Out of everything I needed to hear in my 20+ years of being on this earth “your pet sees you from that angle and still loves you” Is something I’ve needed to hear the most lmao
Eu olho minhas fotos de quando eu tinha 19 anos e penso a mesma coisa. Na época eu morria de vergonha nas fotos, hoje eu vejo fotos de 2019, 2020, etc e nem me importo com a minha antiga aparência. Mesmo assim, ainda tenho dificuldade de registrar momentos que daqui um ano, eu olharia e sentiria uma lembrança boa.
1- You are used to see your REFLECTION 2- You may not resonated with how you are being portraited 3- You hyper-focus on your insecurities ( stomach, chin, etc). 4- You are putting unrealistic expectations on photography and your body 5- You have been taught that some angles are better than others
If we only read the dot points we really would ‘miss the deeper meaning’ and not gain a new understanding with what she teaches here… please people find the time to watch especially if you see yourself I negative light, photos or not…
My friends put immense pressure on me to take group photos, and I almost always look terrible compared to everyone else. I came into this talk thinking you would be providing tips on how to improve my angles, lol. Instead, you've instilled a new found sense of confidence and evidence based analysis of the hows and whys of feeling not photogenic. Moving forward, I will try my best to ignore trying to look good and just live in the moment and feel good when having my pictures taken. Thank you! Edit: I'm just dropping in to add that I took your advice and wow, it really was what I was lacking! Everyone is impressed with how my pictures are coming out now! I hosted a bridal shower for my sister, and knowing I'd be in the spotlight I just rolled with it and relaxed during pictures, they turned out AMAZING!! I will say that it helps tremendously to be in good company too. Ever since I had a falling out with some not so great friends this past month, I've never felt better, and it definitely shows!
To me, being in group photos remind me that I belong, that I am part of a group of friends and that I was present. It took me a while, but I got there.
I'm actually crying right now thinking about all of the times I passed up being in photos because I thought I looked bad. I was so focused on how the future would see me I forgot to live for and enjoy the moment. Thank you for opening my eyes.
I clicked on this thinking it would be some superficial talk on better angles, postures, lighting, etc. What a wake-up call. This is worth a listen. I've never enjoyed generically posing for photos, selfies, etc. and I'm really uninterested in seeing people's carefully curated generic selfies. I think they're boring and only capture a fraction of who we are. I do wish we would all take more candid shots of our friends in interesting and fun moments. I know I enjoyed seeing myself more in those types of photos. Some of the best photos to me are when we don't really know we're being photographed...not to encourage the pervy peeping toms out there, but you know what I mean.
The issue is no one clicks my photos I'm a dude. But I have literally 2photos since 2018 that are the best where I'm completely unaware if there's a camera
I've been trying not to be in family photos for most of my children's lives - preferring to be the one to take the pictures to get out of having that horrible internal cringe at seeing how terrible I look. Watching this video made me realize that my kids don't need me to be beautiful or photogenic or create a perfect image. They need me to be ME and to be with THEM!! Thank you for this important and beautiful lesson, I'm going to watch this again and again!
I once said to my mom that I find Miranda Kerr to be the most beautiful woman in the world. And she responded, to me you are the most beautiful woman in the world. Touches me to this day.
My late mother stopped me in my tracks as a moody teen I used to hate anyone looking at me funny , I said to my mum what are they looking at ? And my mum said maybe they’re looking at how beautiful you are . I never thought about the former way I viewed myself.
My wife and I are professional photographers with literally 100s of sessions under our belts, and we saw this and paused it before she started talking and tried to guess what she was going to talk about. We assumed it would be another lesson on lenses, angles, lighting etc. So wrong and though 3 of the 5 were things we talk to clients about during our sessions, there were a couple that I had to think about and remember. Nicely done.
Holy wow! When I first clicked on this video and went straight to comments and started reading that everyone is crying watching this.. I’m like.. crying??! Why crying??? About half way through video, I’m crying as well lol. What a beautiful video. Thank you
I can relate! I was in tears during the part about how pets and kids see us. But I was balling on the part about her dad. I lost my dad almost 18 years ago, and I miss him dearly. I don't care about his double chin or receding hairline; I just miss him.
A friend and I were recently talking about a similar concept after I took a beautiful candid photo and my friend thought it was awful. I explained why it was so beautiful. Now when we take pictures of each other we talk about why we see the beauty. It's very much changed my perspective.
I've just turned 57. I'm chronically ill. I got divorced in 2016 and haven't really dolled myself up since. I also put in significant weight. 2 years ago i started losing weight quickly that pointed to illness. Now I'm saggy and wrinkly. But, I'm not dead yet, so I finally bought some cute clothes and makeup. It's fun. I forgot.
Sending you good thoughts. I am 54 and gained 60lbs over the past decade and have been hiding from everyone. Time to get some nice clothes and get back to interacting. We can both do this!
Well done! 👏 🥳 Do it for YOU, as my Nana taught me; ‘It’s none of my business what others think or say about me! I know who I am and I sleep just fine.’! She was a wise woman who blessed this earth for 96 years and my life for 50 of those. 💚🍀
I cried. Thank you. I will think about everything you said here every time I have to look at my face and body and reckon with the signs of aging. It's not just about photos. It's also about self and body image generally. That's why I cried. I realized I needed a message to try to do battle with the shame and avoidance I experience lately when I look in the mirror, or take a selfie. Thanks, Teri.
Thank you so much!! I’m married to a photographer, and hate being photographed. I never take selphies or post pics of myself online. Don’t like the way I look. And you have succeeded in changing the way I feel ❤
@@galiaweiss4328 we all understand exactly what you mean even if what you said wasn't exactly what you meant. I sure what you could have meant was I don't like the way I look in photographs... And not that you don't actually like yourself (which is how I read that - I might be wrong) but I THINK THIS WOMAN HAS HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD! I'll bet your photographer partner thinks you are beautiful. I'll bet he/she tell you that you're beautiful when you say "yuck" when you're shown your photo. I'll bet we all feel that way. Could we be skinnier, have a perfect smile/teeth/hair, the perfect little nose, sculpted eyebrows probably but personally I'd love to be happier with what I already have not what will never be. I wish we could see ourselves through the eyes of our loved ones!!
@@acornhomestead3575she said she doesn't like the way she looks. Not the same as "I don't like myself" at all. I don't like the way I look neither and I absolutely love myself.
This hit me like a silver bullet straight to the heart! I am bigger than most of my friends and since I’ve gained all this weight, I haven’t wanted to be in pictures. I’m ashamed to see myself and compare myself to them. I’m also a lactation nurse and the part about babies looking at you from the bad angle struck a chord. Truth is, I haven’t had much self love because my self image is so low. Thank you for framing it in a different way for me.
I’ve been feeling so bad about my appearance lately. I just stumbled across this video and I’m so glad I did. I really believe God wanted me to see this so I can feel better about my self worth…..🙏🏾😇
I don’t like my photos, nitpicking on presumed flaws and imperfections. As I got older, I look at my old selfies and photos from each decade I was surprised how beautiful I looked. I began to embrace my perceived flaws and imperfections. I also study my features, angles, lighting, postures to make improvement especially in group photos. I practice by taking selfies. I practice makeup to make over my face. I exercise to be fit and lean. I pay attention to how I dress to show my confidence and best light. I do what I can to enjoy here and now.
My mom who has advanced dementia would rip up photos 😢. She HATED photos of herself. I wish she could have seen this. Now her pics are all we have of her incredible life. Love this talk! Thank you for it.
I totally cried at the end. I mean, im the type that can cry over a sad dog commercial, but still that was a good lesson for me. I've been a hair stylist for 20 years & we are all so self conscious of ourselves. I wish we could see ourselves like the people that love us do! ❤
Yip , I realised a few years back I was being incredibly selfish refusing to be in photos. When you are looking at people you love you just want to remember the moment with them, you really only care that there were there
Teri, your passion for what you do is so moving. You are dismantling society’s unrealistic beauty standards and helping others (not just female-identifying) that we have the power as a society to strengthen our confidence within ourselves. Your words will have a ripple effect. Thank you for pouring your heart into others. ❤
Those last five minutes in particular were truly beautiful. Thank you for sharing such a profound and lovely way to look at this. I’ve never heard it explained this way before. Thank you 🙏
This tugs at all my mortal heart strings, what a wonderful perspective on photography and portraits especially. The doctor called you need some pictures of yourself!
I look absolutely hideous in almost all the photos of me at my daughter’s wedding. I’m so delighted that she and her husband were the brightest and purest light.. All of the pictures of them were stunning , the absolute plan for the day…… but I hate almost all the pictures of me from the day…. However, you are making me reconsider my point.
@@ladyinmaking , I cried a little too. I have never thought 💭 that I was photogenic… i absolutely hate pics of me…. Now I am looking at it differently.
This is such an important message! I have fallen victim to feeling the pressure to look a certain way (What we do in this society -- especially to women and girls!). My late husband (foreshadowing) used to say we should have a professional portrait taken of our family. I would always say "I'm working on losing some weight right now -- I'll schedule it when I feel better about how I look." Yes, you guessed it -- he died quite suddenly and unexpectedly at the age of 41. I never did schedule the portrait and that is something I will always regret. I do have a few snapshots of us with our two kids but boy, I wish I had done what he asked -- just for my kids alone. Women, get in the picture. Don't wait.
My youngest child (first to be married) is getting married next weekend. This talk, that I just found by accident (there are no accidents 😉💖✨), will change my entire weekend. Thank you so much!!
My youngest got married this summer. The six months leading up to that I fretted about losing weight, and ultimately did not lose any (not that I seriously tried tbh) But.............I did not want to cringe when I saw the photos, that would make my daughter sad. Instead I embraced the photos because they showed a daughter and mother that truly loved and cared about each other on this special day. I now can look at the pictures through the eyes of my baby girl on her wedding day. Even though I'm overweight and my ego cringes, these are precious memories that I'd rather be in than not.
I've always been plagued by this. What an insightful and touching video. Got choked up when she got to her dad. My dad passed away 23 years ago (way too young) and I wish I had more photos of him.
When you said that about our kids and pets looking up at us and loving us anyway I freaking lost it. Then when you showed the photos of your dad, I sobbed loudly. My mom passed in May, she was only 58, and she had many insecurities, but i treasure the pictures that i have of her. Your message has been received, and i thank you for it. Imma go forth and conquer my life!
I love it for real! It really made me emotional, especially remembering your father. I also lost my father and he doesn't have the most "perfect" photos in the world, but it's perfect because they are his special moments, especially the ones I was with. Thanks for teaching me
🔍 Main points: 🌍 We often think we look bad in photos, but it's not about how we actually look. 🤖 Reasons we feel this way: 1. 🔁 Seeing our reverse image is unfamiliar. 2. 🎭 Photos may not align with how we want to be portrayed. 3. 🔍 We hyperfocus on our insecurities. 4. 🤷♀️ We have unrealistic expectations of photography and bodies. 5. 📸 We judge certain angles as "better" than others. 🙌 We should embrace all angles and moments captured, as they're simply different documentations of our amazing lives.
so beautifully eloquent. I've struggled with social media for a long time, not feeling picture-worthy, or AS picture worthy as others I see. Some people are so confident to show their faces and moments in their lives so easily. This talk is about having self-love and is encourages conquering my ridiculous insecurities. Thank you so much.
@Teri Starting at 11:17, it really hit me: "Did all of your accomplishments and achievements disappear?" and on through how your family sees you. Thank you. These were some much-needed words!
Fabulous talk Teri! I've been following you on Insta for awhile and appreciate your perspective - both as a photographer and as a person. When I saw your post about negative feedback from this talk I had to come see what the fuss was about. No surprises here - it is real, relatable and refreshing. I loved it. And needed to hear it. Thanks so much!
At the end of this talk I sat at my desk with tears in my eyes and applauded. I"m going to go back to all those moments in time when I thought I looked so bad and remember where I was, and who I was with, and what I was doing. I'll focus on that from now on. Thank you for this wonderful message.
I also thought I would hear some tips on angles, lighting etc...but what I heard was so much more impactful! Be in the photo and stop criticizing yourself for what you think is an imperfection. The people who love you just want to see YOU being YOU! I cringe thinking about what message I've sent in the past when focusing on my body insecurities! That stops now! Thank you @TeriHofford for such an insightful message!
Mir liefen am Ende des Videos Tränen der Erleichterung über die Wangen.....Danke für die Erkenntnise💋 After looking this video,tears of relief ran down to my cheeks...thank You for my "new angel to look at me"!❤
I have watched this talk several times. And this is the first time I actually did the exercise of taking 2 photos, with morning bed-head, no less. And I loved the first shot, hated the second shot. And BAM, what she says about the view kids and pups have of us. Because both are always drawn to me. Little kids smile and laugh, and dogs drag their owners across the street to say Hi. 'My energy, I guess,' I always said. Did tears spontaneously glisten & fall. Yes, they did. Thank You, Teri.
How we appear, how our posts might be read or viewed, how people may react when we say how we feel....in a way a lot many instances are like being photographed. The talk was truly inspiring❤
What a beautiful talk. I needed that. My body has never been the same after having kids. But I have always been told "be in the photo with your kids, these days are fleeting". The photos are how you are going to remember these days with your family. How your family is going to remember you... you just being the you that they love. Live out loud and love yourself! Be in the photo and smile big!
WOW GIRLFRIEND!! I just turned 50 & agonised over wanting to look good in our family photo because.. you know it.. "I get Bell's Palsy" in any/every picture ever taken of me. I just realised, THANKS TO YOU, that this has become a running family joke & the challenge for a 'good one' & the laughter that follows is that actually what I love most. THANK YOU! You're amazing 👏 ✌️🇦🇺
I was lucky and in my early 20s I thought “why do I look at photos of myself differently than photos of my loved ones? I don’t see a photo of my loved ones as anything more than someone I love and the great person they are.” So I started forcing myself to look at photos the way my loved ones look at me in. It has made all the difference in how I see myself in photos. Now when I look at a photo of myself I see the moment of the photo or feel how that day was etc.
Teri, thank you for showing me how beautiful I am ❤ I now view myself in photos completely differently. I am not trying to look like anything besides this awesome woman I’ve always been. Thank you so so much ❤
Great talk!!! Yes maybe the the title is disappointing because it wasn't the reality of the video, but the reality itself is so beautiful and has so much positivity that people are missing out on just because of focusing on the title( just like the photos😉).
This is incredible! As a 65-year-old woman on social media, the narrative in my head is a constant stream of finding the "right" angle. I love the reminder that my grandkids and fur baby see me from the ground up and love me just like that. What a powerful message!
Teri, your authenticity is inspiring. Thank you so much for this talk. Although there are a few unenlightened comments, I believe that you are making an invaluable contribution toward the devolution of toxic body image culture.
God led me here. I had a photo taken of me and immediately said I don’t like. So, I’m going to flip and speak the beauty God placed on me and in me. Thank you for posting. Beautiful you and beautiful us.
Beautiful. Thank you. After my last photo shoot for my website, I got the proofs back and IMMEDIATELY hired a personal trainer. I don't regret getting back in shape, but I do regret feeling like I needed to do it because I hated the way I looked in photos.
I find myself at a loss to identify the precise moment that sparked this overwhelming wave of emotion, but I am now in tears, unable to stem the flow. It feels as though I am grappling with a profound realization-a cascade of insecurities, disappointments, and cherished memories. I am haunted by the absence of loved ones who are no longer with me, and I am acutely aware that, one day, those who remain may only hold onto my image. My heart aches with the hope that they will remember me fondly, with warmth and affection.
Teri Hofford is an amazing, talented photographer and this is a great presentation on self-image. I'm a professional photographer much more comfortable behind than in front of the lens and I have to get my portrait taken next week. I needed to hear this message :-)
I loved this so much! I'm a photographer and always approach my sessions as a storyteller. I don't only want to get the 'money shot' but also the candid shots showing authentic emotions. This talk changed how I will forever look at myself in pictures and how I will photograph my clients. Thank you!
What a brilliant speaker... I was in tears at the end. She's so right .... how we think about ourselves, influences how we view ourselves in images. And when all is said and done, that image represents just a fraction of a second, which we then take out of context as representative of the whole. Definitely food for thought.
Just want to say thank you for the wake up call !! I will still have a hard time liking photos of me BUT I now know how to look at them differently. I have work to do on me and I will get to a better understanding of me and what's going on in my life.
point number four got me - a great way to test reality for sure - wow. just a moment in time. of course, i'm not an automaton so point five (and the end about dad) made me cry. thank you so much for this, teri.
I so wasn’t expecting this to be this good - especially as I’m really into/ knowledgable about photography. Showing her dad brought me to tears. Wonderful.
You actually changed my view of myself, with which I’ve struggled for over 40 YEARS in just MINUTES. Thank you from the bottom of my double chin and perfectly asymmetrical face. ☺️🙏🏻❤️
As a past photographer and current family photographer for my large family, I absolutely loved loved loved this TED talk. Never heard this topic taught this way. Thank you for sharing.
Out of everything I needed to hear in my 20+ years of being on this earth “your pet sees you from that angle and still loves you” Is something I’ve needed to hear the most lmao
Sometimes I think I look bad in a photo but after a year I look back at the same photo and I think I looked good in the photo.
Eu olho minhas fotos de quando eu tinha 19 anos e penso a mesma coisa. Na época eu morria de vergonha nas fotos, hoje eu vejo fotos de 2019, 2020, etc e nem me importo com a minha antiga aparência. Mesmo assim, ainda tenho dificuldade de registrar momentos que daqui um ano, eu olharia e sentiria uma lembrança boa.
True!
so true
Same!
That's because you've grown old in the meantime and you like the way you looked then!!
1- You are used to see your REFLECTION
2- You may not resonated with how you are being portraited
3- You hyper-focus on your insecurities ( stomach, chin, etc).
4- You are putting unrealistic expectations on photography and your body
5- You have been taught that some angles are better than others
Ty for makin that organized and more comprehensible.
If we only read the dot points we really would ‘miss the deeper meaning’ and not gain a new understanding with what she teaches here… please people find the time to watch especially if you see yourself I negative light, photos or not…
Thank you!
6- You actually look bad in real life too so it reflects on the photo.
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Anybody else cry a little at the end? 😭
Thank you for the wake-up call, Teri.
Cried a lot in the end. Started at the second selfie, lost it at her dad's photos
A happy yes!!
Yes, took me by surprise despite seeing your message first 🙂
Me
@@fionacuskelly730exactly the same
My friends put immense pressure on me to take group photos, and I almost always look terrible compared to everyone else. I came into this talk thinking you would be providing tips on how to improve my angles, lol. Instead, you've instilled a new found sense of confidence and evidence based analysis of the hows and whys of feeling not photogenic. Moving forward, I will try my best to ignore trying to look good and just live in the moment and feel good when having my pictures taken. Thank you!
Edit: I'm just dropping in to add that I took your advice and wow, it really was what I was lacking! Everyone is impressed with how my pictures are coming out now! I hosted a bridal shower for my sister, and knowing I'd be in the spotlight I just rolled with it and relaxed during pictures, they turned out AMAZING!! I will say that it helps tremendously to be in good company too. Ever since I had a falling out with some not so great friends this past month, I've never felt better, and it definitely shows!
Yaaaaassss. This is why I do this!!
@@TeriHoffordoh that's youu! ❤
So well said!
@@nextfitness22 thank you!
To me, being in group photos remind me that I belong, that I am part of a group of friends and that I was present. It took me a while, but I got there.
I'm actually crying right now thinking about all of the times I passed up being in photos because I thought I looked bad. I was so focused on how the future would see me I forgot to live for and enjoy the moment. Thank you for opening my eyes.
My pleasure! It's why I do it 🤩
I clicked on this thinking it would be some superficial talk on better angles, postures, lighting, etc. What a wake-up call. This is worth a listen. I've never enjoyed generically posing for photos, selfies, etc. and I'm really uninterested in seeing people's carefully curated generic selfies. I think they're boring and only capture a fraction of who we are. I do wish we would all take more candid shots of our friends in interesting and fun moments. I know I enjoyed seeing myself more in those types of photos. Some of the best photos to me are when we don't really know we're being photographed...not to encourage the pervy peeping toms out there, but you know what I mean.
thank you so much!
Same!!
The issue is no one clicks my photos I'm a dude.
But I have literally 2photos since 2018 that are the best where I'm completely unaware if there's a camera
Really?! It was exactly what I thought it would be.
Me too!
I've been trying not to be in family photos for most of my children's lives - preferring to be the one to take the pictures to get out of having that horrible internal cringe at seeing how terrible I look.
Watching this video made me realize that my kids don't need me to be beautiful or photogenic or create a perfect image. They need me to be ME and to be with THEM!! Thank you for this important and beautiful lesson, I'm going to watch this again and again!
I once said to my mom that I find Miranda Kerr to be the most beautiful woman in the world. And she responded, to me you are the most beautiful woman in the world. Touches me to this day.
Lovely Mum x
My late mother stopped me in my tracks as a moody teen I used to hate anyone looking at me funny , I said to my mum what are they looking at ? And my mum said maybe they’re looking at how beautiful you are . I never thought about the former way I viewed myself.
That is beautiful!❤
I love that so much.
And can we all just start to appreciate how beautiful regular people really are?
so sweet:)))
That is so sweet! Mum's like these help little girls grow into confident women. That is so needed now a days.
My wife and I are professional photographers with literally 100s of sessions under our belts, and we saw this and paused it before she started talking and tried to guess what she was going to talk about. We assumed it would be another lesson on lenses, angles, lighting etc. So wrong and though 3 of the 5 were things we talk to clients about during our sessions, there were a couple that I had to think about and remember.
Nicely done.
Holy wow! When I first clicked on this video and went straight to comments and started reading that everyone is crying watching this.. I’m like.. crying??! Why crying??? About half way through video, I’m crying as well lol. What a beautiful video. Thank you
I was, too. This was the best suggested video I’ve had in a long time. I had no idea how much I needed to watch this. ❤🥹
Me too 😢
Same. She got me around 11 min in.
I can relate! I was in tears during the part about how pets and kids see us. But I was balling on the part about her dad. I lost my dad almost 18 years ago, and I miss him dearly. I don't care about his double chin or receding hairline; I just miss him.
What a precious beautiful girl..BEST SPEAKER I HAVE HEARD IN A VERY LONG TIME….why aren’t you on tv???? Thankyou
Thank you so much! Working towards it ❤❤❤
@@TeriHofford❤
I got goosebumps when she said picture two is how our children and pets see us most and they love us still.. 🥰
A friend and I were recently talking about a similar concept after I took a beautiful candid photo and my friend thought it was awful. I explained why it was so beautiful. Now when we take pictures of each other we talk about why we see the beauty. It's very much changed my perspective.
that's awesome! :D
Well wow. Best Ted Talk I have seen in a long time. She was amazing and absolutely brilliant.
I've just turned 57. I'm chronically ill. I got divorced in 2016 and haven't really dolled myself up since. I also put in significant weight. 2 years ago i started losing weight quickly that pointed to illness. Now I'm saggy and wrinkly. But, I'm not dead yet, so I finally bought some cute clothes and makeup. It's fun. I forgot.
I'm happy to hear that you're learning to have fun again
Sending you good thoughts. I am 54 and gained 60lbs over the past decade and have been hiding from everyone. Time to get some nice clothes and get back to interacting. We can both do this!
Well done! 👏 🥳 Do it for YOU, as my Nana taught me; ‘It’s none of my business what others think or say about me! I know who I am and I sleep just fine.’! She was a wise woman who blessed this earth for 96 years and my life for 50 of those. 💚🍀
@@Sorchia56 "Do it for you" is a good one to remember
Good for you!!!!
I cried. Thank you. I will think about everything you said here every time I have to look at my face and body and reckon with the signs of aging. It's not just about photos. It's also about self and body image generally. That's why I cried. I realized I needed a message to try to do battle with the shame and avoidance I experience lately when I look in the mirror, or take a selfie. Thanks, Teri.
My pleasure
Well my insecurity as a dude is my 5'7 height . Misaligned Front upper teeth (I can't smile in photos)
My glasses
My skinny body frame
Ditto to it all, made me cry too. I’m having a hard time with my new aging looks.
I love your eyes 👁 👁
@@TeriHoffordtysm ❤
"all angles of you are worthy of being photographed simply because you are worthy of being photograph" i bursted into tears when she said this.
Thank you so much!! I’m married to a photographer, and hate being photographed. I never take selphies or post pics of myself online. Don’t like the way I look. And you have succeeded in changing the way I feel ❤
@@galiaweiss4328 we all understand exactly what you mean even if what you said wasn't exactly what you meant. I sure what you could have meant was I don't like the way I look in photographs... And not that you don't actually like yourself (which is how I read that - I might be wrong) but I THINK THIS WOMAN HAS HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD! I'll bet your photographer partner thinks you are beautiful. I'll bet he/she tell you that you're beautiful when you say "yuck" when you're shown your photo. I'll bet we all feel that way.
Could we be skinnier, have a perfect smile/teeth/hair, the perfect little nose, sculpted eyebrows probably but personally I'd love to be happier with what I already have not what will never be. I wish we could see ourselves through the eyes of our loved ones!!
@@acornhomestead3575she said she doesn't like the way she looks. Not the same as "I don't like myself" at all. I don't like the way I look neither and I absolutely love myself.
don't pheel bad when taking selphies
This cool, but the way you spelled selfies 😆
This makes me SO happy! You so deserve to be photographed and your partner will love to show you your magic ✨
This hit me like a silver bullet straight to the heart! I am bigger than most of my friends and since I’ve gained all this weight, I haven’t wanted to be in pictures. I’m ashamed to see myself and compare myself to them. I’m also a lactation nurse and the part about babies looking at you from the bad angle struck a chord. Truth is, I haven’t had much self love because my self image is so low. Thank you for framing it in a different way for me.
You are welcome! You deserve love 💕 keep choosing love for yourself daily 😘 especially when it's the hardest
I’ve been feeling so bad about my appearance lately. I just stumbled across this video and I’m so glad I did. I really believe God wanted me to see this so I can feel better about my self worth…..🙏🏾😇
I don’t like my photos, nitpicking on presumed flaws and imperfections. As I got older, I look at my old selfies and photos from each decade I was surprised how beautiful I looked. I began to embrace my perceived flaws and imperfections. I also study my features, angles, lighting, postures to make improvement especially in group photos. I practice by taking selfies. I practice makeup to make over my face. I exercise to be fit and lean. I pay attention to how I dress to show my confidence and best light. I do what I can to enjoy here and now.
LOVE THIS MESSSGE ❤️❤️❤️! Just take the damn photo and remember the good times had with friends and family.
Permit them to photograph you. It's better to be in the photo than be forgotten.
My mom who has advanced dementia would rip up photos 😢. She HATED photos of herself. I wish she could have seen this. Now her pics are all we have of her incredible life. Love this talk! Thank you for it.
I totally cried at the end. I mean, im the type that can cry over a sad dog commercial, but still that was a good lesson for me. I've been a hair stylist for 20 years & we are all so self conscious of ourselves. I wish we could see ourselves like the people that love us do! ❤
As a mother who has struggled with photos of herself since having kids, the last part got me. Thank you for this talk!
I wish everyone would listen to this TED talk
Yip , I realised a few years back I was being incredibly selfish refusing to be in photos. When you are looking at people you love you just want to remember the moment with them, you really only care that there were there
I’m going to listen to this anytime I need a good reminder that I am worthy. Thank you Teri for this. ❤
my pleasure
How you look in a photo shouldn’t determine your worth. 😂. Work on the inside and the outside will fall into place in a photo
11:54 I was not prepared for how true this statement is. Made me emotional
Thank you for watching!
@@TeriHofford thank you for speaking!
Wow. Heart awakening and eye opening.❤
This was amazing, such a profound message in less than 13:42 minutes 🤩👏🏻🥰
I really needed this, it’s not just about photos… it’s reality check
Teri, your passion for what you do is so moving. You are dismantling society’s unrealistic beauty standards and helping others (not just female-identifying) that we have the power as a society to strengthen our confidence within ourselves. Your words will have a ripple effect. Thank you for pouring your heart into others. ❤
Thank you so much!!
Those last five minutes in particular were truly beautiful. Thank you for sharing such a profound and lovely way to look at this. I’ve never heard it explained this way before. Thank you 🙏
You are so welcome!!
Thank you. I hated photos of me. I did what you suggested and now feel happier. Thank you again, you are awesome ❤
That's fantastic!! ❤❤❤
This tugs at all my mortal heart strings, what a wonderful perspective on photography and portraits especially. The doctor called you need some pictures of yourself!
This is my favorite TED talk. What a beautiful soul!
thank you so much!
What a powerful message ! I cried little at the end, who else did?
I look absolutely hideous in almost all the photos of me at my daughter’s wedding.
I’m so delighted that she and her husband were the brightest and purest light.. All of the pictures of them were stunning , the absolute plan for the day…… but I hate almost all the pictures of me from the day…. However, you are making me reconsider my point.
Oh yes. This video was a gift.
Me too
Nope
@@ladyinmaking , I cried a little too. I have never thought 💭 that I was photogenic… i absolutely hate pics of me…. Now I am looking at it differently.
This is such an important message! I have fallen victim to feeling the pressure to look a certain way (What we do in this society -- especially to women and girls!). My late husband (foreshadowing) used to say we should have a professional portrait taken of our family. I would always say "I'm working on losing some weight right now -- I'll schedule it when I feel better about how I look." Yes, you guessed it -- he died quite suddenly and unexpectedly at the age of 41. I never did schedule the portrait and that is something I will always regret. I do have a few snapshots of us with our two kids but boy, I wish I had done what he asked -- just for my kids alone. Women, get in the picture. Don't wait.
I'm so sorry for your loss ❤❤❤
My youngest child (first to be married) is getting married next weekend. This talk, that I just found by accident (there are no accidents 😉💖✨), will change my entire weekend. Thank you so much!!
My youngest got married this summer. The six months leading up to that I fretted about losing weight, and ultimately did not lose any (not that I seriously tried tbh) But.............I did not want to cringe when I saw the photos, that would make my daughter sad. Instead I embraced the photos because they showed a daughter and mother that truly loved and cared about each other on this special day. I now can look at the pictures through the eyes of my baby girl on her wedding day. Even though I'm overweight and my ego cringes, these are precious memories that I'd rather be in than not.
Teri is just so amazing! I LOVED her speech! The ending made me tear up!
I have a big birthday coming up and I really needed to hear this. Be kind to yourselves.
Hope your birthday is/was delightful and full of beautiful memories!!
Women are different shapes and sizes and that’s what’s perfect! Exceptional presentation with a loving ending!
I've always been plagued by this. What an insightful and touching video. Got choked up when she got to her dad. My dad passed away 23 years ago (way too young) and I wish I had more photos of him.
I have a 7 months old baby and this video made me cry. So beautiful. Thank you 🙌♥️✨
You are so welcome ❤❤ that beautiful baby will be grateful you are in photos ❤
When you said that about our kids and pets looking up at us and loving us anyway I freaking lost it. Then when you showed the photos of your dad, I sobbed loudly. My mom passed in May, she was only 58, and she had many insecurities, but i treasure the pictures that i have of her. Your message has been received, and i thank you for it. Imma go forth and conquer my life!
I'm sorry for your loss - This is why I do it!❤❤❤
I love it for real! It really made me emotional, especially remembering your father. I also lost my father and he doesn't have the most "perfect" photos in the world, but it's perfect because they are his special moments, especially the ones I was with. Thanks for teaching me
My pleasure and I am sorry for your loss
"You are worth being photographed." What a powerful statement! That was an emotional statement.💕💕
🔍 Main points:
🌍 We often think we look bad in photos, but it's not about how we actually look.
🤖 Reasons we feel this way:
1. 🔁 Seeing our reverse image is unfamiliar.
2. 🎭 Photos may not align with how we want to be portrayed.
3. 🔍 We hyperfocus on our insecurities.
4. 🤷♀️ We have unrealistic expectations of photography and bodies.
5. 📸 We judge certain angles as "better" than others.
🙌 We should embrace all angles and moments captured, as they're simply different documentations of our amazing lives.
Love this summary ❤❤❤
Thank you 😊
Beautiful. Thank you 🥰
6. Don't use filters! No explanation needed, I hope.
I have a lop sided smile that looks awful in a photo. So I don't smile, which makes me look like a mean old woman!
Realising that our loved ones see us as picture 2 most of the time was a real brain popper. Thank youuu for this lesson!!
You are very welcome!!
Thank you for reminding us to see ourselves with more kindness. ❤
My pleasure ❤❤❤
Was not expecting to cry. What a beautiful message.
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This woman is so inspiring. What a great talk!
so beautifully eloquent. I've struggled with social media for a long time, not feeling picture-worthy, or AS picture worthy as others I see. Some people are so confident to show their faces and moments in their lives so easily. This talk is about having self-love and is encourages conquering my ridiculous insecurities. Thank you so much.
For now I won’t be afraid of cameras no matter what for my self and my kids! Thank you for much ❤
They will be so grateful!❤
a video I never KNEW I NEEDED to watch. Beautifully said!
Thanks so much!!
@@TeriHofford thank YOU Teri! 🥰🫶🏽
Im reveling in that low angle right now…this was so fantastic, Terri! Thank You!!
I love "switch from judgment to curiosity".
You are amazing! Thank you for being you and helping fill the world with more love and beauty.
As a short person looking up often, I want to confirm: you are beautiful 😊
4'11" in the house🙋♀️
Short is in. ❤🎉
This is a delightful comment ❤❤❤❤
that ending made me cry. Wonderful woman.
Best TED talk ever. ❤👏🇬🇧
@Teri Starting at 11:17, it really hit me: "Did all of your accomplishments and achievements disappear?" and on through how your family sees you. Thank you. These were some much-needed words!
Fabulous talk Teri! I've been following you on Insta for awhile and appreciate your perspective - both as a photographer and as a person. When I saw your post about negative feedback from this talk I had to come see what the fuss was about. No surprises here - it is real, relatable and refreshing. I loved it. And needed to hear it. Thanks so much!
At the end of this talk I sat at my desk with tears in my eyes and applauded. I"m going to go back to all those moments in time when I thought I looked so bad and remember where I was, and who I was with, and what I was doing. I'll focus on that from now on. Thank you for this wonderful message.
This is beautiful. Thank you. I spent years avoiding photos. Now I say, yep, that is how i look.
Thank you so much for reminding us that we are worthy no matter how we look.
I also thought I would hear some tips on angles, lighting etc...but what I heard was so much more impactful! Be in the photo and stop criticizing yourself for what you think is an imperfection. The people who love you just want to see YOU being YOU! I cringe thinking about what message I've sent in the past when focusing on my body insecurities! That stops now! Thank you @TeriHofford for such an insightful message!
Brilliant angle of self confidence. Going on my best TEDx Talks playlist. X
Thank you so much and I am honoured
Mir liefen am Ende des Videos Tränen der Erleichterung über die Wangen.....Danke für die Erkenntnise💋
After looking this video,tears of relief ran down to my cheeks...thank You for my "new angel to look at me"!❤
Beautiful lady. Beautiful talk. A lesson worth hearing and remembering.
Thank you so much ❤❤❤
I have watched this talk several times. And this is the first time I actually did the exercise of taking 2 photos, with morning bed-head, no less. And I loved the first shot, hated the second shot. And BAM, what she says about the view kids and pups have of us. Because both are always drawn to me. Little kids smile and laugh, and dogs drag their owners across the street to say Hi. 'My energy, I guess,' I always said. Did tears spontaneously glisten & fall. Yes, they did. Thank You, Teri.
"You are worthy of beeing photographed" just made me shed some tears
How we appear, how our posts might be read or viewed, how people may react when we say how we feel....in a way a lot many instances are like being photographed.
The talk was truly inspiring❤
What a beautiful talk. I needed that. My body has never been the same after having kids. But I have always been told "be in the photo with your kids, these days are fleeting". The photos are how you are going to remember these days with your family. How your family is going to remember you... you just being the you that they love. Live out loud and love yourself! Be in the photo and smile big!
WOW GIRLFRIEND!! I just turned 50 & agonised over wanting to look good in our family photo because.. you know it.. "I get Bell's Palsy" in any/every picture ever taken of me. I just realised, THANKS TO YOU, that this has become a running family joke & the challenge for a 'good one' & the laughter that follows is that actually what I love most. THANK YOU! You're amazing 👏 ✌️🇦🇺
My pleasure ❤❤❤
I was lucky and in my early 20s I thought “why do I look at photos of myself differently than photos of my loved ones? I don’t see a photo of my loved ones as anything more than someone I love and the great person they are.” So I started forcing myself to look at photos the way my loved ones look at me in. It has made all the difference in how I see myself in photos. Now when I look at a photo of myself I see the moment of the photo or feel how that day was etc.
Teri, thank you for showing me how beautiful I am ❤ I now view myself in photos completely differently. I am not trying to look like anything besides this awesome woman I’ve always been. Thank you so so much ❤
My pleasure my friend ❤❤❤
Brilliantly presented! I will forever remember these 5 things! I love being challenged to unlearn and find deeper more authentic self-love.
Great talk!!! Yes maybe the the title is disappointing because it wasn't the reality of the video, but the reality itself is so beautiful and has so much positivity that people are missing out on just because of focusing on the title( just like the photos😉).
This is incredible! As a 65-year-old woman on social media, the narrative in my head is a constant stream of finding the "right" angle. I love the reminder that my grandkids and fur baby see me from the ground up and love me just like that. What a powerful message!
Lady, ya made me cry. Thank you 🙏🏽✨❤️ you and this message are just beautiful.
Thank you so much 😘😘😘
Just brilliant Ma'am.... May I tell you that, you have accomplished a great mission !!!
Teri, your authenticity is inspiring. Thank you so much for this talk. Although there are a few unenlightened comments, I believe that you are making an invaluable contribution toward the devolution of toxic body image culture.
I'm so grateful that I found this TED talk... Girl what an amazing and compelling and TRUE TALK! Thanks from the bottom of my heart!!!!
God led me here. I had a photo taken of me and immediately said I don’t like. So, I’m going to flip and speak the beauty God placed on me and in me. Thank you for posting. Beautiful you and beautiful us.
Yessss!! I'm glad this found you when you needed it❤❤❤
Beautiful. Thank you. After my last photo shoot for my website, I got the proofs back and IMMEDIATELY hired a personal trainer. I don't regret getting back in shape, but I do regret feeling like I needed to do it because I hated the way I looked in photos.
Very inspiring and so true. I believe everyone is beautiful in their own unique way, especially when they are beautiful inside.
I find myself at a loss to identify the precise moment that sparked this overwhelming wave of emotion, but I am now in tears, unable to stem the flow.
It feels as though I am grappling with a profound realization-a cascade of insecurities, disappointments, and cherished memories. I am haunted by the absence of loved ones who are no longer with me, and I am acutely aware that, one day, those who remain may only hold onto my image. My heart aches with the hope that they will remember me fondly, with warmth and affection.
Teri Hofford is an amazing, talented photographer and this is a great presentation on self-image. I'm a professional photographer much more comfortable behind than in front of the lens and I have to get my portrait taken next week. I needed to hear this message :-)
I loved this so much! I'm a photographer and always approach my sessions as a storyteller. I don't only want to get the 'money shot' but also the candid shots showing authentic emotions.
This talk changed how I will forever look at myself in pictures and how I will photograph my clients.
Thank you!
Thank you for setting me free, you are so beautiful and talented. Much love 🙏🏼🩷🩷
What a brilliant speaker... I was in tears at the end. She's so right .... how we think about ourselves, influences how we view ourselves in images. And when all is said and done, that image represents just a fraction of a second, which we then take out of context as representative of the whole. Definitely food for thought.
Just want to say thank you for the wake up call !! I will still have a hard time liking photos of me BUT I now know how to look at them differently. I have work to do on me and I will get to a better understanding of me and what's going on in my life.
I hope you let yourself be seen now ❤❤❤
point number four got me - a great way to test reality for sure - wow. just a moment in time. of course, i'm not an automaton so point five (and the end about dad) made me cry. thank you so much for this, teri.
That made me tear up. Nicely done.
I so wasn’t expecting this to be this good - especially as I’m really into/ knowledgable about photography. Showing her dad brought me to tears. Wonderful.
You actually changed my view of myself, with which I’ve struggled for over 40 YEARS in just MINUTES. Thank you from the bottom of my double chin and perfectly asymmetrical face. ☺️🙏🏻❤️
Nothing wrong with your sense of humor! You made me smile!
As a past photographer and current family photographer for my large family, I absolutely loved loved loved this TED talk. Never heard this topic taught this way. Thank you for sharing.
This was really really good! Great message and the delivery was natural and engaging. Loved it!
Number 3 was spot on! EVERY TIME I look at a picture of mine, I jump straight to the imperfections. This was very good to watch.