And the musical stuff too...the interludes or inbetweens are really beautiful and sometimes tearful to me at least.... Where do we go where the bombs fall? That one always gets me
Loneliness is something I've always struggled with incredibly deeply. From being not understood to physically not being around people this song is such a raw interpretation of what it felt like to be lonely. The power of this song is the last line though. I'm so happy I'm here today cuz when I was thinking I was absolutely alone I didn't want to be around for myself but I stuck around for the others and it makes me better every day by owning who I am and confronting those issues rather than burying myself in my head to not deal with any form of stress good or bad.
@@IgorEngelen1974 True. I am on holiday now, but after some weeks on holiday I went into work to sign some papers and have a cup of coffee with my coworkers today just so I would not have to stay home alone drinking by myself.
this song reminds me of my Niece, When she was around 4 yrs old I was trying to commit suicide, gun was ready to go and the only thought that was able to bleed through the pain and agony I was in was glimpses of her. she saved my life. She herself attempted with pills last year. Her mom told her how she saved my life. We are now bonded even deeper. The "If you die I wanna die with you" lyric is quite accurate in my heart for her.
My friend I was at that same moment a few years ago. I was ready to die and the only thing that saved me was my 18 year old niece. I hope your both doing well.🐟💙
The song came out the day my wife passed. I've only told a handful of people and I don't know why I'm telling you now. I listen to it one day every year. And I just wanted to say thanks for doing this Taylor. I wish I could send you a super thanks. So you're just going to have to settle for my extreme extreme thanks🖤🤘🖤
System of a Down is a unique band in regards to mental health or healing, just something about them brings a unity, hope or a meaning on a deep level, thank you for exploring this music, I can say this has literally kept me alive multiple times
We can only have a guess here: they're as deep a band can be when its members survived one of the most traumatic history events like the armenian genocide. They are truly one of the most unique metal bands ever
Thanks for the analysis. I've been single for almost 20yrs. It wasn't until I faced my loneliness that I saw that I am not alone. Now I can sit with my loneliness and it doesn't faze me. The challenge now I find is to not forsaking what could be for that which is - lonely. Complacency calls. Resistance rises. Cheers from Canada!
Yup big reason I watch reaction videos is because I do feel lonley or more so crave some social interaction. Im awarkward and have social anxiety so never talk to people outside of my coworkers and family. So watch a video like this I can at least have nostalgia from listening to SOAD and feel like youre a friend talking to me for 8 mins.
I was younger when in my early 20s i was so lost so lonely and depressed i tried to take my life and i was listening to this song and i dont know i guess it wa comforting to know i wasnt the only one who felt like this.. this band this song has done so much im grateful to listen to them
A year ago I was feeling especially lonely. I'm grateful that my life circumstances allowed for a way that I was able to do something about it, to bring more connection into my life so that I didn't feel so lonely anymore. That isn't an option for everyone. I'm not where I want to be, but thank God I'm no longer where I've been, and I'm not giving up.
@heartsupport I cannot explain in words how grateful I am for the content you provide and the perspective you give to the lyrics in all of your videos. I've been in a really rough spot emotionally due to relationship hardships for several months and your videos have made me feel understood and validated. Thank you for everything you do. Im still not 100%, but I know I'll get there.... some day
Hey dude! Im from the uk, & Ive gotta say I love what youre doing. As someone who struggles with PTSD, depression & anxiety, to stumble across your channel & see someone pointing out the empowerment in a music genre I love, really spoke volumes to me. Actually found myself crying to afew of your explanations. Please, please keep doin what youre doin, & understand theres love for you & what youre doin across the world. Love & light y'all x
This song hits so hard. I've felt this way for a long time. I know it's majorly my own fault and I'm working on it. When you're in the void, you learn so much about everybody and most importantly yourself. Wanting to connect and at the same time wanting to stay away from most people.
In a catalogue of songs with such complex and over the top lyrics the simplicity of this track really hits different, the vocal performance really gets a chance to shine. Such an effective song.
Now that there is a music video for it, I think you should check out surfacing. I am just a big fan of Slipknot and maybe this song has a strong and important meaning too. Great videos ❤
Loneliness feels like being stuck between a rock and a hard place. I've learned to enjoy my own company a lot, the peace and quiet it brings is freeing, but at the same time I won't make any connections just by being home alone all the time, which ultimately contributes to me feeling lonely. But on the flip side, whenever I go out I can't help but feel lonely even when I'm surrounded by people. For weeks or months, my only in-person interactions would be with my boss and greeting the cashiers at the places I shop.
From oopadoopp: @anomalyraven Hello, I'm so sorry that your dealing with a really tough situation. Feeling lonely, whether your alone or with others, can be super hard. It's clear that this is very hard for you, and it's okay to feel the way you do. Your feelings are important, and its okay to struggle with this. Feel free to message us if you feel worried or stressed.
From eagertuna0: @anomalyraven Thank you for sharing and for being here. While it's good to hear that you've learned to enjoy being alone (and many people do like alone time), loneliness is such a difficult emotion and I'm sorry to hear that this has been occurring. Especially when we feel disconnected from others, it is normal (but difficult) to feel lonely or isolated even in the presence of others. When we don't connect with many others (by choice or due to lack of opportunity), it can bring up many negative emotions so I'm glad to hear that you've found some level of comfort in being alone (as you said, this really can be freeing), and am wishing you the best in navigating these tough emotions and/or building new relationships. Thank you again for being here; please don't hesitate to reach out if anything further is on your mind -- we're here for you.
From MedhaG: @anomalyraven Hey, Firstly, I'd like to appreciate you for reaching out and putting your feelings out there, it takes a lot of courage to do that. It sounds like you're in a tough place right now. I empathize with what you said; that while the peace and quiet can be freeing, at times, loneliness can be difficult to deal with. Just a reminder, you don't have to force yourself to interact with other people if you're not ready yet. It's completely valid to feel the way you do. If there's ever a time where it gets overwhelming, feel free to talk to someone you trust, or you can also reach out to us, and we'd be more than happy to listen :) Sending love and support
I love this song so much…it really goes to show that you don’t always have to have a lot of lyrical depth in order to express immense emotions. Daron really pours his heart into every word he sings and it shows. and that guitar solo 🥹 (admittedly i’m not the most knowledgeable SOAD fan…can yall recommend any other songs of theirs that are similar in style to this?)
I used to feel this way a lot. But now I've found an overwhelming sense of relief and peace by being lonely. I now enjoy my own company and see this time to reflect and discover who I am and who I can choose to be. I worked inward to find this feeling but it's one that I will forever be grateful for.
I believe the fire represents everything figuratively burning around you in said lonely looking while you continue to move forward on that lonely road.
I completely agree.i think that is why i gravitate to metal because it gives me an outlet to feel what is going on inside my head and release it. Please check out I Prevail, their lyrics are incredible. I feel like you will like them. They have really helped me through some things.
I know the feeling of being in a crowded room full of friends and acquaintances and feeling completely alone. I spent decades feeling like that. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to overcome
Love this one 👍🏼👍🏼 I don’t recall, have you done Blue October Hate me? There is the original from 14 years ago-ish and a live one from a 10th anniversary show in Texas, both are pretty good.
Damn those statistics you mentioned are so scary, but so true. I think it also hugely increases when you have problems with addiction and struggle with loneliness. It just escalates really quickly.
Very very interesting. It sort of perfectly describes my feelings after the Tool show I went to. Lots of people, everyone there with friends, and me alone. Being home I don’t usually feel that alone, but oh my, after the concert I felt so lonely. It was a weird dichotomy between the ecstasy of the concert and the acute loneliness.
Your explanation of loneliness is exactly like truck driving minus the fans..the crew.. the band mates.. all you’ve got is your mind and whatever you have to entertain yourself in your down time.. it takes a certain kind of person to be able to do this for weeks at a time to go home for a couple days and back out again
i've had many of these lonely days. i'm a veteran with TBI and PTSD and some physical disabilities. been medically retired since 2009. my marriage fell apart in 2019. been on my own since then. there are a lot of lonely days and really i am glad ive survived but some of my friends haven't. i just keep going day by day though
From bmao: @MrMattf727 I want to start off by thanking you for your service. It takes such a selfless and loving heart to put your life on the line for your country and we will always be indebted to and grateful for you for doing so. Thank you. Though you did come back from your time in service, I'm sure there are times when it feels like a different person came back than the one that was sent out. Adjusting to your "normal" life when you finally did return was probably filled with struggles you had never foreseen. Trying to fit the changed version of yourself into your old traditions and relationships can be impossible, and I'm so sorry that you've ended up on your own for much of it. Though the isolation may feel unending and sometimes spirit-crushing, know that you are not alone. There are so many people who care for you, including every one of us here at HeartSupport. Your life has made such a difference for every single person in your country, and it still doe to this day. There has never been and will never be another you. You have the unique opportunity to change the world in a way that only YOU can. Though you may feel alone in your struggles, know that you are so loved and so cared for. Struggling is part of the human condition and something we all have to go through. I commend you for opening up about your trials and seeking help- that is always the first step to healing. Keep talking. Keep reaching out. Keep sharing your unique story- you never know who will be impacted by it. You mean so much and your life has so much worth. Thank you again for your service and for your openness. We are here for you if you ever need to talk more. All the love.
From Mantlebeard: @MrMattf727 Hi there. Thank you for posting and sharing. I did a video response to share my support and some thoughts. www.loom.com/share/9ea8e65186b0406aa8c8879550c2dca8?sid=c22b3b80-48fb-43c8-a96a-1725d9c8dc13
Would love to hear your thoughts on these ones! Gary Jules - Mad World Nine in nails - Everyday is exactly the same Neil Young - the needle and the damage done (If you want to do somthing alittle Heavier) Children of Bodom - Needled 24/7
You need to check out the song Did He Jump by The Zounds. It's a song about a kid who wrote a suicide note because he was bullied to death and part of the note said "Never turned my back on society, society turned its back on me, never tried to drop out.. I just couldn't get in from the very start. All the world cant be wrong it must be me I dont belong". I felt that my entire life as someone who was bullied in school because of my ADHD and learning disibilities. I still struggle with ptsd, anxiety, depression... Punk kept me going. Oh and Broken from the band Pennywise!!
As someone who is taking his life in about an hour, thanks for this video series. I truly hope it helps some people. Ive struggled with major chronic depression since I was about 8 years old. I had stress ulcers in 6th grade. Id be 40 years old next April. Music has helped for a very very long time but like this song is related to Ive been alone my entire life. Both literally and theoretically. Like she describes its taken a toll on me physically and mentally. I had the knees of a 60 year old man by the time I was 25. To anyone reading this or watching the videos. Talk to SOMEONE. I internalized my entire life and by the time I tried to talk to someone it was too late. Ive had to start my life over too many times and Im just tired. But get help NOW, not later. I recently lost my job and unemployment has dropped the ball so many times now Im about to be homeless and I just cant anymore. But for those that are struggling now reach out to someone.
From I-Am-Reclaimer: @Vonderbraffle Hey Friend, I want to let you know that the family here at Heartsupport hears you... I've had to start my life over again many times as well, been through several traumatic health issues, and had lost my job with no where to go. I was extremely close to taking my life when I hit the lowest point in my life... I want you to know that it is possible... that you CAN do it. That I know where you're coming from and know where you can go. Please tell me you will share your story with us? www.heartsupport.com/crisis-resources Hold Fast my friend...
From djstarion: @Vonderbraffle When I attempted to take my own life I was the same age as you. I had gone through so much stuff, ranging from family abuse, losing my mom and my job in the span of an hour, and needing to find a new place to live within 2 weeks. I was at my breaking point and I just wanted to end it all right then and there. Luckily I didn't. I learned a lot in that span too. How it's NEVER too late to get help. You took a huge step in posting here, that's not internalizing. That's you showing courage. No matter what life throws at us, there's gonna be that sliver of hope that will always shine through. We may not see it now, we may not see it tomorrow, but trust me....it IS there. Please try and take advantage of the resources that @I-Am-Reclaimer posted, and more importantly, please just let us know you're here. We've been through this battle before, and we want to get through it together with you. Stay strong, amigo <3
From leapyeargirl: @Vonderbraffle First of all thanks for sharing. I think it is never too late, and I am glad you reached out to us. I hope you will reconsider, because in spite of what you might believe or feel: you are valuable and YOU MATTER Hold fast I hope you will reach out to one of the resources @I-Am-Reclaimer has mentioned
I looked up what this song is about and it's about the lead singer of just this song lost his best friend in a house fire so he rote this song and the band let him sing it and I was like awe that's so sad and I'm glad the band let him sing this song and helped him get through and cope with him losing his best friend I think that's why there is so much fire everywhere in the music video
Definitely been in that stage of loneliness before many times. It can be rough and draining, or rewarding oand overcoming. It just depends on how your perspective of the moment is at that time.
I been lonely for the past 6 years. It grinds you down little by little till you learn to accept it. Some tell me it's your own doing. Maybe. SOAD is the most original Metal band to come out since......I don't remember, man can they hit on every emotion I have and make it real. Hurts. But such a great band. Too bad they can't bury the hatchet and make some new music.
Alone is not the same as Lonely... Music really helps overcome loneliness. Keep up man! Serj said he will be doing some concerts, but he really do not want to make new music with them anymore. At least we have 5 albums to listen.
I'm happy that they gave us what they did. Serj did tell them to leave him, to get someone else, but they refused. it may make us sad, but it is in part because we would miss Serj, in part because nothing would ever sound the same, and in part it is a brotherhood they will never end.
People are used to daron either just harmonizing with serj or screaming (byob) and at least this song is different. It shows how beautiful his voice can be even by itself.
From Riverbats: @EliHerr. I hear you. It sounds like life is really a struggle for you at the moment. Like you can't seem to catch a break. I know I've felt that way before. Thank you for reaching out. It takes a lot of guts to do that. I know when I feel like the world is against me, talking to someone and feeling like they hear me really helps. So let me just say I heard you. If you want to talk more, just keep reaching out. We want to hear what's going on in your life.
From Mantlebeard: @EliHerr. Hey there. I just wanted to send you this video response and say thanks for posting what you're going through. I hope it helps some. www.loom.com/share/0d6a9047546f4f0bb93cce9ea396ab02?sid=e6d8d6bd-95aa-489b-916c-a57912a6f76f
The song is about loneliness obviously (and good catch noting that the band in the video are sitting near each other but not interacting and still lonely), but the backstory of the song is that Daron (the guitarist and 2nd vocals, though he sang lead on this song) wrote it about his brother who died and that was the loneliest day of his life. So I think above the general theme of loneliness is the theme of getting over a loved ones passing (which also helps to explain the fire in the video). And yes the harmonies between Daron and Serj are good on this song as is the harmony between Daron's guitar and Serj's keyboards in the bridge.
I may have the perfect song that plays into what heartsupport is all about. This song takes a not so "overt" jab at the mental health support phone lines, and therapists(not the good ones haha) in general. Specifically the ones who don't care, in it for the money, don't off proper help etc. Without spoiling too much, this song is a commentary on the inadequacy of various psychiatric help lines, and even therapists. Specifically, it is the story of a man that calls one of these lines hoping to get some advice on all his problems, mental and otherwise. He is spouting all the problems he has, making references to the various phrases and coping skills he has learned throughout therapy, all while the other end of the phone remains silent. There is even direct criticism towards psychiatrists made throughout the song, seen in lines such as “you were never one for confrontation, but now it lies all in your hands”. Dallas is saying that these people shouldn’t be trusted with a persons entire life when they can’t keep up with their own problems, much less deal with someone else’s. The man on the line becomes more and more frantic before the song ends with the click of an old phone being put back into the receiver. It is unclear what happens to the man, but we can assume it isn’t good based on how the monologue ends and the general message of the song. There is no video, but just pull up the lyrics as there are some screams. I know this track will hit differently as it taking a jab at the bad outliers in your profession.. Alexisonfire(pronounced Alexis on fire, not Alex is on fire hahaha) - Sharks and Danger
What you are saying about loneliness breaks my heart. My mother must have felt this for a long time before she died...i believe loneliness killed her and i feel like shit for it becasue i was only 3 hours away.
Found this reaction a couple of days after losing my grandmother, who I provided hospice care for every day during the last six years of her life. We all know caregivers don't make much money, but I never cared. I did it because i loved her She was always there for me, and I was always there for her. Good days and bad. Now, there is just a void, and I just feel so directionless and alone. These things happen, I guess. I'm the only one in our family having these issues with it because nobody spent as much time with her as i did. Now im just a 40-year-old dude, watching this and crying by himself. Ugh.
From JBrach: @citizenbrain8065 It is so rare for someone to dedicate so many years caring for a relative so in-depth in the way you did! It shows you care and heart for others that you spent six years taking care of her! You poured your life and love into her and now you're empty because you gave everything you have. When our cups are empty from giving our all, we can find other things to fill them. This is an amazing opportunity for you to find new purposes and passions to filk your cup. New hobbies; a career change, seeking mew environments, new friendships, there are so many things you will find that will reinvigorate and fill you! I hope you find those things. But in this moment of pain, i hope you hold that in honor and hold space for your grief. If none of your family feels the depth of the loss like you do, you can know that you may have had a very special relationship with her. That is a special thing! Dont take that time you got to spend with her for granted! God bless you and I pray you find things to fill your cup! Thanks for reaching out toe HeartSupport!
From Micro: @citizenbrain8065 You did something loving and beautiful for your grandmother. Being there and taking care of her, being both a presence that offered joy and support as the same time, was absolutely priceless. That's the true definition of unconditional love. You didn't shy away in front of her struggles, you didn't let any embarassement take over, you didn't start seeing her differently. And she must have seen that every day you were there for her. In your eyes, how much you were looking up to her and loving her. These are very special moments that you have shared together, and there is no doubt that your presence has brought so much peace to her when she needed it the most. It makes sense to feel lost now that she is gone. When we lose someone we love, a part of ourselves leaves at the same time. It feels like being a puzzle incomplete, while knowing that the missing pieces cannot be found again. So we hold on to the memory we have of how it was to feel whole with that person in our life again. How much everything made more sense, whether or not it was perfect. On top of it, your days have been structured around her needs for a significant time. Losing her is a major change in your life, but also in general in the way life used to be for you. It's okay to let the tears out. There's no age limit to love - and this is about love. It's about how much she has impacted your life in a way that has been so very significant for you. This impact and her voice will not be lost as you will keep on sharing it. It's hard though to be the one who is still present and is forced to learn to carry this love for two. It feels like having to learn again how to live, and how to breathe. It's okay to take things slowly and be as patient as possible with your heart. There won't be a wrong or good way to process your loss - only how you feel, and it will be valid at any given time. Sending hugs your way. :heart:
The loneliness epidemic is real and global, but more severe in industrialized 1st world countries. I've run into multiple people online who were either severely depressed (as in spoken or written directly to them) and one of them was even a veteran that just randomly began chatting with me out of nowhere when we ran by each-other in a game. I felt like absolute shit that I couldn't stay in touch with the guy (I have my own struggles which sometimes cause me to be unreliable), but he was severely lonely with his trauma. He had a family even, but no one to talk to. I should mention that this gentleman was from a European country with little to nothing resembling the VA in the US or elsewhere.
For anyone who cares this song was showen to me by my older sister whrn she was leaving to live with her mom amd ever science tjan i think of her when someone says the name or even when i hear this song i love and miss you zoey
When my dog passed away my chest was on fire for a few weeks it hurt to even breathe if you die I wanna die with you it definitely put me in lonely place i stop responding to people isolated myself only ones I interact with is my family
A lot of people assume Loneliness is just lack of companionship, and truthfully thats never where i've felt alone. It's always been when trying to or being asked to perform a task that I simply cant due to disability. I recently went through 5 procedures that left me deaf in my left ear, and now I no longer enjoy my hobbies the way i used to. Things like Mono-Tone music, no more first person perspective games, tv with subtitles... this is where I feel lonely. Asking people to repeat themselves, telling people I can't attend concerts, reminding people to stand on the other side. It takes a lot and a support group around you to handle these disabilities, and comparatively I don't mind if people say its smaller than life threatening other disabilities. It's just in these moments i've performed for 27 years, you take for granted how useful every sense is. So I feel alone, even in the embrace of love. I've moved through depression and am far on my way to acceptance, takes a long time when you've felt it as an injustice, but loneliness, my ruse, continues to rear its ugly head. Sorry for the novel, it's time to champion this.
From ebcoile: @jacobzangs7619 Thank you so much for being willing to share your pain with us. I cant begin to imagine the heartache and anger that you must feel to have so many things that you love taken away. I can absolutely sympathize with you in regards to loneliness not necessarily being about not having physical presence. Dont ever feel guilty about having to ask for others to understand and accommodate you because you are just as important as they are. I hope that you are able to find other loves and hobbies that can help to ease the pain of losing all you have. Stay strong my friend and we are always here when you need to just scream and cuss about life. With Love Eric
From OneStepAtATime: @jacobzangs7619 First off, I want to applaud you for sharing. That takes a lot of courage and strength to do so. And I hope that someday someone who is struggling with something similar can see this and feel a connection and the power that comes with that. Your story, struggles, and your strength are so moving. Your ability to process and communicate is admirable. I have never been through anything like what you've been through. I simply don't know what thats like. But I do want you to know that I am rooting for you with all my heart. I want to connect with you and help you through this. And I want you to know that the last line that you wrote gave me goosebumps. You own this. I believe in you. We are here for you at Heart Support. Sending love your way friend. -Blake
From OneStepAtATime: @jacobzangs7619 First off, I want to applaud you for sharing. That takes a lot of courage and strength to do so. And I hope that someday someone who is struggling with something similar can see this and feel a connection and the power that comes with that. Your story, struggles, and your strength are so moving. Your ability to process and communicate is admirable. I have never been through anything like what you've been through. I simply don't know what thats like. But I do want you to know that I am rooting for you with all my heart. I want to connect with you and help you through this. And I want you to know that the last line that you wrote gave me goosebumps. You own this. I believe in you. We are here for you at Heart Support. Sending love your way friend. -Blake
I use to tour for 12 years and it can be very lonely at times. I use to say I’ve never been so alone while simultaneously being surrounded by friends…it’s weird
Sadly my loneliness is self afflicted. Because I'm fully aware I can be too much at once or to put up with for a long time. So I live in myself around people as much as I can so I don't have to burden them with me.
From DyllonKG: @Reiddiculous Hey my friend. Thank you for posting Im sorry that you feel this way towards yourself. That you're too much or that perhaps you're a burden. Lonely Day is such a powerful and nostalgic song for me. I remember singing this as a teenager on the bus home from school. In longer drives as I got older. I always identified with this song because, much like you, I felt like i didn't have anyone who got me. I felt that nobody stuck around for long because I was a burden or because i had too many problems. I didn't really make friends, close friends, until this year, 16 years later. I think that, back then, i felt my feelings a lot bigger than other people did. And I didn't know how to handle it. So of course the other boys in school didn't really want to hangout with me. But life has changed a lot. Ive done a lot of the work and unpackaged a lot of that. The way people treated me back then didn't have much to do with me, and more to do with them. While some may see me as a burden, they don't get to define me as one. I hope you know that you arent a burden. That you're a person deserving of love. I appreciate your post. I appreciate you. Hold fast and be safe, ok?
I wonder tho...is it possible to become comfortable with being lonely !? I definitely made peace with it..might be why I've became less interested in having much contact with others as now that people are coming back into my life but I don't really want to do anything with anyone !!
From Lisalovesfeathers: @masonyuzwa8717 Hello Friend I had to respond to your post, it is a strange thing to be comfortable with being alone, strange in the sense that people that do not or cannot feel it find it so. The reason I can attest to that is that I am very much at peace with it, I love being alone, I am happy with my own company. However I don't know if that is anything to do with the reason why you dont want anything to do with anyone unless it is about selfishness? Please do not take that the wrong way, Unfortuntaly the down side to being alone a lot is you get selfish which is understandable, you do what you want, when you want and you dont have to answer to anyone at all so when all of a sudden other people come along and you have to consider their "feelings" wonder what they might want to do, something that other people do naturally it is out of sorts for people like us who never have to do that, infact it can be irritating. That doesnt make you or me bad people, it is just a way of life. So I think being comfortable with being alone is just being happy with your own company and being with others is more about having to make changes in your routine and whether you want to. lol I have to say that most of the time, I don't want to and don't but sometimes for family I will make an extra effort. We are all different, some people are loud and want to be surrounded by 15 children and never have a moments peace and others don't. It is all about finding what makes you happy. I hope you continue to find what does and you keep doing it. Lisa x
From Lisalovesfeathers: @masonyuzwa8717 Hello Friend I had to respond to your post, it is a strange thing to be comfortable with being alone, strange in the sense that people that do not or cannot feel it find it so. The reason I can attest to that is that I am very much at peace with it, I love being alone, I am happy with my own company. However I don't know if that is anything to do with the reason why you dont want anything to do with anyone unless it is about selfishness? Please do not take that the wrong way, Unfortuntaly the down side to being alone a lot is you get selfish which is understandable, you do what you want, when you want and you dont have to answer to anyone at all so when all of a sudden other people come along and you have to consider their "feelings" wonder what they might want to do, something that other people do naturally it is out of sorts for people like us who never have to do that, infact it can be irritating. That doesnt make you or me bad people, it is just a way of life. So I think being comfortable with being alone is just being happy with your own company and being with others is more about having to make changes in your routine and whether you want to. lol I have to say that most of the time, I don't want to and don't but sometimes for family I will make an extra effort. We are all different, some people are loud and want to be surrounded by 15 children and never have a moments peace and others don't. It is all about finding what makes you happy. I hope you continue to find what does and you keep doing it. Lisa x
From Daisy1985: @masonyuzwa8717 @Lisalovesfeathers thank you for sharing I could agree with your testimony. I am a loner myself, i love my own company and i am at peace with myself. So if i want to go to an event is an effort I have to do and pray not to stumble any disturbance of my peace. Blessing
You have a loner mentality. I'm like this. Friends don't concern you and you are very selective when picking them. Check to see if you have signs if you are a Sigma Male.
Nice Stankface!! 😂😂 Seriously, if someone could listen to SOAD ,and NOT have a visual reaction(like it or not).....well,THAT might be an indication that therapy is needed.(Imo). Excellent reaction, my friend! ❤❤
I would like to see you analyse the song "Bullet" by "Hollywood Undead" it's my favourite song to listen to when I'm down, and I think as a therapist you'd have a field-day with the lyrics
Please, react to these songs: "Dead Memories" by Slipknot "Dancing With The Devil" by Demi Lovato "Every Day Is Exactly The Same" by Nine Inch Nails "Scar Tissue" by Red Hot Chili Peppers
Really want to hear your thoughts on Lead me out of the dark - Crown The Empire All fucked up - The Amity Affliction Set me free - The Amity Affliction.
Hey, I think it’d be really neat if you reacted to Leprous. You can start with the song, Castaway Angels or Slave. Or you could react to Caligula’s Horse’ songs like Bloom & Marigold, Salt, Oceanrise.
If we’re all shouting requests: Blackshape - itiiitiatiihylihyl. Go in blind and it’s worth it. I’d also be sardonically amused watching a reaction to Solitude by Candlemass or Tell the World I’m Sorry by Gardenian.
Great Song. Great reaction. That furniture piece under the tv that I do now the the engilish word for is awsome. Where did you get it? is it full metal or wood with metal finishing?
Im astonished by how ive never had a group or place my entire life. And the craziest dumbest things prevent me from any progress. Situational design and social conditioning.
Daron really shows his vocal ability on the albums Mezmerize and Hypnotize
the harmonies are so nuts on these albums
And in the band scars on Broadway as the lead singer
And the musical stuff too...the interludes or inbetweens are really beautiful and sometimes tearful to me at least....
Where do we go where the bombs fall? That one always gets me
Loneliness is something I've always struggled with incredibly deeply. From being not understood to physically not being around people this song is such a raw interpretation of what it felt like to be lonely. The power of this song is the last line though. I'm so happy I'm here today cuz when I was thinking I was absolutely alone I didn't want to be around for myself but I stuck around for the others and it makes me better every day by owning who I am and confronting those issues rather than burying myself in my head to not deal with any form of stress good or bad.
As crazy as it might sound. I like going to work because my colleagues have become a surrogate family. It's them and my cat that keep me going.
how do you people do it
@@ewitsroach one foot step at a time
One of the best things you can do watch what you eat so you don't get all the crap in the food that will help you a little bit
@@IgorEngelen1974 True. I am on holiday now, but after some weeks on holiday I went into work to sign some papers and have a cup of coffee with my coworkers today just so I would not have to stay home alone drinking by myself.
One of my favorite SOAD songs. Love when Daron sings, his voice is so unique and just pleasing to the ears. I could listen to him all day.
this song reminds me of my Niece, When she was around 4 yrs old I was trying to commit suicide, gun was ready to go and the only thought that was able to bleed through the pain and agony I was in was glimpses of her. she saved my life. She herself attempted with pills last year. Her mom told her how she saved my life. We are now bonded even deeper. The "If you die I wanna die with you" lyric is quite accurate in my heart for her.
Hope you are both doing well.
My friend I was at that same moment a few years ago. I was ready to die and the only thing that saved me was my 18 year old niece. I hope your both doing well.🐟💙
No one else can see your world burning around you...
So true!!!
The song came out the day my wife passed. I've only told a handful of people and I don't know why I'm telling you now. I listen to it one day every year. And I just wanted to say thanks for doing this Taylor. I wish I could send you a super thanks. So you're just going to have to settle for my extreme extreme thanks🖤🤘🖤
System of a Down is a unique band in regards to mental health or healing, just something about them brings a unity, hope or a meaning on a deep level, thank you for exploring this music, I can say this has literally kept me alive multiple times
We can only have a guess here: they're as deep a band can be when its members survived one of the most traumatic history events like the armenian genocide. They are truly one of the most unique metal bands ever
@@NicolasMeca The Armenian genocide was 50 years before any of their births.
Daron and Serj harmonizing together is something definitely missed all these years.
exactly,
Thanks for the analysis. I've been single for almost 20yrs. It wasn't until I faced my loneliness that I saw that I am not alone. Now I can sit with my loneliness and it doesn't faze me. The challenge now I find is to not forsaking what could be for that which is - lonely. Complacency calls. Resistance rises. Cheers from Canada!
Love this song so much. SOAD is completely awesome. 😎🤘🏻🤘🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
Yup big reason I watch reaction videos is because I do feel lonley or more so crave some social interaction. Im awarkward and have social anxiety so never talk to people outside of my coworkers and family. So watch a video like this I can at least have nostalgia from listening to SOAD and feel like youre a friend talking to me for 8 mins.
I was younger when in my early 20s i was so lost so lonely and depressed i tried to take my life and i was listening to this song and i dont know i guess it wa comforting to know i wasnt the only one who felt like this.. this band this song has done so much im grateful to listen to them
A year ago I was feeling especially lonely. I'm grateful that my life circumstances allowed for a way that I was able to do something about it, to bring more connection into my life so that I didn't feel so lonely anymore. That isn't an option for everyone. I'm not where I want to be, but thank God I'm no longer where I've been, and I'm not giving up.
💪💪💪💪
Be strong, - you're not alone)
@@jimbim9858 Thank you.
Bob Seger - Turn the Page, if you really want a song about the loneliness of touring.
Metallica did a great cover of this song.
@heartsupport I cannot explain in words how grateful I am for the content you provide and the perspective you give to the lyrics in all of your videos. I've been in a really rough spot emotionally due to relationship hardships for several months and your videos have made me feel understood and validated. Thank you for everything you do. Im still not 100%, but I know I'll get there.... some day
That is Los Angeles
Old school Hollywood I think.
Downtown LA
@@glendaly3344nope. Downtown LA 6th and Broadway
San Fernando Valley
And it sure is on fire these days.
Hey dude! Im from the uk, & Ive gotta say I love what youre doing. As someone who struggles with PTSD, depression & anxiety, to stumble across your channel & see someone pointing out the empowerment in a music genre I love, really spoke volumes to me. Actually found myself crying to afew of your explanations. Please, please keep doin what youre doin, & understand theres love for you & what youre doin across the world. Love & light y'all x
I never knew I needed a mix of adventure time to that beat…. That’s amazing
This song hits so hard. I've felt this way for a long time. I know it's majorly my own fault and I'm working on it.
When you're in the void, you learn so much about everybody and most importantly yourself.
Wanting to connect and at the same time wanting to stay away from most people.
This is one of my favorites by them!
Its crazy how peaople discover SYSTEM OF A DOWN STILL TO THIS DAY...LOVE FROM CROATIA❤
In a catalogue of songs with such complex and over the top lyrics the simplicity of this track really hits different, the vocal performance really gets a chance to shine. Such an effective song.
I heard this song first time in Paranoia and here we are 😊 love this song
Now that there is a music video for it, I think you should check out surfacing. I am just a big fan of Slipknot and maybe this song has a strong and important meaning too. Great videos ❤
Loneliness feels like being stuck between a rock and a hard place. I've learned to enjoy my own company a lot, the peace and quiet it brings is freeing, but at the same time I won't make any connections just by being home alone all the time, which ultimately contributes to me feeling lonely. But on the flip side, whenever I go out I can't help but feel lonely even when I'm surrounded by people. For weeks or months, my only in-person interactions would be with my boss and greeting the cashiers at the places I shop.
From oopadoopp: @anomalyraven Hello,
I'm so sorry that your dealing with a really tough situation. Feeling lonely, whether your alone or with others, can be super hard. It's clear that this is very hard for you, and it's okay to feel the way you do. Your feelings are important, and its okay to struggle with this. Feel free to message us if you feel worried or stressed.
From eagertuna0: @anomalyraven Thank you for sharing and for being here. While it's good to hear that you've learned to enjoy being alone (and many people do like alone time), loneliness is such a difficult emotion and I'm sorry to hear that this has been occurring. Especially when we feel disconnected from others, it is normal (but difficult) to feel lonely or isolated even in the presence of others.
When we don't connect with many others (by choice or due to lack of opportunity), it can bring up many negative emotions so I'm glad to hear that you've found some level of comfort in being alone (as you said, this really can be freeing), and am wishing you the best in navigating these tough emotions and/or building new relationships.
Thank you again for being here; please don't hesitate to reach out if anything further is on your mind -- we're here for you.
From MedhaG: @anomalyraven Hey,
Firstly, I'd like to appreciate you for reaching out and putting your feelings out there, it takes a lot of courage to do that. It sounds like you're in a tough place right now. I empathize with what you said; that while the peace and quiet can be freeing, at times, loneliness can be difficult to deal with. Just a reminder, you don't have to force yourself to interact with other people if you're not ready yet. It's completely valid to feel the way you do. If there's ever a time where it gets overwhelming, feel free to talk to someone you trust, or you can also reach out to us, and we'd be more than happy to listen :)
Sending love and support
A window into the professional thought of “why” I enjoy is really fun.
So wise for such a young lady!
You can check out for next video:
*Filter - Where Do We Go From Here*
I think you would love it 💯
I love this song so much…it really goes to show that you don’t always have to have a lot of lyrical depth in order to express immense emotions. Daron really pours his heart into every word he sings and it shows. and that guitar solo 🥹 (admittedly i’m not the most knowledgeable SOAD fan…can yall recommend any other songs of theirs that are similar in style to this?)
yes, my favorite song out of all
I used to feel this way a lot. But now I've found an overwhelming sense of relief and peace by being lonely. I now enjoy my own company and see this time to reflect and discover who I am and who I can choose to be. I worked inward to find this feeling but it's one that I will forever be grateful for.
I would suggest perhaps being alone is not always the same as lonliness
Been a while since i heard this song but i still knew every word
I believe the fire represents everything figuratively burning around you in said lonely looking while you continue to move forward on that lonely road.
I completely agree.i think that is why i gravitate to metal because it gives me an outlet to feel what is going on inside my head and release it.
Please check out I Prevail, their lyrics are incredible. I feel like you will like them. They have really helped me through some things.
I can tell you're a good therapist. I've seen some that just toss out ideas and try to tie you to a solution, won't ever really work.
I know the feeling of being in a crowded room full of friends and acquaintances and feeling completely alone. I spent decades feeling like that. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to overcome
Love this one 👍🏼👍🏼
I don’t recall, have you done Blue October Hate me? There is the original from 14 years ago-ish and a live one from a 10th anniversary show in Texas, both are pretty good.
great suggestion, I forget about this song and absolutely love when im reminded of it or randomly come across it.
Its all about embracing EVERY part of us, regardless of whether we like the feeling or not.
Damn those statistics you mentioned are so scary, but so true. I think it also hugely increases when you have problems with addiction and struggle with loneliness. It just escalates really quickly.
Lonely Day. The Valentine's Day anthem for single people.
Very very interesting. It sort of perfectly describes my feelings after the Tool show I went to. Lots of people, everyone there with friends, and me alone. Being home I don’t usually feel that alone, but oh my, after the concert I felt so lonely. It was a weird dichotomy between the ecstasy of the concert and the acute loneliness.
Your explanation of loneliness is exactly like truck driving minus the fans..the crew.. the band mates.. all you’ve got is your mind and whatever you have to entertain yourself in your down time.. it takes a certain kind of person to be able to do this for weeks at a time to go home for a couple days and back out again
i've had many of these lonely days. i'm a veteran with TBI and PTSD and some physical disabilities. been medically retired since 2009. my marriage fell apart in 2019. been on my own since then. there are a lot of lonely days and really i am glad ive survived but some of my friends haven't. i just keep going day by day though
From bmao: @MrMattf727 I want to start off by thanking you for your service. It takes such a selfless and loving heart to put your life on the line for your country and we will always be indebted to and grateful for you for doing so. Thank you.
Though you did come back from your time in service, I'm sure there are times when it feels like a different person came back than the one that was sent out. Adjusting to your "normal" life when you finally did return was probably filled with struggles you had never foreseen. Trying to fit the changed version of yourself into your old traditions and relationships can be impossible, and I'm so sorry that you've ended up on your own for much of it.
Though the isolation may feel unending and sometimes spirit-crushing, know that you are not alone. There are so many people who care for you, including every one of us here at HeartSupport. Your life has made such a difference for every single person in your country, and it still doe to this day. There has never been and will never be another you. You have the unique opportunity to change the world in a way that only YOU can. Though you may feel alone in your struggles, know that you are so loved and so cared for. Struggling is part of the human condition and something we all have to go through. I commend you for opening up about your trials and seeking help- that is always the first step to healing. Keep talking. Keep reaching out. Keep sharing your unique story- you never know who will be impacted by it. You mean so much and your life has so much worth.
Thank you again for your service and for your openness. We are here for you if you ever need to talk more. All the love.
From Mantlebeard: @MrMattf727 Hi there. Thank you for posting and sharing. I did a video response to share my support and some thoughts. www.loom.com/share/9ea8e65186b0406aa8c8879550c2dca8?sid=c22b3b80-48fb-43c8-a96a-1725d9c8dc13
Would love to hear your thoughts on these ones!
Gary Jules - Mad World
Nine in nails - Everyday is exactly the same
Neil Young - the needle and the damage done
(If you want to do somthing alittle Heavier) Children of Bodom - Needled 24/7
I believe Darren wrote this song shortly after his brother died. You can really feel the desperation of trying to accept that in it.
@@siir_ia Yeah as far as I know.
Darren? You meant Daron?
He is an only child.
@NicolasMeca Oh sorry wasn't aware of the spelling.
@MadFox615 You are absolutely right. I have "known" this as "fact" about the song for so long, it's wild.
This was a good video, and a good reaction. Well done, you got a thumbs up from a guy in Mississippi.
You need to check out the song Did He Jump by The Zounds. It's a song about a kid who wrote a suicide note because he was bullied to death and part of the note said "Never turned my back on society, society turned its back on me, never tried to drop out.. I just couldn't get in from the very start. All the world cant be wrong it must be me I dont belong". I felt that my entire life as someone who was bullied in school because of my ADHD and learning disibilities. I still struggle with ptsd, anxiety, depression... Punk kept me going. Oh and Broken from the band Pennywise!!
Dude this Zounds song is so good
As someone who is taking his life in about an hour, thanks for this video series. I truly hope it helps some people. Ive struggled with major chronic depression since I was about 8 years old. I had stress ulcers in 6th grade. Id be 40 years old next April. Music has helped for a very very long time but like this song is related to Ive been alone my entire life. Both literally and theoretically. Like she describes its taken a toll on me physically and mentally. I had the knees of a 60 year old man by the time I was 25. To anyone reading this or watching the videos. Talk to SOMEONE. I internalized my entire life and by the time I tried to talk to someone it was too late. Ive had to start my life over too many times and Im just tired. But get help NOW, not later. I recently lost my job and unemployment has dropped the ball so many times now Im about to be homeless and I just cant anymore. But for those that are struggling now reach out to someone.
From I-Am-Reclaimer: @Vonderbraffle Hey Friend,
I want to let you know that the family here at Heartsupport hears you...
I've had to start my life over again many times as well, been through several traumatic health issues, and had lost my job with no where to go.
I was extremely close to taking my life when I hit the lowest point in my life...
I want you to know that it is possible... that you CAN do it. That I know where you're coming from and know where you can go.
Please tell me you will share your story with us?
www.heartsupport.com/crisis-resources
Hold Fast my friend...
From djstarion: @Vonderbraffle When I attempted to take my own life I was the same age as you. I had gone through so much stuff, ranging from family abuse, losing my mom and my job in the span of an hour, and needing to find a new place to live within 2 weeks. I was at my breaking point and I just wanted to end it all right then and there. Luckily I didn't. I learned a lot in that span too. How it's NEVER too late to get help. You took a huge step in posting here, that's not internalizing. That's you showing courage. No matter what life throws at us, there's gonna be that sliver of hope that will always shine through. We may not see it now, we may not see it tomorrow, but trust me....it IS there.
Please try and take advantage of the resources that @I-Am-Reclaimer posted, and more importantly, please just let us know you're here. We've been through this battle before, and we want to get through it together with you.
Stay strong, amigo <3
From leapyeargirl: @Vonderbraffle First of all thanks for sharing. I think it is never too late, and I am glad you reached out to us.
I hope you will reconsider, because in spite of what you might believe or feel: you are valuable and YOU MATTER
Hold fast
I hope you will reach out to one of the resources @I-Am-Reclaimer has mentioned
I looked up what this song is about and it's about the lead singer of just this song lost his best friend in a house fire so he rote this song and the band let him sing it and I was like awe that's so sad and I'm glad the band let him sing this song and helped him get through and cope with him losing his best friend I think that's why there is so much fire everywhere in the music video
Definitely been in that stage of loneliness before many times. It can be rough and draining, or rewarding oand overcoming. It just depends on how your perspective of the moment is at that time.
The bacon pancakes cut was ELITE and that’s niche reference means everything 😂💙
0:15 I was not expecting that lol 😂
Ruins the vibe of the video
@@selfishstockton6123yea kinda
@@selfishstockton6123 wouldn't say ruins but it surely doesn't belong there, lol
I been lonely for the past 6 years.
It grinds you down little by little till you learn to accept it.
Some tell me it's your own doing.
Maybe.
SOAD is the most original Metal band to come out since......I don't remember, man can they hit on every emotion I have and make it real.
Hurts.
But such a great band.
Too bad they can't bury the hatchet and make some new music.
Alone is not the same as Lonely... Music really helps overcome loneliness. Keep up man!
Serj said he will be doing some concerts, but he really do not want to make new music with them anymore. At least we have 5 albums to listen.
I'm happy that they gave us what they did. Serj did tell them to leave him, to get someone else, but they refused.
it may make us sad, but it is in part because we would miss Serj, in part because nothing would ever sound the same, and in part it is a brotherhood they will never end.
Thanks for the video.
Queens of the stone age - the lost art of keeping a secret.
I loved your reaction. Great interpretation. ❤
People are used to daron either just harmonizing with serj or screaming (byob) and at least this song is different. It shows how beautiful his voice can be even by itself.
yup, being lonely is pure pain...and its the late nights that gets more painful
Song is so barebones and minimalistic, but it’s system of the down therefore it conveys a galaxy 🫡
I need help man. I can't handle life right now I just want to be happy, it feels like the world is just kicking me while I'm down.
From Riverbats: @EliHerr. I hear you. It sounds like life is really a struggle for you at the moment. Like you can't seem to catch a break. I know I've felt that way before. Thank you for reaching out. It takes a lot of guts to do that. I know when I feel like the world is against me, talking to someone and feeling like they hear me really helps. So let me just say I heard you. If you want to talk more, just keep reaching out. We want to hear what's going on in your life.
From Mantlebeard: @EliHerr. Hey there. I just wanted to send you this video response and say thanks for posting what you're going through. I hope it helps some. www.loom.com/share/0d6a9047546f4f0bb93cce9ea396ab02?sid=e6d8d6bd-95aa-489b-916c-a57912a6f76f
They put a reference in their video to Wish you were here - Pink Floyd single cover image 1:12
Thank you, this song is helping me right now, hope you could check more Tool as well, like The Grudge or The Patient
The song is about loneliness obviously (and good catch noting that the band in the video are sitting near each other but not interacting and still lonely), but the backstory of the song is that Daron (the guitarist and 2nd vocals, though he sang lead on this song) wrote it about his brother who died and that was the loneliest day of his life. So I think above the general theme of loneliness is the theme of getting over a loved ones passing (which also helps to explain the fire in the video).
And yes the harmonies between Daron and Serj are good on this song as is the harmony between Daron's guitar and Serj's keyboards in the bridge.
I've been there. Experienced that. An all too common feeling of loneliness that seems natural to me.
I may have the perfect song that plays into what heartsupport is all about.
This song takes a not so "overt" jab at the mental health support phone lines, and therapists(not the good ones haha) in general. Specifically the ones who don't care, in it for the money, don't off proper help etc.
Without spoiling too much, this song is a commentary on the inadequacy of various psychiatric help lines, and even therapists. Specifically, it is the story of a man that calls one of these lines hoping to get some advice on all his problems, mental and otherwise. He is spouting all the problems he has, making references to the various phrases and coping skills he has learned throughout therapy, all while the other end of the phone remains silent. There is even direct criticism towards psychiatrists made throughout the song, seen in lines such as “you were never one for confrontation, but now it lies all in your hands”. Dallas is saying that these people shouldn’t be trusted with a persons entire life when they can’t keep up with their own problems, much less deal with someone else’s. The man on the line becomes more and more frantic before the song ends with the click of an old phone being put back into the receiver. It is unclear what happens to the man, but we can assume it isn’t good based on how the monologue ends and the general message of the song.
There is no video, but just pull up the lyrics as there are some screams. I know this track will hit differently as it taking a jab at the bad outliers in your profession..
Alexisonfire(pronounced Alexis on fire, not Alex is on fire hahaha) - Sharks and Danger
Adema Giving In!! Pleaseee!!!
I LOVE SYSTEM THANK YOU
What you are saying about loneliness breaks my heart. My mother must have felt this for a long time before she died...i believe loneliness killed her and i feel like shit for it becasue i was only 3 hours away.
Found this reaction a couple of days after losing my grandmother, who I provided hospice care for every day during the last six years of her life. We all know caregivers don't make much money, but I never cared. I did it because i loved her
She was always there for me, and I was always there for her. Good days and bad. Now, there is just a void, and I just feel so directionless and alone.
These things happen, I guess. I'm the only one in our family having these issues with it because nobody spent as much time with her as i did. Now im just a 40-year-old dude, watching this and crying by himself. Ugh.
From JBrach: @citizenbrain8065 It is so rare for someone to dedicate so many years caring for a relative so in-depth in the way you did! It shows you care and heart for others that you spent six years taking care of her!
You poured your life and love into her and now you're empty because you gave everything you have.
When our cups are empty from giving our all, we can find other things to fill them. This is an amazing opportunity for you to find new purposes and passions to filk your cup. New hobbies; a career change, seeking mew environments, new friendships, there are so many things you will find that will reinvigorate and fill you! I hope you find those things.
But in this moment of pain, i hope you hold that in honor and hold space for your grief. If none of your family feels the depth of the loss like you do, you can know that you may have had a very special relationship with her. That is a special thing! Dont take that time you got to spend with her for granted!
God bless you and I pray you find things to fill your cup! Thanks for reaching out toe HeartSupport!
From Micro: @citizenbrain8065 You did something loving and beautiful for your grandmother. Being there and taking care of her, being both a presence that offered joy and support as the same time, was absolutely priceless. That's the true definition of unconditional love. You didn't shy away in front of her struggles, you didn't let any embarassement take over, you didn't start seeing her differently. And she must have seen that every day you were there for her. In your eyes, how much you were looking up to her and loving her. These are very special moments that you have shared together, and there is no doubt that your presence has brought so much peace to her when she needed it the most.
It makes sense to feel lost now that she is gone. When we lose someone we love, a part of ourselves leaves at the same time. It feels like being a puzzle incomplete, while knowing that the missing pieces cannot be found again. So we hold on to the memory we have of how it was to feel whole with that person in our life again. How much everything made more sense, whether or not it was perfect. On top of it, your days have been structured around her needs for a significant time. Losing her is a major change in your life, but also in general in the way life used to be for you.
It's okay to let the tears out. There's no age limit to love - and this is about love. It's about how much she has impacted your life in a way that has been so very significant for you. This impact and her voice will not be lost as you will keep on sharing it. It's hard though to be the one who is still present and is forced to learn to carry this love for two. It feels like having to learn again how to live, and how to breathe.
It's okay to take things slowly and be as patient as possible with your heart. There won't be a wrong or good way to process your loss - only how you feel, and it will be valid at any given time.
Sending hugs your way. :heart:
The loneliness epidemic is real and global, but more severe in industrialized 1st world countries.
I've run into multiple people online who were either severely depressed (as in spoken or written directly to them) and one of them was even a veteran that just randomly began chatting with me out of nowhere when we ran by each-other in a game. I felt like absolute shit that I couldn't stay in touch with the guy (I have my own struggles which sometimes cause me to be unreliable), but he was severely lonely with his trauma. He had a family even, but no one to talk to.
I should mention that this gentleman was from a European country with little to nothing resembling the VA in the US or elsewhere.
For anyone who cares this song was showen to me by my older sister whrn she was leaving to live with her mom amd ever science tjan i think of her when someone says the name or even when i hear this song i love and miss you zoey
Sorry for the typos i was in a rush to finish this comment bc i was starting to cry
My anthem.
New sub; loving your vids, and music choices!!!!! ❤❤
This song always reminds me of the day my children were killed. 😢
I'm sorry for your losses
When my dog passed away my chest was on fire for a few weeks it hurt to even breathe if you die I wanna die with you it definitely put me in lonely place i stop responding to people isolated myself only ones I interact with is my family
IM SUPER LONELY
A lot of people assume Loneliness is just lack of companionship, and truthfully thats never where i've felt alone. It's always been when trying to or being asked to perform a task that I simply cant due to disability. I recently went through 5 procedures that left me deaf in my left ear, and now I no longer enjoy my hobbies the way i used to. Things like Mono-Tone music, no more first person perspective games, tv with subtitles... this is where I feel lonely. Asking people to repeat themselves, telling people I can't attend concerts, reminding people to stand on the other side. It takes a lot and a support group around you to handle these disabilities, and comparatively I don't mind if people say its smaller than life threatening other disabilities. It's just in these moments i've performed for 27 years, you take for granted how useful every sense is. So I feel alone, even in the embrace of love. I've moved through depression and am far on my way to acceptance, takes a long time when you've felt it as an injustice, but loneliness, my ruse, continues to rear its ugly head. Sorry for the novel, it's time to champion this.
From ebcoile: @jacobzangs7619 Thank you so much for being willing to share your pain with us. I cant begin to imagine the heartache and anger that you must feel to have so many things that you love taken away. I can absolutely sympathize with you in regards to loneliness not necessarily being about not having physical presence. Dont ever feel guilty about having to ask for others to understand and accommodate you because you are just as important as they are. I hope that you are able to find other loves and hobbies that can help to ease the pain of losing all you have. Stay strong my friend and we are always here when you need to just scream and cuss about life.
With Love
Eric
From OneStepAtATime: @jacobzangs7619 First off, I want to applaud you for sharing. That takes a lot of courage and strength to do so. And I hope that someday someone who is struggling with something similar can see this and feel a connection and the power that comes with that. Your story, struggles, and your strength are so moving. Your ability to process and communicate is admirable.
I have never been through anything like what you've been through. I simply don't know what thats like. But I do want you to know that I am rooting for you with all my heart. I want to connect with you and help you through this. And I want you to know that the last line that you wrote gave me goosebumps. You own this. I believe in you.
We are here for you at Heart Support. Sending love your way friend.
-Blake
From OneStepAtATime: @jacobzangs7619 First off, I want to applaud you for sharing. That takes a lot of courage and strength to do so. And I hope that someday someone who is struggling with something similar can see this and feel a connection and the power that comes with that. Your story, struggles, and your strength are so moving. Your ability to process and communicate is admirable.
I have never been through anything like what you've been through. I simply don't know what thats like. But I do want you to know that I am rooting for you with all my heart. I want to connect with you and help you through this. And I want you to know that the last line that you wrote gave me goosebumps. You own this. I believe in you.
We are here for you at Heart Support. Sending love your way friend.
-Blake
I use to tour for 12 years and it can be very lonely at times. I use to say I’ve never been so alone while simultaneously being surrounded by friends…it’s weird
I think you would like cradle of filth possibly the song Nymphetamine Dani the singer sings super fast but this is a great song to start with
Sadly my loneliness is self afflicted. Because I'm fully aware I can be too much at once or to put up with for a long time. So I live in myself around people as much as I can so I don't have to burden them with me.
From DyllonKG: @Reiddiculous Hey my friend. Thank you for posting
Im sorry that you feel this way towards yourself. That you're too much or that perhaps you're a burden.
Lonely Day is such a powerful and nostalgic song for me.
I remember singing this as a teenager on the bus home from school. In longer drives as I got older. I always identified with this song because, much like you, I felt like i didn't have anyone who got me. I felt that nobody stuck around for long because I was a burden or because i had too many problems. I didn't really make friends, close friends, until this year, 16 years later.
I think that, back then, i felt my feelings a lot bigger than other people did. And I didn't know how to handle it. So of course the other boys in school didn't really want to hangout with me.
But life has changed a lot. Ive done a lot of the work and unpackaged a lot of that. The way people treated me back then didn't have much to do with me, and more to do with them. While some may see me as a burden, they don't get to define me as one.
I hope you know that you arent a burden. That you're a person deserving of love. I appreciate your post. I appreciate you.
Hold fast and be safe, ok?
I wonder tho...is it possible to become comfortable with being lonely !? I definitely made peace with it..might be why I've became less interested in having much contact with others as now that people are coming back into my life but I don't really want to do anything with anyone !!
From Lisalovesfeathers: @masonyuzwa8717 Hello Friend
I had to respond to your post, it is a strange thing to be comfortable with being alone, strange in the sense that people that do not or cannot feel it find it so. The reason I can attest to that is that I am very much at peace with it, I love being alone, I am happy with my own company. However I don't know if that is anything to do with the reason why you dont want anything to do with anyone unless it is about selfishness? Please do not take that the wrong way, Unfortuntaly the down side to being alone a lot is you get selfish which is understandable, you do what you want, when you want and you dont have to answer to anyone at all so when all of a sudden other people come along and you have to consider their "feelings" wonder what they might want to do, something that other people do naturally it is out of sorts for people like us who never have to do that, infact it can be irritating. That doesnt make you or me bad people, it is just a way of life. So I think being comfortable with being alone is just being happy with your own company and being with others is more about having to make changes in your routine and whether you want to. lol I have to say that most of the time, I don't want to and don't but sometimes for family I will make an extra effort. We are all different, some people are loud and want to be surrounded by 15 children and never have a moments peace and others don't. It is all about finding what makes you happy. I hope you continue to find what does and you keep doing it. Lisa x
From Lisalovesfeathers: @masonyuzwa8717 Hello Friend
I had to respond to your post, it is a strange thing to be comfortable with being alone, strange in the sense that people that do not or cannot feel it find it so. The reason I can attest to that is that I am very much at peace with it, I love being alone, I am happy with my own company. However I don't know if that is anything to do with the reason why you dont want anything to do with anyone unless it is about selfishness? Please do not take that the wrong way, Unfortuntaly the down side to being alone a lot is you get selfish which is understandable, you do what you want, when you want and you dont have to answer to anyone at all so when all of a sudden other people come along and you have to consider their "feelings" wonder what they might want to do, something that other people do naturally it is out of sorts for people like us who never have to do that, infact it can be irritating. That doesnt make you or me bad people, it is just a way of life. So I think being comfortable with being alone is just being happy with your own company and being with others is more about having to make changes in your routine and whether you want to. lol I have to say that most of the time, I don't want to and don't but sometimes for family I will make an extra effort. We are all different, some people are loud and want to be surrounded by 15 children and never have a moments peace and others don't. It is all about finding what makes you happy. I hope you continue to find what does and you keep doing it. Lisa x
From Daisy1985: @masonyuzwa8717 @Lisalovesfeathers thank you for sharing I could agree with your testimony.
I am a loner myself, i love my own company and i am at peace with myself. So if i want to go to an event is an effort I have to do and pray not to stumble any disturbance of my peace.
Blessing
You're a therapist, explain to me why I've never felt lonely? I don't have friends (don't want any). Most of my family think I'm a sociopath.
It probably took you some time to achieve this level of peace, it’s usually hard at first to be “lonely”
Saying the word please wouldn’t hurt you bud
You have a loner mentality. I'm like this. Friends don't concern you and you are very selective when picking them. Check to see if you have signs if you are a Sigma Male.
@@betogarcia2583 ....and I have no social skills as demonstrated by my poor irl interactions.🤣
I believe that would require a full a session, There's a lot of
Information missing.
Nice Stankface!! 😂😂 Seriously, if someone could listen to SOAD ,and NOT have a visual reaction(like it or not).....well,THAT might be an indication that therapy is needed.(Imo). Excellent reaction, my friend! ❤❤
That wasn't New York, but I still enjoy your stuff.
I would like to see you analyse the song "Bullet" by "Hollywood Undead" it's my favourite song to listen to when I'm down, and I think as a therapist you'd have a field-day with the lyrics
Please, react to these songs:
"Dead Memories" by Slipknot
"Dancing With The Devil" by Demi Lovato
"Every Day Is Exactly The Same" by Nine Inch Nails
"Scar Tissue" by Red Hot Chili Peppers
Great reaction and analysis as always!Please react to Love Falls or Hush by Hellyeah. Amazing songs dealing with mental health issues.
Really want to hear your thoughts on
Lead me out of the dark - Crown The Empire
All fucked up - The Amity Affliction
Set me free - The Amity Affliction.
YAYYY MORE SOAD!! YOU SHOULD DO DARTS!!
"This too, shall pass."
I think this is their most normal song
Please, "forget to remember - mudvayne", I love this music. Very good your video.
Hey, I think it’d be really neat if you reacted to Leprous. You can start with the song, Castaway Angels or Slave. Or you could react to Caligula’s Horse’ songs like Bloom & Marigold, Salt, Oceanrise.
my favorite SOAD. I repeat: The Black Dahlia Murder - Asylum // there is a lyric video on yt. Dunno how to spend money. RIP Trevor Strnad
If we’re all shouting requests: Blackshape - itiiitiatiihylihyl. Go in blind and it’s worth it.
I’d also be sardonically amused watching a reaction to Solitude by Candlemass or Tell the World I’m Sorry by Gardenian.
Great Song. Great reaction. That furniture piece under the tv that I do now the the engilish word for is awsome. Where did you get it? is it full metal or wood with metal finishing?
React to crawling by linkin park,this song talk about painfull things that Chester feel when was just a kid. A hug from Brazil🫂🇧🇷
That intro had me so stoked for making bacon pancakes, i disnt care about the song anymore...😂🎉
I think Nutshell by Alice in Chains is a good song to check out. It touches on loneliness and judgement.
Im astonished by how ive never had a group or place my entire life. And the craziest dumbest things prevent me from any progress.
Situational design and social conditioning.
SOAD always ❤️🔥