It depends on the music and the volume, if it make your video hard to understand or hear your voice then, no music😅 I used to get my body tired with exercise but because of health problems, sometimes I can't move my body without help 😅
As someone with (mild-ish) dysautonomia (a branch of comorbidities often seen in neurodivergent people) and resulting exercise intolerance, I hate it when someone tells me that what I need to do for better sleep is Exercise. HOWEVER. While I still don’t do "exercise" in the traditional sense and I still have to avoid walking Up stairs or Up hill, I did notice a change in my sleep/ falling asleep at night after uni and work went back from zoom to in-person and I now just Walk around a lot more. WALKING. I wish instead of suggesting/insisting I try jogging or join a sports team, people had just encouraged me to walk around more. The stupid mental health walks saved my life and my sleep schedule too as it turns out ;)
I have long COVID and can't even do walks anymore. I walked my dog just down the street and back both days over the weekend instead of one and didn't feel like a functional person until Wed. I miss being able to walk the dog but have to settle for a lap around my own yard while he runs circles around me.
This is why I appreciate so much the language of "incorporating movement" as opposed to what you usually hear, exactly what you said: go for a jog, a run, work out, etc. That can sound so rigorous for some people! Sometimes the movement you need is doing a dumb little dance to get the energy out 😂 and even if you're looking at it from a fitness standpoint - some movement is better than no movement if you're able to do it, and everyone's ability is different.
@Zetanai Very good way of explaining. I'll do little mini sprints around the house to play with my dog and sometimes those mini sprints look more like quick shuffling than actual sprinting lol
For people who can't walk or do anything vaguely aerobic lying down stretches can still help. Yoga in bed by Sarah Beth is good. Or YWA has a couple of very gentle stretching pre bed "yoga" videos. OR progressive muscle relaxation - tighten & release muscles in turn..lots of free guided versions on YT and Insight Timer. Unless you have spasticity from neuro issues this should hopefully be okay for you.
I've recently been diagnosed with a degenerative joint condition that makes extensive walking/standing painful so at best I can just do my physio while sitting/lying on my bed. I'm looking into possibly swimming or stationary biking on my orthopedic surgeon's advice but routinely accessing pools/gym equipment is something I need to factor into my partially-employed budget so it's not a great option to jump into at the moment (except I do have more free time between jobs...but not free money.)
watching this on laptop while scrolling on the phone and eating a snack at 1am. I know exactly why I can't sleep. The day isn't over until I feel like it was worth it - and so far it wasn't.
Also on the physical needs topic: for those who aren’t familiar with “sleep hygiene” basics, your sleeping area needs to be cold, dark, and quiet! Earplugs (reusables can block more sound and stay in your ear better), blackout curtains and covering up LED lights, and a low-enough room temperature or a fan cooling you off can make a BIG difference!
Temperature is such an overlooked one! One of my other medication side effects is Night Sweats (fun lil menopause preview!), so I steam up the sheets like it's nobody's business (sounds far sexier than it is, unfortunately). Well-meaning people gift me flannel bedsheets and jammies for the winter but honestly the jammies only get worn as daywear and the sheets never get used because this body needs to BREATHE and have a fan on all year round. I kept my light "summer" quilt on until late October this year before I finally swapped in the fluffier "winter" duvet. And for AFAB people especially it might just be cold FEET; if I genuinely find I'm too chilled to fall asleep, warm socks generally are all I need to add before I can doze off and not risk waking up gaspingly hot under too many layers of blankets etc. (But I'm also chafing my bare feet against the covers before I fall asleep every night anyhow, I can't remember the last time I needed to put on socks, and I'm in a (mild) Canadian winter up here.) I would fall prey for a long time to the idea that warm = cozy = sleep, so I'd be forcing myself to snuggle up in heavier covers/fabrics than my body truly wanted for a long, settled sleep.
I never thought about this before. My sleep pattern is terrible, I don’t know the last time I fell asleep before 1.30am. I also accidentally discovered that sleeping with table fan next to my bed helps not for the cold air but for the noise x
I use the app Atmosphere on my phone, as well as brown/white noise playlists, at night. It lets you layer different sounds/volumes from different settings (indoor and outdoor, as well as a range of urban/natural sound settings.) Campfire + Rain on a Tent + Wind + Owl is basically the sound of summer vacations of my childhood, lol.
My sleep hygiene and routine improved when I started doing all the other routine tasks before I got sleepy. Brushing my teeth, skincare, preparing for the morning, etc. It needs to be done before I get that sleepy feeling because otherwise the activities reset me and give me a second wind. Also getting an app blocker to stop scrolling after a certain time (mine is very lenient at 1:30am) because I have found scrolling before bed does not help me sleep at all. it also blocks my video streaming so I don't get into a binge/marathon of shows and movies
I eventually figured out that I have to focus my mind on something such as playing a puzzle based game, listening to one of my favorite audio books, or working on writing my own fiction book for an hour and slowly reducing the sound and light in my bedroom. By the end of that hour, I usually find myself ready to go to sleep. Your video here has helped me see that what I was actually doing was addressing my emotional needs as these things are comforting and calming for me. Thank you so much for your videos! They have been so helpful for me!
The mental stimulation part is something I started doing this last year without realizing it. My go-to before bed (if I need it, I don't always need it every single night) has become playing solitaire on my phone. For me, it's just the right amount of mental stimulation, enough to help my brain ease into relaxing and enough to not overstimulate my brain. I often end up playing 2-3 games before I can no longer keep my eyes open. There is an upside and a downside to doing this. The upside is that my brain now recognizes solitaire as our gateway to sleep (but again, it's not always necessary). The downside is that my brain recognizes solitaire as our gateway to sleep, meaning that I can no longer play it during the day as a way to pass the time because I start getting sleepy. 😂But it's had a positive impact on my sleep so I'm not even mad about it. My sleep routine still isn't great but it's getting there! These other tips help a lot too, so thank you for making this video! 💚
That mental stimulation for me can sometimes come in the form of my "bullshit spreadsheet" 🤣 the organization & design often scratches an itch for me, but it's in a context that doesn't matter in that it isnt for, like, work or something necessary that makes it a real ~task~ or daunting. No deadline, no real reason for it outside of "i wanna" so there's no pressure involved... Making a spreadsheet for a collection I have, gradually building it up, and overcomplicating it for the fun of it can really help my brain.
I have AUDHD. I've struggled with sleep since I was about 13. Now...I'm in my 50's. And my go to, is meditation to sleep. Meditation isn't the absense of thoughts, thoughts will always come, when you realize you're in the middle of that thought, let it go and go back to the meditation. Focus on the breath, in through the nose, out through the mouth. Find your own easy rhythm. While that's going, the body check. Start with your toes and go up from there, find the tension and release it. Relax, let yourself settle in and sink down. I can't explain how to quiet the mind (and some nights I still struggle and can't sleep at all-probably the things I haven't resolved like you said) but because I've done this for so many years, when it does work, I can go to sleep within five minutes. Because of practice and repitition.
I don't know if it's deliberate, but I've only just twigged it - filming the ad's in a different area/different outfit is so helpful! Means I can quickly scroll through it and easily see when we are back to the content. If you are doing it on purpose, thanks Hayley!
I expected some very basic tips for falling asleep, because it seems that every video like this is similar, but I was so surprised. You have some very good tips and a very different approach than I expected. Some of these things I already do to help me sleep (movement!), but it took me years to really figure them out. And funnily enough, during most of the video I fully agreed with you and was like "OMG we're basically the same person!"
How did You know I am right now struggling with this? Nearly midnight here and after a couple of very emotional stressful days, very little and bad sleep I feel exhausted af, but overstimulated in my head. Did some cleaning today for the body part, forced me to do all possible work to help solve the problem, cried a bit and now took my purring cat on my chest and made myself a goodnight-drink. It makes perfectly sense to see THREE parts, not just body and "mind" including the emotions. Helpful video, Hayley😊❤
Mine is definitely internal hyperactivity. its like a seratonin Craving for something specific before I sleep. Sometimes it's stimulation by media that isn't published yet. Or I'm physically tired enough by work that I can't enact the mental stimulation I need to settle, like drawing or doing something Creative. My days off may be so filled with real headed rest, that I can't clean or do any creative projects that feed that mental stimulation. It's really frustrating. . It's definitely an name of my ob not suiting me but I have no way to get out, no way to save, no real direction towards a job that would suit and work with my ADHD,
Surely there must be a way out. It may be a really hard path out, but there’s got to be something. I don’t know enough about your situation nor do I have the requisite life experience to give advice on how to get to a job that suits you, but in the meantime, have you tried completely stopping short form video scrolling (and all social media if you have to) for at least a few weeks? I have, and I think it’s made a significant positive change in my life. I may not necessarily be happier (working on that with a therapist), but I feel more alive - less like I’m living in a fog - and there is more space for me to engage in more meaningful activities like creating (visual art mostly) and reading books or just thinking. If you are too physically tired after work to create, perhaps you could read something complex or solve riddles to tire out your mind
I am newly diagnosed with ADHD. Want to say thank you for your videos. Has cleared a lot for me, and I still have LOTS to work on. But it gives a direction ❤
I already understand so much better why I slept really badly when I was still working fulltime after watching this video. This is really helpful, thank you! 💜
hey there ! as a fellow adhd-girlie i was naturally struggling to fall a sleep since i remember. now, as a twenty something, where i work a job where i am on my feet all day, which also contains a problem solving component and lots and lots of human interaction (i feel like i am pretty extraverted after all, which surprises me), i tend to struggle less with falling asleep, than when i was in school or university. i figured, that reading in bed also helps - it is mentally and sometimes emotionally stimulating. an while i turn the pages the background noise in my brain calms down and i drift off, sometimes with the reading light still on. drifting off! can you believe it? a few years ago i thought "falling asleep" was more like being knocked out, losing my consciousness, because my body is simply giving up. i love your content, haley. thank you. keep it up!
I really struggle with movement this time of year because my chronic pain is cold induced but I look forward to trying to use it as an emotional processing tool. My anxiety is so bad I’m giving myself migraines. Normally I use ASMR videos to quiet mental hyperactivity but I totally see what you mean that my body doesnt like this sedentary lifestyle.
thank you for this. i never thought i’d relate so much to this even though i’m not diagnosed with adhd. when you clarified emotional and mental parts and space for them helped a lot just having clarity with that. thanks
This was so helpful! Loved your Types of Rest video before, and now focusing on if we made space for our physical / emotional / mental needs is such a great concept! ❤️
Some of my best sleep was when I lived on my own on a little wooden boat. The mattress was deliciously hard, there were water noises around most of the time, and I could play my calming playlists before going to sleep. Storms meant sleepless nights for a week though, so it wasn't always great Since then, I've moved back into a house and struggled 🤣 But recently, I started reading in bed, just 10 pages or so, and that seems to scratch an itch that would otherwise keep me awake. Now I just have to ask the cat nicely to please not wake me up at night 😝
I really need to try this! At night time I often lie in bed, feeling sleepy but I can’t get to sleep as it feels like my body is humming on the inside 😅 Hoping this combination will help!
When I was a kid it took me a lomg time falling into sleep. I didnt close my eyes. That was „too boring“. Totales normal thought my mom who sleeps bad because her thoughts are too loud and also has to move all the time. Sometimes I Wonder how we were undiagnosed so Long 😂
I hate movement. I feel better after I've exercised but getting going and whilst actually doing it, it SUCKS, It's boring, I hate being sweaty, I swear I'm just glad it's over when I'm done. I'd rather bed rot forever but I know I can't. I'm chronically under stimulated. Always scrolling for dopamine or trying to find something to watch so I don't have to be alone in my brain. My emotions are never managed, they are all screaming ahhhhhhhhhhh 24/7.
if you hate exercise (same here), try and find alternative ways to move! i like to put on uptempo music and go on a walk following the rythm of the music. i like dancing in my room until i literally am sweating and out of breath (that one may only work if dancing comes easily to you already). vacuuming is movement. maybe you like stretching or yoga? or swimming just for fun? or riding a bike around the neighborhood? skating? climbing? i used to try to jog and lift weights and i could never keep it up because i always hated it so bad. instead of fighting while doing something awful, find a way to make it fun :)
Great video, but I am still struggling with what to do when the mental chatter is not negative, but constantly coming up with kreative ideas and problems solving. If I get up to actually write it all down, it feels like I am just feeding the monster 😅
What I hear Hayley saying is yes you should get that dog you really want 👀😉 Tbf my old physio who was very holistic and trauma infirmed told me she'd prescribe me a dog if she could. Seriously though really good video. I like the idea of the trifector to check - physically & mentally tired enough & emotional processing. Im finding ScreenZen helps reduce screen use & phone not near bed. and
No music is my preference and it is a strong one at that. This is great information and things to ponder. Unfortunately it doesn’t really help those of us in extreme chronic pain from the wonderful other crap we have to manage. I still love the advice and information. I know you can’t speak to things you don’t experience or know about, but it is much different for those of us with chronic illnesses. I hope you aren’t ever in that position. Still though, this is a great video and I will try to figure out ways to address these problems and solutions with an adaptation. I’m fortunate that sleep isn’t my biggest issue, but it is something I know a lot of people struggle with. Thank you for sharing not just problems, but the why of that problem and potential solutions. 😊
As someone with added chronic pain I understand.. half my sleep is just trying to be physically comfortable...having to also get up halfway through the night to fix pain spot is no fun. I literally surround myself with pillows of all shapes just to "fall asleep"
Needing to watch this a second time after last night :( I was wide awake tossing and turning all night, didn’t fall asleep until like 5am. I don’t think I had enough physical stimulation as I stayed in doing nothing wanting to relax
I ended up doing an all nighter on Sunday/Monday. However, it was after nodding off for 10 mins and then my brain then going..."ooh you know what we could do..." Monday I was on but Tuesday I felt like I was nursing a major hangover. 😂
Did you try just taking magnesium (not too much so you do not accumulate too much over time/do not overdose but like 100 miligrams (daily intake per day is about 300 mg) instead of coffee while it has caffeine and magnesium (I assume it can be caffeine making you anxious and magnesium is making human body poop). I mean you should ask a doctor about it first but just a suggestion that it might be some kind od solution 😅
me seeing this video yesterday "oh ok I don't really need that, I haven't had any insomnia in ages, I think I got it figured it out!" my ADHD : ".... hey so wouldn't it be funny"
No music is making the only sound feel sharper than usual. Like painfully/misophonia sharp. The music rounds out the sound and makes it more digestible for me.
Dog LIKING going walkies...they are adorable weirdos lol I'd vote for no music, as sometimes I have my own music playing on another device as I'm watching UA-cam videos. (Um anyone else running multiple devices? I literally have my iPad game open in front of my PC with several tabs open for reading articles or videos right now as I "relax"...)
Sorry but you're not correct about saying everyone has the hyperactivity part. There is a difference between ADD and adhd. They combined both of them for namesake but they still they have certain distinct symptoms from eachother. Many women in particular have the inattentive type which often does NOT include hyperactivity, which is a big reason why many of us are under and misdiagnosed.
hi, the hyperactivity in what used to be called ADD usually does still exist in some capacity but instead of being external and easy to identify by outward facing symptoms, it is internalized within the systems that the brain functions by. i myself was initially diagnosed as ADD, and i used to think that i don’t have a lot of impulsive actions or trouble staying still and such, and my biggest issues were starting tasks and managing my time etc. however, through treatment and research i have found that i DO have a lot of hyperactivity, it just doesn’t manifest in the ways that professionals previously thought it only showed up in. i’m not saying that i know everyone’s symptoms and that there aren’t people with only very few hyperactive traits at all, i’m just trying to point out that the reason the two diagnoses were combined was that they were previously being diagnosed based on how they present outwardly, even though the same brain processes are leading to those different outward behaviours just based on personal differences that we as people naturally have. however, there is not a fundamental difference between adhd and add (according to the previous distinction) people’s brains, which is why they aren’t different diagnoses anymore. the ”hyperactive” reactions likely are happening in the brain even if they don’t come out as behaviours that match.
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It depends on the music and the volume, if it make your video hard to understand or hear your voice then, no music😅
I used to get my body tired with exercise but because of health problems, sometimes I can't move my body without help 😅
I prefer no music! Helps me focus better, and it makes the video feel more calm
Yes!! Also nice for speeding up the video without a weird wobbly sound in the background
oh god pleeeeese no music!!!
As someone with (mild-ish) dysautonomia (a branch of comorbidities often seen in neurodivergent people) and resulting exercise intolerance, I hate it when someone tells me that what I need to do for better sleep is Exercise.
HOWEVER. While I still don’t do "exercise" in the traditional sense and I still have to avoid walking Up stairs or Up hill, I did notice a change in my sleep/ falling asleep at night after uni and work went back from zoom to in-person and I now just Walk around a lot more. WALKING.
I wish instead of suggesting/insisting I try jogging or join a sports team, people had just encouraged me to walk around more. The stupid mental health walks saved my life and my sleep schedule too as it turns out ;)
I have long COVID and can't even do walks anymore. I walked my dog just down the street and back both days over the weekend instead of one and didn't feel like a functional person until Wed. I miss being able to walk the dog but have to settle for a lap around my own yard while he runs circles around me.
This is why I appreciate so much the language of "incorporating movement" as opposed to what you usually hear, exactly what you said: go for a jog, a run, work out, etc. That can sound so rigorous for some people! Sometimes the movement you need is doing a dumb little dance to get the energy out 😂 and even if you're looking at it from a fitness standpoint - some movement is better than no movement if you're able to do it, and everyone's ability is different.
@Zetanai Very good way of explaining. I'll do little mini sprints around the house to play with my dog and sometimes those mini sprints look more like quick shuffling than actual sprinting lol
For people who can't walk or do anything vaguely aerobic lying down stretches can still help. Yoga in bed by Sarah Beth is good. Or YWA has a couple of very gentle stretching pre bed "yoga" videos.
OR progressive muscle relaxation - tighten & release muscles in turn..lots of free guided versions on YT and Insight Timer. Unless you have spasticity from neuro issues this should hopefully be okay for you.
I've recently been diagnosed with a degenerative joint condition that makes extensive walking/standing painful so at best I can just do my physio while sitting/lying on my bed. I'm looking into possibly swimming or stationary biking on my orthopedic surgeon's advice but routinely accessing pools/gym equipment is something I need to factor into my partially-employed budget so it's not a great option to jump into at the moment (except I do have more free time between jobs...but not free money.)
watching this on laptop while scrolling on the phone and eating a snack at 1am.
I know exactly why I can't sleep. The day isn't over until I feel like it was worth it - and so far it wasn't.
Have you heard of revenge bedtime procrastination? Sounds similar!
Also on the physical needs topic: for those who aren’t familiar with “sleep hygiene” basics, your sleeping area needs to be cold, dark, and quiet! Earplugs (reusables can block more sound and stay in your ear better), blackout curtains and covering up LED lights, and a low-enough room temperature or a fan cooling you off can make a BIG difference!
Temperature is such an overlooked one! One of my other medication side effects is Night Sweats (fun lil menopause preview!), so I steam up the sheets like it's nobody's business (sounds far sexier than it is, unfortunately). Well-meaning people gift me flannel bedsheets and jammies for the winter but honestly the jammies only get worn as daywear and the sheets never get used because this body needs to BREATHE and have a fan on all year round. I kept my light "summer" quilt on until late October this year before I finally swapped in the fluffier "winter" duvet. And for AFAB people especially it might just be cold FEET; if I genuinely find I'm too chilled to fall asleep, warm socks generally are all I need to add before I can doze off and not risk waking up gaspingly hot under too many layers of blankets etc. (But I'm also chafing my bare feet against the covers before I fall asleep every night anyhow, I can't remember the last time I needed to put on socks, and I'm in a (mild) Canadian winter up here.)
I would fall prey for a long time to the idea that warm = cozy = sleep, so I'd be forcing myself to snuggle up in heavier covers/fabrics than my body truly wanted for a long, settled sleep.
All of this advice is about 40 years too late, but hopefully i can use it for the next 40+ years.
I never thought about this before. My sleep pattern is terrible, I don’t know the last time I fell asleep before 1.30am. I also accidentally discovered that sleeping with table fan next to my bed helps not for the cold air but for the noise x
For the winter time u might wasn't to buy a whitenoise machine. They help
I use the app Atmosphere on my phone, as well as brown/white noise playlists, at night. It lets you layer different sounds/volumes from different settings (indoor and outdoor, as well as a range of urban/natural sound settings.) Campfire + Rain on a Tent + Wind + Owl is basically the sound of summer vacations of my childhood, lol.
My sleep hygiene and routine improved when I started doing all the other routine tasks before I got sleepy. Brushing my teeth, skincare, preparing for the morning, etc. It needs to be done before I get that sleepy feeling because otherwise the activities reset me and give me a second wind. Also getting an app blocker to stop scrolling after a certain time (mine is very lenient at 1:30am) because I have found scrolling before bed does not help me sleep at all. it also blocks my video streaming so I don't get into a binge/marathon of shows and movies
YES....the effort of doing those boring basic tasks requires pushing through and I think that needs cortisol. This kills the melatonin and the sleepy.
I eventually figured out that I have to focus my mind on something such as playing a puzzle based game, listening to one of my favorite audio books, or working on writing my own fiction book for an hour and slowly reducing the sound and light in my bedroom. By the end of that hour, I usually find myself ready to go to sleep. Your video here has helped me see that what I was actually doing was addressing my emotional needs as these things are comforting and calming for me. Thank you so much for your videos! They have been so helpful for me!
The mental stimulation part is something I started doing this last year without realizing it. My go-to before bed (if I need it, I don't always need it every single night) has become playing solitaire on my phone. For me, it's just the right amount of mental stimulation, enough to help my brain ease into relaxing and enough to not overstimulate my brain. I often end up playing 2-3 games before I can no longer keep my eyes open. There is an upside and a downside to doing this. The upside is that my brain now recognizes solitaire as our gateway to sleep (but again, it's not always necessary). The downside is that my brain recognizes solitaire as our gateway to sleep, meaning that I can no longer play it during the day as a way to pass the time because I start getting sleepy. 😂But it's had a positive impact on my sleep so I'm not even mad about it. My sleep routine still isn't great but it's getting there! These other tips help a lot too, so thank you for making this video! 💚
That mental stimulation for me can sometimes come in the form of my "bullshit spreadsheet" 🤣 the organization & design often scratches an itch for me, but it's in a context that doesn't matter in that it isnt for, like, work or something necessary that makes it a real ~task~ or daunting. No deadline, no real reason for it outside of "i wanna" so there's no pressure involved... Making a spreadsheet for a collection I have, gradually building it up, and overcomplicating it for the fun of it can really help my brain.
I have AUDHD. I've struggled with sleep since I was about 13. Now...I'm in my 50's. And my go to, is meditation to sleep. Meditation isn't the absense of thoughts, thoughts will always come, when you realize you're in the middle of that thought, let it go and go back to the meditation. Focus on the breath, in through the nose, out through the mouth. Find your own easy rhythm. While that's going, the body check. Start with your toes and go up from there, find the tension and release it. Relax, let yourself settle in and sink down. I can't explain how to quiet the mind (and some nights I still struggle and can't sleep at all-probably the things I haven't resolved like you said) but because I've done this for so many years, when it does work, I can go to sleep within five minutes. Because of practice and repitition.
My body wants to move but my brain totally doesn’t want to cooperate. Working on it and hearing this has helped a lot ❤
Maybe try going for a short walk? In a pin a saw an idea where you just go to a store like target or Walmart and just wander a bit.
I don't know if it's deliberate, but I've only just twigged it - filming the ad's in a different area/different outfit is so helpful! Means I can quickly scroll through it and easily see when we are back to the content. If you are doing it on purpose, thanks Hayley!
I expected some very basic tips for falling asleep, because it seems that every video like this is similar, but I was so surprised. You have some very good tips and a very different approach than I expected. Some of these things I already do to help me sleep (movement!), but it took me years to really figure them out. And funnily enough, during most of the video I fully agreed with you and was like "OMG we're basically the same person!"
Bro it's literally 4:30 am rn for me
Very sick with a cold opened up by a neurological flare up bringing immune system down. I barely sleep. In 1-2 hour chunks. Need this...
I’m so sorry, not being able to sleep when you’re sick is absolutely horrendous. I hope you can get the rest you need soon 🩷
I hope you're feeling better, now.
This is a super helpful video. Im not sure whether or not I am neurodivergent but the tips in here are awesome!
How did You know I am right now struggling with this?
Nearly midnight here and after a couple of very emotional stressful days, very little and bad sleep I feel exhausted af, but overstimulated in my head.
Did some cleaning today for the body part, forced me to do all possible work to help solve the problem, cried a bit and now took my purring cat on my chest and made myself a goodnight-drink.
It makes perfectly sense to see THREE parts, not just body and "mind" including the emotions.
Helpful video, Hayley😊❤
Mine is definitely internal hyperactivity. its like a seratonin Craving for something specific before I sleep. Sometimes it's stimulation by media that isn't published yet. Or I'm physically tired enough by work that I can't enact the mental stimulation I need to settle, like drawing or doing something Creative. My days off may be so filled with real headed rest, that I can't clean or do any creative projects that feed that mental stimulation. It's really frustrating. . It's definitely an name of my ob not suiting me but I have no way to get out, no way to save, no real direction towards a job that would suit and work with my ADHD,
Surely there must be a way out. It may be a really hard path out, but there’s got to be something. I don’t know enough about your situation nor do I have the requisite life experience to give advice on how to get to a job that suits you, but in the meantime, have you tried completely stopping short form video scrolling (and all social media if you have to) for at least a few weeks? I have, and I think it’s made a significant positive change in my life. I may not necessarily be happier (working on that with a therapist), but I feel more alive - less like I’m living in a fog - and there is more space for me to engage in more meaningful activities like creating (visual art mostly) and reading books or just thinking. If you are too physically tired after work to create, perhaps you could read something complex or solve riddles to tire out your mind
I am newly diagnosed with ADHD. Want to say thank you for your videos. Has cleared a lot for me, and I still have LOTS to work on. But it gives a direction ❤
Watching this 38 minutes after midnight :) love you Hayley, your videos help me so much
... and now so am I. Time zones are interesting things. 😅
Love you Hayley!! Thank you for these reminders, especially of how critical and profound movement is for our complete wellbeing💖
so now I know why I do simple math in my head when I HAVE to fall asleep. It's the mental stimulation I'm lacking 😮
I already understand so much better why I slept really badly when I was still working fulltime after watching this video. This is really helpful, thank you! 💜
hey there ! as a fellow adhd-girlie i was naturally struggling to fall a sleep since i remember. now, as a twenty something, where i work a job where i am on my feet all day, which also contains a problem solving component and lots and lots of human interaction (i feel like i am pretty extraverted after all, which surprises me), i tend to struggle less with falling asleep, than when i was in school or university. i figured, that reading in bed also helps - it is mentally and sometimes emotionally stimulating. an while i turn the pages the background noise in my brain calms down and i drift off, sometimes with the reading light still on. drifting off! can you believe it? a few years ago i thought "falling asleep" was more like being knocked out, losing my consciousness, because my body is simply giving up. i love your content, haley. thank you. keep it up!
I really struggle with movement this time of year because my chronic pain is cold induced but I look forward to trying to use it as an emotional processing tool. My anxiety is so bad I’m giving myself migraines. Normally I use ASMR videos to quiet mental hyperactivity but I totally see what you mean that my body doesnt like this sedentary lifestyle.
thank you for this. i never thought i’d relate so much to this even though i’m not diagnosed with adhd. when you clarified emotional and mental parts and space for them helped a lot just having clarity with that. thanks
This was so helpful! Loved your Types of Rest video before, and now focusing on if we made space for our physical / emotional / mental needs is such a great concept! ❤️
this is such a useful breakdown! thank you!!
Ah yay! So glad it was helpful 🥰
Increasing the speed helped in keeping me invested so much more and kept me hooked, thanks for putting that in your videos.
No music for me! Also, this is resonating so hard rn, my insomnia has been bad this week. Super helpful video, thanks!
So glad to have found this channel, thank you so much !
Thank you for tips that are actually helpful ❤
YOU’RE SO WELCOME!! 💗
I have never heard anything like this. It makes so much sense. Thanks so much! ❤
Just listening put me at ease enough to fall asleep, so thank you
Struggling with sleep, fatigue and possibly insomnia for years but think this may geniueily help.
love this. thanks so much!
Great video!! Love the layout and the way it was organized and broken down!!
This will help me immediately! It's just what I needed at almost 3 in the morning! 😂
I FRICKIN LOVE YOU HAYLEY!!!! TYSM for the advice you’re so great!! 😘😘😘😘 ❤❤❤❤❤
THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE!! ❤
Perfect timing! I just slept through my AuDHD therapy appointment
thanks hayleyyy
this channel is So helpful
Some of my best sleep was when I lived on my own on a little wooden boat. The mattress was deliciously hard, there were water noises around most of the time, and I could play my calming playlists before going to sleep. Storms meant sleepless nights for a week though, so it wasn't always great Since then, I've moved back into a house and struggled 🤣
But recently, I started reading in bed, just 10 pages or so, and that seems to scratch an itch that would otherwise keep me awake. Now I just have to ask the cat nicely to please not wake me up at night 😝
Not me still avoiding exercise bc it’s no fun even though I know it’s literally the #1 medicine I need to solve all of my problems 😬😭
Great timing, as one of my short term goals is to fix my sleep schedule ❤
I’m rooting for you! 💪
I really need to try this! At night time I often lie in bed, feeling sleepy but I can’t get to sleep as it feels like my body is humming on the inside 😅 Hoping this combination will help!
When I was a kid it took me a lomg time falling into sleep. I didnt close my eyes. That was „too boring“. Totales normal thought my mom who sleeps bad because her thoughts are too loud and also has to move all the time. Sometimes I Wonder how we were undiagnosed so Long 😂
Thank you for not adding background music!
I hate movement. I feel better after I've exercised but getting going and whilst actually doing it, it SUCKS, It's boring, I hate being sweaty, I swear I'm just glad it's over when I'm done. I'd rather bed rot forever but I know I can't. I'm chronically under stimulated. Always scrolling for dopamine or trying to find something to watch so I don't have to be alone in my brain. My emotions are never managed, they are all screaming ahhhhhhhhhhh 24/7.
if you hate exercise (same here), try and find alternative ways to move! i like to put on uptempo music and go on a walk following the rythm of the music. i like dancing in my room until i literally am sweating and out of breath (that one may only work if dancing comes easily to you already). vacuuming is movement. maybe you like stretching or yoga? or swimming just for fun? or riding a bike around the neighborhood? skating? climbing? i used to try to jog and lift weights and i could never keep it up because i always hated it so bad. instead of fighting while doing something awful, find a way to make it fun :)
Great video, but I am still struggling with what to do when the mental chatter is not negative, but constantly coming up with kreative ideas and problems solving. If I get up to actually write it all down, it feels like I am just feeding the monster 😅
What I hear Hayley saying is yes you should get that dog you really want 👀😉 Tbf my old physio who was very holistic and trauma infirmed told me she'd prescribe me a dog if she could. Seriously though really good video. I like the idea of the trifector to check - physically & mentally tired enough & emotional processing.
Im finding ScreenZen helps reduce screen use & phone not near bed.
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No music is my preference and it is a strong one at that. This is great information and things to ponder. Unfortunately it doesn’t really help those of us in extreme chronic pain from the wonderful other crap we have to manage. I still love the advice and information. I know you can’t speak to things you don’t experience or know about, but it is much different for those of us with chronic illnesses. I hope you aren’t ever in that position. Still though, this is a great video and I will try to figure out ways to address these problems and solutions with an adaptation. I’m fortunate that sleep isn’t my biggest issue, but it is something I know a lot of people struggle with. Thank you for sharing not just problems, but the why of that problem and potential solutions. 😊
As someone with added chronic pain I understand.. half my sleep is just trying to be physically comfortable...having to also get up halfway through the night to fix pain spot is no fun. I literally surround myself with pillows of all shapes just to "fall asleep"
Great vid!
No music for sure I can actually focus on your awesome content
Needing to watch this a second time after last night :( I was wide awake tossing and turning all night, didn’t fall asleep until like 5am. I don’t think I had enough physical stimulation as I stayed in doing nothing wanting to relax
I love the no music. I can focus better on the video 💕
I ended up doing an all nighter on Sunday/Monday. However, it was after nodding off for 10 mins and then my brain then going..."ooh you know what we could do..." Monday I was on but Tuesday I felt like I was nursing a major hangover. 😂
Oooft honey i haven't felt a feeling since the early 2010's 😂😂
not me watching this at 2am bruh.....
Same for me but 01:35am, so almost 2am
Hi Hayley! I love your content. a lot. can I ask how did you set up the violet light in your room? :)
No music. Less for my brain to try and focus on. 😊
Did you try just taking magnesium (not too much so you do not accumulate too much over time/do not overdose but like 100 miligrams (daily intake per day is about 300 mg) instead of coffee while it has caffeine and magnesium (I assume it can be caffeine making you anxious and magnesium is making human body poop). I mean you should ask a doctor about it first but just a suggestion that it might be some kind od solution 😅
Hayley are you telling me to get my ass up and do some exercising.... 😂 cause yeah I know I totally should do that, actually... 😅
me seeing this video yesterday "oh ok I don't really need that, I haven't had any insomnia in ages, I think I got it figured it out!"
my ADHD : ".... hey so wouldn't it be funny"
No music is better for me thx
No music is making the only sound feel sharper than usual. Like painfully/misophonia sharp. The music rounds out the sound and makes it more digestible for me.
Dog LIKING going walkies...they are adorable weirdos lol
I'd vote for no music, as sometimes I have my own music playing on another device as I'm watching UA-cam videos. (Um anyone else running multiple devices? I literally have my iPad game open in front of my PC with several tabs open for reading articles or videos right now as I "relax"...)
I prefer no music but like both
lol me watching this at bed time
I do yin yoga before I sleep while I’m playing UA-cam video on the background
no music pls!
I prefer no music. :)
Sorry but you're not correct about saying everyone has the hyperactivity part. There is a difference between ADD and adhd. They combined both of them for namesake but they still they have certain distinct symptoms from eachother. Many women in particular have the inattentive type which often does NOT include hyperactivity, which is a big reason why many of us are under and misdiagnosed.
hi, the hyperactivity in what used to be called ADD usually does still exist in some capacity but instead of being external and easy to identify by outward facing symptoms, it is internalized within the systems that the brain functions by.
i myself was initially diagnosed as ADD, and i used to think that i don’t have a lot of impulsive actions or trouble staying still and such, and my biggest issues were starting tasks and managing my time etc. however, through treatment and research i have found that i DO have a lot of hyperactivity, it just doesn’t manifest in the ways that professionals previously thought it only showed up in. i’m not saying that i know everyone’s symptoms and that there aren’t people with only very few hyperactive traits at all, i’m just trying to point out that the reason the two diagnoses were combined was that they were previously being diagnosed based on how they present outwardly, even though the same brain processes are leading to those different outward behaviours just based on personal differences that we as people naturally have. however, there is not a fundamental difference between adhd and add (according to the previous distinction) people’s brains, which is why they aren’t different diagnoses anymore. the ”hyperactive” reactions likely are happening in the brain even if they don’t come out as behaviours that match.
Just listening put me at ease enough to fall asleep, so thank you