Everything Coach Lee says is correct 100. No contact is powerful because the circumstances surrounding my situation was complex. I thought it was hopeless. She reached out on day 46( when those chemicals that create the fear of loss reach their peak) asking for a meet up saying we need to talk. We met and she apologized about everything saying She made a terrible mistake she also said she has worked on her self and she’s asking for another chance to make the relationship better. I told her I’m open to it, but I want to take things one day at a time and she agreed. If you did have a decent relationship that they can look back and miss you, be rest assured that they will comeback. You just need to leave them alone for them to know your value in their life. Coach Lee, despite the fact that she gave a reasonable reason to get back on the relationship, I still don’t want to give it all back at once, but she’s coming so quick expressing how much she missed me. She also called me after our meeting thanking me for giving us another chance. What do I do about this, being that I want to take things slow. I don’t want to be too reserved and seem like I’m ignoring her in a way. Any insight coach Lee? Thank you Coach Lee for all you do. You expanded my knowledge!
Thank you for your kind words. Don’t be too reserved, but still be a bit reserved. Give a bit each day but take your time. Have great experiences with her and let her feel progress but not that she gets it all back at once. Be playful with her often.
I'm in no contact for almost a month we broke up due to under circumstances work system changes, health issue anxiety etc new meds and some family issue. So she told me she has had to focus on herself. Was a healthy relationship very sudden broke up our last day was at my parents birthday. Didn't even know that was our last day together. She asked for a space then broke it off after a week via calls as she was sick we were supposed to meet up 2 weeks ago. Now that it's over were still meeting up in 2 weeks time to face to face talk things out even if it's over. We broke up that our relationship still at its speak. Haven't seen her for 3 weeks now. It would be 5 weeks til I see her. Any advice cheers!
No contact is actually more poweful than i thought... it's funny how doing nothing and feeling nothing brings them right back. Funny thing is i don't even want them back anymore
I was in a extremely short term relationship and she left it’s been 6 days of no contact but she left 2 weeks ago. She ain’t returning. She straight up said she doesn’t want me in her life 2 weeks ago
My ex told me she gained feelings back for her ex while we were dating. He would text her and never told me about it. I wouldn’t think twice to look back. She used to tell me how toxic he was. They can have fun being toxic together
For all those broken hearts out there , stop counting days of no contact. It gets easier with time . Use no contact to get ur self back not ur ex . I did no contact for 18months . approximately 2 yrs ago my ex fiancé cheated on me and that broke me to pieces . She put me in a very dark place that I will never wish anyone to be in . If your ex didn’t value ur presence, make sure you give them ur 100% absence. Use that pain they caused you to ur advantage. My pain fueled me and motivated me to do better and bigger things in life . I’m a different person now 100% thanks to her ... keep ur head up people . God sent u that pain embrace it and do not fight it . God bless u all .🙏
@@cincerepaco keep ur head up . Go though the process . It will get better . It’s up to u and you only how to deal with the pain . Don’t let no one determine ur future. We have all been heartbroken once . It sucks but thats life . Good luck and happy holidays . Stay safe . It could be worse .
Well done, that's great for you. It's only been a week for me, and just 4 days no contact, I'm still hurt and a bit emotional but slowly feeling more in control of myself and feel a bit proud of myself for how I've been handling things since I stopped begging 😳
I got my hair done yesterday and I feel like a new woman. My mindset has switched from “how could he do this to me” to “how dumb he must be to do this to himself.” Do the work, make the changes, take back your power. Your ex will notice eventually. They better hope you’re still interested in reconciliation by the time they wise up.
Going on to 4 months, ex broke up w/me. He has moved away a couple of weeks after, hes disconnected himself entirely from everything, that surrounded me. I know nothing of him and yet, I keep hoping he comes back, plus, I dont have social media, so he cant just look me up. It's been difficult, still hurts the same.
My ex broke up with me for about a month now. He broke up with me for another girl and just last night I have found out that the girl dumped him, well I guess the last laugh is mine. That's what we call KARMA! He is cruel! Good for him!
i'm very relate on this bit similar in my case he dumped me for someone else which is his neighbor girl, then asking me forgiveness and if i trust him, i said yes but since we're back together our relationship would never be the same again haist i'm very tired and hurt specially i am the one who always chased and pleading him, and now it's like he doesn't want to stay away from that woman i don't disrespecting myself again no way🥺
@@heartmendoza3361 I know the feeling of loving a guy to death, but there's a limit... love is blind for lovers can't see until we're sick and tired of their lies and eventually Waking up to their unfaithfullnesses.
it's been 3 months of me using the no contact rule and my ex has already started dating somebody else. At first, my mindset was: "i need to do this no contact for me to have a better chance in getting us back together." but now, my mindset changed to: "i don't care now if he's gonna come back or not.." The no contact taught me that I can live without him even before our relationship, and I admire myself now for moving forward everyday without his presence and this, is how I found myself. I love myself more than anyone else and I wouldn't sacrifice this life for a stupid man. trust me, no contact works in getting yourself back up together. the bonus part is just getting your ex back if you want to. edit: Coach Lee's videos really helped me. Thankyou
I feel the same way, my ex wife starting dating her coworker right away as soon as I left. But feel much better doing me and want I want to do. I still have a long road ahead me since we still have to do the divorce stuff but we deserve better.
@@cheskavergara8192 thx, we weren’t the perfect marriage but I did my best and towards the end I noticed and did everything I could to try to fix it but she didn’t. I fought with every ounce in my body and she didn’t try nor didn’t want to. And now I should do the same.
When my ex gf broke up with me I fought to win her back for 2 months and it just got more pathetic by the day. I loved her more than life itself and all she did was string me along and confuse me with her misleading behavior. I finally decided that I deserve better for myself and gave her an ultimatum because I was in pain. She didn’t take me seriously so I walked away, 2 weeks later she sent all kinds of text messages from “I’m horny” to “why are you ignoring me “ It’s sad that you have to walk away to get respect and appreciation
this is exactly what happened to me basically. a week in now of nc. everytime i would try nc she would drag me out of it somehow then give me breadcrumbs and sex then back ignoring me hardly messaging me. how did it work out for you?
Man, I'm even more pathetic lol. This is our 4th month and I decided to stop and walk away today after seeing all these videos. Never saw how sad I looked from a 3rd party perspective. I want my self respect back and confidence. I don't know if she'll ever reach out again. She seems to have narcissistic traits. All in all I hope she is healthy and happy if this is really want she wants.
I disagree on the let's be friends advice. I told my ex if want to leave and end this romantic relationship, you lost the right to access of any kind to my life. I cut off all contact. At that point why tease myself with friendship when he broke up with me? Being friends keep you hanging, let's them off the hook with guilt, keep tabs on us. Cut it off, no contact. It feeds their ego. Don't do it.
yes, you are right, but... you do not want the ex to think that he can't contact you unless he wants to marry the dumped person straight... that puts impossible pressure. At the same time... if they want to play with you, treat the dumped as a dancing monkey, the coach recommended cutting out 100%, never looking back.
I feel the same. I know coach Lee means well when saying this...but I feel I didn't get to know her to be friends. If she did ask this I would probably in the most polite way or calm way say I'm not interested in being friends.
Thank you for your videos! It’s been 30 day no contact of a 6 year relationship. He wanted out so I respectfully gave him what he wanted I didn’t beg I walked away gracefully cause he wanted out. Each day I’m getting stronger & realize my worth & what I have to offer. I’m not perfect I have my faults but I’m a good person. I realized he not perfect either after we broke up I blamed myself for everything but God reminded he is not perfect so he had faults too. I pray everyone get through there break up it’s not easy but remember it’s there lost. Stay positive everyone when it seems impossible keep telling yourself this too shall pass 🥰
@Thessalonia Worsley me too! We will get through this within time. That’s the part that sucks the time but we must take this time to make ourselves better for ourselves. It’s a process but we can get through it.
@@antilaw9911 that’s what I’m praying for but until then I’m working on myself on being a better version of me. I think of him daily but I can’t stay in the sunken place if I want to be happy meaning making myself happy with myself. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond 😊
11:02 Don't accept friendship with them. Best thing to say is: "That's fine. Hope you doing well" or say : "Yah sure" . Don't act like a friend ! They must not have that control over you. Don't beg them or chase them to take you back. Don't give them an ego boost/ego High. Do not bail them out of their decision of braking up with you. Let them feel the consequences of their decision to brake up with you.
When you get dumped, detach from them emotionally. Immediately look within and work on yourself. Build a better you. Be present in your daily life. Do things you enjoy, and if you haven't done so, study the Law of Attraction and the Law of Assumption. Both will empower you in ways that not even mental health counseling can. You'll build a stronger and healthier YOU that manifests all the things you want in life. In addition to videos by Coach Lee, I recommend videos by Robert Zink, Sammy Ingram and Kim Velez. You can go from devastated to either getting your ex back and being able to enjoy a different version of them, or you can move on happier and more secure.
@@holyhyenas1759 I've experienced the opposite. It was absolutely life changing for me. But, in fairness, your criticism could be applied to just about anything that has a belief system, such as Christianity even. But, there's quantum physics and science behind the power of the subconscious mind and turning thoughts into reality. It healed me in ways I cannot explain. Most people fail because they cannot get beyond the negative thoughts and limiting beliefs. But even Coach Lee is a believer in it. He did a great video on law of attraction. I would urge you to try it again, detached from anything you are overly emotional about. If you want help, hit me up. I don't charge. My name is Adam K. Taylor on Facebook. If not, I wish you well and hope you find nothing but happiness. Have a wonderful weekend!
I've been through so much in my life, that I just want a relationship that works, without all of the b.s. If I have to play head games to keep someone in my life, it's a sign for me to move on.
Having a really hard time tonight missing him terribly it’s been 4 weeks no contact. I want to reach out but I will not...my body and heart physically hurt. :( Trying hard to be strong. Just needed to vent.
1 week of No contact. Still hartbroken, but I AM begining to feel hapines again. I AM slovly getting to now myself better and lovning the woman in the mirror again. 🙏
What coach lee says works! I swear to it, I did it for two weeks and it absolutely worked! Stick to your guns and reach a point where your doing NC for YOIRSELF. It’s difficult and honestly doesn’t get easier but just do it and remind yourself it is a gift to have even had love ever. There are people starving, children crying alone, and many more terrible things. It’s going to be ok. I promise. Thanks coach lee
Please listen to Coach Lee. It is true that when you be showing how mad you are or beg, you are just feeding their ego and loose more power, once you back up, you gain more value and you can see how that hurts their ego and you even feel more confident. Because oneself loose a lot of confidence after someone breaks up with you and one way to get is back is by backing up and stop acting mad or begging. If we don't get them back, at least we get our value back.
Coach lee is the best guys....my ex started contacting me after l stayed away from him and focused on my health and work and looking after my face😊...he even said l look attractively changed lol...now he wants me back so hard and he tells me everyday how super sorry he is and l feel great guys...im still flirting with him but l still love him so much...hoping and praying we'll now get back together permanently 😍 I just want to encourage everyone who are going through a hard breakup that if you know you still love your ex please follow coach Lee's advises coz it works guys...thumbs up to coach lee
It's been one month two weeks today still can't hear from him yesterday was like the first day of the breakup. I cry like never before God heal my heart 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
@Ladifa Javnyuy i feel you i am the same boat but you need to help yourself focus on yourself improvement. feel the pain until it hurts no more dear❤ always put the god to the center of your life❤ don't let your fears be bigger than your faith🙏❤
@@heartmendoza3361 I’m talking a long and think about everything over and over then I don’t feel it anyone one day , beer and road with music it’s what I have now .. so pain
@@gaoang3391 hi dear, sorry to hear that i am also going through hearbreaks because my ex betrayed me before i meant he dumped me for someone else and when we're back together would never be the same anymore we are on and off he always initiate the break up and he just stick to his perspective which is i'm so hurt and feel like he doesn't really loved me because he didn't respect me anymore because he is blindsided for what he have done to me he didn't face the consenquences so i came to the point right now that i need to let him go and didn't look back because i'm being loyal and faithful towards him despite what he have done to me and even we are in LDR. but he doesn't really value how i felt it hurts but i need to accept that we are not meant to be so i will tell you just focus on yourself improvement get yourself back and don't waste your time with someone who doesn't really value your worth feel the pain until it hurts no more❤ by the way sorry i'm not good speaking in english. greetings from philippines🇵🇭💕
@@heartmendoza3361 thanks for the encouragement my ex didn’t betrayed me and he has been good person as always just he said he is not ready for marriage anymore then that is . I’m just think the bad way of him and I ve done all I can , except I’ve been stressed out this summer but he dumped me so .. I’m still missing him and I have to move on and let’s moving on together
"The most sexiest person to ever sexy" haha. In a time where myself, and I would assume anyone watching this, is in the midst of great suffering - that made me chuckle. Thank you!
I think it’s bad for people doing no contact with the expectation of getting their ex back. I haven’t had the hope that he’ll reach out or anything or that it’ll fix anything. I’m just tired of him decreasing time spent with me and never compromising. He has seemed to not really care much anymore if I’m in his life at this point. So, I left him to be truly alone and see how it really is.
Im putting all my trust in No contact rule. First time im using it. Been 38 days and still going , no sign so far. We gotta be strong and to trust no contact .
Oh it's going to be a long time. 30 days is bullshit. It will probably take months bro for your ex to contact you again. So yeah don't wait and worry about her. Just find a new hobby and focus on yourself. That's the only thing you can do right now.
Even when it doesn't "work" it's always the best route for self-confidence and sense of worth. It ended up working for me and I married the girl that I went "no contact" with after 3 months. I even blocked her on Facebook and my phone - I didn't even do it to win her back. I did it to get over her faster and it worked anyway. Thing is - she was a horrible person and I never should have taken her back.
@@James-jx3ro We divorced 4 years ago - she was diagnosed BPD with imminent rage disorder. I was focused on winning her back to prove my love I didn't see how obvious it was that she didn't actually love anyone.
been 2 months of no contact. i’m in a much better place . i doubt he’ll come back cause i think he was using me as a rebound . but thank you . you kept me strong 😭✨✨
Not to give you false hope, but everytime I've been used as a rebound the girl always came back eventually. Last time it took 3 months, but it happens. By that time I didn't really want her anymore though
I went through this 3 times by a guy. He toyed with me like a cat and mouse. The last time he came back after not finding someone better. He was cruel when I was heartbroken. He even used pictures I took of him on our dates to post on a dating profile to snag another woman. It took me a year and half to realize I was truly beautiful and unique and not the type of woman that is easily let go . I finally moved on , found my self-worth and found a good man ! He btw is still single . Not so easy to replace a person who was decent and truly loved you .
Mines is currently using selfies they sent me that I told them I liked on the dating app we met on and posted a pic in the birthday outfit I brought them, then wrote a very passive aggressive bio I already know it’s an attempt to get me to reach out it’s day 31 and I no longer care or feel anything about the break the way I see it is if you’re okay dumping someone for such trivial reasons and don’t have the courage you had when dumping me then just keep on keeping on because I just don’t have the energy to care anymore
I’m determined to get my ex back she isn’t thinking straight we have such a great relationship and I’m such a great man. No one will ever come close to the amount of love and compassion I give to her. It’s only been 1 day and I’m glad I found you from a friend. God bless you man
This is great advice 💯...Focus on yourself guys!! Invest in your happiness at any cost and always be kind and positive. The universe always rewards those with great intentions 🙏🏾🙂. Forgiveness is the ULTIMATE key to happiness
Love Coach Lee!!!❤️❤️❤️ Your videos taught me so much and helped me get through a four week breakup. I connected with a guy and after a year he thought I was moving away and found someone else. After telling him I wasn’t he still wanted to stay with her. I was broken. He revealed his true feelings to me which surprised me and made me want him more. Well after realizing he made a mistake he came back. I followed your advice and kept my dignity. He ended the other relationship and committed to me. Thank you for all you do!
Being sexy is being consistent, Faithful, insensitive won't make your gf or bf feels insecure. Should have security for your partner is a kind of sexy to secure them that they don't waste their time loving you emotionally.
You know what? I've just decided I have to move on. I want to move on. I've blocked him after 4 months. I need to prioritise my mental health and not keep wondering if he'll unblock me anytime soon. He knows where I am, I'm not waiting around for a child to become a man. Sad, but I've gotta get a move on with my life. Thank you for everything, Coach Lee. You have given me so much strength.
You're the best Coach Lee...your videos keep me going everyday...trust No contact and let it go...it will come back in lot of different ways and situations
Coach Lee this is amazing. I feel stronger day by day knowing I was the best he ever had and he will now have to walk this earth alone, for the rest of his life, without my love and support.
I wish I could have listened to you years ago, as this could have saved me and my heart and time. But some life lessons need to be learned from experiences. However, I am still grateful that I have found your channel. Keep on replaying this video in my current encounters. Thank you for giving me clarity and condition me to do the right thing for myself via your videos. More power coach Lee!
Yes coach ....it doesn't last... It happened to me.... We Break up I begged we got together.... Broke up again I encourage everyone to watch and follow coach lee..... He is the best
After I have done so much for this person, and I am much wealthier and supported my Ex when my Ex was out of job, I got dumped. After watching this, I realized that I didn't want this person for now. I move on with my new life. If my Ex wants me back, my Ex should be so much better than before!
Great video as always Coach Lee. Its been 6 months since the split of my 4 year relationship and I’m still in a lot of pain, he has strung me along since the break up and I’ve realised this now, it’s all mind games to keep me trapped and prevent me moving on. I am slowly starting to find myself again and get better day by day now I’ve stopped the contact. Thank you for helping us 🙏💙
@@lauraluluxx stay strong. Think of it as a blessing. Just do you. Mine played terrible mind games and strung me along for 6 months before I finally blocked him. He is seeing someone else and just wouldn't leave me alone.
@@mlong506 I struggle to understand him... he got so mad I went no contact for 2 weeks he blocks me... tbh I think it’s just control, he doesn’t like to be treated disrespectfully and this to him is exactly that. I can’t wait to be over him :(
So true! Because of this advice, when he tested the waters to come back, I responded "I could possibly be open to considering us being friends again, but we'll just have to see." He totally did a 180% turnaround and slowly (and I made sure I kept my excitement in check) earned my trust again.
Honestly!!!! You are MILLION TIMES OVER BEAUTIFUL! What a AWESOME VIDEO!!! Thank YOU ! I still watch you even though I have my EX BACK BECAUSE I LOVE LOVE LOVE YOUR MESSAGE
8 months.. Still feeling terrible man. I never loved someone so much as I still love her. After six years being togheter, after everything we've been through.. She didn't want to continue with me. I became a different person.. new job, own house.. but still so empty. I love her with my whole heart, always did. I don't contact her because I deeply respect her own freedom, it's the only thing I can do. Still hope she will come back. She ain't coming back but I am fine on my own, I never want someone else, I just can't anymore.
Thank God we've got amazing professionals like Lee helping us tell up from down in these situations... As someone with a propensity to constantly blame myself which was very quickly and cowardly picked up by my wasband, I can tell that a healthy dose of protection and righteous anger like the one coming from Lee is life-saving. Thank you for your work x
Such good advice! I asked him if i could repair this, even as friends... he asked if I could deal with being friends, I said I’d like to try.... That message was exchanged a week ago. Right now, I’m respecting his space
This happens with grown men also. I made the mistake , begging. Crying . He ripped my heart out. Cruelty. He came back , left, came back. He became more abusive. He knew every time he left I would take him back n I did. He actually said that at first to be friends n he would call sometimes. I said no that I wanted a relationship. I screwed up . I'm over 50 n I never had to deal with these things thru life. Never had experience. I was married 24 yrs , when that ended my self esteem was way down
Sometimes it’s a Y instead of an X - everything is for the learning and that is self value self love and learning boundaries ! Put yourself FIRST always!,,
Broke up 2x. Divorced him on 16 Oct 20. 15 Dec 20 we started seeing each other again. Found out he lived with another woman 1 month after he disgarded me. I will never trust him again.
Just texted back 'Ok no worries, all the best' and now he's watching my stories. I'm becoming a pro at this now haha. Seriously don't put up a fight, you can't get through to anyone when they are I that mood.
Thanks soooooo much coach. I listen to you several times daily. You make so much sense thanks for sharing I feel so lucky to have come across your channel. I'm a very religious man and feel god has given us people like you to help us in our journey. And you are certainly one of them
When someone gives you a run around and no answers and basically plays games and the argument goes on for 4 hours you're bound to eventually get pissed and say something not so nice. I did and don't regret it now because he wasn't a man and couldn't communicate. All he wanted to do was avoid it and run away so good riddons. In this case he didn't have the looks and showed me an ugly side when he left. I know I deserve better. Men who are 40 shouldn't be playing games......PERIOD! He needs to grow up.
Sounds like my husband. He is a coward. He would rather run away than deal with the problems. It was easier for him to run and hide rather than to learn and grow to be a better man. Good riddance indeed.
My ex messaged me 4 times after the break up , I did no contact it was v hard I was heartbroken, then last week after just over a month she messaged me said she has been thinking about me lots & did I want to go away in a couple of months after this covid lockdown , I talked to her on the phone , I went stayed a night we talked lots , because of personal stuff that’s why she broke up , I went back up for 3 days we have been ok , she knows I’m not prepared to just be used or there when she just needs me , so I’m thankful for coach lee explaining things this stuff works plus prayer 🙏 , I hope we go from strength to strength , hang on in there this works stay no contact , thanks coach lee ,
She actually said her version of staying friends is "I can call you when I have my best days and my worst days and yours always there for me". But only when the guy she left me for pisses her off too much, which is every day apparently. I told her that's not friendship when I'm not even "allowed" to talk to her by my own choice. I told her I can't do this and good bye. We've been broken up for three months now, this is the first time either of us have actually said "this is it, goodbye"
Ive been betrayed and heartbroken and my ex laughed in my face.. all i could've did to ease the hurt was to bow down and cried out and prayed my heart out to god begging him to heal my heart.. now im not fully there but I'm healing.. thank u lord
Lee, you taught that hair and shirt to be sexy! I love your no B.S. delivery and how you do not sugar-coat things. Thank you for being direct, for me, this is easier to understand AND saves time.
Wow! This hits me in a good way Coach, thank you very much ❤. I'm so tired of on-again and off-again relationship. I surely give him his own medicine. I am no one's ego trip.
Very sound advice and very hard to do . I'm trying to stay strong after being duped . How many of you were also totally blindsided by the "I need space to work on me" . Its been 4 weeks and Ive been weak but have a new resolve . I've spent too much time trying to make sense out of nonsense .
If it wasn’t for these videos I don’t think I could get through the no contact period. It’s been two weeks of no contact now. He was proclaiming marriage and we both made mistakes. I was confused and scared. He took it as me rejecting him. Now he’s been ignoring me. I am on the right path I feel. These videos have been a life savor. They give me hope. I just hope it’s not too late. I’ve known him for 35 years. But just reconnected recently. He was chasing me. I messed up. I know if I didn’t he would have married me. I hope I can salvage our relationship as he was calling it.
my ex blocked me and when i realised it she told me “ to make it easy for you. I am dating someone “. She said she met him on Tinder and is serious about him in 2 days and needs to focus on him. I could not believe myself and the end she said “Goodbye”. Thank you Coach Lee for the guidance I am going to be on NC and already feeling much stronger. Slowly i realised that i dont even want her anymore
Thanks Coach Lee. Almost 4 months since the break up. Bought your emergency kit. Shoot. It’s hasn’t been easy. Lots of ups and downs. I’m not sure how ready I am to move on. But know this is the time that I will. I won’t reach out to her. I’m ok with that. Your videos have kept me grounded. I’ve remained in NC since the break up. I appreciate the advice and thank you for making me 💪🏽 strong 😎
Coach Lee, you are very wise. Not entirely sure if I'll get my ex back or more importantly if I will even want him back after all this as its early days but your videos are keeping me motivated and giving me the strength to heal and move forwards. I no longer feel like I'm at his mercy or like he has all the control any more. I managed to find the strength to move all of my stuff out of the house we shared together after watching some of your videos and he even messaged me to commend me on my strength and bravery and that he was thinking about me. 💪 Thank you so much, you're a diamond. Will be purchasing your emergency break up kit, it would have cost me more than that in therapy! Love the hair btw! I wish you well sir!
He was always asking me if he was a good looking man, the last time he did, I answered with, for a 55 year old, graying, fat man you’re okay looking but I’ve seen better. I’m not going to boost his ego anymore. Lately he heard I had a pre-op doctor appointment, he took off to go with me, called to tell me that. Said I don’t need you to go with me, don’t need you for anything. Then asked if I loved and cared for him, asked why should I? It is a waste of my time and energy and I was healing to move on to better. Left him speechless!!
Hahaaa u funny Darlene that's what they do special and take our kindness for weakness been so nice w mine did everything so he shit on me ..hope u ok I'm NC w him
Hello Darlene if u need a friend ...I think we're in the same boat I don't think I want an Allie and womenizer back I cried so much usually I'm strong women
I’m in NC I just started, for a week now, and I didn’t know it would be this hard, I was not the best partner and I can’t finally own up to that, but I’m just hoping and praying she gives me another chance to show her I can be better, and to keep our 9 year relationship going
Hello coach Lee! I just want to thank you for your videos. I’ve learned a lot from your advice in every video. I just recently got ghosted, and it was suddenly. I didn’t expect this at all, because it was actually the second time he’s done this to me. Fortunately, this time, my guard was up, by not letting my emotions control me. I’m ok this time. I’m not even broken with a bleeding heart this time either. I think I’ve gotten stronger, and I’m not going to allow him to hurt me ever again. That’s not going to be a third time. I don’t really want him back, but I still feel something for him, but my emotions are being controlled by me. I feel good that I feel and acting this way. I don’t want him to think that he can crumb me along. I’m just so angry that he got to used me again. I feel so stupid. Thanks so much for the great advice...
Getting ghosted is the most immature response and these ppl deserve the worst. I got ghosted and blocked from my ex fianceé and it's the worst breakup by default
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This is your best video.I couldn't resist to comment lol If dumper gets back and he gets you back without a fight it's a lost case for you. I have a friend. Her guy left her when she got pregnant. Fast forward, their child is 2 yrs old and for the past 6 months he is trying and doing everything to get them back and he ain't giving up. She gave him a lesson. If he leaves again it's gonna be for good. Personaly, I don't think he ever will, because when we get things with no efort/fight we don't appreciate it. Put your asses on the pedestal, get out of your room, stop being frozen in time. Stop revising good or bad memories, it doesn't serve you. Cry out to get it all out and get done with it. When you start thinking of the dumper move your focus on yourself. Stop commenting those weird things "he did me that, he was like this.." You let him doing it to you. Pur yourself first. If he doesnt't treat you well you don't want that for yourself. If you waste your precious time like 6 months, a year on some guy, just ask yourself what could you have done with your life instead of draining yourself out. Stay strong folks.
Amazing coach, seems my ex is narcissist and she is playing in my emotions. No contact is amazing tool to improve myself, grow, and have great people around only!
I've begged for crumbs for 8 long years and all I got was the worst treatment I never thought I would ever be subjected to in my 53 years of life....This individual hurt me as much and as hard as he could, over and over and over and over.... No remorse.... Karma will come to him in every way... It's coming... God Will Show Him Exactly Who He Is and Bring Him To His Knees... I'm someone's daughter too....
Bailing out is a bad thing for sure...yes, first breakup was short lived. Second time around...I used dignity, kindness, and patience and NO contact from the get go! 2 weeks into it!
My three years relationship have recently break,,,,my ex was cheating on me by having dayting sites accounts opened online,he was chatting and flirting with other woman's,,,,and maybe have something outside the relationship I didn't catch him but the way he treated me been in angry towards me for non reason,,,constantly making me worthless it's says alot,,,,,this gives me to think that he doesn't want any relationship with me,,,my hart is broken 💔 I have told him how i feel and that,,that I don't want to see him anymore I'm five days on NC,,,,,I loved him so much,,,,and I think what he does makes me feel that he's the one who broke up with me by looking for someone else..
My ex reached out. Saying she missis me but she's afraid of hurting me again. I told her there's no harm in trying. After a few messages she reacted sort tord me so I ended the conversation. Telling her to contact me if she's more sure about her feelings tord me Hope I did the right thing. All I can say is don't give up they really do reach out if you go no contack, for me this is the 3rd time. And they only reach out if you where a good partner and they still have feelings for you.
@@shvm7489 the first time she reached out was a week after I went no contact Second time was 33 days of no contact And the third time wase 20 days of no contract
I feel like I pushed her away with my insecurities and jealousy and I feel horrible for it. I didn’t fight it when she broke it off, I respectfully accepted it. Been crying nom stop for a week and I’m slowly building myself back up. I haven’t reached out since the breakup. She’s posting more on Snapchat and stuff of herself and I haven’t watched her story, so I see she’s seeking the attention she once had.
Till then we will be shattered into million peices 💔💔. A new shock ...a new punch in every meeting.. Why ? Why ?....... Once a cheater is always a cheater.😪😪😪 We should focus on personal growth and moving on, rather than behaving like a Robot...... The only way out....
I love the way u put it coach lee U make so much sense My partner left me after 3 years been together for another woman It was my fault for not showing him how much he means to me especially at the end of our relationship. He broke up with me close to 5 weeks The first 3 and half weeks I was trying my best to change his mind but no success So after i watched coach lee I stoped contacting him Now it's been for 1 week and 1 day And nothing from him He hardly come on line now I'm sooo hurt and worried if he doesn't come back to me.
I know...after all these months i still love her...n for one year i didn't msg her n tried to call her... though she blocked me but i have her other contact number...n before i went to church after skipping for 7 months...she unblocked me from her one of the social networking apps...n even saw my status (which was a song from Coldplay)...n from then she stopped opening that app...her family problem is one of the main reasons for our break up too... Ny valuable insights of u on this will be deeply appreciated sir... thank you in advance...i still live in her thoughts every day
after your lessons now since mar 2019 when i was dumped....waited 3 months of all reset in the relationship...... now 2020 october she has many partners and now i have a new partner and no longer toxic relationship thanks for your advices ........ I can no longer have a church as a preacher since my exwife has many new partners ,,,,,,,i moved on cheers coach brad GOd bless u
I still have sleepless nights after a month of her leaving, coach lee I just wanted to let you know you are helping me get through this.... it's harder when we have a 7 year old child involved 😥. I want my family back
@Justin Clark well here's an update from 8 months ago, after finding out vital information talking with my counselor I was deliberately being used for 8 years. My ex is a what my therapist says..... a master manipulator, a capital narcissist, and a damn good chameleon! She literally did the same thing to me as she did to her ex husband. So she can take the longest walk off the shortest pier and I actually am mentally more healthier than before. Therapy definitely helps
@Justin Clark man I couldn't be better after discovering her hidden agendas and what she was all about shebcan go back to drinking and sleeping around with random people that's what she's good at lol. Actually I'm probably going to be putting her in jail for making a death threat to my household that my doorbell and driveway camera caught. Please be careful with the next person you end up getting with
Being watching coach Lee for ages, I learnd allot from him even thaugh I never have relationship problems like many, reason why I value my self ( hard) I respect my self, and what I love about lee he help you but he make sure you leave winner regardless you back with your x or not.
Everything Coach Lee says is correct 100.
No contact is powerful because the circumstances surrounding my situation was complex. I thought it was hopeless. She reached out on day 46( when those chemicals that create the fear of loss reach their peak) asking for a meet up saying we need to talk. We met and she apologized about everything saying She made a terrible mistake she also said she has worked on her self and she’s asking for another chance to make the relationship better. I told her I’m open to it, but I want to take things one day at a time and she agreed. If you did have a decent relationship that they can look back and miss you, be rest assured that they will comeback. You just need to leave them alone for them to know your value in their life.
Coach Lee, despite the fact that she gave a reasonable reason to get back on the relationship, I still don’t want to give it all back at once, but she’s coming so quick expressing how much she missed me. She also called me after our meeting thanking me for giving us another chance. What do I do about this, being that I want to take things slow. I don’t want to be too reserved and seem like I’m ignoring her in a way. Any insight coach Lee? Thank you Coach Lee for all you do. You expanded my knowledge!
Thank you for your kind words. Don’t be too reserved, but still be a bit reserved. Give a bit each day but take your time. Have great experiences with her and let her feel progress but not that she gets it all back at once. Be playful with her often.
I'm in no contact for almost a month we broke up due to under circumstances work system changes, health issue anxiety etc new meds and some family issue. So she told me she has had to focus on herself. Was a healthy relationship very sudden broke up our last day was at my parents birthday. Didn't even know that was our last day together. She asked for a space then broke it off after a week via calls as she was sick we were supposed to meet up 2 weeks ago.
Now that it's over were still meeting up in 2 weeks time to face to face talk things out even if it's over.
We broke up that our relationship still at its speak. Haven't seen her for 3 weeks now. It would be 5 weeks til I see her. Any advice cheers!
Any updates on your situation?
....how long were you two together when she broke it off!?
@@VezzyJolisten to this exact video, focus on what Coach Lee says about their relief
No contact is actually more poweful than i thought... it's funny how doing nothing and feeling nothing brings them right back. Funny thing is i don't even want them back anymore
Same. I'm at the 6 week mark and I realized in a few weeks I couldn't imagine going down that road again
I was in a extremely short term relationship and she left it’s been 6 days of no contact but she left 2 weeks ago. She ain’t returning. She straight up said she doesn’t want me in her life 2 weeks ago
I thought I wanted back but talking to him gave me anxiety and the way he treated me was a nightmare! Things I see now....I was like hello no.
My ex told me she gained feelings back for her ex while we were dating. He would text her and never told me about it. I wouldn’t think twice to look back. She used to tell me how toxic he was. They can have fun being toxic together
@@billyb3105 my ex said she was over her ex yet she’d cancel our plans to have dinner with him. Like, bro....
For all those broken hearts out there , stop counting days of no contact. It gets easier with time . Use no contact to get ur self back not ur ex . I did no contact for 18months . approximately 2 yrs ago my ex fiancé cheated on me and that broke me to pieces . She put me in a very dark place that I will never wish anyone to be in . If your ex didn’t value ur presence, make sure you give them ur 100% absence. Use that pain they caused you to ur advantage. My pain fueled me and motivated me to do better and bigger things in life . I’m a different person now 100% thanks to her ... keep ur head up people . God sent u that pain embrace it and do not fight it . God bless u all .🙏
brilliant
Thank you so much for your wisdom. God bless you
This is the best, most positive comment I have read since I’ve been dealing with the pain of a broken heart. Thank you so much! God bless 🙏🏽
@@cincerepaco keep ur head up . Go though the process . It will get better . It’s up to u and you only how to deal with the pain . Don’t let no one determine ur future. We have all been heartbroken once . It sucks but thats life . Good luck and happy holidays . Stay safe . It could be worse .
Well done, that's great for you. It's only been a week for me, and just 4 days no contact, I'm still hurt and a bit emotional but slowly feeling more in control of myself and feel a bit proud of myself for how I've been handling things since I stopped begging 😳
I got my hair done yesterday and I feel like a new woman. My mindset has switched from “how could he do this to me” to “how dumb he must be to do this to himself.” Do the work, make the changes, take back your power. Your ex will notice eventually. They better hope you’re still interested in reconciliation by the time they wise up.
Beautiful
Good for you !!! Gems don't stay unnoticed for long .... If they can't see what they are losing, they never really saw your worth.
Going on to 4 months, ex broke up w/me. He has moved away a couple of weeks after, hes disconnected himself entirely from everything, that surrounded me. I know nothing of him and yet, I keep hoping he comes back, plus, I dont have social media, so he cant just look me up. It's been difficult, still hurts the same.
What a beautiful reaction/action! Perfect! I am happy for you, excellent!
Well, done and said.
My ex broke up with me for about a month now. He broke up with me for another girl and just last night I have found out that the girl dumped him, well I guess the last laugh is mine. That's what we call KARMA! He is cruel! Good for him!
Yep Karma at its best. 😂
Karma relates to experiences in his Next Existence 😙👍
This happened to me, after she got dumped by her new guy she came back to me lol
i'm very relate on this bit similar in my case he dumped me for someone else which is his neighbor girl, then asking me forgiveness and if i trust him, i said yes but since we're back together our relationship would never be the same again haist i'm very tired and hurt specially i am the one who always chased and pleading him, and now it's like he doesn't want to stay away from that woman i don't disrespecting myself again no way🥺
@@heartmendoza3361 I know the feeling of loving a guy to death, but there's a limit... love is blind for lovers can't see until we're sick and tired of their lies and eventually Waking up to their unfaithfullnesses.
“Perhaps you are overvaluing what you don’t have and undervaluing what you do.”
― Jordan B. Peterson, 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos
Great!
Really awesome book!
Started reading it a week after the breakup and it helped alot to get myself together and find new goals in life!
That man is changing my life
it's been 3 months of me using the no contact rule and my ex has already started dating somebody else. At first, my mindset was: "i need to do this no contact for me to have a better chance in getting us back together." but now, my mindset changed to: "i don't care now if he's gonna come back or not.." The no contact taught me that I can live without him even before our relationship, and I admire myself now for moving forward everyday without his presence and this, is how I found myself. I love myself more than anyone else and I wouldn't sacrifice this life for a stupid man. trust me, no contact works in getting yourself back up together. the bonus part is just getting your ex back if you want to.
edit: Coach Lee's videos really helped me. Thankyou
I feel the same way, my ex wife starting dating her coworker right away as soon as I left. But feel much better doing me and want I want to do. I still have a long road ahead me since we still have to do the divorce stuff but we deserve better.
@@Daniel-fb1qd i'm glad you're moving forward, congrats i'm proud of you!!
@@cheskavergara8192 thx, we weren’t the perfect marriage but I did my best and towards the end I noticed and did everything I could to try to fix it but she didn’t. I fought with every ounce in my body and she didn’t try nor didn’t want to. And now I should do the same.
@Cheska Vergara, I can truly relate. We only know we are stronger (and, maybe better) when we r up against "challenges" in life. And time does heal.
3 months of no contact here too! I feel so good!
When my ex gf broke up with me I fought to win her back for 2 months and it just got more pathetic by the day.
I loved her more than life itself and all she did was string me along and confuse me with her misleading behavior.
I finally decided that I deserve better for myself and gave her an ultimatum because I was in pain.
She didn’t take me seriously so I walked away, 2 weeks later she sent all kinds of text messages from “I’m horny” to “why are you ignoring me “
It’s sad that you have to walk away to get respect and appreciation
this is exactly what happened to me basically. a week in now of nc. everytime i would try nc she would drag me out of it somehow then give me breadcrumbs and sex then back ignoring me hardly messaging me. how did it work out for you?
Man, I'm even more pathetic lol. This is our 4th month and I decided to stop and walk away today after seeing all these videos. Never saw how sad I looked from a 3rd party perspective. I want my self respect back and confidence. I don't know if she'll ever reach out again. She seems to have narcissistic traits. All in all I hope she is healthy and happy if this is really want she wants.
only with toxic people, healthy people won't need all this
Unless she has a backup 🥲
“Those people are small, and selfish, and perpetual children…”
LOVED
I hear you coach, the narcissist is the most disgusting person you can ever deal with
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@@rubybarrera5613 is it true?
My ex is like that
I disagree on the let's be friends advice. I told my ex if want to leave and end this romantic relationship, you lost the right to access of any kind to my life. I cut off all contact. At that point why tease myself with friendship when he broke up with me? Being friends keep you hanging, let's them off the hook with guilt, keep tabs on us. Cut it off, no contact. It feeds their ego. Don't do it.
yes, you are right, but... you do not want the ex to think that he can't contact you unless he wants to marry the dumped person straight... that puts impossible pressure. At the same time... if they want to play with you, treat the dumped as a dancing monkey, the coach recommended cutting out 100%, never looking back.
I feel the same. I know coach Lee means well when saying this...but I feel I didn't get to know her to be friends. If she did ask this I would probably in the most polite way or calm way say I'm not interested in being friends.
Yes exactly. Why would you give the keys to a porsche when they don't want to be bothered with the financing.
Thank you for your videos! It’s been 30 day no contact of a 6 year relationship. He wanted out so I respectfully gave him what he wanted I didn’t beg I walked away gracefully cause he wanted out. Each day I’m getting stronger & realize my worth & what I have to offer. I’m not perfect I have my faults but I’m a good person. I realized he not perfect either after we broke up I blamed myself for everything but God reminded he is not perfect so he had faults too. I pray everyone get through there break up it’s not easy but remember it’s there lost. Stay positive everyone when it seems impossible keep telling yourself this too shall pass 🥰
Sounds like my situation. I hope we all heal soon
@Thessalonia Worsley me too! We will get through this within time. That’s the part that sucks the time but we must take this time to make ourselves better for ourselves. It’s a process but we can get through it.
He will be contacting you guarantee!
@@antilaw9911 that’s what I’m praying for but until then I’m working on myself on being a better version of me. I think of him daily but I can’t stay in the sunken place if I want to be happy meaning making myself happy with myself. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond 😊
It's not the Breakup that's diffucult. It's the Memories that Follow.
Stay Strong and keep Your Worth.
11:02 Don't accept friendship with them. Best thing to say is: "That's fine. Hope you doing well" or say : "Yah sure" . Don't act like a friend ! They must not have that control over you. Don't beg them or chase them to take you back. Don't give them an ego boost/ego High. Do not bail them out of their decision of braking up with you. Let them feel the consequences of their decision to brake up with you.
When you get dumped, detach from them emotionally. Immediately look within and work on yourself. Build a better you. Be present in your daily life. Do things you enjoy, and if you haven't done so, study the Law of Attraction and the Law of Assumption. Both will empower you in ways that not even mental health counseling can. You'll build a stronger and healthier YOU that manifests all the things you want in life. In addition to videos by Coach Lee, I recommend videos by Robert Zink, Sammy Ingram and Kim Velez. You can go from devastated to either getting your ex back and being able to enjoy a different version of them, or you can move on happier and more secure.
@1Scuter it's costed me zero dollars
@@holyhyenas1759 I've experienced the opposite. It was absolutely life changing for me. But, in fairness, your criticism could be applied to just about anything that has a belief system, such as Christianity even. But, there's quantum physics and science behind the power of the subconscious mind and turning thoughts into reality. It healed me in ways I cannot explain. Most people fail because they cannot get beyond the negative thoughts and limiting beliefs. But even Coach Lee is a believer in it. He did a great video on law of attraction. I would urge you to try it again, detached from anything you are overly emotional about. If you want help, hit me up. I don't charge. My name is Adam K. Taylor on Facebook. If not, I wish you well and hope you find nothing but happiness. Have a wonderful weekend!
@@freepressright you have a good point here. I’m interested in learning this more
@@thesoulfulscorp if you need any guidance, please let me know. Helping other people is just plain good karma.
@@freepressright I would like guidance. I want to be better in my mental state. This last breakup has me devastated and completely drained mentally.
I taught all my ex's the sound of CRICKETS 😆
Nice lol 😂🤣💀
🤣🤣🤣 I'm gonna learn that and do it next time, genius
Lol, that was cute, jokes on me too! I learned to be a cricket, I guess!
deep 😂
That’s not revenge peewee Herman
I've been through so much in my life, that I just want a relationship that works, without all of the b.s. If I have to play head games to keep someone in my life, it's a sign for me to move on.
Well said 💪
Same😔
Having a really hard time tonight missing him terribly it’s been 4 weeks no contact. I want to reach out but I will not...my body and heart physically hurt. :(
Trying hard to be strong.
Just needed to vent.
J B,you deserve a better man cause you are a precious being!
@@lioydwilliams1850 thank you, that made my morning 🙂
yes you deserve better dont worry 😍😍
J b Remember coach Lee said use your mind not your heart Remember he said your heart can steer you wrong
Any update?
1 week of No contact. Still hartbroken, but I AM begining to feel hapines again. I AM slovly getting to now myself better and lovning the woman in the mirror again. 🙏
Update. He want to get bac together. We Are takling it slow, and starting a New more lovning realationship. This is the man 🌼
@@agnesmarieriischristens6569 how long were u in no contact
What coach lee says works! I swear to it, I did it for two weeks and it absolutely worked! Stick to your guns and reach a point where your doing NC for YOIRSELF. It’s difficult and honestly doesn’t get easier but just do it and remind yourself it is a gift to have even had love ever. There are people starving, children crying alone, and many more terrible things. It’s going to be ok. I promise. Thanks coach lee
Give this man a T.V show! You are a star, coach Lee!
Yes I AGREE!!! And I must say YOU ARE SO HANDSOME.. I AM SO HAPPY THAT YOU FOUND THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE COACH LEE! Thank you for ALL YOUR HELP
Nobody watches the stupid TV anymore as YT is far better.
This man is a genius.
9 months no contact... at the point where I just want whatever makes him happy, if that means us not being together then be it ✌🏽
115 weeks no contact, trust the process
That’s what love is.
Not me. I hope he suffers. That doesn't mean I don't love him. I still do. But he doesn't deserve to be happy after what he did to me.
What about what makes you happy? You will find someone else eventually. Put yourself first.
@@spongedebfatpants1308 that’s not love sorry to break it to you. True love is setting someone free and hoping they are happy no matter what.
Please listen to Coach Lee. It is true that when you be showing how mad you are or beg, you are just feeding their ego and loose more power, once you back up, you gain more value and you can see how that hurts their ego and you even feel more confident. Because oneself loose a lot of confidence after someone breaks up with you and one way to get is back is by backing up and stop acting mad or begging. If we don't get them back, at least we get our value back.
Coach lee is the best guys....my ex started contacting me after l stayed away from him and focused on my health and work and looking after my face😊...he even said l look attractively changed lol...now he wants me back so hard and he tells me everyday how super sorry he is and l feel great guys...im still flirting with him but l still love him so much...hoping and praying we'll now get back together permanently 😍
I just want to encourage everyone who are going through a hard breakup that if you know you still love your ex please follow coach Lee's advises coz it works guys...thumbs up to coach lee
After how many days he contacted u ??
Update?
plzzz update
My ex and I will probably never get back together again, watching these videos just make me feel happy and gives me some sort of hope
You are better off, live your life, but they always call u back. So I suggest started dating
When you've been dumped .. move on! Don't look back it's not worth your time. God has a better relationship in store for you.
I stepped up, I'm not about to step down!
It's been one month two weeks today still can't hear from him yesterday was like the first day of the breakup. I cry like never before God heal my heart 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
same boat
@Ladifa Javnyuy i feel you i am the same boat but you need to help yourself focus on yourself improvement. feel the pain until it hurts no more dear❤ always put the god to the center of your life❤ don't let your fears be bigger than your faith🙏❤
@@heartmendoza3361 I’m talking a long and think about everything over and over then I don’t feel it anyone one day , beer and road with music it’s what I have now .. so pain
@@gaoang3391 hi dear, sorry to hear that i am also going through hearbreaks because my ex betrayed me before i meant he dumped me for someone else and when we're back together would never be the same anymore we are on and off he always initiate the break up and he just stick to his perspective which is i'm so hurt and feel like he doesn't really loved me because he didn't respect me anymore because he is blindsided for what he have done to me he didn't face the consenquences so i came to the point right now that i need to let him go and didn't look back because i'm being loyal and faithful towards him despite what he have done to me and even we are in LDR. but he doesn't really value how i felt it hurts but i need to accept that we are not meant to be so i will tell you just focus on yourself improvement get yourself back and don't waste your time with someone who doesn't really value your worth feel the pain until it hurts no more❤ by the way sorry i'm not good speaking in english. greetings from philippines🇵🇭💕
@@heartmendoza3361 thanks for the encouragement my ex didn’t betrayed me and he has been good person as always just he said he is not ready for marriage anymore then that is .
I’m just think the bad way of him and I ve done all I can , except I’ve been stressed out this summer but he dumped me so .. I’m still missing him and I have to move on and let’s moving on together
"The most sexiest person to ever sexy" haha. In a time where myself, and I would assume anyone watching this, is in the midst of great suffering - that made me chuckle. Thank you!
Yeah, same here.
Coach Lee was the best thing to come from being ghosted! I still love to watch even though I’m no longer hung up.
Gracie Gardener,hope you are with a better man cause you are too precious!
I think it’s bad for people doing no contact with the expectation of getting their ex back. I haven’t had the hope that he’ll reach out or anything or that it’ll fix anything. I’m just tired of him decreasing time spent with me and never compromising. He has seemed to not really care much anymore if I’m in his life at this point. So, I left him to be truly alone and see how it really is.
Trust the process, you learn more about yourself!!
Im putting all my trust in No contact rule. First time im using it. Been 38 days and still going , no sign so far. We gotta be strong and to trust no contact .
Oh it's going to be a long time. 30 days is bullshit. It will probably take months bro for your ex to contact you again. So yeah don't wait and worry about her. Just find a new hobby and focus on yourself. That's the only thing you can do right now.
Even when it doesn't "work" it's always the best route for self-confidence and sense of worth. It ended up working for me and I married the girl that I went "no contact" with after 3 months. I even blocked her on Facebook and my phone - I didn't even do it to win her back. I did it to get over her faster and it worked anyway. Thing is - she was a horrible person and I never should have taken her back.
Stay Strong...
Stay The Course...
@@KenRFoxNashvilleSEO but you went and married her? Are you now thinking about divorcing her?
@@James-jx3ro We divorced 4 years ago - she was diagnosed BPD with imminent rage disorder. I was focused on winning her back to prove my love I didn't see how obvious it was that she didn't actually love anyone.
been 2 months of no contact. i’m in a much better place . i doubt he’ll come back cause i think he was using me as a rebound . but thank you . you kept me strong 😭✨✨
You're gonna make it and so will I keep the Faith Queen
Stay strong
@@miqualhebrewkingrobinson1556 thank you so much
@@shai-fj1ri thank you
Not to give you false hope, but everytime I've been used as a rebound the girl always came back eventually. Last time it took 3 months, but it happens. By that time I didn't really want her anymore though
Msg - Never bail her out wen she's the dumper.
@Johnathan Greay id bet a few bucks my gf will not im employing nc now but its five months later didnt know about coach lee until 2 months ago
I cannot even put into words how much Coach Lee and his videos have helped my mental state. This guy is the best
I went through this 3 times by a guy. He toyed with me like a cat and mouse. The last time he came back after not finding someone better. He was cruel when I was heartbroken. He even used pictures I took of him on our dates to post on a dating profile to snag another woman. It took me a year and half to realize I was truly beautiful and unique and not the type of woman that is easily let go . I finally moved on , found my self-worth and found a good man ! He btw is still single . Not so easy to replace a person who was decent and truly loved you .
Mines is currently using selfies they sent me that I told them I liked on the dating app we met on and posted a pic in the birthday outfit I brought them, then wrote a very passive aggressive bio I already know it’s an attempt to get me to reach out it’s day 31 and I no longer care or feel anything about the break the way I see it is if you’re okay dumping someone for such trivial reasons and don’t have the courage you had when dumping me then just keep on keeping on because I just don’t have the energy to care anymore
Starting a new job next week..that will keep me super busy and distracted from thoughts of him..time for me now!!
I’m determined to get my ex back she isn’t thinking straight we have such a great relationship and I’m such a great man. No one will ever come close to the amount of love and compassion I give to her. It’s only been 1 day and I’m glad I found you from a friend. God bless you man
What ended up happening?
UpdTe?
Man, I would love hear how it ended up
This is great advice 💯...Focus on yourself guys!! Invest in your happiness at any cost and always be kind and positive. The universe always rewards those with great intentions 🙏🏾🙂. Forgiveness is the ULTIMATE key to happiness
Love Coach Lee!!!❤️❤️❤️ Your videos taught me so much and helped me get through a four week breakup. I connected with a guy and after a year he thought I was moving away and found someone else. After telling him I wasn’t he still wanted to stay with her. I was broken. He revealed his true feelings to me which surprised me and made me want him more. Well after realizing he made a mistake he came back. I followed your advice and kept my dignity. He ended the other relationship and committed to me. Thank you for all you do!
You were the back up plan honey
But best of luck to you.
Being sexy is being consistent, Faithful, insensitive won't make your gf or bf feels insecure. Should have security for your partner is a kind of sexy to secure them that they don't waste their time loving you emotionally.
Oh, snap. "I AM NO ONE'S EGO TRIP" awesome Coach Lee!!
❤️❤️❤️ Love it!!
Yes!!!!!
I got that and the words empowered me actually.
Hello my ego trip.. 🤪
You know what? I've just decided I have to move on. I want to move on. I've blocked him after 4 months. I need to prioritise my mental health and not keep wondering if he'll unblock me anytime soon. He knows where I am, I'm not waiting around for a child to become a man. Sad, but I've gotta get a move on with my life. Thank you for everything, Coach Lee. You have given me so much strength.
You're the best Coach Lee...your videos keep me going everyday...trust No contact and let it go...it will come back in lot of different ways and situations
Coach Lee this is amazing. I feel stronger day by day knowing I was the best he ever had and he will now have to walk this earth alone, for the rest of his life, without my love and support.
I wish I could have listened to you years ago, as this could have saved me and my heart and time. But some life lessons need to be learned from experiences. However, I am still grateful that I have found your channel. Keep on replaying this video in my current encounters. Thank you for giving me clarity and condition me to do the right thing for myself via your videos. More power coach Lee!
Me too
Yes coach ....it doesn't last... It happened to me.... We Break up I begged we got together.... Broke up again
I encourage everyone to watch and follow coach lee..... He is the best
After I have done so much for this person, and I am much wealthier and supported my Ex when my Ex was out of job, I got dumped. After watching this, I realized that I didn't want this person for now. I move on with my new life. If my Ex wants me back, my Ex should be so much better than before!
Great video as always Coach Lee. Its been 6 months since the split of my 4 year relationship and I’m still in a lot of pain, he has strung me along since the break up and I’ve realised this now, it’s all mind games to keep me trapped and prevent me moving on. I am slowly starting to find myself again and get better day by day now I’ve stopped the contact. Thank you for helping us 🙏💙
Update - he has blocked and deleted me this evening due to me going no contact with him 😒
@@lauraluluxx stay strong. Think of it as a blessing. Just do you. Mine played terrible mind games and strung me along for 6 months before I finally blocked him. He is seeing someone else and just wouldn't leave me alone.
@@mlong506 I struggle to understand him... he got so mad I went no contact for 2 weeks he blocks me... tbh I think it’s just control, he doesn’t like to be treated disrespectfully and this to him is exactly that. I can’t wait to be over him :(
@@lauraluluxx update?
Any Update?
So true! Because of this advice, when he tested the waters to come back, I responded "I could possibly be open to considering us being friends again, but we'll just have to see." He totally did a 180% turnaround and slowly (and I made sure I kept my excitement in check) earned my trust again.
This was a reminder of misplayed and properly played situations.
Honestly!!!! You are MILLION TIMES OVER BEAUTIFUL! What a AWESOME VIDEO!!! Thank YOU ! I still watch you even though I have my EX BACK BECAUSE I LOVE LOVE LOVE YOUR MESSAGE
8 months.. Still feeling terrible man. I never loved someone so much as I still love her. After six years being togheter, after everything we've been through.. She didn't want to continue with me. I became a different person.. new job, own house.. but still so empty. I love her with my whole heart, always did. I don't contact her because I deeply respect her own freedom, it's the only thing I can do. Still hope she will come back. She ain't coming back but I am fine on my own, I never want someone else, I just can't anymore.
😢 how are u feeling now?
Thank God we've got amazing professionals like Lee helping us tell up from down in these situations... As someone with a propensity to constantly blame myself which was very quickly and cowardly picked up by my wasband, I can tell that a healthy dose of protection and righteous anger like the one coming from Lee is life-saving. Thank you for your work x
Such good advice! I asked him if i could repair this, even as friends... he asked if I could deal with being friends, I said I’d like to try.... That message was exchanged a week ago. Right now, I’m respecting his space
This happens with grown men also. I made the mistake , begging. Crying . He ripped my heart out. Cruelty. He came back , left, came back. He became more abusive. He knew every time he left I would take him back n I did. He actually said that at first to be friends n he would call sometimes. I said no that I wanted a relationship. I screwed up . I'm over 50 n I never had to deal with these things thru life. Never had experience. I was married 24 yrs , when that ended my self esteem was way down
Dumpers are egocentric and you have to take that power from them. Thanks Lee. Im so calm and collected since my break up. Best coach👍🇰🇪
Your videos seriously cure post breakup anxiety lol keep uploading them they're amazing!
Sometimes it’s a Y instead of an X - everything is for the learning and that is self value self love and learning boundaries ! Put yourself FIRST always!,,
Broke up 2x. Divorced him on 16 Oct 20. 15 Dec 20 we started seeing each other again. Found out he lived with another woman 1 month after he disgarded me. I will never trust him again.
Just texted back 'Ok no worries, all the best' and now he's watching my stories. I'm becoming a pro at this now haha. Seriously don't put up a fight, you can't get through to anyone when they are I that mood.
Thanks soooooo much coach. I listen to you several times daily. You make so much sense thanks for sharing I feel so lucky to have come across your channel. I'm a very religious man and feel god has given us people like you to help us in our journey. And you are certainly one of them
My ef gf was definitely one of those people that are so immature that they use breaking up as a way to control me and manipulate me.
When someone gives you a run around and no answers and basically plays games and the argument goes on for 4 hours you're bound to eventually get pissed and say something not so nice. I did and don't regret it now because he wasn't a man and couldn't communicate. All he wanted to do was avoid it and run away so good riddons. In this case he didn't have the looks and showed me an ugly side when he left. I know I deserve better. Men who are 40 shouldn't be playing games......PERIOD! He needs to grow up.
Sounds like my husband. He is a coward. He would rather run away than deal with the problems. It was easier for him to run and hide rather than to learn and grow to be a better man. Good riddance indeed.
My ex messaged me 4 times after the break up , I did no contact it was v hard I was heartbroken, then last week after just over a month she messaged me said she has been thinking about me lots & did I want to go away in a couple of months after this covid lockdown , I talked to her on the phone , I went stayed a night we talked lots , because of personal stuff that’s why she broke up , I went back up for 3 days we have been ok , she knows I’m not prepared to just be used or there when she just needs me , so I’m thankful for coach lee explaining things this stuff works plus prayer 🙏 , I hope we go from strength to strength , hang on in there this works stay no contact , thanks coach lee ,
She actually said her version of staying friends is "I can call you when I have my best days and my worst days and yours always there for me". But only when the guy she left me for pisses her off too much, which is every day apparently. I told her that's not friendship when I'm not even "allowed" to talk to her by my own choice. I told her I can't do this and good bye. We've been broken up for three months now, this is the first time either of us have actually said "this is it, goodbye"
The Response is All the Power that is Possible and WILL give me Power and Strength
Ive been betrayed and heartbroken and my ex laughed in my face.. all i could've did to ease the hurt was to bow down and cried out and prayed my heart out to god begging him to heal my heart.. now im not fully there but I'm healing.. thank u lord
@@brittany.sherell thank u
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OMG something not related to my heart break. Coach Lee gets more handsome! Not only does he have great advice but he is easy on the eyes.
Lee, you taught that hair and shirt to be sexy!
I love your no B.S. delivery and how you do not sugar-coat things. Thank you for being direct, for me, this is easier to understand AND saves time.
The REsponse Shows everyone including ME that I HAVE POWER to Place my needs and wants above others
@coach Lee, You are a healer and wise beyond words . It’s awesome to see some one like you here 😊!
Sharan patil,your pretty smile can make the news
Wow! This hits me in a good way Coach, thank you very much ❤. I'm so tired of on-again and off-again relationship. I surely give him his own medicine.
I am no one's ego trip.
Very sound advice and very hard to do . I'm trying to stay strong after being duped . How many of you were also totally blindsided by the "I need space to work on me" . Its been 4 weeks and Ive been weak but have a new resolve . I've spent too much time trying to make sense out of nonsense .
How is it going?
If it wasn’t for these videos I don’t think I could get through the no contact period. It’s been two weeks of no contact now. He was proclaiming marriage and we both made mistakes. I was confused and scared. He took it as me rejecting him. Now he’s been ignoring me. I am on the right path I feel. These videos have been a life savor. They give me hope. I just hope it’s not too late. I’ve known him for 35 years. But just reconnected recently. He was chasing me. I messed up. I know if I didn’t he would have married me. I hope I can salvage our relationship as he was calling it.
Those people are small narcissistic users manipulators cheaters I love you Coach Lee you're awesome
We are Adults here. We all know the rules. Don't deal with bullshit behavior. Lay down the law
I needed this one. She is trying to guilt trip me in to being friends and help her.
Run for the hills.
my ex blocked me and when i realised it she told me “ to make it easy for you. I am dating someone “. She said she met him on Tinder and is serious about him in 2 days and needs to focus on him. I could not believe myself and the end she said “Goodbye”. Thank you Coach Lee for the guidance I am going to be on NC and already feeling much stronger. Slowly i realised that i dont even want her anymore
Instant anxiety relief. Thank you ❤
Thanks Coach Lee. Almost 4 months since the break up. Bought your emergency kit. Shoot. It’s hasn’t been easy. Lots of ups and downs. I’m not sure how ready I am to move on. But know this is the time that I will. I won’t reach out to her. I’m ok with that. Your videos have kept me grounded. I’ve remained in NC since the break up. I appreciate the advice and thank you for making me 💪🏽 strong 😎
Coach Lee, you are very wise. Not entirely sure if I'll get my ex back or more importantly if I will even want him back after all this as its early days but your videos are keeping me motivated and giving me the strength to heal and move forwards. I no longer feel like I'm at his mercy or like he has all the control any more. I managed to find the strength to move all of my stuff out of the house we shared together after watching some of your videos and he even messaged me to commend me on my strength and bravery and that he was thinking about me. 💪 Thank you so much, you're a diamond. Will be purchasing your emergency break up kit, it would have cost me more than that in therapy! Love the hair btw! I wish you well sir!
@@DavidLee-zq4kiin a bin bag do you mean? No thanks, I'm not a psycho
He was always asking me if he was a good looking man, the last time he did, I answered with, for a 55 year old, graying, fat man you’re okay looking but I’ve seen better. I’m not going to boost his ego anymore. Lately he heard I had a pre-op doctor appointment, he took off to go with me, called to tell me that. Said I don’t need you to go with me, don’t need you for anything. Then asked if I loved and cared for him, asked why should I? It is a waste of my time and energy and I was healing to move on to better. Left him speechless!!
Hahaaa u funny Darlene that's what they do special and take our kindness for weakness been so nice w mine did everything so he shit on me ..hope u ok I'm NC w him
Hello Darlene if u need a friend ...I think we're in the same boat I don't think I want an Allie and womenizer back I cried so much usually I'm strong women
@@carmensmith1453 I’ve cried so much there’s nothing left to cry out, I’m getting stronger every day without him
@@carmensmith1453 girl he’s finding out my strength I cut him so low anymore he doesn’t know how tall he is now, my guess about 2 inches lol 😂
4:29 heed Coach Lee’s Warning of Narcissism/Jezebel Spirit ✝️
I’m in NC I just started, for a week now, and I didn’t know it would be this hard, I was not the best partner and I can’t finally own up to that, but I’m just hoping and praying she gives me another chance to show her I can be better, and to keep our 9 year relationship going
Hello coach Lee!
I just want to thank you for your videos. I’ve learned a lot from your advice in every video. I just recently got ghosted, and it was suddenly. I didn’t expect this at all, because it was actually the second time he’s done this to me. Fortunately, this time, my guard was up, by not letting my emotions control me. I’m ok this time. I’m not even broken with a bleeding heart this time either. I think I’ve gotten stronger, and I’m not going to allow him to hurt me ever again. That’s not going to be a third time. I don’t really want him back, but I still feel something for him, but my emotions are being controlled by me. I feel good that I feel and acting this way. I don’t want him to think that he can crumb me along. I’m just so angry that he got to used me again. I feel so stupid. Thanks so much for the great advice...
Getting ghosted is the most immature response and these ppl deserve the worst. I got ghosted and blocked from my ex fianceé and it's the worst breakup by default
This is your best video.I couldn't resist to comment lol If dumper gets back and he gets you back without a fight it's a lost case for you. I have a friend. Her guy left her when she got pregnant. Fast forward, their child is 2 yrs old and for the past 6 months he is trying and doing everything to get them back and he ain't giving up. She gave him a lesson. If he leaves again it's gonna be for good. Personaly, I don't think he ever will, because when we get things with no efort/fight we don't appreciate it.
Put your asses on the pedestal, get out of your room, stop being frozen in time. Stop revising good or bad memories, it doesn't serve you. Cry out to get it all out and get done with it. When you start thinking of the dumper move your focus on yourself. Stop commenting those weird things "he did me that, he was like this.." You let him doing it to you. Pur yourself first. If he doesnt't treat you well you don't want that for yourself. If you waste your precious time like 6 months, a year on some guy, just ask yourself what could you have done with your life instead of draining yourself out. Stay strong folks.
Amazing coach, seems my ex is narcissist and she is playing in my emotions. No contact is amazing tool to improve myself, grow, and have great people around only!
How’s it going?
I've begged for crumbs for 8 long years and all I got was the worst treatment I never thought I would ever be subjected to in my 53 years of life....This individual hurt me as much and as hard as he could, over and over and over and over.... No remorse.... Karma will come to him in every way... It's coming... God Will Show Him Exactly Who He Is and Bring Him To His Knees... I'm someone's daughter too....
Bailing out is a bad thing for sure...yes, first breakup was short lived. Second time around...I used dignity, kindness, and patience and NO contact from the get go! 2 weeks into it!
My three years relationship have recently break,,,,my ex was cheating on me by having dayting sites accounts opened online,he was chatting and flirting with other woman's,,,,and maybe have something outside the relationship I didn't catch him but the way
he treated me been in angry towards me for non reason,,,constantly making me worthless it's says alot,,,,,this gives me to think that he doesn't want any relationship with me,,,my hart is broken 💔 I have told him how i feel and that,,that I don't want to see him anymore
I'm five days on NC,,,,,I loved him so much,,,,and I think what he does makes me feel that he's the one who broke up with me by looking for someone else..
My ex reached out. Saying she missis me but she's afraid of hurting me again. I told her there's no harm in trying. After a few messages she reacted sort tord me so I ended the conversation. Telling her to contact me if she's more sure about her feelings tord me
Hope I did the right thing.
All I can say is don't give up they really do reach out if you go no contack, for me this is the 3rd time.
And they only reach out if you where a good partner and they still have feelings for you.
After how long?
@@shvm7489 the first time she reached out was a week after I went no contact
Second time was 33 days of no contact
And the third time wase 20 days of no contract
im in that dark place thank god there will be light my soul is shacking
How are u now?
I feel like I pushed her away with my insecurities and jealousy and I feel horrible for it. I didn’t fight it when she broke it off, I respectfully accepted it. Been crying nom stop for a week and I’m slowly building myself back up. I haven’t reached out since the breakup. She’s posting more on Snapchat and stuff of herself and I haven’t watched her story, so I see she’s seeking the attention she once had.
@Ken Hession8 do I stay in no contact forever or reach out after a month or so?
@Sha Dee one second she cares the next I’m nothing to her.
Stay strong... if she sees you are valuable she might reach out
Till then we will be shattered into million peices 💔💔.
A new shock ...a new punch in every meeting..
Why ? Why ?.......
Once a cheater is always a cheater.😪😪😪
We should focus on personal growth and moving on, rather than behaving like a Robot......
The only way out....
I love the way u put it coach lee
U make so much sense
My partner left me after 3 years been together for another woman
It was my fault for not showing him how much he means to me especially at the end of our relationship.
He broke up with me close to 5 weeks
The first 3 and half weeks I was trying my best to change his mind but no success
So after i watched coach lee I stoped contacting him
Now it's been for 1 week and 1 day
And nothing from him
He hardly come on line now
I'm sooo hurt and worried if he doesn't come back to me.
I know...after all these months i still love her...n for one year i didn't msg her n tried to call her... though she blocked me but i have her other contact number...n before i went to church after skipping for 7 months...she unblocked me from her one of the social networking apps...n even saw my status (which was a song from Coldplay)...n from then she stopped opening that app...her family problem is one of the main reasons for our break up too...
Ny valuable insights of u on this will be deeply appreciated sir... thank you in advance...i still live in her thoughts every day
You are no one’s ego trip straight facts 🔥
after your lessons now since mar 2019 when i was dumped....waited 3 months of all reset in the relationship......
now 2020 october she has many partners and now i have a new partner and no longer toxic relationship
thanks for your advices ........
I can no longer have a church as a preacher since my exwife has many new partners ,,,,,,,i moved on
cheers coach brad GOd bless u
I still have sleepless nights after a month of her leaving, coach lee I just wanted to let you know you are helping me get through this.... it's harder when we have a 7 year old child involved 😥. I want my family back
Same. 4 and 5 year old son's. I'm devastated
@Justin Clark well here's an update from 8 months ago, after finding out vital information talking with my counselor I was deliberately being used for 8 years. My ex is a what my therapist says..... a master manipulator, a capital narcissist, and a damn good chameleon! She literally did the same thing to me as she did to her ex husband. So she can take the longest walk off the shortest pier and I actually am mentally more healthier than before. Therapy definitely helps
Thanks for the reply..sorry you've been through all this..hope your ok
@Justin Clark man I couldn't be better after discovering her hidden agendas and what she was all about shebcan go back to drinking and sleeping around with random people that's what she's good at lol. Actually I'm probably going to be putting her in jail for making a death threat to my household that my doorbell and driveway camera caught. Please be careful with the next person you end up getting with
Being watching coach Lee for ages,
I learnd allot from him even thaugh I never have relationship problems like many, reason why I value my self ( hard) I respect my self, and what I love about lee he help you but he make sure you leave winner regardless you back with your x or not.