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The "miss you" part is so true. After my husband and I dated for not quite 3 months, he went on a business trip and we didn't see each other for 10 days. The first day we saw each other after he came back, he took me in his arms and said "I miss you so much when I'm gone that I know I want to spend the rest of my life with you." He didn't say "Will you marry me?" We knew we were meant for each other. We are soulmates.
My partner said something so beautiful to me last week. It blew me away! He said, "I don't just love you, I love us." Wow! I responded and said, "I love us too. It's beautiful, isn't it?" He agreed.
I was married 49 years to the same man, now deceased, and he did none of these. It was a one sided relationship. However now I have a man that says & done all these things. I have never been so adored❤❤
I know cases like that. It's a generation thing. After ww2 in 50ties and 60ties the idea of the family was so messed up where men were alfa and the pater familias and women were here just to help him to achieve anything and be in his shadows. Many movies are made on that to let us younger generations understand that time and how it was for a woman. Women didn't have a saying and was just obeying men's wishes. Men didn't need to do any effort to get attention or to get what ever he wants. Women were throwing themselves to men and were in many ways in Master/Servant relationship. These times are behind us in most cases as women are more aware of theirs own powers. If woman decides to be in this sort of relationship these days this is part of BDSM society and intimate play but even now if the woman decides to be submissive its her own informed decision where in 50ties was expected of her generally speaking. I am glad you have a man now taking care of you and your needs as every man should do for his lady. Bless you❤
1. I really enjoy spending time with you 2.I miss you 3. Let me know if there is anything i can do for you 4. I love it when you …. 5. I am always here for you 6. I want to make things work between us 7. I am sorry …8. I trust you 9. I am proud of you, to be with you 10. I am so excited to …. with you
This is true, i meet someone being like this with me, but his married man 💔. We both feel the same this way and we always feels excited to spend time talking each other. But our our fate is quite playful and complicated. So we just loved each other but we know our boundaries.
Consistency. Communication. Connection. I have never once in over a year and a half with my bf gone to bed wondering where I stand with him or if things are ok even if life around us is falling apart. He is my safe place, my lover, my best friend, I wouldn't want to do life with anyone else by my side.
@@Vanessa___kelman we are coming up on 2 years and I feel as much love and safety now in my relationship as I did when I wrote it months ago. ❤️❤️❤️ There is hope.
My boyfriend at the time (he’s now my husband…30 years) literally told me in the beginning “I’m falling in love with you”. I never had to decipher any thing from him. He told me exactly how he felt every step of the way. As did I.
Been with my husband for 19 years and he still says these things and I consider myself lucky to have met him in high school. I love it when we would be playing video games together and he would just randomly just turn his chair to me and randomly say “I love the time we spend together so much. It heals my heart.” ❤
I'm with my high-school sweetheart too. And also celebrating 19 years next month. Nothing has been more important to me then these 19 years with my lady. She is the most magnificent person God could have ever lead me too
My boyfriend tells me he can’t imagine not being around me 🥰 That’s crazy when you know that I’m disabled and he is my carer. We spend 24/7 together practically and we just gel.
After years and years of unhealthy and toxic relationships, I have a healthy relationship with a man who says all these things to me. He gives me freedom to be myself and open up to him in a way I've never done before. It took me 45 years to find him (to him longer to find me lol), but from here forward I don't plan on letting one day go by without telling him how much I appreciate him.
@@snowwpea Ironically my comment was spoken too soon. So I’m still looking as well. But I’m just tired of looking now. I don’t need or want someone. I need to just heal.
Wow. I just feel like being with the same person for 45 yrs that works hard and provides, doesnt drink, or use drugs, doesnt cheat on me, etc., I must be pretty blessed.
Absolutely! It sounds like you have a strong and stable relationship with your partner, and that is indeed something to be grateful for. Finding a partner who is loyal, responsible, and committed to a healthy lifestyle is a blessing. 🙏❤
My husband of 12 years never said any of those things. Ever. Could be why I am depressed and lonely and why I am finally following through with a divorce
Good luck. My husband and I got divorced. Now I'm finding happiness in love, reconnecting with an old college friend who's been there for almost each and every one of my many moves (and 2 marriages). It's possible
That's absolutely wonderful to hear! It's a true blessing to have a loving and supportive partner in a long-term marriage. Cherishing and maintaining a deep connection over the course of 24 years is a remarkable achievement. Wishing you many more years of love, joy, and fulfillment in your marriage! 🙏❤
I cried watchin this. Im goin thru a seperation from my husband of 15 yrs (a third of my life) and this just reinforced what I knew. That he fell in comfort ×ith me, but not love. He NEVER said any of these things. 😢
See how nice this is. We ladies can listen to this man. Hes insightful,helpful,great advice. He makes us want to hear what a man has to say. Finally a male on yt not beating his chest,or putting women down or talking about red pills or blue pills. Just simple ,honesty .Real words.💕Thank you
You’ve actually clarified everything my man has and is still saying these words to me. Makes me feel emotional 🥹 right now. When we have a little or big argument he always says he’s sorry. We have a robust way of clearing the air we don’t shy away. That’s what l love about him.Lord help me to respond positively.🙏🏽 Thank you!
Mat is wonderful if a man can walk the talk, communication has many layers , verbal communication is just one layer , when a man holds you in silence, cook some food for you , pick up some groceries, kiss your neck , when he can rest in your presence , when he can hold you in silence , when he introduced his family and friends etc….. he is looking forward too the future with you ,❤blessings 🙏🇨🇦
Found your channel about a year ago after being in a relationship with a man for 7 years who would not commit. Your videos were so helpful and informative in not only helping me move on from a toxic situation, but also helped me learn how to put more value on myself and to find the pattern of why I kept attracting the wrong men. I also learned better communication skills and how to improve areas within myself as a whole. Your videos helped me to better understand the dynamics between men and women. I have since been following you and have watched all your videos. I am now in a healthy relationship with a man where respect and open communication are key. Thank you so much for posting videos that not only help with relationships but also help with self improvement and teaches women how to grow in self love❤
Jenna, I don’t know you… married 25 years come December 2023. Either being with you is equivalent to marriage and a piece of paper doesn’t mean anything to him… that was me a long time ago or…. He’s just not worth your time 😢. Best of luck 🤞
My husband is such a character… when he is going to apologize for something important.. like switching banks! For instance as I’m telling him it’s a very bad idea, he will pull me aside close the door and whisper “you were right “ oh my gosh 😂😂😂 and this is a secret 😂😂😂, who’s going to listen??? Oh my guy 🤦🏻♀️ I have to say it is so hard to keep a straight face 😐
Never had anyone love me... Ive been loved out and drained by loving others, now I feel tired and incaple of love / or a relationship. I feel like I missed out by being burn through Narcissistic abuse.
Matt I found my King a year ago. We have a wild and fast start to our beginning. The first day we met is our anniversary vs when I moved forward to define our relationship. He does everything you’ve stated. We met online through Bumble. We are now a Family.
My husband is a man of few words but it is his actions that let me know. The way his his eyes glow when he looks at me I knew he was in love with me before I was with him. I had just broke up with my first love and it was very hard for me. He was very patient when I told him I need time and I just want to be friends. He feel in love with me during that time because I saw it in his eyes on day when I was getting out of his car. I have the side of him no one sees. He was so tense and I am not and he has relaxed a lot since we met. Never stop dating. We have been married for almost 31 yeara.
I’m married for 30+ years, and my husband still says a lot of these things. I realize through listening to this that I’m not always responding appropriately to strengthen our bond. I will use some of these suggestions to reciprocate in kind. I’m also a bit tired of being the emotional support, so I best make an effort to be that for him, or he will find another! I guess I’m needed/wanted, and that should be a good thing! 😊
So after watching the video I am truly convinced that my guy is totally understanding, sensitive, and we are preparing a wonderful future together...as he's done just about everyone of the 10 things that Mat talks about in this video... Ty for sharing and letting me learn how invested my love of my life is involved & investing himself in me and me just returning it right back to him without even knowing I was doing it... Ty ❤
You're welcome! I'm glad that watching the video helped you recognize the positive qualities and investment your partner has shown in your relationship. It's wonderful to have someone understanding, sensitive, and committed to building a future together. Wishing you both a happy and successful journey together!🙏❤
It took my partner 2 years to say I love you. We both believe people say it like they’re saying Hello, everyone LOVES everyone and everything and it makes it less important than it should be. We’ve been together 5 years now and still don’t say it daily, we tell each other a couple times a month and that’s what makes it so special to us. Neither of us just blurted it out because there’s a huge difference between lust, infatuation and love. ❤
I got a proposal after 3 weeks. We met online before there was online dating 24 magnificent years ago. He wanted yo propose after the 2nd date! We have the same b day!
I so agree with you!! I'm dating a man who has said and done all these things (I wonder if he's watched this video lol JK), and he tells me that he loves me but I, like you, feel that infatuation and lust may mimic true love at first.
Almost a year ago I met my best friend and soulmate. On tinder. Yes tinder. We both weren’t expecting to find anyone obviously let alone fall in love but we did. He’s in the military and I was in college. I was there for him when he was just starting out his military career and he was there for me when I finally moved out and went to college in-person. I was not expecting to find someone so perfect so soon, but I know he’s the one. We talk about our future together and we just know we were made for each other. We have the best communication and a strong emotional connection. Even though we’re long distance now we try to see each other every 2-3 months. Whether that’s me flying out to see him or him driving here (11 hours), or us meeting halfway. I can’t wait to see what the future has in store for us.
Your doing females a great service a man says shows me that expresses all these things. I never had a guy say or do all of these things. You're helping give women confidence to know that they're putting their heart in the right man's hands. Keep up the great work God bless you 🙏💯
Mat, then I've hit the most precious relationship. Wow, thank you. I'm older than him and sometimes I feel insecure, but he always keeps me safe. He is just perfect. I love everything about us.
My love of my life and soulmate said all those things and so much more... We were BOTH blessed to know and FINALLY feel what REAL LOVE is supposed to feel like for 10 beautiful years! Sadly I lost my partner June 4th this year to stage 4 lung cancer. 😔 It gives me peace to know he's whole again and no longer in pain. One of my favorite memories is when we went fishing... We both caught a fish at the same time. I said I wonder who's fish is bigger?! Lol We both reeled our lines in and he grabbed me as our fish were flopping around on the shore looked me deep in the eyes and said "It doesn't matter my Queen because you're the greatest catch of my life"... I'll remember that forever!! 💞 Rest in paradise my Handsome! 😘 Til we meet again... 💖 Praying my heart will heal someday. 10 years wasn't long enough but I'm so thankful we had those 10 years. 💞🙏💞
My deepest sympathy to you, Lisa. The story you shared-what a wonderful memory to have. Sending healing energy to you and to your heart. You were able to experience and truly feel such profound love with and for another person. Sounds like your 10 years was meant to be! I hope for you lots of smiles and goodness the rest of your life. 💝
This world is so messed up that in the old days you could easily tell apart the good from the bad ones. Now days the good ones and the narcissist and manipulators do all these beautiful things and by the time you tell them apart from the good ones you already so deep within and so manipulated that it hurts!!
I’ve been in that rodeo. If you’re doing online dating, I recommend Bumble. I’ve had the most success. I met my Man on there last year. We’ve been together ever since. Like Matt said we are building our castle together. Wishing you the best of luck. Good wonderful men, Kings, are out there.
I'm so glad I listened to this. I'm dating this wonderful man and wasn't sure how he was feeling. This segment says I'm a lucky woman! He has said and done every single one of these ten! How great is that? Now, to keep it this way. Thank you. By the way, we are in our 80s.
Talk about triggering 😭 instant tears. Mat do you think we ever get over a loss. I miss david so much. I have his best mate but think theres only one person who owns my heart but how do i let one go when he was my everything
I know what you say is true. My beloved husband did and said those things with me. (“Did”because he died in 2020. We had 5 years and 8 months together. He is the love of my life. Because he was so loving and our love was so wonderful-I intend to stay single the rest of my life.) As opposed to my first husband who was not invested in our relationship and even after 4 children and 20 years. He did not speak of doing things together. He did not plan a future. But who can when they are busy “shopping” around for this weeks girlfriend? He did not use the word “ours” it was always his. He never stopped speaking of himself as if single in all those years. And from what I understand from my children he treated and treats the other two wives as he did me. Thankful for men like you Mat Shaffer that are educating women on this. It is very important.
I had a pretty ugly fight with my guy friend the other night and was so set on never talking to him again. He approached me and literally did/said 7 of the things on this list. He had a smile on his face and I could just feel how much he meant every word he said. I couldn’t help but blush. Thanks so much for this!!!
Mat.. After 3 failed marriages, and much work improving who I am, I finally met the absolute Love of my life. I tell her ALL of these Telltale Things over and over!! And she knows I am true. We've already experienced an incredible story of life threatening traumas, while sharing the most intense emotions of our lives. In June, I'm going to meet her in the Philippines and propose formally, even though she's been calling me her Fiancee for months.🙏🙏🙏🌹 Love your channel!
When we learn to really dial into our intuition, we'll just know this without having to intellectuallize it and cross off a checklist of things he may or may not say.
@@Mat_Shaffer I'm not negating the value of your checklist, Mat, so I do apologize if it came off that way. This video and all of your others hold great value for me and many other women. The body never lies but sometimes our heads do. I know which one i tend to rely on more - at least these days anyway. Merry, Christmas, Mat!
Times are tough, and I used to rely on my intuition for so much. Now, it's being blocked by my own, and it feels so far away. Thank you for reminding me of the important stuff. If he's not secure, I'm not secure. I have to work to make him feel secure 🔐
1. He drove 3 hours round trip to spend 2 hours with me. I'd never expect or want him to do the mundane things with me. 2. He won't admit he misses me but he let it slip- once. 3. He offered advice once or twice, and walked me to my car a couple of times. Brought over drinks and snacks a couple of times 4. He compliments me often, personality and otherwise. 5. Never said he's here for me and I don't think it's appropriate to expect that yet. 6. He said he wanted to make it work- due to the distance/drive. 7. Never said he's sorry, but there hasn't been any reason to. Has been willing to explain his actions/thoughts. 8. He said he trusts my cooking (healthy). I asked him to trust me, and he's trying. Not ready to meet his family 9. He hasn't said he's proud of me, but I know he thinks highly of me. 10. No talk about the future, we aren't there yet. I feel like the more emotionally close we get, he panics and shuts me out for a while. I'm just loving and open toward him. Who knows where this is going.
@@asmrsleep3079 I see I wrote that 3 weeks ago. Things are the same because he got a cold/flu and I was tied up with a big project so haven't seen each other. It's all fine- we're doing our lives.
It’s also great that we send those vibes words feelings and actions to our men as well. Sometimes it’s easier for them to know how you feel so they don’t feel so awkward and know they won’t be rejected. It opens the door to a man’s heart and soul. I say I am here for you I love our time together or just showing him you are there for him. Listening to his bad day and telling him it’s ok or providing advice. He knows you are listening and there for him.
This guy is totally special, to me. He has put me in the respected 'friend-zone'. However, he is totally into imparting his advice so I feel confident in what I'm doing. Best example, last night I had to replace my whole shower head. He took me through it step by step. I even wrote his advice down on paper. I thanked him as I left, and called him a good teacher. I had success, the shower head was installed by myself, first go. I totally thanked him again, sharing that he was much appreciated
I listened to your channel and my husband ticked every box. We were married for 34y wo derful yrs. He passed away 2yrs ago and I miss him so much,but you brightened up my day. God bless you and thank you so much❤😊
As a man who values nothing more than being in love… This video is absolutely on point. I had my doubts about this video, and all videos like this. However… This is so true I am actually blown away.
There are some truly deeply beautiful men (& women) in this world, thank you for speaking out about your emotions unashamedly! The next generations of boys should be ALLOWED to share, to cry, to feel EVERYTHING to the fullest!!!!
We have been married for 22 years and my husband still tells me I can’t live this life without you. From our first date, he asked to hold my hand. We got engaged in 2 months and a wedding 4 months later.
Thank you for these. My boyfriend says ALL of these things, and we've only been dating for nearly three months, so it's a great sign. By the way, we are in our 40s and he is a widower of three years, so it's now extra special.
My guy isn't big on words, but he shows me through actions.... example, he doesn't ask if he can do things for me, he sees what needs to be done and he just does it. He messages me every day, all day...we talk til 1-2 in the morning...he does tell me one thing, that he appreciates me and is thankful to have me. He goes out of his way to let people know I'm with him. ❤❤❤
I especially like No.4 on the list. If we each have our own language of love, how one partner likes to recieve love is not always the same way for the other partner, hence its important to communicate this fact, so we can continue to walk the walk for them ❤
So how am I ment to take this statement: The one main bright light in the tunnel that has really given me strength in the last 4 months or so has been you. I love you very much... using the work like is a way of guarding us. Sometimes people can love each other, but situations not be right for them to be together...
Thank you so much for this video. My husband and I had a rough, hard, world against us start. We knew each other from 8th grade but never really close until we got together in 2017. We were married but not in a traditional sense of what we are most familiar with. I share this because there was no documentation in regards to our marriage nor was I aware of who even had knowledge of our marriage. I mean we really in all ways imaginable, had the world against us sharing our lives together. We had a hard time coming together with trust and understanding as well as overcoming toxicity and psychosis that had its grips on one of us very tight and also the cause of the previous mentioned that we faced. We were determined to overcome because we loved each other and because we knew we could. January 2021 he passed away at home with me. When he passed there was still so much to see, know, and understand. I had been feeling we had overcome but still had some loose ends and a lot of cleanup or damage control to do. So when he passed, the questioning and doubts have become strong and on the surface a lot more. It doesn’t help that if I hear anything at all from others, it’s to say we were not a couple or good. They are at times down right cruel. Your video has provided me with a reinforcing strength of what I really already knew but was having such a tough time holding on to anymore. Thank you thank you and thank you!
I'm so very sorry for your deep, terrible, & devastating loss. 💔 I pray that you will find comfort, healing, strength, support, Light, Hope, & ever-increasing peace. God be with you & hold you tight. You will see your Beloved husband, partner, companion, Sweetheart, Lover, & best friend again. I know it. ❤ Until that time--when he meets you on the other side of the Rainbow Bridge, may he rest in peace, perfection, freedom, Love, Light, & Joy. Peace be with you. 💗
Wow, real eye opener… my ex of 4 years only said he missed me a few times and out of the 10, that’s it. So happy now and see things very differently now.. love these videos, gives me insight.. thank you 🙏✨
After 24 years in a abusive relationship I met the most amazing man which is a deeper love than I could ever have imagined all these things he has said these are true ❤
I want to express my immense gratitude towards you Matt. You have helped me unlock mu gifts and start sharing magic to help other women to step inti their true power. I was in tge grouo coaching you did for light workers with Aaron Doughty and Victor Oddo and since July I have been sharing my voice loud and proud. I cant wait to help and inspire women like you do and to the extent that you do❤❤❤
This means so much-thank you! 🙏 I’m thrilled to hear you’re embracing your power and making an impact. It’s amazing to see you step up and inspire others, and I have no doubt you’ll keep creating magic just like you were born to do! 💖✨
Actions are just as important. Some people just naturally have a difficult time with words. I do myself so I know. I got really proficient at telling my husband how much I loved him but I missed so many other ways to say it. He always said he knew but I still wish I had verbally expressed it in some of the other ways ❤
@@annesimonot5148The same thing happened to me, I need to hear it!! He always said I don't have to say it and I always replied "But, I need to hear it."
My husband of 27 years never has said any of those things, yet we have a good life together and I am sure he loves me. It’s by the things he does rather than what he says.
OMG!! I've been mindful of his body language in my presence. He and I totally mirror our body's postions, its subconscious. His body is telling me he is totally attracted to me. He said tome tonight, I love how you just get up all of a sudden, and go shopping for what you want, spur of the moment without any drama attached, for example, doing my makeup, changing my clothes etc. Apparently, I make it seem effortless in his eyes, praising me on my tenacity and drive. Lol
Asked for help and got, “I’m on my way Babe!” It was as if I’d just activated the Bat-Signal!! I’ve called people to pick me up, and even rescue me on the side of the road! No man has EVER said, I’m on my way, the way HE said, AND meant it, too!! Dropping everything to make sure I was ok, meant more to me than anything!! That phrase echoed in my head, and I realized he was the only man to say those words to me in the previous 40 years! When you find one of these, you’re blessed. It’s how we become a part of each other.
Yours tips are extra romantic this time, I love them! And I know that I have already suggested this before, but I would really appreciate if you made a video explaining what is received and perceived as being romantic to men, and how to encourage men to be more romantic without being afraid that it’s going to be “cringy”. Thank you 🙏
Yes I would love that, too and it would be so helpful! I have just started dating a very nice man that I like a lot because of all the kinds of things he does for me in the way he is always shown up as authentic and genuine. So I had to ask my mom okay now so I have this really great guy how do I show him that I like him and that he matters and that he is important and that I care and how to be romantic etc etc etc? I don't think I have these skills I have been single almost 25 years after two short marriages and two divorces and very little dating since.
@@Mat_Shaffer thank you so much, I’m super excited to hear what your perspective on this is! And I’m kind of flattered that you screenshoted my comment for Inspo. 😊
How do you heal after losing your perfect mate after 25 years? He had every single quality that you listed, he was a rare gem in my eyes. I remember people told me in the beginning that it would never last because he was of another race. Love has no color. RIP David, I'll love you forever🕯🕊🕯🥀🥀🥀💔💔💔🤍🤎
I was telling my boyfriend what my life goals were and he asked "What about me?". I told him if he wanted join me on my crazy life journey to come on along. We've been married 40 years with 2 children and still going strong. I love my husband so so much!
10 taletell things men say when they are in love with you. 2. I really enjoyed spending time with you. 2.I miss you 3.let me know if there is anything else I can help. 4. I love you when you smile. 5. Am always here for you. 6. I want make things work between us. 7. I am sorry. 8. I trust you. 9. I am proud of you. 10. Am so excited to be with you
Matt is correct! There are so many good men out there. Weed out the bottom feeders and allow them to weed themselves out. Keep doing your work on yourself, keep your goals, keep being the beautiful person you are. He’s out the looking for you, his queen 👸.
I really find a beautiful vibe in your video. It's so useful to hear people sharing things about relationships in this simple way. Thank you for your sharing.
Omg everything it’s true I’m starting date a guy 2 days ago and he said all this words and guess what he wanna marry me I can’t believe how this guys know all those thing and I’m telling its true.
I have a long distance relationship and he calls or texts me every day. He comes here in November and we are in love. He says all the things to me. We plan on getting married. I want to see videos on long distance relationships.
1.) I enjoy spending time with you 2.) I miss you (our conversations.....) 3.) is there anything I can do to help? (provide & protect) action = investment 4.)I love it when you .... (smile, laugh, touch....) 5.) I'm always here for you (protector, reliable, lean on) 6.) I want to make things work for us (long term....). 7.) I"m sorry (recognition & ownership of fallibility - your needs more important than his ego ) 8.) I trust you (actions/verbally) 9.) I'm proud of you (who you are / to be with you) 10.) I'm excited to ____ with you. (building a future). ----- men crave emotional safety. Respond with creating love & safety for him back.
Oh, yeah, oh my god. I never got any of these from even my ex husband. My dad never even has told me he’s proud of me for anything. Didn’t realize it until now. I’m overcompensated out. Ouch.
I don't think he has ever said he is proud of me but he does say Iam amazing and I am doing a good job or doing well. Very supportive even when I feel like I'm failing.
Huh, that's interesting, I started the video thinking "nah he probably hasn't said any of these" mainly because my boyfriend is not a man of many words and isnt good at giving elaborate compliments (like the ones you always hear in romantic movies etc.). But in one way or another, he has said most of these things to me directly or indirectly. Thankyou, this makes me feel less insecure about his feelings towards me!
2:40 spends time with you 3:50 misses you 4:40 helps you 5:40 says, 'i love it when you...' 7:00 says he's there for you 7:50 committed to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work 8:46 apologizes when he's wrong 9:34 trusts you 10:30 proud of you 11:30 excited to do things with you
This video is so good. A long while back i came out of a 7.5 year relationship that went downward after my dad passed away. Became more of my old self and my ex couldnt handle that. Nowadays i have an amazing boyfriend who said and shows his actions on 8/10 things you mentioned, both accepting and supportive for who we are. We have been good friends for several years and we started dating a while back. Im moving to live with him in 2 months in Australia, leaving Europe behind. Love is an amazing thing. Amazing video ❤
I believe it is SUPER important for you to state that a man NEEDS to SHOW these things, not just statements! ALL narcs KNOW and PLAY these statements in the lovebombing phase of a relationship to gain complete emotional control of women before they start tearing down! And narcs are so prevalent and dangerous! All of these statements mean nothing without actions!!!!
@@Mat_Shaffer This is solid, proven FACT. This is NOT an "opinion" Downgrading my statement to an "opinion" puts women in danger. How about trying to help protect and inform women " things men say" are only TRUE when backed with action? You are potentially putting women in danger by making them believe this. Shame on you
Narcs, psychopaths and sociopaths all use the same words/tactics I escaped with my life because I saw through what he was intending to do. It's more common than you think/know. Empower women. Don't hand them rose colored glasses
Glad to know my bf really loves me. Well I knew he loved me the day he confided in me and told me a big worry he had in life. Something that really affected him emotionally.
My boyfriend told me before we sleep we went to the bed he hugged me he say (( We changed each other’s life for the better it will be even greater )) And he make me so happy 😀
I’m beginning to think…he may be in love with me. This isn’t just temporary, he’s shown me every sign. I’ve been waiting to find my person and I think I finally did. 🥺
50 hours of learning about men?! Sorry to sound cynical but the list you've mentioned has already been featured in magazines when I was younger. I guess it doesn't hurt to keep regurgitating these lists. We don't have our third eye open at the same time. I've been in 3 long term relationships, there's been a lot of love and we have never cheated on each other. There's always been good communication and trust and loyalty. We all stuck it out to the end. It's important that a person in a relationship knows when they've hurt their partner and recognises this and amends their way of thinking and how they approach things. Adapting and changing is important too. Growing together is beautiful and praising each other is special and giving each other space.
I like being with you-I miss you when I dont see you-I can do anything you want-I think about you all the time-I dont think about anyone else any more-I just want to be with you-I like it when you are close to me
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QUESTION OF THE DAY: What are some other things men have told you when they are catching feelings for you? Let us know in the comments below!
Nothing I can think of
I can hardly wait for this course!!! Can we do this sooner???? Matt you’re bumping up against Valentine’s Day
Saying “I miss you more than you know” as well as saying “….I love when you….”
Unfortunately, a narcissist can also say all those phrases , so phrases are just "empty words" if there is no real love capacity in him/her.
The "miss you" part is so true. After my husband and I dated for not quite 3 months, he went on a business trip and we didn't see each other for 10 days. The first day we saw each other after he came back, he took me in his arms and said "I miss you so much when I'm gone that I know I want to spend the rest of my life with you." He didn't say "Will you marry me?" We knew we were meant for each other. We are soulmates.
My partner said something so beautiful to me last week. It blew me away! He said, "I don't just love you, I love us." Wow! I responded and said, "I love us too. It's beautiful, isn't it?" He agreed.
Love that!
Wow!
Thank you so much ❤️ xxx
I have 5/10 but low communication
Happy for you that's beautiful
I was married 49 years to the same man, now deceased, and he did none of these. It was a one sided relationship. However now I have a man that says & done all these things. I have never been so adored❤❤
Thanks for sharing!
Enjoy being loved by someone who loves you
I know cases like that. It's a generation thing. After ww2 in 50ties and 60ties the idea of the family was so messed up where men were alfa and the pater familias and women were here just to help him to achieve anything and be in his shadows. Many movies are made on that to let us younger generations understand that time and how it was for a woman.
Women didn't have a saying and was just obeying men's wishes.
Men didn't need to do any effort to get attention or to get what ever he wants. Women were throwing themselves to men and were in many ways in Master/Servant relationship.
These times are behind us in most cases as women are more aware of theirs own powers. If woman decides to be in this sort of relationship these days this is part of BDSM society and intimate play but even now if the woman decides to be submissive its her own informed decision where in 50ties was expected of her generally speaking.
I am glad you have a man now taking care of you and your needs as every man should do for his lady. Bless you❤
so happy for you that you finally found happiness!!!!
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1. I really enjoy spending time with you 2.I miss you 3. Let me know if there is anything i can do for you 4. I love it when you …. 5. I am always here for you 6. I want to make things work between us 7. I am sorry …8. I trust you 9. I am proud of you, to be with you 10. I am so excited to …. with you
Thanks!
A man said those words to me but he turns out still with his live in girlfriend
This is true, i meet someone being like this with me, but his married man 💔. We both feel the same this way and we always feels excited to spend time talking each other. But our our fate is quite playful and complicated. So we just loved each other but we know our boundaries.
Sometimes narcissists will say all these things to you and will not mean it. Look at actions.
My ex said all of that but he decided to end things because he doesn’t want to commit anymore. So he fell out of love with me then
My guy grabbed my heart when he said "Your parents did a great job raising a remarkable, loving and kind woman".
Awww! So happy for you, beautiful!
Wowww that's so beautiful
Same lines for me🥹
Awwww🥰🥰🥰
He Made a conpliment to both of you. Vera smart
My best friend and partner in life told me " I will never let you fall...ever"
He was so sincere.
Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts! So happy this hit the spot for you. 😉
And if his words match his actions, he is a gem!
True🙏❤️✨
Yep. And that's rare
Well said
So dam true lol
So true! I can honestly say I have been so lucky to find one of these rare gems…finally 🙏 ❤
Consistency.
Communication.
Connection.
I have never once in over a year and a half with my bf gone to bed wondering where I stand with him or if things are ok even if life around us is falling apart. He is my safe place, my lover, my best friend, I wouldn't want to do life with anyone else by my side.
Thank you so much for sharing!
❤thank you for giving hope I love these kind of comments
@@Vanessa___kelman we are coming up on 2 years and I feel as much love and safety now in my relationship as I did when I wrote it months ago. ❤️❤️❤️ There is hope.
Awwww🥰🥰
That’s beautiful fr ❤
My boyfriend at the time (he’s now my husband…30 years) literally told me in the beginning “I’m falling in love with you”. I never had to decipher any thing from him. He told me exactly how he felt every step of the way. As did I.
Amazing love that share!
Been with my husband for 19 years and he still says these things and I consider myself lucky to have met him in high school. I love it when we would be playing video games together and he would just randomly just turn his chair to me and randomly say “I love the time we spend together so much. It heals my heart.” ❤
Amazing love that share:) thanks
I'm with my high-school sweetheart too. And also celebrating 19 years next month. Nothing has been more important to me then these 19 years with my lady. She is the most magnificent person God could have ever lead me too
So sweet 😩❤
Awesome video!!
My boyfriend tells me he can’t imagine not being around me 🥰
That’s crazy when you know that I’m disabled and he is my carer. We spend 24/7 together practically and we just gel.
I'm happy to hear that.
That’s True Love. Happy for you.
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You're so lucky ...I'm also disabled and constantly wish that I had that kind of luck in my own life
You've been blessed by love
“I don’t care what you’re doing or who you’re with. As long as you’re safe.” 🥰🥰
Amazing!
That is really me
After years and years of unhealthy and toxic relationships, I have a healthy relationship with a man who says all these things to me. He gives me freedom to be myself and open up to him in a way I've never done before.
It took me 45 years to find him (to him longer to find me lol), but from here forward I don't plan on letting one day go by without telling him how much I appreciate him.
I’m so happy for you my dear! :)
Lucky you. Finally. Congratulations
Same girl, I haven’t found mine yet though, as usual. Congratulations 😊 you deserve it. Toxic relationships are so destructive:(
@@snowwpea Ironically my comment was spoken too soon. So I’m still looking as well. But I’m just tired of looking now. I don’t need or want someone. I need to just heal.
That is a beautiful story. I am happy for you❤
It’s official. He has fallen head over heels for me - and I have for him. Thank you for this video.
Wonderful! I'm so glad this helped you!
Wow. I just feel like being with the same person for 45 yrs that works hard and provides, doesnt drink, or use drugs, doesnt cheat on me, etc., I must be pretty blessed.
Absolutely! It sounds like you have a strong and stable relationship with your partner, and that is indeed something to be grateful for. Finding a partner who is loyal, responsible, and committed to a healthy lifestyle is a blessing. 🙏❤
And if he ever tells you “No one will ever love you like I do”…RUN.
Thanks for sharing!
Yes! My ex-husband used to say that to me. Very narcissistic. Happy to report I never believed that line and have since met the most wonderful man.
Oh, yes!
Narcissists … like my husband…
truth..
My husband of 12 years never said any of those things. Ever. Could be why I am depressed and lonely and why I am finally following through with a divorce
Thanks for sharing!
I went through it also 2 years ago, after 12 years…
Good luck. My husband and I got divorced. Now I'm finding happiness in love, reconnecting with an old college friend who's been there for almost each and every one of my many moves (and 2 marriages). It's possible
I've been married for 24 years, my husband still says and does these things to/for me. I know he loves me and I love him as much.
That's absolutely wonderful to hear! It's a true blessing to have a loving and supportive partner in a long-term marriage. Cherishing and maintaining a deep connection over the course of 24 years is a remarkable achievement. Wishing you many more years of love, joy, and fulfillment in your marriage! 🙏❤
I cried watchin this. Im goin thru a seperation from my husband of 15 yrs (a third of my life) and this just reinforced what I knew. That he fell in comfort ×ith me, but not love. He NEVER said any of these things. 😢
I promise there are good guys out there my dear!
How sweet the sound when lovers are transparent if what they feel.
Man, I felt that "I'm sorry" and "I trust you" DEEP IN MY SOUL.
Glad to hear that.
See how nice this is. We ladies can listen to this man. Hes insightful,helpful,great advice. He makes us want to hear what a man has to say. Finally a male on yt not beating his chest,or putting women down or talking about red pills or blue pills. Just simple ,honesty .Real words.💕Thank you
aww love it my dear! So glad my content supports you :) ♥
You’ve actually clarified everything my man has and is still saying these words to me. Makes me feel emotional 🥹 right now. When we have a little or big argument he always says he’s sorry. We have a robust way of clearing the air we don’t shy away. That’s what l love about him.Lord help me to respond positively.🙏🏽 Thank you!
Thanks for sharing! 🤗
Mat is wonderful if a man can walk the talk, communication has many layers , verbal communication is just one layer
, when a man holds you in silence, cook some food for you , pick up some groceries, kiss your neck , when he can rest in your presence , when he can hold you in silence , when he introduced his family and friends etc….. he is looking forward too the future with you ,❤blessings 🙏🇨🇦
Thanks so much my dear! :)
Found your channel about a year ago after being in a relationship with a man for 7 years who would not commit. Your videos were so helpful and informative in not only helping me move on from a toxic situation, but also helped me learn how to put more value on myself and to find the pattern of why I kept attracting the wrong men. I also learned better communication skills and how to improve areas within myself as a whole.
Your videos helped me to better understand the dynamics between men and women.
I have since been following you and have watched all your videos. I am now in a healthy relationship with a man where respect and open communication are key.
Thank you so much for posting videos that not only help with relationships but also help with self improvement and teaches women how to grow in self love❤
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my Jenna! Keep tune in🤗🙏❤️
I am SO happy for you!!! You are WORTHY!!! ♥️❤️♥️
Jenna, I don’t know you… married 25 years come December 2023. Either being with you is equivalent to marriage and a piece of paper doesn’t mean anything to him… that was me a long time ago or…. He’s just not worth your time 😢. Best of luck 🤞
Oh Jenna! My comment was a little late! 😊
My husband is such a character… when he is going to apologize for something important.. like switching banks! For instance as I’m telling him it’s a very bad idea, he will pull me aside close the door and whisper “you were right “ oh my gosh 😂😂😂 and this is a secret 😂😂😂, who’s going to listen??? Oh my guy 🤦🏻♀️ I have to say it is so hard to keep a straight face 😐
Never had anyone love me... Ive been loved out and drained by loving others, now I feel tired and incaple of love / or a relationship. I feel like I missed out by being burn through Narcissistic abuse.
It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new Leah🙏❤️✨
I know how you feel….
I see you..i have been through the same..trust me, u will get over this..time will heal..time does heal
Matt I found my King a year ago. We have a wild and fast start to our beginning. The first day we met is our anniversary vs when I moved forward to define our relationship. He does everything you’ve stated. We met online through Bumble. We are now a Family.
Awww! So happy for you, beautiful!
My husband is a man of few words but it is his actions that let me know. The way his his eyes glow when he looks at me I knew he was in love with me before I was with him. I had just broke up with my first love and it was very hard for me. He was very patient when I told him I need time and I just want to be friends. He feel in love with me during that time because I saw it in his eyes on day when I was getting out of his car. I have the side of him no one sees. He was so tense and I am not and he has relaxed a lot since we met. Never stop dating. We have been married for almost 31 yeara.
Thanks for sharing!
I’m married for 30+ years, and my husband still says a lot of these things. I realize through listening to this that I’m not always responding appropriately to strengthen our bond. I will use some of these suggestions to reciprocate in kind. I’m also a bit tired of being the emotional support, so I best make an effort to be that for him, or he will find another! I guess I’m needed/wanted, and that should be a good thing! 😊
Thanks for sharing!
So after watching the video I am truly convinced that my guy is totally understanding, sensitive, and we are preparing a wonderful future together...as he's done just about everyone of the 10 things that Mat talks about in this video... Ty for sharing and letting me learn how invested my love of my life is involved & investing himself in me and me just returning it right back to him without even knowing I was doing it... Ty ❤
You're welcome! I'm glad that watching the video helped you recognize the positive qualities and investment your partner has shown in your relationship. It's wonderful to have someone understanding, sensitive, and committed to building a future together. Wishing you both a happy and successful journey together!🙏❤
It took my partner 2 years to say I love you. We both believe people say it like they’re saying Hello, everyone LOVES everyone and everything and it makes it less important than it should be. We’ve been together 5 years now and still don’t say it daily, we tell each other a couple times a month and that’s what makes it so special to us. Neither of us just blurted it out because there’s a huge difference between lust, infatuation and love. ❤
Thanks for sharing!:)
I got a proposal after 3 weeks. We met online before there was online dating 24 magnificent years ago. He wanted yo propose after the 2nd date! We have the same b day!
Excellent comment! You hit the nail on the head. I'm really happy to read about your thoughts and I couldn't agree with you more. 😊
I so agree with you!! I'm dating a man who has said and done all these things (I wonder if he's watched this video lol JK), and he tells me that he loves me but I, like you, feel that infatuation and lust may mimic true love at first.
Almost a year ago I met my best friend and soulmate. On tinder. Yes tinder. We both weren’t expecting to find anyone obviously let alone fall in love but we did. He’s in the military and I was in college. I was there for him when he was just starting out his military career and he was there for me when I finally moved out and went to college in-person. I was not expecting to find someone so perfect so soon, but I know he’s the one. We talk about our future together and we just know we were made for each other. We have the best communication and a strong emotional connection. Even though we’re long distance now we try to see each other every 2-3 months. Whether that’s me flying out to see him or him driving here (11 hours), or us meeting halfway. I can’t wait to see what the future has in store for us.
AMAZING love that share!! Congrats to you both Alina🙏❤️ Love lots!
Yes!!!!
Love this!!!!
Update:
We’re happier than ever and he just came to visit for July 4. We also have a cruise planned near thanksgiving and I’m very excited.
Wow i am happy for you baby gal all the best always
Your doing females a great service a man says shows me that expresses all these things. I never had a guy say or do all of these things. You're helping give women confidence to know that they're putting their heart in the right man's hands. Keep up the great work God bless you 🙏💯
I appreciate that
Mat, then I've hit the most precious relationship. Wow, thank you. I'm older than him and sometimes I feel insecure, but he always keeps me safe. He is just perfect. I love everything about us.
Happy to hear that!
My love of my life and soulmate said all those things and so much more...
We were BOTH blessed to know and FINALLY feel what REAL LOVE is supposed to feel like for 10 beautiful years!
Sadly I lost my partner June 4th this year to stage 4 lung cancer. 😔
It gives me peace to know he's whole again and no longer in pain.
One of my favorite memories is when we went fishing... We both caught a fish at the same time. I said I wonder who's fish is bigger?! Lol We both reeled our lines in and he grabbed me as our fish were flopping around on the shore looked me deep in the eyes and said "It doesn't matter my Queen because you're the greatest catch of my life"... I'll remember that forever!! 💞 Rest in paradise my Handsome! 😘 Til we meet again... 💖 Praying my heart will heal someday. 10 years wasn't long enough but I'm so thankful we had those 10 years. 💞🙏💞
It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new
My deepest sympathy to you, Lisa. The story you shared-what a wonderful memory to have. Sending healing energy to you and to your heart. You were able to experience and truly feel such profound love with and for another person. Sounds like your 10 years was meant to be! I hope for you lots of smiles and goodness the rest of your life. 💝
@@22steps Thank you. 🙏
This world is so messed up that in the old days you could easily tell apart the good from the bad ones. Now days the good ones and the narcissist and manipulators do all these beautiful things and by the time you tell them apart from the good ones you already so deep within and so manipulated that it hurts!!
I’ve been in that rodeo. If you’re doing online dating, I recommend Bumble. I’ve had the most success.
I met my Man on there last year. We’ve been together ever since.
Like Matt said we are building our castle together.
Wishing you the best of luck. Good wonderful men, Kings, are out there.
I'm so glad I listened to this. I'm dating this wonderful man and wasn't sure how he was feeling. This segment says I'm a lucky woman! He has said and done every single one of these ten! How great is that? Now, to keep it this way. Thank you. By the way, we are in our 80s.
Fantastic! Thanks so much!
Cool
Congratulations, sister. 💗
I wish you the very, very best. 💕
So precious ❤ your story helps us know we still got a chance no matter our age.
You are so blessed
Talk about triggering 😭 instant tears. Mat do you think we ever get over a loss. I miss david so much. I have his best mate but think theres only one person who owns my heart but how do i let one go when he was my everything
Thank you for sharing!
@@Mat_Shafferdo we ever get over a loss like that
I know what you say is true. My beloved husband did and said those things with me. (“Did”because he died in 2020. We had 5 years and 8 months together. He is the love of my life. Because he was so loving and our love was so wonderful-I intend to stay single the rest of my life.) As opposed to my first husband who was not invested in our relationship and even after 4 children and 20 years. He did not speak of doing things together. He did not plan a future. But who can when they are busy “shopping” around for this weeks girlfriend? He did not use the word “ours” it was always his. He never stopped speaking of himself as if single in all those years. And from what I understand from my children he treated and treats the other two wives as he did me. Thankful for men like you Mat Shaffer that are educating women on this. It is very important.
Thanks so much for your feedback!
I had a pretty ugly fight with my guy friend the other night and was so set on never talking to him again. He approached me and literally did/said 7 of the things on this list. He had a smile on his face and I could just feel how much he meant every word he said. I couldn’t help but blush. Thanks so much for this!!!
AMAZING love that share!!:)
Mat..
After 3 failed marriages, and much work improving who I am, I finally met the absolute Love of my life.
I tell her ALL of these Telltale Things over and over!! And she knows I am true.
We've already experienced an incredible story of life threatening traumas, while sharing the most intense emotions of our lives.
In June, I'm going to meet her in the Philippines and propose formally, even though she's been calling me her Fiancee for months.🙏🙏🙏🌹
Love your channel!
Happy to hear that, thank you for sharing!
@@Mat_Shaffer It's my pleasure
Wowwwwww!!! Goodluck welcome to Philippines...
@@missdelightjecel6602 Salamat sobra 🌹
How did it go?
They could say whatever they want. No more time to waste. Life is too short and fragile. Actions are the best signature. Thanks for the video
You are so welcome 🥰
When we learn to really dial into our intuition, we'll just know this without having to intellectuallize it and cross off a checklist of things he may or may not say.
I think it's helpful to build our intuition PLUS look for key phrases men are likely to say - it all works together :)
@@Mat_Shaffer I'm not negating the value of your checklist, Mat, so I do apologize if it came off that way. This video and all of your others hold great value for me and many other women. The body never lies but sometimes our heads do. I know which one i tend to rely on more - at least these days anyway. Merry, Christmas, Mat!
Each man is different somewhat & many of us have been raised with childhood trauma. That’s years of self work to “dial in” to our intuition
Times are tough, and I used to rely on my intuition for so much.
Now, it's being blocked by my own, and it feels so far away.
Thank you for reminding me of the important stuff. If he's not secure, I'm not secure. I have to work to make him feel secure 🔐
It's good to have both because intuition can be wrong
My bf who had proposed to me had said: "There is no you & me: only US. I love you & want to do so many things with you forever."
Amazing my dear so so happy for you!
Lucky Girl! Congratulations!
@@Mat_Shaffer Thank you Mat.
@@Telecomgirl Thank you
Aaaawwww... 🥰 My hubby says all these things to me. I feel so blessed and I appreciate him even more. Thank you 🙂, I should give him hugs and kisses 🥰
Love that! Thanks much Asawa Gwapa🙏❤️✨
1. He drove 3 hours round trip to spend 2 hours with me. I'd never expect or want him to do the mundane things with me. 2. He won't admit he misses me but he let it slip- once. 3. He offered advice once or twice, and walked me to my car a couple of times. Brought over drinks and snacks a couple of times 4. He compliments me often, personality and otherwise. 5. Never said he's here for me and I don't think it's appropriate to expect that yet. 6. He said he wanted to make it work- due to the distance/drive. 7. Never said he's sorry, but there hasn't been any reason to. Has been willing to explain his actions/thoughts. 8. He said he trusts my cooking (healthy). I asked him to trust me, and he's trying. Not ready to meet his family 9. He hasn't said he's proud of me, but I know he thinks highly of me. 10. No talk about the future, we aren't there yet. I feel like the more emotionally close we get, he panics and shuts me out for a while. I'm just loving and open toward him. Who knows where this is going.
Relax and enjoy the ride! And remember to hold you boundaries as well… don’t sacrifice that for him! ❤
@@Mat_Shaffer Thank you- you're right!
@@MIMIDSH how are things now?
@@asmrsleep3079 I see I wrote that 3 weeks ago. Things are the same because he got a cold/flu and I was tied up with a big project so haven't seen each other. It's all fine- we're doing our lives.
@@MIMIDSH good to hear
14:12 as a person with ADHD I love that you make a recap🤩, you are the best...thank you for thinking about us🙏🏻😁
You are so welcome Divine❤️
Amen to that 🤭also adhd
Never experienced this. I'm 65. Guess it's too late now.
ty!!!!
thanks i check if he have resume in comment and i think closed the video just before i see yours! big hug
It’s also great that we send those vibes words feelings and actions to our men as well. Sometimes it’s easier for them to know how you feel so they don’t feel so awkward and know they won’t be rejected. It opens the door to a man’s heart and soul. I say I am here for you I love our time together or just showing him you are there for him. Listening to his bad day and telling him it’s ok or providing advice. He knows you are listening and there for him.
Thanks for sharing your sparkle with us! Keep being fabulous. ✨
This guy is totally special, to me. He has put me in the respected 'friend-zone'. However, he is totally into imparting his advice so I feel confident in what I'm doing. Best example, last night I had to replace my whole shower head. He took me through it step by step. I even wrote his advice down on paper. I thanked him as I left, and called him a good teacher. I had success, the shower head was installed by myself, first go. I totally thanked him again, sharing that he was much appreciated
Love hearing this Medina❤️ Thanks for sharing🙏
I listened to your channel and my husband ticked every box. We were married for 34y wo derful yrs. He passed away 2yrs ago and I miss him so much,but you brightened up my day. God bless you and thank you so much❤😊
Amazing love that share 🥰 Thanks!
As a man who values nothing more than being in love… This video is absolutely on point. I had my doubts about this video, and all videos like this. However… This is so true I am actually blown away.
Your kind words touch my heart
There are some truly deeply beautiful men (& women) in this world, thank you for speaking out about your emotions unashamedly! The next generations of boys should be ALLOWED to share, to cry, to feel EVERYTHING to the fullest!!!!
love all those things you mentioned . love to know how a woman feels that a man is not faking . thank you Matt .
Thanks Happy to hear that!
We have been married for 22 years and my husband still tells me I can’t live this life without you. From our first date, he asked to hold my hand. We got engaged in 2 months and a wedding 4 months later.
Thanks for sharing!
I told him to my man he angry and he says i have to be strong
Thank you for these. My boyfriend says ALL of these things, and we've only been dating for nearly three months, so it's a great sign. By the way, we are in our 40s and he is a widower of three years, so it's now extra special.
I'm so glad!
Was married 32 years and not once did he ever say any of that to me! I’m happily divorced, lol!!
Thanks for sharing!
My guy isn't big on words, but he shows me through actions.... example, he doesn't ask if he can do things for me, he sees what needs to be done and he just does it. He messages me every day, all day...we talk til 1-2 in the morning...he does tell me one thing, that he appreciates me and is thankful to have me. He goes out of his way to let people know I'm with him. ❤❤❤
Thanks for sharing! 💖
I especially like No.4 on the list. If we each have our own language of love, how one partner likes to recieve love is not always the same way for the other partner, hence its important to communicate this fact, so we can continue to walk the walk for them ❤
Thanks for sharing!❤
So how am I ment to take this statement:
The one main bright light in the tunnel that has really given me strength in the last 4 months or so has been you.
I love you very much... using the work like is a way of guarding us.
Sometimes people can love each other, but situations not be right for them to be together...
Thanks for sharing!
Thank you so much for this video. My husband and I had a rough, hard, world against us start. We knew each other from 8th grade but never really close until we got together in 2017. We were married but not in a traditional sense of what we are most familiar with. I share this because there was no documentation in regards to our marriage nor was I aware of who even had knowledge of our marriage. I mean we really in all ways imaginable, had the world against us sharing our lives together. We had a hard time coming together with trust and understanding as well as overcoming toxicity and psychosis that had its grips on one of us very tight and also the cause of the previous mentioned that we faced.
We were determined to overcome because we loved each other and because we knew we could.
January 2021 he passed away at home with me. When he passed there was still so much to see, know, and understand. I had been feeling we had overcome but still had some loose ends and a lot of cleanup or damage control to do. So when he passed, the questioning and doubts have become strong and on the surface a lot more. It doesn’t help that if I hear anything at all from others, it’s to say we were not a couple or good. They are at times down right cruel. Your video has provided me with a reinforcing strength of what I really already knew but was having such a tough time holding on to anymore.
Thank you thank you and thank you!
I appreciate your opinion on this!
I'm so very sorry for your deep, terrible, & devastating loss. 💔
I pray that you will find comfort, healing, strength, support, Light, Hope, & ever-increasing peace.
God be with you & hold you tight.
You will see your Beloved husband, partner, companion, Sweetheart, Lover, & best friend again.
I know it. ❤
Until that time--when he meets you on the other side of the Rainbow Bridge, may he rest in peace, perfection, freedom, Love, Light, & Joy.
Peace be with you. 💗
I'm so sorry. Celebrate him and your love when you're able to get there.
Wow, real eye opener… my ex of 4 years only said he missed me a few times and out of the 10, that’s it. So happy now and see things very differently now.. love these videos, gives me insight.. thank you 🙏✨
You are so welcome 🤗
After 24 years in a abusive relationship I met the most amazing man which is a deeper love than I could ever have imagined all these things he has said these are true ❤
That is awesome! I'm so happy for you my dear!
I want to express my immense gratitude towards you Matt. You have helped me unlock mu gifts and start sharing magic to help other women to step inti their true power. I was in tge grouo coaching you did for light workers with Aaron Doughty and Victor Oddo and since July I have been sharing my voice loud and proud. I cant wait to help and inspire women like you do and to the extent that you do❤❤❤
This means so much-thank you! 🙏 I’m thrilled to hear you’re embracing your power and making an impact. It’s amazing to see you step up and inspire others, and I have no doubt you’ll keep creating magic just like you were born to do! 💖✨
But then, you meet the guy who feels and thinks these things but doesn’t verbally express it and you stay in the dark about the way he feels.
Actions are just as important. Some people just naturally have a difficult time with words. I do myself so I know. I got really proficient at telling my husband how much I loved him but I missed so many other ways to say it. He always said he knew but I still wish I had verbally expressed it in some of the other ways ❤
That's me. I've been married 45 yrs.
Yep! Might feel it - doesn’t show it - been there. I had to move on because I needed more.
@@annesimonot5148The same thing happened to me, I need to hear it!! He always said I don't have to say it and I always replied "But, I need to hear it."
Thanks for sharing!
My husband of 27 years never has said any of those things, yet we have a good life together and I am sure he loves me. It’s by the things he does rather than what he says.
Thanks for sharing!
OMG!! I've been mindful of his body language in my presence. He and I totally mirror our body's postions, its subconscious. His body is telling me he is totally attracted to me. He said tome tonight, I love how you just get up all of a sudden, and go shopping for what you want, spur of the moment without any drama attached, for example, doing my makeup, changing my clothes etc. Apparently, I make it seem effortless in his eyes, praising me on my tenacity and drive. Lol
Thanks for sharing!!
Asked for help and got,
“I’m on my way Babe!” It was as if I’d just activated the Bat-Signal!!
I’ve called people to pick me up, and even rescue me on the side of the road! No man has EVER said, I’m on my way, the way HE said, AND meant it, too!! Dropping everything to make sure I was ok, meant more to me than anything!! That phrase echoed in my head, and I realized he was the only man to say those words to me in the previous 40 years! When you find one of these, you’re blessed. It’s how we become a part of each other.
Thanks for sharing!
Actually Mat hits them all. Now the problem is a lot of men con you with these same steps.
Amazing!
My lover has done/said all ten of these things. I think this will help conquer that last little flicker of doubt in my head. Many thanks.
Amazing! I hope it helps
You DID help, Mat, particularly your idea about his being proud of you. He told me he wished he could tell the whole world “that you’re mine.”
Yours tips are extra romantic this time, I love them!
And I know that I have already suggested this before, but I would really appreciate if you made a video explaining what is received and perceived as being romantic to men, and how to encourage men to be more romantic without being afraid that it’s going to be “cringy”. Thank you 🙏
Yes I would love that, too and it would be so helpful! I have just started dating a very nice man that I like a lot because of all the kinds of things he does for me in the way he is always shown up as authentic and genuine. So I had to ask my mom okay now so I have this really great guy how do I show him that I like him and that he matters and that he is important and that I care and how to be romantic etc etc etc? I don't think I have these skills I have been single almost 25 years after two short marriages and two divorces and very little dating since.
Excellent suggestion
Great suggestion! I’m screen shotting this right now so I can do a video on it soon! 🙌❤️
@@Mat_Shaffer thank you so much, I’m super excited to hear what your perspective on this is! And I’m kind of flattered that you screenshoted my comment for Inspo. 😊
@@hawaiigirl8089 thank you 😊
How do you heal after losing your perfect mate after 25 years? He had every single quality that you listed, he was a rare gem in my eyes. I remember people told me in the beginning that it would never last because he was of another race. Love has no color.
RIP David, I'll love you forever🕯🕊🕯🥀🥀🥀💔💔💔🤍🤎
Thanks for sharing!
**hugs**
I was telling my boyfriend what my life goals were and he asked "What about me?". I told him if he wanted join me on my crazy life journey to come on along. We've been married 40 years with 2 children and still going strong. I love my husband so so much!
Amazing love that share!
10 taletell things men say when they are in love with you.
2. I really enjoyed spending time with you.
2.I miss you
3.let me know if there is anything else I can help.
4. I love you when you smile.
5. Am always here for you.
6. I want make things work between us.
7. I am sorry.
8. I trust you.
9. I am proud of you.
10. Am so excited to be with you
Amazing!
These are great… and … where are these guys who are masculine yet open-hearted/vulnerable, emotionally healthy and desiring a relationship?
I promise there are good guys out there my dear!
Matt is correct! There are so many good men out there. Weed out the bottom feeders and allow them to weed themselves out. Keep doing your work on yourself, keep your goals, keep being the beautiful person you are. He’s out the looking for you, his queen 👸.
I really find a beautiful vibe in your video. It's so useful to hear people sharing things about relationships in this simple way. Thank you for your sharing.
Thank you so much!! 🥰
Omg everything it’s true I’m starting date a guy 2 days ago and he said all this words and guess what he wanna marry me I can’t believe how this guys know all those thing and I’m telling its true.
thanks for your share I appreciate it! :)
Be careful when they rush too fast like that, it could be a red flag
Good luck ❤
I have a long distance relationship and he calls or texts me every day. He comes here in November and we are in love. He says all the things to me. We plan on getting married. I want to see videos on long distance relationships.
Amazing I'm so happy for you my dear:)
1.) I enjoy spending time with you 2.) I miss you (our conversations.....) 3.) is there anything I can do to help? (provide & protect) action = investment 4.)I love it when you .... (smile, laugh, touch....) 5.) I'm always here for you (protector, reliable, lean on) 6.) I want to make things work for us (long term....). 7.) I"m sorry (recognition & ownership of fallibility - your needs more important than his ego ) 8.) I trust you (actions/verbally) 9.) I'm proud of you (who you are / to be with you) 10.) I'm excited to ____ with you. (building a future). ----- men crave emotional safety. Respond with creating love & safety for him back.
Amazing! love hearing that!
Hey Matt,
My fiance does ALL the things you stated in your video. I knew he was the one and he know I was the one and let me know. Thank you.
Thanks for sharing!!
You are so pure and positive. Your girlfriend is blessed.. I wish you both all the best
Thank you so much!
I so need this Chanel! I attract the red flaggiest of men to me! No exaggeration
Glad to help!
Thank you for helping me understand men better ❤️
You are so welcome! 🤗
Oh, yeah, oh my god. I never got any of these from even my ex husband. My dad never even has told me he’s proud of me for anything. Didn’t realize it until now. I’m overcompensated out. Ouch.
Was just thinking the same. My husband of almost 20 years has never said these things to me.
@@gentlegiants04 Oh that is so rough.
I don't think he has ever said he is proud of me but he does say Iam amazing and I am doing a good job or doing well. Very supportive even when I feel like I'm failing.
Thanks for sharing!
I would also add "Now I get what all those songs are about" ;) [love songs]
Love it!
Huh, that's interesting, I started the video thinking "nah he probably hasn't said any of these" mainly because my boyfriend is not a man of many words and isnt good at giving elaborate compliments (like the ones you always hear in romantic movies etc.).
But in one way or another, he has said most of these things to me directly or indirectly.
Thankyou, this makes me feel less insecure about his feelings towards me!
Many Thanks
2:40 spends time with you
3:50 misses you
4:40 helps you
5:40 says, 'i love it when you...'
7:00 says he's there for you
7:50 committed to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work
8:46 apologizes when he's wrong
9:34 trusts you
10:30 proud of you
11:30 excited to do things with you
Great job!
Spot on this is everything my new husband told me and stills lets me know ALL 10 constantly ❤
Perfect!❤
This video is so good. A long while back i came out of a 7.5 year relationship that went downward after my dad passed away. Became more of my old self and my ex couldnt handle that.
Nowadays i have an amazing boyfriend who said and shows his actions on 8/10 things you mentioned, both accepting and supportive for who we are. We have been good friends for several years and we started dating a while back. Im moving to live with him in 2 months in Australia, leaving Europe behind. Love is an amazing thing. Amazing video ❤
Glad to hear that thanks
I believe it is SUPER important for you to state that a man NEEDS to SHOW these things, not just statements! ALL narcs KNOW and PLAY these statements in the lovebombing phase of a relationship to gain complete emotional control of women before they start tearing down! And narcs are so prevalent and dangerous! All of these statements mean nothing without actions!!!!
I appreciate your opinion on this!
@@Mat_Shaffer This is solid, proven FACT.
This is NOT an "opinion"
Downgrading my statement to an "opinion" puts women in danger. How about trying to help protect and inform women " things men say" are only TRUE when backed with action? You are potentially putting women in danger by making them believe this. Shame on you
Narcs, psychopaths and sociopaths all use the same words/tactics
I escaped with my life because I saw through what he was intending to do. It's more common than you think/know. Empower women. Don't hand them rose colored glasses
Glad to know my bf really loves me. Well I knew he loved me the day he confided in me and told me a big worry he had in life. Something that really affected him emotionally.
I'm really happy to hear that!
My boyfriend told me before we sleep we went to the bed he hugged me he say (( We changed each other’s life for the better it will be even greater ))
And he make me so happy 😀
AMAZING love that share!!:)
So he said all that and he already confessed his love to me, but my anxious ass is still watching all types of 'signs' videos 🤠
Fantastic! Thanks for sharing🙌❤️
Lolol recovering anxious attachment style here
You're doing great by actively looking for reasons to keep the hold strong.
We haven’t had the mutual “I love you moment but I have told him that I love the way he likes me
You’re fabulous! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and spreading the love. 💖
I've met a great guy. I really feel like he could be the one. How can we be more vulnerable with each other to build a deeper connection?
Get to know your inner world better.
I’m beginning to think…he may be in love with me. This isn’t just temporary, he’s shown me every sign. I’ve been waiting to find my person and I think I finally did. 🥺
Thanks for sharing!
He said all that and than cheated and left me for someone else and now I’m alone and he don’t even care bout me ….
I promise there are good guys out there my dear!
When he looks at me I ask him and he replied you are so beautiful thankyou for choosing me
Amazing love that share:)
Thank you for these decoding messages ❤
You are so welcome
50 hours of learning about men?!
Sorry to sound cynical but the list you've mentioned has already been featured in magazines when I was younger. I guess it doesn't hurt to keep regurgitating these lists. We don't have our third eye open at the same time.
I've been in 3 long term relationships, there's been a lot of love and we have never cheated on each other. There's always been good communication and trust and loyalty. We all stuck it out to the end.
It's important that a person in a relationship knows when they've hurt their partner and recognises this and amends their way of thinking and how they approach things. Adapting and changing is important too. Growing together is beautiful and praising each other is special and giving each other space.
Interesting perspective, thanks so much!
It felt so good......n realized how much my guy loves me
Happy to hear that!
I like being with you-I miss you when I dont see you-I can do anything you want-I think about you all the time-I dont think about anyone else any more-I just want to be with you-I like it when you are close to me
Thanks for sharing!