You're not alone. Been battling PTSD for 11 years now. Never found the strength or motivation to start a therapy. But I'm about to start one. Finally. You're not alone Sara. Hang in there, will you ? And try to be good with yourself. Sending light your way.
My wife sufferes ptsd and she isnt alone many survivors of physical abuse suffer this terible thing that is real as it gets.the night terrors,insominia,small things trigger flash backs. I love you baby!!! You are a fighter and i admire the way you never give up,no quit in you at all baby.
David Mcclanahan That was awesome and so beautiful. How long did your wife wait to tell you she had Ptsd? I have Ptsd and I pray to GOD that he sends me a husband that will love me despite my Ptsd. I often worry when dating if I should mention it at all you know
When you try to reach out to talk but get told 'You just need to stop thinking about it', 'You need to stop torturing yourself', 'You need to get it out of your head'...That's like telling a person to run off a broken leg and just compounds the issue, making you feel worse - and isolating even more. Which makes it worse again...
I think they are all correct just not exactly - doing the therapies help you to make the shift where you don’t think of some things as traumatizing anymore, and you don’t think of them constantly anymore. So they are correct - they don’t have a solution and also you don’t have it. Being uncomfortable, or “someone making you uncomfortable” is because of your wound that you take it personally, as of you were doing smth wrong. Neither of you is wrong. But it doesn’t get better if you/suffering person does not take action towards healing. Life is not supposed to be easy - Baba Jagaa eats child-like people, who expect evertying to be fine, without accepting responsibility for Yourself, for how you feel, for how you react. I hooe you accept the help you are being propelled to and will learn to help yourself :) all the best to you dear stranger.
How about being told for 5 years straight that you dont have it, in spite of all the symptoms being there, only to then see a new therapist who specialises in trauma, who immidiately tells you youve got it.
Great talk. PTSD sucks the life out of a person. Have you imagined what it would feel like to move through life feeling only anxiety, depression and anger, looking forward to nothing? That is a start in understanding what someone with PTSD navigates. It is amazing how powerful and healing it is when someone with PTSD or C-PTSD gets to talk with someone who has fought in the arena of PTSD. Trauma-informed providers AND those who are willing to talk about their trauma are so healing to others. Validation heals. Empathy heals. Continually learning and working towards understanding is healing. Our (PTSD survivor's) world is different. Nothing is "normal" any longer. Thank you for the great talk and great information for all. It is in the DOING.
Currently dealing with insomnia and hellish night sweats due to PTSD. I haven’t slept in two weeks. Sending healing energy to anyone going through this. I welcome it in return. 🙏🏼
Recently diagnosed with ptsd. I became so physically ill years ago never ever thinking it was ptsd. I was angry. I mean wrath took over me. I dont recall my actions during these episodes of anger. I got rid of everyone in my life from family to all friends. Many were toxic and needed to go. Since medication, groups, therapy, Ive rebuilt my friendships but the healthy ones. Im nicer and feel more peaceful but still disconnected. Progress. Ive a ways to go. Thank you for this video. Side note: Im an artist and did a drawing years ago called the Silent Scream. Wild you mentioned that here. 😊 love to all those suffering with ptsd, depression. Hugs
I have Complex PTSD, also. I "get it" about how painful it is to live with every moment, day after day, year after year, & decade after decade. I have had it from at least toddlerhood. My Mother and daughter have it, too.
I found my brother after he shot himself. March will be 20 years and it’s amazing how it affects daily life. You really never know what people are going through and how seemingly small situations can be interpreted by them. Learning to be honest about my emotions and needs have been helpful. Surround yourself with people you can count on. I think that alone does wonders. ❤️
I recently found my brother the same way in June 2022. I'm on a journey of healing and understanding my emotions and triggers. Just trying to understand the best way to cope.
I'm sorry about your brother. I think oftentimes people with PTSD don't feel they have someone they can turn to, or the belief that things can be different
I love that she said that they became stronger DESPITE the trauma. I have encountered a lot of people saying you become stronger because of your trauma.
Alex: yeah, it's not BECAUSE of the trauma itself, it's the learning to live with it and get through it. Not "over" it, maybe, but yes, it builds emotional muscle--building muscle almost always hurts at least some.
I don't know, and this is not from personal experience, but observation. PTSD has physiological effects too, muscle stiffness, addding to poor sleep quality, restlessness, tendon tensions, resulting in injuries, hence immobility, resulting in possible overweight, speeding up the depression and anxiety circle, backpain, all potentially resulting in overeating. IF PTSD is/was not recongized from day one basically, i.e., that is effecting about every person with PTSD who got traumatized before 1995 (at best), in fact my benchmark is 1999, and I could elaborate on picking that date, but anyway. So, certainly not beneficial for those old PTSD'ers, and I would not call that "becoming stronger" either. If not a vicious circle concerning those cases, if they can get stronger "despite", then the serenity prayer certainly nails it.
Thank you for verbalizing the silent scream. And why I isolate. Overwhelming feelings of detachment. Feeling different about who we are. Don't see things that are there.
Barbara Brennan Comforts me to know someone else understands. I wish I could meet other people who understand. I don’t want to let it change me as a person but it wears me down after a while so I keep having this thought maybe I shouldn’t keep to myself so much. But when I’ve tried not to I feel misunderstood
I am an Iraq war veteran and have just realized we are not the only ones who battle with this internal war. Beth Moore a well known speaker and teacher tweeted about her battle. Just days ago she spoke of her own battle with PTSD. Her symptoms and back and forth battle are no different than that of a soldier. After all that has happened to me I strive to be compassionate and loving to the hardships of my neighbor.
This was so helpful ! I'm currently in a triggered state and I've still had to run my business, care for my suicidal teen, exercise, etc. I have not had sleep in forever due to the nightmares and anxiety, but I just wake up every single day and try again and again. I try to learn new ways of coping every day, and try to make the most positive decisions for myself.
i feel for you and i hope you are doing ok now. Maybe my words wont help but i want you to know that you are doing your best and you should never blame yourself or hate yourself.
we live in a constant state of fight or flight. there is no cure. the best we can do is listen to our bodies and act accordingly. I have phobias and anxieties I have to live around, also PTSD affects our digestive system. When I feel closed in or trapped I start to belch, so I know to move. Even when I walk under a low carport, and this is over 50 years later.
+amanda morales She states at the very beginning that it isn't just a vet issue. It is, however, one of the most visible populations with the disorder. And probably one of the most comfortable to talk about. To most Americans, war is something that happens somewhere else. Poverty, abuse, rape, bullying is stuff that can happen anywhere.
+Zaryn9000 I agree cause I live ptsd every day! I was diagnosed 2 years ago. I thought it was only people from warzones and stuff! I was shocked and stunned! get help people get help!!!! God bless yall!!!
that's true, I know there also are people who have PTSD because of that they've been abused, circumcised (traumatizing due to pain), beaten, raped and/or wisnessed another traumatic case in their life. I know how far PTSD can go, it even can get authorities involved.
Jaqen I have PTSD due to my sister being diagnosed with depression/anxiety/bipolar/eating disorders four years ago and relying on me to essentially keep her from killing herself and threatening me if I told anyone. My PTSD is in the for,m of panic attacks, dissociation and cycles of thoughts about how I'm weak. I. Going to therapy and I'm getting better but it's actually quite damaging when people assume it's just about vets.
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It makes me feel kind of brave hearing that analogy actually. I wasn't in the military but I feel flattered to have that comparison. Also it underlines that what non-veterans went through could have been equally bad in a different way
it's not about competition . it's about having your experience understood and then having some potential to deal with the way our symptoms change emotions, behavior and chaos.
I've heard too many people say to me, you can't have PTSD, you weren't in the military. I respect the Military, I wanted to be in the military, but, because of a childhood accident, I couldn't. No, it's not a competition. But, we need to educate the world. People need to understand the definition of trauma, the victim, and the survivor as well as learn the tools that are needed to help their friend, family member, and even a stranger. Our health and our survival depend on it. Casey, thank you for posting your comment. This road is a hard one to travel and my health has shown the tremendous struggle on this journey.
Don't worry it will get better I'm 62 and there's no cure but there is hope . There are several UA-cam channels that will help you with PTSD and you should use them and especially the tools that the people the creators of the channel the messages they're trying to get to you are messages that are very positive and you've been living so negative because of traumatic stress your nerves are not processing anything correctly so try to focus on baby steps I found out a long time ago that if I tried to just jump in feet first and correct all of my crazy symptoms and things that we're going on in one big fail swoop it just never worked and I would continually get worse so my therapist at the time recommended the baby step approach and work on certain small things one at a time and have the ability to understand that it's not going to be a fix all cure all thing that's just not going to happen there's no cure as I said I certainly wish you well as I do everyone that is reading this PTSD is something that you just can't see you can look for PTSD all you want you're not going to see it and it does lay dormant sometime and it doesn't wake up for a while as a matter of fact sometimes it doesn't want to bother you but when a trigger is set off suddenly it's a completely different story it's a completely different book written in a completely different way it's just that simple I wouldn't trade being a US veteran for nothing in the world It was the best years of my life I learned a lot about people and I learned a lot about freedom and traumatic experiences are certainly called traumatic for a reason I'll never completely win this battle that I have with my mind I will probably be hyper aroused for the rest of my life and I will most likely end up somewhere I don't want to be as far as a home that will have to care for me And that's okay too I just don't ever want to give up I don't ever want to just give up can't be discouraged without trying so I feel like if I just at least try maybe I won't get so discouraged and down on myself and my last bit of advice to you or anyone who is battling with this terrible thing called PTSD remember we both have that in common I have it too but remember there's professional people out there they're called therapist and I've used one for a long long time and if it wasn't for the mental health challenges mixed with the terrific horrific physical challenges I don't know what I would do find a good therapist talk to your therapist be honest with your therapist and your therapist will help you If not that's okay too some therapist are just not the right fit and that's okay too I have had to let therapist go on many occasions because we just didn't fit thanks everyone it's little things like this that mean a lot to me to talk to people and tell them it's all right it's going to be all right I'm doing what people were saying to me a long time ago and I listened and I started using the tools and I got a great therapist and I started changing diet and I started doing things differently and I'm not cured I still get triggered quite often actually I just know how to handle it better that in itself is a wonderful feeling peace out!!
I was physically abused as a child, sexually abused as a teenager, and retired from the Fire Dept after a career full of pain, suffering and death, especially with kids and babies. the call that finally sent me over the edge was a 4 month old girl we lost due to accidental suffocation. I went into a downward spiral for 2 1/2 years, not knowing I Had PTSD, and started drinking heavily to numb my brain. I ultimately got really drunk one night and attempted suicide. as a result, I was committed to a mental hospital for 3 weeks, followed by 4 months of outpatient, and have been in therapy at. social clinic ever since. my friends, PTSD is VERY real, and it doest just happen to soldiers. first responders, firefighters and EMT's, are HIGHLY susseptible to it, and most of us have it. we just either don't know it or don't wanna admit it for fear of being labeled " soft ". if are experiencing flash backs, nightmares, constant anxiety, racing thoughts, irritability, etc., I strongly urge u to get help. don't ignore it or try to be " tough ".
You gota grow weed dude. Its a life long disease ur life is guna be abt pot til the day u die. There is no cure. I also have it and the only resolution is to smoke like there is no tomorrow. You will be normal while you are high but your disease will return as soon as you become sober. It is a life long disease brought on by truama. There is no cure and cannabis is the only treatment to better your life. You are going to have to become a pothead. Its the easiest way to explain it to you. Listen to me & youll be fine. Disregard my comment & you will never have an effective treatment. Its for life and u will have to grow weed for life. You need to become a pothead 420 sorry...
That was a really honest reply there and honesty is the first step to recovery. Most of us are not honest about how we are REALLY feeling and that is because we ourselves haven't been taught that is OK to speak out how we feel. I kept everything inside for over 50 years!! 50 years, that's a long time trying to make oneself better. Acceptance of the situation and ourselves is the 2nd step to recovery and that doesn't mean liking it either!
wild child Yeah I hate to say this but you were f***** over as a kid and teenager. You had two strikes against you before you went into a field where you were going to face severe trauma. I used to do psych Hospital admit so I was the guy that did all the admissions and I had 15 minutes to decide if you were going to be 5150 or not. I have heard thousands and thousands of stories like yours. First Responders that usually go over the edge with the stories that relate to out of time or out of sequence death such as small children and murder or suicide or being in the so-called wrong place at the wrong time and the first responder had to deal with all that s***. And I've heard of many first-responders committing suicide, drugs alcohol, really f*****-up lives, and it's sad. Nevertheless, the most important thing would be to focus on all the kids who didn't burn and didn't die because you did your job the best you can and it's not your fault because you couldn't every single person. You're going to die eventually right? You're going to f****** be ashes like the rest of us right? So stop feeling guilty about s*** you can't control and didn't do perfectly and learn to forgive yourself. The best thing you can do is look at self calming strategies, opposite action strategies, because your brain was wired for chaos and then you got into a field that involves a lot of very high-level intense chaos. And then when you sat down after 45 years of all that s***, you found that you had to deal with your s*** and you couldn't deal with your s***. Well, enjoy the f*** out of the rest of your life and forgive yourself because you got all of eternity after that. Alcohol causes severe depression. And to the a****** who said you should grow weed and smoke pot, pot causes intractable severe depression. You got to learn if you want to change new strategies and apply them such as diet exercise and living a somewhat more boring life. Good luck
I seen a young girl yesterday and she was absolutely wounded and broken from a very extreme abusive relationship. She looked like she was in fight or flight mode the whole time ..shaking and lost. That's what brought me here. That touched me very deeply!
This is moving, truly. But when in the heck will we STOP only associating PTSD w combat?!?! When I get better I will be out there spreading awareness, with such a fiery passion!!! I am a vet but non-combat. Other trauma I lived thru in the Army, but I have a life full of trauma so it is mostly, by far, NOT MILITARY RELATED. And ZERO combat. This enrages me. The stigma alone is deafening, and for those of us suffering, trying to stay alive, & beat this non-combat PTSD.... we deserve a voice just as loud!! We matter just the same! Never forget it, YOU MATTER & I GET IT. *hugs* Guilt & shame weigh heavy on me w my ptsd, and probably u as well...... Well, we need SUPPORT not more dismissiveness or blindness! HEAR US! SEE US! SPREAD THE WORD FOR US! 💜🦋
Heather Anne I've never been diagnosed with ptsd or c-ptsd, I don't know if I should bother (took me 3 years to get a diagnosis for my dyspraxia) but I can say for certain I've suffered symptoms of ptsd, quite a lot of them. Basically all of it was from 4 years of phycological and verbal bullying, coupled with backstabbing friends. Now I'm at 17, and instead of avoiding school like other bully victims do, I get flashbacks and panic attacks being near people my own age. I cannot look at groups of young people, I just get flashbacks that lead me to self harm. I also struggle keeping my friendships, I find romantic relationships impossible. I regularly get nightmares and anxiety dreams, dissociation, suicidal ideation and me and my family are on the edge of dropping me out of school... I was surprised when I realised that I was suffering from post traumatic stress and emotional burying over years... but generally, there is literally nothing for bullying victims out there. In this 1st World country there are so many easy things we could do to tackle bullying, and there have been so many lives that could've been saved. But, despite it having the same negative effects from domestic and child abuse, quite a lot of the time bullies aren't punished, or aren't punished enough. Meanwhile, abusers of different types get a prison sentence. Perhaps it's a bit too harsh for young people with problems of their own, but society should and must treat bullying more seriously. It can happen to adults. It can happen to soldiers and they aren't weak for commenting on it. Phycological abuse is real and is more dangerous than physical. A bully doesn't have to be physically violent to be a bully. People cannot simply get over it, it's a traumatic experience that humans should not go through. It doesn't toughen them up. It needlessly breaks them.
I know what you are talking about. Step 1. Acquire an NCO who hates you, while not your supervisor has career control over you. Tosses positive post ex evals, and the like. Cancels leave to course load you on an OJT course, where you just spent the last year working, so it wasn't necessary. The leave was to see NOK. Then go on an ex, and have several spec ops kidnap you and torture, leaving you maimed for life and with death threats. Never brought to justice. Coup de Grace, testify against the regiment you serve with in HQ at a court martial where they were screwing over another soldier. Among other secondary taskings I was the Adjutants driver. Lets just say the final time in the regiment working directly with the Adjutant, DCO, CO, and RSM was a tad difficult.
I was diagnosed with PTSD about a month ago because my mother was domestically abused when I was a child,I was taken aback by this because I to associated it with war vets.
My kids and I have PTSD from Domestic Violence. I get flashbacks when someone yells at me. I freeze and fawn because fighting made things worse and flight was impossible.
I got rid of the visuals in my flashbacks with a technique where a psychologist waves a finger in front of your eyes while you think of the scene. I dunno what the name is, but it really did wonders!
This is SUCH an important talk for veterans, survivors of childhood trauma and other forms of trauma! Thank you Janet Seahorn for your work and thank you to your husband for his service. Hugs and love to you both.
In Israel, mental health checkups are annual for everyone. There's no shame; it's part of the medical exam. We do not take care of our mental health enough in this country. And if you don't have money, it's even harder.
Oh yeah Although I don’t know what exactly your life it’s like , I can say I too was born into a family like that, it was hard for me to get past through the toxicity and live normally like other normal folks do but finally it happened mid of this year, now I have broke myself free from that and learnt to live . It took me years to do that
I suffer from PTSD and I have been so critical on myself and always tried to be socially acceptable & always second guessing myself on what I imagine other peoples opinions are. But now I can put a name to it I feel empowered.
I had a horrifying labor, my baby was born under duress resulting in brain damage, he unfortunately was a spastic quadriplegic. He needed high, complete care 24/7. I cared for him until his death at 14. My family and few friends do not understand what happened to me and how complex trauma changes a person both physically and mentally. I wish more experts would speak about birth trauma and caregiving trauma. We suffer in silence.
At 9:33 I almost cried when she said, "When you're late, people died". I learned that while I was in Iraq. And now I know why I have a problem being late.
I got it through neglect from everything. My mum was always depressed herself so she never really made the effort with me, I was never accepted by clubs and any hobbies I tried out as a kid always resulted in humiliation from other people so that put me off at a young age. When I got to college I hadn't grown at all, I still looked like a 12 year old kid at 16 which gets you no respect, no capabilities to compete against people much larger than you, you feel helpless in which I had to endure all the bullying yet I couldn't do anything about it. I'm now 22 in which I've grown, I'm tall, fair decent build and been told many times I'm good looking and get attention from girls but those years of misery have now destroyed my perspective on the world and society now in which my social anxiety controls my life.
@@mast3rchief536 I find a lot of similarities in your background with mine, stay strong brotha our futures are not damned🙏 I’m finally working through my main issues after realizing my ptsd can’t just be ignored out of existence. I’m 21 and haven’t had a year of peace yet, but the prospect of many years of mental freedom keep me going.
@@mast3rchief536 tRUST ME MATE. Pick up a sport Now. volleyball, martial arts, brazilian ju jistu, fishing, running or anything ...pick one that interests you. There's a certain catharsis about it that no amount of thinking can do. That's my only advice. Take it for a better life
What I find absolutely fascinating is how she talks about it is like she has actually been there and felt it what a wonderful woman to fightfor other people
Thank you Janet for this much needed message. I especially connected with PTSD as not a ‘disorder’ but rather a ‘reorder’ of the brain response! As I learn more about neuroscience, the brain, body, emotional responses to trauma, that feeling of being ‘stuck’ can now begin the healing process. Trauma does get stuck in the nervous system; movement, deep breathing vs shallow breathing are among the tools available to work it out, releasing that energy. Thank you again. Will share with my circle of influence as we each move thru the healing process of childhood traumas and daily traumas.
Everyone is commenting that she's only referring to combat PTSD. Who cares? It's all the same - developmental trauma and shock trauma included. What she is saying applies across the board. Her husband just happens to be a perfect and "neat" example to use. This is one of the best videos I've seen in terms of clarity and practicality - what exactly is PTSD, how does it impact our health, and how do we deal with it?
I apologize for not being able to read the many shared stories here. I empathize and sympathize, ,and taking healthiest care of me, I can only say you are not alone. Like many other chronic illnesses, it's not a competition, there is love light and plentiful grace for us all. Be blessed and know you are loved. - ♡ive
My wife has PTSD initially stemming from an a abusive Mother. That led her into a first marriage of a abusive husband for 10 yrs. (Physical assaults, broken bones,etc.) When I came along, with no back ground in this, I didn't recognize the symptoms. The reactive behavior was foreign. To this day (after 37 years) I'm still dealing with the hyper-vigilance. She has done therapy with no lasting results. Very little seems to be spoke of living with victims of PTSD.
It is so very brave of her to stand by her husband through all the ordeal he was going through. I'm sure it must have been tough for her and the kids too. Salute to Ms. Janet and her kids to share the trauma and help him heal.
I used EFT, emotion freedom technique to heal PTSD. It is also known as tapping. No more panic attacks from triggers in my world. Vets and everyone else has also had success.
I've tried tapping and it did work, until I was triggered again & again and just didn't care. Most of these comments were awesome... some, are insulting. Ty for your comment. Blessings to you and yours. ✌❤ from Rhode Island. Take care.
I have been diagnosed with PTSD. Child abuse from my father. For over Twenty years he abused me severely. I consider myself to be fortunate to even be alive today.
My close friend just passed away from struggling with PTSD for years... he was only 30 years old and was a veteran. We wasn’t a proud veteran, he was hurting and in pain everyday. He hid it so well though... he did open up to me several times and I didn’t take it at serious as I should have. I tried, but it wasn’t enough. This is something I can’t get over. Ever.
My father died in a major shipping accident when I was almost nine. My mother and I heard it on the radio news while we were having breakfast. I now strongly believe this left me with PTSD, based on all the difficulties I have over the past five decades.
My sister. There's almost nothing in literature about how to deal w sibling abuse. I couldn't get away from it. She was totally different in front of others, and she was Evangelical, I'm Buddhist, so I was the "bad" one. She would say things like, " I'm going to turn every cousin against you". And when I cared for my dad for 5 years w/o an ounce of help from her, I couldn't work in that time, she said " "'im going to make sure you end up on the street" and "I'll make sure anyone gets the house over you". I could go on, but you get the picture. After dad passed, I could finally separate from her and it's helped tremendously. But it still hurts not having a even somewhat cordial relationship w her. I never had any support system in family until more recently.
First I would like to thank all service men, women and you families for all you have done for American. PTSD, man it does not decimate. I have suffered from PTSD for many years. There are several types of therapy out there that can certainly help. Although it is hard when people do not understand. I still find rather interest we in 2100's that people are so ignorant to mental health issues.
Madam speaker. You will probably never see this. But thank you for your compassion and willingness to talk on this subject. It is so very much in your heart and that is obvious. I see comments that insinuate you only speak of Vets. However, in the opening you made it clear that there are a million ways to develop PTSD. I am a CPTSD diagnosed woman. I lost my 2 month old to sids. My husband shot himself in front of me. I am a survivor, and to hear you speak so positively on this subject has helped more than you know. I also shared this with family that simply couldn't grasp why I'm not the same anymore. However, this video worked as a great tool to teach them. I never make long comments lol but on the off chance you see this. I want to thank you. ❤
What a great presentation Jan! Thanks to you and Tony for your dedication and hard work on behalf of veterans and their families. Such and important topic that impacts so many.
I never knew PTSD would have the ability to rob me of my life the way it has. It has gotten progressively worse and I have tried pretending it doesn't exist. But if I keep on sweeping under the rug and pretending this way, I feel I am going to die soon! But I actually would rather die then continue on like this... However I will never suicide
Praying for you. I would suggest getting counseling and maybe there are meds out there to help you. Know your not alone. We psch our brain real bad alot of journaling helps me also because you need to address the trauma get help and try to understand yourself before you are crippled of physical disabilities that come along with this. The best of wishes and prayers goes out to you
A very powerful speech...well done Lady!! get that message out there. PTSD aint no trivial matter. I have met quite a few Vets from the 1982 Falklands War (and it was a proper albeit short war) have met vets from both sides..they all suffer the same. The fact that PTSD can affect anyone, regardless of age, is very true too.
thats the one thing ive learned that has made sense i was really surprised...any stress my memory is useless even seconds. body and brain preparing for a fight and everything else shuts off. ive almost burnt down my house many times
Thousands of dollars in Therapy etc . should have watched this years ago. Welcome to PTSD all!! Fire for 14yrs. Thanks for what you are doing! Made a huge step today and watching this gives me hope for the future of education.
PTSD isn’t just for soldiers anymore ❤ Although yes, I feel it’s the most correlated connection. Not saying absolutely anything negative about that association for our wonderful military people. But I can relate with survivors of other traumas.
My daughter's husband has a godfather whose parents survived an Asian concentration camp. As an offspring of these parents, he has said, "These kids who complain of PTSD should just get over it-they don't know what PTSD is". He was a professor at a college in the northwest before he retired. I think he may be living in an alternate reality. He was the favored child of his mother and everything was left to him; his brothers received nothing and have always held it against him. I think there's more to the story. Offspring of concentration camp survivors suffer another kind of PTSD
I am a high school teacher and this talk opened my mind. I work with refugee kids and "normal" kids and I have myself been working in refugee camps as a volunteer twice. I was bullied in school, I was a bully in school but today as a teacher with 16 years working experience I have longed for someone to talk about trauma, stress and PTSD and who applies it onto something that happens all the time - in schools and in workplaces. We are not superheroes, we are human! Humanity. Thank you, Ms Seahorn!
6 months ago I shared to a acquaintance I suffered with cptsd..she spread the info I shared with her to others..needless to say absolutely no one speaks to me now...very lonely existence for me for soo long. . Staying around for my grand child.
For all you suffers. Your not alone. I literally just hold on to God for stability. Nothing else matters. One wise thing I just learned was this. "Whatever happened that day.. just take it as a loss, it's okay to be happy now.. 😭😢 it's seriously okay now." God bless
Jesse Steel The song on UA-cam “Comes A Beautiful Rainbow “ by Michael North is a secular song but it helps me to be happier. I recall hearing that Kenneth Copeland, the tv preacher, went to a VA hospital and told veterans with PTSD that it’s not biblical so get over it.
Not surprising. I would like to ask Mr. Copeland why he doesn't clear out all the hospitals if he believes that way. I personally believe God can work through doctors.
I suffer from C-PTSD from childhood trauma. I purchased a weighted blanket and it has improved my sleep and my blood pressure is down 20 points. I've made no other changes. My quality of life has improved. It even helps my RLS. I have the 12 pound right now, but just ordered 16 pounder from Amazon. It goes by bodyweight.
PTSD can be caused by several different types of traumatic events. In my case, I'm a Vietnam Veteran, and I had a severe and chronic case of PTSD. The key word in this malady is stress. I came home from Vietnam in 1968. I naively thought I could return home and be normal again. At the time, I didn't realize how wrong I was about this. The nightmares, and waking up at night screaming and yelling. The flashbacks, which came seemingly out of nowhere, and were so vivid and seemed that I was back in Nam again. Reliving the awful events that I experienced again. Trying to forget those terrible events, and not recalling them. PTSD is like a ghost that follows you around, and will not allow you to be at peace. After 30 years, I finally went to the VA and asked for help. I was given medication and therapy. The medication helped very much, and sort of kept me on an even keel. This prevented me from having extreme highs and lows on a daily basis, and vastly improved my quality of life. The therapy has helped me to manage the symptoms of PTSD much better. Ir's been said that time can help to heal old wounds. I think this is true. It's been 52 years since I departed the Freedom Bird at Travis Air Force Base in California, and I hardly ever think about Vietnam anymore. My memories have faded since then, and I think that maturity has helped. I certainly consider myself to be a survivor. I have discovered that no matter how many times life knocks me down, I get back up and keep moving forward again. There is always a light at the end of a tunnel.
@@AishaAhmed-dj5xv Basically medication for anxiety and depression, and talking to a therapist. Just talking to someone about this can help somewhat. Keeping everything inside is the worst thing someone can do. The PTSD is chronic and will never go away, but I have learned to manage the symptoms of PTSD better over the years. The key word in PTSD is Stress, and it's best to avoid stressful situations as much as humanly possible.
It's such a intense transition. Thank you so much for your testimony. It's weird to relive moments in your mind while the rest of life continues on around you. To stare at a spot on the floor for long period of time that only feels like a moment. To be locked in your head. For the first time in a long time I felt a positive connection. Thank you again.
I be had PTSD since I was 13 and I am 49 now. Thanks this helps me understand why I react, rather than reason and smells trigger me without me knowing why. I do now.
I'm a Desert Storm vet and how you explained your husbands response to simple everyday life is how I react to my family. I didn't see combat like your husband did, but I still have the same reactions. The Tower of Terror at Disney was my Achilles heel and the rest of the day putting myself back together again quietly, as the family enjoyed the park. Thank you
Thanks to Janet for the long suffering and caring nurturing you have put in with your husband, as a sufferer and a carer I know how draining it can be so well done for hanging on.
😭😭😭❤️ I cried through this because it’s the story of my life with my husband who is a 100% disabled veteran from the Gulf War. Everyone makes us feel like we are doing something wrong because we stay secluded but it’s hard to explain to them how it effects my husband and therefore our way of life for weeks after we leave our quite ten acres. You just made me feel a little bit more whole. Thank you!
I never have been to a war. What she is discribing about her husband made me laugh but also cry. I got a piece of my puzzle back to understand myself differently. Thank you!
17 years into my Navy career things started crashing down. All those years of seeing trauma, helping others and disregarding my own health...things started crashing down. What did the Navy do for me?! They decided to turn their backs on me, disregard my health/PTSD issues, and trying their best to get me out of the military!
im sorry. I was just told today that i have ptsd. i am the child and grandchild of army men. when my dad retired my life became a chaotic war zone of abuse. i forgive him but ......... sigh. i dont know. i saw him fight for his benefits and thry yanked him around. tried to use ptsd to say his other ailments were in his head. He was never diagnosed with ptsd. His frontal lobe is shrinking because of exosure to nerve agent. They have denied this and lied about this for 20+ years. Fuck the navy. Fuck the army. They ruin the lives of those who put theirs on the line for this country. Then they throw them and their families away like trash.
Thank you for your service. I was diagnosed 15 years ago and it get better. The first ten years were pretty bad but it's like they say this too shall pass. Stay strong. You can do it. You will come out much stronger.
Thank you for saying that, Grace. I'm 3 years in and I'm spiraling, and it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. But I won't give up, I'm still trying my best to "win my Hunger Games," as the lady in the video put it.
yes and after you are out, don't expect much help from them. They say they know how to help but they don't. Try to stay busy and find hobbies and a good counselor.
Wow! This video helped me so much: to see and understand. I’ve been dating an Army veteran for the past four months. He is the sweetest and most loving guy I’ve ever met... then there have been those moments where I am unsure what happened to him. Thank you Dr. Seahorn for using your personal experiences to help me understand that is not him who is not him acting irrational but rather those little moments that trigger his memory.
C-PTSD from several different experiences over life, starting at childhood. Never known a life without. Resulted in several physical illnesses. Also, some didn't accept my illnesses and became violent (severe emotional abuse, lies, making me feel guilty for my illnesses, leaving me alone 10 km from my home, no lift, and he never came back, etc). That caused me to withdraw from most of the people, I don't want be ever hurt like that again. Serious trust issues, since my trust (and heart) broken intentionally several times. First by my parents. Also by friends, not just someone I was with. It feels like I never learn and I can't see the evilness in people. The worst people know how to hide their dark side until it's too late (covert narcissists or friends who just turn on you, maybe also some mental issues, because choosing to be really mean to someone isn't normal. And even more sick is when they enjoy for the pain they have caused you, turning your love for them into suffering.
While a lot of symptoms of PTSD are similar they are not all the same. When I was first diagnosed (not because I'm a vet) I found that Beyond Blue is a helpful website.
Yes, peter gerlach, psychotherapist, on CPSD, childhood abuse, codependency as a result,etc. He offers a free series of healing lessons for us to work, too!Just do them.
You are one special person to understand, support, have patience and empathy. War damages so many for lifetimes. We are learning these experiences are violence against your own people. You have such depth to help others. God bless you and you will both one day be at peace with your glorious Creator.
Your husband is a very lucky man for having you stand by him through thick and thin. Thank you for clarifying the meaning of : True love for Your spouse “.
omg me too...have constant tightness in the chest and remind myself to breathe...also will wake up at night with my hands clenched in fists. I'm afraid any minor confrontation will result w/me exploding..and I've been working on this sh!t for 30 years : (. sigh...I'd like to join a ptsd support group. I forget sometimes that other people are dealing with the same stuff.
Good talk!!! Thank you! I knew my spouse before Nam...so knew there was something different once home again. After that, the denial of PTSD was chronic. I just had to learn more and creative problem-solve for every single thing, almost on a daily basis...it actually helped me keep distracted fem mine, until reaching a few critical-mass times. For decades, VA system denied PTSD out-of-hand...same as they denied agent orange damages [yeah, that’s the same glyphosate, which is residue in so much foods, and helping kill-off honeybees and so many other insects life depends on]. Then VA started having to deal with it, so some got DX’d with it. Then some years ago, VA started telling vets “you don’t have PTSD anymore”, if they’d been DX’d with it. Then later, telling them, “you don’t have PTSD anymore, it’s really Bipolar” [etc. other]. VA in Seattle got hand-slapped for telling vets they no longer had it. So, after that, they covered their assets by switching vets’ DX to something that didn’t garner them a disability stipend anymore, saving that system probably million$ in payouts of military-related disability benefits. That’s what they are still currently doing. The PTSD is still there but now, for those of a certain age, it’s tempered by age and infirmity...messing-with daily living, working, relations, contributing to faster aging and more infirmity. PTSD from non-military issues, complicates everything too; _SO_ many more have it from traumatic life events, and medicine is largely ignoring it, or, throwing useless or harmful psych drugs at it, without offering much else for coping tools. It doesn’t “go away”; one doesn’t simply “get over it”. The person really has a hard time controlling it, IF they ever learn to at all. It’s the constant “monster in the closet”; most work hard to mask/hide. Best one can do is learn how to better cope with it...it’s a constant passenger on all our travels and daily activities.
I am a stronger,happier,healthy person because of childhood trauma.I have been diagnosed with CPTSD and a dissociative disorder.I also developed TLE(simple partial,complex partial,and grand mal seizures) as a result(I believe) which triggered bipolar and ADHD symptoms.After decades of healing I am seizure free,medication free,happy and healthy.Healing is possible and most importantly YOU DESERVE TO HEALING.Please don't die with you song still in you!
I think that if society became more caring, understanding, respectful and especially compassionate towards ALL living/sentient beings, our ptsd would have a better chance for healing. Violence, pain and suffering have detrimental effects no matter who the victim is. Exploiting or inflicting pain and suffering on one life in an attempt to relieve another is absurd.
This is a good talk but would like to see more on how PTSD can occur from childhood neglect, childhood emotional abuse ect ..often called Complex PTSD
I have suffered from years of childhood abuse no one has told me about complex ptsd until now, thank you
Lots of good videos and info on CPTSD, you might need some good psychotherapy or hypnotherapy.
Thank you, I wish all the best in your recovery, me too.
Well for you with cptsd good luck dealing with it, hope you guys well :)
Mel A
This made me cry so hard in realizing I’m not alone. I’m not alone.
You're not. You're not a bad person.
Sara R I too suffer from (comparatively mild) PTSD, but over the years I have found ways of coping. I can share some of these with you if you wish.
You're not alone. Been battling PTSD for 11 years now. Never found the strength or motivation to start a therapy. But I'm about to start one. Finally. You're not alone Sara. Hang in there, will you ? And try to be good with yourself. Sending light your way.
@@bobrussell3602 I would be interested in hearing about your coping skills, if you are still willing to share?
I don't understand why people see comfort in not being alone it dosent make a difference too me?
im tired of ptsd being only associated with war.
its not
It is definitely mostly associated with war. Let's not make up lies on this one.
No shit its associated with war, those guys watch there friends die get there arms blown off get shot in the head when theyre only 18 years old.
Me too I have it and doesn't have anything to do with combat I have to take meds because of it.
i'm tired of having PTSD
My wife sufferes ptsd and she isnt alone many survivors of physical abuse suffer this terible thing that is real as it gets.the night terrors,insominia,small things trigger flash backs. I love you baby!!! You are a fighter and i admire the way you never give up,no quit in you at all baby.
David Mcclanahan ❤
David Mcclanahan
That was awesome and so beautiful. How long did your wife wait to tell you she had Ptsd? I have Ptsd and I pray to GOD that he sends me a husband that will love me despite my Ptsd. I often worry when dating if I should mention it at all you know
Look into Kundalini Brain Protocols.
It is NOT just about people who have been physically abused either.
David Mcclanahan youre fortunate to have someone who loves and cares for you, cherish him,good men are impossible to find
EMDR therapy, life changer. It’s given me back to myself.
When you try to reach out to talk but get told 'You just need to stop thinking about it', 'You need to stop torturing yourself', 'You need to get it out of your head'...That's like telling a person to run off a broken leg and just compounds the issue, making you feel worse - and isolating even more. Which makes it worse again...
"Can't you just leave it all behind you!" is what the last HCP said to me. Appalling lack of care and knowledge.
i'm sorry you are going through that. they dont have the maturity or psychology skills to be there for you. its best to talk to a good therapist.
I think they are all correct just not exactly - doing the therapies help you to make the shift where you don’t think of some things as traumatizing anymore, and you don’t think of them constantly anymore. So they are correct - they don’t have a solution and also you don’t have it. Being uncomfortable, or “someone making you uncomfortable” is because of your wound that you take it personally, as of you were doing smth wrong. Neither of you is wrong. But it doesn’t get better if you/suffering person does not take action towards healing. Life is not supposed to be easy - Baba Jagaa eats child-like people, who expect evertying to be fine, without accepting responsibility for Yourself, for how you feel, for how you react. I hooe you accept the help you are being propelled to and will learn to help yourself :) all the best to you dear stranger.
@@lunamaria7467 and what if you cant trust ANYONE
How about being told for 5 years straight that you dont have it, in spite of all the symptoms being there, only to then see a new therapist who specialises in trauma, who immidiately tells you youve got it.
Great talk. PTSD sucks the life out of a person. Have you imagined what it would feel like to move through life feeling only anxiety, depression and anger, looking forward to nothing? That is a start in understanding what someone with PTSD navigates. It is amazing how powerful and healing it is when someone with PTSD or C-PTSD gets to talk with someone who has fought in the arena of PTSD. Trauma-informed providers AND those who are willing to talk about their trauma are so healing to others. Validation heals. Empathy heals. Continually learning and working towards understanding is healing. Our (PTSD survivor's) world is different. Nothing is "normal" any longer. Thank you for the great talk and great information for all. It is in the DOING.
See above!!! I have lived your words. And I still am. In general I trust no one and I have been a recluse all my life.......
Me too, Frank. Add a life on the run. I have lived in so many places i cant even count them.
Currently dealing with insomnia and hellish night sweats due to PTSD. I haven’t slept in two weeks. Sending healing energy to anyone going through this. I welcome it in return. 🙏🏼
I know the feeling, it's terrible... i hope you're doing better now! Sending love from Switzerland!🙏❤
How are u doing Danielle?
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Checking in on you, Danielle. I hope your journey is better now than when you left this comment last year. ❤
Praying for you 🙏
Recently diagnosed with ptsd. I became so physically ill years ago never ever thinking it was ptsd. I was angry. I mean wrath took over me. I dont recall my actions during these episodes of anger. I got rid of everyone in my life from family to all friends. Many were toxic and needed to go. Since medication, groups, therapy, Ive rebuilt my friendships but the healthy ones. Im nicer and feel more peaceful but still disconnected. Progress. Ive a ways to go. Thank you for this video. Side note: Im an artist and did a drawing years ago called the Silent Scream. Wild you mentioned that here. 😊 love to all those suffering with ptsd, depression. Hugs
Traumas during my childhood resulted in ptsd for all my adult life. I have never been without it.
Amanda Little I think I might be struggling with ptsd, could I ask what the trauma was? maybe it's similar to mine? I'm very lost
I got in a 12-step program for co-depedency. . .finally! Prayers for your recovery!
I have Complex PTSD, also. I "get it" about how painful it is to live with every moment, day after day, year after year, & decade after decade. I have had it from at least toddlerhood. My Mother and daughter have it, too.
Kaj Dalfall same
Teresa Durso what do you do for a living? It's hard for me to do work. A lot of triggers are in responsibility so finding work is hard.
I found my brother after he shot himself. March will be 20 years and it’s amazing how it affects daily life. You really never know what people are going through and how seemingly small situations can be interpreted by them. Learning to be honest about my emotions and needs have been helpful. Surround yourself with people you can count on. I think that alone does wonders. ❤️
so sorry that happened to you
I recently found my brother the same way in June 2022. I'm on a journey of healing and understanding my emotions and triggers. Just trying to understand the best way to cope.
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I'm sorry about your brother. I think oftentimes people with PTSD don't feel they have someone they can turn to, or the belief that things can be different
God bless and heal you.
I love that she said that they became stronger DESPITE the trauma. I have encountered a lot of people saying you become stronger because of your trauma.
Alex yep definatly you learn a skill of how to survive
Alex: yeah, it's not BECAUSE of the trauma itself, it's the learning to live with it and get through it. Not "over" it, maybe, but yes, it builds emotional muscle--building muscle almost always hurts at least some.
I don't know, and this is not from personal experience, but observation. PTSD has physiological effects too, muscle stiffness, addding to poor sleep quality, restlessness, tendon tensions, resulting in injuries, hence immobility, resulting in possible overweight, speeding up the depression and anxiety circle, backpain, all potentially resulting in overeating. IF PTSD is/was not recongized from day one basically, i.e., that is effecting about every person with PTSD who got traumatized before 1995 (at best), in fact my benchmark is 1999, and I could elaborate on picking that date, but anyway. So, certainly not beneficial for those old PTSD'ers, and I would not call that "becoming stronger" either. If not a vicious circle concerning those cases, if they can get stronger "despite", then the serenity prayer certainly nails it.
i think that is very true
stronger yes but not healed.
Thank you for verbalizing the silent scream. And why I isolate. Overwhelming feelings of detachment. Feeling different about who we are. Don't see things that are there.
my friend look up David Bercelli it works
Barbara Brennan Comforts me to know someone else understands. I wish I could meet other people who understand. I don’t want to let it change me as a person but it wears me down after a while so I keep having this thought maybe I shouldn’t keep to myself so much. But when I’ve tried not to I feel misunderstood
I am an Iraq war veteran and have just realized we are not the only ones who battle with this internal war. Beth Moore a well known speaker and teacher tweeted about her battle. Just days ago she spoke of her own battle with PTSD. Her symptoms and back and forth battle are no different than that of a soldier. After all that has happened to me I strive to be compassionate and loving to the hardships of my neighbor.
This was so helpful ! I'm currently in a triggered state and I've still had to run my business, care for my suicidal teen, exercise, etc. I have not had sleep in forever due to the nightmares and anxiety, but I just wake up every single day and try again and again. I try to learn new ways of coping every day, and try to make the most positive decisions for myself.
i feel for you and i hope you are doing ok now. Maybe my words wont help but i want you to know that you are doing your best and you should never blame yourself or hate yourself.
It’s hard to think when your brain is shutting down..
we live in a constant state of fight or flight. there is no cure. the best we can do is listen to our bodies and act accordingly. I have phobias and anxieties I have to live around, also PTSD affects our digestive system. When I feel closed in or trapped I start to belch, so I know to move. Even when I walk under a low carport, and this is over 50 years later.
God bless and heal you- and especially your child.
ptsd is not only for war vets.
+amanda morales She states at the very beginning that it isn't just a vet issue. It is, however, one of the most visible populations with the disorder. And probably one of the most comfortable to talk about. To most Americans, war is something that happens somewhere else. Poverty, abuse, rape, bullying is stuff that can happen anywhere.
+Zaryn9000 I agree cause I live ptsd every day! I was diagnosed 2 years ago. I thought it was only people from warzones and stuff! I was shocked and stunned! get help people get help!!!! God bless yall!!!
that's true, I know there also are people who have PTSD because of that they've been abused, circumcised (traumatizing due to pain), beaten, raped and/or wisnessed another traumatic case in their life. I know how far PTSD can go, it even can get authorities involved.
What happened that you have ptsd?
Jaqen I have PTSD due to my sister being diagnosed with depression/anxiety/bipolar/eating disorders four years ago and relying on me to essentially keep her from killing herself and threatening me if I told anyone. My PTSD is in the for,m of panic attacks, dissociation and cycles of thoughts about how I'm weak. I. Going to therapy and I'm getting better but it's actually quite damaging when people assume it's just about vets.
If you are reading this now, you are beauty, you are important and are a gorgeous soul. Keep an open heart for healing, beloved. Peace Love & Prosperity! 💪🙌🙏💖💚💙💛
Thank you so much 🙏
18 years of child abuse, and over ten years of bullying. I just feel like shutting myself up in my room, and not talking to anyone.
Darth Salsa Pants me too, but always working on it in therapy.
Darth Salsa Pants same life experience for me too
Me too but for different reasons. I don’t like people very much.
So sorry to read this. I bet you are a lovely person
Me also. You'd wonder why you try sometimes but unfortunately we have to
It's unfair how whenever someone says PTSD, everyone immediately thinks it's just soldiers who get it.
It isn't a competition.
It makes me feel kind of brave hearing that analogy actually. I wasn't in the military but I feel flattered to have that comparison. Also it underlines that what non-veterans went through could have been equally bad in a different way
Casey Shaw I am a veteran and have PTSD but my wife also has it from a traumatic experience in childhood. So it is not just military veterans.
it's not about competition . it's about having your experience understood and then having some potential to deal with the way our symptoms change emotions, behavior and chaos.
I've heard too many people say to me, you can't have PTSD, you weren't in the military. I respect the Military, I wanted to be in the military, but, because of a childhood accident, I couldn't. No, it's not a competition. But, we need to educate the world. People need to understand the definition of trauma, the victim, and the survivor as well as learn the tools that are needed to help their friend, family member, and even a stranger. Our health and our survival depend on it. Casey, thank you for posting your comment. This road is a hard one to travel and my health has shown the tremendous struggle on this journey.
12:08 - 12:28 nobody's put what I've been feeling so succinctly into words before
Sarah H stay strong....I m with you
I agree, add to that, all the way through 12:45.
I suffer from PTSD and it's from childhood trauma and it was so severe that it literally has changed me forever
Don't worry it will get better I'm 62 and there's no cure but there is hope . There are several UA-cam channels that will help you with PTSD and you should use them and especially the tools that the people the creators of the channel the messages they're trying to get to you are messages that are very positive and you've been living so negative because of traumatic stress your nerves are not processing anything correctly so try to focus on baby steps I found out a long time ago that if I tried to just jump in feet first and correct all of my crazy symptoms and things that we're going on in one big fail swoop it just never worked and I would continually get worse so my therapist at the time recommended the baby step approach and work on certain small things one at a time and have the ability to understand that it's not going to be a fix all cure all thing that's just not going to happen there's no cure as I said I certainly wish you well as I do everyone that is reading this PTSD is something that you just can't see you can look for PTSD all you want you're not going to see it and it does lay dormant sometime and it doesn't wake up for a while as a matter of fact sometimes it doesn't want to bother you but when a trigger is set off suddenly it's a completely different story it's a completely different book written in a completely different way it's just that simple I wouldn't trade being a US veteran for nothing in the world It was the best years of my life I learned a lot about people and I learned a lot about freedom and traumatic experiences are certainly called traumatic for a reason I'll never completely win this battle that I have with my mind I will probably be hyper aroused for the rest of my life and I will most likely end up somewhere I don't want to be as far as a home that will have to care for me And that's okay too I just don't ever want to give up I don't ever want to just give up can't be discouraged without trying so I feel like if I just at least try maybe I won't get so discouraged and down on myself and my last bit of advice to you or anyone who is battling with this terrible thing called PTSD remember we both have that in common I have it too but remember there's professional people out there they're called therapist and I've used one for a long long time and if it wasn't for the mental health challenges mixed with the terrific horrific physical challenges I don't know what I would do find a good therapist talk to your therapist be honest with your therapist and your therapist will help you If not that's okay too some therapist are just not the right fit and that's okay too I have had to let therapist go on many occasions because we just didn't fit thanks everyone it's little things like this that mean a lot to me to talk to people and tell them it's all right it's going to be all right I'm doing what people were saying to me a long time ago and I listened and I started using the tools and I got a great therapist and I started changing diet and I started doing things differently and I'm not cured I still get triggered quite often actually I just know how to handle it better that in itself is a wonderful feeling peace out!!
I was physically abused as a child, sexually abused as a teenager, and retired from the Fire Dept after a career full of pain, suffering and death, especially with kids and babies.
the call that finally sent me over the edge was a 4 month old girl we lost due to accidental suffocation.
I went into a downward spiral for 2 1/2 years, not knowing I Had PTSD, and started drinking heavily to numb my brain.
I ultimately got really drunk one night and attempted suicide. as a result, I was committed to a mental hospital for 3 weeks, followed by 4 months of outpatient, and have been in therapy at. social clinic ever since.
my friends, PTSD is VERY real, and it doest just happen to soldiers. first responders, firefighters and EMT's, are HIGHLY susseptible to it, and most of us have it. we just either don't know it or don't wanna admit it for fear of being labeled " soft ".
if are experiencing flash backs, nightmares, constant anxiety, racing thoughts, irritability, etc., I strongly urge u to get help. don't ignore it or try to be " tough ".
courage my brother
You gota grow weed dude. Its a life long disease ur life is guna be abt pot til the day u die. There is no cure. I also have it and the only resolution is to smoke like there is no tomorrow. You will be normal while you are high but your disease will return as soon as you become sober. It is a life long disease brought on by truama. There is no cure and cannabis is the only treatment to better your life. You are going to have to become a pothead. Its the easiest way to explain it to you. Listen to me & youll be fine. Disregard my comment & you will never have an effective treatment. Its for life and u will have to grow weed for life. You need to become a pothead 420 sorry...
That was a really honest reply there and honesty is the first step to recovery. Most of us are not honest about how we are REALLY feeling and that is because we ourselves haven't been taught that is OK to speak out how we feel. I kept everything inside for over 50 years!! 50 years, that's a long time trying to make oneself better. Acceptance of the situation and ourselves is the 2nd step to recovery and that doesn't mean liking it either!
wild child
Yeah I hate to say this but you were f***** over as a kid and teenager. You had two strikes against you before you went into a field where you were going to face severe trauma. I used to do psych Hospital admit so I was the guy that did all the admissions and I had 15 minutes to decide if you were going to be 5150 or not. I have heard thousands and thousands of stories like yours. First Responders that usually go over the edge with the stories that relate to out of time or out of sequence death such as small children and murder or suicide or being in the so-called wrong place at the wrong time and the first responder had to deal with all that s***. And I've heard of many first-responders committing suicide, drugs alcohol, really f*****-up lives, and it's sad. Nevertheless, the most important thing would be to focus on all the kids who didn't burn and didn't die because you did your job the best you can and it's not your fault because you couldn't every single person.
You're going to die eventually right? You're going to f****** be ashes like the rest of us right? So stop feeling guilty about s*** you can't control and didn't do perfectly and learn to forgive yourself. The best thing you can do is look at self calming strategies, opposite action strategies, because your brain was wired for chaos and then you got into a field that involves a lot of very high-level intense chaos. And then when you sat down after 45 years of all that s***, you found that you had to deal with your s*** and you couldn't deal with your s***. Well, enjoy the f*** out of the rest of your life and forgive yourself because you got all of eternity after that. Alcohol causes severe depression. And to the a****** who said you should grow weed and smoke pot, pot causes intractable severe depression. You got to learn if you want to change new strategies and apply them such as diet exercise and living a somewhat more boring life. Good luck
wild child thank you
I seen a young girl yesterday and she was absolutely wounded and broken from a very extreme abusive relationship. She looked like she was in fight or flight mode the whole time ..shaking and lost. That's what brought me here. That touched me very deeply!
This is moving, truly. But when in the heck will we STOP only associating PTSD w combat?!?! When I get better I will be out there spreading awareness, with such a fiery passion!!! I am a vet but non-combat. Other trauma I lived thru in the Army, but I have a life full of trauma so it is mostly, by far, NOT MILITARY RELATED. And ZERO combat. This enrages me. The stigma alone is deafening, and for those of us suffering, trying to stay alive, & beat this non-combat PTSD.... we deserve a voice just as loud!! We matter just the same! Never forget it, YOU MATTER & I GET IT. *hugs* Guilt & shame weigh heavy on me w my ptsd, and probably u as well...... Well, we need SUPPORT not more dismissiveness or blindness! HEAR US! SEE US! SPREAD THE WORD FOR US! 💜🦋
Heather Anne I've never been diagnosed with ptsd or c-ptsd, I don't know if I should bother (took me 3 years to get a diagnosis for my dyspraxia) but I can say for certain I've suffered symptoms of ptsd, quite a lot of them. Basically all of it was from 4 years of phycological and verbal bullying, coupled with backstabbing friends. Now I'm at 17, and instead of avoiding school like other bully victims do, I get flashbacks and panic attacks being near people my own age. I cannot look at groups of young people, I just get flashbacks that lead me to self harm. I also struggle keeping my friendships, I find romantic relationships impossible. I regularly get nightmares and anxiety dreams, dissociation, suicidal ideation and me and my family are on the edge of dropping me out of school...
I was surprised when I realised that I was suffering from post traumatic stress and emotional burying over years... but generally, there is literally nothing for bullying victims out there. In this 1st World country there are so many easy things we could do to tackle bullying, and there have been so many lives that could've been saved. But, despite it having the same negative effects from domestic and child abuse, quite a lot of the time bullies aren't punished, or aren't punished enough. Meanwhile, abusers of different types get a prison sentence. Perhaps it's a bit too harsh for young people with problems of their own, but society should and must treat bullying more seriously. It can happen to adults. It can happen to soldiers and they aren't weak for commenting on it. Phycological abuse is real and is more dangerous than physical. A bully doesn't have to be physically violent to be a bully. People cannot simply get over it, it's a traumatic experience that humans should not go through. It doesn't toughen them up. It needlessly breaks them.
I know what you are talking about. Step 1. Acquire an NCO who hates you, while not your supervisor has career control over you. Tosses positive post ex evals, and the like. Cancels leave to course load you on an OJT course, where you just spent the last year working, so it wasn't necessary. The leave was to see NOK. Then go on an ex, and have several spec ops kidnap you and torture, leaving you maimed for life and with death threats. Never brought to justice. Coup de Grace, testify against the regiment you serve with in HQ at a court martial where they were screwing over another soldier. Among other secondary taskings I was the Adjutants driver. Lets just say the final time in the regiment working directly with the Adjutant, DCO, CO, and RSM was a tad difficult.
I was diagnosed with PTSD about a month ago because my mother was domestically abused when I was a child,I was taken aback by this because I to associated it with war vets.
Heather Anne Don’t let her background bother you. I have had issues for decades. If anything the attention for our vets will help all.
I have flashbacks, night sweats, insomnia, and short term memory loss. I have no insurance so therefore no treatment. I avoid people.
My kids and I have PTSD from Domestic Violence. I get flashbacks when someone yells at me. I freeze and fawn because fighting made things worse and flight was impossible.
Ainsley Flint this is how my girlfriend is. Basic fights set it off and I wish I could do anything to make it better.
Yes , me too.
Me too. If someone is yelling I literally have to leave.
@Ainsley Flint This is a perfect description of C-PTSD, it is deeply cellular. Our bodies are always in a physical state of shock.
I got rid of the visuals in my flashbacks with a technique where a psychologist waves a finger in front of your eyes while you think of the scene. I dunno what the name is, but it really did wonders!
I have PTSD AND NEVER BEEN TO WAR
Christina Kennedy we've been to a different war. Fighting abuse
Relax she says at the beginning its not that to do with war😂
I have PTSD from war and my family. War is far easier.....
Christina Kennedy me too..
Trauma causes it. I have it badly from domestic abuse and 10 yrs later being roofied and assaulted
This is SUCH an important talk for veterans, survivors of childhood trauma and other forms of trauma! Thank you Janet Seahorn for your work and thank you to your husband for his service. Hugs and love to you both.
I strongly believe mental health evaluation and treatment has to be free and available for everyone, thank for shedding light on these topics.
In Israel, mental health checkups are annual for everyone. There's no shame; it's part of the medical exam. We do not take care of our mental health enough in this country. And if you don't have money, it's even harder.
Someone who gets the effects of ptsd from living with someone who suffers it. It’s good to know people understand about the hidden wound.
Born into a tramatic mess of a family and don't know what it's like without PTSD
Oh yeah Although I don’t know what exactly your life it’s like , I can say I too was born into a family like that, it was hard for me to get past through the toxicity and live normally like other normal folks do but finally it happened mid of this year, now I have broke myself free from that and learnt to live . It took me years to do that
May God have mercy on you
As someone who has been recently diagnosed with PTSD, I showed my husband this video. This video hit so close to home.
Thank you for breaking down the impact of PTSD.
I suffer from PTSD and I have been so critical on myself and always tried to be socially acceptable & always second guessing myself on what I imagine other peoples opinions are. But now I can put a name to it I feel empowered.
I had a horrifying labor, my baby was born under duress resulting in brain damage, he unfortunately was a spastic quadriplegic. He needed high, complete care 24/7. I cared for him until his death at 14. My family and few friends do not understand what happened to me and how complex trauma changes a person both physically and mentally. I wish more experts would speak about birth trauma and caregiving trauma. We suffer in silence.
At 9:33 I almost cried when she said, "When you're late, people died". I learned that while I was in Iraq. And now I know why I have a problem being late.
I have PTSD and I really believe it came from my childhood neglect. Need more coping mechanism on that kinda stuff
I got it through neglect from everything. My mum was always depressed herself so she never really made the effort with me, I was never accepted by clubs and any hobbies I tried out as a kid always resulted in humiliation from other people so that put me off at a young age. When I got to college I hadn't grown at all, I still looked like a 12 year old kid at 16 which gets you no respect, no capabilities to compete against people much larger than you, you feel helpless in which I had to endure all the bullying yet I couldn't do anything about it. I'm now 22 in which I've grown, I'm tall, fair decent build and been told many times I'm good looking and get attention from girls but those years of misery have now destroyed my perspective on the world and society now in which my social anxiety controls my life.
@@mast3rchief536 I find a lot of similarities in your background with mine, stay strong brotha our futures are not damned🙏 I’m finally working through my main issues after realizing my ptsd can’t just be ignored out of existence. I’m 21 and haven’t had a year of peace yet, but the prospect of many years of mental freedom keep me going.
@@mast3rchief536 tRUST ME MATE. Pick up a sport Now. volleyball, martial arts, brazilian ju jistu, fishing, running or anything ...pick one that interests you. There's a certain catharsis about it that no amount of thinking can do. That's my only advice. Take it for a better life
What I find absolutely fascinating is how she talks about it is like she has actually been there and felt it what a wonderful woman to fightfor other people
Thank you Janet for this much needed message. I especially connected with PTSD as not a ‘disorder’ but rather a ‘reorder’ of the brain response! As I learn more about neuroscience, the brain, body, emotional responses to trauma, that feeling of being ‘stuck’ can now begin the healing process. Trauma does get stuck in the nervous system; movement, deep breathing vs shallow breathing are among the tools available to work it out, releasing that energy.
Thank you again. Will share with my circle of influence as we each move thru the healing process of childhood traumas and daily traumas.
Everyone is commenting that she's only referring to combat PTSD. Who cares? It's all the same - developmental trauma and shock trauma included. What she is saying applies across the board. Her husband just happens to be a perfect and "neat" example to use. This is one of the best videos I've seen in terms of clarity and practicality - what exactly is PTSD, how does it impact our health, and how do we deal with it?
so true and you are so right about it.
I felt that way amoung people. Don't want any friends. Don't want a mate.
I agree... life is easier alone.
I apologize for not being able to read the many shared stories here. I empathize and sympathize, ,and taking healthiest care of me, I can only say you are not alone. Like many other chronic illnesses, it's not a competition, there is love light and plentiful grace for us all. Be blessed and know you are loved. - ♡ive
My wife has PTSD initially stemming from an a abusive Mother. That led her into a first marriage of a abusive husband for 10 yrs. (Physical assaults, broken bones,etc.) When I came along, with no back ground in this, I didn't recognize the symptoms. The reactive behavior was foreign. To this day (after 37 years) I'm still dealing with the hyper-vigilance. She has done therapy with no lasting results. Very little seems to be spoke of living with victims of PTSD.
It is so very brave of her to stand by her husband through all the ordeal he was going through. I'm sure it must have been tough for her and the kids too. Salute to Ms. Janet and her kids to share the trauma and help him heal.
I used EFT, emotion freedom technique to heal PTSD. It is also known as tapping. No more panic attacks from triggers in my world. Vets and everyone else has also had success.
I've tried tapping and it did work, until I was triggered again & again and just didn't care. Most of these comments were awesome... some, are insulting. Ty for your comment.
Blessings to you and yours. ✌❤ from Rhode Island. Take care.
Is it called Vagus nerve tapping? What does EFT stand for plz?
I have been diagnosed with PTSD. Child abuse from my father. For over Twenty years he abused me severely. I consider myself to be fortunate to even be alive today.
Yes I agree with is , it is pretty much a "silent scream" and nobody understand people who really suffering from PTSD
My close friend just passed away from struggling with PTSD for years... he was only 30 years old and was a veteran. We wasn’t a proud veteran, he was hurting and in pain everyday. He hid it so well though... he did open up to me several times and I didn’t take it at serious as I should have. I tried, but it wasn’t enough. This is something I can’t get over. Ever.
My father died in a major shipping accident when I was almost nine. My mother and I heard it on the radio news while we were having breakfast. I now strongly believe this left me with PTSD, based on all the difficulties I have over the past five decades.
Hello Catherine
How are you doing today?
My Mother's behavior all my childhood life has left me with PTSD😢😢😢
Same for me
My sister. There's almost nothing in literature about how to deal w sibling abuse. I couldn't get away from it. She was totally different in front of others, and she was Evangelical, I'm Buddhist, so I was the "bad" one. She would say things like, " I'm going to turn every cousin against you". And when I cared for my dad for 5 years w/o an ounce of help from her, I couldn't work in that time, she said " "'im going to make sure you end up on the street" and "I'll make sure anyone gets the house over you". I could go on, but you get the picture.
After dad passed, I could finally separate from her and it's helped tremendously. But it still hurts not having a even somewhat cordial relationship w her. I never had any support system in family until more recently.
I'm so sorry that happened to you
Me too
If we have ptsd that’s means we are mental patient? How serious is?
“the silent scream”.. I love that.
Indeed… one day I’m the happiest person and the next I’m in distress💔
First I would like to thank all service men, women and you families for all you have done for American. PTSD, man it does not decimate. I have suffered from PTSD for many years. There are several types of therapy out there that can certainly help. Although it is hard when people do not understand. I still find rather interest we in 2100's that people are so ignorant to mental health issues.
Madam speaker. You will probably never see this. But thank you for your compassion and willingness to talk on this subject. It is so very much in your heart and that is obvious. I see comments that insinuate you only speak of Vets. However, in the opening you made it clear that there are a million ways to develop PTSD. I am a CPTSD diagnosed woman. I lost my 2 month old to sids. My husband shot himself in front of me. I am a survivor, and to hear you speak so positively on this subject has helped more than you know. I also shared this with family that simply couldn't grasp why I'm not the same anymore. However, this video worked as a great tool to teach them. I never make long comments lol but on the off chance you see this. I want to thank you. ❤
What a great presentation Jan! Thanks to you and Tony for your dedication and hard work on behalf of veterans and their families. Such and important topic that impacts so many.
I never knew PTSD would have the ability to rob me of my life the way it has. It has gotten progressively worse and I have tried pretending it doesn't exist. But if I keep on sweeping under the rug and pretending this way, I feel I am going to die soon! But I actually would rather die then continue on like this... However I will never suicide
hugs on you!!! Pls have someone to talk to...You are brave!
Praying for you. I would suggest getting counseling and maybe there are meds out there to help you. Know your not alone. We psch our brain real bad alot of journaling helps me also because you need to address the trauma get help and try to understand yourself before you are crippled of physical disabilities that come along with this. The best of wishes and prayers goes out to you
Hidden wound, silent scream wow. Rad words.
My life summed up into four words.
This is excellent. Scientific and personal. Just enough empathy, just enough humor
Hello Susan
How are you doing today?
A very powerful speech...well done Lady!! get that message out there. PTSD aint no trivial matter. I have met quite a few Vets from the 1982 Falklands War (and it was a proper albeit short war) have met vets from both sides..they all suffer the same.
The fact that PTSD can affect anyone, regardless of age, is very true too.
Really good.
The body, mind, and brain are a triune. Change one, the others are changed. It doesn't matter where we start, just start.
I didn't realize my bad short-term memory was likely a result of my PTSD. Huh. The more you know.
Alyssa Foxah I didn’t know that was a symptom of that, but I’m sure there is a lot more I don’t know about it
I just rewatched it and realized she said it in the video 😅
I have that too.
I noticed that the more off I felt the worse my memory was. Then on my better days I could recall more things.
thats the one thing ive learned that has made sense i was really surprised...any stress my memory is useless even seconds. body and brain preparing for a fight and everything else shuts off. ive almost burnt down my house many times
Thousands of dollars in Therapy etc . should have watched this years ago. Welcome to PTSD all!! Fire for 14yrs. Thanks for what you are doing! Made a huge step today and watching this gives me hope for the future of education.
PTSD isn’t just for soldiers anymore ❤
Although yes, I feel it’s the most correlated connection. Not saying absolutely anything negative about that association for our wonderful military people. But I can relate with survivors of other traumas.
It never was "just for soldiers".
My daughter's husband has a godfather whose parents survived an Asian concentration camp. As an offspring of these parents, he has said, "These kids who complain of PTSD should just get over it-they don't know what PTSD is". He was a professor at a college in the northwest before he retired. I think he may be living in an alternate reality. He was the favored child of his mother and everything was left to him; his brothers received nothing and have always held it against him. I think there's more to the story. Offspring of concentration camp survivors suffer another kind of PTSD
I am a high school teacher and this talk opened my mind. I work with refugee kids and "normal" kids and I have myself been working in refugee camps as a volunteer twice. I was bullied in school, I was a bully in school but today as a teacher with 16 years working experience I have longed for someone to talk about trauma, stress and PTSD and who applies it onto something that happens all the time - in schools and in workplaces.
We are not superheroes, we are human!
Humanity.
Thank you, Ms Seahorn!
Recently diagnosed cptsd - I wish more people understood it
6 months ago I shared to a acquaintance I suffered with cptsd..she spread the info I shared with her to others..needless to say absolutely no one speaks to me now...very lonely existence for me for soo long. . Staying around for my grand child.
this whole journey is painful but its beautiful
I love this lady. I have been suffering with PTSD
For all you suffers. Your not alone. I literally just hold on to God for stability. Nothing else matters.
One wise thing I just learned was this.
"Whatever happened that day.. just take it as a loss, it's okay to be happy now.. 😭😢 it's seriously okay now."
God bless
Jesse Steel The song on UA-cam “Comes A Beautiful Rainbow “ by Michael North is a secular song but it helps me to be happier. I recall hearing that Kenneth Copeland, the tv preacher, went to a VA hospital and told veterans with PTSD that it’s not biblical so get over it.
Not surprising. I would like to ask Mr. Copeland why he doesn't clear out all the hospitals if he believes that way. I personally believe God can work through doctors.
Jesse Steel thank you
Thank you!
And the blanket has really helped with my internal stress and anxiety.
The internet is full of utter junk but this......this was an absolutely enthralling talk,well done
Perfect explanation for PTSD.....SILENT SCREAM PAINTING....
Also, I am not a war vet
I suffer from C-PTSD from childhood trauma. I purchased a weighted blanket and it has improved my sleep and my blood pressure is down 20 points. I've made no other changes. My quality of life has improved. It even helps my RLS. I have the 12 pound right now, but just ordered 16 pounder from Amazon. It goes by bodyweight.
Isn't it uncomfortable?
PTSD can be caused by several different types of traumatic events. In my case, I'm a Vietnam Veteran, and I had a severe and chronic case of PTSD. The key word in this malady is stress. I came home from Vietnam in 1968. I naively thought I could return home and be normal again. At the time, I didn't realize how wrong I was about this. The nightmares, and waking up at night screaming and yelling. The flashbacks, which came seemingly out of nowhere, and were so vivid and seemed that I was back in Nam again. Reliving the awful events that I experienced again. Trying to forget those terrible events, and not recalling them. PTSD is like a ghost that follows you around, and will not allow you to be at peace.
After 30 years, I finally went to the VA and asked for help. I was given medication and therapy. The medication helped very much, and sort of kept me on an even keel. This prevented me from having extreme highs and lows on a daily basis, and vastly improved my quality of life. The therapy has helped me to manage the symptoms of PTSD much better. Ir's been said that time can help to heal old wounds. I think this is true. It's been 52 years since I departed the Freedom Bird at Travis Air Force Base in California, and I hardly ever think about Vietnam anymore. My memories have faded since then, and I think that maturity has helped. I certainly consider myself to be a survivor. I have discovered that no matter how many times life knocks me down, I get back up and keep moving forward again. There is always a light at the end of a tunnel.
Can you please please tell the treatment and therapy
@@AishaAhmed-dj5xv Basically medication for anxiety and depression, and talking to a therapist. Just talking to someone about this can help somewhat. Keeping everything inside is the worst thing someone can do. The PTSD is chronic and will never go away, but I have learned to manage the symptoms of PTSD better over the years. The key word in PTSD is Stress, and it's best to avoid stressful situations as much as humanly possible.
Respect. Thanks for your service.
Finally, someone who understands My Brain!!!
Thank You
PTSD = For an extended period of time, you feared for your safety or your life.
thank you for posting this
incorrect, and limited in understanding
Pa Sander nah. I have it. Moments I'm afraid.
jert opp in some cases, but not in all. Research.
jert opp organized gang stalking does this to people
It's such a intense transition. Thank you so much for your testimony. It's weird to relive moments in your mind while the rest of life continues on around you. To stare at a spot on the floor for long period of time that only feels like a moment. To be locked in your head. For the first time in a long time I felt a positive connection.
Thank you again.
I be had PTSD since I was 13 and I am 49 now. Thanks this helps me understand why I react, rather than reason and smells trigger me without me knowing why. I do now.
Lordy help him!! Prayers with you soldiers. Thank you for your service!!
I'm a Desert Storm vet and how you explained your husbands response to simple everyday life is how I react to my family. I didn't see combat like your husband did, but I still have the same reactions. The Tower of Terror at Disney was my Achilles heel and the rest of the day putting myself back together again quietly, as the family enjoyed the park.
Thank you
Thanks to Janet for the long suffering and caring nurturing you have put in with your husband, as a sufferer and a carer I know how draining it can be so well done for hanging on.
😭😭😭❤️ I cried through this because it’s the story of my life with my husband who is a 100% disabled veteran from the Gulf War. Everyone makes us feel like we are doing something wrong because we stay secluded but it’s hard to explain to them how it effects my husband and therefore our way of life for weeks after we leave our quite ten acres. You just made me feel a little bit more whole. Thank you!
If they make you feel like your doing something wrong and not asking to spend secluded time with you , there selfish and not worth your time
I never have been to a war. What she is discribing about her husband made me laugh but also cry. I got a piece of my puzzle back to understand myself differently. Thank you!
I have PTSD ,and have flash backs.
Thanks for your good information.🐈
So sad for your husband I will be praying for him , it's crippling lots of blessings from Australia
Garlic is good against PTSD because it raises your Serotonin levels. And so is Sage tea.
Mark Caseon I didn't know that 🙂 thanks
This is good to know! Going to check into the sage tea!
Ok everyone lets go to the store and buy us some garlic and sage tea
Thank you for that tip!
Good to know
CONGRATULATIONS.SHE IS AMAZING.MAY GOD BLESS HER
17 years into my Navy career things started crashing down. All those years of seeing trauma, helping others and disregarding my own health...things started crashing down. What did the Navy do for me?! They decided to turn their backs on me, disregard my health/PTSD issues, and trying their best to get me out of the military!
im sorry. I was just told today that i have ptsd. i am the child and grandchild of army men. when my dad retired my life became a chaotic war zone of abuse. i forgive him but ......... sigh. i dont know. i saw him fight for his benefits and thry yanked him around. tried to use ptsd to say his other ailments were in his head. He was never diagnosed with ptsd. His frontal lobe is shrinking because of exosure to nerve agent. They have denied this and lied about this for 20+ years. Fuck the navy. Fuck the army. They ruin the lives of those who put theirs on the line for this country. Then they throw them and their families away like trash.
Thank you for your service. I was diagnosed 15 years ago and it get better. The first ten years were pretty bad but it's like they say this too shall pass. Stay strong. You can do it. You will come out much stronger.
Thank you for saying that, Grace. I'm 3 years in and I'm spiraling, and it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. But I won't give up, I'm still trying my best to "win my Hunger Games," as the lady in the video put it.
wow, have you been arrested yet?
yes and after you are out, don't expect much help from them. They say they know how to help but they don't. Try to stay busy and find hobbies and a good counselor.
This lady is very smart and loved listening to this. Thank you Dr for all your help and support you do.
Wow! This video helped me so much: to see and understand. I’ve been dating an Army veteran for the past four months. He is the sweetest and most loving guy I’ve ever met... then there have been those moments where I am unsure what happened to him. Thank you Dr. Seahorn for using your personal experiences to help me understand that is not him who is not him acting irrational but rather those little moments that trigger his memory.
Hi brenda how are you?
The lady has such a positive vibe
C-PTSD from several different experiences over life, starting at childhood. Never known a life without. Resulted in several physical illnesses. Also, some didn't accept my illnesses and became violent (severe emotional abuse, lies, making me feel guilty for my illnesses, leaving me alone 10 km from my home, no lift, and he never came back, etc). That caused me to withdraw from most of the people, I don't want be ever hurt like that again. Serious trust issues, since my trust (and heart) broken intentionally several times. First by my parents. Also by friends, not just someone I was with. It feels like I never learn and I can't see the evilness in people. The worst people know how to hide their dark side until it's too late (covert narcissists or friends who just turn on you, maybe also some mental issues, because choosing to be really mean to someone isn't normal. And even more sick is when they enjoy for the pain they have caused you, turning your love for them into suffering.
I love you for this talk! It's not just veterans, but these points are very spot on! Thank you and God bless you!
Hello Susanna
How are you doing today\?
Is there any PTSD talks or resources that are not about soldiers?
PTSD is all the same. Just different sources.
While a lot of symptoms of PTSD are similar they are not all the same. When I was first diagnosed (not because I'm a vet) I found that Beyond Blue is a helpful website.
Yes, I have some on my site.
Yes, peter gerlach, psychotherapist, on CPSD, childhood abuse, codependency as a result,etc. He offers a free series of healing lessons for us to work, too!Just do them.
Not true. So not true. Check it out.
You are one special person to understand, support, have patience and empathy. War damages so many for lifetimes. We are learning these experiences are violence against your own people. You have such depth to help others. God bless you and you will both one day be at peace with your glorious Creator.
Thank you, Janet Seahorn. I really appreciate this TEDx talk
Your husband is a very lucky man for having you stand by him through thick and thin. Thank you for clarifying the meaning of : True love for
Your spouse “.
Sometimes my anxiety is so bad that I forget to breath and get light headed. Or I'm so upset that I can't speak. 🤔😔
omg me too...have constant tightness in the chest and remind myself to breathe...also will wake up at night with my hands clenched in fists. I'm afraid any minor confrontation will result w/me exploding..and I've been working on this sh!t for 30 years : (. sigh...I'd like to join a ptsd support group. I forget sometimes that other people are dealing with the same stuff.
Man this was triggering AF. And so so important for the people surrounding those with PTSD to see and understand.
Good talk!!! Thank you!
I knew my spouse before Nam...so knew there was something different once home again. After that, the denial of PTSD was chronic. I just had to learn more and creative problem-solve for every single thing, almost on a daily basis...it actually helped me keep distracted fem mine, until reaching a few critical-mass times.
For decades, VA system denied PTSD out-of-hand...same as they denied agent orange damages [yeah, that’s the same glyphosate, which is residue in so much foods, and helping kill-off honeybees and so many other insects life depends on].
Then VA started having to deal with it, so some got DX’d with it.
Then some years ago, VA started telling vets “you don’t have PTSD anymore”, if they’d been DX’d with it.
Then later, telling them, “you don’t have PTSD anymore, it’s really Bipolar” [etc. other]. VA in Seattle got hand-slapped for telling vets they no longer had it. So, after that, they covered their assets by switching vets’ DX to something that didn’t garner them a disability stipend anymore, saving that system probably million$ in payouts of military-related disability benefits.
That’s what they are still currently doing.
The PTSD is still there but now, for those of a certain age, it’s tempered by age and infirmity...messing-with daily living, working, relations, contributing to faster aging and more infirmity.
PTSD from non-military issues, complicates everything too; _SO_ many more have it from traumatic life events, and medicine is largely ignoring it, or, throwing useless or harmful psych drugs at it, without offering much else for coping tools.
It doesn’t “go away”; one doesn’t simply “get over it”.
The person really has a hard time controlling it, IF they ever learn to at all.
It’s the constant “monster in the closet”; most work hard to mask/hide.
Best one can do is learn how to better cope with it...it’s a constant passenger on all our travels and daily activities.
I am a stronger,happier,healthy person because of childhood trauma.I have been diagnosed with CPTSD and a dissociative disorder.I also developed TLE(simple partial,complex partial,and grand mal seizures) as a result(I believe) which triggered bipolar and ADHD symptoms.After decades of healing I am seizure free,medication free,happy and healthy.Healing is possible and most importantly YOU DESERVE TO HEALING.Please don't die with you song still in you!
I think that if society became more caring, understanding, respectful and especially compassionate towards ALL living/sentient beings, our ptsd would have a better chance for healing. Violence, pain and suffering have detrimental effects no matter who the victim is. Exploiting or inflicting pain and suffering on one life in an attempt to relieve another is absurd.