An Autistic Marriage (A Unique Love Story)

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  • Опубліковано 13 тра 2024
  • Rachael and Griffin are both autistic and lovingly married. They prefer to live and sleep in separate homes, because that is the routine that works for them. Their marriage may be unique, but their love and commitment to one another is lifelong.
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  • @lindseybotelho
    @lindseybotelho 3 місяці тому +3751

    Honestly if marriage was presented to me as "doing activities together sometimes" I would be more open to it. They are onto something with this living separately thing 😂

    • @rumham7466
      @rumham7466 3 місяці тому +130

      Omg for real! 😅. Sounds perfect to me

    • @annagitana1
      @annagitana1 3 місяці тому +52

      Seriously.

    • @trombonegirlJH
      @trombonegirlJH 3 місяці тому +245

      That's how my husband and I live! We share a home, a bed, and finances etc but we have different schedules and we have hobbies of our own. We have some activities we like to do together but we are very independent individuals so we both require a lot of space.

    • @rainstreet78
      @rainstreet78 3 місяці тому +23

      Amen girl

    • @Rita-yw2tn
      @Rita-yw2tn 3 місяці тому +16

      I agree 😊

  • @BlizblobLP
    @BlizblobLP 3 місяці тому +2939

    I grew up with Griffin as my neighbor and occasionally still see him around town. It didn’t really get across in this interview but he remembers so much about a person it’s awesome. Last time I saw him he was asking me if I still had the same black belt with a gold buckle that I wore to church one day back when we were like 13, and requested I get a new one because he liked it haha
    It’s so cool that you made this video to spotlight him and Rachel! Thank you!

    • @sage8573
      @sage8573 3 місяці тому +88

      Thank you for sharing. I love how genuine he is.

    • @orangemonkeykiller
      @orangemonkeykiller 3 місяці тому +62

      I feel like being put in the spotlight of the camera might not have let as much of his personality show through. Knowing him, is that right?

    • @BlizblobLP
      @BlizblobLP 3 місяці тому +70

      @@orangemonkeykiller honestly no, I just think he wasn’t asked the right questions

    • @pamelakinzey5600
      @pamelakinzey5600 3 місяці тому +16

      I taught a student who seemed so much like Griffen. He was diagnosed with Aspergers, a type of autism.

    • @caitlynimani6710
      @caitlynimani6710 3 місяці тому +41

      i figured this! autistic people tend to have specific interests/hobbies that we are most advanced in. answering random questions that were not prepared with answers ahead of time would be tricky for someone with low support needs, let alone high support needs. of course every person with autism is different

  • @reenat.8283
    @reenat.8283 3 місяці тому +1128

    “down syndrome” 🤣🤣🤣 Rachel was like “wait, no, no i don’t have that” they’re so cute & their idea of marriage is so unique

    • @AnAdorableWombat1
      @AnAdorableWombat1 3 місяці тому +56

      😂😂😂 that was hilarious. He was also born in 1998

    • @QuixEnd
      @QuixEnd 3 місяці тому +13

      You can't make this kid up😂

    • @user-vj7yi5uf9r
      @user-vj7yi5uf9r 3 місяці тому +8

      I love them ❤

    • @user-bs2ry9fk2q
      @user-bs2ry9fk2q 2 місяці тому

      And. Do that your wife wants! 😂👍

    • @markstoyreviews6641
      @markstoyreviews6641 2 місяці тому +1

      I don’t have Down Syndrome Either But sometimes i get Confused when i see my self in photos But i don’t have any characteristics of Down syndrome or anything But in photos they make me look wired

  • @daisyoconnor8547
    @daisyoconnor8547 3 місяці тому +277

    I don’t think Griffin necessarily misunderstood the last question. I think that his genuine answer to “How can someone have a happy marriage?” is “by marrying Rachael!” That’s what worked for him! 🥺

    • @bayani6302
      @bayani6302 3 місяці тому +20

      Lol that's so cute !

    • @beckyshell4649
      @beckyshell4649 2 місяці тому +22

      Yes that answer is kinda deep .It like how can I not be happy I got Rachael.

    • @loveistheanswer5924
      @loveistheanswer5924 Місяць тому

      ​​@beckyshell4649 exactly maybe he even meant that. 🙂👍♥️🥰🤗

    • @fakenphonenews4252
      @fakenphonenews4252 11 днів тому +1

  • @AliFinNoble
    @AliFinNoble 3 місяці тому +1240

    The way Rachel's parents just looked at her like they were so unbelievably proud they could burst it was very touching

    • @AnnLutz
      @AnnLutz 3 місяці тому +118

      Thank you and we are truly unbelievably proud of her/them 🌸.

    • @dewilew2137
      @dewilew2137 3 місяці тому +39

      @@AnnLutz You guys are awesome parents, and you have clearly done an amazing job. I can see why you’re so proud. Congratulations! 🤗

    • @AnnLutz
      @AnnLutz 3 місяці тому +29

      That’s so kind, have a great weekend.

    • @sharonjack6815
      @sharonjack6815 3 місяці тому +11

      The innocence of my mum’s name is Ann, but I call her mum.
      Just gorgeous

    • @alexandraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
      @alexandraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 3 місяці тому +3

      @@AnnLutz 💙💙

  • @AsheiJenkins
    @AsheiJenkins 3 місяці тому +764

    “Love feels like life” that’s the most beautiful sentence I’ve ever heard.

  • @whitneyd6827
    @whitneyd6827 3 місяці тому +328

    "if someone wants to have a happy marriage, what should they do?"
    "They should love each other"
    Why do people generally not understand this. Very profound. Lovely job interviewing these two Chris! You're very talented at what you do

    • @Jess_Pea
      @Jess_Pea 3 місяці тому +5

      Love isn't enough and you can love someone and still not be right for them. A marriage takes work.

    • @lyneae3786
      @lyneae3786 Місяць тому +1

      I know, this has got to be my favorite video from Chris because I feel like I can learn the most from it. I actually feel like I relate to Griffin more, but wish I was more like Rachel because she is more mature than I was her age. Women should mature differently than men. I was just very “left-brained”. Thanks to Chris, Griffin and Rachel for sharing their story to the world. Love is enough when it is mutual; they work towards being what the other needs within their respective boundaries and abilities. There is a mutuality between them despite their differences. This is a sacrifice of themselves for something greater that they share between them. That is love.

  • @user-cp1of4su7x
    @user-cp1of4su7x 3 місяці тому +534

    This is how marriage with love works. They take turns talking (and with “getting [their] way next time”), she’s patient with him, & encourages him (“you’re smart”). He admits he listens to his wife (when appropriate) and doesn’t want to do bad things in front of her. Compromise, patience, encouragement, quality time together. Their union is perfect🌹just like them.

    • @scaryshari
      @scaryshari 3 місяці тому

      @user-cp1of4su7x - I love and agree with everything you wrote. :-)

    • @aurayukisora
      @aurayukisora Місяць тому +1

      Yes as marriage should be.

  • @OhiChicken
    @OhiChicken 3 місяці тому +1655

    I know it's rude to laugh, but Griffin saying, with full confidence, that Rachael has Down Syndrome made me nearly spit out my drink. I wonder what he thought you were asking...

    • @dollsNcats
      @dollsNcats 3 місяці тому

      Makes me wonder if they have friends with down syndrome and he got confused or overwhelmed by the question.

    • @susivarga7303
      @susivarga7303 3 місяці тому +402

      He obviously knew the question was about Rachel and her disability but his answer shows how "limited" he is compared to her when it comes to mental capacity.
      I find her patience and how she handles him fascinating.

    • @flyingnorseman
      @flyingnorseman 3 місяці тому +251

      @@susivarga7303 If more people had the patience, love and understanding as Rachel the world would be a much better place.

    • @katerclickbait887
      @katerclickbait887 3 місяці тому +124

      Seriously I laughed out way too hard! Would love to spend time with this dude, they are a great couple

    • @kaelanlutz
      @kaelanlutz 3 місяці тому +190

      @OhiChicken Griffin quite literally says the first thing on his mind usually 😂 We all thought it was very comical! And yes Rachael’s patience with him is truly a symbol of their love 😊

  • @KingZealotTactics
    @KingZealotTactics 3 місяці тому +1589

    "Doing what my wife says" lmfao you are damn right brother!

    • @CorASMR.
      @CorASMR. 3 місяці тому +29

      Haha ❤

    • @Chings001
      @Chings001 3 місяці тому +41

      He is onto something here!!

    • @joshuarayfield7594
      @joshuarayfield7594 3 місяці тому +83

      Limited as he may be, he quickly picked up on that very important pro tip!

    • @cbgbstew4072
      @cbgbstew4072 3 місяці тому +39

      That made me lol and he’s not wrong, either.

    • @soniapizzi8930
      @soniapizzi8930 3 місяці тому +28

      He's learned the secret quite fast! Good for you Griffin , you'll be married for life!

  • @satyamevajayate308
    @satyamevajayate308 3 місяці тому +157

    Did anyone notice that Rachel was being a little different in front of her parents and more confident and articulate with Griffin.

    • @narfinarf5920
      @narfinarf5920 3 місяці тому +81

      I did too. She could feel more comfortable and independent around Griffin, he's her partner and not someone she necessarily needs to impress if that makes sense. Her parents seem to mean a lot to her and she looks for their validation, she was getting emotional while talking about how much she loves them so maybe vulnerability is difficult? I'm not sure, I'm just so happy these 2 have each other and the support they need and deserve.

    • @eurekandavani5089
      @eurekandavani5089 2 дні тому

      They could be controlling

  • @GCohen9782
    @GCohen9782 3 місяці тому +75

    “love feels like life”
    That’s quite profound.

  • @somethingsmatter
    @somethingsmatter 3 місяці тому +749

    How do you avoid disagreements?
    „Doing things my wife says“ ❤😂 so precious!

    • @sharonjack6815
      @sharonjack6815 3 місяці тому +30

      Which is really saying something as Griffen admitted he gets frustrated when he doesn’t get his way of what he wants.
      I think Rachel lets him have his was a lot of the time by her interactions. Such a calming person she comes across as
      You can see the adoration they have for each other. Just beautiful

    • @dantemedici8179
      @dantemedici8179 3 місяці тому +8

      Is this not just everyman?

    • @bobbydigital8056
      @bobbydigital8056 3 місяці тому +8

      ​@@dantemedici8179Too many, sadly. This is why I will never married.

    • @lynzblk
      @lynzblk 3 місяці тому +12

      Griffin smarter than he sounds (no offense meant by that at all!) he’s really got some stuff figured out better than majority of men like 😂 like he may not articulate very well but he does articulate the most important parts ❤

    • @streetsofgold4310
      @streetsofgold4310 3 місяці тому +3

      😂😂😂❤

  • @saraostlund2510
    @saraostlund2510 3 місяці тому +929

    The way Rachel's parents look at her when she's talking fills me with so much joy

    • @GlupShiddo
      @GlupShiddo 3 місяці тому +37

      Ikr! 🥰 when you can see the adoration in someone’s face, you feel it too 💓

    • @coleybowley
      @coleybowley 3 місяці тому +23

      You can tell she got a little shy, too, when talking about them. They're such a wonderful couple :)

    • @rachelburton4603
      @rachelburton4603 3 місяці тому +12

      This oh my gosh, they just look at her with so much love and pride. Griffins mother too 🥰

    • @Crocrobon
      @Crocrobon 3 місяці тому +1

      same, they're so cute

    • @vivianevenancio6502
      @vivianevenancio6502 3 місяці тому +6

      I could feel the profound love and appreciation they have for Rachel. She's very lucky.

  • @BethaneyLilly
    @BethaneyLilly 3 місяці тому +204

    I love Rachel’s style, her necklace and gold eyeshadow are beautiful.
    Griffin saying he “ listens to his wife & does what she says” makes me smile….he’s a smart man realizing the key to a happy marriage “happy wife, happy life”
    “Love feels like life” what a beautiful saying.

  • @AnnLutz
    @AnnLutz 3 місяці тому +304

    Thank ya’ll so much for your heartfelt words, support and encouragement. No doubt we are all created uniquely. Chris and Alyssa are amazing and we are so grateful to them and to our daughter for organizing this. Each of us has our own story. Colorful Wishes to ya’ll.

    • @thathobbitlife
      @thathobbitlife 3 місяці тому +27

      You're Rachel's parents right? We all seem to agree that love was just BEAMING from you all 😊😊 y'all all blessed

    • @maryandrear.4988
      @maryandrear.4988 3 місяці тому +6

      Sigue amando a tu hija, son unos padres muy amorosos, eso es lo que necesitamos en esté basto mundo, DIOS bendiga grandemente tu familia señora ann lutz.♥🌞

    • @shaddowsdieout
      @shaddowsdieout 3 місяці тому +4

      They are an adorable couple! ❤ Fantastic job on both sides in regards to parenting. It's so difficult getting our kids to understand such complicated concepts regardless of their diagnoses. You guys have done well 🎉

    • @EmpressChan77
      @EmpressChan77 3 місяці тому +4

      It warms my heart to see every good parenting can do. They are amazing I love their love ❤

    • @RabbitHoleDiaries
      @RabbitHoleDiaries Місяць тому +3

      Such beautiful souls - and nine years, incredible! Great job, y'all! 💖

  • @askmisspatience
    @askmisspatience 3 місяці тому +431

    “What does love feel like?” “Love feels like life.”
    “How do you feel when she says she loves you?” “I feel happy.” “And, grateful.”
    I’m in love with the parents. This is one of the sweetest documentaries I’ve ever seen ❤

  • @ridingboy
    @ridingboy 3 місяці тому +807

    "Love feels like life." Such a powerful answer. 10 times more striking than most neurotypical softball answers.
    And her parents seem to be absolutely wonderful people.

  • @ranerhodes6712
    @ranerhodes6712 3 місяці тому +140

    Rachael’s energy brings so much comfort . She’s so articulate with helping those around her. She’s a beautiful person inside and out 🤍

  • @user-zb2mw1wq3l
    @user-zb2mw1wq3l 3 місяці тому +143

    私は、インタビュアーの彼がキッチンの撮影をするときに"Hey,Griffen"と挨拶する場面が好き!
    この番組は、障害や疾病のことを「一つの個性」として取り上げているので、私は視聴していて気分が良いです。
    この番組の存在が、もっと日本で認知されてほしいです。

    • @luku2232
      @luku2232 3 місяці тому +12

      I’m honestly curious about what the views are around disabilities in Japan.

    • @ShikisaiMaki
      @ShikisaiMaki 3 місяці тому +13

      @@luku2232 I'm autistic, have ADHD, am severely chronically ill, and I used to live in Japan and I unfortunately felt rejected and misunderstood by a lot of people, especially older folks. "Hit the nail that sticks out" is a common saying in Japanese. It gives you an idea of the mentality.
      Sadly, Japan has a history of hiding people with disabilities and treating them differently (sometimes mistreating them too), but it has gotten a little bit better in recent years. However, I'd say that when it comes to mental health, disabilities and any marginalized identities, Japan is years, even decades behind North America.
      Also, Japanese people don't usually say what they think to your face (even when you ask them to be honest) so, it can be really difficult for autistic people to figure out what people want and mean. (Even neurotypical folks struggle with it!) You constantly have to read between the lines. It's also considered rude to ask a lot of questions and question the rules which is something I do a lot because I need to understand the logic behind everything and it was very frustrating for me to not be able to get answers and being perceived as rebellious and rude for asking.

    • @luku2232
      @luku2232 3 місяці тому +5

      @@ShikisaiMaki thank you for answering. I can definitely see how some of the cultural norms would make it very difficult to navigate.

    • @ShikisaiMaki
      @ShikisaiMaki 3 місяці тому

      @@luku2232 my pleasure!

    • @ShikisaiMaki
      @ShikisaiMaki 28 днів тому

      @@luku2232 my pleasure!

  • @Otzdarva
    @Otzdarva 3 місяці тому +1576

    I love these two.

    • @gaygranola
      @gaygranola 3 місяці тому

      No way, nice to see you here Otz

    • @johnnybon4865
      @johnnybon4865 3 місяці тому +1

      AYEEE OTZ

    • @sttuuu3442
      @sttuuu3442 3 місяці тому +2

      KING! Love you, man.

    • @katstinct601
      @katstinct601 3 місяці тому

      ARIANA WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE

    • @blvndr
      @blvndr 3 місяці тому

      hey otz

  • @kjr8660
    @kjr8660 3 місяці тому +1397

    Rachel is so incredibly articulate and thoughtful, she’s like a perfect mentor to someone with more advanced autism.

    • @twelvelookslike
      @twelvelookslike 3 місяці тому +135

      She is very pretty also

    • @DannyD-lr5yg
      @DannyD-lr5yg 3 місяці тому +65

      @@twelvelookslike She reminds me of someone - some actress - I can’t quite put my finger on who but it’ll come to me later I’m sure 😅
      Edit: Emma Stone! She reminds me of Emma Stone, both in her looks and mannerisms.

    • @emprezesh
      @emprezesh 3 місяці тому +188

      She is very thoughtful! Just so you know, there’s no such thing as “more advanced” autism. In this case, Griffin would be described as having higher support needs.
      Because Rachel has less support needs when it comes to communicating (doesn’t need as much prompting or help explaining herself), that doesn’t mean she doesn’t need a lot of help with other things or doesn’t have serious issues that impact her life in the same way Griffin appears to.
      Autism is described as a spectrum, which you could think of as different colors on the spectrum of light. Someone with “purple” autism is not going to be “more advanced” as someone with “green” autism, for example. It impacts every single person differently and varies in terms of support needs.

    • @brennathecatlover4360
      @brennathecatlover4360 3 місяці тому +23

      She’s probably more functioning or maybe has a less severe case

    • @lindaashbrook6789
      @lindaashbrook6789 3 місяці тому +35

      ​@@emprezeshthank you for explaining autism and how the spectrum works. 😊

  • @LT-qt5xj
    @LT-qt5xj 3 місяці тому +56

    as an audhd woman who's often held to neurotypical standards + had many exes storm out because they 'had enough of (my) behaviour', even after my best efforts at communication and explanation, this gives me hope that there's always someone out there who will love you for you, and you them ❤

  • @PH-pq3vq
    @PH-pq3vq 3 місяці тому +108

    aw she's so kind and gentle and loving. I'm so happy for them both that they have found someone who is a fit

  • @byefelicia7358
    @byefelicia7358 3 місяці тому +382

    Love Rachel’s dimples and her brother’s expression when she revealed his marital status! 😂

    • @lordsupernewton8888
      @lordsupernewton8888 3 місяці тому +29

      Her dimples are so adorable.

    • @kaelanlutz
      @kaelanlutz 3 місяці тому +67

      She hit me with that left jab to the gut haha 😂 she loves compliments about her dimples!!! I’ll pass it along!

    • @amourpkay
      @amourpkay 3 місяці тому +17

      @@kaelanlutz well hello Kaelan! So you're single, are you also looking? Asking for a friend 😊

    • @j.e.m.7182
      @j.e.m.7182 3 місяці тому +6

      @@amourpkay LOL ikr what a handsome guy.. no wonder he isn't married, ladies probably ask him out left and right! 🤣 (Side note I loved these two families, they all seem like such kind and warm people. I hope that they all live very happy lives with their loved ones ❤)

    • @Jesus_Saves_Believers
      @Jesus_Saves_Believers 3 місяці тому +2

      This is the cutest 🥰

  • @jadamercedesthompson.
    @jadamercedesthompson. 3 місяці тому +543

    I’m autistic and this gives me hope that I’ll find love some day. Thank you Rachel and Griffin for sharing their story and thank you Chris as always for this beautiful community.

    • @dollsNcats
      @dollsNcats 3 місяці тому +21

      You will :) ! There’s love for everyone! My friends fiancé has autism! But my friend doesn’t. And they both just learned to understand and love each other

    • @lenaposthuma4787
      @lenaposthuma4787 3 місяці тому +13

      @@dollsNcats I am too married to someone who is autistic and I am not, You're right. It is about understanding this person and each other really.

    • @cr4zysh4dez
      @cr4zysh4dez 3 місяці тому +9

      Keep your hope; I had years of lonely and heartaching…I found my one eventually. It may not look like others story but it will be your own 😊

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 3 місяці тому +7

      I am autistic and it took me 8 years to find someone. But it was worth the wait. My partner has ADHD. We have been together for almost 13 years.

    • @tabora_
      @tabora_ 3 місяці тому +2

      Of course you will find love. You need to find the right person who loves you unconditionally. Do not settle for less, and be a good partner yourself.

  • @lizwolf111
    @lizwolf111 3 місяці тому +144

    As someone who has lived with AUDHD all my life but unfortunately went misdiagnosed for 36 years (finally properly diagnosed with AUDHD at age 37), this video really helped me realize that I'm not broken or damaged.
    From an outsiders perspective I would probably be considered "high-functioning", but this is actually not true as I spent the majority of my life masking while struggling very much internally. I've never had a career, I've never left home, I have had many relationships & been fully intimate, but I do not want to live or sleep with my significant other which has caused most of my intimate relationships to end. I actually am fine with being with family & my best friend, it does not really bother me if I have a romantic partner or not... But hearing Rachel & Griffin's love story gives me hope that living separately with your partner is possible ❤
    Thank you for sharing!

    • @a.marvellehoneyman4560
      @a.marvellehoneyman4560 3 місяці тому +4

      Thank you for sharing your experience, ❤.

    • @lynzblk
      @lynzblk 3 місяці тому +1

      It’s totally possible. You’re just different and know what you want and what makes you most comfortable and you obviously don’t compromise/cave in for the sake if keeping your partner. So the right person will come along one day - and I’ll tell you a secret: they always come into your life when you least expect it / when you stop looking…. Just make sure you’re still going out with friends and in public so it’ll have a chance to happen. And start saying yes more. In general. It’s a thing. Look into it ❤

    • @patientzero5685
      @patientzero5685 3 місяці тому +2

      I am so glad that you got the help you needed. Do you have any suggestions for getting diagnosed?

  • @taralounsbury8139
    @taralounsbury8139 3 місяці тому +51

    Super props to the parents that are meeting these two where they are. I hope these two grow old and in love together. It makes you realize that our relationships don’t have to be as complicated as we make them. How to have a happy marriage “love each other” I think a lot of people forget that.

  • @adonaimakhofola2696
    @adonaimakhofola2696 3 місяці тому +366

    The way Rachael's parents look at her with so much love brings tears to my eyes🩷

    • @jessie9539
      @jessie9539 3 місяці тому +6

      Me too I’m crying😭🩷

    • @yadira0425
      @yadira0425 3 місяці тому +10

      Yes!! I was going to comment on that. They look at her with such happiness and love and the way she speaks about them is so beautiful. You can tell she was raised with so much love. They even built her her own space to be more independent 😭🥰🥰

    • @adonaimakhofola2696
      @adonaimakhofola2696 3 місяці тому

      @@yadira0425 which is so lovely to see!

    • @adonaimakhofola2696
      @adonaimakhofola2696 3 місяці тому

      @@jessie9539 🤭🩷🙈

    • @vanymobile
      @vanymobile 3 місяці тому +6

      Ellos y la mamá de Griffin también. Se les ve tan orgullosos de sus hijos. Ojalá el mío (TEA + TDAH combinado) pueda llevar una vida así de feliz como ellos con alguien que le entienda, le ayude y le comprenda. Mi mayor deseo. Os deseo mucha felicidad! ❤

  • @Brycesaggiebabe
    @Brycesaggiebabe 3 місяці тому +430

    I love how they fit with each other so well. Racheal understands him on a deep level and it is so amazing. I love the parents supporting the two of them. Beautiful family. "Love feels like life" no truer words then that.

    • @kristenbillmyre2129
      @kristenbillmyre2129 3 місяці тому +12

      You said what I was going to 😊
      They fit so well, the parents are all so amazing, and yes he's right.
      "Love feels like life"

    • @churnetwinborne7285
      @churnetwinborne7285 3 місяці тому

      So sad they can’t live together

    • @dewilew2137
      @dewilew2137 3 місяці тому +16

      @@churnetwinborne7285why? It doesn’t sound like either of them want to.

    • @Brycesaggiebabe
      @Brycesaggiebabe 3 місяці тому +16

      @@churnetwinborne7285 yet it isn't. This is how they enjoy their marriage, and we are not the ones to judge them for it. They love each other in their own way. That is perfectly ok.

  • @ppp285
    @ppp285 3 місяці тому +33

    What a wonderful couple! I see Rachel's parents getting all the praise for their demeanors here...and I just want to say that Griffin's mom just seems like the most affirming, easygoing person ever who wants for her son what he wants for himself and just goes with it and supports it and identifies their relationship as a marriage with no ifs, ands, buts, or caveats, because that's how they define it for themselves. Everyone needs a mom like that.

  • @tuliplouart
    @tuliplouart 3 місяці тому +32

    “Love feels like life” absolutely. People always ask what love is or what it feels like, and I think that’s the best answer.

  • @joshrappaport1278
    @joshrappaport1278 3 місяці тому +275

    I'm autistic and I wish this couple all the best!!!

  • @tricksterx98
    @tricksterx98 3 місяці тому +139

    I love how they are completely fine with having a "non-standard" relationship and how they deeply feel that it is the best for them both ❤

  • @rebeccamassey337
    @rebeccamassey337 3 місяці тому +32

    This just proves what ive already said: there is someone for everyone. Everyone needs their someone. And its all about someone that complements you and whos company you enjoy. I am happy these two found each other they seem to be soulmates. And its a beautiful thing. This is what its all about. What they have is priceless. Im not going to say any more because im about to cry. This is what any parent hopes for their children.

  • @RiverAndBrooke
    @RiverAndBrooke 3 місяці тому +13

    "Love feels like life." Best answer I've ever heard! ❤️

  • @CrisOnTheInternet
    @CrisOnTheInternet 3 місяці тому +158

    The smiles on their parents' faces 😊

  • @wallacerobert45
    @wallacerobert45 3 місяці тому +222

    Awesome couple. I have Asperger’s and got diagnosed late in life at 34. I am 44 now. I cried four times today listening to this and how beautiful these two are. Maybe someday I will find a partner. It has taken me 10 years to unmask since being diagnosed. Thank you for all your interviews. Peace out love y’all.

    • @christahewitt2758
      @christahewitt2758 3 місяці тому +8

      Congrats on your diagnosis and I wish you all the best in unmasking and welcome to the community. ❤

    • @kmorris101
      @kmorris101 3 місяці тому +24

      My daughter's fiancé has autism and aspergers.. they are engaged to be married and having their first child at the end of March.. I absolutely adore my daughters fiance, Owen.. he's a genuinely nice person and he's very smart!
      You'll find the right person to marry when you least expect it!

    • @carter_1
      @carter_1 3 місяці тому +4

      The best thing to do is go to places & events where people with autism & Aspergers meet. They have dances, games, sports, & just hang out time. Sometimes you just gotta go find love ❤ I know there's someone special just waiting to find you too!

    • @mervisa89
      @mervisa89 3 місяці тому +6

      I was diagnosed this month, with exactly 34 y.o. I hope to be able to fully unmask and find myself. I'm so happy for reading your comment, for some reason🫂🫂🫂

    • @mytravls
      @mytravls 3 місяці тому +2

      Can you share some examples of your experience with the condition?

  • @blackqweenmars
    @blackqweenmars 3 місяці тому +10

    They are so wholesome. I am auDHD and it’s always so nice to see other autistic people finding love. My friend/crush is also autistic lower-functioning/higher support than me(I don’t like to describe it that way, but I don’t know how to better describe it), and our interactions are also pretty similar to this. It can be hard to interact with an autistic person because of the loss of attention. We’re currently both teenagers (17&18). But this video gives me hope that maybe I could have a great relationship as an autistic person with another autistic person, even if they are higher support than me. It’s nice to see people with disabilities getting married and living life because sadly a lot of people with disabilities get discriminated against and can’t find people who love them like that.

  • @laurentweet9254
    @laurentweet9254 3 місяці тому +11

    "I'm not gonna talk anymore but you got this" 💞💞💞

  • @Katie-mw7pd
    @Katie-mw7pd 3 місяці тому +112

    Rachel has the best smile, her dimples come out and her eyes absolutely light up!

    • @sierra9828
      @sierra9828 3 місяці тому +9

      right! she’s so beautiful

  • @missumbrella3135
    @missumbrella3135 3 місяці тому +156

    I love her dimples! She's so pretty.

    • @nannybean8134
      @nannybean8134 3 місяці тому +11

      I was thinking the same thing! She is absolutely beautiful!❤😊

    • @monkeybearmax
      @monkeybearmax 3 місяці тому +9

      She really is and stylish too!

  • @mariiamaria7732
    @mariiamaria7732 3 місяці тому +8

    "they should love each other" ❤ it's really necessary answer

  • @Soundsaboutreet
    @Soundsaboutreet Місяць тому +7

    This is a perfect example of how women can pass as neurotypical, because I bet the vast majority of neurotypical people wouldn’t suspect she is autistic if they met her alone, if they can’t spot the subtle clues in her body language, but I think it’s pretty safe to say most people could tell the man was autistic within seconds of hearing him speak. I have a son and an daughter with autism and the differences in presentation is so different. Bless this couple, it’s so lovely that they found each other ❤

  • @SaraGomez-my1iu
    @SaraGomez-my1iu 3 місяці тому +448

    So inspiring. I'm a mother of two handsome autistic boys. And the teenager has struggled so much and suffered a lot of disappointments trying to go on a date.

    • @kevinbissinger
      @kevinbissinger 3 місяці тому +28

      Dating coaches help tremendously.

    • @snuff2023
      @snuff2023 3 місяці тому +16

      Im a mom of 2 autistic boys too. They are 3 and 4. Both cnsidered nonverbal and are such different personalities. My teenager also has adhd but i suspect he may be on the spectrum.

    • @toiletseat777
      @toiletseat777 3 місяці тому +36

      don't feel too bad, it's not just autistic young men that struggle with that nowadays

    • @Dropitlikeitshotspot
      @Dropitlikeitshotspot 3 місяці тому +20

      Both of my roommates are autistic, and I love helping them get ready for dates! Most of all, I love their stories of what happens on their dates. They can be so much fun to listen to and more genuine than I am.❤️

    • @junebugx1312
      @junebugx1312 3 місяці тому +23

      i am a 22 year old autistic woman (ADHD and OCD too) and i find that i do best dating/being friends with other autistic or neurodivergent individuals. i only ever met people online until i met my partner. he has ADHD and is wonderful to me but i honestly recommend mingling with other autistic people as we usually understand each other.

  • @imperfectly_megan
    @imperfectly_megan 3 місяці тому +211

    Me and my husband are both autistic. Thank you for telling your story, it helped me realize a few things about our relationship, and that it doesn't have to conform to Neurotypical ideals for us to be happy.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 3 місяці тому +3

      Same here. But my partner has ADHD. We have been together for 14 years but don't live together. We eat dinner together almost every night. I spend the weekends at his place. People think that it is strange that we don't live together and aren't married. But it works for us.

    • @JTG313
      @JTG313 3 місяці тому

      ​@Lilycat5 please don't be offended when I asked this but why have you all decided not to live together and what level of autism do you both have.

  • @mom23wASD
    @mom23wASD 2 місяці тому +5

    Rachel and Griffin, thank you for sharing your story. My son Mark is 24 and would love to be married and have a family. Seeing your marriage gives me hope that Mark's dream of marriage can come true, even with his autism.

  • @bluefirekin
    @bluefirekin 3 місяці тому +16

    This was hands-down the most wholesome love story I have seen in a long, long time. What a beautiful couple, in all the ways that count.

  • @memmermiller
    @memmermiller 3 місяці тому +119

    Honestly, no two people’s marriage looks the same. It’s all about discovering what’s right for you. This couple gets it ❤

  • @tamoshanter6268
    @tamoshanter6268 3 місяці тому +186

    Beautiful couple. They may not have what many believe a traditional marriage is, but they definitely have their own marriage. It is so obvious that they love and care for each other, know each faults but do what they can to help each other through life. In many ways, it may be better than a traditional marriage. Kudos to both their families for their support and understanding. My wishes to both of them for a very happy adventure through this life.

    • @laramaaike3050
      @laramaaike3050 3 місяці тому +9

      I didn't know how to describe what I was feeling, but you wrote it perfectly, so I just tag along.

    • @tamoshanter6268
      @tamoshanter6268 3 місяці тому

      @@laramaaike3050Thank you!

  • @PettyBlue1
    @PettyBlue1 3 місяці тому +12

    Beautiful, I didn’t expect myself to watch the whole video, but I just couldn’t get enough of them! I’ve met many children with autism, and I’ve wondered - what happens when they grow up

  • @scoobydoo3285
    @scoobydoo3285 3 місяці тому +6

    This is so sweet! I love how they’ve made their life all about what works for them. They’re happy and content and seem to have the best support system with each family and that is the best team! Such love and devotion here love it!

  • @onlyinsomniac
    @onlyinsomniac 3 місяці тому +67

    It says so much that the one thing Griffin never struggles to articulate is how he feels about Rachel ❤

  •  3 місяці тому +888

    These videos bring joy to me. Seeing people get along even with disabilities makes me happy! ❤

    • @kenrickbautista6141
      @kenrickbautista6141 3 місяці тому +1

      Same. It's so awesome.

    • @Frankfreaks
      @Frankfreaks 3 місяці тому

      I mean.. Joy Boy!

    • @doris501
      @doris501 3 місяці тому +7

      sometimes they are more happy than us….

    • @picvic7
      @picvic7 3 місяці тому +3

      That and how loving and supportive both sides of the fam are.

    • @soniamo4139
      @soniamo4139 3 місяці тому +2

      depending on the spectrum of the autism and the abilities, we can get along with several people, but typically, socializing gets tiring.

  • @ralexandra1058
    @ralexandra1058 3 місяці тому +7

    This is such an unbelievably heartwarming interview.. these two share such a pure, gentle love…

  • @sistatiph2308
    @sistatiph2308 3 місяці тому +9

    I have 5 children and 2 are autistic and I am actually waiting for testing on my youngest child (Pretty sure he is), I am a single mother, I dont have any family or support where I live, 1 person checks on us. watching this really gives me hope that my babies will be able to be in love and get married as they are verbal and 1 is high functioning.
    Its so hard and I appreciate this channel so much. I cry every episode.
    Here where I live, I have tried to reach out for support with no success.
    I wish I lived in a city where I could meet other ASD families.

  • @luminolmortis5927
    @luminolmortis5927 3 місяці тому +120

    i love this so much. as an autistic adult, i just love the way y'all's parents have completely supported the way you want to live your lives together. society wasn't built for autistic people, so you guys built your own type of marriage and it's so cool that it works so well!

  • @codydagg2259
    @codydagg2259 3 місяці тому +49

    I understand why things like this make people realize that love is truly pure and innocent when it is expressed honestly.

  • @TDruzhok
    @TDruzhok 3 місяці тому +2

    "Love feels like life". Beautifully said, Griffin. And absolutely correct 🙏❤️

  • @missdann
    @missdann 3 місяці тому +8

    Rachel is so kind and thankful! She’s inspiring 😊

  • @elliganange
    @elliganange 3 місяці тому +38

    my partner and I have been together 10 years, we're both low support needs autistic people. We never plan on living together, we're currently looking for houses as in two adjacent houses to live in together as neighbours. We do get what men and women do.. but you don't have to actually sleep next to someone for that to be part of your relationship. We have our reasons a big one is that my autism and ADHD came with a mighty dose of chronic insomnia and that can mean it's difficult for me to fall asleep with someone in the bed but also my tossing and turning can be disruptive to them. It's weird how many people think we're not committed to each other or in love because we have adjusted our lives to fit our needs rather than other peoples expectations.

    • @nightyew2160
      @nightyew2160 3 місяці тому

      I am so jealous. I also struggle with insomnia. Also, things like feeling someone's breath on me keep me awake.

    • @burly636
      @burly636 Місяць тому

      If that works for you, then you do what you need to do. Doesn’t matter what other people think. Relationship isn’t a mold. You decide with that will be.

  • @sarahwest5964
    @sarahwest5964 3 місяці тому +63

    As someone with Autism i loved this. My husband has adhd and autism. He helps me out a lot like Rachel. I dont always understand whats going on and cant express myself fully. This video is great for us to show we can love each other and have fulfilling relationships.

    • @burly636
      @burly636 Місяць тому +1

      You expressed yourself very well in your comment. ♥️

  • @SweetT-xh2ou
    @SweetT-xh2ou 3 місяці тому +7

    So sweet!!! Thank you for sharing Rachel and Griffins story! My husband and I are both high functioning special needs. We got married August 2022 work together full time and live independently. Our first year was HARD for me being away from my mom but I knew I had someone else that would be there for me emotionally and physically he is my best friend. No children in our future but we LOVE being Auntie and Uncle and dog parents! Our relationship proves that Love concours all ❤

  • @oliverdobes6618
    @oliverdobes6618 2 місяці тому +4

    Whenever I see people who are neurodivergent living their lives to the fullest I am filled with so much joy. Their joy and authenticity is refreshing and infectious. I am reminded of how their priorities in life are often less infiltrated by greed, malice, or other intense manipulative emotions. They are so sweet to each other. I love this adorable and genuine couple. Truly wish the very best for them!

  • @alicebelloo
    @alicebelloo 3 місяці тому +75

    Omg I'm autistic too and got married a day before them, April 28th 2023!

    • @M_SC
      @M_SC 3 місяці тому +9

      Congratulations!

    • @tandiparent1906
      @tandiparent1906 3 місяці тому +6

      ❤Congratulations to both of U!!

    • @alicebelloo
      @alicebelloo 3 місяці тому

      @@tandiparent1906 No way my partner's nickname is Tandi

  • @ThePianistPlayer
    @ThePianistPlayer 3 місяці тому +102

    I'm autistic, and I wish Rachel and Griffin all the best! ❤️

  • @allissonmueller2342
    @allissonmueller2342 2 місяці тому +6

    Her family is beyond adorable. I love her mom's energy ❤

  • @belindapoplin5439
    @belindapoplin5439 3 місяці тому +10

    To see and hear how gracious, patient and humble Rachael is, is such a testament to her parents ❤ Griffins mom is amazing as well ❤ The level of maturity that these families present is inspiring! I got so much happiness from watching this interview, so thank you for sharing your story, Rachael and Griffin!

  • @bmary8283
    @bmary8283 3 місяці тому +97

    They are two pure souls, these 20 minutes have literally flown away. I wish them all the best for their future ❤❤❤

  • @flyingnorseman
    @flyingnorseman 3 місяці тому +96

    Sweetest thing Ive seen in years. I truly pray that they have a long, healthy and happy life together.

  • @martinaschiavolin1020
    @martinaschiavolin1020 3 місяці тому +2

    This is one of my favourite videos ever. I could feel the live through the screen. I am in awe of all 3 parents, the way they look at their children is the way i wish all parents looked at their kids, with such joy live and pride. Sending so much love to Rachael and Griffinand their beautiful families❤❤❤❤

  • @sparklycucumber9027
    @sparklycucumber9027 3 місяці тому +3

    The honesty between them is very heartwarming. I love seeing human beings simply getting along in a compassionate and loving way. It's such a great joy for me personally and this channel always provides that for me, thank you to everyone willing to share their story and those involved in sharing it!

  • @leannejones7080
    @leannejones7080 3 місяці тому +67

    As the mum of 3 outta 4 Autistic children and working in a high school, on the ASD unit, I’ve had to help autistic teenagers negotiate bfriend, gfriend stuff……this just melts my heart. I hope they enjoy a long and happy marriage, big virtual hugs from the uk 🇬🇧 xxx

    • @AnnLutz
      @AnnLutz 3 місяці тому +1

      🤗🙏💜🦋🤗

  • @umbreonespeont6
    @umbreonespeont6 3 місяці тому +145

    Love this channel. I'm also autistic and married! Beautiful video

    • @CaptchaNeon
      @CaptchaNeon 3 місяці тому +1

      Do you and your spouse also have a non traditional marriage?

    • @umbreonespeont6
      @umbreonespeont6 3 місяці тому +6

      I'd say in some aspects, yes and in some no. Our lives are pretty "normal" in a lot of ways. They accommodate my autism beautifully, but we've pretty much like your average Joes, just with more sensory blocking headphones and food aversions, haha. Thank you for the question! @@CaptchaNeon

  • @Jesus_Saves_Believers
    @Jesus_Saves_Believers 3 місяці тому +2

    That was seriously the cutest thing ever. That ended in the perfect note too!❤❤❤❤

  • @Craftitup64
    @Craftitup64 3 місяці тому +4

    Such an interesting and unique couple. They appear well rounded and happy. I didn’t want their interview to stop. Such a genuine love. Great questions that rolled off your tongue Chris. I wish them the very best.

  • @Aster_Risk
    @Aster_Risk 3 місяці тому +84

    These two are really good together. The way Rachael helps Griffin and how they both love each other and compromise is great. I'm married and I'm grateful for my husband who understands and supports me and I do the same for him. I wish this type of love for everyone who wants it.

  • @beblessedtodayjesuslovesyo6231
    @beblessedtodayjesuslovesyo6231 3 місяці тому

    This might be one of my favorite interviews ever. Love them all!!!

  • @abxv_
    @abxv_ 3 місяці тому +7

    "Love feels like life" That is very true. Bless his heart ♥

  • @snarkishark
    @snarkishark 3 місяці тому +20

    "they should love each other" is honestly the best tip for a happy marriage

  • @cr4zysh4dez
    @cr4zysh4dez 3 місяці тому +65

    I’m autistic (& other disabilities) and 27 years old; my partner of 3.5 years is not autistic or disabled but we have made it work!! It takes a lot of compromise; and radical acceptance. Household stuff is different than a couple where both adults are abled & working. My partner has seen me through meltdowns, sensory overload, shutdown, autistic burnout, depressed. He helps me a lot verbalize how I am feeling and he can always tell when I’m hungry or tired or needs my meds before even I do sometime. I know my family is happy that he educated himself & is my support cause it makes them worry less when I’m not staying at home. (With partner half the week and parents other half….its the reality for many of us who have medium/high support needs.)
    I know the future is unique for us & will not look like the relationships or marriages(?) of most our friends. So for anyone watching these videos whose autistic and discouraged on love- it is there and whether u find is also on the spectrum or another person abled or differently abled. And it can happen and you CAN be enough for someone who’s “normal.”….

    • @sapphireblue1013
      @sapphireblue1013 Місяць тому +2

      My eldest is autistic and her bf is not. They've been together for only a few months, and I'm wondering how this will work out with him, not knowing fully the support she needs, even though she says she tells him. She's capable of taking care of herself, but not financially or anyone else.

  • @frogganna
    @frogganna 3 місяці тому +6

    To me, this represents true unconditional love and purity. Innocence to its core❤ Good job mom and dad for letting them decide what their definition of marriage is. I think this is one of the best stories ive seen on sbsk!

  • @Irish__Clan
    @Irish__Clan 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you, Rachael and Griffin, for sharing your story with us! Great video!

  • @fanofthedog
    @fanofthedog 3 місяці тому +69

    How sweet. She is so gentle with how she helps. And OMG Rachael those adorable dimples on you!!

  • @hiphopsjester942
    @hiphopsjester942 3 місяці тому +30

    As an adult with autism, this really just… just really gives me hope and makes me so glad to see that we’re living in a time where everybody gets their chance to be happy! 😌

  • @rain8329
    @rain8329 3 місяці тому +4

    They are a beautiful couple. Everyone’s marriage is so unique, and I love how they’ve sorted out how their marriage works for them. Great interview…so sweet.

  • @ETHELLEX
    @ETHELLEX Місяць тому +3

    Love them. I actually fully support this type of relationship - love, respect, not living together, no intention of doing so because, well, they are happy the way they are. It's beautiful.

  • @aarinmae
    @aarinmae 3 місяці тому +65

    when they talked about Griffin liking girls being mean i was like “damn same” LOL. love the two of them together!! so wholesome :)

  • @sagemode67
    @sagemode67 3 місяці тому +216

    My girlfriend and I both have autism. I'd love for Chris to interview us!

    • @violetvictoria5522
      @violetvictoria5522 3 місяці тому +4

      H.

    • @dandy5150
      @dandy5150 3 місяці тому +5

      TMDWU

    • @Silenceeify
      @Silenceeify 3 місяці тому +5

      ​@@dandy5150What😅😅😅

    • @junebugx1312
      @junebugx1312 3 місяці тому +13

      they have applications you can fill out for an interview 🙂 i also have autism (plus ADHD, OCD and CPTSD) and i am planning on contacting them for an interview one day

    • @dandy5150
      @dandy5150 3 місяці тому +2

      @@Silenceeify It is what it is, t00bz (͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

  • @christywillis1707
    @christywillis1707 3 місяці тому +2

    This video made me so happy to see how supportive their parents are and how much they love each other. I'm autistic and sometimes I feel like I will never find someone who is my person, but this helped me feel like I can have hope that I can still meet someone who loves me and supports me like they do!

  • @Hey_its_Dre
    @Hey_its_Dre 3 місяці тому +1

    Loved this! Rachel just radiates joy and happiness! We can all learn something - The patience they have with each other is everything!

  • @user-dp6ju5jp7p
    @user-dp6ju5jp7p 3 місяці тому +37

    I am autistic, and my husband has ADHD seeing these two people so in love just brought joy to my heart. My husband has had to learn about my eccentricities over the years but he understands me. I think more than anyone else in my life. Plus he gives great hugs with a perfect amount of pressure.❤❤❤❤

  • @bisma1352
    @bisma1352 3 місяці тому +116

    The parents are super supportive and loving, i do wish they are able to learn a bit about asexuality as maybe that would help not think of sexual intimacy as the ultimate development in case that is not how rachel and Griffin end up proceeding. I think it's amazing they are able to live separately in their own comfort zones yet still know they have each other forever.

    • @megascopsasio2015
      @megascopsasio2015 3 місяці тому +14

      I agree - I also had this thought!

    • @AnnLutz
      @AnnLutz 3 місяці тому +25

      I certainly understand it now but had been told by teachers and professionals that that time would come. Mine came with a simple need that she understand her choices and that they both be able to respect each other’s decisions and choices.

    • @bisma1352
      @bisma1352 3 місяці тому +15

      @@AnnLutz it is awesome how you didn't make the topic taboo or consider it not necessary as some people infantalisingly do. I respect your informed decision making at the time! Sorry if it felt like criticism of your choices, instead i had hoped you had explored this option for her too and that's amazing you have! In my personal experience with it while i understood how things worked it was just never relatable and i wondered if that's what was going on.

    • @tangiechapman6219
      @tangiechapman6219 3 місяці тому

      This is not illegal marriage

  • @floralovespringandflowers6227
    @floralovespringandflowers6227 3 місяці тому +2

    Oh God they are so sweet and I love their parents! I love how they are looking at their children so sweet and full of love. The sibblings too. It is so sweet! You can feel all the love for each other in this room. ❤ Thank you for showing us.

  • @tanyabrown9839
    @tanyabrown9839 3 місяці тому

    That was beautiful, thanks for filming this. Such purity there between them.

  • @defchefman86
    @defchefman86 3 місяці тому +12

    I'm a 37 year old deaf bilateral Cochlear recipient with autism. I appreciate others for sharing their stories. 🤗🤟

  • @jf1809
    @jf1809 3 місяці тому +45

    As an autistic person I love seeing how different yet similar autistic people can be. No matter how someone presents, I tend to feel a kinship

  • @markman713
    @markman713 3 місяці тому

    Chris, you are one of the most amazing people alive on this planet for doing what you do. Talk about making a difference. It's so incredibly special. Thank you for helping so many beautiful people share such important stories.

  • @kogumak.2390
    @kogumak.2390 3 місяці тому

    This was such a precious video, my whole heart swelled with wholesome. Definitely one of my favorite videos I’ve seen

  • @paige99
    @paige99 3 місяці тому +23

    I just love how proud the parents are of their babies. The struggle and fights they've probably had to have for their kids. To see them happy and thriving and finding love.