Does No Contact Always Work?

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  • Опубліковано 28 вер 2024

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  • @chakorleo
    @chakorleo Рік тому +475

    I just want to say listen to Coach Lee! He got me through a terrible time over the past 3 months after I was dumped. He gave me the courage and strength to stay in no contact and radio silence and at about 3 months she broke the silence, we’ve reconnected and are doing better than ever. True love prevails, and it is crucial to watch and listen to all of his videos through a breakup! Thank you so so much Coach Lee, I wish I could hug you I’m so grateful for your inspiration and support. ❤️🙏

    • @madisonray9295
      @madisonray9295 Рік тому +6

      3 months radio silence?

    • @diilain
      @diilain Рік тому +9

      This is great news, I hope you guys are a great success moving forward.

    • @JasonSmith-sl5kt
      @JasonSmith-sl5kt Рік тому +10

      Thank you for sharing that! It gives me a major amount of encouragement to keep going!

    • @RickySpanish12344
      @RickySpanish12344 Рік тому

      @@madisonray9295 Radio silence meaning there was no contact at all.

    • @MrRightisgood
      @MrRightisgood Рік тому +1

      @@RickySpanish12344 Also, I need to mention that my ex is an avoidant so... that makes it even more complicated 🤦‍♀️

  • @Csi807
    @Csi807 3 роки тому +611

    Coach Lee is mad at them for hurting us! Lol. He’s the best.

  • @elijah_lees
    @elijah_lees 2 роки тому +447

    As someone who was the dumper and is about 6 weeks into the post breakup experience, I can tell you that everything he says in his videos about the psychology of this end of things is exactly correct. Trust the no contact, because it really is fucking with my head.

    • @shweine_marion
      @shweine_marion 2 роки тому +17

      Did you ever make it right??

    • @elijah_lees
      @elijah_lees 2 роки тому +145

      @@shweine_marion “making it right” is relative to the situation, but yes, we are back together, and better than ever. I will not make this mistake again.

    • @shweine_marion
      @shweine_marion 2 роки тому +37

      @@elijah_lees wow. Good for you Elijah. I wish you guys all the best moving foward.

    • @brandonohara4122
      @brandonohara4122 2 роки тому +13

      Wow good to hear the perspective from the other side.
      What was the reason(s) you broke up?

    • @diilain
      @diilain Рік тому +19

      Yes, but my dumper was straight into another relationship....for me that has been a jagged little pill to swallow. I do hope for a conversation at some point though. I'm in NC and that is where I will stay!
      Thoughts?

  • @MrSchmerzen98
    @MrSchmerzen98 3 роки тому +293

    Lee's videos and most of the comments in the comments section are like a lifeline for me, giving me so much hope... not necessarily that she'll come back, but that things will get better eventually, whatever the outcome.

    • @julifunnygirl71
      @julifunnygirl71 3 роки тому +10

      Same here. It helps so much to know I'm not alone.

    • @legendarystatus4705
      @legendarystatus4705 2 роки тому +3

      You gotta give an update rn

    • @joshmcgowan4376
      @joshmcgowan4376 2 роки тому

      Can we get an update ?

    • @MrSchmerzen98
      @MrSchmerzen98 2 роки тому +17

      Answering requests, the update: she hasn't come back, nor do I think she ever will. However, things are indeed going much better with my life. If I can survive this, anyone can. Just focus on improving as a person, helping people that are in even worse situations and having fun, and soon enough you won't even have mental room to suffer that much.

    • @antanasnarkus8213
      @antanasnarkus8213 2 роки тому +1

      i feel u brother

  • @TheAsmaahmed
    @TheAsmaahmed 3 роки тому +683

    "If you are going through hell, keep going" - Winston Churchill

    • @mtayala
      @mtayala 3 роки тому +3

      No you're thinking of Rodney Atkins

    • @xavturner7537
      @xavturner7537 2 роки тому +9

      Also said “success is not final. Failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts”

    • @angelaadjei851
      @angelaadjei851 2 роки тому +1

      Noooo my dear I can't ♥️ ❤️ 💕 too much

    • @tbri5852
      @tbri5852 2 роки тому

      Love it

    • @maheshfeb3
      @maheshfeb3 2 роки тому +1

      Wallah this made me laugh in this crazy phase 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @XD-vs7zt
    @XD-vs7zt 3 роки тому +82

    30 days into no contact.
    It was hard in the beggining, but it is easier now.
    I am healing and focusing on personal growth.

  • @rickcope3226
    @rickcope3226 3 роки тому +178

    If you had a great relationship. There is a great chance they will revisit the idea of coming back to you. In the meantime concentrate on personal growth

    • @yswen828
      @yswen828 3 роки тому

      @ Rick, are you talking about long term or short term r’ship?

    • @rickcope3226
      @rickcope3226 3 роки тому +9

      @@yswen828 I’m no expert. It depends on how they truly felt at one time. If you both were in love. That’s great. Because attachment is hard to get over

    • @yswen828
      @yswen828 3 роки тому

      @@rickcope3226 I have a question...when we broke up, he didn’t say “goodbye it was nice knowing you.” Does that mean he will come back?
      What do you want to know? It’s kind of hard to explain.

    • @rickcope3226
      @rickcope3226 3 роки тому +1

      @@yswen828 like. Was there any mention of marriage?

    • @rickcope3226
      @rickcope3226 3 роки тому

      @@yswen828 my girlfriend left me for someone else after 13 years. No goodbye or reason why. Go through not no contact. It is your only chance

  • @willowwhite7196
    @willowwhite7196 3 роки тому +27

    No contact is the best medicine against toxic people.

  • @60secondloveadvice
    @60secondloveadvice 3 роки тому +116

    Love this. Very well explained. There are so many coaches who advocate no contact as a trick to get your ex back but they rarely mention that after no contact you’ll be a better and stronger partner for your next partner - whether that be your ex or someone you’ve never even met yet.

    • @butterfly4537
      @butterfly4537 2 роки тому +2

      "no contract" - good Freudian slip :-D

  • @sunjoy6858
    @sunjoy6858 3 роки тому +66

    I just wonder, how many girls felt in love with Lee during healing through those videos😂😂

  • @mckennaross7855
    @mckennaross7855 3 роки тому +46

    Wow! I have to say that you are one of the best coaches that I’ve seen on UA-cam. You have a really positive and calming presence and it has helped me get through these hard times. I haven’t spoken to my ex since the middle of November. He sent me a text message on Christmas but didn’t bother to tell me Happy Birthday on Christmas Eve. He is soooo PETTY! Recently he’s been sending me one text message every weekend and he’s been getting more desperate with every message. NO CONTACT DOES WORK! Thanks Coach Lee!

    • @MaRiAm936
      @MaRiAm936 3 роки тому +1

      You go girl 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

    • @mckennaross7855
      @mckennaross7855 3 роки тому +5

      I still haven’t spoken to my ex since November. He continues to send me messages and calls me regularly. He even called and texted me from someone else’s phone two weeks ago because I blocked him in November. My best friend is so proud of me for finally moving on with my life. I’ve been working on myself for the last 6 months and I feel much better. I have weak moments from time to time, but thanks to Coach Lee’s encouraging videos I’ll be just fine. 🙂

    • @rambo8218
      @rambo8218 2 роки тому

      @@mckennaross7855 if he's reaching out... You should talk to him... What are you thinking?

  • @indiana091
    @indiana091 3 роки тому +18

    No contact absolutely works, it took my girlfriend about 4 weeks to text me and say that not talking was stupid and we should meet up, that was 2 years ago!

    • @indiana091
      @indiana091 3 роки тому

      @@paigemarvel2129 You apparently didn't understand what I said.

  • @ibr4039
    @ibr4039 3 роки тому +30

    I swear No contact really worked for me .now we're back together .thank you soooo much❤

  • @ChrisDamoneIsNotFunny
    @ChrisDamoneIsNotFunny 2 роки тому +97

    I can’t thank you enough for your videos. I’ve been dealing with this all by myself and you have been a lifeline for me.

    • @joshmcgowan4376
      @joshmcgowan4376 2 роки тому +1

      U hanging in there bro ? Still on NC?

    • @zainabmusadagona8918
      @zainabmusadagona8918 2 роки тому

      I can recommend you to (Mr oduma )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems

    • @zainabmusadagona8918
      @zainabmusadagona8918 2 роки тому

      十2348073788494♻️♻️🎦🚻识你...

    • @zainabmusadagona8918
      @zainabmusadagona8918 2 роки тому

      Message or call

  • @mariomagtanggol348
    @mariomagtanggol348 3 роки тому +22

    I did no contact for 3 years now. It worked i dont even remember her face!

    • @Tugus_Mugus
      @Tugus_Mugus 2 місяці тому

      But you still thought about them, so maybe another 3 years?

  • @davidhammonds7770
    @davidhammonds7770 3 роки тому +27

    5 months no contact , she doesn't give 2 f@#*s . And neither do I now. Thanks coach you have helped achieve that . I've worked on myself and gonna keep pushing for a better me . She'll never find anyone as nice as me , good luck to her I hope she finds happiness. I truly mean that . Anyone reading this if you want decent man here I am 🙂

  • @kimberly6021
    @kimberly6021 3 роки тому +27

    No contact worked after 3 weeks and I just wanted to thank you for your videos. I binged watched when I felt bad and I'm back with my ex but I'm the one regretting now and it's okay cause my heart will never break...thank you coach lee

  • @airt698
    @airt698 10 місяців тому +5

    Found this just in time!!! 3rd day of no contact. Getting stronger daily and taking the power back!! Can’t wait to update you

    • @Lol1337forever
      @Lol1337forever 10 місяців тому +1

      I’m also looking forward to follow your progress

    • @lordkillohendrix-8501
      @lordkillohendrix-8501 8 місяців тому +1

      Any progress report?

    • @airt698
      @airt698 8 місяців тому

      @@lordkillohendrix-8501 I broke it. In friend zone for like 2 weeks but I’m seeing someone and so is she, had I followed instructions maybe the outcome would have been better but surprisingly I feel our break up was a blessing in disguise I no longer want her back and she’s shown signs of jealousy about my new person and I’m not jealous of hers. Sorry for the bad news brother

  • @kikivasq3894
    @kikivasq3894 3 роки тому +52

    Its been a little over a month since the break up and it will be a month of no contact on the 31st. Your videos keep me going Coach Lee, thank you. I hope I can get to a point where I dont feel like I have to binge or comment on videos anymore❤

  • @payelhossain8181
    @payelhossain8181 3 роки тому +114

    Day 13 and I nearly gave up.. Thank you coach lee for helping me go through this and also thanks to all the dumpees haha for positive and success stories! keep them coming I get so motivated!

    • @trabae6546
      @trabae6546 2 роки тому +5

      Are you still NC? I’m on day 10. This is so hard

    • @isabellakendall1730
      @isabellakendall1730 2 роки тому +2

      Yes tell us what happened

    • @pvz0484
      @pvz0484 2 роки тому +1

      Please update

    • @LabradoodleTofuBoy
      @LabradoodleTofuBoy 2 роки тому +2

      After being a loser for 3 days, I finally started the real NC. It's like an emotion roller coaster. There are days I feel alive, and there are days I want to fly a white flag. 5 days now NC and I will keep at it. Coach Lee is right. I can't gamble my dignity. No more crumbs coach!

    • @brandonohara4122
      @brandonohara4122 2 роки тому +1

      @@LabradoodleTofuBoy yes! Some days I'm good, others not so much. It fluctuates throughout the day to be honest. I'm on 6 weeks since break up and 4 weeks of NC.
      To be honest, it's gonna end up being exactly what it's suppose to be. I'm just doing things for myself and really blossoming. It sucks though man. Not gonna lie. It won't always be like this though.

  • @supportmarxism4072
    @supportmarxism4072 3 роки тому +5

    Works 100%, I realized after begging and pleading to save a 15 yr relationship, I didn't want it bc of all the cheating and lying this person did to me. No contact gave me clarity and freedom, being single isnt so bad, not at all and I was frightened to death of it.

    • @pascaljuno3663
      @pascaljuno3663 3 роки тому

      Wh@tsAPP him for help

    • @supportmarxism4072
      @supportmarxism4072 3 роки тому +1

      @@pascaljuno3663 No contact allows you to clear your head and take a step back and put things into perspective. Do I really want to be with someone who betrayed me, then had no remorse for doing so? Ummmm no, bc I would never have done it to her.

  • @hannagg9365
    @hannagg9365 2 роки тому +5

    What’s sad is that I’m the ‘dumper” and I’m watching these videos bc I’m experiencing all the “dumpee” feelings. Ughhhhhh!!! We need a video for this situation!

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  2 роки тому +1

      I am doing a SuperChat at 6 pm central which is in about 3 hours here on my channel. I’ll be answering questions live and you are welcome to ask this one there.

    • @aaryarej9018
      @aaryarej9018 2 роки тому

      Please tell me about it I'm in the same situation right now and it hurts tooo muchhh!!

    • @caseywalsh2172
      @caseywalsh2172 5 місяців тому

      Are you doing any live videos?

  • @cindys2995
    @cindys2995 3 роки тому +8

    If only I knew then what I know now - LET PEOPLE GO! Peace will soon follow!

  • @Cuebix
    @Cuebix 3 роки тому +15

    Thanks for this advice. I was hit with the “I need sometime apart”. Similar to what you said she had already prepared her reasoning but by means of speaking to her friends I guess to validate her decision. I said there was no point as I didn’t want to be left in suspense, gathered my stuff and left.
    My regret is that by not communicating with her on that day I acted irrationally and that I concluded our relationship due to being so hurt.
    I didn’t want my reaction to be a power play to gain control by means of manipulation to take back what she said, I was just hurt to be feeling so rejected after everything we’d been through.

  • @Liz-dragon-street.
    @Liz-dragon-street. Рік тому +4

    When the break up happens and you dont want it ....
    Yes its true, no contact works!!!
    They have 2 go through all the stages.. but trust me, you also have 2 go through all the stages!
    You have 2 feel pain, lost, etcetera etcetera ...
    Wait until YOU find yourself back!
    It can take months and months 2 let them go in your mind.
    And when you really moved on in your own life ...
    When you have new friends, a "new job", new energy, and you can see in the mirror a new you ❤❤❤ thats the time when they can come back in your life..
    Thats the moment when you can make a clear decision if you want them back.
    Trust me it can take months, a year.. but when you are there ... and you can face yourself in the mirror with self pride and self respect❤ that is the moment!
    It is hard 2 let go of your dreams about the other person ..
    Dont hate them, but feel the love just the love you found back in yourself about who you are!
    ❤❤❤
    Nobody can use you and never ever lower your self esteem!
    This was a journey that in the end made me a better person 🙏💯
    Thank you Coach Lee 🎉🎉🎉 you gave me back myself 💫

  • @connorbouch354
    @connorbouch354 3 роки тому +14

    Your videos make this sudden exam, open book. Thankyou.

  • @JulieZeller
    @JulieZeller 3 роки тому +4

    No Contact is not to get your ex back but to heal yourself and make yourself better. IF you are lucky they MIGHT come back. The important thing is to get your self back to a healthy place.

    • @JulieZeller
      @JulieZeller 3 роки тому

      @@victoryjamess5519 That is as bad as texting him out right. BAD advice.

  • @westyNUFC
    @westyNUFC 3 роки тому +10

    @coachlee you've saved my sanity. I really messed up when she broke up with me, I was a mess and took it so bad. But you still give me faith. I owe you a beer brother.

  • @jasonniffen3043
    @jasonniffen3043 3 роки тому +14

    Hey coach, thank you for your videos. My gf of 4 months broke up with me on the 10th due to her poor mental health, and it really hurt. I'm currently almost a week into no contact, and your videos help a lot. Even though she may not come back, your content gives me some semblance of peace.

    • @kerrykyabega9276
      @kerrykyabega9276 2 роки тому

      I am having the same issue. Any updates mate? She came back to you

    • @danmtch
      @danmtch 2 роки тому

      @@kerrykyabega9276 and me

    • @kRaf76
      @kRaf76 Рік тому

      Identical situation brotha. Need an update

    • @jasonniffen3043
      @jasonniffen3043 Рік тому +1

      Sorry guys it didn't work out. @riley nasrallah

    • @kRaf76
      @kRaf76 Рік тому

      @@jasonniffen3043 she never contacted you?

  • @retardedgunky2451
    @retardedgunky2451 3 роки тому +157

    You should do a skincare routine video next, coach lee. 🤣

    • @Katie-t1b
      @Katie-t1b 3 роки тому +7

      And a hair routine lol

    • @aroojaziz
      @aroojaziz 3 роки тому

      lol 😂

    • @BambiOnIce19
      @BambiOnIce19 3 роки тому +5

      I do love his new haircut...😃

    • @danmccollum215
      @danmccollum215 3 роки тому +5

      it looks ike his camera has some kind of skinsoftening effect on though :)

    • @kevinvanhorsing5141
      @kevinvanhorsing5141 3 роки тому

      Maybe guys cause u shallow that's why u hear..instead on focus in the knowledge he is giving us..

  • @sherirunions7966
    @sherirunions7966 5 місяців тому

    I'm going through a break up right now, one week in. At first I contacted him and did all the things. This is day 3 of no contact for me. We had a great relationship, being an older couple...him 48 and me 55, but he was going through a divorce and we got together about 6 months after his separation. He said he needed his freedom, and we ended things. At first, I wanted to hate him, but he treated me so well, and we really had so many great times.
    These videos are really helping me stay strong. Thank you.

  • @Ash-k458-7
    @Ash-k458-7 3 роки тому +8

    They’re letting you contact them..”what a wonderful person they are” 😂 sad but so true 😂

  • @lelimitededition4219
    @lelimitededition4219 2 роки тому +3

    Couch Lee you are the best, “sometimes people say it’s a good idea to keep the lines of communication open, it’s not a good idea, it’s not a good idea, it’s a bad idea” lol 😂 couch Lee you are the best. 3 months in no contact my ex went crazy is angry with me and on smear campaign. Moving on don’t want her back but no contact was hell but helped me heal well.

    • @bigrelly2001
      @bigrelly2001 2 роки тому +1

      Congratulations bro. Yeah never ever take a EX back trust me.

    • @lelimitededition4219
      @lelimitededition4219 2 роки тому

      @@bigrelly2001 yea my ex unblocked me and messaged me asking how I am doing I replied “you broke up with me, disrespected me, blocked me on everywhere, when you blocked me on everywhere I blocked you out of my life, why are you contacting me?” She deleted her message immediately 😆😂😂🤣

  • @Woburngirl68
    @Woburngirl68 Місяць тому

    After 6 years of a toxic relationship..7 months if being strung along with client treatment/ignored..saying will should be friends for now..found out 4 days ago he has a girlfriend..our connection is intense..been watching these videos for the past three months...it's all make sense Coach Lee makes sense..been really analyzeing our relationship..it was so abuse...I did all the wrong things the past 7 months..Started NC two days ago..I will conquer NC..I deserve to respect myself and reinvent myself..

  • @Tyreek99
    @Tyreek99 3 роки тому +19

    Honestly guys normally come back, women don’t look back and don’t give a f*ck 🤷🏽‍♂️

    • @MaRiAm936
      @MaRiAm936 3 роки тому +2

      Yeah they come back for an ego boost or when they found that the grass isn't greener

    • @MaRiAm936
      @MaRiAm936 3 роки тому +4

      And as a woman I can tell you that we do look back and miss you but sometimes the pain is pretty bad that prevent uns from going back.

    • @Tyreek99
      @Tyreek99 3 роки тому +4

      @@MaRiAm936 That I don’t understand... seeing as the woman left the man ... what is soooo painful that YOU can’t look back ?

    • @brielleharmony7568
      @brielleharmony7568 3 роки тому

      @@Tyreek99 not every situation has the women left the man also what is there not to understand if a man has done a women dirty and she left him why would she come back to face more pain ? Examples such as cheating mental abuse ,physical abuse etc and before you say it yes we know women do these things to men also .

    • @joycearguelles8242
      @joycearguelles8242 3 роки тому +1

      When a woman is done it's done most of the time

  • @martinseagon670
    @martinseagon670 2 роки тому +1

    stayed strong for 2 years now .... companies success is about to take off...she wanted to come back 5/6times within the first year I stayed strong as I could not get over the disappointment I was left with... walked away and never went back !

  • @marieharla6920
    @marieharla6920 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you for your insightful advice Coach Lee! As I journey through no contact, your videos have been so helpful and provided me with powerful perspective. I like how you included affirmations to say out loud even though it sounds silly! I’ve been implementing this, and it makes me feel strong and courageous.

  • @lucid2571
    @lucid2571 3 роки тому +2

    Last night was the final straw for me. He wanted to continue being just friends and talking until he was ready for a relationship again. I waited 5 months. He said he still loves me and cares about me. I told him I was done and i want to go no contact. At first he was like no I want to talk to you still and the he finally said “I guess”. He didn’t text me today, and neither did I. I pray I can do the NC.

  • @stephaniecartagena1347
    @stephaniecartagena1347 Рік тому +2

    Would appreciate a video on dealing with loneliness during no contact when you’re actually trying to let go and move on without jumping into a rebound. It would be unfair for me to consider being with someone while I am emotionally unavailable and I want to experience all the waves of this divorce so I can be a better partner for the next person

  • @brianfernandes310
    @brianfernandes310 3 роки тому +11

    Coach Lee you are a savior, you always ease my mind and anxiety

  • @cocobird8289
    @cocobird8289 Рік тому +2

    I cannot believe it! My ex reach out with me after 3months of no contact!NC really works!

  • @Wurzelkopp
    @Wurzelkopp 3 роки тому +3

    8 Months since the break up, NC since October because we had unfinished buisness - nothing.
    Its better for you all, that you consider more, that she/he does not come back. Its healthier for you

    • @Wurzelkopp
      @Wurzelkopp 3 роки тому

      @@jakejordan6572 dont get on my nerves with you bullsh***
      Iam already over the hump

    • @Wurzelkopp
      @Wurzelkopp 3 роки тому

      @@jakejordan6572 Did you have any references of him ? Website ? Some LEGIT sources of him ?

    • @gaoang3391
      @gaoang3391 3 роки тому

      @@Wurzelkopp let me report them

  • @msingh9634
    @msingh9634 3 роки тому +3

    He finished with me after I tried so hard. I feel I won’t find anyone now and will remain single forever.

  • @Jayf4679
    @Jayf4679 Рік тому +1

    Hi. Its been a week since my girlfriend of 8 months broke up with me. She broke up with me on the plane, returning home from an amazing holiday in Bali.
    She said she has lost all emotional feelings for me and doesnt think she will feel the same positive way she did in the beginning. I have taken full responsibility and have apologise to her many times for causing unnecessary disagreements.
    She says, she cant keep on having the same conversation over and over and nothing changes. She also said we are no longer compatible and should go our separate ways.
    Iam and have been feeling very low and anxious over the last week. I did message her a few times to try and convince her that we should put this behind us and move on.
    I have now gone into No contact. I am hoping that she may contact me one day.
    Thank you Coach Lee for your videos and knowledge. This gives me hope for the future.
    I am beginning to think that she might not contact me, as i now feel she might be an avoidant. However the lines of communication are still open.
    Do you think she might reach out during No contact?
    I am completely devastated now.
    Jason from the UK

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому +1

      Jayf4679, I am so sorry about your girlfriend calling your relationship off. That's very painful. Since you are in NO Contact, you never know, she could have a change of heart. I recommend Coach Lee's Workshop which will help you. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

  • @isobotINDIA
    @isobotINDIA 3 роки тому +11

    Your words made me strong it’s been more than 6 months and I was thinking to contact her but now I will not ever whether she comes back or not.
    Thank you coach lee 🙏🏼

  • @daryapersia
    @daryapersia 3 роки тому +10

    Wish me luck guys it’s been 16 days now and it hurts I miss him so much I lost weight but I’m strong to stay in no contact. I’m afraid that he doesn’t even think about me or not important anymore. I stay busy but it’s hard. Wish me luck😞

    • @daryapersia
      @daryapersia 3 роки тому

      @@dwightschrute8141 still nothing. Next Sunday it will be 30 days. I read so many comments that they came back after 6 8 months but how do they take them back? I mean you don’t know what they’ve done with other woman so NO I’m not gonna wait so long. I wrote a letter and if the day comes I will send it and delete everything then I’m really done… I think I wait to 40,45 days and then it’s over… we had this no contact before and he wrote after 8 days that he loves me etc. but this time… we’ll see I’ll keep an update

    • @seankennedy9662
      @seankennedy9662 3 роки тому

      @@daryapersia that’s what I love about NC. Either they come back, or you realize they never deserved you.
      And he obviously didn’t deserve you!!

    • @daryapersia
      @daryapersia 3 роки тому +2

      So update is he contacted me today and said : hey I don’t know if you blocked me but I wanted to try and see what you’ve been up to.
      WTF go to hell… I know that some of you would be happy but to be honest I don’t trust anymore I saw that he was on vacay and I don’t know what he did. with other woman etc so no I’m done

    • @seankennedy9662
      @seankennedy9662 3 роки тому +1

      @@daryapersia it sounds like you moved on, which is the ultimate victory in this situation!! I wish you the best 😊
      I hope I have the strength to tell my ex no when she reaches out to me to get her stuff from my place.

    • @daryapersia
      @daryapersia 3 роки тому

      @@seankennedy9662 you will. I really thought I would cry out of happiness or so but it was not like I thought I think because it’s too late. You will have the strength. Who does she think she is? The queen?

  • @scottwarner1017
    @scottwarner1017 Рік тому

    Lee is speaking a lot of sense. I went through a break up almost 20 years ago.
    I found a life coach, Homer Mcdonald , I worked with similar ideas. I didn't contact her, I moved on, I divorced her quickly.
    I took back the power, did it work for me, Yes, because I dated & found a better love. This would have confused the sh--t out of her. Don't massage her ego make her feel the loss. I haven't had contact, I don't want contact, my choice, not hers.

  • @willowwhite7196
    @willowwhite7196 3 роки тому +1

    11 months and counting of no contact . God is good!

  • @jbougger
    @jbougger Рік тому +1

    I only wish I would have started NC sooner. I held on for over a month of having pretty regular texts/phone calls, doing everything I shouldn't have done: telling her I miss her, love her, trying to talk her back into a relationship.... Sigh. It's a week and a half of no contact now. Just hope it's not too late.

  • @knzay
    @knzay 3 роки тому +4

    day 546 of no contact. i ben holding on but she gon come back eventually thank you coach lee!

  • @itscoachmorphius123
    @itscoachmorphius123 2 роки тому +1

    Been 2 weeks. I dumped him. He’s been contacting me even after I told him I want no contact. I miss him. But it helps knowing he does too. I’m gonna try and stay strong, and probably cancel on a date we were trying to arrange. I don’t want him thinking I’m even entertaining the idea of still keeping him in my life right now. But it hurts. So bad…

  • @gilberthernandez1291
    @gilberthernandez1291 2 роки тому +1

    when my ex of 7 years dumped me and left me for her long time college friend (Not sure if dating friends ever works out) i was emotional, and had begged her to stay. As a response, she told me that shes going to block me, and i said, "BLOCK ME!". its been 5 days now so lets see if she becomes curious. After all, 7 years together, and her first real relationship, not somthing you can just forget overnight.

  • @antilaw9911
    @antilaw9911 3 роки тому +6

    Good video! But, you need to focus more videos on exes that leave you for someone else then regret it and want you back.

    • @Msapre18
      @Msapre18 3 роки тому +5

      “Need” lol this guy does videos for free we should be grateful

  • @Steve-Pitt
    @Steve-Pitt 3 роки тому +5

    Best ex advice anywhere. Great videos, thank you

  • @lmm222
    @lmm222 2 роки тому +4

    Coach Lee!!!!
    My ex contacted me last night! !!
    I don’t know to to keep back my excitement!

    • @chiamakanze6796
      @chiamakanze6796 2 роки тому

      Hello! I understand how you're feeling going through breakup I can recommend you to the same man who help me get my ex back permanently after 3 years of separation... I will advise you seek his help thanks.

    • @chiamakanze6796
      @chiamakanze6796 2 роки тому

      ➕²³⁴7039882912⏭️⏭️💞
      💞??????????

    • @chiamakanze6796
      @chiamakanze6796 2 роки тому

      Wh@tsapp him🌷🌷

  • @Green89_
    @Green89_ 9 місяців тому

    This is your best video. You explain a lot in other videos, but this video is straight to the point of the entire purpose.

  • @Fre3brd
    @Fre3brd Рік тому +1

    Coach Lee…you have perfect hair and your channel is gold ✨

  • @m.g.g.1974
    @m.g.g.1974 3 роки тому +5

    Dear coach Lee, can you please do a video for the victims of narcs ( or into a unhealthy relationship) who keep changing their minds ( I want him back, no I don't want him back etc) 🙏

    • @jonathanb6911
      @jonathanb6911 3 роки тому

      Yeah, don't respond to this guy in the comments lol

  • @suzannemuliolis6066
    @suzannemuliolis6066 Рік тому +1

    What's weird is that Im actually calmer since he broke up with me. The point of contention was that he left his social media pages open so people could read his posts. Thing was the only people who responded were porn people. He said he couldnt help who responded, yet I found that he had befriended them. When I screenshotted some to point this out, thats when he got ticked and broke up with me. He got even angrier when I didnt crawl back. I remained silent from day one. He didnt block me on Facebook, but he did unfriend me. He didnt make his pages private, but I did. The no contact has given me healing time and reflection time. Even though I love the core person, if he cant give up the ancillary behaviors, he wont get my reality. We will see what happens. Ive lived without him before. I can again...

  • @msuntroll424
    @msuntroll424 3 роки тому

    Guys, please follow every word that is said by Coach Lee. Please. This works. You must follow this.

  • @DarthViper
    @DarthViper 2 роки тому +1

    7 years together. 8 months apart. We have a child. I begged for months. I got her back for 2.5 months and she said she can't do this anymore. 3 weeks no contact. Giving her the break up in this case is about to hit her pretty hard as she is about to be ordered to pay me child support starting 6 months in arrears. I have very little hope. She is literally willing to let go of her own child to get out. This same girl begged me not to leave her weeping on the couch and then left me. We both thought we were permanent. I have no idea how or why this happened. Attraction fell I guess. 7 year itch. I feel like death. No contact is the last resort. I don't think she's going to change her mind at this point. Our poor child... Just dammit. I love her so much. I miss her so much. God please help us...

  • @richricogranada9647
    @richricogranada9647 Рік тому +1

    The NC made me accepting a life without him, day by day. After 2 months the ghost reappeared and I didn’t have any more feelings for him. I found somebody else…

  • @Martha-vk4ep
    @Martha-vk4ep 3 роки тому +3

    We like the tough luv! You're the best!

  • @David11Lux
    @David11Lux Рік тому

    This is by far the best coach on this topic

  • @faisalnasirulhuq2264
    @faisalnasirulhuq2264 3 роки тому +11

    5 months no contact.... 😎😎

  • @xMikeyHardyx
    @xMikeyHardyx 3 роки тому +14

    Coach Lee. I’ve watched all of your videos. I’m currently 20 days NC and without you I’d be a chump. God speed sir!

    • @joshmcgowan4376
      @joshmcgowan4376 2 роки тому

      Update???

    • @xMikeyHardyx
      @xMikeyHardyx 2 роки тому +1

      @@joshmcgowan4376 At about 6 months I moved on and all negativity went away.

  • @genasoriano559
    @genasoriano559 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you so much for sharing your message. I really love it! You make me feel stronger. I can listen on and on to make me feel good about myself..I can relate on.your encouragement.👍👍👍

  • @jasonbrown5993
    @jasonbrown5993 2 роки тому +1

    I want to tell you I like this video cause it's TRUE and you ain't just wanting to make a show off video just to be seen ..I can tell you actually care about people and that makes you a good person but yes I ignored my ex girlfriend and SHE burned MY PHONE UP .so YOUR EXACTLY RIGHT ..thank you

    • @hauwangoshe6765
      @hauwangoshe6765 2 роки тому

      I can recommend you to (Mr oduma )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems

    • @hauwangoshe6765
      @hauwangoshe6765 2 роки тому

      十2348073788494♻️♻️🎦🚻识你...

    • @hauwangoshe6765
      @hauwangoshe6765 2 роки тому

      Message or call

  • @stealth3402
    @stealth3402 Рік тому +3

    im about two weeks into no contact, one month after the breakup. I have definitely improved emotionally, if only a bit but it feels like quite a bit. if it happens it happens, if it doesnt then whatever

  • @MsVhansen
    @MsVhansen 3 роки тому +2

    I did good for 3 weeks and today I was pathetic! I need to move on, but when other men call or message me, I’m too scared and I don’t answer. I just deleted his contact information, so I’m going to work on myself now.

    • @MsVhansen
      @MsVhansen 3 роки тому +1

      I’m still being strong. Made it 3 more weeks. He’s been ghosting me since before Christmas.

  • @dustinspace4474
    @dustinspace4474 3 роки тому +8

    It's been almost 3 months, he seems so happy withouth me, and looks like he doesn't care..

    • @jfkcollector8968
      @jfkcollector8968 3 роки тому +10

      Of course he does, they want you to think everything is okay, give it time, let them reflect

    • @JorDel_1111
      @JorDel_1111 3 роки тому

      It’s the relief period darling
      Soon the Next period will start making them Guilty,Tensed & Ego Boost seeker !

    • @dustinspace4474
      @dustinspace4474 3 роки тому

      @@JorDel_1111 it's been 6 months, still nothing...😥

    • @JorDel_1111
      @JorDel_1111 3 роки тому +2

      @@dustinspace4474 3-6 months is the range
      Don’t worry sis
      If our exes don’t come back it will be Blessing in Disguise 🙃

    • @dustinspace4474
      @dustinspace4474 3 роки тому

      @@JorDel_1111 thank you for your support! This is our second brake up, that's why I'm not optimistic.

  • @dearisqueline4280
    @dearisqueline4280 3 роки тому +1

    NO CONTACT RULE TODAY STARTS

  • @acd1168
    @acd1168 3 роки тому +14

    Yes. They always do.

    • @acd1168
      @acd1168 3 роки тому +3

      @@momodu6322 I dont want him back, lol.

  • @NA-oc7eq
    @NA-oc7eq Рік тому +1

    Your videos are so therapeutic i fall asleep ❤️

  • @All_eyez_0n_me_lp
    @All_eyez_0n_me_lp 2 роки тому +1

    They rebound so they don’t have to experience the breakup

  • @QueenOmaNwanyi
    @QueenOmaNwanyi 3 роки тому +6

    I've been NC for almost a month. I feel different now and I'm not sure🤔I EVEN want him back. I lost a ton of weight. Im back down to 120lbs and I'm sexy as fck. I think I kinda needed this time😬

    • @moniqueg9686
      @moniqueg9686 3 роки тому

      Same! !!! I feel like if it’s so easy for me now to forget stuff then maybe I’m just not invested in rekindling . Want to give another future a shot

    • @pascaljuno3663
      @pascaljuno3663 3 роки тому

      Wh@tsAPP him for help

    • @pascaljuno3663
      @pascaljuno3663 3 роки тому

      +17064308624⏭⏭⏭

  • @michaelking9818
    @michaelking9818 Рік тому +1

    Brilliant this guy just hits it out of the park

  • @albertbo6305
    @albertbo6305 2 роки тому +2

    What are the rules on social media? I have gone completely quiet for 3 weeks now, which isn’t usually like me, and she has been posting near enough every day. Am I being too obvious? Thanks

    • @reeee4vhjk
      @reeee4vhjk 2 роки тому

      You can post own things if you want think in NC it just means you do not post anything directly or indirectly aimed at them or anything about the relationship

  • @jasonrevelation1582
    @jasonrevelation1582 2 роки тому +2

    Sorry, I'm gonna call bullshit based on my own repeated personal experiences. No contact hasn't worked for my past 3 relationships, even when I stuck to it. First one ended in 2009 and I went no contact. She wound up getting married to someone else. Second one ended in 2013 and I did no contact, and never heard from her again. Third ended in 2019 and again did no contact, and haven't heard from her either. Had a knock your socks off series of three 8 hour dates with an amazing woman in 2021 that seemed very promising; she eventually said she wasn't feeling it and wanted to be friends. I didn't agree to friend zone, said call me if you have a change of heart, and went no contact. Wouldn't you know, no word from her either. So either no contact doesn't really work or I'm one horrible human being that isn't missed, which I sure as hell know I'm not.

  • @katiegoin721
    @katiegoin721 3 роки тому +3

    I appreciate you Coach Lee ... thank you for all the help .

  • @hayday9224
    @hayday9224 3 роки тому +1

    Hey folks, i will tell you what the mistake i have done :
    Txting too much (essays) hoping shes change her mind.
    Making her feel guilty.
    Put her first all the time,
    Too much softy.
    Not focusing on my self,
    Repeating the same mistakes,
    Thats few of what ive done, after watching these videos i realise what ive ive done, even we didnt have toxic relationships, she wanted a break up because of her own reasons, its was bs reasons anyway, she said it nothing to do with me, we are a week on break up now. Ages ago i did no contact rule withouth knowing what is it, it was a natural thinh to do not reach out to her, she came back, but this time i dont care if she come back or not, coz im positive guy, if she came back thats fine, i will be more stronger coz i know my mistakes, if she didnt come back, there is a lot woman who deserve you. Remember that. Im saying this coz ou break up was fresh, im watching this videos to understand whats going on with woman mind, their weird as f....

  • @poohk.8587
    @poohk.8587 3 роки тому +2

    I am on day 49 NC & I have realized that I’m starting to feel better even though I miss her but I feel I’m growing. I through “dumbass” friends on both sides have told me about how gorgeous she looks now and how she looks happy. I’m just maintaining my confidence from your videos and hoping 1 day she reaches out. If not thank you so much this had kept me going. Never heard NC broke down like this before day 28 and found it and feel pretty good .

    • @anushkamahraniya1429
      @anushkamahraniya1429 2 роки тому

      Did u guys get back together ?

    • @poohk.8587
      @poohk.8587 2 роки тому +1

      @@anushkamahraniya1429 It’s crazy that you just commented on this and I happen to have her crossed my mind last night. What happened is she reached out the last four months of 2021 4 times. I ignored all but on the last attempt I gave her a chance only to be duped and find out that she was already two months pregnant. It felt like heartbreak all over again but trust me I’m completely better now. I’m learning some people are very heartless and you just have to go on with your life. Stay confident and let God guide you

  • @spareribslover5388
    @spareribslover5388 Рік тому +2

    I went in No Contact last December. I was hoping that my ex would come back but unfortunately she didn't. But I was happy that i followed Coach Lee's advise and walked away with dignity. I took time to heal and work on myself. I started a very good job and I have just started to meet a very beautifull woman. Honestly my ex was less attractive but I really loved her and I still wish she would come back. But okay she is not here and who says no to a beautifull woman who is sweet and likes you? This is normally the time when the ex re-appears...l am curious to see what is going to happen and how i will react if that happens? To be continued...

  • @benmccormack9114
    @benmccormack9114 2 роки тому +1

    My ex broke up with me. She still has our pictures on social media, she wants time and space to think about things. Not going to lie I did beg a bit in the first few days. But it’s been 3 days now Full NC. She even stated how much of a good person I am in the “break up” text and said “maybe in the future we can start over”

    • @KamilJan95s
      @KamilJan95s 2 роки тому

      I’m in a similar situation but I didn’t give her the love and affection she wanted and during arguments I would stop talking to her for a few days. We met up and spoke about things and I could see that she didn’t seem sure about the relationship and when I said after she leaves that’s the last time I’m speaking to her because I need to move on and she started crying. She said I’m a nice guy and I honestly hoped she would message and tell me she made a mistake but I’m still waiting. Today is my day 8 of NC. Just gotta stick at it and if she doesn’t come back then better leaving now than x amount of years further down the line

  • @FerdinandDGr8
    @FerdinandDGr8 3 роки тому +4

    Coach, thank you for your great advice! I truly appreciate it!
    Ps. Thank you for keeping hydrated! Some of these coach's video have dehydrated sticky voices. Not you, thanks.

  • @yousufali3172
    @yousufali3172 3 роки тому

    She broke up with me because her parents won’t accept. It’s been 3 week since the break up and I’m following no contact. I thought she is also going through the pain as I am. But after 21 days of no contact she posted she is very happy now.
    I think I should move on. She isn’t gonna come back.

  • @Elinagilbert14
    @Elinagilbert14 2 роки тому +2

    Didn't know about NC , so i begged and pleaded for 9 days .. he always used to breakup with me and then come back after begging and all . But this time its been 23 days of NC after begging and pleading , and nothing ..
    Told me he is seeing someone else but i am not sure if he is telling me the truth ..
    Also he has blocked me on all platforms .. he always used to do this after every fight

    • @chiamakanze6796
      @chiamakanze6796 2 роки тому

      Hello! I understand how you're feeling going through breakup I can recommend you to the same man who help me get my ex back permanently after 3 years of separation... I will advise you seek his help thanks.

    • @chiamakanze6796
      @chiamakanze6796 2 роки тому

      ➕²³⁴7039882912⏭️⏭️💞
      💞??????????

    • @chiamakanze6796
      @chiamakanze6796 2 роки тому

      Wh@tsapp him🌷🌷

  • @jamesm984
    @jamesm984 3 роки тому

    My situation is different my girl loves me however her 26 year old daughter hates me so after 6 years of dating want to break up with me and just be friends and no contact won’t work because she works with me , I love this person with all my heart

  • @ashdonsimmons01
    @ashdonsimmons01 3 роки тому

    I’m sad not because she will or will not comeback but I’m sad because I miss the person she was and the relationship we used to have. I miss that I can’t take her back anymore even if she wanted to. I feel like it was meant to be more but so many mistakes have been made and decided.

  • @isaacfoster2016
    @isaacfoster2016 Місяць тому

    I want this to work for my ex wife of 17 years and the mother of my children. I just don't think it will. We had a terrible end to our marriage and now are co-parents. She has a new boyfriend who is over at the family home almost nightly... in my bed... we have been divorced since may and my emotions have caused me to seem unstable. I'm trying this NC but I honestly think it is far too late to ever get her back. 😔

  • @NorthernCoveCreations
    @NorthernCoveCreations 2 роки тому

    I really wish no contact actually worked, 14 months later, nothing. He married a girl 17 years younger, she just wants his money but he can’t see it. It doesn’t always work.

  • @danielleferreira4147
    @danielleferreira4147 3 роки тому +8

    Coach Lee you are so handsome! 😻❤️

  • @susanbrophy6057
    @susanbrophy6057 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you you have kept me sane over the passed few days x

  • @aroojaziz
    @aroojaziz 3 роки тому +1

    Very good advice
    Thanks coach
    May God bless you

  • @kienthucnhanh
    @kienthucnhanh 3 місяці тому

    We were happy for six months. And I am his first girlfriend. He even does not have sex with anyone before me (and he is 29). And I think everything is going well. Until i tell him that I think I am falling in love with him, and ask for his feeling.
    Then he becomes super confused and finally break up with me because he think his emotion has stopped developing for me
    It comes as a shock to me😢 and I cannot accept it as i feel that he does have love me (but it can be my imagination also)
    Anyway it has been 5 days of Nc, i do hope he comes back

  • @Tyreek99
    @Tyreek99 3 роки тому +3

    Sooooo what happens when they reach out, but they want to give your stuff back ? 🤧

  • @rachael074
    @rachael074 3 роки тому +7

    PLEASE LISTEN TO COACH LEE. HIS ADVICE AND RECOMMENDATIONS WORK. 🔥💯

  • @classy_gem_veevee6696
    @classy_gem_veevee6696 3 роки тому +5

    63 days strong 🙌 I've had my days of coming 👌🏾 this close to breaking NC I miss him a lot STILL. although we haven't spoken I referred someone to him for business purposes 🤷🏾‍♀️ ...I think that I just wanted to see if he would contact me to say thank you but he didn't..Oh well it is what it is!!

    • @classy_gem_veevee6696
      @classy_gem_veevee6696 3 роки тому

      @@tavionharris7314 🤭thank you so much for that, I really appreciate it. Keep going on your journey as well WE GOT THIS💪

  • @mikeygduv
    @mikeygduv 3 роки тому +7

    We were together 5 years. She left me three months ago. She is dating her coworker who she likely started dating soon after we broke up. She never once reached out.
    This guy was married and his FB still says he is. And he has a baby. I don't know my ex anymore. This is so wild.

    • @egomez0604
      @egomez0604 3 роки тому +3

      Sorry Michael but you may have dodged one

    • @hotta2nitelight53
      @hotta2nitelight53 3 роки тому

      Probably was talking to him while you were in a relationship with her. This situation usually means move on. I always say why be with someone who left you for someone else. Why want them back? If they come back, how do we know they won't do it again? I think no contact works better if they truly loved us and we broke up because of something miniscule. But if there two premises are too far or nonexistent, the breakup is better. No contact helps with healing.

  • @dragonways3336
    @dragonways3336 3 роки тому +5

    this exact same process has already happened before with my ex & she unblocked me and came back, and asked me to be her boyfriend. we dated for a month and she just ended things and blocked me again. lol