Summary: 1. They are overly critical of you. 2. They intentionally humiliate you. 3. They purposefully intimidate you. 4. They mean to isolate you. 5. They are rejecting of you. 6. They want to exploit you. 7. They have a harmful level of control over you. Still watch the video for more details! ❤
@@fantastic_fern9135 If the situation meets all the criteria lf gaslighting then it's more than annoying. It's toxic. I mean over time people under such toxicity lose confidence in themselves and doubt and question themselves on every occasion.
Question Everything - Thought Provoking Ideas I tend to doubt and question myself when I’m around my dad, but it isn’t too bad because I only go to visit him every other weekend and on Thursdays
Nah bro mom doesn't give a s**t about my emotions that's why I watch how to be mature when you grow up and what to do as an adult i also but not always make noose ropes alot of them are just hanging in my room and I intentionally agitate my cat in order to scratch me in my arm (the cat is vaccinated) to cause scratches so it's not considered self harm and some good excuse to tell my mom
@Bacon Bandito Both are harmful. What is your intention in coming on this channel and being negative, invalidating people's feelings and illnesses, and just being a garbage human being? Seriously, why?
@Bacon Bandito I don't think it was saying that it should be taken more seriously than other forms of abuse, but it should be taken more seriously than it currently is.
When i was in grade 8 i was emotionally abused by my teacher she gave me severe anxiety and depression and i still have it to this day years and years later. My anxiety and depression has gotten a little bit better over the years but it's always going to still be lingering behind me. most likely for the rest of my life. Anyone out there suffering with any kind of mental illness depression and anxiety You Are Not alone in this battle. I know you probably hear that all the time that You Are Not Alone but it's 100% true. One thing that helps me through the years was this ''Just remember you are freaking Legend because nothing is more terrifying then going to war with your mind every single day''
having strict parent be like: will she be angry if I didn’t get A,will he be angry if I had a nightmare or will she be angry if I forgot to do my chores?
@@haydensl23 -- I'm 70, by the way, and I can relate. At your age I endured being called "Knot Head" by a father who apparently couldn't remember what my real name is. I have not grieved for him in the thirty years since his death. Good riddance!
At least they are fine with you getting A , when i got straight A's in my third semester the only thing my dad told me was: your grades are lower, and i may seem sensible but it really hurt that he told me that, it made me feel like it wasnt enough the effort that i put to get those A's especially cause he yells at me all the time and everything bad that happens it's my fault.
I watched the movie again recently. Aside from the abuse and the trauma, I feel like Charlie's dilemma (and Sam's, for that matter) is largely universal. So many of us are afraid to accept love, especially from ourselves, because we think we're not worthy of it. We settle for loneliness and anguish because we believe that's the best we can hope for. And some of us go to the extreme of disregarding our own needs to satisfy others because we can't realistically imagine someone giving us genuine compassion. Some people struggle with this more than others, but I don't think anyone is really safe from the pain of fear that Charlie exemplifies. We all fight the same war, just in different ways. And sometimes, we have to help each other fight. That's life, it seems. But after we fall, what shall be said for us? What stories shall be told of our efforts? I do not know. All I can say now is that this war alone does not define any one of us. We are not soldiers doomed to fight for eternity. We are not a sad story. *We are alive. We are infinite.*
@@elizabethnoel7103 Thanks, every so often I can use a reminder that I got on well with my father. My mother died of cancer when I was quite young. I suppose getting along with parents is a lucky thing, since I know a lot of people who didn't. My peer relations in school were universally awful, though.
["They intentionally humiliate you"] There's a reason why I avoid talking to my younger brother. Almost every second or third thing he ever says to me is another insult. He thinks he's being funny and I've made it explicitly clear to him that his words offend me but he just casually says that he doesn't care and continues like nothing happened. ["They want to exploit you"] Yeah, there's only so many times that someone could ask me to lend them money before I consider ignoring them once I'm able to move out (grandma). Also no, I will not help you buy that new game you want. I don't care if it's Christmas, I'd give you a lump of coal if I actually cared enough to make the effort of getting one (little bro). ["They have a harmful level of control over you"] I'm usually afraid to do just about anything in front of my grandmother because she seems to have dedicated her life to calling me out for every little thing I do "wrong" (or at least not her way) and most of these are just common mistakes that anyone could make. Actually you know what, let's add her to the "intentionally humiliate you" group too. Because, whenever she does find these mistakes, she lectures me as if I do this every day even if it was literally only the third time I had done this during that year. In fact, she'll even tell me word-for-word that anyone with common sense wouldn't have let that stuff happen as if everyone else in the world is supposed to have a spider sense for when a shirt on the other half of a clothes line, outside of your field of vision, decides to fall off because of a sudden gust of wind! Even when she "apologizes", she still makes it sound as if I was the reason for her behaviour. And you know what the worst part is? She makes her words sound polite at all times so I haven't noticed anyone else in my family showing any signs of discomfort around her in the slightest. Everyone loves her and since she doesn't sound like she's being rude or offensive, it's not like I could actually bring it up without looking like the bad guy of the situation. It's not that she's actively being malicious either, she genuinely believes that she has done anything wrong. Even when I've called her out on her rudeness before, she just redirects the blame to me like always. *Sigh* Sorry, I just really needed to vent.
Damn that's rough.. i hope you get away from these people as soon as possible. everyone deserve love not this shit. i also have a brother that would intentionally misgender me a lot of time + gave me trauma etc. i avoid him as well, bc he make me feel like i'm not valid for no reason.
As a survivor of post traumatic depression, sexual assault , depression , adhd and a survivor of emotional abuse...i love this chanel for what its doing my favourite chanel ...and it just so wow ...i respect this chanel so much ❤
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Yes. I wish I had known all these warning signs previously. :( I'm sad I had to go through years of it, but thankful that there's help like this out there for other people who were like me, and can recognize the abuse earlier...they might be able to get out of the abusive relationships sooner than I was able to. It's still very difficult to leave, but maybe it will help to know you don't deserve the abuse you are taking...
Same, and they are. But I already knew this already. There’s nothing I can do about it anyways I am to young. 😭😭 and can’t go anywhere, mostly because of this pandemic going on.
@Cøffəə Løaf I'm not even sure but yesterday I asked my mom for a piece of something that she was gping to give my sister and she said to me to me that if i talked more then I would get more benefits. She already knows I don't like talking to people and I prefer my own company but she does things like these all the time. I'm wondering if this is a sign of emotional abuse or if I'm just making a big deal out of nothing. Btw I'm 14😔
Signs of emotional abuse seem unconfident or lack self-assurance. struggle to control their emotions. have difficulty making or maintaining relationships. act in a way that's inappropriate for their age.
Parents should really watch this kind of videos.....it will make them realize where they are going wrong in their parenting and will also improve many children's emotional health better. I hope my family watches this someday:'(
the problem is that they never will see what they are doing wrong. No matter if you show them the video or not, they continue their actions and ignore what was shown to them (literally a part of the video).
@@gymnastkristen5824 Exactly abusers don't care . They will never have the humility to say . I messed up especially if they emotionally abused you as a child. Or by the time they figure it out it's to late
It is really difficult to get out of a relationship when you have your own family and partner that is emotionally abusive. They break you down until you doubt your own reality. I am learning boundaries and being more assertive to my family and partner now. They all need to know you won't let them do this to you. Especially if they know you won't fight back. It took me 43 years from therapy to finally realize enough is enough. Emotional abuse affects you physically and emotionally to the point where you have medical conditions. It erodes your self esteem and self confidence. It is hard I know. I am still dealing with mine.
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@@Psych2go Yes! It was so accurate and I strongly relate to all of it. I recommend something a lot of people struggle with ''Signs of faking a mental illness'' or "Signs Your mental illness is real".. I've been struggling with this my whole life as well! - still - Thank you Psych2Go!
i just wanna say that this kinda stuff can sometimes be disguised as "jokes" or them "just playing around", after a while these "jokes" they can still affect your mental health
Everybody says that they should get out of the situation when their friends are in that state but when they’re in that situation themselves, it feels like they’re trapped
Bacon Bandito It’s not as straight forward as you put it. There are so many people in toxic relationships with people that they have known for since they were three and because of that, they feel they’re in they’re in the wrong since, they’ve known them for so long it shouldn’t be a big problem.
Bacon Bandito some people are conditioned to believe this behavior is normal, and sometimes this may be the person’s only group of friends...when I finally walked away from a friendship like this after being tired of being scapegoated the person proceeded to stalk me...watch my social media...and spread rumors to the remaining friends..it’s not easy dealing with people like this
Bacon Bandito because abusive people most times won’t change their behaviors when you set boundaries with them, a person can be as direct as they can be, but sometimes this causes the abusing person to become even more abusing
What everyone forgets is that people can be unintentionally abusive. Both of my grandmothers were abused growing up. My mother's mom, didn't know she had continued the cycle. She can be very childish, especially when she loses a game. She gets upset, and often says, 'Nevermind, I don't want to play anymore.' Then no one wants to play without her, and we're all left miserable. I grew up with this kind of abuse, because no one was brave enough to tell her how badly it hurt all of us. My whole family is dealing with mental illnesses, and disorders, and sometimes she makes fun of being 'special'. I do love my grandmother, and she is trying to fix her broken relationship with my mom. But I do hope that one day, I'll be able to walk away.
There's a difference between playful teasing as the occasional activity, and outright tormenting someone as a chronic and ongoing form of abuse... My friends and I would engage in teasing each other. You couldn't get by with anything remotely embarrassing around us... BUT we did it constantly within our friend-group... and we did it to a different guy most of the time... I mean, there were only so many of us, so repeats happened... AND some of us were a bit more prone to comical antics or verbal miscues and embarrassing goofs than the others. We could even get outright vicious (to the casual observer) with some of the insults and harassments. BUT we'd just give the guy crap for a few minutes and find something else to do, or someone else would do or say "something funny/stupid" and we'd dog-pile on them... which ever came first. AND we were still friends. It wouldn't sound like it about half the time... insults and threats and trash talk ongoing... we often sounded like we hated each other... BUT let some poor bystander decide to step in and interfere with our "picking" on one of the guys... even the kid getting picked on would join the dog-pile... Sent my high school principal to his office in tears more than once, just for "sticking up" for the target of "verbal abuse" at lunch... haha Tormenting someone to tears... Picking one "unpopular kid" and creating a non-stop bombardment... Never letting someone "live it down"... Yeah, that's not just teasing. That's bullying and abuse. ;o)
Yea, But usually it's my siblings. I can't say anything around my sister or she'll just point out my mistakes. I truly thinks she hates me. I remember once I was doing this writer thing and I had to go on stage and talk. I remember I started crying while on stage cause of my anxiety and once I got off stage. I remember talking to my brother and sister about my meltdown and they fucking told me they laughed when I cried. I couldn't believe it, I thought the would have a bit of sympathy, but they didn't. Is it bad whenever I think of my sister, I feel like crying. I know younger siblings are suppose to be annoying, but I feel like my sister is taking it a bit too far. I can't even count how many times she has made me feel worthless. I'm sorry for rambling, I just needed to get some stuff off of my chest, I have plenty more experiences but that's all I share for now. I'm very sorry for this again.
@@blackpoppies2765 Don't worry is okay! I get it actually! Little sisters can be annoying, but sometimes they take things to far. My little sister is so sassy towards me and rarely listens to me
I used to cry myself to sleep with an extreme pain in my chest. Sure, your words stab me like knives but it's most likely what I deserve to hear. Maybe I'm just too prude or sensitive or weak. I should just wake up the next morning and pretend that the light in my eyes are still there 😞 You didn't lay one hand on me but you left me bruised with such pain it feels like you did.
My parent's relationship was very emotionally abusive in retrospect. I never knew my dad bc he left when I was a year old, but my mum and dad were on and off a lot anyway. He was very emotionally abusive and is also a narcissist. I was born in 1992 and my mum has been an alcoholic for most of my life. All throughout my childhood. She was very emotionally neglectful and abusive and sometimes physically abusive when she was drunk. Even today, she can be very hurtful. Yelling, name calling, and recently, calling ME abusive when I yell back at her for constantly getting at me. I'm just trying to keep away from her but she barges into my room to continue calling me lazy and useless. It's not all the time though. But I do think that her relationship with my father affected her own personality. This has a knock on effect on me. Being an only child I could never reach out and talk to anyone. Even today I don't see myself as good enough as other people and even if I'm emotionally numb. It's hard some days but I get by.
This is everyone in my life right now. I keep trying to tell myself I shouldn't let it affect me. I'm trying to learn to love myself before it's too late 😔
I’m sorry to hear this, please surround yourself with healthier people and set boundaries with the abusive ones, you don’t deserve to be abused, you deserve love ❤️
Dang u precious human being. Just cut bad people off and if you can’t then I recommend you do some good mental stuff like.. exercising, eating healthy (and have a cookie once in a while ya know?), meditate, hobby, etc. These keep u in check! We’re here if u need us ❤️ 🙏
I'm going through the same thing it hurts like hell when someone you love tears you down, my bully uses my past bad relationship against me. You think you're confiding in someone who cares for you but every chance they get they throw it all in your face so it's like going through all the bad memories again, he says I'm worthless to society because I don't want to give him children, he says that's all women are good for. Thank God I have sense enough not to have children with this evil hurtful person.
This video caused me to have a mental breakthrough. Very straightforward and honest video. I truly appreciate you putting this out there. I feel like a free man rid of the toxic baggage where I could never draw closure. Today, I absolutely can. No one deserves emotional abuse!
I've just realized that my ex-best friend(whom I left her cuz of her manipulativeness) has emotionally abused me more than I actually thought. I have to keep these tips in mind for the future and friends. Thank you so much for making this video!
This is how I felt in my childhood. I didn't think I was being emotionally abused by my parents but it makes sense now. I think my dad did this a lot with my mom. He still does and I never realized that was emotional abuse. I also have done this to my siblings when I was younger sometimes I catch myself wanting to do it to others like my niece and nephew to get them to listen but I know it doesn't work that way. I feel like I'm being like my parents and that's what stops me from even using the silent treatment or humiliation.
From the age of 5 until 15, i have been emotionally abused throughout bullying and toxic relationships. Throughout growing up i have been doubting myself in everything i do. It may sound stupid but the bullying i induced for 10 years has emotionally scared my mind. These videos help me understand what i went through and what i am still going through. So i would like to say thank you for releasing this video.
My dad would yell at me literally over the smallest things. Even when I didn’t understand something he would yell at me. My mom was never happy with who she was dating. I was a only child so my friends had to help me. My parents didn’t understand what they were doing to me. I had to pretend everything was ok at home and at school. They put me in to a deep stage of depression from 12 to now. Most people don’t understand how serious mental illness can be. Remember to love yourself ❤❤❤.
Here are some I've experienced: Paranoid, projecting, make you walk on eggshells, name calling (even subtle), putting you on a pedestal then knocking you down, subtle comments that just feel really *off* - hard to explain but you'll feel it in your gut. Covert attempts of control, you feel like you're so close one day and hanging by a string with them the next day, but you haven't changed or done anything. Heavy mood swings, crazy making, words not adding up with actions, double minded (say one thing then the opposite later), suddenly threaten to leave, unwarranted jealousy, gaslighting, changing details in their past ''story' and the whole relationship feels like you're walking on a moving floor. As a result of this I have experienced nausea (when this person had an outburst) sleep issues, and pressure on my chest...none of these did I have when they weren't in my life. These things take a physical toll on you. These ppl don't understand healthy relationships or boundaries, so when you try to do normal healthy things like ..walk away from arguments or negative convos, take space, be silent (not trying to speak angry words) they will get very upset..bc it makes them feel out of control. I hope this helps someone.
I'm thankful to psych2go for this accurate video! Timestamps- Here's helping fellow viewers out as a token of gratitude 1) 0:47- They're overly critical of you 2) 1:28- They intentionally humiliate you 3) 2:11- They purposefully intimidate you 4) 2:39- They mean to isolate you 5) 3:03- They're rejecting you 6) 3:38- They want to exploit you 7) 4:03- They have a harmful level of control over you
My mom is too sensitive, overdramatic, and yells when things don't go her way. She's annoying, obnoxious, inconsiderate, inconsistent, rude, loud, disruptive, intrusive, mean and fake. She's also unfair and passive-aggressive. I can't. I'm just venting and don't think I'll get over it because that's who she is.
My mother too, the only difference is that now that I am a grown up I can put distance between us by living by myself. I know at least other two people who have similar mothers... It's very painful to accept the fact we suffered emotional abuse (my mother ticked all 7 the signs) from a parent, hopefully you'll get some distance and detoxing... You're not alone, take care 🤗
Mine too and she is also an alcoholic, i told her to stop drinking but she said "i dont care im already old" this is always her excuse. Whenever i have a panic attack she just said that its all just in my head and im just imagining it but how can she not understand when she also have a panic attack sometimes.
Thank you for this video. A few years back I went through emotional abuse and it would’ve helped me if I saw this video sooner. I hope for others struggling with this problem see this video and recognize what is going on so they can seek help. My heart goes out to everyone out there who has/is going through emotional abuse ❤️
If you’re reading this, know you are amazing. Stay strong! I was in an extremely emotionally abusive relationship. Once you point out the parts that aren’t normal, you can’t unsee it. Wish I had seen this years ago!
I know these symptoms. I lived with them for most of my life. It wasn't until I walked away from them that I started to recover. 😢😢 Even now after all these time, I still feel their shadow over me. Whenever I feel stressed, I kept on hearing their abusive talk down to me. These warning signs will never disappear even with help. The best you should do is recognize and acknowledge them. Transform them into a source of strength and self support. Professional caregivers can help. It is the best way to break the cycle. 🙂
I can't believe how much good I tried to see in my ex boyfriend whom I broke up with today despite showing me all these signs. Please don't excuse or justify their behavior. I made the mistake of ignoring all the red flags for 11 months and even then he still calls me despite blocking his number. Calls me cruel for cutting him off because of gaslighting, manipulation, toxicity and so many awful behaviors. I had to make this awful choice today and I still love him but I need to believe what he really is. Stay strong people.
starting to think I’m in an emotional abusive relationship with an ex friend and they came back in my life. I’m scared of them but I still want to be friends with them and I don’t know what to do. this helped me finally realize that I am in a emotionally abusive relationship. thanks guys
my dad and his girlfriend. my dads girlfriend threats me and my little sister. she said that shell kill me, yells at me for no reason, mocks me, ect. the only excuse my dad has is that "she was blowing off steam" or "she never grew up with other kids" or "she dident mean it" it really hurts when my dads does not stand up for me, and talk to his girlfriend about what she does to me, i already told him how it makes me feel, he brushes it off completely it hurts more than it should lol.
My mother does all of this to me... And once she had been called to school because my friends noticed and told the teachers.. When she came back home she started shouting at me saying I deserved it and it's not abuse...
when i was in 5th grade, my uncle on my moms side died and they were very close. this is when she started being emotionally abusive and sometimes physically abusive to me. she constantly tells me that what i wear makes me look like a homless person and that my hair looks ugly or stuff like that. shes also very controlling and tries to keep me away from people that i love. she has really high expectations for me. my whole life has been me trying to keep her happy. sometimes if shes really mad she pulls my hair. she even threatened to hit me the other day if i didnt stop having an "attitude." i used to cry every single day because of how miserable she made my life. last year, i was really depressed and even thought about killing myself, not to an extreme though. now i dont even have any emotions i cant physically cry. ive only told my really close friends about her being abusive. she also calls me a bitch and selfish if i dont do something for her. whenever i go to a friends house im always scared to go home because i dont know if shes going to be mad about something. but also sometimes shes nice which is mainly if we are in public or around other people. she constantly says "well i do this for you blah bla" if i refuse to do something as simple as gettiging food for her. im scared to talk to her about the littlest things like if i like a boy or if i ask her to go somewhere. she even got mad at me once for not making up my bed because i had school really early in the morning. can someone please tell me if this is actually abuse or if im just being dramatic.
Thank you. I think I just got out of an emotionally abusive text conversation, so this helped validate the awful feelings I’ve been experiencing over the past couple days.
i’m exhausted, this is so tiring, my whole family just abuses me emotionally. no one really understands me when i am upset for being yelled at by my mother, i may be used to her acts, words etc, yet it still stings so much, i love my mother with every ounce of my body, it hurts me when she can’t see the love i have for her, im slowly driving myself insane, i don’t know what’s real what’s not real. i feel as if i’m not even in control of my own emotions anymore, i’m so done with everything, i don’t wanna be here anymore yet i still am for my mother, with out me she wouldn’t know what to do. it’s funny. i know im also a troubling kid, but im still a teenager don’t force me to act so grown already .. i never speak about what’s on my mind, it weirds me out, but i speak now cause i have not one clue on how to get help or what the fuck to do.
I've just realized I'm being emotionally abused. If I'm treated like this when I still have my senses, I know what to expect when I'm totally dependent on my son
Deliberately trying to punish you when you do something wrong: threatening to break up when they don’t mean it (if they meant it, they would do it instead of threatening to), ignoring you, sleeping on the couch, saying they hate you, refusing to talk and no explanation why, treating you as if your feelings stopped mattering because you messed up, and/or otherwise purposely trying to make you feel as awful as possible because of what you did. People are allowed to be upset and needing time and space to cool off is one thing, and it should be communicated as such, but if someone cares about you it should never bring them gratification knowing they’re hurting you under any circumstance. Intimate relationships should have a level of trust that when one does something wrong or hurtful, the other knows it was not intentional and after discussion it therefore won’t be repeated or some sort of understanding needs to be reached.
I was emotionally abused by family and friends. It was so hard to have nobody to talk to and sadly still to this day. I won’t go into family stuff since it’s way to complicated but my friends would always ignore me. When ever I would speak they would look at my, look at each other and start talking again like I wasn’t there, it was like I was a ghost. This went on for years. This not only happened at school but during the summer for when I used to go to camp. One year they decided to hate my for no reason and the next year act like nothing happened. This happened in 2015 and along with some major stuff happening with my family I was so mentally and emotionally drained, which lead me to having major depression for 5 years and still. It definitely makes it so much harder to deal with when you are and (HSP). I would also be there for when ever they had a problem. When I needed them however, they were too busy with there own things and ignored me. What made it so much worse was as I got older it went from kids my age to adults. As of now I’m doing better, but trust me there still is a lot of healing that needs to be done. Thank you for listening to a little part of my story. And I just want to say to people who are going through emotional abuse. Things will get better I promise. Experiences like this will make you a stronger person hope you have an amazing day and have this virtual hug 🤗 because I think we all need it ☺️
Im 12… I suffer from most of these from, my mom. Thankfully I’m not anywhere near from suicide though I’ve had thought before in the past but in the end nothing will happen
I’ve experienced the first and last one. My parents always expect me to have good grades in every single subject. And when my classmates have greater grades then me, my parents will compare me with them. They say “Look at your classmates, they all have good grades in every subject, why can’t you be like them?”. Hearing this from time to time makes me tired. I feel like I’m stupid, can’t do anything but to be a burden. I also study a musical instrument. They wants me to study fast. When I’m studying a song, they try to make me study another song at the same time. Or study something that I’ve never seen before. They said “If you don’t know about it, ask your teacher!”. I just wanna say to them that, “Don’t rush me? I need to study one after another, not at the same time.”. I… have no confidence about my decision. I always ask my parents even the smallest thing like “Is this ok?” or “Am I doing it right?”. And, I think I intimidate one of my friend I met online before. I was just joking about unfriending. But when they say they’re scared, they don’t want to feel the fear of being abandoned, I immediately stopped. That time I just know nothing, everything, every decision I always ask my parents so I don’t really know what is good or not myself. When I know they’re scared, I feel guilty. I blame myself for knowing nothing and hurt my friend. And I still feeling guilty whenever I recall it. I hurt many of my friends too. That is why I feel like I don’t deserve to have a friend…
I’m experiencing 2 and 6 (humiliate and exploit) with a friend right now and I’m so lost. The other signs don’t really match because everything he says is so subtle that it took me a while to realize I was upset... it all just built up to a point where I get frustrated when he does something but I can’t do anything about it. I was too open in the beginning of our friendship and he’s used things against me. We are in a professional organization together and once he learned I liked someone from our group (I did not tell him this unfortunately someone else assumed he knew) he talked about the person two separate times in front of other people in our organization who I barely know let alone trust. Seeing my discomfort with this he laughed as well and I can see him smile whenever I get upset or flustered when he breaks my trust. He has also criticized my art when I never asked him for his opinion, and is constantly asking me to look at his art and do this and that for him. I’m tired of it but I feel like I can’t do anything because of the problems it may cause to our “business relationship” in the organization.
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It's funny that a lot of people think that it only occurs during romantic relationships when truly, it can occur in family as well. A lot of outcomes of emotional abuse are: -Anger issues -Major emotional periods -The more likeliness to cry. and so much more. I just thought maybe sharing this would help some people like me recognize these issues, and hopefully get a chance to get the help they need, unlike me.
I experience these signs from my maternal family and neglect from my father. Ever since my parents had a divorce, I have lived with my maternal family, and I felt isolated from my father while feeling gaslighted by my maternal family.
I was humiliated everyday and blamed for absolutely the stupidest crap and that caused my depression and the physical assault of my parents gave me PTSD
I've experienced almost all of these things all because of these things. :( Stay strong, everyone. God Bless. And thank you for making this video that way people will know what it is and can put an end to it.
saw this too my friends man wished i could step in god bless all but there’s always a problem on the giver to give a unessicery problem based on their own life to give a problem and cause suffering to someone else 🥺
I’m trying to move out of my house. The emotional abuse started in September of this year. I’m a server, so I make below minimum wage, and it feels impossible to move out. At this point I’m just hoping for financial success to move out, because it feels impossible. I’m so tired of being the scapegoat when something goes wrong.
My situation was complex. Had a 4 year relationship (got engaged too) which seemed great. No red flags like this to speak of. But I certainly got complacent and lazy. Then three months after the engagement I was hit with an ultimatum about my driving after a long road trip and two weeks later after a night out where I felt her distancing and reached out to grab her hand when she was dismissively walking faster than me and she revulsed, she gave me a 21-bullet-point screed of perceived deficiencies which she characterized as boundaries but most of which were orders and ultimatums. Things like giving her authority to determine what I can keep from my storage unit, and reading her mind to know when she doesn't want to listen to what I'm saying and thus self-censor me, but to provide emotional support to her (as if I hadn't been). One was a boundary though... an accusation of verbal, emotional, and physical abuse. Now it's he-said she-said but I do not believe I was abusive. I shouldn't have grabbed her hand to slow her down while walking, but I felt her resentment towards me in that moment and wanted to be holding hands walking aside each other. I can see her perspective but I think it was an overreaction and that by that time she was looking for reasons to dump me because she just wasn't attracted to me anymore. And I never verbally or emotional abused her, but certainly she doesn't feel that way and it's gut-wrenching to try to stand in her shoes knowing that. I come here to try to learn more about myself to see if I was indeed worse than I thought, but I can't help but to see that she was exhibiting several abusive symptoms towards me. She kept her negative feelings bottled up until the end. And I think we both were unaware of our faulty behavior, letting ego blind us.
I was an emotional abuser. I never realised it completely till I found this video. I let him go to have a peaceful life. I always cared for him and loved him. But on the other side I was abusive. I always fought with him for silly things. The fact is I never understood him. I always felt like he never loved me and that is the reason I fought with him. Am working on myself now. I need be a better person. Caring, loving, respecting person.
It's sad how 4/7 over these are true about my dad and step mom...even thought I was lucky enough to be escape living with them, But I can't get out of my consent mindset of "Will my mom hurt me for this?" When I know she wouldn't do that to me...She's not like my dad. My dad was what 1,2,3 and 7 were. My dad is a Hypocrite who would purposefully either make things worse for his benefit, Or Not care how he will hurt people. I've wondered for the past 2 years why no one likes being around my dad, And it's because he burned all his families bridges from his life, It's gotten so bad that his side of the family hates me and my brother now...everyone except for my Nana, She's the only one who cares about us, and still cares enough to check up on her son who treats her so badly. And my step mom is 3, and 7. For 5 years I couldn't be myself without her telling me "your a Disappointment to this family" "why do I even put up with you" "where's the respect your supposed to give me!" I never gave her respect to begin with...I just tolerated her for being kind enough to provide us shelter for a few months...the one thing I hated the most that she did was talk shit about my mom like I wasn't in the the same fucking room as her!?!but then when her and my dad got married she ruined my life... My mental health was so much worse when I was in 6th and 7th grade, I've had so many Su*c*de attempts during those two years, Ive thought about hurting myself but held back because she would have just told her family and they would have just laughed at me! Everyday ever since I was in 4th grade I was bullied, For so many things. And I could never go to anyone because no one believed me! My own father neglects me and yet still says "Im the one who raised you!" He didn't raise me! He just left me with random women who lived with him at the time treat me horribly, And all he sees me out to be is a Trophy! A trophy to brag to my mom that he won the only two things that kept her from completely leaving him for good! I never got to have a fun happy go lucky childhood...All I had were two step sisters that cared about me, But now there gone. Gone forever! And I never got to say goodbye to them! And yet...My dad still blames them for his horrible shitty way of taking care of someone...
6. They want to exploit you. I've been used a lot by people and "friends" whenever they needed me. And at some point I knew it was already too much but till this date I find it hard to say no, also because I know how it feels to get a no.. but again I'm someone who don't like asking others for help or favor because I don't wanna annoy them.
I always felt my mother was not a good person, but I never knew just how much she was hurting me until now. I love her, but I’ve got some serious thinking to do about our relationship. I won’t be a puppet anymore. No more.
Watching this video with tears in my eyes💔😭 Hello to my world...... I'm about to lose myself in this progress, it all started with verbal abuse and it's at physical Abuse, I really love him so much, although love is not always enough. Things just don't get better, if I want to leave him he doesn't want me to leave him(will beg me with tears in his eyes) , but I'm busy falling apart he promise he will change but nothing gets better.
“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”
― Ernest Hemingway
Think Different - Thought Provoking Ideas i feel this in so many levels
And Ernest loved soo many women.
im not special tho
Nobody ever really showed a lot of kindness to me ever so I just see other people special
Didn't he commit suicide
“No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow.”
― Alice Walker
Summary:
1. They are overly critical of you.
2. They intentionally humiliate you.
3. They purposefully intimidate you.
4. They mean to isolate you.
5. They are rejecting of you.
6. They want to exploit you.
7. They have a harmful level of control over you.
Still watch the video for more details! ❤
Thanks for the summary, it's insanely helpful! 😁
Sopratio going through all this !
@@craig3714 Oh no. I hope you get the help you need. ❤
It’s scary how much I relate 😭😭😭😭😭😭
The ones applicable to me:
1,2,3,4,5
Not quite sure about 6 and 7
Also emotional abuse:
They ignore you
They disappear when you need them
They ghost you
Gaslighting
Not making you a priority
No that’s wanting to be too clingy or dependent (in my opinion)
They don’t have to make you a priority
EchøFøx exactly
Gaslighting is the worst thing to go through! Definitely should be included in the list.
This is me
1: “very critical of you and holds you to a higher standard”
School teachers: 👁👄👁
And parents too 👁️👄👁️
Kinomiuko oh yea- forget about those 👅
👍❤️
and my stalker in school to
They might as well have put a dunce cap on me.
“Gaslighting are lies with a purpose to confuse and control.”
― Tracy Malone
My dad gaslights all the time, it’s annoying and I hate it
@@fantastic_fern9135 If the situation meets all the criteria lf gaslighting then it's more than annoying. It's toxic. I mean over time people under such toxicity lose confidence in themselves and doubt and question themselves on every occasion.
Question Everything - Thought Provoking Ideas I tend to doubt and question myself when I’m around my dad, but it isn’t too bad because I only go to visit him every other weekend and on Thursdays
Oh yes I deal with that now
I think emotional should be taken more seriously. It can cause self harm, suicide and more.
Nah bro mom doesn't give a s**t about my emotions that's why I watch how to be mature when you grow up and what to do as an adult i also but not always make noose ropes alot of them are just hanging in my room and I intentionally agitate my cat in order to scratch me in my arm (the cat is vaccinated) to cause scratches so it's not considered self harm and some good excuse to tell my mom
How's your life Friend
@Bacon Bandito Both are harmful. What is your intention in coming on this channel and being negative, invalidating people's feelings and illnesses, and just being a garbage human being? Seriously, why?
@Bacon Bandito I don't think it was saying that it should be taken more seriously than other forms of abuse, but it should be taken more seriously than it currently is.
Sup people
When i was in grade 8 i was emotionally abused by my teacher she gave me severe anxiety and depression and i still have it to this day years and years later. My anxiety and depression has gotten a little bit better over the years but it's always going to still be lingering behind me. most likely for the rest of my life. Anyone out there suffering with any kind of mental illness depression and anxiety You Are Not alone in this battle. I know you probably hear that all the time that You Are Not Alone but it's 100% true. One thing that helps me through the years was this ''Just remember you are freaking Legend because nothing is more terrifying then going to war with your mind every single day''
having strict parent be like: will she be angry if I didn’t get A,will he be angry if I had a nightmare or will she be angry if I forgot to do my chores?
@@haydensl23 -- I'm 70, by the way, and I can relate. At your age I endured being called "Knot Head" by a father who apparently couldn't remember what my real name is. I have not grieved for him in the thirty years since his death. Good riddance!
At least they are fine with you getting A , when i got straight A's in my third semester the only thing my dad told me was: your grades are lower, and i may seem sensible but it really hurt that he told me that, it made me feel like it wasnt enough the effort that i put to get those A's especially cause he yells at me all the time and everything bad that happens it's my fault.
@@lizlyrics484 I’m really sorry taht u have to go through this like I can’t even get a A so I think u getting one means ur smart
@@thatquietkid410 thank u , youre really nice
@@lizlyrics484 ur welcome bestie np
“We accept the love we think we deserve.”
― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower
My absolute favourite quote of all time, and it rings so true! 💖
I watched the movie again recently. Aside from the abuse and the trauma, I feel like Charlie's dilemma (and Sam's, for that matter) is largely universal. So many of us are afraid to accept love, especially from ourselves, because we think we're not worthy of it. We settle for loneliness and anguish because we believe that's the best we can hope for. And some of us go to the extreme of disregarding our own needs to satisfy others because we can't realistically imagine someone giving us genuine compassion.
Some people struggle with this more than others, but I don't think anyone is really safe from the pain of fear that Charlie exemplifies. We all fight the same war, just in different ways. And sometimes, we have to help each other fight. That's life, it seems.
But after we fall, what shall be said for us? What stories shall be told of our efforts? I do not know. All I can say now is that this war alone does not define any one of us. We are not soldiers doomed to fight for eternity. We are not a sad story. *We are alive. We are infinite.*
Ah💔
Emotional abuse doesn't just come from people in relationships. It also comes from peers in school and at work.
Yes and it's so weird to explain it to people who have never been through anything like this.
And your parents too 😪
@@elizabethnoel7103 Thanks, every so often I can use a reminder that I got on well with my father. My mother died of cancer when I was quite young. I suppose getting along with parents is a lucky thing, since I know a lot of people who didn't. My peer relations in school were universally awful, though.
It’s everywhere that’s why we got safe guard our heart ❤️
@mikasa gal and even family members
["They intentionally humiliate you"]
There's a reason why I avoid talking to my younger brother. Almost every second or third thing he ever says to me is another insult. He thinks he's being funny and I've made it explicitly clear to him that his words offend me but he just casually says that he doesn't care and continues like nothing happened.
["They want to exploit you"]
Yeah, there's only so many times that someone could ask me to lend them money before I consider ignoring them once I'm able to move out (grandma). Also no, I will not help you buy that new game you want. I don't care if it's Christmas, I'd give you a lump of coal if I actually cared enough to make the effort of getting one (little bro).
["They have a harmful level of control over you"]
I'm usually afraid to do just about anything in front of my grandmother because she seems to have dedicated her life to calling me out for every little thing I do "wrong" (or at least not her way) and most of these are just common mistakes that anyone could make.
Actually you know what, let's add her to the "intentionally humiliate you" group too. Because, whenever she does find these mistakes, she lectures me as if I do this every day even if it was literally only the third time I had done this during that year. In fact, she'll even tell me word-for-word that anyone with common sense wouldn't have let that stuff happen as if everyone else in the world is supposed to have a spider sense for when a shirt on the other half of a clothes line, outside of your field of vision, decides to fall off because of a sudden gust of wind! Even when she "apologizes", she still makes it sound as if I was the reason for her behaviour.
And you know what the worst part is? She makes her words sound polite at all times so I haven't noticed anyone else in my family showing any signs of discomfort around her in the slightest. Everyone loves her and since she doesn't sound like she's being rude or offensive, it's not like I could actually bring it up without looking like the bad guy of the situation.
It's not that she's actively being malicious either, she genuinely believes that she has done anything wrong. Even when I've called her out on her rudeness before, she just redirects the blame to me like always.
*Sigh*
Sorry, I just really needed to vent.
Mmangaliso Masinga aw that’s ok! Just know ur not alone so if u need to vent more I’m here!
Damn that's rough.. i hope you get away from these people as soon as possible. everyone deserve love not this shit. i also have a brother that would intentionally misgender me a lot of time + gave me trauma etc. i avoid him as well, bc he make me feel like i'm not valid for no reason.
there's a reason why i try to avoid school as much as possible. toxic environment and is unpleasant to go to
Try being humiliated by a cousin for 10 years since you were 6.. it destroyed my self esteem and self worth
As a survivor of post traumatic depression, sexual assault , depression , adhd and a survivor of emotional abuse...i love this chanel for what its doing my favourite chanel ...and it just so wow ...i respect this chanel so much ❤
Love how this channel is spreading so much awareness on mental health and other issues that aren't talked about often
Thank you! Glad you have you here! We are trying our best to bring up awareness on different topics that most people aren't comfortable discussing. What other topics do you like us to cover?
Yes. I wish I had known all these warning signs previously. :( I'm sad I had to go through years of it, but thankful that there's help like this out there for other people who were like me, and can recognize the abuse earlier...they might be able to get out of the abusive relationships sooner than I was able to. It's still very difficult to leave, but maybe it will help to know you don't deserve the abuse you are taking...
Still, we, on the other side, think, maybe there is something wrong with us....😢
This is driving me crazy!
i needed this, wanted to see if my parents are actually treating me right
:’(
Same, and they are. But I already knew this already. There’s nothing I can do about it anyways I am to young. 😭😭 and can’t go anywhere, mostly because of this pandemic going on.
Cøffəə Løaf The exact same thing I go through, it’s just my dad not mom. 😭😭
@Cøffəə Løaf
Welcome to my life😔😔
@Cøffəə Løaf I'm not even sure but yesterday I asked my mom for a piece of something that she was gping to give my sister and she said to me to me that if i talked more then I would get more benefits. She already knows I don't like talking to people and I prefer my own company but she does things like these all the time. I'm wondering if this is a sign of emotional abuse or if I'm just making a big deal out of nothing.
Btw I'm 14😔
Signs of emotional abuse
seem unconfident or lack self-assurance.
struggle to control their emotions.
have difficulty making or maintaining relationships.
act in a way that's inappropriate for their age.
I'm just that
Why does this sound like me? I don't remember anyone abusing me...
This is definitely define me
This is exactly like me
Inapropiate how, elaborate
Parents should really watch this kind of videos.....it will make them realize where they are going wrong in their parenting and will also improve many children's emotional health better.
I hope my family watches this someday:'(
the problem is that they never will see what they are doing wrong. No matter if you show them the video or not, they continue their actions and ignore what was shown to them (literally a part of the video).
@@gymnastkristen5824 Exactly abusers don't care . They will never have the humility to say . I messed up especially if they emotionally abused you as a child. Or by the time they figure it out it's to late
It is really difficult to get out of a relationship when you have your own family and partner that is emotionally abusive. They break you down until you doubt your own reality. I am learning boundaries and being more assertive to my family and partner now. They all need to know you won't let them do this to you. Especially if they know you won't fight back. It took me 43 years from therapy to finally realize enough is enough. Emotional abuse affects you physically and emotionally to the point where you have medical conditions. It erodes your self esteem and self confidence. It is hard I know. I am still dealing with mine.
Its not normal when your mother fits perfectly in almost every point of this topic.
Thank you for uploading this, I've been emotionally abused my whole life. And I swear it causes a huge harm.
Thank you for watching! I hope this helps more awareness on this topic. It is an important topic that isn't often discussed in the community. What do you think about the content? Did you find them accurate? What other videos do you like us to cover more on?
same
@@Psych2go Yes! It was so accurate and I strongly relate to all of it.
I recommend something a lot of people struggle with ''Signs of faking a mental illness'' or "Signs Your mental illness is real".. I've been struggling with this my whole life as well! - still -
Thank you Psych2Go!
me too. since age 5.
thanks school teacher. students.
It does :(
i just wanna say that this kinda stuff can sometimes be disguised as "jokes" or them "just playing around", after a while these "jokes" they can still affect your mental health
Thanks for this video, I’m just now realizing i was emotionally abused and neglected when i was younger, my household is a lot better now.
Everybody says that they should get out of the situation when their friends are in that state but when they’re in that situation themselves, it feels like they’re trapped
@Bacon Bandito its not that easy
I don't expect anything from my friends that I couldn't do myself.
Bacon Bandito It’s not as straight forward as you put it. There are so many people in toxic relationships with people that they have known for since they were three and because of that, they feel they’re in they’re in the wrong since, they’ve known them for so long it shouldn’t be a big problem.
Bacon Bandito some people are conditioned to believe this behavior is normal, and sometimes this may be the person’s only group of friends...when I finally walked away from a friendship like this after being tired of being scapegoated the person proceeded to stalk me...watch my social media...and spread rumors to the remaining friends..it’s not easy dealing with people like this
Bacon Bandito because abusive people most times won’t change their behaviors when you set boundaries with them, a person can be as direct as they can be, but sometimes this causes the abusing person to become even more abusing
What everyone forgets is that people can be unintentionally abusive.
Both of my grandmothers were abused growing up. My mother's mom, didn't know she had continued the cycle. She can be very childish, especially when she loses a game. She gets upset, and often says, 'Nevermind, I don't want to play anymore.' Then no one wants to play without her, and we're all left miserable.
I grew up with this kind of abuse, because no one was brave enough to tell her how badly it hurt all of us.
My whole family is dealing with mental illnesses, and disorders, and sometimes she makes fun of being 'special'.
I do love my grandmother, and she is trying to fix her broken relationship with my mom. But I do hope that one day, I'll be able to walk away.
Look, Doesn't anyone's Parents/Friends just tease you, but is kind of hurtful? Because same..
There's a difference between playful teasing as the occasional activity, and outright tormenting someone as a chronic and ongoing form of abuse...
My friends and I would engage in teasing each other. You couldn't get by with anything remotely embarrassing around us... BUT we did it constantly within our friend-group... and we did it to a different guy most of the time... I mean, there were only so many of us, so repeats happened... AND some of us were a bit more prone to comical antics or verbal miscues and embarrassing goofs than the others.
We could even get outright vicious (to the casual observer) with some of the insults and harassments.
BUT we'd just give the guy crap for a few minutes and find something else to do, or someone else would do or say "something funny/stupid" and we'd dog-pile on them... which ever came first.
AND we were still friends. It wouldn't sound like it about half the time... insults and threats and trash talk ongoing... we often sounded like we hated each other... BUT let some poor bystander decide to step in and interfere with our "picking" on one of the guys... even the kid getting picked on would join the dog-pile... Sent my high school principal to his office in tears more than once, just for "sticking up" for the target of "verbal abuse" at lunch... haha
Tormenting someone to tears... Picking one "unpopular kid" and creating a non-stop bombardment... Never letting someone "live it down"... Yeah, that's not just teasing. That's bullying and abuse. ;o)
Yup and despite asking them to stop they "think it's funny".
@@adventurousbec Ikr
Yea, But usually it's my siblings. I can't say anything around my sister or she'll just point out my mistakes. I truly thinks she hates me. I remember once I was doing this writer thing and I had to go on stage and talk. I remember I started crying while on stage cause of my anxiety and once I got off stage. I remember talking to my brother and sister about my meltdown and they fucking told me they laughed when I cried. I couldn't believe it, I thought the would have a bit of sympathy, but they didn't. Is it bad whenever I think of my sister, I feel like crying. I know younger siblings are suppose to be annoying, but I feel like my sister is taking it a bit too far. I can't even count how many times she has made me feel worthless. I'm sorry for rambling, I just needed to get some stuff off of my chest, I have plenty more experiences but that's all I share for now. I'm very sorry for this again.
@@blackpoppies2765 Don't worry is okay! I get it actually! Little sisters can be annoying, but sometimes they take things to far. My little sister is so sassy towards me and rarely listens to me
I used to cry myself to sleep with an extreme pain in my chest. Sure, your words stab me like knives but it's most likely what I deserve to hear. Maybe I'm just too prude or sensitive or weak. I should just wake up the next morning and pretend that the light in my eyes are still there 😞
You didn't lay one hand on me but you left me bruised with such pain it feels like you did.
My parent's relationship was very emotionally abusive in retrospect. I never knew my dad bc he left when I was a year old, but my mum and dad were on and off a lot anyway. He was very emotionally abusive and is also a narcissist. I was born in 1992 and my mum has been an alcoholic for most of my life. All throughout my childhood. She was very emotionally neglectful and abusive and sometimes physically abusive when she was drunk. Even today, she can be very hurtful. Yelling, name calling, and recently, calling ME abusive when I yell back at her for constantly getting at me. I'm just trying to keep away from her but she barges into my room to continue calling me lazy and useless. It's not all the time though. But I do think that her relationship with my father affected her own personality. This has a knock on effect on me. Being an only child I could never reach out and talk to anyone. Even today I don't see myself as good enough as other people and even if I'm emotionally numb. It's hard some days but I get by.
This is everyone in my life right now. I keep trying to tell myself I shouldn't let it affect me. I'm trying to learn to love myself before it's too late 😔
♥️♥️♥️🙏
I’m sorry to hear this, please surround yourself with healthier people and set boundaries with the abusive ones, you don’t deserve to be abused, you deserve love ❤️
Dang u precious human being. Just cut bad people off and if you can’t then I recommend you do some good mental stuff like.. exercising, eating healthy (and have a cookie once in a while ya know?), meditate, hobby, etc. These keep u in check! We’re here if u need us ❤️ 🙏
I'm going through the same thing it hurts like hell when someone you love tears you down, my bully uses my past bad relationship against me. You think you're confiding in someone who cares for you but every chance they get they throw it all in your face so it's like going through all the bad memories again, he says I'm worthless to society because I don't want to give him children, he says that's all women are good for. Thank God I have sense enough not to have children with this evil hurtful person.
*I'M WORKING SO HARD EVERY DAY TO MAKE MY CHANNEL AS GOOD AS YOURS, I'M NEW ON UA-cam BUT I BELIEVE IN MYSELF, thanks for being an example*
Is it like looking for animators or something you're struggling with?
i’m sick of worrying that i’m just too dramatic and that i’m ungrateful for looking this up
This video caused me to have a mental breakthrough. Very straightforward and honest video. I truly appreciate you putting this out there. I feel like a free man rid of the toxic baggage where I could never draw closure. Today, I absolutely can. No one deserves emotional abuse!
Thank you for this video.
I'm recovering from 10 years of emotion/verbal abuse. It's a hard journey of recovery.
I've just realized that my ex-best friend(whom I left her cuz of her manipulativeness) has emotionally abused me more than I actually thought. I have to keep these tips in mind for the future and friends. Thank you so much for making this video!
“My mom’s been emotionally abusing me for years,” I realize as I watch this. 😳
No wonder I rarely speak to her now that I’m at college
This is how I felt in my childhood. I didn't think I was being emotionally abused by my parents but it makes sense now. I think my dad did this a lot with my mom. He still does and I never realized that was emotional abuse. I also have done this to my siblings when I was younger sometimes I catch myself wanting to do it to others like my niece and nephew to get them to listen but I know it doesn't work that way. I feel like I'm being like my parents and that's what stops me from even using the silent treatment or humiliation.
From the age of 5 until 15, i have been emotionally abused throughout bullying and toxic relationships. Throughout growing up i have been doubting myself in everything i do. It may sound stupid but the bullying i induced for 10 years has emotionally scared my mind. These videos help me understand what i went through and what i am still going through. So i would like to say thank you for releasing this video.
My dad would yell at me literally over the smallest things. Even when I didn’t understand something he would yell at me. My mom was never happy with who she was dating. I was a only child so my friends had to help me. My parents didn’t understand what they were doing to me. I had to pretend everything was ok at home and at school. They put me in to a deep stage of depression from 12 to now. Most people don’t understand how serious mental illness can be. Remember to love yourself ❤❤❤.
Here are some I've experienced: Paranoid, projecting, make you walk on eggshells, name calling (even subtle), putting you on a pedestal then knocking you down, subtle comments that just feel really *off* - hard to explain but you'll feel it in your gut. Covert attempts of control, you feel like you're so close one day and hanging by a string with them the next day, but you haven't changed or done anything. Heavy mood swings, crazy making, words not adding up with actions, double minded (say one thing then the opposite later), suddenly threaten to leave, unwarranted jealousy, gaslighting, changing details in their past ''story' and the whole relationship feels like you're walking on a moving floor. As a result of this I have experienced nausea (when this person had an outburst) sleep issues, and pressure on my chest...none of these did I have when they weren't in my life. These things take a physical toll on you. These ppl don't understand healthy relationships or boundaries, so when you try to do normal healthy things like ..walk away from arguments or negative convos, take space, be silent (not trying to speak angry words) they will get very upset..bc it makes them feel out of control. I hope this helps someone.
thankyou. I resonated with this 100%
I'm thankful to psych2go for this accurate video! Timestamps- Here's helping fellow viewers out as a token of gratitude
1) 0:47- They're overly critical of you
2) 1:28- They intentionally humiliate you
3) 2:11- They purposefully intimidate you
4) 2:39- They mean to isolate you
5) 3:03- They're rejecting you
6) 3:38- They want to exploit you
7) 4:03- They have a harmful level of control over you
My mom is too sensitive, overdramatic, and yells when things don't go her way. She's annoying, obnoxious, inconsiderate, inconsistent, rude, loud, disruptive, intrusive, mean and fake. She's also unfair and passive-aggressive. I can't. I'm just venting and don't think I'll get over it because that's who she is.
My mother too, the only difference is that now that I am a grown up I can put distance between us by living by myself. I know at least other two people who have similar mothers... It's very painful to accept the fact we suffered emotional abuse (my mother ticked all 7 the signs) from a parent, hopefully you'll get some distance and detoxing... You're not alone, take care 🤗
Thank you for telling your story to us 😊
Hope you would get your happiness soon and have a good day ❤
@Lion Lyric im so sorry. i hope the future treats you well.
Mine too and she is also an alcoholic, i told her to stop drinking but she said "i dont care im already old" this is always her excuse. Whenever i have a panic attack she just said that its all just in my head and im just imagining it but how can she not understand when she also have a panic attack sometimes.
Your not alone
I guess my bosses are emotionally abusing me
So have I and it been hell. 😔
Thank you for this video. A few years back I went through emotional abuse and it would’ve helped me if I saw this video sooner. I hope for others struggling with this problem see this video and recognize what is going on so they can seek help. My heart goes out to everyone out there who has/is going through emotional abuse ❤️
If you’re reading this, know you are amazing. Stay strong!
I was in an extremely emotionally abusive relationship. Once you point out the parts that aren’t normal, you can’t unsee it. Wish I had seen this years ago!
The 3 dislikes are my toxic family members o__0
I was emotionally abused by my mom growing up. Now as an adult I'm messed up because of it I have anxiety major depression ADD and PTSD because of it.
When the video has just been released a minute ago and there’s already one dislike
I know these symptoms. I lived with them for most of my life. It wasn't until I walked away from them that I started to recover. 😢😢 Even now after all these time, I still feel their shadow over me. Whenever I feel stressed, I kept on hearing their abusive talk down to me. These warning signs will never disappear even with help. The best you should do is recognize and acknowledge them. Transform them into a source of strength and self support. Professional caregivers can help. It is the best way to break the cycle. 🙂
I can't believe how much good I tried to see in my ex boyfriend whom I broke up with today despite showing me all these signs. Please don't excuse or justify their behavior. I made the mistake of ignoring all the red flags for 11 months and even then he still calls me despite blocking his number. Calls me cruel for cutting him off because of gaslighting, manipulation, toxicity and so many awful behaviors. I had to make this awful choice today and I still love him but I need to believe what he really is. Stay strong people.
starting to think I’m in an emotional abusive relationship with an ex friend and they came back in my life. I’m scared of them but I still want to be friends with them and I don’t know what to do. this helped me finally realize that I am in a emotionally abusive relationship. thanks guys
my dad and his girlfriend. my dads girlfriend threats me and my little sister. she said that shell kill me, yells at me for no reason, mocks me, ect. the only excuse my dad has is that "she was blowing off steam" or "she never grew up with other kids" or "she dident mean it" it really hurts when my dads does not stand up for me, and talk to his girlfriend about what she does to me, i already told him how it makes me feel, he brushes it off completely it hurts more than it should lol.
If this is still happening, record what she says. Try to talk to a counselor or adult you trust at school about it then because they could help
My mother does all of this to me... And once she had been called to school because my friends noticed and told the teachers.. When she came back home she started shouting at me saying I deserved it and it's not abuse...
when i was in 5th grade, my uncle on my moms side died and they were very close. this is when she started being emotionally abusive and sometimes physically abusive to me. she constantly tells me that what i wear makes me look like a homless person and that my hair looks ugly or stuff like that. shes also very controlling and tries to keep me away from people that i love. she has really high expectations for me. my whole life has been me trying to keep her happy. sometimes if shes really mad she pulls my hair. she even threatened to hit me the other day if i didnt stop having an "attitude." i used to cry every single day because of how miserable she made my life. last year, i was really depressed and even thought about killing myself, not to an extreme though. now i dont even have any emotions i cant physically cry. ive only told my really close friends about her being abusive. she also calls me a bitch and selfish if i dont do something for her. whenever i go to a friends house im always scared to go home because i dont know if shes going to be mad about something. but also sometimes shes nice which is mainly if we are in public or around other people. she constantly says "well i do this for you blah bla" if i refuse to do something as simple as gettiging food for her. im scared to talk to her about the littlest things like if i like a boy or if i ask her to go somewhere. she even got mad at me once for not making up my bed because i had school really early in the morning.
can someone please tell me if this is actually abuse or if im just being dramatic.
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Thank you. I think I just got out of an emotionally abusive text conversation, so this helped validate the awful feelings I’ve been experiencing over the past couple days.
I'm going through at least 3 of these warnings right now ughhhhh, it sucks so much when you love somebody but they keep mistreating you :(
I just found out my dad is abusing me, well thanks for making that clear
i’m exhausted, this is so tiring, my whole family just abuses me emotionally. no one really understands me when i am upset for being yelled at by my mother, i may be used to her acts, words etc, yet it still stings so much, i love my mother with every ounce of my body, it hurts me when she can’t see the love i have for her, im slowly driving myself insane, i don’t know what’s real what’s not real. i feel as if i’m not even in control of my own emotions anymore, i’m so done with everything, i don’t wanna be here anymore yet i still am for my mother, with out me she wouldn’t know what to do. it’s funny. i know im also a troubling kid, but im still a teenager don’t force me to act so grown already .. i never speak about what’s on my mind, it weirds me out, but i speak now cause i have not one clue on how to get help or what the fuck to do.
Yes I have seen people like that. I think everybody exhibits toxic behavior at times. The goal in life is to keep growing.
I've just realized I'm being emotionally abused. If I'm treated like this when I still have my senses, I know what to expect when I'm totally dependent on my son
My family literally does this to me everytime I can visit !
Love your content. I really needed this
Thank you for watching! You got this! :)
Deliberately trying to punish you when you do something wrong: threatening to break up when they don’t mean it (if they meant it, they would do it instead of threatening to), ignoring you, sleeping on the couch, saying they hate you, refusing to talk and no explanation why, treating you as if your feelings stopped mattering because you messed up, and/or otherwise purposely trying to make you feel as awful as possible because of what you did. People are allowed to be upset and needing time and space to cool off is one thing, and it should be communicated as such, but if someone cares about you it should never bring them gratification knowing they’re hurting you under any circumstance. Intimate relationships should have a level of trust that when one does something wrong or hurtful, the other knows it was not intentional and after discussion it therefore won’t be repeated or some sort of understanding needs to be reached.
I was emotionally abused by family and friends. It was so hard to have nobody to talk to and sadly still to this day. I won’t go into family stuff since it’s way to complicated but my friends would always ignore me. When ever I would speak they would look at my, look at each other and start talking again like I wasn’t there, it was like I was a ghost. This went on for years. This not only happened at school but during the summer for when I used to go to camp. One year they decided to hate my for no reason and the next year act like nothing happened. This happened in 2015 and along with some major stuff happening with my family I was so mentally and emotionally drained, which lead me to having major depression for 5 years and still. It definitely makes it so much harder to deal with when you are and (HSP). I would also be there for when ever they had a problem. When I needed them however, they were too busy with there own things and ignored me. What made it so much worse was as I got older it went from kids my age to adults. As of now I’m doing better, but trust me there still is a lot of healing that needs to be done. Thank you for listening to a little part of my story. And I just want to say to people who are going through emotional abuse. Things will get better I promise. Experiences like this will make you a stronger person hope you have an amazing day and have this virtual hug 🤗 because I think we all need it ☺️
Greetings from South Africa ❤️
Thank you for making these, they're super helpful ♥️
Im 12… I suffer from most of these from, my mom. Thankfully I’m not anywhere near from suicide though I’ve had thought before in the past but in the end nothing will happen
I’ve experienced the first and last one.
My parents always expect me to have good grades in every single subject. And when my classmates have greater grades then me, my parents will compare me with them. They say “Look at your classmates, they all have good grades in every subject, why can’t you be like them?”. Hearing this from time to time makes me tired. I feel like I’m stupid, can’t do anything but to be a burden.
I also study a musical instrument. They wants me to study fast. When I’m studying a song, they try to make me study another song at the same time. Or study something that I’ve never seen before. They said “If you don’t know about it, ask your teacher!”. I just wanna say to them that, “Don’t rush me? I need to study one after another, not at the same time.”.
I… have no confidence about my decision. I always ask my parents even the smallest thing like “Is this ok?” or “Am I doing it right?”.
And, I think I intimidate one of my friend I met online before. I was just joking about unfriending. But when they say they’re scared, they don’t want to feel the fear of being abandoned, I immediately stopped. That time I just know nothing, everything, every decision I always ask my parents so I don’t really know what is good or not myself. When I know they’re scared, I feel guilty. I blame myself for knowing nothing and hurt my friend. And I still feeling guilty whenever I recall it. I hurt many of my friends too. That is why I feel like I don’t deserve to have a friend…
I’m experiencing 2 and 6 (humiliate and exploit) with a friend right now and I’m so lost. The other signs don’t really match because everything he says is so subtle that it took me a while to realize I was upset... it all just built up to a point where I get frustrated when he does something but I can’t do anything about it. I was too open in the beginning of our friendship and he’s used things against me. We are in a professional organization together and once he learned I liked someone from our group (I did not tell him this unfortunately someone else assumed he knew) he talked about the person two separate times in front of other people in our organization who I barely know let alone trust. Seeing my discomfort with this he laughed as well and I can see him smile whenever I get upset or flustered when he breaks my trust. He has also criticized my art when I never asked him for his opinion, and is constantly asking me to look at his art and do this and that for him. I’m tired of it but I feel like I can’t do anything because of the problems it may cause to our “business relationship” in the organization.
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It's funny that a lot of people think that it only occurs during romantic relationships when truly, it can occur in family as well. A lot of outcomes of emotional abuse are:
-Anger issues
-Major emotional periods
-The more likeliness to cry.
and so much more.
I just thought maybe sharing this would help some people like me recognize these issues, and hopefully get a chance to get the help they need, unlike me.
the fact you searched for this says it all. take care stranger 💕
Can a sign of emotional abuse be felling scared or panicked when you hear the persons voice, or seeing them, or even someone mentioning them?
That is a gigantic red flag,IMO.
YES 100%
Yikes... so that's what you call what I'm going through right now... I didn't realize there was an actual term for it
Sam Elle yo sameee I thought my bro was just narcissistic but whelp I’m glad I found this. Good luck. Ur not alone! ❤️
This sounds like my boss ...
Quit ur job
I have to look up to my family to take even the smallest decision, remembering the cruel to me happened in the past 💔😔😢
I experience these signs from my maternal family and neglect from my father. Ever since my parents had a divorce, I have lived with my maternal family, and I felt isolated from my father while feeling gaslighted by my maternal family.
The relatability of #5 is off the charts for me! So many friends just... stop talking...
i was watching this video where my parents heard it and yelled me, telling me to "SMARTEN THE HELL UP", i'm crying halfway through
I just figured out that my mom is emotionally abusive
same 😔
Hello!
Seconds ago, I've never been this early!
I was humiliated everyday and blamed for absolutely the stupidest crap and that caused my depression and the physical assault of my parents gave me PTSD
THANK U FOR THIS PSYCH2GO NOW I KNOW THAT THE PEOPLE I LOVED THE MOST (FAMILY) IS ABUSING ME EMOTIONALY... IT'S SO PAINFUL TO ACCEPT
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I've experienced almost all of these things all because of these things. :( Stay strong, everyone. God Bless. And thank you for making this video that way people will know what it is and can put an end to it.
You just described my parents and my brother. Also your voice is so sooothing
Australians: *I don't have such weakness*
saw this too my friends man wished i could step in god bless all but there’s always a problem on the giver to give a unessicery problem based on their own life to give a problem and cause suffering to someone else 🥺
I’m trying to move out of my house. The emotional abuse started in September of this year. I’m a server, so I make below minimum wage, and it feels impossible to move out. At this point I’m just hoping for financial success to move out, because it feels impossible. I’m so tired of being the scapegoat when something goes wrong.
My situation was complex. Had a 4 year relationship (got engaged too) which seemed great. No red flags like this to speak of. But I certainly got complacent and lazy. Then three months after the engagement I was hit with an ultimatum about my driving after a long road trip and two weeks later after a night out where I felt her distancing and reached out to grab her hand when she was dismissively walking faster than me and she revulsed, she gave me a 21-bullet-point screed of perceived deficiencies which she characterized as boundaries but most of which were orders and ultimatums. Things like giving her authority to determine what I can keep from my storage unit, and reading her mind to know when she doesn't want to listen to what I'm saying and thus self-censor me, but to provide emotional support to her (as if I hadn't been). One was a boundary though... an accusation of verbal, emotional, and physical abuse. Now it's he-said she-said but I do not believe I was abusive. I shouldn't have grabbed her hand to slow her down while walking, but I felt her resentment towards me in that moment and wanted to be holding hands walking aside each other. I can see her perspective but I think it was an overreaction and that by that time she was looking for reasons to dump me because she just wasn't attracted to me anymore. And I never verbally or emotional abused her, but certainly she doesn't feel that way and it's gut-wrenching to try to stand in her shoes knowing that. I come here to try to learn more about myself to see if I was indeed worse than I thought, but I can't help but to see that she was exhibiting several abusive symptoms towards me. She kept her negative feelings bottled up until the end. And I think we both were unaware of our faulty behavior, letting ego blind us.
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I was an emotional abuser. I never realised it completely till I found this video. I let him go to have a peaceful life. I always cared for him and loved him. But on the other side I was abusive. I always fought with him for silly things. The fact is I never understood him. I always felt like he never loved me and that is the reason I fought with him. Am working on myself now. I need be a better person. Caring, loving, respecting person.
It's sad how 4/7 over these are true about my dad and step mom...even thought I was lucky enough to be escape living with them, But I can't get out of my consent mindset of "Will my mom hurt me for this?" When I know she wouldn't do that to me...She's not like my dad.
My dad was what 1,2,3 and 7 were. My dad is a Hypocrite who would purposefully either make things worse for his benefit, Or Not care how he will hurt people. I've wondered for the past 2 years why no one likes being around my dad, And it's because he burned all his families bridges from his life, It's gotten so bad that his side of the family hates me and my brother now...everyone except for my Nana, She's the only one who cares about us, and still cares enough to check up on her son who treats her so badly.
And my step mom is 3, and 7. For 5 years I couldn't be myself without her telling me "your a Disappointment to this family" "why do I even put up with you" "where's the respect your supposed to give me!" I never gave her respect to begin with...I just tolerated her for being kind enough to provide us shelter for a few months...the one thing I hated the most that she did was talk shit about my mom like I wasn't in the the same fucking room as her!?!but then when her and my dad got married she ruined my life... My mental health was so much worse when I was in 6th and 7th grade, I've had so many Su*c*de attempts during those two years, Ive thought about hurting myself but held back because she would have just told her family and they would have just laughed at me!
Everyday ever since I was in 4th grade I was bullied, For so many things. And I could never go to anyone because no one believed me! My own father neglects me and yet still says "Im the one who raised you!" He didn't raise me! He just left me with random women who lived with him at the time treat me horribly, And all he sees me out to be is a Trophy! A trophy to brag to my mom that he won the only two things that kept her from completely leaving him for good!
I never got to have a fun happy go lucky childhood...All I had were two step sisters that cared about me, But now there gone. Gone forever! And I never got to say goodbye to them! And yet...My dad still blames them for his horrible shitty way of taking care of someone...
6. They want to exploit you.
I've been used a lot by people and "friends" whenever they needed me. And at some point I knew it was already too much but till this date I find it hard to say no, also because I know how it feels to get a no.. but again I'm someone who don't like asking others for help or favor because I don't wanna annoy them.
I always felt my mother was not a good person, but I never knew just how much she was hurting me until now. I love her, but I’ve got some serious thinking to do about our relationship. I won’t be a puppet anymore. No more.
I've been emotional abused and then pain and mental stressed so High. Now, im healing from this pain because this Person Is out of my life
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as someone who has been mentally abused by 2 people...this is a great video to help out people before they get mentally abused!...
Watching this video with tears in my eyes💔😭
Hello to my world...... I'm about to lose myself in this progress, it all started with verbal abuse and it's at physical Abuse, I really love him so much, although love is not always enough.
Things just don't get better, if I want to leave him he doesn't want me to leave him(will beg me with tears in his eyes) , but I'm busy falling apart he promise he will change but nothing gets better.
Hmm emotional abuse.........
Yes
Bc I’m shy😆