Mhmm I understand your point and I agree. Obvious flirting with someone else in front of your partner is not ok (unless they have a different agreement with each other). yet it’s almost too much of a blank statement I wanna say.. Cuz the nature of someone’s being can be interpreted as flirty for some and friendly for others. It’s really important to get on the same page of understanding
@@SaschaHaertTalk When is flirting unintentional? Lol It sounds manipulative to infer that ‘as long as it is agreed to’ or ‘it it isnt intentional’, it is ok. That is also abusive. I guess this is why so many males prefer immature people who are unaware. Those are the ones who will be easily manipulated into being made to feel that they are overreacting to abusive acts/behavior.
*Men often test for loyalty and honesty, sometimes by watching how she reacts to little things. For example, how she handles situations involving trust or when there’s a need to be upfront and transparent.*
not true... a good man wants a good woman. she becomes part of his reputation and if she is a bad woman... that's not good for him. same like the other way around too
@@SaschaHaertTalkwhat do you think about a man who marries a woman he doesn’t trust enough to own property with? And a man who continued to financially support in different small ways an ex-wife who lied and didn’t have his back. He also told me a whole slew of stories about how he trusted the wrong ppl and didn’t hold them accountable. The same man held me ultra accountable and let himself off the hook when we were both at fault… and badmouthed me to ppl we were both friends with.
@SaschaHaertTalk it seems loyalty is something some men value in others but it is not a value they deem necessary for themselves. 😂They often take loyal partners for granted. In fact those attributes are often exploited as weaknesses .
So, you mustn't even mention past trauma somewhere down the line so that you can understand each other better? It doesn't give much hope for finding a mutual, decent relationship just because your life hasn't been perfect before you meet someone who is a better match. We all learn from life experiences and become better people and make wiser choices.
Of course you must mention that. I have trauma too and I would mention it fairly soon even, you have to be honest about that. I think he never mentioned that you shouldn't? When he mentioned one shouldn't talk too negatively about their ex, I see it more as a general thing not talking badly about people who don't deserve it. I definitely cannot say my ex husband was a good man overall or that we at one point had a real love connection or that we split up in a good manner. Because he made that impossible. He was neglectful and abusive, especially towards the end and I don't speak to him anymore. However, I still think it says a lot about me how I would talk about it. I would be honest about him but also honest about why I married him in the first place. I would be able to say I have learned and grown a lot since then and also exactly how. And honestly it's also a good test for myself to know if I'm truly healed and are ready for a relationship, when I'm able to talk about this in a healthy manner. I know I'm currently not there yet... I still talk about it a lot with friends, still processing a lot. Talking about past trauma is different from talking about it when you're still in the middle of it all. If a woman is not healed from her past so that she can actually start a new relationship with another man in a healthy way... why wouldn't that be an issue for a man? I wouldn't want to commit myself to a man who hasn't healed from his past either.
ahh Katia, I understand your frustration. But I will have to say that this is not quite correct. women test men as much as men test women. You might not like the word test. so let's change it for assessing... same same... makes no difference.
@@SaschaHaertTalkwe don’t test men the same way. Stop. You’re not a woman so you don’t know lol this is a joke. We’re literally telling you we don’t do this
@@SaschaHaertTalk what about a situation where you (woman) want to have just sex with that man? It's like the point is always "how to find a husband" but it's not true, if you meet a man good for the bed and you don't want anything else by him, no interest in restaurant, friendship and so on, why don't have just sex until both parts enjoy to do it? This scenario is never represented in your (youtubers) videos
And women today have a TREMENDOUS sense of entitlement to a man’s resources and attention, etc. I have 4 grown sons, I know this is true. Men AND women need to vet partners to make sure you have similar values.
It is true..no point in making her jealous for the sake of it..we have trust in each other..loyal..money is not the main one..not going with the man for money but love..
Yes. I'm not a child. Children play games. Adults do adult things. I've had adult relationships and know hiw to conduct myself in one. I would walk so fast from him.
If a woman knows her value she won't be jealous. Yet, if the guy continues to pay attention to other women without including her. Keep the talk for later and hold composure. Maturity
Yes, waiting for the right person with sex test. For me personally it is a self respect thing. The most precious gift is two people giving themselves to eachother. For me I do not want a man who doesn't value himself either.
THANK YOU IF A MAN DON'T WONT A RUN ROUND SUE .WHAT WOMAN WONT A RUN AROUND LEW . A MAN WONT A FAITHFUL LADY THEN HE MUST BE FAITHFUL TOO NOW.[ IN CAPS]
Great comparison. Both sexes test each other. Women know their tests, but we are not always assessing how men are testing us. There is nothing wrong with testing~! It is how we determine whether someone is a good match for us. This was a sensible, honest, thoughtful evaluation of what men do..... and women do their own version Good information! Thank you.
As a woman I can say have never tested any person in my life even while dating..neither did it ever occur to me... I have perhaps been naive & neither have I realized people could be testing me either.....however I don't believe in testing either.... I have just lived in the moment & said & done things that I have wanted to say or do in the moment with sincerity.. & thought everyone could be doing the same.. All I can say is I have learnt or do learn about a person through my interactions & even otherwise I am curious about people & like to learn about them..
(corner test) Seriously?! If a person tries to test my boundaries, that person is immediately history. No second chance. A partnership is only possible based on trust. Trust is not a given, but earned by a person, who has integrity and shows respect and trustworthy behavior constantly from the beginning. Testing boundaries is the exact opposite, regardless of the pretext. Especially as a woman never allow anyone to test your boundaries, to be openly or covertly manipulative or even aggressive like this. Same goes for the jealousy test. Absolute red flag, no "partner material" whatsoever, who is in need to do a test like that.
They do it. It's just men. He wants your heart ❤. You can't be guarded when he wants to do something for you. You can guard your heart from a man's BS.
@@levelekweb455 your boundaries will be tested regardless in every connection. So you can leave it up to chance and wait until it happens or one takes control and gently with a dash of high tensed intensity and much control these boundaries can be explored more manageable even. ;) The important element here, is that’s it’s always done with care, love and compassion. Not to just trigger the shit out of someone. Just some food for thought. ;)
I do not agree with test 3. I explain: it wouldn't be fair that a man I have been getting to know and that I have passed all the other 6 tests with, that one day that I get nervous when intensity rises, then he just excludes me and removes the idea of wanting me to be his lifetime partner just because of a tiny mistake of one day! It doesn't make any sense. It happened to me: I had been flirting with a man, holding eye contact for a long time, every day increasing the intensity and duration of it, allowing him to get close etc etc and then, one day, I got nervous and freaked out. And then he started to get distant. That is not fair: yes, we can be confident etc but we are also human beings and not machines!! That means that human beings can't be perfect all the time!!!
A good quality man would not be flirty.He should ask himself if she did it how would he feel. If he’s trying to have sex with her on the first date that not saying much about him. Testing someone is manipulation and it’s going to cause problems in the future. You don’t have to purposely test someone. It will eventually come out in the wash. That shows me he’s a sneaky person. Next will he be going through my underwear drawer at a later date?
He's obviously not talking about testing on purpose and in a manipulative way. Like he said, everybody tests eachother in normal interaction to get to know the other person. And why would a good quality man not be flirty? It depends on how I guess, but flirting is a very natural thing to do for both men and women.
correct. I don't necessarily think that flirting is a bad thing. it's a form of expression like every other one too. Why would you want to shut it down completely. Some people are naturally very kind, open and generous. others however would interpret those as flirting. It all depends on context and the relationship container you two have established.
i basically mentioned bout an ex and he was like you have an ex? and I summarized to "yea he just kinda love bombed me then left me for another girl" he was like "ah yea.. heard a lot bout those" ex topic ended lol
Flirting is a common step to something else. Either person flirting can be perceived disrespectful. Especially when the behavior is discussed as such. One can be playful & joking without implications of sexual attraction however if such behavior continues one cannot help but question what is happening when the partner is not watching. Unfortunately often one denies behavior by dismissing it as an exaggerated interpretation . 25:46
@@SaschaHaertTalk nothing new, just continue becoming faster in understanding when my energy crashes and also keeping in mind that 'you can't say the wrong thing to the right guy' :)
not sure if I agree. test are not necessarily games. I think games in the dating world are often associated with manipulation. which does not necessary need to be the case. what do you think?
Exactly and he immediately was biased against women by stating we all play these ridiculous manipulative mind games. I’m single because I don’t play manipulative mind games for that
I don’t want an judgemental man to make me or my kids feel bad because their father abandoned them and me when I was sick!!!! That’s a bad human being! No thanks!!!! We need to discuss ex partners at some point as they will be involved in children’s lives🤦♀️🤦♀️. You have terrible advice on that one! People need to know what they are signing up for as coparenting or no coparent at all can be an issue!
not sure what you are referring to. but to answer your very specific point: of course we need to know more about the ex partnerships... but this is not something you'd necessarily do in the very beginning. at some point for suuuure. So which part exactly do you think was terrible?
Mine he took me around his friends a lot on our early stage idk he trying to see if I’m a flirt ☹️ I guess I pass and he took me to see mom n the rest of family going see a show 1 month!! Bc I like dressing up but camping n fishing too 😳lucky im the kind can enjoy both street food getting dirty to 5star restaurant….i test him with all’s my past trauma…and pass……🥰💪
HELP, my So called Partner is all of a sudden flirting with my friend and when i mention what he is doing he denies everything and then blames me and says that i must have heard wrong and I'm looking too much into it I don't what to be with him anymore and he wont take No for an answer I would really like someone to help me .😥
Narc for 29 years and I’m super skittish! I’m giving up! Obviously I’m too damaged but all these men want to date me to have sx!!!! Damaged meaning I expect proof they are honest good men!!! I want proof thru actions!!! That’s my test! No games and authentic no be!
Narc for 29 years and I’m super skittish! I’m giving up! Obviously I’m too damaged but all these men want to date me to have sx!!!! Damaged meaning I expect proof they are honest good men!!! I want proof thru actions!!! That’s my test! No games and authentic no be! 29 years married to stranger and found so much out and abandoned children whom are adults now! I’m hot they say and get me and drop me very time!
Yes I think he underestimates that this can actually be the case. I would be honest about that as soon as it comes up. But if you're truly healed from your past and ready for a new relationship I still think it will show in the way you talk about it.
Bottom line how does he make you feel ladies. If he fails then there is no chemistry and move on. Like he said a real partner has to pass the test, your test 😊
So a man wants to be rejected? He pushed for sex, and we have to make him suffer? Frustrate him? If there has been lots of talk about being traditional and he reciprocated?
Good common sense observations + many more could be added , like social ease town & country, personal presentation, good character which is covers an umbrella ☂ of traits like integrity, conflict communication, longer term life style goals… etc. And for a woman that she feels “safe” with a man long term = stability of emotions, fidelity, physically safe including a home 🏡 , long term planning , financial prosperity … sexual attraction & interest in mutual pleasure in general male female hormons should be enough rather than escalating hoops & puzzles 🧩 + self development inner reflection, critical thinking skills & observations … etc!
mhmm interesting. If you just start watching people in general, and yo do pay attention.. then you'll get a lot of answers quickly. the body, tone and voice doesn't lie.
Loyalty to the relationship was one. Handling intensity, like holding eye contact or allowing him into your personal space without flinching away. Family and friends -- what is your relationship like with them.
Any content creator that focuses on how people attach and knowing how to be more direct and confident with how you approach things is usually great. People who have these traits rarely if ever need to test, they just want to get to know if the other person is a good fit and want to be capable of meeting needs. Matthew is good at teaching that, this video has a lot of moot points.
Sex test is so hypocritical. It takes 2 to tango. If a man wants to date to marry and holds sex with the highest regards, he should communicate that to her on the first date and not lead her on. The masculine man leads and the feminine women follows. Some women just love sex tooo... yeah that test is hypocritical. It takes 2!
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If he is flirty with someone in front of you…. Run….
We can also switch it ladies and smile with however is being nice 😊
Yup. Don’t allow disrespect cuz he’ll see what he can get away with!
Mhmm I understand your point and I agree. Obvious flirting with someone else in front of your partner is not ok (unless they have a different agreement with each other).
yet it’s almost too much of a blank statement I wanna say.. Cuz the nature of someone’s being can be interpreted as flirty for some and friendly for others.
It’s really important to get on the same page of understanding
Or flirting, then accusing you to be toxic jelous shit😂 and leaving you
Lift your eyebrow when he looks at you to see if you are watching him flirt with someone else and laugh wink and walk away. 😂
Phenomenal Content ❤IF HE FLIRTS WITH OTHER WOMEN DUMP HIM NOW 😂❤
If I had a male friend that was heavily flirting with a woman, I would likely not trust him anymore. Creating jealousy is risky.
yeah creating jealousy on purpose is not leading with good intent...
@@SaschaHaertTalk
When is flirting unintentional? Lol
It sounds manipulative to infer that ‘as long as it is agreed to’ or ‘it it isnt intentional’, it is ok. That is also abusive. I guess this is why so many males prefer immature people who are unaware. Those are the ones who will be easily manipulated into being made to feel that they are overreacting to abusive acts/behavior.
*Men often test for loyalty and honesty, sometimes by watching how she reacts to little things. For example, how she handles situations involving trust or when there’s a need to be upfront and transparent.*
They don’t want good women!
yes.
not true... a good man wants a good woman. she becomes part of his reputation and if she is a bad woman... that's not good for him. same like the other way around too
@@SaschaHaertTalkwhat do you think about a man who marries a woman he doesn’t trust enough to own property with? And a man who continued to financially support in different small ways an ex-wife who lied and didn’t have his back. He also told me a whole slew of stories about how he trusted the wrong ppl and didn’t hold them accountable. The same man held me ultra accountable and let himself off the hook when we were both at fault… and badmouthed me to ppl we were both friends with.
@SaschaHaertTalk it seems loyalty is something some men value in others but it is not a value they deem necessary for themselves. 😂They often take loyal partners for granted. In fact those attributes are often exploited as weaknesses .
Friends are friends! Now if you want to be friends at first and build up to relationship that is different than just friends.
true.
So, you mustn't even mention past trauma somewhere down the line so that you can understand each other better? It doesn't give much hope for finding a mutual, decent relationship just because your life hasn't been perfect before you meet someone who is a better match. We all learn from life experiences and become better people and make wiser choices.
These make me want to jump!
Of course you must mention that. I have trauma too and I would mention it fairly soon even, you have to be honest about that. I think he never mentioned that you shouldn't? When he mentioned one shouldn't talk too negatively about their ex, I see it more as a general thing not talking badly about people who don't deserve it. I definitely cannot say my ex husband was a good man overall or that we at one point had a real love connection or that we split up in a good manner. Because he made that impossible. He was neglectful and abusive, especially towards the end and I don't speak to him anymore.
However, I still think it says a lot about me how I would talk about it. I would be honest about him but also honest about why I married him in the first place. I would be able to say I have learned and grown a lot since then and also exactly how.
And honestly it's also a good test for myself to know if I'm truly healed and are ready for a relationship, when I'm able to talk about this in a healthy manner. I know I'm currently not there yet... I still talk about it a lot with friends, still processing a lot. Talking about past trauma is different from talking about it when you're still in the middle of it all. If a woman is not healed from her past so that she can actually start a new relationship with another man in a healthy way... why wouldn't that be an issue for a man? I wouldn't want to commit myself to a man who hasn't healed from his past either.
yes that's true we have the ability to learn from our mistakes. which doesn't mean people are do integrate the learning...
to the moon or somewhere else? hahaha
Women: does he make me feel safe? Am i attracted to him?
Men: lets put her through convoluted tests
ahh Katia, I understand your frustration. But I will have to say that this is not quite correct. women test men as much as men test women.
You might not like the word test. so let's change it for assessing... same same... makes no difference.
@@SaschaHaertTalkwe don’t test men the same way. Stop. You’re not a woman so you don’t know lol this is a joke. We’re literally telling you we don’t do this
@@SaschaHaertTalkWell said. ❤
@@SaschaHaertTalk what about a situation where you (woman) want to have just sex with that man? It's like the point is always "how to find a husband" but it's not true, if you meet a man good for the bed and you don't want anything else by him, no interest in restaurant, friendship and so on, why don't have just sex until both parts enjoy to do it? This scenario is never represented in your (youtubers) videos
And women today have a TREMENDOUS sense of entitlement to a man’s resources and attention, etc.
I have 4 grown sons, I know this is true. Men AND women need to vet partners to make sure you have similar values.
It is true..no point in making her jealous for the sake of it..we have trust in each other..loyal..money is not the main one..not going with the man for money but love..
American men do not do these things, they are more focused on agenda. Games ruin any possibility of a relationship.
Yes. I'm not a child. Children play games. Adults do adult things. I've had adult relationships and know hiw to conduct myself in one. I would walk so fast from him.
That’s unfortunate if this is true. Yes it can not be that ALL Americans are apparently like that
Oh please.... 😂
Only an American would write some b.s. like that 🤣
Some guys are extremely lucky with the sex zone they don’t take it seriously after they get the cookie and the jealousy test is really stupid
Excellent synopsis. Thank you
Time is needed to know these answers too.
@@PetsNPatients correct
If a woman knows her value she won't be jealous. Yet, if the guy continues to pay attention to other women without including her. Keep the talk for later and hold composure. Maturity
Yes, waiting for the right person with sex test. For me personally it is a self respect thing. The most precious gift is two people giving themselves to eachother. For me I do not want a man who doesn't value himself either.
Yes if a man does not cherish his family, he will not cherish you.
The sex is true the jealousy test is true the ex is true and the friends are also true. . Failed the test and I wish him the best all the best
A good quality woman doesn’t want a man who sleeps around either dude
@@kristincronin-g7n that’s true… and no one said it should be any different… 😉
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THANK YOU IF A MAN DON'T WONT A RUN ROUND SUE .WHAT WOMAN WONT A RUN
AROUND LEW . A MAN WONT A FAITHFUL LADY THEN HE MUST BE FAITHFUL TOO NOW.[ IN CAPS]
Great comparison. Both sexes test each other. Women know their tests, but we are not always assessing how men are testing us. There is nothing wrong with testing~! It is how we determine whether someone is a good match for us. This was a sensible, honest, thoughtful evaluation of what men do..... and women do their own version Good information! Thank you.
How do we test? What?
very true. and thank you for acknowledging it
As a woman I can say have never tested any person in my life even while dating..neither did it ever occur to me... I have perhaps been naive & neither have I realized people could be testing me either.....however I don't believe in testing either.... I have just lived in the moment & said & done things that I have wanted to say or do in the moment with sincerity.. & thought everyone could be doing the same.. All I can say is I have learnt or do learn about a person through my interactions & even otherwise I am curious about people & like to learn about them..
This is a good one. savinv to remind myself time to time. Thank you
(corner test) Seriously?! If a person tries to test my boundaries, that person is immediately history. No second chance.
A partnership is only possible based on trust. Trust is not a given, but earned by a person, who has integrity and shows respect and trustworthy behavior constantly from the beginning. Testing boundaries is the exact opposite, regardless of the pretext.
Especially as a woman never allow anyone to test your boundaries, to be openly or covertly manipulative or even aggressive like this.
Same goes for the jealousy test. Absolute red flag, no "partner material" whatsoever, who is in need to do a test like that.
They do it. It's just men. He wants your heart ❤. You can't be guarded when he wants to do something for you. You can guard your heart from a man's BS.
@@levelekweb455 your boundaries will be tested regardless in every connection.
So you can leave it up to chance and wait until it happens or one takes control and gently with a dash of high tensed intensity and much control these boundaries can be explored more manageable even. ;)
The important element here, is that’s it’s always done with care, love and compassion. Not to just trigger the shit out of someone.
Just some food for thought. ;)
I do not agree with test 3. I explain: it wouldn't be fair that a man I have been getting to know and that I have passed all the other 6 tests with, that one day that I get nervous when intensity rises, then he just excludes me and removes the idea of wanting me to be his lifetime partner just because of a tiny mistake of one day! It doesn't make any sense. It happened to me: I had been flirting with a man, holding eye contact for a long time, every day increasing the intensity and duration of it, allowing him to get close etc etc and then, one day, I got nervous and freaked out. And then he started to get distant. That is not fair: yes, we can be confident etc but we are also human beings and not machines!! That means that human beings can't be perfect all the time!!!
A good quality man would not be flirty.He should ask himself if she did it how would he feel. If he’s trying to have sex with her on the first date that not saying much about him. Testing someone is manipulation and it’s going to cause problems in the future. You don’t have to purposely test someone. It will eventually come out in the wash. That shows me he’s a sneaky person. Next will he be going through my underwear drawer at a later date?
He's obviously not talking about testing on purpose and in a manipulative way. Like he said, everybody tests eachother in normal interaction to get to know the other person. And why would a good quality man not be flirty? It depends on how I guess, but flirting is a very natural thing to do for both men and women.
The fundamental difference between positive influence and manipulation is intent. I love this, and I do believe it applies here too
correct. I don't necessarily think that flirting is a bad thing. it's a form of expression like every other one too. Why would you want to shut it down completely.
Some people are naturally very kind, open and generous. others however would interpret those as flirting. It all depends on context and the relationship container you two have established.
totally agree, love is love, love is not for testing, tricky human mind, i dont like neither
How about just observing as much as you can?
well that's a big part of it for sure..
Well, if he is seriously interested in you then he will test you coz men are the one who pursues! Also, fear of rejection!
i basically mentioned bout an ex and he was like you have an ex?
and I summarized to "yea he just kinda love bombed me then left me for another girl"
he was like "ah yea.. heard a lot bout those"
ex topic ended lol
hahaha. exes dont' have to be a taboo topic at all, but maybe not on date 1. hahaha
Flirting is a common step to something else. Either person flirting can be perceived disrespectful. Especially when the behavior is discussed as such. One can be playful & joking without implications of sexual attraction however if such behavior continues one cannot help but question what is happening when the partner is not watching. Unfortunately often one denies behavior by dismissing it as an exaggerated interpretation . 25:46
Woww... This is the most practical video I have seen on UA-cam. Thank you for sharing these 😅
that's great to hear :) thank you
Excellent knowledge that I thank you deeply
i failed the intensity test, i was feeling unwell (which I had communicated) and I snapped at him... havent heard from him since...
sorry to hear that... :( is there a learning for next time?
@@SaschaHaertTalk nothing new, just continue becoming faster in understanding when my energy crashes and also keeping in mind that 'you can't say the wrong thing to the right guy' :)
Tests are games in my opinion. So if he wants to play games....I got my chess piece ready.
not sure if I agree. test are not necessarily games. I think games in the dating world are often associated with manipulation. which does not necessary need to be the case. what do you think?
If you think this is normal you have a toxic relationship
what do you mean exactly?
9:22 at this point i think "oh he seems less into me than i thought" thats the beginning of the end
Thank you kindly
This is why women prefer to be single.
Thank u ...🙏💗
Bah. 'Wifey material.' This kind of thinking is so .... patriarchal.
Yeah, the new thing is go and just sleep with men for money and not want to keep them … sounds so empowering🤦♀️
Your bitter. Being a wife is great if your married to the right man.
Exactly and he immediately was biased against women by stating we all play these ridiculous manipulative mind games. I’m single because I don’t play manipulative mind games for that
hahahaha nice one.
so true. it's such a beautiful union then
Assessing is NOT testing. Two very different things.
Thank you for the information
Thanks for the information
I don’t want an judgemental man to make me or my kids feel bad because their father abandoned them and me when I was sick!!!! That’s a bad human being! No thanks!!!! We need to discuss ex partners at some point as they will be involved in children’s lives🤦♀️🤦♀️. You have terrible advice on that one! People need to know what they are signing up for as coparenting or no coparent at all can be an issue!
not sure what you are referring to. but to answer your very specific point: of course we need to know more about the ex partnerships... but this is not something you'd necessarily do in the very beginning. at some point for suuuure.
So which part exactly do you think was terrible?
5:20 the corner test
Mine he took me around his friends a lot on our early stage idk he trying to see if I’m a flirt ☹️ I guess I pass and he took me to see mom n the rest of family going see a show 1 month!! Bc I like dressing up but camping n fishing too 😳lucky im the kind can enjoy both street food getting dirty to 5star restaurant….i test him with all’s my past trauma…and pass……🥰💪
I like your heart. Nice video
thank you. sending you love back
HELP, my So called Partner is all of a sudden flirting with my friend
and when i mention what he is doing he denies everything and then blames me
and says that i must have heard wrong and I'm looking too much into it
I don't what to be with him anymore and he wont take No for an answer
I would really like someone to help me .😥
Great video! Thank you
thank you so much
So they need a wide scope of information about you while not being open and honest with you about themselves?
Pretty much. Smh
well. that's aobviously not ok. honestly adn openness should apply to both
@@sadiqua7🙄
What if the ex was abusive?
Narc for 29 years and I’m super skittish! I’m giving up! Obviously I’m too damaged but all these men want to date me to have sx!!!! Damaged meaning I expect proof they are honest good men!!! I want proof thru actions!!! That’s my test! No games and authentic no be!
Narc for 29 years and I’m super skittish! I’m giving up! Obviously I’m too damaged but all these men want to date me to have sx!!!! Damaged meaning I expect proof they are honest good men!!! I want proof thru actions!!! That’s my test! No games and authentic no be! 29 years married to stranger and found so much out and abandoned children whom are adults now! I’m hot they say and get me and drop me very time!
Yes I think he underestimates that this can actually be the case. I would be honest about that as soon as it comes up. But if you're truly healed from your past and ready for a new relationship I still think it will show in the way you talk about it.
exactly. one of many good test you should be doing with the men in your life
very true too
1.Loyalty/respect test
2. Lifestyle test
3.The corner test
4.The Jealousy Test
5.Sex test
6.Ex Test
7.Family and Friends test
I prefer the old school..
I think most of us do at this point. :D
Bottom line how does he make you feel ladies. If he fails then there is no chemistry and move on. Like he said a real partner has to pass the test, your test 😊
@@reemsaif3105 hahaha yes. We both have tests and assessments of different kinds. And they are helpful when done with integrity and love :)
I don't have family so what than? 🙄
What do you mean?
Isn't a fair assessment. Judge me and you will be judged
we are all judging all the time anyway ;) there is no way around it. so we might as well accept it
A powerful wake up call
great to hear it resonates
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So a man wants to be rejected? He pushed for sex, and we have to make him suffer? Frustrate him? If there has been lots of talk about being traditional and he reciprocated?
Good common sense observations + many more could be added , like social ease town & country, personal presentation, good character which is covers an umbrella ☂ of traits like integrity, conflict communication, longer term life style goals… etc. And for a woman that she feels “safe” with a man long term = stability of emotions, fidelity, physically safe including a home 🏡 , long term planning , financial prosperity … sexual attraction & interest in mutual pleasure in general male female hormons should be enough rather than escalating hoops & puzzles 🧩 + self development inner reflection, critical thinking skills & observations … etc!
very well said. thank you
I need a sign language dictionary to fully set understand the non-verbal communucation happening here and all around me
mhmm interesting. If you just start watching people in general, and yo do pay attention.. then you'll get a lot of answers quickly. the body, tone and voice doesn't lie.
SIR: WHY??????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? are USA SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO INSECURE? ABOUT EVERYTHING?
Hahaha!
Truths!
I saw 4 tests:
Corner
Jealousy
Sex
Ex
Where are the other 3?
Loyalty to the relationship was one.
Handling intensity, like holding eye contact or allowing him into your personal space without flinching away.
Family and friends -- what is your relationship like with them.
thank you :)
I do not think " test " is the right word to use, prefer " challenge ". Tests are for school
sure. happy for you to change test for challenge ;) the essence is still the same though, don't you think? ;)
hahah I fail all these tests except the last one.. oops...
Oldschool info. 😎
and still accurate ;)
Nice…have to agree…
thank you Katarina
Why to lie abt an ex that was really abusive and bad? 😂
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so many hearts... I loooove it ;)
Omg.. terrible video.. look up Mathew hussey instead.. wish u guy in video all well..
Lol
Terrible ..to YOU, of course. And imposing what we should look up or not to look up is ... bad taste
Mathew is older….some ladies are young and they should be adviced by this man. I also I like Mathew, but I am 48 🤣
Any content creator that focuses on how people attach and knowing how to be more direct and confident with how you approach things is usually great. People who have these traits rarely if ever need to test, they just want to get to know if the other person is a good fit and want to be capable of meeting needs. Matthew is good at teaching that, this video has a lot of moot points.
Don't shoot the messenger, honey ❤
Sex test is so hypocritical. It takes 2 to tango. If a man wants to date to marry and holds sex with the highest regards, he should communicate that to her on the first date and not lead her on. The masculine man leads and the feminine women follows. Some women just love sex tooo... yeah that test is hypocritical. It takes 2!
Have to watch on speed 2.0 and still talking too slow 😂not getting to point fast enough
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The sex zone
Very interestng to know this etiqiete or label
the exapmles are really not very clear, nor the talking style is involving and interesting. In short: quite boring. sorry.