Cutting Back on Spending/Our Emotions~Over65 Style
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I did much the same Melissa. Had to stop putting myself in temptations way. Adjustments were hard but I am glad I did it. I basically shopped my stash and decided to go on a use up quest. 2020 from March on has been an awful year! Hugs!
That is so inspiring. Oh Monika, it's been so horrible for you and I can't even begin to tell you how very sorry I am - we all are for the loss of your father. I know how close a family you are and it's hard on all of you. Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you. Love you! Melissa
I’ve lost a lot of interest in Haul videos . so don’t feel bad , after a while they get to become a superficial. It’s just more stuff and I’m really kind of sick and tired of stuff!!
Totally agree with you. When so many people have the worry and heartbreak of losing everythingI just can't relate to being excited about a handbag, clothes or makeup. As you say it's so superficial.
wonderjoy wonderjoy13 I couldn’t agree more. I’m more interested in how to use what I already have.
What I’m trying to do now is to not feel jealous. I have needed to watch them actually, to get over this feeling of envy the feeling of how come they get to buy stuff and I can’t? I turned it around and realized that people might be looking at me and saying how come she has food, how come she has a house, how come she is able to have a partner living with her. When I put it into perspective like that it actually helped me a lot. I sure do appreciate it.
Melissa55 and you have you health! I work in the hospital. I am blessed to take care of people at their most vulnerable hour. Scared with a hospital gown. I love my job. But it does make me appreciative for my health AND all those things you mentioned. Thanks for doing this video!
@@Love-ql7rd So true. And thank you for your service in your job. You don't know how much you matter to so many people...
It’s been a sobering experience for all of us. We as Americans are so excessive and materialistic. We’ve realized how blessed we truly are
It are has. I agree completely. xox, Melissa
God is using this for us to get our priorities in order. We have so much in this country and we don't need but 1/2 of it.
We buy more than we need. Most of us own more makeup than we can use in a lifetime. I’ve never felt the need to put on airs and there’s definitely no shame in not having money. As I’ve told you before, I grew up poor and I’m glad I did. It taught me to be resourceful and to know how to do without. Blessings and love, Linda
You know that made me think that sometimes, even when times are hard, it’s the lessons we learned that make us good people. You are such a good person and I’m sure that your childhood situation shaped the compassionate person that you are. Love you lots.
Melissa55 I think we are going through this for God’s reasons and all will be within God’s timing. This is the 1st time that baby boomers and the generations below them have had to go through such a difficult time where they need to sacrifice to survive. We are learning many things and ways that will change us for the better as people. But, Things WILL get back to being good. Please, everyone- do not buy into “this is the new normal.” It’s not true. Only God knows the timing.
@@plume1639 I agree with you as well and I will jokingly say that If This Is The New Normal , I will have no need to buy lipstick ever again which by the way I haven't in quite some while because I'm making use of my dear beloved mothers cosmetics. I see that I have so much that's already here to use up before buying anything else, other than food and prescriptions and gas taking care of my utilities.
I read a book when I was in my 20s called The Millionaire Next Door and it talked about how small purchases over time really add up. Thank you for being vulnerable on this- it’s a topic many people are going through right now.
I appreciate it, Cristan! It really is true that they add up isn't it? Be safe and thank you, Melissa
That is such a great book. I think it has been updated.
Yep, we do Dave Ramsey. We are debt free. Yay! Thank goodness because if we weren’t we’d be really in trouble, during these hard times.
This video needs to go viral!!!!... this was the most honest and refreshing video I have ever watched on UA-cam!... you speak for so many of us!!!!... you are a gem, Melissa!!!!.. thank you so much for all the insight in this video!💜💜💜💜💜
Thank you so much, Linda!!! It was hard for a while, but I sure hope I've learned something from all this. I appreciate it. xox
Absolutely pushed the reset button...and I've realized I do not need or miss anything materialistic..my whole mentality changed for the good..saving money and being healthy is much more satisfying...so true..and yes be Thankful
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Thank you so much. I truly had to change my whole mindset. And I had to go through those negative emotions like jealousy. I was ashamed of myself, but I did feel jealousy. I sure appreciate this.
Understand completely..but it's a good thing!..turning it into positivity is a new norm..great video Melissa , glad you opened our eyes a little wider...xo❤
@@Melissa55 I catch myself doing the same thing and I am so embarrassed to feel that way. But it is a process and you should allow yourself time to face it, deal with it, and get over it. God still loves us.
So true!..blessings to you and yours lovely lady.⚘
I always think if I have a roof over my head, food and warmth, then I have enough and more than many others. Bless you for expressing what so many of us are having to do. No one is completely safe from the virus or job difficulties, so we must count our pennies as well as our blessings. Thank you Melissa 🙏🏻 xx
Unfortunately,we don't tend to talk about these kinds of things. Most of our friends are probably going through "cutting back" and "doing without". It really humbles you Ir's almost like people are ashamed to admit that they are in the same boat.
You are so right. And sometimes it takes a big event to make us realize this. And I think that is what is happening with this now. Thank you and please keep yourself safe. Love, Melissa
anthony falcone And isn’t that sad? There is not one thing wrong with not having a whole lot of money. It is not something you did or a character flaw. It’s just your circumstances in life. And I think the sooner we can accept that the better off we will be. Many thanks.
@@Melissa55 You and Doug are great together. You should get him to do more videos with you!
@@Melissa55 you're so right. Somewhere down the line, we've all been put into" classes" of rich poor and middle class. We're all rich because Jesus died for all of us and God loves us. I have food and a home and vehicle and good health.. I'm happy.
I love this video Melissa. When all of this started in my first video I said that I was not going to buy and I was not going to list product because I did not want to tempt anyone to spend money they may not have or need to spend and I took some flack for that. I was told that there were people who depended on my spending basically. Well I didn't and I'm so happy. I've had a dear dear friend for most of my adult life. When our group of girlfriends - we all had great paying jobs except for her - would go out for lunch or dinner or drinks there were times when she wouldn't go or maybe she would go but she wouldn't order. She would always say, "It's just not in my budget right now." She never said she didn't have the money or she couldn't afford something....it was always that it just wasn't in her budget right then. That made such an impression on me and I've used it myself so many times. I admire and respect you even more. I was raised without and as an adult even though I had good jobs I was single and raising my daughter. I had no real thoughts about remarrying so I knew I had to be able to take care of myself in my old age. I had to save. I did without so much so that I could save. And I learned from my friend to say things were just not in my budget right then. I think that by using that terminology that in my brain I didn't have to feel bad about not spending. It turned out to be a mental thing for me...it made things so much easier. Sorry this was so long - but a funny story...my mascara was so dried up and I went.online to Ulta last week and ordered one. Since I'm not going in stores I asked for curbside service. I drove up, called them, rolled down the passenger window and a girl ran out to the tossed the tiny Ulta sack onto my passenger seat. We exchanged pleasantries - I drove home. I told Jim when I came in that had I gone into Ulta for a mascara I would have come out with at least $100 worth of stuff I did not need. I can't imagine that I will ever go into that store again! Love you. patti 🌸🍃
Gosh I loved reading this, Patti. One thing I hope people won't think I'm criticizing doing hauls. I love hauls now and get inspiration. But it was a journey to get to that point. I was jealous that so and so didn't have changed circumstances and I did. And I felt childish and churlish, but I'm just being honest. And that's when I knew I had to get over it. Not going to lie, we are worried, but we will pull through this. Being a single mother for so long, yes, you had to plan ahead. It was you and your baby against the world and you were smart to realize that. You didn't know what the future would bring, so you had to plan for all instances. I so admire that. Thank you, and please stay safe. I worry about Florida a lot. Love, Melissa
This was such an excellent video, Melissa!! You made so, so many good points. I love how you grieved, and got over it!! We all have so much to be grateful about. I'm grateful for you!! You are right, nothing is a bargain unless we really need it. You know I love you, Melissa...MaryEllen
aw, thanks, ME. I did have to go through a range of emotions, and jealousy being a big one. I hated feeling that way, but I just did. Thank you and you are always such an inspiration to me. Love, Melissa
Melissa,
There is nothing strange at all about grieving the changes, including financial changes. I think it is healthy and important and what emotionally healthy people do. Thank you for sharing. I always appreciate your honesty. Best to you and yours...
Thank you so much Sandra. I just had to go through a process in order to move on and I have. Thank you and please stay safe.
Thanks for sharing your story. I think we have learned a lot from the pandemic. We don't need to spend as much, go out as much, eat as much. Although we have less to spend on buying things, we have TIME which is MONEY. I am very extravagant with my time now...long breakfasts, gazing out into our garden, watching the rain on the leaves, walks with my husband, lots of home cooking, all things I never allowed myself to do because I didn't have time. As life continues with COVID I hope I never go back to my pre-COVID life exactly the same as it was. Time is precious and will never come back, so let's enjoy our circumstances and realize just how blessed we really are!!
Thank you so much for this video Melissa...especially about grieving the life we used to have. Your words were very moving to me...I thought by July we would be passed COVID and oh how wrong I was. I appreciate you talking about feeling jealousy or feeling almost " sorry for ourselves" because we are missing out. I have my triggers too....homes that show gardens...oh how I can cry when I see that.I loved clothes too but cut back...I mean where am I going now? LOL....but I have to remind myself...it won't always be like this. I loved your honesty here...what a beautiful breath of fresh air. I used to feel ashamed I was poor until I looked around and suddenly was so grateful for the riches I have....my family and my health...my passion to learn. ( I too am wearing Aspen nails...I love them!) Great tips and sometimes when you say something, I feel I am right there with you. 115 days.....pray. Desi and I send you our love always, Susan & Dez
I thank you so much, Susan. I really think it's important to be honest with ourselves and realize we do feel jealous at times. I kept thinking, "so and so's circumstances didn't change, why did mine"? And I had to work through that. Probably things like Instagram haven't helped with the wanting things others have and feeling like we are "lacking", - I sure felt that, but I just finally, for my own mental health, had to stop it. It's been harder on some more than others, but I have a feeling we all will never be the same again. Please take care. Lots of love!!! Melissa
Melissa. I have watched your videos for years and can I say, This was my absolute favorite! You made so many people including myself realize how truly blessed we are and that in the end it is just stuff! Thank you for your honesty and your tips on how to cope in these strange times. This video here is why YOU are my most favorite utuber, instagrammer! We needed this! ❤❤❤
Thank you so much, Michele. I just realized that in order not to be a bitter old lady, I had to learn to be grateful. I am so very grateful. Love to you, Melissa
You always express our human realities with the outmost honesty and genuineness. 👍
I sure do appreciate that!!! xoxox
Well said Miss Melissa! Our life is changed like a major reset. I am grateful we have a roof over our head, food in the larder lol and clothes on our backs. We have been able to donate to our local food finders, not as much as we want but every little bit helps. And I truly never thought this would happen but I turned 60 during the pandemic and felt I needed to let my silvers grow. For 60 yrs I saw a brunette. Now I see a new me. We are teaching lessons to our children too. Thanks ladybug.
I love your honesty. Our financial situation hasn’t changed, but we cut back on spending in case it does. God bless you.
Thank you, Joy. It was hard for a while, not going to lie, but I think I'm in a better place now. I appreciate it!
My favorite saying has always been “enjoy the little things”! The most important thing to me over money is health. As you know I struggle with RA, and many other health problems including thyroid, heart, and lung problems now the newest are intestinal problems all caused from the high inflammation in my body all due to autoimmune disease. I have been totally depressed and my anxiety level is through the roof. This Covid 19 has not helped at all and has only added more to my stress level. Thank God I have a man in my life who always gives me the comfort I need. We don’t live together but he Is always there for me when I need a shoulder to cry on. He has taught me to be positive at all times even when things are bleak. Having tons of clothing and 20 eye palettes are just material things. So having health is the most important thing in life because without that you can’t enjoy the clothes or the makeup! I have just asked Jesus to take the wheel because I was finding it hard to cope on my own!❤️
This really spoke to me. When you are sick, when you are in pain., When you are scared, when things hurt, you truly realize the important things in life. You are a compassionate person, and I know it’s because of all you have endured. I am so sorry for the things you were going through. Please take good care of yourself and stay safe. Love, Melissa🙏🙏🙏
I also have inflammation in the body from chemo I went on a diet no sugar no white anything or process food it has helped my hands are not as swollen, my feet also it has helped.
Hi Melissa. I absolutely love your honesty and your beautiful kind heart. I have not seen a video yet about someone experiencing the financial hardships of Covid, but they are very real and I know your video will resonate with many people.
It’s wonderful that you mentioned thread up. I have always loved thread up! I am a person who buys 10 things at regular price and finds that I really only wear two of them. That’s why I like thredUP. It allows me to order a lot of things and send back those I don’t like. Plus, you can enter appears new or new with tags and even enter the brands you want and you can get great clothes!
I started really using thredUP after I started my channel as when I first started it I always wanted to wear something new and that was getting very expensive! Now I use thredUP for pretty much all of my clothing purchases. I learned my lesson after doing one Nordstrom haul video where I spent about $1200! Ouch!
Blessings to you and I appreciate you sharing all of the many wonderful things you are learning through this experience. I think as a nation we all need to be evaluating our lives just as you are. This culture teaches us to be good consumers and that “things “ have the most value, but as your video so touchingly shared, its experiences and the people we love that is most important. 💝💝💝
Oh thank you so much for this, Beth. And I like the options we have now for thinks like ThredUp and Poshmark. You know, if this had to happen, I am so grateful it happened where we can all communicate. I don't know what I would have done without that. Take care and many thanks. Love, Melissa
Hi Melissa! Not only did this make complete sense, it sounded like some wonderful words of wisdom! Learning to live within your means doesn't mean you have to give up everything you love, It's just learning to love what you have and not splurging on things you think you need, but really don't! Thanks so much for sharing this!
Following you has become a bright spot in my week. I turn 60 years old this year and it s so fun to see a woman f a certain age, sharing tips on life, love, loss, and creating a fabulous fulfilling day! I am a stylist at Ulta and I have been through lots of changes too. I am working on decluttering. This year has been difficult on so many! I think it is so important to stream line life and enjoy what we have. You are such a joy to watch!
Thanks for the pep talk. I've canceled all my TV subscriptions & other online subscriptions (except for one!). I'm working on decluttering my house & my life. I have all the clothes I need & this constant shopping habit is at an end. This is a silver lining to Covid-19. LOVE THIS VIDEO!
I got stupidly addicted to eyeshadow palettes and I never wore eyeshadow... so dumb!
Be real, be yourself! Never a truer word spoken. It's so refreshing to hear this on UA-cam, which has become so consumer focused... Thank you!
Hi Melissa. You really hit this out of the park. I've always been frugal, but when my husband died a few years ago, I have had to be more so, and when the pandemic hit, I lost my piano students. The teaching gave me just enough money to be able to breathe a little and buy some small thing now and then. That money suddenly disappeared! Staying home actually helped me not to want to stretch my resources, so in that way, it was good. It also gave me time to realize how little I really needed. Like you, I really took a good look at things and found I could do without some that weren't that important. Now I'm beginning to get back a few students, thankfully, but I'm still going to be very careful and realize that I really don't need that much. I can read (our library just reopened), play my piano, text friends, take naps (😀) and they don't cost a thing. BTW, I STILL get annoyed when I go to some UA-camrs that obviously didn't lose their jobs and they are buying one thing after another and kinda rubbing it in our faces! The old green eyed monster in me rears its ugly head! Then I think, that's ok. It is THEIR credit card bill😀😀😀,not mine.
Thank you so very much. I think probably so many in today’s world have become consumer-based. If this virus has taught us anything else, I hope it has taught us to realize the things that are truly important in life. Many thanks, Melissa
Carole Kelly Pearce first of all I so admire that you have the talent of being able to play the piano. I play a little bit but I do not have a talent. But playing a musical instrument is such a comfort. And I hope and pray that the students are able to come back more and more. I know as well as losing some income, that interaction with people that you’ve lost has to be hard. I sure do appreciate it. Be safe. ♥️♥️♥️♥️
Melissa, this video was more inspirational than any haul or new things videos could ever be. It’s all about seeing our stuff with new eyes--thank you!
Amen... we are really so blessed in this country.
Your hair and makeup are so pretty today. I love that neckline on you too : ). Whether or not you’re still able to get your hair and nails done, you’re looking 35 years old today!
That is so kind of you, Colleen. Thank you so much. Love, Melissa
This is such a beautiful, heartfelt video. "just be real" is probably the best advice I have heard in a long time. You are truly beautiful from the inside out. hugs, eileen
Thank you, Eileen. I think we have to have learned something from this or we didn't get it. Thank you and love to you. Be safe. Love, Melissa
Hi Melissa. About 3 weeks ago I had a heart attack and have been recovering at home, not able to work, and I was stressing about that. I watched this video and even though it isn’t because of Covid that my circumstances changed, this video really lifted my spirits. Gratitude, that’s the thing you said that helped me the most. I’m still alive, I can still see my grandkids (and one on the way), and I have food and shelter. Thank you for helping me put it into perspective. I still don’t know if I will ever be able to return to work, and in the not too distant future that’s pretty scary. But for now, you have helped me feel some measure of peace. Love you, sweet lady. ❤️
I think we're all rolling the way you are...tightening up the budget...I did splurge on my birthday yesterday--I had a LOT of pent-up dining out desire, apparently!--but we didn't go too crazy. There are so many FREE activities to do that are even MORE enjoyable than spending money...walking, hiking in the woods, taking free online classes, reading, gardening, swimming, cycling, opening a cheap-but-cheerful bottle of wine, playing cards, playing the piano...lots more...now's a good time to express ourselves creatively. Thanks for another inspiring, honest, video!
Oh Happy Birthday, Jane and yes you have to have little rewards!! I am so glad you splurged - you deserve it. I realized also that East Tennessee is so beautiful and we really need to take advantage of it. Be well and take care. Love to you and thanks, Melissa
You are so lovable. Emotionally and mental it’s a struggle for me I’m single I live by myself working from home five days a week. Been taking it one day at a time with a lot of self care. You are such a joy to see on the internet 😀😀😀
I have read that is is hardest on your "group" for want of a better word. I know it has to be so hard at times. Stay safe. You are an inspiration. Love and thanks, Melissa
👍🤗❤️ truth! Priorities are helpful in figuring out what stays, what can go. Fact is we are grieving the big huge gigantic change that we all passed through, then there’s the financial changes. It’s a lot to process but using the tools- staying out of temptation, applying priorities. I think because the whole changes to life that everyone is processing we downplay the stuff we are individually processing. Taking joy in brushing up the skills- I’m trying to be more creative with my cooking to make up for the restaurant meals. Focusing on what we have vs have not. Dh says we are spending less and planning meals better with that grocery pickup. I’m pretty sure my grandparents who lived thru the dirty 30s with families to feed would be pleased with the skills I’m brushing back up on.
I really admire you!! I definitely love to shop WAY too much, I need NOTHING-I have more than I could ever use. I am not a hoarder, I do get rid of stuff, but I am always shopping. I definitely need to get past the mental need to shop. We would do so much better financially. Great message!
This was an amazing, honest reminder that we don’t need monetary things. We need love, friendship and a fulfilling life! A new item or piece of clothing provides a very temporary high but it doesn’t last. Making memories will last a lifetime. You have such a wise and beautiful soul my friend 💕
Thank you, Charlie. I have come to know you on Instagram and I admire all you do and the woman you are. When this all started out, I realized it was going to either break me or make me stronger. I'm still searching, but I hope I'm headed in the right direction. Love you my sweet friend and thanks, Melissa
Girlfriend, I couldn’t hardly watch to end without crying my eyes out.I’ve been working around my house today with the lower humidity here. I took a snack break to watch your video and I just won’t to say from the bottom of my ❤️ you have the largest humble heart of anyone I’ve ever seen on you tube! I sincerely mean this Melissa 🙏 you live not to many miles down the state from me and I hope one day we get to meet. I’m retired over (70) and my income hasn’t changed but I’m trying to use up things I already had like you are. My prayers to you and your precious family to stay well and safe.
Oh Lea, thank you !!! It has just all been so sad for so many people. That poor young Broadway star that died and left his little family. That broke my heart. Please take good care of yourself. I keep thinking, this too shall pass. Love, Melissa
Thank you so much for this refreshing video! It's so nice to see a youtuber be completely honest about real life situations. I've been watching my spending too, cutting my own hair, cooking at home etc. Circumstances change, too no fault of our own. Just take it 1 day at a time. It's tough, but I'm trying to keep a roof over my head, food on the table, and my furry children fed. That's all I truly need (besides God and family). I'm sooo tired of watching hauls, pushing products etc. This pandemic has showed me what's truly important in life. Stay safe and healthy :-)
I love your beautiful spirit. It's so unusual for people to be so vulnerable and honest, let alone someone in the public eye. Bless you and your family as we all make our way through this difficult time.
I think this was my favorite video, on all of UA-cam! You have no idea how much your honesty and vulnerability to speaking about what & how so many of us have been feeling. Thank you for sharing & making alot of us on here to feel good /"normal-ish" again. God bless you & your family.😘
I sure appreciate this so much, Kelly. Not going to lie - it's been hard. And I disliked the jealousy I felt. I still fight it. But hopefully I learned some lessons I was supposed to learn. Many thanks, Melissa
Thanks for the video! I have always lived well below my means and when I got married, we both did. This way whether its good or bad times, my situation remains the same. I would suggest that when times get good again to stay the course and not go back to spending. I remember a well loved youtuber who isn't on anymore and was married to a small time actor said, "when times are bad we are in the unemployment line and when times are good we are buying a mercedes"...I thought that was rather immature as when times are good that is when you save more...for the bad times. I always color my own hair and never buy that Nordstrom sale $100 sweater; can I afford it: Yes, will I buy it: no. There is absolutely nothing I want that bad.
Melissa what a great uplifting and helpful video. Times are so strange right now. You have given so many great ideas on how to just experience happiness around you. Take walks, enjoy your children and grandchildren. Its like we all were forced in some way to slow down and look inside. Ive noticed how we saw change in everyone around us. Times during the last 5 months has been more difficult than most of us could have thought we'd be able to get through. Fear on so many levels. My youtube friends have helped now and then just watch a little of what could be thought of as the old normal. GRWM's, chatting on insta stories and watching how during it all there was still moments of laughing, sharing our days, and trying to get through the best we knew how. Thank you so much for sharing your personal story. Love how you are always beautiful graceful and sensitive to anyone who watches and knows you. Xx hugs, Jennifer 💕
Awesome video....thanks for keeping it honest and I am sure all of us can relate to it at this time.
Thank you so much Sherry!!! xoxox
This has to be one of the best videos I have seen during this pandemic. You expressed what so many of us feel. If I had my children near me, all would be fine. My husband and I are planning a road trip to see them and I cannot wait.
Our emotions are very attached to our finances and the way we want to live. Much has been taken due to the conditions in our country. Knowing our priorities is a good reminder of how grateful we are but also how fragile life can be. Bless you, Melissa.
It is so very true. I was surprised at how much it made me feel envious for a while. Thank you so much. Life is so very fragile isn't it? Love Melissa
This the most relevant and refreshing video during the pandemic! Most youtubers have acted like nothing has happened and act totally unaffected by the pandemic which makes those affected feel inadequate or more depressed. You are one the most humble and relatable youtubers!
Living with less, saving more money and spending time with people - those are things that resonate with me personally. I love the saying "wanting what you have instead of having what you want" is the sign of maturity and true satisfaction. And the way things are going, we are going to be looking into each other's eyes a lot more. I am not even caring about lipstick anymore.
Covid has brought a lot of strange emotions for many, I stopped watching the news and reading too much on social media it really helped me I focused on doing more walking, lately I found a lovely thrift shop in my town which I never noticed before I usually shopped on my way back from work out of town, so there is a silver lining 🙏
Yes, we each have to experiment I think to see what can send us into being upset. And it will probably change over time, too. Thank you and be safe. Love, Melissa
Living in Hawaii, we have never needed much. If we wanted much, it’s too expensive anyways lol I have one drawer with makeup and skincare...none of which have ever cost me over 10$ haha We crowd all our children and their families into a single family dwelling and enjoy life as it comes. We can take nothing with us when we leave this earth but our spirit. To me that means, I better get my Spirit right! Lol there’s a song by Gaithers on UA-cam that says “turn your eyes upon Jesus, look full in His wonderful face, and the things of this earth, will grow strangely dim, in the light of His glorious grace” I listen to it everyday, they really do grow dim then what matters the most is my love for my God, and my love for my family.
That really puts it all into perspective. I think you so much for reminding us of these very important lessons. Stay safe! And many thanks, Melissa
I started getting so depressed that I was getting older. My daughter told me to watch you. At first I thought, I can't relate to her, she is so beautiful and I bet she was popular in high school and I just don't like her and can't see we have anything in common. I started watching and I slowly realized that you are kind and down to earth. Now, I feel uplifted and think, well there can be beauty in getting older. Different stage in my life. You are a little bit older than me and I look to your videos for a smile and good feeling. My daughter was right. She is 27 and loves you and watches your videos. I thought , there are tons of youtubers her age, but she still likes watching you. Thank you Melissa for the time you put into your channel. It means a lot to me and I'm sure many others.
Preachhh! To me - you are doing your followers a great service by teaching stewardship.
I appreciate your realizing what’s important. There are too many palettes designed to whisper to us we’d be complete if we had just one more. We only have 2 eyelids.
Being authentic on the UA-cam platform is challenging.
Thank you.
Your words and wisdom are a balm to the soul. Thank you Melissa 🙏🏼🥰
I thank you! Believe me I don't feel wise at all. I feel like a toddler stumbling my way through and that can be frightening. But thank you! xox, Melissa
This was me too! I live in Georgia. My husband works for Delta so we’ve been hit hard. Thank you for this video. I’ve lived this! 💕💕💕
It's really challenging, isn't it Bridget? Take care and stay safe. I sure appreciate it. xox, Melissa
Georgia girl here too! Not far from the airport. I know y'all are facing job cuts with his job. Prayers to you! My hubby just had to retire early, company cuts all around so I totally understand.
What a wonderful, honest video. I live alone and have always loved it but having to shelter in place found myself feeling jealous of folks with loved ones to go through this rough time with. The grace with which you’re dealing with your circumstances is an amazing example. God bless you and Doug. This too shall pass.
Thank you Melissa for being honest about finances during this pandemic. You have helped so many of your viewers. It is good to know we are all in this together. God bless you and your family always. 🙏🏻❤️
Thank you! The best video I have watched in a very long time, alot of wisdom and insight. We have been doing many of the same things and it is causing real, heartfelt change.
Melissa...I just adore you and your honesty! I feel the exact same way you do on all this! We have so much in common and love the way you think! You are beautiful not only on the outside but most importantly...on the inside! ❤ Thank you for sharing your REAL feelings and emotions!
Thank you so much, Joanne. I have been blessed I know that. But there is something about reaching a certain age and realizing "dang, it isn't going to work out like I thought, is it" that is jarring. And you just have to come to terms with it. Many thanks!!! Love, Melissa
@@Melissa55 I sooo agree with you! And I guess as long as we embrace it all as best we can...it will help us have some sort of peace inside! But hey...there is the Lotto still! LOL...If only I played the dang thing more often! If I win...hell...I'll even give you some! LOL You have it on here as proof! Ha!
I love your honesty Melissa. Thank you for speaking your truth. It is nice to know that we are not alone in prioritizing our finances in order to get through this pandemic. Love you!
Melissa, you are one smart, honest, and humble person. I just found your channel and am very impressed by your cheerful attitude and lovely nature as well as your good tips. Your ideas about what's really important in life and how we need to stay grateful are right on. 💛
Dear Melissa, I am a new subscriber of yours and I just wanted to let you know how much I have enjoyed your videos. I am a first time, new mom and have really loved watching you and hearing your positive perspective on things. Your videos are uplifting and encouraging and I really appreciate it :)
Oh Kristi, thank you! And what an exciting time in your life. I remember that time so well with my new baby. Blessings to you and give that baby a kiss from me! Love and stay safe, Melissa
Your hair looks fantastic! Great message in this video. Counting our blessings is so important, especially now. :)
You are one of the most honest persons on UA-cam and your video just brought tears in my eyes. Just realized that we spend too much time and too much money on things we don’t really need and we let them dominate our lives for nothing. It’s really overwhelming for me...hope your situation will improve and more important, stay healthy! Thank you!
Melissa, this is such a helpful and honest video, which is so refreshing. I want to say that I’ve been noticing your hair and hair color, and thinking to myself ... wow, I’m loving the natural looking color lately and how flattering it is on your beautiful skin. And I really love how you’ve been styling it. That sundress is the cutest on you! And the earrings too, so adorable. Your makeup looks so beautiful, youthful and dewy. Yes, we are so blessed with what we already have, and it’s so important to remember that and be thankful. I think this quarantine time has actually helped all of us to regroup and really think about what’s really important and what we actually need and what we don’t. Stay well, sweet lady. Hugs and much love
It's crazy on Aug 5th 2019 lost my husband of 21yrs lost everything car, home had to sell everything. 2020 Corona Virus came then in March lost my dog of 13yrs. People need to wake up count your blessings a lot of people lost their lifes!!!! I still count my blessing my health is my wealth so many shallow people!!!!!
Oh I am so very sorry for all you have gone through. You know, life is so unfair sometimes, it seems. You seem like a good person and so many bad things have happened to you. I am so sorry. And then there are all these mean people in the world that just sail through. It seems so unbalanced sometimes. Please take care of yourself. Melissa
Thank you so much yes life has many twist and turns. I'm a Christian and that's what saved me. Thank you for taking the time out to write very sweet. God Bless stay safe. ❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with all of us. I enjoy listening to you and the genuine beauty you radiate. This scary time is also a time of simplicity. Have a great weekend!
You are absolutely precious, and your hair looks great!! Yes, we can all use this as a chance to reevaluate our spending and cut back, even after the pandemic is over.
Great video, Melissa! Not watching new releases or hauls either, but I love you ladies in the mature beauty community who have been posting videos about your old favourites, workhorse products, and shopping-your-stash.They are great fun and have me enjoying what I already have instead of wanting new. I've also been watching old 1940s and 1950s home economics videos and I love the no-nonsense back-to-basics homemaking advice. They make me appreciate all that we modern families have. I love your honesty and I love your humility - you have such a good heart.
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I just love you Melissa.
And btw, on a superficial note, you look absolutely gorgeous in this video 😍
awwww, thanks, Penn!!!! You are the sweetest woman and I really enjoy watching you. I need to make sure I leave comments! lol Many thanks, Melissa
This is such an important message. I totally get what you’re talking about. I’m a few years older than you (68) but we are mostly retired and my husband is still working more or less. He’s an excavator and has his own company. He can work clearing land without being around other people. He is the shopping person so I don’t go out. I just love hearing about other families and how you are making it. I’m so tired of listening to politicians. No one is responsible for this virus, it just is. I loved this video Melissa.
Thank you Sharon. You know, I think what was so hurtful to us was realizing the age we are and that we are in the circumstances we are in. That was huge for us to accept. Since we were young, we talked about the things we would do, the places we would visit, the comfort we would have. We are living on our retirement money, so it's hard to know what the other side of this is going to look like. But God willing, it will just make us stronger and stronger. Please stay safe. You are a joy. Love, Melissa
Strange.. this popped up for me again (I had watched it at the time you first posted and agreed…
However it is now almost 2 years later and I REALLY NEEDED THIS!! Perfect timing!!! 2020 caused me to lose my job ..I am older and was convinced to retire. With the “busy” and being on high alert for these 2 past years, it had kept the reality at bay. Until today!!! Suddenly I realized this is my new reality.. silly, but because things have quieted down, I had a kind of day that got me woke! My finances are DRASTICALLY different from 2 years ago, and today I actually realized that! I went “looking “ at plants at a local nursery and came home empty handed.. because I knew I could no longer afford to be frivolous. I am now on a fixed income!! I have to budget and I’m old!!! I never felt this until today! Like you, I realize I’m so very lucky for all I have, for all I continue to receive and for all my blessings…I know! I know! But, damn it, I’m sad!! I’m sad for all I no longer have and the circumstances that got me here.
I will be better tomorrow.. I will take a shower, wash my hair and eat ice cream!🤪
But I wanted to let you know how grateful I am that I saw this video again. To know my mind needs to feel what it feels for a bit. I will move on.. but today I had a good pity party for myself and what was…
Bless you and yours
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Melissa, this video is just what I needed to hear. I love your down to earth attitude and being a southern girl I appreciate what you stand for.
I just love your honesty!! This year has devastated me, I have a hard time saying that to friends...they seem to be coping better than I am emotionally. Right now health is everything to me and my husband. I miss seeing my family and friends. We are distancing and rarely getting out, really only when necessary. I am in Tennessee like you, we seem to be growing in Covid cases which is unsettling. Thank you for sharing!!! Stay well!
Doris, I just feel so much for you. After realizing your financial circumstances are different, realizing that you miss your friends and family is so hard. I try to remember it is a moment in time, and it's hard to find positive sometimes. Yes, we sure are growing. Thank you and be safe. Love, Melissa
I hope you’re getting outside in the sunshine & going hiking, having picnics, biking, etc. A silver lining to this is the outdoors is wonderful & all it offers is FREE plus it makes you feel amazing & is incredibly healthy to walk in sun & synthesize the very vital nutrient Vit D; so important for immune system! 🌞
Your hair color looks perfect! Omar Kaiman said, " In the dew of little things life finds it's morning and is refreshed". Yes, what we are experiencing is unreal! But we must know this too will pass.
Thank you!!! Oh I love that thought. Thank you so much! Love, Melissa
Thank you so much Melissa for our honesty. It was such a helpful video! 👍🏼👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
This is a video of wisdom. Change is an adjustment, but reality is fierce and swift at times. I have been here and then I realized what I have. Wear all your nice things now. Our situation has taught us that tomorrow is not a guarantee. Enjoy today, there is no shame in reality.
You are beautiful inside and out. 💕I needed to hear this and I could listen to you all day! We have to remember how blessed we are and health is a priority right now. Thank you for putting something meaningful on You Tube! 😘
I honestly feel after this Covid situation we are facing in the world I don’t need so much stuff. Material things are not the most important thing for me right now. I work from home and I wear comfortable clothing don’t have the need for material stuff. Great video . I feel I have become more simple. Our financial situation at home hasn’t change but I feel I really tired of so much Material things.
I feel like that, too. And I realized it wasn't a bad thing. I was still me just with less stuff. Thank you so much! Love Melissa
This was really inspirational. We've had to make some financial choices too, and it's hard to break those old habits of "I really need this right now". I sometimes put stuff in my Amazon cart but always let it sit overnight before I buy. Turns out I don't really need those things as much as I thought. Thank you.
Thank you so much Melissa...I reflected so much while I was out of work during quarantine...it helped me realize what’s important and what isn’t...also, I learned that needing and wanting are two different things
My husband reminds me often- “you can go broke buying bargains!” This plays in my head when I’m tempted to keep adding to my cart. Thank you so much for your honesty- you are truly an inspiration!❤️
Gosh what a great thing to remember!! That’s going to stick with me forever!! Thank you xxx
Oh, that’s good! Your husband is a sage!
Wow..that really spoke to me😥....I’m going to remember this for sure. hugs and prayers
yes! The illusion of saving money on a sale.... I have skipped so many this year and ACTUALLY saved money lol I have to remember: If I dont get anything then I really saved money
You have a beautiful soul and that makes you just as beautiful on the outside. You are not alone in this. I cancelled my boxycharm and getting hair trims every four weeks. Working from home and not using as much makeup. So many have lost their jobs, homes and people they love. Things have changed but God is in control and He provides. May I ask did you do your own hair? It looks beautiful!
Oh my gosh . I have tried to stop my boxycharm subscription but they continue to debit my account . Help
So right... we have two layoffs here
I suspect we are never going to be the same again. It’s so many tragedies that happened. I keep thinking about that poor man that went through so much, the Broadway star, that lost his battle. Such tragedies all around. Many thanks and stay healthy.♥️♥️♥️
Sussanne Keith I am so very sorry. It’s just difficult for so many people.
You are right, God is in control. If we turn from our wicked ways and obey His commandments, He will hear us and heal our land.
You are a sweetheart! I was very encouraged and appreciate how real you are. It is why I keep coming back to your channel. You are beautiful inside and out, Melissa.
Melissa, your biggest blessing is you still have Doug, Make happy memories now. Treasure each day together. My beloved husband of 50 years died eleven months ago. God bless you and your family.
I think you've missed your calling as a Motivational Speaker! That was so inspiring....
I appreciate your honesty. I find it not the material things , It's life experiences that matter more.
That is so true!!!! You know, I would MUCH rather take a vacation to another country than have designer bags!!! Those memories are forever. Many thanks!
Thank you, thank you, thank you for saying so many things that I've been feeling and thinking!!! As you said about your own circumstances, accepting our current situation has been difficult. And "grieving" for the life that we no longer would have was, I believe, a necessary step to moving forward. This was such an honest video - like a breath of fresh air!!
This is the most beautifully spoken video. From the heart and honest and I love it so much! It is a true testament that beauty really does come from the inside miss Melissa and you are truly beautiful on the inside. I love hearing how we all need to shine our inner lights. We have had to rely much more on our wits and what we are blessed with. My hubby loves his job, but he has been spending more time in his wood shop. It's all good.
Thank you for sharing. I was just laid off yesterday and I have to cut back as well. I going through the grieving process as well and you helped me so much. I have a UA-cam channel (sekitube) and I am focusing fully on it because that’s all I have left at this point and I am grateful for everything I have. Things will get better!
You have an excellent UA-cam channel. I’ve been watching your lash extension video and it’s so good. I just subscribed. You hang in there sweetie. I’m so sorry about your job loss. Be safe. Love, Melissa
@@Melissa55 Wow thank you! I am honored that you watched my video and subscribed it means the world to me! Thank you again
Such a lovely, honest and inspiring video. Sending all my love to you, your family and anyone reading this 💕🥰🌹❤️xxxxxxxx
Thank you so much for doing this video. I had not watch your videos in a little while, but decided to tune in and i'm glad I did. When we first went into quarantine, it felt like I was doing something wrong not going to the office to work, but rather working from home. It was hard to give myself permission to relax, that is not in my nature. Thank God, me and my husband never stopped working, but I have family that are less fortunate. I can relate to a lot of what you said about thinking things would be different at a certain age. I really appreciate what you said about it not being a character flaw to not be where you thought you would be. Thank you for having the courage to be truthful and honest. You are a very classy lady. God Bless.
Melissa, your hardship is serving a purpose of helping others to cope with this better. I appreciate your videos and your being honest and sharing all your experiences and advice.
Oh thank you! And I even hesitate to call it a hardship. Finances are bad, but we do have food and shelter, so I feel so blessed. So many others don't have that. Thanks so much, Polly. Love, Melissa
You are a beautiful wonderful woman. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us all. Love from UK xxx
I would love to see a video on your hair. Color, products, etc.
What a blessing to hear your humble and creative ideas!
Fortunately, I have never wanted to buy all those new eyeshadow pallets, etc! I’ve just always thought “why get them when I already really like what I have!” Excessive buying is an addition! Us, too, we really are now, much more than ever, so thankful for all the many blessings that we have! We have and are continue enjoying each other so much more than ever before! All this time to perfect our yard and porch and time to truly enjoy it! To be honest, we can afford for me to continue with hair, nails, etc, but I am really enjoying cutting my own hair. Truthfully, I like my hair cuts so much better, but I have a lot of experience cutting my hubby’s hair for years and I always came in from the salon and went straight to the bathroom and start snipping! Then, last Dec. I decided I wanted to see what color my natural color would be like, especially, with gray being so in! Turns out mine is white and I love it and so does hubby who was so against me doing it! Thankfully, I love outside and I spend every second I can on our back porch and patio!!! We even eat lunch and dinner on the back porch! We have a couple coming over later this afternoon to visit on our new cobble stone patio that hubby did himself this summer! They will bring their own drinks and snacks and it will be so fun! They had us to their courtyard for a while back and we brought all our own stuff, too. Sure makes for easy entertaining! I go sleep every night thanking the Lord for every blessing I can think of! So happy to hear that you have come to grips with this new way of life, too. Bless you! A lot of people are in the same situation and a lot in really devastating situations, you know. I hope my words are encouraging and not preachy because I truly feel we are really good friends like all your other tons of followers, I’m sure! You are truly an inspiration for sure!
The world we had been living in and the easy access to beautiful things didn't help matters either. They hire the best to make us want their products. Oh I love the things you are doing and I am so thankful that you can enjoy the things you want to do. That is just wonderful. I love your hair. It's a beautiful color and cut. You are such a beautiful woman and I truly admire you. Thank you, Gail for sharing here, and most of all, thank you for your friendship on Instagram. I truly treasure it. Be safe. Love you! Melissa
It has definitely been tough times. This time period has been crazy. My older brother was diagnosed with Gliobastoma and weve been hoing thru daily radiation and chemo. But still we make every minute count and we spend time with my children nieces and nephews my parents to get thru these tough times. We remain hopeful and continue to support eact other. Thank you so much for all your positive videos!
Oh I am so sorry to hear about your brother. It seems like we are getting back to older times doesn't it? Sitting on the porch and relaxing. I like that. Be well! And thanks!
What a wonderful, uplifting video! Thank you, Melissa, for reminding me of what’s important. ♥️ Now to go organize and clean out my closet...... 😊🥰🥰🥰
What a wonderful refreshing honest video. We all were too eager to be a super consumer before this virus changed the way we all think of everything in our lives and we appreciate your video instead of some that act like nothing has changed. You are right in saying that there is no shame in admitting finances are a bit tight but not many people do as they fear what others might think and so we applaud you for this it makes us all feel better about our choices. You begin to realise what things are really important and that is a wonderful thing that I think we will all carry forward with us. My husband and I have been lucky enough to work all the way through the pandemic but we know we are fortunate. I now scroll though my emails and delete all of the offers etc and new releases because I have tons of stuff I need to use up and I am enjoying using all my half full foundations, perfumes etc and I will never be able to use up all the eyeshadows I have in my collection. Thank you Melissa you are an inspiration to your loyal followers. Huge hugs from the UK xxxx💜💜💜💜💜
I never stopped working but it was so different....I am a Director and I have a team so I had to help them navigate their situations while continuing to work. Their mental health was and is top priority. My husband did not work for about about 2 months so that was difficult for him. We both have had some serious health problems and major household repairs too. We are committed to getting our son through college debt free and we will continue to do all we can to meet that goal...he is a rising junior. My shopping has dried up and I am really grateful. I don’t watch clothing and makeup hauls any longer....that truly seems pointless to me now...and I have everything I need.. I love your videos and Instagram stories. Take care and God Bless.
I don’t spend like I did. It doesn’t feel right to me. Thanks for sharing Melissa as I still think I could cut back more. Love ya. 💖💖💖
You always have the best and most beautiful looks. You have a wonderful eye for makeup and I always get such inspiration form you. Love ya lots! Be safe! Melissa
What a beautiful video! We are all going through these changes, and I appreciate the tips. Love the honesty!!
I love how honest you are. Thank you for sharing such personal information.
Melissa, your words are profound. I've experienced all those same emotions and now I just want everyone (I mean EVERYONE) to be diligent and please follow the science. We can get through this. I'm a grandma to two darling boys 4 and 7 and I'm fearing they won't be going to school this Fall. I love your idea to copy an eyeshadow palette with your own stash--that's so smart. I've done the clothes thing and have just about lost the 15 lbs. I gained in the beginning of the lockdown. I agree that moving and eating well helps so much. I just love your beautiful face and soul. Thank you.