Interviewing My Wife About My Autism Diagnosis
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- Опубліковано 23 кві 2024
- In The Hidden 20% season finale, things get personal.
Sam Branson, Ben's wife, takes a seat in the green chair for the first time, giving a new perspective on Ben's journey with autism and ADHD.
With raw honesty, they delve into the impact of Ben's autism diagnosis on their marriage. Sam talks about handling Ben's shutdowns, going solo to events and challenges with communication.
But they don't stop there-they also share how they overcame these challenges, emerging stronger than ever.
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On THE HIDDEN 20% - a Dyscalculia, Dyslexia, Dyspraxia, Tourette's, ADHD and Autism Podcast - host Ben Branson chats with neurodivergent creatives, entrepreneurs, and experts to see how great minds... think differently.
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I follow this podcast on Spotify yet after hearing this installment I had to come here to see it as well. Powerful. Thank you and kudos to both of you from Boston, USA.
PS: I am an old clinical psychologist and I found your podcast pretty mesmerizing from the very start and not only enjoyed your style and guests but also benefited professionally. Best into the future.
😭 ive never related to a conversation between a married couple more than i did during this interview. My husband was diagnosed after 13 years of marriage and 3 kids and it has been A very lonely process because i dont have anyone else who can relate to what its like to get to know your autistic husband when he finally takes the mask off and as his wife i want him to feel safe to take it off at home but it is still hard and new,.especially as a social butterfly, thank you, this was healing for me.
I've identified as an autist recently and disclosed to my husband. his comment was "well, you are the same person you were before the realization". then he didn't want to talk about it. In my mind, everything changed and autism was all I wanted to talk about.
Hm, typical....
*...*Ba dum tss**
@@spaghetto9836 I suppose he's not wrong; If you're autistic now then you always were. Odd that he doesn't wish to discuss it with you though, that doesn't make much sense. If my husband told me he thought he had something I'd be like cool, let's learn about it together.
This episode has really made me stop and think and actually consider how my partner has been affected by my diagnosis. For me, unmasking also involves growth and learning and ownership and taking a step back. I’ve got so absorbed in what’s going on with me individually that I’ve forgotten about the people closest to me. Thank you for making me realise that.
Wow - what an utterly raw and honest podcast. So relatable, including for me living with family members who are autistic. Also served as a reminder to just treat everyone with kindness.....so much happening in people's lives that interactions on the surface wouldn't reveal....I loved the reflection that it's OK to think all those things you shouldn't say, admit you feel alone... to be better at vocalising with the people around you, communication is the most important thing to ensure you don't drift....
Just be you - no excuse - but talk to people - and people will see the awesomeness within......
Blimey, this crushed me very early (5.a.m.) this morning listening to the podcats... Raw. Honest. Deep. Not the usual facile BS which floods all channels. This is Top-Level input and helps/helped me more than you can imagine. Simply amazing, thanks for being - the both of you! Just finished my second round watching the podcast... wow, even more intense!
This was a truely beautiful and honest podcast, very insiteful and raw in all the right ways, the honesty between you two and the love you share really comes out and it is very powerful! I hope a lot more people get the chance to experience this chat and enjoy it in its trueness. Thanks you for sharing.
"Being by your side through all of this." 💪
Part II Interview with Ben and one of his daughters, please.... just like 10 mins, would be fun :D This one was a different interview and I appreciate the rawness and honesty. Thanks for your work Ben
Dear Sam and Ben, thank you so much for this exceptional sharing of your expérience, thoughts and feelings! Me and my family are on the autism spectrum since four génerations. We struggle with the same kind of communication troubles. The only thing that saves us almost every day is love and compassion. Jules ❤
Loved this. I'm a mom of 5 seldom dx at 58. Felt the vulnerability and pain and also the love, connection and appreciation but lots face it its still not easy to navigate for either side especially from Audhd perspective its taken mw a few years to process and let go of a lifetime of trauma but processing some together with humor is priceless. Good luck, it's great to see you making it work.
This made me cry, this is invaluable information for so many reasons.
Thank you both for such an honest, authentic and emotional chat. My son has just been diagnosed and I hope with all my heart that he finds his soulmate too.
So hard, but so good to watch, thank you for the vulnerability of sharing this, it‘s unbelievable how getting late diagnosed messes up relationships. And finding the accommodations and a balance between masking partially but prioritising your own down times, is ridiculously difficult to figure out.
Oh my gosh you two! What a candid heartfelt opening of your world. Wow, made me cry a few times❤. Thank you both
What a power couple you two are. Life is crazy rough as is and then there's many groups in society that have their extra challenges on top, each. And here you are, fighting your way through all this. That alone is brilliant. I also really like this place even though I'm slow catching up, cause I'm going into my own process each time I listen to the stories of others, too. Thank you for creating this channel, even though I'm sure it is challenging in all sorts of ways!
I loved this talk for the honesty and vulnerability. And I hope, that as time goes by, we'll all be surrounded by more understanding and genuine kindness and accommodation of each other's needs.
Very beautiful and honest episode. Really enjoyed it and learned from it. Thanx for sharing.
Thank you both for sharing this and being so vulnerable. As an NT wife of someone with ND this is an amazing video. x
Great podcast. Thank you both so much 🙏🏼
Amazing interview.
Can i have the everything turns to gold autism please😢 just kidding, its always interesting to hear the partners perspective.
Btw this is so great to listen to, i can relate to it a Lot. So honest.
Though I sympathize with Sam, I understand Ben more. A few people in my life are Sams, and it's a bit irritating hearing their dismissive thought process. They think they're being progressive when they say "It doesn't change anything about you" or "Life goes on", but when you don't wanna hear about how your loved one's disorder affects their daily life, you don't want to get to know them more; you're rejecting a part of them.
I realized that they say these things towards _themselves,_ i.e, they don't want to see you differently due to their ableist views of a disorder, or unpack that. Maybe I'm just cynical & tired of this, but she implies she was only interested in learning about his ASD when it benefited them (the court case), not when he was actually excited to talk about it. She says it's not that she didn't wanna talk to him, but confirms it in a roundabout way (the "life goes on" crap) while talking to everyone but him about it.
I'm not villainizing her, but these attitudes amongst neurotypicals are predictable and exhausting. What if I told you the way you are is irrelevant to me? Why is us talking about it "making the world/life stop"? And should I really be surprised when our communication decreases & problems arise? All this and the stats mentioned in the video are why I want to marry another divergent person.
This was so hard to watch… thank you
This interview doesn’t make me feel hopeful I’d find an understanding partner, looks very hard, ugh (I’m AuDHD). 😢She doesn’t seem comfortable with the Autism even though she says it…
I feel that so much.