The Morning After
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- It happens all the time, but sometimes it’s hard to call it what it is.
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*Getting a shot 4 feet away from the basket. "man how do you get those!"
Dhanush Selvaraj exactly
My record is 1 and a half feet...
FITE ME
Well the guy shooting was a midget.
Dhanush Selvaraj actually im better at shooting from more of a distance from as close as he was lol maybe I’m just weird lol
Best part of the video
Anyone thought the story would be about the guy sitting behind her at lunch table
Yh xD I was thinking the guy was gonna turn around and say something to her
Yeah I thought that too
I did as well! I kept looking at him and I kept thinking, "Is he going to talk, or turn around, or anything?"
It's because BuzzFeed are trying to do fancy camera angles but don't quite know how. :l
Yeah I was waiting to turn and talk to her lol
Here's what confuses me. If a person cannot give consent while drunk and if two people hook up while drunk, then neither person could give consent right?
Matthew Brunette yeah you’re right
#NotRape
when one person is showing disinterest and giving non-verbal resistance, that's not consent. that's the conversation.
FoxAntlers 👏👏👏
That only counts if you’re a woman though.
dammit, my ex was a soldier with anger issues who drank a lot. when I said no, he always immediately stopped, no matter who was how drunk one of us was and never asked or begged.
Not all are the same yes some people would stop even if they are drunk but
I was technically begged aka forced to send pictures of me naked when I was 10 and the same thing happened when I was 11 and now I’m only 12.
I was very uncomfortable and I showed it to the person when I was 10 and the same thing with the person when I was 11 but I would not like to say what they threatened me with.
@@touyatodoroki3797 I’m so sorry , I hope you’re ok
@@gretagutinaite7366 I’m aight
"I was too drunk to get off" *Continues to tell her friend what happened in detail*
exactly
Doroteo Garza That's exactly what I was thinking.
Ravenwing0 That's not a fair position to take, when we're talking about someone potentially being accused of a serious crime. If she can remember such specific details, then she clearly wasn't too drunk.
Doroteo Garza His version of events is intentionally presented as vague. We really don't have his version of what happened, which could be far different from her version.
tyro apache Exactly, but buzzfeed won't look at it from a males point of view. Considering it's ran by radical feminists.
"You said no, and he did anyways" is the most important line in the whole thing. That's what the ppl in the comments just don't get.
Omg someone else who’s reading these comments from 3 years ago 😂 but yes! Exactly! I don’t get the people saying that it was both their faults. Or that she “said no but did it anyway.” It’s like sexual coercion is a thing y’all. A yes isn’t a yes if it’s after ten no’s. I’m so sad reading these comments
EXACTLY
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Maybe this is just me but I kind of want to see one of these short video types with the guy as the victim. It does happen so I think it would be a good idea to showcase that and how they deal with it.
They should have done both videos. One with the women victim. One with the man victim.
Horans Jauregui ikr
Yeah buzz feed is full of feminazi's these days
Horans Jauregui ummm.....when has a man been rapes?
Lots of men get raped, Naairah
Who else was expecting the guy sitting behind her to do something
Me...i thought he would just spring up and say something but he kept sitting 😂😂
Same
I legit thought that man behind her was the dudes bro and was waiting for the guys to show up after he said lets go eat
🤣🤣😂
Hey Buzzfeed, can you make one where the situation is switched? I wanna see you try that one.
utpawn lol
ryan keshet most people aren't able to consider both sides of the story
ryan keshet Bruh buzzfeed is cancer
ryan keshet obviously they can't. Because they have some sort of weird Entity-Only Personality Disorder that strictly disallows them to do anything other than be politically correct. The human equivalent would be psychopathy(but for different things, just the same principle). Buzzfeed should be renamed "CancerousPsychopathy"
I starting to believe BuzzFeed is all about feminism. I don't see a "gender equality" content anywhere in this channel.
They really emphasized the hand on the shoulder.
He raped her shoulder.
Yeah well I don't think you should get smashed to solve the problem
Physical contact of any kind = male oppression.
Then in the next scene, the other girl put her hand on her shoulder, but it was all ok then?
TK Kitty ر
Now let's reverse the roles and see just how many feel sorry for the guy.
AshXXMayftw I think a lot of people would??
AshXXMayftw I would. No one should be taken advantage of.
your missing the point of THIS video
AshXXMayftw but that would anger the feminists
A lot of people would. Including me
1:11
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“HOW DO YOU HIT THOSE??!??!!”
Fax
Your 300th like
NEWS FLASH: GUYS HAVE SITUATIONS LIKE THIS TOO.
Buzzfeed, please show that it's more than just women who are victims. Thanks,
-everyone.
so when is the next video that portrays mens issues such as high suicide rates and violent assaults from female feminists when discussing such problems + the media outlash
***** link please
No. They chose a woman because its trendy and will get more views because Men are not as impressionable nor weak minded as women have been taught to be.
Phranken Phoebe And also you take the spotlight off of the real victims of discrimination while claiming to fight against it.
Buzzfeed isn't saying it's only women that have situations like this.Its bc it's mostly women who face this problem
If you didn't hear a yes, it's a no
Ancient Manakete You keep commenting but she never said that. Just because it happened doesn't mean she said yes.
if that's how it is, then women have raped me. I will file a report and press charges on those women who didn't ask for my consent
Joshuah did I mention a gender?
LDShadowLady Fan 〈3 lol I don't think that is an appropriate response. You're basically saying that men can't be raped which isn't true.
carendestiny How did he say that?
"In that case I have been raped"
"You just said men can't be raped."
What?
My response to most of the general comments just so I make myself feel better.
1. "Men are raped too." Etc
Yes they are and I understand that completely. It sucks that it isn't shown at all.
2. "Regret isn't rape."
This woman didn't say "I regret it" she said that she said no BEFORE the sex. BEFORE.
3. "What did she expect if she went home with him?"
Human have this cool ability to CHANGE THEIR MINDS. Or also this other thing that is not doing what someone else wants because they expect it. Just because I go into a store doesn't mean I'm going to buy something.
4. "Why is it the guy's fault? They were both drunk, not just him."
Yes they were both drunk. No, that doesn't give him the magical ability to be allowed to rape someone. It's not a problem that they were drunk. The problem is that she said no and he continued. THATS the issue people.
Okay I'm done. I just was getting a little frustrated and got tired of responding to people's comments when I should write my own. Have a great day everyone.
carendestiny I love you
I like you xD you actually have common sense
carendestiny +
it's tru
Thankyou! Someone who actually knows something
Says she was too drunk, proceeds to tell all the detailed immaculately
When you're drunk, your choices are being affected not your memory. Your memory is affected when you get highly intoxicated. "black out drunk". You can remember alot. Especially if it was a highlight/low point of the night.
One can be drunk enough to limit one’s physical defenses without blacking out. More importantly, the brain processes traumatic memories very differently, and more vividly, even when quite intoxicated
Exactly
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MoreUkesLessNukes ty for this
I'm a dude and this happened to me this happens to guys way more than people think
Tulip Dew by a girl... Sounds weird but I'm not a very commanding dude
Dajita g she pegged u?
Tulip Dew yeah
I'm very sorry
Dajita g It's disgusting... They should make more videos with awareness that women can be like that
this is a difficult one, so the standard Buzzfeed comments that only a one sided opinion can be the right one, doesnt apply.
He did a severe mistake: She told her friend that she said "no" at some point. If he actually heard her say that or somehow only got the smallest sign of her not wanting to go any further, he definitely should have stopped right there. However, being drunk and all, it might have not been so clear, which is awfully unfortunate, and, should that be the case, it would have been a mistake of both of them. Obviously he wasnt a horrible guy, but we cannot judge based on given inofrmation if he knew if he was doing anything against her full will.
So: Men need to be careful and make 100% sure that everything happening is in full consent, and Women need to say if they dont want something to happen.
This can easily, though rarer, happen the other way around, too, by the way!
I agree with you, these standard comments (as you put it) do not fit in here, because the situation is a lot 'trickier' than in most Buzzfeed vids that deal with similiar topics.
I watched the vid a few times, but yet I am not quite sure about one thing (english is not my native language so maybe I just didnt understand the relevant part very well): Has the guy been drunk too, or was it just the girl who drank too much?
I thought that maybe you know the answer, because you seem to have watched it very carefully and actually thought about the scenario:3
+Tracey O'Hearn hey, cool that someone seems to share my opinion:)
They both were partying out so yes, they both were drunk!
Thank you for clearing that one up^^
In that case I have to say that i fully agree with you. A lot of people seem to forget that the alcohol influenced him too, and that he (technically) couldnt fully consent neither. And as you said, the signs maybe werent that clear because of the drunkenness.
I'm actually glad that I found your comment, cause I was really stunned by all these ones siding with just one party while (almost) ignoring the other side's 'facts'
I'm trying to say the exact same thing above, but I'm being attacked.
She said she had told him she thought she was too drunk that night. He didn't seem to have heard her since he asked his friends if she was too drunk. It also sounded like they were at a place drinking before, so I would assume he had a few drinks as well (his friend mentions the main guy buying drinks for him) . I don't have concrete evidence though :/ This guy seems to be a pretty decent guy overall by the way he acts and what he says with friends, and he also has no clue what he did. This is another reason why I think he was drunk.
The amount of victim blaming in these comments is really scary.
good thing there wasn't a victim in this video
cassie i agree... now im not surprised trump is doing so well
Her fault. You don't just randomly end up in these kinds of situations.
We need to take the vote off women
Cassie Wood the amount of victimization is greater.
Both were drunk = men's fault
She said no = man's fault
a_ghoul he was drunk so he couldn’t understand
She said no it doesn't matter if both are drunk no means no
@@rowen777 Whatever!
@@milkovich9633 so it doesn't matter if a man or woman says no? I don't think so and you are sick if you do.
I love that buzzfeed highlights these kinds of issues, so important
i feel bad for both ends.
ladies always bring a friend just to be safe. and know your limits and learn from the mistakes.
guys, when she says no then just stop. and limit yourself don't drink if you can't handle your hormones
Yh, honestly ppl can just be ridiculous
i know all situations are different guys. no need to argue.
Jizzell Reyna Oh but if I tell a chick, "Don't drink if you don't want to get raped" then that's bad. I don't condone what the male did but she did consent with no force put on her.
You cannot give consent if you are drunk
But if they are both drunk, then neither can give consent. Or is that not how equality works?
Can we please make a video about a man being raped or assaulted, they need awareness too and I'm sure most men don't sit down and have talks like this with their friends. Is there an actual way buzzfeed could think about helping guys out for once ?
Troye is my mom That would be preferable
Troye is my mom I think that's a good idea.
Tulip Dew Raped by a woman
They should but they are really focusing on women.
They are feminists, why should they?
"Morgan, you should tell somebody." She just told you.
You're not getting it, she meant tell someone of authority
Comments are running out of ideas
Your life is running out of ideas
Sam Lung butt hurt much?
wrong
Just like buttfeed.
BTFO
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Can only make comments about the content. If the content is the same over and over then the comments will be the same over and over. Pretty simple concept.
The guy at the beginning actually seemed nice
Tup
Gamingwith MIL the girls was liying ... They are all crazy
Yeah I know
Sometimes they do.
Raul Carcamo They think that being nice means getting want they want.
When you triggered on the inside but don't want to melt the world with yo fire words
lmao
RELATABLE
I feel like so many girls and guys who watch this video are gonna realize that experiences they've had were actually assault
Exactly where the romance go.
MerryRose Howley your experience with the mop
I have.
Facey No means no. Not try to keep going.
MerryRose Howley depends if you play victim
how do i block every bussfeed video ever to not ever be suggested for me
Vova3iLvova
probably stop commenting
Get youtube plus if you're on pc, they have a blacklist feature, it's great
Are you subscribed to them? If not, click « remove this from my recommendations », for they're popular.
I love these videos so much! They do such a good job portraying real things
Emily Angelique They really don't though.
Emily Angelique LMAO they dont.
VarmPizzaChallenge xd How? The guy and the girl were looking over the situation. He and Herself were confused with the situation. It was normal.
Emily Angelique they don't...
Kawaii Girl Amelia proof?
1. The amount of victim blaming in these comments is scary.
2. The guy is obviously not a horrible guy, but he should have stopped at any sign of no.
3. I love that Buzzfeed is making videos like this!! Especially this one, as it is not so black and white of a plot, However, I would love to see some with a man as the victim, because that is equally valid and important.
THIS.
!!!
Thank you, there was no mention of how drunk he was at any point.
she said no, including mentioning that they shouldn't do it as she is probably too drunk
the guy the following day when they ran into each other when they were walking, he said i texted you and then told her to text him and put his hand on her shoulder which clearly made her feel uncomfortable! when he did that action of putting his hand on her shoulder and asked her to text him was a way of being dominant and sounded aggressive, you could also see the look on his face demonstrating this
i agree that they should also show it from a guys perspective and what they go through
I say they are both at fault here. It shouldnt even happaned. The guy looked confused and didnt really know. And I think he cared for her, and then the girl was also very confused and didnt know what to think. It's not just one person's it's both in this circumstance
wolfie Hamato One can be drunk enough to limit one’s physical defenses without blacking out. More importantly, the brain processes traumatic memories very differently, and more vividly, even when quite intoxicated. Post traumatic shock also responds to the brain trying to process said violence by at first trying to deny and justify it rather than cope, which I think they replicated perfectly
I'm feel kinda cheered up now because last time when a girl came with me after party and she said no I respected her decision and we just fall asleep together 😊
Good for you! :)
VentusMaster you're really a good pet
VentusMaster person* omg lol I just died 😂
Always respect a girls answer
If she says no do not even stay in the same place. Be proactive and protect yourself. Do not even allow for an impression, you just do not know with some girls what they will do.
1. The guy actually seems serious about the "relationship" like he wants to pursue something with her
2. The girl was too drunk to remember
3. The short Asian guy character is so annoying
agree...
Lol so what if he's Asian? You can just say "that small guy is really annoying" LOL I SMELL RACISM
Krhyss Jenner can't tell if that's sarcasm or not
@krhyss, nguyen is asian name.
Heather Von Amerika i can also feel bad after making a mistake
I loveeee it when BuzzFeed does these videos
ITS LIKE A MOVIE
I HATE them I wish they did a male perspective instead of always having the bad guy as some white dude
Kylie dillman well, most of the time that's what happens...
well, they should show both sides so...
#I'mlovin'it
this isn’t sexist at all, this is literally how some men act.
Explain more
I think they are saying some people are like “well women do this to men to” and that’s true they are just saying it happens to women a lot more often and it just happens in general
No means no. And too drunk is too drunk.
and if they are both drunk, then they raped each other
Except she said no, so he raped her.
But he was also drunk, so he couldn't give consent by default.
Therefore they raped each other.
Therefore equal blame.
No doesn't mean no, as no is ambiguous when it comes to sexual relations. It can be playing coy. Being "too drunk" is also not clear, as men are raped on the daily if that's the case.
Space-churro Weak ad-hominem, but I'm glad you tried darling. If the only thing you can touch upon is my profile picture on youtube, whomever is right or not speaks for itself.
Playing coy and innocently saying "..noooo..." is a thing, you know.
I never knew buzzfeed was run by victim blaming feminists
Oh, it is, and it's annoying.
Aw, didn't know you were being forced against your will to watch the video. Bro, if you don't like their content, leave.
alex bomnd then why did u comment?
Comments are a thing for a reason. Anyone's aloud to comment.
Say it ain't so....
Leave it to BuzzFeed to make the guy look like the bad guy again.
He was the bad guy tho?
That's basically the same as the AllLivesMatter movement - they can't include EVERYTHING in one video.. This one was about a woman being the victim - maybe there will be another where the roles are reversed; but you can't expect them to do everything at once.
Furthermore, if the guy was the victim in this video, people would still complain about how anti-feminist they are.
+Anđela Cipar Overall men get raped more than women? Yet in all buzz feeds videos they portray only their heavily biased feminist ideology's disregarding how males feel.
Men dont get raped more than women lol what are you talking about
Carley buxton he's talking about the millions of men being raped in prisons. statistically men are raped more than women. become educated please.
Bad script 🤷♀️ just my opinion its really bias and sexist
It's buzzfeed, of course it's sexist.
Truth.
Why is the guy worried then?
..
Bias and sexist how? Whether it's a Male or a female, the point is that the girl said no, and it happened anyways. Doesnt matter who or what the victim is, at the end of the day, no means no
these types of buzzfeed videos are so good i actually love them
For so many people missing the point here- If she was drinking and he was drinking, obviously that can be an issue. However, if she said no and said she didn't want to and he 'pressed on' then it was not consensual. Many women are afraid to stop men in these situations if they are uncomfortable. That does not make it any less non consensual.
But a woman should be able to stand by what she says and act. Women should take some responsibility too.
Hate how evil this makes men look. Smh buzzfeed what a one-sided story.
I think its more like "there is always 2 sides of a story" One side might not be as good as the other. "Difference of views" kinda deal.
"Lets get out of this place" - *leavs the table without paying*
i thought that too but remember when she walked in her friend was like "i got you a coffee" so maybe she paid in advance or paid off-camera?
frrrr
If you can't be held responsible for the decisions you make while drunk, then why do they throw the book so hard at drunk drivers?
thank you
Nate Wynnberg because when anyone is drunk they don’t usually get in a vehicle and when they do it’s because they know they are drunk but they don’t care and drive drunk anyways.
Hannah Schaffer
Okay, so you agree that being drunk doesn't absolve anybody of any personal responsibility for any actions they end up taking. Up to and including sexual encounters.
Nate Wynnberg it is usually men who initiate sexual encounters though.
Nate Wynnberg I think if someone does not initiate the sexual encounter and they are drunk that they shouldn’t be held responsible. If the woman does not initiate it then it isn’t her fault the guy is a pushy jerk. SAME THING IF THE GUY DID NOT INITIATE.
Sooo this video just made me realize I've been casually raped..
DCIPhan sooo this video is stupid c: and not to mention made by cancerous maggots
I'm so sorry that happened. It wasn't your fault.
if youre really drunk and you say youre not interested and the guy has sex with you anyway then yes that is rape
That's horrible
DCIPhan Sorry it happened to you, you should look into getting some help, you don't want this to stick with you for your whole life
She even remember what happened and she is the victim?
Samantha Pattinson after a traumatic experience, victims will often have gaps in their memory right afterwards
ofcourse you will remember, it's always gonna be a part of you wither either it like out our not
Yes. I totally agree that if the man was drunk to it could be seen as a double rate. I'm just saying to all the people who are saying that it's just a drunken mistake. Its not just a drunken mistake the word no means no. Hesitation means no. Silence means no. Unless it's the word "yes" being said it's no. I can't believe that some people can't even grasp the idea
well if she really didnt want to then why only say "no"? why not leave? if she stayed in bed with this guy its her own fault
It´s not the victims fault, it´s never the victims fault. No means no.
I could be wrong but this sounds more like a case of feeling gross about a hookup afterwards because you were too drunk. Guys get this all the time as well. It ultimately comes down to choice. I can understand women may feel shame for stopping a sexual encounter but they are in every right to do so. If you make the choice to continue you ultimately know you will regret it in the morning.
She said "no" though
Thomas Cogger she said no then she asked him to get a condom and she did it anyway...
Well thought.
Pen Pineapple Apple Pen
Haylie Cooler stop
Just don't😂😂
Fatimah Mirza That's what Buzzfeed needs to do.
PPAP
I HAVE A PEN
Why didn't she just tell him the truth afterward? Why pretend that you still want to talk to him? Buzzfeed should tell people what to do afterward, not just make us feel bad for her :/
I don't feel bad for her. Don't get drunk or anything can happen, you can't control other people.
and that is the attitude of those who people called fuckbois
No, that is the attitude of a legal adult who understands that legal adults are to be held accountable for their actions, including while intoxicated.
How stupid do you have to be to not get it? How hard is it to understand how horrible she must feel and the way she's acted?
Miranda Peralta exactly!!!! Or just to be honest all the time and do the right thing at the obvious times.. like right when he walked passed her and her friend, she should of just told him don't talk to me again..
If you are so drunk that you can't consent, how are you still able to clearly convey to the person that you are in fact to drunk to consent?
baseballlover312 she did try and consent, she was drunk and told him she was too drunk and said no..
but he was too drunk to understand and in fact she raped him because the guy was so drunk he couldn't even say no.
youteub akount He didn't say no. He said yes. And he said it for her too. Don't be a smartass. This is a real issue and making jokes like that is an awful thing to do.
Edwin Vel he didn't say no because he couldn't, he was too drunk.
Edwin Vel it's not an issue for me. If you get drunk, you deserve everything that happens to you that could have been prevented if you weren't.
Not putting on a condom when someone asks too its not consensual, it isnt at all because both parts have to be in agreement and comfortable
Army hi
"no means no" -brandon rogers😂
"Jeez the park is filled with you rapers" -Brandon Rogers
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HELP!! I'm under attack by a lesbian!!!
No does Not always mean No. Many Times Women are Conflicted in there desires in moments of passion.
Nooooooo menz nooooo
How does she expect to resolve things if she doesn't talk to him? There was clearly a misunderstanding between the two. A continuation, maybe?
The girl raped him too, at the same time! The guy was drunk, therefore he couldn't consent. (Ask any feminist, they actually believe that crap lol)
John Leeroy she didn't pursue him, he pursued her
John Leeroy She said no, he didn't. That's the difference you absolute moron.
drinking on campus was her fault.. why'd she visit his appt? to watch teletubbies?? What he did was not cool.. but she is to be blamed too.. no-one shoved the drinks down her throat ..
Paige Black he was drunk too therefore he couldn't consent, doesn't matter what he or she says because neither of them were in the right state of mind to give proper consent, you're the moron
What if she was so drunk she imagined him being pushy but he was really trying to take care of her?
Lucyfrmearth exactly what I was thinking.
In my humble opinion, if she is drunk enough to "imagine" things, she is too drunk to give consent.
girl if someone's so drunk to imagine something they certainly aren't sober enough to give consent
Yeah she probably wasn't sober enough to give consent, well actually she gave unconsent, but neither was he to take consent... isn't that the very reason why we drink for ? to make things happen that normally wouldn't ? :/
Blopa Blop yes but she said no
Her friend was also really messing with her mind.
all the guys in the comments: "buzzfeed is running out of ideas" or "this video is so stupid" or "no means yes"
girls: "it's happened to me" or "no means no" or "what a cruel world we live in"
it's said seeing the *majority* of the guys going along with rape and not caring about it or how women feel. the women are doing all the work, come on. think guys: you're a girl, you get raped, get pregnant, the guy leaves you. is that gonna make you feel good? no.
what has this world come to? i mean seriously. nobody takes it serious at all. they assume it's a joke. please, GROW UP.
oh and also if you r
Um, I don't see anyone saying "No means yes."
Sweet Gaming lol then scroll down further
'you' being Sophia, not you Sweet Gaming. I should have clarified. My bad.
Giraffelord2000 if you payed attention to the video, she said while she was having she said no but he continued and then she became too scared to say it again.
This video makes me want to never take off my pants without an agreement in writing, signed by witnesses and notarized
this is why we need to educate men AND women...
yea ladies
dont get drunk unless you're at home with trusted friends
Am I the only one that thought the guy behind her was going to do smt?..😂😅
Anybody feel bad for the guy
yeah. i feel bad for both of them they we're both so conflicted and unsure about the situation.
There was no proof he did anything lmao
i wish they just talked to each other after, y'know? girl could bring up to the guy how she felt violated or something...guy seems decent enough to admit whatever he did, because he felt conflicted about the whole thing. at least there'd be some sort of closure...
i did he has no idea whats going on
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Semi Animatic Jack triggered
Semi Animatic Jack TRIGGERED !!!!!!!!!!!!
feminism just means we're all equal. your statement makes no sense.
Iamapotatochip
That's a lie. They use it to pull you in without knowing that there's and Anti Men agenda!
Semi Animatic Jack Why would equality among the genders be a bad thing, almost an insult? Isn't it normal that men should be treated like women and vice versa? I mean you sound like this is a nad thing. If the constantly work for the equality of everyone it surely means that there is some work to do. They are definitely not agressing you or anything. They are just trying to entertrain you while repairing our society's mistakes. And that does not sound negative to me
this video reminds me of how much I need to unsub from buzzfeed channels
um.. why?
Lena is Lame
dw crazy ginge i get you
***** nope, just wasted my time
Jami Christine what am I saying that makes me "know something"
2:56 the guy sitting in the back: the tea is exceptionally good today
All of the victim shaming in the comments is disgusting
Emma Lee I've seen one victim shaming comment, I'm assuming that's the comment you're talking about
Men are victims that's what we get. That's life. Shame but true.
Emma Lee ok white knight, but man really men are victims to more men rapes happen then woman rapes
All none of it?
@IMMO Lab false accusations are the biggest issue here
so a drunk woman cant give like concent but a drunk guy can ?
Girls are "powerful and independent" only when it suits them.
Marrow Doner I tend to disagree with this. It's like - when someone says "maybe I'm too drunk", that's a no.
Consider a situation - you're having a friend over and you offer them tea. They wiggle in their chair, avoid eye contact and say "Um... I'm not sure... ok well- maybe?" Or "maybe I'm too drunk,".
Do you give them tea? I wouldn't. And I would 100% wouldn't shove it down their throat.
Me Myself of course you wouldn’t that’s a decent thing. Now imagine if you’re just as drunk as that person, because that’s the scenario the video portrays. The female in the video was indecisive, and she was drunk to the point that she wouldn’t even leave the room if since it can be assumed that she didn’t want it. But the thing is, if the guy is just as drunk, how is her drunkenness an excuse for not handling the situation properly
Men get sexually assaulted as well. Obviously if a woman is too drunk to consent that means a man is too.
In the context of this video, she said no, but your point is not necessarily invalid
and this is why i will never talk to a drunk girl that seems "flirty." or take anything a drunk girl says seriously.
Unrealistic diversity in the basketball game 😂
Fax
Lmaoooo😂😂😂
The comments on this video scare me so much...
Women having the right to vote scares me so much
+derp derpaderp you being real is scary
Al Capwn NOT really there's knifes in there😅
same.
Shut your computer and start cooking. The fear will fade.
Can somebody erase Buzzfeed from the face of the earth please?
why
KH-mixerX if you don't like their videos, don't watch them, idiot
I would go ask China to take BuzzFeed out of the problem. And the reason I would make China do it is because they are draining our economy and taking our jobs. So, they better be doing this for us in return.
Elise Arps I don't lol.
Wheres Hillary when you need her
It's almost as if when your both drunk, the guy doesn't have any more control over the situation than the girl does...
blakshema EXACTLY
InternetFad Using your logic, you can't say that the "victim" in the video is completely innocent.
But he didn't say no she did so whose at fault
blakshema but he decided to drink.
line marie so did she
if this video was close to being true, then i was raped like 40+ times lmao.
Weird flex but ok
And you were. I'm so sorry.
There's nothing funny about it dude
Yes you were.
So why comment and laugh about it on a random UA-cam video?
When people get wasted, I feel like it's hard or impossible to place blame. I feel like in this situation, Buzzfeed should possibly advocate for people to just be honest about their feelings instead of lying or being only partially honest. They got drunks, they hooked up, she regretted it. If she told him how she felt, it could have probably been resolved that morning and they could have felt less awkward. I think communication is a big factor in so many things.
I think it's a little more complicated than a drunken hook up she regretted. She said no, she told him she was too drunk and he kept pushing.
SvenGames no she WAS drunk BUT she said No! That doesn't mean give it to me!
Alpha_WolfEclispe 1234 agreed, I even think if they’re drunk they’re not fully capable of consent on some level. I’d just rather not.
SvenGames she said no
SvenGames 200th like!!!!
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IF BUZZFEED SHOULD START PRODUCING MORE VIDEOS LIKE THIS!
BRhode512 That's a horrible idea.
no
BRhode512 yas
Kenneth Hale Maybe you could try not watching their videos if you dislike them.
nope
This video doesn't have trigger warnings #triggered
shut up
Maddy Lorray triggered
Andy Armstrong triggered
Please don't make triggered jokes. I have a lot of friends who have ACTUAL triggers, and they can lead them to be suicidal. Please.
Darby Mason im triggered
this is legit the exact thing that happened to me , like i can’t explain how accurate this is
Me too. It's been 2 years and the comments aren't helping me get over it.
He's not evil. That's the point. The video isn't supposed to portray him as a villain, its supposed to show how a thoughtless act can lead to negative consequences. He represents every normal person who could have been in his position and shows how anyone in that situation could have acted differently and changed the outcome.
Facts. Most of these situations surrounding consent & sexual assault occur with relatively normal guys who weren’t educated enough to understand with detail what consent entails. But myths created by society have made a lot of guys THINK that what they are doing doesn’t constitute sexual assault
Soo because two people were drunk, that must mean the guy is the one in three wrong again..okay lol
Stephanie yep buzzfeed logic
No, the guy was in the wrong because the lady clearly said no and he ignored her.
I totally agree with you
Where did it say he was drunk too?
Kimberly Lenert
just saying and not judging but a no means a no (from either side)
She could close her legs and keep her clothes on and do not go bed with strangers in their homes I think lol
Social Apple you crazy ?
Social Apple you do know that some people try to keep their legs closed but end up getting raped anyway ?
Kylie Burns she when in his home when she was drunk. Also he was drunk so communicating was probably hard. Also she was going along with it. She took off her clothes and opened her legs. She wasn't forced to. She decided because he didn't listen the first time that she would nt try to stop him
She complied after, think
I honestly feel much worse for the dude
idk i feel like i kinda went through the same thing.. ugh
You'll get through this girl. Stay strong!
to prevent this type of things when being drunk is to stay with someone you know will not leave you alone and will be taking care of you
Melissa mm me too. It's been many years for me. It becomes okay. Hugs to you. 💕
Melissa mm That sucks.. Just remmember to take this videos message. "Dont give in to something you dont like"
Melissa mm You consented.
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So why are they making this video like he was the bad one! They both were!
Um, how was the girl bad?..
how was the guy bad? ...
how?
Actually, no. This wasn't her fault at all. If she was telling him no, or even if she was telling him yes but she was drunk, he should not have gone ahead with it. This was his fault. Consent is a "yes" given without force or excessive alcohol; she did not give consent.
She clearly hadn't drunk enough to forget anything about the night, so is it one drop of alcohol that keeps women from consenting? Or is it a legally drunk limit, which it sounds like she was under.
Guy: I just texted you
Her: yeah my phone died so I didn’t get it
Phone: *rings*
these comments are fuxking awful to read, makes me sick seeing people so antipathetic and blaming the victim
no means no
Kiana M but what of there both drunk?
Irish Lad It's still the guys fault because women are irresponsible.
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That makes 0 sense. We are responsible because the woman is not?
Kiana M we aren't blaming the victim, we defend the stupid things like this.
Yes what he did was wrong, he should have stopped when she said no. She also made a wrong choice of continuing to be with the guy throughout the night knowing he was being pushy. People make mistakes it happens. They should have talked it out. The guy also felt uncomfortable wondering if he did anything wrong. She should have just told him she felt forced. I'm not shaming her, I'm just stating the mistakes they both did.
Genesis Gonzalez i don't remember her saying that she realized he was pushy before he had raped her
I get what you're saying and agree, but she was also incredibly drunk. When you're drunk, your inhibitions and judgement are impaired. Nothing that happened can be considered her fault. The fact that she said no should've been enough of a red flag.
All I'm saying is she should have just moved on when she noticed he wasnt respecting her enough to stop forcing her to drink. It's really not that hard especially if he's a random guy. I am not saying what he did was right he should at least acknowledge what he did was wrong. But he doesn't know what he did wrong. That's the problem.
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Genesis Gonzalez we weren't there so maybe nothing happened?
This looks like a mini mini short film and I'm excited
WHY DO I FEEL LIKE THE OWNER AND SCRIPTER OF THIS CHANNEL IS A WOMAN. NO EMOJI NEEDED.
It probably is a woman, a man hater
ObamaisnextLincoln feminazi hahaha if that were actually real
Yeah it's a woman
both of them were wrong!
No, he was wrong. She did absolutely nothing wrong. Victim blaming just makes the problem worse.
electra pika actually no one's wrong in this kinda situation
I literally wanna kill myself after watching this
only he was wrong in this scenario she said no and no means NO
well she did nothing wrong, but she shouldve been more assertive I guess (?)
"Nobody forced those tequila shots down her throat" is the key point of this video. She was drunk, her fault.
but she still said no, that is the key point of the video
I understand that completely but she did say no when she was drunk and he should've stopped and didn't take advantage but he continued...
No, she was drunk, so it's HIS fault. A drunk person cannot consciously consent. Besides, she said no, and he continued. He even refused to use a condom.
She didn't even really say no. She danced around no. And ultimately said at least use a condom.
DrewTheAwsom she said no. how can you not get that through your head. no matter whether or not she was drunk is not relevant. no always means no.
But they were both drunk though
DnoNixiux utt
Thats only a excuse woman can use sir
that is not the point. The point is she said no and he kept going.
DnoNixiux but she said NO! That should be all the proof you need!
But she said no.. and don't even put in a condom!
I have two daughters and two sons. I have told all of them the same thing. NO means NO. The guy should have respected her the first time she said NO and said ok. I don’t care how nice you are or how nice you seam. When anyone says NO it stops right then.
I'm a woman who has been in a similar situation, we were both drunk (him more than I) and he started getting all touchy and I told him no I didn't want to do it. He kept going saying it's okay and he just wants to have fun and I then preceeded to get up, call an uber, and walk away. Right before I got in the Uber he got aggressive and I started attacking him with everything I could. When you say no the person should stop no matter what, but not doing more to prevent what is happening makes it seem like you want it and are playing hard to get. If you say no mean it otherwise you WILL get raped and you WILL have no case against him if you decide to charge him.
Little billy ,get off of the internet.
What do you mean by this? This is solid advice.
...But you just said he was drunk...How would he know if he's getting aggressive. Honestly I hate when girls play the victim card,It's okay to hit him and run away.But,Don't say he really wanted to attack you just to when he had no attention to. (I'm a girl and I think it's sad when girls play victims) BOTH DRUNK BOTH AT FAULT
Jamila Jenkins yeah I've heard someone tell a story of how they were drunk before and they couldn't even remember some parts at all it depends on what and how much you drink basically I know I have zero experience but that was both of their faults he was being rude and disrespectful to her but she didn't do anything about you could tell in the video he was confused on why she was acting weird but she didn't do anything about it so it was both of their faults
John Something Yea but they were obviously drunk.Its not fair so I guess men can hold down their alcohol so they can control their self.Some can. It some CANT.Also why was she at his house messing around anyways.
he was drunk too... so if it's not her fault it's not his fault...
but she said no and he carried on? It wasn't about them being drunk, it was about him ignoring the fact that she said no.
ruthanddaniel they were both drunk! Its not like they both were aware of their actions! You get too high late at night, you wake up the next morning and you cant remember all thats happened BECAUSE YOU WERE DRUNK so w.e. Happened to her she deserved it. If she didnt want any of this she wouldve went back to her house instead of his
i agree but not to the point to use the words she deserved it but she must have know what that implied going to his place the whole lot
ruthanddaniel Women just have to be more responsible, and stop blaming men for their actions.
Sweet Gaming stop blaming men for raping them? Um no.. They have a right to be blamed. Even in my drunkest state I know what the word "no" means. If someone tells you to stop, you stop.
it seems like the guy doesn't even know he did something wrong. which is sad
Carlie Ross He didn't..
As he sees it
Tbh I think it's true with a lot of males. There distinction between right and wrong has been blurred for years. Because "boys will be boys"
Here's another man hating feminist...
Not once did you say that 'both sexes need to be educated', you generalised males from a hypothetical video.
Well...he didn't do anything wrong. The girl just regrets her decision.
Personal responsibility and assertiveness to keep what you want is on everyone.
If you don't like something speak up and or get up and leave.
Even judge Judy said this.
Yup she could just do that
for all the comments about buzz feed making ONLY men abusive and attackers, may I remind you they have a lesbian couple where the girlfriend was the abuser.
However, there are so few that it doesn't even matter.
Token
Kennedy Hogan yet the woman is still the victim
Kennedy Hogan "lesbian couple where the girlfriend was the abuser" really? I thought it would be the boyfriend in the lesbian relationship
even then they couldn't bring themselves to show a man as a victim
Amazing message. More people need to be aware of these type of topics.
She claimed that she said no. And like you all say....she was very drunk. Should I assume that she remembers exactly what happened?
Kostas Chios One can be drunk enough to limit one’s physical defenses without blacking out. More importantly, the brain processes traumatic memories very differently, and more vividly, even when quite intoxicated
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It angers me how all of my friends have literally gone through this , and the fact that the other person has no clue that something went wrong shows the lack of awareness and education . I think the more we talk about it , the more educated people get and less situations like this , from both parties . This pisses me off so much
I'm sure your the type of person if a co-worker asks you to borrow a pen you immediately take them to HR for harassment.