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Been subscribed to your channel, newsletter, ESP and the MLC since June 2019. After a bitter echo breakup things are finally moving towards getting back together with my husband. I honestly wouldn’t have reached that point without your input 😊 For all of you guys who are still struggling: Focusing on the emotional connection does work. It should be intuitive, but after being broken up with we‘re normally so hurt that we can’t think straight initially. Clay, your work is golden. It helped me to get to where I am now. I am optimistic I‘ll be able to mail you a success story soon. Hang in there, all of you!
I hope you can also make a content about how to get your ex back when you have kids together when after no contact really works but he is in a rebound relationship, how to make him decide to chose you when you already started the communication again after no contact. And he made a way to communicate with you again. ❤️
I’ve broken up with men and if I left with the same thing I came in the relationship with that’s indication to me to me that I’m not going to regret nothing. I have never regretted leaving cause I always turned out better without them
I know my ex is regretting breaking up with me. He used to ignore my calls because we have children together. Now whn I call he answers and whn we talk he makes a lot of small talk and doesn't want to hang up. Whn he realizes he has missed a call he immediately calls. Whn I tell him I don't want something he does things tight. He calls me with endearing words. We broke up over a year ago.. Clay really helped pull me out of a dark place. Thanx for the videos.. 😏😏😏
My ex changed her profile picture for an old one of her on the beach on our holiday three years ago. She’s still checking my stories online too. I wonder if she’s dwelling and has any regret. Though she is stubborn and I doubt she would reach out. I’ve reached out too much and refuse to do so again at this stage. The ball is in her court now!
Only 1 sign, we worked together and we stopped seeing each other in November last year. Was in and out of contact until March as we had to communicate through work but left the company early March . Been 36 days no contact . Nothing but silence at the moment but she has asked a few people who I still speak to asking sneaky questions about me . New job and if the ‘situation’ has affected it. Not sure if this is a sign about regretting it .. this is the first time since we split that we’ve haven’t spoke , maybe the long overdue silence will finally give her the sense of loss as I was still always there . Thanks Clay for your continued posts throughout this ‘situation’
4v3dt Your 1 sign is actually quite a positive one in my opinion. My ex admitted to her mistakes, but since has removed me from her life completely again. At least your ex is talking about you. 😉 I recommend you continue to work on yourself, and maybe she’ll end up hearing about the new you in the future. 🙂
Clay Andrews Even though we both sort of ended it, it was her that steered in that direction. I wanted to make it work. It was very abrupt her actions so i just walked away at first. Her head was all over the place with anxiety and other things in her life. I was the one who would always initiate after the breakup when in the relationship she was . I’ve done too much chasing and know my worth, so unless she realises that and reaches out then no , I’ll stay in no contact for good.
She sounds like a narcissist. Look up signs of a narcissist and see if you connect any dots. You'd be surprised at how many people have narcissistic personality disorders.
Good choice man she just wants her cake and to eat someone else’s too now if you want to throw her back in rotation by all means but I wouldn’t just look at it as yeah well your new dude now is getting my left overs now he’s kissing her in places where you’ve been
I like the comments that say, if they left you, move on or if it requires this much thought, you're wasting your time and move on. That's kinda true but after you get burned in a relationship, you tend to self reflect and actually learn from the relationship. Everyone runs the calculations on relationships. Your ex did when they decided to move on from you. So could your ex get back together and leave you again? Absolutely but you run the same risk with a new person. They can leave you after a few months or years as well. I'm not saying wait and hold your life for your ex. You should obviously work on yourself and move on with your life. However, life has a funny way of working out sometimes and if by some chance in a few months or years, your paths cross again in person or via text, view as clean start. People make mistakes. They do and you do as well. If your ex reaches out to you, don't be so negative. It means they have put some thought into you and what they did and even though they could potentially have other motives, maybe they changed. I guess I'm saying don't ride off your ex down the road and some new man or woman isn't going to be a guarantee either. Do what makes you happy and go in positive with it.
Hi clay my ex is dating to new boyfriend after 2 days of our breakup , because i neglected her in realationship and took her for granted and the new guy is totally the opposite of me , i started reconnect with her after month of our breakup she said she is not allowed to talk to me our having chat online , but after a few days of nc she sometime do comment on my WhatsApp status now i asked her to block me online but she is not going to do that either i asked her to meeting up she has accepted that . What does it actually mean ?
My ex is confusing me, and I don’t understand why he is doing the things he’s doing. I know that he does like another girl, and today he saw me get sad about it and immediately went in to hug me and wouldn’t let me let go of the hug. He kept looking between my eyes and my lips which I found odd. He’s done that a bit now, he’ll pull me into hugs and won’t let me let go. Or yesterday when I suggested he do something important that he’s been procrastinating on for his sister or his mother he asked if he could do it for me. But he says he likes this other girl, but these actions aren’t just friendly. Why?
He is seeing you as a backup in case the new girl fails, he know he has you and by doing this you will be emotionally available to him. Best thing, get into no contact and stop seeing him. Tell him not to hug you like that because you two aren't together anymore. Don't let him feel that you are available to him all the time.
The care will always be there since you two shared important moments with each other. Right now, the attraction towards you is being blocked by emotions that were caused by the issues in your relationship that you both failed to address. You need to set healthy boundaries first so you don't end up being his doormat or the side chick.
Why did my ex ask to remain friends, but has been ignoring me since the break up in January? I only contacted him once back in March asking how he was weathering the pandemic. Thank you for your reply.
Hi @Secure Connection , there are some who would resort to friendship just to lessen their emotions during the breakup. They may be open to the idea of friendship but we have to consider that they would also need the time and space to process their emotions.
Hi clay. My ex said that it was because of my mother . She’s a real nightmare and totally traumatised him gaslighted him (and she’s been doing it my whole life). So I kicked her out of my life forever. How do I win him back he’s been my best friend forever
We have different life goals. I told him we should take some time off. We decided to stay as friends. I come to find he cheated since 4 months ago anyway. But he never really stopped talking to me. I blocked him. I came to his profile just for curiosity and he changed his cover photo to something directed straight to me. I am afraid of going back and looking now.
I'm sorry to hear about what happened, Claudia. We understand that this must be tough on you. If you feel that the person that you intend to go back with does not fit your personal values, it's totally fine if you would reorganize your priorities. We are still here at your side. Sending more positive energies on your end.
He’s right about this. I broke up with my ex about three years ago and I still regret it. There’s some advice out there about how to get over a break up or how to get your ex back if they dumped you. But no one really tells you how to fix it if you dump them and you regret it.
It's been 8months since he broke up with me but when i try to reconnect he refuse to talk to me.. What is that means sir clay? But im ok now. i just want to chat him just to return all my stuff.
I'm sorry to hear about what happened. It seems like your ex may not be emotionally ready to communicate yet Even though you are okay and in a better emotional place, your ex may need to warm himself up to open himself emotionally to open his doors of communication with you.
I tried the no contact for three days. Unfortunately. On the fourth day, i called her. I really don’t know why she freaked out. She even said that, i must respect boundaries etc. i will not call her actually but on that fourth day, i remembered that she told me to call her if i need something
Clay Andrews , thank you for answering. Btw, last week, she posted something about letting me go and that was the best decision she can do for herself. Then, after freaking out last week, she texted me and asking for forgiveness. She message me in ig, one in messenger, 10 in whatsapp and 2 miscalls. Btw, I didn’t answer her calls. And also the messages are still hanging. I was only able to see the first part coz it pop up from the messages. I unfollow her in ig. My messenger is muted for he but she sent me one message. Actually, she was on her way home and thought of dropping by to my place. Until now, I haven’t opened her messages. May I know the meaning of what she is up to? I know that she is happy right now. I guess it’s only her conscience who is driving her crazy that’s why she is doing that. What will I do? Thank you and more power. Stay safe
Hi Clay thank you for your videos, hope you can help... we've been split since February and it was mutual as we were letting external things in our personal lives interfere and were arguing, we have been in contact and stayed friends after I tried no contact but she kept messaging me, we've even slept together a few times since the split which I know can be a bad idea....we good friends before the relationship as she has issues in her life which I have helped her through and have continued to do so since the breakup... but recently during this "situation" we well be texting fine then she will try and find something I've said and twist it and flip out at me and tell me she's had enough and needs distance were not together anymore when I haven't mentioned anything about being together, why would she be trying to look for things in what I say halfway through a good normal friendly conversation to twist and tell me to leave her alone? Thank you in advance! and keep up the content whenever I have a bad moment I watch a video of yours and it gives me the strength to keep pushing!!
My ex literally tells everyone that I'm amazing but that we just don't see things the same. So what would that mean? Could he eventually regret it even though he's so adamant that we wouldn't work. Even though I gave him multiple reasons why and he shut them all down and said it's too late.
Same kinda thing happened to me...my ex confided in his brother telling him that i am so amazing so why shouldn’t he be with me yet for some reason we still ended. His brother told me this and also reached out to me telling me him and my ex also had a convo about how the breakup was a big mistake...... all of this YET I’ve been 6 weeks no contact now and he’s in a rebound still going on 3 months. My ex’s excuse was “some things just can’t be fixed” or “i just can’t”
Move on. Some of you women remain so stagnant on a dude who ain't for you that you forget to take care of yourselves. Someonesout there that will think everything about you is amazing and wont hesitate to make that clear.
Your ex may have his own reasons why he thinks the relationship wouldn't work and this brings emotions with it. When he says you are not seeing things the same, he meant that you aren't aligned emotionally and you aren't seeing what he is seeing. He probably seeing your hidden agenda which is why he keeps on blocking them.
@@Iwant2BHipster Your ex may not know how to fix it- how to get the emotional connection back. Although he knows it was a mistake, for him, it's easier to get with a rebound than heal and work on what should be worked on. If you can slowly show him how to heal and start the relationship with you anew, he might consider getting back together possible.
@@PhuccinAyee Yes that's true. It's not all women though. Both men and women get into a fused relationship that they lose their identity- individuality when in the relationship. This starts the downfall of that relationship.
Hi Clay, my ex told me that he has a lot of unpleasant feelings / memories towards us especially at the end of the r/s. How do I get him to heal from the break up so that we can build the emotioanl connection? I have done my part on the active no contact and am still continuing. But I have a lot of resistance from him. Yet he's alos abit hot and cold cause he says that us texting all day feels like we're dating again and he deosn't want to go back to there.
Hi Kaili, I'm sorry that you are struggling with this. But it's good that you and your ex can talk about those matters. I understand that you may want to help your ex heal but remember that healing is a personal process. We can be a good support system for the person but we have to look after ith our own process as well.
@@ClayAndrews hi clay my ex is traumatised by my mother (she’s gaslighting him) ... how do I get him back I am refusing to have any contact with my mother
Well if someone could answer me? My ex came back after 9 months of no contact and when we went for dinner or just to hang around, well...he was very touching, hugging me like 2 whole minutes, hugging me from my hips and soooo on. Is that even normal? He was also asking me (when he started talking to me again) he asked me directly if I was seeing someone buuut idk. My best friend told me he just wanted sex that’s all. And I don’t know I mean being so physical with someone XD
Also, he said sorry for what happened and why it didn’t work out (placing all the blame on him and so on) and then, seeing all this, I asked him 3 months later (because he and I kept seeing each other and talking to each other 3 months) that what were his intentions and if he was (literally) trying to start again and get back together? And he said that NO not his intention at all, and I was like (in my mind) lol you’ve been giving me all these signs and you say no? Can’t understand
Hi Clay, My ex broke no contact after 3 months. I have been focusing on myself and my goals in that time. Out of the blue about a week ago, I received a “hey” text. I didn’t reply right away because I was busy at the time. About 10 minutes later, I received another text that said, “I just wanted to see what you were up to, but okay.” I finally messaged back. After a few texts, she ended the conversation saying, “Well, I will let you get back to work, I just wanted to say hey.” The next day, the same thing. This continued 4 days. On Friday, she sent one saying, “I’m sorry for the heartache I put you through. I left you with no closure. I was selfish. I didn’t consider anyone’s feelings but my own. I’m really sorry and I hope you know that. This was on my heart today.” I told her I really appreciated her saying that with a 💜 (her favorite color), and she replied with “Welcome with a 💙 (my favorite color). I never heard from her over the weekend and haven’t heard from her since. This has me a bit confused. What say you?
My ex reached out to me 2 weeks ago, saying she felt like she left abruptly and didn't give me a chance to speak. I said I did though, I told you how we should move fwd, I didn't want to break up etc. She replied she figured she's not healed from her past relationship. She reached out twice after that. I asked her what was her real intention for calling & what she wants because I'm an intentional man. She said: "I'm focusing on me right now, I'm just doing me". I said ok. Her: What is it that you want? I felt manipulated at that moment. We haven't spoken since. And I'm just tired. Like she already knows she's in my plans, I can't decide for you. If you don't want me, leave me entirely.
Really anyone that puts this much thought onto their ex needs to just move on. It's kind of pathetic to keep going after someone that doesn't wanna be with you anymore. And if they are a narcissist then your better off without them and there is no changing them. If they regretted dumping you they'd be back with you. Trust me, find someone new. Your ex is your ex for a reason.
Remind yourself this when you breakup with someone and regret doing it. Sometimes people get too caught up in the moment and make rash decisions, like a breakup. This doesn't mean you HAVE to call an end to everything. Sometimes, relationships can be fixed, it depends on the context and circumstances
WHY ARE YOU HERE THEN??? Dude, do ourselves a favor and just shut up. You dont know the reason of the break up, and you shouldn't judge people why they want to get their ex back. You telling us to move on and forget about our ex DOESN'T HELP.
@@MistSGM I'm here to make fun of people like you. The only reason you should go backwards is if you were the one that fucked up the relationship and if you truly felt like you left a good person. How old are you and how long were you together. I guarantee I'm much older than you and might have good advice actually. You might just be too afraid to move forward, trust me if they had no problem moving on them they don't care as much as you do. Like I said unless you cheated or were abusive or annoying in some way.
@@manicmurph you must have a lot of time on your hands making fun of broken people wanting to fix their own relationships. How about go do something productive for once instead of insulting someone on the goddamn internet
@@MistSGM learn how to type little kid it's "do yourself a favor" not do ourselves. How am I supposed to do "ourselves" a favor? 😂. Just what I thought a little kid who got their heart broken and isn't smart enough to move on. Quit simping.
hello good afternoon in my personal opinion now at days you might think that they sincerely do regret breaking up with you or miss you but believe me i dont say this to be an ass or a dick but truthfully they dont and if they do come back its probably because it didnt work out with the other guy i dont know its probably just me but i havent had luck like that they contact me or something they really show that they give a shit about anybody else
Hi Clay thank you for your videos, hope you can help... we've been split since February and it was mutual as we were letting external things in our personal lives interfere and were arguing, we have been in contact and stayed friends after I tried no contact but she kept messaging me, we've even slept together a few times since the split which I know can be a bad idea....we were good friends before the relationship as she has issues in her life which I have helped her through and have continued to do so since the breakup... but recently during this "situation" we will be texting fine then she will try and find something I've said and twist it and flip out at me and tell me she's had enough, needs distance and were not together anymore when I haven't mentioned anything about being together, why would she be trying to look for things in what I say halfway through a good normal friendly conversation to twist and tell me to leave her alone? Thank you in advance! and keep up the content whenever I have a bad moment I watch a video of yours and it gives me the strength to keep pushing!!
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Been subscribed to your channel, newsletter, ESP and the MLC since June 2019. After a bitter echo breakup things are finally moving towards getting back together with my husband. I honestly wouldn’t have reached that point without your input 😊
For all of you guys who are still struggling: Focusing on the emotional connection does work. It should be intuitive, but after being broken up with we‘re normally so hurt that we can’t think straight initially. Clay, your work is golden. It helped me to get to where I am now. I am optimistic I‘ll be able to mail you a success story soon. Hang in there, all of you!
Thank you so much @Stay Tingleliscious Hope things are all well on your journey. We are truly rooting for your happiness. :-)
I hope you can also make a content about how to get your ex back when you have kids together when after no contact really works but he is in a rebound relationship, how to make him decide to chose you when you already started the communication again after no contact. And he made a way to communicate with you again. ❤️
I’ve broken up with men and if I left with the same thing I came in the relationship with that’s indication to me to me that I’m not going to regret nothing. I have never regretted leaving cause I always turned out better without them
Sounds like it lol
Same
I know my ex is regretting breaking up with me. He used to ignore my calls because we have children together. Now whn I call he answers and whn we talk he makes a lot of small talk and doesn't want to hang up. Whn he realizes he has missed a call he immediately calls. Whn I tell him I don't want something he does things tight. He calls me with endearing words. We broke up over a year ago.. Clay really helped pull me out of a dark place. Thanx for the videos.. 😏😏😏
You are most welcome. I'm glad my videos have helped you turn things around.
Wow, all of your videos tell me we're dead in the water. 💔
Hi Michelle, We are happy to hear that ou videos had resonated with you. :-)
My ex changed her profile picture for an old one of her on the beach on our holiday three years ago. She’s still checking my stories online too. I wonder if she’s dwelling and has any regret. Though she is stubborn and I doubt she would reach out. I’ve reached out too much and refuse to do so again at this stage. The ball is in her court now!
You are a sweet person I could tell through your face ...Anyway thanks 😊
You're welcome, Linda. :-) Hope you enjoyed watching our videos.
yes I am and thanks again and be safe 😘
Only 1 sign, we worked together and we stopped seeing each other in November last year. Was in and out of contact until March as we had to communicate through work but left the company early March . Been 36 days no contact . Nothing but silence at the moment but she has asked a few people who I still speak to asking sneaky questions about me . New job and if the ‘situation’ has affected it. Not sure if this is a sign about regretting it .. this is the first time since we split that we’ve haven’t spoke , maybe the long overdue silence will finally give her the sense of loss as I was still always there .
Thanks Clay for your continued posts throughout this ‘situation’
4v3dt Your 1 sign is actually quite a positive one in my opinion.
My ex admitted to her mistakes, but since has removed me from her life completely again. At least your ex is talking about you. 😉
I recommend you continue to work on yourself, and maybe she’ll end up hearing about the new you in the future. 🙂
You are welcome. Are you going to wait for her to reach out to you first? Or do you think you are ready to reach out to her soon?
Clay Andrews Even though we both sort of ended it, it was her that steered in that direction. I wanted to make it work. It was very abrupt her actions so i just walked away at first. Her head was all over the place with anxiety and other things in her life. I was the one who would always initiate after the breakup when in the relationship she was . I’ve done too much chasing and know my worth, so unless she realises that and reaches out then no , I’ll stay in no contact for good.
@@ddt4v3 Amen to that. NO MORE CHASING! People just aren't worth all that and it just makes you look and feel stupid. No no no!
Are you Gemini ?
My ex literally tells me how great her new bf is but once to be my friend that’s crazy to me (I had to block her)
Travis Chase that is hella rude! I hope you’re okay
She sounds like a narcissist. Look up signs of a narcissist and see if you connect any dots. You'd be surprised at how many people have narcissistic personality disorders.
Manic Murph tbh I find it funny because if she was really happy she wouldn’t have bothered me at all
@@1travischase right same here
Good choice man she just wants her cake and to eat someone else’s too now if you want to throw her back in rotation by all means but I wouldn’t just look at it as yeah well your new dude now is getting my left overs now he’s kissing her in places where you’ve been
Mine doesn't regret breaking up with me but oh well gotta move on at least we are friends lol , he's moving out of state for work
I like the comments that say, if they left you, move on or if it requires this much thought, you're wasting your time and move on. That's kinda true but after you get burned in a relationship, you tend to self reflect and actually learn from the relationship.
Everyone runs the calculations on relationships. Your ex did when they decided to move on from you. So could your ex get back together and leave you again? Absolutely but you run the same risk with a new person. They can leave you after a few months or years as well.
I'm not saying wait and hold your life for your ex. You should obviously work on yourself and move on with your life. However, life has a funny way of working out sometimes and if by some chance in a few months or years, your paths cross again in person or via text, view as clean start. People make mistakes. They do and you do as well. If your ex reaches out to you, don't be so negative. It means they have put some thought into you and what they did and even though they could potentially have other motives, maybe they changed.
I guess I'm saying don't ride off your ex down the road and some new man or woman isn't going to be a guarantee either. Do what makes you happy and go in positive with it.
Hi clay my ex is dating to new boyfriend after 2 days of our breakup , because i neglected her in realationship and took her for granted and the new guy is totally the opposite of me , i started reconnect with her after month of our breakup she said she is not allowed to talk to me our having chat online , but after a few days of nc she sometime do comment on my WhatsApp status now i asked her to block me online but she is not going to do that either i asked her to meeting up she has accepted that . What does it actually mean ?
I will definitely inform you.
My ex is confusing me, and I don’t understand why he is doing the things he’s doing. I know that he does like another girl, and today he saw me get sad about it and immediately went in to hug me and wouldn’t let me let go of the hug. He kept looking between my eyes and my lips which I found odd. He’s done that a bit now, he’ll pull me into hugs and won’t let me let go. Or yesterday when I suggested he do something important that he’s been procrastinating on for his sister or his mother he asked if he could do it for me. But he says he likes this other girl, but these actions aren’t just friendly. Why?
He is seeing you as a backup in case the new girl fails, he know he has you and by doing this you will be emotionally available to him. Best thing, get into no contact and stop seeing him. Tell him not to hug you like that because you two aren't together anymore. Don't let him feel that you are available to him all the time.
The care will always be there since you two shared important moments with each other. Right now, the attraction towards you is being blocked by emotions that were caused by the issues in your relationship that you both failed to address. You need to set healthy boundaries first so you don't end up being his doormat or the side chick.
Why did my ex ask to remain friends, but has been ignoring me since the break up in January? I only contacted him once back in March asking how he was weathering the pandemic. Thank you for your reply.
Hi @Secure Connection , there are some who would resort to friendship just to lessen their emotions during the breakup. They may be open to the idea of friendship but we have to consider that they would also need the time and space to process their emotions.
@@ClayAndrews Yes, that makes sense, thank you!
No, mine is a narcissist and regrets nothing, she is now busy with her new supply a lad 17yrs younger
Lmaoo see how long that lasts
😂😭 oh dear..
Hi clay. My ex said that it was because of my mother . She’s a real nightmare and totally traumatised him gaslighted him (and she’s been doing it my whole life).
So I kicked her out of my life forever. How do I win him back he’s been my best friend forever
clay i do enjoy your videos thank you
Thank you for watching them. I hope they are helping you.
We have different life goals. I told him we should take some time off. We decided to stay as friends. I come to find he cheated since 4 months ago anyway. But he never really stopped talking to me. I blocked him. I came to his profile just for curiosity and he changed his cover photo to something directed straight to me. I am afraid of going back and looking now.
I'm sorry to hear about what happened, Claudia. We understand that this must be tough on you. If you feel that the person that you intend to go back with does not fit your personal values, it's totally fine if you would reorganize your priorities. We are still here at your side. Sending more positive energies on your end.
My ex did one of thoes this. He wants us to get back together in 3 years
Hi @The Gay furry boi, did you give your ex the chance to rebuild the relationship with you again? :-)
He’s right about this. I broke up with my ex about three years ago and I still regret it. There’s some advice out there about how to get over a break up or how to get your ex back if they dumped you. But no one really tells you how to fix it if you dump them and you regret it.
Surely you take the first step and reach out to them..
Not sure if you've checked this out this video on How to get your relationship back if you're the dumper. >> ua-cam.com/video/fzkSd8kzl54/v-deo.html
Thanks. I’ll check this out.
It's been 8months since he broke up with me but when i try to reconnect he refuse to talk to me.. What is that means sir clay?
But im ok now. i just want to chat him just to return all my stuff.
I'm sorry to hear about what happened. It seems like your ex may not be emotionally ready to communicate yet Even though you are okay and in a better emotional place, your ex may need to warm himself up to open himself emotionally to open his doors of communication with you.
@@ClayAndrews thank you sir 💕
I tried the no contact for three days. Unfortunately. On the fourth day, i called her. I really don’t know why she freaked out. She even said that, i must respect boundaries etc. i will not call her actually but on that fourth day, i remembered that she told me to call her if i need something
Hi Jo, I think it is really time to be in Active No Contact seriously and respect her wishes for space.
Clay Andrews , thank you for answering.
Btw, last week, she posted something about letting me go and that was the best decision she can do for herself. Then, after freaking out last week, she texted me and asking for forgiveness. She message me in ig, one in messenger, 10 in whatsapp and 2 miscalls. Btw, I didn’t answer her calls. And also the messages are still hanging. I was only able to see the first part coz it pop up from the messages. I unfollow her in ig. My messenger is muted for he but she sent me one message. Actually, she was on her way home and thought of dropping by to my place. Until now, I haven’t opened her messages.
May I know the meaning of what she is up to?
I know that she is happy right now. I guess it’s only her conscience who is driving her crazy that’s why she is doing that.
What will I do?
Thank you and more power. Stay safe
@@jorosales7967 god damn what kinda hold did you have on her? Lol
Hi Clay thank you for your videos, hope you can help... we've been split since February and it was mutual as we were letting external things in our personal lives interfere and were arguing, we have been in contact and stayed friends after I tried no contact but she kept messaging me, we've even slept together a few times since the split which I know can be a bad idea....we good friends before the relationship as she has issues in her life which I have helped her through and have continued to do so since the breakup... but recently during this "situation" we well be texting fine then she will try and find something I've said and twist it and flip out at me and tell me she's had enough and needs distance were not together anymore when I haven't mentioned anything about being together, why would she be trying to look for things in what I say halfway through a good normal friendly conversation to twist and tell me to leave her alone?
Thank you in advance!
and keep up the content whenever I have a bad moment I watch a video of yours and it gives me the strength to keep pushing!!
Clay are you an INTP or INFP?
My ex literally tells everyone that I'm amazing but that we just don't see things the same. So what would that mean? Could he eventually regret it even though he's so adamant that we wouldn't work. Even though I gave him multiple reasons why and he shut them all down and said it's too late.
Same kinda thing happened to me...my ex confided in his brother telling him that i am so amazing so why shouldn’t he be with me yet for some reason we still ended. His brother told me this and also reached out to me telling me him and my ex also had a convo about how the breakup was a big mistake...... all of this YET I’ve been 6 weeks no contact now and he’s in a rebound still going on 3 months. My ex’s excuse was “some things just can’t be fixed” or “i just can’t”
Move on. Some of you women remain so stagnant on a dude who ain't for you that you forget to take care of yourselves. Someonesout there that will think everything about you is amazing and wont hesitate to make that clear.
Your ex may have his own reasons why he thinks the relationship wouldn't work and this brings emotions with it. When he says you are not seeing things the same, he meant that you aren't aligned emotionally and you aren't seeing what he is seeing. He probably seeing your hidden agenda which is why he keeps on blocking them.
@@Iwant2BHipster Your ex may not know how to fix it- how to get the emotional connection back. Although he knows it was a mistake, for him, it's easier to get with a rebound than heal and work on what should be worked on. If you can slowly show him how to heal and start the relationship with you anew, he might consider getting back together possible.
@@PhuccinAyee Yes that's true. It's not all women though. Both men and women get into a fused relationship that they lose their identity- individuality when in the relationship. This starts the downfall of that relationship.
Hi Clay, my ex told me that he has a lot of unpleasant feelings / memories towards us especially at the end of the r/s. How do I get him to heal from the break up so that we can build the emotioanl connection? I have done my part on the active no contact and am still continuing. But I have a lot of resistance from him. Yet he's alos abit hot and cold cause he says that us texting all day feels like we're dating again and he deosn't want to go back to there.
Hi Kaili, I'm sorry that you are struggling with this. But it's good that you and your ex can talk about those matters. I understand that you may want to help your ex heal but remember that healing is a personal process. We can be a good support system for the person but we have to look after ith our own process as well.
@@ClayAndrews Thank you for replying. Is there anything I can do to build positive emotions from here on? I read all your books too.
@@ClayAndrews hi clay my ex is traumatised by my mother (she’s gaslighting him) ... how do I get him back I am refusing to have any contact with my mother
Well if someone could answer me? My ex came back after 9 months of no contact and when we went for dinner or just to hang around, well...he was very touching, hugging me like 2 whole minutes, hugging me from my hips and soooo on. Is that even normal? He was also asking me (when he started talking to me again) he asked me directly if I was seeing someone buuut idk. My best friend told me he just wanted sex that’s all. And I don’t know I mean being so physical with someone XD
Also, he said sorry for what happened and why it didn’t work out (placing all the blame on him and so on) and then, seeing all this, I asked him 3 months later (because he and I kept seeing each other and talking to each other 3 months) that what were his intentions and if he was (literally) trying to start again and get back together? And he said that NO not his intention at all, and I was like (in my mind) lol you’ve been giving me all these signs and you say no? Can’t understand
Hi Clay,
My ex broke no contact after 3 months. I have been focusing on myself and my goals in that time. Out of the blue about a week ago, I received a “hey” text. I didn’t reply right away because I was busy at the time. About 10 minutes later, I received another text that said, “I just wanted to see what you were up to, but okay.” I finally messaged back. After a few texts, she ended the conversation saying, “Well, I will let you get back to work, I just wanted to say hey.” The next day, the same thing. This continued 4 days. On Friday, she sent one saying, “I’m sorry for the heartache I put you through. I left you with no closure. I was selfish. I didn’t consider anyone’s feelings but my own. I’m really sorry and I hope you know that. This was on my heart today.” I told her I really appreciated her saying that with a 💜 (her favorite color), and she replied with “Welcome with a 💙 (my favorite color). I never heard from her over the weekend and haven’t heard from her since. This has me a bit confused. What say you?
Man I hate that for you. (If nothing becomes of it) my ex did the same crap 4 or 5 times the year after we broke up.
My ex reached out to me 2 weeks ago, saying she felt like she left abruptly and didn't give me a chance to speak. I said I did though, I told you how we should move fwd, I didn't want to break up etc. She replied she figured she's not healed from her past relationship. She reached out twice after that.
I asked her what was her real intention for calling & what she wants because I'm an intentional man. She said: "I'm focusing on me right now, I'm just doing me". I said ok.
Her: What is it that you want?
I felt manipulated at that moment. We haven't spoken since. And I'm just tired. Like she already knows she's in my plans, I can't decide for you. If you don't want me, leave me entirely.
Sounds like guilty but not regret...did you get back?
The first 4 sound pretty much the same
The signs are present. It's now up to you to take action towards where you want to take your relationship with your ex to. Be strong and be patient.
Really anyone that puts this much thought onto their ex needs to just move on. It's kind of pathetic to keep going after someone that doesn't wanna be with you anymore. And if they are a narcissist then your better off without them and there is no changing them. If they regretted dumping you they'd be back with you. Trust me, find someone new. Your ex is your ex for a reason.
Remind yourself this when you breakup with someone and regret doing it. Sometimes people get too caught up in the moment and make rash decisions, like a breakup. This doesn't mean you HAVE to call an end to everything. Sometimes, relationships can be fixed, it depends on the context and circumstances
WHY ARE YOU HERE THEN???
Dude, do ourselves a favor and just shut up. You dont know the reason of the break up, and you shouldn't judge people why they want to get their ex back. You telling us to move on and forget about our ex DOESN'T HELP.
@@MistSGM I'm here to make fun of people like you. The only reason you should go backwards is if you were the one that fucked up the relationship and if you truly felt like you left a good person. How old are you and how long were you together. I guarantee I'm much older than you and might have good advice actually. You might just be too afraid to move forward, trust me if they had no problem moving on them they don't care as much as you do. Like I said unless you cheated or were abusive or annoying in some way.
@@manicmurph you must have a lot of time on your hands making fun of broken people wanting to fix their own relationships. How about go do something productive for once instead of insulting someone on the goddamn internet
@@MistSGM learn how to type little kid it's "do yourself a favor" not do ourselves. How am I supposed to do "ourselves" a favor? 😂. Just what I thought a little kid who got their heart broken and isn't smart enough to move on. Quit simping.
hello good afternoon in my personal opinion now at days you might think that they sincerely do regret breaking up with you or miss you but believe me i dont say this to be an ass or a dick but truthfully they dont and if they do come back its probably because it didnt work out with the other guy i dont know its probably just me but i havent had luck like that they contact me or something they really show that they give a shit about anybody else
Hi Clay thank you for your videos, hope you can help... we've been split since February and it was mutual as we were letting external things in our personal lives interfere and were arguing, we have been in contact and stayed friends after I tried no contact but she kept messaging me, we've even slept together a few times since the split which I know can be a bad idea....we were good friends before the relationship as she has issues in her life which I have helped her through and have continued to do so since the breakup... but recently during this "situation" we will be texting fine then she will try and find something I've said and twist it and flip out at me and tell me she's had enough, needs distance and were not together anymore when I haven't mentioned anything about being together, why would she be trying to look for things in what I say halfway through a good normal friendly conversation to twist and tell me to leave her alone?
Thank you in advance!
and keep up the content whenever I have a bad moment I watch a video of yours and it gives me the strength to keep pushing!!