You nailed it! 😊 When a guy opens up about his feelings and experiences, it’s a sign he’s seeking a genuine, deeper connection. If you’d like more insights on building this kind of emotional bond, I’m running a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and I’d love for you to join! masteryofconnection.com/ 💖
I love that you've been letting your hair grow but most of all I love that your relationship with Calli (Kalli) has grown so much and you are so obviously smitten with her. Thank you for teaching me how men think.
10 Signs 1. Rembers the little things. 2. He makes time for you no matter what. 3. He gets a little jealous (not sure about this one, sorry I don't do jealousy, but I am a woman). 4. Goes out of his way to help you. 5. Compliments beyond to the surface. 6. He initiates plans for you. 7. He opens his inner world to you. (Emotional sanctuary or Safe Space.) 8. He makes an effort to get to know your friends and family. 9. He's protective of you. 10. He prioritizes your happiness. 11. Being consistent over time. I think a lot of these are the same as women, obviously some are more masculine traits, but ultimately a genuine woman should be doing the same things. Yeah, I read the list again and I don't think that I am being overly masculine, but I am not a submissive woman either.
Love how you broke this down! 👏 You’re spot-on that these aren’t just “guy” traits-authentic relationships are built when both people invest emotionally. Being true to yourself, whether or not that aligns with traditional roles, is what makes love last. 💖🌱
The jealousy thing is a question of how and to what point. We are not talking about a guy who wants to know everything about all males in your environment, asking pushy questions, interposing himself, or worse, telling you not to speak to someone. We are talking more about competing with them for you, pitying them because they don't get to date you, or highlighting their less flattering qualities. "He wouldn't last five minutes," "He should try someone within his league," or using body language to show you are already taken, that kind of stuff. It's not so much jealousy as it is marking his territory. 😉 I feel like this part is never subtle, and it cracks me up each time to not be quite certain whether he just accidentally gave himself away or whether he is intentionally hinting at being serious about me. 😂
I’m not sure about the jealous thing. I knew that I was going to marry my husband when I was scheduled for a layover and told him that I would be going out with a female co-worker and he asked me to please take the Captain or First Officer with us to keep us safe. Married 40 years now!!
That's such a sweet story! 😊 It sounds like your husband’s request came from a place of genuine concern, not jealousy-he just wanted to make sure you were safe. Congrats on 40 amazing years together! 🥳 If you’d like to dive into more tips on love and connection, I’m doing a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and I’d love for you to join! masteryofconnection.com/ ✨
Aw, thank you! 😊 I’m definitely happier sharing relationship advice than practicing law-it’s much more rewarding! If you’d like to explore more insights on love and connection, I’m doing a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and I’d love for you to join! masteryofconnection.com/ ✨
I get what your saying but, "traditional" can be interpreted as male provider and women bare foot and pregnant at home. My view is there needs to be equal give and take between both parties, each working together as a team. That old traditional way was grossly dysfunctional, but I agree the current ethos has swung way out of balance. I feel it when I hear my son say he doesn't understand what it is to be a man in today's society. It probably didn't help that he grew up in a home where there was a complete role reversal between me and is Dad, sadly my X was not the best male role model, and I almost died when he was only 15, taking more than 5 years to recover. He's 21 in a few weeks, fortunately I am trying to help him understand what to look for in a woman and what toxic traits to avoid. Yes guys, I acknowledge that women can be highly toxic.
@@linamarie84 until a writer started emphasising the phrase "could care less". It used to be "couldn't care less". Think about the phrase logically and how society is influenced by TV and Hollywood. I could care means that I could care. Which is the opposite to I couldn't care, which in essence was the key meaning of the phrase. There is now another theory for the Mandela Effect and that iss Big Tech and the Gov are Fng with us.
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He checks every single box except point number two. He smokes weed (very little but very often) when he is alone, and when he does, he forgets I exist. I was going to ask him about why he doesn't text more often between dates, but fortunately it occurred to him I might need more checking in with than he provides and he volunteered the explanation that weed does this to him and that he is working on it. He says he intends to quit smoking up altogether and he sounded genuine, but I'll believe it when I see it. I don't actually need him to quit, I smoke up too, but I don't check out when I do. So if he could just learn to check in more often, that would be fine. Otherwise, all of this. I especially like it when he remembers details about me that don't make me any more attractive and that aren't particularly interesting, because paying attention to everything I say and filing the information in his brain is much more effort than walking between me and traffic or offering to change my oil.
You’re right on point! 👍 The fact that he’s aware and willing to make changes says a lot about his intentions. And yes, it’s those little, sometimes unremarkable details he remembers that truly show he’s invested-it goes beyond the grand gestures to show real thoughtfulness. 💫😊
You are so helpful in all of your videos, the explanation helps to link the things you explain to other aspects of human interaction beyond the falling in love, like friendship too! Btw, are you wearing your shirt upside down?
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Good one my man is so weird, but we are both 70 and it's been a while for both of us. We're in the beginning, and just getting to know each other, but I'm gaga over him and he shows up and leaves things here, so we'll see how it goes. BTW He hit a few points....Love this channel.
This is amazing! 😊 It’s never too late to find that spark again, and I’m so glad you’re enjoying this new connection. Leaving things behind? Oh yeah, that’s definitely a subtle move-sounds like things are heading in a good direction! 😉 Wishing you both all the love and fun as you explore what’s next. ❤✨
I really enjoy the delivery of the information. Keep up the good work. (I saw some of the negative comments, you always have to get some a hole keyboard warrior). Please ignore the negativity, it’s just someone having a bad day / week / life 😅
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I watched another coach saying - dont ever ask a guy what he's feeling, that kills masculine, testosterone or something, only ask what he thinks and share whay you feel... So which one is it? 😅
That can be confusing! Both ways can work-ask what he thinks and share your feelings to find a balance. By the way, if you're interested, I’ll be part of a FREE live coaching love + relationship course starting this month. It’s a great opportunity to join the beta launch! You can learn more and sign up here: masteryofconnection.com/
I struggle with self esteem issues pretty much all of my life.. i know you mostly cover love and relationships. I honestly have no idea how to improve my mindset .ive tried almost everything. And i know men aren't attracted to women like that..they love confidence. But i have none 😢😔 are you able to do one about methods to recover this...?
I totally understand, and you’re not alone in this struggle. 😊 Confidence doesn’t have to be about perfection; it’s about accepting and loving yourself bit by bit. I’d love to cover some strategies for building self-esteem-thank you for the suggestion! Just remember, the right person will see your true value, confidence or not. ❤🌱
We live in different States but the issue is, he’s not making time for me. We broke up but ended up being rematched on a dating site a month later 🤦🏻♀️ he asked if “Prince Charming” swept me off my feet yet… we started talking again but back to not seeing each other… talk daily but that’s it… I’m not happy with this but we keep boomeranging - what is this?
@@a_chill_dude. not helping… I’m not behaving the same, he did despite initiating contact… creating your own narrative for my attention is just insanity!
Four months in, and it sounds like there’s a good connection starting! 😊 Meeting friends can be a big step, so if everything else is feeling right, give it a little more time. Sometimes it just takes a while to bring someone fully into our world. ❤✨
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Matt, where you by any chance a divorce attorney? I just got a flash of War of the Roses. I bought 2 copies of the DVD when I split from my X and he was demanding property with multiple threats. I bought it to act as a warning of where we were headed, trying to get him to split amicably. Fortunately, I watched it again and before I handed it over, having watched it, I decided not to give him the copy because I thought it might give him ideas, in reality I think he wanted me dead anyway, he didn't need any encouragement. Actually, before I fell ill and very nearly died, I was having a recurring dream that we were in the car and he drove us off a bridge, killing us both on impact. There are other things too, which I will refrain from noting here.
Wow, it sounds like you’ve been through a lot. 😞 Sometimes we sense things on a deep level, and it’s brave of you to listen to your instincts and prioritize your safety. I hope you’re in a better, peaceful place now-your well-being and happiness matter most. ❤✨
@Mat_Shaffer you have no idea what I have endured. I've got CPTSD and the past 5 years hell. My CPN today, having looked at some research papers and my medical notes said is she hadn't seen the evidence I presented her with, she'd never have believed what had just been done to me. The only saving grace is, I got to see my X's true colours. I literally had to die to wake up the the kind of man I was married to. At least with the Roses, they both loved each other when they got married. So am I right, Divorce Attorney?!!
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That sounds so painful, and I’m really sorry you experienced that. 😞 It’s heartbreaking when someone seems invested but doesn’t follow through when it matters. Remember, you deserve someone who’s there through thick and thin. 💖💪
With all due respect it's not ALL about his actions....It is about YOURS as well............ We have to take accountability. A man expresses himself in ways like this video in terms of the majority... Universally...But.... The Woman's behavior is a factor 100%. These signs don't just apply to every situation..It depends on factors that are dependent of you...that's it.
Hi Mat. Today I told a guy that I want to be friends with him. He is my healer. I feel this strong spiritual connection with him which is not romantic but more like a friend. I told him that it is this type of connection I feel. He accepted. When he left after the healing session he held my face and gave me two very gentle kisses on my cheeks. He always gives me long hugs. He gave me the hugs well a bit shorter than usual. He never contacts me in between sessions or does anything u are mentioning here. I am curious can a man have secret feelings for a woman but still act professional? Not show any other signs.
Thank you for being brave and sharing your pain. We’re all here to support you. 💓 By the way, if you're interested, I’ll be part of a FREE live coaching love + relationship course starting this month. It’s a great opportunity to join the beta launch! You can learn more and sign up here: masteryofconnection.com/
I am a healer and kisses, even on the cheeks, and long hugs are a big red flag. He needs to be a neutral space for you. He can be your healer or your friend, not both. The fact you are even having to question his feelings is not a good sign. Find a new healer and decide if you want to pursue any kind of friendship with this man after a few months of space.
New Subscriber. I have a two questions if you don't mind answering: when walking with a man (her date) does it matter for the woman to walk with him on the left side or the right side; second question when going out on a date does the man ask the woman choose the name of the restaurant or does he chose the name of the restaurant?
So glad to have you here! 😊 As for walking side-by-side, there’s no hard rule-it’s more about what feels comfortable. Some traditions say the woman walks on the man’s left side, but in the end, whatever works best for you two! For restaurant choices, a man choosing can show initiative, but asking for her input makes it collaborative and thoughtful-either way, a win! 🍽💖
I have a question but it's different why would a guy connect to you and knowing your with someone but I can feel his energy and I see visions of him when he thinks of me so why would he think of me. I see him at my church and he talks to me off and on i don't understand why?
What if you see a lot of these signs but he wants to stay anonym even after 2 years of speaking and he even said sorry about drawing a picture about himself (told lies) that is too good - what does this man feel? (Age gap 20 years younger than the woman. She is not anonymous).
This sounds complex, and I can understand how confusing it must feel. 😔 When someone hides behind lies or anonymity for so long, it’s often a sign of fear-either of being judged, rejected, or truly seen. His apology suggests some guilt, but it’s essential to protect your heart and set boundaries. Honest communication will be key here-ask yourself if he’s truly ready to build trust with you after all this time. 💖💬
Haha, it can definitely seem that way sometimes! 😄 But the truth is, guys do have feelings-they just might not be as used to identifying or expressing them. It’s like they’ve got the feelings manual, but they’re still figuring out how to read it. 📖😉
That sounds really tough, and I’m sorry you’re going through it. 😔 It can help to pause during those moments of tension and have an open, honest conversation about how you both feel-and what each of you needs emotionally. Sometimes reconnecting starts with small gestures, like expressing appreciation or creating space for affection without pressure. ❤💬
LOL, I appreciate the feedback! 😆 Now I can’t unsee that. I’ll definitely keep it in mind for the next video-gotta keep things safe for work, right? 😂✨
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I have to laugh just a little bit a the small jealousies. They seem to be accompanied by nasty little nicknames for the guy he is a bit jealous of.. Usually involves lack of hair or what the guy does for a living.. lmaoo I know this really needs to be in small doses to not be a red flag. But like it or not, he's probably gonna be a tad bit jealous,as this man has pointed out. If he is too jealous,leave.
Haha, you’re so right! 😆 Those little jealousies can definitely show up with some interesting nicknames. It’s all about finding that balance-just enough to show he cares, but not so much that it’s a red flag. If it crosses the line, it’s definitely time to reevaluate! 🚩😉
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@ALEJANDRAAGUILAR-um1Dear sister, Mat is a likeable guy, but the content is repetative, it's not original nor creative, it's plain mansplaining from last last year.
Interesting, I find it inspiring even when it’s a repeat of something I may have heard in the past it still is nice to hear things to keep my mind from going to the wrong place. I appreciate his information.
Um, don't watch if you already got the message? Just because you got it doesn't mean it has lost its worth. You're just an ungrateful person all in all.
That sounds incredibly hard, and I’m really sorry you had to experience that. 😔 Just know you’re not alone-healing takes time, but you’re strong enough to get through it. One day at a time. ❤✨
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He opens up about his feelings, fears, or experiences, indicating trust and a desire for deeper connection.
You nailed it! 😊 When a guy opens up about his feelings and experiences, it’s a sign he’s seeking a genuine, deeper connection. If you’d like more insights on building this kind of emotional bond, I’m running a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and I’d love for you to join! masteryofconnection.com/ 💖
He told me last week anything in his room with the door closed is his. I said I was in his room, he looked at me and said your mine.
I love that you've been letting your hair grow but most of all I love that your relationship with Calli (Kalli) has grown so much and you are so obviously smitten with her. Thank you for teaching me how men think.
10 Signs
1. Rembers the little things.
2. He makes time for you no matter what.
3. He gets a little jealous (not sure about this one, sorry I don't do jealousy, but I am a woman).
4. Goes out of his way to help you.
5. Compliments beyond to the surface.
6. He initiates plans for you.
7. He opens his inner world to you. (Emotional sanctuary or Safe Space.)
8. He makes an effort to get to know your friends and family.
9. He's protective of you.
10. He prioritizes your happiness.
11. Being consistent over time.
I think a lot of these are the same as women, obviously some are more masculine traits, but ultimately a genuine woman should be doing the same things.
Yeah, I read the list again and I don't think that I am being overly masculine, but I am not a submissive woman either.
Love how you broke this down! 👏 You’re spot-on that these aren’t just “guy” traits-authentic relationships are built when both people invest emotionally. Being true to yourself, whether or not that aligns with traditional roles, is what makes love last. 💖🌱
The jealousy thing is a question of how and to what point. We are not talking about a guy who wants to know everything about all males in your environment, asking pushy questions, interposing himself, or worse, telling you not to speak to someone. We are talking more about competing with them for you, pitying them because they don't get to date you, or highlighting their less flattering qualities. "He wouldn't last five minutes," "He should try someone within his league," or using body language to show you are already taken, that kind of stuff. It's not so much jealousy as it is marking his territory. 😉
I feel like this part is never subtle, and it cracks me up each time to not be quite certain whether he just accidentally gave himself away or whether he is intentionally hinting at being serious about me. 😂
I’m not sure about the jealous thing. I knew that I was going to marry my husband when I was scheduled for a layover and told him that I would be going out with a female co-worker and he asked me to please take the Captain or First Officer with us to keep us safe. Married 40 years now!!
That's such a sweet story! 😊 It sounds like your husband’s request came from a place of genuine concern, not jealousy-he just wanted to make sure you were safe. Congrats on 40 amazing years together! 🥳 If you’d like to dive into more tips on love and connection, I’m doing a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and I’d love for you to join! masteryofconnection.com/ ✨
If a man has come out of a very abusive relationship and is very shy, will he still do all of these things?
This was great…easy to listen to, well paced and great voice Mat. Glad you’re no longer a lawyer!
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A return to the tried & tested traditional values is what will save our civilisation. It will never go out of fashion.
for sure!
This is exactly what my husband said while watching this!
I get what your saying but, "traditional" can be interpreted as male provider and women bare foot and pregnant at home. My view is there needs to be equal give and take between both parties, each working together as a team.
That old traditional way was grossly dysfunctional, but I agree the current ethos has swung way out of balance. I feel it when I hear my son say he doesn't understand what it is to be a man in today's society. It probably didn't help that he grew up in a home where there was a complete role reversal between me and is Dad, sadly my X was not the best male role model, and I almost died when he was only 15, taking more than 5 years to recover. He's 21 in a few weeks, fortunately I am trying to help him understand what to look for in a woman and what toxic traits to avoid. Yes guys, I acknowledge that women can be highly toxic.
I could careless what others "can" see it as.
@@linamarie84 until a writer started emphasising the phrase "could care less". It used to be "couldn't care less".
Think about the phrase logically and how society is influenced by TV and Hollywood.
I could care means that I could care. Which is the opposite to I couldn't care, which in essence was the key meaning of the phrase.
There is now another theory for the Mandela Effect and that iss Big Tech and the Gov are Fng with us.
Thank You for the reassurance! Good to know 😊
absolutely you are so welcome! :)
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Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I am very much into touch. The man I am in deeply in love with is also.
Your hair looks great
Aww, thank you! 😊
Great Video, thank you so much
so welcome! :)
Thank you this very helpful advice 🙏👍❣️😴
So glad you found it helpful! 😊🙏
This is so useful 👌.
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He checks every single box except point number two. He smokes weed (very little but very often) when he is alone, and when he does, he forgets I exist. I was going to ask him about why he doesn't text more often between dates, but fortunately it occurred to him I might need more checking in with than he provides and he volunteered the explanation that weed does this to him and that he is working on it. He says he intends to quit smoking up altogether and he sounded genuine, but I'll believe it when I see it. I don't actually need him to quit, I smoke up too, but I don't check out when I do. So if he could just learn to check in more often, that would be fine.
Otherwise, all of this. I especially like it when he remembers details about me that don't make me any more attractive and that aren't particularly interesting, because paying attention to everything I say and filing the information in his brain is much more effort than walking between me and traffic or offering to change my oil.
You’re right on point! 👍 The fact that he’s aware and willing to make changes says a lot about his intentions. And yes, it’s those little, sometimes unremarkable details he remembers that truly show he’s invested-it goes beyond the grand gestures to show real thoughtfulness. 💫😊
You are so helpful in all of your videos, the explanation helps to link the things you explain to other aspects of human interaction beyond the falling in love, like friendship too! Btw, are you wearing your shirt upside down?
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you. By the way, if you're interested, I’ll be part of a FREE live coaching love + relationship course starting this month. It’s a great opportunity to join the beta launch! You can learn more and sign up here: masteryofconnection.com/
Good one my man is so weird, but we are both 70 and it's been a while for both of us. We're in the beginning, and just getting to know each other, but I'm gaga over him and he shows up and leaves things here, so we'll see how it goes. BTW He hit a few points....Love this channel.
This is amazing! 😊 It’s never too late to find that spark again, and I’m so glad you’re enjoying this new connection. Leaving things behind? Oh yeah, that’s definitely a subtle move-sounds like things are heading in a good direction! 😉 Wishing you both all the love and fun as you explore what’s next. ❤✨
Thank you for teaching me 🙏🏽❤. OMG, my male friend makes me walk on the inside of the sidewalk while he walks on the outside.
This would all be wonderful. I wish I could have that.
you can!! :)
I really enjoy the delivery of the information. Keep up the good work. (I saw some of the negative comments, you always have to get some a hole keyboard warrior). Please ignore the negativity, it’s just someone having a bad day / week / life 😅
Thank you so much! 😊 I really appreciate the kind words and support-it means a lot. As for the negativity, you’re absolutely right. Gotta let those keyboard warriors do their thing while we keep spreading the good vibes! 😎✨
@ absolutely 😎 love your energy 💫
Hey!!MS How are you?
This is spot on 👍
Good! Your comment made my day! Keep shining and being fabulous. ✨
@@Mat_Shaffer thanks Mat . Keep showing up 😚💪
That's very sweet.
You're a great coach
I appreciate that!
I watched another coach saying - dont ever ask a guy what he's feeling, that kills masculine, testosterone or something, only ask what he thinks and share whay you feel... So which one is it? 😅
That can be confusing! Both ways can work-ask what he thinks and share your feelings to find a balance. By the way, if you're interested, I’ll be part of a FREE live coaching love + relationship course starting this month. It’s a great opportunity to join the beta launch! You can learn more and sign up here: masteryofconnection.com/
I struggle with self esteem issues pretty much all of my life.. i know you mostly cover love and relationships. I honestly have no idea how to improve my mindset .ive tried almost everything. And i know men aren't attracted to women like that..they love confidence. But i have none 😢😔 are you able to do one about methods to recover this...?
I totally understand, and you’re not alone in this struggle. 😊 Confidence doesn’t have to be about perfection; it’s about accepting and loving yourself bit by bit. I’d love to cover some strategies for building self-esteem-thank you for the suggestion! Just remember, the right person will see your true value, confidence or not. ❤🌱
We live in different States but the issue is, he’s not making time for me. We broke up but ended up being rematched on a dating site a month later 🤦🏻♀️ he asked if “Prince Charming” swept me off my feet yet… we started talking again but back to not seeing each other… talk daily but that’s it… I’m not happy with this but we keep boomeranging - what is this?
Sounds like insanity
Repeating the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result
@@a_chill_dude. not helping… I’m not behaving the same, he did despite initiating contact… creating your own narrative for my attention is just insanity!
I have a guy like that in my life,but I have never met his friends, met him 4 months ago .
Four months in, and it sounds like there’s a good connection starting! 😊 Meeting friends can be a big step, so if everything else is feeling right, give it a little more time. Sometimes it just takes a while to bring someone fully into our world. ❤✨
@Mat_Shaffer i appreciate 🙏🏿 ❤️
Could be he wants you all to himself and just is not ready to let other eyes look at you😂
Without further ADO, NOT ADIEU.
Close enough
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Yeah
Ado
Get a life, respectfully.
Matt, where you by any chance a divorce attorney?
I just got a flash of War of the Roses. I bought 2 copies of the DVD when I split from my X and he was demanding property with multiple threats. I bought it to act as a warning of where we were headed, trying to get him to split amicably. Fortunately, I watched it again and before I handed it over, having watched it, I decided not to give him the copy because I thought it might give him ideas, in reality I think he wanted me dead anyway, he didn't need any encouragement. Actually, before I fell ill and very nearly died, I was having a recurring dream that we were in the car and he drove us off a bridge, killing us both on impact. There are other things too, which I will refrain from noting here.
Wow, it sounds like you’ve been through a lot. 😞 Sometimes we sense things on a deep level, and it’s brave of you to listen to your instincts and prioritize your safety. I hope you’re in a better, peaceful place now-your well-being and happiness matter most. ❤✨
@Mat_Shaffer you have no idea what I have endured. I've got CPTSD and the past 5 years hell. My CPN today, having looked at some research papers and my medical notes said is she hadn't seen the evidence I presented her with, she'd never have believed what had just been done to me. The only saving grace is, I got to see my X's true colours. I literally had to die to wake up the the kind of man I was married to. At least with the Roses, they both loved each other when they got married.
So am I right, Divorce Attorney?!!
3:40 mark - JEALOUS is correct spelling
Haha, didn't catch that
😂 and it's Mat not Mark
Thank you for bringing this to my attention. Your feedback helps me improve and grow.
Thank You 🙏🏼
Matt….
Never Ass U Me
Make an Azz out of U & Me 😆
Take Care & see
U next time ❤️
HAHA so true!
@@Mat_Shaffer
Smiling 🥰
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Yes on our second date this happened
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It's not a fact. I had had a guy do all of these and eventually ghosted me when i needed him the most
That sounds so painful, and I’m really sorry you experienced that. 😞 It’s heartbreaking when someone seems invested but doesn’t follow through when it matters. Remember, you deserve someone who’s there through thick and thin. 💖💪
With all due respect it's not ALL about his actions....It is about YOURS as well............
We have to take accountability. A man expresses himself in ways like this video in terms of the majority... Universally...But....
The Woman's behavior is a factor 100%. These signs don't just apply to every situation..It depends on factors that are dependent of you...that's it.
The phrase is "without further ado" not "without further a due", which is what you said.
Get a life, respectfully.
Hi Mat. Today I told a guy that I want to be friends with him. He is my healer. I feel this strong spiritual connection with him which is not romantic but more like a friend. I told him that it is this type of connection I feel. He accepted.
When he left after the healing session he held my face and gave me two very gentle kisses on my cheeks. He always gives me long hugs. He gave me the hugs well a bit shorter than usual. He never contacts me in between sessions or does anything u are mentioning here.
I am curious can a man have secret feelings for a woman but still act professional? Not show any other signs.
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@@Mat_Shaffer I already joined
I am a healer and kisses, even on the cheeks, and long hugs are a big red flag. He needs to be a neutral space for you. He can be your healer or your friend, not both. The fact you are even having to question his feelings is not a good sign. Find a new healer and decide if you want to pursue any kind of friendship with this man after a few months of space.
Thank you so much! 🥰🥰🥰
That makes sense. A healer should be neutral. Taking time apart sounds like a good idea to find clarity. Thanks for the advice!
New Subscriber. I have a two questions if you don't mind answering: when walking with a man (her date) does it matter for the woman to walk with him on the left side or the right side; second question when going out on a date does the man ask the woman choose the name of the restaurant or does he chose the name of the restaurant?
So glad to have you here! 😊 As for walking side-by-side, there’s no hard rule-it’s more about what feels comfortable. Some traditions say the woman walks on the man’s left side, but in the end, whatever works best for you two! For restaurant choices, a man choosing can show initiative, but asking for her input makes it collaborative and thoughtful-either way, a win! 🍽💖
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All the men on the tictoc game creators, all do this‼️
Haha, right? 😄 It’s like there’s a secret handbook for TikTok creators! 📖🎮
I already know he likes me. I'm just watching these for fun 😅
Haha, you’re just here for the entertainment! 😆
I have a question but it's different why would a guy connect to you and knowing your with someone but I can feel his energy and I see visions of him when he thinks of me so why would he think of me. I see him at my church and he talks to me off and on i don't understand why?
Let’s define the word “subtle” 😂
''Subtle” means not obvious; it’s gentle and understated. Want to know more? 😂
1. Unless he has brain dysregulation from trauma.
What if you see a lot of these signs but he wants to stay anonym even after 2 years of speaking and he even said sorry about drawing a picture about himself (told lies) that is too good - what does this man feel? (Age gap 20 years younger than the woman. She is not anonymous).
This sounds complex, and I can understand how confusing it must feel. 😔 When someone hides behind lies or anonymity for so long, it’s often a sign of fear-either of being judged, rejected, or truly seen. His apology suggests some guilt, but it’s essential to protect your heart and set boundaries. Honest communication will be key here-ask yourself if he’s truly ready to build trust with you after all this time. 💖💬
I thought guys didn't know how to read their feelings. Just their thoughts.....?
Haha, it can definitely seem that way sometimes! 😄 But the truth is, guys do have feelings-they just might not be as used to identifying or expressing them. It’s like they’ve got the feelings manual, but they’re still figuring out how to read it. 📖😉
Why do you look like Jesus?
haha all the hair probably?!
We are all made in his image
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Meeeennn! My thaughts.
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On the Mat challenge, I shared with my container, my community, and I wish you all the best in the launch. Good luck brother!!!
Happy to hear that!
I’m so goes I found this on time
Can I ask your advice my fella is always moaning and isn't affectionate anymore how can I change this we row alot to
That sounds really tough, and I’m sorry you’re going through it. 😔 It can help to pause during those moments of tension and have an open, honest conversation about how you both feel-and what each of you needs emotionally. Sometimes reconnecting starts with small gestures, like expressing appreciation or creating space for affection without pressure. ❤💬
Great video, great content. I’d rethink the white splatter behind the text tho. It’s giving nsfw. 😂
LOL, I appreciate the feedback! 😆 Now I can’t unsee that. I’ll definitely keep it in mind for the next video-gotta keep things safe for work, right? 😂✨
@@Mat_Shaffer If we must lol 😏👻
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Please tell how to seduce a guy that i don't know but i see everyday
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Now contrast this with wanting to be a gbff.
Sometimes things slip into friendship mode without meaning to. 😄 Watch for the signs from the video-he might care more than he lets on. 😉🔥
Personally speaking, I couldn't give a rat's ass!!
I have to laugh just a little bit a the small jealousies. They seem to be accompanied by nasty little nicknames for the guy he is a bit jealous of.. Usually involves lack of hair or what the guy does for a living.. lmaoo
I know this really needs to be in small doses to not be a red flag. But like it or not, he's probably gonna be a tad bit jealous,as this man has pointed out.
If he is too jealous,leave.
Haha, you’re so right! 😆 Those little jealousies can definitely show up with some interesting nicknames. It’s all about finding that balance-just enough to show he cares, but not so much that it’s a red flag. If it crosses the line, it’s definitely time to reevaluate! 🚩😉
Yeah nah. Sadly, I haven’t met any of those men and I’m not sure I’m capable of believing it.
This resonates😢
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He does all of those thing's but he is married for 20 years ..😅 poor me but i dont see a future in it😢
Why does the married ones aways be the ones that give you all the sweet attention 😢
@@ermaking8335 I know right? They try to escape their reality or try to cheat, they are really good at it😱😅😓
Why would you even think about it a future 😂 HE IS MARRIED! Girl bye
Really girl? How would you like it if your husband was interested in another woman. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes, fucker
God i hate women like this
After listening to this I came to the conclusion: you should've stayed a lawyer.
Why do you think that? I'm curious
@ALEJANDRAAGUILAR-um1Dear sister, Mat is a likeable guy, but the content is repetative, it's not original nor creative, it's plain mansplaining from last last year.
Interesting, I find it inspiring even when it’s a repeat of something I may have heard in the past it still is nice to hear things to keep my mind from going to the wrong place. I appreciate his information.
Um, don't watch if you already got the message? Just because you got it doesn't mean it has lost its worth. You're just an ungrateful person all in all.
haha I definitely should not have stayed a lawyer... that career would have killed me by now 😂
First time here. I’m so grateful
I found this , I dated a narcissist for 6 years…. Now I have his child I want to disappear 🫠
That sounds incredibly hard, and I’m really sorry you had to experience that. 😔 Just know you’re not alone-healing takes time, but you’re strong enough to get through it. One day at a time. ❤✨