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It all began after people started to discuss the reptilian biped topic following Arthur C. Clarke´s publication of Childhood´s End and the TV show ´V´. After that people started to see narcissists in a clearer light.
Worse, they _will_ listen, feeling pleasurably validated as they cheerfully assign each trait and red flag they hear about to the people they already hate, and perceive themselves as even _more_ justified.
Nope so many times I consider myself narcissists or see aspect of it Yet than I notice that most of us have those elements if we notice it in others too
Yeah, people like this in general don't really feel the need to consume anything deemed "educational" 🤔 I doubt any videos in this realm would be anywhere in their purview.
Going no contact, as some suggest, is exactly what is warned against. Saying the emperor has no clothes is brave, and dangerous, hence brave. Just chip away at it. Find speech that illuminates without being confrontational. Good luck. It's a hard road
RIP in the chat for everyone who had their spirit broken by a malignant narcissist who acted like they weren’t pure evil to trap you before they broke you down 🫶🏽
Being broken is an opportunity to be put back together stronger. Personally, I should want to laugh at the feeble attempts of the narcissist in my life to hold power over me, because I was always stronger, smarter, and better in every way. Unfortunately, that person's whole life turned into nothing, and it just seems like such a waste.
I lost my Mom from the narcissistic, alcoholic abuse of my brother. Her last note said she wasn't strong enough to fight anymore. He terrorized and broke her down so badly she took her own life.
I had a friend who said that she thought that the common image of the Devil as an ugly person was wrong. She said that, if she was the Devil, she would show up as a good-looking man in a business suit. You've captured this pretty well.
Ezekiel 28: (describing Lucifer, or, The Devil) You were the seal of perfection, full of wisdom and perfect in beauty... Every kind of precious stone adorned you. The motif of "the Devil" as beautiful, indeed, "The Angel of Light and Beauty", is the oldest, most oft repeated description of Satan/Lucifer. Not sure about the ugly thing, other than in cartoonish drawings. 🤷♂️
@@TroubleToby3040 Christians, the Chosen People, and Jews, the Chosen Ones, have a problem with shadow projection. Not many Christians recognize an honest compassionate carpenter. I attended Bible Study and services for 4.7 years.
I think I understand the most recent V the sci - fi show which was released as a miniseries years ago. The show dives into the ancient theme of beautiful people being terrible persons on the inside, which describes narcissists pretty accurately.
People throw the phrase "Narcissist" around alot, but this is a good breakdown, my ex was horribly narcissistic, and the minute she didn't get her way, she would freak out, if you asked her to admit fault, she would demonize you, even with her having been a cheater and physically abusing her animals, she could do no wrong in her eyes
@Ark-ys2up you think so? It really seems as if they are not because they don’t accept change or even think of changing a lot of the time. I was in a relationship with one.
There is no self, thus no recourse for self-awareness. Sadly, they are only an amalgamation of interchangeable masks worn by a long forgotten, abandoned child.
What you said is true... But, the malignant narcissistic won't find that path, beliving they are already keenly aware of themselves -- and their greatness. From their perspective, everyone else just needs to be more aware of them. Then they'd all know what she knows, leaving no disparity of opinion.
@@earnyourimmortalitythis is really profound. I suffer from narcissism myself and have never seen it described this way, but it seems so obvious now that you pointed it out. I can’t feel most of my emotions and also don’t really know myself. If you ask me what I want to do I almost never know. There’s not a lot going on consciously. It makes my life so difficult
The truth isn't enough, though. The most difficult part of dealing with narcissists isn't actually the narcissists - it's their flying monkeys. Narcissists amass power from these sycophants who believe, enable, and idolize them. They will smear you, attack you, and cast you out for speaking ill of their god. Regarding a more personal level, narcissists do their evil behind closed doors. That way they can keep up appearances and maintain plausible deniability against anything you might say or expose about them. The flying monkeys will never acknowledge the narcissist is capable of any evil because it contradicts the narcissist's carefully curated image and reputation which the loyal yes men fully believe and support. I tried to expose a malignant narcissist - many times - only to be gaslit, called a liar, and betrayed by people I had foolishly thought were decent and honest.
But they do fall from grace - It can take a while - But they always go too far. It is happening now in the world with several previously well thought of institutions and governments....The mask slips
I have copied and saved what you have written so I can refer to it. In my own experience, you nailed the dance well. I use this 'high degree of futility' when "exposing" narcissistic behaviors to explain why some people keep quiet about the bad behaviors. They too know the dangers. For some, like myself, there is such a pull to restore order and do away with the insanity, however, we have to pick our battles wisely.
Thec creation of an "ingroup" (people like themselves) and an "outgroup" (people different to themselves) is an important part of the narcissistic mindset. The ingroup becomes a source of power for causing suffering to the outgroup. The narcissist feeds both off the worship from the ingroup and the pain from the outgroup. (Yes narcissists can enjoy the suffering of others).
My mother was a malignant narcissist. For example, we got into an argument about the Chevelle SS once. She said it didn't exist, and that I didn't know jack because I wasn't alive then. I pulled up Chevy's own page on the car, and my mother's response was "anyone can put anything on the Internet". Later that week, a Chevelle SS was on an episode of Top Gear, and my mother was like, "See I TOLD you Chevy made a Chevelle SS"! When I went to correct her, she screamed that I was trying to gaslight her. This kind of behavior was the norm, not the exception, and as a result, I have no real clue about some of the most important events in my and my family's history.
Forget everything you thought you knew and start fresh with a childlike spirit if you can. Time isn't linear. it's limitless. Blessings on your journey kin. 🕊️
My mother EXACTLY 💯 is this person! She also doesn't care at all if she has one of these outbursts in public. The absolute lies and evil tales that she has spread around the entire family make me scared for her soul. They do a lot of damage to every single relationship the butt into....
My Dad is an alcoholic & this makes sense; he wants to escape his own feelings of hurt and inadaquecy, but in turning to that poison he ends up just hurting others and himself even more by ignorance.
Alcoholism runs in my family. I joined AA and have been sober 18 months. There is a self-centeredness the alcoholic must overcome. Al-Anon and ACOA are great resources for people who have loved ones struggling with alcoholism. I'm planning on looking into those programs also.
The heart of the alcoholic problem is egocentrism. I was alcohol and cocaïn addict but I quit with the help of AA in 1996. I hope your dad is going to find the way 🙏
I don't think narcissism is a general reasoning for addiction. Addiction stems from mant other forms such as childhood trauma, abuse, neglect, sexual abuse, etc.
Trust me, it's not ignorance. You hurt people, and you're only coping skill is the thing that makes you hurt people. You drink BECAUSE you're a piece of work. Not an excuse, just a reason. My mother was an alcoholic, and I'm 5 years sober. My mother would never talk about the things she did in the past while drunk. It would have broken her. She just tried to be better.
Alcoholism does not equal narcissism, though many appear that way through their commitment of to their denial. I was hurt by an alcoholic parent too. I’m sorry you went through that
After Skool does not miss, you guys have been posting the most prevalent videos that describe society as it is today. Grateful for the channel, wish it would be broadcasted everywhere
If you've not had the misfortune of having a close relationship with a malignant narcissist, it's unlikely you can understand how malevolent they are. I dumped her once I recognized what she was, and she spent the next 4 years trying to destroy my life, very successfully in many instances.
I honestly feel the same way with a girl I dumped 15 years ago. Every time I try to date someone different.. they end up knowing things that they shouldn’t know.. stuff they wouldn’t know if it wasn’t for my ex telling them. Not anything serious or messed up, but just little things that current partners could use for little jabs against me. I have had this feeling in several other areas of my life like with work and friends. That woman destroyed my life actively for almost 3 years and she’s still trying to today. I finally had enough of it about a year ago and completely blocked her on all social media and any mutual friends we had that she could’ve maybe used to get information about me.
Just a brush-in with these freaks can potentially ruin your life. Some stupid mall food court girl had the state police investigating me for supposedly drug dealing because she got butthurt I didn’t buy her dinner and told her I didn’t buy her dinner so I could see if I should even ever buy her dinner. When she had her tantrum I told her to go find some chump in Ed Hardy jeans to take her to Olive Garden (this was like 20 years ago now lol) because I don’t date children. Even her friend eventually told me bc she thought it was ridiculous and thought I was funny about the whole thing. These people are emotionally babies.
@@darthsilversith667 Yeah I didn't really understand how bad she was until AFTER I dumped her. And yeah- had to cut off any personal relationshiops of anyone who is close to her. Some have actually come back around years later and apologized for believing her.
The fact that I have said, specifically “malignant Narcissist” for years(about my ex), and now you address this crucial type of person, roaming around, makes me eager to send to everyone involved.
Marrying a malignant narcissist was the worst mistake I ever made. 12 years later I'm still wrestling with life-and-death health issues from the severe PTSD, insomnia and stress induced. I would have been recovered, except we had a child together before I realized. Now I've been a single father for almost 6 years - would have been 8 years but for another terrible betrayal by the ex. Experiencing significant heart pains even as I write this. This video is gold. It is extremely insightful. After many years of learning about this personality disorder and related psychology, from a lifetime driven by similar family dysfunctions and the absolute motivation to understand the scapegoating and gaslighting and family dysfunctions - this video offers new levels of nuance and insight. I have gone back and forth in my judgments over the years; when I have periods of peace and amicable relations with the ex, I give her the benefit of the doubt that she's grown out of, or at least matured somewhat beyond the dysfunctions. Then she throws another wrench in the gears and perpetuates and repeats the same insane, childish, bizarrely narcissistic behaviors. I don't want to judge her like this, but it's crystal clear that she has this disorder. The damned tragedy is that I believe she really does have goodness in her heart and spirit also. I believe that's what has torn her up so much inside. I think the deciding factor was the people around her - above all, her parents - enabling and condoning her behaviors and identity. Otherwise, I think she may have gone through the identity restructuring and deep emotional transformation to become a healthy, caring human being with decent values and priorities.
I am glad you got away. My father spent 52 years married to a malignant narcissist, and by the time he died, my mother alienated everyone -- all his relatives including me, his only child. When he was diagnosed with cancer, my malignant narcissistic mother tried using Munchausen by Proxy to bait me to give her control over my finances. I went no-contact after she refused to let me talk to my dying dad because I didn't give her my money. We are no-contact now, for my safety and the safety of my children. I feel sorry for my dad, but he chose to stay with her, and enabled her abuse. Thank you, for caring for your child more than my dad cared for me. May you both stay free of your ex-spouse.
I recognize the going back and forth, in the good times you see her kind side and you think it can all work and maybe you also could have handled things differently. But long term it always ends the same, it's an endless cycle, I've tried everything and all approaches nothing worked in the end. she needs the drama, she needs to feel like the victim and needs to project her badness onto you in order to keep her character up and needs met. I ended up trying on last thing; Giving her everything she asked, listened to everything, apologized for all the things she blamed for, never asked for anything in return (This was not a long term plan, and unhealthy of course, but I was just super curious whether it was at all possible to have a stable relationship). Even then after a couple of weeks she just created a fight out of thin air basically, and made me the villain and then didn't talk to me for weeks. That was the last thing I ever tried with her, I realized that it is absolutely impossible to have a relationship with this person, which is very hard to shallow, cause you are attached to this other person and there are good times. But I believe people like this will never ever have a good relationship with anyone and they will always be blaming everyone around them for it, crazy people, but you cannot wake these people up sadly..
I am a self aware narcissist. It took me a lot to accept it. I am working on my self. This video also helped me a lot. I had a truamatic upbringing. It is all abour self respect and self worth that is natural and not forced. Not relying on fittijg the external peer pressure nor validity. I will mock my self more now. I subdue before all holy and repent for my sins. I believe there are more and more self aware narcisists. Because of ease of access to information with instagram and youtube + some spiritual events many people begin to see their own egoself. Deep down it is all about fear... Fear of being ridiculed or insulted. I will no longer let stupida fucking fear to control my life. It may cost me my life, my reputation and my comfort and security. I am giving up being the "nice" guy. Pray for me
I’m never sure if I am one or not because I am not sure if both of my parents were one although one was codependent on the other or both were codependent on each other for those reasons. My mom struggled with self worth, so did my dad although on different aspects. So they saw their worth from each other creating unhealthy codependency. For all I know, I was the scapegoat child and perfectionist , then to prevent chaos in any environment and make sure everyone was ok
I have been following Academy of Ideas and After Skool for the past few months, they both are unfathomably amazing, AOI videos are so deep and so knowledgeable emphasizing on the current situation throughout the world. After Skool's vivid and to the point animations make their complex topics , so much more easy to understand. Thank you Both of you, keep it up.
Dude! Through both these channels’ videos I’ve been able to see the “them” and “they” in myself. Alarming how easy it is to apply the characteristics of the bad guys outward. The only power I’ve got left is to go out with some integrity. The world out there is as fu**ed as I allow myself to be. Thank you all who put so much effort into this content.
I think I have some kind of vulnerable narcissism. Thank god I am aware of that now, but damn... it's hell to get out of there. to take responsibility for myself, when I was raised with no consequences etc. It's like a loop. I blame my parents for letting me blame everyone else. Step by step I work my way out of it. But feeling all this pain and fear I was avoiding with these protective mechanisms is hard. And it's so hard to find help. You find very much information about how to identify a narcissist and how to avoid them or break up with them. But very little about how to get out of it. many times it's said "narcissists can't change, just leave them". And I think "ok, so what do I do? Just hide in my basement to not hurt anybody?" Thank you for putting videos like this out there to spread awareness.
There are some positive people on you tube that You could look up regarding help. They are : heal NPD , the nameless narcissist, cluster b milkshake, sam vatkin . They are on the positive side of trying to understand and heal NPD.
When you ACTUALLY start seeing people through the lense of good and evil not what they say but what they do how they've grown up, the world becomes a sad place. Lies everywhere😢
I was a few years into a very difficult job that required dedication and full time studying. I remember passing an exam and being award a decent position at the next job. One of the apprenticess confronted me that I made him look bad by doing a good job and who was I to make him look bad. I told him all I did was study and work hard. Just do the same as I did and earn it. He took a swing at me which I dodged and he nearly fell over. The other workers blocked him so he didn't try again and I got my transfer. Later that week I was nearly run off a bridge by a huge pick up truck. What a job.
It was/is difficult having a narcissistic parent (father). The most difficult part is the lack of acknowledgement of their abusive behavior. Nothing is ever their fault. It’s been emotionally crippling to grow up being mistaken for his reflection. But, I’ve also learned how to see my situation as a powerful lesson on empathy and forgiveness.
Touche... I have thought about that before, but thought I was being narcississtic maybe??? Idk. But I usually care too much about such things anyway : )
That’s the part that is corrosive. They are good about doing that. It will however make you do some introspection. If you treat others the way you want to be treated your on the right track.
"most people refuse to fathom the fact that someone who tries so hard to appear good can in reality be morally corrupt. most people in other words do not recognize that evil has a tendency to cloak itself in the good." as they say, if you have to say you are a good person, you prove yourself more that you are not
Someone smart here. Only dumb people or movies shows evilness like we have to show it to everybody. Yes it is satisfying to steal the Joy from others but why doing it obviously? I can't count how many times I heard "You are a good boy" when I am not😂.
some Narcissists are made, because of pride and conceit, many people of high moral status seem like narcissists, therapists, preists, social workers, judges, policemen, school teachers...I have personally met some of them. smh...
I'd like to give a shout-out to recovering narcissists. I have a friend who is in a constant state of self deception. 90% of our conversations are about how likeable she is and how everyone wants to be around her. She spends almost every second worrying about it and working to accrue more followers (she calls friends) that really only exist in her life to praise and make her feel good. But there are moments, when she has done/said something that hurts my feelings, that I see the true good in her. She stops a moment when she sees the hurt on my face, pauses as if running a systems error reboot, before apologizing to me with true sincerity. Then never makes the same error again. The interaction is quickly forgotten in favor of discussing how likeable she is, but I see those moments and I remember them. I've also seen how her parents treat her like her very existence is a bother to them, and am surprised she isn't worse. Hang in there guys. You're hurting, and for those that are changing, I wish you all the luck.
11:32 woahhhhh “as long as one believes the evil man wears horns, one will not discover an evil man” I love that, using it now!!!! ❤❤❤ I also have learned to use the saying “Behavior is a language” from John Delany show
M. Scott Peck was integral to my journey to the path of righteousness and God. A wonderful, empathetic, man of God. His the People of the Lie was my first read. It allowed me to view evil through the lens of truth for the first time. This channel has been integral to my journey as well. My very favorite still is the one on Ram Dass. Thank you for being a beacon of truth for us!!! ♡ God bless you
Nil. Look at what is happening now. Only in cinema and novels do the good win. These narcs will win as it is their obsession and they have not morality.
It's so fascinating how many times this video and people in the comments use the word "they." What a beautiful world it will be when the words we use are "I" and "we." I have looked into my soul and found the "malignant narcissist" and now I see him in you as well. He is part of who I am and he is part of who you are. May we respect just how wonderful and terrible we can be and all aim for that "good" which mysteriously reveals itself to us as the God who sometimes commands us to stand confidently taller and sometimes commands us to kneel humbly low.
I appreciate this comment and have screenshotted it to re-read for a long time. Our future is golden - if people like you keep talking such sense for others. Love and thanks from Australia mate
@@azloii9781 I think it's important to define these words. "Narcissism is defined as: excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and one's physical appearance. selfishness, involving a sense of entitlement, a lack of empathy, and a need for admiration, as characterizing a personality type." The key word above is "excessive". Who is Wise enough to say when self centeredness is "excessive." The point is this: taking care of ourselves is absolutely vital. We are stewards of ourselves. We must do the job well. However it can be overdone. We must seek moderation after taking care of our needs. At some point it can appear to ourselves and to others that this vital function is over functioning and can damage relationships. If you and i had a relationship, I would desire you to take care of yourself, but if you take care of yourself and don't ever think about me and what I want or if you find excessive envy and jealousy of my fortunes that you belittle me or try to sabotage my pathway forward in order to quench your negativity, then I would find that highly disagreeable. It goes both ways. I could do the same to you. It's a hard balance. Some people are highly critical of people who take care of themselves. That's just low. However, at some point we need to find a proper balance so we can improve ourselves and maintain strong bonds with others. This is where we wrestle with our narcissistic tendencies. Best of luck on your journey!
@@andrewjw07 I dont know if self aware narcissism is a thing but maybe we're just "big-heads" if you know what I mean. I'm very self absorbed but the 1 and a half years I'm talking about was when the lack of control in my life got so much that I ruined my relationships trying to subconsciously control anything I could. That's the root of narcissism: a lack of control. It's not an excuse and I wish I could've been a better person. I'm trying my best now
This is an amazing articulation of the truth beneath the surface issues of society. Until I experienced having a significant other that was very high in these traits I did not understand it, or "see" it. Now that I do it concerning when I see these individuals in positions of power, manipulating so many just like me ex with me. I realized then how lucky I was to be able to feel pain, to learn, to grow... I was forced in a way to face myself, if only to seperate my identity from the mess of a relationship. Interestingly, I am more grateful for the insight than any other experience in my life... new reality, literelly.
This is exactly and precisely why Anime Tsundere Women like Asuka Langley Soryu and Rin Tohsaka are absolutely Evil! Because they are Malignant Narcissists!
Excellent and very important for today's world. Thank you! What we must try to insist on is transparency and freedom of speech right across society. This leads to proper dialogue, where by "dialogue" I mean a discussion in which both parties are prepared to be wrong. This needs humility and courage, for true humility is a state of continuous courage. As Jacques Ellul put it "Propaganda ends where dialogue begins." What is propaganda if not the societal technology of mass deception? Though as Ellul also points out, effective propaganda must be rooted in the truth and is thus often very hard to detect.
They don't know. Malignant narcissists are the "unknown". Basically a hellish pure mixture of of both classic NPD and psychopathy as they don't have the internal dynamics of either really. Some conceptualizations of Malignant narcissism is that it's simply psychopathy... Some have NPD - psychopathy as a scale of spectrum, with malignant Narcissists being in the middle, so ALMOST failed Psycopathy.
Same. Undiagnosed autism + living amongst narcissists = C-PTSD in my mid-late 20s. It's why I got rid of all social media except UA-cam. The amount of vapid narcissism spewing out of places like Tik Tok and Twitter is something that has a serious effect on my mental health when I'm exposed to it regularly. It's _quite literally_ "triggering" for me.
Aw, same you guys. It's been 3 years and the pain haunts me like it's yesterday. I'm getting better tho, the ruminating is decreasing especially after I started to forgive myself and I'm learning not to shame myself they way that they would've or at all. I'm tired of living in fear of people because of those demons.
Geeez, didn’t even know this was a thing. I have this forsure not even diagnosed but the symptoms, breaks my heart. I’m doing my best to get better but I keep treating her like an adult and giving benefit of the doubt. She uses words with no knowledge & not to be mean or harsh but maybe she’s illiterate.
You know you can have it and doesn't care about it right? I mean, you can know that something is "not right" and doing it anyway. Remorse don't exists except if you want them to be.
I've been fortunate not to have been exposed in my personal life to very many narcissists. My family and friends have, for the most part, been humble and supportive, so I've never had a reason to give this particular mindset too much thought. This episode was a little bit outside my wheelhouse, but regardless, its subject matter deserves the effort of a some mental energy on my part. I love these collabs between After Skool and Academy of Ideas. They help push me outside my own narrow framework and offer me the chance to adopt new perspectives.
How do we combat this scrourge? The world is run by & rewards these demons. This world truly boils down to good versus evil. Divine Justice is my only recourse & I'm good with that. It just sucks that so many have to suffer in the meantime. Godspeed, kinfolk ❤️⚖️🧠
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@@AfterSkool This is precisely why Anime Tsundere Women like Asuka Langley Soryu and Rin Tohsaka are absolutely Evil! Because they are Malignant Narcissists!
@@AfterSkool.This is precisely why Anime Tsundere Women like Asuka Langley Soryu and Rin Tohsaka are absolutely Evil! Because they are Malignant Narcissists!
Ive been watching this channel 10+ years. It has taught me so much and has made me a better person, but I still have a long way to go. Thank you so much.
Thanks for this. It was easier to grasp when presented in a more neutral way. Dealing with a narcissist, this makes it easier than framing it as a battle of wills.
We need to live by rules. Have as much fun as possible whilst causing the least amount of harm possible. Annoy those who break the first rule but don't forget to have fun whilst doing it. Care and share in the wonder, joy and understanding of life.
Great work! Interesting the words you can make from the letters LIVE. “Live”, “Evil” and the one not mentioned in the episode- “Vile” When you meet, face-to face, a person with a black-hole personality, this excellent video takes on even more meaning and relevance
I've watched countless videos on this subject, since I've had to deal with a lot of narcissism throughout my life. And, though they were very interesting & informative, there was always some piece of the missing puzzle that still didn't make sense to me...the why's of it. But, this video clarifies more of it for me. I'm finally able to wrap my head around it. Nice work, putting this together! Thx
If stuff like this was shown in our schools regularly, the impact couldn't be overstated, in my opinion. Great everyday information that I hope will become more commonplace in the not too distant future. We can actually build Heaven on Earth though too, we just have to believe it's ours to manifest. If we are caught up in victimhood and self-hatred, we attack that in others, and get caught in the loop. You only break free when you learn to love and forgive yourself, and then slowly everyone else. It's a process, but holy shit is it worthwhile.
Very useful video that understands their issues and that creates a small chance of hope rather than stone walling or radical acceptance. Narcissism is hard to deal with because their childhood is "patented" by shaming & guilt tripping. It's their maladaptive coping mechanism that they learned as a child and became a habit and eventually hard coded into their mind. I want them to realise that they just need a very unique and gifted therapist to help them self reflect and process it in a healthy manner. It has huge devastating effects on others especially the ones close to them. For me, it was quite painful for me to see them left marinating in their own toxicity. Especially the grandiose type of narcissism
Lies require constant maintenance. The more that know of the lie, the more eyes upon it, the more pressure the lie must bear and the cracks become easier to notice. The more involved in the lie, trying to perpetuate it, the more quickly it degrades, whether by error or betrayal. Eventually, falsehood will fall apart. Sometimes catastrophically. You might be able to bury the Truth under lies. But, those lies will erode under constant observation. The Truth is Indestructible.
Subject aside, you are an amazing artist! I was absolutely mesmerized for the entire length of the video. In regard to the subject, I was raised by an abusive, malignant narcissist. They lie pathologically about the smallest things that don't matter at all, just for the sake of their appearance to others. For example: "I used to be a cop in the police force." [In REALITY: they did a couple ridealongs witha. Cop when they were young.] They also project their anger, internal hardships, and frustrations onto others as if others are responsible for their shitty behavior. The narcissist i was raised by saw me using cannabis back in highschool ONCE, then proceeded to lie to all of their church friends saying that i had a DRUG ADDICTION and needed prayer. I was then called and texted by many random people, for weeks, saying that they were praying for me. (Religious abuse.) Narcissists also INSTANTLY argue that you're wrong when you're objectively right, have evidence, and they have NONE. Then, when you give them proof that they're wrong and arguing for no reason, they backpedal and say that YOU are the one that MISUNDERSTOOD their talking point. Because a narcissist is NEVER WRONG and always smarter than you and misunderstood, or so they want you to believe... I, of course, moved out as quickly as possible. It's like escaping a cage weighed down in water.
This is excellent. Thank you. I would add that not only does the exploration of self and recognition and hence the resulting ability to mostly defang your own internal demons help you recognize these issues in others, it also enables you to recognize genuine goodness in others. In other words, your radar gets pretty good.
@@AfterSkool This is precisely and exactly why Anime Tsundere Women like Asuka Langley Soryu and Rin Tohsaka are absolutely Evil! Because they are Malignant Narcissists!
@@AfterSkool This is precisely why Anime Tsundere Women like Asuka Langley Soryu and Rin Tohsaka are absolutely Evil! Because they are Malignant Narcissists!
Narcissists also function in this manner. "I'm not wrong, you are" or even this: "I am on the right side of history" or even this! "I'm not wrong, the world is." Do you see what two generations of ME ME ME ME ME does?
Great video and good information. At 12:30 it talks about speaking the truth and calling out the malignant narcissists. Most psychologists will warn against doing this because when you target an NPD individual they become fixated on targeting you and focusing their pure undivided attention and "scapegoat laser" on you relentlessly. I agree that the truth should be spoken, but also take warning that when narcissists are backed into a corner they can make your life a living hell.
Love both these channels very much; found them around the same time and have watched pretty much every video. Both feature stunning visuals in their very own different ways, both have highly captivating themes and narrations, both cite some of the greatest known (and often regrettably- not as well known) minds, each presenting philosophy at it's finest. Awesome collaboration; hopefully not the last.
My late ex was a the poster child for narcissism. The older he got and the more money he made, the more self-absorbed he was. Nobody saw the things I saw or really heard my cries for help. I watched him pose faces in the mirror. Smiles, eye winks. He was practicing. I just get sick inside.
There are some great channels on UA-cam that discuss and focus on narcissistic personalities. I would certainly recommend them to anybody who struggle with a narcissistic family member or friend.
I've read people of the lie. It is an excellent book! I recommend it & thank you for this, not enough people are educated about the truth behind #politics
On my dealings with Narcissists - I noticed that when they realise that you have figure them out, just by a certain look on your face or a subtle smile, they usually crash down and find hard to keep the facade around you and you gain their respect. I am always nice, kind and polite to them, however I make sure to have 'smiling eyes' every time their try to show themselves as Good or Perfect or they usual self-aggrandising nonsense . Nothing works better than trivialising them. It won't make them like or hate you more , but makes you unassailable to them.
Politics is the perfect place for the narcissist and they know it. It takes a very cunning, person with extremely flexible morality to succeed in that theater. Even if they're not when they enter, it's not long before they tap into their own evil. The reality is, decisions aren't made in congress or the senate. They're made in the board room, as the "the law maker" either they accept what they're told to do and be rewarded; or they can be replaced by someone who will.
Most people don't want to be alone long enough to truly examine themselves and face potentially negative feelings. Instead they distract themselves through pleasure or search for validation of bad their bad behaviors. It's important to go through some of the bad thoughts and feelings in order to grow as a person as opposed to constantly trying to escape insecurities through delusion.
It baffles me when some people would prefer a charismatic narcissist in power rather than a calm gentle person that quietly gets the good work done. We’re our own worst enemy sometimes. I hope a new world order of dictators isn’t on the horizon at the end of this year 😢
Again and again I am so elated with Enlightenment from the content of your amazing videos your timing and subject matter is so relevant and you are saving the world at least helping those of us who want to do better understand
I always though my mom was a sociopathic narcissist and my dad narcissistic bipolar, but this fits way better for both. Under this my brother turned into one and Im the target of all three. Not fun.
🤒Hi Everybody. I was raised by one of these "things". The trauma has left me constantly shaking, in a state of "fight or flight". I recently was made aware of EMDR or Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy. It's supposed to be very effective for PTSD, but also work for severe anxiety from long-term trauma as well. I'm starting next week. If you are suffering from something similar, please look into it. It's supposed to take a while (possibly 8 months or so), but if it helps my symptoms, I'll come back and leave a message saying so. Take care. 😟
@@DevoidVoid Hi, I'm literally sitting in the waiting room for my next appointment. So far, we are still in the "talking" phase. She has been learning my story and my personality. Also, because I've struggled with "suicidal ideation", they wanted to make sure that I could handle it. I'm so sorry if you are going through something similar. We didn't deserve this! I'm usually incredibly pessimistic, but I still get the feeling that this is gonna help. I'll update again once I actually start the "eyeball" part. Keep fighting, Friend!
Which is why this is all so ironic. Even psychopathy has grown in its totality and people even want the traits themselves to become successful (despite them being archaic wounds of genes, brain problems OR ABUSE, ie you can't just will them into you're personality).
Huge thank you to Academy of Ideas for another great collaboration. Their presentations are fantastic and it was a joy to add art to this one. Please subscribe to Academy of Idea's channel for more insightful content.
This is precisely why Anime Tsundere Women like Asuka Langley Soryu and Rin Tohsaka are absolutely Evil! Because they are Malignant Narcissists!
This is precisely why Anime Tsundere Women like Asuka Langley Soryu and Rin Tohsaka are absolutely Evil! Because they are Malignant Narcissists!
That Yin Yang ☯️ was soooooo cool.
There’s been quite a few MN featured on this channel. Just saying…
@@knoweagle888 what does MN stand for? Sorry, it's late and I should be asleep.
We live in a society that actively encourages narcissism. From sports to education to the corporate managerial class.
Was looking for this comment!
Agreed.
I sense that only until one becomes attacked by these types and lose will start to wake up.
@@Spartan-Of-Truth in the least, it inspires one to dig deeper 🤓
It all began after people started to discuss the reptilian biped topic following Arthur C. Clarke´s publication of Childhood´s End and the TV show ´V´. After that people started to see narcissists in a clearer light.
Unfortunately, the ones who most need to hear this will skip this episode.
Worse, they _will_ listen, feeling pleasurably validated as they cheerfully assign each trait and red flag they hear about to the people they already hate, and perceive themselves as even _more_ justified.
Nope so many times I consider myself narcissists or see aspect of it
Yet than I notice that most of us have those elements if we notice it in others too
Interesting point. I wishing were not true.
I bet it is mostly victims watching this. 😔
Yeah, people like this in general don't really feel the need to consume anything deemed "educational" 🤔 I doubt any videos in this realm would be anywhere in their purview.
All this content should be in all public school systems for all❤
Smart kids question authority and we know authority won't have that.
This video applies to a lot of upper-level academics.
Great comment.
I sparsely agree. This can be very scary stuff for anyone to learn about. Or might that actually be the point?
Matthew 7:3
Being the cycle breaker in a narcissist family is NOT fun. I'm gaslighted by my own family every time I attempt to talk to them about my feelings.
You owe them nothing and yourself, everything. They will only use your feelings against you. Self worth-priceless.
You are not alone. I had to move to the other side of the country and start my own family without the toxic influence.
Painfully, this is true.
Do good for yourself, do what’s necessary to get to the next step, no matter how hard it is. Make your own luck 🔱💖👍🏽🔥
Going no contact, as some suggest, is exactly what is warned against. Saying the emperor has no clothes is brave, and dangerous, hence brave. Just chip away at it. Find speech that illuminates without being confrontational. Good luck. It's a hard road
The narcissist has the emotional intelligence of a 5 year old. Once you see this, you cannot unsee it.
Thank you for allowing me to see my father in a new light
@@Vilify3dnow be a good father to him
Yes, and this is when you stop to blame them and feel compassionate towards them
@@SM-hf4vz From a safe distance :)
@@cody_go_create From a safe distance :)
RIP in the chat for everyone who had their spirit broken by a malignant narcissist who acted like they weren’t pure evil to trap you before they broke you down 🫶🏽
Being broken is an opportunity to be put back together stronger. Personally, I should want to laugh at the feeble attempts of the narcissist in my life to hold power over me, because I was always stronger, smarter, and better in every way. Unfortunately, that person's whole life turned into nothing, and it just seems like such a waste.
I lost my Mom from the narcissistic, alcoholic abuse of my brother. Her last note said she wasn't strong enough to fight anymore. He terrorized and broke her down so badly she took her own life.
After just saving myself after 13 years of absolute torment, thank you ❤
Dang who yall hang out with Jesus I never met a real narc
@@dot_t I am so sorry. May she RIP.
I had a friend who said that she thought that the common image of the Devil as an ugly person was wrong. She said that, if she was the Devil, she would show up as a good-looking man in a business suit.
You've captured this pretty well.
Good looking woman in a gym outfit would definitely seal the deal...
Isnt that exactly how media portrays the Devil? As a good looking business man who cant resist his own reflection in the mirror?
Charm is the narcissist's business card.
Ezekiel 28: (describing Lucifer, or, The Devil) You were the seal of perfection, full of wisdom and perfect in beauty... Every kind of precious stone adorned you.
The motif of "the Devil" as beautiful, indeed, "The Angel of Light and Beauty", is the oldest, most oft repeated description of Satan/Lucifer.
Not sure about the ugly thing, other than in cartoonish drawings. 🤷♂️
@@TroubleToby3040 Christians, the Chosen People, and Jews, the Chosen Ones, have a problem with shadow projection.
Not many Christians recognize an honest compassionate carpenter. I attended Bible Study and services for 4.7 years.
This should be required learning for every citizen in America and the world. Thank you!
I think I understand the most recent V the sci - fi show which was released as a miniseries years ago. The show dives into the ancient theme of beautiful people being terrible persons on the inside, which describes narcissists pretty accurately.
So true about narcissists being above blame for their actions, they'll shamelessly blame anyone but themselves
Including labelling everyone else around them as narcissists.
Knowledge helps me to stop participating in my demise .
My negus.
Well said, I agree.
What a world in which this rings true, in stead of simply 'Knowledge makes me a better person'.
Man this hit the nail on the head. Anyone who has dealt with someone like this knows how tough it can be.
People throw the phrase "Narcissist" around alot, but this is a good breakdown, my ex was horribly narcissistic, and the minute she didn't get her way, she would freak out, if you asked her to admit fault, she would demonize you, even with her having been a cheater and physically abusing her animals, she could do no wrong in her eyes
I'm happy to hear she's now your ex. I'm sure she is miserable, and making someone else miserable right now.
typical projection !
@@AboveAndBeyond17are u a troll
@@jean-marclamothe8859 probably his ex
M. Scott Peck sounds like a typical midwit.
I'd show this to all the narcissists in my life, but their response would only be "no u"
Exatly
Isn't the narcisitic trait is to blame everyone else and can't self examin. See the trap in psycology.
😂 just thinking that myself.
Hit
right
Self awareness is the counter of narcissism
@Ark-ys2up you think so? It really seems as if they are not because they don’t accept change or even think of changing a lot of the time. I was in a relationship with one.
There is no self, thus no recourse for self-awareness. Sadly, they are only an amalgamation of interchangeable masks worn by a long forgotten, abandoned child.
What you said is true...
But, the malignant narcissistic won't find that path, beliving they are already keenly aware of themselves -- and their greatness.
From their perspective, everyone else just needs to be more aware of them. Then they'd all know what she knows, leaving no disparity of opinion.
@@earnyourimmortality
Still, it's a "self", even if a misformed one.
@@earnyourimmortalitythis is really profound. I suffer from narcissism myself and have never seen it described this way, but it seems so obvious now that you pointed it out.
I can’t feel most of my emotions and also don’t really know myself. If you ask me what I want to do I almost never know. There’s not a lot going on consciously. It makes my life so difficult
The truth isn't enough, though. The most difficult part of dealing with narcissists isn't actually the narcissists - it's their flying monkeys. Narcissists amass power from these sycophants who believe, enable, and idolize them. They will smear you, attack you, and cast you out for speaking ill of their god. Regarding a more personal level, narcissists do their evil behind closed doors. That way they can keep up appearances and maintain plausible deniability against anything you might say or expose about them. The flying monkeys will never acknowledge the narcissist is capable of any evil because it contradicts the narcissist's carefully curated image and reputation which the loyal yes men fully believe and support. I tried to expose a malignant narcissist - many times - only to be gaslit, called a liar, and betrayed by people I had foolishly thought were decent and honest.
But they do fall from grace - It can take a while - But they always go too far. It is happening now in the world with several previously well thought of institutions and governments....The mask slips
Well said
I have copied and saved what you have written so I can refer to it. In my own experience, you nailed the dance well. I use this 'high degree of futility' when "exposing" narcissistic behaviors to explain why some people keep quiet about the bad behaviors. They too know the dangers. For some, like myself, there is such a pull to restore order and do away with the insanity, however, we have to pick our battles wisely.
So many of these flesh bound demons walk among us. They have been given over to a reprobate mind.
Exactly. Best comment. This needs a whole video
What's worse is people that simply seek to destroy everything that they feel doesn't belong in their perfect world.
Yeah, ignorance x arrogance + power = bad results
communism, in other words.
Thec creation of an "ingroup" (people like themselves) and an "outgroup" (people different to themselves) is an important part of the narcissistic mindset. The ingroup becomes a source of power for causing suffering to the outgroup. The narcissist feeds both off the worship from the ingroup and the pain from the outgroup. (Yes narcissists can enjoy the suffering of others).
This is precisely why Anime Tsundere Women like Asuka Langley Soryu and Rin Tohsaka are absolutely Evil! Because they are Malignant Narcissists!
The only time they don't want attention
My mother was a malignant narcissist. For example, we got into an argument about the Chevelle SS once. She said it didn't exist, and that I didn't know jack because I wasn't alive then. I pulled up Chevy's own page on the car, and my mother's response was "anyone can put anything on the Internet". Later that week, a Chevelle SS was on an episode of Top Gear, and my mother was like, "See I TOLD you Chevy made a Chevelle SS"! When I went to correct her, she screamed that I was trying to gaslight her. This kind of behavior was the norm, not the exception, and as a result, I have no real clue about some of the most important events in my and my family's history.
My mother was like yours. Deeply evil. Living lies.
Forget everything you thought you knew and start fresh with a childlike spirit if you can. Time isn't linear. it's limitless. Blessings on your journey kin. 🕊️
I am so sorry to hear. I have a mother with the same behaviour.
My mother EXACTLY 💯 is this person! She also doesn't care at all if she has one of these outbursts in public. The absolute lies and evil tales that she has spread around the entire family make me scared for her soul. They do a lot of damage to every single relationship the butt into....
To all of people who have responded here about having a narcissistic parent, why are you still in contact with them?
My Dad is an alcoholic & this makes sense; he wants to escape his own feelings of hurt and inadaquecy, but in turning to that poison he ends up just hurting others and himself even more by ignorance.
Alcoholism runs in my family. I joined AA and have been sober 18 months. There is a self-centeredness the alcoholic must overcome. Al-Anon and ACOA are great resources for people who have loved ones struggling with alcoholism. I'm planning on looking into those programs also.
The heart of the alcoholic problem is egocentrism. I was alcohol and cocaïn addict but I quit with the help of AA in 1996. I hope your dad is going to find the way 🙏
I don't think narcissism is a general reasoning for addiction. Addiction stems from mant other forms such as childhood trauma, abuse, neglect, sexual abuse, etc.
Trust me, it's not ignorance. You hurt people, and you're only coping skill is the thing that makes you hurt people. You drink BECAUSE you're a piece of work. Not an excuse, just a reason. My mother was an alcoholic, and I'm 5 years sober. My mother would never talk about the things she did in the past while drunk. It would have broken her. She just tried to be better.
Alcoholism does not equal narcissism, though many appear that way through their commitment of to their denial. I was hurt by an alcoholic parent too. I’m sorry you went through that
After Skool does not miss, you guys have been posting the most prevalent videos that describe society as it is today. Grateful for the channel, wish it would be broadcasted everywhere
Thank you!
If you've not had the misfortune of having a close relationship with a malignant narcissist, it's unlikely you can understand how malevolent they are. I dumped her once I recognized what she was, and she spent the next 4 years trying to destroy my life, very successfully in many instances.
I honestly feel the same way with a girl I dumped 15 years ago. Every time I try to date someone different.. they end up knowing things that they shouldn’t know.. stuff they wouldn’t know if it wasn’t for my ex telling them. Not anything serious or messed up, but just little things that current partners could use for little jabs against me. I have had this feeling in several other areas of my life like with work and friends. That woman destroyed my life actively for almost 3 years and she’s still trying to today. I finally had enough of it about a year ago and completely blocked her on all social media and any mutual friends we had that she could’ve maybe used to get information about me.
Just a brush-in with these freaks can potentially ruin your life. Some stupid mall food court girl had the state police investigating me for supposedly drug dealing because she got butthurt I didn’t buy her dinner and told her I didn’t buy her dinner so I could see if I should even ever buy her dinner. When she had her tantrum I told her to go find some chump in Ed Hardy jeans to take her to Olive Garden (this was like 20 years ago now lol) because I don’t date children. Even her friend eventually told me bc she thought it was ridiculous and thought I was funny about the whole thing. These people are emotionally babies.
@@darthsilversith667 Yeah I didn't really understand how bad she was until AFTER I dumped her. And yeah- had to cut off any personal relationshiops of anyone who is close to her. Some have actually come back around years later and apologized for believing her.
I believe those are called smear campaigns.
Yup! 100%
Good timing. Seems pertinent globally.
The fact that I have said, specifically “malignant Narcissist” for years(about my ex), and now you address this crucial type of person, roaming around, makes me eager to send to everyone involved.
A narcissist wants authority of a king while having the accountability of a toddler.
Wow, that is so correct!!!
Luv this
That describes a lot of modern women
Literally Kamala Harris
The collaboration the world needs right now.
Self introspection is gold
Academy of Ideas is truly the Best.
Marrying a malignant narcissist was the worst mistake I ever made.
12 years later I'm still wrestling with life-and-death health issues from the severe PTSD, insomnia and stress induced.
I would have been recovered, except we had a child together before I realized.
Now I've been a single father for almost 6 years - would have been 8 years but for another terrible betrayal by the ex.
Experiencing significant heart pains even as I write this.
This video is gold. It is extremely insightful. After many years of learning about this personality disorder and related psychology, from a lifetime driven by similar family dysfunctions and the absolute motivation to understand the scapegoating and gaslighting and family dysfunctions - this video offers new levels of nuance and insight.
I have gone back and forth in my judgments over the years; when I have periods of peace and amicable relations with the ex, I give her the benefit of the doubt that she's grown out of, or at least matured somewhat beyond the dysfunctions.
Then she throws another wrench in the gears and perpetuates and repeats the same insane, childish, bizarrely narcissistic behaviors.
I don't want to judge her like this, but it's crystal clear that she has this disorder.
The damned tragedy is that I believe she really does have goodness in her heart and spirit also.
I believe that's what has torn her up so much inside.
I think the deciding factor was the people around her - above all, her parents - enabling and condoning her behaviors and identity. Otherwise, I think she may have gone through the identity restructuring and deep emotional transformation to become a healthy, caring human being with decent values and priorities.
Peace be with you ❤
I am glad you got away. My father spent 52 years married to a malignant narcissist, and by the time he died, my mother alienated everyone -- all his relatives including me, his only child. When he was diagnosed with cancer, my malignant narcissistic mother tried using Munchausen by Proxy to bait me to give her control over my finances. I went no-contact after she refused to let me talk to my dying dad because I didn't give her my money. We are no-contact now, for my safety and the safety of my children. I feel sorry for my dad, but he chose to stay with her, and enabled her abuse. Thank you, for caring for your child more than my dad cared for me. May you both stay free of your ex-spouse.
Real. 😞
Sorry you went through this bro. It wasn't your fault 🤛🏼
I recognize the going back and forth, in the good times you see her kind side and you think it can all work and maybe you also could have handled things differently. But long term it always ends the same, it's an endless cycle, I've tried everything and all approaches nothing worked in the end. she needs the drama, she needs to feel like the victim and needs to project her badness onto you in order to keep her character up and needs met.
I ended up trying on last thing; Giving her everything she asked, listened to everything, apologized for all the things she blamed for, never asked for anything in return (This was not a long term plan, and unhealthy of course, but I was just super curious whether it was at all possible to have a stable relationship). Even then after a couple of weeks she just created a fight out of thin air basically, and made me the villain and then didn't talk to me for weeks.
That was the last thing I ever tried with her, I realized that it is absolutely impossible to have a relationship with this person, which is very hard to shallow, cause you are attached to this other person and there are good times.
But I believe people like this will never ever have a good relationship with anyone and they will always be blaming everyone around them for it, crazy people, but you cannot wake these people up sadly..
Never live within the lies! Keep integrity alive -even if it means one must be alone in the battle.
Yes, Sophie Scholl was one such. These people should not be alone.
I love this! Well said and 100 percent true
I am a self aware narcissist. It took me a lot to accept it. I am working on my self. This video also helped me a lot. I had a truamatic upbringing. It is all abour self respect and self worth that is natural and not forced. Not relying on fittijg the external peer pressure nor validity.
I will mock my self more now. I subdue before all holy and repent for my sins.
I believe there are more and more self aware narcisists.
Because of ease of access to information with instagram and youtube + some spiritual events many people begin to see their own egoself.
Deep down it is all about fear...
Fear of being ridiculed or insulted. I will no longer let stupida fucking fear to control my life.
It may cost me my life, my reputation and my comfort and security. I am giving up being the "nice" guy. Pray for me
I’m never sure if I am one or not because I am not sure if both of my parents were one although one was codependent on the other or both were codependent on each other for those reasons. My mom struggled with self worth, so did my dad although on different aspects. So they saw their worth from each other creating unhealthy codependency. For all I know, I was the scapegoat child and perfectionist , then to prevent chaos in any environment and make sure everyone was ok
I have been following Academy of Ideas and After Skool for the past few months, they both are unfathomably amazing, AOI videos are so deep and so knowledgeable emphasizing on the current situation throughout the world. After Skool's vivid and to the point animations make their complex topics , so much more easy to understand. Thank you Both of you, keep it up.
Dude! Through both these channels’ videos I’ve been able to see the “them” and “they” in myself. Alarming how easy it is to apply the characteristics of the bad guys outward. The only power I’ve got left is to go out with some integrity. The world out there is as fu**ed as I allow myself to be. Thank you all who put so much effort into this content.
I think I have some kind of vulnerable narcissism. Thank god I am aware of that now, but damn... it's hell to get out of there. to take responsibility for myself, when I was raised with no consequences etc. It's like a loop. I blame my parents for letting me blame everyone else. Step by step I work my way out of it. But feeling all this pain and fear I was avoiding with these protective mechanisms is hard. And it's so hard to find help. You find very much information about how to identify a narcissist and how to avoid them or break up with them. But very little about how to get out of it. many times it's said "narcissists can't change, just leave them". And I think "ok, so what do I do? Just hide in my basement to not hurt anybody?"
Thank you for putting videos like this out there to spread awareness.
That's what I've done. It's made me a full blown monster... So just don't do that please. 🖤
@@DevoidVoid dont do what? and what to do instead?
There are some positive people on you tube that You could look up regarding help. They are : heal NPD , the nameless narcissist, cluster b milkshake, sam vatkin . They are on the positive side of trying to understand and heal NPD.
@@JeffAnderson-uo2nq thank you very much!
@@bas5984 Tim fletcher on you tube is also very good about child hood trauma and narcissism…😃 👍
When you ACTUALLY start seeing people through the lense of good and evil not what they say but what they do how they've grown up, the world becomes a sad place. Lies everywhere😢
"By their fruits ye shall know them"
You both missed the point entirely.
Enlighten them wise one
I was a few years into a very difficult job that required dedication and full time studying. I remember passing an exam and being award a decent position at the next job. One of the apprenticess confronted me that I made him look bad by doing a good job and who was I to make him look bad. I told him all I did was study and work hard. Just do the same as I did and earn it. He took a swing at me which I dodged and he nearly fell over. The other workers blocked him so he didn't try again and I got my transfer. Later that week I was nearly run off a bridge by a huge pick up truck. What a job.
It was/is difficult having a narcissistic parent (father). The most difficult part is the lack of acknowledgement of their abusive behavior. Nothing is ever their fault. It’s been emotionally crippling to grow up being mistaken for his reflection. But, I’ve also learned how to see my situation as a powerful lesson on empathy and forgiveness.
The problem with this debate is narcisists are the main ones who call everyone else Narcissistic
Touche... I have thought about that before, but thought I was being narcississtic maybe??? Idk. But I usually care too much about such things anyway : )
It’s the deflection that’s telling
@@Allthequeenzhorses I always felt everything was my fault and I was the problem. It used to confuse the sh** outta me.
Narcissists are dumb.
Why? They’re not aware of it.
Like mental patients.
That’s the part that is corrosive. They are good about doing that. It will however make you do some introspection. If you treat others the way you want to be treated your on the right track.
This might be the most important video I have ever seen. Thank you.
"most people refuse to fathom the fact that someone who tries so hard to appear good can in reality be morally corrupt. most people in other words do not recognize that evil has a tendency to cloak itself in the good." as they say, if you have to say you are a good person, you prove yourself more that you are not
Someone smart here. Only dumb people or movies shows evilness like we have to show it to everybody. Yes it is satisfying to steal the Joy from others but why doing it obviously? I can't count how many times I heard "You are a good boy" when I am not😂.
some Narcissists are made, because of pride and conceit, many people of high moral status seem like narcissists, therapists, preists, social workers, judges, policemen, school teachers...I have personally met some of them. smh...
mainly because those occupations draw the sociopaths and narcissists. Throw in lawyers and weathermen too.
@@carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679 why weathermen though lol
"The evil hate the light" 👁 🗣Talk HEAVY💪🏿
My negus.
I'd like to give a shout-out to recovering narcissists. I have a friend who is in a constant state of self deception. 90% of our conversations are about how likeable she is and how everyone wants to be around her. She spends almost every second worrying about it and working to accrue more followers (she calls friends) that really only exist in her life to praise and make her feel good.
But there are moments, when she has done/said something that hurts my feelings, that I see the true good in her. She stops a moment when she sees the hurt on my face, pauses as if running a systems error reboot, before apologizing to me with true sincerity. Then never makes the same error again. The interaction is quickly forgotten in favor of discussing how likeable she is, but I see those moments and I remember them. I've also seen how her parents treat her like her very existence is a bother to them, and am surprised she isn't worse.
Hang in there guys. You're hurting, and for those that are changing, I wish you all the luck.
🖤
11:32 woahhhhh “as long as one believes the evil man wears horns, one will not discover an evil man” I love that, using it now!!!! ❤❤❤
I also have learned to use the saying “Behavior is a language” from John Delany show
M. Scott Peck was integral to my journey to the path of righteousness and God. A wonderful, empathetic, man of God. His the People of the Lie was my first read. It allowed me to view evil through the lens of truth for the first time. This channel has been integral to my journey as well. My very favorite still is the one on Ram Dass. Thank you for being a beacon of truth for us!!! ♡ God bless you
made me think of the quote "It says here in this history book that luckily, the good guys have won every single time. What are the odds?"
Nil. Look at what is happening now. Only in cinema and novels do the good win. These narcs will win as it is their obsession and they have not morality.
The His Story books are written by the victors. Do you really think the evil victors would ever portray themselves truthfully in history books?
It's so fascinating how many times this video and people in the comments use the word "they." What a beautiful world it will be when the words we use are "I" and "we." I have looked into my soul and found the "malignant narcissist" and now I see him in you as well. He is part of who I am and he is part of who you are. May we respect just how wonderful and terrible we can be and all aim for that "good" which mysteriously reveals itself to us as the God who sometimes commands us to stand confidently taller and sometimes commands us to kneel humbly low.
I appreciate this comment and have screenshotted it to re-read for a long time.
Our future is golden - if people like you keep talking such sense for others. Love and thanks from Australia mate
❤
I'm experiencing a collapse after being narcissistic for nearly 2 years
@@azloii9781 I think it's important to define these words.
"Narcissism is defined as: excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and one's physical appearance.
selfishness, involving a sense of entitlement, a lack of empathy, and a need for admiration, as characterizing a personality type."
The key word above is "excessive". Who is Wise enough to say when self centeredness is "excessive." The point is this: taking care of ourselves is absolutely vital. We are stewards of ourselves. We must do the job well. However it can be overdone. We must seek moderation after taking care of our needs. At some point it can appear to ourselves and to others that this vital function is over functioning and can damage relationships. If you and i had a relationship, I would desire you to take care of yourself, but if you take care of yourself and don't ever think about me and what I want or if you find excessive envy and jealousy of my fortunes that you belittle me or try to sabotage my pathway forward in order to quench your negativity, then I would find that highly disagreeable. It goes both ways. I could do the same to you. It's a hard balance. Some people are highly critical of people who take care of themselves. That's just low. However, at some point we need to find a proper balance so we can improve ourselves and maintain strong bonds with others. This is where we wrestle with our narcissistic tendencies.
Best of luck on your journey!
@@andrewjw07 I dont know if self aware narcissism is a thing but maybe we're just "big-heads" if you know what I mean. I'm very self absorbed but the 1 and a half years I'm talking about was when the lack of control in my life got so much that I ruined my relationships trying to subconsciously control anything I could. That's the root of narcissism: a lack of control. It's not an excuse and I wish I could've been a better person. I'm trying my best now
Brilliant Video Sir, this will spread awareness about this personality disorder to so many People.
This is an amazing articulation of the truth beneath the surface issues of society. Until I experienced having a significant other that was very high in these traits I did not understand it, or "see" it. Now that I do it concerning when I see these individuals in positions of power, manipulating so many just like me ex with me. I realized then how lucky I was to be able to feel pain, to learn, to grow... I was forced in a way to face myself, if only to seperate my identity from the mess of a relationship. Interestingly, I am more grateful for the insight than any other experience in my life... new reality, literelly.
Narcissism= Hypocrisy.
"People of the Lie" by m.scott peck.
They lack a sincere sense of curiosity.
This is exactly and precisely why Anime Tsundere Women like Asuka Langley Soryu and Rin Tohsaka are absolutely Evil! Because they are Malignant Narcissists!
This is precisely why Anime Tsundere Women like Asuka Langley Soryu and Rin Tohsaka are absolutely Evil! Because they are Malignant Narcissists!
This is precisely why Anime Tsundere Women like Asuka Langley Soryu and Rin Tohsaka are absolutely Evil! Because they are Malignant Narcissists!
Judge Napolitano says:"These are times for moral and intellectual honesty."
Excellent and very important for today's world. Thank you!
What we must try to insist on is transparency and freedom of speech right across society. This leads to proper dialogue, where by "dialogue" I mean a discussion in which both parties are prepared to be wrong. This needs humility and courage, for true humility is a state of continuous courage. As Jacques Ellul put it "Propaganda ends where dialogue begins." What is propaganda if not the societal technology of mass deception? Though as Ellul also points out, effective propaganda must be rooted in the truth and is thus often very hard to detect.
Perfect timing. Synchronization achieved.
A perfect description of my biological dad.
Would love an episode of what causes this personality disorder to develop.
They don't know.
Malignant narcissists are the "unknown". Basically a hellish pure mixture of of both classic NPD and psychopathy as they don't have the internal dynamics of either really.
Some conceptualizations of Malignant narcissism is that it's simply psychopathy...
Some have NPD - psychopathy as a scale of spectrum, with malignant Narcissists being in the middle, so ALMOST failed Psycopathy.
I have CPTSD from being around these people. I ruminate all day every day trying to understand. It does serious brain damage.
Same. Undiagnosed autism + living amongst narcissists = C-PTSD in my mid-late 20s.
It's why I got rid of all social media except UA-cam. The amount of vapid narcissism spewing out of places like Tik Tok and Twitter is something that has a serious effect on my mental health when I'm exposed to it regularly. It's _quite literally_ "triggering" for me.
Aw, same you guys. It's been 3 years and the pain haunts me like it's yesterday. I'm getting better tho, the ruminating is decreasing especially after I started to forgive myself and I'm learning not to shame myself they way that they would've or at all. I'm tired of living in fear of people because of those demons.
@@clicheguevara5282twitter is a special corner in hell😭😂
Geeez, didn’t even know this was a thing. I have this forsure not even diagnosed but the symptoms, breaks my heart. I’m doing my best to get better but I keep treating her like an adult and giving benefit of the doubt. She uses words with no knowledge & not to be mean or harsh but maybe she’s illiterate.
I’m constantly looking up videos about narcissists lol I need constant reassurance with the crazy-making
I know one of those creatures they have zero self awareness. Its actually insane.
You know you can have it and doesn't care about it right? I mean, you can know that something is "not right" and doing it anyway. Remorse don't exists except if you want them to be.
I've been fortunate not to have been exposed in my personal life to very many narcissists. My family and friends have, for the most part, been humble and supportive, so I've never had a reason to give this particular mindset too much thought. This episode was a little bit outside my wheelhouse, but regardless, its subject matter deserves the effort of a some mental energy on my part. I love these collabs between After Skool and Academy of Ideas. They help push me outside my own narrow framework and offer me the chance to adopt new perspectives.
How do we combat this scrourge? The world is run by & rewards these demons. This world truly boils down to good versus evil. Divine Justice is my only recourse & I'm good with that. It just sucks that so many have to suffer in the meantime.
Godspeed, kinfolk ❤️⚖️🧠
The artwork on this video is amazing and on point, great work, as always, bro!
Thank You Afterskool For Another Awesome Collaboration , Shining Light Collectively. Sending Sacred Love, Gratitude And Appreciation To You. Namaste.😊🤗🥰💞💐🌈✨✨✨🙏🏾👑
Thank you. One love.
@@AfterSkool This is precisely why Anime Tsundere Women like Asuka Langley Soryu and Rin Tohsaka are absolutely Evil! Because they are Malignant Narcissists!
@@AfterSkool.This is precisely why Anime Tsundere Women like Asuka Langley Soryu and Rin Tohsaka are absolutely Evil! Because they are Malignant Narcissists!
Ive been watching this channel 10+ years. It has taught me so much and has made me a better person, but I still have a long way to go. Thank you so much.
Wow This comment is truly humbling. There's still much work to be done and infinite learning opportunities. Thank you!
I love seeing great minds collaborating 🤙
Thanks for this. It was easier to grasp when presented in a more neutral way. Dealing with a narcissist, this makes it easier than framing it as a battle of wills.
We need to live by rules.
Have as much fun as possible whilst causing the least amount of harm possible.
Annoy those who break the first rule but don't forget to have fun whilst doing it.
Care and share in the wonder, joy and understanding of life.
Great work! Interesting the words you can make from the letters LIVE. “Live”, “Evil” and the one not mentioned in the episode- “Vile” When you meet, face-to face, a person with a black-hole personality, this excellent video takes on even more meaning and relevance
We all got everything in ourselves! Such an important video, thank you.
I've watched countless videos on this subject, since I've had to deal with a lot of narcissism throughout my life. And, though they were very interesting & informative, there was always some piece of the missing puzzle that still didn't make sense to me...the why's of it. But, this video clarifies more of it for me. I'm finally able to wrap my head around it. Nice work, putting this together! Thx
If stuff like this was shown in our schools regularly, the impact couldn't be overstated, in my opinion.
Great everyday information that I hope will become more commonplace in the not too distant future.
We can actually build Heaven on Earth though too, we just have to believe it's ours to manifest. If we are caught up in victimhood and self-hatred, we attack that in others, and get caught in the loop. You only break free when you learn to love and forgive yourself, and then slowly everyone else. It's a process, but holy shit is it worthwhile.
Very useful video that understands their issues and that creates a small chance of hope rather than stone walling or radical acceptance. Narcissism is hard to deal with because their childhood is "patented" by shaming & guilt tripping. It's their maladaptive coping mechanism that they learned as a child and became a habit and eventually hard coded into their mind.
I want them to realise that they just need a very unique and gifted therapist to help them self reflect and process it in a healthy manner. It has huge devastating effects on others especially the ones close to them. For me, it was quite painful for me to see them left marinating in their own toxicity. Especially the grandiose type of narcissism
Lies require constant maintenance. The more that know of the lie, the more eyes upon it, the more pressure the lie must bear and the cracks become easier to notice. The more involved in the lie, trying to perpetuate it, the more quickly it degrades, whether by error or betrayal. Eventually, falsehood will fall apart. Sometimes catastrophically.
You might be able to bury the Truth under lies. But, those lies will erode under constant observation.
The Truth is Indestructible.
Subject aside, you are an amazing artist! I was absolutely mesmerized for the entire length of the video. In regard to the subject, I was raised by an abusive, malignant narcissist. They lie pathologically about the smallest things that don't matter at all, just for the sake of their appearance to others. For example: "I used to be a cop in the police force." [In REALITY: they did a couple ridealongs witha. Cop when they were young.] They also project their anger, internal hardships, and frustrations onto others as if others are responsible for their shitty behavior. The narcissist i was raised by saw me using cannabis back in highschool ONCE, then proceeded to lie to all of their church friends saying that i had a DRUG ADDICTION and needed prayer. I was then called and texted by many random people, for weeks, saying that they were praying for me. (Religious abuse.) Narcissists also INSTANTLY argue that you're wrong when you're objectively right, have evidence, and they have NONE. Then, when you give them proof that they're wrong and arguing for no reason, they backpedal and say that YOU are the one that MISUNDERSTOOD their talking point. Because a narcissist is NEVER WRONG and always smarter than you and misunderstood, or so they want you to believe... I, of course, moved out as quickly as possible. It's like escaping a cage weighed down in water.
The background music is one of my favorites. Golden Age 432 hz music :)
This is excellent. Thank you.
I would add that not only does the exploration of self and recognition and hence the resulting ability to mostly defang your own internal demons help you recognize these issues in others, it also enables you to recognize genuine goodness in others. In other words, your radar gets pretty good.
I hate to make this about me but this is the exact video that I wanted to watch right now.
Sometimes you gotta make things about yourself :)
LOL
@@AfterSkool This is precisely and exactly why Anime Tsundere Women like Asuka Langley Soryu and Rin Tohsaka are absolutely Evil! Because they are Malignant Narcissists!
@@AfterSkool This is precisely why Anime Tsundere Women like Asuka Langley Soryu and Rin Tohsaka are absolutely Evil! Because they are Malignant Narcissists!
Academy of Ideas + After Skool is the merger of two of my favourites. Great job!
Narcissists also function in this manner.
"I'm not wrong, you are"
or even this:
"I am on the right side of history"
or even this!
"I'm not wrong, the world is."
Do you see what two generations of ME ME ME ME ME does?
@Ark-ys2upDon't forget Gen-X'ers.
*The irony is strong with this one*
Us younger gens are pretty bad in our own ways. I don't think the issue is a generational one
There's that narcissistic projection the video was talking about!
What if it's Simultaneously I'm wrong and the world is? 😂
This channel signifies we are truly one
Justin Trudeau!! Thanks, wicked collab.
lol Exactly what I thought.
Freemasonry thanks!
Great video and good information. At 12:30 it talks about speaking the truth and calling out the malignant narcissists. Most psychologists will warn against doing this because when you target an NPD individual they become fixated on targeting you and focusing their pure undivided attention and "scapegoat laser" on you relentlessly. I agree that the truth should be spoken, but also take warning that when narcissists are backed into a corner they can make your life a living hell.
Love both these channels very much; found them around the same time and have watched pretty much every video. Both feature stunning visuals in their very own different ways, both have highly captivating themes and narrations, both cite some of the greatest known (and often regrettably- not as well known) minds, each presenting philosophy at it's finest.
Awesome collaboration; hopefully not the last.
My late ex was a the poster child for narcissism. The older he got and the more money he made, the more self-absorbed he was. Nobody saw the things I saw or really heard my cries for help. I watched him pose faces in the mirror. Smiles, eye winks. He was practicing. I just get sick inside.
There are some great channels on UA-cam that discuss and focus on narcissistic personalities. I would certainly recommend them to anybody who struggle with a narcissistic family member or friend.
I've read people of the lie. It is an excellent book! I recommend it & thank you for this, not enough people are educated about the truth behind #politics
On my dealings with Narcissists - I noticed that when they realise that you have figure them out, just by a certain look on your face or a subtle smile, they usually crash down and find hard to keep the facade around you and you gain their respect. I am always nice, kind and polite to them, however I make sure to have 'smiling eyes' every time their try to show themselves as Good or Perfect or they usual self-aggrandising nonsense . Nothing works better than trivialising them. It won't make them like or hate you more , but makes you unassailable to them.
That’s why I cast my burdens onto the Lord, our father and one God.
Great work, Mark! Your videos and artistic genius are both enlightening and much relevant on a global scale. Bravo!
Politics is the perfect place for the narcissist and they know it. It takes a very cunning, person with extremely flexible morality to succeed in that theater. Even if they're not when they enter, it's not long before they tap into their own evil. The reality is, decisions aren't made in congress or the senate. They're made in the board room, as the "the law maker" either they accept what they're told to do and be rewarded; or they can be replaced by someone who will.
This was brilliant, thank you. Much to think about including sharing space with those who are like this.
Academy of ideas X After skool is my favorite strain
What a crossover. Two of my favorite and best channels on this cesspool called UA-cam.
Not just prominent in the political world, but the corporate one as well...
Most people don't want to be alone long enough to truly examine themselves and face potentially negative feelings. Instead they distract themselves through pleasure or search for validation of bad their bad behaviors. It's important to go through some of the bad thoughts and feelings in order to grow as a person as opposed to constantly trying to escape insecurities through delusion.
It baffles me when some people would prefer a charismatic narcissist in power rather than a calm gentle person that quietly gets the good work done. We’re our own worst enemy sometimes. I hope a new world order of dictators isn’t on the horizon at the end of this year 😢
Calm pathollogy is mistaken for confidence
Those who use deception in order to offer the illusion of authority do not wield true power, they fear it.
They fear you.
Again and again I am so elated with Enlightenment from the content of your amazing videos your timing and subject matter is so relevant and you are saving the world at least helping those of us who want to do better understand
I always though my mom was a sociopathic narcissist and my dad narcissistic bipolar, but this fits way better for both. Under this my brother turned into one and Im the target of all three. Not fun.
That's the most badass ying/yang I've ever seen. Yo deadass your art skills are amazing .
Perfect timing
Why?
@@ichigo1845 Because there is one that has taken action upon a lot of people recently.
DJT
This is precisely why Anime Tsundere Women like Asuka Langley Soryu and Rin Tohsaka are absolutely Evil! Because they are Malignant Narcissists!
Agreed!
Amazing portrayal of the disorder through drawings👍
🤒Hi Everybody. I was raised by one of these "things". The trauma has left me constantly shaking, in a state of "fight or flight". I recently was made aware of EMDR or Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy. It's supposed to be very effective for PTSD, but also work for severe anxiety from long-term trauma as well. I'm starting next week. If you are suffering from something similar, please look into it. It's supposed to take a while (possibly 8 months or so), but if it helps my symptoms, I'll come back and leave a message saying so. Take care. 😟
Any help in the short term? You see any improvements?
@@DevoidVoid Hi, I'm literally sitting in the waiting room for my next appointment. So far, we are still in the "talking" phase. She has been learning my story and my personality. Also, because I've struggled with "suicidal ideation", they wanted to make sure that I could handle it. I'm so sorry if you are going through something similar. We didn't deserve this! I'm usually incredibly pessimistic, but I still get the feeling that this is gonna help. I'll update again once I actually start the "eyeball" part. Keep fighting, Friend!
Excellent collaboration, two of my favorite channels in one video :)
narcissism is literally perpetuated by the current status quo of the human condition
Which is why this is all so ironic.
Even psychopathy has grown in its totality and people even want the traits themselves to become successful (despite them being archaic wounds of genes, brain problems OR ABUSE, ie you can't just will them into you're personality).