5 Signs That Your Ex Is Afraid To Come Back

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 42

  • @barbara6840
    @barbara6840 3 місяці тому +12

    He better be. He cowardly dumb text me to avoid having difficult conversations. The emotional immaturity of most men I'm dating is not only disappointing but amazing how they have more options of people at their level than I do at mine. If you hold an avoidant accountable for their bad behavior I promise you will never hear from them.

    • @alsalazar6502
      @alsalazar6502 2 дні тому

      I agree with you. Once they leave, they are GONE

  • @karenarmstrong1205
    @karenarmstrong1205 2 роки тому +18

    you mention distance but if the ex was an avoidant they can shut down due to fear, so then how do you know if it's for good or not. I have no reasons, just left when he perceived conflict and when we had become closer and more vulnerable....

  • @jeffreypaszko3473
    @jeffreypaszko3473 3 місяці тому +2

    You are an amazing coach. Thoughtful , insightful, intelligent , and kind. I always look forward to speaking with you personally . It is an honor because you have given me hope and have settled my anxiety. Thank you

  • @kingaberlakovich5585
    @kingaberlakovich5585 Рік тому +8

    My ex is an avoidant, and after 7 month he took the decision to end the relationship, he gave me a kiss and 10 minutes later he said he can’t be in a relationship because he isn’t capable of this. He loves me but at some point all his relationship ended because of him. I was shocked, because kissing someone before a break up is not what I would do! I am an anxious. We we had a wonderful time, two weeks before the break up as well. It was a long distance relationship, but we saw each other nearly every second weekend ( we spent the hole weekend together.in his apartment. He took me to his friends, sister, shared his hobbies with me) is there any chance to come back together? It was it too short?

  • @craigheath9186
    @craigheath9186 28 днів тому +2

    My ex GF is such an avoidant that she doesn’t even have one single friendship! Not a single one!
    She would give me holy shit 💩 for discussing our relationship and her crazy behaviour with my close friends. As I told her… normal people discuss things with their close friends to get a neutral opinion and to make sure they’re not going crazy! LoL…. Her response was, I’ve don’t trust anyone so I don’t discuss my life with anyone.
    The most avoidant response EVER!

  • @Thecultofmehk
    @Thecultofmehk Рік тому +4

    Hi Alexis, is it possible to talk about about the fear of commitment , deactivition and shut down? what actually feel like, i found that so difficult to understand that side of a DA , Thank you very much

  • @gebronthomasson6960
    @gebronthomasson6960 Рік тому +6

    I did break no contact and gave her the reassurance that I wanted to work and have her work and know it is not lost.and since then have maintained no contact.

    • @aquamarine0303
      @aquamarine0303 Рік тому

      Work on the relationship?

    • @Weismnt81
      @Weismnt81 Місяць тому

      I did this after the 1st discard…… after the 2nd one, I’m pursing myself!

  • @nonenone6884
    @nonenone6884 Рік тому +2

    If they have the new guy and your still hanging around it's a win win for them

  • @ao9134
    @ao9134 2 роки тому +4

    I loved this..it was right on point where I am but I think I acted too quickly and called it off but 8 did give reasons.

  • @tilak231
    @tilak231 2 роки тому +5

    As always, very informative and interesting!!

  • @edwinhernandez5581
    @edwinhernandez5581 Рік тому +4

    I LOVE YOU BROTHER. THANK YOU FOR SHARING ALL THIS KNOWLEDGE, I AM ALIVE BECAUSE GID PUT YOU IN THIS PLATFORM TO HELP US. I AM LEARNING SO MUCH FROM YOU. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR WORK

  • @loubnalou2785
    @loubnalou2785 2 роки тому +17

    Damn.. if they don't really give the reason it means they want to keep the door open ! Wow...

    • @Gbb93
      @Gbb93 9 місяців тому +1

      Yeah idk about this one. But at the same time, Alexis is an expert, especially on avoidance. My ex didn’t give me any reason in particular, she has just said she fears it would inevitably end again. I asked so many times… gave her so many outs. Am I not the right guy for you? Do you need more space? Etc etc. but still I’d be met with the same answer: we already talked about this… (we did not actually go into details about why it literally wouldn’t work). I’ve broken Nc a couple times, and she responds to my messages but then she will randomly stop when I bring up something a little more serious. In my experience, an ex that truly is done won’t even respond, if they haven’t already blocked you. So that’s why I have that sense that she’s not quite closing that door for good.

  • @ann9473
    @ann9473 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you for your videos and useful information

  • @Ap9-q5f
    @Ap9-q5f 3 місяці тому +1

    He was the most loving person, and emotionally available but i was critical and passive aggressiveness, due to being in s bad place. No excuse. If they say they don't see a future, didn't see me romantically and said we were toxic could he still regret it?

  • @imhatchmantoo
    @imhatchmantoo 27 днів тому +2

    She should be afraid to come back 😂 She should be embarrassed. Also, kind of a massive turn off for me that she has this mental problem.

    • @Vanessa-527
      @Vanessa-527 День тому

      Snap. I noted mine also had a mental problem. That was a big turn-off for me. At times he behaved like a 20-year-old, and he is 52. Could never reconcile that part of him. I would of frown at his text messages. Some made no sense.

  • @weecher8956
    @weecher8956 2 роки тому +13

    My wife lives with fears and anxiety. We’ve had no contact for 4 months now. She hasn’t filed for divorce; she hasn’t blocked me on Facebook; she did love a post about a month ago that I shared. The post had something to do with relationships. Either she is regretting the breakup or she wants me to understand something. It’s too easy to speak plainly. Lol

    • @fernfunk
      @fernfunk 2 роки тому +4

      Why are you laughing about it? What do you want from her?

    • @weecher8956
      @weecher8956 2 роки тому +23

      @@fernfunk
      What else should I do?
      Cry my eyes out every day?
      My wife is the most precious person to me. I’d die for her daily to save her. But I’m not gonna stop living because she’s confused or whatever. I’m not gonna try to have as much of a positive aspect on things and frankly at this point, I have zero expectations from her. She’s her own person with free will to do no as she pleases and I’m not anyone’s ball and chain.

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      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому +1

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    • @alexislaura9487
      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому

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    • @alexislaura9487
      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому +1

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  • @TheOnlyLoveForME
    @TheOnlyLoveForME 5 місяців тому +2

    Could they also say when they break up with you that they only see you as a friend?

    • @SandraBrixey
      @SandraBrixey 19 днів тому

      This is possible. I had an encounter like this with someone about 10 years ago. We got together several times and things seemed great, but then he suddenly said we weren't "on the same level" but wouldn't explain what that meant. He finally said we should just be friends. So, we were friends for about a year or two, I dated others, found someone I liked and wanted to pursue that. Then the first guy told me he was in love with me and regretted ending things with me and was ready to commit to me. I had already moved on. I stayed with the next guy for four years but was miserable. After I broke up with him, I met someone else, was with him for four years as well, and the first guy once again told me he loved me and wanted to be with me. I eventually blocked him because I don't think I could be happy with him and I felt like he only wanted me when it was convenient.

  • @Gbb93
    @Gbb93 9 місяців тому

    Alexis, if it’s been nearly 2.5 years since you’ve been dating this person, you only dated for 3 months, they’re avoidant, but they told you that they felt the most strongly about you than anyone else… do you think the chances of rekindling is dramatically lower or does any of that really matter?
    We actually contemplated giving it a second try, but she decided she thinks we need to move on. She’s told me we should probably move on like 3 times now… but I wonder if she’s forcing herself to believe this

  • @xoxo-vp7ww
    @xoxo-vp7ww 2 роки тому +1

    💔

  • @Scoop2380
    @Scoop2380 2 роки тому +2

    So the minute he (finally) told me the reason to breakup he’s completely done with me, over me? (He also said he has no feelings for me).

    • @zagaboyofficialrapprotector536
      @zagaboyofficialrapprotector536 Рік тому

      Am sorry to reply this buh am sure he jst used it as an excuse buh watch a video called how to deal with an ex who lost feelings and see ... and am sure after all this time you might be together now..??

    • @archimedesofsyracuse9268
      @archimedesofsyracuse9268 9 місяців тому +2

      Usually avoidants say they lost feelings as an excuse to break up, but that's not what they actually mean. They actually fear you will abandon them because they don't feel good enough for you, so they choose to leave you first

    • @andybiddle9088
      @andybiddle9088 9 місяців тому +1

      That's what mine said, her feelings for me had gone. But 2 weeks before we had the best day out EVER! She even said she loved me. Maybe her saying that spooked her out?
      I think her heart wants me but her head wants to do a runner. It's so sad, she ignores me now. If I could just talk to her and reassure her. I'm there for her in anyway she wants me to be and we can take things as slow as she's comfortable with.

    • @Growwithgrace101
      @Growwithgrace101 3 місяці тому

      Same here. Spent a normal day together then he suddenly sat me in a park bench and declared I look and sounded like his ex and hus feelings were gone. Then said I love you. I gave him the breakup. It was so hard. I walked away and told him I needed more intimacy 😅 I didn't know about attatchment then. 3 wonderful years over...
      Another person not willing to do the work. NC for over a year. I feel sad for him it was fuxable3I was committed and happy to go at his pace but you can't work with someone who just switches off.

  • @DonaldMeyers-v8c
    @DonaldMeyers-v8c 5 місяців тому +1

    Im hear to beat you Ricky Bobby....