HOW TO BE HAPPY SINGLE | 8 Tips On Being Alone
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- Опубліковано 6 лют 2025
- Hope you enjoy this video talking about my advice on how to be happy single and being alone this valentines day :) #girltalk #single
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HEYY! Missed ya. Valentine's Day is tomorrow so I wanted to give a little bit of love to all my single humans out there. Being single was such a great time in my life and I want you to feel the same. Let me know what your plans are for Valentine's Day this year! Xo
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thank you!!
Allegra Shaw going to my yoga class like every Wednesday :)
thank you for this video :) Love your positivity it is necessary in life !!!
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All the single lady's putt your hands up 🙋♀️
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I always say this... putting yourself first and completing yourself is what I preach to everyone before even getting into a relationship. People these days are so scared to be alone because society is telling us that being alone is the worst thing for us because we will never feel complete. But for my whole life I was single and felt so good about myself. I allowed myself to take care of needs, go to the gym, invest in what I love, embracing that FREEDOM you mentioned. I am now married to the first guy I ever dated and I think that all the time I had alone before him, has moulded me into someone who is confident on their own, knows what she wants, and settles for no less. And it definitely allowed me to take all that I learned being single and helped my relationship be successful. Preach Allegra, I love this 💛
I actually feel that being "alone" is much more accepted by today's society, compared to our parents for example... But yeah I agree with you regarding the rest :)
I used to live for others, not myself, before...
MY BIGGEST MISTAKE IN MY LIFE.
Finally I understand. I took the hard way to learn. :)
So who is up for a drink? Im from Brno :D
Being alone for me means no sex.. for LONG periods of time.. 7 yrs now.. when a man goes with NO sex for 7 yrs.. you feel like crap.. no matter what.. no matter what you do... you feel unwanted and sexually dead.
why are u watching this video then is this a lie ?
@Se A No woman HAS to go without sex.. women CHOOSE to go without sex... any women.. fat, ugly, whatever.. can go to some club and sooner or later a guy will come on to her and try to pick her up... it's her choice to say NO.. I have no choice.. unless I want to hire a hooker.. but that to me isn't sex.. I want someone that wants ME.
You don't have to be sad being single because not all people who are in relationships are happy. Being single, you have a lot of time for yourself, it's really important that you treat yourself like a queen rather than expecting it from a man to do so.
I loved your words so much it touched my feelings ❤❤
Being single for some time can actually heal you, it saves a lot of heartbreak as well.
Spot on 🎯
Justin Bieber omg I totally understand u. I came to this video just to see if uncoils figure out how to control it. It’s like I’ve bottled up this energy,lust and emotions that I could have spend on somebody. And lately I’m really getting desperate in finding someone because in my brain it’s like: everyone u know already had at least one romantic relationship or ever just their first kiss. And me, as a full fledged virgin, is thinking that I have to get rid of that label. But I’m trying to control myself
Tony Rowan Speaking from experience, people need to get away from the sex crazed media and focus more on personal goals and hobbies. That’s the key to singleness. No romance novels, porn or sex movies...those things stir up desires.
Very True ❤️💐
Am never single coz I have my family and a cute dog along with good friends! As an introvert it's more than enough
I so like this line “dependency is never attractive”.
I lost my boyfriend to a car accident last March, his birthday is Valentine's Day. I loved this video, makes it easier than watching all the other happy couples videos out there. Thank you!
I’m so sorry for your loss ♥️😔
Sorry for lost prayers go to you
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I'm truly sorry for your lost
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I totally agree with what you’re saying about feeling fulfilled without them. It’s really comforting to know you’re in a relationship because you’re choosing to be in one and not only because you’re afraid of being single.
And make sure you’re complete without them. You have to be able to do things alone and be okay with it. Don’t run from yourself. If you always need someone then you’re just running away from yourself
Perfectly said
THANK YOUUUUU!!!!!!!! I just got out of an abusive relationship with a narcissist. I am currently lost and hurt, and I have no clue how to be alone. This video made me feel so much better. I am subscribing.
This is actually my first Valentine's day alone in a decade. I've forgotten what it's like to be comfortable in my own presence, hell, I've forgotten what it's like to be alone. This video couldn't have come at a better time in my life. I'm both terrified and excited to rediscover being happily single. Thank you
I was single for the first 30 years of my life until I met my soon to be wife. If you are in your late 20s and single just keep taking care of yourself and do all the things that make you happy. That is the key to meeting the person that you want to be with.
Single ladies where you at? I broke up three months ago. At first it was so difficult to just move on but from now on I kept the good things of that relationship and moved on and I feel really really happy alone I set goals for myself and focused on my studies also met new people that I had really good time it's just a relationship guys you never forget that person but you also never forget the reason that this ended! Everything happens for a reason and you will see it in the future! 💕
Awesome
I love to spend time by myself. I like to be with my friends but I really enjoy to do stuff alone, like go out to eat something, it feels so good. Everyone says that I should get a boyfriend, but most of them just have one because they can't be alone and they keep toxic relationships. So... yes!! Loving yourself and enjoy yourself are the most important things.
Care for yourself. Have time with yourself. Fuck everybody :)
Yess 😍😍
This is so important!! I have been single for the last 4 years and out of all my friends I’m the most independent and the one that can function on my own. It’s not always so great being the one on your own all the time but it’s important to know that you can be and having your own personality complete separate from anyone else is one of the most attractive qualities!
"i do not want to have you to fill the empty parts of me. i want to be full on my own- i want to be so complete i could light a whole city and then i want you. cause the two of us combined could set it on fire." -rupi kaur
one of my favourite quotes of all time and im so glad u decided to make this video on valentines day! self love's the best love.
Totally agree this!! Even now in a relationship, its so important to still pamper yourself and have "you" days!! Love this! Also, you look gorg as always!
Relationship sucks.. best of all is being with yourself.
If only my ex was aware how much I needed 'me' days from time to time. Or if only she had days to herself. All I wanted was to miss her. It would have worked so well.
Now I miss her like hell, but she's gone forever. Life is cruel.
"just do it, its a life experience... and how can you say no to a life experience?" LOVEEE THIS! i WATCHED THIS video before and I randomly stumbled upon it again and reliving this awesomenesss in a video :)
Agree on 100%! Single's life rocks! The best time and so many fun things to do by yourself, meeting with friends, travelling, parties - you feel that you live!
I've been single for four years.. and can vouch and agree with every little thing you said! This was so on point!
I was trying to force myself to do things on my own at first. It was hard but it became easier later on. I really appreciated the time I had all by myself. I even cried watching a movie by myself in the theater because I was alone. But You know what I am still doing things on my own until today. I am happy that I have the power and strength to go through with it, and I won’t stop until I feel completed and my void is filled not by anyone else but me
This is the greatest advice I had. Everything you said on this video has lifted me for the first time since my last relationship. I never thought I would have major trust issues and I never understood why. I refused to be in a relationship. You said it! Feeling whole with yourself. Now I feel comfortable that I can move on once I have learned how to be whole with myself. Thank you!!
I LOVE the part where you talk about yours & joey's conversation about being fulfilled alone but still loving and wanting each other because thats exactly the kind of conversation I have with my bf and i think its so incredibly healthy and more people need to have that mentality
This means a lot to me right now. I have never been single for all of my 10 years of adult life, and i am struggling with the transition. But this helped a lot and i will watch whenever i feel disheartened by the situation i am in and look forward to the future!
Allegra really out here being my older sister giving me a healthy dose of big girl advice. Would never be able to find the words to explain how meaningful these messages are, so thank you so much.
There are things all over the internet explaining how to love yourself or find yourself but none are quite as honest or real as your videos. I absolutely loved your Valentine's get ready with me video last year chatting about being single, love, finding yourself, and I appreciate and enjoyed this video just as much. You are such a breath of fresh air when it comes to speaking openly and honestly about yourself and your experiences. I feel similarly about a lot of things you chat about but you always encourage me to do more soul searching.
I’m 22 and have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years/since high school, so I don’t really know what it’s like to be single in my adult life, but even still I found this video so helpful. It was you who got me really focusing on myself over the last year and making sure that I still felt like my own individual person and not dependant on the relationship. I used to feel guilty going out with my girlfriends and not inviting my boyfriend, but your constant message of putting yourself first really gave me the push I needed to do that. Keeping do you girl, such a badass
Logan McCann same! ♥️
Logan Margarita are you guys still together?
Omg we have the same story !
❤️❤️ I’m a bit the same I love going out for coffee of dinner by myself and every time I do I feel more confident and it gives me time to reflect on myself and what I’m feeling / what I want!
All my friends told me to find a new boyfriend as soon as I broke up, but I don’t think it’s a good idea to overcome breaking up with someone I loved. Also I love being single and it feels like.. freedom. I have more time to do what I wanna do. I can even plan my life without someone I love(I mean bf) lol. I even started think more about myself in side of me. Love being single now😂❤️
EXACTLY.
Yess girl!! 😁❤
Totally agree that you have to learn about yourself and complete yourself first! I’m almost 5 years into an amazing relationship and the time before that when I was single is when I took the time to figure out who I was and what I want in life and I truly feel that has helped my relationship succeed!
this is very helpful ❤️ i currently have had an unexplained blow to my self esteem and confidence (even though i’m in a relationship) and i notice i’m not as comfortable in my own company as i once was. I want to rebuild that relationship with myself and not have to depend on other people to have a good time. Thank you for the tips. Taking myself out on a date this weekend💕🥰
I broke up with my ex recently so we could find ourselves and be happy separately . We were opposites in personality and in expressig emotions (he was basically logos and i was pathos) and had communication issues , it would have only been worse for the both of us if the relationship dragged on. Thank you for this video and your brilliant words allegra ! 💞💟
Broke up with me boyfriend yesterday, so this is perfect. Thank you x
My condolences! All the best for your recovery, break ups are tough xo
Going through a break up right now, pretty recent, but I've finally reached the stage where I can accept it happened for a reason & i'm not "obsessing" over the breakup. I'm so excited to start this new chapter of my life and this video was PERFECT timing. Hearing your experiences was really great so thanks for sharing! Some of your tips are things I already do on my own and I always think I'm so weird for doing them, so it's great to know i'm not alone :D THANKS FOR THIS VIDEO ALLEGRA!!! Such a good idea.
Omg your last point is literally so true. I think it is so important to be your own independent person in a relationship, only then I feel like you will actually be able to contribute your own part to it. I find it difficult to believe that some people think they "can't live" without their significant other or they can't "be happy" without them. Yes you can! You don't need someone else to make you happy, but they will only add to the happiness you radiate from within. And just like Cher said once in an interview: "Men are like dessert. I love them, they are a luxury. But I don't need them to survive." I love my boyfriend very dearly, but hell yeah, girl power all the way!!
ofprintsandpictures I love that quote! So good. And I love this comment ❤️
you’re so inspiring to me. i love watching your videos because they always help me get my mindset back on track if i’m ever feeling down or doubting myself. your confidence flows through you & shines. much love🌞🌞
even though im in a relationship i loved these tips! im soooo bad at going out and doing things alone and usually wont do it if i cant get my boyfriend to come with me. totally lame, i know. so THANK YOU for describing doing things alone as ‘liberating.’ totally changed my perspective and gave me the push i needed. conquering anxiety wooo
Honor Gibson same here.. I always depend on my bf for everything.. There tips are really helpful
Really appreciating this video after my break-up with my boyfriend of 3 years. I really liked your 2nd point about an ending relationship is a failure. I remember hearing this story about a CEO who would ask his kids every night what they failed at that day. There's a lot you can learn from "failure" and we shouldn't be afraid of "failing" because it helps us learn and grow as people. Thank you for this video Allegra. Love your content as always
This helped me so much. I felt kinda bummed for the longest time, but this is an opportunity to better myself and I’m thankful for that
i'm just now watching this, i know i'm late, but i just wanted to say how much i love this video. i'm 20 years old and i've been in a relationship for over five and a half years, which is insane. although i've been in this same relationship since i was 15, i'm thankful that we have learned to live our own lives. we didn't go to the same high school which helped us learn to balance between friends and relationships as well as school and sports. in college, we were long distant and for a year, we had the difficulty of being so busy to where we could hardly talk. which ultimately led to so much growth and prosperity within our relationship and made us so much healthier. now, we've been living together for about a year now. it's amazing and that time apart allowed us to truly figure out who we are and grow individually while still growing together. we are most likely going to be long distant again this summer, which sucks, but it's also for the best because we both are getting the chance to further do the things we love and are passionate towards. i think that's one of the most important things when being in a relationship is not holding each other back from their personal success. anyways, great video! i LOVED it. you're one of the most inspiring youtubers to me.
This is perfect for everyone. You should literally be aware of loving yourself first before others. 💛
I really admire the hell out of you! I have always felt so out of place, but now I can really identify with you and your mindset. You're amazing, for real. Good vibes!
All time favorite video of yours STILL. I re-watch when I'm feeling down and need to remind myself that I'm fine being single.
Of course you can be happy single.... you are beautiful so you get all the attention you want/need without being in a relationship.
I broke up yesterday with mu boyfriend because I am going to France for 6 months. I couldn’t stop crying even though we ended in good terms. I had to look this video up because it is what I needed. Thanks so much Allegra.
This is one of my most favorite chatty video you've ever made! This actually helped me a ton on valentines day. Single life!
This video is why I love following you and basically want to be best friends! I feel like you exceed such strength and confidence and that is something that I try to embody as well. I have been single for a few years now and while I'd like to be in a relationship the one thing you said I always say too 'I don't need to be in a relationship' I am good without one but on V-day it is so nice to have that reminder
I'm 22 and I recently got out of a 7 year relationship because he started taking me for granted and being emotionally abusive for the last year and a half. I broke it off because I realized that it wasn't my responsibility to change him if he didn't want to help himself and that I didn't deserve to be put through that kind of treatment.
What you said at 8:30 is exactly what I needed to hear because I know it's true and that's exactly how I feel. I'm still heartbroken, but I know I'll be alright in the end.
As a guy i never had a relationship. The reason im sad is because of me never having a relationship. Like I strive for a relationship. So I look at this video for help for i look more clear for myself.
Had a relationship breakdown a couple days before Vday... this helped the repairing process.. a lot. Just wanted to thank you for your ‘healthy mind’ style videos. 💋👍🏻
I love that you actually spent 3 years single. Not saying that someone can't find their strength in less, but I feel like I've seen some videos where the person was single for five months after constantly being in a relationship and then they give advice on how to be single when it's only been a fraction of time.
That is such a cool idea for a video! It's about damn time we start teaching - esp young - people that they don't need romantic interests to validate them and make them happy, fulfilled, interesting humans.
Hey Allegra! I know you were aiming more towards the single people in the world with this video but I am in a 3 year relationship and I really needed to hear this. Thank you, I feel like I already knew it in my heart but hearing it from you made it really clear to me so thank you! Love ya! ❤️
♥️♥️ I know I now realize I should have aimed this at everyone!
Love the tips. Especially feeling the emotions, but letting them go and move on. If we ignore the feelings they will haunt us, which doesn't help!
You helped me so much i just broke up with my ex and i started to be how i was before him, owing to you too thanks you❣
Exactly what I always say to my boyfriend(s). I like/love you, but I don't NEED you! So powerful yet so true. :) Loving your vibes btw.
These are some great Tipps! Thanks :)
After my break up last year, I really wanted to find someone else, and it didn't work out at all. Now I just want to be single, find myself again and enjoy the journey. Thank you for the helpful video you beauty❤️
Everyone needs to watch this! Self love and spread love 💕
stoooooop being so perfect, i swear you are such a mature, beautiful, smart woman! I have started meditating and taking care of myself more since I found you, THANK YOU
I love this and this type of independence was always how I have practiced self care. In my most recent relationship I lost this sense of freedom. It’s hard to deal with breaking up with someone who was almost the one
Speaking about asking ourselves who we are and what we want and how do we feel its important also because at some point of our life we 'll be able to share all those thoghts
LOVED this video. such good advice & your presence is so beautiful! ❤️
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You are like my biggest inspiration. Not because of this video in particular but just in the way you carry yourself. You seem so intelligent yet so humble and I love that.
Thank you
This is good advise but it's just one of those things that's easier said than done. I'm sure it must be a liberating feeling when you're only single for a brief amount of time, but when you're single your whole life and everyone around you is in relationships and getting engaged, you can't help but feel like shit. I try to be happy being single, I really do. But that feeling of loneliness never goes away.
So sorry to hear this Jaime. You wrote this 8 months ago so I don't know if things changed but the takeaway from this video is to honor your Self by doing things for yourself, by yourself without feeling like "shit"like you said and know that you are fulfilled as an individual. I understand that you may want to be in a relationship and I truly hope that you'll find love and partnership but don't think you are worth less than because you are single. All the best:)
I'm really glad you said this..no knock on her but it's easy to say these things when you haven't been single all your life or other girls are chosen over you
Loved this video! I have been seeing the same guy off and on for about 4 or 5 years now and I used to be so obsessed with the norms and what is expected in a relationship. He is an amazing guy and I used to thing he was weird bc he is nowhere near average and does his own thing. Funny thing is he has told me, in different words, what you bring up in this video and I notice myself more at peace with this mind set. Even though it took me about 2 years to figure it out, It has given me time and space to mature, do things for myself and grow in so many ways.
What a great video !! The other night I got back from studying at the library around 1am and I wasn't tired so I just took my music and walked around the campus for an hour. It was rlly cold and icy and I was just singing and dancing on the ice for an hour and it was just so much fun. I want to do it again.
I really needed this! Just got out of a long term relationship and feel heartbroken but this video really helped and made me feel a little more inspired. So thank you ❤️
Being complete by myself is something I need to work on definitely
Omg i really love you!! I feel like i learnt a lot from this video and now i feel so much better about myself! I should enjoy my life by myself first, not depending on bf
I absolutely love this and agree 100%. I first stumbled upon your videos about Western University (being a Western student) and explored some of your other videos but didn't yet subscribe. This video appeared on my newsfeed today though and it couldn't have come at a better time! My friend just got out of a 4 year relationship so I'm gonna link her bc you give some fantastic advice that I know she'd want to hear! thank you for this!!
I've been single for getting on two years now. I'm completely, 100% happy in my own company and being alone, but I feel like I'm also ready to share some of the energy I'm focussing on myself with somebody else and I'm craving an intimate connection - but finding that right person is driving me crazy. I don't want to settle, but also I feel like actively searching for a guy is sapping all positivity and confidence from my existence. Single, fine. In a relationship, fine. But that in-between phase is just so frustrating and I don't know what to do!
Ohh I needed that. I don’t think I’m for relationships. I’m afraid of smth. Don’t know what. Self image probably..
I once loved a boy very much means so much that I will never be able to forget him or love someone more than him and its been so many years I hv been single and I'm okay being one....its great to hv a carefree life and go whenever u want,do watever u feel lyk doin'..
i love how straightforward and independent you are. this is an awesome video and made me feel a lot better after feeling shitty about valentine’s day lol
This is a really good video idea, allegra! Especially since a lot of people (including me unfortunatly) put so much pressure on themselves when they are single.
I love this advice, especially the ''go and do things by yourself'' part. Definitely going to try that!
I've been putting this video on hold but I just had to click it today, don't know why but I did. I'm try to build a relationship with myself but i can't because I so much negative people around judge me and tell me that I'm selfish for what I'm doing! Besides that I love this video! Well said!
I don’t know why but I’ve been super depressed and anxious lately cause I feel like no boy will ever like me or want to date me in the first place. Idk why but this video made me feel a bit better. Thank you
I’m not single, but my boyfriend and I are from completely different parts of the world, and we just so happened to meet in the US, but every summer we’re apart, and although this sucks, this is also such an amazing time to revamp myself and find who I am, outside of being together all the time. So thanks for this awesome video Allegra 😊
That's the best of both worlds. You have the love of a relationship but with the occasional freedom of being single.
I’m single been this 10 years now it took a while but now I enjoy it now it’s not a failure life lesson to learn and grow
I love your video! I need to remind myself once in a while who is the most important person in my entire life. If it is not too personal, could you talk more about what your single life was like and what the relationship between you and your boyfriend was before and how you guys ended up in the current relationship? I would love to hear about your relationship story between yourself and other people and some advice more!
Being single for ages. LOL. But I enjoyed being myself now. There is so much more important journeys you have to experience. You inspire me through your videos. I actually want to make videos this year. Comment me if want to hang out in NYC. Lots of love❤️
MOST IMPORTANT VIDEO TODAY. Allegra you're amazing and keep spreading the word
I love your videos! They are very good advice to avoid the depression! I am 16 years old and I follow you since France (it is you who helps me to work my English). Thank you! "Bisous"❤
Omg! Can't agree more with what you mentioned in this video!!! Super inspiring😍
such a healthy outlook on relationships, thank you for sharing!
Wow I really Need it for now! Thanks for your tips Allegra.❤️
Allegra! You are so wise... and intuitive! I just ended things with a guy I've been seeing because he recently moved out of the country. Anyway, thanks for this! You advice and insight is always appreciated, and usually different from the normal, everyday advice I'm used to hearing. Happy Valentine's Day!
Thank you so much for this. My ex and I of 1 and a half years broke up recently and this helped so much. Trying to fulfill my life without him which is hard but this really helped. Thank you.
This video was a great pick me up! I just got a very hard pass from a guy I really thought could be the guy... Now I really need to be alone, thank you for this video. I wanna cry because it's hard to be alone, while everyone around you is in relationships.. BUT you're right with everything. Time to be single and happy. Xx
I literally love you. I needed this so badly.
Fav Valentine’s Day video! I’m in a relationship now currently but all of your tips were soooo true
♥️♥️ definitely feel like the apply to everyone!
I’m 20 and I dated a guy for 2 years and broke up, then a few months later I started dating a guy and we were together for 3 years. We just ended the relationship, so for the first time really in my adult life I’m single and this video is perfect! I’m more excited than ever to be single and build up relationships with my friends instead of just constantly working on one!
Last time I had a boyfriend I found out I was getting surgery. The day I found out also happened to be both the day of my birthday and 5 days away from Christmas... and he broke up with me because "he found someone better" ever since then Ive taken time to work on myself and make myself happy.
Thank you for Sharing this one!!! 💗💗💗 make me feel Complete
I just ended a relationship a few days ago and this was the best vid I could ask for. Thank you❤️
I love love love this! Thank you! I really needed this💗💗💗
loved the whole concept of this video and you just said everything so well!!
Off the topic, but i used to have the same issue with the salon done nails. So what i did is - I’ve bought a lamp and the colours i like and I’m doing them at home.
Thumbs up for the video, I’m single from 3 years now and feeling awesome 😏