorrow, I just watch your videos.
Emotional intelligence and Focus were two of the best books I have come across which helped me stabilise my thoughts when ever I get carried away with negativity
*Emotional intelligence is a valuable skill that everyone should acquire* 🙏
Empathy and giving importance to the other person is a form of love ❤️ work together, help together and grow together 😊
Or don't give yourself so much importance.
But we are not the same and we want different things. I am not responsible for your feelings and they may have little in common with my peoples.
Geez this is a true gem! the guy wrote one of the best books about EI, this video is worth of millions views, it's truely underrated so far! Peace from Russia,Dagestan ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Cool Golman becomes intervuer That is a real therapist with high interest in people Love them both
I just read Primal Leadership! Crazy how this interview just took place.... the timing!!!!
I love these types of discussions on how to become people smart. I find the best way to become self aware it is to have a diary to name things that bothers and worries me. Also deep breathing meditation and exercises, weight lifting or dancing. I want people who becomes too angry about irrelevant and small stuff far from me.
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One of the best conversations yet. Thanks, Tom and Daniel. The interest Daniel showed in Tom was fun to watch. I felt like Tom may wobble a bit with a couple of the questions/insights but, nope, everything he stands for stood true. Brilliant.
Dr. Goleman is a one of the books and ideas more relevant of our times 👏🏻 Thank you Tom, great job as usual
That was a low key (Banger) for me. Ever show resonates but some just tweak you! So thankful for the little tweaks that keep me MOVING!
lots of back and forth wisdom enveloped towards the end 🙏 Daniel Goldman sounds like a deep, wise compassionate listener emitting peaceful energy and lots of light. Thankful. Thank you Tom for the opportunity to learn.🙏
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Hi good morning blessings tom and my soul friend.
I only watched ur last video 8years a go Daniel that was with George. I loved it showed me who I am.
Now am with u again with tom nice to met u .let's carry on a see what's new .Daniel the video I watch was dated 8years a go.wow changes of life's you look learned with honor. Christina. X
Great advice- Asking yourself, “Who benefits? Is it for now or for the future?”. I couldn’t agree more! It is very important to know what you and others feel and how it affects you and other people as you pursue your purpose and meaning in life. Highly recommended video!
You are such a beautiful being of love and light. Thank you for being here on earth during this powerful transition :) The universe and God love you unconditionally ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
Wow! I feel so rich after listening to Daniel Goleman.
from what place he is seeing the world, such a unique and grounded perspective, I just can't
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People underestimate how much of a hindrance negative emotions can be. And vice versa, how much of an assistance positive emotions can be
To me the interviewing skills are fine.
For emotional work and awareness, the Mystical level of Torah (original and eternal Bible) teaches to tune in first to individual identitying physical symptoms. Then allows one to use pre-learned positive phrases that suit what this situation triggers.
Tapping in to these positive suggestions, changes picture and allows for useful thoughts, words and
actions. Great boost to feel one can decide how to behave, self- empowering, even confidence.
Tom - I have watched maybe 2 or 3 interviews and I love this content that you're bringing to your channel. The insightful questions are some of the highest quality, and they clearly provoke some interesting discussions that seem genuine. They appear to keep the interviewee interested in the topics they know best.
Here in New Zealand I am an early childhood teacher n we believe that emotional intelligence is far more important than intellectual intelligence. We have a respectful practice n play based learning curriculum that is enhanced by our unique curriculum Te Whariki.
We also look at the first 1000 days of life as the most important time for a humans life. That is 1000 days from conception till 3 years old.
Karen
Wish that was here in USA!!!!!!
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️love your country’s LOVE for their most precious gift❤️
One of the best Tom Bilyeu interviews I've heard. Took so much from it!! Defo a one I'll be sharing
Wow tom that's all it takes just time to be still and concentrate on your breathing it all starts there helps you deeply knowing yourself. I am 66 born on a Paradise island Ceylon Sri Lanka. Vi am aware that when I was very young quietly waiting was now I see was like a meditation. I thought as young it was peace of mind. Humming and adding was a sound we made to relax .I did know it was meditation until long after I came to London.. I was about40when realized I have in a meditation nearly all my life.the same I hummed carrying my sons. I am 66 now .I am as clear as crystals and so are my sons and grandchildren. Love and blessing s .Christina. X
This man was so nice to listen to. I hope you have him on again. ^^
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That meditation method works as it shifts you to "the soulful self" from the personality.. interesting dialogue! Thanks!
Great interview! No dout that emotional inteligence is the way to success. I been watching your show now for almost two years Tom and is always getting better. Thanks.
I thoroughly enjoyed the entire conversation and so appreciate Daniel Goleman!
Awesome thoughts from Dr. Goleman. Wishing to hear and learn more from his insights about this matter.
Equilibrium in the mind is all we need.
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Excellent and lovely open conversation - the end discussion around the idea that the high achievers are neither labelled as male nor female is a very hope-filled and powerful concept. :)
Waited for Daniel Goleman for so long, worth it. Thank you Tom!
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One of your best interviews by far. It felt like a regular conversation most of the time. Priceless
This was a great interview! It started off a little slow but Daniel Goleman knows a lot about his subject and you could tell Tom was really into it.
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Grateful for all I learned ! About to buy Daniel Goleman’s book on audible! I soo appreciate this channel.
I was silent for a moment when Tom said that “I am not your God”
If you are a parent and other titles he mentioned😞 But I still want to listen to him and get inspired by him🥰
Tom, Always love how you ask questions around "what are the Real Life techniques to practise and How do we practice these" Daniel seems quite wishy washy .. Love your Inquisitive mind Tom ! You ask the questions I'm interested in!!
I think your work combined with your style is indeed unique as hell and helping plus giving me soo (soo) much. I love the hope, the wisdom, the skills and the joy combined with meaning with is definitely a big one in your talks. Even if we have and probably never will talk, since i am in a full blown different state/age group/background etc. you feel like a friend to me. Thank you very much for everything you have done and are still doing, Tom! I wish you and your wife may be friends for a really long time to go.
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This was amazing! I was looking for ways to increase my Emotional Intelligence where it relates to romantic relationships. This show really touched on so many points! I find that in the business world my EI is very high and it is easy for me to relate to others. I am looking forward to reading Daniel's books as well as learning more about Tom and the type of business' he runs! :)
Thank you very much tom it's me joe from Iran. I've been researching about EQ for 4 months and you won't believe how dr daniel golman really changed my life tough. I hope one day I could come to America and visit Dr. Daniel Goleman. Dr. Richard Davidson. Pro. Erickson. And lastly Antony. Robins is
This video was one of the most POWERFUL I’ve ever watched. Thank you both for imparting your wisdom!
Tom needs to meditate and listen more. 😂
Oh my god, I totally with you, he’s so annoying
they need to use a talking stick.
maybe tom needs to submit his questions in writing. Tom thinks he has to be 'in charge'.
Could be ADHD... i used to do that and my friends and family have told me it is very annoying.
But my enthusiasm ànd curious mind is always racing ahead to see conclusions or outcomes and consequences of something and then of course asking more questions while the other poor person is still "stuck" back on the "old subject". I am better with my meds but as they wear off i can begin to start doing my old stuff if i'm not mindful and the state of permanent mindfulness is exhausting as well as coping with the ADHD.
It takes the patience of a saint to both live with it or live next to it coz i have found at this stage in my life now, every single criticism that anyone has about me can all be traced back to it...
@@leighatkins22 Seems like Daniel has the qualifications to give him a good 'ZEN SLAP'. He has my permission ; )
All in all, extremely informative interplay between two wonderfully intuitive life-long learners. Bless you both for spending your time teaching us!!!
Mr Golemans Podcast: First Person Plural, El & Beyond
Just in case you got confused by the short discussion about grammar in the end ;-)
Excellent talk, thank you so much!
Tom, when you’re ready to start a “Parenting Theory” show, let me know-I’m your gal. World-class interviewer 😜, obsessed with Impact Theory, and parent of 2. I realize you’re not a parent, but that would reach a lot of people and make a significant impact on generations to come (eg. parents’ influence on children, who become parents, etc etc).
PS. This was an incredible episode. Profound!
Are you trying to impact your child's life so they don't end up lost like these poor college students?
Thanks for having an inspiring amazing guest! Thanks for introducing him. I loved this episode ❤️
This was one of the best podcast I have seen in a while. Love the conversation between both of them. So interesting!!! Thanks.
मुझे इन्हें सुनकर बहुत अच्छा लगा और आपसे निवेदन है कि ऐसे ही साइंटिस्ट यानी कि मनोवैज्ञानिकों को आप अपने चैनल पर लाइव और हमें दिखाएं मैं इंडिया राजस्थान से हूं और आपका धन्यवाद हो सका तो इन को हिंदी में ट्रांसलेट कीजिए धन्यवाद वेरी-वेरी बहुत-बहुत धन्यवाद
Timothy Leary traveled around to Universities all over during late 60s, taught meditation, etc. I told myself I'd get into that stuff later in life. I did.
Great timing‼️ Just started reading Emotional Intelligence last week👌🏽
Always interesting to hear Mr. Goldman & he has in-depth knowledge on “emotional intelligence” subject matter. Its kind upsetting interviewer kept interrupting & not allowing him to explain. This means it’s annoying when we are listening carefully what scientist is saying & cuts off! Either I need to mute interviewer or I quit listening while session. I gave up in mid of this talk session coz it annoys me more than “pleasant feeling” as per topic I have expected. David I will hear your some other platform. Thanks.
This interview was truly illuminating and extraordinary, leaving me eagerly anticipating future conversations between you two. The depth of insight and the captivating dialogue showcased an incredible awareness that promises more awe-inspiring discussions ahead
wow cool, so cool to see this. I studied EQ back in 2004. I made a basic psychometric test around this for my uni dissertation. It's become the foundation of my understanding of personal development and human behaviour. To paraphrase, Emotional intelligence is the ability to monitor your own and other peoples feelings and emotions and then being able to use those feelings and emotions to pursue and attain goals.
Feeling grateful I came across this back then as it set a very good foundation for me. So defiantly look into it and learn about it. 🙏🏻
Hospitals were never about love. Hospitals are about making money. They are the worst place for people.
Hospital Board: *Well, we're going to have to layoff 200 employees.*
My sister: "Sure, you could layoff two-hundred people who WANT to work, save lives and keep the place running,
OR you could layoff
TWO executives, who effectively, really don't do shit, and you'll still have [40-50?- some ridiculous number] executives.🤷♂️"
The tone she said that in was so sweet and earnest that it was hilarious.🤣🤣
Profit should NEVER EVER EVER be permitted into health care... EVER!!!
We have a socialized medical policy here in Australia so profit is basically not involved in hospitals, ppl get paid properly, bills get paid, but this doesn't stop the pharma monster gouging ppl and private hospitals doing the same. And ever since private medicine has become more widespread here, bringing its profit margins with it, general health care seems to have taken a dive...
Wherever there is profit involved in health care, there is a drop in the quality and standard, and if you can run a hospital sufficiently without a profit, why is profit even necessary? The ppl who go into medicine often do it coz they want to and becoz they care, so they just want to be paid properly for their work, they often don't want fat returns on their shares, so they can be run fine as a not-for-profit organization... profit is just not necessary, and it should be made law.
Goodmorning Tom
Thank you so much for sharing this interesting conversation 🙏
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Great interview from Tom and seems that he has done his research. But agree that listening Coleman more would be beneficial.
Great interview. Tom, thanks for training us. I feel the benefits.
Daniel is awesome. Thank you for such a great guest. This is a s a person who really contributed to make this world a better and kinder place
I have never used the word kid as in my younger years sent my life in library. Kid means young goat. Yes me I am a goat I found out I was born 25.12.1955.. I am a Capricorn I have climbed fallen many times ow I graze on the mountain. And reach the top now sky is no limits the universe can have me when she is ready. Bless u master Daniel. Xxx
One of the best conversation ever. Thoughtful and resourceful. Thank you so much.
One of the best interviews with Daniel Goleman! Thank you for the inspiration!
“Just Breathe” & monitoring one’s breath is most akin to traditional “Vipassana” meditation. Also “Zazen”. 👍🏽
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Thank y'all so much dearest 🌹
Y'all such an inspiration 🥰
Appreciate y'all from the bottom of my heart 💖
Be Blissful Eternally 🙏👼🌈
Awesome interview! Love Goldman's book. Your energy as a host is wonderful. It kept me glued to the entire interview!! Goldman sure was comforted by you to ask about your success and getting there. Agree with needing a purpose and being kind.
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Another truly thoughtful and helpful podcast. Thank you Tom! You’re a kind soul.