How to stop getting triggered | Lauren Nanson | TEDxSouthHowardAvenue

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  • @jordanclose700
    @jordanclose700 Рік тому +27

    I like that you not only helped us identity the problem but also gave us a practical tool to overcome it. Well done Lauren!

  • @suhubu1
    @suhubu1 8 місяців тому +110

    A friend in college never got triggered. He found rude comments or whatever might trigger others as humorous and would just laugh. Loved thst about him.

    • @AT.matter
      @AT.matter 6 місяців тому +15

      Sounds like he has no boundaries

    • @Fernandez218
      @Fernandez218 6 місяців тому +12

      what's to stop this college roomate from getting into a relationship or friendship with someone who is abusive and staying with that person forever?

    • @sw6369
      @sw6369 6 місяців тому +2

      he's under deserved

    • @connie27100
      @connie27100 4 місяці тому +7

      Avoidance coping mechanism to laugh every thing off.

    • @BharatSingh-il6jh
      @BharatSingh-il6jh 4 місяці тому +3

      Maybe deep down inside he is suffering and the laughing off is just a coping mechanism he adapted to survive....?

  • @LaurenNanson
    @LaurenNanson Рік тому +27

    Thank you TED and TEDx South Howard Avenue.

    • @katyschildmeyerksapparelde2441
      @katyschildmeyerksapparelde2441 Рік тому +2

      Nice work Lauren. As a child I didn’t have friends until I was 13. I learned some of this early. I even wear a bracelet that says fear is the mind killer.
      That said there is also a practice to know when to speak up or when to walk away. Sometimes the message will not be heard by the person doing the triggering. All good stuff and I think you did well in associating science and theory to practice!!!

    • @LaurenNanson
      @LaurenNanson Рік тому +3

      @@katyschildmeyerksapparelde2441 Fear is the mind killer- I love that. It's so true. And yes there is a time to speak up! And your voice is so much clearer and powerful when you're not speaking from a triggered place.

    • @Monamie44
      @Monamie44 6 місяців тому

      You are AMAZING, Lauren. I truly enjoyed your speech so much and learned so much. Stay happy and blessed xx

    • @SachinKhandelwal-j6i
      @SachinKhandelwal-j6i Місяць тому

      @@LaurenNanson Best Video on Anger Management I have been trying for so long to control my behaviour as I already hurt my family members and my self but I trying to keep myself cool

    • @LaurenNanson
      @LaurenNanson Місяць тому

      @@SachinKhandelwal-j6i I'm so glad it was helpful!

  • @samsoltan7165
    @samsoltan7165 Рік тому +17

    Resiliency is so key. I keep hearing everywhere and I'm glad so many more people are spreading this message to empower people to make things better.

  • @Hightxde
    @Hightxde 6 місяців тому +38

    They gave me two un skippable ads on a video on how to not get triggered.

  • @JulianaMarie_
    @JulianaMarie_ Рік тому +9

    This is so needed in our culture! I'm so glad this is public for everyone because people need to hear this!!

  • @motherlovesaman
    @motherlovesaman 11 місяців тому +7

    I love using Ted talks as gaining knowledge to help myself and others. I love how some Ted talks happen just when you are ready to listen to the message and actually apply it. I grew up on the Rez and am scared that I raised children that are coddled. The triggers here in my community here on the Rez may end a little differently than other communities. I have always remained cool under pressure and turned my negative environment into positive. I even have been in life threatening situations where I was not scared and was able to diffuse the situation to resolution.❤Thanks you all ❤

  • @shapookietv7666
    @shapookietv7666 7 місяців тому +5

    This is gold. Pure gold. Thank you.

  • @yadirakorovesis4805
    @yadirakorovesis4805 Рік тому +2

    *pulls out her "CEO of my mind" name plaque on her desk*
    So motivating and encouraging. Loved
    LOVED LOOOOVED this talk!

  • @jfp061000
    @jfp061000 Рік тому +2

    Lauren, you have such insight, sincerity, and wisdom. Listening to you speak was enlightening and deeply spoke to me in terms of similar experiences. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @stevenpetersmusic
    @stevenpetersmusic Рік тому +11

    I’m so proud of you, Lauren! This is an incredible talk, and so needed for time. I can’t wait to hear more from you! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

    • @UpwardBias
      @UpwardBias Рік тому

      Thank you for your comment! I really appreciate how you expressed your thoughts on this topic. There are so many different perspectives and experiences that make us all unique.

  • @nisansalakarunarathna7048
    @nisansalakarunarathna7048 6 днів тому +1

    The best ted talk I've ever listened to.Needed to hear this today❤

  • @tracyburton3458
    @tracyburton3458 2 місяці тому +4

    Gosh, I really needed your wise words this morning. My in-laws are coming to stay later today and my father-in-law is my trigger, to the point that I now dread their visits. I was planning to quietly leave the room every time he wound me up but now I will definitely be using your suggested approach. Thank you. :)

  • @hannahlewis2493
    @hannahlewis2493 Рік тому +4

    Wow. Such an important topic. So applicable too. Thank you for sharing Lauren!

  • @bradleymoore7622
    @bradleymoore7622 Рік тому +3

    Wow, this talk was informative and absolutley amazing. I laughed and cried and learned. This is the essence of a TEDx talk right here well done Lauren.

  • @ValeeSingleton
    @ValeeSingleton Рік тому +3

    This was wonderful! CEO is a great tool that I’m glad to now have in my back pocket. I also enjoyed hearing your personal story and how much you have overcome, learned and now get to share to help others. Thank you!!

  • @lindsayallinson310
    @lindsayallinson310 Рік тому +4

    What an amazing and timely message. So many of us can use this important reminder to distinguish truth from trigger. Thank you for sharing, Lauren!

  • @maxkorovesis2749
    @maxkorovesis2749 Рік тому +2

    Love this perspective. So important in the world we live in today

    • @UpwardBias
      @UpwardBias Рік тому

      Thank you for your comment! I really appreciate how you expressed your thoughts on this topic. There are so many different perspectives and experiences that make us all unique.

  • @helloandiemarie
    @helloandiemarie Рік тому +7

    This is so powerful!!! Thank you for this, Lauren!!!

    • @UpwardBias
      @UpwardBias Рік тому

      Thank you for your comment! I really appreciate how you expressed your thoughts on this topic. There are so many different perspectives and experiences that make us all unique.

  • @kelseamayyy
    @kelseamayyy Рік тому

    Lauren is a captivating speaker! I thoroughly enjoyed this talk from start to finish. Bravo!

  • @intergalacticGM
    @intergalacticGM 10 днів тому

    I really appreciated the talk. She's no scientist, but someone that manged to overcome a problem, something that is BIG until you manage to overcome it.

  • @angelerodrigue1843
    @angelerodrigue1843 8 місяців тому

    Excellent presentation. Thank you Lauren for sharing what you learned.

  • @hugovaldez9587
    @hugovaldez9587 8 місяців тому +1

    Very insightful.
    Fits perfectly to what I am going through.
    Live the quote at the end.

  • @byedgington169
    @byedgington169 Рік тому +1

    Well done, Lauren, great ideas, acronym, and closing. Good work.

  • @marketingdirection
    @marketingdirection Рік тому

    Well done Lauren! Taking your life challenges and being vulnerable and sharing them to help others is more than admirable. Keep it up!

  • @jordanschumacher6759
    @jordanschumacher6759 Рік тому +2

    Such a great talk! Thank you Lauren!

    • @LaurenNanson
      @LaurenNanson Рік тому

      Couldn't have done it without Thought Leader!

  • @joelsalomon6585
    @joelsalomon6585 Рік тому +2

    Great topic Lauren! Thanks for sharing your story! It totally resonated with me.

  • @phithai-vietdo6285
    @phithai-vietdo6285 Рік тому

    Such an inspiring message and reminder to look within at ourselves. Love this message Lauren! Thanks for sharing your wise tools and practice with us!

  • @coltongreysoper2134
    @coltongreysoper2134 Рік тому +2

    This was incredible! So refreshing!

  • @intergalacticGM
    @intergalacticGM 10 днів тому

    I was looking for this video intentionally.
    It is nice to see that I can still do that.

  • @emilyemanuel2167
    @emilyemanuel2167 Рік тому

    Love this Lauren, this is so insightful and you are a great communicator!

  • @susannahomundson8450
    @susannahomundson8450 Рік тому +1

    Can't wait to start practicing this! Thanks for the practical yet profound tips Lauren!! Very inspiring.

    • @jaciakornwise
      @jaciakornwise Рік тому

      🎉love this. Brilliant topic … and so powerfully delivered and engagingly written ! Thank you !!

  • @kfishhypnotist
    @kfishhypnotist Рік тому

    Great work Lauren! Identifying your triggers is half the battle. Great work!

  • @f.l.y1931
    @f.l.y1931 Рік тому +3

    I LOOVE THIS!! I LOVE the question : “what would person who I want to be do?” SO GOOOOD!! And I’m LOVING show so much of meat is in this presentation 😃straight to the point just how I like it! It’s SUCH a great exercise to be CEO of my own mind… especially imaging what person I want to be and what this person would do… and training ourselves to self control… SOOO GOOOD!! Love it!😍😃🤍🦄🌸☀️🤍🤍🤍🤍🫶🏻

    • @UpwardBias
      @UpwardBias Рік тому

      Thank you for your comment! I really appreciate how you expressed your thoughts on this topic. There are so many different perspectives and experiences that make us all unique.

  • @FreddytheIV
    @FreddytheIV Рік тому +1

    Wonderful topic, even more wonderful delivery!

  • @sofiavega850
    @sofiavega850 Рік тому +4

    Loved the CEO exercise!

  • @nathanaelsuitt270
    @nathanaelsuitt270 11 місяців тому

    Thank you for this talk!
    Such a blessing
    Before this talk. I was a walking trigger. Now I am going to work on being a CEO of my own mind
    God bless friend

  • @btwalley
    @btwalley Рік тому

    Critical topic and addressed in a practical and engaging way, thank you!

  • @leahannwhite1111
    @leahannwhite1111 Рік тому +2

    Outside forces triggering us are imagined. 💓

  • @stephonstrode8683
    @stephonstrode8683 Рік тому

    This is incredible, Lauren! Thank you for sharing. ❤

  • @yasmine4077
    @yasmine4077 7 місяців тому +1

    Thank you , for adding strategy

  • @9Encounter
    @9Encounter Рік тому +1

    This was fantastic, Lauren! I want to teach that CEO tip to my kids! I love the story about the mice too. Resilience really is so central to our mental/emotional well being. You are an inspiration!

  • @Juxtapose76
    @Juxtapose76 6 місяців тому +3

    If it's not an act it sounds pretty powerful, hopefully it helps us all to think in better terms. God bless..🙏💖🕊️

  • @carolinawebb6414
    @carolinawebb6414 Рік тому +3

    This was amazing!! I love that there was a practical formula to put into practice. So helpful!!!

  • @danhaug2296
    @danhaug2296 Рік тому

    This is so good Lauren! Great story-telling, and a compelling message. Thank you for sharing your story!

  • @Gracieici
    @Gracieici 9 місяців тому +1

    Thank you, Lauren 🥺💖

  • @shortscape_
    @shortscape_ Рік тому

    This is awesome. So proud of you Lauren. Well done 👏🏼

  • @clivec10
    @clivec10 Рік тому

    Well done Lauren . With the greatest respect, for someone so young to master this , is very impressive. Love the humour also !

  • @melliel690
    @melliel690 Рік тому

    I hope and pray everyone would breathe and be calm before typing or speaking negative opinions and judgements on others.
    Love you Lauren and definitely need more truth with love messages!
    🧠 ❤️ God bless everyone whi watches this!
    “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy-meditate on these things. The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you.”
    ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4‬:‭6‬-‭9‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

  • @wiamamamou2162
    @wiamamamou2162 Рік тому

    Thank you Lauren, this video is so helpful

  • @raymundking5692
    @raymundking5692 Рік тому

    Well done, Lauren - I am so proud of you! ❤

  • @sarahcrosby9758
    @sarahcrosby9758 Рік тому

    Wow! How good was this talk!?! There were some things in this I needed to hear in this. Will be working on CEO. Super helpful and needed in the world we live in today.

  • @sharonbk7310
    @sharonbk7310 Рік тому

    Thank you, Lauren! I picked up another great tool I can use. CEO! I absolutely love it!❤️ very informative talk. 👍

  • @Myriistics
    @Myriistics 2 місяці тому

    C= call
    E= Envision
    O= opposite action

  • @BrilloBrillas
    @BrilloBrillas 6 місяців тому +1

    CEO.. great . Thank you Ms.

  • @sarahholguin2164
    @sarahholguin2164 5 місяців тому

    Thank you. This was so helpful! 💜

  • @bethanyhopecoyle3261
    @bethanyhopecoyle3261 Рік тому

    This was so awesome! So interesting relevant non-shaming encouraging really needed for our generation. I learned a lot.
    Really cool
    👏👏👏👏

  • @my_set_apart_life
    @my_set_apart_life 11 місяців тому

    This was excellent. Thank you

  • @monicafay
    @monicafay Рік тому

    Great job! Loved meeting you and sharing the red circle with you!

  • @marysuefarrier8699
    @marysuefarrier8699 Рік тому

    Well done! Interesting, engaging and wise.

  • @charissagreenarrow
    @charissagreenarrow Рік тому

    Resilience!! So good!

  • @GiffordGribley
    @GiffordGribley 2 місяці тому

    Ketchup on steak! Never!
    Thank for the CEO approach it’s a good reminder to find that centered confident inner perspective even if the other person is hard to deal with or triggering.

  • @GraceUnlmtd
    @GraceUnlmtd Рік тому +1

    Love this topic! Great job!

  • @fridayschooltheband
    @fridayschooltheband Рік тому +4

    This is so good. A message our generation needs desperately

  • @amysprints
    @amysprints Рік тому

    great job, congratulations Lauren!

  • @GHACHAM
    @GHACHAM Рік тому +1

    Great talk and important topic!

  • @alexzanabria17
    @alexzanabria17 Рік тому

    Awesome Lauren! Great communication skills. Loved the Winston Churchill quote at the end lol

  • @stormfischerr
    @stormfischerr 3 місяці тому +3

    so basically “don’t develop ptsd despite your horrible circumstances because these mice didn’t!!” i’m glad that it worked for you, but this is such a bigger topic than 14 minutes. people don’t intentionally develop trauma, especially if we’re talking about childhood trauma

  • @kuboarder09
    @kuboarder09 Рік тому +1

    Great talk!

  • @colleengetz3991
    @colleengetz3991 Рік тому

    Excellent!
    Well said, gorgeous 💜

  • @1matim
    @1matim 4 місяці тому

    thank you

  • @malzhomeslice89
    @malzhomeslice89 Рік тому +1

    Would be great if everyone took a few minutes and watched this . Very simple exercise that could help anyone.

    • @UpwardBias
      @UpwardBias Рік тому

      Thank you for your comment! I really appreciate how you expressed your thoughts on this topic. There are so many different perspectives and experiences that make us all unique.

  • @sumonamitra5153
    @sumonamitra5153 Рік тому

    Thanks a lot..loved it

  • @hannahnicole1004
    @hannahnicole1004 Рік тому +1

    This is sooooo good!😊❤

  • @lindabentley7624
    @lindabentley7624 6 місяців тому

    So callus the emotion. Got it.

  • @tejinful
    @tejinful Рік тому +1

    Great one 🎉🎉🎉

  • @yukee1127
    @yukee1127 8 місяців тому +2

    10:30 how to build resilience and not to be triggered

  • @elijaharviso7279
    @elijaharviso7279 Рік тому +1

    Wow this is awesome!

    • @UpwardBias
      @UpwardBias Рік тому

      Thank you for your comment! I really appreciate how you expressed your thoughts on this topic. There are so many different perspectives and experiences that make us all unique.

  • @chic0chul0
    @chic0chul0 Рік тому

    So very well done, Lauren!
    A wonderful balance of humor, vulnerability, and practical application with a hopeful vision and charge for the future for all listening. 👏

  • @Superfoodsguy
    @Superfoodsguy Рік тому

    🙌🙌🔥🔥 awesome Lauren!

  • @Proverbs3.3
    @Proverbs3.3 6 місяців тому

    Wow God bless you

  • @pathonwardlifecoaching
    @pathonwardlifecoaching Рік тому

    Well done!

  • @MelissaWeyers
    @MelissaWeyers Рік тому

    YESSSS…. SO good!!!

  • @jaquelinekyoda4152
    @jaquelinekyoda4152 Рік тому

    Love it!

  • @Joshdifferent
    @Joshdifferent Місяць тому

    Very good ❤️

  • @WilliamMcPherson-q1f
    @WilliamMcPherson-q1f Рік тому

    Lauren, awesome. CEO gives us a choice instead of a reaction.

  • @Superfoodsguy
    @Superfoodsguy Рік тому

    Living that CEO lifestyle 🤙

  • @adeade8630
    @adeade8630 6 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for this video, and Winston Churchill got me laughing at the end. 😂

  • @animegirl16091
    @animegirl16091 Місяць тому

    This was hard to accept since my parents kept on being triggered for no reason but blames me for there triggers like there is something wrong with me as a kid and they still do it when they get triggered till this day. They dont stop when i tell them when they are tiggered

  • @arshlierosyn9648
    @arshlierosyn9648 9 місяців тому

    Amen

  • @OlliesLoveHealing
    @OlliesLoveHealing 4 місяці тому +1

    CPTSD and Me.

  • @higeeoff
    @higeeoff Рік тому +1

    🙌🙌🙌

  • @animegirl16091
    @animegirl16091 Місяць тому +1

    I thought resisting what you feel isnt good? Doesnt it just supprss it even further instead of bringing it out and feeling it to see where its comming from then take different action whiles becoming more and more aware of it to do things differently?

  • @Sophie-Aiyer
    @Sophie-Aiyer 6 місяців тому +2

    You never address how the mice (previously exposed to trauma), could have become resilient.

  • @lilabukvic4216
    @lilabukvic4216 9 місяців тому

    But what by pepple who has ptsd. This is not so eazy. But I love concept❤

  • @Angie-sk4th
    @Angie-sk4th 5 місяців тому

    Very nicely said! I appreciate your C.E.O. method

  • @tomrodgers6629
    @tomrodgers6629 11 місяців тому

    Headphones work really well to. 😁

  • @tomrodgers6629
    @tomrodgers6629 11 місяців тому +2

    The advance version of La, La, La, I can't hear you. 😁

  • @databacusdata8989
    @databacusdata8989 2 місяці тому +1

    Sorry no need of so much technical details , second part of video is self promotion and lacks basics

  • @enki9006
    @enki9006 9 місяців тому +1

    Shoes are not good, barefoot is when we ground ourselves with earth. She was right to be triggered by seeing the barefoot man but wrong to decide that shoes are a great idea and put them back on. Research grounding and wake up……