The "make your shower feel bougie and fix harsh lighting" thing is so real. Shower speaker, aurora borealis-style tiktok lights projector, and changing my shower head to one with a hard water filter/better spray/less harsh sound, GAME CHANGING
I am now finally accepting the fact that I have ADHD and are working towards official diagnosis. My last doctor told me I was 25 and "it didn't really matter", essentially telling me to drop it but I know. I just signed up for all three classes and I am excited to hopefully find a way to make my life and space work well with my brain! Thank you.
I understand the battle, I just got my diagnosis at 25, a week before my birthday, and my first therapist told me "well, you haven't been fired, flunked out of school or exhibited any serious problems that we could use to diagnose you yet, so we'll just wait." This channel was a big help in deciding I was right and to keep looking towards getting help.
Woman. You got this down to an art. My place looks NOT as tidy as yours. If this is you "not cleaned" state, most of us are jealous. This would be my "most absolute perfect" state.
I don't like to clean, So I don't do mess. I sth.see houses full of clothes everywhere, pile of dishes etc and the owners are cleaning once a week. That's horrible for me because it means they are living with this mess 6 Day a week
Yeah I've noticed after watching about a hundred vids on ADHD and autism that I already set up so many ways to manage tasks...I'm finally going to a psychiatrist in a month.
Actually when I found out I had ADHD, I also found out a lot of the ways I coped with it to make my life easier. I'm very visual so I usually leave things in my line of sight or near related things. I always just turn around to see what I missed when I'm leaving a room, etc.
Thanks for sharing!! Two laundry hacks I've found that are helpful 1. Put a rack and hangers in the laundry room so (lets be honest, after "de-wrinkling" the clothes in the dryer on the touch-up mode for the 10th time because I forgot that they were in there) I can just pull out the clothes and hang them up RIGHT THERE. 2. Set a timer for 5 minutes - Start folding and putting away the clothes in the basket (that full basket that permanently lives at the foot of my bed) but ONLY for that 5-minute timer - magical!! My brain always thinks the basket is a 45-minute task, when in reality it's usually done in 4 :)
I also have a hanging rack above my dryer (it magnetizes on there!) and it was a game changer! As I accumulate empty hangers in my closet I move them to that rack so they are ready for when I do laundry
There's a "tube of toothpaste" psychology where when a person gives themselves a specific amount of time they will get things done much more easily, but if they give themselves any amount, or too long a time, then they relax and take forever. See also government program budgets. lol
The shower thing! I added a small space heater to all bathrooms with showers, it keeps me from shaking like a leaf when I get out soaking wet. Put it on right before you get in shower and the space will be warm when you get out so you can then turn it off
I used to know someone who had a heat lamp bulb in one of the recessed light fixtures of their bathroom ceiling, right above the shower mat. It was so gloriously cozy to step out of the shower, and since the towel hung nearby, it even absorbed some of the heat from the lamp while I was in the shower, which made it extra nice to wrap around myself. (You can also get heated towel bars!)
My boyfriend bought me a towel warmer for Christmas last year and it is a GAME CHANGER -we both agree it’s the best purchase we’ve made in years. The towels are nice & toasty and dry you off so much better too!
I just don't get out, I get myself 80% dry in there and then open the door / curtain My towel is hung on the end that's farthest from the water source and its going to get wet regardless so...
I store socks in the launch pad! Point of performance with putting on shoes and saves so many trips back to the bedroom! I am putting this here in case anyone (like me for 24 freaking years) always thought clothes must stay a bedroom thing. Genuinely has saved me so much frustration since moving them
Same!! It really makes things so much easier. I also have socks and underwear in the bathroom, because I always forget those things when I’m putting outfits together at night. And on days where showering is hard but I need to clean up and change clothes at least, just for my mental health, having them there removes a hurdle.
Yes! I believe my husband and I both have ADHD and we are constantly looking everywhere for socks 😢 we have a lot of work to do to build systems that work for us.
A few months ago (now that we no longer have a dog who eats shoes!) I put a three tier wheelie rack by the front door. This is where I am training the 2 youngest kiddos and myself to take off socks and shoes so we can find them again! This has cut out so much frustration for everyone on school mornings. And I don't even take their clean socks to their room anymore, just drop them in the appropriate basket of the rack after doing laundry.
A little tip for the trash bags, they usually come in rolls and you can take them out of the box they come in and put them straight in the bottom of the trash can, then put the bag in like usual. Any time you take a bag out, the new ones are already inside the can and you just unwind one of them off the roll and put it on. Keeps them super close but gets rid of the visual clutter of a box sitting out!
One of the best things I ever did for my AuDHD was shaving my head. I would put off showering for way too long, both because of the sensory unpleasantness that you described of having to be undressed and cold and then wet and cold, but also because my hair was just such a big task. I had A LOT of it and it required a lot of maintenance. Eliminating that task entirely was a GAME CHANGER for my executive dysfunction. I know this isn’t a possibility or a want for everyone, but it made a huge difference for me. I don’t think I’ll ever go back to having long hair
I relate to this, but my hair is so thin that its completely dry in like a 5 minute blow dry session. it always annoyed me because it got into jackets and scarves and bag straps and the car window when rolling it up again, so now I have it at a lenght where a ponytail is possible but its not past my shoulders so it doesnt get caught in everything all the time!
God, I wish! I have thick, naturally curly hair and have ALWAYS hated doing it! Washing, drying, styling, and then cleaning up the shed-fall is SO much work! I WISH I had the guts to shave it! I used to have waist-length hair, which was beautiful, but I NEVER did anything with it besides a ponytail, which didn't look good at all. So, I got it cut to shoulder length, which forces me to style it daily - it LOOKS so much better on me now that I style it daily, but I hate how much work it is! 😢 you look super-cute with short hair in your pfp btw! 😊
Tips for washing/drying long hair and avoiding sensory issues, in case they might help someone (mostly adapted from curly hair care, but using them this way for sensory reasons would work for any type of hair. You'll need 2 old tshirts and a showercap): - Keep an old tshirt and a showercap hanging close enough to your shower you can grab them from in the shower. Wash your hair immediately, then put it in a tshirt hat, and put a showercap over that. Continue showering as normal. No wet hair feeling/cold dripping hair when you get out of the shower. (search 'tshirt plopping' to get an idea for how to do a tshirt hat, but it just has to get the hair off your neck and into the shower cap for this step since you'll redo it when you're out of the shower). - When you get out of the shower, take off the shower cap and the (likely structurally unstable) tshirt hat at least keeps your hair off your skin and from dripping. Redo the tshirt hat properly at this point with a clean, dry tshirt (using a flat surface, etc., so it's also a little more secure). I leave mine in until I'm literally about to leave the house because that is the extent of the styling I do (curly hair is great!), and by the time I take it off it's damp but dried enough that theres not that cold/wet feeling anymore. This hack helped me a lot (in addition to just using showercaps as mentioned to AVOID having to wash my hair!), so I hope this might also be helpful for someone else :) It also gave more purpose to old tshirts that were nostalgic but that I didn't wear as shirts anymore (and otherwise felt guilty/cluttered holding onto), or ones that got relegated to only occasional use as painting or hair-dying tshirts.
@@KitKat10281 I was in the same boat as you! If you are considering, I will say baby steps are a good way to get to it! If after having the shoulder length for a while you think to yourself “screw it, I want to chop it off,” DO IT!!! I went from mid back, to shoulder, and then, after I spent so long doing my hair for an event and it got ruined 10 minutes in because the humidity. The next morning, I got squeezed in for an appointment for a short cut and haven’t looked back! When I did decide to try a full buzz and decided I wasn’t a fan, having done the baby steps was nice since I could just tell myself it would only be 2-3 months before it was back at a length I wanted instead of 6+ haha!
HEY YOU! The one looking at this comment. It's okay that your house doesn't look as beautiful as this one. My 2 bedroom apartment looks like a tornado ran through it every day. I have absolutely no motivation to clean anymore. I started judging myself watching this but remembered that if I wouldn't think that about someone else's house I shouldn't be degrading myself for struggling with my ADHD/Depression symptoms. Your house is absolutely beautiful btw! 💖
Cleaning isn't exciting, that's for sure. But as someone who's older I can tell you… Better clean now than be sorry later. I enthusiastically put my stamp on making it enjoyable, whatever it is. And not putting yourself down if you don't get to it on your anticipated schedule if you try to create a schedule. it can save you a fortune and make it easier to clean your house if you change your HVAC filter regularly. I have to climb a ladder to do that so I try to keep my ladder close to where I have to do that. depending on how long you leave it, dust can become crust that is hard to remove. A lot harder to deal with. Oh and life without hairspray is better. How do you think I discover the dust =>crust? Family member using hairspray in the bathroom, between the hairspray and the moisture in the air and Lack of regular attention to dusting = nasty crusty surfaces that are hard to reach and deal with. I use hairspray maybe four times a year, and I use a baseboard duster on a stick every now and again and my bathroom is in a lot better condition than that one was.
"Is it weird I'm just sitting on the toilet?" She asks her brother who is recording her after she states this is where she absolutely rips and does the biggest smelliest shits. Subscribed.
I put the donation bags in my car and then drive them everywhere for YEARS before dropping them off at the donation bin that I drive past 10+ times per week.
As someone with a lot of clothes, I like to limit the number of pairs of underwear I own, then when I start to run low, I know it's urgent that I need to do laundry! I have a few pairs that I like less that I keep as backups so that I don't actually run out. I helped my partner set up a similar thing where they wear fun t-shirts and we both get a visual reminder when they start wearing boring grey ones.
The underwear thing is great! I have about 17 pairs of my favorites. Enough for two weeks and a little more just in case. As they're black and I wear a variety of colors with mostly black pants, shorts, etc, two weeks is about perfect to have a decent sized load of black. It's usually not quite full even with some blue and grey things sometimes added. It's also easier to face putting it all away as it's not a full load.
I tried doing that lol, it made it worse. I just became stressed all the time and only doing loads of a few pairs of underwear and avoiding everything else. My brain will do everything in its power to do everything but the laundry 😪.
When watching your basket of clean laundry, I just realized that not having a dryer helps me tremendously ! Here in Spain, we usually hang our clothes to dry, and that makes me pick up each item infividually from the clothline or the wire thingy.. I then fold it on the spot and take a column of folded clothes to my closet (or sny surface in the surrounding area) That column may live there for weeks, but it's way less daunting to tackle than a basket of stuff that I would have to fold or hang.
Having a process, almost like the production process in a factory with optimisations makes even laundry possible :D I kid you not, this is what I do for a living these days, I opitimize processes and make procedures! Cause I am an expert by now, I’ve done it for myself my entire life and they turn out pretty idiot proof. Very valuable business skill if you seek a new job ;) For laundry my best hacks have been : - hanging my clothes on handers and then putting them on the clothline ( i hope that’s a word, let’s make it a word) This way they go straight in the wardrobe after, nice and unwrinkled. This saves me from ever ironing. (Bought a special steam iron, used it twice… not an iron person) It is the most major hack! - sorting clothes while I hang them to dry. I.e. Socks and undies have a place at the back corner of the clothlines, so people don’t see them from the street. Having to sort them at that stage actually made hanging laundry more fun and less daunting and eases the further steps greatly! - Picking them up is easier, I also fold tshirts and jeans straight there and put them in the laundry basket, already sorted and folded, beginning with big types of items at the pottom and building up to tshirts ets., so it becomes child’s play to put them in their respective space in the wardrobe. Hangers go on top of the laundry basket and keep everyting together until I reach the wardrobe :) - I use a netted sleeve for my undies and delicate clothing. This way I protect them from further damage. Also they are great for socks, I never lose socks anymore. I use the same sleeves when I travel to keep such small pieces of clothing easy to find. They go out of the net only when they are in their respective boxes in the wardrobe or hang in their corner :) - I invite my cat to play on the terrace while I hang clothes to keep me company or listen to podcasts while I pick up and fold it. This makes it more fun. - In good periods I keep to a schedule of doing laundry twice a week. Not letting it pile up and having a routine time makes it far less daunting. In bad periods, when I am sick for example, or while travelling upon return, when I have at least two baskets to wash… it becomes a burden, I avoid this at all cost. If I have a situation, I will spare time for reading and will do the laundry in the meantime. This makes it feel less like a day lost in waiting for a washing machine :D - I try to use two separate baskets when I wast blankets or linen, so it is easier to separate from the rest. Even better is washing large items as soon as you remove them from the bed for example. This way you also avoid the angst ;) I hope this alleviates you as much as it did me!
AuDHD here and I am so with you on showers! I HATE them and I need to try the candles and putting the towels and robe closer to the shower trick, plus the shower cap! Brilliant! I wish I didn’t hate them so much, but one thing I try to do is make sure that I LOVE the scent of my skin and hair products so I get a good sensory boost from that to partner with the annoying sensory elements of the rest of it. It’s a journey figuring out our brains (mine too constantly thwarts my efforts to not be stinky) but having a loving mindset and sense of humor makes it that much better. Thank you for being authentic and for all that you do!
Yes! Instead of candles, I use a little waterproof LED speaker that glows different colors, I can put it right in the shower and have a little party. It was $17, and BONUS it’s shaped like a little pumpkin!
my son has dyspraxia and hates showers. i got him blue loofas and the long one for his back, changed my shower head. added eucaliptis and towel hook. still need to learn to be independent.
I cannot shower in the morning, i find it overwhelming and feels horrible. instead i put my torch on my phone in the sink (as calm lighting) and shower before bed each night. much more enjoyable and not overwhelming. I also use the small shower head that i can move lower so it doesn't go on my head. It's such a game changer when you listen to your body and how you feel and do things to help accommodate it rather than what is considered the 'norm'. Loving all these comments and so nice to relate to people.
I love ADHD house tours because everything is just so practical??? I see a lot of tools that I use too, and sometimes it makes me wonder if I need to get assessed (not just from the home lifestyles, but lots of other similarities).
For me, no cabinet doors in the kitchen works well. Also, we use the following trick for dishwasher: the moment we empty it, we add detergent for the next wash. So, detergent door open->clean, detergent door closed -> dirty.
We use our dishwasher as dripping rack for hand washing sometimes but we have a similar type with the same concept. Put soap in it before the first dirty dish, so you know this is a load or dirty dishes!
I LOVE socks with funky designs. But what I hated more was having to find a sock’s mate on laundry day. I tried embracing a “mismatched” sock look too- but found it tedious how often people would point it out and I would have to explain that yes, it was on purpose! So, my laundry hack: NO funky socks 😢 Only Black or White, from the same brand & only 2 variants (ankle or crew sock). Now, I just toss them loose in my sock drawer- no matching required. Do I miss cool, funky socks? Absolutely. But I get to keep my sanity. 😂
Love how each of us lands on different solutions to similar problems. I'm pretty sure my Mom also has ADHD - she likes all one style of sock, so there's little matching required. But bc of buying socks at different times and from different brands, there's minute differences in the placement of the seam, the width of the cuff, etc. So the matching requires looking at little details. My solution is to find mostly black socks with some pattern, preferably near the top of the sock, so I can easily spot the pairs in the pile of laundry. I think I would have liked your funky socks!
It's one more thing to remember to do, but amazon sells sockmate clips - you clip the matching socks together and throw them in the wash so they don't get lost. Or you can toss all your socks in a mesh bag like you'd use for delicates.
Get yourself a laundry net, those are usually for bras so it fits a bunch of socks. Put all the dirty socks inside. They will not get lost, when you take em out, they are all neatly in there and finding matching ones super easy :) From a fellow funky socks lover❤
Newly diagnosed ADHD adult, I have been struggling to understand what works and what doesn't for me in everyday life and struggling to become more self aware to create functional habits that work. Your house tour helped me start to identify these things as you went from room to room. The biggest eye opener was realizing if some things aren't out in the open or easily accessible I will not use them or forget about them... Everyone always says how I have so many clothes yet I only wear the clothing that I've left out in piles in my room, or laundry I haven't put away yet rather then opening my dark ass closet to dig through the clothes that are hung up or "hidden" in the dark abyss of the back corners. I am so glad UA-cam recommendations brought me to you and this video! :)
This video is fantastic! I just wanted to note that our vet said that storing kibble directly in plastic bins is a no-no; the airtight bins are great, but you should place the food bags inside them. It’s apparently really easy for tiny scratches to appear in the plastic and kibble dust gets trapped there and makes the food go rancid/encourages bacteria to grow, which can harm your pets or at least ruin an entire batch of food or turn your pets off of a specific food because they can tell it’s rancid even if we can’t.
I am 26 and working towards an official diagnosis. I didn’t realize how many of these techniques I’m already implementing without having watched a lot of ADHD content. Like things being out on the counter all the time because otherwise, I will forget about it. Or having a launchpad (stealing this term) otherwise, I don’t know where my keys, wallet, or jacket is and I’ll be 15 minutes late everywhere. I thought for the longest time I was just a very forgetful or spacey person, but it turns out my brains wired a bit more chaotically. Thanks for sharing!
OMG I've never heard anyone else discuss the shower!!! God I hate it!!! I'm 64!!! The struggle and the feeling of despising the cold, the wet and cold. Often swimming, particularly fitness swimming at the gym. Ugh! Inching into the water, then inching out freezing. Also, love the fact that having STUFF out is a must!!! Geez! I'm so happy I'm not the only one! 😊
6:55 It's great putting your camera operator onscreen! I was thinking of how great it is that you had someone running your camera and then he sneezed and I got to see him. Thank your brother for me.
This was so validating! I would love to see a studio apartment version of this, bc all of my life activities are condensed into one room and it makes me feel CRAZY
Great tips! I learned a few things, but I have one to share too. I just recently put up a couple of simple shelves in my bathroom and got a few cheap, plastic baskets (no lids!) that fit on them. I, too, need my stuff to be out and easily accessible, but then I don't clean the surfaces as often as I should if I have a bunch of stuff to move. This solves that problem. I organized the baskets by task: shower, face care, tooth care, hair, ... When it's time for a certain task, I pull down that basket, work right out of it, and put it back on the shelf when I'm done. So far, it's working great and my bathroom looks cleaner than ever, which resolves a lot of background anxiety.
First though: I am IMPRESSED by the size of that living room. And second though is impressed by tyhe amount of floor you can see, that's tidy in my books.
As a plant ADHD person I can give some advice as not everyone is the same. 1) Get plants that are known to be "tolerant". That won't die when do one mistake. That can endure being to wet or to dry. 2) Get information what soil and fertilizer particular plant needs. You only need to re-pot your plant once a year but it is worth to give them what they like in soil. This way they will feel better in general so you have less problems. 3) There are long lasting fertilizers in form of sticks that you put inside once every 3 months. I recommend that. 4) You should go for plants that have similar needs so you can do the same for all of them at the same time. 5) If you already know some of your habits take plants that will work with that. For example I have tendency to water them too much so I don't get cacti. And so far I killed to coffee plants so I don't get them anymore. 6) Same for your home environment. If you know the air is dry don't take on tropical plants. Because you will probably forget to turn on humidifier and you will hate cleaning it so you will stop using it. 7) I like having wall calendar with nice pictures. If you have one as well you can use it to track your activities related to your plants. I use it only for this purpose so I don't mix it with doctor's appointment for example. If something is in this calendar it means it is plant related. Every time I put fertilizer sticks I write when I should do it again so it pops up in three months. Same for different treatments or re-potting. I keep my fingers crossed for you and your plants! It isn't for everyone so don't beat yourself if you don't have a jungle in you place. For me plants are great and calm me down. Also it is a nice hobby that fits well with how we tend to learn. I get new plant, I learn everything about this plant because I'm excited and I'm done. I don't need to repeat it again but knowledge is there.
I love this and do so many of these things. I am ADHD, mom of 4 two of whom are ND probably ADHD. One thing I 've found is with so many people, having all the things out can be very overwelming so while we have a lot of baskets of routine based items, they all need to have a spot where they can be put away and only important and urgent things can stay out. Also, my husband totally makes fun of me for calling it a laundry machine. I have never heard anyone else call it that. ❤ i also hate the getting in and out of the shower and avoid it because it seems like so much work. I keep two deodorants and in my closet with all my clothes that and hung up in my closet that only has shut doors when i am overwhelmed and one in my bathroom get ready basket.
I can definitely co-sign the landing pad, doom box, and keeping things out so they can be seen tips; they’ve transformed my life. 🙏 so excited to try some of the other suggestions!!
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Don't take this the wrong way, but this really affirms that I need more space lol I have been so bogged down by how chaotic my space is but this was a good reminder that my space doesn't work for me, even if I hack it to oblivion. I luckily am looking to move but in the spring/summer so I just need to tide myself over until I'm not living in 500 sq ft with my sister and our dog
Same - my washing machine is in the garage where I have to unlock the door to get to it. It feels like climbing everest to do a washing load 😂 I'm hoping to buy next year & purposely looking for a house with the right kind of living space that enables me to live a low stress/low mental load & I can just exist.
i though the same thing, but its best to declutter, and create a system,organize(every item has a place). without a system even if you get a bigger space same problem+ excuse more stuff to buy
It's reassuring to see that some of the things we do are so similar. I wish I had as much space as you! We are a family of 6 NDs and I'm still working on finding hacks that work for the kids spaces. Normalise team NEVER FOLD 😁
Thank you for your complete honesty!!! I absolutely despise showering, it seems like so much work but I feel fab after a shower so I put out my favourite scents the night before with towels to motivate me while brushing my teeth. I wash my hair in the kitchen sink, it’s long and I only have to wash it 2-3 times a week. It’s an hour long process to wash, dry and style. My choice to have long hair so I deal with it. I do dip in the shower every other day super fast! I’m clean, smell nice and don’t offend myself or others 😂😂. It took me ages to get this system down but it is finally part of my “programme” as I call it! I also have a mantra, Don’t put it down! Put it away! It’s changed my life. I had to find homes for everything first but they have homes and live there happily.
Lol your chaotic is my guest-ready tidy 😂 And also i totally feel you on what your brother summarized -- without a reason or visual trigger, I will not shower or use deodorant. Am I stinky? Maybe, I don't really know. I just smell like myself to me. 🤷♀️ Damn your content always makes me feel seen and like less of a freak for my failings. ❤
Thanks for sharing! One thing is, the cats would probably love it if you moved the cat tree in front of the window. Ours love looking outside all day, and the higher they are, the happier they are. It's crazy how a lot of the compensation strategies we've figured out are similar to yours, and good to see it's not just how our brains work xD
I've never been diagnosed with ADHD but I am getting more and more convinced I have it. There was some really useful tips in this video, some of which I already do. But one thing you said really hit me and that was when you talked about having your routine up on your wall and you change it up regularly because otherwise it goes into the background and you don't see it. I do that with a lot of my organisation routines and I think if I change my routines every now and again and change the way I've recorded my to-do lists it might keep me more on track. I'm going to give it to go
If you keep the same routine list but want to change the look, if you type it up and decorate it different ways, print all the different versions at once, then randomly select from them to put up and rotate them out. That way you don’t have to remember to print new ones!
@@heathermakesartGood idea! Something as simple as festive borders for whatever holidays you celebrate, or appropriate for the seasons changing where you live.
Thank you for explaining all of these sensory experiences! I am just now accepting and understanding why these some of these things are so hard for me. I 100% agree with the laundry monster. I always have clean clothes in my room waiting for the huge special event of putting them all away. I always have bags full of stuff to donate. I need help with lighting. I'm starting to realize my crappy lighting makes me angry and/or lazy. I am excited to keep following along with you because I do have very similar experiences aesthetically and sensory. Thank you for your help!!!!
Space heater. Put one in your bathroom. It's a game changer. We've got a tall narrow one that doesn't even take up a lot of counter space. And you've got an electrical outlet located conveniently for it.
Having more accessible garbage cans is so important for me. I just bought table/desk top ones so I actually throw things in a garbage instead of letting them just pile up on the table. The launch pad thing I don't necessarily get because doesn't everyone leave everything they need to leave the house near the door already? I, too, hate showering, so I bought a really good waterproof speaker, which entices me a lot more to get in there.
Okay, I’m hooked after that bathroom intro looool! You are hilarious, in a very authentic and endearing way. 😊 Thanks for sharing your knowledge and your true self with others - both are such a gift! 🌸
I keep slippers next to my bed to make getting up easier. I hate the feel of the floors in my home and also tend to smash my toe on random things. I also wear them when I come home because I want to get off my feet but still have things to do. Little things like that are BIG lifesavers. I'm digging your systems! Definitely implementing a few!!
This was so interesting because I hate hate hate hanging clothes, and folding is so much easier and doesn't give me that yucky feeling. Part of making my closet useable was installing open cubbies (I also love being able to visually see my clothes) and I can almost always put my clothes away the same day I washed them!
for the getting out of the shower transition my best trick is to have a small space heater running and pointing directly at where i’m going to be when i get out of the shower so it’s kinda nice and warm :’)
Clean laundry baskets! I don't put away clothes. I'm currently mentally gearing to get rid of one of the two dressers in my room that neither my husband or I use. The clothes that are in there are never worn because they don't exist. 🤣 Except socks and underwear. Those don't get folded though and putting them in a drawer is fine cuz... well... you can't really forget you need those and digging for them is far more annoying than sorting them all out of the pile at once when the laundry is done. No folding here either. Laundry is sorted into neat... stacks? lines? Turned right side out, laid all the same way and in a stack so you can see and extract what you need. Then those are laid in a laundry basket. (PS That process sounds far neater than it actually is but it works for me.) I also used to have mountains of clothing. I no longer do. I have enough clothes for a week with a few extras for occasions. Socks, underwear, all of it. The less I have, the less laundry there is and the more that forces me to do it. I did the same thing with dishes. I used to hang on to anything that was still good when I had to change things out. No more! Out it goes. I had so many cups, plates, and cutlery that I was washing dishes for 15 people that don't live here. I have 8 of most things so that I can have friends over but that's it. Two days is all we can go in this family before something has to be washed. Paper plates and plastic cups and forks are forbidden on the premises because we will use them instead of dishes. Those are bought for occasions only and we don't keep spares. They go with someone else. My kitchen isn't big enough to have the dishwasher open all the time so I have a sign that hangs over it that says 'Clean' or 'Dirty', sometimes I even remember to use it. 😁I have no other kitchen hacks yet. It's so small I have no choice but to use the cabinets. Every bathroom has its own stuff. Cleaner, toilet paper, towels, plunger, toilet brush. I do not ferry things between them. Most stuff comes in multiples anyway. I have got to figure out my office. It's my first one ever and there are so many things that I need to figure out. Wish me luck!
I'd really love a video like this focused on small spaces. It's really hard to avoid feeling like the hack here is "be able to afford being one person living in a place big enough for more than 4 people"
Putting clothes onto hangers while they are still warm cuts way down on wrinkles and ironing. I set my alarm to check the dryer when it's done. Before I knew I had adhd I didn't bother trying to fix all of my issues, but now that I know it isn't just a personality problem, I like the challenge of finding hacks.
I created sort of a game for laundry folding. How fast can I match socks, can I fold items in the order of the shelf they belong, how well can I stack the items as to not fall over…it’s not a super fun game but it helps me stay on task.
We need a spin off video on how to own plants as someone with ADHD. It's like food. Needs it's own segment. I am a plant lover, but also a plant killer (accidently). ALMOST ready to phone it in and invest in good faux plants.
I was just recently (officially) diagnosed with ADHD. I didn’t realize that a lot of things you showed are things that I’ve been implementing in my space as well. Crazy how big of a difference they can make
Omg the zooming in on the cords under the desk and the sound effects 🤣🤣🤣 I appreciate the fact that these recommendations are so practical and they don’t put up the fake appearance of perfection like all those other annoying influencers ❤
Loved the content and tips! As a mom with young kids listening in, I had to skip the rest of the video because of the language You don't have to change for me, but I thought I'd throw the observation out there for your consideration. Thank you for the information! What I was able to watch was helpful.
I noticed you also don't seem to have very many things or decorations which is my number ONE tip for how I have survived neurodivergence. Having barely enough forks, plates, everything else means I use it all and it can't get lost and it's easy to take care of/clean/replenish etc. I keep everything in categories as well. Meds are sperated by (use often, use less often, back stock) and are next to suppliments (gray difference, I know) also separated by the same 3 sections. (My kids have their own section too but they have less items so I combine Supplements + meds) I keep these all in slide out boxes I made from cardboard to fit my cupboards perfectly. Also in the same cupboard I have drink ingredients. This is because the line between yummy drink and medicinal concoction is too blurred for me and they must live together. Instant coffee, hot cocoa, tea then next to that a tray for the more supplimenty part of drinks which is smoothie powders, seeds, protein powder. Also, most large items are decanted into washed out clear plastic ice cream containers. It looks nice and for some reason the visual complexity dialed down helps me decipher the contents faster. Also, for things in a slide out tray I sharpie a personal cheatcode on tip of the lids of everything for when my dyslexia wont let me read properly in a crisis. This looks like "I" for ibuprofen, "T" for Tylenol, "C" for cold/congestion medicine etc. (Important note: this isn't in place of reading the lable, it just reduces fumbling and then I read the label thoroughly many times afterward for assurance. I also have a list of inventory on the inside of every cupboard and drawer so I can find things. Another blank page for writing down things I'm out of. Another page for writing things down like recording when a med was taken ie "Gave toddler ibuprofen for fever at 12pm" so I know when she can have it again or what to tell a Dr. Or anyone else in the house can check this spot to help with kids as well. A similar category is first aid which is nearby in a large basket on top of the fridge next to cat products/meds. Very important to me that these categories don't multiply across the house so it's all in the kitchen and contained in sliding bins and such. Meds that are in use for a specific sickness or issue are kept in a low serving try on the counter just below the med cupboard. The only places these categories spread out a bit is where I have a hand full of every med/sup I am most likely to need kept in a booklet in my going out bag and also a much smaller amount of each med/sup in my fanny pack which stays attached to me during most of the day for security. Some other things like creams/treatments are in the bathroom in one place right below the shower products then nails then hair then teeth then skin products. That's starting lowest is dirtiest and highest is cleanest items. Dangerous chemicals are up high but that's only a couple things. Ps so sorry for blabbing. I really should just make a simple diagram lol cause I would've killed for someone to show me a depiction of the ease I've created and I'd love to share it and help someone.
The cutting down to minimal stuff and baskets for things like you do was huge for me too! Especially with a house full of kids. I sharpie the tips of my spices with shorthand too. Which are in a caddy of some sort arranged by size and frequency or use ( Mexican, Italian, baking. It's so fun to see that other people's brains work that way too.
my trick was recognizing that I was, at least where i am now with school and other life stuff I do not have the time or energy to put away my laundry, so I have two clear bins in my room. One is clean one is dirty, they are just on the floor out in the open at the end of my bed, so even if I'm exhausted and i just shove my clothes off my bed it ends up in its home. and while they aren't the most aesthetic I no longer stress about needing to fold or hang my laundry and I can for the most part find everything, and having nice looking laundry is at the bottom of my prioroties right now.
Re: your donation bags I tend to toss things that need to be dropped off, etc in my car. Then, when I'm out and about running other errands, it reminds me to drop those items off too. But I guess that only works when you're in your car a lot, like me. Another way would be to keep those near your "launch pad", but I can see that getting cluttered really quickly.
I am a tornado riding the back of a hurricane and a crazy artist on top of that. Then when it comes to cleaning I get OCD about it. Me cleaning is like a tweaker cleaning and it never gets finished. I live in a house that I inherited including inheriting all of my mother grandmother grandfather and aunt's things on top of my things and it seems like all I ever do is clean and I throw out garbage bags full of stuff yet it never seems like I make a dent. At least I'm trying now nobody ever taught me how to clean or organize or anything like that My mom was always too busy. My husband had to teach me the right way to use the different settings on the washer and dryer and we finally have a dishwasher for the first time I had to ask him how to use it.
Wow, I love these practical hacks!!! I realized so many similar accommodations that I use too and didn’t know why I did. I’m a newbie to the busy bee adhd fam here and so far really appreciating these videos❤
I think I'll just put a laundry bin in the bedroom as a 'donation bin' because stuff is piling up in there. Wish I had a few extra rooms. I have to stuff everything in a 1 bed 1 bath with a combined kitchen/living space and that's it Oh! A hack I'd like to add; only buy clothes that don't need to be ironed
Omg the laundry thing; yes you have exactly the same experience as me as far as I can tell 🤣 sometimes I get a friend round to sit in my room and chat to me while I put laundry away 🤣
Just signed up for the December workshops and the burnout program. Sad to see though that I missed the unmasking program 😢 That's something I've really been struggling with. I'm really glad I found your channel and your courses, can't wait to do them
Just putting it out there; unless you like the visual of folded clothes, you dont have to fold them. My brother, who has autism and also hates folding clothes, just, doesn't. My mom doesn't make him. As long as they're in the right place and not overflowing from the drawer, she doesn't care. Hope you have a nice day!
Here's a little tip, how to remember and let your family members know if the dishes in a dishwasher are dirty or clean. Fill out the dishwasher detergent dispenser when you start loading your dishwasher. So if it's closed and filled, that means the dishes are dirty. If the dispenser is open and empty, that means the dishes are clean.
I keep my garbage bags at the bottom of the bin, under the current bag. When I take out the full bag, I find the new bags on the bottom. Like this it’s less clutter around.
So something that I did that I just wanna mention is that I use one of those inserts in my closet for at least 5 to 6 days a week so that when I do laundry, I create my outfits ahead and I have about 5 to 10 outfits that have been interchangeable if I want. It’s because the Apple guy that I do this I like to have my outfits planned ahead of time so something to think about I am working on something for bedtime because I feel like I need one for that as well and I’d like to have that one in the bathroom so I’d like to have drawers. I could just pick out what I wanna wear and it’s kind of weird but it’s more convenient. I love folding laundry, but I’d like to fold it a certain way it’s not the way everyone else does so that’s not always been helpful but and I don’t care if my clothes are wrinkled, but I do have bins that I can see through specifically in my room and in the kitchen so that things don’t go to waste or I don’t forget about stuff. I also have a mini fridge in my bedroom because I love Dr Pepper and to be honest I will forget to eat or drink if I don’t have it right in me.
"Out of sight, out of mind" is so true! I am also a very visual person but I get easily overwhelmed seeing everything out in the open! How do I deal with that?! ~Chris
You know what... i have lived with a too small closet for too long. I have a tiny closet to hang things, and two dressers. I fucking hate folding. Im putting that on my list, to save up for the sort of racks and ikea closet thing where i can just hang *all* of my clothes. The dressers can be for storing my creative stuff or stuff for my hobbies. Racks for clothes. And to trade a tip. One of my weirdly proudest moments was the sock battle i won. I bought socks all in the same color and style. I bought lingerie bags (mostly for bras, but now for socks too). And i put a basket under the chair that is my "launch chair". (Which is where i keep my work sneakers, my purse, umbrella, sometimes a sweat shirt, and reusable grocery bags or anything that needs to go out to the car regularly). So when i come home my socks can come off immediately with my shoes. And they have their own dirty laundry basket that when its full, can be poured straight into a lingerie bag. No picking out socks from the basket. No losing socks or running out. Its entirely its own laundry system. It only gets included into the clothing laundering system as part of the load. It may not be needed for most people, but it is absolutely necessary for me. I never needed validation for the way i set up my area or *why* it was set up a certain way. Im always confident in my reasoning and why i want or need it a certain way. But seeing someone else showcase their space and so specifically echo my own reasonings for things or use similar hacks is such a relief. Its very cathartic to know someone else is using those hacks effectively. Its a relief to see a setup i can actually comprehend in the day to day. I know a lot of lifestyle gurus are showing an "ideal", but its so often on another plane of existence to me that its like a fairy showing me how their magic house works, how they often fly from tree branch room to tree branch room and exercise by dancing on flower petals. This is a *beautiful* system and home and it feels accesible. And that means *so much* to me.
I really like this creator, but all of the ADHD house videos I've seen on UA-cam are Americans with giant American houses with huge kitchens and multiple single-use rooms and usually yards. I wish there was one for a small apartment If anyone has seen one let me know!
I'm actually Canadian! And will be moving closer to the city near me soon which means apartment living! I will certainly do an updated on in the future!
@@hayley.honeyman Thanks for your reply! I guess I shouldn't assume 😅 I look forward to your future videos! I've tried to implement a lot of these tips in my small apartment but it can be hard when your rooms are all multi-use and when your kitchen is so small there's not really room for a recycling nook or anything (and no dishwasher so handwash everything 😭)
I feel you. A family of four living in 52m2 apartment with no storage space and 4 seasons! I would love to have „stations” to do different routines - it seems very helpful :)
I find it hilarious that your cable management was 'exposed' with all the edits as 'oh god why' but my cable management would probably send anyone crying and running 😂😂
LOVE this video. I love seeing everyones different adhd hacks and home organization bc things work for different people so its great to see a wide variety of ides
Like for me, i hate hanging but folding idm so much, i just dont like having to start a new task of folding the laundry and putting it away. But i also have the same issue with actually dropping things off to donate lol
I love your cat so much! What a sweetie-pie! Also, thank you for the video, it was really helpful. I like the Eisenhower board because I get super overwhelmed and then do nothing.
Object permanence is hard around the house.. If I can't see it, it "doesn't exist". I'm constantly finding shit I had no idea I had.. or finding things I had/needed/started to do that I had no idea was left unfinished. It's a struggle.
The "make your shower feel bougie and fix harsh lighting" thing is so real. Shower speaker, aurora borealis-style tiktok lights projector, and changing my shower head to one with a hard water filter/better spray/less harsh sound, GAME CHANGING
I am now finally accepting the fact that I have ADHD and are working towards official diagnosis. My last doctor told me I was 25 and "it didn't really matter", essentially telling me to drop it but I know. I just signed up for all three classes and I am excited to hopefully find a way to make my life and space work well with my brain! Thank you.
Your doctor meant, "it really didnt matter to him"!. Not an intelligent doctor.
Time to find yourself a new Dr! Look for a younger, more recently graduated one.
So proud of you for looking out for yourself!! Definitely time for new support systems!
horrible docter
I understand the battle, I just got my diagnosis at 25, a week before my birthday, and my first therapist told me "well, you haven't been fired, flunked out of school or exhibited any serious problems that we could use to diagnose you yet, so we'll just wait." This channel was a big help in deciding I was right and to keep looking towards getting help.
Woman. You got this down to an art. My place looks NOT as tidy as yours. If this is you "not cleaned" state, most of us are jealous. This would be my "most absolute perfect" state.
I don't like to clean, So I don't do mess. I sth.see houses full of clothes everywhere, pile of dishes etc and the owners are cleaning once a week. That's horrible for me because it means they are living with this mess 6 Day a week
@@ErgalitiousI wish I could not make mess, I leave it everywhere I go 😅 my bf doesn't like it and i dont know how not to.
Exactly what I was thinking, her messy is my like ideal perfect 🤣
The inverse diagnosis-when you realize you’ve naturally done almost all these EXACT hacks yourself for your own ADHD 😂
I watch a lot of decluttering and organizing channels but stumbling across How to ADHD's house tour video was what made me realize I have ADHD.
I have done a lot of these too...
Yeah I've noticed after watching about a hundred vids on ADHD and autism that I already set up so many ways to manage tasks...I'm finally going to a psychiatrist in a month.
Actually when I found out I had ADHD, I also found out a lot of the ways I coped with it to make my life easier.
I'm very visual so I usually leave things in my line of sight or near related things.
I always just turn around to see what I missed when I'm leaving a room, etc.
Thanks for sharing!!
Two laundry hacks I've found that are helpful
1. Put a rack and hangers in the laundry room so (lets be honest, after "de-wrinkling" the clothes in the dryer on the touch-up mode for the 10th time because I forgot that they were in there) I can just pull out the clothes and hang them up RIGHT THERE.
2. Set a timer for 5 minutes - Start folding and putting away the clothes in the basket (that full basket that permanently lives at the foot of my bed) but ONLY for that 5-minute timer - magical!! My brain always thinks the basket is a 45-minute task, when in reality it's usually done in 4 :)
I also have a hanging rack above my dryer (it magnetizes on there!) and it was a game changer! As I accumulate empty hangers in my closet I move them to that rack so they are ready for when I do laundry
Yes! Hanging rack next to the dryer is Amazing
There's a "tube of toothpaste" psychology where when a person gives themselves a specific amount of time they will get things done much more easily, but if they give themselves any amount, or too long a time, then they relax and take forever.
See also government program budgets. lol
Yep, I always think a job is going to take forever. I am 74 and still amazed when I accomplish a job in a fraction of the time I thought it would.
That timer thing- I doing!
The shower thing! I added a small space heater to all bathrooms with showers, it keeps me from shaking like a leaf when I get out soaking wet. Put it on right before you get in shower and the space will be warm when you get out so you can then turn it off
I used to know someone who had a heat lamp bulb in one of the recessed light fixtures of their bathroom ceiling, right above the shower mat. It was so gloriously cozy to step out of the shower, and since the towel hung nearby, it even absorbed some of the heat from the lamp while I was in the shower, which made it extra nice to wrap around myself. (You can also get heated towel bars!)
Same! A space heater in my bathroom is an absolute essential.
My boyfriend bought me a towel warmer for Christmas last year and it is a GAME CHANGER -we both agree it’s the best purchase we’ve made in years. The towels are nice & toasty and dry you off so much better too!
I just don't get out, I get myself 80% dry in there and then open the door / curtain
My towel is hung on the end that's farthest from the water source and its going to get wet regardless so...
I came here to say this! A space heater in the bathroom is a must for me, especially in the winter.
I store socks in the launch pad! Point of performance with putting on shoes and saves so many trips back to the bedroom! I am putting this here in case anyone (like me for 24 freaking years) always thought clothes must stay a bedroom thing. Genuinely has saved me so much frustration since moving them
Same!! It really makes things so much easier. I also have socks and underwear in the bathroom, because I always forget those things when I’m putting outfits together at night. And on days where showering is hard but I need to clean up and change clothes at least, just for my mental health, having them there removes a hurdle.
Yes! I believe my husband and I both have ADHD and we are constantly looking everywhere for socks 😢 we have a lot of work to do to build systems that work for us.
A few months ago (now that we no longer have a dog who eats shoes!) I put a three tier wheelie rack by the front door. This is where I am training the 2 youngest kiddos and myself to take off socks and shoes so we can find them again! This has cut out so much frustration for everyone on school mornings. And I don't even take their clean socks to their room anymore, just drop them in the appropriate basket of the rack after doing laundry.
My underwear are in the bathroom. My socks in the dining room. How weird I am.
Same
A little tip for the trash bags, they usually come in rolls and you can take them out of the box they come in and put them straight in the bottom of the trash can, then put the bag in like usual. Any time you take a bag out, the new ones are already inside the can and you just unwind one of them off the roll and put it on. Keeps them super close but gets rid of the visual clutter of a box sitting out!
This is the way!!
As long as the bag doesn’t rip or something leaks out and soaks the bags at the bottom on the can.
I do this, changed my bag game
^^^ I'm going to try that right now!! BUT ..Make sure they are good trash bags and the in-use bag doesn't leak all over the new ones! Eeew!
@@Kate-zt1twI said the same thing. Lol!
One of the best things I ever did for my AuDHD was shaving my head. I would put off showering for way too long, both because of the sensory unpleasantness that you described of having to be undressed and cold and then wet and cold, but also because my hair was just such a big task. I had A LOT of it and it required a lot of maintenance. Eliminating that task entirely was a GAME CHANGER for my executive dysfunction. I know this isn’t a possibility or a want for everyone, but it made a huge difference for me. I don’t think I’ll ever go back to having long hair
I complately understand. I use to have realy long hair but now when I have it very short it makes my life easier
I relate to this, but my hair is so thin that its completely dry in like a 5 minute blow dry session. it always annoyed me because it got into jackets and scarves and bag straps and the car window when rolling it up again, so now I have it at a lenght where a ponytail is possible but its not past my shoulders so it doesnt get caught in everything all the time!
God, I wish! I have thick, naturally curly hair and have ALWAYS hated doing it! Washing, drying, styling, and then cleaning up the shed-fall is SO much work! I WISH I had the guts to shave it! I used to have waist-length hair, which was beautiful, but I NEVER did anything with it besides a ponytail, which didn't look good at all. So, I got it cut to shoulder length, which forces me to style it daily - it LOOKS so much better on me now that I style it daily, but I hate how much work it is! 😢 you look super-cute with short hair in your pfp btw! 😊
Tips for washing/drying long hair and avoiding sensory issues, in case they might help someone (mostly adapted from curly hair care, but using them this way for sensory reasons would work for any type of hair. You'll need 2 old tshirts and a showercap):
- Keep an old tshirt and a showercap hanging close enough to your shower you can grab them from in the shower. Wash your hair immediately, then put it in a tshirt hat, and put a showercap over that. Continue showering as normal. No wet hair feeling/cold dripping hair when you get out of the shower. (search 'tshirt plopping' to get an idea for how to do a tshirt hat, but it just has to get the hair off your neck and into the shower cap for this step since you'll redo it when you're out of the shower).
- When you get out of the shower, take off the shower cap and the (likely structurally unstable) tshirt hat at least keeps your hair off your skin and from dripping. Redo the tshirt hat properly at this point with a clean, dry tshirt (using a flat surface, etc., so it's also a little more secure). I leave mine in until I'm literally about to leave the house because that is the extent of the styling I do (curly hair is great!), and by the time I take it off it's damp but dried enough that theres not that cold/wet feeling anymore.
This hack helped me a lot (in addition to just using showercaps as mentioned to AVOID having to wash my hair!), so I hope this might also be helpful for someone else :) It also gave more purpose to old tshirts that were nostalgic but that I didn't wear as shirts anymore (and otherwise felt guilty/cluttered holding onto), or ones that got relegated to only occasional use as painting or hair-dying tshirts.
@@KitKat10281 I was in the same boat as you! If you are considering, I will say baby steps are a good way to get to it! If after having the shoulder length for a while you think to yourself “screw it, I want to chop it off,” DO IT!!!
I went from mid back, to shoulder, and then, after I spent so long doing my hair for an event and it got ruined 10 minutes in because the humidity. The next morning, I
got squeezed in for an appointment for a short cut and haven’t looked back! When I did decide to try a full buzz and decided I wasn’t a fan, having done the baby steps was nice since I could just tell myself it would only be 2-3 months before it was back at a length I wanted instead of 6+ haha!
HEY YOU! The one looking at this comment. It's okay that your house doesn't look as beautiful as this one. My 2 bedroom apartment looks like a tornado ran through it every day. I have absolutely no motivation to clean anymore. I started judging myself watching this but remembered that if I wouldn't think that about someone else's house I shouldn't be degrading myself for struggling with my ADHD/Depression symptoms. Your house is absolutely beautiful btw! 💖
Cleaning isn't exciting, that's for sure. But as someone who's older I can tell you… Better clean now than be sorry later. I enthusiastically put my stamp on making it enjoyable, whatever it is. And not putting yourself down if you don't get to it on your anticipated schedule if you try to create a schedule. it can save you a fortune and make it easier to clean your house if you change your HVAC filter regularly. I have to climb a ladder to do that so I try to keep my ladder close to where I have to do that. depending on how long you leave it, dust can become crust that is hard to remove. A lot harder to deal with. Oh and life without hairspray is better. How do you think I discover the dust =>crust? Family member using hairspray in the bathroom, between the hairspray and the moisture in the air and Lack of regular attention to dusting = nasty crusty surfaces that are hard to reach and deal with. I use hairspray maybe four times a year, and I use a baseboard duster on a stick every now and again and my bathroom is in a lot better condition than that one was.
Thank you! That's what I was thinking the whole time, especially the "reality train".
I have been buying cubicle shelves with plastic baskets because I have NO closet space or pretty much space anywhere 😅 but thank you for this comment
Click below to watch? The video below isn't one of yours. What video? RE: The routines sheet in your bathroom.
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"Is it weird I'm just sitting on the toilet?" She asks her brother who is recording her after she states this is where she absolutely rips and does the biggest smelliest shits. Subscribed.
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I put the donation bags in my car and then drive them everywhere for YEARS before dropping them off at the donation bin that I drive past 10+ times per week.
So relatable!
Me too
As someone with a lot of clothes, I like to limit the number of pairs of underwear I own, then when I start to run low, I know it's urgent that I need to do laundry! I have a few pairs that I like less that I keep as backups so that I don't actually run out.
I helped my partner set up a similar thing where they wear fun t-shirts and we both get a visual reminder when they start wearing boring grey ones.
I've done exactly the same thing 😂 it works! Have to do the laundry every 2 (ish) weeks now
The underwear thing is great! I have about 17 pairs of my favorites. Enough for two weeks and a little more just in case. As they're black and I wear a variety of colors with mostly black pants, shorts, etc, two weeks is about perfect to have a decent sized load of black. It's usually not quite full even with some blue and grey things sometimes added. It's also easier to face putting it all away as it's not a full load.
I tried doing that lol, it made it worse. I just became stressed all the time and only doing loads of a few pairs of underwear and avoiding everything else. My brain will do everything in its power to do everything but the laundry 😪.
That’s genius
When watching your basket of clean laundry, I just realized that not having a dryer helps me tremendously ! Here in Spain, we usually hang our clothes to dry, and that makes me pick up each item infividually from the clothline or the wire thingy.. I then fold it on the spot and take a column of folded clothes to my closet (or sny surface in the surrounding area) That column may live there for weeks, but it's way less daunting to tackle than a basket of stuff that I would have to fold or hang.
That totally makes sense!!
I'm in the same boat but nearly 40!the struggle is real😅
No dryer here too, makes it easier for me
Having a process, almost like the production process in a factory with optimisations makes even laundry possible :D I kid you not, this is what I do for a living these days, I opitimize processes and make procedures! Cause I am an expert by now, I’ve done it for myself my entire life and they turn out pretty idiot proof. Very valuable business skill if you seek a new job ;)
For laundry my best hacks have been :
- hanging my clothes on handers and then putting them on the clothline ( i hope that’s a word, let’s make it a word) This way they go straight in the wardrobe after, nice and unwrinkled. This saves me from ever ironing. (Bought a special steam iron, used it twice… not an iron person) It is the most major hack!
- sorting clothes while I hang them to dry. I.e. Socks and undies have a place at the back corner of the clothlines, so people don’t see them from the street. Having to sort them at that stage actually made hanging laundry more fun and less daunting and eases the further steps greatly!
- Picking them up is easier, I also fold tshirts and jeans straight there and put them in the laundry basket, already sorted and folded, beginning with big types of items at the pottom and building up to tshirts ets., so it becomes child’s play to put them in their respective space in the wardrobe. Hangers go on top of the laundry basket and keep everyting together until I reach the wardrobe :)
- I use a netted sleeve for my undies and delicate clothing. This way I protect them from further damage. Also they are great for socks, I never lose socks anymore. I use the same sleeves when I travel to keep such small pieces of clothing easy to find. They go out of the net only when they are in their respective boxes in the wardrobe or hang in their corner :)
- I invite my cat to play on the terrace while I hang clothes to keep me company or listen to podcasts while I pick up and fold it. This makes it more fun.
- In good periods I keep to a schedule of doing laundry twice a week. Not letting it pile up and having a routine time makes it far less daunting. In bad periods, when I am sick for example, or while travelling upon return, when I have at least two baskets to wash… it becomes a burden, I avoid this at all cost. If I have a situation, I will spare time for reading and will do the laundry in the meantime. This makes it feel less like a day lost in waiting for a washing machine :D
- I try to use two separate baskets when I wast blankets or linen, so it is easier to separate from the rest. Even better is washing large items as soon as you remove them from the bed for example. This way you also avoid the angst ;)
I hope this alleviates you as much as it did me!
Goodness why are you so smart??? This is a genius idea!
AuDHD here and I am so with you on showers! I HATE them and I need to try the candles and putting the towels and robe closer to the shower trick, plus the shower cap! Brilliant! I wish I didn’t hate them so much, but one thing I try to do is make sure that I LOVE the scent of my skin and hair products so I get a good sensory boost from that to partner with the annoying sensory elements of the rest of it. It’s a journey figuring out our brains (mine too constantly thwarts my efforts to not be stinky) but having a loving mindset and sense of humor makes it that much better. Thank you for being authentic and for all that you do!
Yes! Instead of candles, I use a little waterproof LED speaker that glows different colors, I can put it right in the shower and have a little party. It was $17, and BONUS it’s shaped like a little pumpkin!
my son has dyspraxia and hates showers. i got him blue loofas and the long one for his back, changed my shower head. added eucaliptis and towel hook. still need to learn to be independent.
I cannot shower in the morning, i find it overwhelming and feels horrible. instead i put my torch on my phone in the sink (as calm lighting) and shower before bed each night. much more enjoyable and not overwhelming. I also use the small shower head that i can move lower so it doesn't go on my head. It's such a game changer when you listen to your body and how you feel and do things to help accommodate it rather than what is considered the 'norm'. Loving all these comments and so nice to relate to people.
I love ADHD house tours because everything is just so practical??? I see a lot of tools that I use too, and sometimes it makes me wonder if I need to get assessed (not just from the home lifestyles, but lots of other similarities).
For me, no cabinet doors in the kitchen works well. Also, we use the following trick for dishwasher: the moment we empty it, we add detergent for the next wash. So, detergent door open->clean, detergent door closed -> dirty.
We use our dishwasher as dripping rack for hand washing sometimes but we have a similar type with the same concept. Put soap in it before the first dirty dish, so you know this is a load or dirty dishes!
I LOVE socks with funky designs. But what I hated more was having to find a sock’s mate on laundry day. I tried embracing a “mismatched” sock look too- but found it tedious how often people would point it out and I would have to explain that yes, it was on purpose!
So, my laundry hack: NO funky socks 😢 Only Black or White, from the same brand & only 2 variants (ankle or crew sock). Now, I just toss them loose in my sock drawer- no matching required. Do I miss cool, funky socks? Absolutely. But I get to keep my sanity. 😂
Love how each of us lands on different solutions to similar problems. I'm pretty sure my Mom also has ADHD - she likes all one style of sock, so there's little matching required. But bc of buying socks at different times and from different brands, there's minute differences in the placement of the seam, the width of the cuff, etc. So the matching requires looking at little details. My solution is to find mostly black socks with some pattern, preferably near the top of the sock, so I can easily spot the pairs in the pile of laundry. I think I would have liked your funky socks!
Same! Although I pair them when I take the washing off the line. Not relying on dryers if you can makes it all SO MUCH EASIER
It's one more thing to remember to do, but amazon sells sockmate clips - you clip the matching socks together and throw them in the wash so they don't get lost. Or you can toss all your socks in a mesh bag like you'd use for delicates.
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Get yourself a laundry net, those are usually for bras so it fits a bunch of socks. Put all the dirty socks inside. They will not get lost, when you take em out, they are all neatly in there and finding matching ones super easy :)
From a fellow funky socks lover❤
Newly diagnosed ADHD adult, I have been struggling to understand what works and what doesn't for me in everyday life and struggling to become more self aware to create functional habits that work. Your house tour helped me start to identify these things as you went from room to room. The biggest eye opener was realizing if some things aren't out in the open or easily accessible I will not use them or forget about them... Everyone always says how I have so many clothes yet I only wear the clothing that I've left out in piles in my room, or laundry I haven't put away yet rather then opening my dark ass closet to dig through the clothes that are hung up or "hidden" in the dark abyss of the back corners. I am so glad UA-cam recommendations brought me to you and this video! :)
This video is fantastic! I just wanted to note that our vet said that storing kibble directly in plastic bins is a no-no; the airtight bins are great, but you should place the food bags inside them. It’s apparently really easy for tiny scratches to appear in the plastic and kibble dust gets trapped there and makes the food go rancid/encourages bacteria to grow, which can harm your pets or at least ruin an entire batch of food or turn your pets off of a specific food because they can tell it’s rancid even if we can’t.
Thanks for sharing that! I’m getting a dog soon and will keep that in mind 🥰
I am 26 and working towards an official diagnosis. I didn’t realize how many of these techniques I’m already implementing without having watched a lot of ADHD content. Like things being out on the counter all the time because otherwise, I will forget about it. Or having a launchpad (stealing this term) otherwise, I don’t know where my keys, wallet, or jacket is and I’ll be 15 minutes late everywhere.
I thought for the longest time I was just a very forgetful or spacey person, but it turns out my brains wired a bit more chaotically. Thanks for sharing!
My psychologist said that a normal person, when they have a thought, it goes from point A to point B. An ADHDer goes from A to C to B ro D etc.
OMG I've never heard anyone else discuss the shower!!! God I hate it!!! I'm 64!!! The struggle and the feeling of despising the cold, the wet and cold. Often swimming, particularly fitness swimming at the gym. Ugh! Inching into the water, then inching out freezing. Also, love the fact that having STUFF out is a must!!! Geez! I'm so happy I'm not the only one! 😊
6:55 It's great putting your camera operator onscreen! I was thinking of how great it is that you had someone running your camera and then he sneezed and I got to see him. Thank your brother for me.
My biggest takeaway was refreshing visual cues for different routines so it doesn’t blend into the background. Thank you! So helpful ❤
This was so validating! I would love to see a studio apartment version of this, bc all of my life activities are condensed into one room and it makes me feel CRAZY
Great tips! I learned a few things, but I have one to share too. I just recently put up a couple of simple shelves in my bathroom and got a few cheap, plastic baskets (no lids!) that fit on them. I, too, need my stuff to be out and easily accessible, but then I don't clean the surfaces as often as I should if I have a bunch of stuff to move. This solves that problem. I organized the baskets by task: shower, face care, tooth care, hair, ... When it's time for a certain task, I pull down that basket, work right out of it, and put it back on the shelf when I'm done. So far, it's working great and my bathroom looks cleaner than ever, which resolves a lot of background anxiety.
First though: I am IMPRESSED by the size of that living room. And second though is impressed by tyhe amount of floor you can see, that's tidy in my books.
As a plant ADHD person I can give some advice as not everyone is the same. 1) Get plants that are known to be "tolerant". That won't die when do one mistake. That can endure being to wet or to dry. 2) Get information what soil and fertilizer particular plant needs. You only need to re-pot your plant once a year but it is worth to give them what they like in soil. This way they will feel better in general so you have less problems. 3) There are long lasting fertilizers in form of sticks that you put inside once every 3 months. I recommend that. 4) You should go for plants that have similar needs so you can do the same for all of them at the same time. 5) If you already know some of your habits take plants that will work with that. For example I have tendency to water them too much so I don't get cacti. And so far I killed to coffee plants so I don't get them anymore. 6) Same for your home environment. If you know the air is dry don't take on tropical plants. Because you will probably forget to turn on humidifier and you will hate cleaning it so you will stop using it. 7) I like having wall calendar with nice pictures. If you have one as well you can use it to track your activities related to your plants. I use it only for this purpose so I don't mix it with doctor's appointment for example. If something is in this calendar it means it is plant related. Every time I put fertilizer sticks I write when I should do it again so it pops up in three months. Same for different treatments or re-potting.
I keep my fingers crossed for you and your plants! It isn't for everyone so don't beat yourself if you don't have a jungle in you place. For me plants are great and calm me down. Also it is a nice hobby that fits well with how we tend to learn. I get new plant, I learn everything about this plant because I'm excited and I'm done. I don't need to repeat it again but knowledge is there.
Decided to clean my depression room again today lol, ty for this for the future!!
YES! I do this for both of my kids, daughter has ADHD and it helps them get out the door easier.
The casual nature of your videos has helped me begin to accept myself as I am. Thank you!!
I love this and do so many of these things. I am ADHD, mom of 4 two of whom are ND probably ADHD. One thing I 've found is with so many people, having all the things out can be very overwelming so while we have a lot of baskets of routine based items, they all need to have a spot where they can be put away and only important and urgent things can stay out. Also, my husband totally makes fun of me for calling it a laundry machine. I have never heard anyone else call it that. ❤ i also hate the getting in and out of the shower and avoid it because it seems like so much work. I keep two deodorants and in my closet with all my clothes that and hung up in my closet that only has shut doors when i am overwhelmed and one in my bathroom get ready basket.
For sensory issues with regard to showering: highly recommend a towel warmer. It is *chef’s kiss*
Agreed, that and or a space heater
I can definitely co-sign the landing pad, doom box, and keeping things out so they can be seen tips; they’ve transformed my life. 🙏 so excited to try some of the other suggestions!!
The perpetual donation bag! I also do that :-) all amazing tips seriously!
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporesss
Don't take this the wrong way, but this really affirms that I need more space lol I have been so bogged down by how chaotic my space is but this was a good reminder that my space doesn't work for me, even if I hack it to oblivion. I luckily am looking to move but in the spring/summer so I just need to tide myself over until I'm not living in 500 sq ft with my sister and our dog
Same. I am living in a small appartment room and more space would definitely help me to have less clutter 🙈
Right there with y'all! I feel so hopeless some days bc no matter how much rearranging or decluttering I do it's like I'm back to square one
Same - my washing machine is in the garage where I have to unlock the door to get to it. It feels like climbing everest to do a washing load 😂
I'm hoping to buy next year & purposely looking for a house with the right kind of living space that enables me to live a low stress/low mental load & I can just exist.
i though the same thing, but its best to declutter, and create a system,organize(every item has a place). without a system even if you get a bigger space same problem+ excuse more stuff to buy
More space doesn't mean less clutter. It's about habits. People who are cluttered tend to want to "fill up" then "over-fill" any space they have.
It's reassuring to see that some of the things we do are so similar. I wish I had as much space as you! We are a family of 6 NDs and I'm still working on finding hacks that work for the kids spaces. Normalise team NEVER FOLD 😁
Thank you for your complete honesty!!! I absolutely despise showering, it seems like so much work but I feel fab after a shower so I put out my favourite scents the night before with towels to motivate me while brushing my teeth. I wash my hair in the kitchen sink, it’s long and I only have to wash it 2-3 times a week. It’s an hour long process to wash, dry and style. My choice to have long hair so I deal with it. I do dip in the shower every other day super fast! I’m clean, smell nice and don’t offend myself or others 😂😂. It took me ages to get this system down but it is finally part of my “programme” as I call it! I also have a mantra, Don’t put it down! Put it away! It’s changed my life. I had to find homes for everything first but they have homes and live there happily.
Lol your chaotic is my guest-ready tidy 😂
And also i totally feel you on what your brother summarized -- without a reason or visual trigger, I will not shower or use deodorant. Am I stinky? Maybe, I don't really know. I just smell like myself to me. 🤷♀️
Damn your content always makes me feel seen and like less of a freak for my failings. ❤
3:16 Leaving the dishwasher open is life changing. One of the lessons I enjoyed reading in Atomic Habits so much. "Make it obvious"
Thanks for sharing!
One thing is, the cats would probably love it if you moved the cat tree in front of the window. Ours love looking outside all day, and the higher they are, the happier they are.
It's crazy how a lot of the compensation strategies we've figured out are similar to yours, and good to see it's not just how our brains work xD
This was very helpful. Thank you. Even people who don’t have ADHD can benefit from this.
I've never been diagnosed with ADHD but I am getting more and more convinced I have it.
There was some really useful tips in this video, some of which I already do.
But one thing you said really hit me and that was when you talked about having your routine up on your wall and you change it up regularly because otherwise it goes into the background and you don't see it. I do that with a lot of my organisation routines and I think if I change my routines every now and again and change the way I've recorded my to-do lists it might keep me more on track. I'm going to give it to go
If you keep the same routine list but want to change the look, if you type it up and decorate it different ways, print all the different versions at once, then randomly select from them to put up and rotate them out. That way you don’t have to remember to print new ones!
@@heathermakesartGood idea! Something as simple as festive borders for whatever holidays you celebrate, or appropriate for the seasons changing where you live.
Thank you for explaining all of these sensory experiences! I am just now accepting and understanding why these some of these things are so hard for me. I 100% agree with the laundry monster. I always have clean clothes in my room waiting for the huge special event of putting them all away. I always have bags full of stuff to donate. I need help with lighting. I'm starting to realize my crappy lighting makes me angry and/or lazy. I am excited to keep following along with you because I do have very similar experiences aesthetically and sensory. Thank you for your help!!!!
Space heater. Put one in your bathroom. It's a game changer. We've got a tall narrow one that doesn't even take up a lot of counter space. And you've got an electrical outlet located conveniently for it.
Having more accessible garbage cans is so important for me. I just bought table/desk top ones so I actually throw things in a garbage instead of letting them just pile up on the table.
The launch pad thing I don't necessarily get because doesn't everyone leave everything they need to leave the house near the door already?
I, too, hate showering, so I bought a really good waterproof speaker, which entices me a lot more to get in there.
our creative space looks exactly the same, down to the hidden mystery jumble bin!!! you just... get it!
"It's functioning fine so I don't need it to be perfect" why did that ring with me?
I love this everything about it is brilliant
Okay, I’m hooked after that bathroom intro looool! You are hilarious, in a very authentic and endearing way. 😊 Thanks for sharing your knowledge and your true self with others - both are such a gift! 🌸
I keep slippers next to my bed to make getting up easier. I hate the feel of the floors in my home and also tend to smash my toe on random things. I also wear them when I come home because I want to get off my feet but still have things to do. Little things like that are BIG lifesavers. I'm digging your systems! Definitely implementing a few!!
This was so interesting because I hate hate hate hanging clothes, and folding is so much easier and doesn't give me that yucky feeling. Part of making my closet useable was installing open cubbies (I also love being able to visually see my clothes) and I can almost always put my clothes away the same day I washed them!
I wish i had a kitchen that big omg
for the getting out of the shower transition my best trick is to have a small space heater running and pointing directly at where i’m going to be when i get out of the shower so it’s kinda nice and warm :’)
Clean laundry baskets! I don't put away clothes. I'm currently mentally gearing to get rid of one of the two dressers in my room that neither my husband or I use. The clothes that are in there are never worn because they don't exist. 🤣 Except socks and underwear. Those don't get folded though and putting them in a drawer is fine cuz... well... you can't really forget you need those and digging for them is far more annoying than sorting them all out of the pile at once when the laundry is done. No folding here either. Laundry is sorted into neat... stacks? lines? Turned right side out, laid all the same way and in a stack so you can see and extract what you need. Then those are laid in a laundry basket. (PS That process sounds far neater than it actually is but it works for me.)
I also used to have mountains of clothing. I no longer do. I have enough clothes for a week with a few extras for occasions. Socks, underwear, all of it. The less I have, the less laundry there is and the more that forces me to do it.
I did the same thing with dishes. I used to hang on to anything that was still good when I had to change things out. No more! Out it goes. I had so many cups, plates, and cutlery that I was washing dishes for 15 people that don't live here. I have 8 of most things so that I can have friends over but that's it. Two days is all we can go in this family before something has to be washed. Paper plates and plastic cups and forks are forbidden on the premises because we will use them instead of dishes. Those are bought for occasions only and we don't keep spares. They go with someone else. My kitchen isn't big enough to have the dishwasher open all the time so I have a sign that hangs over it that says 'Clean' or 'Dirty', sometimes I even remember to use it. 😁I have no other kitchen hacks yet. It's so small I have no choice but to use the cabinets.
Every bathroom has its own stuff. Cleaner, toilet paper, towels, plunger, toilet brush. I do not ferry things between them. Most stuff comes in multiples anyway.
I have got to figure out my office. It's my first one ever and there are so many things that I need to figure out. Wish me luck!
I could totally imagine replacing my dressers with bookshelves, just nice neat stacks of folded clothes, like you keep in your laundry baskets!
@@pjp9383 We must think alike! I'm actually considering replacing the dresser with a bookshelf for exactly this purpose. :D
I'd really love a video like this focused on small spaces. It's really hard to avoid feeling like the hack here is "be able to afford being one person living in a place big enough for more than 4 people"
Putting clothes onto hangers while they are still warm cuts way down on wrinkles and ironing. I set my alarm to check the dryer when it's done. Before I knew I had adhd I didn't bother trying to fix all of my issues, but now that I know it isn't just a personality problem, I like the challenge of finding hacks.
Thank you for posting this, just learning I’m adhd at 35 and have had such a hard time learning to be consistent and keeping it together.
I created sort of a game for laundry folding. How fast can I match socks, can I fold items in the order of the shelf they belong, how well can I stack the items as to not fall over…it’s not a super fun game but it helps me stay on task.
obsessed with your sooky little cat at the end, he looks so happy being held like a baby
We need a spin off video on how to own plants as someone with ADHD. It's like food. Needs it's own segment. I am a plant lover, but also a plant killer (accidently). ALMOST ready to phone it in and invest in good faux plants.
I was just recently (officially) diagnosed with ADHD. I didn’t realize that a lot of things you showed are things that I’ve been implementing in my space as well. Crazy how big of a difference they can make
Omg the zooming in on the cords under the desk and the sound effects 🤣🤣🤣 I appreciate the fact that these recommendations are so practical and they don’t put up the fake appearance of perfection like all those other annoying influencers ❤
All right fine. You convinced me I will get a sunset lamp but only because I want to wake up to the forest 😂 that sounds so rejuvenating!
If you can’t afford a standing desk there are desk toppers that make it pretty easy. I also use boxes or books for different spaces…
Loved the content and tips! As a mom with young kids listening in, I had to skip the rest of the video because of the language You don't have to change for me, but I thought I'd throw the observation out there for your consideration. Thank you for the information! What I was able to watch was helpful.
Definitely taking notes for updating some adhd techniques myself. Thank you for sharing always. As well being so authentic, and vulnerable. You rule.
I noticed you also don't seem to have very many things or decorations which is my number ONE tip for how I have survived neurodivergence. Having barely enough forks, plates, everything else means I use it all and it can't get lost and it's easy to take care of/clean/replenish etc. I keep everything in categories as well. Meds are sperated by (use often, use less often, back stock) and are next to suppliments (gray difference, I know) also separated by the same 3 sections. (My kids have their own section too but they have less items so I combine Supplements + meds) I keep these all in slide out boxes I made from cardboard to fit my cupboards perfectly. Also in the same cupboard I have drink ingredients. This is because the line between yummy drink and medicinal concoction is too blurred for me and they must live together. Instant coffee, hot cocoa, tea then next to that a tray for the more supplimenty part of drinks which is smoothie powders, seeds, protein powder. Also, most large items are decanted into washed out clear plastic ice cream containers. It looks nice and for some reason the visual complexity dialed down helps me decipher the contents faster. Also, for things in a slide out tray I sharpie a personal cheatcode on tip of the lids of everything for when my dyslexia wont let me read properly in a crisis. This looks like "I" for ibuprofen, "T" for Tylenol, "C" for cold/congestion medicine etc. (Important note: this isn't in place of reading the lable, it just reduces fumbling and then I read the label thoroughly many times afterward for assurance. I also have a list of inventory on the inside of every cupboard and drawer so I can find things. Another blank page for writing down things I'm out of. Another page for writing things down like recording when a med was taken ie "Gave toddler ibuprofen for fever at 12pm" so I know when she can have it again or what to tell a Dr. Or anyone else in the house can check this spot to help with kids as well. A similar category is first aid which is nearby in a large basket on top of the fridge next to cat products/meds. Very important to me that these categories don't multiply across the house so it's all in the kitchen and contained in sliding bins and such. Meds that are in use for a specific sickness or issue are kept in a low serving try on the counter just below the med cupboard. The only places these categories spread out a bit is where I have a hand full of every med/sup I am most likely to need kept in a booklet in my going out bag and also a much smaller amount of each med/sup in my fanny pack which stays attached to me during most of the day for security. Some other things like creams/treatments are in the bathroom in one place right below the shower products then nails then hair then teeth then skin products. That's starting lowest is dirtiest and highest is cleanest items. Dangerous chemicals are up high but that's only a couple things.
Ps so sorry for blabbing. I really should just make a simple diagram lol cause I would've killed for someone to show me a depiction of the ease I've created and I'd love to share it and help someone.
The cutting down to minimal stuff and baskets for things like you do was huge for me too! Especially with a house full of kids. I sharpie the tips of my spices with shorthand too. Which are in a caddy of some sort arranged by size and frequency or use ( Mexican, Italian, baking. It's so fun to see that other people's brains work that way too.
my trick was recognizing that I was, at least where i am now with school and other life stuff I do not have the time or energy to put away my laundry, so I have two clear bins in my room. One is clean one is dirty, they are just on the floor out in the open at the end of my bed, so even if I'm exhausted and i just shove my clothes off my bed it ends up in its home. and while they aren't the most aesthetic I no longer stress about needing to fold or hang my laundry and I can for the most part find everything, and having nice looking laundry is at the bottom of my prioroties right now.
Re: your donation bags
I tend to toss things that need to be dropped off, etc in my car. Then, when I'm out and about running other errands, it reminds me to drop those items off too. But I guess that only works when you're in your car a lot, like me.
Another way would be to keep those near your "launch pad", but I can see that getting cluttered really quickly.
Finding this channel has been one of the highlights of my day
I am a tornado riding the back of a hurricane and a crazy artist on top of that. Then when it comes to cleaning I get OCD about it. Me cleaning is like a tweaker cleaning and it never gets finished. I live in a house that I inherited including inheriting all of my mother grandmother grandfather and aunt's things on top of my things and it seems like all I ever do is clean and I throw out garbage bags full of stuff yet it never seems like I make a dent. At least I'm trying now nobody ever taught me how to clean or organize or anything like that My mom was always too busy. My husband had to teach me the right way to use the different settings on the washer and dryer and we finally have a dishwasher for the first time I had to ask him how to use it.
Wow, I love these practical hacks!!! I realized so many similar accommodations that I use too and didn’t know why I did. I’m a newbie to the busy bee adhd fam here and so far really appreciating these videos❤
I think I'll just put a laundry bin in the bedroom as a 'donation bin' because stuff is piling up in there. Wish I had a few extra rooms. I have to stuff everything in a 1 bed 1 bath with a combined kitchen/living space and that's it
Oh! A hack I'd like to add; only buy clothes that don't need to be ironed
Omg the laundry thing; yes you have exactly the same experience as me as far as I can tell 🤣 sometimes I get a friend round to sit in my room and chat to me while I put laundry away 🤣
Just signed up for the December workshops and the burnout program. Sad to see though that I missed the unmasking program 😢 That's something I've really been struggling with. I'm really glad I found your channel and your courses, can't wait to do them
Hayley, your home is so warm, cozy, and inviting! I love it!
Just putting it out there; unless you like the visual of folded clothes, you dont have to fold them. My brother, who has autism and also hates folding clothes, just, doesn't. My mom doesn't make him. As long as they're in the right place and not overflowing from the drawer, she doesn't care. Hope you have a nice day!
Here's a little tip, how to remember and let your family members know if the dishes in a dishwasher are dirty or clean. Fill out the dishwasher detergent dispenser when you start loading your dishwasher. So if it's closed and filled, that means the dishes are dirty. If the dispenser is open and empty, that means the dishes are clean.
My bf places a tea towel on the dishwasher door when he opens it ajar to let the steam out. If there's no tea towel, it means it's dirty :)
Sooo that is what you call messy? You can't even see the floor in my room😭😭 so that video was absolutely needed
I keep my garbage bags at the bottom of the bin, under the current bag. When I take out the full bag, I find the new bags on the bottom. Like this it’s less clutter around.
The amount of these hacks ive accidentally implemented already... like the ongoing donation bag (box) 😅
So something that I did that I just wanna mention is that I use one of those inserts in my closet for at least 5 to 6 days a week so that when I do laundry, I create my outfits ahead and I have about 5 to 10 outfits that have been interchangeable if I want. It’s because the Apple guy that I do this I like to have my outfits planned ahead of time so something to think about I am working on something for bedtime because I feel like I need one for that as well and I’d like to have that one in the bathroom so I’d like to have drawers. I could just pick out what I wanna wear and it’s kind of weird but it’s more convenient. I love folding laundry, but I’d like to fold it a certain way it’s not the way everyone else does so that’s not always been helpful but and I don’t care if my clothes are wrinkled, but I do have bins that I can see through specifically in my room and in the kitchen so that things don’t go to waste or I don’t forget about stuff. I also have a mini fridge in my bedroom because I love Dr Pepper and to be honest I will forget to eat or drink if I don’t have it right in me.
"Out of sight, out of mind" is so true! I am also a very visual person but I get easily overwhelmed seeing everything out in the open! How do I deal with that?! ~Chris
try to keep it in a neat pile.
I keep my garbage bag rolls in the bottom of the bin, so when I take one bag out, I can automatically put a new bag in.
The video just kept getting better 😂 you answered my rebuttals before I finished. Thanks for sharing.
true visual is key for us xxx
Love your fur babies!
You know what... i have lived with a too small closet for too long. I have a tiny closet to hang things, and two dressers. I fucking hate folding. Im putting that on my list, to save up for the sort of racks and ikea closet thing where i can just hang *all* of my clothes. The dressers can be for storing my creative stuff or stuff for my hobbies. Racks for clothes.
And to trade a tip. One of my weirdly proudest moments was the sock battle i won. I bought socks all in the same color and style. I bought lingerie bags (mostly for bras, but now for socks too). And i put a basket under the chair that is my "launch chair". (Which is where i keep my work sneakers, my purse, umbrella, sometimes a sweat shirt, and reusable grocery bags or anything that needs to go out to the car regularly). So when i come home my socks can come off immediately with my shoes. And they have their own dirty laundry basket that when its full, can be poured straight into a lingerie bag. No picking out socks from the basket. No losing socks or running out. Its entirely its own laundry system. It only gets included into the clothing laundering system as part of the load. It may not be needed for most people, but it is absolutely necessary for me.
I never needed validation for the way i set up my area or *why* it was set up a certain way. Im always confident in my reasoning and why i want or need it a certain way. But seeing someone else showcase their space and so specifically echo my own reasonings for things or use similar hacks is such a relief. Its very cathartic to know someone else is using those hacks effectively. Its a relief to see a setup i can actually comprehend in the day to day. I know a lot of lifestyle gurus are showing an "ideal", but its so often on another plane of existence to me that its like a fairy showing me how their magic house works, how they often fly from tree branch room to tree branch room and exercise by dancing on flower petals. This is a *beautiful* system and home and it feels accesible. And that means *so much* to me.
The music for each title screen cracked me up 😂🐝
This is so great! I nearly peed my pants when you showed your mess corner and your not-yet-donated clothes...I have that too 😂
I really like this creator, but all of the ADHD house videos I've seen on UA-cam are Americans with giant American houses with huge kitchens and multiple single-use rooms and usually yards. I wish there was one for a small apartment
If anyone has seen one let me know!
I'm actually Canadian! And will be moving closer to the city near me soon which means apartment living! I will certainly do an updated on in the future!
@@hayley.honeyman Thanks for your reply! I guess I shouldn't assume 😅 I look forward to your future videos! I've tried to implement a lot of these tips in my small apartment but it can be hard when your rooms are all multi-use and when your kitchen is so small there's not really room for a recycling nook or anything (and no dishwasher so handwash everything 😭)
I feel you. A family of four living in 52m2 apartment with no storage space and 4 seasons! I would love to have „stations” to do different routines - it seems very helpful :)
Put a space heater in your bathroom! The cold to hot to cold transitions are less unpleasant!
I do candlelit showers for the same reason!! I feel seen af
I never turn the upper lights on. I have a very low wattage lamp on the vanity.
Funny, tody I keep forgetting to start the dishwasher 😂😂 wish I could keep the dishwasher open too!
The ADHD urge to go back 10 sec every few min because I missed a part of the video because I got distracted by something in my environment… 😂🤦🏻♀️
I find it hilarious that your cable management was 'exposed' with all the edits as 'oh god why' but my cable management would probably send anyone crying and running 😂😂
LOVE this video. I love seeing everyones different adhd hacks and home organization bc things work for different people so its great to see a wide variety of ides
Like for me, i hate hanging but folding idm so much, i just dont like having to start a new task of folding the laundry and putting it away. But i also have the same issue with actually dropping things off to donate lol
I love your cat so much! What a sweetie-pie! Also, thank you for the video, it was really helpful. I like the Eisenhower board because I get super overwhelmed and then do nothing.
Object permanence is hard around the house.. If I can't see it, it "doesn't exist". I'm constantly finding shit I had no idea I had.. or finding things I had/needed/started to do that I had no idea was left unfinished. It's a struggle.