Ignore toxic people at all gave me a power over them!!! Make them feel little and unimportant!! ❤Love your videos, how I wish I get round this video before I even know this kind of Pest of Societies.
Great content, as usual. When Stoics engage others it's suggested not to act in a selfish or ego-driven manner while some would even speculate that avoiding evil is also a worthy goal when engaging the sensibilities of difficult people. Pushing people one way or another has built-in risks that can be completely unknown, even with the best intentions.
I'm going to try staring in peoples eyes more and utter less words. The pregnant pause, the looking at my watch. "Ill get back to you", and don't. Change my phone number with the first time they jump or try to jump my boundary. My peace is number 1.
I had to watch this one. You know the saddest thing about certain people vis they eventually kill the goose that lays the golden egg. Not because they're stupid, but because they're disconnected. And they're often the most courageous, intelligent people! That's why arguing with them often is impossible and they bring out your aggressive side. My boyfriend's ex twice attacked him with a knife. The 2nd time he was lucky to live. To his credit he refused to give evidence to put his ex away, because of the children. But he's something else.I must need this *ucking challenge!😂
Stay calm when they are trying to upset you. Have a statement ready in your head. State it as a boundary. Be firm. Not yelling. " I know you are upset but you will not make it my problem." Then walk away. You will have to do it over and over and over. But you will be better off.
I feel that in my relationship the narcissist the one that truly has abused me with his words throughout time the one had the one who has Honestly made me question my own judgments making myself think that I'm the narcissist and I'm the manipulator he's so well trained on being a narcissist I feel as if I've become like him
It seems like I'm under constant scrutiny talked about hollering finger pointing im trying hard to keep silently as of now I have no support using doesn't help constantly. judge God made us equal gave all I could for twenty years im sandy I'm hurting and Im angry I do have boundaries 😢
When I go no contact, I’m accused of being a narcissist doing a narcissistic dump. What is it discard? That’s the word accusing me of doing a discard makes me just like them.
Go no contact, they try to get attention. When you ignore them, get on with your life, they find ways of tormenting you to get attention. Spray weedkiller over plants, take parcels from your doorstep, take bird food from your bird feeders. Neighbours make strange noises that annoy you, such as low bass sounds. Leave them on when they are out. Wake you at night with sounds that come from a speaker on their side of the wall or ceiling. What is a person being pursued by the narcissist meant to do?
Biggest narcissist. Is my older brother . I have my own fab shop. , plus another shop he wanted to split rent on . I help him doung metal work for him . Nothing in return . Hasnt paid his rent share for months yet thinks he has most authority over it , complain my sons truck is in the way . Yet his shit is always in the way , and i pay employees to move his shit around to access my stock some times . He wants wants wants , and take take take . When i get upset. Or bring it up . To start the unfairness of this deal. He cant understand why im angry? . Yet if ut was the other way around . I would never get away with it
What happens when you don’t have supportive people. What happens when the narcissist is your “wife”, who you share 2 young kids with and don’t want to lose your family? The answer can be expensive!
I’m here for answers too. My child’s father (whom I’m still in a relationship with) deems me to be a narcissist and KNOW DAMN WELL IT AINT ME…what shall I do??
She is so miserable and she has turned everyone who is beside her into her. 7 years no contact. The Golden child is a complete shadow of himself keeps going in and out of jail and has never held down a job and the invisible child is still seeking her validation till date and still never getting it and she became exactly like the narcissist herself. Bottomless pits. I choose my peace over chaos. Good riddance to bad rubbish
What nobody's mentioning is there some people who never did drugs or alcohol freely take drugs and advice from their drug Pusher doctors and it affects their brain and their hormones. Then some people are drinking coffee all the time and they think it doesn't affect their personality some people even food is a drug like pasta. Try to understand what these things do to you good to know yourself and what other people around you are going to their own hormones people will forget what you say and remember how you made them feel isn't that disgusting.
I learned how to be calm. But he just takes more advantage of me . And prolongs the not paying rent and get more shit for free . Takes what ever he wants when hes here
Sir my wife is a narcisissist she made my life hell , she has ruined my life physically , mentally , spirituality and financially , i am totally broken , I am suffering alone and excepting my death .
@babukhan. My brother & his wife did exact same to me. However I listened to Joel Osteen sermons on Utube and am well on my way to recovery PLEASE DONT LET HER DO THIS TO YOU. THEREis A WAY OUT!!!! God will make the way for you. I PROMISE THIS IS TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
“ Punish” is a poor choice of words. This video instead, talks about ways to set boundaries and make good decisions. Revenge and making them hurt is not a stoic tenant.
Ignore toxic people at all gave me a power over them!!! Make them feel little and unimportant!! ❤Love your videos, how I wish I get round this video before I even know this kind of Pest of Societies.
Yes! Thank you!
Applause! 🎉 On Point! ☝️
No contact. They never change
Exactly this ... Unfortunately ...
I am 49 years old am just now fully accepting the truth of your statement.
Dam right 🙌🏾💯💯💯
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
SO true!
Great content, as usual. When Stoics engage others it's suggested not to act in a selfish or ego-driven manner while some would even speculate that avoiding evil is also a worthy goal when engaging the sensibilities of difficult people. Pushing people one way or another has built-in risks that can be completely unknown, even with the best intentions.
Interesting..and I can understand that.
💯 Agree! Alcoholics are the "worst manipulative jerk offs" they feel so "entitled" 🤨
Wonderful advice. Thank you.
You are so welcome!
I'm going to try staring in peoples eyes more and utter less words. The pregnant pause, the looking at my watch. "Ill get back to you", and don't. Change my phone number with the first time they jump or try to jump my boundary. My peace is number 1.
Hell NO never again!
Run and learn so you call em out ❤❤❤❤
THANK YOU
Thank you ❤❤
You're welcome 😊
Thanks for the information 🙂👍
yes!
I had to watch this one. You know the saddest thing about certain people vis they eventually kill the goose that lays the golden egg. Not because they're stupid, but because they're disconnected. And they're often the most courageous, intelligent people! That's why arguing with them often is impossible and they bring out your aggressive side. My boyfriend's ex twice attacked him with a knife. The 2nd time he was lucky to live. To his credit he refused to give evidence to put his ex away, because of the children. But he's something else.I must need this *ucking challenge!😂
Stay calm when they are trying to upset you.
Have a statement ready in your head. State it as
a boundary. Be firm. Not yelling. " I know you are upset
but you will not make it my problem." Then walk away.
You will have to do it over and over and over. But you will be better off.
I feel that in my relationship the narcissist the one that truly has abused me with his words throughout time the one had the one who has Honestly made me question my own judgments making myself think that I'm the narcissist and I'm the manipulator he's so well trained on being a narcissist I feel as if I've become like him
Get out you never want the narcissist to make you like them.
It seems like I'm under constant scrutiny talked about hollering finger pointing im trying hard to keep silently as of now I have no support using doesn't help constantly. judge God made us equal gave all I could for twenty years im sandy I'm hurting and Im angry I do have boundaries 😢
When I go no contact, I’m accused of being a narcissist doing a narcissistic dump. What is it discard? That’s the word accusing me of doing a discard makes me just like them.
Go no contact, they try to get attention. When you ignore them, get on with your life, they find ways of tormenting you to get attention. Spray weedkiller over plants, take parcels from your doorstep, take bird food from your bird feeders. Neighbours make strange noises that annoy you, such as low bass sounds. Leave them on when they are out. Wake you at night with sounds that come from a speaker on their side of the wall or ceiling. What is a person being pursued by the narcissist meant to do?
Do not react ever.
A singer won’t sing if there’s no audience
Biggest narcissist. Is my older brother . I have my own fab shop. , plus another shop he wanted to split rent on . I help him doung metal work for him . Nothing in return . Hasnt paid his rent share for months yet thinks he has most authority over it , complain my sons truck is in the way . Yet his shit is always in the way , and i pay employees to move his shit around to access my stock some times . He wants wants wants , and take take take . When i get upset. Or bring it up . To start the unfairness of this deal. He cant understand why im angry? . Yet if ut was the other way around . I would never get away with it
What happens when you don’t have supportive people. What happens when the narcissist is your “wife”, who you share 2 young kids with and don’t want to lose your family? The answer can be expensive!
I’m here for answers too. My child’s father (whom I’m still in a relationship with) deems me to be a narcissist and KNOW DAMN WELL IT AINT ME…what shall I do??
Leave, it is better for your children.
Get help from a therapist
@@Weallareone10 that’s the easy answer. Step up the wisdom B!
We destroying the kids sad
Divorce,run,run,run
She is so miserable and she has turned everyone who is beside her into her. 7 years no contact. The Golden child is a complete shadow of himself keeps going in and out of jail and has never held down a job and the invisible child is still seeking her validation till date and still never getting it and she became exactly like the narcissist herself. Bottomless pits. I choose my peace over chaos. Good riddance to bad rubbish
Yes my brother is a sick 🤢 man been in prison because there’s no hospitals anymore sad ❤
I have a narcissistic sister.
I do too
Nice
Thanks
What nobody's mentioning is there some people who never did drugs or alcohol freely take drugs and advice from their drug Pusher doctors and it affects their brain and their hormones. Then some people are drinking coffee all the time and they think it doesn't affect their personality some people even food is a drug like pasta. Try to understand what these things do to you good to know yourself and what other people around you are going to their own hormones people will forget what you say and remember how you made them feel isn't that disgusting.
I learned how to be calm. But he just takes more advantage of me . And prolongs the not paying rent and get more shit for free . Takes what ever he wants when hes here
I thought this was how to deal with a narcissist, not what a narcissist. I’m looking for how to deal with someone who is one.
I don’t want to punish anybody
I pray for my ex wife narcissist to regain sanity only to go insane from normality.
I’ve been punished I done with this foolishness
Thay r evil.mine is .after 20years I left.theirs so much to say but I can’t say all of it.i don’t have time.all i can say is run run like hell.
I did
Narcissists run for office.
Sir my wife is a narcisissist she made my life hell , she has ruined my life physically , mentally , spirituality and financially , i am totally broken , I am suffering alone and excepting my death .
You won't die, you are worth being loved don't let yourself get gaslit into suicide because someone else hates himself and can't heal
It hurts very much. You never deserved that. Love yourself.
@babukhan.
My brother & his wife did exact same to me. However I listened to Joel Osteen sermons on Utube and am well on my way to recovery PLEASE DONT LET HER DO THIS TO YOU. THEREis A WAY OUT!!!! God will make the way for you. I PROMISE THIS IS TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have nothing to do with your hierarchy, and never will
“ Punish” is a poor choice of words. This video instead, talks about ways to set boundaries and make good decisions. Revenge and making them hurt is not a stoic tenant.
You must be a narcissist by just wanting to punish one. Is this a subliminal You needing punishment?
Haha you could be right!
I believe that was intended as a click bait statement.
Maybe, borderline.
When you have been through the pain of one, you won't care anymore
Too much emphases on professional help. Real strength is doing it on our own.
Thank you ❤
You're welcome 😊