Such nice image resulution and the sound is well levelled compared to previous videos (which were often quiet in comparison to ads or other channels). Doing great, Clay ;)
My ex is still very reactive emotionally to me in person. Lots of "anger" which is unnecessary as he broke up with me for something that was nothing directly to do with me. Its actually obvious to everybody around us that his face tells a different story. He also refused to deal with a joint commitment we had for late 2021 that we made when we were together. Like he wants it to still happen....
@@airbubble.I feel that. I texted my ex for the first time 6 months after the breakup and she made it obvious that she’s not over me cus she’s still so upset and bothered by the past and was pretty cold, got rlly mad and hurt cus she heard from a mutual friend abt a girl I slept w 11 months ago before I even dated her, and even admitted that she still wonders if we would’ve worked out (even tho she’s still with her rebound). She opened up little by little and said she’d call me “in a few days” but never did and ignored my text a week later when I asked when I could call. She has a habit of avoiding her emotions and disassociating from them instead of actually healing and working on things and I can tell she’s still doing that. Like you said, something will happen once she decides to process her emotions and grow
Two weeks ago, My ex flew to Arizona to spend a few weeks with his ex-wife, who he uses for emotional support and distraction. 😐 he was sending me breadcrumb texts from over there and I’ve pulled back communication. No more. Thankfully he’s not on social media.
Great advice! Clay, could you speak on how to build confidence back with your long distance ex? And , what advice would you give a woman ( me🙄) who broke things off- many years ago.
I’m getting all this. One day she’s telling me she loves me, and we’re meant to be together, then a few days later the flimsy excuses come, extreme over reactions to little things. We don’t see each other much just now, but when we do it’s like everything is perfect. She initiates love and affection. But when we’re apart I get this totally different experience, one I only get through text. The barriers come back up. This has gone on for months and it’s so frustrating. She knows what I want, and I know by her actions she wants it too. I think she is just scared to committing, either unsure about me, or scared of getting hurt again like she was in a previous relationship.
Thats tough, man. Have you tried asking her about her behaviour? Like geniunely asking and then just listen to her what her points are? Communicating clearly could help here
@@pimpmytoast yeah I try, she won’t talk when she’s like this. But I most certainly will as it’s got quite bad, the ups and downs are getting extreme. There are kids involved, and an emotionally abusive ex, and I think she wants to bring everyone together at Christmas while I get cast aside. Despite me putting more effort into it. I think her daughter is pushing her to have him over for Christmas despite him being away for a year, and he ruined last Christmas for them. This is all ridiculous and wrong but they just can’t see it. The ex clearly want her back and using it as an excuse. If the ex knew she was in a relationship with me, he would disappear out those kids lives forever, its what he does.
Me and my ex talk every day and can video chat for 4hrs at a time or At least for a hour. Good morning texts or talking till 2am. We hangout still and also sexual type things and sexual talk and also talk about going doing stuff. She will vent to me call me when she is down and everything but her excuse to not bring back together is “ what’s the benefit to being together? We already do everything a couple does anyways? “ I’m like exactly why not just commit and be back together because we do everything a couple does.
Hi clay im a recent subscriber i love all your videos un watching them one by one i hava a special case my ex and i where on a long distance relationship for 2 years with a lot of meetings every 15 days we loved each other like no one and we were about to move together and marry. then she suddenly acted weird since 3 months ghosting me or dissapearing for long hours after that she asked sorry for doing that things ti me that leas me to act very insecure (also she got a plastic surgery on march and now she Is very gorgeous ) after i acted very tóxic and insecure she asked Time and space, not break Up, just space two times un one month and then finally broke up with me because she said she cant cope that i have a son and hate my mom after two weeks i found her dating with a huy that he said he met her like 2 months ago i think she monkey branched to that huy she noticed that i talked to the guy and she got angry and deleted our relation ship on Facebook and changed her picture with me (she didnt It since she broke with me) i asked explanations and she got emotional saying sorry like 100x times and sayin she love me and i deserve better and thatbshe wished we could still be together and marry again and have sons then i forgave her and asked for a second chance the days after she ghosted me like hell ando the next saturday i saw her on a Storie on the guys profile i got mad and decided to not talk but days passed and watched a lot of your rebound videos me relaxed then i iniated texts she replied but never started tried to get emotional connection with her i know in better that guy, and we have strong happy experiences in that 2 years as i talked to her I made her laugh and make her send me memes but then she leaves the conversation and still online and I keep seeing her on social media at parties but his profile is silentnot posting anything
@@eramtoma7547 first of all, he lives in a different country so it’s really hard to take act or to have some control, second of all i always tried to contact his friends who are near him but i feel like nobody really can help.
My ex went into a rebound relationship a few days after we broke up and we ended in bad terms. She said she wanted to block me forever but she unblocked me 6 days after without saying anything . What does that mean?
My girlfriend broke up with me almost a month ago.. we've wefe together for 4 years. been on no contact for about 3 weeks now.. we broke up because I was in the wrong and now during this no contact I've been bettering myself day by day hoping that I can get another chance with her.. letting her know that I can grow and willing to live a long life with her. The day she broke up with me and the day I packed all my stuff she did tell me that we can still keep in contact when we need each other and I can go see our cats.. I just wanted your opinion on this situation of mine thanks
Kinda curious Ive seen a account that I don’t recognize and has 0 followers and is following 0 people but always looks at my account and stories! People say it’s my ex, her new man, or I have a serious stalker!
Could be her, checking on what u doing. Really to see if u seeing someone. Posting pics of you and someone else. See if ur hanging out in groups of people. To see what women arw in those groups.
Hey Texzle, we may not be really able to fully tell who it is but you have to be more careful of your privacy settings. I cannot assume at this time whether it's your ex or whoever but what is important is that you are taking precautions of your privacy.
What if she keeps blocking you everywhere and says she doesn’t feel comfortable with you after all these years of being so nice to you and her mom is still nice to you?
@@SK-no2pp I don’t think there’s anything that I can do at this time. I’m doing the 90+ day no-contact technique. Then, I’ll reach out to this crush of mine, when I feel that I’m ready or talk to me when she feels that she’s ready.
Im confused with my ex. We text each other daily, sometimes its deep sometimes its not. He surprised me with a visit on my birthday and with my mother's illness and recent passing he has been there mentally and even in person. Even his mother phoned me to sympathize with the passing of my mother. He has visited me at home a couple of times as well where we chatted like old times but still he keeps his distance to committing.
Hi Izak. It sounds like your ex may be at the test drive phase. You can check that in one of our videos regarding the said specific topic in the 5 stages of getting back together.
Hi Ann, I understand that this may be a bit confusing but that is something that you cannot control especially if he is willing to give himself another chance on his past love. Maybe for now, you have to respect his choice instead of resisting it. I understand that this may be counter intuitive but preparing and healing yourself can be a priority that you can do for now why he is trying to explore his own emotions.
Such nice image resulution and the sound is well levelled compared to previous videos (which were often quiet in comparison to ads or other channels). Doing great, Clay ;)
Many thanks!
My ex is still very reactive emotionally to me in person. Lots of "anger" which is unnecessary as he broke up with me for something that was nothing directly to do with me. Its actually obvious to everybody around us that his face tells a different story. He also refused to deal with a joint commitment we had for late 2021 that we made when we were together. Like he wants it to still happen....
It sounds like your ex may need to process his thoughts and emotions.
@@ClayAndrews i completely agree. As soon as he does that, things will move forward.
@@airbubble.I feel that. I texted my ex for the first time 6 months after the breakup and she made it obvious that she’s not over me cus she’s still so upset and bothered by the past and was pretty cold, got rlly mad and hurt cus she heard from a mutual friend abt a girl I slept w 11 months ago before I even dated her, and even admitted that she still wonders if we would’ve worked out (even tho she’s still with her rebound). She opened up little by little and said she’d call me “in a few days” but never did and ignored my text a week later when I asked when I could call. She has a habit of avoiding her emotions and disassociating from them instead of actually healing and working on things and I can tell she’s still doing that. Like you said, something will happen once she decides to process her emotions and grow
Two weeks ago, My ex flew to Arizona to spend a few weeks with his ex-wife, who he uses for emotional support and distraction. 😐 he was sending me breadcrumb texts from over there and I’ve pulled back communication. No more. Thankfully he’s not on social media.
Great advice! Clay, could you speak on how to build confidence back with your long distance ex? And , what advice would you give a woman ( me🙄) who broke things off- many years ago.
Great suggestion! ;-)
I’m getting all this. One day she’s telling me she loves me, and we’re meant to be together, then a few days later the flimsy excuses come, extreme over reactions to little things. We don’t see each other much just now, but when we do it’s like everything is perfect. She initiates love and affection. But when we’re apart I get this totally different experience, one I only get through text. The barriers come back up. This has gone on for months and it’s so frustrating. She knows what I want, and I know by her actions she wants it too. I think she is just scared to committing, either unsure about me, or scared of getting hurt again like she was in a previous relationship.
Thats tough, man. Have you tried asking her about her behaviour? Like geniunely asking and then just listen to her what her points are? Communicating clearly could help here
@@pimpmytoast yeah I try, she won’t talk when she’s like this. But I most certainly will as it’s got quite bad, the ups and downs are getting extreme. There are kids involved, and an emotionally abusive ex, and I think she wants to bring everyone together at Christmas while I get cast aside. Despite me putting more effort into it. I think her daughter is pushing her to have him over for Christmas despite him being away for a year, and he ruined last Christmas for them. This is all ridiculous and wrong but they just can’t see it. The ex clearly want her back and using it as an excuse. If the ex knew she was in a relationship with me, he would disappear out those kids lives forever, its what he does.
Me and my ex talk every day and can video chat for 4hrs at a time or At least for a hour. Good morning texts or talking till 2am. We hangout still and also sexual type things and sexual talk and also talk about going doing stuff. She will vent to me call me when she is down and everything but her excuse to not bring back together is “ what’s the benefit to being together? We already do everything a couple does anyways? “ I’m like exactly why not just commit and be back together because we do everything a couple does.
What if I am not even active online
Hi clay im a recent subscriber i love all your videos un watching them one by one
i hava a special case my ex and i where on a long distance relationship for 2 years with a lot of meetings every 15 days we loved each other like no one and we were about to move together and marry.
then she suddenly acted weird since 3 months ghosting me or dissapearing for long hours after that she asked sorry for doing that things ti me that leas me to act very insecure (also she got a plastic surgery on march and now she Is very gorgeous )
after i acted very tóxic and insecure she asked Time and space, not break Up, just space two times un one month and then finally broke up with me because she said she cant cope that i have a son and hate my mom
after two weeks i found her dating with a huy that he said he met her like 2 months ago
i think she monkey branched to that huy
she noticed that i talked to the guy and she got angry and deleted our relation ship on Facebook and changed her picture with me (she didnt It since she broke with me)
i asked explanations
and she got emotional saying sorry like 100x times and sayin she love me and i deserve better and thatbshe wished we could still be together and marry again and have sons
then i forgave her and asked for a second chance
the days after she ghosted me like hell ando the next saturday i saw her on a Storie on the guys profile
i got mad and decided to not talk
but days passed and watched a lot of your rebound videos me relaxed then i iniated texts she replied but never started
tried to get emotional connection with her
i know in better that guy, and we have strong happy experiences in that 2 years
as i talked to her I made her laugh and make her send me memes but then she leaves the conversation and still online
and I keep seeing her on social media at parties but his profile is silentnot posting anything
Well I don't see any of theses signs ,we live state apart and he went into a relationship before he finally broke up
I am a completely different person, night and day. He would have to meet me.
Best I can say I'd she keeps unblocking me even after 2 yrs and watching my story's. She's in a relationship I guess I'm glad I'm still on her mind
Ik this is very serious but what do i do when my ex is having suicidal thoughts and keeps acting on self harm and everything else
If you can't handle him or her, I think you should inform there family or social services!
@@eramtoma7547 first of all, he lives in a different country so it’s really hard to take act or to have some control, second of all i always tried to contact his friends who are near him but i feel like nobody really can help.
You are not responsible, he needs therapy for mental illness for some years, at least, maybe many.
@@chilloften he is going to therapy but obviously it’s not enough
@Adrian Fuentes you’re absolutely right but i still don’t know what to do
He told me he misses me and still loves me. But he didn't say anything about getting back together. So.....
Maybe that’s because you told him to move on and didn’t show interest of getting back together , why would he?
Negative on both fronts. He knows I want that and eager to start over.
@@purplegirl2214 did you tell him that?
Yes I did. He knows and is fully aware.
@@purplegirl2214 be honest ... did you directly tell him or indirectly
How to have open body language?
My ex went into a rebound relationship a few days after we broke up and we ended in bad terms. She said she wanted to block me forever but she unblocked me 6 days after without saying anything . What does that mean?
My girlfriend broke up with me almost a month ago.. we've wefe together for 4 years. been on no contact for about 3 weeks now.. we broke up because I was in the wrong and now during this no contact I've been bettering myself day by day hoping that I can get another chance with her.. letting her know that I can grow and willing to live a long life with her. The day she broke up with me and the day I packed all my stuff she did tell me that we can still keep in contact when we need each other and I can go see our cats.. I just wanted your opinion on this situation of mine thanks
Hey do you have an update?
Kinda curious Ive seen a account that I don’t recognize and has 0 followers and is following 0 people but always looks at my account and stories! People say it’s my ex, her new man, or I have a serious stalker!
Could be her, checking on what u doing. Really to see if u seeing someone. Posting pics of you and someone else. See if ur hanging out in groups of people. To see what women arw in those groups.
Hey Texzle, we may not be really able to fully tell who it is but you have to be more careful of your privacy settings. I cannot assume at this time whether it's your ex or whoever but what is important is that you are taking precautions of your privacy.
@@ClayAndrews what if she’s engaged 2 months after the relationship and she’s in the military and so is the other!
What if she keeps blocking you everywhere and says she doesn’t feel comfortable with you after all these years of being so nice to you and her mom is still nice to you?
@@SK-no2pp I don’t think there’s anything that I can do at this time. I’m doing the 90+ day no-contact technique. Then, I’ll reach out to this crush of mine, when I feel that I’m ready or talk to me when she feels that she’s ready.
@@SK-no2pp I said flattery things to her and I reached out to her too much.
Im confused with my ex. We text each other daily, sometimes its deep sometimes its not. He surprised me with a visit on my birthday and with my mother's illness and recent passing he has been there mentally and even in person. Even his mother phoned me to sympathize with the passing of my mother. He has visited me at home a couple of times as well where we chatted like old times but still he keeps his distance to committing.
Hi Izak. It sounds like your ex may be at the test drive phase. You can check that in one of our videos regarding the said specific topic in the 5 stages of getting back together.
@@ClayAndrews Thank you for this info, going to check it out now
My ex said he loves me and care a about me but he wants to give chance again his first love even shes mean to him
Hi Ann, I understand that this may be a bit confusing but that is something that you cannot control especially if he is willing to give himself another chance on his past love. Maybe for now, you have to respect his choice instead of resisting it. I understand that this may be counter intuitive but preparing and healing yourself can be a priority that you can do for now why he is trying to explore his own emotions.
These seem kinda obvious tho