6 Types of Loneliness
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- Опубліковано 12 вер 2024
- Loneliness is a complex and usually unpleasant emotional response to isolation. Loneliness typically includes anxious feelings about a lack of connection or communication with other beings, both in the present and extending into the future. As such, loneliness can be felt even when surrounded by other people.There are 6 different ways you can feel lonely.
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Forgot we have another article you guys might enjoy: psych2go.net/5-factors-drive-loneliness/
Good idea! haha.
I’m socially ALONE but I don’t actually feel LONELY
Psych2Go I have a few question:
I have my friends group, and my boyfriend. Me and all of them have a decently strong bound, me and my boyfriend having the strongest. I don't get to see my boyfriend often, and I oftenly shy away from my friends when they hand out with their other friends. I'm stuck in a state of loneliness. What type of loniness is this? Why? What could I do to help Myself?
I have a few mental illnesses, probably effecting this (A psychologist told me I have them when I was younger): ADHD with underling psychosis, Bipolar, and ODD.
Psych2Go
i am none of thees.
Psych2Go Hi, may I know the source for this vid? I want to use this on my research. Thanks.
"People think being alone is lonely, but I don't think that's true, being surrounded by the wrong people is the lonliest thing in the world." -Jenny Moore
I don’t think it could’ve been said any better I often feel I’m talking through people and just listening to their problems
If that's the case, what should i do ? Everywhere i go, everyone i meet, i find them wrong. Once in a while when i get some right people, the feeling is not mutual.
True af
That's her opinion not mine
“Which type of loneliness do you experience?”
Yes.
no
please dont make those jokes
unless it's real
Salva T *But it is.*
yes
Got the first five
@@GnarledBat47 Got the last five
Intellectual loneliness. My mentality is so different from my family members.
Zai exactly and friends
Don't care about what others think,even if they are your family
Me too man, me too..
@@khajiit5556 its much easier to say than to do
Khajiit but still... just be sure to respect your parents...
7: your not actually alone but your too afraid to talk to someone so you lock yourself away from them and then it feels like you've no friends
I feel alone, i know im not
Same
Me right now.
Oh god, I felt the same
I cannot talk to people
"Gotta catch 'em all!"
Fujoshi Baka i didnt know i thought its an original name 😢 they are still beautiful after all. All of them are.
Fujoshi Baka I don't get what's wrong with the word gyspy. I do agree it has a negative connotation but at the same time it's also a historical term that's been used for a long time
Boi
Mr.Pat watch out that movie comes out on sundayye
Mr.Pat / Well call me a winner then, I got all 6.
Yay.
Sad to say I’ve experienced 5 of these...
1. Interpersonal: My best friend is ignoring me and I accidentally snapped at her and cut off the relationship.
2. Social: My friend group forgot to acknowledge my existence and they really don’t seem to care. When I snapped they kept joking around and I realized that they didn’t care anymore.
3. Cultural: My mom forced me to go to a different country to study for a year and it was hard to feel like I belonged, especially after everyone looked at me like some exotic product and since they were all curious about how my country was, I was bullied for receiving attention that I never even wanted.
4. Intellectual: I have bad grades while everyone around me is always complaining about getting good grades, I always hear my friends saying that they’ll fail while still having straight A’s.
5. Psychological: I have depression and anxiety to the point where I don’t really feel safe with anyone completely. My parents can’t seem to understand this and my friends left me for reasons that I can’t comprehend, leaving me feeling completely alone while being with others all the time.
I can’t relate to 6 since I’m honestly not that scared of death, but all the other types are things I have experienced.
1 and 2 actually describe what happened to me. :(
I hope you're feeling at least a little better in life at this point. Has anything changed?
I am very sorry. Unfortunatelly is quite tipical when you live fahr from home ... You do not belong to your "old " group of friends anymore and in the new place you will always be the" stranger" . Thats the price to pay.. I know it is not easy but please do not give up. Maybe you will not have a big group of friends..or people you may trust but one day you will meet someone that will be able to understand and care for you. Big hug.
i feel lonely because i isolate myself from everyone as a coping mechanism
Sanne same. And I fucking blame myself. Like wtf is wrong with me
Girly Nerd Yeah it sucks. I have social anxiety so it's mostly driven by that.
I isolate myself from people as a coping mechanism and i dont feel lonely:)??? Maybe i denial my loneliness idk but i dont feel it
I find myself doing that too. And then I just put on my smile to go throughout the day and act like everything is okay but can't bring myself to actually let ppl in
Sanne me to hun. 🙁
19 years old, college student "the best years of our lives", struggling with depression and social anxiety, living alone... Loneliness is my only friend so far.
I am 16 years old I am struggling depression and social anxiety too. I am asocial and I don't like to go to clubs and cafes i like to stay home or go into someone home. In same way i love to communicate with other people and to have friends, but people don't like me and my personality even i am good to them. I can explain it with two movie characters. Taxi driver and Joker. I have same problems as they have.
I’m a 4th year college student and I feel the same about not liking the same activities that are typically shared in universities. A lot of people like to go to clubs or bars and I like to read or be in good company. It can feel really isolating, but I find confort knowing there are other people out there that are trying their best like I am. The fact that this thread exists proves that the people we are looking for are out there, and they’re looking for us too. Ik your comments were a while ago, but I hope this still reaches you! Let’s keep trying our best, and I hope you all connect with all the peace and happiness you wish for
I can't really explain what type my loneliness is. It's like a part of me is empty and forgotten. When my loneliness gets worse, I'm consumed by doubt, self-loathing, sorrow, remorse (for letting people in my past go), and occasionally suicidal thoughts. I'm the fifth wheel in my group of friends and when they cuddle and hug and stuff I get extremely jealous and upset. This even goes for normal friendship situations. But at the same time, I enjoy being alone... I really need my space. It's confusing; I'm lonely yet I wanna be alone. I know lonely and alone aren't exactly the same thing, but sometimes the definition of them both just becomes a blur. When I get to have a meaningful hug or conversation with someone (or a group of people) I suddenly get very hyper and happy. I essentially rely on the attention of others (yet I try my best not to go out of my way to acquire attention, i.e. harassing people, making obscene statements, etc) and I feel like that's gonna be my downfall. I'm trying to work on making myself happy instead, but sometimes the loneliness is extremely overwhelming.
I dunno, most likely in the dark waiting for a video on loneliness (it's nice when you can relate to other people)
Wow. We're all clones. You opened my eyes!
Oh wow, that's (mostly) me. I feel separated from my group of friends, even when I'm with all of them hanging out. They're all extroverts, cuddling and dancing while I'm just trying my hardest not to be awkward. I enjoy being alone, because I feel like this is the only way I can't be judged. Yet, I want nothing more than to be ''normal'' and be intimate with each other like everyone else..
I found that my loneliness goes away when you do something you REALLY love. For me, that's writing, reading, drawing, etc. It helps only for the time you're doing the thing you love, but it's a great way to start making yourself happy. And with your friends, try bringing this up to them. If they really care about you, they'll understand and at least try to make you feel more included and less lonely (and less awkward). You don't necessarily have to be normal for any of this. If your friends ever make fun of you for bringing your situation to their attention or they straight-up ignore it, they're not good friends. If you need to, you can come talk to me. I may not have the best advice, but I'm willing to drop everything and listen.
First of all, that's really kind of you. For me gaming, reading and drawing also make me happy, and I've noticed my friends try to talk to me whenever I'm sitting somewhere alone. Currently, I'm trying to be more social and active, but yeah, it takes time.
My dream is to have a group of friends so I can finally make a party instead of saying that I don't like them :(
Sleepy Claus I can relate... I have been lonely ever since 3rd grade need less to say I have been now. I have a problem with my social ability’s and it’s getting very annoying of how I can’t fix it. My lonely take it far as me going to the bathroom every lunch period because of no one to sit with. No one really relates to me and never made an attempt to. Even my family acknowledged of my loneliness.
My only friends left for another country and ever since then it’s been so hard to make new friends
that was quick
MisterWayne I was thinking the same thing 😂
Yeah haha. A shorter one since we've released many this week.
but it was still good
Hope you enjoyed! :)
And depressing. Quick and depressing.
I'm lonely when I'm around family and friends...
Same. They just ignored me when i say my opinion :(
Emma Smith same sometimes I feel the same way
@@Daniel-ht8mp that's social loneliness
Same with me !
i feel as though i'm lonely because i can't find someone like me. someone who can relate to me, not just in one way, but in every way. i can't figure if that is either intellectual or cultural loneliness?
I know right?
I like to have deep or interesting conversations with people, and most people my age don't care or don't have similar interests to me, all they're into is fucking partying and snapchat and getting laid and stuff like that.
sierra bee
I have exactly the same. I don't understand 4, however I feel like both could relate.
Keshaire!!! - woah! that's exactly how i feel, but i couldn't really word it right. 😂😂😂
Nameless Name - yeah, they seem similar. that's why i couldn't figure out which one i was.
A Brorges - to answer your question, no i'm not a virgo. i'm a cancer, but i do believe i may be lonely bcoz i'm too scared of talking to ppl who might actually have the same interests as me. i just get so nervous talking to ppl in general, that i can't even make new friends.
I have SAD and I'm afraid of saying or doing something wrong so I isolate myself from people and just let the right people come to me
Same I also have SAD and MDD 😔
I'm different, I'm lonely and sometimes I even like it... but it isn't good for me, not at all.
There is always someone who understands you but will you ever meet this person? Probably not.
MircoDHD possibly just introverted though you occasionally want a connection with others? I'm kinda curious now.
Tavierloyal Maybe that perhaps not but I think it's just because of all the self hate and stuff.
MircoDHD could be a form of self-defeating personality disorder. It's like a form of masochism but asexual, and not accepted by DSM. It was just proposed but a feel it might have some merit.
Do note though: I'm not licensed or anything. Still an undergrad, and only minoring in psychology.
Tavierloyal Sounds interesting 🤔. I'll inform me about the topic. Thank you for the idea ^^
Tavierloyal Okay, I looked it up and noticed that it describes me 90%.
Maybe something else fits better (just a joke, there are so many psychological things that are nearly the same).
"I'm none of my best friends' best friend" Edit: one of my friends said I was their best friend. But the question remains, is the "best-friend-ness" mutual?
I don't feel Intellectually superior at all. In fact, I feel inferior to everyone else. I honestly feel like everything I do is either useless or not really important. I don't see how I can contribute/help in society.
You mean you feel inferior while knowing you are probably smarter than most other people?
I think hes saying that he feels inferior because he thinks everyones smarter than him
Could be the opposite. I've felt the same way in the past. It's because I'd put a high standard on myself and wouldn't be able to reach it then believe I'm inferior. Of course there are different types of intelligence. One could just have a single esoteric type of knowledge and have no one to discuss it with. People's response is usually 'you should stop liking that and like what I like so then we could talk' instead of making an attempt to try and relate.
I've always thought that I was superior to everyone when I was younger. Now as a high school student I feel the exact opposite. So I understand what you're saying.
7787steven don't mean to make you worry but it'll get worse in college. If you persue that path just study good and hard. You'll survive.
I have like 5 of the types, but I wanted to spill here because I already know no one's gonna read this...
So let's say i have a friend called Rose(all of the names are fake because im not gonna say the real names), Rose is my best friend we have fun and we hangout.... until I lost me grandpa and kinda separated myself from everything and everything but I hid my loneliness and sorrow to stay friends with Rose because I feel like everything might just fall apart if i let go. But then Hannah comes along. Shes social popular funny everything.... and she becomes friends with Rose. I try and keep being friends with Rose but Hannah always gives me hate snd glares at me when Rose isn't there. And as time goes on I'm replaced... And I want to get my friendship back but now Rose and Hannah are best friends and im not even in the picture, its like i dont even exist or have ever existed
Wings Tour Finale - the same thing happened to me :( it's been quite some time since you posted this comment. Has anything changed?
Wings Tour Finale - also I'm sorry about your grandpa 💛
someone who completely understand you will come along and stick by your side even when you’re feeling distant.
Here, people will understand you.. As we all are feeling lonely and depressed..
Being intellectually lonely sucks. I've been like that for the past 16 years and even though I try not to care, sometimes it really gets me. It isolates the person who suffers from it.
We're sure there are people who can relate. In what ways, do you feel intellectually lonely?
shulifer Like Matilda the movie
I feel you, things have gotten better for me in highschool but I'm always behind everyone. Even in my best subject I'm behind most people. Failing grades are ruining my life and my chances of college are pretty much gone. It sucks when pretty much everyone seems to be smarter than you .
That's why i hate talking to my family I'm i can never agree with them we never see eye to eye and same goes with school..
Yes. I have never taught basic social skills... so I kinda gotta figure it out for myself 😭 I am so happy to find people who are in my same situation
I can relate to all of them. I'm the most lonely person on the planet. I don't even have friends , I tried my best to socialize and join friends and ended up changing 3 schools because of poor social skills. Now I can't even intersect with people , I study by myself at home . I already shorten the cruel, lonely past that I've pasted through , but it's really painful from inside😭😭😭 . Pretty much my childhood and my life is ruined. 😢😢😢
Johnny TCY
(I rarely type comments but I feel I need to on this one)
I have no friends aswell. Some of my childhood memories contain of me getting emotionally abused at home, 2nd grader me thinking "if people think that I am someone else perhaps they would want to be my friend" (I really wanted to wear a disguise), and people forgetting completely of my existence. Today I still feel really awful about my self and still have no friends even though I have went and got professional help (which to be honest I never trusted them and they made me feel even worse about my self once) my social skills sucks really bad and so do my grades. I am really scared of what my future holds for me and that my fathers wish of me being a hobo becoming reality.( I hope not)
But just know that someone out there really cares about you and hopes you will be alright and that life gives at least you a chance of having friends who care very much for you.
( I would even be your friend if you want me to)
Sorry if there are any grammar issues I suck at writing.
Burpee Thanks for sharing , mate. Appreciate that someone will read my comment. 😃
💐 Hey, we sit in the same boat 🙋🏼♀️ if its an comfort there are millions out there in same position as well, so with that said,we are Never alone ❤️ bad things have happen but dont let the past spoil your future 🌈 after rain comes an rainbow you know 🤗.
✌🏼💜💙💚💛🧡❤️✌🏼💎💎💎
reads "loneli-" *smashes the notifs*
Oumimin taemin? Idk Suga?.... In ur pic
the same one in ur pic :)
Oumimin AYEEE ARMYYY
😂
lonely people be like
most of my friends talk to me at school and make me feels i were close to them , but they were all end up hanging up with their group of friends without me ... 😧 feels abadoned 😔 ( sry for my bad english )
same
Which type of loneliness do you experience?
Social 😂
Psych2Go social and intellectual loneliness
Psych2Go social,I understand that many of my friends have their own families and have jobs but I'm tired of having to make an effort or be the first to ask if we can hang out.IDC if their kids are with them aslong as I see my friends that's what matters most.its getting to that point where I feel as though in order to maintain any friendship bonds I have to have a child of my own just so I can belong to the social group
Psych2Go ALL OF THEM SOCIAL
Intellecutual
Is there a name for the "I don't want to live on this planet anymore" kind of loneliness?
The awkward moment when you have most of these
MeepQueen you see the squares too
That's not awkward.
I occasionally feel lonely,
When I'm alone
omg really? No wayyyy
😓
I feel like I don't quite fit into any of these or just they weren't explained enough? I feel loneliness in a way that I don't feel understood by people, at the same time I crave intimacy, I feel I'm not on the same frequency as the people around me and it makes me feel lonely...
Deyw ME TOO!
Deyw, you hit the nail on the head. I'm all of them lonely symptoms.
I don't know shit but that kind of sounds like social lonliness, I just don't think it was explained well in that sense
Deyw I'd say interpersonal and maybe a bit intellectual. They only mention getting rejected or losing someone with interpersonal but I feel it can encompass not having one in the first place or being without one for extended periods of time. It feels like there wasn't much description given for any of these.
I feel it too... It's like you don't want to be near people if they're not the right ones. In my case, with relationships I crave to be loved in a pure way. Not pampered with what I want to hear from someone, but to be listened and understood. To be adviced with want I need to hear. To grow with someone and become the best version of myself. With friendships, I feel like good actions are took for granted and no one actually wants someone who truly cares about you. So that's why I feel lonely even while laughing with my friends. I feel like I'm repleceable and they don't need me caring about them. It's like if today's world society is so focused on other's stuff rather than in good values.
Thank you High School for reinforcing my loneliness
I really like what you did in the thumbnail.
Thanks!
Mr IY is this sarcasm lmao
Mr IY I did too!
The existentialism has ascended to another plane of existence
Smash and Jam
That was kinda unclear, can you explain with more detail about how and what you want them to stop?
Unfortunately, I'm social and intellectual lonely, that's why I watch videos like these
As much as I want to deny it (because it is true), I have 5 of these kinds. The only one I don't have is the existential loneliness because I don't fear death (I just look up to my brother who passed away and want to be with him when I do).
The other 5 involves my friends and I and because I am one of the only people with a different culture it's become hard for me to fit right in. It did a number on my confidence, but when I built it back up again I felt more cautious with my new friends.
Sure I am in their group, but there are times where I feel excluded quite possibly because of my differences towards them. I had just known that they have known each other for a very long time and knowing this makes me feel like I'm intruding into their own world of happiness. As if anything that happens to do little damage to others deals heavily on me (anxiety) . I know I'm exaggerating and that has definitely changed me psychologically, but I feel like I just wanted to tell you that if have friends, dont exaggerate and just be happy at least that they care about yours... I'm saying this because it's too late for me and I have to get myself out of it because I'm the one that got myself into this...
Thank you for your self reflection
Sounds like me...
XELI lol my friends all went trick or treating without telling me and I didn’t find out until this person said “hey why weren’t you with all your friends?” Fml
XELI I can relate on a level very similar to yours it's exasperating I know.
XELI it sounds as if you were talking about me...
you're not alone
Dealing with social and cultural loneliness due to my sexuality :(
Same
The internet stands by your side💞
We're on your side!
That ended when I didn't expect it to lmao
How so?
Probably the fact that cosmic loneliness is so different from the other types of loneliness that were just described previously
We see! How do you guys feel about a follow up video?
Psych2Go I would love a video about an existential crisis with one's spirituality.
Psych2Go sounds good!
Intellectual loneliness considering I'm a republican that's never lived in an overwhelming red state.
Illinois always voted blue and when I moved to Michigan it feels like republicans are quiet, they're around, just not as vocal as some liberals are.
This makes me feel somewhat disconnected in classes such as sociology and debate classes where we discuss politics. It always feels like the teachers lean more left and the students that are vocal always seem much further left than right.
Michele W I feel you
I ask a lot of stupid questions out of curiosity and to clarify that I'm thinking about the situation the right way
I went through the same situation living in Chicago, but now that I’m at Wheaton College (a Christian college) things have gotten better and more open minded to both sides of politics.
@Michele Well not everyone is a Christian or a conservative. How did you do in US history. Many of the policies effects non White immigrants. Personally another tax break for the rich and cutting welfare programs are just evil is obvious the rich does not need it. The fact that big banks can get loans but unemployed homeless people can't get one for job training and placement/externship/internship is careless. Again US is richest country and I think California is ranked as a top 10 economy. What exactly is conservative. Did you that White immigrants killed Native Americans for free land in the name of Christianity while torturing slaves. It was not long ago that racial discrimination was not allowed but the law.
I live in Michigan and have Family in Illinois that I barely talk to !
I'm currently going through literally all of them except the last one. It's bad. It's really bad.
Sorry to hear! Are you part of any support forum at the moment?
Nah, I have hope I'll somehow make friends at some point. If it gets extremely bad I'll seek help but I think I have hope. I'll be fine. Thanks.
Monochrome Soul Just go to Meetme and meet people.
Sending digital hugs.
I got through it so can you.
It was hard and painful but I'm only 50 000 times happier now.
I wish the same to you.
I’m dealing with psychological loneliness. Never really realised how much trauma impacted on me when I was a child. I thought I would grow out of it but it never did
Interpersonal: I just lost a best friend who really made me feel so special. I can't replace her. I loved her more than anyone I've ever loved before. I feel like I will never find someone like her who will truly understands and loves me. I feel worthless. I have no best friend now. No one looks out for me.
Social: I was also in a group of four (total) friends with her, but now it is no more. We did everything together - literally. It was the happiness moments of my life. They really loved me so much and I loved them so much. I felt on top of the world with them. Now I am all alone. They don't care about me and we are no longer a group. I am alone. No one looks out for me.
Cultural: I am too Mexican for America. I am too American for Mexico. I have no Hispanic friends, not even any in my school. I have no one who even looks like me. I feel like an alien. I'm the odd one out.
Intellectual: I think I'm crazy. I overthink things to the point of tears. I am much too empathetic/sympathetic. School wise, I am much too stupid. I am not smart and it makes me hate myself.
Psychological/Existential: I'm recovering.
Hang in there Olivia, how are you doing now? I am sure you will find new friends, you are so young... Every Mexican girl I know are kind just like you I suppose. Have a wonderful day:-)
Olivia Garcia I've got some idea of how you feel I latterly have only one friend who lives to far away for us to spend anytime together and I am very lonely somedays it's hard for me to even get out of bed because I don't feel like I have anyone to get up for. This is not the way I use to be years ago when I was surrounded by so many friends. But as I grew into an adult and now 28 years old everyone has deserted me for different paths and most have also done me much heart whom I thought never would. Now I am alone. But I can be your friend, if you will be mine.
It has been 10 months now, have you still experience similar problems that you mention? When you are alone in your problems, remember you don't, you're human. We all may face similar problems but in different types of detail and intensity.
I'm a year late, but this comment really resonated with me because I have gone through literally the exact same situations as you! Every single one of these, I just felt as I read your comment. Sometimes I think there's no hope, but loneliness isn't permanent (at least I hope.) I hope a year later that you are doing better and maybe have found someone :)
Try living in Mexico for a while, you might find that you really like it better there.
I’m all of them, live alone in my apartment in japan, my dad is in another country, my mom dead almost 2 years ago, I’m the only structural design engineer at my dept so its kinda no one really understands how I need time to do my job but they keep pushing me to do this and that fast, I think if I have a partner I’ll only hurt her cuz I’m not emotionally available, and also I don’t know how to love, who to love, I don’t feel like fucking, I just live cuz I don’t die yet, when I was young I did everything already, traveled all places with my music teacher mom who was a mistress to my dad. I got step brothers and sister that own their business but I am the only one who’s still working in a company, I have no courage to start my own business. Really I don’t have anything that I want or anyone that I love or anything that I need to take care of. I’m okay to die anytime. I’m not sad but I’m alone, my apartment is ghost quiet, I eat just whatever, workout twice a week and go to work everyday in autopilot mood. I’m dead but still breathing. I really don’t know how to feel something or want something or love someone. What should I do?
I have 4 of the six . I tell myself that im used to it now and id rather be alone. I almost believe it.
tt I do believe it and now it’s true, I think...
Aptly put.
A t shirt saying ‘antisocial butterfly’ would be great for introverts!
All of them.
Luumiee you ok?
Yeah, I am a bit concerned too.
You good?
same
ne too u are not that spacial u beattch
Gotte Never said I was special.
I had faced all of the 6 types of loneliness, in order of frequency : intellectual, social, interpersonal, psychological, existential and cultural loneliness.
I have to admit that when I'm physically alone, I seldom feel lonely, because I don't feel as if all of society is against me. But when I'm interacting with other people --even if they're all from the same town as me and are the same ethnicity as me--I feel as if my concerns are not shared by them; I might as well be saying the same gibberish as Charlie Brown's teacher. In every one of my loneliest moments, I was interacting with at least one other person. ☹️
ExplodingGarbage Same. I just feel that we both are so different, that's basically impossible to form a friendship.
*"Cultural loneliness"*
Me as a Native American whos forced to go to a city where theres no family or friends that I grew up with on the rez 😐
huh, I actually never knew that was a thing-
And now that loneliness has become a poisonous Western epidemic, reaching almost 25% of the population in most of these areas in a supposed civilized society, we have discharged the importance of social bonding in favor of an almost extreme form of philosophical individualism, which has isolated many of us.
Thank you Michele for your sincere opinion. Resonating my thoughts exactly.
Michele I am here lol damn that’s correct we are spaced apart
When i was barely a kid i always tried to socialize,make friends and all that kind of things a 'normal' person would do.When i grew up i started realizing most people only care about themselves,gossips,superficial things and what they can get from you.Because of that,i've reached the point of limitating myself to observe.I've seen (mostly) no real bonds,only interactions in order to get a benefit,complete a dumb challenge,or confirm some rumour.Corrections and/or additions are welcome.
My mom passed away from cancer when I was around three years old. I'm 17 now and I constantly lock all thoughts about it into the back of my head. I tell myself I'm over it and I didn't really get to know her so I shouldn't be this affected by it but in reality it haunts over me on a day by day basis. The exclusion of a caring supportive mother figure in the early stages of my life has caused me to trust literally no one and be completely independent almost to the point where I feel that I need no one but myself. On top of all of this, nobody understands me. I know this sounds cliche but the things I try to explain to people go straight through them. Everyone else is living a repetitive cycle they call a happy life and I swear to god I'm the only one that understands how repetitive life really is, yet I don't know how to change it. Wake up, go to work/school, do things you tell yourself you enjoy but in actuality you just do what kills time the fastest, rinse and repeat. Sorry for the rant I just don't even know who I am anymore.
I actually can relate to more than one on here... Could that happen?
We're sure many of the other viewers could relate to that. :)
Psych2Go
I'm glad I'm not alone. I enjoy your stuff, it helps a ton
Aw. Thanks for watching :)
Sure. Because you could be facing death, losing a loved one, and being alienated all at the same time. Some of these could even be caused by each other; say you live in a village and have cancer, everyone is both treating you as a different race of sorts, and alternating you because they think it's contagious. You also feel an existential loneliness due to how close you are to death.
I have depression because of interpersonal loneliness and these videos (along with anime) have helped me alot
SOMETHING EVERY SINGLE CHILD CAN RELATE TO!!!!!! 😞
A Brorges wall I can relate to this. And I mean some single children can relate......
Unfortunately. Or human being in general, there's always some level.
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Princess Rochia not only. I have brother and sister but they hate me. Think im rude. And are self efficient. Im a helpless bitch
yeah gayness
since 2 friends abandoned me I have feel interpersonal lonliness, then I moved to a new country and started to feel cultural lonliness, as in my new country everyone is smarter I feel intellectual lonliness too, and finally as I had a traumatic childhood in my old country it made me feel psychological lonliness... I just hope that someday I feel better and get over them, and wish beautiful things to the other ppl that are facing any kind of loneliness
Social, intellectual, and psychological.
Interpersonal happened to me, trust me. Yeah rest is kind of unnecessary.
same, but not so much of the intellectual. No one has to read this, but I feel like getting it out. Yesterday we were allowed to go outside during home room. My best friends both wanted to do different things (one of them wanted to hang out with their popular friends so they ran away from me, and the other wanted to play basketball). I sat against a tree for at least 40 minutes until the bell rang. Some people are total assholes when they see someone alone; people kept on bothering me and one dude even just walked over and kicked me twice, then walked away laughing. Every single one of my friends would pick other things over me and I don’t feel like I’m really truly friends with any of them. For the psychological loneliness, someone I really looked up to and loved recently died, and no one I know knew him as well as I did. So, I had to go through it alone and that was really hard on me. I have more but I won’t bother you with that. Life really sucks
alien vibes | That's rough man, and I can't even relate to losing someone really close to you, and I'm sure I can't even imagine how painful it must be, but I hope it gets better for you. My general advice to getting happier is identify clearly things you like to do (hobbies, games, sports, etc), and then go find people that also like doing those things. This approach, in my experience, is much more valuable than trying to always find things that all of your current friends already want to do, or trying to get them to like something that only you do. Once you can have fun doing some hobby on your own, new people with similar interests are more likely to want to make friends with you. Yeah, some people are just awful for no reason, and yeah, sometimes life really does suck. Sometimes it FEELS like life will just suck forever, but it really can get better, trust me. Hope it gets better for you soon. Have a good one man.
GlobusTheGreat thank you so much. I’m usually the one giving advice, so it’s nice to have someone else help me. I hope you have a happy life
I'm Not Mexican wow.. Same
I was experiencing psychological loneliness but I got out from it
Oh damn, this video got right to the point
Lol very true pimp
i expirience social loneliness all the time, i try really hard too put myself out there but i keep geting rejected and i don't understand what am i doing wrong
Would you like a video on how to not get rejected?
Psych2Go please!
I have never related to something more
Same here 😑
@@dolly0211
If that's your real appearance in life in your picture, why would anyone reject you?
In my experiences, loneliness can either lead to more self-discovery, or self doubt. I'm only 30 years old, but what drives me to that negative view of loneliness is when people suddenly stop caring, or just decide to put in less effort into maintaining the relationship. If all I have is myself at the end of the day and the people I keep trying to fight to keep in my life don't appreciate my efforts, then perhaps I should just move on and keep to myself. Either that, or just hold onto hope that things will get better. All humans will disappoint you in life; it's just an inevitable thing. I hate humans, and yet, not caring about them at all doesn't seem to always work 😮💨😔❤
Can you make a video about emotional numbness? I actually kinda need help...I don't know what to do...
I try to stay numb
tammy g. Yeah I get what you mean...because when things happen, we just try not to let it get to us...but holding in too much emotions just only hurts more...
Yeah I think that's a good idea.
I don't even know what that is and I want to learn about it now...
I'll be at the Google if you need me.
Shin Higaku and tammy g.
Same here. But then it gets harder to breath. It gets harder to swallow the pain. The emptiness feels heavier each year
I experience both social and psychological loneliness. Because of being excluded from my high school showchoir while being in my junior high showchoir while everyone else who was in my jr. high showchoir got in to the high school showchoir, I felt left out and rejected.
As for psychological loneliness, I was bullied in the middle of my school career, and it is the cause of my depression that I have today. I may have depression for other reasons, but bullying was what sparked it.
Haha ya I'm always thinking squares when everyone's into triangles!
lol
I actually laughed aloud
It’s a lonely world when no one else can see the squares
I can honestly say that I have experienced all of these forms of loneliness at once for most of my life. This is the result of a unfeeling father who abandoned me at every opportunity and a deceased mother who died from choosing to use drugs. The family all lined up to push me away and mock me so they wouldn't have to deal with someone like me. I'm also bi-racial and because of this my two ethnicities reject me out right for not being one or the other 'enough'. I've been suicidal since I was 7 years old and used to cut myself with razor blades until I was 14. All this time I would cry and beg God to give me a new life and a family. I did get a new life and family for 9 years, until my SO and me split up and she made me her enemy. I have lost everything over and over again almost annually and threatened to hurt myself. The sad thing is I've learned to hate myself so much that even the relief of death is too good for me. My only wish in life was to go down fighting for what I believe in and for my brothers in arms. Now that I'm diagnosed as this-and-that I have no options left for me to make myself worth a damn. All I do is work to feed myself and pay the rent for a small room. Even my faith has left me. The faith I learned to trust and hope for has done nothing for me to become a better person or happier. Everyone I know calls me a jerk, selfish, asshole, or a know-it-all. This is what I am after all I've been through. A self-centered suicidal lonely man who works to eat. I honestly don't know what it means to live anymore.
It's a nice video but you should've explain furthermore. 💕
yeah they should do an individual video on each type of loneliness
This actually made me cry... A lot. I don't know if it was because of empathetic me or relatable stuff.
You guys deserve so much subscribers
Thanks for the support, the more the merrier! The bigger the community.
I wasn't lonely being alone until I met a woman online that I fell in 'like' with and now that she is gone I have such interpersonal loneliness. It manifests to the point that I think everything is wrong about my life and i'm unlovable.
-*starts tearing up*
=“...-hey guys, I hope you enjoyed this video.”
second one for sure. always avoided, blatantly ignored, only interacted with when people have no one better to talk to, and excluded from everything.
Why so short?!
Faith Ryan ikr
We have a follow up video for this if interested. :)
I once complained about being lonely, but actually I just did never truly enjoy having others around me
i have 4/6 wow
I experience interpersonal loneliness, even when in relationships, I feel isolated. I experience social loneliness, for I have social anxiety and other disorders that precent me from functioning the way that normal friends do. I experience intellectual loneliness, for I feel a lack of intellectual stimulation and understanding in my life. And most largely, I feel psychological loneliness. Ever since I was a very young child, I was in an abusive relationship with my cousin. This happened up until I was 14, when I finally talked about it, and I was finally told the things she was doing to me and everything I was going through were not healthy and normal. Here I am, almost 17, traumatized, mentally ill, misunderstood, and stagnant. I don’t know how to pick up the pieces yet.
' Physiological loniness '
WELP DIDDLY DARN SON, YA DONE CAUGHT ME
* wheeze*
social loneliness especially with new people i have social anxiety and it seems to be improving but i constantly feel like i am being ignored in groups so i dont say much then you get labelled as quiet or stuck up
#socialloneliness
I’ve had them all. But all you have to do to stop it is just listen and care. Be patient and forgiving not stupid forgiving but forget the small stuff.
Wooow I actually haven't scored all of them... this time I got 5 out of 6🙂 how about you?
I got 4 out of 6
I have interpersonal, social and cultural loneliness. Moved from Mexico to the Netherlands, losing a great group of friends I had there. Here the culture is really different and I've just felt like I don't belong in any group, like no one shares any of my interests. It's definitely hard. I never thought it would be like this...
I feel lonely when I can't find anyone who likes the same TV shows/ video games as me 😅
I try to force myself to like other stuff just so I can join in conversations, but it's not really fun
I get hate because of something i like
Really interesting, thanks for this.
Appreciating that loneliness is more than just feeling that you are on your own, there are numerous factors and characteristics of different forms of loneliness.
What I would add is that there is a growing body of research that outlines that lonliness can lead to furtehr more pertinant forms of mental health challeges such as depressiona nd anxiety. Its a topic worth learning more about, so thanks for this!
I want merch of this little guy on this thumbnail:
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It‘s so cute! I‘d buy a cup, a shirt and anything you‘d sell with this on it.
I‘ve never seen such a cute face! ♡
btw nice video as always, guys. :)
Thanks! Good idea :) But that mascot is just similar to this video. What's the difference you see?
Psych2Go
I think it looks so much cuddlier than the normal ones. :)
It seems to be a bit surprised & in my oppinion kind of scared too. I love all of your mascots, but this one is very cute. ♡
Look at its cute expression. I can‘t help smiling when I see this little guy. :)
+Psych2Go this mascot is a lot more kinda... "Fluffy" if that makes sense haha
It's extremely cute. If you make clothing with that little dude I'd by a hoodie for the winter :))
orokawaii THIS IS SUCH A GOOD IDEA
Sold. Lol!
I've been living alone for almost 4 years. I stopped drinking and hanging with that crowd. Now I feel like I don't fit in anywhere. I sit here whining about being lonely. But when someone comes over I want them to leave in a short time. It's like if I need you, come over, if I don't need you, go away. That's bad! That might be a serious problem. I have to mention I have major depressive disorder and anxiety. Been on medication for 18 years.
I suffered a lot of loneliness in my early elementary school years... and also my entire school experience. I was verbally bullied and excluded and rejected by people and it hurt like hell. I could've died and they wouldn't have cared a single bit. Thankfully I found a way of escaping that loneliness through music and then writing, but still those last thirteen years were tough as hell. I'm better now in college and now people finally are starting to accept me... it is starting to feel good.
I experience both intellectual and psychological loneliness.
The former comes from how my very different learning style has made staying in school for longer than one semester difficult. It physically isolates me and makes connecting with people on a level beyond superficial nearly impossible.
My psychological loneliness likely stems from my history in the public school system. There, I experienced cultural loneliness from having been new to the system (I had been homeschooled until 9th grade), and social loneliness from being rejected by people I strongly desired connection with.
I battled and overcome so many hard things in life. But was not ready for this one: loneliness.. I'm trying but losing. I have absolutely no one! No one... is difficult to find a reason to want to continue living...
Thanks for not talking more in depth about interpersonal loneliness like I hoped
I am an improvert and we usually like more meaningful conversations, my friend didn't do that at all. I never expected her to do that, she would do childish things and jump to conclusions. I would tell her that, 'Maybe she had something happened in the past, maybe she just wasn't taught properly to control herself more.' She thought I was rude! So now at school I don't have friends. There are more improvert but they are boys, we don't have a lot in common.
I have the 5th one big time…. “Psychological”. I stopped shaming with my friends then turned into an alcoholic because I was lonely… last weekend I tried going out and an old buddy of mine was spreading rumours that I’m not loyal.
Some people just don’t understand what others are going through. This helps me be kind to people. Even if they hurt me.
A weird part of me likes being lonely and in pain. Like I’m comfortable with it now and the real pain would be to try and make things right. It doesn’t even seem like I’d like the good end result any better than where I’m at now.
I’m not the loneliest person, but I hate that I can’t form long lasting relationships. I really wish there was someone to whom I could empty out everything. Someone who understands.
One time I told a therapist that I feel like an asteroid swimming in space: Alone most of the time, and occasionally passing by a planet or a star.
Finding a wife and starting a family has been a dream since I was 15. It’s been 16 years since then. Not sure what the future holds for me.
Bracelets with something comforting on it to keep us going along with the little animation. Or a shirt *gasp* maybe a notebook/planner and every page has a drawing and a daily reminder maybe?
thanks to this, now I know why I feel so lonely, even when I'm around people that genuinely care about me. It seems that I'm experimenting interpersonal lonlieness.
I had been going through social loneliness a lot before since young. At least now I feel actual care from my new friends.
I am experiencing all these types of loneliness (except for existential and cultural), and probably some extreme form of intellectual loneliness (I used to surround myself with people with similar interests and worldviews, but now I can say I didn't talk in person with a similar-minded or a person with similar interests for YEARS), for me it is even more exhausting than the rest of these loneliness types, because of how long it is going on in my life, and how alien you feel after talking to someone who doesn't share any of the views or interests, and you feel desperate for that kind of conversation. And I am more of "scientist" personality, so it matters to me a lot (I am not an actual scientist by any means, I am just a regular guy, but have this "scientist" personality)
My god......the literal amount of ppl that are intellectually lonely is just......completely mind blowing,it's no wonder why intelligent ppl are so philosophical,they have time and reason to reflect on everything because they can't receive the correct amount of mental stimulation to live a "normal" life,and it's honestly just depressive that society has taken the turns it has to exclude intelligence the way it has,if we're not welcome here we might as well have our own planet,and at least there we can be around those that compliment and stimulate each other's intellect,tomorrowland isn't such a bad idea in these times ppl...
At least I'm not facing existenial/cosmic loneliness
I don't need a relationship, I don't need a social group, intellectually I can entertain my own thoughts and knowledge, I don't need a culture,I'm comfortable with the concept of death. I've never really been traumatized by separation with anyone. I still feel empty.
No one understands how lonely i feel. No matter what i do or how many people im around i feel lonely and scared and i don't really know why or how i can help it. It just keep a getting worse.
Sometimes when it feels lonely again, it actually hurts inside
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I have the "You have like 2 friends and everyone else hates you with an unrelenting hatred" loneliness
Interpersonal, social, cultural, intellectual and psychological loneliness are the ones I’ve experienced, it’s good at some point because it gives you a different perspective of the world, but it’s risky because you can end up really bad
Interpersonal loneliness after my ex girlfriend broke up with me,social loneliness due to me being socially ackward as well as some say I may have undiagnosed OCD. Psychological loneliness on account of my thirst for knowledge and the fact that I am not good with social interactions and I seem quite and odd to some people due to my need to keep to myself. I find friendship in the characters in the anime that I watch such as: L( death note) or Itachi Uchiha (Naruto and Naruto Shippuden) or even Kikyo. Which has both a negative and positive effect on me teaching me valuable life lessons as well as to never give up. But I also desire to be near my ex girlfriend but I then I recall that she left me( my last true friend I had left.) "Social" media somewhat magnified the negative effects feeling lonely has on me. I do not mind being alone from time to time as an introverted individual I yearn for it but the feeling of loneliness is what troubles me. I just miss my ex girlfriend she truly understood me and we supported each other when the situation called for it. Finding mental strength in my loneliness is what I am trying to achieve so I can one day become a great detective like L.
Thanks for the informal, great video.
When you feel lonely all the time even though you have a couple good friends, two parents who try their best and a brother who all love you....