I always used to think, “there is no way me and everyone I know has ADHD” but then I realized it was because I was thinking about my family and my other artist friends 😂 then later my other startup friends. Every once and awhile I’ll meet an accountant or someone in finance or something and the way they move about the world is absolutely baffling to me.
Those closest to me and I functioned well enough into early adult-hood despite exhibiting the majority of symptoms. I doubted my diagnosis initially. Even after treatment and research reinforced it's likelihood by large margins, I still believed it was over-diagnosed and, at best, I had something similar, but not ADHD. No one close to me had it and we all behave in similar ways. Surely I wasn't an exception. It took over 2-years, my 2 best-friends experiencing the same _diagnosis > treatment > improvment_ I had before my doubts finally dissolved. I wasn't part of an inflated statistic of over-diagnosis. They weren't either. It just took different amounts of time to impact us significantly enough to seek help. It seemed like over-diagnosis for all of us to have ADHD at first, but despite it being obvious now, it didn't occur to me to consider that whole, "birds of a feather" aspect of human nature.
In my life I have noticed that Neurodivergent people tend to be drawn to each other. Most of my friends have ADHD and/or Autism. Probably at least 90% of them.
Yep. A bunch of us were on a holiday together and one lady asked what autism was since all the rest of us had been diagnosed with it. In the middle of this packed restaurant (which was hell for us all ) she suddenly screamed ‘so my divorce was totally not my fault’ it was hilarious. She’s in her eighties. Birds of a feather.
My family & teachers failed me. I've had undiagnosed ADHD since I was a child. “She's a daydreamer, she’s looking out the window instead of paying attention. She has such potential. She needs to apply herself.”
I didn’t get diagnosed until I realised it myself at age 21 and then went to actually get it clinically diagnosed. I just ended up masking it up so well because I was constantly humiliated in class (right in front of all the other students) by my teachers for zoning out or getting distracted. Top it off I had a bad reputation in class because my ADHD gave me emotional regulation problems and so I cried a lot to the point that I became a nuisance.
but he/she can full focus with great intensity on things that she IS interested in! Here's another one. Do you have a collections of materials for several different crafts and projects? But have only started one or none and not started the rest?
I was going to say, my teachers all said I was conscientious, but it just so happens I like reading, writing and drawing, so that's 75% of school covered. Wasn't interested in maths or sports lol. And if you mean my collection of manicure items because I wanted to be a nail tech last month, or my collection of black clothing from when I was going to commit to being Goth a few months ago or the stupid amount of money I spent on hair bleaching products only to dye it jet black? Or the over 50 pairs of footwear I own because I get a kick (lol) out of the purchasing and receiving of them, but then I NEVER wear them?
In my family, we used to call it "shiny object syndrome" and my entire family seems to have it. I didn't realize it was actually ADHD until around 5 years ago. We all do awesome in high-stress or crisis situations but struggle with normal, day-to-day stuff. I'm so grateful for videos like yours. It normalizes behaviors that I've been depressed about for decades and just knowing I have ADHD has helped me find better coping strategies which has improved my overall quality of life. So, thank you!
It's me, haha 🙋♀️. I never considered I might have ADHD until my younger brother was diagnosed in his 30s, and he started telling me his symptoms....I was like, "Oh, I thought that was just our family's personality!" 😂
In my retirement decade I was told I was probably ADHD but have not sought a diagnosis yet (I will). But descriptions of female ADHD are pretty accurate. Prior to this I have compared myself to a cat, easily distracted by shiny moving things. I coped much better when I was younger.
like crows and ravens? i mean i love crows and ravens and i also love shiny things (i have too many things i randomly pick up and keep) mom calls my collection treasured trash. i like shiny things and rocks! My brother doesnt collect anything but does give me stuff he knows i collect! even the kids at my work (daycare/kindergarten) gives me rocks that are weirdly shaped and shiny or has something about it they think i will like. I am the rock and shell collector
My mom still talks about a time 17 years ago when I was saying something to her and literally stopped in the middle of a word to watch a cool car go by with my head turning to follow it out of sight, then turned back to her and finished the word and rest of the sentence. I don’t think I’ve stopped mid-WORD any other time in my life (at least no one else has ever told me that I have), but stopping mid-sentence always happens at least once a DAY for me!
You are most welcome! I love hearing that we're making a difference. I love how folks with ADHD can be so supportive of each other. I see it every day in the conversations among my Patrons in the Patron chat room. perhaps it's because life has been such a mystery that as we finally start to figure it out we can't wait to share it with others and help them on their way.
#11 - you were able to get through this whole video without going back to catch what you missed when your mind wandered. #12 you waited until the end of the video to comment
Great video! Just for some clarification for anyone watching. I 100% have ADHD, have been diagnosed and take medication. I DO fold and put away the washing as soon as it's dry and my house is very tidy. I believe it's a strategy I learnt from childhood and I can get stressed when there is mess. I don't believe all people with ADHD are 'messy' however I might be a bit of an outlier. Just wanted to posted that for anyone watching who gets caught up on that point. If you think you have ADHD and it's causing a material impact on your life, go for assessment ASAP. It could change your life. It changed mine. Thanks for doing great work Rick! We need more people like yourself spreading the message!
thanks, this helped! i'm 15, everyone always says i have a lot of potential and i feel so bad 'cause i know what i could do if it wasn't for what is probably adhd, i really hope this is gonna stops being an obstacle
@@tfjknodacf - You're on the right path. I was diagnosed at 38 at everything became easier. Remember that you're always enough and that you're doing really well. We have a tendency to feel like we are not good enough, aren't achieving or we compare ourselves with others. My therapist reminded me that I've achieved enough at 38 to write a book! Although some days it's doesn't feel like that. It's OK :) those days can be real motivators to do more! Good luck on your journey and remember you're not alone!
Thanks for sharing this. I believe I fall in the same boat. It was drilled into me to be neat and tidy and to finish what I start even though I really struggle with it and I really have to push myself to do so. I was told I do not have ADHD because my life is organized enough, so it can't possibly be ADHD. Yet I tick all the other boxes (often distracted, always fiddling, lots going on in my head at all times, memory of a goldfish). I never feel like I do enough and that there is always more to do. Sometimes my head is too "loud" to have a normal conversation with people. Maybe I should get a second opinion elsewhere.
When I went to someone for a diagnosis (I had suspected for a few years) she initially asked the usual questions.... Are you always late? DO you lose your keys? To which I could easily reply no. Because I am an adult I have strong coping strategies already in place. I always pad my time so I'm not late (Tho the earlier I have to be somewhere, the higher chance I will be late). I come in the door and put my keys in the same spot every. single. time. But ask me how often I buy produce then completely forget it as soon as it gets put away and have to throw it out because I bought it a month or more ago even tho it only seems like a week to me. I am also the QUEEN of "Let me put this where I'll find it again" and never find it again. Many of us build coping strategies without realizing that's what they are until later. Unfortunately many of the questions used to diagnose ADHD don't take this into consideration.
@@RickHasADHD I have a lot of fun examining myself. Even the things I imagine most people find embarrassing or want to forget or deny or ignore about themselves, I tend to find fascinating. I feel like understanding it takes away a lot of the worry and helps me compose myself when it happens to me later on.
I scrolled to the comments half way through the video, wanted to comment on something, didn't write it immediately and then tried to focus on reading comments and listening to you at the same time, which worked (it didn't). In the end I forgot what I wanted to say initially. Diagnosed since I was a kid probably around 25 years ago. But I got something I've learned in those years. Working around your weaknesses is the biggest help you can do for yourself. Be calm and assured that things will work out even if you don't work in a neurotypical way. Some people need a month for something you might only need 3-4 hyperactivity/hyperfocus days to do. Sometimes you can even work wonders in a single day. You came this far in live and are still going strong.. you're probably doing fine. Stop overthinking about the bad aspects of ADHD. As was said in this video, psychological stress can produce similar symptoms as ADHD and for us already suffering from ADHD, that can be a debilitating state of mind to have. So it's even more important for us to relax and stay healthy. Thank you for tackling ADHD with some comedy, it will probably help do exactly that.
What a lovely, helpful and compassionate comment l. I don't think I have it, and thanks to Rick and you, I think I'm going to remove it from the list possible syndromes, illnesses, and downright diseases I've been told I unequivocally have. ❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏
@christineashby4003 I'm afraid to actually get any work at my job done ahead of time because that means I have to "look busy" for my seven supervisors. Today's work climate can inflict ADHD on anyone.
I have never turned in anything late. In fact, I get such a boost from the anxiety of the idea of not finishing on time that I have always turned in my work way way ahead of time. I get super focused and get things done super fast. I can't think of a single test I did in grade school or at university where I wasn't the first person to turn in my test. I thought that meant I didn't have adhd. Turns out it absolutely means I do
I have exactly half of your abilities, I have so much anxiety, but I never finish on time. I start at the last possible minute, but I am anxious all the way throughout!
100% Me too. That is why I hate these lists. I love the dopamine of checking things off my list. Most of the time they are NOT things I truly care about.😅
3:30 "Lately? I wish" had me cackling to myself for a good minute - thanks for brightening my day with a good belly laugh xD excellent content! You just gained a new subscriber ^^
That's great. I sound like as tuck record but getting a proper diagnosis is life changing. If finances or waiting lists mean that's not possible, then assume you have it and start using some of the ADHD-friendly strategies.
I have never felt more called out. I'm fairly certain I have ADHD 😂 You really got me with the laundry. It's been in my chair for weeks and I'm supposed to hang those up today 😅
Don't take this as a disregard for your personal insight/experience, but if you think you have it, _please_ seek a professional diagnosis before _believing_ you do. (Being open to not having it as well.) Not only is it critical to your health/safety, but it's critical for others too. It's difficult to distinguish ADHD symptoms from common mishaps or personality traits. These lists can skew our perceptions w/o proper care and context and they generate views easily. This has made ADHD a type of _trend._ Which hurts those w/and w/o it. "Trend-chasers" may become rigid in their belief and miss key insights that could truly help them. People on the other end (like myself), can grow doubtful from the increased exposure and large amounts of misleading or false information. (Spread intentionally or by mistake.) This can delay diagnosis and may also result in key insights being overlooked. (This was my personal experience. I didn't even consider ADHD and doubted the diagnosis. Treatment improved my situation though. I'll admit, much of the responsibility was mine. I didn't verify the information properly, but I don't believe the "personal responsibility" argument is not a valid reason to not improve the situation. I could have avoided several years of struggle if the content and discussions around the topic weren't what they are now.) Please understand, I'm not accusing you, this channel, or anyone of being malicious or doing these things intentionally. It's just important for all of us to be aware of the effects such simple lists, explanations, beliefs, and statements can have. They are useful when used properly. They are fun content, and communication with similar individuals is a joyful, positive experience, but we have to be cognizant they _are not_ a substitute for professional council.
I actually think that is how things are supposed to be. Who said that all actions have to happen at the same time?? Do them when it's convenient for you!
@@yvonnes7412 Try living in Italy. No one has dryers. If the sun ain't shining the stuff goes on "clothes driers" and remains damp. The humidity can make the clothing in your chest of drawers feel like someone's washed it and put it away wet. Same with bedsheets ON YOUR BED.😬😬
Thank you Rick! I am 67 and living in Scotland. When my boys were teenagers I was informally diagnosed with ADHD along with them. However, they had proper assessments. Recently I began to feel I would like an official diagnosis. It turns out that this is not readily available because age layers another level of cognitive difference on top of possible ADHD. In other words the diagnosis becomes more difficult and more specialised. However, a clever therapist helped me figure out that my internal dialogue was very negative. She also pointed out that this was unhealthy on many levels. So, I have been following (rather imperfectly) a programme of compassionate self care. Well worth looking into for anyone struggling with ADHD and anxiety as I do.
the effects of living with untreated ADHD for many years leave marks, like the way that water wears away stones over centuries, or how decades of feet can wear down even marble steps. it's really great that you have a competent therapist! 👍
Please do still consider getting your diagnosis. The diagnosis is so important ❤ I am now 11 months past my diagnosis and never - never - have I been more in touch with who I actually am. It grows by the month and it is simply astounding.
I am so sorry to hear this. I am 72 and also live in Scotland. My GP referred me for tests in February this year, and I got a diagnosis in May. Provision for adult diagnosis varies hugely from one Health Board to another. Don’t give up on getting a diagnosis. I recommend you find the ADHD support organisation nearest you for local advice pertinent to your area. They will also know which private practitioners have a solid reputation for diagnosing and treating ADHD if you wanted to consider going down that route.
I was diagnosed with 40, now sixty. The labelling did not help me at all. First I got pills which just make me dizzy, not spontanious, whitty, funny anymore and I dropped them. Then I realized people, private like family and friends or public like physisians, office looked at me like I sad I am a criminal or crazy. Well germany is behind america about 30 years in social and medical stuffs. Having a good coach to get your best life possible is much more important then being labeled. Like indians ( american native people) had a leather bag with total personal medicine with them you need your own liste of 1 what troubles and 2 what helps. Like: Nerveous, go for a walk. Overwhelmed, take cold shower, Forget cooking+ eating, make healthy fast food, Cloth is troubeling, take silk under it, aso. Half of symptons equal Borderline so have a look at the work of Linnehan: analyze your real feeling behind the obvious feeling, If too distraced, count to ten, look for all blue f.e. stuff in the room, train self awareness, train patience, by watching consciously your desires ( sweets, cigaretts ...) are going up, but not endless as expected but going down again w/o doing anything. Aso.
Hey, that's a thought! It's like the momentum of the day to day tasks and responsibilities kept me in check. I called myself a master juggler the more I had to do the better I stayed on track. Once my son left home and I was by myself again. Staying on task and on track what's more of a challenge and I had to hyper focus.
All the while I was independently raising my son, I was convinced he was ADHD & he was diagnosed as such. Yet now I realize it was me all that time & that he was the reason I was more together. I managed holding down 2-4 jobs at a time; Since being retired i've gotten more and more disorganized, scattered, impulsive and my house is such a mess , I don't let anyone in.
I tidied up, folded and put away all my clean laundry recently that was lying around. Such a rewarding experience! I also found winter clothes that I'll need in a month or so ....
😮 currently procrastinating about this very same task 😢 everything seems so taxing sometimes. How can something so basic cause so much anxiety. I hate having ADD
Ahhh yes, the pure joy of realizing you actually have great clothes, they just went missing for months...years. I have come to terms with the inevitable fact that things will appear when they want, not when you look for them or need them. With clothes it's an everyday struggle. But what about when you finally happen upon that wallet you lost eons ago and realize it has money in it!? It's the little joys.
I just adore you Rick! I always wondered about the people that don't have ADHD, I kept thinking that ADHD is overdiagnosed and there is no such thing as neurotypical people. People are amazed at all the things I have done and I always think that I haven't done enough, that I am meant to do something great but the way others react, it seems I have already done great things, but that isn't how I feel. That GREAT thing is always still on the horizon. Maybe that is how we keep going, always looking to be better and doing more. I am medicated with Adderal, have been since 2018, and have been better organized and accomplished at the types of things that you mentioned, since being medicated. Right now, I am really focusing on following through, finishing projects, doing what I say I am going to do, and being on time....I am/have been a Realtor, Waitress, Mom, Grandma, Public Speaker, Serial Entrepreneur, investor in the stock market, a day trader during the pandemic, investor in real estate, married 3 times(I left all of them), ADHD Coach wannabe(went to school to be certified but didn't finish), went to 7 different Jr. Colleges in the 80's and had 2.1 GPA, went back to school in my 50's and got 3.8 GPA but at 61, I still have 3 credits to go, just to get my AA. When the Carr Fire and Camp Fire in California destroyed people's homes and entire towns, I dropped everything, ran 3 fundraisers, and drove to California 15 times to help. I live in Spokane and the fires were in Northern California. People kept asking me how I could do those things and I had no idea, I just did them without thinking. I have self-medicated but didn't know that I was doing that at the time, am a world traveler, love road trips so I can listen to podcasts and books(who has time or patience to read the actual books anymore, I have about 2000 actual books in my personal library😳 Anyway, I am rambling, and I am sure you are having difficulty getting through this, 🥱so I will close for now. Thank you for all you do. Know that it is helping others with ADHD. Well, I can't speak for others, but it really helps me. 🙂
Wow, Julie, that is impressive. I've often talked about how many people with ADHD can be calm, focused, and in action during a crisis but when things are calm they feel edgy, tired, or unmotivated. The crisis that overwhelms most people's brains seems to wake up ours. It's why I'm happy, alive, and alert when I'm onstage, but can be sluggish and scattered when it's time to do paperwork. P.S. Thank you for the adoration. May I say that I admire how you are dealing with your ADHD. It's complex. It's challenging. But if you see it as an interesting puzzle to solve it can allow you to be more self aware and in control.
@JuliePeterson Wow, I dont know you but you are talking directly into my soul There's is ALWAYS this feeling of having to wait for the BIG THING to happen and idk what it will be but my prayers are that itll happen very soon I cant seem to enjoy "normal" days, its rather the packed and a little stressful days that make me feel "accomplished" if thats understandable...idk But thank you so much, I hope imma reach out to a meeting of ADHD people cuz thats within reach but I hope I'll have the same motivatio cut itll be next year
1. You feel like you’re living up to your potential. 2. You finish tasks and projects on time. 3. Your finished projects are actually finished. 4. You read the instructions through and then you followed them in order and you did not think at some point, “this is boring. I have a better idea. I know can do this faster.”. 5. You’ve read the instructions and started the project. And didn’t end up sidetracked on side missions. 6. You rarely lose track of where you are and what you’re doing. 7. Someone you know tells you, “ you seem scattered lately.” 8. You wash and then dry and then fold and then iron and immediately put away your clean laundry. In one day. 9. When things hit the fan and you are in a crisis or panic. 10. Work with Rick link in bio/description
I didn’t think I had the hyperactivity part until I realized I keep a small sewing box with me so I “have something to do with my hands” when I was about 14 I learned to hand quilt (hand stitch) from my Grandmother who made mind blowing quilts. I had already been sewing since I was 7 but hand sewing was a whole new world. After learning how awesome it was to make something without dragging a sewing machine around with me I found a tiny bit of calm (tiny, like 5% but for me 5% was fantastic) I was diagnosed in my mid 50’s and honestly broke down in the car and cried HAPPY TEARS. My life finally made sense, my habits and behaviors had an explanation. I’m positive my Grandfather had adhd even though he had two degrees in engineering as well as geology, paleontology and archaeology. When I was younger we were working on a project and he told me I was just like him. He taught me to keep a notebook so I could keep track of what I was doing as well as what I needed to do (he was my mentor and best friend along with my Grandma). To this day I’m never without my notebook, I forget my car keys, where I parked my car, my phone, sunglasses, purse but not my notebook, it’s what keeps my going!
I think those degrees are perfect for a person with adhd, any degree actually if you're really really into it. Ive taken 3 gap years because i just cannot deal with highschool, but when im finally done with it I'll THRIVE in my biology studies oh MAN. That was about me, sorry. I'm really happy that you had such amazing people looking out for you!! Its amazing
This video is just great!!!!😂 Got diagnosed just about five months ago at age 53. Had my suspicion before but I managed to keep a job , finish an education, got no hudge debts, was not on drugs or in crime or running around all the time ( which I was doing but didn't notice because it made sense to run around at that time)so figured I just had to try harder, just not act like a lazy spoiled teenager, be less selfish and self absorbed. Life was like a wild water river and I was for my whole life just fighting to not drown and not get myself in problems and give my son a good life as a single parent. Till even my employer send me home on sick leave because she saw I was drowning ( Dutch so employees are really protected when you get sick) . The companies psychologisch send me for an ADHD test because he thought that was the problem. Now I got diagnosed I really dived into the ADHD rabbit hole, and really don't understand why it took me so long to see it for what it was. When I watch this I like looking in a mirror, only now thanks to medication and an ADHD coach I can laugh about it. Ohh...got to stop...watched to many viseo's and typed to long...almost missing my appointment and forgot to eat ....😱 This is not even a joke😭
For anyone taking the dying 10 years early to heart after this video, I totally understand and agree that hurts to hear. But just imagine being 90 and having ADHD...we'd be bored out of our minds guys.
I've always managed to 'mask' my ADHD because I could expend my energy, now I'm older and have osteoarthritis and osteoporosis I cannot do much physically and I am honestly being driven to madness!! Any advice?
Huh, I might not have an official diagnosis, but I only exhibit the 9th and 10th signs. I expect things to go as planned and am not good at switching gears when a crisis occurs. Though I strongly suspect that I also have autism, so that might explain that. Also, no one in my family is diagnosed for anything, though plenty of them probably could be if they wouldn't be so sceptical of psychologists or other medical personnel to begin with. Anyways, on to finish the video. Edit: Yeeesss, multiple streams of thought going on simultaneously in my head is so relatable! I am so tired, lol!
Diagnosed at 65 - explained a lot about my life. Creating new habits is tough at this age. Best for me is having that reassurance given by the diagnosis, the AHA moments when I recognize what I'm doing is because of ADHD.
Disagnosed at 49, but yeah. Just knowing WHY or that it's not being lazy made a huge difference in my outlook. I embrace it now and just accept it. And try to figure out work arounds for the important things.
This is fantastic! Everyone has moments or seasons where they have one or multiple ADHD like symptoms. Lucky them!! We (ADHDers) deal with every single thing you mentioned every single day… Every single moment of that day. We learn to manage because we have to in order to live in this world. People without ADHD never will truly understand what a challenge it can be.
Thank you Rick. Another video by you that hits the nail(s) on the head. I was diagnosed with ADHD 3 years ago at age 57 and I've recently started to forget, at times, that ADHD explains my whole life. This video has been a useful and strangely reassuring reminder that I do, really, have ADHD. Absolutely. No doubt about it. BTW, I used to think that being good in a crisis (shame about the rest of the time) was just my amazing personality and natural special-forces-like aptitudes. It was something I clung onto in the chaos, like a drowning man hanging on for dear life to a floating .... err ... thing. Now I know better. On the plus side 'Good In a Crisis (shame about the rest of the time)' has saved my life on more than one occasion (I used to be attracted to certain kinds of high risk situations) so if I hadn't been an ADHDer I would now be dead. Although, come to think of it, if I hadn't been an ADHDer I probably wouldn't have got into those situatiuons in the first place. Go figure.
I’m afraid I would have to say that the attraction to high risk situations is yet another red flashing sign pointing to you know what. But I relate, I very much relate. And I think being “good” in those absolutely wild situations we put ourselves in time and again is still good practice for when shit hits the fan from the outside 👍
You almost went full circle. Forgetting having it. It reminds me of the joke "My dear granddaughter, how's that evil German called who hides my meds?" "Alzheimer, granpops"
Yah, I can totally see the parallels! 'good in a crisis' meant for me (adhd male diagnosed very late) I'd get myself cornered into all sorts of high risk endeavours, just too feel alive for once when inevitably things began to go pear shaped and I the challenge of not getting out or going under drowned out my chaotic inner monologue. Good times! But I wouldn't be here if I didn't develop some ways of getting my dopamine hit without risking my neck. (:
LOL! This is so me - I am ADHD and was never formally diagnosed. Now a lot of it makes sense - scatterbrained, don't pay attention, etc. etc. :) Thanks for your fun video.
I listened. Laughed. Checked on a work activity. Looked at other titles of videos. Got some tea. Came back to watch some more of the video. Laughing inwardly. Thinking of taking a nap. Never calm, clear, etc. hahahahahaha. Made a folder to share these videos with. Came back to the video - it's almost finished. Who needs to see this? I am thinking of some clients....Thinking of my sons - do they have it? Hum....My tea is cold. How did it get cold so quickly? He's still talking - #10 - I do have ADHD. HELP!
I love the dopamine hit of getting the laundry done! Dishes, too! And vacuuming is so rewarding. I can keep up with those and enjoy it, but I can't seem to dust or windex.
I have definitely noticed that there are some tasks that I love to absolutely finish all the way through. I think some people with adhd can indeed finish tasks. As long as it's one they actually fully enjoy doing. As you said you really enjoy vacuuming and dishes and laundry. So completing those is very fun in rewarding for you. And you get the dopamine hit so you can do those. But dusting in windexing is not as fun and rewarding, so it's very difficult for you to do. This makes perfect sense to me and reaffirms the adhd diagnosis. I wish I could relate, but I don't think I have any chores that I enjoy doing, and therefore, I struggle to do and finish these chores. I think the only one I really enjoyed doing is maybe sweeping but sweeping is very difficult because I have to pick up a lot of the clutter and clothes on my floor. So in order for me to sweep, I need to do a lot of other cleaning first. Vacuuming is fun as long as the vacuum isn't heavy. Or you can use the hose extension.
@@chee60lol same here. I almost always fold my laundry. I just put something interesting on and all of a sudden my clothes are folded. It doesn’t happen all the time. Sometimes I just can’t stand it and leave my shirts neatly pilled flat. Good enough. Less wrinkles than a messy pile.
Five years ago, I was out on a list to be assessed for ASD because I ticked many boxes for ASD. Two and a half years after that, I was told that I was on the spectrum. That I had been on the spectrum my entire life. Support for children and young people with ASD is very good where I live but if you’re over 50, it’s non-existent. I was ignorant of the ASD until I found out. I struggle daily trying to block out that knowledge. Your list tick boxes for me and ADHD and quite frankly, I’m not going to request a professional medical assessment. I’m nearly 60 and I can’t take any more of this. Where were all the experts when I was a youngster? Every teacher who wrote a report said the same thing from elementary through high school - he has the ability but doesn’t make the effort. His mind is always elsewhere and racing ahead. Good luck with your channel and I hope others get what they need.
This really makes me see how far I've come in handling my ADHD. A lot of things mentioned used to be crippling for me, not so much these days. The military really helped me develop some discipline and overcome things.
I love that I’ve found this channel after I’ve run away from my kitchen ( with a sofa in it) and my living room ( with a dinning table in it) and the boxing bag with my clothes for going out are hanging on it ( even though I refuse to show up for outings) I’ve run away to my bedroom with two tvs that aren’t plugged in to find this lovely channel. ( a huge sigh of relief) thank you. ( diagnosed at 53)
Woah, I just kinda clicked on this video because I'm dead certain I don't have ADHD (I'm dyslexic instead) and I wanted this nice looking fellow to agree with me. A few seconds later I swear I've seen him before, and then suddenly it becomes apparent I know of this guy from a tonne of TV shows from when I was a kid, lol. That's neat, man. Real neat. A few of my old pals and I have often wondered if you ever made it back to Earth, and I'm glad to see that you did.
It never occurred to me that I might have ADHD until my little brother called me (we were 33 & 36 lol) and said "Dude, I know what's wrong with us!" I was skeptical until I discovered that procrastinating is common - I had always thought I was just a bad person. Both of us had been in and out of colleges despite having great potential ... The more I learned the more I realized that it fit me perfectly. It really hit when I said something to a friend about having four trains running on the different tracks in my brain all the time - I thought everyone did, she was gobsmacked. 😂 After being diagnosed it was clear that both of our parents had it too. We used to say that dealing with my Mom about certain things was like herding stoned cats. Growing up the only kids who were diagnosed with ADHD were boys who were just wild - like Dennis the Menace.
Your experience is sooooo common. I'm not sure if that helps, but I suspect that you will start to notice how many of the friends you love hanging out with seem to have the same thing going on.
I actually feel like that, but only because I know that I'm steadily improving and developing unusual skills, even though I'm always behind the NT timeline in certain things. I used to envy my sister who has just enough hyperactivity symptoms to make her a restless workaholic, but who otherwise is NT, while having the same IQ as me (I guess), but a much higher EQ. She's 3 years younger than me, but much more accomplished. On the other hand, I'm already much more accomplished than most people around me when it comes to things that look good on the CV. Also, I feel like my neurodiversity give me different kinds of interests to those my sister has, so I think that for certain career paths I have necessary strengths that she doesn't have. So overall, I think we're both destined for great things, but our timelines and accomplishments will look different.
I'm half and half. My most recent therapist told me I definitely have C-PTSD (traumatic childhood, abusive partners, etc etc) and that *sometimes, the symptoms of PTSD can mirror those of ADHD.* Read that again! I was sure I had some weird form of ADHD that manifested in early adulthood, or that I was slightly autistic (still might be?) and that combined with ADHD and PTSD made me the neurosis I am today, but she said "no it's probably not ADHD, 'just' C-PTSD". (I didn't even bring up the "am I autistic?" thing because I don't care enough). But yeah, my PTSD comes out to mirror ADHD, among the other lovely PTSD symptoms. FYI, I guess. Lol. Great video! 😊
Neurodivergent people, specifically those with autism and ADHD, or more susceptible to PTSD. Regardless, at some point it doesn't really matter. The management of the above conditions tends to have high overlap. Treat one, and you address the others. You get to a point where you feel pretty good, and then maybe wonder if you can try addressing the other conditions more directly. Get a good doctor on board.
Like someone else already mentioned: ADHD and CPTSD is a common comorbidity. I've got both. I was diagnosed with BPD a couple years ago during the biggest crisis of my life and went through DBT. Years later, my therapist and I both agreed I did not quiiiite meet the criteria for BPD and it's more likely a combination of ADHD+CPTSD. What led me to think so was this: Antidepressants (which would help depressive symptoms as seen in CPTSD) made me numb, I could feel neither joy nor sadness. I didn't have more energy and certainly didn't help with mindfulness. Caffeine doesn't affect me much either - it stimulates me only sometimes but I could always sleep well even after an increased intake. When my friends and I got into raving and partying, I consumed other stimulants for the first time and instead of getting all hyper and super conversational like my friends.. I got up and cleaned the room because I finally realized I couldn't focus and the mess was bothering me. I enjoyed talking more because I could REMEMBER what others said and add onto their points without interrupting. I got more collected whereas they got wayyy jumpier in their thoughts and actions. When I got my diagnosis and started methylphenidate it calmed me down immediately. It also heavily lessened my anxiety. It helped with my sleep issues because I could monitor and control my energy levels throughout the day. Almost 10 years of behavioral therapy finally came into fruition.
I actually have a lot of behaviours of what is considered ADHD. But not consistantly. When I was younger with 3 children, yeah the laundry never got done and put away on the same day, the house was in total disarray, but I did keep up with the dishes because I hated dirty dishes in the sink, but there was always a lot of dust on the furniture. Many projects I started never got finished due to a gradual decline in enthusiasm. I was always behind on the bills. I always thought I was lazy and only did things that were vitally important to do (eg. keep the kids fed and clothed). The rest of the time I would waste watching tv instead of tidying up the house, or doing anything else deemed productive. I always wondered how my friends could be so good at managing their lives. Now that I am retired, I'm better with the laundry, mainly because I have so much more time to relax. I notice that tags on my shirts really bother me, I still make no effort to keep the house spick and span, and I get overwhelmed at the thought to throwing a dinner party because of all the work I will have to do. I still think of myself as being lazy. No matter my good intentions I remain in this rut.
I would say that you are COPING better with the laundry now, but that does not necessarily mean that you don’t have ADHD (just my humble opinion) - what you’re describing DOES sound consistent to me 🤷♀️
1. I always have a song going on in my head ,a conversation with myself, thinking about a thing that I saw in a video, reminiscing my childhood memories, thinking about future and my recent obsession(it my be a person or thing) 2. I am never organised always have clothes on my floor and bed 3. I get overwhelmed very easily even if it is something I love, if it’s too much I get stressed 4. I was watching this video at 2x speed still it was too slow I opened the comments halfway and missed half of the point 5. I can never stay still (if I have a scissor near me every thing that it can cut is shredded to pieces, I never throw chocolate wrappers unless I tear them into small pieces, if I have strip of tablets near me you better believe I am removing that well sheet of it) I always have some kind of trash scattered around me (my mom calls me a mouse because of this) 6. I cannot stay focused on my studies but if it’s one day before my exam I am fully concentrated 7. I always forget things easily so I get stressed about it until I write it somewhere 8. I tried suggesting my family that I may have adhd but it’s always dismissed
I've been laughing all the way through this because I can relate to everything that is typical of adhd mentioned here. Your style of delivery is great.
In addition to the above: It's okay to not have ADHD and have a disorganized life. It's possible to have a messy life and not have ADHD. It's also possible to have an organized life and have ADHD. It's about a consistent pattern of symptoms that affect all areas of your life. All people get distracted, miss appontments, lose stuff... It's only when it's always happening that it's a good sign that you have ADHD.
The only time I was able to do my laundry and put it all away consistently was when I lived in a tiny dorm room where there was literally no space for me to pile up my clothes. Also I was procrastinating studying
I’m CRACKING UP! I had to pause at #2 it’s spot on & plus I would have gotten distracted before the next number. Then I had to read the comments to see if someone listed all the numbers & oh where was I 😅?
I enjoyed the first and last thirds of this video (I started digging in the garden in the middle). I finished the video, so I’m pretty sure I’m in the clear! Tangent: I’ve been watching your channel and had a vague sense of familiarity, but finally got around to looking you up when you mentioned your comedy career-Red Green was a huge part of my childhood! Thank you so much for all those neural pathways you intentionally set running in my formative years!
i grew up watching you on red green. I knew you looked familiar but i could not place it lol. i mean i already thought you were pretty cool from your youtube vids I've seen but now realizing you were apart of the red green show made my Halloween quite happy. hope yours is a blast. thank you for doing your thing, I'll stop gushing now XD
I was not diagnosed until I was 50. Since then I have come to see that it is motivation that seems to be a very big problem for me. I have always been like this, I have to be obsessed with something to have the motivation to do something that is very involved. Otherwise, try as I might I can do very little of a task before giving up, or being distracted and stop a lie down or do something else. I don’t sleep well at night, but take many short rest during the day. I have been on the medication for some years now, it helps but not as much as it first did.
Thank you so much for this video Rick! I have suspected that our adult son has ADHD since he was a child. Unfortunately he has not been diagnosed and has said that he 'knows he doesn't have it'. But taking on way too much at once, overestimating his actual abilities for a project, easily overwhelmed, challenged to finish a project in his estimated timeline, failing to follow through on projects, etc. I could go on! Thinking about family history, I wonder if I have some aspects of it as well. I really enjoy your videos!
Go at it! If this is true, and you decide medication is your path forward. It could change your life. I used to sit in a meeting room in a panic with social anxiety. All gone now!
Shoot. I was hoping to find out I was NOT. But almost all of these things made me want to flip you off, cause I try repeatedly but CAN'T do most of these things ("you can do anything you put your mind too, just try harder" Nope, not my mind). Wait, I HAVE done them...when I sleep 8 hours in a bed that does NOT have clothes all over it, eat vegetables and fruit, exercise for at least 30 minutes, spend time with 1 person I like for about 30 minutes and ONLY that or I'm distracted, listen to music I like without advertisements that distract me, do NOT eat any sugar, have both nuts and grape juice, it is a sunny day between 65 and 75 degrees, my cats are around me, I have no headache/neck ache or stress, and start with meditation and stretching, even though it bores the shit out of me! So no problem at all, I will just be sure to do that.
This video helped me a lot, NOW everything makes sense! I had thought I had ADHD, but I actually have most of the mentioned traits. It made me think deeper about possible causes of my inattentivity, zoning out etc. I am diagnosed with PTSD and that might be the actual explanation. Guys, remember that many symptoms are typical for different disorders. Don't get offended if a professional doesn't want to diagnose you with something that you are "sure" you have 😇
Love this upbeat perspective. Nailed it! I have about 7 or 9. Sometimes 8 but only when I’m high! I think. Feeling better about myself knowing someone like you can bring such levity to ADHD. I meant that as a compliment. 💯👍🥰😎
Hi I enjoyed your video! I am a 49 year old female and have been on anti depressants since 2008 and in 2021 I was diagnosed with ADHD. I wonder if my anti depressants were taken because of my undiagnosed ADHD. I thinking I should STOP taking anti depressants and take only my vyvanse ?? Do you think vyvanse on its own will cause anxiety ? I’ve only ever taken vyvanse 20mg with anti depressants. What do you think?
I haven't had that strong of a belly laugh in a looong time!!! Thank YOU!! The links in the descriptions...omg.. I've been literally for two days now trying to remember if I went back and added the links to the descriptions!! Bahahaaaa!! Great job! Entertaining and informative. 🙌
im autistic and im suspecting i might have adhd too- but i know we have a lot of overlap so when taking a quiz or something i will have the same symptoms as someone with adhd- (especially the 4 different conversations and the restaurant tv things you talk about at the start of the video i have insane noise sensitivity) my whole life i've been told im lazy and it honestly feels like shit- i don't mean to not get things done. i work as hard as i can but it's hard- it's hard to focus when theres a million things that are due and it gets overwhelming to the point i always talk myself out of stuff. hearing that im not just lazy and there's an actual reason im like this. i'll definitely look into adhd more thank you :-)
Thanks for making this video Rick, because there's just a rising popularity of people thinking many things are ADHD when it can be other Disorders. I am currently going to my therapist and we're trying to fing out whether I have CPTSD or ADHD because I do have a long history of trauma soooo maaaaybe I have ADHD, who knows. I'll find out soon tho.
totally agree and the whole idea of people saying 'i think I have ADHD?'... I'm sorry but everyone I know with ADHD has had a material impact on their life and relationships.. getting distracted by social media.. yeah, I don't think that's really impacted your life like people here know.
Thanks Rick. This is the first time I have seen a video like this. You are an ADHD hero. I have been a fan of your work for many years and because I recognized you from the Red Green show that led me to your ADD and Loving it show that really helped me pull a lot of information together. I have been on medication for several years and I am living a more comfortable life because I have learned to accept my short comings and have stopped trying to over achieve. Looking forward to the next one.
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child (6yo), and for the longest time I've just been "that really upbeat and bombastic dude", but I honestly get stressed out real fast because I get easily overwhelmed by my feelings (I basically hype myself up) and I'm too expressive. And the thing that stresses me the most is something I struggle a lot with too, that you mentioned during point 8 iirc; doing things step by step. I'm a mess of a person, yet I do express OCD-like behaviours; whenever I do something (especially if it is for someone else or in the kitchen), I ask for the clearest step by step indication with the most precise measurements possible, just to make sure I don't mess up and to have enough information to keep me occupied by that single task; else, I get easily distracted by thinking if this goes here or there, if I'm adding too much or too little, or if I messed up the order of steps (which usually happens when I think of optimizing the process...). Also, the "you do your laundry, dry it, fold it and store it" made me feel so called out with the slowly growing pile of clean clothes on my bed... I need to this soon. 9:21 Not the rubix cube mention 😭 I have one by my side almost 90% of the time to scramble it and solve it whenever I get moderately bored while waiting for anything that takes longer than 10 seconds to load..
So many men and women have no idea what perimenopause is. I'm glad it's starting to be talked about, how long it can be (5-15 years more or less), all the problems that can come with it, and what's available to help (HRT for one).
@@LadyRenira yeah, I had awful symptoms for a few years that I found out too late were menopause related. I found out from reading a novel, that my skin being itchy all over my arms and legs was due to it. My doc never told me that, just I was probably allergic to something. So helpful.
Fun fact: A lot of people, especially females, are misdiagnosed with ADHD when they are actually also on the Autism spectrum. So, what they really are is AuADHD.
I love your energy! I have to say I was a bit inattentive during the video, even it is not your fault. The dynamic style of the video really helps engage the audience, but I am currently stuck in a loop, trying to do 4 things at once. Doing all of them poorly, ofc. So even though I didn't have number 2 or 3, the rest was spot on for me. I did remember you said your name though! How many points do I get?
37 points for remembering my name. Also, try doing one thing at a time if you can. I know if feels like you're more productive, and I loved it, but studies have shown that we actually get less done when we're multitasking, and what we do get done often has mistakes and missed steps.
"You could do so much better if you just applied yourself!" was what I've heard for my entire life, from every teacher I've ever had. The problem was that I did the best I could, but I simply COULDN'T do my homework, or follow directions, or complete the project on time. I know those teachers meant well, but it left me with this deep, unwavering feeling that, no matter how much effort I put in, I'll never be able to achieve my "full potential."
Check out ADD & Loving It?!, the documentary my wife and I made featuring Patrick McKenna, who played Harold. Heck, half of the Red Green cast had undiagnosed ADHD.
@ thank you for the reply Rick. It means a lot I was quite a fan of the show. And thank you for all your informative, and humorous, videos that help me with my undiagnosed super power. I’m jotting down that title because I’m quite sure I’ll forget.
Thank you for this!!! Splained my whole life and made me laugh/feel very validated. Now if I could just get it down to only 4 conversations in my head...
just got diagnosed in early middle age and feel like such an impostor! The psychiatrist who diagnosed me also had ADHD and was very thorough but I still feel like I cannot own it, because I don’t “fit” into what people tell me ADHD looks like, particularly in childhood. My entire adult life has been a constant struggle and I definitely have massive hyper focus, sometimes on ridiculous things (I might forget to eat or sleep because I am in the flow…filing invoices). But as a child I did well in school (unlike one of my siblings, who was diagnosed with ASD) because there was a structure I could recognise and I loved learning new things, and other than being a daydreamer overly chatty, I would have flown under the radar (I was socialised female). Once the structure was taken away in my late teens I fell apart completely scholastically and it took me until I was almost 30 (and an immense amount of struggle) to get myself through university. Also I struggle massively doing normal daily chores, and work is a disaster - I usually work really badly and am super unfocused most of the month and then do marathon working at the end of the month, sometimes until 4am. and I only learned to cook maybe 5years ago thanks to a recipe subscription service because I could just follow it their instruction cards and did not have to shop for ingredients myself.
Wow this is me too! I have realised a couple of years ago that I probably have ADHD after working in mental health for many years and talking with clients and colleagues who have it. And you know, being me and living my life. Then found out that my Dad and brother have it, and I'm 43 and just found this out! I don't have a formal diagnosis as it's very hard in New Zealand to find someone to assess you, so I too feel like an imposter. Even though I know how to assess for ADHD in others myself and a good friend and ex-colleague who has ADHD is very sure I have it too. It's quite a relief to me as it explains so much, but I've also spent years feeling like a loser because I've never lived up to my potential.
Me too ✋️ I was just diagnosed in my 40s. I've struggled my whole life. I ended up addicted to heroin for 2 decades because I couldn't cope with life. I've been sober for 6 years now and was diagnosed about a year ago, finally. The drug use definitely didn't help me discover the diagnosis any sooner.
@LadyHawkSpiritCraft massive congrats on your sobriety journey! It’s really an immense credit to you that you survived through everything before receiving a diagnosis. Must have been so hard - i am so sorry you had to go through all that.
Have fun. I had a 1h session with a doc. It's really not long.. buuuut he tried to trigger: chewing and cracking a candy in front of me and watching me reaction to some really nice words, like I'm getting old, like a dinosaur, it's getting time to do something. 😂
I can’t explain how much this video made me feel so seen. Before suspecting that I might have undiagnosed ADHD I just kinda thought that I am the world’s best procrastinator. Everything is like a whole process for me to complete (and sometimes it remains incomplete). I feel like I have my inner voice is constantly yapping and getting sidetracked along with maybe 1-3 songs playing. Depending on what’s going on in my head, my imagination even takes a part and I start day dreaming. In school my teachers had a problem with it, and at home my family would too. My mom would become frustrated with my dirty room that she told me to clean. And it did start off with me cleaning it, but then I saw something that took me away from the task. And the laundry scenario is still an issue for me. It’s a miracle if my clean clothes even make it into my closet.
i don't have ADHD, I have CPTSD, which carries the symptoms of ADHD and even a lot of Autism traits, but this is caused by childhood abuse and a neglect rattling the brain, stunting development. It's much worse because medication doesn't help, and treatment for CPTSD is unrealistic. Treatment requires massive amounts of love and support and to re-develop in a safe healing environment with the right people, and finding that as an adult is just not real. Hence, treatment is not real. There is only futility.
So many of us with adhd and also autism also have severe cptsd. The plus side is cptsd is it definitely can be managed and even healed maybe not completely but definitely enough where it is no longer really plaguing you and preventing you from being happy and getting what you want. I am halfway there thanks to ketamine and trauma processing in therapy. Generally it takes about 2-3 years after you are in a safe place to heal once you know what you are doing.
I have both. But don’t give up on healing. I searched for healing, and with a combination of a recovery program, intense therapy, drugs for the depression, and a very safe and loving relationship (the only relationship I have ever felt safe in), my dissociative disorder is gone. Still rattled at loud bangs, but no more dissociation.
@@adreaminxy I agree... it's complex. I love my parents but they are not good people. Abusive, cut off emotionally and I had to remove them from my life. Sad but required.
You seem self-reflective; as long as you have the ability to introspect there is hope. I'm kind of similar. I have always stood out from my peers for an inability to get anything done on time. I could never get myself to study, or do dishes, or finish the simplest tasks. I know it is mostly rooted in trauma; every year, slowly but surely I figure something out that helps me deal with the mental load of handling the minutiae of everyday life. It took a while but I found a job I am somehow able to hold down. Making friends with people who are not neurotypical has helped as well
Hello you're amazing. I scored 10/10. Adult adhd is both a nightmare and a gift... well it is a gift as long as you do not want to have a classic life and career. 😅 and BTW. We might live shorter lives but fuller. I am almost 60. As in your first criteria I am so frustrated that I don't live up to my potential. 😅 then lately I was asked by someone to tell about my professional life/career and the person said : what, when did you so all this ? Were you born in the 17th century ? So ok I might die young but I have lived more than anyone else. Ps. As for parents. I will always remember my mom searching for her glasses to find them in the fridge (really). And emptying her bag in front of the door to find her keys... 3000 times... therefore keys are the only object I never lose, it annoyed me so much. But I think at our parents time adhd was less severe because there was not this constant influx of stimulation. I mean, modern life could turn a Buddhist monk into adhd ans it does mess up with us 😅
Hello Rick, nice to meet you. Thank you very much for this! I also have to thank yt algorithm as well for bringing me here. This sounds so like me and the comments are so validating as well. I’m 60, on the adhd waiting list here in the uk, and I suspect that I am also autistic. Love the sense of humour and the timbre of your narration
Number nine really surprised me. Now that I’m actually thinking about it I think I’m the most calm when things are hitting the fan. I remember sitting at the closing table in 2008 when we purchase our home. Stock market literally crashed that day. Our one to two hour closing dragged out for 5 hours. Oh, that was holding up finalizing the deal was finding out whether or not the bank was going to wire the funds. The attorney for the bank kept running in and out of the room for frantically to watch the news to see what was going on because she was so worried that the deal was going to fall apart Before 5 PM when the bank closed. Our real estate attorney who is also my employer actually remarked about how incredibly calm I was with all of the nonsense that was going on because everybody else in the room was completely panicked and literally had sweaty palms.
Also with the reading rules, even if you manage to surpass the "this is boring" stage, you hit the "What was step 1? what was step 2? wait did I do step 1?" stage. (which ofc is listed, I commented this before I got there bc, guess what, adhd! lol)
My pops loved you, I love ya still and had NO idea we shared this in common! Gaddam! Your channel fell in front of me at a great time! (fellow ADHD'r, Ontarian and media martyr - you have that comically sweet watch-abilty!)
I'm still not sure. About 3 days after I first heard about ADHD, except it was called ADD, the psychiatrist I was seeing gave me a list of questions to answer. I was amazed that such questions had ever even been formed. Did I have ADHD? He gave me Ritalin. It might as well have been elixer of wild raspberries. IOW ... nothing. Later, in the daycare hospital for major depression, when I got my diagnosis papers I noticed "possible ADHD " BUT I THINK that could be attributed to the paint-by-numbers way in which the therapist was doing CBT with us in a group. It was so annoying and insulting I started to draw a picture of a brain decorated with every medication I'd ever been given, when the guy next to me leaned over and said, "That's really good.". That's when I found out I could draw and it's served me well ever since. I think I really pissed that therapist off. THEN....a psychiatrist at Alfred Hitchcock Hospital in Hanover, New Hampshire, after I'd been in her office for less than 10 minutes, pointed at me and said, "YOU'RE BIPOLAR!!!!" That's why your medication stops working. I was given Zyprexa, something else starting with T that I can't recall, st the moment, and my antidepressant was cut in half. The result was disastrous. Now, latest research reveals that NO ONE KNOWS why medication stops working. About time, because if it was really a sign of being bipolar, Just about everyone would be bipolar. I could go on with further diagnoses but.......... Maybe 3 or 5 things sort of maybe applied to me, but they depended on the situation. I never miss deadlines as long as they were for work. I no longer put deadlines on myself because I fail. I found your 10 reasons why you don't have ADHD helpful, and laugh out loud funny when you stopped describing a characteristic and became it . Smart, original, snd helpful demonstrations without the use of power point. I'm still not positive that I don't have it, but I feel better, so THANK YOU x a MILLION 😘😘😘
I used to think i have adhd, but after a lot of research and self reflection and being diagnosed with autism, i now know i definitely dont. None of these signs of not having adhd were true for me, but theres an autism reason for everything i do that looks like a symptom of adhd and the only criteria for adhd that i fill are ones that overlap with autism. It can be really hard to figure out if you have adhd or not when you also have autism and vice versa, im just throwing this out there to people who are suspecting they have adhd becuase for me the explanation was actually autism.
The laundry point had me panicking for a second because I've never gotten all the laundry done and dry and folded and put away a day in my life... Then I remembered I don't have a dryer 😂 letting things air dry will always take about a day...
Made it half way. Zoned out, checked the comments and then the video is finished. Missed the rest. Thanks for the first half though
That’s how I watch You Tube videos.
Rofl am in the comments almost at half and lost the plot of the vid 😅
I had to rewind a few times because I noticed that I got distracted by my own thoughts or the comments, but that's very common for me lol.
@@ConvenientlyShapedUsername I do this too. I will realize halfway through that I started thinking about something else.
I'm in the comment and I saw yours and paused the video. I'm 4:19 minutes in.
Thanks to you I don't have to rewind one more time.
I always used to think, “there is no way me and everyone I know has ADHD” but then I realized it was because I was thinking about my family and my other artist friends 😂 then later my other startup friends.
Every once and awhile I’ll meet an accountant or someone in finance or something and the way they move about the world is absolutely baffling to me.
Those closest to me and I functioned well enough into early adult-hood despite exhibiting the majority of symptoms. I doubted my diagnosis initially. Even after treatment and research reinforced it's likelihood by large margins, I still believed it was over-diagnosed and, at best, I had something similar, but not ADHD. No one close to me had it and we all behave in similar ways. Surely I wasn't an exception.
It took over 2-years, my 2 best-friends experiencing the same _diagnosis > treatment > improvment_ I had before my doubts finally dissolved. I wasn't part of an inflated statistic of over-diagnosis. They weren't either. It just took different amounts of time to impact us significantly enough to seek help. It seemed like over-diagnosis for all of us to have ADHD at first, but despite it being obvious now, it didn't occur to me to consider that whole, "birds of a feather" aspect of human nature.
yeh, i'm drawn to others who are a bit reactive, a bit impulsive. I see it as authentic. I relax around people who I know are REAL.
In my life I have noticed that Neurodivergent people tend to be drawn to each other. Most of my friends have ADHD and/or Autism. Probably at least 90% of them.
Yep. A bunch of us were on a holiday together and one lady asked what autism was since all the rest of us had been diagnosed with it. In the middle of this packed restaurant (which was hell for us all ) she suddenly screamed ‘so my divorce was totally not my fault’ it was hilarious. She’s in her eighties. Birds of a feather.
@@pixywingslucky bunch. Not meeting them means nobody to connect w
My family & teachers failed me. I've had undiagnosed ADHD since I was a child. “She's a daydreamer, she’s looking out the window instead of paying attention. She has such potential. She needs to apply herself.”
Sounds familiar 😂
Oh, yeah, but ADHD hadn't been invented yet. When I was a kid we were just naughty, or lazy, or something.
I didn’t get diagnosed until I realised it myself at age 21 and then went to actually get it clinically diagnosed. I just ended up masking it up so well because I was constantly humiliated in class (right in front of all the other students) by my teachers for zoning out or getting distracted. Top it off I had a bad reputation in class because my ADHD gave me emotional regulation problems and so I cried a lot to the point that I became a nuisance.
but he/she can full focus with great intensity on things that she IS interested in! Here's another one. Do you have a collections of materials for several different crafts and projects? But have only started one or none and not started the rest?
I was going to say, my teachers all said I was conscientious, but it just so happens I like reading, writing and drawing, so that's 75% of school covered. Wasn't interested in maths or sports lol. And if you mean my collection of manicure items because I wanted to be a nail tech last month, or my collection of black clothing from when I was going to commit to being Goth a few months ago or the stupid amount of money I spent on hair bleaching products only to dye it jet black? Or the over 50 pairs of footwear I own because I get a kick (lol) out of the purchasing and receiving of them, but then I NEVER wear them?
If you are reading this while you watching, You may have ADHD. Welcome to our tribe
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@RickHasADHD has gone to do something else at this point :)
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If you can read this, you don't need glasses and you're watching Spaceballs.
In my family, we used to call it "shiny object syndrome" and my entire family seems to have it. I didn't realize it was actually ADHD until around 5 years ago. We all do awesome in high-stress or crisis situations but struggle with normal, day-to-day stuff. I'm so grateful for videos like yours. It normalizes behaviors that I've been depressed about for decades and just knowing I have ADHD has helped me find better coping strategies which has improved my overall quality of life. So, thank you!
It's me, haha 🙋♀️. I never considered I might have ADHD until my younger brother was diagnosed in his 30s, and he started telling me his symptoms....I was like, "Oh, I thought that was just our family's personality!" 😂
In my retirement decade I was told I was probably ADHD but have not sought a diagnosis yet (I will). But descriptions of female ADHD are pretty accurate. Prior to this I have compared myself to a cat, easily distracted by shiny moving things.
I coped much better when I was younger.
like crows and ravens? i mean i love crows and ravens and i also love shiny things (i have too many things i randomly pick up and keep) mom calls my collection treasured trash. i like shiny things and rocks! My brother doesnt collect anything but does give me stuff he knows i collect! even the kids at my work (daycare/kindergarten) gives me rocks that are weirdly shaped and shiny or has something about it they think i will like. I am the rock and shell collector
My mom still talks about a time 17 years ago when I was saying something to her and literally stopped in the middle of a word to watch a cool car go by with my head turning to follow it out of sight, then turned back to her and finished the word and rest of the sentence. I don’t think I’ve stopped mid-WORD any other time in my life (at least no one else has ever told me that I have), but stopping mid-sentence always happens at least once a DAY for me!
You are most welcome! I love hearing that we're making a difference. I love how folks with ADHD can be so supportive of each other. I see it every day in the conversations among my Patrons in the Patron chat room. perhaps it's because life has been such a mystery that as we finally start to figure it out we can't wait to share it with others and help them on their way.
5:03 not me looking over to the chair in my room with all that laundry waiting to be folded😭
Same... but with the clothes inside the dried for 5 days now.
@@Manticornio Look, it's just hard to guess if they are dry or not. Better not risk checking I guess.... Or something.
I did the exact same thing 😭
Same lol
#11 - you were able to get through this whole video without going back to catch what you missed when your mind wandered.
#12 you waited until the end of the video to comment
Oh, those are good! I'll use them in a future video!
Yep, I've been in the comments since #3... #7 is playing right now... video isn't over yet... 😅
0/12 yuk. at least it doesnt change anything for me. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
He hasn’t even finished number 1 and I’m already in the comments 🤣🤣
I can’t tell you how many times I need to edit a comment because I make it halfway through a video 🤣
Great video! Just for some clarification for anyone watching. I 100% have ADHD, have been diagnosed and take medication. I DO fold and put away the washing as soon as it's dry and my house is very tidy. I believe it's a strategy I learnt from childhood and I can get stressed when there is mess. I don't believe all people with ADHD are 'messy' however I might be a bit of an outlier.
Just wanted to posted that for anyone watching who gets caught up on that point. If you think you have ADHD and it's causing a material impact on your life, go for assessment ASAP. It could change your life. It changed mine.
Thanks for doing great work Rick! We need more people like yourself spreading the message!
thanks, this helped! i'm 15, everyone always says i have a lot of potential and i feel so bad 'cause i know what i could do if it wasn't for what is probably adhd, i really hope this is gonna stops being an obstacle
@@tfjknodacf - You're on the right path. I was diagnosed at 38 at everything became easier. Remember that you're always enough and that you're doing really well. We have a tendency to feel like we are not good enough, aren't achieving or we compare ourselves with others.
My therapist reminded me that I've achieved enough at 38 to write a book! Although some days it's doesn't feel like that. It's OK :) those days can be real motivators to do more!
Good luck on your journey and remember you're not alone!
You did say you are medicated, which would explain how you are able to do those things. Would you still do them if you stopped taking your medication?
Thanks for sharing this. I believe I fall in the same boat. It was drilled into me to be neat and tidy and to finish what I start even though I really struggle with it and I really have to push myself to do so.
I was told I do not have ADHD because my life is organized enough, so it can't possibly be ADHD. Yet I tick all the other boxes (often distracted, always fiddling, lots going on in my head at all times, memory of a goldfish). I never feel like I do enough and that there is always more to do. Sometimes my head is too "loud" to have a normal conversation with people.
Maybe I should get a second opinion elsewhere.
When I went to someone for a diagnosis (I had suspected for a few years) she initially asked the usual questions.... Are you always late? DO you lose your keys? To which I could easily reply no. Because I am an adult I have strong coping strategies already in place. I always pad my time so I'm not late (Tho the earlier I have to be somewhere, the higher chance I will be late). I come in the door and put my keys in the same spot every. single. time. But ask me how often I buy produce then completely forget it as soon as it gets put away and have to throw it out because I bought it a month or more ago even tho it only seems like a week to me. I am also the QUEEN of "Let me put this where I'll find it again" and never find it again.
Many of us build coping strategies without realizing that's what they are until later. Unfortunately many of the questions used to diagnose ADHD don't take this into consideration.
As an ADHDer I laughed so hard. Loved this
Thanks! I had fun making it.
I laughed AND cried lol
Dude, I watched this thinking ah yes there's hope that maybe I'm not. Only to get the bait and switch. It's a trap 😅😂
Me too hahahah❤ so true!😅
@@RickHasADHD I have a lot of fun examining myself. Even the things I imagine most people find embarrassing or want to forget or deny or ignore about themselves, I tend to find fascinating. I feel like understanding it takes away a lot of the worry and helps me compose myself when it happens to me later on.
I scrolled to the comments half way through the video, wanted to comment on something, didn't write it immediately and then tried to focus on reading comments and listening to you at the same time, which worked (it didn't). In the end I forgot what I wanted to say initially. Diagnosed since I was a kid probably around 25 years ago. But I got something I've learned in those years.
Working around your weaknesses is the biggest help you can do for yourself. Be calm and assured that things will work out even if you don't work in a neurotypical way. Some people need a month for something you might only need 3-4 hyperactivity/hyperfocus days to do. Sometimes you can even work wonders in a single day.
You came this far in live and are still going strong.. you're probably doing fine. Stop overthinking about the bad aspects of ADHD.
As was said in this video, psychological stress can produce similar symptoms as ADHD and for us already suffering from ADHD, that can be a debilitating state of mind to have. So it's even more important for us to relax and stay healthy.
Thank you for tackling ADHD with some comedy, it will probably help do exactly that.
What a lovely, helpful and compassionate comment l.
I don't think I have it, and thanks to Rick and you, I think I'm going to remove it from the list possible syndromes, illnesses, and downright diseases I've been told I unequivocally have.
❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏
Sign #1 literally made me tear up. I have ADHD and imposter syndrome, and I always feel like I'm not achieving anything.
My mentee at work is ALWAYS telling me how much I do for her, despite me always asking if I do ENOUGH
@@christineashby4003 i feel that
I bet you are doing awesome!
Sometimes I wonder, especially when I was at school, if I am retarded and noone is telling me! Crazy!
@christineashby4003 I'm afraid to actually get any work at my job done ahead of time because that means I have to "look busy" for my seven supervisors. Today's work climate can inflict ADHD on anyone.
0:58 I have diagnosed adhd but still hoping I don’t, is this video still for me??😅
Shit
Okay he’s stalking me
@@orangesnipzywhat
@ I might have adhd
I have never turned in anything late. In fact, I get such a boost from the anxiety of the idea of not finishing on time that I have always turned in my work way way ahead of time. I get super focused and get things done super fast. I can't think of a single test I did in grade school or at university where I wasn't the first person to turn in my test. I thought that meant I didn't have adhd. Turns out it absolutely means I do
Your in-timeness makes me green with envy 😂 That's such a smart hyperfocus
I have exactly half of your abilities, I have so much anxiety, but I never finish on time. I start at the last possible minute, but I am anxious all the way throughout!
Would you mind elaborating but how it "absolutely means you do?"
@@hereagain7919instead of handing out things late, they do them way before the deadline as a way to overcompensate. Still an adhd thing
100% Me too. That is why I hate these lists. I love the dopamine of checking things off my list. Most of the time they are NOT things I truly care about.😅
3:30 "Lately? I wish" had me cackling to myself for a good minute - thanks for brightening my day with a good belly laugh xD excellent content! You just gained a new subscriber ^^
I was just recently diagnosed with ADHD (innattentive), and this popped up in my recommendations. I'm definitely feeling reassured that it *is* ADHD 😂
That's great. I sound like as tuck record but getting a proper diagnosis is life changing. If finances or waiting lists mean that's not possible, then assume you have it and start using some of the ADHD-friendly strategies.
Welcome to a special club of unique thinkers. Defo research famous people with ADHD or suspected ADHD!
I have never felt more called out. I'm fairly certain I have ADHD 😂 You really got me with the laundry. It's been in my chair for weeks and I'm supposed to hang those up today 😅
At least they’re dry! 😂 the worst is forgetting them in the washer for days 😂
@yvonnes7412 IM SO BAD ABOUT THAT 😂🤣
Don't take this as a disregard for your personal insight/experience, but if you think you have it, _please_ seek a professional diagnosis before _believing_ you do. (Being open to not having it as well.) Not only is it critical to your health/safety, but it's critical for others too. It's difficult to distinguish ADHD symptoms from common mishaps or personality traits. These lists can skew our perceptions w/o proper care and context and they generate views easily.
This has made ADHD a type of _trend._ Which hurts those w/and w/o it. "Trend-chasers" may become rigid in their belief and miss key insights that could truly help them. People on the other end (like myself), can grow doubtful from the increased exposure and large amounts of misleading or false information. (Spread intentionally or by mistake.) This can delay diagnosis and may also result in key insights being overlooked. (This was my personal experience. I didn't even consider ADHD and doubted the diagnosis. Treatment improved my situation though. I'll admit, much of the responsibility was mine. I didn't verify the information properly, but I don't believe the "personal responsibility" argument is not a valid reason to not improve the situation. I could have avoided several years of struggle if the content and discussions around the topic weren't what they are now.)
Please understand, I'm not accusing you, this channel, or anyone of being malicious or doing these things intentionally. It's just important for all of us to be aware of the effects such simple lists, explanations, beliefs, and statements can have. They are useful when used properly. They are fun content, and communication with similar individuals is a joyful, positive experience, but we have to be cognizant they _are not_ a substitute for professional council.
I actually think that is how things are supposed to be. Who said that all actions have to happen at the same time?? Do them when it's convenient for you!
@@yvonnes7412
Try living in Italy. No one has dryers. If the sun ain't shining the stuff goes on "clothes driers" and remains damp. The humidity can make the clothing in your chest of drawers feel like someone's washed it and put it away wet. Same with bedsheets ON YOUR BED.😬😬
Thank you Rick! I am 67 and living in Scotland. When my boys were teenagers I was informally diagnosed with ADHD along with them. However, they had proper assessments. Recently I began to feel I would like an official diagnosis. It turns out that this is not readily available because age layers another level of cognitive difference on top of possible ADHD. In other words the diagnosis becomes more difficult and more specialised. However, a clever therapist helped me figure out that my internal dialogue was very negative. She also pointed out that this was unhealthy on many levels. So, I have been following (rather imperfectly) a programme of compassionate self care. Well worth looking into for anyone struggling with ADHD and anxiety as I do.
@@makingitthrough190 A good therapist is worth their weight in gold!
the effects of living with untreated ADHD for many years leave marks, like the way that water wears away stones over centuries, or how decades of feet can wear down even marble steps. it's really great that you have a competent therapist! 👍
Please do still consider getting your diagnosis. The diagnosis is so important ❤ I am now 11 months past my diagnosis and never - never - have I been more in touch with who I actually am. It grows by the month and it is simply astounding.
I am so sorry to hear this. I am 72 and also live in Scotland. My GP referred me for tests in February this year, and I got a diagnosis in May. Provision for adult diagnosis varies hugely from one Health Board to another. Don’t give up on getting a diagnosis. I recommend you find the ADHD support organisation nearest you for local advice pertinent to your area. They will also know which private practitioners have a solid reputation for diagnosing and treating ADHD if you wanted to consider going down that route.
I was diagnosed with 40, now sixty.
The labelling did not help me at all.
First I got pills which just make me dizzy, not spontanious, whitty, funny anymore and I dropped them.
Then I realized people, private like family and friends or public like physisians, office looked at me like I sad I am a criminal or crazy.
Well germany is behind america about 30 years in social and medical stuffs.
Having a good coach to get your best life possible is much more important then being labeled.
Like indians ( american native people) had a leather bag with total personal medicine with them you need your own liste of 1 what troubles and 2 what helps.
Like:
Nerveous, go for a walk.
Overwhelmed, take cold shower,
Forget cooking+ eating, make healthy fast food,
Cloth is troubeling, take silk under it, aso.
Half of symptons equal Borderline so have a look at the work of Linnehan:
analyze your real feeling behind the obvious feeling,
If too distraced, count to ten, look for all blue f.e. stuff in the room,
train self awareness,
train patience, by watching consciously your desires ( sweets, cigaretts ...) are going up, but not endless as expected but going down again w/o doing anything.
Aso.
6:59 my ADHD symptoms got worse after my youngest turned 18. I'm convinced the pressure of being a parent was what was actually what was driving me
Hey, that's a thought! It's like the momentum of the day to day tasks and responsibilities kept me in check. I called myself a master juggler the more I had to do the better I stayed on track. Once my son left home and I was by myself again. Staying on task and on track what's more of a challenge and I had to hyper focus.
Ouch, hyperfocus for 18 years
All the while I was independently raising my son, I was convinced he was ADHD & he was diagnosed as such. Yet now I realize it was me all that time & that he was the reason I was more together. I managed holding down 2-4 jobs at a time; Since being retired i've gotten more and more disorganized, scattered, impulsive and my house is such a mess , I don't let
anyone in.
I tidied up, folded and put away all my clean laundry recently that was lying around. Such a rewarding experience! I also found winter clothes that I'll need in a month or so ....
Win-Win. (If you're a Patron you can post this in the 'Achievements and Bragging Rights' channel.
😮 currently procrastinating about this very same task 😢 everything seems so taxing sometimes. How can something so basic cause so much anxiety. I hate having ADD
What is your secret?
Sounds like agony! 😂
Ahhh yes, the pure joy of realizing you actually have great clothes, they just went missing for months...years. I have come to terms with the inevitable fact that things will appear when they want, not when you look for them or need them. With clothes it's an everyday struggle. But what about when you finally happen upon that wallet you lost eons ago and realize it has money in it!? It's the little joys.
I just adore you Rick! I always wondered about the people that don't have ADHD, I kept thinking that ADHD is overdiagnosed and there is no such thing as neurotypical people. People are amazed at all the things I have done and I always think that I haven't done enough, that I am meant to do something great but the way others react, it seems I have already done great things, but that isn't how I feel. That GREAT thing is always still on the horizon. Maybe that is how we keep going, always looking to be better and doing more.
I am medicated with Adderal, have been since 2018, and have been better organized and accomplished at the types of things that you mentioned, since being medicated. Right now, I am really focusing on following through, finishing projects, doing what I say I am going to do, and being on time....I am/have been a Realtor, Waitress, Mom, Grandma, Public Speaker, Serial Entrepreneur, investor in the stock market, a day trader during the pandemic, investor in real estate, married 3 times(I left all of them), ADHD Coach wannabe(went to school to be certified but didn't finish), went to 7 different Jr. Colleges in the 80's and had 2.1 GPA, went back to school in my 50's and got 3.8 GPA but at 61, I still have 3 credits to go, just to get my AA.
When the Carr Fire and Camp Fire in California destroyed people's homes and entire towns, I dropped everything, ran 3 fundraisers, and drove to California 15 times to help. I live in Spokane and the fires were in Northern California. People kept asking me how I could do those things and I had no idea, I just did them without thinking.
I have self-medicated but didn't know that I was doing that at the time, am a world traveler, love road trips so I can listen to podcasts and books(who has time or patience to read the actual books anymore, I have about 2000 actual books in my personal library😳
Anyway, I am rambling, and I am sure you are having difficulty getting through this, 🥱so I will close for now. Thank you for all you do. Know that it is helping others with ADHD. Well, I can't speak for others, but it really helps me. 🙂
Wow, Julie, that is impressive. I've often talked about how many people with ADHD can be calm, focused, and in action during a crisis but when things are calm they feel edgy, tired, or unmotivated. The crisis that overwhelms most people's brains seems to wake up ours. It's why I'm happy, alive, and alert when I'm onstage, but can be sluggish and scattered when it's time to do paperwork.
P.S. Thank you for the adoration. May I say that I admire how you are dealing with your ADHD. It's complex. It's challenging. But if you see it as an interesting puzzle to solve it can allow you to be more self aware and in control.
@JuliePeterson
Wow, I dont know you but you are talking directly into my soul
There's is ALWAYS this feeling of having to wait for the BIG THING to happen and idk what it will be but my prayers are that itll happen very soon
I cant seem to enjoy "normal" days, its rather the packed and a little stressful days that make me feel "accomplished" if thats understandable...idk
But thank you so much, I hope imma reach out to a meeting of ADHD people cuz thats within reach but I hope I'll have the same motivatio cut itll be next year
1. You feel like you’re living up to your potential.
2. You finish tasks and projects on time.
3. Your finished projects are actually finished.
4. You read the instructions through and then you followed them in order and you did not think at some point, “this is boring. I have a better idea. I know can do this faster.”.
5. You’ve read the instructions and started the project. And didn’t end up sidetracked on side missions.
6. You rarely lose track of where you are and what you’re doing.
7. Someone you know tells you, “ you seem scattered lately.”
8. You wash and then dry and then fold and then iron and immediately put away your clean laundry. In one day.
9. When things hit the fan and you are in a crisis or panic.
10. Work with Rick link in bio/description
Bless 🤟🤝
Yay! I was looking for the list. Thank you. X
11. You didn't scroll down into the comments to find this exact comment instead of finishing the video
I didn’t think I had the hyperactivity part until I realized I keep a small sewing box with me so I “have something to do with my hands” when I was about 14 I learned to hand quilt (hand stitch) from my Grandmother who made mind blowing quilts. I had already been sewing since I was 7 but hand sewing was a whole new world. After learning how awesome it was to make something without dragging a sewing machine around with me I found a tiny bit of calm (tiny, like 5% but for me 5% was fantastic) I was diagnosed in my mid 50’s and honestly broke down in the car and cried HAPPY TEARS. My life finally made sense, my habits and behaviors had an explanation. I’m positive my Grandfather had adhd even though he had two degrees in engineering as well as geology, paleontology and archaeology. When I was younger we were working on a project and he told me I was just like him. He taught me to keep a notebook so I could keep track of what I was doing as well as what I needed to do (he was my mentor and best friend along with my Grandma). To this day I’m never without my notebook, I forget my car keys, where I parked my car, my phone, sunglasses, purse but not my notebook, it’s what keeps my going!
Your grandfather was extremely intelligent
"even though he had two degrees [...]"
Honestly, the even though could be a because. Reading through his degrees sounded as ADHD as it gets😂
Stimming
I think you’re blessed to have had such loving and impactful grandparents!
I think those degrees are perfect for a person with adhd, any degree actually if you're really really into it. Ive taken 3 gap years because i just cannot deal with highschool, but when im finally done with it I'll THRIVE in my biology studies oh MAN. That was about me, sorry. I'm really happy that you had such amazing people looking out for you!! Its amazing
This video is just great!!!!😂
Got diagnosed just about five months ago at age 53. Had my suspicion before but I managed to keep a job , finish an education, got no hudge debts, was not on drugs or in crime or running around all the time ( which I was doing but didn't notice because it made sense to run around at that time)so figured I just had to try harder, just not act like a lazy spoiled teenager, be less selfish and self absorbed. Life was like a wild water river and I was for my whole life just fighting to not drown and not get myself in problems and give my son a good life as a single parent. Till even my employer send me home on sick leave because she saw I was drowning ( Dutch so employees are really protected when you get sick) . The companies psychologisch send me for an ADHD test because he thought that was the problem.
Now I got diagnosed I really dived into the ADHD rabbit hole, and really don't understand why it took me so long to see it for what it was. When I watch this I like looking in a mirror, only now thanks to medication and an ADHD coach I can laugh about it.
Ohh...got to stop...watched to many viseo's and typed to long...almost missing my appointment and forgot to eat ....😱
This is not even a joke😭
For anyone taking the dying 10 years early to heart after this video, I totally understand and agree that hurts to hear. But just imagine being 90 and having ADHD...we'd be bored out of our minds guys.
That's what TikTok is for.
@@RickHasADHD 🤣🤣🤣
On the bright side, maybe my poorly planned retirement funds won't run out before I die! 😅
I've always managed to 'mask' my ADHD because I could expend my energy, now I'm older and have osteoarthritis and osteoporosis I cannot do much physically and I am honestly being driven to madness!! Any advice?
No I think I’d have a blast at 90 😂
Huh, I might not have an official diagnosis, but I only exhibit the 9th and 10th signs. I expect things to go as planned and am not good at switching gears when a crisis occurs. Though I strongly suspect that I also have autism, so that might explain that. Also, no one in my family is diagnosed for anything, though plenty of them probably could be if they wouldn't be so sceptical of psychologists or other medical personnel to begin with. Anyways, on to finish the video.
Edit: Yeeesss, multiple streams of thought going on simultaneously in my head is so relatable! I am so tired, lol!
Diagnosed at 65 - explained a lot about my life. Creating new habits is tough at this age. Best for me is having that reassurance given by the diagnosis, the AHA moments when I recognize what I'm doing is because of ADHD.
Disagnosed at 49, but yeah. Just knowing WHY or that it's not being lazy made a huge difference in my outlook. I embrace it now and just accept it. And try to figure out work arounds for the important things.
You imitating your dad, rattling keys pacing in front of the tv hit me right between the eyes. I felt called out, put a smile on my face. hehe
This is fantastic! Everyone has moments or seasons where they have one or multiple ADHD like symptoms. Lucky them!! We (ADHDers) deal with every single thing you mentioned every single day… Every single moment of that day. We learn to manage because we have to in order to live in this world. People without ADHD never will truly understand what a challenge it can be.
By the way, this is an EXCELLENT idea of video, thank you for this. Very funny, very relatable, very smart. Loved it!
Thank you Rick. Another video by you that hits the nail(s) on the head. I was diagnosed with ADHD 3 years ago at age 57 and I've recently started to forget, at times, that ADHD explains my whole life. This video has been a useful and strangely reassuring reminder that I do, really, have ADHD. Absolutely. No doubt about it.
BTW, I used to think that being good in a crisis (shame about the rest of the time) was just my amazing personality and natural special-forces-like aptitudes. It was something I clung onto in the chaos, like a drowning man hanging on for dear life to a floating .... err ... thing. Now I know better. On the plus side 'Good In a Crisis (shame about the rest of the time)' has saved my life on more than one occasion (I used to be attracted to certain kinds of high risk situations) so if I hadn't been an ADHDer I would now be dead. Although, come to think of it, if I hadn't been an ADHDer I probably wouldn't have got into those situatiuons in the first place. Go figure.
@@deepestbluesea_6351 That’s wild. I used to thrive on chaos, it was handy for managing a soup kitchen 😂
I’m afraid I would have to say that the attraction to high risk situations is yet another red flashing sign pointing to you know what. But I relate, I very much relate. And I think being “good” in those absolutely wild situations we put ourselves in time and again is still good practice for when shit hits the fan from the outside 👍
You almost went full circle. Forgetting having it. It reminds me of the joke "My dear granddaughter, how's that evil German called who hides my meds?" "Alzheimer, granpops"
I thought being good in a crisis was my amazing personality too until I read this and truly realised 😂
Yah, I can totally see the parallels!
'good in a crisis' meant for me (adhd male diagnosed very late) I'd get myself cornered into all sorts of high risk endeavours, just too feel alive for once when inevitably things began to go pear shaped and I the challenge of not getting out or going under drowned out my chaotic inner monologue. Good times! But I wouldn't be here if I didn't develop some ways of getting my dopamine hit without risking my neck. (:
LOL! This is so me - I am ADHD and was never formally diagnosed. Now a lot of it makes sense - scatterbrained, don't pay attention, etc. etc. :) Thanks for your fun video.
I listened. Laughed. Checked on a work activity. Looked at other titles of videos. Got some tea. Came back to watch some more of the video. Laughing inwardly. Thinking of taking a nap. Never calm, clear, etc. hahahahahaha. Made a folder to share these videos with. Came back to the video - it's almost finished. Who needs to see this? I am thinking of some clients....Thinking of my sons - do they have it? Hum....My tea is cold. How did it get cold so quickly? He's still talking - #10 - I do have ADHD. HELP!
I love the dopamine hit of getting the laundry done! Dishes, too! And vacuuming is so rewarding. I can keep up with those and enjoy it, but I can't seem to dust or windex.
I wish I could stick to any one of those things long enough to feel the reward of completion. x.x
I have definitely noticed that there are some tasks that I love to absolutely finish all the way through. I think some people with adhd can indeed finish tasks. As long as it's one they actually fully enjoy doing. As you said you really enjoy vacuuming and dishes and laundry. So completing those is very fun in rewarding for you. And you get the dopamine hit so you can do those. But dusting in windexing is not as fun and rewarding, so it's very difficult for you to do. This makes perfect sense to me and reaffirms the adhd diagnosis.
I wish I could relate, but I don't think I have any chores that I enjoy doing, and therefore, I struggle to do and finish these chores. I think the only one I really enjoyed doing is maybe sweeping but sweeping is very difficult because I have to pick up a lot of the clutter and clothes on my floor. So in order for me to sweep, I need to do a lot of other cleaning first. Vacuuming is fun as long as the vacuum isn't heavy. Or you can use the hose extension.
I loved ironing...because I could watch TV at the same time....and think to myself....Well I can't be lazy because I'm doing a chore!!!....lol
@@chee60lol same here. I almost always fold my laundry. I just put something interesting on and all of a sudden my clothes are folded. It doesn’t happen all the time. Sometimes I just can’t stand it and leave my shirts neatly pilled flat. Good enough. Less wrinkles than a messy pile.
Vacuuming is sooo satisfying. I mean, the machine just does it for you. Can't understand people who don't like it.
Five years ago, I was out on a list to be assessed for ASD because I ticked many boxes for ASD.
Two and a half years after that, I was told that I was on the spectrum. That I had been on the spectrum my entire life.
Support for children and young people with ASD is very good where I live but if you’re over 50, it’s non-existent. I was ignorant of the ASD until I found out. I struggle daily trying to block out that knowledge.
Your list tick boxes for me and ADHD and quite frankly, I’m not going to request a professional medical assessment.
I’m nearly 60 and I can’t take any more of this.
Where were all the experts when I was a youngster?
Every teacher who wrote a report said the same thing from elementary through high school - he has the ability but doesn’t make the effort. His mind is always elsewhere and racing ahead.
Good luck with your channel and I hope others get what they need.
This really makes me see how far I've come in handling my ADHD. A lot of things mentioned used to be crippling for me, not so much these days. The military really helped me develop some discipline and overcome things.
I love that I’ve found this channel after I’ve run away from my kitchen ( with a sofa in it) and my living room ( with a dinning table in it) and the boxing bag with my clothes for going out are hanging on it ( even though I refuse to show up for outings) I’ve run away to my bedroom with two tvs that aren’t plugged in to find this lovely channel. ( a huge sigh of relief) thank you. ( diagnosed at 53)
Woah, I just kinda clicked on this video because I'm dead certain I don't have ADHD (I'm dyslexic instead) and I wanted this nice looking fellow to agree with me. A few seconds later I swear I've seen him before, and then suddenly it becomes apparent I know of this guy from a tonne of TV shows from when I was a kid, lol. That's neat, man. Real neat.
A few of my old pals and I have often wondered if you ever made it back to Earth, and I'm glad to see that you did.
It never occurred to me that I might have ADHD until my little brother called me (we were 33 & 36 lol) and said "Dude, I know what's wrong with us!"
I was skeptical until I discovered that procrastinating is common - I had always thought I was just a bad person. Both of us had been in and out of colleges despite having great potential ... The more I learned the more I realized that it fit me perfectly. It really hit when
I said something to a friend about having four trains running on the different tracks in my brain all the time - I thought everyone did, she was gobsmacked. 😂
After being diagnosed it was clear that both of our parents had it too. We used to say that dealing with my Mom about certain things was like herding stoned cats.
Growing up the only kids who were diagnosed with ADHD were boys who were just wild - like Dennis the Menace.
Your experience is sooooo common. I'm not sure if that helps, but I suspect that you will start to notice how many of the friends you love hanging out with seem to have the same thing going on.
@RickHasADHD That's an interesting idea; it's been 21 years since DX 😂 and it's never occurred to me. Love your channel BTW!
herding stoned cats 😂
@@eradkova not recommended, unless you have infinite patience 😹
I love what you said about stoned cats. I laughed so hard
It’s a gift and a curse. Depending who you’re with and the task at hand! Thanks for this! Just subscribed 😊
I grew up loving your work on Red Green. I too was a late diagnosed AuDHD.
You never feel like an imposter. You feel great about yourself and your abilities! You feel that you are exactly where you are supposed to be in life!
Sh*t, NO. I wish I knew that feeling
I wish. Can’t relate at all
No
I actually feel like that, but only because I know that I'm steadily improving and developing unusual skills, even though I'm always behind the NT timeline in certain things.
I used to envy my sister who has just enough hyperactivity symptoms to make her a restless workaholic, but who otherwise is NT, while having the same IQ as me (I guess), but a much higher EQ. She's 3 years younger than me, but much more accomplished.
On the other hand, I'm already much more accomplished than most people around me when it comes to things that look good on the CV. Also, I feel like my neurodiversity give me different kinds of interests to those my sister has, so I think that for certain career paths I have necessary strengths that she doesn't have.
So overall, I think we're both destined for great things, but our timelines and accomplishments will look different.
Gee, so happy for you. Wow. Must be nice 😒
(I'm playin but deadass that must be nice 😂)
I'm half and half. My most recent therapist told me I definitely have C-PTSD (traumatic childhood, abusive partners, etc etc) and that *sometimes, the symptoms of PTSD can mirror those of ADHD.*
Read that again!
I was sure I had some weird form of ADHD that manifested in early adulthood, or that I was slightly autistic (still might be?) and that combined with ADHD and PTSD made me the neurosis I am today, but she said "no it's probably not ADHD, 'just' C-PTSD". (I didn't even bring up the "am I autistic?" thing because I don't care enough). But yeah, my PTSD comes out to mirror ADHD, among the other lovely PTSD symptoms.
FYI, I guess. Lol. Great video! 😊
Neurodivergent people, specifically those with autism and ADHD, or more susceptible to PTSD. Regardless, at some point it doesn't really matter. The management of the above conditions tends to have high overlap. Treat one, and you address the others. You get to a point where you feel pretty good, and then maybe wonder if you can try addressing the other conditions more directly. Get a good doctor on board.
Like someone else already mentioned: ADHD and CPTSD is a common comorbidity. I've got both. I was diagnosed with BPD a couple years ago during the biggest crisis of my life and went through DBT. Years later, my therapist and I both agreed I did not quiiiite meet the criteria for BPD and it's more likely a combination of ADHD+CPTSD.
What led me to think so was this: Antidepressants (which would help depressive symptoms as seen in CPTSD) made me numb, I could feel neither joy nor sadness. I didn't have more energy and certainly didn't help with mindfulness. Caffeine doesn't affect me much either - it stimulates me only sometimes but I could always sleep well even after an increased intake. When my friends and I got into raving and partying, I consumed other stimulants for the first time and instead of getting all hyper and super conversational like my friends.. I got up and cleaned the room because I finally realized I couldn't focus and the mess was bothering me. I enjoyed talking more because I could REMEMBER what others said and add onto their points without interrupting. I got more collected whereas they got wayyy jumpier in their thoughts and actions.
When I got my diagnosis and started methylphenidate it calmed me down immediately. It also heavily lessened my anxiety. It helped with my sleep issues because I could monitor and control my energy levels throughout the day. Almost 10 years of behavioral therapy finally came into fruition.
I actually have a lot of behaviours of what is considered ADHD. But not consistantly. When I was younger with 3 children, yeah the laundry never got done and put away on the same day, the house was in total disarray, but I did keep up with the dishes because I hated dirty dishes in the sink, but there was always a lot of dust on the furniture. Many projects I started never got finished due to a gradual decline in enthusiasm. I was always behind on the bills. I always thought I was lazy and only did things that were vitally important to do (eg. keep the kids fed and clothed). The rest of the time I would waste watching tv instead of tidying up the house, or doing anything else deemed productive. I always wondered how my friends could be so good at managing their lives. Now that I am retired, I'm better with the laundry, mainly because I have so much more time to relax. I notice that tags on my shirts really bother me, I still make no effort to keep the house spick and span, and I get overwhelmed at the thought to throwing a dinner party because of all the work I will have to do. I still think of myself as being lazy. No matter my good intentions I remain in this rut.
I have to say, after reading all that, I wouldn't say you were lazy. I'd say you have too much going on!
I would say that you are COPING better with the laundry now, but that does not necessarily mean that you don’t have ADHD (just my humble opinion) - what you’re describing DOES sound consistent to me 🤷♀️
Just tell me how you're doing under stress or when in danger? Are you brilliant? Then go get checked 😀
Every adhd is different
@@eradkova I freeze and my mind goes blank.
Thank you Rick - your content is fun and really light hearted
#11 Having to replay this video because you didn't catch it all the first time! 😂😊 Great topic in info
Nice touch putting the video intro basically halfway through the video :-)
You have less than 500 unread emails
I hate email. I tend to ignore it
Haha, I'm desperately trying to stay under 2000 unread emails
my email is the one thing i can keep on top of, thankfully.
I only have 20,000 unread lol
@@Mircat123that ship has sailed for me!
1. I always have a song going on in my head ,a conversation with myself, thinking about a thing that I saw in a video, reminiscing my childhood memories, thinking about future and my recent obsession(it my be a person or thing)
2. I am never organised always have clothes on my floor and bed
3. I get overwhelmed very easily even if it is something I love, if it’s too much I get stressed
4. I was watching this video at 2x speed still it was too slow I opened the comments halfway and missed half of the point
5. I can never stay still (if I have a scissor near me every thing that it can cut is shredded to pieces, I never throw chocolate wrappers unless I tear them into small pieces, if I have strip of tablets near me you better believe I am removing that well sheet of it) I always have some kind of trash scattered around me (my mom calls me a mouse because of this)
6. I cannot stay focused on my studies but if it’s one day before my exam I am fully concentrated
7. I always forget things easily so I get stressed about it until I write it somewhere
8. I tried suggesting my family that I may have adhd but it’s always dismissed
I've been laughing all the way through this because I can relate to everything that is typical of adhd mentioned here.
Your style of delivery is great.
In addition to the above: It's okay to not have ADHD and have a disorganized life. It's possible to have a messy life and not have ADHD. It's also possible to have an organized life and have ADHD. It's about a consistent pattern of symptoms that affect all areas of your life.
All people get distracted, miss appontments, lose stuff... It's only when it's always happening that it's a good sign that you have ADHD.
The only time I was able to do my laundry and put it all away consistently was when I lived in a tiny dorm room where there was literally no space for me to pile up my clothes. Also I was procrastinating studying
LITERALLY LMFAO
What? No floor?
I’m CRACKING UP! I had to pause at #2 it’s spot on & plus I would have gotten distracted before the next number. Then I had to read the comments to see if someone listed all the numbers & oh where was I 😅?
I enjoyed the first and last thirds of this video (I started digging in the garden in the middle). I finished the video, so I’m pretty sure I’m in the clear!
Tangent: I’ve been watching your channel and had a vague sense of familiarity, but finally got around to looking you up when you mentioned your comedy career-Red Green was a huge part of my childhood! Thank you so much for all those neural pathways you intentionally set running in my formative years!
Yeah, I am the expert at watching almost half videos, I made it to 3/4 of yours. Well done Sue.
i grew up watching you on red green. I knew you looked familiar but i could not place it lol. i mean i already thought you were pretty cool from your youtube vids I've seen but now realizing you were apart of the red green show made my Halloween quite happy. hope yours is a blast. thank you for doing your thing, I'll stop gushing now XD
6:34 I'm literally getting ready to go to work on the ambulance as I listen to this lol
I was not diagnosed until I was 50. Since then I have come to see that it is motivation that seems to be a very big problem for me. I have always been like this, I have to be obsessed with something to have the motivation to do something that is very involved. Otherwise, try as I might I can do very little of a task before giving up, or being distracted and stop a lie down or do something else. I don’t sleep well at night, but take many short rest during the day. I have been on the medication for some years now, it helps but not as much as it first did.
This is excellent. So so on the spot. Thanks!
Thank you so much for this video Rick! I have suspected that our adult son has ADHD since he was a child. Unfortunately he has not been diagnosed and has said that he 'knows he doesn't have it'. But taking on way too much at once, overestimating his actual abilities for a project, easily overwhelmed, challenged to finish a project in his estimated timeline, failing to follow through on projects, etc. I could go on!
Thinking about family history, I wonder if I have some aspects of it as well. I really enjoy your videos!
I got all 10!! 🎉 Do I win something besides crippling anxiety, self hatred and a lifetime of distractions? Hey look a squirrel!
Go at it! If this is true, and you decide medication is your path forward. It could change your life. I used to sit in a meeting room in a panic with social anxiety. All gone now!
Thank you Carl Frederickson.
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Shoot. I was hoping to find out I was NOT. But almost all of these things made me want to flip you off, cause I try repeatedly but CAN'T do most of these things ("you can do anything you put your mind too, just try harder" Nope, not my mind). Wait, I HAVE done them...when I sleep 8 hours in a bed that does NOT have clothes all over it, eat vegetables and fruit, exercise for at least 30 minutes, spend time with 1 person I like for about 30 minutes and ONLY that or I'm distracted, listen to music I like without advertisements that distract me, do NOT eat any sugar, have both nuts and grape juice, it is a sunny day between 65 and 75 degrees, my cats are around me, I have no headache/neck ache or stress, and start with meditation and stretching, even though it bores the shit out of me! So no problem at all, I will just be sure to do that.
This video helped me a lot, NOW everything makes sense! I had thought I had ADHD, but I actually have most of the mentioned traits. It made me think deeper about possible causes of my inattentivity, zoning out etc. I am diagnosed with PTSD and that might be the actual explanation. Guys, remember that many symptoms are typical for different disorders. Don't get offended if a professional doesn't want to diagnose you with something that you are "sure" you have 😇
Love this upbeat perspective. Nailed it! I have about 7 or 9. Sometimes 8 but only when I’m high! I think. Feeling better about myself knowing someone like you can bring such levity to ADHD. I meant that as a compliment. 💯👍🥰😎
As a comedian I think everything is a compliment.
Hi I enjoyed your video! I am a 49 year old female and have been on anti depressants since 2008 and in 2021 I was diagnosed with ADHD. I wonder if my anti depressants were taken because of my undiagnosed ADHD. I thinking I should STOP taking anti depressants and take only my vyvanse ?? Do you think vyvanse on its own will cause anxiety ? I’ve only ever taken vyvanse 20mg with anti depressants. What do you think?
I haven't had that strong of a belly laugh in a looong time!!! Thank YOU!! The links in the descriptions...omg.. I've been literally for two days now trying to remember if I went back and added the links to the descriptions!! Bahahaaaa!! Great job! Entertaining and informative. 🙌
im autistic and im suspecting i might have adhd too- but i know we have a lot of overlap so when taking a quiz or something i will have the same symptoms as someone with adhd- (especially the 4 different conversations and the restaurant tv things you talk about at the start of the video i have insane noise sensitivity) my whole life i've been told im lazy and it honestly feels like shit- i don't mean to not get things done. i work as hard as i can but it's hard- it's hard to focus when theres a million things that are due and it gets overwhelming to the point i always talk myself out of stuff. hearing that im not just lazy and there's an actual reason im like this. i'll definitely look into adhd more thank you :-)
Thanks for making this video Rick, because there's just a rising popularity of people thinking many things are ADHD when it can be other Disorders.
I am currently going to my therapist and we're trying to fing out whether I have CPTSD or ADHD because I do have a long history of trauma soooo maaaaybe I have ADHD, who knows. I'll find out soon tho.
.....maaaaybe you have BOTH!? Good luck to you!😀 👍👍
Maybe ? U have BOTH?! Good luck!!😀
totally agree and the whole idea of people saying 'i think I have ADHD?'... I'm sorry but everyone I know with ADHD has had a material impact on their life and relationships.. getting distracted by social media.. yeah, I don't think that's really impacted your life like people here know.
Loving this hard. Good to see you on my screen again, bonus that you're talking about something close to my heart.
Thanks Rick. This is the first time I have seen a video like this. You are an ADHD hero. I have been a fan of your work for many years and because I recognized you from the Red Green show that led me to your ADD and Loving it show that really helped me pull a lot of information together. I have been on medication for several years and I am living a more comfortable life because I have learned to accept my short comings and have stopped trying to over achieve. Looking forward to the next one.
Thanks for the kind words! I'm glad you are finding some comfort and stability. I'm working on more videos thanks to the support of my Patrons.
So nice to see you again making videos Rick! You are the reason i got my son diagnosed.
You nailed it again! And that explains my family and friends a lot of my symptoms I am dealing with.
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child (6yo), and for the longest time I've just been "that really upbeat and bombastic dude", but I honestly get stressed out real fast because I get easily overwhelmed by my feelings (I basically hype myself up) and I'm too expressive. And the thing that stresses me the most is something I struggle a lot with too, that you mentioned during point 8 iirc; doing things step by step. I'm a mess of a person, yet I do express OCD-like behaviours; whenever I do something (especially if it is for someone else or in the kitchen), I ask for the clearest step by step indication with the most precise measurements possible, just to make sure I don't mess up and to have enough information to keep me occupied by that single task; else, I get easily distracted by thinking if this goes here or there, if I'm adding too much or too little, or if I messed up the order of steps (which usually happens when I think of optimizing the process...).
Also, the "you do your laundry, dry it, fold it and store it" made me feel so called out with the slowly growing pile of clean clothes on my bed... I need to this soon.
9:21 Not the rubix cube mention 😭 I have one by my side almost 90% of the time to scramble it and solve it whenever I get moderately bored while waiting for anything that takes longer than 10 seconds to load..
Don't forget menopause! That ramps up ADHD symptoms IMMENSELY!
@@feiryfella I had no idea, but that explains a lot! Thank you!
Really....? (Rick probably doesn't have to worry about that)
So many men and women have no idea what perimenopause is. I'm glad it's starting to be talked about, how long it can be (5-15 years more or less), all the problems that can come with it, and what's available to help (HRT for one).
Yep, I'm 45 and can confirm that perimenopause can be a real challenge
@@LadyRenira yeah, I had awful symptoms for a few years that I found out too late were menopause related. I found out from reading a novel, that my skin being itchy all over my arms and legs was due to it. My doc never told me that, just I was probably allergic to something. So helpful.
Fun fact:
A lot of people, especially females, are misdiagnosed with ADHD when they are actually also on the Autism spectrum.
So, what they really are is AuADHD.
I love your energy! I have to say I was a bit inattentive during the video, even it is not your fault. The dynamic style of the video really helps engage the audience, but I am currently stuck in a loop, trying to do 4 things at once. Doing all of them poorly, ofc. So even though I didn't have number 2 or 3, the rest was spot on for me.
I did remember you said your name though! How many points do I get?
37 points for remembering my name. Also, try doing one thing at a time if you can. I know if feels like you're more productive, and I loved it, but studies have shown that we actually get less done when we're multitasking, and what we do get done often has mistakes and missed steps.
"You could do so much better if you just applied yourself!" was what I've heard for my entire life, from every teacher I've ever had. The problem was that I did the best I could, but I simply COULDN'T do my homework, or follow directions, or complete the project on time. I know those teachers meant well, but it left me with this deep, unwavering feeling that, no matter how much effort I put in, I'll never be able to achieve my "full potential."
I was today years old when I realized you’re the guy from the Red Green show. lol
Check out ADD & Loving It?!, the documentary my wife and I made featuring Patrick McKenna, who played Harold. Heck, half of the Red Green cast had undiagnosed ADHD.
@ thank you for the reply Rick. It means a lot I was quite a fan of the show. And thank you for all your informative, and humorous, videos that help me with my undiagnosed super power. I’m jotting down that title because I’m quite sure I’ll forget.
Laught when you said number 6. Because it reminded me that i took my tablet to read mail. Thanks for the reminder.
Thank you for this!!! Splained my whole life and made me laugh/feel very validated. Now if I could just get it down to only 4 conversations in my head...
Very nice and thorough video. I also appreciated your humor. Not bad for someone with severe ADHD. It took me 2 minutes to write this post
The absolute best video I've watched on adhd. Lolled out loud. Thank you x
That me. Thanks, Rick. Never "diagnosed"... But, man oh man, did these resonate with me... Appreciate you. Subscribed.
just got diagnosed in early middle age and feel like such an impostor! The psychiatrist who diagnosed me also had ADHD and was very thorough but I still feel like I cannot own it, because I don’t “fit” into what people tell me ADHD looks like, particularly in childhood. My entire adult life has been a constant struggle and I definitely have massive hyper focus, sometimes on ridiculous things (I might forget to eat or sleep because I am in the flow…filing invoices). But as a child I did well in school (unlike one of my siblings, who was diagnosed with ASD) because there was a structure I could recognise and I loved learning new things, and other than being a daydreamer overly chatty, I would have flown under the radar (I was socialised female). Once the structure was taken away in my late teens I fell apart completely scholastically and it took me until I was almost 30 (and an immense amount of struggle) to get myself through university. Also I struggle massively doing normal daily chores, and work is a disaster - I usually work really badly and am super unfocused most of the month and then do marathon working at the end of the month, sometimes until 4am. and I only learned to cook maybe 5years ago thanks to a recipe subscription service because I could just follow it their instruction cards and did not have to shop for ingredients myself.
Wow this is me too! I have realised a couple of years ago that I probably have ADHD after working in mental health for many years and talking with clients and colleagues who have it. And you know, being me and living my life. Then found out that my Dad and brother have it, and I'm 43 and just found this out! I don't have a formal diagnosis as it's very hard in New Zealand to find someone to assess you, so I too feel like an imposter. Even though I know how to assess for ADHD in others myself and a good friend and ex-colleague who has ADHD is very sure I have it too. It's quite a relief to me as it explains so much, but I've also spent years feeling like a loser because I've never lived up to my potential.
Me too ✋️ I was just diagnosed in my 40s. I've struggled my whole life. I ended up addicted to heroin for 2 decades because I couldn't cope with life. I've been sober for 6 years now and was diagnosed about a year ago, finally. The drug use definitely didn't help me discover the diagnosis any sooner.
@LadyHawkSpiritCraft massive congrats on your sobriety journey! It’s really an immense credit to you that you survived through everything before receiving a diagnosis. Must have been so hard - i am so sorry you had to go through all that.
This is hilarious and informative. 🙏🏼
Well, guess I'll go get diagnosed...
And in the meantime start looking into ADHD tools, strategies, and practices. They make a difference, if you can stick with them.
@@julenchavin1238 Driven to Distraction is a great place to start if you like to read, I’m pretty sure it’s been updated.
@@RickHasADHD😂😂
Have fun. I had a 1h session with a doc. It's really not long.. buuuut he tried to trigger: chewing and cracking a candy in front of me and watching me reaction to some really nice words, like I'm getting old, like a dinosaur, it's getting time to do something. 😂
@@SaltAndVinegar421 hour session? Is that all it takes to get an analysis? How do I do that?
I can’t explain how much this video made me feel so seen.
Before suspecting that I might have undiagnosed ADHD I just kinda thought that I am the world’s best procrastinator. Everything is like a whole process for me to complete (and sometimes it remains incomplete).
I feel like I have my inner voice is constantly yapping and getting sidetracked along with maybe 1-3 songs playing. Depending on what’s going on in my head, my imagination even takes a part and I start day dreaming. In school my teachers had a problem with it, and at home my family would too.
My mom would become frustrated with my dirty room that she told me to clean. And it did start off with me cleaning it, but then I saw something that took me away from the task. And the laundry scenario is still an issue for me. It’s a miracle if my clean clothes even make it into my closet.
i don't have ADHD, I have CPTSD, which carries the symptoms of ADHD and even a lot of Autism traits, but this is caused by childhood abuse and a neglect rattling the brain, stunting development. It's much worse because medication doesn't help, and treatment for CPTSD is unrealistic. Treatment requires massive amounts of love and support and to re-develop in a safe healing environment with the right people, and finding that as an adult is just not real. Hence, treatment is not real. There is only futility.
So many of us with adhd and also autism also have severe cptsd. The plus side is cptsd is it definitely can be managed and even healed maybe not completely but definitely enough where it is no longer really plaguing you and preventing you from being happy and getting what you want. I am halfway there thanks to ketamine and trauma processing in therapy. Generally it takes about 2-3 years after you are in a safe place to heal once you know what you are doing.
I have both. But don’t give up on healing. I searched for healing, and with a combination of a recovery program, intense therapy, drugs for the depression, and a very safe and loving relationship (the only relationship I have ever felt safe in), my dissociative disorder is gone. Still rattled at loud bangs, but no more dissociation.
@@adreaminxy I agree... it's complex. I love my parents but they are not good people. Abusive, cut off emotionally and I had to remove them from my life. Sad but required.
You seem self-reflective; as long as you have the ability to introspect there is hope.
I'm kind of similar. I have always stood out from my peers for an inability to get anything done on time. I could never get myself to study, or do dishes, or finish the simplest tasks. I know it is mostly rooted in trauma; every year, slowly but surely I figure something out that helps me deal with the mental load of handling the minutiae of everyday life.
It took a while but I found a job I am somehow able to hold down. Making friends with people who are not neurotypical has helped as well
What a great video to understand a little bit how life is like for people with this condition! Thank you!
Hello you're amazing. I scored 10/10. Adult adhd is both a nightmare and a gift... well it is a gift as long as you do not want to have a classic life and career. 😅 and BTW. We might live shorter lives but fuller. I am almost 60. As in your first criteria I am so frustrated that I don't live up to my potential. 😅 then lately I was asked by someone to tell about my professional life/career and the person said : what, when did you so all this ? Were you born in the 17th century ? So ok I might die young but I have lived more than anyone else.
Ps. As for parents. I will always remember my mom searching for her glasses to find them in the fridge (really). And emptying her bag in front of the door to find her keys... 3000 times... therefore keys are the only object I never lose, it annoyed me so much.
But I think at our parents time adhd was less severe because there was not this constant influx of stimulation. I mean, modern life could turn a Buddhist monk into adhd ans it does mess up with us 😅
Hello Rick, nice to meet you. Thank you very much for this! I also have to thank yt algorithm as well for bringing me here. This sounds so like me and the comments are so validating as well. I’m 60, on the adhd waiting list here in the uk, and I suspect that I am also autistic. Love the sense of humour and the timbre of your narration
Number nine really surprised me. Now that I’m actually thinking about it I think I’m the most calm when things are hitting the fan. I remember sitting at the closing table in 2008 when we purchase our home. Stock market literally crashed that day. Our one to two hour closing dragged out for 5 hours. Oh, that was holding up finalizing the deal was finding out whether or not the bank was going to wire the funds. The attorney for the bank kept running in and out of the room for frantically to watch the news to see what was going on because she was so worried that the deal was going to fall apart Before 5 PM when the bank closed. Our real estate attorney who is also my employer actually remarked about how incredibly calm I was with all of the nonsense that was going on because everybody else in the room was completely panicked and literally had sweaty palms.
Also with the reading rules, even if you manage to surpass the "this is boring" stage, you hit the "What was step 1? what was step 2? wait did I do step 1?" stage. (which ofc is listed, I commented this before I got there bc, guess what, adhd! lol)
Hard to not cry @ 1:43
Kinda how I was feeling 😢
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My pops loved you, I love ya still and had NO idea we shared this in common! Gaddam! Your channel fell in front of me at a great time! (fellow ADHD'r, Ontarian and media martyr - you have that comically sweet watch-abilty!)
Okay I know this was supposed to convince me I DON’T have ADHD… but this felt more like “10 ways to call me out while also making me laugh”
Your voice is wonderful to listen to. I could listen to you talk for hours. I might do just that!
5:12 *I have a _system_*!
I'm still not sure.
About 3 days after I first heard about ADHD, except it was called ADD, the psychiatrist I was seeing gave me a list of questions to answer. I was amazed that such questions had ever even been formed. Did I have ADHD? He gave me Ritalin. It might as well have been elixer of wild raspberries. IOW ... nothing.
Later, in the daycare hospital for major depression, when I got my diagnosis papers I noticed "possible ADHD "
BUT I THINK that could be attributed to the paint-by-numbers way in which the therapist was doing CBT with us in a group. It was so annoying and insulting I started to draw a picture of a brain decorated with every medication I'd ever been given, when the guy next to me leaned over and said, "That's really good.". That's when I found out I could draw and it's served me well ever since. I think I really pissed that therapist off.
THEN....a psychiatrist at Alfred Hitchcock Hospital in Hanover, New Hampshire, after I'd been in her office for less than 10 minutes, pointed at me and said, "YOU'RE BIPOLAR!!!!" That's why your medication stops working. I was given Zyprexa, something else starting with T that I can't recall, st the moment, and my antidepressant was cut in half. The result was disastrous. Now, latest research reveals that NO ONE KNOWS why medication stops working.
About time, because if it was really a sign of being bipolar, Just about everyone would be bipolar.
I could go on with further diagnoses but..........
Maybe 3 or 5 things sort of maybe applied to me, but they depended on the situation. I never miss deadlines as long as they were for work. I no longer put deadlines on myself because I fail.
I found your 10 reasons why you don't have ADHD helpful, and laugh out loud funny when you stopped describing a characteristic and became it . Smart, original, snd helpful demonstrations without the use of power point.
I'm still not positive that I don't have it, but I feel better, so THANK YOU x a MILLION 😘😘😘
I used to think i have adhd, but after a lot of research and self reflection and being diagnosed with autism, i now know i definitely dont. None of these signs of not having adhd were true for me, but theres an autism reason for everything i do that looks like a symptom of adhd and the only criteria for adhd that i fill are ones that overlap with autism. It can be really hard to figure out if you have adhd or not when you also have autism and vice versa, im just throwing this out there to people who are suspecting they have adhd becuase for me the explanation was actually autism.
Oh which symptoms overlap please? Can menopause exacerbate the autistic symptoms?
@@sloene72menopause exacerbates everything. 😊 😭 🥵 😰
#9 made me feel so seen! This was a great list, thank you for the video!
The laundry point had me panicking for a second because I've never gotten all the laundry done and dry and folded and put away a day in my life... Then I remembered I don't have a dryer 😂 letting things air dry will always take about a day...