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My Breast Cancer, Mastectomy And HRT Through The Years: A Candid Discussion
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- Опубліковано 6 лис 2023
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💖Hi Melissa, thank you for this video! We as women need to be frank when we’re discussing these topics so it can possibly help someone else. It’s also great that you put it in every day words. I’m a fellow breast ca survivor although my type was different than yours. It was invasive ductal but the subtype was not hormonal. Thank you Melissa and please don’t feel bad about being blunt, we are women who need to talk about these things, if it doesn’t apply then those people can click off if it they aren’t interested but it’s good for them to know too. ❤️
So true; I too am a breast cancer survivor and had a bilateral mastecomy with a reconstruction 5 years later; my cancer was not hormonal so I could not take anything but got a preventative chemo for 7 months; it was tough but never wanted a could of should of. During my journey the best information I got was what was shared by other women; primarily online. During the primary operation I had skin saving even though at that time I wasn't sure what I wanted to do; I wanted to be completely healthy, 5 years is the usual time they give you as been "cured"; I did not have any lymph nodes involvement so none were removed; that was lucky! I still see my oncologist primarily because it gives me comfort. He gives me a thorough exam; I asked him why he checks my breast so carefully; he says returns usually occur near the scar area; learned something new. I discuss with my doctor recently about HRT because I appear to have more UTI but said to me though they have topical form that stays within the vaginal area why would I want to introduce something to my body.
@@houston5568Was yours Triple Negative? Mine was and I had chemotherapy too as well as radiation because I had a lumpectomy at stage 1b, no lymph node involvement and BRACA Negative. If something ever arises there again, I will have a full mastectomy.
Thank you so much!!! It is hard to kjnow how forthcoming to be sometime! lol. I thank you and hope you are well.
@@houston5568 Exactly. I didn't want to look back someday and regret not taking this medicine and doing all I could to keep it away. This is so helpful. I want to always see my oncologist too. I think it will bring me comfort. I do use the vaginal form and my doctor said it's safe even with hormonal cancer. It really hleps "that area". Good luck and thank you.
Thank you for this!💕Melissa, I went into premature menopause at 37 and took HRT until 60. I have no regrets- in fact my doctor said that I protected my bones and heart immensely! We need to stop looking at HRT as evil! 😏
I am an RN. Sounds like you had a bilateral subcutaneous mastectomy. Just removed the breast tissue under the skin. Great choice. I'm 72 and never have taken HRT. I had hysterectomy at age 29 but kept my ovaries. Breezed through menopause with hardly any symptoms. I take no prescription meds and consider myself blessed. Thank you for this very informative video and being so transparent.
Thank you for sharing. I am 63, menopausal since age 48, and have used no hormone replacement. My symptoms were mild and managable, and I simply preferred not to go on HRT. I have recently been second guessing my decision as a result of all the recent chatter of how "devastating" the loss of hormones is to basically every organ, bone, tissue, system in the body. My weight, blood pressure, cholosterol, blood sugar are all good with no meds. It is comforting to hear an RN has chosen the same path.
@@trishthedishbliss60Same case.... Recently listening influencers all the time saying how "devasting" my decision of not taking HRT is for my body, even when I feel much better than before, not weight gain, sleeping like a baby... But the influence is so strong on the part of Menopause Taylor, and all the advocates that they even made me feel insecure about my own health . Fearing I am lossing my bones, my mind, my cardio health, my youth and beauty...losing EVERYTHING by not taking HRT. I don't say they are campaigning with any interest (it never crossed my mind), but the truth is that they are making much pressure in favour of HRT.
My mother was on it some years ago and got breast cancer. We visited gynecologists, oncologists, radiologists and ALL of them asked how much time she had been on HRT. 😢My own doctors (and I have visited several) agreed HRT the less the better Are all of them bad educated? Only doctors who prescribe hormones are the ones to be listened to?
Melissa, you’re such a sweetheart! Sharing your journey through all this.
I talked to you awhile back about mine, I had breast cancer in 2005. What alerted me, was the Man upstairs, I had pain during my menstrual cycle, in both breast, it was kinda strange, but I paid attention.
I called my doctor on Monday and he had me in to get a mammogram on Tuesday, Wednesday he called me and said Brenda you have a mass on your right side against the chest wall. I went on Friday to get a biopsy from my surgeon, I made him promise to call me with the results that evening and he said he would. So late that evening he called, and said it was cancer. I was mostly in shock, that is what everyone else gets, not me!!
That was a whirlwind of a week!!
My cancer was stage 3, and 3cm.
They did all kinds of tests on me and poked and prodded me.
I had a lumpectomy, chemotherapy and radiation treatment. My hair fell out and I know that it is vain, I hated being bald more than anything.
I got through all these things with the Lord’s help. It was tough.
During this time my legs were hurting so badly. Come to find out I was bone on bone in both hips. My doctor figured that the chemotherapy ate the cartilage out of my hips. So in February and May of 2006, I had to have total hip replacement surgery on both hips.
My cancer was hormone negative so I was not to take anything to do with hormones.
Glad to be alive today, but it was a rough ride.
I will pray for you and your upcoming surgery.❤
Brenda, you have so been through the ringer. It's hard to believe sometimes that we have gone through things we do, and you have just been through so much. But you just sound like such a positive person and an informed person and I think that is key to getting well. I'm thankful for you. I appreciate this!
I wore an HRT patch, Climara, for 17 years. I had a total hysterectomy at 31 due to ovarian cancer. Im 67 now, I don't regret using HRT. There is a strong history of breast cancer on my father's side; my grandmother and 2 of dads sisters had breast cancer my grandmother lost her battle, my 2 aunts are fine and have been for 30+ years as am I. Thanks for sharing your story, God bless you❤
I am adopted so don’t know family history. I have dense breast tissue (level C) and never had children (which supposedly increases my risk for all female cancers including breast cancer because I never had a break from estrogen). No doctor (including doctors at Duke University Medical Hospital and John’s Hopkins) would prescribe me any form of HRT. They all said the risks outweigh the benefits. I’m only trying to be helpful by sharing this. I wanted HRT, but women and men doctors told me no. Even for bio identical. So far, I am cancer free ... though I am always called back for extra mammograms and have had to have a lumpectomy for what turned out to be benign. I eat vegetarian and just do the best I can. Again, I’m only adding this in case it helps anyone else. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
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Estrogen-only hormone replacement for people who've had a hysterectomy does not increase breast cancer risk. Per my breast cancer surgeon specialist.
Really only your mother and sister matter
@@KateWoodehouseI read that too. And a female Dr told me that.
It is very brave of you to share your story with everyone. Your honesty is truly appreciated. I am so happy to see you doing well. ❤️
That is so kind. Thank you!
So brave and strong - thank you for sharing your journey, beautiful Melissa! Prayers for years of good health and happiness!🙏⚘️
I’m a breast cancer survivor. No one on my mother’s side ever had it, but on my father’s side a couple of aunts did. I’ve always been scared of hormone replacement, both before and after having cancer.
I’m a breast cancer survivor. I’m thankful for everything that you share and so happy to see you. You look beautiful Melissa. Prayers from Mississippi 🙏🏻💖🙏🏻
Thank you Debra! And I admire you! You are one of the strong ones that inspire me. 💚💚💚
I also had a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction for a very similar overall situation. I am about 9 months post surgery. Just FYI the most comfortable bra for me is actually a nursing bra if you can believe it. Less pressure on my nipples, poor things have been through a lot! Weird, but supportive and comfortable. I had numbness at the beginning but that got better for me, I hope for you too. I send you hugs and wishes for health and happiness.
That is good to know about the numbness. Thank you! What is the brand name if you don't mind my asking? I'm still wearing those from the breast center. Thank you!
Vitamin D3with K2. Best for your bones. 😊
Hello,Melissa
I was diagnosed with Premature Ovarian Failure at 39
Put on HRT immediately,no problem
I’m now 56 and still on it
No regrets
Thanks for sharing
Hugs 🤗
I don't regret being one it. I sort of have mixed feelings. Did the estrogen feed it? I just don't know. But I'm going to do my best to overcome any side effects from taking the new medication. I sure appreciate it!
You are so impressive. Never regret taking HRT…there is nothing wrong with that. I wouldn’t give up my estrogen and testosterone for the world unless one has the type of cancer you have and you have no choice. The research is there…do not feel guilty about that. I will be 67 on Thursday and getting married the same day. Have had 5 major surgeries in 7 years but yours tops it all. I think about you a lot and you hang in there😆😆❤
Congratulations on getting married. I hope you have many years of happiness.
I really don't feel guilty and I don't believe in looking back. And I had such a strong family history going against me, that I am not surprised it happened. And I got checked often so I could head off this type of thing becoming worse, so I feel like I did what I was supposed to do. Oh my gosh congratulations on your marriage!!!! I'm so very happy for you. I wish you the very best. Much love Melissa
I had a hysterectomy at 40 also. I took Premarin pills for 10 years. I would’ve stayed on them, but my doctor wouldn’t give them to me anymore because she said I was high risk for breast cancer as I never had kids. I’m gonna be 69 at the end of this month and fortunately I never did a breast cancer. I’ve had a biopsy that was benign. I had really wanted to stay on them. I hope you are feeling well as you look amazing. I’m traveling and in SC on my way to my new apt and life in NC. 💕🙏
I have a wonderful HRT doctor. She said that anyone on Estrogen (Estradiol in my case) needs to be on progesterone to balance estrogen levels out. The reason for this is unbalanced estrogen replacement can cause breast cancer. It is important to have hormone levels checked at least once a year. Hope this helps. Blessings to all.
REMARKABLE LADY ❤You are sooo wise.
I am so glad you made the choice you did 😊😘🫶
AGAIN my experience briefly, had hysterectomy at 40, found out Stage 1B in Uterus. Oncologist said 22 sessions of Radiation. BIG MISTAKE. My whole digestive changed. Given a 2nd chance, I will never put Radiation in my body. I would never put Chemo in my body, decided that long ago. My GP and my Oncologist told me I could not take HRT AFTER I had my Cancer. They said AFTER you have Cancer, HRT can cause issues. HRT DOES NOT CAUSE CANCER. After you have Cancer, HRT can cause issues. That is what I was told.
Melissa..you are wise not to take Radiation or Chemo..PLEASE AVOID THEM . JUST MY OWN OPINION 🥰😘🫶
So sorry you had to go through this but you look great and sound very positive about the whole ordeal. I took HRT many, many years ago for maybe 2 years when the issue of breast cancer was talked about and my doctor told me to get off of it. I then went through all the menopause symptoms but don't regret that at all. I rather have that than breast cancer. I know you will do what is best for your bones since you already are doing that and will do more. May God bless you and keep you healthy as you go through this journey. You are very courageous in sharing this with us.
Thank you, Kathy. It is a tough decision to make for sure. I do think the key for my bones will be weight lifting exercises. I sure appreciate you. Much love, Melissa
Smart!
It's not the oestrogen that's associated with a slight increase of breast cancer, its the progesterone. Infact years ago estrogen was used as part of treatment for breast cancer. It's a very individual decision with Hrt , but hope your healing goes well and recovery
Synthetic progesterone is associated with an increased risk. Bio identical is associated with a decreased risk.
@@leslieh3785 I'm in the UK. We use Utrogestan usually .
I admire your positive attitude! Believe me, it will go a long way as you tackle this journey. I had a stroke four years ago, and I was taking HRT also. The doctors said I could NOT go back on it. They didn't say the HRT was the culprit, but... I feel fantastic today, and I thank God every day that I'm going to be 71 in February!!! I pray for you often.
Thank you, Terry. Oh my gosh, what a scary time that was for you. I am so sorry. You look fantastic and I am so grateful for you. Take care. Love, Melissa
This was so very moving...Melissa, you explained everything so well..your honesty and willingness to share your journey will save the lives of countless women. You are beautiful, wise and have been through hell...and you are making a difference! I pray for you everyday....much always, Susan & Desi
Melissa, thank you so much for your honesty and explaining everything. I am so happy they caught it early and your doing well. I am 51 and I have been getting mammograms and ultrasounds since I’m 37 because my mom passed away from breast cancer at 48. I haven’t received any HRT because of my mothers history. I’ve chosen to go through menopause without it. Thank you for being so candid and may God bless you! 💕
It's a hard decision about the HRT. I did make the wrong one, BUT I can't go back so I'm looking forward. I so appreciate this. Love Melissa.
I was under the impression that the nipples and ducts are susceptible to cancer and should also be removed, esp. if you are going through the trouble of opting for the bilateral. Yt Menopause Taylor has tons of info on hrt and is currently doing a series on breast cancer.
Thank you for having this important discussion, Melissa. Your willingness to share your story helps all women who may be going through the same health challenge. Prayers to you for a continued strong recovery! 🙏
That is so kind of you to say, Julie. Thank you!
Vitamin K 2 is suppose to help you absorb calcium. It helped me stabilize my bone loss. Best wishes for continued healing.
Hello Melissa, I can’t thank you enough for explaining an sharing what you went thru an still going thru. Knowledge is power, on any cancer subjects I will always listen and take note, I’m in my early 50’s. An breast cancer does not run in my family but on my husband’s side most definitely our girls do get checked because it is so strong on his family side. I lost my Mom to colon cancer she was only 57 way to young, but in return my doctors keep a watch on me because I do have to get checked quite often. So thank you so very much. I hope you have a wonderful blessed week an then some 💖🌷
Thank you! It just pays to be vigilant and do what we can to keep an eye on things. I worry a lot, which I'm trying to get past. I sure appreciate it.
Just got really good bone density report, no problems, I am 70 but do weight training twice a week and its obviously paying off. Good luck Melissa get those weights out.
I am so sorry you have had to deal with these difficult health issues Melissa. Just this morning I was reminding myself to not stress over inconsequential things and to put all my thoughts on God’s goodness instead. God bless you and thank you for sharing. 🌸💕
Thank you, Wanda. That is a good thing to do when worried! I hope you are well!!! I appreciate it.
lots great supplements for bones I'm sure you know.. magnesium glucinate is very important to take for women with digestive issues..🎉
Thank you for sharing your experience, I'm in awe of you. I have a close friend who just went through breast cancer treatment. Had a lumpectomy and chemo/radiation and is all done now. She is also someone I am in awe of. It's amazing how many women get this so I am hopeful someday there will be a cure. You are beautiful inside and out as well, a beauty guru. Thank you again for sharing everything. It's important for all of us to know.
Thank you so much. I so hope there is a cure very soon. Of all kinds of cancer. Too many people have paid the ultimate price with this disease. Thank you and much love, Melissa
Thank you for being so transparent and vulnerable. I pray our Lord Jesus will heal you and keep you and bless you with a long and satisfying life! You shine His light so beautifully! Glory be to God of the Most High!
You are one strong and courage woman. I'm glad that the worst is behind you. I was just a bit shocked, that knowing your family history, that they kept you on the estrogen patch so long. I'm just curious.
I went through Premature Ovarian Failure at 42, and went on the estrogen patch and progesterone, but at 48, they took me off. Yes, being small framed and petite, i did develop osteoporosis. I was put on Prolia injections, which thankfully, over the years, reversed the osteoporosis. I'm sure you've discussed preventive ways of avoiding osteoporosis.
I'm so very sorry that you have been through so much. Especially on top of your Crohns. You know that you are always in my prayers, always. You're such a dear friend, and I don't want to see you hurting.
I must say, that you positively gorgeous. You my love, are a fighter. Bless you.Thank you for sharing your story. You just explained why you didn't come off of the estrogen. I love you with all of my heart. ❤❤🩷🩷
I'm so glad most of this is behind you now. Thanks for your honesty and kindness.❤
Thanks, Deb! I am glad too!
I would take the anastrozole too having discovered what type of tumour you had. I think your doctors have done very well by you indeed. Thanks for all that sharing; as an RN I am interested medically in your travels through the cancer maze. I shudder when I think you were so close to cancelling that appointment!! Love you heaps. Gai. X❤
Thank you so much! Yes, to double my chances of success and with all these grandkids I'm wanting to see grow, it was a no brainer. Oh my goodness thinking of cancelling that appointment gives me nightmares! Many thanks!
Thank you for sharing your story so candidly. I was diagnosed with hormone positive breast cancer this year, too. Fortunately, it was caught early and after two lumpectomies (the second showing clear margins) and two sentinel nodes removed being clear, I only received radiation and no chemo. I’m also on anastrozole and side effects are mild and tolerable, mostly achy joints. I had a recent DEXA scan which showed minor osteopenia, so I’m doing what I can to improve my bone health, such as working with a PT on weight bearing exercises, eating calcium rich food and cutting down on coffee (caffeine) consumption. Cancer is a journey and can be all consuming at times. You have such a wonderful attitude, though I’m sure you’ve had some difficult moments. I work everyday at having gratitude and creating joy, even with cancer often in the background.
Thanks for being honest. In my opinion, females with strong family hx of breast cancer should never be placed on HRT. The risk outweighs the benefit significantly.
Thanks for being honest about this. You have remained so beautiful for so long, and I'm sure a lot of that has to do with the HRT, but there are downsides. Those of us who are online a lot and who are getting older wonder about what choices we should make when the time comes.
Hi Melissa, I had ductal carcinoma also. Stage 0..was caught very quickly. Not invasive. Had a lumpectomy and 21 days radiation. This was during pandemic. Immediately after I had covid vaccine. It was recommended that I take HRT also, but onocologist said I had negative receptors and it would not help. I have been clear for two years. I have been doing the eliptical several times a week. That helps with lymph system. Eat alot of yogurt, kale and blueberries. Thank you for sharing what you have gone through. This is very helpful to all women no matter what their age.
Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for your explanation Melissa. Didn’t even know it was possible to save the skin that covers the breast. I’m thinking that if the breasts still look normal apart from the surgery scars it must be easier to come to terms with psychologically.
Can’t believe how well you are healing. Your positive attitude before and after the surgery has been a credit to you. Wishing you a future of good health. Xx
That's why I wanted to mention it, so people could be sure to consider it if they are so inclined. I sure do thank you!
Hi Melissa! Thank you for sharing. I'm an oncology nurse & love when people speak about their journey. It can really help others not feel alone. Do you mind sharing what your hormone receptors were? These are the ER (estrogen receptor), PR (progesteron receptor) and HER-2 neu? Did you get genetic testing?
Melissa: prayers up. It's so hard to have to find the right balance of treatment, to where you can protect your bones (important!), and, still try to avoid the chance of it metastasizing anywhere else, God forbid. A lot of serious choices to be made, with the added complication of the Crohn's disease. You still look incredibly beautiful, despite the ordeal. I hope the worst is behind you, and, I hope also that your bone density exam results are good. Life does not get easier, that's for certain. Take good care of yourself!
Rosemarie. 🙏🏻✝️❤️🌻
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. It will certainly help others. Your positive outlook on life is beautiful. I was on ERT for 11 years due to a hysterectomy at age 36. I went off it at age 47, but I wish I'd stayed on it a little longer because I now have osteoporosis (I'm 62) and I am terribly afraid to take the bisphosphonate medication. I wanted to mention this because there are life-style choices you can make now to help your bone health, such a reducing caffeine intake to no more than 2 cups of coffee per day, lowering sugar, salt and alcohol consumption, eliminating carbonated cola soda, and getting 1,200 mg of calcium per day as well as vitamin D (this varies by person so your doctor would have to check your levels). Also, your doctor can write a prescription for physical therapy so you can learn the proper weight-baring exercises to do for your body. I wish I'd paid more attention to this advice when I was younger before I got osteoporosis because I have a strong family history of it but I was foolish and didn't even worry about it then. I wish you all the best as you heal and focus on a healthy future. ❤
Please if you have a dentist talk to him about bisphosphonates and what can happen if you have to have a tooth extracted and you have taken these I have a patient that we had this situation with. Please look into this the oral surgeon I used to work for has a pamphlet about this information look into it before you make this decision.❤️
@@southernsass7624 Yes, I have been reading about what you are saying!!! Thank you for mentioning it.!
I'm reluctant to take it too. The problem with me is I have tried to take calcium before and it messed up my Crohn's disease. I might try again but I'm worried about triggering that. I swear sometimes I think I'm going mad. I will stay awake at night just worried about my body to be honest. Anyway, I'm going to do the best I can and I guess that's all I can do. Much love and thanks, Melissa
@@Melissa55It would be a good idea to get a thorough check up with your dentist before starting your treatment so they are aware and can assess any issues you have before you start😊❤️So thankful you shared in depth your experience so others can use this information ❤
✨♥️COURAGEOUS!♥️✨
🙏🏻Praying for Full Recovery n Restoration😇
I recently quit hrt because of estrogen buildup . Its been maybe two months an my skin is looking very dry. I am told i had beginning of osteoporosis...... So i want to help my bones an heart. Ive ordered some progesterone only. Later i will take a plant based estrogen. My sister in law had masectomy but they did a fat transfer. I hope it works out well an you stay healthy.
You have been through SO much in one lifetime!....thank you for sharing...you may save a life, my dear. Many prayers continuing for your recovery. Love you much!♥❣❣
Hi Melissa, thank you for this. You mentioned your bones at the beginning and throughout. Have you been getting bone density tests over the years so you know ‘where you are starting’?
I was on aggressive chemo for a year in 2010. At the time they said the chemo would definitely weaken my bones but there was no good reason to think I would survive (Stage IV breast) so I went all in on aggressive chemo. 13 years later I am still alive and I have severe osteoporosis. To the point where the doctor says ‘don’t fall!’ I am in icy Canada and I have fallen a few times but so far no breaks. I’m 60 years ago and live in fear of falling. Stay on top of your bone health! (I am aware of the drugs available to strengthen bones but those are a slippery slope between improving the strength of the bones and going too far where they get so hard they are brittle. Not for me, at least right now).
Thank you so much for such an honest description of your mastectomy and HRT. I have a dear friend who has just been diagnosed. I can't imagine a greater gift to give her than this wonderful video. I'm on the lowest dose estrogen patch but there is no breast cancer in my family. With that said, sharing your story has given me some important things to consider. And, as usual :) you look beautiful doing it. Thanks ever so much Melissa, Allison
You are an inspiration! Thank you so much for sharing your story. I suspect you’ll never know how many women this video reaches and helps. I wish you the very best in your recovery. Your plan for the weight bearing and flexibility exercises sounds exactly right. Much love to you.
Beth, thank you so very much for this. I am grateful to you and all the women I have met here. Many thanks.
I was taken off Estrace after 8 years because my gynecologist said it was a higher risk of stroke. I had complete hysterectomy at 46 and off HRT at 54. Talk to your doctor. No cancer for me just take HRT cautiously. There are risks.
So glad to see you and to know the procedure you have gone through. Modern breast surgery sure has come a long way. I remember my Mother’s friends having their breasts removed with no hope of saving skin, nipples or anything. One thing to also include for bone health. Taking calcium and Vitamin D supplements as cleared by your doctor of course. Funny story, but I have loved cheeses all my life and am always snacking on them. One doctor told me years ago after an x-ray that I have the bone density of someone 20 years younger than me. So if you can tolerate a cheese or yogurt into your diet it really helps.
You are so honest and kind stay well love Maria from Cyprus 🎉❤xxx
Thank you Melissa for sharing your story. I admire you for this. You speak so eloquently and are quite the class act. As a nurse in the same age bracket and dealing with some age related health issues, I can say that no one fully prepares you for this period in life. It’s a real eye opener and not for the faint hearted! That’s why sharing as you did of your recent breast cancer surgery will be so helpful to other women. We cannot avoid how life changes, nor like the experiences change brings, but we can support each other through our experiences. You generously did just that.
You are very kind to say such nice things, and I thank you. No, we don't have much preparation do we? It can be jarring and make us fearful. I have had my moments of being afraid, but I think I'm stubborn enough not to let this thing break me. I sure appreciate you so much.
I honor that stubborn nature Melissa and can relate! Life can throw things at us unexpectedly and sometimes it feels like too much. Yet I do believe we are bigger than any circumstance we might find our self in. Gratitude is a big grounding force for me. I remind myself of my family or whatever else is going well. @@Melissa55
As a breast cancer survivor in 1999 I feel you explained everything so well. I too had ductal carcinoma in situ on the chest wall. It was tough because I have dense breast tissue and am fairly large busted.
It is so important to take notes, research and ask 10 questions at each visit. My first surgeon was a horror story but I will not go into it here. My good surgeon was fabulous and healing was a breeze under his skill and care.
Continue to heal dear Melissa and please keep us posted on future procedures. This video was so informative for many women.
❤Kathy
Thank you for sharing your story. I am also a breast cancer survivor who took HRT for many years. I realize now I had taken it for too long. I have osteopenia, but do weight bearing exercises to help keep it from getting worse.
God bless you Melissa and thank you for sharing your journey. I lost my own mother to breast cancer, plus my daughter in law had a double mastectomy at the age of 28. I understand your journey. I am on BHRT myself and I am 67, for my bones etc, I just ensure I always balance the estrogen with progesterone. Just me. I wish you and your family all the best Melissa, if I can be of any assistance please let me know.
What is interesting to note is that all your doctors said HRT does NOT cause breast cancer. Do you feel that had you stopped hrt early that your breast cancer wouldn't have happened? Bit confused here. You are a lovely woman delivering a most honest journey
TY for sharing your experiences, it has helped me as next year, I enter my 60's and I am on HRT. I am on top of my mammograms. Such great food for thought. I am following your journey and I think that you have made beautiful personal decisions and I pray for a healthy path forward for you. Thank God. Blessings, Nancy
I really appreciate your story and your frankness. I wish you continued improvement and good health. Thanks for sharing your experience.
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I have been a mammography technologist for 37 years, but I became a breast cancer survivor in 2014. I was 49 at the time of diagnosis and was not on HRT, but my cancer was hormone positive. I had 5 months of chemo, followed by a double mastectomy (nipple sparing), radiation therapy, and breast reconstruction surgery. I also took Tamoxifen for 7 1/2 years. I can honestly say I have no regrets with the choices I made, and I would do it all the same way if I had it to do over. I have used my story to educate and inspire other ladies who are dealing with a breast cancer diagnosis, especially my sweet patients. God bless you as you share your story and use this experience to touch other lives.
Hi Melissa I have always been so impressed by your goodness, humility, and your honesty. I am so impressed by your talk about your journey. I learned so much. What is scary to me is I used to think once we reached sixty we were pretty well off as far as the chance of getting breast cancer…not true. I hear more and more people talk about getting it. I had a hysterectomy at age thirty six. I had troubled teen foster sons and I wanted to not deal with hot flashes , anxiety , depression etc so I asked that the morning I woke up after surgery that they give me a hormone. I took Premarin for two years and it did nothing for me. I then went on Estradiol and have been on it for thirty one years. It is a low dosage and I take a hal of a tablet. If I miss a couple days I get a bad headache and hot flashes. I am now wondering if I should go off of it. I have a horrible horrible back but I don’t have osteoporosis or osteopenia. I don’t regret taking it, because I had a bad fall in 2015 and surgery and still have bulging discs, arthritis, severe stenosis..could go on and on but without estrogen I may have had a broken back. It was so interesting that you got to keep the skin and nipple. I think your reconstruction will be so much easier. I am a d cup, so if I ever went through that I probably could not do that. I never understand ladies wanting to have bigger breasts. It is harder on your shoulders and back. Your range of motion is so good l I remember your exercise routine. I just think you will do great. I do remember the Tamoxifen giving my mother-in-law hot flashes but she was younger and maybe why. She had no other side effects and she is ninety three now. She had breast cancer in her early fifties. Melissa you look well, your skin is glowing, and you look beautiful. Your positive attitude will help so so many women. I hope I never have to go through breast cancer, but if I do I sure hope I would have your resilience. Thank you for this. You did a great job and you explained everything perfectly. Much love , hugs and continued prayers. Oh, my husband’s knee replacement still is numb. He said someone could probably put a match out on one part and he would not feel it. I guess that is just a part of surgery. Take care..love to your husband and family. ❤❤❤
You know, I think you just have to sit down and weigh the pros and cons. I haven't had a hard time going off the HRT, and maybe it's because I took it so long. And so far the new medicine hasn't bothered me. There is no easy answer. It's been taken out of my hands whether to take it or not, but I would still be on it if I hadn't gotten cancer. Thank you so very much!!!!!
No, you may be able to if needed, I am a 30H and they did the exact same surgery on me! It is case by case. See a plastic surgeon that specializes in cancer reconstruction first. The first surgeon told me I was too big and refused me a bi lateral mastectomy... old school training perhaps?? It was a female oncology surgeon, horrible experience.
@@MelindaPerinoBebb So sorry you had to go through such a bad experience ..but glad you got someone good. I just love Melissa and it is funny how we get attached to these utubers and I feel like I got even more friends now. 💕💕💕💕 Sending hugs from WV
You inspire!!! Please keep us updated because you are helping so many of us. I am certainly interested in anything you are doing for your bones. I have not had breast cancer but I have osteoporosis at 68. I am petite and not much weight on my bones so anything you have to offer will help many who have weak bones. You shine with hope and your faith in God shows in your kindness.
I have osteoporosis from the breast cancer medication. Can I ask what you take for your osteoporosis? I tried Reclast but had terrible side effects from it.
There are some great UA-cam channels that discuss osteoporosis and treatment options. Just type in osteoporosis and they will pop up. I’m 58 and found out last week that I have it and see a rheumatologist next week. I am not sure what treatment will be needed but I am not interested in the bone building drugs because of side effects.
@@cindysharp4466 I agree with you about the drugs for bone loss. I want to stay away from them. And yes, there are some very good UA-cam channels to help those of us with bone loss. I hope you have good results when you see your Dr.
Thank you for sharing your experiences so frankly. I had a hip surgery many years ago and I had the numbness in my hip skin just like you are having. The feeling did come back very slowly. I believe it is as a result of nerve damage. I appreciate your openness and bravery in sharing your journey. Hindsight is often 20/20 and you did what you thought was best at the time. Make peace with it ❤
You look fabulous, Melissa! You're doing everthing right! Hugs ❤
Thanks, Sandra! I sure am trying!
Thank you so much for sharing this, it was very informative. Breast cancer does run on my mother's side of the family although my mother did not have it. I have had 2 aunts and 3 cousins that have had it. I had a lump taken out of my left breast about 20 years ago but thank the Lord it was not cancerous! I was on the HRT patches about 5 or 6 years but my doctor took me off of them after the lump showed up. I have a mammogram and just this year he wants a sonogram as well. Have a great week! Much love!!
Melissa, you are an amazing warrior and so generous to share quite frankly the details of your journey to healing. Wishing you a complete recovery, health, and vitality for many decades to come. So beautiful on the outside and inside, too, you are! Hugs ~Janis
Thank you for being so open and candid about your experience. Regarding HRT, it is always so hard to know what is best. I have heard HRT protects the brain (memory) and the heart (as long as people don’t drink alcohol when on it). My mother had horrible menopause symptoms and chose NOT to go on HRT, ended up with breast cancer in her 70’s and developed dementia. Who knows whether being on HRT would have saved her brain? She may have still gotten breast cancer in either scenario. Our bodies are so individualized. We have to do what is best for ourselves based on our personal experiences and medical advice.
So sorry this has happened to you. But you will be helping so many women who experience the same diagnosis! You are such a good role model for taking care of yourself. Prayers for continued successful healing!
Thank you Melissa for giving us the details of your surgery and what you have been going thru. You are one brave woman for sure, helping others who are going thru this or having to make that decision. I’m soon to be 70 and have been on some kind of HRT since my partial hysterectomy in my late 30’s or early 40’s. I’ve been on Bio-TE pellets for about 10 years and my Dr told me on my last visit that he’s going to start reducing my dosage to wean me off at my age. I’m praying I don’t develop anything from not being on HRT. I’m so afraid it could cause dementia or Alzheimer’s, I don’t know if it can I’m too scared to research that. Praying for you.🙏🏻🥰
It is so normal to be afraid. I was, too. . But I have not had a single symptom since going off the HRT. In fact, I think I have more energy and feel better. I have wondered if I had like an estrogen overload. So don't be afraid if you need to go off of it. Do your crosswords!!! lol Much love, Melissa
@@Melissa55 cross words, you mean actual crosswords?
Wishing you all the best on your breast cancer journey, Melissa! Thank you for sharing with us as you may help someone! Have you seen Menopause Taylor's UA-cam channel, website and books? Fascinating information provided by Dr. Barbara Taylor, MD. ❤
Most women now, are very open about their own experiences. Topical oestrogen has always been good for those of us who have hysterectomy. Not only for bones, but for all of the other oestrogen deficiency conditions that we have. Struggling without oestrogen can cause all kinds of problems. It's a fine balance though. I will stay on it in very low dose (1/2 pump per day) for as long as possible. Being off of it makes me very unwell and feel old and cranky. My mother as. you know has breast cancer. She has stage 3. It does not run in our family and so this is just one of those things. She has coeliac disease and whilst there is no link there, it still means she is fairly vulnerable. Especially at 85. She is due to have radiotherapy treatment in a a few weeks after having had a fairly radical lumpectomy.. It is all down to our genes as to whether we are predisposed. And there are so many types of breast cancers. I will remain on my oestrogen gel as it provides me with a quality of life that I benefit from. Mum never used HRT but she had very bad curvature of the spine now because of that. I hope you find that you continue to feel okay without your HRT... it can take a while to come out of your system after having been on it for so long. Glad you're doing okay. x
my experience exactly. HRT was great but I should have stopped sooner. Was diagnosed with HER2 breast cancer. Took HRT for all the good reasons, but my advice is get off it as soon as you can.
You’re doing great Melissa! That numbness will start to go away. I had my lumpectomy on March 13, finished radiation in the middle of June. I still have some numbness under my arm from the lymph node removal, much better than before. I had the same kind of cancer. I’m on letrozole/femara. It’s giving me hot flashes, so I have to take clonidine for that. Not fun, but I feel thankful like you. I know mine could have been so much worse. God bless you. ❤
Wonderful video. Knowledge is power & we women need it. I had a complete hysterectomy at 40 & was put on estrogen. The doctor said I was young & needed to protect my bones. I stayed on it about a year. I took myself off it. I was so scared of cancer. My mom had it & hers was hormone fed. She went through quite a bit. Her oncologist told her I’d probably have cancer in my 30’s. Thank God that didn’t happen. She was hysterical when she got home. She was so scared for me. I told her the doctor isn’t God so don’t worry about it. I thank God for every year of my life. I don’t know if I should’ve stayed on estrogen. Maybe I wouldn’t be in such bad shape. I’m so happy you did all the right things. I’m especially glad your lymph nodes were clear. Bless you for being so open. Love you, Lucy
💖🌸 Good morning sweet Melissa. I'm so happy to see how wonderful you're doing. This video was so important. I'm glad that you've decided to tell us your story. Since my lumpectomy in 2011 🎀 I've been going for exams a few times a year. Thank you for sharing your experience that will no doubt bring comfort to so many. God Bless 🙌 💞
Thank you for your honest update…..it saddens me so much you had to go through this. I m 64 and would like to think I am pretty healthy, but one never know. Hearing you speaking about all this inspires me so much to take better care of myself. I feel I went through hell with my menopause….25 plus hot flushes a day, night sweats, mood swings.
One time I was sitting and talking to a vendor and one of my flushes came on. My face beet red and sweat flowing down my face…. He said …..are you ok, what’s wrong, can I help, are you passing out? I’ve never been more embarrassed. I didn’t say anything and carried on, this was my day for about 10 years. None of my dr mentioned HRT I had a partial hysterectomy…..that was it about 14 years ago. Now 15 years later I am DONE I have night sweats…..but oh well no big deal. I am actually grateful that the dr here in Southern California never brought up HRT. With that said……..thank you and I wish you the best always, you are such a “doll”, true inspiration….much love ❤️
Thank you so much for talking about your journey. No doubt you have saved lives by talking about the I, pittance of early detection. And to let others know that they are not alone. You are the best! xo. Patyi🌹
I really appreciate this video and the way you speak from the heart. You are in my prayers and I hope you make a full recovery and you have a very long and happy life.
Thank you for sharing your very private story. So glad you’re healing.
I have eczema and I chose not to take the injectable they recommended because it had a warning of increasing cancer in general due to it lowering the immune system. I will just deal with the eczema.
GOD bless you Melissa, for sharing. May GOD strengthen n continue to watch over you n Doug 💕💕🙏🙏
Melissa my best friend has had breast cancer and found the breast cancer support group to be helpful. She did the tamoxifen treatment. This is a life changing illness as it impacts you mentally, too. Thanks for sharing your journey. I am 68 and never took HRT. I was 50 when I became post menopausal. I always thought that our bodies were designed to go into menopause so I just went through the symptoms. That was my choice and I often wondered why others were taking HRT. I don’t recall a doctor ever recommending it.
I've done so much reading over the past several years about HRT. I'm still torn whether I want to start it or not at 52. In short, from everything I've learned the positives are of course how you feel mentally and physically. Some women truly suffer mentally during menopause. The hot flashes, weight gain, etc. Then there is the big stuff....supposedly it can lower your chance of dementia, osteoporosis and all heart related diseases (stroke, heart attack). So that has me leaning toward taking it.
The downsides are if you take estrogen alone, your chances of breast cancer go DOWN but there is an increase in risk of uterine cancer
If you take estrogen and progesterone together, your risk of uterine cancer goes down but there is a slight risk of breast cancer, especially hormone related cancers.
From what I've learned, HRT cannot cause breast cancer. But it can "feed" breast cancer, again, by a very slight risk
So it seems the positives of HRT far outweigh the negatives and risk. But still there is breast cancer in my family so it does scare me. I hope that gives some insight as to why women take HRT.
I'm so happy Melissa is sharing her story. It's truly helpful.
I was having a hard time with menopause both mentally (my brain being in a fog and the crazy emotions) plus some physical issues so I went on the lowest dose of estrogen in patch form. It helped a lot. Its like my symptoms were smoothed out. My mother had breast cancer and that made me nervous so I quit using it after 10 years. I'm glad I did it, but am also glad that I didn't stay on it.
Thank you so very much Lorraine. Yes, I think you are right. I've tried to make light of it and wave my hand and say, "I'm fine". But sometimes I'm not fine, and I hide that from everyone. Thank you for sharing this. Much love, Melissa
@@zsuzsuspetals Suzanne, I think you are right in what you are saying. I would still be on HRT if I could. Now let me say, I haven't had a hard time going off the HRT. In fact, I feel no difference whatsoever. But since I can't go back on it, I will have to do the things I need to do to overcome what I'm missing such as mental and physical exercise. Thank you! Good luck!
Hi Melissa, I’ve been in the medical field for 35 years. I think your explanations were perfect. It will help a lot of people. You are a good person. Thank you ❤ I pray that you will continue to heal.
I used an estrogen gel prescription & stopped it by age 54 & i still got breast cancer. Its hard to say what we should've or could've. Inflammation can cause breast cancer too. So there's that! I too hv bone issues so i chose not to take that drug. Each person has to decide what theyre willing to do or not do. I appreciate your openness. ❤
There just isn't a right answer is there? It's just important to be informed and make the best decisions we can. I'm giving this medicine a shot. It my bones go to hell, I'm going off! Many thanks!
Melissa you look like you’re doing great. BC survivor here. The numbness is normal, yes. Frankly I’m still numb 12 years later. Make sure you focus on exercise. It helps with the bones but also the anastrazole can give you aches but exercise will help that too. Sending love and hugs.
Melissa, I am a breast cancer survivor of three years. Thank you God. It has been a very hard and scary experience to deal with. I had surgery, radiation and am on anastrozole for five years. So grateful for the anastrozole. So thankful for treatment. It is such a hard place knowing what to do or not to do. What to eat and what makeup and products you can not use. What does not have parabens. Chemicals in cleaning products just everyday living. Should you eat diary? Your life choices are harder. God bless you.
Hi Melissa, good job in explaining everything.I am a nurse and had a bilat mastectomy, chemo , radiation, and five years of anastrazole.take care,Lisa ,we are now pink warriors.❤
I too had the bilat mastectomy. I have been taking anastrozole for 6 years now and the onc wants me to take it for 10 years. Unfortunately I have developed bad osteoporosis. Do you have issues with your bones?
Oh Melissa! I am so sorry that you had to go through all of this! Your story is candid and well articulated for all of us that could potentially face this. You are the epitomy of strength, determination and beauty from the inside out! I honesty can't believe how great you look after going through all of this and serve as an inspiration to women everywhere! I think a positive outlook is mandatory and your positivity always shines right through!! I carefully listened to everything you said and really appreciate you sharing your experience. Thank you and wishes for continued good healing moving forward! Wishing you and your family much peace and love, ~Jackie
Thank you for sharing your experience with breast cancer. I could understand why you made the right decision and your taking every proper steps to continue keeping yourself in the best of health. You’re an inspiration to all of us thank you for sharing your journey.❤️🌺
I’m glad you’re taking care of yourself. I am in the medical profession and I think you perfectly described this journey. Your description of the surgery was so informative. Thank you !!! Also a Tn girl
Yay!!!! Love you are a TN girl. Are you in Knoxville? If so Dr. Gibson did the mastectomy and Dr. Lo is doing the reconstruction. I highly recommend them both. I appreciate it!
You are such an amazing woman! I know there have to be many women who have been encouraged and inspired by your sharing this so personal journey.
Dear Melissa you are brave to share your story and I believe it's important we not be afraid of discussing BC and the different treatments. BC runs high in my family we know of at least five generations. My sister wanted a baby and after trying she & her husband decided on fertility treatment & she knew it put her at high risk. After 7 years of trying without success they decided to adopt and were blessed with a beautiful baby girl. Two years later at age 38 she found a lump which turned out to be an encapsulated DCIS. She chose as her treatment.a lumpectomy, chemo, & tamoxifen. It was a long haul, but she came out the other side stronger, more beautiful & she never missed a Cancer Campaign. We lost her in 2012 to an unrelated cause.l keep you in my prayers. I know sharing your journey takes courage.
You are a born sharer and a gift to us! We appreciate and treasure you, gf. You did everything the way I would. ❤❤
I had total hysterectomy at the age of 26 due to heavy endometriosis. I was under HRT which I stopped at around 35 years old after my mom has been diagnosed with breast cancer. It was hormonal caused since she was under HRT for several years after cervical cancer. I had no problems with bone loss over all those years - don’t be afraid of that too much! The menopause symptoms were quite hard, but now in my 50‘s it’s okay.
Hi Melissa, I'm so happy to see you, my beautiful friend!!!
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Thank you Angel girl. Sending you much love!
Great job! Women helping women. We need to have frank discussions and you did it. You have a lot of women who you have touched. Thanks you for your openness.
I too have walked this journey, 15 years ago In the spring. Melissa you are doing amazing, so proud of you. Attitude is everything and you will help thousands with yours.❣️❤️🤗
You’re very brave, thank you 🙏❤️
Oh thank you. I don't always feel brave!
Thank you, Melissa, for sharing your experience so candidly. I truly appreciate it, as I'm sure all your viewers do. It's so important for us to be informed about our health, risks, and potential outcomes so we can make informed decisions. You are the embodiment of my mantra, "grace, strength, and courage." Wishing you all the best, always.🙏
It really is important to be informed isn't it? And I want to really work to overcome any side effects from this new medicine. I sure appreciate it!
Thank you so much for having the courage to share your journey Melissa. Very much appreciated 💖
Greetings Melissa! Thank you so much for sharing the intimate details of your surgery. You are so brave. I think that any time we have surgery, it can feel like a violation of our personal body, at least for me anyway. You are doing so well! Love and blessings ♥️🙏
I'm on Prolea once every 6 months for my bones. I'm on Exemestane and a monthly Zolodex injection. It isn't pleasant, but I'm still here. Maybe ask your doctor about Prolea for your bones. I do wish you the very best. I'm thankful yours was caught early.
Thank you for generously sharing first-hand experience and being so knowledgeable. You look so lovely Melissa. Very very best wishes and luck as you continue to heal! 💕