Don't apologize, block them. I was just diagnosed in November. It is scary and I love listening to you. You are quite knowledgeable in this. Thank you so much. You make me feel calm when listening! 🙏❤
Discouraged. I want approval/acceptance, never think I'm good enough, severe major depression, use self harm to cope, have been suicidal since elementary with one serious attempt, hospitalized in the past with an eating disorder. I'll just throw in I also have CPTSD and tons of issues from that. I also hide my thoughts. My actions alone wouldn't get me a diagnosis of BPD because I don't "act" like one thinks someone with BPD should. Now, I THINK about acting like someone with BPD, but my abusive past makes me terrified to do so. Basically, I'm just messed up, hide it well, usually not taken seriously, became self destructive/suicidal. Rinse and repeat. Love the background! Fuck the haters.
My subtype is Petulant Borderline and it feels so hypocritical for me to expect those I have relationships with to love and treat me kindly when I don’t even love myself, and a lot of times I lash out because I feel like they don’t always deserve that same treatment JUST because I disagree with them on something. Like hey I’m gonna get an attitude and disagree with you but don’t you dare do that to me or my world will come crashing down and I’m taking you with me. Also, in relationships, I compare my actions to a quotes from Dwight in The Office: “I'm all about loyalty. In fact, I feel like part of what I'm being paid for here is my loyalty. But if there were somewhere else that valued loyalty more highly, I'm going wherever they value loyalty the most.” I relate to that because if someone’s not treating me with the affection and loyalty I feel I need, I start looking for it elsewhere and I don’t think of it as abandonment/bing fake/betrayal because I was the one feeling betrayed in the first place, if that makes sense? Loved this video ♡
Screw every single person who's giving you crap. Hugs to you!!! Found out about BPD subtypes while scouring the web for attachment related stuff. Read about the discouraged/silent type and it was like a punch in the gut. It really hit home. Then, when I saw that people rarely fit into just one subtype, the rest of the puzzle fell into place. Not diagnosed yet, but I suspect I will be when the only office in town with DBT trained therapists finally gets me in. Just guessing, but I think I'm probably about 60% discouraged, 30% petulant, 9% self-destructive, and maybe 1% impulsive. Thank you for talking so openly about this. I would be terrified.
No need to apologise, nor justify yourself because you have the right to be totally yourself in all the ways you need to be. If someone does not accept you, that's their thing. You are wonderful and I thank you so much for you being who you are and all your helpful work, Sammy xx
Discouraged, but I was definitely more impulsive when I was younger. Dr.Fox has some incredibly helpful BPD videos about the subtypes on his channel too! I love his empathy but also seriousness. Your new backdrop is super cute!
I’ve definitely fallen into all of these subcategories at some point of my journey...right now I totally display more impulsive and discouraged borderline traits. But when I’m having a really difficult time and have an episode I totally am more self destructive! Thanks for sharing this I am so excited to learn more about the types!
I just found you and your channel and it’s been so therapeutic binge watching ❤️ your courage to be vulnerable as a leader is f*cking incredible and truly inspiring. As for the haters😒 one thing that might help is changing the comment settings where you’re able to filter out certain key words. Sending you a big ol virtual hug🙌🏾🙏🏾💙✨ thank youuuu for all that you do Sam, happy to be apart of the #SamFam 😊💜
My mother had borderline personality disorder and I’m seeing her because she passed away. That thing is that I see you very normal compared to my mom my mom used to be a very heavy alcoholic self-destructive she never took care of us my grandmother took care of us. My grandmother is a narcissist and she’s the one that made my mom mentally ill and I had episodes especially in the past with the desociation self harm but I never acted on the self harm and always had suicidal thoughts I had very low self-esteem. And I tell you it’s been very hard because I decided not to do drugs not to drink I have two kids they have absolutely no idea about my life or what I feel because I just put a face of happiness in the perfect mother because I don’t want them to go through that shit that I went through and through the abuse that I went through. My grandmother abuse me horrendously. And I’m talking about physical mental and verbal abuse. The thing that help me to not have that emptiness anymore it was getting close to Jesus Christ I am a newborn Christian believer and that’s the thing that really helped me.
I’ve been diagnosed with bpd for most of my life now (I’m 23) and as you know, it’s heavily stigmatized by both people in general and even mental health professionals a lot of the time. It’s gotten to a point that if I open up to someone, I just say I have bipolar as I don’t want people googling it and seeing the worse ‘manipulative’ and ‘unstable’ nonstop. I really do thank you for doing these videos, you have no idea how many people you’re helping..me being one of them💕 there’s such strength in being so open and it’s nice to have someone to relate to🙌🏼
Thanks for going over the subtypes hun so we can all understand even more! 💙I don’t have BPD but I have OCD anxiety and depression so I’m very compassionate to anyone whose suffering from any mental health condition and I want to know all I can about them especially since I’m about to start grad school to be a therapist! I’m so sorry that people come at you in the comments when all you’re trying to do is be your authentic, true self with us! You’re doing an amazing job! Never forget that!💙Lastly... your background is SO COOL!💙
I am not diagnosed with BPD, but after reading about it a lot and watching some youtube videos , I think this could be what I am dealing with and from listening to those subtypes you were talking about , I can very much relate to Discouraged and Petulant.
It hurts listening to the end of your video. Some people don't understand how comments really affect us. Especially when you're being vulnerable, and you're doing your best. Those people who make those comments are not being empathetic whatsoever..... Fuck them.
Your making me cry right now, as I too feel the same, you are doing the best you can and admire you, us BPD tribe need to look after each other, we are genuine people whom are passionate and want to be understood, not misunderstood, be proud of yourself honey, as I couldn’t do what your doing, keep on going and hold your head up high, I’m trying to do this everyday too! Had my diagnosis late last year, just totally made sense in every way, and studying how the brain functions for a bpd beautiful person! Btw my voice shakes too , it’s because we are emotional and truthful, I’m learning to embrace it, and make it my friend, rather than be ashamed, as actually there’s nothing to be ashamed about ❤️❤️❤️😘❤️
I am a mix of all 4. I got diagnosed with BPD about 6 years ago but definitely have struggled with BPD since a youngen. Right now I am trying to think which one I mostly identify as and I am still thinking 🤔😜 I most strongly relate to petulant (spell check?😜) but have traits in all 4. I recommend the DBT workbook too I have not done it for a few years but it is very helpful I love the DBT group therapies too. I love your background Sammy and I love listening to your personal experiences ❤️💚💙💛💜 P.S. big hugs 🤗 do not listen to the cruelty I love how real raw and vulnerable you are and BPD is real and challenging as is all mental health diagnosis. I love the authentic Sammy how you act talk ect… so those cruel comments I think stem from jealousy and or they think so little of themselves they feel they need to hurt others. You keep being you!!!!😜❤️💚💙💛💜 I also feel it is ok and healthy to feel and express how we feel annnnd to be our awesome authentic selves 🤪😜😊🤩 Also can you or did you do a video for how Brian copes? I think educating my husband and teaching him tools would be helpful too.
Also hell to people who give you shit for things you can't control like dissociating or medication symptoms. I'm sorry you feel the need to apologize for it. I really love and appreciate you keep it so real and show the reality of mental illness. You're powerful 💞
Thank you for your vulnerability. You are doing great, and those of us who relate to your illness understand. Those who criticize your behavior are probably narcissists/sociopathic/psychopaths who lack empathy. I’m gonna say it again - THANK YOU for putting yourself out there. I am severely lacking in a support system and your honesty about what you’re going through truly makes me feel less alone. So fuck anyone who judges your behavior, because you’re not doing this for them - you’re doing this for those of us who are trying to make sense of the fucked up shit our brains are putting us through.
I am so sorry people are so mean! I don't have BPD but I do have someone in my life who does. I have plenty of my own issues, including disassociation that causes a lot of problems in my day to day life. I wanted to tell you that I just found you today and I am so impressed and inspired by you! You are kicking ass! Thank you for being so willing to open up your life to help others in this way. It's so incredibly brave and so incredibly needed. You are already at the top of my list of one of my personal hero's. I look forward to learning more from you. Thank you again!
And really, to all of those who leave hate comments, girl, they're SO ignorant, they have no idea what we go through. Feel sorry for their lack of common sense, knowledge and sensitivity. I'm sure they're also suffering inside, just too afraid to admit it and do something about it. They also need help (probably a different one than us, but definitely). This whole world needs a lot of healing💛✨
Hey Sammy, I really appreciate every video you do. You always put yourself out there and be authentic with living with BPD, I am always in awe at your bravery with sharing your struggles so honestly. It is so much different when somebody stands up and talks about something so hard and so personal rather than just hearing out of a textbook how living with BPD is. Don’t ever worry about being off some days (as we all do) and being a grouch or bitchy because even though I don’t know you personally I know you are a great person, you share such an emotional and positive light on BPD for no other reason but to help others. Never apologise for being what you feel is the best version of yourself! You are amazing. Ps. I know you’ve mentioned before about your PTSD and nightmares, but I don’t think you’ve done a video on that yet. I would love to here one on dreams (and maybe even insomniac/manic nights) , not necessarily all on nightmares but what it’s like for you. I know with myself I sometimes what up groggy and ‘dissociative’ when I wake up after having certain dreams and it affects my day life, I was wondering if you experienced the same thing? 🤣 anyway, sorry for the paragraph, LOVE YOU!!! 💙
I used the identify with all of these subtypes, when younger, but now I’m mostly down to discouraged being my worst, self-distructive thr second and petulant the third. I feel like my impulsevity is waaaaaay less bad than it was, all though work still needs to be done (I have some issues with emotional shopping). I’ve come so far, your video are super helpful! ♥️
Oh my gosh...I just watched this. I have watched one video, twice...and a couple more, over last couple days. I want you to know t h i s...throughout your entire first video I watched, I said, the entire video-‘WOW! She is fantastic!’. I am not making that up. I really did. Even the second time I watched the first video *(watched right before this one), again, I found myself saying, ‘oh my gosh, she is so wonderful!’, many times. What you are talking about, is so important and helpful. I am so freaking proud of you and I truly think, you are an absolute gem girl! I know it must be infuriating and frustrating that turdy people comment but I hope you can find a way to redirect back on the people who really appreciate, V A L U E and truly get a ton out of what you are saying because you really are freaking amazing and honestly-special-you can just see it as it comes through your videos. Sending all the love! Thank you for showing up, so on point! 🙌🏽
I don't have BPD, but I still find your videos super interesting! Thanks to you I'm now equipped with lots of knowledge that will help me be a better friend to people in my life with BPD.
Ugh I had a follower the other day try to tell me they don’t think I have borderline and I was so triggered. Like you aren’t my therapist/psychiatrist, you don’t see the *majority* of my life, but go off. Love you girl, we support you always
Sammy, you are SO INSPIRATION to me 😭😭😭🖤🖤🖤 please don't apologize for your mental health issues, you are amazing. I just wanted to say that my voice shakes most of the time when I talk as well, so you are not alone. So much love and support to you 🖤🖤🖤
Thank you for how viscerally raw your content is. You don't hide the truth behind how difficult living with BPD is which is yet another testament to your strength. Your openness and your vulnerability is inspiring, thank you for your content. ♥️ The last portion hit home for me. It can be so exhausting constantly having to justify oneself to other people, especially ones who don't understand and would rather judge than ask questions. BPD turn-up!
Hope you’re doing okay. I have had similar struggles and went through years of “treatment” only to realize that it’s the mind and self we must work on and take care of the drugs are nearly pointless. Not sure if you are in a state that has legal cbd but after hearing that it’s worked wonders for others, the under the tongue droplets did numbers for me ! 💗💗
I have bpd and love your content. Would have loved all the info you give out about bpd when I was finding out about my bpd 20 years ago.F@*$ the haters. You're amazing. Keep up the great content.
Aww honey! You are doing great and I think each and everyone of us should take our hats off for you! I live with one who got BPD and darn know how difficult it could get, for both sides and I wish that he´s doing half of the things you are doing! Keep it up and carry on ! Loads of love!
So fucking grateful that you're doing this, it takes so much courage to take this step but this step was vital you're are helping so many people by doing this, I can't even express how thankful I am for this channel,💟
I think this is a very important topic to cover. I don't have BPD, my brother does. I love your new background! One thing I noticed at times in this video is your skin would turn yellow in certain areas. I'm not sure if it is from a light in front of you or if it was makeup reflecting it. I've never noticed it before in your videos. Just thought I should mention it. Love your videos as always!
I definitely identify with all 4, but most days lately I'm the discouraged type. Before I got sober from hard drugs and alcohol, I would say I was definitely the impulsive type. Before my alcohol and drug addiction l I was definitely the self destructive type, and before that I was definitely the petulant type. I want you to know that I think you've got so much courage and strength and I wish I could be brave like you to get on here and talk about this. This Illness is so hard to navigate. I have NO idea how to trust myself. I am aware of what's going on, but everything about it is SO DAMN INTENSE. And when I'm triggered it can be terrifying. So I understand what you're going through and everyday is a battle. Keep doing you and there will always be people there critiquing you, honestly fuck them...they do not matter. You're helping SO MANY. Love you sista. 💓
I have shifted through all 4 at one point or another in my life. Currently, I have aspects of Impulsive, but am more of a mix of Discouraged and Petulant. Also, I love the background.
I love how open and honest you are. I cannot say that too often :) Your channel helped me get more empathy and understanding for people around me. It made me very conscious about the fact, that everybody has something they deal with that we cannot see from the outside! Not to say that I was hating on mentally ill people before or anything, but I think it is very easy to get trapped with all the stigma, stereotypes, predjudices that is thrown around in our society. Your channel is raising awareness and that is f*cking awesome! ♥
thank you so much for being so strong and continuing to produce contact through your own struggles. you have such a big heart! you deserve all the love and happiness.
I think you're awesome and doing a great job managing bpd and also trying to help others with theirs... Some people want mental illness just be a word and are uncomfortable seeing the actuality of it and don't 'get' that you can't fake 'normal'... We can all only be who we are...
This is one of my FAVORITE videos on BPD EVER. You do a fantastic job explaining things in a way that’s easy to understand & relatable. Thank you so much for sharing your personal experiences. I am grateful for all of your videos on your UA-cam channel. So proud of you! Stay strong. & Stay true to you. You are a unique and talented person. Thanx again!
For me I'd say either the Petulant or Self Destructive subtype, but I see myself in all of them. I'm super excited for your 3rd book, hopefully I can get it in an accessible format (I'm blind), because I think it could REALLY help me. And as for the comments, I am so sorry. I get those comments as well both on and off UA-cam. I think you're amazing, and doing great things. So screw them for being assholes.
I am discouraged and self destructive borderline. Its hard nobody gets it. Even when you have BPD you don't know your own emotions and feelings sometimes let alone other people. Mental illness is very difficult. My parents are the only ones who know I am BPD and bipolar (also what are your thoughts with people with BPD and Bipolar, I think im just BPD but my psych just diagnosed me with a bunch or stuff but I think its only BPD, what do you do when you disagree with your psych?) I'm embarrassed at times, but watching your videos make me more prideful in my mental illness, BPD turn up!
I identify with impulsive BPD but just as well as with all the other three. Great setup, very cool and neon. Dissociation and not being able to cope are difficult things to deal with. I had to comeback to the comment and ask if you are on Quora. Thank you.
Wait sorry, I dont mean to pressurize you. I just mean that understanding my destructive behaviour can lead to better solutions. I just wanted to thank you for sharing
This is so interesting to me to! I definitely identity most with discouraged and destructive subtypes. I have a friend who is more impulsive subtype so it's very interesting seeing how they express out and I express in. Thanks as always for your content 💞
I have the discouraged and self-destructive subtypes! It's so cool that I was doing my BPD workbook about subtypes when I saw this video lol! perfect timing!
Also I just ordered the dbt workbook! I did DBT in partial last summer and it helped so much! Can’t wait to get this book and yours as well when it comes out! You’re amazing 🌙
Personally, I face it head-on and make myself talk to people. Had a customer service job for a few years. It didn't work out in the end but at least some social grace was earned. I often think of the goal, like getting to know people better, making friends to not feel lonely. I hate eating around people, but am trying to warm up to that.
I’ve had all different subtypes come up during different times within my life. And working throughout my BPD workbook, I’ve checked off for discourages and self destructive.
Great video! People need to stop judging or criticizing you! You do a great job with all the things that you do! People can be hurtful and sometimes they don't even care! So sorry for your loss! Love you!
Impulsive and self destructive. Ugh, I just want to sleep. I've been resisting the urge to self harm for about 3 weeks now. I've made tons of progress on my anger problems. I've been working on self care and image but fuck, it's hard. I go from feeling like THE SHIT to just feeling like a peice of shit.... like now.
I also recommend that workbook, I had it years ago but it was definitely a decent one. Edit: who the fuck comes on a channel like this and says shit like that? Don't shame people for having symptoms that you don't understand etc.
Sammy! 😢❤️ You are so resilient girl 👏🏼 People will never truly understand that the intensity of mental illness symptoms vary person to person, and managing those symptoms is all you can do! Their comments are ignorant and lack empathy. Thinking of you and sending positive thoughts. Keep living your best life ya beaut! 💗💗 You continue to inspire and motivate so many, breaking the stigma surrounding mental illness and spreading awareness about BPD! Fucking get it girl! 🥵 You're amazing. Sending you so much love. #SamFam for life !
Also, your ebook is perfect! I have a background in Child and Youth Work + mental health, and it would be something that I would love to distribute to the girls I work with who are 9-14 years old. Very well done!
I was recently diagnosed with bpd and after watching this video I am not sure if this is possible and will ask my therapist but I belive when I was younger around 13 and before it was impulsive but now being 16 I belive I have the discouragement with traits of impulsive because now I resignate with the disscourment one more
I think I'm impulsive. I've done stuff online that would sound like either impulsive or self destructive. I like drinking when I have it available to me and vaping. But I try not to do it so much just for medicating at times when things get bad. I wasn't medically diagnosed but alot of my past experiences mirror BPD and some people think it's just my ADHD and mental illness. But I know me more than anyone does. I even asked for DBT but they insisted I didn't need it but my psychiatrist doesn't think I have it. So I'm stuck in a rough place. All I can do now is buy the books.
🙁💜💜💜 Sammy... People make absolutely no Fuckin sense. They look at us like we need help and we're fucked.... But in actuality it's not us doing a lot of shit at the end of the day. We are expected to be better and do better and all this shit.... When we just aren't made to fit with society... We can't do what's all expected. We can't control most if this shit.... I believe that others need to do more and "be on" more and help the situation. We can't Fuckin do everything. Half the time I stare at shit while I'm doing it and idk wtf I was even doing, or looking at... I remember nothing and yet all my stuffs done. 🤷🏻♀️ Also, no one thinks of added medical issues either that we deal with. If others know we have issues, they should just be like.. oh she's having a moment and that's it. Not be like wtf is wrong with you... Like omg. So irritating. I know and I understand. 💜💜
I fall into the 4 subtypes, can't choose one... There may be 1 or 2 that identify me better but I honestly can see myself having all of them. Starting DBT Therapy soon, so hopeful!❤️💪🏽
Interesting video never heard of sub types before. I really enjoyed it. It's always the norms out there telling us we need to recover from BPD. I often wondered if they are correct or just have no idea. We with BPD experience life at a higher level. Where more energetic, outgoing, impulses. Then you got your normal people out there trying to put us down with some sub types trying to say that we're the bad ones. They can not experience life at the same level that we do. So they try to dim the light, they try to bring us down. So we stop shining brightly. To do so we need recovery or did they just need to learn how to shine brighter.
Hi Sammy. Do you have an email? I have so many questions. I have a family member who needs help but am at a lost on how to help him. Therapist are so expensive. I would love to know any resources for low income people with BPD. Thank you! For spreding your knowledge putting yourself out here for us to see. Your genuinely a sweet person. Also, I wish you wouldn't be so apologetic to the viewers, people will hate and make comments but I know this relaness shows how pure your heart is. Love ya girl!!! I'm sorry about your loss. Keep your head up.
My bf's mother has all 4 subtypes. If I had to rank from most to least or subtype shows most etc... 1st. Tie - the petulant & self destructive subtypes, 2nd Discouraged subtype & 3rd Impulsive subtype. My sister on other hand has maybe only 1 or 2 subtypes. Bpd definitely effects each person differently and we definitely can't put all into 1 group or basket for lack of better wording.
I think my subtype changed throughout the years. It definitely started out Petulant but as I took meds and went to therapy it's changed to more of inward hate and shame of my past and more Self-destructive now.
Please don’t apologize for your voice wabble! It’s part of the package and the package is awesome.
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Don't apologize, block them. I was just diagnosed in November. It is scary and I love listening to you. You are quite knowledgeable in this. Thank you so much. You make me feel calm when listening! 🙏❤
I have the same thing with my voice as well, and knowing that someone else goes through what I'm going through is making me feel so much better 🖤😭
Discouraged. I want approval/acceptance, never think I'm good enough, severe major depression, use self harm to cope, have been suicidal since elementary with one serious attempt, hospitalized in the past with an eating disorder. I'll just throw in I also have CPTSD and tons of issues from that.
I also hide my thoughts. My actions alone wouldn't get me a diagnosis of BPD because I don't "act" like one thinks someone with BPD should. Now, I THINK about acting like someone with BPD, but my abusive past makes me terrified to do so.
Basically, I'm just messed up, hide it well, usually not taken seriously, became self destructive/suicidal. Rinse and repeat.
Love the background! Fuck the haters.
Samzies. Hugs 💗💛❤️💖
I'm a impulsive and self destructive, but I could see myself in the other two categories in the past.
My subtype is Petulant Borderline and it feels so hypocritical for me to expect those I have relationships with to love and treat me kindly when I don’t even love myself, and a lot of times I lash out because I feel like they don’t always deserve that same treatment JUST because I disagree with them on something. Like hey I’m gonna get an attitude and disagree with you but don’t you dare do that to me or my world will come crashing down and I’m taking you with me.
Also, in relationships, I compare my actions to a quotes from Dwight in The Office:
“I'm all about loyalty. In fact, I feel like part of what I'm being paid for here is my loyalty. But if there were somewhere else that valued loyalty more highly, I'm going wherever they value loyalty the most.”
I relate to that because if someone’s not treating me with the affection and loyalty I feel I need, I start looking for it elsewhere and I don’t think of it as abandonment/bing fake/betrayal because I was the one feeling betrayed in the first place, if that makes sense?
Loved this video ♡
Wow never related to anyone so much! Thank you for putting into words what’s been stuck in my head
Screw every single person who's giving you crap. Hugs to you!!! Found out about BPD subtypes while scouring the web for attachment related stuff. Read about the discouraged/silent type and it was like a punch in the gut. It really hit home. Then, when I saw that people rarely fit into just one subtype, the rest of the puzzle fell into place. Not diagnosed yet, but I suspect I will be when the only office in town with DBT trained therapists finally gets me in. Just guessing, but I think I'm probably about 60% discouraged, 30% petulant, 9% self-destructive, and maybe 1% impulsive. Thank you for talking so openly about this. I would be terrified.
No need to apologise, nor justify yourself because you have the right to be totally yourself in all the ways you need to be. If someone does not accept you, that's their thing. You are wonderful and I thank you so much for you being who you are and all your helpful work, Sammy xx
I identify with discouraged and self destructive borderline, a mix of both. Also, I love your new back drop setup! It's a total vibe. 💚
These are my 2 sub-types too.
aww Sammy
Discouraged, but I was definitely more impulsive when I was younger. Dr.Fox has some incredibly helpful BPD videos about the subtypes on his channel too! I love his empathy but also seriousness.
Your new backdrop is super cute!
I love Daniel Fox, he’s such a sweetheart! I always feel like crying, when watching his videos, because he makes me feel so safe. ♥️
He so underrated and incredible. 🖤
I’ve definitely fallen into all of these subcategories at some point of my journey...right now I totally display more impulsive and discouraged borderline traits. But when I’m having a really difficult time and have an episode I totally am more self destructive! Thanks for sharing this I am so excited to learn more about the types!
I feel like I have identified with all of them at some point in my life.
This is very relatable.
I just found you and your channel and it’s been so therapeutic binge watching ❤️ your courage to be vulnerable as a leader is f*cking incredible and truly inspiring.
As for the haters😒 one thing that might help is changing the comment settings where you’re able to filter out certain key words.
Sending you a big ol virtual hug🙌🏾🙏🏾💙✨ thank youuuu for all that you do Sam, happy to be apart of the #SamFam 😊💜
My mother had borderline personality disorder and I’m seeing her because she passed away. That thing is that I see you very normal compared to my mom my mom used to be a very heavy alcoholic self-destructive she never took care of us my grandmother took care of us. My grandmother is a narcissist and she’s the one that made my mom mentally ill and I had episodes especially in the past with the desociation self harm but I never acted on the self harm and always had suicidal thoughts I had very low self-esteem. And I tell you it’s been very hard because I decided not to do drugs not to drink I have two kids they have absolutely no idea about my life or what I feel because I just put a face of happiness in the perfect mother because I don’t want them to go through that shit that I went through and through the abuse that I went through. My grandmother abuse me horrendously. And I’m talking about physical mental and verbal abuse. The thing that help me to not have that emptiness anymore it was getting close to Jesus Christ I am a newborn Christian believer and that’s the thing that really helped me.
I’ve been diagnosed with bpd for most of my life now (I’m 23) and as you know, it’s heavily stigmatized by both people in general and even mental health professionals a lot of the time. It’s gotten to a point that if I open up to someone, I just say I have bipolar as I don’t want people googling it and seeing the worse ‘manipulative’ and ‘unstable’ nonstop. I really do thank you for doing these videos, you have no idea how many people you’re helping..me being one of them💕 there’s such strength in being so open and it’s nice to have someone to relate to🙌🏼
Thanks for going over the subtypes hun so we can all understand even more! 💙I don’t have BPD but I have OCD anxiety and depression so I’m very compassionate to anyone whose suffering from any mental health condition and I want to know all I can about them especially since I’m about to start grad school to be a therapist! I’m so sorry that people come at you in the comments when all you’re trying to do is be your authentic, true self with us! You’re doing an amazing job! Never forget that!💙Lastly... your background is SO COOL!💙
God! I wish my kids father understood BPD like Brian at least tries too, watching your videos make me not feel alone!
Jess B I understand all to well always pretending I had it together when I had my kids of the fear they would get taken away. Suffering in silence
I am not diagnosed with BPD, but after reading about it a lot and watching some youtube videos , I think this could be what I am dealing with
and from listening to those subtypes you were talking about , I can very much relate to Discouraged and Petulant.
It hurts listening to the end of your video. Some people don't understand how comments really affect us.
Especially when you're being vulnerable, and you're doing your best.
Those people who make those comments are not being empathetic whatsoever.....
Fuck them.
Your making me cry right now, as I too feel the same, you are doing the best you can and admire you, us BPD tribe need to look after each other, we are genuine people whom are passionate and want to be understood, not misunderstood, be proud of yourself honey, as I couldn’t do what your doing, keep on going and hold your head up high, I’m trying to do this everyday too! Had my diagnosis late last year, just totally made sense in every way, and studying how the brain functions for a bpd beautiful person! Btw my voice shakes too , it’s because we are emotional and truthful, I’m learning to embrace it, and make it my friend, rather than be ashamed, as actually there’s nothing to be ashamed about ❤️❤️❤️😘❤️
I am a mix of all 4. I got diagnosed with BPD about 6 years ago but definitely have struggled with BPD since a youngen. Right now I am trying to think which one I mostly identify as and I am still thinking 🤔😜 I most strongly relate to petulant (spell check?😜) but have traits in all 4. I recommend the DBT workbook too I have not done it for a few years but it is very helpful I love the DBT group therapies too. I love your background Sammy and I love listening to your personal experiences ❤️💚💙💛💜 P.S. big hugs 🤗 do not listen to the cruelty I love how real raw and vulnerable you are and BPD is real and challenging as is all mental health diagnosis. I love the authentic Sammy how you act talk ect… so those cruel comments I think stem from jealousy and or they think so little of themselves they feel they need to hurt others. You keep being you!!!!😜❤️💚💙💛💜 I also feel it is ok and healthy to feel and express how we feel annnnd to be our awesome authentic selves 🤪😜😊🤩 Also can you or did you do a video for how Brian copes? I think educating my husband and teaching him tools would be helpful too.
Also hell to people who give you shit for things you can't control like dissociating or medication symptoms. I'm sorry you feel the need to apologize for it.
I really love and appreciate you keep it so real and show the reality of mental illness. You're powerful 💞
I deffinetly identify with all 4 the most. it depends on the day which sub type fits me. I find that very fascinating.
Thank you for your vulnerability. You are doing great, and those of us who relate to your illness understand. Those who criticize your behavior are probably narcissists/sociopathic/psychopaths who lack empathy. I’m gonna say it again - THANK YOU for putting yourself out there. I am severely lacking in a support system and your honesty about what you’re going through truly makes me feel less alone. So fuck anyone who judges your behavior, because you’re not doing this for them - you’re doing this for those of us who are trying to make sense of the fucked up shit our brains are putting us through.
I am so sorry people are so mean! I don't have BPD but I do have someone in my life who does. I have plenty of my own issues, including disassociation that causes a lot of problems in my day to day life. I wanted to tell you that I just found you today and I am so impressed and inspired by you! You are kicking ass! Thank you for being so willing to open up your life to help others in this way. It's so incredibly brave and so incredibly needed. You are already at the top of my list of one of my personal hero's. I look forward to learning more from you. Thank you again!
And really, to all of those who leave hate comments, girl, they're SO ignorant, they have no idea what we go through. Feel sorry for their lack of common sense, knowledge and sensitivity. I'm sure they're also suffering inside, just too afraid to admit it and do something about it. They also need help (probably a different one than us, but definitely). This whole world needs a lot of healing💛✨
Hey Sammy, I really appreciate every video you do. You always put yourself out there and be authentic with living with BPD, I am always in awe at your bravery with sharing your struggles so honestly. It is so much different when somebody stands up and talks about something so hard and so personal rather than just hearing out of a textbook how living with BPD is. Don’t ever worry about being off some days (as we all do) and being a grouch or bitchy because even though I don’t know you personally I know you are a great person, you share such an emotional and positive light on BPD for no other reason but to help others. Never apologise for being what you feel is the best version of yourself! You are amazing. Ps. I know you’ve mentioned before about your PTSD and nightmares, but I don’t think you’ve done a video on that yet. I would love to here one on dreams (and maybe even insomniac/manic nights) , not necessarily all on nightmares but what it’s like for you. I know with myself I sometimes what up groggy and ‘dissociative’ when I wake up after having certain dreams and it affects my day life, I was wondering if you experienced the same thing? 🤣 anyway, sorry for the paragraph, LOVE YOU!!! 💙
I used the identify with all of these subtypes, when younger, but now I’m mostly down to discouraged being my worst, self-distructive thr second and petulant the third.
I feel like my impulsevity is waaaaaay less bad than it was, all though work still needs to be done (I have some issues with emotional shopping). I’ve come so far, your video are super helpful! ♥️
Oh my gosh...I just watched this. I have watched one video, twice...and a couple more, over last couple days. I want you to know t h i s...throughout your entire first video I watched, I said, the entire video-‘WOW! She is fantastic!’. I am not making that up. I really did. Even the second time I watched the first video *(watched right before this one), again, I found myself saying, ‘oh my gosh, she is so wonderful!’, many times. What you are talking about, is so important and helpful. I am so freaking proud of you and I truly think, you are an absolute gem girl! I know it must be infuriating and frustrating that turdy people comment but I hope you can find a way to redirect back on the people who really appreciate, V A L U E and truly get a ton out of what you are saying because you really are freaking amazing and honestly-special-you can just see it as it comes through your videos. Sending all the love! Thank you for showing up, so on point! 🙌🏽
I relate strongly to all categories but probably fit in most with the petulant bpd! Thank you Sammy for being such a beautiful advocate for bpd!!
Mine seems to be a mix between Petulant and Discouraged.
Me too.
I don't have BPD, but I still find your videos super interesting! Thanks to you I'm now equipped with lots of knowledge that will help me be a better friend to people in my life with BPD.
Ugh I had a follower the other day try to tell me they don’t think I have borderline and I was so triggered. Like you aren’t my therapist/psychiatrist, you don’t see the *majority* of my life, but go off. Love you girl, we support you always
Sorry that happened to you 🙁💕💕💕
Sammy, you are SO INSPIRATION to me 😭😭😭🖤🖤🖤 please don't apologize for your mental health issues, you are amazing. I just wanted to say that my voice shakes most of the time when I talk as well, so you are not alone. So much love and support to you 🖤🖤🖤
Thank you for how viscerally raw your content is. You don't hide the truth behind how difficult living with BPD is which is yet another testament to your strength. Your openness and your vulnerability is inspiring, thank you for your content. ♥️ The last portion hit home for me. It can be so exhausting constantly having to justify oneself to other people, especially ones who don't understand and would rather judge than ask questions. BPD turn-up!
Personality disorders are extremely common, I have two gf that just learned they have BPD at 38. This information could have helped them so much.
Hope you’re doing okay. I have had similar struggles and went through years of “treatment” only to realize that it’s the mind and self we must work on and take care of the drugs are nearly pointless. Not sure if you are in a state that has legal cbd but after hearing that it’s worked wonders for others, the under the tongue droplets did numbers for me ! 💗💗
I have bpd and love your content. Would have loved all the info you give out about bpd when I was finding out about my bpd 20 years ago.F@*$ the haters. You're amazing. Keep up the great content.
Aww honey! You are doing great and I think each and everyone of us should take our hats off for you! I live with one who got BPD and darn know how difficult it could get, for both sides and I wish that he´s doing half of the things you are doing! Keep it up and carry on ! Loads of love!
So fucking grateful that you're doing this, it takes so much courage to take this step but this step was vital you're are helping so many people by doing this, I can't even express how thankful I am for this channel,💟
I think this is a very important topic to cover. I don't have BPD, my brother does. I love your new background! One thing I noticed at times in this video is your skin would turn yellow in certain areas. I'm not sure if it is from a light in front of you or if it was makeup reflecting it. I've never noticed it before in your videos. Just thought I should mention it. Love your videos as always!
😔 i'm so sorry for your loss. i hope you get a chance to take it easy and take care of yourself! shits hard out there
So sorry for your loss...try not to let those comments get to you...you are doing awesome 💜
I definitely identify with all 4, but most days lately I'm the discouraged type. Before I got sober from hard drugs and alcohol, I would say I was definitely the impulsive type. Before my alcohol and drug addiction l I was definitely the self destructive type, and before that I was definitely the petulant type. I want you to know that I think you've got so much courage and strength and I wish I could be brave like you to get on here and talk about this. This Illness is so hard to navigate. I have NO idea how to trust myself. I am aware of what's going on, but everything about it is SO DAMN INTENSE. And when I'm triggered it can be terrifying. So I understand what you're going through and everyday is a battle. Keep doing you and there will always be people there critiquing you, honestly fuck them...they do not matter. You're helping SO MANY. Love you sista. 💓
Just downloaded your free ebook and read it! Thank you! I’m going to print it and hang it somewhere as a reminder everyday.
I have shifted through all 4 at one point or another in my life. Currently, I have aspects of Impulsive, but am more of a mix of Discouraged and Petulant. Also, I love the background.
I love how open and honest you are. I cannot say that too often :) Your channel helped me get more empathy and understanding for people around me. It made me very conscious about the fact, that everybody has something they deal with that we cannot see from the outside! Not to say that I was hating on mentally ill people before or anything, but I think it is very easy to get trapped with all the stigma, stereotypes, predjudices that is thrown around in our society. Your channel is raising awareness and that is f*cking awesome! ♥
I fall under all of those categories......fml
Sammy you are a gift thank you for all that you do.
thank you so much for being so strong and continuing to produce contact through your own struggles. you have such a big heart! you deserve all the love and happiness.
I used to be all of these until DBT came into my life. But I relate to all these
I think you're awesome and doing a great job managing bpd and also trying to help others with theirs...
Some people want mental illness just be a word and are uncomfortable seeing the actuality of it and don't 'get' that you can't fake 'normal'...
We can all only be who we are...
This is one of my FAVORITE videos on BPD EVER. You do a fantastic job explaining things in a way that’s easy to understand & relatable. Thank you so much for sharing your personal experiences. I am grateful for all of your videos on your UA-cam channel. So proud of you! Stay strong. & Stay true to you. You are a unique and talented person. Thanx again!
For me I'd say either the Petulant or Self Destructive subtype, but I see myself in all of them. I'm super excited for your 3rd book, hopefully I can get it in an accessible format (I'm blind), because I think it could REALLY help me. And as for the comments, I am so sorry. I get those comments as well both on and off UA-cam. I think you're amazing, and doing great things. So screw them for being assholes.
I appreciate you and your channel, I also have BPD so it feels good to have someone talking about it out loud, you are inspiring! Thank you:)
Someone who actually understands! not everyone knows this stuff for sure:/
so thanks for that support yay!
Thank you for being open and vulnerable with us about what’s going on in your life. I wish you all the courage and strength 🖤🖤
I am discouraged and self destructive borderline. Its hard nobody gets it. Even when you have BPD you don't know your own emotions and feelings sometimes let alone other people. Mental illness is very difficult. My parents are the only ones who know I am BPD and bipolar (also what are your thoughts with people with BPD and Bipolar, I think im just BPD but my psych just diagnosed me with a bunch or stuff but I think its only BPD, what do you do when you disagree with your psych?) I'm embarrassed at times, but watching your videos make me more prideful in my mental illness, BPD turn up!
I identify with impulsive BPD but just as well as with all the other three. Great setup, very cool and neon. Dissociation and not being able to cope are difficult things to deal with. I had to comeback to the comment and ask if you are on Quora. Thank you.
Love your hair so much :))
I also love the new setup you have. Brian did a great job with helping you :D
Bless you! your very brave and an inspiration.. and very beautiful with a cool style ..... more power to you
I identify with impulsive and self-destructive
im impulsive and the self destructive borderline sub type. I have the voice wobble as well.
Thank you for putting yourself out there, I really appreciate it. I feel less alone and not totally out of control and that I can get better
Wait sorry, I dont mean to pressurize you. I just mean that understanding my destructive behaviour can lead to better solutions. I just wanted to thank you for sharing
I’m definitely most the petulant one and as a second one also the impulsive one ..
I definitely identify with impulsive. I've always thought it was my personality. WOW!
This is so interesting to me to! I definitely identity most with discouraged and destructive subtypes. I have a friend who is more impulsive subtype so it's very interesting seeing how they express out and I express in.
Thanks as always for your content 💞
I have the discouraged and self-destructive subtypes! It's so cool that I was doing my BPD workbook about subtypes when I saw this video lol! perfect timing!
Also I just ordered the dbt workbook! I did DBT in partial last summer and it helped so much! Can’t wait to get this book and yours as well when it comes out! You’re amazing 🌙
First!! A question: do you also have social anxiety? And how to cope with it?
Ps: i identify most with the self destructive borderline
Yes I do especially in the stores when I have to check out
Personally, I face it head-on and make myself talk to people. Had a customer service job for a few years. It didn't work out in the end but at least some social grace was earned. I often think of the goal, like getting to know people better, making friends to not feel lonely. I hate eating around people, but am trying to warm up to that.
I’ve had all different subtypes come up during different times within my life. And working throughout my BPD workbook, I’ve checked off for discourages and self destructive.
Great video! People need to stop judging or criticizing you! You do a great job with all the things that you do! People can be hurtful and sometimes they don't even care! So sorry for your loss! Love you!
Impulsive and self destructive. Ugh, I just want to sleep. I've been resisting the urge to self harm for about 3 weeks now. I've made tons of progress on my anger problems. I've been working on self care and image but fuck, it's hard. I go from feeling like THE SHIT to just feeling like a peice of shit.... like now.
I had to bye the DBT- book after watching your video😊
I also recommend that workbook, I had it years ago but it was definitely a decent one.
Edit: who the fuck comes on a channel like this and says shit like that? Don't shame people for having symptoms that you don't understand etc.
I definitely identify with the discouraged type
Sammy! 😢❤️ You are so resilient girl 👏🏼 People will never truly understand that the intensity of mental illness symptoms vary person to person, and managing those symptoms is all you can do! Their comments are ignorant and lack
empathy. Thinking of you and sending positive thoughts. Keep living your best life ya beaut! 💗💗 You continue to inspire and motivate so many, breaking the stigma surrounding mental illness and spreading awareness about BPD! Fucking get it girl! 🥵 You're amazing. Sending you so much love. #SamFam for life !
Also, your ebook is perfect! I have a background in Child and Youth Work + mental health, and it would be something that I would love to distribute to the girls I work with who are 9-14 years old. Very well done!
I was recently diagnosed with bpd and after watching this video I am not sure if this is possible and will ask my therapist but I belive when I was younger around 13 and before it was impulsive but now being 16 I belive I have the discouragement with traits of impulsive because now I resignate with the disscourment one more
*i'm in all categories and that's damn worrying*
Omg what is your lipstick color IM IN LOVE WITH IT 😍😍😍
This is the 1st vídeo i watch on ur channel, thank you 4 existing!!! I got my diagnose 10 years ago.
I think I'm impulsive. I've done stuff online that would sound like either impulsive or self destructive. I like drinking when I have it available to me and vaping. But I try not to do it so much just for medicating at times when things get bad. I wasn't medically diagnosed but alot of my past experiences mirror BPD and some people think it's just my ADHD and mental illness. But I know me more than anyone does. I even asked for DBT but they insisted I didn't need it but my psychiatrist doesn't think I have it. So I'm stuck in a rough place. All I can do now is buy the books.
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Sammy... People make absolutely no Fuckin sense.
They look at us like we need help and we're fucked.... But in actuality it's not us doing a lot of shit at the end of the day.
We are expected to be better and do better and all this shit.... When we just aren't made to fit with society... We can't do what's all expected.
We can't control most if this shit.... I believe that others need to do more and "be on" more and help the situation.
We can't Fuckin do everything.
Half the time I stare at shit while I'm doing it and idk wtf I was even doing, or looking at... I remember nothing and yet all my stuffs done. 🤷🏻♀️
Also, no one thinks of added medical issues either that we deal with.
If others know we have issues, they should just be like.. oh she's having a moment and that's it. Not be like wtf is wrong with you... Like omg. So irritating.
I know and I understand.
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I identify with all the subtypes 😬😬😬
It's petulant and not putulant :) which is my sub-type btw... I have also heard it is possible to be a mix of them!
Heavily identifie with discouraged and destructive, and pretty much always have.
I fall into the 4 subtypes, can't choose one... There may be 1 or 2 that identify me better but I honestly can see myself having all of them. Starting DBT Therapy soon, so hopeful!❤️💪🏽
Very excellent presentation.
Interesting video never heard of sub types before. I really enjoyed it. It's always the norms out there telling us we need to recover from BPD. I often wondered if they are correct or just have no idea. We with BPD experience life at a higher level. Where more energetic, outgoing, impulses. Then you got your normal people out there trying to put us down with some sub types trying to say that we're the bad ones. They can not experience life at the same level that we do. So they try to dim the light, they try to bring us down. So we stop shining brightly. To do so we need recovery or did they just need to learn how to shine brighter.
I identify the most with the discouraged borderline. But I think I’m getting better, I’m trying.
Petulant borderline as well.
Background is 🔥🔥 thank you for all the videos you do 💚
I'm also the Impulsive Type. I relate to everything in that catergory other than seeking attention from others..
You're the cutest! Love the end to this video, all my love and support.
No need to appologize, love! ♥️
I feel like I identify mostly with the impulsive sub type
Yayyyyyy I gave you this recommendation on Twitter ❤️ Thanks for posting!
Hi Sammy. Do you have an email? I have so many questions. I have a family member who needs help but am at a lost on how to help him. Therapist are so expensive. I would love to know any resources for low income people with BPD. Thank you! For spreding your knowledge putting yourself out here for us to see. Your genuinely a sweet person. Also, I wish you wouldn't be so apologetic to the viewers, people will hate and make comments but I know this relaness shows how pure your heart is. Love ya girl!!! I'm sorry about your loss. Keep your head up.
My bf's mother has all 4 subtypes. If I had to rank from most to least or subtype shows most etc... 1st. Tie - the petulant & self destructive subtypes, 2nd Discouraged subtype & 3rd Impulsive subtype. My sister on other hand has maybe only 1 or 2 subtypes. Bpd definitely effects each person differently and we definitely can't put all into 1 group or basket for lack of better wording.
Love the background!!! I identify with discouraged and petulant BPD. Very interesting!
Thank you for sharing. I relate to you and this so much. You are wonderful 💕
I identify with both self destructive and petulant subtypes
I think my subtype changed throughout the years. It definitely started out Petulant but as I took meds and went to therapy it's changed to more of inward hate and shame of my past and more Self-destructive now.