Mandel Canario One thing I’ve learned is never say never. I thought we were done after so much time had passed. If it’s meant to be something will happen. Just do NOT contact or give any form of attention.
Daniellia Simpson Oh, believe me - it took willpower but I was determined to NOT give in because I was ALWAYS the one giving in and I was done. You simply cannot give in to the urge. Get busy and your mind on other things as much as possible. Not always easy but it can be done.
My ex contacted me after 5.5 months of complete no contact. Stay strong everyone 💖 we did not get back together as I now realise he will never treat me the way I want to be treated, but he did send a massive apology. That’s my ‘success story’
I can’t wait to smile again. This pain is so overwhelming. It’s been 2 weeks and I’m so lost without her. Praying for a miracle to heal my broke heart.
Sweetheart, I feel this. It's been 2 weeks since he broke up with me and we were together for 7 years. We have so much history that... But we were also 18 when we got together. Kids. We spent almost every single waking day together and moved in when we were 20. I don't think we both had the time to really figure out who we are as individuals and he feels like he really needs to take this time to figure out who we is. He feels lost. He is so ridiculously depressed. Communication was always a problem. My heart honestly breaks more and more everyday, but I genuinely want the best for him and I want him to get the help that he needs. Because I love him with all my heart... But he needs a lot of help. One day at a time is all we can do. Hell, even 1 minute at a time is sometimes all we can do. Sending you love ❤️🩹
I was dumped after 17 years. She had a serious mental breakdown with depression and all it comes with. 5 years have passed and she dated multiple guys and thought she found a " new dad" for our 2 boys. Turned out she was just a side treat. A few months ago, she reached out on messenger for a videocall, about our oldest boy and his change going to junior college and getting a girlfriend . That seems to get my ex mad, as she expecting a teen in love to come home daily for supper. We talked and I told her is was exactly the same at his age, and I support his action as in growing as a person. She blocked me after this, weird ? I told her we made kids and cared and provided for them, now they are semi adults and need to network etc. What a teen boy does! Was I wrong and why the drama from her? PS. I left the country a year before this hapoened.
Believe it or not, your videos are keeping me out of committing suicide right now I cannot sleep at nights and always have nightmares around 4 o ‘clock in the morning… Its my inly hope to get her back and you videos are the lullaby for me Thanks alot♥️
Time is your friend, trust me. You're gonna be stronger than ever with time. I felt like you a year ago. Now I actually miss that time because I had unlimited energy. Got in the best shape in my life and learned so many new skills. Used my breakup as motivation. You have to "create" the regret in ur ex by becoming the best version of urself.
It worked! I broke all the rules at first. Texting, calling, posting on social media hoping they’d see. Then I followed your advice. 4 months later he wants to try, misses me. But now I don’t feel the same! Is this your goal, Coach Lee!!?? To have us see the hurt is only temporary and we find ourselves happy without the other! It’s wonderful! Thank you.
@@annerivas1155 He is driving 4 hours to see me for New Years. I’m out of town with my daughter. So I guess it’s going okay. I do not feel the same after my heartbreak. But that’s a good thing. He’s no longer the priority in my life and he knows it.
I don’t think that’s the goal, I think that would be manipulative if that is the goal, to secretly get people to move on and advertise it as getting their ex back. a lot of people get back together and it is special when people can work through things. i never liked the idea that some coaches see it as a double message or trick to market it as saving a relationship but really trying to get people to move on. if feeling better about yourself is a result, that is a benefit, but i would hope that isn’t the main goal.
I heard from my ex after exactly 60 days of NC. Like you, I was sure my ex would be the exception and I would never hear from her. I was also convinced NC wasn’t working. We are slowly starting to date again and things are looking positive. I wanted to come here and write this for those who are barely holding onto NC and need to hear some words of encouragement. When we first met up after NC, she said so many things that Coach Lee talks about: “I was sure you were going to contact me so I wasn’t worried, then after about a month and a half I lost that feeling”, “I dated other people but that was just to fill a void left by you and none of them compared to you”, “the way you handled the break up was so mature and I wasn’t expecting that”. Keep the faith in NC and trust coach Lee. Also, work on yourself don’t just watch these videos - when I met up with her the deciding factor to her wanting to patch things up was noticing the work I had done. She met up with me for “closure” and then saw what she was losing. Stay positive, take it one day at a time - if I can do it, so can you!
Ok, so I was skeptical about this but omg it works!!! With my experience I was "dumped" and it hurts bad!!! I kept bothering him. Finally, I watched Couch Lee's video(s) and it WORKS!!! Although I wanted to call him and/or see him. I was like the walking dead. No food...no sleep. DEATH. When I listened to these videos I made a change. I made the choice to get up, take a shower and look decent. I did no contact and BOOM!!!! 2 months were together!!!! It works. Thank you Couch Lee....you rock!!!!!
Hi Lyn, Im on my 1st day of NC. Thankful to Coach Lee's video. He helped me a lot go through the night. Now i am able to control myself from chasing him and thinking about him. I do hope he will be back. Im happy for you.
@@marylng9346 I was there girl!!!! Let me tell you it feels like your heart is going to stop. You feel horrible. I've been there, that's why I'm here. Please listen!!! Give it time. It does work. I didn't believe it but Couch Lee is right. I wish you luck sweetie. Please let me know how your doing. How it works out.
@@RealCoachLee Couch Lee I know you're very Busy but I hope you see this because I want to thank you. You see after I was "dumped" I couldn't handle it. I went in the fetal position in my bed. Day and night for 5 days getting up ONLY to use the restroom. No food. No movement. My roommates were worried. I finally got my phone and turned it on to look for some magical message. The one message where he begs me to come back cause he made a mistake. Nope. Nothing. I was the Walking Dead. I mean like a Zombie. Well, I started to look at UA-cam videos. I stumbled across yours and i honestly listened to you every night. You put me to sleep. You gave me some hope and courage and comfort. I just didn't want to do "No Contact " fearing he would move on. He would forget about me. Everything you said I would "think and feel" You had been there. You understand. Sorry this is long but a "Thank You" just doesn't seem like enough. Couch Lee Bless You.
@@lynstyles812 Hi Lyn, is there anyway I can chat you with? I think you're one good person who i can talk to be able to get some hope up. It's been 3 wks since he broke up with me. During those three wks i was begging and crying. Sep 1 when i finally learned to really do NC and control myself from messaging him. However on the 4th, I broke it by sending him job postings thinking that those links will be able to help him find a job. He replied saying thanks but i didnt say anything. I am back again to not messaging nor contacting him. 😔 im not sure if he is ever coming back.
2 months no contact. IT WORKS. Trust it and listen to Coach Lee. I thought my situation was hopeless when my ex told me our relationship “felt wrong to his heart.” But I listened to Coach Lee every single day and focused on myself and our daughter, got my diploma, and total self care and personal work in therapy. You have to give it time and focus on personal growth. This is sooooo important because then when they come back, they are so surprised at how good your doing. It’s attractive to see someone not being in misery over a breakup and it will make your relationship so much stronger. No contact is seriously the only way to go, it’s acceptance of the situation, which is what you need to be mentally and emotionally healthy. You’re respecting this person who you love, which is so important too.
I’ve been really strong and remained in no contact for 3 months, sooo difficult but I kept listening to this video to keep me on track. Pleased to say it works and he messaged me tonight. Keep strong everyone and don’t give up, or in!!!
It took a whole year of no contact, and he went crazy wanted me back. At this point I do NOT want him back, I had to tell him, no thank you I moved on. This situation is a win win guys, either they come back OR you just don’t want them anymore! Pls do this for yourself you are worthy of it all
You were right for sure. My ex literally came back after 7 weeks or 49 days of no contact. She said she loves me and can't imagine the future without me
@@sergiosergio6388 not at all. I did call her on the fourth of July and I did plead my case for her. And then a few days later she called me back and said that she wanted to be with me
Went no contact for 3 months and now she is begging for my attention and wanting things to go back the way it was, but during NC I reflected on the break up and the way she left over a text message of our 3 years Relationship and realised how much she didnt respect me and our relationship. I hit the gym and only focused on my self and build my self love again and posted occasional story and posts of my transition/transformation, which she was viewing. During NC I felt I was just an option for her to walk out the way she did and felt used. I was disgusted at myself but kept pushing. And now after 3 months of NC here she is begging for my attention. Guys NC works and focus on yourself during those time and upgrade and you will see your perspective changes and you heal and once they reach out to you the power is in your hand once again...now it's only upto you how you use that upper hand. I want to take this moment to thank Caoch Lee, sir you rock and you have been truly a great help and I admire and respect you for helping thousands of broken hearts out there to get through one of those tough moments in life. Thank you.
Envious of you man. My ex reached out two months into NC. We started conversation and she was giving me long replies and emojis. I set a date with her for her to come over with a bottle of wine and we'd make dinner together. Night before the date, she cancels saying its not a good idea as she is "with someone". I know at best its a rebound but im still confused why she'd reach out and agree to a date only to cancel. I said no worries and let me know if you change your mind. Im back in NC for two weeks but feeling hopeless.
@@tybennion1 she probably was testing you to see how you still feel about her... Next time don't give in so easily. You cannot let her walk all over you like that...if she contacts you again take your time to respond. Good luck man. No contact does work and it also makes it easier to get over that person.
@@rabraham6725 Thanks, I appreciate it. 6 weeks since that contact. Im not sure how I "gave in" since all I did was set a date. I already was waiting a couple hours between each text. Whats interesting is I ended the conversation in anticipation of the date to build anxiety levels leading up. Prior to me ending it she wants to bubbly and, like I said, responding in length. Idk man. I still think about her everyday and am watching these videos in my free time. Still working on myself - gym everyday, reading, barely any Tv, meditating, and seeing a therapist. Just cant seem to let go despite feeling better. 4 1/2 months since breakup to date.
@@tybennion1 it gets easier bro trust me, time is your best friend and healer right now. Make sure your progression and upgrade is posted on social media from time to time. Nothing more attractive to a woman seeing her ex is moving on without them in life and upgrading. Keep working on yourself and eventually you will start loving yourself again and will have a higher price tag on you. Soon one day they will reach out to you and you will realise and look back and think " how the hell did i put up with her" I'm talking from my past experiences. Once you let go fully and start loving life again without them, that's when they want to come back. Life is funny bro. Like coach Lee says "you will be fine!" Again good luck.
Yes, no contact actually helped me. It completely changed my life, I had the time to put some stuff up to date that I have been procrastinating for years, and I just got today a job offer for a better job. No contact is not to get her back, it's to get yourself back, very true.
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during no contact you will realize that they will come back once you don't want them back anymore. I've been in no contact for over 2 months and I'm honestly getting over here already and focusing on my own grind.
It’s so weird...I was so sure I would never forget him last month, now I’m noticing myself becoming impartial when it comes to him..can’t quite explain it yet but I think I’m in my way to moving on..
@@Yararar yup! Embrace it...2 weeks ago I definitely would have taken him back if he came back...today no way in hell will I take him back, realised he was manipulative. Each day things become clearer.
THIS is the only guy that can convince me to go silent after a breakup. After watching many other videos on UA-cam (which are good also) coach lee is the guy I can take serious. Just wanted to say thank you for making videos!
The good thing about no contact is that I eventually completely forgot my ex and realized going to the market was the best option. No contact = power. Your power.
Time allowed me to see that I deserve better, after 20 years of gross abuse and me hoping and praying, I realized with time that I'm better off with out him. I love me and the person I am, he didn't, and now I'm free for real.
No contact does equal no power. The funny thing is that they don't know what you are doing or if you've with someone!! They can sit there and stewe and think about their behavior.
OMG!!!! Coach Lee!!! No contact works!!!!! Guys if you’re doubting NC, please don’t! NC IS POWERFUL! Today my ex contacted me after exactly one month crying telling me she misses me and he was having dreams about us and just can’t go on without me!!! Here’s the kicker, SHE LEFT ME FOR ANOTHER GUY!!! It only took one month for her to come back!!!! I’m taking it slow and while I’ve grown and I’m not 💯 sure I want her back yet I’m taking it slow! On my terms! Thank you coach Lee!!!!!
@@kagamitaiga9167thank you! Stay strong! She literally left me for another guy and told me to leave her alone. I complied and followed coach lees advise! I gave her the break up even tho she literally uploaded pictures with her ex during Xmas and new years! I NEVER reacted! It hurt sooo much and I wanted to break NC! I can admit many times I didn’t believe in NC! She literally called me today crying begging to take her back told me EVERYTHING reminded her of me! I’m sure ur ex is going thru the same! Stay strong! It’s almost guaranteed she’ll come back! In the mean time do like I did and focus on urself exercise get new hobbies! I almost annoying to read this trust me but it works!!!
I was looking in the comments from someone who had been dumped because their other partner decided to leave them for another. Thanks for giving me a bit of hope but I think that I don't want my ex back after all he's done to me but I'm happy that you're happy!
For future peope reading this. Don’t even take an ex that dump you for another person. I think mostly 99% of cases over here in comments are about fights, miss treatments, miss communication and I’m 100% coach Lee never mentioned anything related about your ex going with another person. Just leave it like that, forgive yourself and forgive them, you don’t have to suffer my dear, time is the only one that heals all pain but please never go back with someone who changed you for somebody else even if they beg 100000 thousand times.
No contact works! My girl texted me back after 21 days. Like how coach lee said, she texted like , " Hey, I was watching this song and it reminded of you. What's up?'. A few days later we got back together.
Shes moved on homie u gotta realise how she feels aswell she has no idea that ur watching an learning from this. So in her mind shes probly thought uv moved on and so has she
Trust me doors are closed for a reason! Leave your past in the past this pain will subside in time! Don't force a situation you are an attractive guy and someone is waiting for you to find them!!
Is ok, I don't know your situation, what I do know is that you must work on yourself! Learn all you can while healing and becoming the best YOU. It's hard I know. Be sure to not ruminate and stay stuck in a negative mind set of 'getting her back's. Accept that it's over. Work thru your pain and learn to let go..... fighting the process just prolongs the pain....
Agree, No contact only works if they still have feelings for you.. She came back after 4 months No contact and rebound ,we are working on our relationship right now:) Thanks Coach lee, She basically went through all stages of rebound :)
That’s encouraging! My ex jumped into a rebound but she’s reaching out to me few times asking about my sick grandma so I guess she still cares or either is trying to distance herself from the rebound idk
Trust this man in what he says. I begged and pleaded and did a lot of other unhealthy things during my break up for almost 2 months. My ex eventually changed their number and I did no contact and focused on myself while giving them space and they reached out little over a week later. Trust in no contact and trust in Coach Lee. I watched his videos every single day of no contact when I felt like I was gonna break.
So far it has worked! 5 weeks in and I’m now realizing I don’t want him back. Someone who puts you through this doesn’t love you. There is someone out there who will. Take this precious time to grieve and find yourself ❤️ you are good enough. No matter what the ex thinks. No contact is amazing. Even if they don’t come back.
I agree if someone breaks up with you and refuses to contact you then they never loved you enough. I only started NC a days ago but I already know she most likely won't be contacting me as she's the stubborn type like that.
Hello I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex husband is back after left me for another woman I was helped by someone He can also help you too....
I did a no contact after he break up on me. After 4 days he contacted me and see each other again after two weeks and now we are happily engaged 🥰. Please, be patient and if that person loves you they will comeback. Give them the time they want to realized that you are the right one for them😇.
8 months of no contact make me feels like those 5 years of relationship meant nothing. I know it's not truth and that during those years she actually loved me. I just cannot understand how someone is able cut out the person from her life from day to day and never want to hear about you again. This fact actually hurts me more, not that she broke up with me, but that it seems I stopped to exist for that person. Don't get me wrong, I used no contact to improve every aspect of my life I can think of and I'm happy only this thing still returns to me.
Move, on. You did your part. She comes back, great. Other people will not break up with you, you got kicked to the curb and it hurts- open up and meet other great people. They may not be her, they may be BETTER, or NOT. You won't know until you try. She did. Move on, you're worth it :)
Stay strong. It is hard, I too am in no contact. And it sucks. I know. The good thing is that we are all strangers but we all have similar pain. We know what each other is feeling. You should watch Craig Kenneth videos too. I watch Coach Lee and his, they are both really good.
He really is an angel. these videos are helping me build confidence to move on. Every time I want to break down, these videos help. I know he will never come back, I will forever be in no contact.
No contact was the best thing to do. My ex contacted me only 9 days in but still taking it slow. He has to earn me back. The trust is broken so we will see how this develops in time. Thank you Coach Lee! Its common sense but when you are blinded by love and then it comes crashing down you do lose control. Time is on your side. Hang tough everyone. : )
Sir.thanx. A lot I am following ur video from last 1yr and after using 6 months no contact rule .... My love come back to me again....and we r marrying soon...i m very very very happy now. All credit goes to you...thanx a lot lee sir...
@@MichaelREFLECTS now he is following new girls on Instagram ,he checked my story always but thats it ...i sometimes felt cheated ,we didnt see each other almost half year due to the pandimic ..thats why im giving less hope
I followed Coach Lee's videos and it was so helpful. I did no contact (after doing all the wrong things during the break up) and I worked on myself a lot. I listened to Coach Lee's videos every day and it got me thru the hard times. My ex reached out to me after 3 1/2 months and we have been back together now for over a year. Our current relationship is so much better than the first one. I remember reading the user comments about ex's coming back during my tough time and I am here to tell you to stay strong. They will come back
Day five of no contact: I almost broke down crying at the thought of him moving on and thought about contacting him or one of his family member until I received a phone call from a job I applied to, I have a second job interview tomorrow! I am no longer sad over him. I’m sure if I keep up the no contact rule, more opportunities, healing, and growth will come my way :-)
Day six: I got a job! I’m not as sad as I used to be. Don’t get me wrong, I miss the guy but I’m more happy and positive since I start my new job this week. I’m excited!
Day 14 of no contact: I’m really happy now! My family have noticed, I’ve lost weight, and I’ve been getting extra shifts at work. I treated myself this week since I deserve it. There’s times I do think of him but not as heavy as before. I wish him well though!
Have been religiously watching your videos for the last year. Recently. My boyfriend and I broke up during a fight. I immediately went no contact. A week later we were back together. He said me not contacting him made him realize how much he missed me and how close he came to losing me. Seriously guys, it’s hard, but it works.
Sticking to no contacts obviously does work. Broke up in December and now it’s August and he reached out over Instagram. (I blocked his number and email) The thing is I am so content with being single and focusing on me I read the message and didn’t even feel the need to respond. Stay strong and stick with it guys!
No contact really works. At first my intentions to getting my ex back, but It works on your part . Almost 4 weeks into my breakup . 3 weeks into NC. I’m slowly feeling more like myself, feeling better, starting to look at the positive outcome of this breakup . Now I’m starting to not care if he gonna comes back or not. Trust the process, and take it one day at a time 🙏
I forgot to add.. I was pretty much listening to all of Coach Lee’s videos over and over . They have been a big help . I don’t think I could have made it without his videos. Thank you ♥️
I honestly thought this was a load of BS but tried it anyway. He never got back. Months passed. I grew into my own space and the process made me recognise my own awesomeness and reassess boundaries. It was a journey I had do alone. And when everything fell into place on what i wanted in life and what i was willing or not willing to do, he came back. But this time, on more mutual terms. We are deeply in love and moving forward in a way that could not have happened if not for the long and painful break. And yes, he did miss me every second of it. The no contact made it all the more acute for him. Thank u Coach Lee.
no contact eventually works. mainly, it's for ourselves. if we can get our ex back, it's a bonus but this is for ourselves. we need to find our own happiness back
Hearing your advice has been helping me through these difficult moments. I've been in NC for 2 months now, I don't believe he will ever come back. But, you have been the best counselor, giving me strength to keep moving forward no matter what, thank you.
I'm now at 6 mos fully NC but 2 yrs since I was discarded from an 8 yr relationship. I made the mistakes Coach Lee talks about. Wish I had learned this waaay sooner but I'm now feeling healthy and strong.
The videos that describe the fear and panic that sets in with them when they feel like they are losing you are the best. It's really helpful for just soothing my anxiety even.
I feel like with us as the dumpees the only power we hold is with no contact. We hold the power in not contacting our ex, taking the attention away and making our exe’s feel the loss. Just keep in mind dumpers y’all wanted this.
I just feel that every day that passes in no contact, the thought of my ex is fading away, day by day I am becoming stronger. I don’t know if he will ever contact me , but if he does, he sure won’t find the old version of me anymore 😊
You know the dynamic of love is truly dangerous, because it’s the very same person who makes you feel EVERYTHING and can reduce you to NOTHING. I’m never going to be the same after this, 💔
@@alvertomartinez1455 nah I raised her youngest he was 2 when we met the other 4 came when they were teens 8 years into the marriage but if they are hers they're mine as well
My ex sent a friend request yesterday and dm'd me saying she's been thinking about me. It's been 9 months, but know the no contact works!! Be strong, work on yourself and most importantly listen to Coach Lee!!🙌🏾💯
I’m sending all my love left inside of me to all you guys suffering. They say time heals, but believing theres no hope, is the only way to truly let go. Stay strong
Death is the only real surety in life. So many people want to be sure and at the same time don’t give those closest to them the same security. If anything they manipulate, confuse and play games. Good communication is such a rare thing to come by. In order for anyone to change, better themselves.. they have to want it. Thanks coach. Really helps to know what goes on, whether the intent is to get back with someone or for your own sanity.
I've got to say if you do exactly what lee says it really works , I made a few mistakes along the way which slowed my wife up from coming back , but when I followed the rules my wife has done a complete you turn, it's a tough process but be strong and it will work . My wife is back home after 5 months and I thank lee for all his Great advice. Keep playing the videos every day for the reassurance it will help .. thanks Lee
I listened to Coach Lee, all his videos and he is right and through prayers as well. Me and my Fiance are back together and planning to get married this year. Please be strong people and follow his advice. It works. Thank you Coach Lee😊
How long were y’all separated? My fiancé left me earlier this year too, together almost 6 years.. I was blindsided and devastated. All I want is her to come back. I know I’ll live through it if she doesn’t but dam I don’t wanna.
Many years ago when I was down in Mexico on vacation I had a nice conversation with an older fella. He looked me straight in the eyes and said there will come a day in your life that you will have to make a choice. Between the person you love or the person that loves you.
I got her back for about a month. I was so happy and rushed into everything. And exactly what the coach said about buyers remorse is what happened to me.
Goodafternoon I understand your pain I went hard breakup n also being man about actions n simple things too show a woman I care n be a family man too . Good men finish last
I went into NC for 3 months and she finally reached out to me, we made some dates had fun, had some good talks about getting back together. She then turned up at my apartment today unexpected and caught me watching these videos, she got very mad and now wants to break up again because she felt I was trying to "trick her", how ironic.
@@gloading8525 do not listen to Vin Diesel, Coach Lee made a video about scam artists like this person. Dont fall for their trap. They will blackmail and rob your of thousands and thousands of dollars if given the chance. People like this who prey on other people's vulnerabilities are real sad excuses for human beings.
Your videos have helped me tremendously-I go back and rewatch them when it feels hopeless despite any indications that things are actually going well. Hoping for a positive outcome but your coaching and inspiration are invaluable. Thank you for making this available.
Wow. I had not even finished watching your last video before you dropped this one. If our exes saw how fast you are dropping them ,they would form a commission of inquiry
I wanna personally say thankyou, I got your break up kit and 5 months on still no contact. But you helped me through the heartache and give me the strength to do NC. I'm alot stronger now. 💙Thankyou coach Lee
Coach Lee...you are truly heaven sent. Your videos have pulled me out of the “dark place”. I’ve hit the gym, lost almost 30 pounds, I’m working towards a new business venture, gotten my confidence back, my heart is healing, and my mind is finally clearing. I’ve reached the point of NC where I don’t think about my ex so much anymore. In fact, some days, he only briefly crosses my mind. (Today, he was in my mind pretty heavy, hence me being back on your channel rewatching your videos and reminding myself of why I started NC in the first place.) Now, I see why you said NC is just as much for me as it is for him. I know I’ll be okay...with or without him. Stay strong guys!❤️ (You really should consider doing a video about the dumpee’s mind after a considerable amount of time has passed in NC.)
Wow it is very emotional when Coach Lee said "when you do get to see your ex face to face, do you remember what is like to see an old friend" This would be really really very powerful. I am in No Contact for over 4 months. I truly miss my ex and wish to see her once again! Tears come to my eyes just imagining that moment.
Hi Everyone, Thanks for taking interest in my post & wanting an update. Since my post, I have reconnected with her a year later. Firstly, we broke up due to her lost in attraction. She ended up lying about breaking up & needing time for space & healing. She ended up actually dating with another guy for a couple of months. It ended poorly according to her. After we reconnected again, we sorted out our breakup, updated each other on life & become friends. We even hoped to get back together. So I thought... Unfortunately, she made new social media friends (I know of them) which influenced her to cut me off. Someone she has met guy friend (manipulative & controlling) has provided her with false information about my interpretations of her. She immediately took his side without verifying it with me. Since then, I have yet spoken to or seen her since. It's been about a year already. Continued back into No Contact too. I doubt she'll reach out due to probably losing all my contact. So I'm in limbo. Although, I do miss her still; however, I have moved on to bigger & better things. Until the day she ever reaches out to me again, I'll keep my options open with her due to missing her.
You are absolutely the best coach, in every way: the advice based on empirical evidence, the way you hold eye contact, the speed you speak, the analogies you use and your deadpan humour! Thank you so much for your videos!
You are right Coach Lee! No contact for 69 days after he got mad of my last text when I said I could not make it for some valid reasons. Now he texted me and said you don’t love me anymore. Why blame me he was the one who ghosted me. It was painful but I tried to stay strong during no contact. Life was peaceful without him. Thank you Coach for being there.
she blocked me, it's been 2 weeks and the demons are sometimes stronger, so i need to watch this constantly but i promise you, i will make it, i will heal and believe in love again🙏💪
I've seen some of the stories in the comments and it's inspiring in many ways but its been 2 months of no contact for me and I'm starting to give up hope of her ever coming back. However, I feel so much better than I did which is a bonus. It does get easier and it has helped me develop so much, lost a stone and a half and worked on myself and my flaws and I feel I've genuinely changed. Feel really good at the moment, stay strong people we can do it.
People have to remember that by not contacting them you aren’t losing them because you don’t have them in the first place I’m not saying you lost them it’s the other way around they lost you and keep that in mind and become the best version of yourselves also for anxiety control i recommend watching coach lees videos every time you come close to contacting them or have the urge to do so it really helps otherwise just try to distract yourself, read a book, play an instrument or learn it even, become better in school or work sum like that also try considering therapy not all people that go to therapy have mental health problems and you don’t have to have them to go there and it’s nothing to be ashamed of to get some input or different opinions from another person :)
be better and do not expect too much. focus on yourself. 1 week NC and it is certainly making me feel better ps. 3 weeks already. i hate this roller coaster ride of emotion
@@natalijaseme8725 merry Christmas to you too and happy new year. He messaged me every 10 days . He likes all my post on social media . The problem is we cannot see each other because of this pandemic and we are stay quite far away from each other and border are closed I live In Macau and he live in China there the the problem 😩🤷♀️
Everything coach Lee says is SPOT ON!! Trust the process… I had a short term/ semi long distance (saw eachother once a week) but very good relationship. I implemented no contact and my ex reached out twice and the second time we made plans to meet up next weekend! Everything is going SO well!!! NO CONTACT WORKS!! KEEP STRONG EVEN WHEN IT FEELS IMPOSSIBLE!! Thank you coach Lee! You’re the break-up God!! 😂🥰 Never could have done this without you!!!
Almost 5 months post break up and 3 months NC. Still Miss him with every inch of my being. He ghosted me the last time we talked which was a month after breakup. I sent him another message 2 months later to try and level set and was ignored. Can’t figure out why I can’t let go but watching the videos help. Hoping things eventually get easier and one day I can walk away.
Did 2 months no contact we arranged a meet then she disappeared saying she had stuff going on, finally admitted she had started seeing someone so im back in no contact and starting to build myself back up to move on. Thanks for the advice coach Lee 🥰
He unblocked me. Wow. I'm guess he got the scrapbook I made for him over 6 months. yes!!! Watch this space! Youve helped me realise this will be a long slow process and I cant expect much right now. I gotta take it really easy and be patient. I've learned soooo much patience from ur videos!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!
@@bryantrocerex8449 thanks!! He hasn't msged yet, I wonder if he's waiting to see if I will, which I won't... He needs to come to me now...!! I'm surprised he didn't msg me after receiving it to be honest... He's holding onto so much hurt and resentment... But this is a good sign that he's trying... Whether he can do this or not is another story! But now I'm okay! I'm healed! I feel good either way. Wow. It's been 5 months now. Yet not a day has gone by where I haven't thought about him so much... Tough!
I found your channel shortly after break up. I have stayed in no contact because of you… thank you! You speak wise words, and they really resonated. I want to be a mystery to her. It’s been 3.5 months. I miss her every minute, and we had a good thing. I’m everything she’s been asking for, but something missing. She feels she doesn’t deserve me. She’s amazing, and I just wish she saw it too.
First time I implement no contact, it’s been almost a month and it’s hard but I feel a lot better working on myself and being happy on my own. Patiently waiting. Thanks for coaching, it has helped me a lot.
"i keep coming back to your videos since august of last year and everytime i come back, im gettin stronger... ❤ now its almost a year and youre right, wether you get your ex back or not, you will eventually be okay in time... ❤️
Ex came back after 8 months! Thank you coach lee 🙏🏻
Comes back is one thing are you able to hold them
Well done. I'm struggling after 2 weeks.
@@shaolinsecrets Struggling because of what? They are not so Interested?
@@MMMCCCXXXIIIthat's not necessarily true. You don't know what went down between them and how the other person feels.
@@shaolinsecrets 2 weeks here what a roller coster this has been.
5 hours and 5,000 views. So much heartbreak out there. I'm sending each and every one of you a hug. Everything's going to turn out okay ❤️
thank you man
Thank you! very much appreciated.
thank you :(
Thank you and God Bless you ❤️
Thank you very much
No contact seriously makes your ex realize how important you are to them. After no contact of 4 months - we are back together. It can and does work.
Mandel Canario One thing I’ve learned is never say never. I thought we were done after so much time had passed. If it’s meant to be something will happen. Just do NOT contact or give any form of attention.
Mandel Canario it’s harder for men but I did it for almost three months and she reached out
wow 4 months is soooo long, how did you stay away when you missed him?
If she/he is avoidant then no chance.
Daniellia Simpson Oh, believe me - it took willpower but I was determined to NOT give in because I was ALWAYS the one giving in and I was done. You simply cannot give in to the urge. Get busy and your mind on other things as much as possible. Not always easy but it can be done.
My ex contacted me after 5.5 months of complete no contact. Stay strong everyone 💖 we did not get back together as I now realise he will never treat me the way I want to be treated, but he did send a massive apology. That’s my ‘success story’
Success is the word ! Congrats 😊
What did you do
It's a start
great effort for doin 5mths
May i know who did the breaking up?
I can’t wait to smile again. This pain is so overwhelming. It’s been 2 weeks and I’m so lost without her. Praying for a miracle to heal my broke heart.
Sweetheart, I feel this. It's been 2 weeks since he broke up with me and we were together for 7 years. We have so much history that... But we were also 18 when we got together. Kids. We spent almost every single waking day together and moved in when we were 20. I don't think we both had the time to really figure out who we are as individuals and he feels like he really needs to take this time to figure out who we is. He feels lost. He is so ridiculously depressed. Communication was always a problem. My heart honestly breaks more and more everyday, but I genuinely want the best for him and I want him to get the help that he needs. Because I love him with all my heart... But he needs a lot of help. One day at a time is all we can do. Hell, even 1 minute at a time is sometimes all we can do. Sending you love ❤️🩹
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“You’re ex can only miss you. When there’s time that goes by without you”. Thank you for this!💙
Damn read this as he quoted it
I was dumped after 17 years. She had a serious mental breakdown with depression and all it comes with. 5 years have passed and she dated multiple guys and thought she found a " new dad" for our 2 boys. Turned out she was just a side treat. A few months ago, she reached out on messenger for a videocall, about our oldest boy and his change going to junior college and getting a girlfriend . That seems to get my ex mad, as she expecting a teen in love to come home daily for supper. We talked and I told her is was exactly the same at his age, and I support his action as in growing as a person. She blocked me after this, weird ?
I told her we made kids and cared and provided for them, now they are semi adults and need to network etc. What a teen boy does!
Was I wrong and why the drama from her?
PS. I left the country a year before this hapoened.
How will he miss me ? He is already talking to another girl.
Believe it or not, your videos are keeping me out of committing suicide right now
I cannot sleep at nights and always have nightmares around 4 o ‘clock in the morning…
Its my inly hope to get her back and you videos are the lullaby for me
Thanks alot♥️
Stay strong brother, i have his videos playing on my phone too when i'm in bed before sleep.
Time is your friend, trust me. You're gonna be stronger than ever with time. I felt like you a year ago. Now I actually miss that time because I had unlimited energy. Got in the best shape in my life and learned so many new skills. Used my breakup as motivation. You have to "create" the regret in ur ex by becoming the best version of urself.
Same here. It hurt so bad I wanted to die.
i hope you are feeling better, and i wish you luck :)
Nobody cost the price of your precious life.
1 year 2 months no contact here!! 🤷🏻♂️
But I have lost over 100 pounds and feel great so thank you ex you did me a huge solid!!
Woooow! Good job
👏👏👏
not money
Good bless you and my your ex come back to you ❤️❤️
15 years of NC from my first GF!! Still waiting but I have hope
It worked! I broke all the rules at first. Texting, calling, posting on social media hoping they’d see. Then I followed your advice. 4 months later he wants to try, misses me. But now I don’t feel the same! Is this your goal, Coach Lee!!?? To have us see the hurt is only temporary and we find ourselves happy without the other! It’s wonderful! Thank you.
Hello there. Happy New Year. I am just thinking here as to what you decided regarding your ex and how it all went. Thanks.
@@annerivas1155 He is driving 4 hours to see me for New Years. I’m out of town with my daughter. So I guess it’s going okay. I do not feel the same after my heartbreak. But that’s a good thing. He’s no longer the priority in my life and he knows it.
@@sullak7 so good to hear .I hope i reach this phase
Yeah
I don’t think that’s the goal, I think that would be manipulative if that is the goal, to secretly get people to move on and advertise it as getting their ex back. a lot of people get back together and it is special when people can work through things. i never liked the idea that some coaches see it as a double message or trick to market it as saving a relationship but really trying to get people to move on. if feeling better about yourself is a result, that is a benefit, but i would hope that isn’t the main goal.
I heard from my ex after exactly 60 days of NC. Like you, I was sure my ex would be the exception and I would never hear from her. I was also convinced NC wasn’t working. We are slowly starting to date again and things are looking positive. I wanted to come here and write this for those who are barely holding onto NC and need to hear some words of encouragement. When we first met up after NC, she said so many things that Coach Lee talks about: “I was sure you were going to contact me so I wasn’t worried, then after about a month and a half I lost that feeling”, “I dated other people but that was just to fill a void left by you and none of them compared to you”, “the way you handled the break up was so mature and I wasn’t expecting that”. Keep the faith in NC and trust coach Lee. Also, work on yourself don’t just watch these videos - when I met up with her the deciding factor to her wanting to patch things up was noticing the work I had done. She met up with me for “closure” and then saw what she was losing. Stay positive, take it one day at a time - if I can do it, so can you!
Somebody somewhere is searching for you. Someone who will respect and love you truly. Never take someone who left you back.. you deserve better!
True, some people come back but still take your relationship for granted, sometimes that wait is not worth it
Beautiful words
You’re projecting your ego, pride, and fears!
@@ryanortiz2648 so true
Yes for sure. If our exes are going to be disrespectfull and quit on us then move on. ;) We deserve better they don't!!!
Ok, so I was skeptical about this but omg it works!!! With my experience I was "dumped" and it hurts bad!!! I kept bothering him. Finally, I watched Couch Lee's video(s) and it WORKS!!! Although I wanted to call him and/or see him. I was like the walking dead. No food...no sleep. DEATH. When I listened to these videos I made a change. I made the choice to get up, take a shower and look decent. I did no contact and BOOM!!!! 2 months were together!!!! It works. Thank you Couch Lee....you rock!!!!!
I’m thrilled for you Lyn!
Hi Lyn, Im on my 1st day of NC. Thankful to Coach Lee's video. He helped me a lot go through the night. Now i am able to control myself from chasing him and thinking about him. I do hope he will be back. Im happy for you.
@@marylng9346 I was there girl!!!! Let me tell you it feels like your heart is going to stop. You feel horrible. I've been there, that's why I'm here. Please listen!!! Give it time. It does work. I didn't believe it but Couch Lee is right. I wish you luck sweetie. Please let me know how your doing. How it works out.
@@RealCoachLee Couch Lee I know you're very Busy but I hope you see this because I want to thank you. You see after I was "dumped" I couldn't handle it. I went in the fetal position in my bed. Day and night for 5 days getting up ONLY to use the restroom. No food. No movement. My roommates were worried. I finally got my phone and turned it on to look for some magical message. The one message where he begs me to come back cause he made a mistake. Nope. Nothing. I was the Walking Dead. I mean like a Zombie.
Well, I started to look at UA-cam videos. I stumbled across yours and i honestly listened to you every night. You put me to sleep. You gave me some hope and courage and comfort. I just didn't want to do "No Contact " fearing he would move on. He would forget about me. Everything you said I would "think and feel" You had been there. You understand.
Sorry this is long but a "Thank You" just doesn't seem like enough. Couch Lee Bless You.
@@lynstyles812 Hi Lyn, is there anyway I can chat you with? I think you're one good person who i can talk to be able to get some hope up. It's been 3 wks since he broke up with me. During those three wks i was begging and crying. Sep 1 when i finally learned to really do NC and control myself from messaging him. However on the 4th, I broke it by sending him job postings thinking that those links will be able to help him find a job. He replied saying thanks but i didnt say anything.
I am back again to not messaging nor contacting him. 😔 im not sure if he is ever coming back.
2 months no contact. IT WORKS. Trust it and listen to Coach Lee. I thought my situation was hopeless when my ex told me our relationship “felt wrong to his heart.” But I listened to Coach Lee every single day and focused on myself and our daughter, got my diploma, and total self care and personal work in therapy. You have to give it time and focus on personal growth. This is sooooo important because then when they come back, they are so surprised at how good your doing. It’s attractive to see someone not being in misery over a breakup and it will make your relationship so much stronger. No contact is seriously the only way to go, it’s acceptance of the situation, which is what you need to be mentally and emotionally healthy. You’re respecting this person who you love, which is so important too.
Hannah did you go to NC immediately?
100 % true ,,, Acceptance, Self Care, and Faith is the key for success, regardless of the out come.
Good luck!
It's not worked for me. I guess I'm not good enough or special enough.
Thank you John! I met someone amazing and I am so happy.
I’ve been really strong and remained in no contact for 3 months, sooo difficult but I kept listening to this video to keep me on track. Pleased to say it works and he messaged me tonight. Keep strong everyone and don’t give up, or in!!!
Well done!
I love to hear this. I am only at 23 days NC. Feels like forever!
And what if they just said they would rather their cancer come back then ever get back with me... Guess it's time to give up right
Well done
Wow! 3 months is a long time. I'm at 6 weeks and am on an emotional roller-coaster. If I didn't have Jesus I would be going crazy right now.
It took a whole year of no contact, and he went crazy wanted me back. At this point I do NOT want him back, I had to tell him, no thank you I moved on. This situation is a win win guys, either they come back OR you just don’t want them anymore! Pls do this for yourself you are worthy of it all
What he do?
Love this comment!! Thanks so much!!
64 days no contact... without these videos my anxiety would have taken over by now. Thanks Lee. You help more than you know.
like seriously wtf would we do without these videos
Did you ever hear from them?
@@theory2314 yes
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64 days and you have not moveon?
You were right for sure. My ex literally came back after 7 weeks or 49 days of no contact. She said she loves me and can't imagine the future without me
@@MichaelREFLECTS I really think she has, our relationship has never been better and it's already been over a month since she came back
I’m happy for you brother, thank you for sharing
Congrats. Wish u both the best together 👍
Did you initially begged ? After going no contact?
@@sergiosergio6388 not at all. I did call her on the fourth of July and I did plead my case for her. And then a few days later she called me back and said that she wanted to be with me
Went no contact for 3 months and now she is begging for my attention and wanting things to go back the way it was, but during NC I reflected on the break up and the way she left over a text message of our 3 years Relationship and realised how much she didnt respect me and our relationship. I hit the gym and only focused on my self and build my self love again and posted occasional story and posts of my transition/transformation, which she was viewing.
During NC I felt I was just an option for her to walk out the way she did and felt used.
I was disgusted at myself but kept pushing. And now after 3 months of NC here she is begging for my attention.
Guys NC works and focus on yourself during those time and upgrade and you will see your perspective changes and you heal and once they reach out to you the power is in your hand once again...now it's only upto you how you use that upper hand.
I want to take this moment to thank Caoch Lee, sir you rock and you have been truly a great help and I admire and respect you for helping thousands of broken hearts out there to get through one of those tough moments in life.
Thank you.
Envious of you man. My ex reached out two months into NC. We started conversation and she was giving me long replies and emojis. I set a date with her for her to come over with a bottle of wine and we'd make dinner together. Night before the date, she cancels saying its not a good idea as she is "with someone". I know at best its a rebound but im still confused why she'd reach out and agree to a date only to cancel. I said no worries and let me know if you change your mind. Im back in NC for two weeks but feeling hopeless.
@@tybennion1 she probably was testing you to see how you still feel about her...
Next time don't give in so easily.
You cannot let her walk all over you like that...if she contacts you again take your time to respond.
Good luck man. No contact does work and it also makes it easier to get over that person.
@@TheButcherGorr Ive been working on myself. Still missing her and wondering if Ill ever hear from her again. Been 6 weeks since that reach out.
@@rabraham6725 Thanks, I appreciate it. 6 weeks since that contact. Im not sure how I "gave in" since all I did was set a date. I already was waiting a couple hours between each text. Whats interesting is I ended the conversation in anticipation of the date to build anxiety levels leading up. Prior to me ending it she wants to bubbly and, like I said, responding in length.
Idk man. I still think about her everyday and am watching these videos in my free time. Still working on myself - gym everyday, reading, barely any Tv, meditating, and seeing a therapist. Just cant seem to let go despite feeling better. 4 1/2 months since breakup to date.
@@tybennion1 it gets easier bro trust me, time is your best friend and healer right now.
Make sure your progression and upgrade is posted on social media from time to time.
Nothing more attractive to a woman seeing her ex is moving on without them in life and upgrading.
Keep working on yourself and eventually you will start loving yourself again and will have a higher price tag on you.
Soon one day they will reach out to you and you will realise and look back and think " how the hell did i put up with her"
I'm talking from my past experiences.
Once you let go fully and start loving life again without them, that's when they want to come back.
Life is funny bro.
Like coach Lee says "you will be fine!"
Again good luck.
No contact only works if they still have feeling for you.remember also people its mainly for getting yourelf back
Yes, no contact actually helped me. It completely changed my life, I had the time to put some stuff up to date that I have been procrastinating for years, and I just got today a job offer for a better job. No contact is not to get her back, it's to get yourself back, very true.
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No it's not, it's for your ex that dumped you to realize what they let go of. And regret. The by product is time in no contact let's you self reflect.
@Dave McDonald I'm not sure if mine still does. Hard to tell. But I'm not doing no contact. Just tried for 20 days
during no contact you will realize that they will come back once you don't want them back anymore. I've been in no contact for over 2 months and I'm honestly getting over here already and focusing on my own grind.
It’s so weird...I was so sure I would never forget him last month, now I’m noticing myself becoming impartial when it comes to him..can’t quite explain it yet but I think I’m in my way to moving on..
@@Yararar yup! Embrace it...2 weeks ago I definitely would have taken him back if he came back...today no way in hell will I take him back, realised he was manipulative. Each day things become clearer.
@@lizxu322 update? Did he ever return ?
Did u block ur ex during no contact?
@@panipureepotatoeshead8864 no I just didn't talk to her or text her
THIS is the only guy that can convince me to go silent after a breakup. After watching many other videos on UA-cam (which are good also) coach lee is the guy I can take serious. Just wanted to say thank you for making videos!
Same here he is an angel
Me too
This is true and I'm totally agree with you . Coach Lee is the only one make me go on NC and stay . Thank you , your rock x
Second that.
Did your ex reach to you?
The good thing about no contact is that I eventually completely forgot my ex and realized going to the market was the best option. No contact = power. Your power.
@@jackassfat That is what she said. ;)
Time allowed me to see that I deserve better, after 20 years of gross abuse and me hoping and praying, I realized with time that I'm better off with out him. I love me and the person I am, he didn't, and now I'm free for real.
@@jackassfat not completely true. I've forgotten one of mine lol
No contact does equal no power. The funny thing is that they don't know what you are doing or if you've with someone!! They can sit there and stewe and think about their behavior.
Thank you for your advise i realy appreciate it coach lee
OMG!!!! Coach Lee!!! No contact works!!!!! Guys if you’re doubting NC, please don’t! NC IS POWERFUL! Today my ex contacted me after exactly one month crying telling me she misses me and he was having dreams about us and just can’t go on without me!!! Here’s the kicker, SHE LEFT ME FOR ANOTHER GUY!!! It only took one month for her to come back!!!! I’m taking it slow and while I’ve grown and I’m not 💯 sure I want her back yet I’m taking it slow! On my terms! Thank you coach Lee!!!!!
Im happy for you man, im going almost 2 months now
@@kagamitaiga9167thank you! Stay strong! She literally left me for another guy and told me to leave her alone. I complied and followed coach lees advise! I gave her the break up even tho she literally uploaded pictures with her ex during Xmas and new years! I NEVER reacted! It hurt sooo much and I wanted to break NC! I can admit many times I didn’t believe in NC! She literally called me today crying begging to take her back told me EVERYTHING reminded her of me! I’m sure ur ex is going thru the same! Stay strong! It’s almost guaranteed she’ll come back! In the mean time do like I did and focus on urself exercise get new hobbies! I almost annoying to read this trust me but it works!!!
Her dumbass loss.
I was looking in the comments from someone who had been dumped because their other partner decided to leave them for another. Thanks for giving me a bit of hope but I think that I don't want my ex back after all he's done to me but I'm happy that you're happy!
For future peope reading this. Don’t even take an ex that dump you for another person. I think mostly 99% of cases over here in comments are about fights, miss treatments, miss communication and I’m 100% coach Lee never mentioned anything related about your ex going with another person. Just leave it like that, forgive yourself and forgive them, you don’t have to suffer my dear, time is the only one that heals all pain but please never go back with someone who changed you for somebody else even if they beg 100000 thousand times.
It's so nice to know I am NOT the only one going through this shitty time in my life 💖
❤BE STRONG EVERYONE!❤
Me too bro I hope we stay strong My boy
We aren't alone. So many folks out there suffering from a break up. 😪
❤
Yeah it really sucks bro i hope everyone will have an happy ending in their life ❤
It's excellent that we're not alone, but it sucks because there are so many of us.
No contact works! My girl texted me back after 21 days. Like how coach lee said, she texted like , " Hey, I was watching this song and it reminded of you. What's up?'. A few days later we got back together.
how are you guys now?
Did it last? Update pls
What you responded to break this ??
It's the 4th month 😔the pain gets a bit lighter but I would be lying if I said it's completely gone
It’s never easy
It works. Trust me! Absolutely don't slip up and contact her.
Shes moved on homie u gotta realise how she feels aswell she has no idea that ur watching an learning from this. So in her mind shes probly thought uv moved on and so has she
Trust me doors are closed for a reason! Leave your past in the past this pain will subside in time! Don't force a situation you are an attractive guy and someone is waiting for you to find them!!
Is ok, I don't know your situation, what I do know is that you must work on yourself! Learn all you can while healing and becoming the best YOU. It's hard I know. Be sure to not ruminate and stay stuck in a negative mind set of 'getting her back's. Accept that it's over. Work thru your pain and learn to let go..... fighting the process just prolongs the pain....
Agree, No contact only works if they still have feelings for you.. She came back after 4 months No contact and rebound ,we are working on our relationship right now:) Thanks Coach lee, She basically went through all stages of rebound :)
Hey fam
That’s encouraging! My ex jumped into a rebound but she’s reaching out to me few times asking about my sick grandma so I guess she still cares or either is trying to distance herself from the rebound idk
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@@Chosenlunch we are expecting a baby
@@divinghero9776 Wow Congrats.
Trust this man in what he says. I begged and pleaded and did a lot of other unhealthy things during my break up for almost 2 months. My ex eventually changed their number and I did no contact and focused on myself while giving them space and they reached out little over a week later. Trust in no contact and trust in Coach Lee. I watched his videos every single day of no contact when I felt like I was gonna break.
So far it has worked! 5 weeks in and I’m now realizing I don’t want him back. Someone who puts you through this doesn’t love you. There is someone out there who will. Take this precious time to grieve and find yourself ❤️ you are good enough. No matter what the ex thinks. No contact is amazing. Even if they don’t come back.
I agree if someone breaks up with you and refuses to contact you then they never loved you enough. I only started NC a days ago but I already know she most likely won't be contacting me as she's the stubborn type like that.
Hello I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex husband is back after left me for another woman I was helped by someone He can also help you too....
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why did he breakup with you?
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I did a no contact after he break up on me. After 4 days he contacted me and see each other again after two weeks and now we are happily engaged 🥰. Please, be patient and if that person loves you they will comeback. Give them the time they want to realized that you are the right one for them😇.
What if they are with someone else several weeks after breakup, do I have a chance, I love her and I want to marry her
I tap this grace,congratulations on your engagement.
8 months of no contact make me feels like those 5 years of relationship meant nothing. I know it's not truth and that during those years she actually loved me. I just cannot understand how someone is able cut out the person from her life from day to day and never want to hear about you again. This fact actually hurts me more, not that she broke up with me, but that it seems I stopped to exist for that person. Don't get me wrong, I used no contact to improve every aspect of my life I can think of and I'm happy only this thing still returns to me.
This is it. This is what is painful, not that she's gone.
I’m in the same boat.
Move, on. You did your part. She comes back, great. Other people will not break up with you, you got kicked to the curb and it hurts- open up and meet other great people. They may not be her, they may be BETTER, or NOT. You won't know until you try. She did. Move on, you're worth it :)
Stay strong. It is hard, I too am in no contact. And it sucks. I know. The good thing is that we are all strangers but we all have similar pain. We know what each other is feeling. You should watch Craig Kenneth videos too. I watch Coach Lee and his, they are both really good.
I feel the exact same way Bro it hurts ... I’m 10 months in NC. & haven’t heard a word from her
You are an angel sent by God to help us!
He really is an angel. these videos are helping me build confidence to move on. Every time I want to break down, these videos help. I know he will never come back, I will forever be in no contact.
No contact was the best thing to do. My ex contacted me only 9 days in but still taking it slow. He has to earn me back. The trust is broken so we will see how this develops in time. Thank you Coach Lee! Its common sense but when you are blinded by love and then it comes crashing down you do lose control. Time is on your side. Hang tough everyone. : )
Update?
Sir.thanx. A lot
I am following ur video from last
1yr and after using 6 months no contact rule ....
My love come back to me again....and we r marrying soon...i m very very very happy now.
All credit goes to you...thanx a lot lee sir...
Still baking that cake 🤘😔
bluer Yessir! Ditto.
A week NC now ,I'm hopeless ...
@@MichaelREFLECTS now he is following new girls on Instagram ,he checked my story always but thats it ...i sometimes felt cheated ,we didnt see each other almost half year due to the pandimic ..thats why im giving less hope
Fiamma Groen you’re gonna have to hang on takes much longer than that
@@tylerirwin2533 How can i join
I followed Coach Lee's videos and it was so helpful. I did no contact (after doing all the wrong things during the break up) and I worked on myself a lot. I listened to Coach Lee's videos every day and it got me thru the hard times. My ex reached out to me after 3 1/2 months and we have been back together now for over a year. Our current relationship is so much better than the first one. I remember reading the user comments about ex's coming back during my tough time and I am here to tell you to stay strong. They will come back
Getting your ex back shouldn't be a problems i know of a man who help me get my ex husband back
Wh’atsap him
Day five of no contact: I almost broke down crying at the thought of him moving on and thought about contacting him or one of his family member until I received a phone call from a job I applied to, I have a second job interview tomorrow! I am no longer sad over him. I’m sure if I keep up the no contact rule, more opportunities, healing, and growth will come my way :-)
Day six: I got a job! I’m not as sad as I used to be. Don’t get me wrong, I miss the guy but I’m more happy and positive since I start my new job this week. I’m excited!
Day 14 of no contact: I’m really happy now! My family have noticed, I’ve lost weight, and I’ve been getting extra shifts at work. I treated myself this week since I deserve it. There’s times I do think of him but not as heavy as before. I wish him well though!
@@valerievillegas4360 any updates?
@@valerievillegas4360 updates valerie??
I pray you recieve that new job, Valerie. ;) Hang in there.
Have been religiously watching your videos for the last year. Recently. My boyfriend and I broke up during a fight. I immediately went no contact. A week later we were back together. He said me not contacting him made him realize how much he missed me and how close he came to losing me.
Seriously guys, it’s hard, but it works.
Vanessa Clowater,You got a lovely smile 😊!!
So very happy for you!!! :))))))
Update
No contact worked in a week for me. I got a paragraph in a text. All I did was give a delayed open ended short response. Be patient is key!!
This brings me hope… thank you. Everyday feels more and more impossible
@@PK-zo1rpupdate?
Sticking to no contacts obviously does work. Broke up in December and now it’s August and he reached out over Instagram. (I blocked his number and email) The thing is I am so content with being single and focusing on me I read the message and didn’t even feel the need to respond. Stay strong and stick with it guys!
No contact really works. At first my intentions to getting my ex back, but It works on your part . Almost 4 weeks into my breakup . 3 weeks into NC. I’m slowly feeling more like myself, feeling better, starting to look at the positive outcome of this breakup . Now I’m starting to not care if he gonna comes back or not. Trust the process, and take it one day at a time 🙏
I forgot to add.. I was pretty much listening to all of Coach Lee’s videos over and over . They have been a big help . I don’t think I could have made it without his videos. Thank you ♥️
±2348136936671⏯⏯❣❣ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of breakup.,..
I honestly thought this was a load of BS but tried it anyway. He never got back. Months passed. I grew into my own space and the process made me recognise my own awesomeness and reassess boundaries. It was a journey I had do alone. And when everything fell into place on what i wanted in life and what i was willing or not willing to do, he came back. But this time, on more mutual terms. We are deeply in love and moving forward in a way that could not have happened if not for the long and painful break. And yes, he did miss me every second of it. The no contact made it all the more acute for him. Thank u Coach Lee.
How much time it took your ex to come back?
@@dwightschrute8141 5 months.
no contact eventually works. mainly, it's for ourselves. if we can get our ex back, it's a bonus but this is for ourselves. we need to find our own happiness back
Hearing your advice has been helping me through these difficult moments. I've been in NC for 2 months now, I don't believe he will ever come back. But, you have been the best counselor, giving me strength to keep moving forward no matter what, thank you.
Im one month into it. Nothing yet
What is your update? Did your ex reach to you?
any update ?
Update
I already give up and move forward now. ❤ hope you too
It worked haha! She's back after 48 hours. You are the best coach Lee!
Ahaha i like it! Only 48 hours!
I’m creeping up to 13 months now of no contact. Wishing everyone success with their no contact journey. ❤️
@Nick-hk4xx any update?
I'm now at 6 mos fully NC but 2 yrs since I was discarded from an 8 yr relationship. I made the mistakes Coach Lee talks about. Wish I had learned this waaay sooner but I'm now feeling healthy and strong.
The videos that describe the fear and panic that sets in with them when they feel like they are losing you are the best. It's really helpful for just soothing my anxiety even.
Cynthia R,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷 dear
I went radio silent. NC and I hope it works!
I feel like with us as the dumpees the only power we hold is with no contact. We hold the power in not contacting our ex, taking the attention away and making our exe’s feel the loss. Just keep in mind dumpers y’all wanted this.
I just feel that every day that passes in no contact, the thought of my ex is fading away, day by day I am becoming stronger. I don’t know if he will ever contact me , but if he does, he sure won’t find the old version of me anymore 😊
having your videos to just watch and listen to and keep my mind occupied from my sad breakup is very therapeutic thank you
find another bf.
Tru, watching his videos not to take them back but occupy my mind to something.
You know the dynamic of love is truly dangerous, because it’s the very same person who makes you feel EVERYTHING and can reduce you to NOTHING.
I’m never going to be the same after this, 💔
Agree, it’s horrifying. I hope the passage of time has been helpful somehow x
Very heartbreaking
I don’t know how much you making on UA-cam but u deserve every dollar
She's been texting me now for a few weeks in a row it was a 10 year relationship and a year apart, don't think i want her back, no contact works
@@kenhenry4389 nah I'll pass on that one I'm 47 and more than half of that been in 3 relationships time for a long vacation and enjoy my grandkids
Same here dude. I broke up with mine last August and I'm not expecting anything at this point.
You're so right,, No Contact works big time!
@@tonyjohn7839 not interested thanks
Juan do y’all have kids?
@@alvertomartinez1455 nah I raised her youngest he was 2 when we met the other 4 came when they were teens 8 years into the marriage but if they are hers they're mine as well
My ex sent a friend request yesterday and dm'd me saying she's been thinking about me.
It's been 9 months, but know the no contact works!! Be strong, work on yourself and most importantly listen to Coach Lee!!🙌🏾💯
Wow. 9 months. How’d it end up?
I’m sending all my love left inside of me to all you guys suffering. They say time heals, but believing theres no hope, is the only way to truly let go. Stay strong
“You were lost and now you are found again” love that
Death is the only real surety in life. So many people want to be sure and at the same time don’t give those closest to them the same security. If anything they manipulate, confuse and play games. Good communication is such a rare thing to come by. In order for anyone to change, better themselves.. they have to want it. Thanks coach. Really helps to know what goes on, whether the intent is to get back with someone or for your own sanity.
I've got to say if you do exactly what lee says it really works , I made a few mistakes along the way which slowed my wife up from coming back , but when I followed the rules my wife has done a complete you turn, it's a tough process but be strong and it will work . My wife is back home after 5 months and I thank lee for all his Great advice. Keep playing the videos every day for the reassurance it will help .. thanks Lee
I listened to Coach Lee, all his videos and he is right and through prayers as well. Me and my Fiance are back together and planning to get married this year. Please be strong people and follow his advice. It works. Thank you Coach Lee😊
How long were y’all separated? My fiancé left me earlier this year too, together almost 6 years.. I was blindsided and devastated. All I want is her to come back. I know I’ll live through it if she doesn’t but dam I don’t wanna.
This comment helps me so much!!!
Many years ago when I was down in Mexico on vacation I had a nice conversation with an older fella. He looked me straight in the eyes and said there will come a day in your life that you will have to make a choice. Between the person you love or the person that loves you.
Getting your ex back shouldn't be a problems i know of a man who help me get my ex husband back
Wh’atsap him
美丽的✛2349056214156👈📥≧﹏≦
Friends: What have you been up to lately?
Me: Oh well, just baking a cake (😉😉😉)
😂😂😂😂😂
I got her back for about a month. I was so happy and rushed into everything. And exactly what the coach said about buyers remorse is what happened to me.
Well atleast you know.
Damn
1 week of NC.. I realized I dont want him back, I feel sad sometimes but maybe even if he reached out I dont want him already. thanks coach lee
No contact showed me that I no longer wanted what he was offering🤷🏾♀️🥰
@@jamesshank4894 at this point you guys should be tired of the scam😂😂😂
@@lindascout2387 go away!
Goodafternoon I understand your pain I went hard breakup n also being man about actions n simple things too show a woman I care n be a family man too . Good men finish last
I went into NC for 3 months and she finally reached out to me, we made some dates had fun, had some good talks about getting back together. She then turned up at my apartment today unexpected and caught me watching these videos, she got very mad and now wants to break up again because she felt I was trying to "trick her", how ironic.
That’s why I’m not watching these on my main UA-cam. This is my burner 😂
If that's true, that really sucks.
Critical Mass she don’t think like that but you could never be sure.
Vin Diesel how what?
@@gloading8525 do not listen to Vin Diesel, Coach Lee made a video about scam artists like this person. Dont fall for their trap. They will blackmail and rob your of thousands and thousands of dollars if given the chance. People like this who prey on other people's vulnerabilities are real sad excuses for human beings.
Your videos have helped me tremendously-I go back and rewatch them when it feels hopeless despite any indications that things are actually going well. Hoping for a positive outcome but your coaching and inspiration are invaluable. Thank you for making this available.
This guy is a star. This is not easy, but it is the way.
Coach lee you have been in the game lately. I appreciate the videos you’ve been putting out consistently
Wow. I had not even finished watching your last video before you dropped this one. If our exes saw how fast you are dropping them ,they would form a commission of inquiry
I wanna personally say thankyou, I got your break up kit and 5 months on still no contact. But you helped me through the heartache and give me the strength to do NC. I'm alot stronger now. 💙Thankyou coach Lee
Did the Kit help you?
Just curious what does Coach Lee’s break up kit consist of?
Coach Lee...you are truly heaven sent. Your videos have pulled me out of the “dark place”. I’ve hit the gym, lost almost 30 pounds, I’m working towards a new business venture, gotten my confidence back, my heart is healing, and my mind is finally clearing. I’ve reached the point of NC where I don’t think about my ex so much anymore. In fact, some days, he only briefly crosses my mind. (Today, he was in my mind pretty heavy, hence me being back on your channel rewatching your videos and reminding myself of why I started NC in the first place.) Now, I see why you said NC is just as much for me as it is for him. I know I’ll be okay...with or without him. Stay strong guys!❤️ (You really should consider doing a video about the dumpee’s mind after a considerable amount of time has passed in NC.)
I live in Texas, 6 weeks no contact. Was wondering why people moved to North Carolina waiting for their ex? Just realized NC means No Contact.
😂
You’re saving me coach. When I feel like all is lost I just watch your videos and I believe in a future with my ex again
My dear if you want help to get your ex back
Message me on WhatsApp
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And I will direct you to someone who can help you bring back your ex
I love how consistent you’ve been with these videos Coach Lee ! 🙌🏽
Wisdom to live by. Time heals everything! Thank you Lee for this brilliant video.
Emma Carla,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌷 hope you are with a good man!!
I have been using no contact rule for than two months and it doesn’t workout, but I am positive about this rule no contact now I have move forward.🥺
Wow it is very emotional when Coach Lee said "when you do get to see your ex face to face, do you remember what is like to see an old friend" This would be really really very powerful. I am in No Contact for over 4 months. I truly miss my ex and wish to see her once again! Tears come to my eyes just imagining that moment.
it's been 6 months since i do NC, i feel numb right now, i don't care at all but in i see him in my dreams sometimes it piss me off
I didnt see him almost half year because of border policy , he is in Italy im in China , i will definitely go Italy after all ...maybe December ...
@@11cesarrenato did he come back?
@@Wifeyytalks yes but the meet was so weird then he gone again, but this time i don't care at all
Wow. It’s been 4 months for me served with divorce paperwork the other day. Hoping it doesn’t happen though.
Lee could as well be a professor of physics because he talks a lot about gravity, time, space, power and distance 🎓
My relationship was toxic from the beginning & it was long distance. I doubt she'll come back. But the journey of no contact starts today
How’s things Oliver? Did u stick to NC?
Are you still in no contact? Did she reach out or not ?
@@OiVinn-eq1ml I also wanna know what happened
Update?
Hi Everyone,
Thanks for taking interest in my post & wanting an update. Since my post, I have reconnected with her a year later. Firstly, we broke up due to her lost in attraction. She ended up lying about breaking up & needing time for space & healing. She ended up actually dating with another guy for a couple of months. It ended poorly according to her. After we reconnected again, we sorted out our breakup, updated each other on life & become friends. We even hoped to get back together. So I thought... Unfortunately, she made new social media friends (I know of them) which influenced her to cut me off. Someone she has met guy friend (manipulative & controlling) has provided her with false information about my interpretations of her. She immediately took his side without verifying it with me. Since then, I have yet spoken to or seen her since. It's been about a year already. Continued back into No Contact too. I doubt she'll reach out due to probably losing all my contact. So I'm in limbo. Although, I do miss her still; however, I have moved on to bigger & better things. Until the day she ever reaches out to me again, I'll keep my options open with her due to missing her.
Instead of talking to a friend over phone.... I listen to coach lee
You are absolutely the best coach, in every way: the advice based on empirical evidence, the way you hold eye contact, the speed you speak, the analogies you use and your deadpan humour! Thank you so much for your videos!
You are right Coach Lee! No contact for 69 days after he got mad of my last text when I said I could not make it for some valid reasons. Now he texted me and said you don’t love me anymore. Why blame me he was the one who ghosted me. It was painful but I tried to stay strong during no contact. Life was peaceful without him. Thank you Coach for being there.
she blocked me, it's been 2 weeks and the demons are sometimes stronger, so i need to watch this constantly but i promise you, i will make it, i will heal and believe in love again🙏💪
@@mitsuninkhiangte5771 In my case, he blocked me...
Ok, I love this channel. He really makes me feel better about the whole situation
Thanks!
I've seen some of the stories in the comments and it's inspiring in many ways but its been 2 months of no contact for me and I'm starting to give up hope of her ever coming back. However, I feel so much better than I did which is a bonus. It does get easier and it has helped me develop so much, lost a stone and a half and worked on myself and my flaws and I feel I've genuinely changed. Feel really good at the moment, stay strong people we can do it.
.update?
People have to remember that by not contacting them you aren’t losing them because you don’t have them in the first place I’m not saying you lost them it’s the other way around they lost you and keep that in mind and become the best version of yourselves also for anxiety control i recommend watching coach lees videos every time you come close to contacting them or have the urge to do so it really helps otherwise just try to distract yourself, read a book, play an instrument or learn it even, become better in school or work sum like that also try considering therapy not all people that go to therapy have mental health problems and you don’t have to have them to go there and it’s nothing to be ashamed of to get some input or different opinions from another person :)
Develon, you are absolutely right!
Thanks.. no one explains like you. No one comforts like you. God bless you
be better and do not expect too much. focus on yourself. 1 week NC and it is certainly making me feel better
ps. 3 weeks already. i hate this roller coaster ride of emotion
Same here 😭
Any updates?
My ex reached out to me after 10 days no contact..asking how am I doing . He just kinda testing the water .
@@carrolinebae4209 update ?
Mine reached out day 13 to wish me a late merry Christmas and now another 2.5 days of silence
@@natalijaseme8725 merry Christmas to you too and happy new year. He messaged me every 10 days . He likes all my post on social media . The problem is we cannot see each other because of this pandemic and we are stay quite far away from each other and border are closed I live In Macau and he live in China there the the problem 😩🤷♀️
your videos are anxiety and paranoia reliever. 👍🙌
Everything coach Lee says is SPOT ON!! Trust the process… I had a short term/ semi long distance (saw eachother once a week) but very good relationship. I implemented no contact and my ex reached out twice and the second time we made plans to meet up next weekend! Everything is going SO well!!! NO CONTACT WORKS!! KEEP STRONG EVEN WHEN IT FEELS IMPOSSIBLE!! Thank you coach Lee! You’re the break-up God!! 😂🥰 Never could have done this without you!!!
Update
Almost 5 months post break up and 3 months NC. Still Miss him with every inch of my being. He ghosted me the last time we talked which was a month after breakup. I sent him another message 2 months later to try and level set and was ignored. Can’t figure out why I can’t let go but watching the videos help.
Hoping things eventually get easier and one day I can walk away.
hope you get better
I’m sorry
im feelin the same insane how much u can love someone
Hope you are doing better, go on dating apps there are many people out there. Delete his number and don't look back.
Did 2 months no contact we arranged a meet then she disappeared saying she had stuff going on, finally admitted she had started seeing someone so im back in no contact and starting to build myself back up to move on. Thanks for the advice coach Lee 🥰
He unblocked me. Wow. I'm guess he got the scrapbook I made for him over 6 months. yes!!! Watch this space! Youve helped me realise this will be a long slow process and I cant expect much right now. I gotta take it really easy and be patient. I've learned soooo much patience from ur videos!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!
@@bryantrocerex8449 thanks!! He hasn't msged yet, I wonder if he's waiting to see if I will, which I won't... He needs to come to me now...!! I'm surprised he didn't msg me after receiving it to be honest... He's holding onto so much hurt and resentment... But this is a good sign that he's trying... Whether he can do this or not is another story! But now I'm okay! I'm healed! I feel good either way. Wow. It's been 5 months now. Yet not a day has gone by where I haven't thought about him so much... Tough!
Thank you again Coach. It's been 6 months. I'm staying strong. Even trying to date new people. Your vids are always very helpful.
I found your channel shortly after break up. I have stayed in no contact because of you… thank you! You speak wise words, and they really resonated. I want to be a mystery to her. It’s been 3.5 months. I miss her every minute, and we had a good thing. I’m everything she’s been asking for, but something missing. She feels she doesn’t deserve me. She’s amazing, and I just wish she saw it too.
Update?
Out of all generic and boring wanna be coaches ur the best, thr approach is detailed and realistic.
First time I implement no contact, it’s been almost a month and it’s hard but I feel a lot better working on myself and being happy on my own. Patiently waiting. Thanks for coaching, it has helped me a lot.
any update im trying it for the first time aswell
Just wanted to come back and say that no contact worked. Thank you coach lee
How much time it took your ex to come back?
"i keep coming back to your videos since august of last year and everytime i come back, im gettin stronger... ❤ now its almost a year and youre right, wether you get your ex back or not, you will eventually be okay in time... ❤️
Who’s here after The Fellas Podcast episode with W2S?