I remember the few compliments I have been given since the first time in grade 2 a friend gave me one. Still vividly remember it to this day. Sad but true.
As a relationship coach, I have spoken to thousands of women. You would be amazed at the f*cked up things they have been taught about how to interact with men. They are taught that tired old cliché of playing, "Hard to get." And some even think that when men approach them that they should reject him a couple of times - even if they are interested! And so when I have been on coaching calls with women who tell me that BUT are paying me to help them get a boyfriend, it's all I can do not to throw my phone. I explain to them that so many of the men I coach literally have PTSD from approaching woman and being rejected and that they are so downtrodden over the constant rejections that they have faced from women that not only are they less likely to approach women because they can't stand the idea of being turned down - AGAIN - but if she does reject them, they are most likely to simply give up. I often ask those same women to put themselves in the shoes of the man approaching them and it's often a foreign concept to them. But when they do and they imagine being rejected simply to be toyed with or so that it's not "too easy," on them, they are often stunned and can't imagine being treated with such psychological abuse. Stay strong men. There are some women out there who don't toy with you and simply treat you as a human being. Stay away from the others and whatever you do, DO NOT compliment them. One of the things I tell men is that it's fine to compliment a woman but only the same amount that she compliments you.
Literally hit the nail on the head.. I myself have been through the exact same situations but with a twist, if I did ask a girl out I liked and she rejected me, I'd only ask once and if it was a no, I instantly thought ok fine she doesn't like me and move on. But then I find out from one of their friends that they actually do like me (then proceed to make some stupid excuse as to why she said no), but because she rejected me the first time and I no longer have any interest (Mostly to avoid the rejection again before it ruins my self a steam and well I took it she's not attracted to me when she rejected me the first time). Then it goes awkward real fast and even goes down the route of "Are you gay?" etc or them just turning plain nasty..
Very true I'm only 18 and it's hard for me to approach a women to tell them I like them. Mainly because they never want to give the guy a chance even if he's the one guy trying to be a decent enough guy to be worthy enough to be loved by someone they care for. And every girl I've ever liked has either rejected me outrigt or has left me for a guy that ended up treating them poorly. Like seriously girls need to give guys a chance to show them that they can be a good boyfriend or maybe even more than that.
@@TYLERSWIFTSWORD I understand your feeling... i did all i could to make my girlfriend feel loved like a fckin queen and someday she made me brok up with her (i brok because she didn't have the balls to do so and was just pushing me to do it), and then after 1 month she magically wants me again, and she stalk me for 9 fckin moths i reject her countless time but... i give up because i'm only a man (she is hot lol), and with the COVID i didn't have the chance to meet anyone else. Today i feel like girls don't like good guys, it's very cliché but, they want a bad boy or someone who can make them feel insecure. i know it's look very stupid to think like that but, i'm not the only one who observed that. Women are very complex, and sometimes i wish i was gay, but i'm really not into boys XD
@@ChristopherMichael-dw4wt and she was almost killed by the father of her kid, explain me that? Her head was beaten by a baton by the father of her kid
@@ChristopherMichael-dw4wt well she still coulda not trust nobody anyway according of what she's been through. She had bad experiences with both, you can accept that she also stands for both genders. Believe it or not, she also stands up for women too. Surprising, i kNoW riGHt?
@@aluisfar4154 We already knew that to genius!!! She represents equal rights for both genders. But her personally, she's more for men then women. She's already made that known through her words and her actions.
No woman on Earth (except for maybe you) can understand how good it feels to hear an actual woman stand up for men's rights. This one made me cry. It does start from childhood. It is extremely painful.
There are many good women, I have seen them take a stand for us. It is just, that there are hard to find with the shit load of idiots out there. Keep your eyes on the sky and a good women will see, that u want to go high up.
I’m a 16 yr old guy, and when you said “the transition from boyhood to manhood is incredibly difficult” I felt like someone finally knew how fucking hard it is. Everybody around you sticks you in 2 worlds. One where you’re just a kid and that you don’t know what you’re talking about. And another where you have to perform every single thing in your life absolutely flawlessly. That’s maybe an exaggeration, but us men/boys go through so much pain JUST to maybe get acknowledged for the pain we endure and how hard it is. When I’ve tried to hint to college staff that my mental health isn’t doing very well, they’ve said things like “it’s just lack of sleep!” And you get the drift. Us men are strong, but because we have to be. We’re stigmatized as the group of people that can push through pain without an end. No, it ain’t that easy. Edit: Also, men are so afraid to speak out against physical, emotional and mental abuse from women because we feel/know that people will make fun of us or not believe us because of the generalization that “men are stronger” and that because of that we can’t be abused or hurt. Being a man is fucking hard.
Yeah, im 15 and both in the state where I'm expected to be productive, and want to be able to work and be able to provide for myself, but I can't drive, I can't get a job, and people don't realy take me seriously.
And you think that now that you're sixteen, wait till you're 24 and you will see how much shittier it gets. I really beg you to enjoy these years the best you can because time flies.
I'm 14 and This is starting to me. I won't gonna to care if i have or not have a girlfriend but i don't want to change. I want to be curios and not like mostly nowdays adults
Damn right it is hard. Anyone who says different doesn’t remember. You young guys keep putting one foot ahead of the other, keep your heads up and try as best as you can to not let society tell you that your value comes from what you CAN DO OR ACCOMPLISH. It doesn’t! It comes from who you are inside. How do you treat other people? Are you honest, kind? Can you be trusted? Do you treat people the way you want them to treat you? If you have problems with any of the above you can change. That’s the entire basis of Christianity. We are all screwed up. But how do we respond to being so screwed up? Do the best we can. No one should expect more.
Yep. So devastatingly true. My ex said to me once ' if you weren't such a hardworker, I'd have left you a long time ago' . Crushed my spirit ... And I went back to work.
That same logic is shown toward truck drivers in some states. You can't run your truck at night to stay warm or cool off (depending on the temperature) unless you have a pet in the truck. So the pet is more important than the truck driver.
Bruh as an 18 year old male I almost cried after seeing this video because the fact that she pointed out that Boys inherit the feeling of worthlessness in the transition to adulthood(manhood) As an 18 year old male I felt that deeply Thank you for spreading truth about the reality that is the struggle of being a man in this modern society
It sucks, cause I'm 36 and been bashed so many times. Only time people want to know me or help is when they know I got money. There has been a few times where I felt like I was looked at as a hero in a way. But even then, when you are no longer needed, you are tossed aside.
Don't worry, there are women out there that will understand you and your struggles. Just don't waste your time with the ones who don't speak to you on equal terms or put themselves in your shoes
Honestly, the fact that she pinpointed so many of what seems like push-over struggles can actually be the fine line between life and death. I'm super happy we have someone like this who's helping men out there with all of their struggles. Keep pushing kings. You deserve it.
I think it's the society's picture of the man that makes everyone think that boys shouldn't cry and so it starts. :-( Let boys cry and play with both cars, Lego ans dolls. That's how they learn how to be good fathers. :-)
@@tylerlarsen2671 🤣🤣🤣 Because of the name? Well... Imagine the fragility to not have fun with things, only because of what it is called. Personally I would think it was great if boys were taught to take care of their future kids by being allowed to play with dolls from an early age, but if we want men to continue being abscent in their kids' life we can proceed as usual and keep them away from games and play that develop their caring abilities. 🤷♀️
@@tylerlarsen2671 That's what I was hoping, but we need to remember that the little boys have learned that reaction from somewhere. If no one told them girls or boys can't play with whatever they want they will not come up with that thought by themselves either. 🤷♀️😊
In Australian English, you have been granted the title of mate. In British English, you are now one of the blokes. In American English, you are now a homie. In all of these, you are now one of the bois.
God Bless You Roma! I’m a 64 year old man who has busted my butt in my chosen profession for 40+ years, put two children through college and provided a upper middle class lifestyle for my family. The last few years, my income due to various factors, has dropped to significantly less than a minimum wage job would have given me and I have been selling most of my assets trying to keep my business afloat. I never thought my self worth depended on my success as a provider. I was fooling myself. I now feel I have no value and feel everyone is thinking the same thing about me. Thank you for being a kind voice telling me otherwise. 🌹
I have the biggest soft spot for stay at home dads. I genuinely cannot express how much i love seeing a dad playing with his children and running around with them, acting like a kid himself.
The sad thing is you see more dads able to play with there children as if they are a child then you see moms doing the same. Or at least that is what I notice a lot.
for real I always wondered why men are treated different I'm 14 and girls in my school look at me different cause I'm not strong and they can beat me in an arm wrestle so they don't like me
@@gmot I feel you bro. Highschool was the worst part of my life. I was in a different town and knew nobody so naturally I tried to make friends but it turned out to be with the wrong people. And so began 4 years of humiliation and abuse which in turn made me shutter in my self and I felt like I wasn't worth for anyone. The only thing that I got out of all that mess was to never trust anyone.
As a man, I also think a bit that way. It shows that you have ambitions in life and financial responsibility. If you have a good paying job, you are way more likely to be able to support your family. You are by no means a good person automatically because of this tho.
@@jakobkohlhauf6901 I know that just by saying that i am not a good person it does not work like that but there are still many problems other then sexism towards men that are probably more important to people then us men :( But I do agree with you in the fact of being able to have ambitions in life and do something great. And I am 100% not trying to start and argument so if you want to continue the convo then be intellectual instead of making this an aarguemeant. :)
@@giancarlomascola4364 Yes I absolutely agree with you. I recently saw a Video by SNEAKO, he had a lot of good points too. Like when a girl says she's pretty she gets validated by everybody, but if a guy does it, he's suddenly an Asshole or a Douche? Like wtf is this shit
@@jakobkohlhauf6901 ikr, I agree with all of that but its just simple not important for humans to worry about this stuff we are going to have to get used to this stuff because all those people like feminists may be good and stuff but they don't want equality they want power over us. us men are probably gonna have to get used to this for the next couple century's and by then they will have complete power over us and until they kill us or find a way how sexist it is we are basically doomed bye woman but wait because then we got the simps conmen in and being on there side but we need all the people we can get because eventually there is going to be a war between us and them and it will come down to your gender and it wont matter your race or anything it is just what gender you are we could be fighting with like ISIS people but it does not matter there will be a war and it will be bad, but that is not what we are focusing on we are focusing on life conditions for men right now and not the future. We are trying our best to not be shamed for our gender but they just don't get it, and I'm not generalizing every woman some woman are good just like roma army. But for example buzzfeed is a company of braindead feminists and people listen. we have hope but not much.
Thank you for standing up for us, I bet if a guy was to make these exact points in an argument they would simply be disregarded so it's nice to have someone from the other team defend us and help us
@Ahura Mazda yep. Insted of fighting for promotions and pay rises though....I just look for a new job and use my experience as a means to get more money at a new place insted. Better than being told no by the boss.
Im a stay at home dad with two autistic boys. Had a speech language therapist over to film me for the course i was attending. She said im a great dad, will never forget that.
Keep it up. Be a father who is actually participating in the life of his kid. Don’t become like my father who never even cared about me. I wouldn’t even be sad if he dies because I have no connection to him he is only the dude who impregnated my mom. He is not my father I have no father. My brother in law is more of a father then my actual dad. So let me give you that advice always be there for your kids they will remember that later in life. And when everything goes right they will pay you back for all the years of love you gave them.
I understand how it is man. I am a stay at home father for 3 girls. I'm glad to say they are healthy despite my many health problems. And I also understand the difficulty of living with autism personally. A word of advice, as they get older, they will each focus on a singular subject of interest, or have an interest in everything in general. Either way, they will want to be fed with the knowledge. I won't tell u it gets easier as they get older, but u will gain more understanding of how their minds work, and that will help with connecting with them. My father tried to do that too late in my life. Glad to hear u started early in theirs.
Awe there is nothing wrong with being a stay at home dad my son wants to be a daddy when his older his only 3 he loves baby's I incarged my partner to be a hands on dad from the time our son was born and you know what he loves it and we both agreed with raiseing him to know he can do what ever he wants and that the kitchen house work and peranting is every ones job my son says he wants 100 baby's and that he wants to be a daddy when he grows up when he was in daycare he wood look after the baby's and play with them and cuddle them he also loved the baby dolls a worker there tried to tell him that he was a girl and wanted to be mummy because of it my partner ropes her head and said why are you tell my son his a girl and that he wants to be a mummy she said because he loves baby's and baby dolls he said have you asked him if he wants to be a daddy when his older she said know he grabbed our son and said to him in front of her do you want to be like daddy do you want to be a daddy or do you want to be like mummy and be a mummy when your older our son straight a ways said he wants to be a daddy and the my partner said to her right see his a boy and he wants to be like daddy and he said to our son well daddy's a boy and mummy's a girl and my son cryed because the woman told him he was a girl and my partner said hey it's ok your a boy just like daddy and he was happy again and then my partner looked at the lady and said why the hell are your trying confuse my son Just because he loves baby's and he wants kids when his older dose not mean his a girl it means he wants to be a dad and what you teaching him is sexist and wrong
As a single dad raising my sons fully alone this hit home i can not remeber the last time anyone said anything positive or nice to or about me unless i had some form of financial step up thanks alot for saying it you rock
as a single man who lives pretty much in a garage next to my motorcycle with my cat, I can tell you that I am one of the happiest people I know. I have a job that pays my expenses and lets me see some new stuff. what I don't have is people who would tell me that my life is shit because I live in a garage because I moved away from them because I didn't want to do with my life what I was told to do. You have no idea what a great feeling is to come home from work, sit on a couch next to your motorbike, crack open a cold one and have a cat purr in your lap. There is no person in the world that can tell me that my life is shit because they have no idea what I went through to value such little things.
Hey man keep doing what you think is the best for you, keep not letting other people bring you down, you inspired me to do the same, I hope you're well, much love
Hello my friend....i can relate to you 100 %....if everyone had your disposition this world would be a MUCH GREATER PLACE...stay with your convictions!
As a man, I don't get many compliments very often. But a few months ago, a woman hugged me and called me brilliant and incredibly kind. That stuck with me. It really meant a lot to me to hear that.
I’m so happy and grateful that I stumbled upon this video, it gave me a whole new perspective in life that I will surely carry with me for the rest of my life
@Mithilesh M true. I could complain about the so called injustice between genders or instead I could look around and realize that things are fine the way they are and that i can find the appreciation i strive for inside myself.
@Mithilesh M Well of course things aren't fine and tbh even though I don't think 100% gender equality is what we need there's still some big changes to be made but still, even if I need to quote on quote work harder to be appreciated, than so be it. There are definitely problems regarding that topic, but not stuff we can do much about, though that does raise a question, with men still using their power to abuse women on a daily basis, have we possibly neglected problems regarding women on that same topic? Just food for thought.
I was terrified to tell my ex girlfriend that I quit my job to pursue my dream of being a writer. Turns out I was right, shortly thereafter she dumped me.
All so damn true Chloe! All the mother of my kids talked about was what I could do for her and even when I was working and at times I got hurt like slicing my foot and still working my ass off to make sure that my family is provided for, sliced my hand and still kept working, then because of some idiot removed the rubber mats I slipped and fell straight on my lower back while carrying a big stack of plates. I had excruciating muscle spasms and yet I still went to work and she even then claimed that I don't care about providing for my family and that I only cared about myself. Keep speaking the truth Chloe!
My employer called me "reliable and talented for a job" and it made me happy as nothing else. Then I felt almost like crying, sice it was the first compliment I got in 6 months.
The owner of the electronics shop I start an apprenticeship in August this year basically begged me to apply for the job. When they found out that I rather be an IT guy then an Salesman they offered me a position in IT they really wanted me and that’s the most I felt valued ever. No one else ever in my 21 years on this earth gave me the feeling of being a valued member of society except this employer. I am from Germany so this is a problem all over the western world.
That compliment part hit hard. The last time I got a genuine compliment that wasn’t meant to make fun of me was when I was 8 and an older man in his 50s complimented my AC/DC shirt when I was at a mall with my dad. I still have that shirt for some reason.
You will never get rid of that shirt. I have a Pink Floyd Dark Side of the Moon shirt. Got complemented on it by a guy that looked like he could of been ZZ Top. Still have that T shirt myself.
First: Hello there Second: True man, the last compliment I got is over months old and it was just a random worker that saw me bringing in the groceries for my mom and he said good boy and that was probably the biggest honest compliment I've ever got
As a man who worked from age 15 until I got sick at 30 and became unable to hold down a job, this video had me in tears. Thanks for understanding. You are awesome. I appreciate you.
@@danielfoster5596 I have CRPS, so it won't kill me, it'll just cause searing agony every day for the rest of my miserable existence. Gotta try to make the best of it. Thankfully I have a good wife and mother who help me when I need it.
I'd like to thank you for making these videos. It got me teary eyed, because every single one of these hit hard. I was someone who had very low self-esteem, could only talk to women as a friend, never ask them out because I thought I wasn't what they wanted or good enough. I couldn't except praise, etc. I could go on with this list and tell numerous stories to go along with just how messed up I was. I'm just now starting to have true confidence in myself at 22. Women like you are what we need. I've ended up just talking in circles to women who are "empowered" and believe "men have it better because insert x reason here." Having a woman with some common sense and helping fight against the stupid reasons other women give to hate on men is very refreshing. God bless you and keep you 🙏
The thing about men being tough and being taught to endure all the pain no matter the cost actually reminded me of a disturbed lyric "show no emotion as it can destroy your soul" and its true cause if you show emotion or weakness you can feel the hell and mockery coming even tho everybody's telling you otherwise...idk at that point your instincts kick in as a manifestation of PTSD
today the class comedian of my class gave me a ruler and a hug. that feeling I got was the best I felt in years, the simple act of feeling another humans embrace even for a second was the highlight of my whole year.
“Hey you are so beautiful and gorgeous and you have an amazing personality” Girls: “Ok” “Hey nice shirt” Guys: “Thank you, I shall cherish this memory in my mind forever”
I love compliments. I fish for them, Im super happy when I get them, but I also FUCKING LOVE giving other people compliments and do it all the time. (I’m a girl btw) and even though I can totally tell that men feel more moved by the compliments that they recieve, the reality is that usually their reaccion isnt like that. What they normally do is say something awkward and try to laugh at themselves which is really sad, because it shows how rare those compliments are for them
Are you out of your mind? What a dumb comment. True feminism is all the silly stuff she said in the baby voice. You will *NEVER* here a feminist dispel the myth of the wage gap.
I like her videos (and share her views) but the way she drags women to make them see things is no different from the way Feminists drag men. This is a clear Us VS them channel and while it is necessary that is NOT how you get most women to listen to you. We need unity not more drama.
@@wserv3215 no she's not holy shit. Just because she criticizes aspects of society doesn't mean she's doing the same thing as a feminist. Do you even know what a feminist is? They don't stand up for equality anymore, this woman is just pointing out the societal flaws that men have to deal with. So we can't have issues that we can talk about without being divided? That's literally all you've said here.
I have struggled my entire life with one affirmation: I am worthy of respect. I have 3 BS degrees, an MBA, and a doctorate in medicine. And yet, that is still my mantra every time I go out in public, to a social gathering, and certainly around women. I have to keep that consciously in the forward part of my brain.
I grew up having all of my failures and fuck ups highlighted and most of my accomplishments overlooked or minimized with the phrase "you can do better" or "I just want you to be the best version of you". I heard this so much growing that it sent me into a downward spiral of addiction and depression because I couldn't get the question out of my head "what's so wrong with me that I need to be better?" I can not take constructive criticism anymore without going to a very dark place and just shutting down completely. I wish I would've had these videos back in 2006 as a freshman in high school wanting to get into the dating world, I already felt extremely replaceable (still do on my bad days) and then going through the constant rejection from girls I wanted to date and even girls I tried having conversations with. It got so bad that I just cut myself off from everything and everyone and became so resentful and emotionless. I figured I was either gonna feel all of it or none of it, I chose none and ended missing out on a lot of "high school experiences" dates, parties, prom, senior trip, etc. Thank you from the bottom my heart for being such an amazing human being and I wish I had a friend like you growing up, that might've helped me with so many of my mental strain that I dealt with in my mid 20s thank you so so damn much
I really love that she talks from a female perspective because if there was a male saying this he would be called bigoted and struck down, so thank you from the bottom of my heart for advocating for gender equality in males. You are a hero.
@@kiwi9065 sorta feel like if you’ve got someone fighting stereotypes and generalities on a channel, you shouldn’t throw one back at her generality/stereotype. I get what you mean but like she’s fighting for you, fight for her too
😭😭 man this hit home. Im in the Army and my soon to be ex wife is in Army as well, and nothings gone through paperwork wise, shes pregnant and already has some "boyfriend" living with her. I get it i wasnt the greatest husband im fighting my mental health, im going to therapy, but i know deep down that no one truly cares if i get better all they care is what i can provide. She left me because i wasnt meeting her "emotional" needs, because it wasnt like how it was in the beginning. Stay strong my Kings, yall are loved yall are cared for. The thing that is helping me right now is my best friend in my platoon. We go to the gym, we makes jokes and were there for eachother. Yall arent Alone!!!!!!!!
@@repairtech2387 exactly, she’s kissing up to men for a reason. Let’s see if she actually doesn’t try to be a typical girl when she and her boyfriend inevitably break up
Once again, you be spittin straight facts. As a kid going to adult, those years were fucking hard. Finally I found a true woman that values me for everything. Yes I believe men should be the provider for their family, but should be valued for everything. I still feel worthless when it comes to the rest of my family. As for my wife and kids, they make me feel like a king. I try and do the best I can to treat them the same way. I love them to the moon and back.
This one hit me pretty hard. As a husband and father when we hit rough spots in life, and this isn't even put on me by my wife, she's very supportive, I feel like I am failing my family. When things go wrong and I can't fix it or I don't make enough money to fix it, I feel like a failure. Like my one job is to take care of them and I can't even do that right. Even when I know I am doing everything I can. So yeah this one hit me...
A woman who actually cares about a mans well being and not just a walking wallet.im soo glad to know that there are woman like her in this world that actually think outside the box or not just about themselves and genuinely understand a man's struggle in life or perspective 🛑🧢.we got feelings too and brought into this world with a different mind set about life and being a man growing up she knows this dearly and for that I cant thank u enough🙌👏👐🙏
Red pill girls: -Plagiarise the shit out of red pill men and reword them slightly to seem original (men love young girls who produce equal tier thoughts to smart men) -Try to be edgy as fuck -Throw the majority of women under a bus This is a niche female sexual strategy.
Girls after getting rejected once: why does nobody love me? Boys after getting insulted, bullied, rejected and having to buy a body pillow of an anime girl just feel accepted by a girl: it is what it is
As a man, this hit hard. I lost my job after my best friend died due to my depression worsening. I couldn’t even get out of bed for weeks. I still didn’t go back home because I was so scared of what my family would think. When my family called me, I’d tell them I was fine, and the second I got off the phone I’d start crying. I tried to get another job, but couldn’t because I was a depressed homeless looking dropout. That didn’t help my depression, which led to alcoholism and suicidal thoughts, the whole package deal.
I broke down in tears at the end. I just hit 18 and I feel the most amount of existential worthlessness right now. If I get lower than a 2.0 this semester, I will lose my potential degree, get kicked out of college, and then what... I'm expected to pay bills and taxes and do these things and if I don't I'm a failure and I'm worthless because I can't provide for myself or a family if I choose to have one. The amount of sleepless nights this has caused me is innumerable. Not only am I expected to do all of this but if I don't then my value drops.
And u can say these things after even being abused by a man, that says a lot about your mind and character I’m really personally impressed. Thanks for your words
@Justin masters Wellington noooo doughnuts for me thanks lol. Cmon u guys can’t tell me u don’t know good cops? That is unless you break the law and every run in u have is bad because u shift blame and it’s now the cops fault your needing to be handled? Orrr u don’t have a mind of your own and just see what media puts out and assume we’re all whatever u think we are. Let’s not be Hippocrates about this ordeal.
@@brandoncasares4956 I agree with you. Not every cop a fucking shitty human being. However, Every cop works for a corrupt system. The system itself is messed up. While I want to believe genZ can join and make a difference it's simply not true. You can't fix the system by joining it. They give cops riot gear and rifles and guns to make the cop feel powerful. Like they can do whatever they want. So while I believe you are probably a good guy, I still disagree with the system you work for.
True feminism is belief in EQUAL rights for men and women, not women should be treated better than men. The whole idea is to bring equality, but it has branched into a much more toxic and hurtful mindset and what feminism is thought of now is what really are 'feminazis'. True feminists aren't common, but they do exist.
I still remember being in high school being told things like “the world is your oyster”, “you have so much potential”, “ you can do anything” and other BS cliches like that. When I was older in college, a mentor asked me…. “Do you know what ‘potential’ means?” I said something like, “it’s having the capability to be success.” He looked me right in the eye said “No, it means you haven’t done sheet yet.” I was like, “fudge”. All my life up to that point, I believed “potential” was a good word, a positive word. In my early 20s, it’s would be an insult. Eventually all men come to this realization, because our worth is our works.
Finally, a feminist who is actually for true equality and a decent person. Thank you for actively talking about that which society and feminism ignore and push aside. Your message is heard, loud and goddamn clear to us men. And again, thank you for actually being the only woman who aknowledges this at all. You’re one of a kind!
@@Icewind007 I don’t see why you all think feminism = not caring about men’s issues. If you can care so much about men’s issues you can put that same sympathy onto women. The two are exclusive. Saying feminism isn’t a things anymore when the highest percentage of murders are domestic men to women is ignorant. Feminism is about women’s rights menisim is about men’s you can have both without taking one away from the other and acknowledging their advantages it’s not that hard
That stay-at-home dad point really hits home for me. After a man ran a red light and left me disabled I became a SAH dad, and I've been fighting to feel valued ever since. It is nice to know that there are ladies like her in this world that can sympathize.
@@aikou2886 I could not agree more! I am thankful everyday for the fact that I'm still here, and I get to see them grow up! Thank you for your kind words!
I am mostly stay at home from car accident injuries as well, and just last night I was verbally attacked by a girl I know for having a pathetic life because I don't leave the house often. Mind you, injuries aside, we also have stay-at-home lockdown orders going on in Ontario, Canada, so going out is more out of the question than normal. It still doesn't stop them from being nasty assholes though.
I swear to god these videos give me a slight relief lasting few mins but again have to get my self up and face the reality back. I could fight but I don't have enough time to spend on such a fight.
I know this is an old video of yours (I say "yours" in the hopes that you read your comments), but it really rings home for me. I turn 40 this year, just blew out my knee trying to do something I have done 100 times before... depression set in and I can't sleep again. If I didn't have my woman who pulls me up and out of the darkness of my cPTSD from 8 combat tours, I would have suck started my 45. You are so so right. I feel so worthless because I am not in war anymore, not saving lives, not protecting the weak or innocent... Im 40 now and in my culture (I am a proud Norse Pegan) men either died in battle or killed themselves when they became useless and stopped contributing to their communities. I am a lucky one... I have a women, like you, that really understands men and the weight we silently carry. Thank you for your support and please if you need anything from a seasoned combat Vet who knows how low things can get, please let me know. Thanks again. #stop22aday
I still remember the first real compliment I got from a girl in freshman year of hs. I remember what I was wearing, how I did my hair, the jewelry that I was wearing, where it happened, what time it happened, exactly what she said, and who I was with. Literally made my heart jump
I’m not saying that there aren’t creeps around, but women generally receives so many compliments that they forgets about majority of them or gets offended. If women yelled “nice butt” at me in public, I would be flattered, not offended.
I still remember the only time a girl asked me for my number and when I look back at I still know what I was doing, how the weather was even so it is an old memory
I can't. Id love to be able to remember anything positive from my passed. Have to find anything positive there other than working harder for a better future for myself.
I have a similar memory, in fact I remember the exact day even when a girl told me that I was fabulous, I was literally happy for like a week almost as if I had won an award
So true.After a car accident I was a stay at home dad for 2 years while my wife worked nearly 50 hrs a week. And even though i did a pretty good job of it, every time someone said "what do you do for a living?" I felt like a loser, a disappointment.
I'm sure you're an amazing father that said the reason you feel that way us because it's literally programmed in our DNA too provide. Quell those feelings you rule bro !
As a single dad who's been struggling to make a place and "succeed" in an industry with staggering odds, I felt this. It's a tricky road these days, walking the line between being a good dad & "good man", and being a successful man. ... Let alone feeling like I matter as a human being.
Man I’m going though the same thing and her videos have actually opened my eyes to a lot of things. Her videos help me through this rough time and appreciate them greatly
@@scottbootland3046 Start nurturing your social circles and analyzing why you are falling short there. Your qualities as a business leader can be valuable to those around you in other contexts, maybe for advice or guidance.
Yep. Grow up strong and scarey looking. make people to afraid to look at you. At least then you feel as though you have some power, then if anyone thinks you are worthless they will be to scared to say it to your face.
You need to protect all women! That's what will make this a better world. You've all been born by a woman. Honor that! No more trash talking about women, even if they would act like an ordinary man. Deal?
30 years old, no success in sight yet and I lost many years to major depression because I saw myself as worthless without having achieved anything. Slowly working my way out of this, but it's like a million knives in my flesh every single day...
@@hillarionasturias7574 It's hard to think that way when your high IQ only "blesses" you with overthinking, making you feel like you're twice as old as you actually are... But I keep on fighting😌
Every word she said resonates with me because I'm living it everyday. 55 years old and never married. I'm not ugly, just poor. Even though I work full time. Never been able to really attract a woman. I'm constantly thinking about how I can improve my self to attract love into my life
Feel you man. I'm not poor, I'm 43, living at home with my mom. I have a good job, and 2 nice cars, but I haven't dated a woman since 2004. I take some solace in the fact that my mom is 73 years old, and it is probably a good thing I can be here for her although my mom is very energetic and still works for a living, and she doesn't look her age, but the thought of losing my mom haunts me every day. And I just don't find it necessary in my life right now to worry about finding a woman. Or at least that is what I tell myself. Would I like to find someone. Absolutely, but I guess I'm not in a hurry as the stigma that I live with my mom is negatively looked upon, and I find that is a huge driving force against me trying to find someone. I'm embarrassed to make the attempt for fear that I will be ridiculed for it. In short, I guess I have the things I want in terms of being materialistic but not the one thing that should matter most. Admittedly, I have adopted the mentality of accepting that I will be single for the rest of my life, and I try to focus on things that make me happy instead. But it is always in the back of my mind.
@@Fluke2SS same here, I'm 52, my mother is 72 and I still live in the basement. I do handyman work, it's a nice basement. But even when I was younger and dating, I would meet a girl, and I'd say "I live with my mother, is that a problem?" hee hee, it never was.
Love comes from within brother. Got to let go of all the bs and love yourself first. Love is power. And if you're waiting for someone to make you feel loved, when you do you'll still be powerless. And when they leave, you'll be destroyed. Do things that empower you. For you. You are worth it.
sometimes, i am really glad i was born autistic. having a mind that functions completely differently from most people is usually a downside, but it has saved me from alot of social issues that effect other men.
I don't mean this in a mean or negative way, but I say this to my friend all the time "I wish I was born special cause than I wouldn't give a shit about anything and would just be much happier, ignorance is bliss" and the way you just explained it was exactly what I meant by it.
Honestly, this is why I’m doing what I’m doing. I love you Chloe! And the days I feel like giving up. I just watch one of your videos. Men fucking matter! 🖤
Samantha Hinkle and don’t forget that you matter, too, Samantha. The day you find yourself a mate (if you don’t have one already), remember to make that man matter to you as much as he will undoubtedly make you matter to him. Be safe and be well.
Hearing a woman say all these things about men makes me feel better about myself and helps me understand that i don't need to follow the standards society has for men to make it in this world
Thanks Roma, very few women understand but you really do make the point. Men who figure it out develop themselves; their finances, skills, abilities etc. They become better men. I'm 62 but today I'm really just that same 13 year old boy I used to be just a whole lot better. I gave up looking for someone to make me happy, I am complete and need nothing from anyone to be happy.
We need more people like u, a woman that understands a mans world Ps: I’m not saying men understand women’s world of living but they don’t automatically understand ours neither
I think what pisses so many guys off about the modern feminist movement is the presumptuous nature of their arguments where men can't possibly understand women, but then feminists write hundreds of books on what they believe to be "the nature of men" and what they think and feel.
@@Terralventhe absolutely not, actually, feminism is about destroying the myth around the nature of individuals and changing the expectations of society towards women, and men. Patriarchy makes us, men, little soldier ready to sacrifice themselves and abolishing patriarchy, is abolishing this condition.
@@arwadpilartz7228 Peddle the religious dogma to someone who has less confidence and is more weak-minded. I'm about as interested in your ideological recital as I am a Mormon's.
@@Terralventhe so you think that your beliefs are free from ideology? you were talking about what you felt was feminism based on the bias its adversary tried to stick in your mind. I tell you my love, there is no such thing for the interest of the male gender as the abolition of patriarchy. and its my opinion right now it could easily change. you clearly seems to nourrish a misconception about what is feminism, and even if it is a "religion" you don't seem to understand it.
@@arwadpilartz7228 Except I specified modern feminism and gave a literal and factually accurate example, as opposed to spouting jargon intended to frame a narrative like you keep doing.
I was homeless at 17 for my entire senior year of high school after my father died. I lived out of an suv and showering wherever possible before school. Graduated High school, then graduated college while working offshore. I’ve been a musician that learned to play instruments well, played shows all across the US, taught myself to paint (realistic landscapes, portraits, or ideas right out of my head), made tons of money in the oilfield while traveling across the world, and that’s just to name a few accomplishments in my 30 years. I don’t expect anyone to “validate” a fucking thing I do to pander, but I’ve only been told twice in my entire life that someone was “proud of me” after all of that shit. Lol Not once ever...from any girlfriend, wife, not from my sisters, any friend (male or female), not even once from my mother....the only one that ever said it and meant it without having ulterior motives was my father. It’s not something that really matters, honestly....but, shit...it’s nice to be recognized for what you do every once in a while.
@@beyoutillfull9695 Thank you; I appreciate that. This is the first time that I’ve ever written anything about my history on the internet for obvious reasons. But, if it helps anyone in any way get through what they’re going through, I’m glad I did it.
You did what you had to do and it paid off. You can be proud of yourself and you don’t need to give a f🤬ck about what anyone else thinks about you or says to you. Just keep building and striving the way you have been.
I am so fucking proud of u my dude you're my hero from now on. I'm 17 right now too and my dad died because of covid(july) it's been hard but I'm hanging in there. You're a fuckin proof that things will get better. What's your name? I want to see your paintings and works bro
what? look like a meth head and give your parents a heart attack at the sight of her? ...Think like her, yes....Be or look like her, fuck noo...girls got major issues
@@camelio10 She is an attractive woman by any common standard not sure what your comparison is or if you dated Marilyn Monroe in your past life. Tattoos are often messages and forms of self-expression, your comment doesn't make sense in 2020.
It's so soul crushing when women just want men for money/power/status I mean the very idea of a man dating a women for anything other than who she is would be viewed as disgusting so I think it's the same vice versa
Having been all the way up and down the social status ladder, a couple times, and even a single dad, I can verify every one of these points is spot on. Yes, there are many things going on out there. She is also absolutely giving truth about a very important subject.
I think I speak for a lot of men when I say “I can take a punch better than I can take a compliment”
Damn you're right, it actually is easier to take a hit than a compliment, the hits just bounce off at this stage
Well said
Truest thing i heard in awhile
Shiiiiit you right
And people wonder why I rode bmx xD
The average man is so starved of positive attention, he'll treasure every single compliment he receives for years.
This is sadly true
Can confirm
Someone once complimented my style like last year and I still think about it because I dont get that enough
I remember the few compliments I have been given since the first time in grade 2 a friend gave me one. Still vividly remember it to this day. Sad but true.
I remember a girl saying I have beautiful eyes 10 years ago, im 27 now. I don't remember the last compliment I've got from a female since lol
As a relationship coach, I have spoken to thousands of women. You would be amazed at the f*cked up things they have been taught about how to interact with men. They are taught that tired old cliché of playing, "Hard to get." And some even think that when men approach them that they should reject him a couple of times - even if they are interested! And so when I have been on coaching calls with women who tell me that BUT are paying me to help them get a boyfriend, it's all I can do not to throw my phone. I explain to them that so many of the men I coach literally have PTSD from approaching woman and being rejected and that they are so downtrodden over the constant rejections that they have faced from women that not only are they less likely to approach women because they can't stand the idea of being turned down - AGAIN - but if she does reject them, they are most likely to simply give up. I often ask those same women to put themselves in the shoes of the man approaching them and it's often a foreign concept to them. But when they do and they imagine being rejected simply to be toyed with or so that it's not "too easy," on them, they are often stunned and can't imagine being treated with such psychological abuse. Stay strong men. There are some women out there who don't toy with you and simply treat you as a human being. Stay away from the others and whatever you do, DO NOT compliment them. One of the things I tell men is that it's fine to compliment a woman but only the same amount that she compliments you.
The last sentence... I cannot compliment? Unless they compliment me... But I do not want them to compliment me, all I want is compliment people
Literally hit the nail on the head.. I myself have been through the exact same situations but with a twist, if I did ask a girl out I liked and she rejected me, I'd only ask once and if it was a no, I instantly thought ok fine she doesn't like me and move on. But then I find out from one of their friends that they actually do like me (then proceed to make some stupid excuse as to why she said no), but because she rejected me the first time and I no longer have any interest (Mostly to avoid the rejection again before it ruins my self a steam and well I took it she's not attracted to me when she rejected me the first time). Then it goes awkward real fast and even goes down the route of "Are you gay?" etc or them just turning plain nasty..
Very true
I'm only 18 and it's hard for me to approach a women to tell them I like them.
Mainly because they never want to give the guy a chance even if he's the one guy trying to be a decent enough guy to be worthy enough to be loved by someone they care for.
And every girl I've ever liked has either rejected me outrigt or has left me for a guy that ended up treating them poorly.
Like seriously girls need to give guys a chance to show them that they can be a good boyfriend or maybe even more than that.
Wheres the shrek meme of "like that'll ever happen" when you need it
@@TYLERSWIFTSWORD I understand your feeling... i did all i could to make my girlfriend feel loved like a fckin queen and someday she made me brok up with her (i brok because she didn't have the balls to do so and was just pushing me to do it), and then after 1 month she magically wants me again, and she stalk me for 9 fckin moths i reject her countless time but... i give up because i'm only a man (she is hot lol), and with the COVID i didn't have the chance to meet anyone else.
Today i feel like girls don't like good guys, it's very cliché but, they want a bad boy or someone who can make them feel insecure. i know it's look very stupid to think like that but, i'm not the only one who observed that.
Women are very complex, and sometimes i wish i was gay, but i'm really not into boys XD
The fact that there are women like this out there, brings a smile to my face.
@Mmahardcorefan She was far more abused by her own gender, which is why she's more for her opposite gender then her own.
@@ChristopherMichael-dw4wt and she was almost killed by the father of her kid, explain me that? Her head was beaten by a baton by the father of her kid
@@aluisfar4154 I already know that. But still, she was abused more by females then she was abused by males.
@@ChristopherMichael-dw4wt well she still coulda not trust nobody anyway according of what she's been through. She had bad experiences with both, you can accept that she also stands for both genders. Believe it or not, she also stands up for women too. Surprising, i kNoW riGHt?
@@aluisfar4154 We already knew that to genius!!! She represents equal rights for both genders. But her personally, she's more for men then women. She's already made that known through her words and her actions.
BROTHERS! WE MUST PROTECT THIS WOMAN AT ALL COST!!!
Why?
@@dstarkspp why
Ok simp
@@natevic1867 😂
@@dstarkspp because her brain actually works
When a random girl on the internet understands you better than anyone, this girl is amazing
Fax man
@Anton Shurik amen
Saddest part is ladies like this are too few and far between.
@@Espressokill Not only that they're hard to find.
@@Espressokill because she is Godess of mercy.
No woman on Earth (except for maybe you) can understand how good it feels to hear an actual woman stand up for men's rights. This one made me cry. It does start from childhood. It is extremely painful.
There are many good women, I have seen them take a stand for us. It is just, that there are hard to find with the shit load of idiots out there. Keep your eyes on the sky and a good women will see, that u want to go high up.
SIMP! She's a WHORE & a grifter. She's disrespecting MEN just by exploiting her sexuality. She is for the streets
I’m a 16 yr old guy, and when you said “the transition from boyhood to manhood is incredibly difficult” I felt like someone finally knew how fucking hard it is. Everybody around you sticks you in 2 worlds. One where you’re just a kid and that you don’t know what you’re talking about. And another where you have to perform every single thing in your life absolutely flawlessly. That’s maybe an exaggeration, but us men/boys go through so much pain JUST to maybe get acknowledged for the pain we endure and how hard it is. When I’ve tried to hint to college staff that my mental health isn’t doing very well, they’ve said things like “it’s just lack of sleep!” And you get the drift. Us men are strong, but because we have to be. We’re stigmatized as the group of people that can push through pain without an end. No, it ain’t that easy.
Edit: Also, men are so afraid to speak out against physical, emotional and mental abuse from women because we feel/know that people will make fun of us or not believe us because of the generalization that “men are stronger” and that because of that we can’t be abused or hurt.
Being a man is fucking hard.
Yeah, im 15 and both in the state where I'm expected to be productive, and want to be able to work and be able to provide for myself, but I can't drive, I can't get a job, and people don't realy take me seriously.
And you think that now that you're sixteen, wait till you're 24 and you will see how much shittier it gets. I really beg you to enjoy these years the best you can because time flies.
I'm 14 and This is starting to me. I won't gonna to care if i have or not have a girlfriend but i don't want to change. I want to be curios and not like mostly nowdays adults
Damn right it is hard. Anyone who says different doesn’t remember. You young guys keep putting one foot ahead of the other, keep your heads up and try as best as you can to not let society tell you that your value comes from what you CAN DO OR ACCOMPLISH. It doesn’t! It comes from who you are inside. How do you treat other people? Are you honest, kind? Can you be trusted? Do you treat people the way you want them to treat you? If you have problems with any of the above you can change. That’s the entire basis of Christianity. We are all screwed up. But how do we respond to being so screwed up? Do the best we can. No one should expect more.
Being a man in these times is numb misery.
"Only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition of what he can provide." -Chris Rock
Damn that hit
Yep. So devastatingly true. My ex said to me once ' if you weren't such a hardworker, I'd have left you a long time ago' . Crushed my spirit ... And I went back to work.
@@mikenosnaj5872 damn. Keep fighting bro🙌
@@onefootballhd2265 Thanks bruh, all good now though . 4yrs divorced and happy .
That same logic is shown toward truck drivers in some states. You can't run your truck at night to stay warm or cool off (depending on the temperature) unless you have a pet in the truck. So the pet is more important than the truck driver.
as a member of the male gendered society I humbly give you the rank of homie. congratulations
underrated comment
Not even on some bullshit, just on some "thanks for keeping it real" shit
Pretend I give you like I don’t wanna mess with the 69
It’s making me sad that there’s ppl who have the audacity to break the 69 i mean have some respect
And now you have been given the rank oh ULTRA HOMIE. welcome to the BOYZ
Bruh as an 18 year old male I almost cried after seeing this video because the fact that she pointed out that Boys inherit the feeling of worthlessness in the transition to adulthood(manhood)
As an 18 year old male I felt that deeply
Thank you for spreading truth about the reality that is the struggle of being a man in this modern society
Stay strong my friend
It sucks, cause I'm 36 and been bashed so many times. Only time people want to know me or help is when they know I got money. There has been a few times where I felt like I was looked at as a hero in a way. But even then, when you are no longer needed, you are tossed aside.
Don't worry, there are women out there that will understand you and your struggles. Just don't waste your time with the ones who don't speak to you on equal terms or put themselves in your shoes
r/18 and this is deep
pussy
Honestly, the fact that she pinpointed so many of what seems like push-over struggles can actually be the fine line between life and death. I'm super happy we have someone like this who's helping men out there with all of their struggles. Keep pushing kings. You deserve it.
You too King o7
Women: I want a sensitive man not afraid to show his weakness.
Men: *shows the tiniest weakness*
Women: MAN UP!
I think it's the society's picture of the man that makes everyone think that boys shouldn't cry and so it starts. :-( Let boys cry and play with both cars, Lego ans dolls. That's how they learn how to be good fathers. :-)
@@madeleitnekorren1996 excuse me? They aren’t dolls. They’re, they’re action figures. Boys don’t play with dolls.
:)
@@tylerlarsen2671 🤣🤣🤣 Because of the name? Well... Imagine the fragility to not have fun with things, only because of what it is called. Personally I would think it was great if boys were taught to take care of their future kids by being allowed to play with dolls from an early age, but if we want men to continue being abscent in their kids' life we can proceed as usual and keep them away from games and play that develop their caring abilities. 🤷♀️
@@madeleitnekorren1996 it’s sarcasm. It’s what most little boys say when they’re told for the first time they like to play with dolls or something.
@@tylerlarsen2671 That's what I was hoping, but we need to remember that the little boys have learned that reaction from somewhere. If no one told them girls or boys can't play with whatever they want they will not come up with that thought by themselves either. 🤷♀️😊
In Australian English, you have been granted the title of mate. In British English, you are now one of the blokes. In American English, you are now a homie. In all of these, you are now one of the bois.
Yes sirrrr. Let's goooo🙌👑
And in Mexican Spanish he has earned the title of "Carnal"
In Chinese Mandarin, they have earned the title of 大哥。
In Brazilian Portuguese you've earned the title of Parça.
In my language she has earned the rank of Bruda
God Bless You Roma! I’m a 64 year old man who has busted my butt in my chosen profession for 40+ years, put two children through college and provided a upper middle class lifestyle for my family. The last few years, my income due to various factors, has dropped to significantly less than a minimum wage job would have given me and I have been selling most of my assets trying to keep my business afloat. I never thought my self worth depended on my success as a provider. I was fooling myself. I now feel I have no value and feel everyone is thinking the same thing about me. Thank you for being a kind voice telling me otherwise. 🌹
I have the biggest soft spot for stay at home dads. I genuinely cannot express how much i love seeing a dad playing with his children and running around with them, acting like a kid himself.
You will be hated for this, don't change
The sad thing is you see more dads able to play with there children as if they are a child then you see moms doing the same. Or at least that is what I notice a lot.
Damn this chick is making me realize shit about my own gender that I had no idea about
for real I always wondered why men are treated different I'm 14 and girls in my school look at me different cause I'm not strong and they can beat me in an arm wrestle so they don't like me
@@gmot I feel you bro. Highschool was the worst part of my life. I was in a different town and knew nobody so naturally I tried to make friends but it turned out to be with the wrong people. And so began 4 years of humiliation and abuse which in turn made me shutter in my self and I felt like I wasn't worth for anyone. The only thing that I got out of all that mess was to never trust anyone.
yeah same
@@gmot damn man, I mean that's tough.
Yeah most of the stuff I kinda just accepted as how things are u know?
"Oh he has a good paying job? He's a keeper"... Literally evidence of the truth she is speaking.
I love this vid hbu
As a man, I also think a bit that way. It shows that you have ambitions in life and financial responsibility. If you have a good paying job, you are way more likely to be able to support your family.
You are by no means a good person automatically because of this tho.
@@jakobkohlhauf6901 I know that just by saying that i am not a good person it does not work like that but there are still many problems other then sexism towards men that are probably more important to people then us men :( But I do agree with you in the fact of being able to have ambitions in life and do something great. And I am 100% not trying to start and argument so if you want to continue the convo then be intellectual instead of making this an aarguemeant. :)
@@giancarlomascola4364 Yes I absolutely agree with you. I recently saw a Video by SNEAKO, he had a lot of good points too. Like when a girl says she's pretty she gets validated by everybody, but if a guy does it, he's suddenly an Asshole or a Douche? Like wtf is this shit
@@jakobkohlhauf6901 ikr, I agree with all of that but its just simple not important for humans to worry about this stuff we are going to have to get used to this stuff because all those people like feminists may be good and stuff but they don't want equality they want power over us. us men are probably gonna have to get used to this for the next couple century's and by then they will have complete power over us and until they kill us or find a way how sexist it is we are basically doomed bye woman but wait because then we got the simps conmen in and being on there side but we need all the people we can get because eventually there is going to be a war between us and them and it will come down to your gender and it wont matter your race or anything it is just what gender you are we could be fighting with like ISIS people but it does not matter there will be a war and it will be bad, but that is not what we are focusing on we are focusing on life conditions for men right now and not the future. We are trying our best to not be shamed for our gender but they just don't get it, and I'm not generalizing every woman some woman are good just like roma army. But for example buzzfeed is a company of braindead feminists and people listen. we have hope but not much.
look, you gotta stop, because you're tearing my walls down and its making me feel vulnerable.
That is when people shall not stop
Thank you for standing up for us, I bet if a guy was to make these exact points in an argument they would simply be disregarded so it's nice to have someone from the other team defend us and help us
“Success is pretty much life or death for men” any other dude feel like this cause this shit hit me
@Ahura Mazda yep. Insted of fighting for promotions and pay rises though....I just look for a new job and use my experience as a means to get more money at a new place insted. Better than being told no by the boss.
Yup
Suddenly, the fact that I’ve been feeling lost and useless for the last few years makes sense to me
@@strahany7883 true that
This hit me harder than a baseball bat
Im a stay at home dad with two autistic boys. Had a speech language therapist over to film me for the course i was attending. She said im a great dad, will never forget that.
Keep it up. Be a father who is actually participating in the life of his kid. Don’t become like my father who never even cared about me.
I wouldn’t even be sad if he dies because I have no connection to him he is only the dude who impregnated my mom. He is not my father I have no father.
My brother in law is more of a father then my actual dad.
So let me give you that advice always be there for your kids they will remember that later in life. And when everything goes right they will pay you back for all the years of love you gave them.
That's great! I hope your boys are making a lot of progress.
I understand how it is man. I am a stay at home father for 3 girls. I'm glad to say they are healthy despite my many health problems. And I also understand the difficulty of living with autism personally. A word of advice, as they get older, they will each focus on a singular subject of interest, or have an interest in everything in general. Either way, they will want to be fed with the knowledge. I won't tell u it gets easier as they get older, but u will gain more understanding of how their minds work, and that will help with connecting with them. My father tried to do that too late in my life. Glad to hear u started early in theirs.
You are an AMAZING dad to your children!!
Awe there is nothing wrong with being a stay at home dad my son wants to be a daddy when his older his only 3 he loves baby's I incarged my partner to be a hands on dad from the time our son was born and you know what he loves it and we both agreed with raiseing him to know he can do what ever he wants and that the kitchen house work and peranting is every ones job my son says he wants 100 baby's and that he wants to be a daddy when he grows up when he was in daycare he wood look after the baby's and play with them and cuddle them he also loved the baby dolls a worker there tried to tell him that he was a girl and wanted to be mummy because of it my partner ropes her head and said why are you tell my son his a girl and that he wants to be a mummy she said because he loves baby's and baby dolls he said have you asked him if he wants to be a daddy when his older she said know he grabbed our son and said to him in front of her do you want to be like daddy do you want to be a daddy or do you want to be like mummy and be a mummy when your older our son straight a ways said he wants to be a daddy and the my partner said to her right see his a boy and he wants to be like daddy and he said to our son well daddy's a boy and mummy's a girl and my son cryed because the woman told him he was a girl and my partner said hey it's ok your a boy just like daddy and he was happy again and then my partner looked at the lady and said why the hell are your trying confuse my son Just because he loves baby's and he wants kids when his older dose not mean his a girl it means he wants to be a dad and what you teaching him is sexist and wrong
As a single dad raising my sons fully alone this hit home i can not remeber the last time anyone said anything positive or nice to or about me unless i had some form of financial step up thanks alot for saying it you rock
The moment I chose to "go it alone" my life became more simple and I learned what happiness was.
As a man who never missed a day of providing for 30 years, This lady is spot on! Thanks for the voice.
Yes mam you nailed it
Did you receive appreciation for it, or was it just expected?
As a teen who respects you
*I kneel down to you *
For honour
@trosen231 you're are a hero.
@THE TEXAS TORNADO Bruh
What the heck😅😂You're right it does sound sus but I'm doing it not for his pleasure but for honour not in the wrong way lol
as a single man who lives pretty much in a garage next to my motorcycle with my cat, I can tell you that I am one of the happiest people I know. I have a job that pays my expenses and lets me see some new stuff. what I don't have is people who would tell me that my life is shit because I live in a garage because I moved away from them because I didn't want to do with my life what I was told to do.
You have no idea what a great feeling is to come home from work, sit on a couch next to your motorbike, crack open a cold one and have a cat purr in your lap. There is no person in the world that can tell me that my life is shit because they have no idea what I went through to value such little things.
Hey man
Just wanted to tell you that i'm glad you enjoy your life
Hope it stays that way for a long time :)
Dude I don't even know you but still I feel so happy for you. I hope I get to feel just like you when I'm living on my own.
Hey man keep doing what you think is the best for you, keep not letting other people bring you down, you inspired me to do the same, I hope you're well, much love
Ngl sounds like a great life, the only differences I'd have is loads more cats and a moped instead ahah, hope u and ur cat are great!
Hello my friend....i can relate to you 100 %....if everyone had your disposition this world would be a MUCH GREATER PLACE...stay with your convictions!
As a man, I don't get many compliments very often. But a few months ago, a woman hugged me and called me brilliant and incredibly kind. That stuck with me. It really meant a lot to me to hear that.
I’m so happy and grateful that I stumbled upon this video, it gave me a whole new perspective in life that I will surely carry with me for the rest of my life
Anybody else's "Deny everything and say I'm fine" instinct kicking in?
No, I'm fine
@@palloproductions3198 XD
@Mithilesh M true. I could complain about the so called injustice between genders or instead I could look around and realize that things are fine the way they are and that i can find the appreciation i strive for inside myself.
@Mithilesh M Well of course things aren't fine and tbh even though I don't think 100% gender equality is what we need there's still some big changes to be made but still, even if I need to quote on quote work harder to be appreciated, than so be it. There are definitely problems regarding that topic, but not stuff we can do much about, though that does raise a question, with men still using their power to abuse women on a daily basis, have we possibly neglected problems regarding women on that same topic? Just food for thought.
Nah I'm fine
I was terrified to tell my ex girlfriend that I quit my job to pursue my dream of being a writer. Turns out I was right, shortly thereafter she dumped me.
If your terrified of telling her that you made a step closer to what you want, then she obviously has issues
Here's to a hopeful New York Best Seller then fukhead.
@Masataka Wada (might want to change that to she doesn't deserve you)
Do what you want to do with YOUR life! She didn't deserve you anyways. 👍
Fuckin gold digger
All so damn true Chloe! All the mother of my kids talked about was what I could do for her and even when I was working and at times I got hurt like slicing my foot and still working my ass off to make sure that my family is provided for, sliced my hand and still kept working, then because of some idiot removed the rubber mats I slipped and fell straight on my lower back while carrying a big stack of plates. I had excruciating muscle spasms and yet I still went to work and she even then claimed that I don't care about providing for my family and that I only cared about myself. Keep speaking the truth Chloe!
I’m an old fashioned man... but I gotta say, You’re a hero
Not gonna lie I got called "handsome" by a guy and that high-key made my day.
it's no surprise that someone called you handsome.
:)
Same. They didn't tell me directly tho. They sent me two different posts on two different occasions 😂
@helloperson readingthis wait. Wdym? 💀
@helloperson readingthis it's not what you think!! I just love pepperoni 😮
@helloperson readingthis I changed it 😂
My employer called me "reliable and talented for a job" and it made me happy as nothing else. Then I felt almost like crying, sice it was the first compliment I got in 6 months.
bro you got compliment my teacher told me that my hair style looks good on me when i was 17 now im 21 soon and still doing same hair cut hehe
You guys get compliments?
ok, you're good for about 5 years before the next compliment
Compli-? What's that?
The owner of the electronics shop I start an apprenticeship in August this year basically begged me to apply for the job.
When they found out that I rather be an IT guy then an Salesman they offered me a position in IT they really wanted me and that’s the most I felt valued ever. No one else ever in my 21 years on this earth gave me the feeling of being a valued member of society except this employer.
I am from Germany so this is a problem all over the western world.
We must protect this woman at all costs!
You can't imagine what a relief it is to have the burden of it never being mentioned and described openly like this lifted. Thank you
That compliment part hit hard. The last time I got a genuine compliment that wasn’t meant to make fun of me was when I was 8 and an older man in his 50s complimented my AC/DC shirt when I was at a mall with my dad. I still have that shirt for some reason.
You will never get rid of that shirt. I have a Pink Floyd Dark Side of the Moon shirt. Got complemented on it by a guy that looked like he could of been ZZ Top. Still have that T shirt myself.
If you like that band then you probably won't get rid of it...idk. I wouldn't want to get rid of any of my band shirts.
First: Hello there
Second: True man, the last compliment I got is over months old and it was just a random worker that saw me bringing in the groceries for my mom and he said good boy and that was probably the biggest honest compliment I've ever got
There’s AC/DC in space?
Nice name.
As a man who worked from age 15 until I got sick at 30 and became unable to hold down a job, this video had me in tears. Thanks for understanding. You are awesome. I appreciate you.
Praying that things get better for you, dude. Hope you have a good day today.
I feel you man. I was diagnosed at 30 with stage 4 cancer. Been a struggle ever since. On the upside, I'm still alive 5 years later.
@@danielfoster5596 I have CRPS, so it won't kill me, it'll just cause searing agony every day for the rest of my miserable existence. Gotta try to make the best of it. Thankfully I have a good wife and mother who help me when I need it.
What a king
@@omenwulf from age 15!! thats just cruel
This woman just pointed out things about my own life to me that I never even realized.
I'd like to thank you for making these videos. It got me teary eyed, because every single one of these hit hard. I was someone who had very low self-esteem, could only talk to women as a friend, never ask them out because I thought I wasn't what they wanted or good enough. I couldn't except praise, etc. I could go on with this list and tell numerous stories to go along with just how messed up I was. I'm just now starting to have true confidence in myself at 22. Women like you are what we need. I've ended up just talking in circles to women who are "empowered" and believe "men have it better because insert x reason here." Having a woman with some common sense and helping fight against the stupid reasons other women give to hate on men is very refreshing. God bless you and keep you 🙏
If you read all that thank you for taking the time to.
Brah, we need to protect and cherish this one.
This one is different, she just hits different...
Yes ikon
"Hits" lol. Poor choice of words
@THE ROAD WARRIOR mr keyboard warrior
yes
A diamond in the rough. I’m still waiting to meet someone who understands what equality and abuse actually is.
This video is a warm blanket n a good book on a rainy day/10
man i’d love to give you some cuddles, feels like you need some
The thing about men being tough and being taught to endure all the pain no matter the cost actually reminded me of a disturbed lyric "show no emotion as it can destroy your soul" and its true cause if you show emotion or weakness you can feel the hell and mockery coming even tho everybody's telling you otherwise...idk at that point your instincts kick in as a manifestation of PTSD
today the class comedian of my class gave me a ruler and a hug.
that feeling I got was the best I felt in years, the simple act of feeling another humans embrace even for a second was the highlight of my whole year.
“Hey you are so beautiful and gorgeous and you have an amazing personality”
Girls: “Ok”
“Hey nice shirt”
Guys: “Thank you, I shall cherish this memory in my mind forever”
"I must now get multiple copies of this shirt and every variant of it. I shall wear no other kind of shirt."
When u fake a whole personality just to smash that is something I would say
I love compliments. I fish for them, Im super happy when I get them, but I also FUCKING LOVE giving other people compliments and do it all the time. (I’m a girl btw) and even though I can totally tell that men feel more moved by the compliments that they recieve, the reality is that usually their reaccion isnt like that. What they normally do is say something awkward and try to laugh at themselves which is really sad, because it shows how rare those compliments are for them
I have bestowed upon you your 69th like. If there is anyone who changes this number I will post your information on pork chop.
I still remember the times people complimented my TDG and Avenged Sevenfold shirts..
True feminism, not pushy, but EQUALLY.
Feminist is not for equality you moron she is a men’s right activist
Are you out of your mind? What a dumb comment. True feminism is all the silly stuff she said in the baby voice. You will *NEVER* here a feminist dispel the myth of the wage gap.
I like her videos (and share her views) but the way she drags women to make them see things is no different from the way Feminists drag men. This is a clear Us VS them channel and while it is necessary that is NOT how you get most women to listen to you. We need unity not more drama.
Feminism has nothing to do with equality.
Word, which You are looking for, is "
egalitarianism".
A common mistake.
@@wserv3215 no she's not holy shit. Just because she criticizes aspects of society doesn't mean she's doing the same thing as a feminist. Do you even know what a feminist is? They don't stand up for equality anymore, this woman is just pointing out the societal flaws that men have to deal with. So we can't have issues that we can talk about without being divided? That's literally all you've said here.
I have struggled my entire life with one affirmation: I am worthy of respect. I have 3 BS degrees, an MBA, and a doctorate in medicine. And yet, that is still my mantra every time I go out in public, to a social gathering, and certainly around women. I have to keep that consciously in the forward part of my brain.
I grew up having all of my failures and fuck ups highlighted and most of my accomplishments overlooked or minimized with the phrase "you can do better" or "I just want you to be the best version of you". I heard this so much growing that it sent me into a downward spiral of addiction and depression because I couldn't get the question out of my head "what's so wrong with me that I need to be better?" I can not take constructive criticism anymore without going to a very dark place and just shutting down completely. I wish I would've had these videos back in 2006 as a freshman in high school wanting to get into the dating world, I already felt extremely replaceable (still do on my bad days) and then going through the constant rejection from girls I wanted to date and even girls I tried having conversations with. It got so bad that I just cut myself off from everything and everyone and became so resentful and emotionless. I figured I was either gonna feel all of it or none of it, I chose none and ended missing out on a lot of "high school experiences" dates, parties, prom, senior trip, etc. Thank you from the bottom my heart for being such an amazing human being and I wish I had a friend like you growing up, that might've helped me with so many of my mental strain that I dealt with in my mid 20s thank you so so damn much
Our only problem now is finding a second woman who thinks like this.
I'm a girl though :/
Banjo Fangirl You will be a great mate for someone. Stay safe, God bless you.
@@banjofangirl3458 Many of us out there just not on Tinder looking for quick dick.
I think op meant a woman that is publicly speaking about men's issues/problems. Don't be too hostile. Stay safe.
Well i agree with her (not with every single point she makes, but my general way of thinking is exactly the same)
If my girl isn’t like her I don’t want her
Deadass
Good luck with that
M E I know bro 😔🥺
Underrated comment 🙏🏻
AG The Goat tats and all
I swear watching her vids washes away the depression for one more day at the very least
2:38 my dad grew up poor, being successful was literally life or death for him.
As A Poor Guy Myself (Like Many Others) I Agree.
I have always said women need to feel wanted and men want to be needed.
I really love that she talks from a female perspective because if there was a male saying this he would be called bigoted and struck down, so thank you from the bottom of my heart for advocating for gender equality in males. You are a hero.
Indeed
Facts
If she was an Average "Whitegirl" then she would reply with "ok"
@@kiwi9065 sorta feel like if you’ve got someone fighting stereotypes and generalities on a channel, you shouldn’t throw one back at her generality/stereotype. I get what you mean but like she’s fighting for you, fight for her too
@@D-Echo_ thats literraly what she said
im 25 single father...damn. 100% so true...😢😢
😭😭 man this hit home. Im in the Army and my soon to be ex wife is in Army as well, and nothings gone through paperwork wise, shes pregnant and already has some "boyfriend" living with her. I get it i wasnt the greatest husband im fighting my mental health, im going to therapy, but i know deep down that no one truly cares if i get better all they care is what i can provide. She left me because i wasnt meeting her "emotional" needs, because it wasnt like how it was in the beginning. Stay strong my Kings, yall are loved yall are cared for. The thing that is helping me right now is my best friend in my platoon. We go to the gym, we makes jokes and were there for eachother. Yall arent Alone!!!!!!!!
This woman is an absolute Queen. She’s not the only one, but one of the few that sees the world for what it is.
SimP
@@xeon5065 Lol
@@xeon5065 😂
She's a chameleon, only a fool would buy into this BS.
@@repairtech2387 exactly, she’s kissing up to men for a reason. Let’s see if she actually doesn’t try to be a typical girl when she and her boyfriend inevitably break up
Honestly we need more people to see the facts like this
Ikr
Once again, you be spittin straight facts. As a kid going to adult, those years were fucking hard. Finally I found a true woman that values me for everything. Yes I believe men should be the provider for their family, but should be valued for everything. I still feel worthless when it comes to the rest of my family. As for my wife and kids, they make me feel like a king. I try and do the best I can to treat them the same way. I love them to the moon and back.
This one hit me pretty hard. As a husband and father when we hit rough spots in life, and this isn't even put on me by my wife, she's very supportive, I feel like I am failing my family. When things go wrong and I can't fix it or I don't make enough money to fix it, I feel like a failure. Like my one job is to take care of them and I can't even do that right. Even when I know I am doing everything I can. So yeah this one hit me...
A woman who actually cares about a mans well being and not just a walking wallet.im soo glad to know that there are woman like her in this world that actually think outside the box or not just about themselves and genuinely understand a man's struggle in life or perspective 🛑🧢.we got feelings too and brought into this world with a different mind set about life and being a man growing up she knows this dearly and for that I cant thank u enough🙌👏👐🙏
I agree but they are so few and far between that it doesnt help the average man. We still struggle
Well my friend there are not a lot of them sadly I wish there where more
ok but who else clicked on the link tho
Red pill girls:
-Plagiarise the shit out of red pill men and reword them slightly to seem original (men love young girls who produce equal tier thoughts to smart men)
-Try to be edgy as fuck
-Throw the majority of women under a bus
This is a niche female sexual strategy.
I think she’s the only one mate
Girls after getting rejected once: why does nobody love me?
Boys after getting insulted, bullied, rejected and having to buy a body pillow of an anime girl just feel accepted by a girl: it is what it is
this is too specific bro
@@jg3898 I can tell it’s not the right link
AYYYY WHO SAID YOU CAN CALL ME OUT-
I'm in this comment and I don't like it
Never seen something so accurate.
As a man, this hit hard. I lost my job after my best friend died due to my depression worsening. I couldn’t even get out of bed for weeks. I still didn’t go back home because I was so scared of what my family would think. When my family called me, I’d tell them I was fine, and the second I got off the phone I’d start crying. I tried to get another job, but couldn’t because I was a depressed homeless looking dropout. That didn’t help my depression, which led to alcoholism and suicidal thoughts, the whole package deal.
Are you ok today?
I broke down in tears at the end. I just hit 18 and I feel the most amount of existential worthlessness right now. If I get lower than a 2.0 this semester, I will lose my potential degree, get kicked out of college, and then what... I'm expected to pay bills and taxes and do these things and if I don't I'm a failure and I'm worthless because I can't provide for myself or a family if I choose to have one. The amount of sleepless nights this has caused me is innumerable. Not only am I expected to do all of this but if I don't then my value drops.
And u can say these things after even being abused by a man, that says a lot about your mind and character I’m really personally impressed. Thanks for your words
Sometimes seeing the worst of something really makes you appreciate the best of that thing
He is not a man he is an asshole
@NAUGHTY BOY mmmmmk
@Justin masters Wellington noooo doughnuts for me thanks lol. Cmon u guys can’t tell me u don’t know good cops? That is unless you break the law and every run in u have is bad because u shift blame and it’s now the cops fault your needing to be handled? Orrr u don’t have a mind of your own and just see what media puts out and assume we’re all whatever u think we are. Let’s not be Hippocrates about this ordeal.
@@brandoncasares4956 I agree with you. Not every cop a fucking shitty human being. However, Every cop works for a corrupt system. The system itself is messed up. While I want to believe genZ can join and make a difference it's simply not true. You can't fix the system by joining it. They give cops riot gear and rifles and guns to make the cop feel powerful. Like they can do whatever they want. So while I believe you are probably a good guy, I still disagree with the system you work for.
Feminists: I’m just gonna pretend I didn’t see that
Lmao
FACTS AREN'T THE FOUNDATION OF REALITY ANYMORE.
@Ian Robertson honestly yeah :)
said no feminist lol they will spawn out of nowhere with readily made picket signs saying that she sexist and a traitor lol
True feminism is belief in EQUAL rights for men and women, not women should be treated better than men. The whole idea is to bring equality, but it has branched into a much more toxic and hurtful mindset and what feminism is thought of now is what really are 'feminazis'. True feminists aren't common, but they do exist.
I still remember being in high school being told things like “the world is your oyster”, “you have so much potential”, “ you can do anything” and other BS cliches like that. When I was older in college, a mentor asked me…. “Do you know what ‘potential’ means?” I said something like, “it’s having the capability to be success.” He looked me right in the eye said “No, it means you haven’t done sheet yet.” I was like, “fudge”. All my life up to that point, I believed “potential” was a good word, a positive word. In my early 20s, it’s would be an insult. Eventually all men come to this realization, because our worth is our works.
You had tears in my eyes, then made me cry of laugher with your ending....woman of the year
Finally, a feminist who is actually for true equality and a decent person.
Thank you for actively talking about that which society and feminism ignore and push aside.
Your message is heard, loud and goddamn clear to us men.
And again, thank you for actually being the only woman who aknowledges this at all.
You’re one of a kind!
Feminism died for true equality a long time ago
@@PedroSilva-tk7in at this point they are fighting for rights they already have
Can't be a modern feminist and give a damn about mens issues lol, those things just don't fit together anymore.
The reason feminism is not a thing anymore. I reject it fully for something else with a logical and unbiased approach.
@@Icewind007 I don’t see why you all think feminism = not caring about men’s issues. If you can care so much about men’s issues you can put that same sympathy onto women. The two are exclusive. Saying feminism isn’t a things anymore when the highest percentage of murders are domestic men to women is ignorant. Feminism is about women’s rights menisim is about men’s you can have both without taking one away from the other and acknowledging their advantages it’s not that hard
That stay-at-home dad point really hits home for me. After a man ran a red light and left me disabled I became a SAH dad, and I've been fighting to feel valued ever since. It is nice to know that there are ladies like her in this world that can sympathize.
I'm sorry that happened to you. At least your kids got you and that's what matters the most if you ask me.
@@aikou2886 I could not agree more! I am thankful everyday for the fact that I'm still here, and I get to see them grow up! Thank you for your kind words!
You're such a great guy, keep being awesome
@@irok1 Thank you so very much! You are too kind!
I am mostly stay at home from car accident injuries as well, and just last night I was verbally attacked by a girl I know for having a pathetic life because I don't leave the house often. Mind you, injuries aside, we also have stay-at-home lockdown orders going on in Ontario, Canada, so going out is more out of the question than normal. It still doesn't stop them from being nasty assholes though.
I swear to god these videos give me a slight relief lasting few mins but again have to get my self up and face the reality back.
I could fight but I don't have enough time to spend on such a fight.
I know this is an old video of yours (I say "yours" in the hopes that you read your comments), but it really rings home for me. I turn 40 this year, just blew out my knee trying to do something I have done 100 times before... depression set in and I can't sleep again. If I didn't have my woman who pulls me up and out of the darkness of my cPTSD from 8 combat tours, I would have suck started my 45. You are so so right. I feel so worthless because I am not in war anymore, not saving lives, not protecting the weak or innocent... Im 40 now and in my culture (I am a proud Norse Pegan) men either died in battle or killed themselves when they became useless and stopped contributing to their communities. I am a lucky one... I have a women, like you, that really understands men and the weight we silently carry. Thank you for your support and please if you need anything from a seasoned combat Vet who knows how low things can get, please let me know. Thanks again. #stop22aday
I still remember the first real compliment I got from a girl in freshman year of hs. I remember what I was wearing, how I did my hair, the jewelry that I was wearing, where it happened, what time it happened, exactly what she said, and who I was with. Literally made my heart jump
I’m not saying that there aren’t creeps around, but women generally receives so many compliments that they forgets about majority of them or gets offended.
If women yelled “nice butt” at me in public, I would be flattered, not offended.
I still remember the only time a girl asked me for my number and when I look back at I still know what I was doing, how the weather was even so it is an old memory
And then a year long crush on the girl ensues
I can't. Id love to be able to remember anything positive from my passed. Have to find anything positive there other than working harder for a better future for myself.
I have a similar memory, in fact I remember the exact day even when a girl told me that I was fabulous, I was literally happy for like a week almost as if I had won an award
So true.After a car accident I was a stay at home dad for 2 years while my wife worked nearly 50 hrs a week. And even though i did a pretty good job of it, every time someone said "what do you do for a living?" I felt like a loser, a disappointment.
Your wifes a keeper
Ur keeper much respect ✊
Your wife is a keeper. A real women.
@@sweertay5563 i mean if she up n left him after a car accident that would be bogus lmaoo
I'm sure you're an amazing father that said the reason you feel that way us because it's literally programmed in our DNA too provide. Quell those feelings you rule bro !
This woman has given me faith in humanity
If somebody says Im a good dad or a good son , it just makes my day..... doesn't happen often but when it does , wow what a good feeling...
As a single dad who's been struggling to make a place and "succeed" in an industry with staggering odds, I felt this. It's a tricky road these days, walking the line between being a good dad & "good man", and being a successful man.
... Let alone feeling like I matter as a human being.
You are valued! Thank you for doing your best and working hard. It must be really difficult, but stay strong. ❤️
Man I’m going though the same thing and her videos have actually opened my eyes to a lot of things. Her videos help me through this rough time and appreciate them greatly
@@scottbootland3046 Start nurturing your social circles and analyzing why you are falling short there. Your qualities as a business leader can be valuable to those around you in other contexts, maybe for advice or guidance.
Love ya bro , and thanks for speaking out. Peace&Love.
ThanK you for working hard!! We appreciate it!!!!
"He who makes a beast of himself,hides the pain of being a man". ~Hunter S. Thompson ~
As soon as I saw this quote I immediately thought of bat country by Avenged sevenfold
@@mr.beefyboidoody3539 me too XD
That's a Samuel Johnson quote, about 200 years too early for Mr. Raoul Duke, but it's a good one nonetheless.
@@mr.beefyboidoody3539 Same.
Yep. Grow up strong and scarey looking. make people to afraid to look at you. At least then you feel as though you have some power, then if anyone thinks you are worthless they will be to scared to say it to your face.
I know my manager appreciates me allot because of how good of a worker I am , always showing up , and always coming when someone can’t .
I 100% feel this. My last relationship i felt like nothing more than a workhorse.
This makes me want to cry. But I was raised and taught that men don’t cry. I’m not crying.
My grandfather said the same but there are times when u cant help it
Yeah unfornatelly there's still the stigma of toxic masculinity, you can work on your emotions and still value 👌👌
Yeah it’s gotten to the point where when you even type cry you feel weird
Cry, my love
@@philipchristiansen1495 Chris, no offense, but that's pretty gay mate.
Everyone we need to protect this women. She queen
Spit on dem
She s chameleon
Sorry can't live its at 60
She truly is!!!
You need to protect all women! That's what will make this a better world. You've all been born by a woman. Honor that! No more trash talking about women, even if they would act like an ordinary man. Deal?
Finally, a girl online that actually defends my masculinity
Wow! This young lady nailed it yet again. Thanks for speaking out for the vast majority of good men who feel this way. Kudos to your content.
30 years old, no success in sight yet and I lost many years to major depression because I saw myself as worthless without having achieved anything. Slowly working my way out of this, but it's like a million knives in my flesh every single day...
ur still young every single day is a chance to change something u don't like
im in the exact same place, also still struggling, but you´re not alone.
@@hillarionasturias7574 It's hard to think that way when your high IQ only "blesses" you with overthinking, making you feel like you're twice as old as you actually are... But I keep on fighting😌
@@davloe as long as ur fighting and learning from ur mistakes even when u fail it will work out somehow
Keep on going friend, you got this!
Every word she said resonates with me because I'm living it everyday. 55 years old and never married. I'm not ugly, just poor. Even though I work full time. Never been able to really attract a woman. I'm constantly thinking about how I can improve my self to attract love into my life
Feel you man. I'm not poor, I'm 43, living at home with my mom. I have a good job, and 2 nice cars, but I haven't dated a woman since 2004. I take some solace in the fact that my mom is 73 years old, and it is probably a good thing I can be here for her although my mom is very energetic and still works for a living, and she doesn't look her age, but the thought of losing my mom haunts me every day. And I just don't find it necessary in my life right now to worry about finding a woman. Or at least that is what I tell myself. Would I like to find someone. Absolutely, but I guess I'm not in a hurry as the stigma that I live with my mom is negatively looked upon, and I find that is a huge driving force against me trying to find someone. I'm embarrassed to make the attempt for fear that I will be ridiculed for it.
In short, I guess I have the things I want in terms of being materialistic but not the one thing that should matter most. Admittedly, I have adopted the mentality of accepting that I will be single for the rest of my life, and I try to focus on things that make me happy instead. But it is always in the back of my mind.
@@Fluke2SS same here, I'm 52, my mother is 72 and I still live in the basement. I do handyman work, it's a nice basement. But even when I was younger and dating, I would meet a girl, and I'd say "I live with my mother, is that a problem?" hee hee, it never was.
Love comes from within brother. Got to let go of all the bs and love yourself first.
Love is power. And if you're waiting for someone to make you feel loved, when you do you'll still be powerless. And when they leave, you'll be destroyed. Do things that empower you. For you. You are worth it.
This woman be spittin' facts that I, as a man, wasn't even aware of. Thank you.
It makes me wana cry because i think its so beutiful how u stand up for us. I think god is very proud of u. Thanks . God bless you
sometimes, i am really glad i was born autistic. having a mind that functions completely differently from most people is usually a downside, but it has saved me from alot of social issues that effect other men.
How?
@@user-vs6oe8fl3m he basically *cant* give a shit
@@user-vs6oe8fl3m By not being inserted in contexts that allow these issues to take place.
@@sijenkai3928 LMFAOOO. cagey built different
I don't mean this in a mean or negative way, but I say this to my friend all the time "I wish I was born special cause than I wouldn't give a shit about anything and would just be much happier, ignorance is bliss" and the way you just explained it was exactly what I meant by it.
Honestly, this is why I’m doing what I’m doing. I love you Chloe! And the days I feel like giving up. I just watch one of your videos. Men fucking matter! 🖤
Thanks Samantha
On behalf of the people who's lives you have improved by holding this mindset, thank you.
Thank you sister 💛🙏👊
Thank you Samantha! God bless you.
Samantha Hinkle and don’t forget that you matter, too, Samantha.
The day you find yourself a mate (if you don’t have one already), remember to make that man matter to you as much as he will undoubtedly make you matter to him.
Be safe and be well.
Hearing a woman say all these things about men makes me feel better about myself and helps me understand that i don't need to follow the standards society has for men to make it in this world
Thanks Roma, very few women understand but you really do make the point. Men who figure it out develop themselves; their finances, skills, abilities etc. They become better men. I'm 62 but today I'm really just that same 13 year old boy I used to be just a whole lot better. I gave up looking for someone to make me happy, I am complete and need nothing from anyone to be happy.
We need more people like u, a woman that understands a mans world
Ps: I’m not saying men understand women’s world of living but they don’t automatically understand ours neither
I think what pisses so many guys off about the modern feminist movement is the presumptuous nature of their arguments where men can't possibly understand women, but then feminists write hundreds of books on what they believe to be "the nature of men" and what they think and feel.
@@Terralventhe absolutely not, actually, feminism is about destroying the myth around the nature of individuals and changing the expectations of society towards women, and men. Patriarchy makes us, men, little soldier ready to sacrifice themselves and abolishing patriarchy, is abolishing this condition.
@@arwadpilartz7228 Peddle the religious dogma to someone who has less confidence and is more weak-minded. I'm about as interested in your ideological recital as I am a Mormon's.
@@Terralventhe so you think that your beliefs are free from ideology? you were talking about what you felt was feminism based on the bias its adversary tried to stick in your mind. I tell you my love, there is no such thing for the interest of the male gender as the abolition of patriarchy. and its my opinion right now it could easily change. you clearly seems to nourrish a misconception about what is feminism, and even if it is a "religion" you don't seem to understand it.
@@arwadpilartz7228 Except I specified modern feminism and gave a literal and factually accurate example, as opposed to spouting jargon intended to frame a narrative like you keep doing.
I was homeless at 17 for my entire senior year of high school after my father died. I lived out of an suv and showering wherever possible before school. Graduated High school, then graduated college while working offshore.
I’ve been a musician that learned to play instruments well, played shows all across the US, taught myself to paint (realistic landscapes, portraits, or ideas right out of my head), made tons of money in the oilfield while traveling across the world, and that’s just to name a few accomplishments in my 30 years.
I don’t expect anyone to “validate” a fucking thing I do to pander, but I’ve only been told twice in my entire life that someone was “proud of me” after all of that shit. Lol
Not once ever...from any girlfriend, wife, not from my sisters, any friend (male or female), not even once from my mother....the only one that ever said it and meant it without having ulterior motives was my father.
It’s not something that really matters, honestly....but, shit...it’s nice to be recognized for what you do every once in a while.
bless you
I'm proud of you! This little excerpt from your life was pretty inspiring. Live well, bro.
@@beyoutillfull9695 Thank you; I appreciate that. This is the first time that I’ve ever written anything about my history on the internet for obvious reasons. But, if it helps anyone in any way get through what they’re going through, I’m glad I did it.
You did what you had to do and it paid off. You can be proud of yourself and you don’t need to give a f🤬ck about what anyone else thinks about you or says to you.
Just keep building and striving the way you have been.
I am so fucking proud of u my dude you're my hero from now on. I'm 17 right now too and my dad died because of covid(july) it's been hard but I'm hanging in there. You're a fuckin proof that things will get better. What's your name? I want to see your paintings and works bro
I speak for a lot of men when I say that a single compliment will get us through the week.
Girl, I am your fan! Congratulations for the honesty and the guts to tell the truth!
WHY CAN'T ALL WOMEN BE LIKE HER 😭
what? look like a meth head and give your parents a heart attack at the sight of her? ...Think like her, yes....Be or look like her, fuck noo...girls got major issues
@@camelio10 so you know her irl?
How does she look like a meth head? She has all her teeth and great skin pretty sure meth addicts have neither and are an utter detriment to society
@@camelio10 hell I wouldn't mind my women lookin like that.
@@camelio10 She is an attractive woman by any common standard not sure what your comparison is or if you dated Marilyn Monroe in your past life. Tattoos are often messages and forms of self-expression, your comment doesn't make sense in 2020.
Preach girl... keep speaking the truth.
It's so soul crushing when women just want men for money/power/status
I mean the very idea of a man dating a women for anything other than who she is would be viewed as disgusting so I think it's the same vice versa
Do you actually follow what she says.
@@analothor Absolutely! We need to treat each other better.
@Katherine Mahlum, clone yourself a million times and instruct your clones your ideals, principles and how to take over the world.
Fffffll-ank you
@@costinpatru5450 this made smile thank you. If I could I would. Have a wonderful week!
"Only women children and dogs are loved unconditionally. Men are loved under the condition that they provide something." -Chris Rock.
Having been all the way up and down the social status ladder, a couple times, and even a single dad, I can verify every one of these points is spot on. Yes, there are many things going on out there. She is also absolutely giving truth about a very important subject.