I'm a 72 year old female; was diagnosed with ADHD in my mid 60's. How I Wish this knowledge had been available back in the 50's & 60's. My mother was narcissistic and hateful towards me well into my 40's. I'm letting go of extreme tidiness that was rampant throughout my family. And, trying to Write more. Thank you for the work you do. ❤
I’m 43 years old, was diagnosed with ADHD around 11-12 years old. Was on medication for a little while. I didn’t like the way it turned me into a mute. Told my parents I’m not taking it anymore. School was very stressful for me. Everyone needs to like this and all of his videos. It only helps spread the word of understanding ADHD / ADD. I found this channel about 2 weeks ago. It’s truly bringing me to an understanding of why I am the way I am. It’s helping me with my day to day life. I could say moment to moment. When I was younger I felt that I was different from all the other kids and didn’t know why. Only person that I felt understood me was my 8th grade science teacher. He came up with ways to keep me interested in science. Told my parents I should be an engineer cause the way I think. That came from a class project of who can build the strongest bridge with given supplies. Was tested with a bucket of nails. I blew away the 23 year old record for most nails supported in a coffee can. He asked if he could keep the bridge for show and tell. That truly made me feel different in a positive way.
I've never related to something so much. Cried way to many times listening to this. Going to finally be talking to my doctor at 41. Thank you for helping people feel seen and understood. ♡
At 36:27 where he starts talking about emotion being the on/off switch for learning and creativity and how you can't learn in an environment of fear...... SO MUCH YES!!!! I loved learning until I went to school. I taught myself to read at the age of 3. Taught myself other things, such as cursive, when my older sister was learning them at school. Just because I loved to learn new things!! School was so scary and I was in survival mode from kindergarten on. Now, as an adult (70 now) I am always teaching myself new things and love to learn! (I homeschooled my children so they didn't have to suffer thru school.)
I love how he goes off on those massive tangents and he's just allowed to. That would be my ADHD podcast, a two hour monologue on whatever the hell comes into my head lol
It can be an ASD thing too. I can sometimes do it but not like giving out about stuff just on like special interests and usually people would not be interested but thankfully I have a partner who really listens and he probably is ASD too but he hasn't a diagnosis as of now
Something that I started to do, that improved my relationship, was I started to research and learned about his special interest, hobbies, and some of the basics of their work, so we can have those conversations, and I can have enough interest to follow along and make him feel appreciated, because he is appreciated by me@@saffsholistichealth
Thank you ❤. I cried watching this. I was diagnosed with ADHD late during the menopause. I take Ritalin now it’s helped me immensely. Everything makes sense once you realise you’re wired differently. My family have always called me lazy, not applying myself, not putting the work in. I left school with barely any grades. So much shame. I created another persona to fit in and make my family proud of me. Ned you are wonderful 😊 I wish I could give you the biggest hug. 🤗
Ah I hear you ❤. I was diagnosed just after menopause at 54. It's huge isn't it? I don't tolerate the meds well but a number of supplements help. You're not alone xx
@@hejira4153hello there I'm also 54, and although I'm not diagnosed I'm 110% sure I've got it. I'm considering getting an official diagnosis. I'm running my own company and it's got so much potential but I feel that my ADHD is holding me back from being majorly successful. I'm actually considering meds to help me get more organized. My personality is so much like the Dr being interviewed it's scary. Good luck to all my fellow ADHD brothers and sisters. Go kick some butt!!
As a former geneticist, and late diagnosed ADHD female, when you mentioned Kary Mullis I cracked a grin from ear to ear. By contrast my own scientific career was hamstrung by my then undiagnosed ADHD which was a major contributing factor in me leaving the rigid confines of postgraduate study. Now that I understand my brain so much better, and have access to treatment, I hope to be able to go back someday.
Maybe instead of going back to that type of work in your field, you could do different work in your field, maybe some field work of doing the interviews and stuff of the people that get tested for things genetically.. Or maybe you could write a book, or write a substance, whenever something comes to mind you can write it and publish it, just start doing your Dream, because we always put things off till later or someday... Like my suggestions are probably stupid, but I'm sure you've had some sort of idea of something you've wanted to spontaneously do, if it doesn't cost you a lot of money, or hurt any of your responsibilities, I would just do it, see if you can find some sort of work that you can do with your AD HD
This interview was especially eye opening for me! As an undiagnosed 69 year old woman who has spent life masking, hiding and feeling shame for what I did or didn’t do and for who I am. I’m crying as I write this because Dr Hallowell has inspired me to embrace who I am and to finally begin to live life on my terms. I’m so grateful to you Alex for your amazing interview skills and allowing your wonderful guests to share their unique insights on the intricacies of neurodiversity. I’m so jazzed up I’ve just ordered 2 of Dr Hallowell’s books, hopefully I finish reading them!😉
Just so you know neurodivergent etc terms are being pushed by others who are not adhd or audhd people. It goes a long with too much diversity hire stuff etc. Also lgbtqap which incudes pedophiles. #MustKnow. Its being put forth by those who meant good then Co-opted by deviants. Put forth after that through those who rely on ignorance to hide. Which is why those who know about it wont talk about it enough to stop it. A lot of autistic and adhd people have been duped into using these terms while others who have rode the wave behide us are controlling towards us usually if they dont care whose seeing them. I have lots of facts on these things should you ever want to help or just to know about it. ❤
I have ADHD and I am hyper aware of time, and I am prompt to the point of almost on the dot. So definitely not all people with ADHD are late. I am usually early. In fact I mostly run around all day thinking I have far less time than I do, so definitely my concept of time moving is sped up, I also grossly over estimate the amount if time it takes me to do anything. My dad who also has adhd is also like this and is consistently early to everything. It also causes me great anxiety to be late to anything. With that said I have to set alarms when I am in hyperfocus or I will forget to pick my kid up for school.
Love a bit of VAST (variable attention stimulus trait) Dr. Hallowell. What a brilliant man. Alongside Dr. Russell Barkley, he definitely knows his stuff - and backed by science with personal experience - winner! Thanks so much Alex for getting him on the podcast, great stuff (as always)
I knew when I was three there was something different -- running away from home for no reason. At five in kindergarten I spent a lot of time in the corner or doing chores for the nuns as punishment for being disruptive. That was just the beginning. I wasn't diagnosed until I was over 60 and it's made a big difference just knowing why I'm different. I love listening to ADHD Chatter!
Dr Russel Barclay says that if left untreated, ADHD *may* shorten your life, but thats because of addiction and self neglect, not because of it being a deadly illness. I mention this because it sounds terrifying to think we are going to die early because of ADHD. It isnt ADHD that causes premature deaths, rather the negative habits associated. Peace out ✌️
Very informative! I’m a 62 yr old woman recently diagnosed with a CAARS score off the charts. Awaiting Doctors script for meds. Praying that I find relief and support in meds so I can reinvent myself for a new chapter in my life.. I have been struggling for a long time.
I bet your whole life now makes sense to you now you understand yourself so much better. I hope you quickly forgive yourself, and love yourself. It seems a lot of us need to do that and then move forward and realize you have a phenomenal mind that needs to be celebrated! I'm a 57 year old female with the energy of a 12 old boy. It makes keeping a job difficult 😂, but I love the colorful way my mind thinks. But I start work in forty two minutes, and i'm still lying in bed scrolling. Lol
Try get a well informed / educated ADHD therapy specialist to talk with - it makes all the difference for you and the rest of your life. The meds help, but not all the traumas, self esteem, understanding it all.
64 f here, also off charts thanks to no ovaries (cancer scare) so no oestrogen. Meds have been good. I'm also on artificial melatonin for sleep, started that before the ADHD diagnosis and medication. There's some very good places on the web where you can intersect with people like us. This channel is excellent. Reddit has a number of ADHD sub Reddits, including a Females with ADHD one. BlueSky is a friendly social media place. Lots of us older people get diagnosed late. Women in particular as we lose oestrogen, the ADHD gets worse, having been initially damped as we reached puberty. Best wishes.
I've started Methylphenidate which is the drug of choice in my region.. I'm not seeing any miracle but I may be more productive. I'm keeping a journal. I've already had one meltdown though so as I say - no miracles yet with emotional stability - but early days. I follow up with the doc in two weeks, we will see how it goes.
I love him. It was a relief when I got diagnosed ADHD in my 50ties. It was a life changing experience. Sharing my fear and feelings with others is so important. Connecting is the key. Thank you❤
Only yesterday did the ADD penny drop. I'm 56, a coach, hypnotherapist, mentor, healer empathy , author et Al. Full military career, reasonably successful but nowhere near my true potential and I've held that rigid belief that ADHD was BS. It's the most enlightening feeling. Full on liberation knowing what I do and the 'whys of me' are no longer the stick but are carrots for my future. It's just freezing amazing 🎉
Ned is so engaging & reassuring this potentially scary-length episode flew by. I wish everyone's perspective aligned more like Dr. Hallowell explains & shares. Hopefully he never retires. 🖖 Live long & prosper
16:57 Attention Surplus Disorder (ASD). Brilliant! I knew these neuro-typical people were the ones with the disorder. Now I have a name for it. That needs to go in the DSM-6.
The advice on not doing the journey alone hit home for me. The worst part is having all those realisations about yourself and falling into a deep period of grief and ruminating over everything. Makes it so hard to move forward.
I remember few years back after my wife died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES sure of mycologist Pedroshrooms. Mushrooms literally got me off my feet and turned my whole life around. I am currently a housing manager for a recovery program. I wouldn't have been able to do that shit without psilocybin.
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
RIP Carey Mullis the genius who no one has ever heard of because he’s on film stating that the PCR technology could never be applied for diagnostic purposes.
This interview is packed with so much insight! Understanding ADHD from this perspective is so empowering - it helps to reframe the way we see these challenges and find practical ways to work with them. I’ve been diving into similar topics on managing ADHD, and it’s amazing how much of a difference the right knowledge can make. Thank you, Dr. Hallowell, for shedding light on this!
Thank you for this episode! I awoke at 3am with spiralling thoughts, randomly picked this episode to listen to and feel like I've gained some really great coping mechanisms. What an incredible and inspiring chap!
Your talk was amazing. For once in my life i felt heard and understood. I haven’t been diagnosed with ADHD but I’m just about 100% sure i have it from everything I’ve seen. What do you suggest someone like me does without health insurance? How can i help myself? Or get help?
I know this will come across to you as a very unpopular opinion at this point in history. The morality you’re speaking off is a Christian-based type of morality, and I don’t know how spiritual you are as a person, but why don’t you take a look at Islam, for example? I have carried many of the questions you mentioned in this talk, and given I have also ADHD and I have hyperfocused on these questions as a child, I have gone on a full search of religion at 14 years of age and looked at how these questions could be answered by different religions. I was Catholic-raised and I’m now Muslim for over 19 years, and believe me, the things I still discover regarding the Islamic past still amaze me, especially as a Portuguese national. Just building on your tangents from my main hyperfocus for almost 2 decades now 😅 Peace ✌️
I'm ADHD and autistic sometimes I can focus so well on these videos because ADHD and autism becomes my subject of interest and I binge watch but today I've started this video 3 times and had to stop to do something else that needed doing so I'm finally settled in bed and determined to watch this full video while writing my journal because I can't watch videos and take in the information I have to just listen. Keep calm and carry on through the hard days people. ❤
Very encouraging, thank you. Last year, I started writing “The girl who asked too many questions”, it was actually just before I figured out, and was diagnosed with ADHD. You are checking ALL the boxes in this podcast. It has never been popular, as a woman, to act this out. I wasn’t crushed, I was gaslit and treated like an airhead, my entire life. Wow, and yes, I just don’t give up, I’ve never given up, but, there were lots of dramatic speeches about giving up 😂. I was in the music business all my life, so I learned to be on time in order to survive the competitive nature of LA. I am new to this, so I don’t love it yet, but I will be listening :)
❌️ What advice do you have for people who don't have the mover to get diagnosed? People don't stop being ADHD ir Neurodivergent, if not officially diagnosed. They suffer too!!! Thank you to you both for this interview! I was self diagnosed at the age of 47 and officially diagnosed at 52! ❌️
Best video, ever, on ADHD and Ive watched so many ive lost count and im only 30 min in. Stopped because delivery just came. Bits of this video need titles and tweeted to many NT M.Ps, think tanks and business leaders. I got diag last month AGED 51 after 3 YEAR WAIT and still with a ONE YEAR wait for MEDS while whats left of my life slips away. I write this because I know I stand side by side with hundreds of others in the same boat and hope the people who read this who might have some influence on supply, sort it out. Chancellor says she wants UK productivity up, well theres your F answer.
When I was in Grade 2, my teacher was thrilled with some of my writing. She wanted to put it up on the board, but I was also required, like the other students, to draw a picture to go with it. But I just couldn't get the drawing done -- I hated what I was drawing and would keep restarting. I asked to take it home and work on it. But of course, by the time it got home, the paper was all crumpled. So I tried ironing it. That was a futile act. Finally, the teacher took my writing and said, it's fine, it goes up without the picture.😆 I still appreciate her for that, and that was over 50 years ago.
Thank goodness I found a job where it's okay for me to be late. Now if I could get people to stop condescending me cuz they think I'm an airhead, that would be great.
I’m 71 and just diagnosed also. My primary doctor is just ignoring it and said I need antidepressants. So I tried them and did nothing. Stopped. Seeing a new primary in a couple of weeks. Hopefully I can get some meds. It was my son who encouraged me to get tested.
Hell yeah, its never too late! And good job on standing your ground, its honestly upsetting that those morons gave you SSRI:s instead of adhd medication, like giving insulin to someone because they have a headache. Hopefully you get the help you deserve!
Yeeees! That was my first thought: check out those amazing socks! I just find myself mesmerized by them and have to go back to properly focus on the humans not to socks.
Re: Lying in bed ruminating about how much you're a piece of shit. EFT (Tapping) is the best way I have ever found to 'turn down the volume' on these thoughts feelings and horrible sensations. I've practiced it myself for 25 years.
Such a fantastic man with so many fantastic messages of hope... I have sent links to this piece to many of my friends and family members. I'm certain I will have to watch it again. Thank you again Alex and Ned!!
“Living life in a low grade panic” afraid of how I might embarrass myself next… is Soooo true… will I be late, will I forget to do something crucial, will I say something or do something impulsively… I care much less about being embarrassed as I’ve gotten older but some things will always be embarrassing (like being late with Zero excuses)
Oh i literally have the best reflexes, totally be dead otherwise. I Thank the heavens for my ADHD 😊 We are the scouts, warriors, healers and sages Also holy hell, i never heard anyone say the Can't handle boring. Thank you so very much for your lifelong insight. 🙏 I feel a lot more peaceful with who I am as a person.
I drink coffee no creamer, and I relax. When I sip throughout my day and it calms me down like a tranquil ballroom dancer as I work throughout my day 😂
A phrase that I've been told over and over by so many people is, "It's not that you can't it's that you won't." That phrase has been ingrained into my head to the point that I truly feel like the laziest person in the world. When I was younger I was convinced that I had just made excuses for the things I wouldn't do for so long that I actually believed I couldn't do them but I was really just lazy. I still feel that way. I know that it's not that I won't but that I can't but I've believed that I am a stubborn and lazy person for so long that I can't see myself any other way. I know that my family, friends, teachers, etc didn't mean to hurt me and that they truly believed what they were saying but that phrase has hurt me so much. I have extreme ADHD and it limits me so much. Medicine doesn't work and strategies that are supposed to help us manage our ADHD don't work with me. I'm bad about waiting till the last second to get things done, so people tell me to make deadlines for myself to get things done. But that doesn't work because in the back of my brain I know that that's not the actual deadline, so then I tell myself I've got time. Then they say to make those self made deadlines dire so I take them seriously but I can't make them dire because I know they're not the real deadline. I don't know what to do. I try so hard 24/7 but it's not enough. I have no control over my brain and I don't know how to work towards learning how to manage my ADHD. I have a note on my mirror that I say everyday that says, "I can, I can, I can. I can do anything I put my mind to. I can prove my brain wrong. I can find peace in chaos." I tell myself I can all the time but all I hear is I can't. I don't know if it's because I have PTSD from childhood trauma or if it's because I actually am a stubborn and lazy person but I just wish that for once I could have control over my brain.
I am in awe of you and Dr. Hallowell. Master Class right here! The first time watching through, and I took my time, but dang a lang - You've opened a door for me. The example of building a hydroelectric dam to light up all of New York is such a powerful starting position. I am better equipped to tackle life's confusion with a little more grace and precision after listening to this ONCE. Wowzers!
It took me like five different trials but I finally finished listening to this episode 😂😂😂 but thank you for this, this was very helpful to understand my own anxiety
I am reminded of one of my favourite books that I discovered as a teen … Jonathan Livingston Seagull, by Richard Bach. I am convinced that Jonathan has ADHD because his story lifts me up in the same way that Dr. Hallowell can!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!! ❤
I think that it is vital for wild at heart personalities, ADHD or non ADHD, to find a safe space where they can exhaust themselves without any behavioural restraints at all and without hurting others or themselves. Own your life and find that space to protect your beautiful wings 😊
Im 48 . No medication works on me. Does everybody with adhd have music in the head non stop? On top of everything else that is. Anexiety with this adhd sucks. No drugs work for that also . Sorry for bad english . Im from Norway. Im lost in this shit
Yes to music in my head and preferably outside it too. I 'play piano' on my knee or in my palm with my right hand and the base line with my toes. It's how I stim undetected. Weirdly, I am a cellist yet I don't 'play cello' in my head or use the left hand, which is the hand that plays the melody on cello. Constant music is a way of silencing the busy internal voices which feed anxiety.
Yes, music is all the time! Have you tried only medicine for ADHD? My doctor prescribed to me meds to cope with anxiety and some vary to cope with depression (works with adrenaline and dopamine). Make magic! At least works for me now, in very hard times. Try to talk to doctor and make some tests for anxiety and depression. As I have been told, there are no much effect from ADHD drugs if you are in burn out and anxious. Really wish you everything the best and hope you can find that works for you!
Thanks for reply. Yes i have tryed many different meds on adhd and anxiety meds. They dont work on me. I just get sick from them. Sp the show must go on
@@kristianhaugland1886i feel for you buddy, meds dont work for me either, or atleast we havent found out the right formula yet. Just keep trying, you got this bro.
Yes the show must go on. Sorry you are struggling. Meds didn't help me either. Atomoxetine awful reactions, Ritalin does for me what coffee already did. I hear Guanfacine and Clonadine may help with RSD but haven't got back to the psych yet. I find working towards a goal or interest is essential, as well as having the next goal ready when each is achieved so we are never at a loose end. But many don't have the luxury of a stimulating occupation. Writing 2-3 pages of stream of consciousness thoughts (brain dump) first thing every morning helps to unclutter my mind. Some prefer night or both but whenever the least possible disruptions, even if you have to get up early, or sit outside. I highly recommend giving that a shot if you haven't. Other than that, I think we have to accept that life is not meant to be easy. Researching my ancestry helped me to put my 'hard' in perspective with my ancestors' 'hard'. Maybe you weren't seeking suggestions, but maybe someone else will benefit. Best wishes to you.
Hello Dr. Ned, thnx very much for yr wit & wisdom. Helps me to gain hope. Trust. Courage etc. And definitily i should not isolate myself. Kind greetings from Romania
I’m very close to being fired over being late to work and I’m unable to get accomidations through my union. Its so frustrating. Im also the first person to stay late (unpaid ) if needed to get the job done properly. But since thats not what the company places importance on it doesn’t matter. Also my medication doesn’t take away my fear of messing up. I still mess up plenty 😅 and have to leave the house 5x when leaving.
Can you do a show on medication.; how is medication is supposed to make a person feel? What is the best treatment? Stimulants make some people so tired, not when they wear off but when they are taking them. Others report being focused but antisocial. So while someone can concentre they have no energy to work out and no desire to socialize with anyone. I always see comments about this but have never heard anyone talk about treatment. I know a lot of adhd people who all say stimulates don’t work for them because of this.
I'm turning 43 soon just got told I have adhd and I have found brown noise from the adhd ambience area helps soooo much . The rest of the adhd app I don't really use 😂 but the relaxing sound area for brain overload area ,hell yeah ❤ Thank you so much guys
Im 65. My male cousin, younger than me told me he had Adhd and ritalin was his favorite drug. He's brilliant and jas 27 parents. I didn't know anything about ADHD but he introduced me. Then i was asked to take personality tests for a job. One was for ADHD. The scoring was 1 to 100, 1 no you don't have it, 100 you do. I got 98.4. i was shocked. They also said i am on a autism spectrum and have PTSD. Im staring to have so many lables pit onto me. I know im dyslexic and have ptsd but oh my goodness. This is very disturbing indeed.
It could be the best thing ever. Now you know who you are. You can find your tribe. Read up and listen up. I started with an online group. I have all 3 diagnoses. Both adhd and autism create conditions for bullying and criticism, so we end up with ptsd
I love this! Although I must say in my own experience I am hyper in cleanliness. I must do that even though I have ADHD. Now I proved myself why I am I so focused, so normal when I am under an influence of medication (mentioned in 10:00-14:00).
I'm only 9 minutes in and I'm already feeling frustrated. Im not adhd, raised an ADD daughter who now has a very ADHD son. We tried meds for her for a short time in her adolescence and she hated the side effects. I'm a 4th grade teacher and our 3rd grade team is known for getting all the kids medicated. I'm on a search for how to help these kids. When you say ADHD is not new, I've always believed that. I believe those who've marked history probably had it. Now we're medicating these high energy, creative movers and shakers. Is this for the better? I struggle with it. I believe some cases are organic (meaning born this way), some are mostly due to environment and it comes with a whole host of other problems. I really don't want my precious, brilliant, grandson on medication. But I need to know how best to tap into the gifts these unique people have. Is medication really the answer??
When I finally took medication, I realized how unfair it was to compare myself with the normal people. It hurts my self-esteem deeply how people treated me. I didn't reach my full potential. I wish I had gotten help when I was a kid. My teacher pulled my hair and was horrible to me because she was frustrated. Kids suffer.
No. It is not the answer. This episode is nearly 2 hrs long, he does say a lot about non medication, particularly very standard, generally human positive 'things' we've known about *for ever* such as connection, learning self love and positive thinking - and these rely on help from, and positive interdependence on other people. ... maybe just listen again...
It saves a relationship unless your partner isn't a narcissist. The last so called "boyfriend" I had always represented my diagnosed adhd as an excuse for a toxic, irrational, intentionally destroying borderline crazy bitch - thing that most of the time he triggered with harmful words, ignorance and so on, so that he could point his dirty little finger at me. He hated that someday I started to try to treat and understand myself right. Because he wasn't able to do that, with me and with himself. And if a therapist or a doctor told him, that he had to understand and consider things, it would have taken the ground under his feet. Because a partner who works on his mental health isn't a good victim. Well, anybody should stay away from narcissists, but people with ADHD should RUN. Thank you for your great work on ADHD, I feel save and understood through your videos ❤
Betzoarr, I hope you have come across videos by Dr Ramani & The Little Shaman. They are a great source of knowledge & help on one's healing journey from toxic abuse.
Thank you thank you thank you. I do excellent work and I've been tortured for years for being late. I no longer work in a typical work environment for this and many other reasons. The fixation on being on time is ridiculous. The half-hearted employee clocks in on time every day and does mediocre work but they get more praise because they're in their desk at 8:30 where I could do twice as much work of usually a higher quality in the same amount of time and they're stuck on what time I walked in. Go figure
This is the best video on ADHD I’ve seen yet. It was so positive and gave the whole scope and spectrum. Thank you so much. I’ve been watching ADHD videos of the last few years with my late discovery of it in my 40s and this one really takes the cake.
Thanks for this Alex. This is so amazing in so many ways. It was great pleasure to watch. So many take aways so from it but more so much clarity and acknowledgment of what I l know and experience of ADHD. I laughed so much when Ned said he’s asked so many women for marriage. So much precious moments. Thanks 👍👏🙏❤️
I wanted to try Tiimo but I'm not signing up for a 7 day free trial that I have to remember to cancel because I wont remember. I need at least a month to work out if something is helpful.
Oh my God. I hope Ned sees this. This was absolutely game changing for me. I'm exactly as he describes. People usually don't talk about how sensitive we are to seeing feelings in people's expressions. And just diagnosed 1 year ago what a refreshing way to view it. Instead of feeling shameful like ŵe have been told. And even to know that there are ways to help us besides for medication. I had no idea. And I'm getting excited as learning about phycology is one of my hyperfixations. He was jist amazing and watched a couple of these on the chatter since I found out about it last week but this one was the absolute best and super helpful. Please have him on again. That was EPIC! LIFE CHANGING. ❤❤❤❤
I forgot to add. I only zoned out 1 time because it was so amazing and just sponging up all the new knowledge and that is insane for me. To be listening the whole time.
Great interview and extremely informative but I was distracted by your use of a low depth of field (faces in focus but legs are not). It seems like you are in a professional studio so I am assuming it was a choice. Either way I wanted to give some feedback to show how invested I was in this video. P.S. for any trolls out there. I realize what I felt might not be true for everyone or comes off "nitpicky" ,but it might be true for a few, and sometimes it is a bunch of small improvements that takes the ordinary to something extraordinary.
❤❤❤ life changing that I was talking out loud while listening!!! I could listen for hours (while moving) but reading a book is torture. Yet I want to go buy all your books! Thank goodness for Audible!
I just got diagnosed at 37 and before I was able to try medication I found out that I’m pregnant so I’m in this limbo state trying to cope with a medication that’s not necessarily meant for ADHD but helps a bit. I wish I would try meds but it looks like it might be a couple of years before I get to if I breastfeed.
Hey Mary, you rock! Thanks for sharing. I’m still learning tons. I am going to start meds tomorrow and I’m being closely monitored by the doc. I feel like there’s a light at the end of the tunnel ☺️
I've never heard anyone explain it the way he does.. You don't really hear about the sensitivity of people who are diagnosed with ADHD. I am 33 and just figuring out that it's common to be so sensitive, especially having ADD/ADHD. It's a daily struggle. ❤
The problem for me is not that I dont understand and recognize my wonderful qualities and abilities. The problem is that no one else does, even if I explain it to them. So at the age of 68, I still don't have any deep and lasting friendships, and my family members still disapprove of me.I struggle with loneliness and isolation and being excluded. It doesnt matter how much I understand about ADD or how many skills I have because of it. I'm still alone and misunderstood. I can't be on medication because I'm so sensitive to the side effects, they make more miserable on them that without them. I am resigned to a life alone, knowing how much I have to offer as a friend, how fun loving and adventurous I am and how caring and loving I can be.
Can you please post info (spell the name out please) on the App that you mentioned at the very beginning - it sounds like Temo or Teamo or Timo App? Thank you
I can because I'm not bored. Why am I crying at 53 for all the hoops I've had to jump through my life just to have an expert to tell me I'm not normal 😮 Gee anyone who sits with me for 20minS will agree something not right 🎉 Yet my life is on hold still because I don't have money so I can't get the right help because I need to be diagnosed first Quests what 😂 I just can't get diagnosed.. The vicious circle continues to get the help I need to be diagnosed but I can't get diagnosed so I can't get the help.. 🙄
I'm a 72 year old female; was diagnosed with ADHD in my mid 60's. How I Wish this knowledge had been available back in the 50's & 60's. My mother was narcissistic and hateful towards me well into my 40's.
I'm letting go of extreme tidiness that was rampant throughout my family. And, trying to Write more.
Thank you for the work you do. ❤
I’m 43 years old, was diagnosed with ADHD around 11-12 years old. Was on medication for a little while. I didn’t like the way it turned me into a mute. Told my parents I’m not taking it anymore. School was very stressful for me. Everyone needs to like this and all of his videos. It only helps spread the word of understanding ADHD / ADD. I found this channel about 2 weeks ago. It’s truly bringing me to an understanding of why I am the way I am. It’s helping me with my day to day life. I could say moment to moment. When I was younger I felt that I was different from all the other kids and didn’t know why.
Only person that I felt understood me was my 8th grade science teacher. He came up with ways to keep me interested in science. Told my parents I should be an engineer cause the way I think. That came from a class project of who can build the strongest bridge with given supplies. Was tested with a bucket of nails. I blew away the 23 year old record for most nails supported in a coffee can. He asked if he could keep the bridge for show and tell. That truly made me feel different in a positive way.
I've never related to something so much. Cried way to many times listening to this. Going to finally be talking to my doctor at 41. Thank you for helping people feel seen and understood. ♡
I’m also 40 and just now discovering I have adhd. Hope your appointment goes well!
@MarcusWarcus40 thank you
I am 42 and i finally accepted this and i am gonna consult a professional to , thanks to this channel.
The world feels better already! Happy when said bye bye school board, what ever it is called
@@melissafisher1448 I was 40 when I got my diagnosis. Things certainly aren't perfect, but they are better.
At 36:27 where he starts talking about emotion being the on/off switch for learning and creativity and how you can't learn in an environment of fear...... SO MUCH YES!!!! I loved learning until I went to school. I taught myself to read at the age of 3. Taught myself other things, such as cursive, when my older sister was learning them at school. Just because I loved to learn new things!! School was so scary and I was in survival mode from kindergarten on. Now, as an adult (70 now) I am always teaching myself new things and love to learn! (I homeschooled my children so they didn't have to suffer thru school.)
I love how he goes off on those massive tangents and he's just allowed to. That would be my ADHD podcast, a two hour monologue on whatever the hell comes into my head lol
It can be an ASD thing too. I can sometimes do it but not like giving out about stuff just on like special interests and usually people would not be interested but thankfully I have a partner who really listens and he probably is ASD too but he hasn't a diagnosis as of now
Something that I started to do, that improved my relationship, was I started to research and learned about his special interest, hobbies, and some of the basics of their work, so we can have those conversations, and I can have enough interest to follow along and make him feel appreciated, because he is appreciated by me@@saffsholistichealth
Thank you ❤. I cried watching this. I was diagnosed with ADHD late during the menopause. I take Ritalin now it’s helped me immensely. Everything makes sense once you realise you’re wired differently.
My family have always called me lazy, not applying myself, not putting the work in. I left school with barely any grades. So much shame. I created another persona to fit in and make my family proud of me.
Ned you are wonderful 😊 I wish I could give you the biggest hug. 🤗
Exactly how I felt. That was amazing
I cried too
Ah I hear you ❤. I was diagnosed just after menopause at 54. It's huge isn't it? I don't tolerate the meds well but a number of supplements help. You're not alone xx
@@hejira4153hello there I'm also 54, and although I'm not diagnosed I'm 110% sure I've got it. I'm considering getting an official diagnosis. I'm running my own company and it's got so much potential but I feel that my ADHD is holding me back from being majorly successful. I'm actually considering meds to help me get more organized. My personality is so much like the Dr being interviewed it's scary. Good luck to all my fellow ADHD brothers and sisters. Go kick some butt!!
Both my mom and were called crazy and lazy, I was told that I couldn't do things so I missed years and years of my life never trying ..
As a former geneticist, and late diagnosed ADHD female, when you mentioned Kary Mullis I cracked a grin from ear to ear. By contrast my own scientific career was hamstrung by my then undiagnosed ADHD which was a major contributing factor in me leaving the rigid confines of postgraduate study. Now that I understand my brain so much better, and have access to treatment, I hope to be able to go back someday.
Maybe instead of going back to that type of work in your field, you could do different work in your field, maybe some field work of doing the interviews and stuff of the people that get tested for things genetically.. Or maybe you could write a book, or write a substance, whenever something comes to mind you can write it and publish it, just start doing your Dream, because we always put things off till later or someday...
Like my suggestions are probably stupid, but I'm sure you've had some sort of idea of something you've wanted to spontaneously do, if it doesn't cost you a lot of money, or hurt any of your responsibilities, I would just do it, see if you can find some sort of work that you can do with your AD HD
You will do accomplish those things, and even greater things will you do
This interview was especially eye opening for me! As an undiagnosed 69 year old woman who has spent life masking, hiding and feeling shame for what I did or didn’t do and for who I am. I’m crying as I write this because Dr Hallowell has inspired me to embrace who I am and to finally begin to live life on my terms. I’m so grateful to you Alex for your amazing interview skills and allowing your wonderful guests to share their unique insights on the intricacies of neurodiversity. I’m so jazzed up I’ve just ordered 2 of Dr Hallowell’s books, hopefully I finish reading them!😉
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I'm adding the audiobooks as we speak 😂
Just so you know neurodivergent etc terms are being pushed by others who are not adhd or audhd people. It goes a long with too much diversity hire stuff etc. Also lgbtqap which incudes pedophiles. #MustKnow. Its being put forth by those who meant good then Co-opted by deviants. Put forth after that through those who rely on ignorance to hide. Which is why those who know about it wont talk about it enough to stop it. A lot of autistic and adhd people have been duped into using these terms while others who have rode the wave behide us are controlling towards us usually if they dont care whose seeing them. I have lots of facts on these things should you ever want to help or just to know about it. ❤
Gold after gold after gold like a soothing balm on a tender bruise. Thank you Alex and Ned. ❤
ADHD 2.0 was a game changer for me. Heard the audiobook and the relief I felt afterwords was life changing.
I have ADHD and I am hyper aware of time, and I am prompt to the point of almost on the dot. So definitely not all people with ADHD are late. I am usually early. In fact I mostly run around all day thinking I have far less time than I do, so definitely my concept of time moving is sped up, I also grossly over estimate the amount if time it takes me to do anything. My dad who also has adhd is also like this and is consistently early to everything. It also causes me great anxiety to be late to anything. With that said I have to set alarms when I am in hyperfocus or I will forget to pick my kid up for school.
I'm the same religiously punctual
I’m punctual due to the trauma’s of being late, I cannot face those consequences again so I am extra punctual!
So you have learned coping skills to deal with this. That's cool.
You sound like your ADHD has you obsessed with time. I have ADHD and I'm always late and terrible in general with planning and timing.
I.m the same way. Although I was always late in my younger school and working life.
Love a bit of VAST (variable attention stimulus trait) Dr. Hallowell. What a brilliant man. Alongside Dr. Russell Barkley, he definitely knows his stuff - and backed by science with personal experience - winner! Thanks so much Alex for getting him on the podcast, great stuff (as always)
I knew when I was three there was something different -- running away from home for no reason. At five in kindergarten I spent a lot of time in the corner or doing chores for the nuns as punishment for being disruptive. That was just the beginning. I wasn't diagnosed until I was over 60 and it's made a big difference just knowing why I'm different. I love listening to ADHD Chatter!
Dr Russel Barclay says that if left untreated, ADHD *may* shorten your life, but thats because of addiction and self neglect, not because of it being a deadly illness. I mention this because it sounds terrifying to think we are going to die early because of ADHD. It isnt ADHD that causes premature deaths, rather the negative habits associated. Peace out ✌️
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Very informative! I’m a 62 yr old woman recently diagnosed with a CAARS score off the charts. Awaiting Doctors script for meds. Praying that I find relief and support in meds so I can reinvent myself for a new chapter in my life.. I have been struggling for a long time.
I bet your whole life now makes sense to you now you understand yourself so much better. I hope you quickly forgive yourself, and love yourself. It seems a lot of us need to do that and then move forward and realize you have a phenomenal mind that needs to be celebrated! I'm a 57 year old female with the energy of a 12 old boy. It makes keeping a job difficult 😂, but I love the colorful way my mind thinks. But I start work in forty two minutes, and i'm still lying in bed scrolling. Lol
Try get a well informed / educated ADHD therapy specialist to talk with - it makes all the difference for you and the rest of your life. The meds help, but not all the traumas, self esteem, understanding it all.
64 f here, also off charts thanks to no ovaries (cancer scare) so no oestrogen. Meds have been good. I'm also on artificial melatonin for sleep, started that before the ADHD diagnosis and medication. There's some very good places on the web where you can intersect with people like us. This channel is excellent. Reddit has a number of ADHD sub Reddits, including a Females with ADHD one. BlueSky is a friendly social media place. Lots of us older people get diagnosed late. Women in particular as we lose oestrogen, the ADHD gets worse, having been initially damped as we reached puberty. Best wishes.
I've started Methylphenidate which is the drug of choice in my region.. I'm not seeing any miracle but I may be more productive. I'm keeping a journal. I've already had one meltdown though so as I say - no miracles yet with emotional stability - but early days. I follow up with the doc in two weeks, we will see how it goes.
@@Crystal_Clout Thanks for the referalls, I will check out those spots as I have no one to interact with that shares my issues..
I love him. It was a relief when I got diagnosed ADHD in my 50ties. It was a life changing experience. Sharing my fear and feelings with others is so important. Connecting is the key.
Thank you❤
Only yesterday did the ADD penny drop. I'm 56, a coach, hypnotherapist, mentor, healer empathy , author et Al. Full military career, reasonably successful but nowhere near my true potential and I've held that rigid belief that ADHD was BS. It's the most enlightening feeling. Full on liberation knowing what I do and the 'whys of me' are no longer the stick but are carrots for my future. It's just freezing amazing 🎉
Ned is so engaging & reassuring this potentially scary-length episode flew by. I wish everyone's perspective aligned more like Dr. Hallowell explains & shares. Hopefully he never retires. 🖖 Live long & prosper
Nah, skipped the Timo bit... Boring.....
16:57 Attention Surplus Disorder (ASD). Brilliant! I knew these neuro-typical people were the ones with the disorder. Now I have a name for it. That needs to go in the DSM-6.
I love this video so much. Such a positive and hopeful view on a condition with so much negative stigma. Makes me feel proud to have Add. Thank you
The advice on not doing the journey alone hit home for me. The worst part is having all those realisations about yourself and falling into a deep period of grief and ruminating over everything. Makes it so hard to move forward.
I remember few years back after my wife died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES sure of mycologist Pedroshrooms. Mushrooms literally got me off my feet and turned my whole life around. I am currently a housing manager for a recovery program. I wouldn't have been able to do that shit without psilocybin.
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Where do I reach this dude? If possible can I find him on Google
RIP Carey Mullis the genius who no one has ever heard of because he’s on film stating that the PCR technology could never be applied for diagnostic purposes.
“I hurt myself today, to see if I still feel. I focus on the pain, the only thing that's real.”
Amen 🙏
Hurt by Trent Reznor
And reimagined beautifully by Johnny Cash.
Oh stop it go birding or something or try rewilding yourself, i recommend warewolf magic, no one really cares when yer unhappy.
Johnny cash sings it best
This interview is packed with so much insight! Understanding ADHD from this perspective is so empowering - it helps to reframe the way we see these challenges and find practical ways to work with them. I’ve been diving into similar topics on managing ADHD, and it’s amazing how much of a difference the right knowledge can make. Thank you, Dr. Hallowell, for shedding light on this!
Thank you for this episode! I awoke at 3am with spiralling thoughts, randomly picked this episode to listen to and feel like I've gained some really great coping mechanisms. What an incredible and inspiring chap!
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I have never felt so understood and related to anything as I do to those words. Thank you so so much.
Melissa, your comment moved me deeply. I am so very pleased you’ve found my work helpful!
Your talk was amazing. For once in my life i felt heard and understood. I haven’t been diagnosed with ADHD but I’m just about 100% sure i have it from everything I’ve seen. What do you suggest someone like me does without health insurance? How can i help myself? Or get help?
I know this will come across to you as a very unpopular opinion at this point in history. The morality you’re speaking off is a Christian-based type of morality, and I don’t know how spiritual you are as a person, but why don’t you take a look at Islam, for example? I have carried many of the questions you mentioned in this talk, and given I have also ADHD and I have hyperfocused on these questions as a child, I have gone on a full search of religion at 14 years of age and looked at how these questions could be answered by different religions. I was Catholic-raised and I’m now Muslim for over 19 years, and believe me, the things I still discover regarding the Islamic past still amaze me, especially as a Portuguese national. Just building on your tangents from my main hyperfocus for almost 2 decades now 😅 Peace ✌️
I'm ADHD and autistic sometimes I can focus so well on these videos because ADHD and autism becomes my subject of interest and I binge watch but today I've started this video 3 times and had to stop to do something else that needed doing so I'm finally settled in bed and determined to watch this full video while writing my journal because I can't watch videos and take in the information I have to just listen. Keep calm and carry on through the hard days people. ❤
Very encouraging, thank you. Last year, I started writing “The girl who asked too many questions”, it was actually just before I figured out, and was diagnosed with ADHD. You are checking ALL the boxes in this podcast. It has never been popular, as a woman, to act this out. I wasn’t crushed, I was gaslit and treated like an airhead, my entire life. Wow, and yes, I just don’t give up, I’ve never given up, but, there were lots of dramatic speeches about giving up 😂. I was in the music business all my life, so I learned to be on time in order to survive the competitive nature of LA. I am new to this, so I don’t love it yet, but I will be listening :)
Best 1.5 hour spent (had it on 1.25 speed 😅) just wow so many eye opening moments 👍👍👍
❌️ What advice do you have for people who don't have the mover to get diagnosed? People don't stop being ADHD ir Neurodivergent, if not officially diagnosed. They suffer too!!! Thank you to you both for this interview! I was self diagnosed at the age of 47 and officially diagnosed at 52! ❌️
Best video, ever, on ADHD and Ive watched so many ive lost count and im only 30 min in. Stopped because delivery just came. Bits of this video need titles and tweeted to many NT M.Ps, think tanks and business leaders. I got diag last month AGED 51 after 3 YEAR WAIT and still with a ONE YEAR wait for MEDS while whats left of my life slips away. I write this because I know I stand side by side with hundreds of others in the same boat and hope the people who read this who might have some influence on supply, sort it out. Chancellor says she wants UK productivity up, well theres your F answer.
Totally life changing interview. Thank you thank you thank youuuuuu!
When I was in Grade 2, my teacher was thrilled with some of my writing. She wanted to put it up on the board, but I was also required, like the other students, to draw a picture to go with it. But I just couldn't get the drawing done -- I hated what I was drawing and would keep restarting. I asked to take it home and work on it. But of course, by the time it got home, the paper was all crumpled. So I tried ironing it. That was a futile act. Finally, the teacher took my writing and said, it's fine, it goes up without the picture.😆 I still appreciate her for that, and that was over 50 years ago.
Oh my goodness, this was a long chat, which I had on during the evening- but I wanted it never to stop.
Thank goodness I found a job where it's okay for me to be late. Now if I could get people to stop condescending me cuz they think I'm an airhead, that would be great.
Please share what kind of job is it? I need to know 😢
I’m 71 and just diagnosed also. My primary doctor is just ignoring it and said I need antidepressants. So I tried them and did nothing. Stopped. Seeing a new primary in a couple of weeks. Hopefully I can get some meds. It was my son who encouraged me to get tested.
Hell yeah, its never too late! And good job on standing your ground, its honestly upsetting that those morons gave you SSRI:s instead of adhd medication, like giving insulin to someone because they have a headache. Hopefully you get the help you deserve!
@@teppovilenius247 thanks for your support
I'm 72 and on adhd meds.
I can’t stop looking at his AMAZING socks
Yeeees! That was my first thought: check out those amazing socks! I just find myself mesmerized by them and have to go back to properly focus on the humans not to socks.
I thought it was his skin with weird varicose veins.... 🤣
@@projectqueenbee5529me too😂😂
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Re: Lying in bed ruminating about how much you're a piece of shit.
EFT (Tapping) is the best way I have ever found to 'turn down the volume' on these thoughts feelings and horrible sensations. I've practiced it myself for 25 years.
Such a fantastic man with so many fantastic messages of hope... I have sent links to this piece to many of my friends and family members. I'm certain I will have to watch it again. Thank you again Alex and Ned!!
“Living life in a low grade panic” afraid of how I might embarrass myself next… is Soooo true… will I be late, will I forget to do something crucial, will I say something or do something impulsively… I care much less about being embarrassed as I’ve gotten older but some things will always be embarrassing (like being late with Zero excuses)
Oh i literally have the best reflexes, totally be dead otherwise. I Thank the heavens for my ADHD 😊
We are the scouts, warriors, healers and sages
Also holy hell, i never heard anyone say the Can't handle boring.
Thank you so very much for your lifelong insight. 🙏
I feel a lot more peaceful with who I am as a person.
Yeah the reflexes are insanely fast here too. Wondering if that was there originally or developed due to dropping/loosing all things I tried to hold 😂
I drink coffee no creamer, and I relax. When I sip throughout my day and it calms me down like a tranquil ballroom dancer as I work throughout my day 😂
It puts me to sleep! Lol This is how I realized there was something going on! 😂
Can you explain about this caffeine thing? Ty
Russ Barkley is No. 1 thank you very much!
Agree!
A phrase that I've been told over and over by so many people is, "It's not that you can't it's that you won't." That phrase has been ingrained into my head to the point that I truly feel like the laziest person in the world. When I was younger I was convinced that I had just made excuses for the things I wouldn't do for so long that I actually believed I couldn't do them but I was really just lazy. I still feel that way. I know that it's not that I won't but that I can't but I've believed that I am a stubborn and lazy person for so long that I can't see myself any other way. I know that my family, friends, teachers, etc didn't mean to hurt me and that they truly believed what they were saying but that phrase has hurt me so much. I have extreme ADHD and it limits me so much. Medicine doesn't work and strategies that are supposed to help us manage our ADHD don't work with me. I'm bad about waiting till the last second to get things done, so people tell me to make deadlines for myself to get things done. But that doesn't work because in the back of my brain I know that that's not the actual deadline, so then I tell myself I've got time. Then they say to make those self made deadlines dire so I take them seriously but I can't make them dire because I know they're not the real deadline. I don't know what to do. I try so hard 24/7 but it's not enough. I have no control over my brain and I don't know how to work towards learning how to manage my ADHD. I have a note on my mirror that I say everyday that says, "I can, I can, I can. I can do anything I put my mind to. I can prove my brain wrong. I can find peace in chaos." I tell myself I can all the time but all I hear is I can't. I don't know if it's because I have PTSD from childhood trauma or if it's because I actually am a stubborn and lazy person but I just wish that for once I could have control over my brain.
I am in awe of you and Dr. Hallowell. Master Class right here! The first time watching through, and I took my time, but dang a lang - You've opened a door for me. The example of building a hydroelectric dam to light up all of New York is such a powerful starting position. I am better equipped to tackle life's confusion with a little more grace and precision after listening to this ONCE. Wowzers!
Dr NED Hallowell is amazing. I love what he said about time: Now or Not now :)
42:38 ♥️♥️♥️ connecting is only scary if you're thinking about yourself instead of what/who you're connecting to and how to be easy to connect to...
It took me like five different trials but I finally finished listening to this episode 😂😂😂 but thank you for this, this was very helpful to understand my own anxiety
I cried too many times during this interview.
It's exhausting.
I am reminded of one of my favourite books that I discovered as a teen … Jonathan Livingston Seagull, by Richard Bach. I am convinced that Jonathan has ADHD because his story lifts me up in the same way that Dr. Hallowell can!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!! ❤
I use checklists, ToDo lists, to get back on track when my mind/attention wanders. I can't always stay on track, but I can get back on track.
I think that it is vital for wild at heart personalities, ADHD or non ADHD, to find a safe space where they can exhaust themselves without any behavioural restraints at all and without hurting others or themselves. Own your life and find that space to protect your beautiful wings 😊
You are so right.I love the way you worded it. ❤
@laurab972 Thank you ❤️
Im 48 . No medication works on me. Does everybody with adhd have music in the head non stop? On top of everything else that is. Anexiety with this adhd sucks. No drugs work for that also . Sorry for bad english . Im from Norway. Im lost in this shit
Yes to music in my head and preferably outside it too. I 'play piano' on my knee or in my palm with my right hand and the base line with my toes. It's how I stim undetected. Weirdly, I am a cellist yet I don't 'play cello' in my head or use the left hand, which is the hand that plays the melody on cello. Constant music is a way of silencing the busy internal voices which feed anxiety.
Yes, music is all the time! Have you tried only medicine for ADHD? My doctor prescribed to me meds to cope with anxiety and some vary to cope with depression (works with adrenaline and dopamine). Make magic! At least works for me now, in very hard times. Try to talk to doctor and make some tests for anxiety and depression. As I have been told, there are no much effect from ADHD drugs if you are in burn out and anxious. Really wish you everything the best and hope you can find that works for you!
Thanks for reply. Yes i have tryed many different meds on adhd and anxiety meds. They dont work on me. I just get sick from them. Sp the show must go on
@@kristianhaugland1886i feel for you buddy, meds dont work for me either, or atleast we havent found out the right formula yet. Just keep trying, you got this bro.
Yes the show must go on. Sorry you are struggling. Meds didn't help me either. Atomoxetine awful reactions, Ritalin does for me what coffee already did. I hear Guanfacine and Clonadine may help with RSD but haven't got back to the psych yet.
I find working towards a goal or interest is essential, as well as having the next goal ready when each is achieved so we are never at a loose end. But many don't have the luxury of a stimulating occupation. Writing 2-3 pages of stream of consciousness thoughts (brain dump) first thing every morning helps to unclutter my mind. Some prefer night or both but whenever the least possible disruptions, even if you have to get up early, or sit outside. I highly recommend giving that a shot if you haven't.
Other than that, I think we have to accept that life is not meant to be easy. Researching my ancestry helped me to put my 'hard' in perspective with my ancestors' 'hard'.
Maybe you weren't seeking suggestions, but maybe someone else will benefit.
Best wishes to you.
An hour long video w adhd. I pray I can focus this long😅😢
It's been hard! 😂😂
I won’t even try to watch in one sitting. I will come back though! And it’s closer to TWO HOURS! 😂
It could also be lack of interest
IKR, I've saved this. I probably won't get around to watching anytime soon... in advance, happy 2058! 🥳🍻🎊
I came to say this 😂
Hello Dr. Ned, thnx very much for yr wit & wisdom. Helps me to gain hope. Trust. Courage etc. And definitily i should not isolate myself. Kind greetings from Romania
I’m very close to being fired over being late to work and I’m unable to get accomidations through my union. Its so frustrating. Im also the first person to stay late (unpaid ) if needed to get the job done properly. But since thats not what the company places importance on it doesn’t matter. Also my medication doesn’t take away my fear of messing up. I still mess up plenty 😅 and have to leave the house 5x when leaving.
Can you do a show on medication.; how is medication is supposed to make a person feel? What is the best treatment? Stimulants make some people so tired, not when they wear off but when they are taking them. Others report being focused but antisocial. So while someone can concentre they have no energy to work out and no desire to socialize with anyone. I always see comments about this but have never heard anyone talk about treatment. I know a lot of adhd people who all say stimulates don’t work for them because of this.
Could it be that they find those activities boring. Medications can't fix boring.
Find another form of exercise
This is a very beautiful interview and podcast into what is possible. I appreciate very much the mentioning of braking properly.
I'm turning 43 soon just got told I have adhd and I have found brown noise from the adhd ambience area helps soooo much .
The rest of the adhd app I don't really use 😂 but the relaxing sound area for brain overload area ,hell yeah ❤
Thank you so much guys
So grateful for this interview. Thank you!!
Im 65. My male cousin, younger than me told me he had Adhd and ritalin was his favorite drug. He's brilliant and jas 27 parents. I didn't know anything about ADHD but he introduced me. Then i was asked to take personality tests for a job. One was for ADHD. The scoring was 1 to 100, 1 no you don't have it, 100 you do. I got 98.4. i was shocked. They also said i am on a autism spectrum and have PTSD. Im staring to have so many lables pit onto me. I know im dyslexic and have ptsd but oh my goodness. This is very disturbing indeed.
It could be the best thing ever. Now you know who you are. You can find your tribe. Read up and listen up. I started with an online group.
I have all 3 diagnoses. Both adhd and autism create conditions for bullying and criticism, so we end up with ptsd
I love this! Although I must say in my own experience I am hyper in cleanliness. I must do that even though I have ADHD. Now I proved myself why I am I so focused, so normal when I am under an influence of medication (mentioned in 10:00-14:00).
I'm only 9 minutes in and I'm already feeling frustrated. Im not adhd, raised an ADD daughter who now has a very ADHD son. We tried meds for her for a short time in her adolescence and she hated the side effects. I'm a 4th grade teacher and our 3rd grade team is known for getting all the kids medicated. I'm on a search for how to help these kids. When you say ADHD is not new, I've always believed that. I believe those who've marked history probably had it. Now we're medicating these high energy, creative movers and shakers. Is this for the better? I struggle with it. I believe some cases are organic (meaning born this way), some are mostly due to environment and it comes with a whole host of other problems. I really don't want my precious, brilliant, grandson on medication. But I need to know how best to tap into the gifts these unique people have. Is medication really the answer??
When I finally took medication, I realized how unfair it was to compare myself with the normal people. It hurts my self-esteem deeply how people treated me. I didn't reach my full potential. I wish I had gotten help when I was a kid. My teacher pulled my hair and was horrible to me because she was frustrated. Kids suffer.
No. It is not the answer.
This episode is nearly 2 hrs long, he does say a lot about non medication, particularly very standard, generally human positive 'things' we've known about *for ever* such as connection, learning self love and positive thinking - and these rely on help from, and positive interdependence on other people.
... maybe just listen again...
for anyone who catastrophises when someone asks them for a quick chat without context...LOL
It saves a relationship unless your partner isn't a narcissist. The last so called "boyfriend" I had always represented my diagnosed adhd as an excuse for a toxic, irrational, intentionally destroying borderline crazy bitch - thing that most of the time he triggered with harmful words, ignorance and so on, so that he could point his dirty little finger at me. He hated that someday I started to try to treat and understand myself right. Because he wasn't able to do that, with me and with himself. And if a therapist or a doctor told him, that he had to understand and consider things, it would have taken the ground under his feet. Because a partner who works on his mental health isn't a good victim. Well, anybody should stay away from narcissists, but people with ADHD should RUN.
Thank you for your great work on ADHD, I feel save and understood through your videos ❤
Betzoarr, I hope you have come across videos by Dr Ramani & The Little Shaman. They are a great source of knowledge & help on one's healing journey from toxic abuse.
@@RosellaHomecare thank you, I will watch it tomorrow morning 😍
Thank you thank you thank you. I do excellent work and I've been tortured for years for being late. I no longer work in a typical work environment for this and many other reasons. The fixation on being on time is ridiculous.
The half-hearted employee clocks in on time every day and does mediocre work but they get more praise because they're in their desk at 8:30 where I could do twice as much work of usually a higher quality in the same amount of time and they're stuck on what time I walked in. Go figure
This is the best video on ADHD I’ve seen yet. It was so positive and gave the whole scope and spectrum. Thank you so much. I’ve been watching ADHD videos of the last few years with my late discovery of it in my 40s and this one really takes the cake.
Thanks for this Alex. This is so amazing in so many ways. It was great pleasure to watch. So many take aways so from it but more so much clarity and acknowledgment of what I l know and experience of ADHD. I laughed so much when Ned said he’s asked so many women for marriage. So much precious moments. Thanks 👍👏🙏❤️
What an utterly AMAZING conversation -- thank you both!!! 🎉❤🎉
I cannot sit still, definitely. I listen to it while trying to organize the house, folding laundry, etc … hard😅 but that works for me
I wanted to try Tiimo but I'm not signing up for a 7 day free trial that I have to remember to cancel because I wont remember. I need at least a month to work out if something is helpful.
I nearly fell of my chair...The Dr Hallowell! Well done Alex and thank you for what you are doing here. 😍
The only bad outcome is giving up.👍👍👍
Muchly appreciate the time stamps
Kratom is the only non meds i use as meds especially red kratom works for me best leaf extract ever
Oh my God. I hope Ned sees this. This was absolutely game changing for me. I'm exactly as he describes. People usually don't talk about how sensitive we are to seeing feelings in people's expressions. And just diagnosed 1 year ago what a refreshing way to view it. Instead of feeling shameful like ŵe have been told. And even to know that there are ways to help us besides for medication. I had no idea. And I'm getting excited as learning about phycology is one of my hyperfixations. He was jist amazing and watched a couple of these on the chatter since I found out about it last week but this one was the absolute best and super helpful.
Please have him on again. That was EPIC! LIFE CHANGING. ❤❤❤❤
I forgot to add. I only zoned out 1 time because it was so amazing and just sponging up all the new knowledge and that is insane for me. To be listening the whole time.
Great interview and extremely informative but I was distracted by your use of a low depth of field (faces in focus but legs are not). It seems like you are in a professional studio so I am assuming it was a choice. Either way I wanted to give some feedback to show how invested I was in this video.
P.S. for any trolls out there. I realize what I felt might not be true for everyone or comes off "nitpicky" ,but it might be true for a few, and sometimes it is a bunch of small improvements that takes the ordinary to something extraordinary.
I sit through the timo app ads just for you Alex. I know they can see if I skip them.
Anyway, here we go. An hour and 50 minutes.
Even my ADHD brain thought you said TEMU which I also use daily and have to watch myself- will look at TIIMU!!!! 😂
Oh Lord, I think I have ADHD as well. Too many dots connected after seeing this video. 😳
Love this guy. Loads of downloads. Counter balance to G Mate. Thanks maestro- you’re the highest help.
You! 🤩I really needed to hear this. Shame stops me. I need to find someone to be by my side, I have always wanted to write a book and now I will! ❤
What a thrill to hear Ned Hallowell speak!!
15:14 Finally!!!! Someone has explained that about me!!! Thank you!🙏🙏🙏
This is awesome and I feel set free. THANK YOU!
❤❤❤ life changing that I was talking out loud while listening!!! I could listen for hours (while moving) but reading a book is torture. Yet I want to go buy all your books! Thank goodness for Audible!
I pick up on everyone’s gestures. I just assumed I was paranoid, like I’ve always been told.
One of the best videos I’ve seen that explains adhd. Adhd testing should not be so expensive.
I just got diagnosed at 37 and before I was able to try medication I found out that I’m pregnant so I’m in this limbo state trying to cope with a medication that’s not necessarily meant for ADHD but helps a bit. I wish I would try meds but it looks like it might be a couple of years before I get to if I breastfeed.
Thanks so much for doing this interview. Dr H has empowered so many including me and mine xx
Hey Mary, you rock! Thanks for sharing. I’m still learning tons. I am going to start meds tomorrow and I’m being closely monitored by the doc. I feel like there’s a light at the end of the tunnel ☺️
Thank you so much for this conversation!
I've never heard anyone explain it the way he does.. You don't really hear about the sensitivity of people who are diagnosed with ADHD. I am 33 and just figuring out that it's common to be so sensitive, especially having ADD/ADHD. It's a daily struggle. ❤
The problem for me is not that I dont understand and recognize my wonderful qualities and abilities. The problem is that no one else does, even if I explain it to them. So at the age of 68, I still don't have any deep and lasting friendships, and my family members still disapprove of me.I struggle with loneliness and isolation and being excluded. It doesnt matter how much I understand about ADD or how many skills I have because of it. I'm still alone and misunderstood. I can't be on medication because I'm so sensitive to the side effects, they make more miserable on them that without them. I am resigned to a life alone, knowing how much I have to offer as a friend, how fun loving and adventurous I am and how caring and loving I can be.
Can you please post info (spell the name out please) on the App that you mentioned at the very beginning - it sounds like Temo or Teamo or Timo App? Thank you
I can because I'm not bored. Why am I crying at 53 for all the hoops I've had to jump through my life just to have an expert to tell me I'm not normal 😮 Gee anyone who sits with me for 20minS will agree something not right 🎉 Yet my life is on hold still because I don't have money so I can't get the right help because I need to be diagnosed first
Quests what 😂 I just can't get diagnosed..
The vicious circle continues to get the help I need to be diagnosed but I can't get diagnosed so I can't get the help.. 🙄
So true.
I haven’t listened yet, but your introduction made me laugh Alex! Can we have a chat? = terror every time.
Maybe a silly question:
Treatments can help a lot from what’s said, but can they also reduce the positive traits like creativity ?
He mentions that. Why not try them? You can stop if they aren't helpful. The only caveat is that sometimes the dose is too low.