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  • Not sure if he really cares about you? Watch this video to learn 7 surprising things guys say, IN ORDER, when their feelings deepen and they emotionally invest in you.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 567

  • @LjubicaNaJutjubu
    @LjubicaNaJutjubu Рік тому +859

    Having watched this video, I have come to realize that no man in my life has ever fallen for me 😄

  • @shrinidhipatil335
    @shrinidhipatil335 Рік тому +263

    1. How can I help you
    2. I have soo much fun with you
    3. (watch the vdo)
    4. Future talks😌
    5. How are you feeling?
    6. why do you feel that way?
    7. You make me feel (etcetc)

    • @mirvattsaad4098
      @mirvattsaad4098 Рік тому +13

      Ok so he was falling for me at some point…lol 😭😭

    • @queenofswords6463
      @queenofswords6463 Рік тому +4

      Ok so no man has ever fallen in love with me 🤣

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 місяців тому +2

      Thanks for sharing!

  • @beverlyschultz9276
    @beverlyschultz9276 Рік тому +45

    At 63 and on match for 18 months, I have finally found a man who can say all of these things with genuine honesty and gentleness. Hang in there ladies and be very genuine and he will too.

  • @ashleyjones3652
    @ashleyjones3652 2 роки тому +150

    I was dating this guy who was playing it cool because he was trying not to scare me off. I watched your videos, and he was doing all the signs that he was in love, but he hadn't said it yet, and I was too scared to say it. I let things happen naturally because since your videos suggested we were on the right path, I was not too stressed. Now we are official, in love and very happy. He is still respecting my pace and doesn't try to rush any of the steps. He just lets me know when I am ready; he is ready. I have only ever known toxic men, and this is the first time I have been dating a gentleman. I honestly owe so much to you because I never thought this type of man actually existed until I saw you and your videos. So, thank you for allowing me to open up to love. I had to trust the process and trust that love can be real.

    • @marianleonard7866
      @marianleonard7866 2 роки тому

      Hi get help from Dr Asi in any kind of problem you might be encountering ,he can help you getting your (Ex) back ,money spell,love spell ,court cases spell,make him/she confess spell ,cleansing spell,fruit of the womb spell,also breaking evil curses in your life and lot more.
      He help me that why i am referring him to you, I advice you to seek his help now thanks for your time.

    • @marianleonard7866
      @marianleonard7866 2 роки тому

      just chat him below via watsap.

    • @VivaCForever
      @VivaCForever 2 роки тому +4

      Same boat! 🥰🥰♥️♥️♥️ so excited for the future

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +7

      This is an inspiring story! I’m so happy for you my dear!

    • @lucypalsgrove9210
      @lucypalsgrove9210 Рік тому +1

      I was blessed to have had two great loves in my life. They both passed, a few years ago but I still want that feeling again. Not found it yet😊 if not, I have still been blessed🙏🏻

  • @Elizabeth-bt5iz
    @Elizabeth-bt5iz Рік тому +61

    Omg, I hit the jackpot with my BF, I got all 7. We are so connected. ❤️

  • @clairekat1313
    @clairekat1313 Рік тому +74

    This makes me happy because I tend to overthink and this made me realize that the feeling I have for a man is mutual 🥰

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому +2

      Thinking about everything you don't have control over. ❤️

  • @nearlysomewhere5797
    @nearlysomewhere5797 Рік тому +94

    Was dating a man for a bit less than 2 months. We had known each other for years prior to us both getting divorces. He had hit 5 out of the 7 here. Everything was going in the right direction. Chemistry, attraction, common backgrounds with family and our adult children. Then one evening after he had made me dinner, he was confiding in me some very specific details about his childhood with his mom, and then about his ex. He told me how much trust he had in me. We were so close it was surreal. Then he left to use the bathroom and when he came back he didn't even want to hug or sit next to me as we had been. It was like a switch went off and he became platonic. We ended it a week later, but remain passing friends. Another friend who knows him and felt we would be a great couple was sad to hear the outcome and felt he may be a commitment phobe (whatever that means). I had to let it go and try not to think about the "what ifs". When you find someone that is such a good fit later in life it is difficult to see them throw it away, most likely out of fear or past treatment.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому +9

      Sad to hear that such thing happened to you. But believe! It's 100% possible to heal and create something new. ❤

    • @nearlysomewhere5797
      @nearlysomewhere5797 Рік тому +36

      @@Mat_Shaffer I appreciate the kind words, but as a fit, healthy 57 year old woman (that didn't let herself go) who is usually mistake for being 45, healing is not difficult. What is difficult is finding a man who isn't looking for a booty call or a nurse maid. I believe many single women in their 50s can attest to the fact that healthy men in their 50s want women in their 40s and even 30s. It is disheartening to say the least. Blessings to you

    • @alileighton698
      @alileighton698 Рік тому +13

      ....he must have regretted exposing those personal details and felt the facade he'd created around them had fallen when with you... He wasn't truly comfortable exposing his underbelly then ran away. With you he would always have to face that truth.... he wrote it into your story together

    • @carissacantwell9355
      @carissacantwell9355 Рік тому +14

      @nearly somewhere I'm 68 & still looking. It doesn't get better. Most older men are looking for a nurse or a purse. All I learned from my 5 year marriage was that it's better to be alone than with the wrong person. Still hoping for a happy ending tho...just better happen soon.

    • @SuperTweezy5
      @SuperTweezy5 Рік тому +6

      @@carissacantwell9355 I'm 55, my husband 61. If I have the misfortune to outlive him someday, I am absolutely not going to try to find love again, not because I love him so much, but because I've watched too many Dateline shows, lol!!

  • @hollydusek597
    @hollydusek597 2 роки тому +20

    He did all of those, and said that I am home. Wherever we are I am home. Yeah, we're engaged 😉👍

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @sajgonka16
    @sajgonka16 2 роки тому +22

    What I here many times is "You make me feel amazing/ loved/ alive/ important/ good" and truly love to here it

  • @jenniferbrownlow8473
    @jenniferbrownlow8473 2 роки тому +180

    Mat, I really appreciate how you always display your points on the screen and then recap them at end of your videos! It makes it a lot easier to follow along with you and retain the information, especially for visual learners like me. I know it’s such a “little” thing but well worth the time and effort you put into it!! I think it sets you apart from others in the field and I know for me personally when I’m deciding whose video I’m going to watch I will gravitate towards yours because I always know it’s gonna be a home run for reasons listed above. 🙂 Thanks!

  • @tabathakohler5964
    @tabathakohler5964 Рік тому +28

    I had this in almost every relationship I had. Unfortunately after years things change and life happens so it does not always work out. But I hope and pray that my exs are okay and doing well even if they are not with me. 😁❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому +2

      Interesting perspective, thanks so much!

    • @tabathakohler5964
      @tabathakohler5964 Рік тому +1

      @@Mat_ShafferYour most certainly very welcome. Your advice and guidance is highly recommended i will be sharing with all the women in my life. Keep up the fantastic work. 😁

  • @annemariemaes5819
    @annemariemaes5819 2 роки тому +72

    The man I’ve been dating for 5 months never tells me any of these things. Makes me really take a hard look at what I’m settling for.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +32

      Amen my dear! Don’t settle for a man who isn’t emotionally available and communicative !

    • @goodietequila4228
      @goodietequila4228 2 роки тому +22

      Some men moves slowly. Be careful he is perfect and you're misreading him. Be a little bit more patient. My husband was a bit slow but I picked up on others areas that allows me to like him at early stages until we both grew together. I was slow too.now I am looking back at the young me. Five months is pretty short, be patient please.

    • @imakinsb5549
      @imakinsb5549 2 роки тому +4

      Teach him how to talk...most man doesn’t talk or doesn’t know how to express their emotions. You might need to lighten up for him to feel comfortable talking.

    • @annemariemaes5819
      @annemariemaes5819 2 роки тому +8

      @@goodietequila4228 thank you for the insight. I am still dating him, it’s been 9 months now and while he still doesn’t do or say the 7 things in Mat’s video, he shows me that he cares and has told me that he loves me. He’s just very guarded with his feelings. I’m glad I stuck around and allowed him to open up when he was ready.

  • @evelynbyrne9955
    @evelynbyrne9955 2 роки тому +26

    Hi Mat. Just want to say I appreciate the way you tell us what you’re going to teach, teach it, then tell us what you taught. So easy to understand. You’re an awesome teacher. Thanks so much for what you are doing.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому

      Hello Evelyn! Thank you for the kind words! I’m so glad this helped you..

  • @blondielocs3165
    @blondielocs3165 2 роки тому +18

    Let me just say after listening to this.. I am excited about where I am with the amazing man that I have been seeing for two months.. He is definitely hitting all of these points… He is so refreshing to my spirit….I look forward to growing our future together…

  • @mythical.craftstarot
    @mythical.craftstarot 2 роки тому +31

    I got me a good man!💗 My intention is to continue to be that beautiful safe container for him so our relationship can continue to depend and evolve🙏 thanks Mat! 💛💛

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +1

      Yay! You deserve a great guy :)

    • @zen_mindset1
      @zen_mindset1 8 місяців тому

      I wish I knew the feeling lol

    • @mythical.craftstarot
      @mythical.craftstarot 8 місяців тому

      @@zen_mindset1 after a very toxic relationship I did a lot of self love and deep dive of knowing myself. Treating myself to massages, flowers, taking myself out to eat and talking kindly to myself. Don’t give up and know you are worthy of a good partnership 💗 it didn’t happen over night it took years and lots of self work

  • @nataliem9667
    @nataliem9667 Рік тому +12

    I've had two really bad relationships, I worked on myself. I have found a wonderful man, and I'm so happy to say it's a seven out of seven. I feel so lucky to have met him.

  • @nd7968
    @nd7968 Рік тому +5

    The man I was seeing, while holding my hand, said he LOVED spending time with me.

  • @dargeo1406
    @dargeo1406 Рік тому +7

    This what an emotionally mature man in love says. The unevolved one won’t say much and then wonder why you left him. You were “supposed to guess”?
    I’m lucky my husband is the mature kind, but I’ve dealt with the “silent strong type” too.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      Thank you for sharing!

    • @queenofswords6463
      @queenofswords6463 Рік тому

      You are so right. More unevolved men out there than we realise 😢

  • @diamonds.areforever5946
    @diamonds.areforever5946 2 роки тому +20

    My friend who is already in a long term relationship involving children says/asks these types of phrases and questions a bit...
    All but the last one of course.
    The guy I was dating had used 7 a form of 6, he didn't say I'm excited to meet my mom, but he did seem excited when I met her.
    He would ask me how I was feeling, but not the follow up phrase.
    Also during a conversation him and I had he mentioned feeling safe, feeling connected with me....
    I ended our relationship due to thinking he didn't have strong feelings for me...

  • @sandracastillo3317
    @sandracastillo3317 Рік тому +3

    I feel like the luckiest woman in the world .
    He has said all this and I am floored.
    He is so special and he inspires me to be the best I can be. I try to be his safety place in any way possible, always.
    🥰

  • @barbaracarbone4658
    @barbaracarbone4658 Рік тому +14

    What if the woman does not feel the same about him? It's hard to respond to avoid hurting his feelings. Sometimes men say these things way too early in the relationship.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому +1

      It's better to tell him straight to the point.🙌❤️

  • @leahjanulgue7200
    @leahjanulgue7200 2 роки тому +8

    I've been a year subscriber already :D
    And the guy I've been seeing right now always tells me "How am I feeling?" And even though his really busy, he is trying to talk to me and even when I sleep at 12 am, his still awake for me.. I love him so much. I hope he will be my boyfriend soon.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому

      Thanks for subscribing dear! I hope this video helps. :)

  • @Bizarrebread
    @Bizarrebread Рік тому +9

    Thank you so much for this video! I have a hard time knowing my emotions well enough to see whether I'm falling for someone, having these guidelines helps me cross-reference my past interactions!

  • @ozwomanid57
    @ozwomanid57 Рік тому +2

    A BIG idea Mat is GIVING AND RECEIVING. As a mother, a nurturer, a giver I can give and give and give YET if he just receives and receives without giving back , eventually that dynamic is going to wear thin and break. An example: With my ex, I'd work my business, come home clean, fix dinner, do laundry and resented the fact he sat on the sofa and never helped. Well I asked for help but he was so used to RECEIVING he didn't know how. Now in a new relationship, I find myself at times having to hold back so my partner can give to me. In this way I'm not overwhelming him and he feels good about where our relationship is going. And the bonus - I don't feel angry/resentful

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      Thanks for sharing Dorothy❤️, Love lots!

  • @ketowithstacy8882
    @ketowithstacy8882 Рік тому +1

    For some reason I keep seeing these pop up on my home page. I remember when I wanted a man to love me so bad. Now I don't want to be in a relationship with anyone at all. It's so freeing. I now wonder why I ever cared about that stuff. Seriously. I'm not hardened either.. I just love being on my own. It is such a nice feeling to be content and not long for someone and feel lonely.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому +1

      Amazing! Go Keto with Stacy 🙏❤️✨

    • @ketowithstacy8882
      @ketowithstacy8882 Рік тому

      @@Mat_Shaffer Thanks! Only took me until I was almost 50. haha! No but really it is a good feeling. I really like your videos. Great vibe!

  • @getawaywithpam
    @getawaywithpam 2 роки тому +6

    Thank you for all this signs. He said he loves me but I don’t get to hear all this from him yet. So giving it time

  • @katalinmcewan
    @katalinmcewan 2 роки тому +8

    I’m a female and said most of these things to a guy I have known for the past few months. Is that really wrong? 🤔😬 I was just telling the truth… We have so much fun and always laugh our heads off together. He did say I would love his teammates if I had met them. His sport is a big part of his life. I will keep my ears open to see if he mentions any of these things, if not, then best move on.

    • @marianleonard7866
      @marianleonard7866 2 роки тому

      Hi get help from Dr Asi in any kind of problem you might be encountering ,he can help you getting your (Ex) back ,money spell,love spell ,court cases spell,make him/she confess spell ,cleansing spell,fruit of the womb spell,also breaking evil curses in your life and lot more.
      He help me that why i am referring him to you, I advice you to seek his help now thanks for your time.

    • @marianleonard7866
      @marianleonard7866 2 роки тому

      just chat him below via watsap.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому +1

      You deserve a great guy!

  • @pricesunbury59
    @pricesunbury59 5 місяців тому

    My man and I are doing all 7. I love him and he loces me very much. We are a part of each other's futures. I have the #1 with him, his is safe, happy. Thank you for your videos 🎉

  • @LynnFar
    @LynnFar 2 роки тому +10

    The guy I have been involved with online has said all those things plus he told me he is addicted to me...If I tell him I didn't eat or sleep he tells me I have to do it to keep healthy...
    Due to my own traumas I have difficulty in believing him and have tried to get him to go away (he wont) but in reality I just want him to get closer which makes him think I don't care...We are planning meeting soon so I enrolled in your course so I can lessen my chances of blowing it with him..

    • @cathywalas9860
      @cathywalas9860 2 роки тому +3

      Definitely enroll in Matt’s class!! He will uncover those layers and fears when you do the worksheets!! Wish you the best!!

    • @LynnFar
      @LynnFar 2 роки тому +1

      @@johndre8673 sorry no...I don't need to call Nigeria for love spells

  • @briannabradyy
    @briannabradyy 11 місяців тому

    I already know my man is deeply in love with me bc he shows me every day all day. I still enjoy watching your videos. They make me appreciate him that much more. :) I'm a lucky girl!

  • @felicitygrace5113
    @felicitygrace5113 2 роки тому +7

    What about saying I feel comfortable sharing x,y, z with you. Or I feel at peace when I am with you, or I feel I can be myself with you...??

  • @joenneriha2399
    @joenneriha2399 Рік тому

    He always says I complete him!! I have asked what does that mean? He says I have filled all the voids in his life!!

  • @Lex12102007
    @Lex12102007 8 місяців тому

    My new partner has done all of these things. Please pray it works as I adore this man x

  • @claudiacarley4050
    @claudiacarley4050 Рік тому +3

    I signed up for the reason having 2 failed marriages, unfortunately... could have been on one for sure, however it's always great to know more about our opposite sex!

  • @herfknlife
    @herfknlife 2 роки тому +6

    Yayyy all the checks !! 👏🏼🥰 thanks for this video because I can feel his energy but he hasn’t blatantly stated I love you . But these points all help ! 😁

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @mariec1524
    @mariec1524 2 роки тому +10

    Thank you Matt. All of your coaching is easy to understand and look deeper into communication and intimacy. I’m signing up now!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому

      Appreciate it hon!

    • @lindabruestle4319
      @lindabruestle4319 Рік тому +1

      Matt the guy I am seeing said he feels like a new lease on life with me

  • @marioramos5384
    @marioramos5384 2 роки тому +7

    Im not a typical “man”, but I’d say this is 50% accurate IMO.

  • @nourhanashour1179
    @nourhanashour1179 2 роки тому +7

    I signed up for your course, Mat! Can't wait! Been registered since you did that video with Helena 🤩

  • @upendramandreakar8518
    @upendramandreakar8518 2 роки тому +1

    Each one has a unique way ... That uniqueness takes time to find out and come out .

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому

      Interesting perspective, thanks so much!

  • @irawise8315
    @irawise8315 2 роки тому +7

    What if he says the last point on the checklist, the one that you say shows that he cares _the most_ - " You bring a feeling of home and peace into my life"...
    But not very many of others, like he doesn't say things like: "I'm so excited for you to meet X.." " How are you feeling?"; " Why are you feeling that way?"
    What does it mean? 🤔

    • @valentinaursache8284
      @valentinaursache8284 2 роки тому +2

      Each person is unique and exprim in other way ...is good that he say ...bring peaceful in my life

    • @VivaCForever
      @VivaCForever 2 роки тому +1

      Sounds like a me statement instead of focusing on you? You bring my life peace… does he do that for you?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 місяців тому

      It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

  • @lilianatsiopoulos7836
    @lilianatsiopoulos7836 Рік тому +2

    Those are the questions that my husband of 27 years still asked me 🥰

  • @MsRavenousWolf
    @MsRavenousWolf 2 роки тому +5

    So far the guy I'm interested in has said 3 out of 7... However, 6 is different... He has said he enjoys listening to me. I guess he either likes the sound of my voice or my personality... I have no idea... I've noticed he's very auditory.

    • @marianleonard7866
      @marianleonard7866 2 роки тому

      Hi get help from Dr Asi in any kind of problem you might be encountering ,he can help you getting your (Ex) back ,money spell,love spell ,court cases spell,make him/she confess spell ,cleansing spell,fruit of the womb spell,also breaking evil curses in your life and lot more.
      He help me that why i am referring him to you, I advice you to seek his help now thanks for your time.

    • @marianleonard7866
      @marianleonard7866 2 роки тому

      just chat him below via watsap.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому +1

      Yay! You deserve a great guy :)

  • @dontblinkweddings9306
    @dontblinkweddings9306 Рік тому +1

    My husband (coming on 20 years) asked early on "What are you thinking ?" Anytime we were in the car together. He still does this.

  • @GiaMartini730
    @GiaMartini730 Рік тому

    Mat, I laughed out loud...get OUT of my man's head!! You are so accurate it is outrageous. Love your videos you've given me a lot to think about and saved my bacon more than once. Things that would have made me run to a therapist for attachment disorder, you explained and soothed me. "X" is normal.

  • @Lifeeewithsabrina
    @Lifeeewithsabrina Рік тому

    Thank you so much Matt for sharing your views and insights with us!! I watched your video more than 5 months ago (probably 7 months)- and now,- I have met the love of my life.
    Last night, he told me all of this after our dinner date and a drive.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому +1

      My pleasure! So glad this supported you :)

  • @therealfronzilla
    @therealfronzilla Рік тому

    I know for a fact, pull my finger, is one. Letting her into the circle of trust, it's a huge step. This is my smell woman, my gift for you and the generations that will come from our coupling

  • @judypruitt7729
    @judypruitt7729 10 місяців тому +1

    Was so helpful!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  10 місяців тому

      Glad it was helpful! 🤗

  • @childofgod8365
    @childofgod8365 Рік тому

    Mine did not just ask how he can help me but went ahead and booked a hair appointment for me...
    He has said he has so much fun with me.
    He wants to show me off to his people and friends
    Number 4 yes we have talked about it. We both have kids and we just want to have fun with our children.
    He asks everyone day how I am feeling.
    He wants to know why I feel like that especially stress in the office.
    He said I make him feel whole. Complete.
    So now that he has passed all the above, am supposed to take it seriously although I had promised myself not to fall in a relationship again. God have mercy.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

  • @ritab85
    @ritab85 Рік тому +1

    My ex wanted to introduce me to his friends by organizing a drinking event where I would have been the only woman and he also warned me that they usually drink until they don't even know what they are doing and I would have to drive him home and leave him alone for the following two days because this is how long his hangover usually lasts. So I don't think introducing the woman to his friends is always a sign of love.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      That's hilarious! It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new Rita❤️

  • @Mom.mia99
    @Mom.mia99 Рік тому +2

    Interesting! I have few men express this feelings to me. I never knew they’ve falling for me. 🙃💙

  • @yousrasinsights7716
    @yousrasinsights7716 2 роки тому +4

    Just thinking of these statements makes me feel loved

  • @annmoore8696
    @annmoore8696 Рік тому +1

    Mat I want to thank you! Because since I have been listening to you, I See everything So much Clearer ❤️ So Thank You 😊

  • @marthawoodworth
    @marthawoodworth Рік тому +1

    Within the first half hour of meeting and talking at a party, my man who would be my soul mate husband of twenty-five years, he knew I was the One, and I knew he was, too. For me, it's always been about "love at first sight." It has always worked for me, but I am lucky because I have a great s---t detector. When I like a man I let him in and basically - that's it!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      I appreciate your opinion on this!

    • @latinaalma1947
      @latinaalma1947 Рік тому +1

      Lucky you....I finally got lucky the same way and it lasted 41 fabulous years. He passed away several mos ago. I am getting out and meeting new people since all our friends were couples.

  • @icysnow57cold64
    @icysnow57cold64 11 місяців тому +1

    I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other.
    Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
    Women tend to be more emotionally intelligent, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind-hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way. Women regulate emotion better.
    Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. Also, girls that are friends touch each other in ways that guys just don’t.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 місяців тому

      Thanks for sharing! 🤗

  • @kimmichaud4064
    @kimmichaud4064 2 роки тому +5

    Good grief I've been with the same man going on three years and he's never said any of these

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      Don’t give up on your love sister!

  • @sampreetisen3093
    @sampreetisen3093 Рік тому +1

    It's been a little more than 8 months. We are exclusive and have a lot kf fun together. His actions points towards love. He sends me food when I am sick. He loves staying up late with me just listening to music. But, he hasn't used the L word yet.

  • @Hawaiiansky11
    @Hawaiiansky11 Рік тому +2

    Specific Question: What do men mean when they say, "You make me feel like a man?" One man told me that a long time ago, who I believe genuinely loved me. Decades later, another man said it to me but I later realized he was a user / exploiter. I'm glad I have that impact on a man, but what does it mean?

    • @SarcasticPixie
      @SarcasticPixie Рік тому

      I would look up characteristics of men and that should give you the answer. For the most part they like to feel like the protector and the provider. Someone who solves your problems and keeps you safe. So you must have allowed them to feel this way. Some men complain if a woman is too independent…that makes them feel like “less of a man” because they’re not sure what role to play if they feel like you don’t need them.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 місяців тому

      Thanks for sharing!

  • @LauraV315
    @LauraV315 Рік тому +1

    I thought I’d never get to this space with a man, but I have…and it’s wonderful. Great video and very true. My boyfriend says I ground him and make him feel at home ❤. I love it when he says it. He makes me feel safe and loved in return.
    Thanks for this video🙌🏽🫶🏽.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      Oh wow! So happy for you my dear! Thanks for sharing Laura❤️

  • @annebrown6856
    @annebrown6856 Рік тому +1

    Great video lovely clear instructions very smart man makes sense 💜

  • @deborahtamez3150
    @deborahtamez3150 Рік тому +2

    My ex said ALL these to me, plus I was the best thing that EVER happened to him..then he tried hitting on my best friend right in front of me and HER boyfriend 🤯 after that, he got distant, critical and judgemental of me and turned all the vulnerability I gave to him against me😞 he said he used me and I was just an option at the time..he was always talking about how bad his exes were, but I was different..just don't get it..made me very angry and naive..I believe that actions speak louder than words..you can say whatever you want to get what you want for that moment, but I realize now, i fell for a narcissistic sociopath that only loves money, the mirror and thinks he's Hugh Hefner 🙄

    • @vitaminhead1465
      @vitaminhead1465 Рік тому

      You deserve better

    • @SarcasticPixie
      @SarcasticPixie Рік тому

      Yes narcissists are tricky. I was married to one for over 5 years. They change from this fake amazing person to their real slimy selves so slowly that you don’t realize how much has changed and how horrible they are until you finally break away and have time to process and look back on it with a clear head. It’s literally insane how different the guy was when I first met him compared to when I really knew who he was.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому +1

      I promise there are good guys out there my dear!

  • @paiggee
    @paiggee Рік тому +1

    Ouch... the realisation that I've not actually been loved by a man in my past relationships 😂
    maybe 2023 will be my lucky year for love 🤞

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      Don’t give up on love sister! Love lots🙏❤️

  • @EmilyGloeggler7984
    @EmilyGloeggler7984 9 місяців тому

    I had stalkers say these things to me and it is just as disgusting and repugnant. Ladies, as the old saying goes “Never trust a stranger man. No one knows how it will end. As you are pretty, so be wise.. wolves may lurk in any guise. Now as then, it’s simple truth - The sweetest tongue can have the sharpest tooth.”

  • @suzieburnette1677
    @suzieburnette1677 2 роки тому +14

    I know that God has sent this man to me, for me...it’s all a matter of time that we can actually start our lives together...

  • @amycarter8497
    @amycarter8497 Рік тому

    I’m not really looking for any of this advice Mat. Stayed for the ride and it was fun and enlightening! Btw: you’re adorable

  • @tonyam7004
    @tonyam7004 Рік тому +3

    I have a relationship building (for a short time now) through social media, So needless to say we haven't met in person only texts and pictures... It's enthralling but slightly overwhelming that our connection seems to be so strong so quickly... The brief time we've known one another he is already said each of the 7 and more ❤️... At my age it's quite surprising that a man could fall for me and I could fall for him... I tend to be an overthinker and so I'm worried I'm dreaming... Can a man truly fall so deeply for a woman the way he seems to have fallen for me...

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      Thanks so much for your feedback!

    • @zaboomafooba
      @zaboomafooba Рік тому +1

      Tonya, I would be wary of any connection that seems to be unusually intense or very strong over a short period of time. Chances are that a very rapid intense attachment doesn't have healthy roots. I would recommend looking up "limerence" and learning a bit about that and considering if that might be relevant to your situation. I personally like how "Crappy childhood fairy" on youtube discusses this.
      I'd also say that if your gut is giving you the question of "is it too good to be true?" and the experience is slightly overwhelming, these are signals not to be ignored. It's valuable and useful information.
      Hoping for your well-being and safety. You've got this.

  • @cynthiahanson-darwish8373
    @cynthiahanson-darwish8373 2 роки тому +5

    I would like to subscribe to your free course coming up in February

    • @hawaiigirl8089
      @hawaiigirl8089 2 роки тому

      Click the link & there’s a simple questionaire

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +1

      yesss come on in! www.masteryofconnection.com :)

  • @pedrodavidgonzalezmorales5088
    @pedrodavidgonzalezmorales5088 Рік тому +3

    Me a gay man realizing i say these to my friends, but in a romance setting i never get them haha...

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      I appreciate your opinion on this!

  • @lisa-pz2px
    @lisa-pz2px Рік тому

    Idk why I'm watching this im a year and a half into my relationship w this man who loves me to bits

  • @RissaFaith94
    @RissaFaith94 Рік тому +1

    Well, thanks for the double-dose of validation and terror that comes with realizing that my guy is well on his way through this countdown. 😂 (Not all the way to #1 yet, but getting pretty close.)

  • @yathome5596
    @yathome5596 Рік тому +2

    Great info but these 7 dot points will only be said by a man who has the emotional maturity necessary. Many men seem to be of the belief that expressing their feelings in an open honest way is a sign of weakness.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      I appreciate your opinion on this! Thanks for sharing Yathome🙌❤️

  • @SarcasticPixie
    @SarcasticPixie Рік тому

    Awe. My fiancé has said some form of all of these, and I didn’t realize how special they were.

  • @crystaldance5731
    @crystaldance5731 3 місяці тому

    I’ve never had anyone ask me those questions they just vanish 😊❤️

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 місяці тому

      I promise there are good guys out there my dear!

  • @elenasreide9529
    @elenasreide9529 Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much! These words are just what i needed to know🥰. What about 7 things woman say when they are falling inlove with you?

  • @wanjirukarago9308
    @wanjirukarago9308 2 роки тому +17

    Women prefer actions than words show what you can offer don't just say 😂...we have been told we are tired its time to be shown

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому +1

      Interesting perspective, thanks so much!

    • @grimmgirl
      @grimmgirl Рік тому

      Words are everything if they are sincere. Relationships with men who don’t talk or express themselves are dreadful.

  • @58_shilpa.e30
    @58_shilpa.e30 Рік тому +2

    My friend, he says some of the things you mentioned but he said I'm his best friend forever..... 🙄🙄
    He's always ready to help at any time
    He was urging me to come to his home to meet his mom
    Whenever I feel sad and shared to him.. even after two days he asks how are you feeling and how's it going...he makes me feel not to have feelings on it.
    He also says that he's happy to talk to me on phone and chat with me...
    He also shares every single things or problems of him...
    He even asked one day what kind of guy do you want to marry?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому +1

      so sweet thanks for sharing! its a great connection

  • @bre9708
    @bre9708 Рік тому +1

    Realizing I’m the one that does all these things 😂

  • @reemsaif3105
    @reemsaif3105 Рік тому

    For all the ladies who don't have that yet its good to write those on your list.

  • @Xereszone
    @Xereszone Рік тому

    Tick all the boxes but still too scared to confess.

  • @tanyaklawitter877
    @tanyaklawitter877 2 роки тому +4

    Thanks for this..it brings up sad but fantastic memories but if I didnt suffer the loss I wouldnt of meet my newer diamond and happy again and its yet again because if you

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +1

    • @tanyaklawitter877
      @tanyaklawitter877 2 роки тому

      @@Mat_Shaffer can a guy be to in his feminine side without being gay?
      He dont mind gays as long as they dont touch him or look his way.

  • @Scotch1004
    @Scotch1004 Рік тому

    I must be doing something wrong in all my years I've never met a guy who has asked these questions or anything similar. Does that mean no man has fallen for me ever?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      I promise there are good guys out there my dear! Don't lose hope. :)

  • @RayneDripTarot
    @RayneDripTarot 5 місяців тому

    I love your content. I am super interested in the course you mentioned. Is that still something that you are offering?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 місяців тому

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.

  • @pricesunbury59
    @pricesunbury59 5 місяців тому

    My man and I have only been dating for 4 months. He has ask how can he help by fixing breakfast to bring to me in bed. He has said that he has soo much fun with me, we laugh alot and I try to think of fun things to do. We have already talked about our future together. Yes he has ask me that when I,'ve been upset or something else is going on. He does ask me alot. He makes me vwry happy.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 місяців тому

      AMAZING love that share!!:)

  • @Angela-bo8qm
    @Angela-bo8qm 2 роки тому +17

    I'm from Germany, for a few months I've been in contact with an American, several times a week we skype, write to each other or have phone calls. American men talk differently than German men. I heard most of the sentences from your video from "my" American. I'm curious how it goes on😊

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +5

      aw YAY so glad your guy is opening up to you... sounds like your american boy likes you ;) good luck!

    • @Angela-bo8qm
      @Angela-bo8qm 2 роки тому +1

      @@Mat_Shaffer Thanks so much Mat!!!

    • @user-jk4jj4nm1q
      @user-jk4jj4nm1q 2 роки тому

      How would you say German men show affection? Is it less through words?

    • @Angela-bo8qm
      @Angela-bo8qm 2 роки тому +1

      @@user-jk4jj4nm1q Most German men are not great love talkers. They tell you that they love you and that they think you're great, but they don't tell you too much. Of course there are exceptions. They show you in one way or another that you mean something to them. But they are miles away from the 7 things a man says according to Mat.

    • @bbutterfly36
      @bbutterfly36 2 роки тому +1

      @@Angela-bo8qm agreed...they're more about the things they do rather than words....then when they do say things, they mean every word they say. No bs with them. I find majority of men in north America are all talk.

  • @kortnihernandez4222
    @kortnihernandez4222 Рік тому

    Awww, my boo loves me 🥰 That warms my heart.

  • @heatherhj2011
    @heatherhj2011 Рік тому +1

    Confirmed 👍 No Man has ever loved me! LoL

  • @donnabunch5784
    @donnabunch5784 Рік тому

    Thank you Matt for sharing this video

  • @Rebander1549
    @Rebander1549 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for this information! My wife wishes she heard this before we married 👰.

  • @btstakescareofmewhenimsick4892
    @btstakescareofmewhenimsick4892 2 роки тому +17

    Buuuulllshiiiit. My ex said all that to me, and broke up with me last week saying he loves me, but he is not in love with me

  • @jennysay1993
    @jennysay1993 Рік тому

    I feel 110 after listening to this, because my man said all of the above. Thank you for the reaffirm. 😊🤗 I’m gonna go on. Have a great day today and every day. 😄😄😆😆

  • @toyadiinae9800
    @toyadiinae9800 Рік тому

    I'd just like to know a woman's take on how to know if a woman is falling for a man, because what a man typically WANTS a woman to show/say that makes him think she's in love with him versus what a woman actually does typically never line up with each other. So, he's always wondering is she's sincere and if he really can trust her.

    • @SarcasticPixie
      @SarcasticPixie Рік тому

      I think men get confused because women are taught not to ever be rude, to smile all the time (men will even order us to smile when passing on the street…it’s so bizarre), and to be careful not to hurt others’ feelings. We’re labeled a “bitch” often if we don’t follow these rules. Because of this I think it can make it a lot harder for you guys to know when we’re truly interested, because you wrongly assume women are subtle like you are (so you try to read between the lines and you see things that aren’t there).
      Women are much more open with their emotions (because they aren’t shamed out of them from an early age by being told toxic garbage like “stop acting like a little girl” or “be a man”). So we don’t beat around the bush like a man does. We will literally say “I love you.” And we will initiate hanging out. You can definitely tell when a woman is in love, so if you have to wonder then it means she’s not there yet or may never be.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      Don’t give up on love sister!

  • @rebel_squad8025
    @rebel_squad8025 Рік тому +1

    Im just here to know how to HIDE my feelings from someone I know I’ll never be with

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      Love can be hard to find, but when it comes to you, you can either accept it or ignore it. 🙌❤️

    • @shanna1138
      @shanna1138 Рік тому

      Never say never. You never truly know if you don’t go for it. I hope you get the relationship that you desire.

  • @nardabramer
    @nardabramer Рік тому +1

    My crush is asking all the right questions according to this video but he hasn’t said he likes me but I know he expressed to me he is scared of telling girls he likes them because he is afraid of rejection. I wanna tell him I like him or ask if there’s an interest… help !

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

    • @Human1136
      @Human1136 Рік тому

      Guy sounds like me

  • @christinapeng678
    @christinapeng678 Рік тому

    now i know he doesnt love me,he just wants the convenient and what he gets from me😢everytime i talk about my feelings he always answered me with" youre crazy and so dramatic"

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      I promise there are still good guys out there my dear!

  • @BeccaL2016
    @BeccaL2016 2 роки тому

    I got your email about your Bosco! Sorry for your loss! Myself has a 13 years old poodle mix, I know how it feels! He is resting in doggie heaven now 🦋🙏🏼

  • @jammiedodge9222
    @jammiedodge9222 Рік тому

    Well I guess I have only one man that I chat with often that actually says only one or maybe 2 or 3 of those 7 things. Unfortunately our lives and that chance for love has gone and passed us on up many years ago. He's happily married and a daddy of 2 little kiddos. But I do value his friendship and yeah whatever that other thing is

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      That's amazing love my dear mazel tov

  • @kellyismond9351
    @kellyismond9351 5 місяців тому

    Good job

  • @graceverolania5142
    @graceverolania5142 Рік тому +1

    I’m sorry, but just a general opinion. I don’t think this happens to every guy(?) met This person who did 5 out of 7 signs, so yk what I mean. But then this person also said “I don’t wanna be in a relationship for now” and not a fast responding person. So how can I know?

  • @evalinesasheenemelgar1380
    @evalinesasheenemelgar1380 Рік тому +1

    He is asking me all those questions because he is a life coach seeing me as a potential client.😂

  • @mimio6
    @mimio6 Рік тому +3

    Hey Mat, nearly 14 years of relationship and I m yet to bn listen some of the lines. Could it be that I love more compared to what I receive?

  • @cheryla33
    @cheryla33 Рік тому +1

    My boyfriend did every single one of these!