The Power Of Self Acceptance - How To Stop Beating Yourself Up

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  • @DonWoschto
    @DonWoschto 8 років тому +951

    This channel is the most precious thing on all of UA-cam. Thank you, Leo.

    • @MsDJSinner
      @MsDJSinner 6 років тому +10

      the best there is

    • @rhysnorton985
      @rhysnorton985 5 років тому +5

      one of the best!

    • @maliki8111
      @maliki8111 5 років тому +2

      I swear to god

    • @MrZenGuitarist
      @MrZenGuitarist 5 років тому +2

      @@rhysnorton985 Yeah, I agree...it's pretty tough, to say the least, to say who or what channel is THE best! But I do enjoy this channel - so keep up the good work Leo!

    • @famoustiktok4644
      @famoustiktok4644 4 роки тому +1

      yes

  • @AaronDoughty44
    @AaronDoughty44 8 років тому +534

    I think self-acceptance is also about embracing the ego and integrating it. Being Self aware of how the ego works and accepting it. Sometimes I hear people say they want to destroy their ego,which I think will only cause inner-conflict because self-acceptance is not being practiced. Awareness of the ego with discernment is powerful. Great video Leo.

    • @TheDiamondNet
      @TheDiamondNet 8 років тому +36

      +Aaron Doughty Yes. There is definitely a big difference between ego repression and ego transcendence. With ego repression it can cause lots of problems with having an integrated personality. Some people go totally insane trying to do this because they become resistant to meaning.
      With ego-transcendence the ego mechanism is observed for what it is and it allows you to zoom out to get a broader perspective on the full depth and breadth of the reality of what you are. It is a de-centering of ego and observation of its true nature, not an annihilation of ego.

    • @daliagrace9050
      @daliagrace9050 7 років тому +7

      Aaron Doughty yes it will create the trait of hypocrisy and being defensive and judgmental...

    • @UltraEagleZeusYt
      @UltraEagleZeusYt 6 років тому +5

      I feel like the ego is needed for enlightenment

    • @MsDJSinner
      @MsDJSinner 6 років тому +7

      dear Aaron, totally true i think, the more counter intuitive moves, and the more you accept yourself, and the less you fight against the things you dont want; the more natural doing nothing accepting technique will pass by more and more, more gentle, more balanced

    • @MsDJSinner
      @MsDJSinner 6 років тому +6

      ignoring the ego, rejecting the ego, hiding the ego, fighting the ego, instead of accepting, is not giving yourself space and freedom

  • @ellaartemis1590
    @ellaartemis1590 8 років тому +570

    The first time I watched this, it felt awkward. I still followed though, desperate to rid myself of this excruciating rejection from none other than myself. The meditation/visualization part felt horrible. I cried my eyes out, and my chest was aching. I could not breathe. It was a horrifying experience for me. I fell asleep right after crying since my head was aching so much. This did not work for me, I thought. When I woke up, I was in a calmer state. I gradually realized that I started accepting myself more.
    It feels uncomfortable for me to show such weakness publicly, but I wrote this on impulse. I want to know if others have also experienced this :)
    Thank you, Leo, for your dedication in helping others and to all who are striving to improve, I want to congratulate us all for trying to get up this hole of ignorance, addiction, negativity, etc.
    Cheers to a better life!

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  8 років тому +93

      You did good. Keep practicing it every day. This is where the real work only begins.

    • @sonaha1268
      @sonaha1268 8 років тому +1

      +Ella Artemis lmao

    • @endlessvibe8054
      @endlessvibe8054 8 років тому +10

      +Sona ha lmao?

    • @richardmh1987
      @richardmh1987 8 років тому +6

      +Ella Artemis I just watched it, it is harder than I expected, I myself cried during that visualization and still feel like keep crying

    • @ellaartemis1590
      @ellaartemis1590 8 років тому +3

      +Maria Iqbal Thank you for responding, and yes sometimes it hits home really well and it feels so bad haha but I guess that's part of the process

  • @michaelsmith8401
    @michaelsmith8401 8 років тому +432

    Skip to 8:35 if you're returning for the visualization

    • @haripatel2586
      @haripatel2586 8 років тому +5

      +Michael Pollard is this a mediation?

    • @michaelsmith8401
      @michaelsmith8401 8 років тому +11

      +Hari Patel There's a meditation in the video

    • @nidamukhtar8277
      @nidamukhtar8277 6 років тому +1

      Shuvah Luvah thanks you

    • @snehadeodhar7162
      @snehadeodhar7162 6 років тому +1

      Did this work for you? How many days did it take

    • @ksiddiqui8
      @ksiddiqui8 6 років тому +4

      @@snehadeodhar7162 I didn't do it regularly, but I do it Everytime I feel lost in life and it certainly helps...

  •  8 років тому +84

    This one that watched your video expresses it's gratitude.

  • @rhythmdroid
    @rhythmdroid 8 років тому +183

    This was a very good exercise. I began to find that the easiest person to visualize giving love to was my child self, cute and adorable and innocent of fault. Just a child learning about life who deserves love, reassurance, and forgiveness at every step. Thank you Leo!

    •  8 років тому +5

      RhythmDroid Kind of the same here, but I pictured my son who is 5 - my child self reflected in him.

    • @KEMIcalPictures317
      @KEMIcalPictures317 7 років тому +5

      RhythmDroid Wow what a perspective it’s so true our selves as children are pure and I could give my child self pure love to its fullest 🦋

    • @dreamsaresharedhere_
      @dreamsaresharedhere_ 5 років тому +1

      Become as children or you shall not enter the kingdom of heaven.

  • @Mr90Sasa
    @Mr90Sasa 7 років тому +50

    after this visualization I understood why people say that life is love. coming from a rather cynical guy, I always thought love was good when it was given to you or when you were giving it to someone..
    but now after applying it to myself I understand that when you love yourself you are loving all humanity. since you are loving all nasty stuff that you and all others are running away from.
    this is a beautiful insight to have I think. I gonna keep practicing for real. it is really powerful

  • @sharikulislam6232
    @sharikulislam6232 8 років тому +64

    "Love your sins to death" - so simple, yet so effective. I may not like my sins (procrastination, fearfulness), but they are a part of me; actually, they are me. There is no other reality. Thank you for this video!

  • @rollandmasebu9677
    @rollandmasebu9677 8 років тому +109

    Thank you, Leo. I don't think you can fathom how much your videos have helped me throughout this past year. I'm grateful beyond words😢

  • @FelixTheForgotten
    @FelixTheForgotten 5 років тому +16

    I literally visualized me hugging myself at my lowest points and I finnally understood.
    This video opened up my perspective.

  • @SoySauce322
    @SoySauce322 7 років тому +7

    I did this practice about a month ago. Since then I have been journaling,meditating,working out, running, picking up a new hobby in guitar, focusing on school, sleeping early and waking up early and just overall positive things for myself. I came back here a month later to do this practice again and WOW! Leo is so right about everything, just 1 month and I already feel a powerful change. This has defiantly gave me new found motivation to continue what I am doing and loving myself in the process.

  • @IanStormer
    @IanStormer 6 років тому +14

    I'm currently going through a hard breakup and I've been so emotional and self-judgemental/critical over the past month and a half. But worse than that, this is the way I've been treating myself my whole life to a certain degree. When I was in the middle of this self acceptance visualisation, tears started rolling down my face and I started crying uncontrollably. I realised that the person that I've been judging and criticizing was this beautiful soft soul, who I've neglected through out the years. I finally gave myself the love that I needed. I know I still have to work on it, but this was one of the most profound experiences I've ever felt. Thank you.

  • @stelliumX5
    @stelliumX5 7 років тому +16

    I cried during the entire process 😆. This was so good! I’ve never looked at myself inside that way. I imagined myself hugging myself and telling myself it’s ok! I’ll continue to do this everyday. Thank you so much for all of your videos. ❤️

  • @therecovery716
    @therecovery716 4 роки тому +10

    During this exercise, I could feel the ego’s grip on my entire body. The release I felt during this self acceptance exercise is incredible!! I didn’t realize the amount of tension I had from my ego. I’ve been meditating with Leo for almost 2 and a half years and it’s changed my life. Thank you Leo!

  • @lizcrittenden8744
    @lizcrittenden8744 6 років тому +8

    I cried so much when I was accepting every part of myself, it was refreshing, thank you. I’m saving this so I can remind myself to do it daily.

  • @michaelinzo
    @michaelinzo 8 років тому +141

    Leo wtf you just cured my OCD and my irrational fears... Damn I never felt this way before I feel like a child who can do whatever he wants and achieve anything it wants..

    • @chrishandsome4267
      @chrishandsome4267 8 років тому +7

      how? what do I have to do to stop hating myself?

    • @michaelinzo
      @michaelinzo 8 років тому +18

      hunter sisk accept who you are, what are your flaws, mistake in the past, love/accept them deeply... You can still improve yourself but the first most important step is to love/accept yourself, it is the first step

    • @chrishandsome4267
      @chrishandsome4267 5 років тому +20

      Delsin Rowe I came back to this video and didn’t realize I had commented on your post. Thank you for your words of wisdom, I think I can finally let it all go and finally just live my life the way I want to, thank you brother

    • @20ernie03
      @20ernie03 4 роки тому +7

      @@chrishandsome4267 I wonder how your doing now? Its been 3 years I hope you feel better.

  • @StainlessHelena
    @StainlessHelena 8 років тому +83

    I imagined an older version of me comforting a younger version of me sitting on it's lap. The more severe the problem the younger and weaker the child-me.

    • @ct11002000
      @ct11002000 8 років тому +6

      I visualized in the same way. :)

    • @LDXReal
      @LDXReal 7 років тому +2

      Flobbled i imagined a little person with team umizoomi proportions coming up to the other sides of me and giving them a pink cloud of love that filled them up and made them happy.

    • @dreamsaresharedhere_
      @dreamsaresharedhere_ 5 років тому

      Creative idea

    • @88tongued
      @88tongued 4 роки тому

      Oh gosh right...the older version of me. What a nightmare. I and my present are so unaccepible that it's like time can't possibly march on, such unfinished business. Maybe I'll haunt this future self fellow boo

    • @Ab_A60
      @Ab_A60 4 роки тому

      This is actually a technique used in hypontherapy, that I learnt during my sessions. Powerful stuff!

  • @zhangjenny471
    @zhangjenny471 5 років тому +2

    I cried a lot throughout the process, but at the end of it, there is warm & centered feeling in my heart, this is really beyond powerful and healing me from inside. I will experience it everyday to accept & love myself more. Thank you so so much, Leo.

  • @MrGrayan
    @MrGrayan 7 років тому +7

    this is one of the best guided meditations I ever done, I feel whole for the first time in forever

  • @davidcao4127
    @davidcao4127 8 років тому +65

    I just tell myself "it's ok"

    • @LDXReal
      @LDXReal 7 років тому +9

      Yuxin Cao whenever i did that i felt so loved and started crying. Cause it is ok cause we are humans and lots of people do this

  • @franklinsukmynutz5062
    @franklinsukmynutz5062 8 років тому +35

    I bawled my eyes out... I am sitting here at work trying to keep my shit together but this hits the nail on the head for me. Thank you!

    • @LDXReal
      @LDXReal 7 років тому +1

      Franklin Sukmynutz i was crying silently but i always got this feeling of Warmth and a feeling in my throat. Kind of relieving all the hate i gave myself

    • @bethelliott4091
      @bethelliott4091 2 роки тому +1

      Why are you doing this at work

  • @rachityczny6364
    @rachityczny6364 7 років тому +2

    Whenever i feel fragmented, crushed into hundred parts, exhausted of my problems and addictions, i come here and renew myself, and it feels so great. I tap into myself again, and from this have new strength to change. Thanks Leo

  • @user-uc8nx3ex7l
    @user-uc8nx3ex7l 6 років тому +3

    The practice and visualization of self-acceptance was amazing, specially the part I suddenly recognized that EXISTENCE means I am accepted non-judgmentally with whatever I am, and this is exactly essence of unconditional love itself. lots of love to you Leo. Thank you so much.

  • @DamnCinderela
    @DamnCinderela 8 років тому +16

    You have so many valuable things to share and I will absorb all that.Thanks a lot for being here for us Leo ! Your videos makes me remember one song that I love and I think everyone should have these quotes on their room.
    "I'd fashioned my own cross,been crushed by its weight"
    "We're all architects of our own private hell,no one can hurt us like we hurt ourselves"

    • @BathroomJams
      @BathroomJams 5 років тому

      I like that quote. About how no one can hurt us like we hurt ourselves

  • @ennvee1989
    @ennvee1989 7 років тому +30

    i imagined myself hugging myself. weird experience but moving.

  • @georgelawson4667
    @georgelawson4667 8 років тому +22

    That's all the ego wanted all along; just a little love. An emotional visualisation...

    • @TheDiamondNet
      @TheDiamondNet 8 років тому +4

      +George Lawson Well said. There's always a positive intention behind all "negative' tendencies.

    • @georgelawson4667
      @georgelawson4667 8 років тому +3

      +The Diamond Net You might even say the intention isn't "positive" either. It just is.

    • @TheDiamondNet
      @TheDiamondNet 8 років тому +1

      George Lawson True. :)

  • @BeaMaestro
    @BeaMaestro 7 років тому +5

    It is more than a year now I first heard about Actualized.org, from a friend actually. I listened to this episode shortly after it came out. It did not get to me the same way as it did now, perhaps because of my lack of mindfullnes and my state. But this time it got me. I cried through the whole visualisation section. I have been struggling with loving and accepting myself for a long time now, and I still do, but this was a eye opener for me. I just want to say thank you Leo for all of your efforts to reaching out and helping other people. Thank you! / Fredrik (from Sweden).

  • @vicelesss
    @vicelesss 8 років тому +4

    I cried my eyes out at some point of the visualization, it was so freaking powerful.
    I was literally triggered by every "me" I was focusing on, I could see so vividly every aspect of my "low" self and give love.
    Seems like I needed this...
    Thank you

  • @dr.lecter8818
    @dr.lecter8818 5 років тому +5

    I felt so much resistance to wanting to do this. I did it anyways and found that at certain points I felt overwhelmed trying to love all these parts of myself that I didn’t feel I could love. Yet I kept going and I’m so glad I did. I’m going to do this throughout the week and see how it works for me. Already I feel a lot calmer and stronger. Thank you so much for this video.

  • @kulsumabbaskazmi3989
    @kulsumabbaskazmi3989 7 років тому +1

    Thanks for reminding me I'm loveable and amazing. That I need myself way more than anyone. Loads of love, prays and respect Leo.

  • @ikrolik
    @ikrolik 6 років тому +2

    I shed some tears while I did the meditation going through every part of my body and giving them all love Leo I am glad that I found your videos

  • @terrycurtin2137
    @terrycurtin2137 5 років тому +3

    That was tough. Tears ran down my face. I struggled so hard to even relate to loving me. In any form. Man

  • @sweetza1
    @sweetza1 8 років тому +44

    I kept crying during the visualization, lol. I've practiced this in a few areas of my life over the past few weeks but I never thought to try it in some of the others mentioned. I've noticed a little improvement so far so I'm excited to see what's to come (: thanks Leo!

    • @eternalflames3752
      @eternalflames3752 8 років тому +7

      +sweetza1 Me too, brother. I noticed that during this visualization I am the only one who knows these parts of myself that nobody gave love to.

    • @BadbearXIII
      @BadbearXIII 8 років тому +4

      +Raion Unbound That is a good sign guys. It means that you released some sort of residual stress that you had built up inside of you. This obviously doesn't mean that you guys have now been less manly or weak as some people might have the bias to think. But that you actually are coming a bit closer to becoming whole on both a emotional and physical level.
      This also build real confidence and trust in yourself in your own way, instead of that of the unbalanced picture of how a man should be like according to a unaware stream of thought called society. So keep up the good work guys!

    • @katiemorgan8702
      @katiemorgan8702 6 років тому

      BadBearXIII you are so right! I love your words of encouragement and enlightenment here. You are not weakened but strengthened. You are stronger, wiser, and more whole within yourself. Keep up your journeys! I am so happy for you.

    • @fgfgfg4
      @fgfgfg4 6 років тому

      sweetza1 how are you now bro

  • @DamionBlack666
    @DamionBlack666 7 років тому +1

    How could I have ignored this for so long? It took me until I saw the pure depths of my hatred and how false my hatred is to finally come to this. I never thought I could love myself but now I can.
    As I've experienced hits of my true self I feel as though I do love everything infinitely. That insight has shattered my "wall".
    Thanks again Leo

  • @Sunnyclearing
    @Sunnyclearing 8 років тому +18

    I cried all the time because of all those things you said. Why we don't learn that earlier? Or why we don't know or talk about it? All of those sides needed love for over 20 years. It brings some sort of peace into my life. Clam... relaxation...

    • @vidajeric5784
      @vidajeric5784 5 років тому

      I cried too... Its so weird and also felt relaxed after

  • @cristianhernandez8016
    @cristianhernandez8016 3 роки тому +1

    I 've been following many people for many years to learn about meditation, dealing with self improvement, spirituality etc but I have to say that since I've been following your videos they have helped me more than anything, you explain everything in a simple way which doesn't mean that it requires discipline and hardwork but for me it made that all make sense, I really appreciate what you do Leo thank you very much!

  • @JorgeGeog
    @JorgeGeog 8 років тому +6

    You're amazing Leo! Thank you so much for helping me to accept myself the way I am with all of my demons inside.

  • @nonexistenty4152
    @nonexistenty4152 4 роки тому +2

    Leo, I intend to extend my heartfelt gratitude for your work. Your videos have and will forever help me in my journey through life. I don’t think any person I have come by in real or virtual life has ever influenced the trajectory of my life to the exact extent to which you invisibly directed it. You have completely eradicated the rewinds of suicidal thoughts that I entertained off and on. You were the only person ( guide) I came across ( amongst the multitude out there) who could get me to meditate in a way where the process didn’t frustrate me and rather became so much more of a pleasure than otherwise. Two irrefutably transformative results you have projected into me are--1) comprehension of the utter rubble of binding oneself to a perfection-oriented state, 2) the enlightening ( and frightening) experience of no-self which I came across by following all your techniques of self-introspections on “Who it is I really am?!”
    You have sifted more meaning into my life than anybody out there ever had the power to paint into me.
    You will always continue to inspire me. You will always mean to me for the
    guidance you have offered, that has so deeply enhanced my day-to-day-life.
    I am genuinely glad a person like you exists in UA-cam.

  • @blocknex
    @blocknex 5 років тому +4

    You care, dude, you really care. Thanks for being your truth-searching self.

  • @AngeArthurLIMA
    @AngeArthurLIMA 8 років тому +1

    Guys self acceptance is the starting point for self improvement. Once one start to accept oneself more, one is filled with real motivation.

  • @CoolVictor2002
    @CoolVictor2002 Рік тому +4

    I was visualizing hugging myself and i cried, eg. for self image in front of a mirror.

  • @ghostshadow3637
    @ghostshadow3637 4 роки тому +2

    Cryed too lil when he said love the one always mad and more.. Thanks I feel better leo

    • @taymason
      @taymason 4 роки тому

      Super emotional...I think almost all of us cry during this one....
      p.s. I would sincerely appreciate your feedback. I just posted my first video-I am on a mission to help people by articulating publicly all that I have earned in learned over the last decade on my self-development journey. I would appreciate your input on the video as it will help me improve. Thank you very much in advance for your time and feedback!

  • @JasmineAmaa
    @JasmineAmaa 8 років тому +32

    I got my whole family into watching ur videos Leo. We love u for them. Thank u xo

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  8 років тому +9

      +Jasmine Ama Hehe, nice! Thanks for sharing the videos.

    • @burkholderteam1259
      @burkholderteam1259 6 років тому

      Hey just wanted you to realize he uses a Pedophilia symbol as a logo maybe look into it?

    • @jennifertalkstodeer4928
      @jennifertalkstodeer4928 5 років тому

      Great family!

    • @GearTree
      @GearTree 5 років тому +3

      @@burkholderteam1259 moron

  • @daveschumacher
    @daveschumacher 2 роки тому +1

    This video legitimately made me feel genuinely better. Thank you! I will continue to watch this.

  • @jupitergonewild
    @jupitergonewild 8 років тому +10

    Tears of Love falling throughout this exercise... Thank you for guidance Leo.

  • @jordangould1541
    @jordangould1541 7 років тому +1

    Thank you Leo, you really are a guru of the highest grace

  • @haileypeterson1936
    @haileypeterson1936 8 років тому +6

    This episode was so powerful for me; beyond words. Thank you so much Leo.

  • @ethiomart6319
    @ethiomart6319 5 років тому

    you are absolutely the single person in this century that contributes a lot of things to the advancement of humanity from a unique perspective thank you brother

  • @YouStartedForaReason
    @YouStartedForaReason 8 років тому +16

    That felt nice. Thanks man. I will indeed be sharing this. PEACE!

  • @glitter.gollum6984
    @glitter.gollum6984 5 років тому +2

    Wow this had me crying pretty much consistantly through the visualisation part... thanks, i really hope this helps x i have left feeling calmer

  • @jordangould1541
    @jordangould1541 8 років тому +7

    Seriously Leo, you are such a talent and you are so great at what you do. I don't know what to say other than thank you.

  • @kruasankid9873
    @kruasankid9873 2 роки тому +1

    Hello Leo,
    I want to offer my greatest gratitude that you brought a counterintuitive practice. I notice myself crying but in a different way. I bottled up all of my inner problems as far as I remember when I was a kid. This practice got me to give my other self’s differences the unconditional love that is beloved by existsnce. I want to thank you in a calm state as I’m typing this near midnight on top of my bed. I will continue to fight my true battles. No matter how physically, emotionally, mentally, psychologically, and spiritually brutal my journey will be. I will move forward.
    My real name is Chuchi and I want to be free

  • @saarah3847
    @saarah3847 8 років тому +92

    Cats can be selfish and lazy and jealous of other cats but they're still so adorable while doing all those things, I love myself like I'm a nuisance kitty 🙃

    • @janakahuang8114
      @janakahuang8114 7 років тому +3

      LOL I love pussy .. they have their own mind. Somehow they always like my company. And they know who can talk to them and respect us as they are.

    • @gabo3color
      @gabo3color 7 років тому +1

      hahahahahahaha

    • @tiffanymasterscatwoman3887
      @tiffanymasterscatwoman3887 6 років тому +1

      Saarah Hahahaha!!! That's actually a wonderful analogy since I love kitties and have two of them and I understand what you're saying 100%! Thanks for that! Haha

    • @darcyiix9296
      @darcyiix9296 5 років тому

      This made my day hahaha

  • @jessart89
    @jessart89 6 років тому +2

    I didn't expect that much of this at first but I went for it since my mind was that domain of ideas and man I start crying right at the beginning and was picturing myself giving a hug those parts of me and right at the end when you come with existence in which doesn't judge.....Man I start crying so much that I was screaming... and my mom came up stairs to see what was going on... And then I start laughing at my own grief. In that moment I realized that I do not give enough love to myself. Thanks you Leo for everything you do, all the content and insight you give...I am greatful for that

  • @graceoline
    @graceoline 5 років тому +3

    this one was hard, cried and couldn't keep my eyes closed through the whole thing- but I'll have to come back to it. thank you Leo ♥️

  • @TheBraveHawk
    @TheBraveHawk 3 роки тому +1

    I felt something deep out of this video. I watched some of his vids during my high school days. I didn't watch this one. Watching this one after high school, with a new job now feels really good. This is a game changer. If only I watched this before my life turn into poop I would of been at a high point in my life, but what this video taught me, and you is to accept this feeling, your feelings and love it for what it is. Thank you. Happy getting better for the all of you.

  • @depthoffield4744
    @depthoffield4744 8 років тому +7

    Empathy is important for flexible thinking, with out flexibility there is no problem solving.

  • @kacperwielunski2801
    @kacperwielunski2801 8 років тому

    Im watching actualised for about a year and all the thinngs i learnd and applied to my life made me a better happier stronger and wiser person and for all of that you have my gratitude Leo

  • @greta9558
    @greta9558 5 років тому +4

    This brilliant, magnificent , superb !!! Imagine if we had the willingness to practice for 30 days. WOW

  • @denishalee4773
    @denishalee4773 8 років тому

    this made me cry. I didn't think that would happen. love is a powerful thing. loving all of myself in all my glory and in all my obscurity. wow.

  • @JessieColeWellness
    @JessieColeWellness 4 роки тому +5

    This meditation makes me cry every time. I intend to do it often until it is not so painful to sit through this entire practice. Thank you so much for all that you do for us 😊😍

  • @pamiewatkins7354
    @pamiewatkins7354 5 років тому

    I did my experience half-asleep listen to your voice and it's very good for the things that you don't accept about yourself is so wonderful to have someone look out for you thank you

  • @MarioTomicOfficial
    @MarioTomicOfficial 8 років тому +25

    Amazing video, thanks Leo!

  • @DarkHeartedMusician
    @DarkHeartedMusician 7 років тому +1

    Leo, words can't even begin to describe what you just did for me. Thank you.

  • @rachelr796
    @rachelr796 7 років тому +6

    this exercice made me cry. i pictured myself as younger, trying to do her best but doing shit. then my actual self come and make the younger self stop her task to hug her and tell her that everything is going to be OK ans that she will always be loved no matter what

    • @tracy8596
      @tracy8596 7 років тому +1

      Yay! This is inner child work--keep doing it, especially when you have distressing memories come up from childhood!

  • @elpe8043
    @elpe8043 6 років тому

    I just went through the exercise for the first time and I can't put into words how loving and peaceful I feel right now! Thanks Leo

  • @ScreaminMime
    @ScreaminMime 8 років тому +5

    One of our best videos.

  • @faridvaliev1868
    @faridvaliev1868 8 років тому +1

    Hi Leo , greetings from Azerbaijan !
    This is a great explanation of the importance of loving your all sides . Most of us are afraid to look at our darkness , but when we observe and examine without resistance or making an instant judgement we come to the place where we are in a harmony with our thoughts and inner voice. The point is turning this into the path instead of treating this like an enemy .

  • @Kamsa-x2w
    @Kamsa-x2w 8 років тому +37

    SUMMARY - Actualiced self acceptance
    Instead of hating your sins, love your sins to death
    Acting is masculine
    Accepting is feminine
    Men want to work to overcome their lack
    You need to practice acceptance and self development work at the same time
    Instead of acting neurotic by trying to change something you dont want on yourself, you have to accept it first
    Accept the things you have rejected on yourself
    Hiding aspects of ourselves we dont like (sins) makes us disintegrated. You are broken up in your mind in multiple parts.
    There are many aspects of your self like the one who wants to have sex, going to work, having a great relationship, etc.
    You habe to integrate all aspects of ourselves to be a calm grounded human being without neurosis.
    Get rid of your neurosis by integrating all your aspects
    Look inside yourself and open yourself up instead of fighting and hating your lacks or unwanted aspects (sins)
    Stop labeling aspects of yourself as bad
    Accept your sins with self-love when you realize
    Give yourself compassion and love when you are unsatisfied during the day

  • @erin7913
    @erin7913 3 роки тому

    I love that you literally, LITERALLY showed me how to love myself

  • @danielrm6319
    @danielrm6319 8 років тому +3

    I like this.
    I like this a lot.
    Thank you Leo, for showing me what love feels like in myself.

  • @edmondocerza4292
    @edmondocerza4292 6 років тому

    Thank you Leo. Every now and then I come across individuals in self development that are genuine and driven by their quest to add value to people’s lives. You are one of these rare breeds of individuals who’s only motive is to aid those in pain. An honour to have discovered and a privilege to listen to you. Thank you

  • @oOMzajeWrdyOo
    @oOMzajeWrdyOo 8 років тому +60

    I cried a little bit. I don't know why

    • @BadbearXIII
      @BadbearXIII 8 років тому +21

      +oOMzajeWrdyOo It is happening because of a release of some sort of residual stress in you. It's a good sign that you cried tought, as long as it is happening on it's own. Crying can be looked at as a form of cleansing. Both mentaly and physical as the two are interconnected.

    • @LDXReal
      @LDXReal 7 років тому +4

      Ashley. I started crying when he said give love to the happy person in you because that feeling is one of the most unloved thing in my body. And i kept telling myself, "its ok. You are human and humans do these things. I really truly love who you are and everything about you. When my boyfriend tells me these things it makes me cry too because its so helpful and deep you don't know how to react.

    • @vidajeric5784
      @vidajeric5784 5 років тому

      I cried too

    • @illyrosen9772
      @illyrosen9772 3 роки тому

      same, had some moist around my eyes from the shock of realizing what it *really* means to feel like a child and what it means to exist

  • @taewookrho9487
    @taewookrho9487 4 роки тому +2

    This is exactly what I was looking for. I searched ‘beating self’ and found yours. I was able to look at myself in different angles, and changed self destruction to self love. It was a great expirence! It would cost me a lot of money, if I were to do this at psychiatirst.

  • @Dave.M.23
    @Dave.M.23 8 років тому +8

    I'm having a hard time isolating these feeling and parts of my self.
    I tried to envision the feeling of love, but the feeling felt polluted, or perhaps disingenuous.
    I feel like I've hated myself for such a long time that I'm out of touch with what love really feels like.
    For as long as I can remember I have had a very difficult time identifying what feelings I might be experiencing at any given time.
    I'll have to try this meditation practice again tomorrow when I'm less sleepy, maybe that'll produce better results.

    • @BadbearXIII
      @BadbearXIII 8 років тому +1

      +David Meyer I actually think that what you experienced was a real success for you if you look a bit close to what kind of respond you got there. I can break it down it a bit for you tough.
      You: "I'm having a hard time isolating these feeling and parts of my self."
      Feelings are pretty much impossible to "isolate" since they really are not separated from eachother even tough it might seem like they are when a particular feeling appear stronger. But they so often go togheter like day and night, up and down etc. You most often cant have one with out the other. And I would advise you to look at different toughts instead. In that way you can look and navigate around a little easier around your emotions, as you get a wider picture of to wich toughts the emotions seem to resonate strongest with.
      You: "I tried to envision the feeling of love, but the feeling felt polluted, or perhaps disingenuous."
      The feeling of love can never be forced, since that is pretty much the opposite to how it is functioning. But love is so vast that you cant really restrict it to any boundry really, it is in every thing that involves freedom, and that freedom is really life itself. It can at best be messured in intensity i would say.
      So when you described the envisioned feeling of love as polluted, or perhaps disingenuous. Then that was lesson you needed to come a bit closer to love. By getting the right respond to how it is not functioning very good. And stil enough love came true to you to give you a hint of what not to do. Maybe it is that you want to letting in love in your life, but that some tought our emotion about yourself are blocking it's way inorder to not need to change yourself.
      You also said that: "I feel like I've hated myself for such a long time that I'm out of touch with what love really feels like. For as long as I can remember I have had a very difficult time identifying what feelings I might be experiencing at any given time."
      If you really want to let love into your life, then you have to letting go of what you currently know as yourself, and that can feel beyond scary, since you cant go back to the old once you have let go of that. And that might be your problem right now, to make the transition to letting go of the self hate to loving yourself. So if/when you make the transition or begin the process of letting go of the hate, then obviously a lot of new changes will flow in to your life. And love will come to you instead of you trying to come to love.

    • @yukkay7861
      @yukkay7861 5 років тому

      David Meyer This sounds very familiar to me

    • @yummypasta92
      @yummypasta92 4 роки тому +1

      I know this comment is super old but whoever reads this, I think it's worth realising that what you are doing IS love. See how you are trying to love yourself, trying to meditate, trying to get yourself out of the "pollution"? The fact that you're trying to do this for yourself is a loving act itself.

  • @shivangi3030
    @shivangi3030 6 років тому +2

    Seriously Leo m so glad that you are a part of my life through this channel...
    Huge respect for you and your work....

  • @MP-vf8qz
    @MP-vf8qz 5 років тому +19

    "LOVE YOUR SINS TO DEATH" made me instant feel better.

  • @JohnGoldenPhotographyZA
    @JohnGoldenPhotographyZA 5 років тому

    What makes your videos great is that you you don't simply talk about the "what", you always end up giving us the "how". Once again as usual a great video. Thanks Leo.

  • @piciulnostru575
    @piciulnostru575 8 років тому +3

    I did this 3 days in a row and at the "love the part of you that has bad luck" I thought..."well I cannot recall any moment when I had bad luck, I'm a pretty lucky girl". The next day something shitty happens and I think " uh, that's bad luck". Second day I hit my car, and the day after ( today) the police stops me and takes my drivers licence for 30 days for priority. What the F**K? I get into a huge fight at work ( that went really great for me, I stood up for myself like I never did in my life, I was really assertive and felt no guilt and shame for defending myself - this is the first time I did this as I work on myself everyday- it definetely payed off). I have a hard month comming, I'm finnishing my master degree, really hard at work as I have so many activities to do and little time. I don't know how am I gonna deal with all of these. I am on the verge of losing it. I don't know if I should laugh or if I should cry. I've been a people pleaser, using to keep my head in the sand. For almost 3 weeks I've changed little by little, getting my head out of the sand and all of this shit happens. Is this the universe pushing me to grow even more emotionally or I reversed the "good luck" thing? I'm starting to be afraid of all this bad luck, I'm like " What's next?"
    I am not used to deal with so many things at once.

    • @piciulnostru575
      @piciulnostru575 8 років тому

      I could easily go into victim mentality which I've been doing since for ever, or I could try to take more responsibility and deal with all of these in a different way

    • @KlausHendryck
      @KlausHendryck 8 років тому

      This too shall pass...

  • @MissChelsea
    @MissChelsea Рік тому +1

    I started bawling my eyes out by the first line after closing my eyes 😂 needless to say this was extremely powerful for me ❤ I will ABSOLUTELY be repeating as instructed! Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart

  • @gpetula8222
    @gpetula8222 6 років тому +3

    Wow, thank you 💖

  • @Brainbabies
    @Brainbabies 3 роки тому

    Running into this channel is and has changed my timeline I want to say thankyou from the deepest part of me change minds you change the world a part of everything i do for the rest of my life has been influenced by your words and i dont know you at all thats powerful sending lots of love your way where ever you are

  • @prayingmantis201
    @prayingmantis201 8 років тому +7

    I cringe every time I see a random commenter talking about the non-existence of self as if they understand the concept at any level. I know I don't; I also don't even believe in it. I think it's bullshit.
    Leo himself told us not to believe him and to work on discovering this supposed truth by ourselves. He's said this specifically. None of what he says matters if you just parrot his words.

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  8 років тому +5

      +Vesna Nox That's right. A mere belief in no-self will not get you anywhere. It would be equivalent to believing you are a millionaire when in fact you're not.

    • @nvammers9682
      @nvammers9682 8 років тому

      you think its bullshit and hope its true? ; )

    • @Kirkeuglen
      @Kirkeuglen 8 років тому +1

      +Vesna Nox You exist like a wave also exist in a ocean. However the wave is actually just a part of the whole ocean, and in that sense the wave doesn't truly exist, but the wave is instead just a special pattern/arrangement of the ocean. In the same way, the self is "just" a special pattern of the Universe.

  • @evieball4162
    @evieball4162 8 років тому

    This is precisely what I needed at this pivotal time in my life. I can now experience the calmness, forgiveness, acceptance, and LOVE within me. This will be practiced with you daily and shared with others. I am eternally grateful for you, Leo. You are so young biologically, and yet so very spiritually old and wise.

  • @nataliemarie4325
    @nataliemarie4325 7 років тому +20

    "Do you have that part inside you? The part that likes to overeat?" Leo I'm sitting here with a tub of Ben and Jerry's next to me

  • @ju8751
    @ju8751 4 роки тому +2

    At each version of ourselves that we were suppose to visualize, I would imagine me but in different states. When Leo got to the one about the me who makes mistakes, I instantly envisioned a gigantic version of myself. That version of myself was so big all I could see was its legs and then I imagined my regular sized self hugging and loving that huge part of me and I instantly started crying. This was a powerful visualization practice, Thank you Leo!!!

  • @SRT_Ashamane
    @SRT_Ashamane 5 років тому +7

    Is there any way to step up to this if you've never felt love?

    • @ahlemahlem9364
      @ahlemahlem9364 3 роки тому +3

      I thought about the love and joy my coffee gave me

    • @ushamgr4588
      @ushamgr4588 3 роки тому

      Ive been thinking the same thing , like i dont remember when i felt love

  • @LindaGardner-x7c
    @LindaGardner-x7c 7 місяців тому

    Thank you Leo. So clear and practical. Each time a sin surfaces I can practice giving it love. Resistance is hard work, now I can do something different.

  • @swutlampmalchik7094
    @swutlampmalchik7094 8 років тому +5

    Hello Mr. Leo. This video made an impact on me. I'm on a "Spiritual Path" for 3 years now, i read a lot of books, watched a lot of "gurus" and stuff. I have beaten myself up for not finding inner peace. I cried like a child in the time of visualization. It felt great. But i have this thougts " Real Men shouldnt cry. Your weak" I would like to ask you is it normal to cry over something like this?

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  8 років тому +5

      +Swutlamp Malchik Love and accept the one who is afraid to cry.

  • @francinesavoie-jansson9581
    @francinesavoie-jansson9581 6 років тому

    Leo ... OMG you just gave me the best gift anyone could have ever given me ... Finally , I am a 59 year old women, since age 28 have been on my self discovery as I had pretty well had completely rejected myself from a very young age. My journey was to discover who I was, what was I, what was I made of, who was my authentic self, what were my dreams, my aspirations, my purpose in life, my gifts, talents, I couldn't find the words to identify my feelings inside, cause I couldn't feel anything good but emptiness, I was feeling-less, I couldn't feel any joyful feelings; they were only anguish feelings... I believe I found the source, and remember to make a loud statements to an adult I said " I don't feel anything & don't ever want to feel it or like it ever, either". I was about 7 years old !
    That was my shutdown to never ever have any good sensations or feelings in my body ever again ! I struggled with this all my life till recently !
    I knew I needed to love myself in order to be happy , but I didn't know how, I kept asking for recipes, how to, ways to do it ... finally I just found it here ... thanks you so much, this has been quite the journey for me , but a wonderful Journey of LOVE, for self, others and what is !
    I have been talking and suggesting your videos to everyone I meet that says they are on a self discovery journey ! Thank you so very much , this is priceless ! Priceless tool ! thank you !

  • @AlexanderLebedev_sortafreel
    @AlexanderLebedev_sortafreel 8 років тому +3

    You need to add some captions for your videos. It'll help non-native English speakers much :)

    • @dilyok86
      @dilyok86 8 років тому +1

      you can turn on the sub-titles))

    • @DamnCinderela
      @DamnCinderela 8 років тому

      Thanks a lot for the tip!!

  • @EggNeb
    @EggNeb 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much. In the beginning of the video I was very anxious and by the end i felt alot better. ❤️

  • @ismaelmarksteiner
    @ismaelmarksteiner 2 роки тому +2

    Practice starts at: 8:34

  • @parvinkasraian2990
    @parvinkasraian2990 2 роки тому

    Wow... what a profound talk/meditation. Made me realize who much I deny, reject, and criticize nyself all the time and for so long. What a relization. Never was aware of it even afyer so many years of counseling abd working on myself.
    Thank you so much Leo. Love and light to you and your channel. 🙏🙏

  • @eternalflames3752
    @eternalflames3752 8 років тому +23

    Last time Leo came this early his cousin broke up with him

    • @rumpsugg
      @rumpsugg 8 років тому

      +Raion Unbound what?

    • @depthoffield4744
      @depthoffield4744 8 років тому

      +rumpsugg what?

    • @i.5854
      @i.5854 8 років тому

      +DepthOfField What?

    • @eternalflames3752
      @eternalflames3752 8 років тому +14

      It was a joke because Leo posted the vid a few hours earlier than usual.

    • @JM-fv1kt
      @JM-fv1kt 8 років тому +6

      WTf? another reason why crack is bad for you.

  • @olgaslusareva9923
    @olgaslusareva9923 8 років тому

    When you talk with us your eyes are shining with love... kindness... acceptance... You are a great person! I'm happy to be your viewer! Good luck :)

  • @maryhawkins5725
    @maryhawkins5725 8 років тому +15

    Now that you have learned so much about psychology do you thinks that's what truly caused you to be happy? If so why are some people able to be happy without knowing so much about their brain? Is it because they are not over thinkers unlike some people?

    • @hiddenbeauty403
      @hiddenbeauty403 8 років тому +9

      Great question.

    • @harrysalter1069
      @harrysalter1069 8 років тому +2

      Mary Hawkins the clan of the London school is a good thing mate ,but we are still working out masses for prep

    • @benissalatifa9746
      @benissalatifa9746 6 років тому

      Mary Hawkins trust me they are not happy in the real way

    • @niklas3052
      @niklas3052 6 років тому

      Sad. Nobody found a real answer to the question 😂

  • @dakuji3262
    @dakuji3262 2 роки тому

    Bro this Vid is really one of the best selfimprovement vids Ive ever seen/ listened to because acceptance is really get you steps forward not backward

  • @sulviagania5665
    @sulviagania5665 8 років тому +6

    leo can you make a video about emptiness inside. about a black hole deep inside us

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  8 років тому +8

      Yes, on my list.

    • @sulviagania5665
      @sulviagania5665 8 років тому

      +Actualized.org
      cant wait to see it

    • @Anthony-ow1tk
      @Anthony-ow1tk 8 років тому +2

      Go deep into this black hole. Don't be afraid. On the other side, lies who you really are.

  • @ThatsJustGoodToKnow
    @ThatsJustGoodToKnow 3 роки тому

    From this I have learned that I don't feel love for myself and the person I really want a loving, compassionate hug from is myself. This was powerful, thank you. I need to practice this.