One Year of Using the Flylady System | Before and After

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  • @ancastancu442
    @ancastancu442 4 роки тому +138

    Imagine having a mom that you can trust enough to call and have her over to help you with house work instead of shouting at you...

    • @MImomma2024
      @MImomma2024 2 роки тому +1

      Or who will smile in your face about it and then go tell any and everyone who will listen about what a slob and failure you are.

    • @criseastman6503
      @criseastman6503 10 місяців тому +1

      Right?

    • @ernietschetter8073
      @ernietschetter8073 5 місяців тому +2

      Difficult to imagine you have over 125 likes! So that many don’t have moms they can call for help?!! That sad! I hope you all are better mom and make generational change!❤

  • @aishasfootsteps6349
    @aishasfootsteps6349 5 років тому +25

    I honestly appreciate you showing this. So many lifestyle youtubers who do "clean with me" type videos are like "ugh my house is a DISASTER"... when there's barely any mess at all.. It's so disheartening and makes me feel like a failure. So it's nice to know I'm not alone.

  • @maryinsanfrancisco
    @maryinsanfrancisco 5 років тому +347

    Love FlyLady! One of the sayings of hers that I love: "don't worry about catching up, just start where we are".

    • @amor2874
      @amor2874 5 років тому +11

      maryinsanfrancisco that saying just made me relax! 💕

    • @courtneyanderson3108
      @courtneyanderson3108 2 роки тому +2

      Thank you for being so real with us! I'm glad that instead of beating yourself up through the video, you focused on how far you have come! It's good for us all to be more gentle with ourselves.❤️ I loved hearing you say that you're so proud of yourself! You absolutely should feel proud of yourself!! I know FlyLady would be too! Thanks for all the UA-cam videos you are creating for us!😊

  • @annanymous3165
    @annanymous3165 5 років тому +1338

    If I stop watching UA-cam, my house will be pristine..😂😩

  • @RachelSWhite
    @RachelSWhite 5 років тому +383

    I can't believe fly lady is still going strong. Classics never die.

    • @salabalabeeba
      @salabalabeeba 5 років тому +22

      Rachel S. White I know!! I first “met” Fly Lady online in the late 90s! I still love and use the “fling boogies”!

    • @ElinWinblad
      @ElinWinblad 5 років тому +9

      There’s an app now too

    • @mrskhillman6042
      @mrskhillman6042 5 років тому +1

      I've never heard of fly lady. I've heard of Marie Kondo. Is it the same?

    • @g5pm
      @g5pm 5 років тому +24

      @@mrskhillman6042 There are similarities but along with decluttering, Flylady is more about using baby steps to create habits.

    • @janetsmith2104
      @janetsmith2104 5 років тому +4

      Yes, the system truly assist with bringing organization to one's life in so many ways... amazingly, the mind and body follows... because one discovers they, also are WORTH it!

  • @dinabertrand9113
    @dinabertrand9113 4 роки тому +23

    I am about to turn 49 and my kids are 13 and 10. I am JUST NOW getting to the point of seeing progress! I have been a slob my entire life. I am so glad you figured this out while your kids are still little because boy, mine have been digging their heels in during my transformation lol!!! You have given me so much inspiration and many ideas, so thank you! 💗

  • @lindyholland3273
    @lindyholland3273 5 років тому +106

    Thank you for being real and showing us what your house was like. Because I'm a slob too and want to live in a clean and organised home.

  • @gmkbelanger
    @gmkbelanger 2 роки тому +1

    Steph, seriously, I'll be thrilled if I can get my "after" video to look as good as your "before" state. Not being facetious at all. 😭

  • @JanuaryLisa
    @JanuaryLisa 5 років тому +85

    I’m so proud of you! I also applaud your openness to show the “before” shots-especially your lack of shaming yourself endlessly for being sloppy. You struck just the right balance: this isn’t good, I’m gonna change it. Perfect! A real, practical, doable inspiration for all of us. 💚

  • @DianeinDenmark
    @DianeinDenmark 5 років тому +77

    Woo hoo, you've come a long way baby! 😍 Always love those "before and after" moments with the Flylady system - giving you a pom pom salute! 🎉🎉🎉 And I'm crying with laughter here at one of the comments which asks if I'm your Mum?! 😄 Hugs to you, and your lovely Mum 👋💖😃

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  5 років тому +12

      Oh my goodness! Diane! You have no idea how much you changed my WHOLE life! I thought I was a born slob and that was that. Thank you so much for everything that you do and how much you inspire everyone

    • @DianeinDenmark
      @DianeinDenmark 5 років тому +8

      @@TheSecretSlob Yes, we both have "exotic" accents 😄 Have a lovely day! 👋💖

    • @lindahill1199
      @lindahill1199 5 років тому +5

      Love you Diane in Denmark too! I started with you around last winter with my first cup of coffee in the mornings and binged every video you had made to that point. I'm not completely flying but am sticking to many of the habits and I often catch myself saying put it where it goes before I even drop it. Thanx so much for your inspiration also.

  • @Grtchnjb
    @Grtchnjb 5 років тому +186

    Thank you for being so open and honest about your “ before “ house. You did a great job’. Fly lady is great at keeping your home clean and tidy. Keep up the good work.

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  5 років тому +7

      Thank you! I am so glad that I found the flylady system and finally changed my bad habits :)

    • @kateoloughlin8774
      @kateoloughlin8774 3 роки тому

      @@TheSecretSlob
      You are doing an amazing job.
      Continued Success.
      Kind regards from Ireland Kate. 👱‍♀️☕☕

  • @schlomo2771
    @schlomo2771 5 років тому +16

    This is one of those times that UA-cam Recommends made my day. You don’t know how much I needed this channel!!

  • @bitrudder3792
    @bitrudder3792 5 років тому +16

    I love that you are such a young mom who is getting control before decades of motherhood pile up on you!

    • @cspw1114
      @cspw1114 5 років тому +1

      L.C.H. is right abt not
      letting the years pile up on you! I love your little one's kitchen!

  • @mixedmedialife7916
    @mixedmedialife7916 5 років тому +20

    Fly Lady Diane sent me here today! She and her videos have changed...my life. Nice to see a fellow Canadian on the team (your accent!). If anyone reading this is now walking out of rooms overwhelmed (I see you crying... been there) and in despair, please be assured your situation *is* rescuable 😊. Watch Diane in Denmark's 31 day series and implement her gentle and daily suggestions and you'll get there. And of course keep watching Steph here too - proof that the Fly Lady System works. I've gone from ashamed and overwhelmed to "sure, drop by anytime!" 🤩

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  5 років тому +1

      Hi! Thanks for stopping by :) Glad to see that she is helping so many people!

    • @mixedmedialife7916
      @mixedmedialife7916 5 років тому +1

      @@TheSecretSlob And now you are too!

  • @carolallison9685
    @carolallison9685 5 років тому +198

    Hahaha anyone else watching this when they should be cleaning? Maybe its just me lol. Who knows, maybe ill get inspired.

    • @marilynvelez8147
      @marilynvelez8147 5 років тому +5

      Don't feel bad I do the same when I should be cleaning.

    • @mpshilpa
      @mpshilpa 4 роки тому +4

      Me me me 🤣

    • @ksuxaksks
      @ksuxaksks 4 роки тому +2

      I'm watching this when I should be working out. Can't find any motivation here. Trying to find a stay home mom who exercises in the morning. Got any?

    • @themermaidstale5008
      @themermaidstale5008 4 роки тому +1

      Don’t get inspired, get busy. Fly lady is based on 15 minutes and Zone cleaning. We just have to put on our cleaning shoes and put in the time. I find myself getting easily distracted - start in room One, go to another to either get something or put in that room and then start a chore in room Two. 🙃🤪 Not judging, I need to re-embrace Flylady system.

    • @hannah6594
      @hannah6594 4 роки тому +1

      😂😂😂❤️ feelin ya

  • @mandersdaro8136
    @mandersdaro8136 5 років тому +393

    Those "clean with me" videos with women in spotlessly clean homes already make me laugh. First video I have seen of yours, love it!

    • @penelopej1996
      @penelopej1996 5 років тому +4

      I so agree!!!

    • @kaylab6931
      @kaylab6931 5 років тому +14

      Agreed! Love that she is so honest and real. Gives me hope that I can get there too!

    • @007amy-n1b
      @007amy-n1b 5 років тому +4

      Those women work hard, whether you believe it or not,I grew up in a house where there was 9 people living in it and that house better get and stay clean before after and during mom or dad was home especially if you want to have fun on weekends people were always suprise when they came over.

    • @LDink
      @LDink 5 років тому +9

      It's like a diet/weight loss video from someone who stayed always skinny 😂 to have been always tidy is just as admirable as that. But often they don't seem to know the shame of having a messy home.

  • @missmayflower
    @missmayflower 5 років тому +29

    Yay, Diane in Denmark! I started with her 31 days of baby steps and she made it so simple.

  • @kelmar36
    @kelmar36 5 років тому +4

    I saw your video 4 or 5 days ago. I had never heard of FlyLady. I've now been to the website, signed up, and today is day one of my 31 Baby Steps. Thank you for taking the time to document your journey and share it publicly.
    I believe this is going to be a gamechanger for me.
    THANK YOU!

  • @Godskid702
    @Godskid702 4 роки тому +6

    You’re GREAT. You absolutely should be proud of yourself! I’m 63 & I want to be just like you. I’ve been married 37 years & my husband says he’s putting “ Messiest girl in the World” on my tombstone 😂 Keep up the good work & sharing your story ❤️🙏

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  4 роки тому +1

      Katy Phillips Haha my nickname growing up was ‘Miss Messy’ so I know where you’re coming from!!
      Thanks for the kind comments 🙂

  • @JT-lk2kq
    @JT-lk2kq Рік тому +4

    4 years later this is still my favorite video. Watch it when I need some cleaning motivation!

  • @TabithaDavis
    @TabithaDavis 5 років тому +31

    Thank you for making me feel normal while also giving me hope!!

  • @chrisholley3530
    @chrisholley3530 3 роки тому +1

    Thanks for sharing. Honestly I really didn't think your house was that bad initially.

  • @jkmineful
    @jkmineful 5 років тому +6

    Awe I love this! I have a friend of mine that was so embarrassed of her messy house all the time that I literally took her to mine to show her that we were kindred spirits and that she NEVER had to apologise to me about that. It made her feel better to see my house in ruins too. I've been trying to do better but lately I have been letting my children learn how to clean so it of course is not "mom" clean anymore.

  • @snuggleb100
    @snuggleb100 5 років тому +18

    I so appreciate your sharing the before n after of your home it’s encouraging to see it can be done. I have 27 years worth of stuff plus a craft business that I’m not doing anymore storing in my house. Been watching the minimal mom which has helped me get started. Your honesty n willingness to share before n afters is soooooo encouraging . Thank you 😊

  • @rakeomartinMe
    @rakeomartinMe 5 років тому +62

    The way u talk encourages me a lot. Watching your video right now just gave me hope I can also get out of my cluttered home.
    Ur so pretty!
    Congratulations for being so determinated and for sharing with us your daily routine.
    Ur inspiring.
    God bless u and your beautiful family.💝❤

  • @WillBlindYouWithLight
    @WillBlindYouWithLight 5 років тому +2

    You look much happier and healthier now. I am at your first video now. Growing up I was an organized child. Because I lived in chaos. When I got married I was still organized just a clean freak and germaphobe. I went through being unappreciated, depressed, and finally I am so through and done with this world I deserve to be organized again. For myself. So that's how I got to your video. Thanks for posting this one.

  • @HonestHomemaking
    @HonestHomemaking 5 років тому +9

    So I have just discovered your channel and I see so much of myself input “before”! We have 7 people in a 3 bedroom 1 bathroom 1000sqft house and it literally looks like your before every single day. I’ve just started the flylady system and am already so happy! Thank you for sharing your before and after, it has motivated me to keep going! 🥰

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  5 років тому +1

      Wow! You are in a tight space! So glad you have found it helpful :)

  • @wqmanawqke3375
    @wqmanawqke3375 5 років тому +41

    You stated that you hated the bookshelf in the living room... Hang it in the pantry or pop it under the hanging shelf tucked in the back corner. It would be a great way to get stuff organized and off the floor. Or hang it in your laundry room and have a lost sock bin, hangers, cleaners , softeners, and seasonal wear. Or use the shelf in your entry way to organize kids shoes, adult shoes, extra baby bag, and kids school gear. In our home we have a basket with each person's initials that holds one pair of shoes , one pair of sandals, and several pairs of socks. This makes getting out the door easier in the mornings. If you hang a lovely set of hooks for you adults, then hang one that is three feet off the ground so little ones can start learning that they need to help by hanging their own stuff up.
    This is my first video and I'm subscribing to watch how you grow!!!!

  • @christybroshears4723
    @christybroshears4723 4 роки тому +3

    I really had not realized that there were other people, women who felt like I do! Almost word for word you were reciting what I have thought and said to my friends. Because of you and Erica Lucas I am grasping a better understanding of my situation, becoming motivated to begin decluttering my home minamising our belongings, and create a sanctuary! My husband deserves it, I want it and our family needs this home to be more peaceful and less chaotic! Thank you for the information and insight and enthusiasm!

  • @happilyeverafterenterprise2239
    @happilyeverafterenterprise2239 4 роки тому +2

    Girlfriend , just found ur channel! Love this video before and a year after. Congrats!!!
    I had learn how to be very organized in USAF....so my org style went from chaos to creatively organized for 23+ years ....then after a long distance move back to home on the east coast, a long grueling divorce and several,serious long term family illnesses...i have never really recovered from the move 6 years ago! I unpacked almost everything...then family member become very ill...and another grave illness...and every time that happen d -all work in my house stopped...boxes everywhere, boxes half empty, piles on top of piles trying tp look for something specific...became a chaotic nightmare ....that i am just now getting back to where i hope i can finally get it all completely unpacked and put away! And it is so true that when stuff is effectively organized it ssoo much more peaceful!
    Congrats on all u have accomplished!

  • @YasuTaniina
    @YasuTaniina 5 років тому +61

    This is the first of your videos I've seen. My house is worse🤦‍♀️. Then again I don't live near family, I have 2 kids under 2, and a husband at work 12 hours every day. That said, this video has probably given me more hope then any other I've seen

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  5 років тому +10

      You can do it. My mom live 10 hours away, and we had 2 under 2 when I started! Go easy on yourself and start little by little :)

    • @angiealanis8741
      @angiealanis8741 5 років тому +6

      The secret is to get rid of most of it. Keep only the necessary things.

    • @YasuTaniina
      @YasuTaniina 5 років тому +5

      Most of the clutter is stuff my parents forced on us when they moved across the country. It's been really hard to get motivated to go through all the 20-30 boxes of junk,anf its only gotten worse the last 4 years, but I'm working on it. I feel a little more motivated lately.

    • @carolynworthington8996
      @carolynworthington8996 5 років тому +2

      YasuTaniina good luck! How’s it going?

    • @gardenvarietymommas.g.9521
      @gardenvarietymommas.g.9521 5 років тому

      Flylady saved me when I had my first 4 babies in as many years. Her system really does work

  • @nancygiorlando4059
    @nancygiorlando4059 5 років тому +3

    I’m much older than you and I wish I had discovered this way of cleaning many years ago. My babies are now grown but I am still challenged with organizing my stuff. I’ve followed Diane in Denmark for over a year now and I’ve improved but I have much more work to do. I’m still in the process of decluttering believe it or not. I guess it’s an ongoing process. The beauty of the Flylady system is that you can always jump in and start. I’m happy to have discovered you. You’re a ray of sunshine. Thank you from Staten Island, New York!

  • @mdmkoo
    @mdmkoo 5 років тому +18

    Your video popped up on my UA-cam home and I couldn't stop watching! Love the genuineness and how far you've come! Wow!!

  • @korab.23
    @korab.23 5 років тому +4

    This is what I've been needing and praying for! I've been struggling with creating a routine and trying to figure out how to keep house. I knew the basics of cleaning but somehow "tidy" has eluded me and most of all, I want better for my kids. I'm almost 40 and it drives me insane that I can't keep tidy enough for unexpected company or even comfortable living day to day. SINCERELY, thank you!

    • @carylhalfwassen8555
      @carylhalfwassen8555 5 років тому +1

      When I was in grad school at age 35 with 2 grade school youngsters and a traveling spouse I devised a system to never leave a room without checking for and taking whatever was in that room that should be in the room I was going to (if that makes sense?). I had to be efficient with my time in order to attend class, study, keep house, do kid things and be there for hubby. For example, if I was coming downstairs from my bedroom I brought the laundry basket, if it was full, to the laundry room and immediately started a load of laundry. Face it, much laundry with modern fabrics and detergent does not need to be sorted if washed on cool or warm water. I did sort heavy clothes like jeans. While I was in the laundry room I checked the dryer and folded clothes ready for the basket to return upstairs. I left the return trip laundry basket at the foot of the stairs where the next household member going upstairs took the basket and its contents to a designated bedroom for the owner to put away. When I left the house for the garage I maybe took the trash out then too. If I was reading the newspaper and finished it I placed it next to the door leading to the recycling container. Simple steps like this helped me stay calmer during stressful times like exam periods. It was a constant vigilance of what doesn’t belong here at this time, should I take it where I am going? Gradually rooms became mostly uncluttered and organized. I realize now as I am distracted by so many electronic gadgets how efficient I was then.

  • @katpere8963
    @katpere8963 5 років тому +23

    Good job! A home shouldn't look like a showroom. Yours looks like a nice home that's lived in and comfortable. 😍

  • @ciubotariucatalina6837
    @ciubotariucatalina6837 5 років тому +3

    I 'met' flylady more then 10 years ago, and it changed my life in all aspects. Now I have my own system, but it is based on her principles. Lifesaver!

  • @monkeybones101
    @monkeybones101 5 років тому +3

    I just stumbled upon this video by mistake and my house is just like your before video. I'm constantly overwhelmed and this video just gave me hope and a light at the end of the cluttered tunnel. Thank you for sharing.

  • @petrak9898
    @petrak9898 2 роки тому

    In 2021 I saw my first video on your channel. Never know the flying lady system before. After looking I print your daily routine and your zone cleaning. And started. This video now is the exact way my live changed . Thank you to share your life with us and beeing you. Wounderful person♡

  • @foodandhomeprep8425
    @foodandhomeprep8425 5 років тому +127

    I actually paused the video and cleaned my house! I’m back. Your house looks wonderful.

    • @DarkisArt
      @DarkisArt 5 років тому +2

      Amy C ba ha ha me too! I washed my dishes!

    • @foodandhomeprep8425
      @foodandhomeprep8425 5 років тому +14

      Darkis Art These videos are powerful. I remember watching Hourders buried alive. My house would be spotless because I cleaned during the commercials! 😂

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  5 років тому +1

      Woo hoo! Go you!

    • @carolynworthington8996
      @carolynworthington8996 5 років тому

      Amy C wow! I’m impressed!

  • @leecocoa2311
    @leecocoa2311 2 роки тому

    You brought me to tears! I have been so stressed and unhappy for so long because I cannot get my home under control. Thank you for your honesty.

  • @EllensAbundantLifeonLess
    @EllensAbundantLifeonLess 5 років тому +4

    I live alone with 3 rescue dogs and my house still gets messy! Good job! Your kitchen looks great. I broke a hip a couple of years ago, and got really behind so now I'm on a mission too to get my things in order. It takes time especially when you're dealing with some medical issues. The thing is not to give up and throw in the towel! Even short periods of time everyday helps.

  • @anitamonroe9568
    @anitamonroe9568 5 років тому +1

    THANK YOU THANK YOU. Today was day 2 for me, I just found you yesterday. Thank you for introducing me to Fly lady. You give me hope. After watching this video I think I'll video my Chaotic house so that I can watch it a year from now and see my progress! You are truly an inspiration.

  • @HoneyJody
    @HoneyJody 5 років тому +4

    I'm so proud of you! You've brought your house under control and turned it into a real Home. Good job Steph!

  • @shannonmurphy9790
    @shannonmurphy9790 3 роки тому

    Your house looks GREAT! and also, I had NO IDEA Diane in Denmark is your mom! Love her and love you!

  • @jskamshll8202
    @jskamshll8202 4 роки тому +7

    I loved how your daughters kitchen cleaning skills improved too lol

  • @dopneusje1981
    @dopneusje1981 3 роки тому

    I recognize all of it hahaha. We couldn't get to our closet because of all the junk in front of it. So no shame! More people are in this situation. Loved that you showed us this! Thanks!

  • @karencompton5926
    @karencompton5926 5 років тому +6

    Here via DIANE IN DENMARK....isn't she great? She has helped me to understand FlyLady better...well done you x

  • @DarkisArt
    @DarkisArt 5 років тому +30

    Never heard of “fly lady” before gonna look it up now. So, after watching this video I went & washed my dirty dishes! 😊

  • @jadedphoenixprojects
    @jadedphoenixprojects 5 років тому +3

    Your before house is exactly like how mine is right now. Overwhelming and exhausting to think about. You’ve done amazing! Thanks for being an inspiration!

  • @racheltom051
    @racheltom051 5 років тому

    I'm cleaning for a shopaholic right now. Her home is not dirty she just has a lot of stuff everywhere !!! I'm blessed that when I ask for something she gets it for me so then I can organize so much better for her!! I love your channel keep up the amazing job!!

  • @yellowbird5411
    @yellowbird5411 5 років тому +7

    This is the first Flylady video I have seen. I have no idea what the Flylady system is, so most of it was lost on me in terms of translation, or the process of how the system worked in each room she showed. Sometimes it pays to do a little recap of what is being addressed, so there is a context as we watch the videos. Some of us were not here from the beginning.

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  5 років тому +1

      Good Point! I will add some context in the details. Thanks!

  • @tarabartlett2184
    @tarabartlett2184 9 місяців тому

    I’m so glad you’ve catalogued your journey! I’m a FlyBaby and basically started out with a house just like yours. I’ve begun by modifying the WHB hour so I do a little each day and work on routines, plus some Zone decluttering when/if I can. It’s been just a week, and already the difference is huge. My whole family is (sadly) in awe-we can have people just pop over with no prep because the house is presentable. No more C.H.A.O.S., and I really hope to keep it that way. I’m sick of panic cleaning in my life. We still have lots of decluttering to do, and it’ll take a great amount of time to be honest. But it’s what I want to do, for sure.
    Anyway, I realize this video is old, but it’s new to me and I’m getting so much inspiration from you!

  • @carriejoy266
    @carriejoy266 5 років тому +7

    Incredible and sooo inspiring! I remember when I saw your first videos and I was afraid you might give up. I didn’t want you to raise your kids in the loving (yet frustrating) chaos my children grew up in. Now I have all teens, and we are finally feeling the peace that comes with routines. As I’ve mentioned before in my comments, I unfortunately still have a long road ahead (haven’t moved in 20 years) but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Praying other young parents will see your videos and save them years of frustration and regrets! Glad your going to stay active on you tube!💕 Way to go on your progress!

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  5 років тому +1

      Thank you so much Carrie. Your support means so much :) I am so glad I found Diane in Denmark and the Flylady system when I did so that I could turn it around early. So glad that you are feeling more peace in your home. The decluttering will come too - little by little :) Hope you are having a wonderful day.

  • @SKE4892
    @SKE4892 4 роки тому

    I'm just finding your channel now! I have to say thank you for it. During quarantine, I looked around and realized that my apartment was an absolute disaster, so I started looking for cleaning tips. My apartment is now so much better! And I really appreciate the honesty and realness in your channel.

  • @themermaidstale5008
    @themermaidstale5008 5 років тому +296

    CHAOS - Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome - That's me

    • @cspw1114
      @cspw1114 5 років тому +9

      I like that acronym! It's so true!! I will use that to keep me motivated when I need to be.

    • @joanadam5720
      @joanadam5720 4 роки тому

      W9

    • @monicamayer977
      @monicamayer977 4 роки тому +1

      That's funny

    • @kathycamasso6672
      @kathycamasso6672 4 роки тому +1

      I didn't know there was a word for me!!! Working on that now thanks to Steph!

    • @monicamayer977
      @monicamayer977 4 роки тому

      It's in the bible...didn't want people to hear God word so they went ahead of them to create chaos. May not have used that word but the actions are there.

  • @salinaharmer8984
    @salinaharmer8984 5 років тому

    You are exactly what I’ve been searching for! I have watched countless UA-cam videos of people tidying and organising their houses but they are all people who are naturally tidy and organised in the first place. My house is a tip! I am not naturally tidy or organised in any way at all! I try so hard but it just seems the harder I try the more difficult it becomes. We have a similar lady in the uk to the Fly Lady called The Organised Mum. She’s fab and I know her system works but I just needed to find someone to watch on here that is like me, not a natural tidy or organised person but who has turned their life around. I just needed to see with my own eyes that it can be done. Thank you so much for posting this. This will be a huge help because I now know that I can do it and I won’t get overwhelmed by all the people that show their beautiful homes that have probably always looked beautiful. You have been a huge inspiration and a huge boost xx

  • @donnawiseman9311
    @donnawiseman9311 5 років тому +6

    I just found your channel. I love the Fly-lady system. It has literally changed my life. I love watching other Fly-lady gals.

  • @mommahambone
    @mommahambone 3 роки тому

    I've just started flylady last month. You are giving me hope!!! With 3 kids I feel like I'm DROWNING in stuff. Ugh!!! I'm already seeing a difference and I can barely get the morning, Afternoon and evening routines down, let alone the zones and all the other stuff. Thanks again for your honesty!

  • @welshgalsoph1991
    @welshgalsoph1991 5 років тому +5

    Haven't even watched this video all the way through yet but I'm liking and subscribing to your channel just because its so nice to find a channel that shows REAL LIFE houses get messy. Love it.

  • @DDRounds
    @DDRounds 5 років тому +2

    Good job! Isn’t it something how we look back and now can’t imaging living like that anymore - I know my home was like yours when my children were young. . . . Now it looks tidy in 90% of the areas and closets. I feel happier, tidy things, and get on with my day feeling I can then focus on my work day as an empty nester. When I return home it is joyful to enter, start dinner, and then enjoy the evening before I do my before bed routines. Life is so much better. Go YOU!

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  5 років тому

      SO good to hear that you have made your home a peaceful place. It isn't easy with little kids but as long as I stick to the basics every day, it seems to take pretty good care of itself. Thank you for your comment, I appreciate your support :) Have a great day!

  • @jamiedryer4404
    @jamiedryer4404 5 років тому +3

    I’ve been following the fly lady for over a year. But thank you for the encouragement. I’m still working on my house

  • @lorenelundegren7129
    @lorenelundegren7129 5 років тому +1

    The FlyLady system works. I did it in 2007-2008 and got super tidy, clean and organized. Unfortunately, I went through a series of stressful events in a few consecutive years that followed and my focus shifted to my problems. As a result, I was back to living in CHAOS. Things have been much calmer lately so I'm getting back on track. Thank you for reminding me how I did it. I will be checking out the website now.

  • @fancygibs
    @fancygibs 5 років тому +8

    My first video of yours. It is amazing the way you react to your old habits and "mess tolerance". You have inspired me to pick up fly lady. I'm starting your channel from the beginning. Thank you!

  • @MOIgloo
    @MOIgloo 4 роки тому +2

    This is so inspiring! UA-cam doesn’t feel like a guilty pleasure any,ore! It is changing my life!

  • @cspw1114
    @cspw1114 5 років тому +4

    You are telling my story! Now I am inspired even more to keep moving in the right direction--I don't feel so overwhelmed any more! Thanks for your channel!!

  • @maryclaregeyman1107
    @maryclaregeyman1107 4 роки тому +1

    This is seriously so encouraging! I have several young kids and my house usually looks like your "before" right now, but I am so encouraged that you turned your house around and I can too! Definitely following your channel for help as I begin this journey! Thank you for your honesty!!

  • @allisonfc8373
    @allisonfc8373 5 років тому +13

    What a great idea for a video and how you did it. You should have WAY more followers!

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  5 років тому +1

      Thank you Allison :) Good luck with your decluttering journey!

  • @teresaguante2587
    @teresaguante2587 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for being so realistic, that is a huge help for the real slops out here!

  • @PHDinMeTV
    @PHDinMeTV 5 років тому +4

    In a word: Wow 😮. In two words: Great 👍🏿 job! Thanks for sharing this very inspiring video! I hope everyone who is willing to take action on the Flylady system today has the same testimony this time next year! 🤞🏿

  • @littleblizzard7591
    @littleblizzard7591 5 років тому +1

    Your story & your “before” house are EXACTLY mine- down to the not cleaning the bathroom for months & calling mom in tears for help. Everyone shows how to organize a clean house but you can’t organize a dump.I’m gonna do Flylady baby steps and I Subscribed!

  • @harrietcraig7817
    @harrietcraig7817 3 роки тому +46

    Oh my gosh
    Her “before” house has NOTHING on my current house.
    Time to leap into action.

    • @HereIAm247
      @HereIAm247 2 роки тому +1

      Just curious, how is it going? :)

  • @SimplyThisYoutuber
    @SimplyThisYoutuber 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for being genuine! ❤️

  • @lisabredwell
    @lisabredwell 5 років тому +28

    About every 3 months I dump the ‘lost sock’ bin. I know it sounds wasteful, but do the mates every ‘really’ get back together?

    • @smithtashae
      @smithtashae 4 роки тому +4

      We had a laundry basket full of mismatched socks. The whole family went through it, and paired NINETY PLUS socks!!! Couldn't believe it. Dumped the rest and now 2 mths later, the basket is starting to grow again. Smh

    • @OfficiallySarabi
      @OfficiallySarabi 4 роки тому +5

      I just wear the mismatched socks lol it adds ~personality~ to your outfit

    • @sarahkelly4026
      @sarahkelly4026 4 роки тому +1

      Many moons ago I took the sock bin and made a cast of sock puppets with the help of many small hands and put on a show.

    • @carolc2574
      @carolc2574 4 роки тому +1

      Buy them all the same colour. No more mismatched socks ever again

    • @HereIAm247
      @HereIAm247 3 роки тому

      @@carolc2574 Yes, I do this too. Now they go when there are holes in them. :) Some people use them as rags though; if you have something really dirty to clean, you can use a (clean) partnerless sock, and then throw it away after.

  • @jenlibertowski7061
    @jenlibertowski7061 4 роки тому

    This was the video that hooked and reeled me back into the Fly Lady system via the Secret Slob. I always left the house in a total wreck when leaving for vacation. And packing took me all day, because I’d have to clean and pack at the same time. Thank you for your complete honesty! This has made such a difference for me the past six months!!!

  • @heatherhughes5683
    @heatherhughes5683 5 років тому +51

    My house has rooms FULL of junk. Not always bad stuff, a lot are things that are still good but we don't use. It's disgusting and I wish it wasn't that way. My mom has been basically hoarding stuff for as long as I remember and it has effected me to the point that I can't keep my own spaces clean. Right now, I'm living in a college dorm, but my room at home is so so messy with clothes and stuff all over.
    Lately, I've been getting into minimalism and such, so I'm excited to get to clean up my room and hopefully keep it that way.

    • @annoravetz6697
      @annoravetz6697 5 років тому +4

      FlyLady.com has a student control journal. So helpful for students!

    • @sherylm3678
      @sherylm3678 5 років тому +3

      Spend your time decluttering first and it will make cleanup a lot easier. Flyladys fling boogie is great for that. She's got some great ideas for declutting.

    • @inlonging
      @inlonging 5 років тому +3

      Hard when it’s family. I have someone in my life who buys stuff from thrift stores that we don’t need or want every single week she’s bringing more garbage around.

    • @samanthavanscoder9536
      @samanthavanscoder9536 5 років тому +1

      I'm a storage unit for family. I should charge lol

    • @findingaway5512
      @findingaway5512 5 років тому +4

      I think that is awesome you're trying to embrace minimalism I wish I would have embraced it before starting a family. I come from a family of pack rats I use the word pack rats because hoarders just sounds scary. I think all of us have struggle letting go I wish I would have accumulated so many things to begin with in my life. I've made a lot of great changes doing really good a couple years ago but so Since then has crept back in. I did find a system that worked great for me but then I went and had another baby and need to reach week things and restart. Just work on you and your stuff. You can do it whether you come from a hoarding background or not. embrace the simplicity now it will make your life a whole lot easier as time goes on!

  • @practicallyonpurpose970
    @practicallyonpurpose970 5 років тому

    I am on day 14 of my baby steps. You (and Diane in Denmark of course. Love her!) inspired me. Brand new youtube channel to document my journey. Thanks for being so real and truly encouraging other normal people like you to make a healthy change.

  • @KandyG
    @KandyG 5 років тому +36

    Love love this very real picture of progression! Go you! Great job! Thank you for sharing your journey.

  • @marlymarmala91
    @marlymarmala91 4 роки тому

    I stumbled on this video about a year and a half ago. I studied and started the Flylady system. I have some habits in place but still have a ways to go, however, things have improved in my home drastically and now I am getting inspired by your video again and going to apply myself even mote. Thank you and thanks to Flylady as well!

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  4 роки тому

      Fantastic! It's changed my life so I love hearing how the system has helped others too :)

  • @TheRickie41
    @TheRickie41 5 років тому +14

    Great job! But don't forget you had a baby, and every moment you give to a baby is WAY more important than a perfect household!!! Love from France. PS. I regret I did'nt make a video of my before/after... I came to flylady during a burnout, too much work and no time and energy left... now it is much better, and decluttering really installs harmony and peace in your home.

    • @sunrae7680
      @sunrae7680 5 років тому +2

      @TheRickie41. Yes, children and family, pets come first. I'm 👏

    • @sunrae7680
      @sunrae7680 5 років тому

      @@TheRickie41
      That's what I'm talking about ! That's a love that is pure and forever. 😍👍

    • @BowyersBeautifulBles
      @BowyersBeautifulBles 5 років тому +1

      The whole purpose of FlyLady is to have more time to love on your family stress free without guilt. She teaches how to do anything in 15 minute blocks.

  • @randaray24
    @randaray24 4 роки тому

    Add an old house where everything needs to be refinished, replaced or painted to this mess and you have my square one! Way to go! You’ve made so many changes and great habits - inspiring!

  • @melindabanning7707
    @melindabanning7707 5 років тому +13

    Thank you so much for being real. You have done a great job. I am struggling to get the FlyLady down but you have shown me that little by little it can be done.

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  5 років тому +3

      It can! Little by little, stick with it :)

    • @Romans828girl
      @Romans828girl 5 років тому +2

      Little by little is the key! Every time I tried to implement her whole system at once, I got overwhelmed, threw up my hands and walked away. Then something FINALLY clicked, and I started just swishing and swiping the bathroom. Then I started setting a timer. Not always doing exactly what Flylady would do, but doing SOMETHING for 15 minutes -- usually the thing that was bugging me most at the time. Gradually I added in more elements of her system, and over time, they're making such a HUGE difference!

  • @JannaWillard
    @JannaWillard 5 років тому

    Your before is better than my now. I'm attempting to reclaim my house. It is not easy! And I have tried quite literally every system out there. So now I'm trying to integrate all of the things that helped from all of those systems, to create a system that will work for me. It's an ongoing process. I hope I have your kind of success!

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  5 років тому

      Really good plan! There really isnt a one size fits all 😊 I use a lot of flylady but modify it for me 😊

  • @sandyweirauch8310
    @sandyweirauch8310 5 років тому +3

    Been enjoying your journey - GREAT Progress! I feel very similar - as far as What a difference a year makes! I started watching the FlyLady last Feb-Mar then found FlyLady Diane in Denmark in May and actually started following along. I feel like this time next year I will really have my home including the garage in great shape, but I'm very pleased with this year's progress! Can't wait to see what's next!

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  5 років тому

      Thank you! You will have huge progress, just keep at it little by little. I am glad that I took the before video so I could see the progress I had made. Good luck and thank you for your support!

  • @vivianhudacek1556
    @vivianhudacek1556 5 років тому

    WOW! What a huge difference! I always enjoy your videos. Thanks for being so transparent. You’ve done an amazing job, especially with small children at home, & you’ve inspired many folks, I’m sure, including me.

  • @saraknox9163
    @saraknox9163 5 років тому +10

    I found your channel on Tuesday and I have binge watched all your videos. Thank you for being so open and honest. I have done more in the past 3 days than I have in a month...thanks to you!!! Alao happy to watch a fellow Canadian 🍁

    • @carmenmcallister5222
      @carmenmcallister5222 5 років тому +1

      I knew you were Canadian when I saw the crokinole board in the front closet. Lol
      We are so much alike, but thankfully my husband keeps me on my toes. He's more of a tidy freak and keeps me motivated to tidy.
      Great job on your change....gonna have to check out this Diane lady! Haha

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  5 років тому +1

      Wow, thank you so much! I am so glad to hear that you got so much done! And glad to have a fellow Canuck on board!

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  5 років тому +1

      Is crokinole a Canadian thing? I had not heard of it before, but my husband and his friend love it!

    • @carmenmcallister5222
      @carmenmcallister5222 5 років тому

      Yes its definitely Canadian. We love it at our house. 😊

  • @angelbuckel2194
    @angelbuckel2194 3 роки тому +1

    I still love you for starting this channel my house is beyond what your house used to be and is starting to actually be nicer and I am like overwhelmed everyday but thanks to you it's getting better and better God bless you keep up the videos

  • @ali18398
    @ali18398 5 років тому +5

    Just watched your first video! Already in love! Real house, real person! I see self love that you have learned over time! I want to learn that! Thank you so much for sharing!

  • @theresawaversak5889
    @theresawaversak5889 5 років тому

    Steph you inspire me. I watch your videos and end up taking my Chromebook with me to the kitchen to clean as I listen to you. I am more than twice your age and don't move as fast but I am retired and have more time to do it so it balances out for me. Please keep doing these videos, I love your enthusiasm and spark!

  • @reneehaynes3121
    @reneehaynes3121 5 років тому +12

    Thank you for your honesty. You are inspirational and I’ve subscribed to you. Tell your fans: it’s never too late to start!!!!!!

  • @sheilaperreault1274
    @sheilaperreault1274 4 роки тому

    Just watched this as it came up on my feed. I’ve been watching your current stuff and you have just continued to grow. I’m so proud of you and I don’t even “know” you. Thanks for sharing your content!

  • @Alice-rc1lp
    @Alice-rc1lp 5 років тому +3

    This has been very inspirational. Love that you’ve done it/ doing it with two little ones. Mine are tiny too and I felt so overwhelmed so often. But just knowing I can chip away slowly slowly and I’ll get there one day is very freeing! Hooray for all the FlyBabies. Well done you :)

  • @chiefjetsonofflare5329
    @chiefjetsonofflare5329 5 років тому +1

    Thank you to you and all the comments I thought I was the only one with an out of control house just knowing I am not the only one make me feel so much better, just found you all to day ❤️

  • @MissRebekah1974
    @MissRebekah1974 5 років тому +30

    Sweetness give yourself a break! What you see now shows how much you can now see. Before, you could not "see" all the stuff, which is why it was that way. As for the laundry room, You can now see the floor! That is Major, Major!! Job well done!
    Aunt B

  • @sophiesteinhagen-pasewaldt4689
    @sophiesteinhagen-pasewaldt4689 5 років тому +1

    Hey, I am also a flybaby and I know, what work you have done in the last year. Well done, your are great, I hope, you know this! Flylady helped me a lot, so now I can let people in my house and I love this!!!!!!
    I love Diane's videos and yours are as nice and friendly, as Dianes's! Thank you for letting us in your home!

  • @TomlinsTE
    @TomlinsTE 5 років тому +4

    The back-splash and shelves are terrific, great choice.

  • @HereIAm247
    @HereIAm247 2 роки тому

    Re-watching some of the old videos to get myself motivated, as I fell off the wagon for a while, so my life and my apartment have fallen back into chaos. I love the ending, where you talk about people with 'perfect houses' and how someone needed to do 'realistic' videos. It seems you have become one of them for a while now, lol.

  • @SnicklesKidsShow
    @SnicklesKidsShow 5 років тому +206

    I dream of the day I get control over my home. We literally have too much.

    • @Happybidr
      @Happybidr 5 років тому +23

      After we had a house fire (due to a refrigerator that caught on fire in the middle of the night!), I had to list literally more than a thousand household items, their original prices, when I bought them, etc., so we could be reimbursed by the insurance company. That was when i realized we had too much stuff. I’ve always liked getting rid of stuff but now I buy a LOT LESS! It helps that our two daughters are living on their own now (one at grad school and the other at college/work). Really really think carefully before you buy stuff to go around your home. Do you REALLY need it? I found that mostly I do not!

    • @tamiweber7241
      @tamiweber7241 5 років тому +25

      If you don’t use it lose it. If you don’t need it don’t buy it. I have put 5 , 30 gallon trash bags of clothes into the recycle pickup for people to use. Minimal is the way to go. We have all spent tons of money over the years on things that weren’t necessary. I’m guilty as charged 🤦🏼‍♀️

    • @SnicklesKidsShow
      @SnicklesKidsShow 5 років тому +19

      @@Happybidr I'm sorry to hear about the fire. I sometimes fantasize using a leaf blower to just make everything fly away. I told my husband, and he went out and bought a shop vac with a blower!

    • @bitrudder3792
      @bitrudder3792 5 років тому +8

      @@SnicklesKidsShow A leaf blower? Well that's a new twist on "flying!" I love it! But you can do this, you know...and if you feel stuck in the process, pamper yourself with a beverage or a tub bath and your thoughts - on paper or not - and envision the way through. I imagine it is different for everyone and even for different kinds of stuff. I had a lot of stuff that would cost more to sell than to give away, but I was sentimental - so I wrote the cutest, cleverest "ads" in the local free-share group to find homes for things that would otherwise be dumped in the trash by charities. I found a woman doing dog rescue who was delighted to take a crib mattress marketed as a large dog bed, lol. String lights with plastic lobsters on them. A priests' shirt. All kinds of odd things. I waited until I was depressed and a little angry to get rid of other things. I envisioned a better wardrobe and bought a couple of nicer pieces before I purged my closet enthusiastically. When staying with a friend as a house-guest, I felt there was no room for me because of all the "decor." Then it was easy to purge my own small, spare guest space. I got a pad of big graph paper and made paper "furniture" of all we had and rearranged things throughout the house - and suddenly it was easy to see that I couldn't have a spacious-feeling space that was easy to walk through if I didn't get rid of some pieces. The graph paper doesn't lie unless you measure incorrectly. I've often used the "group and conquer" method - similar to the Kon Mari method in which you gather similar things together and see what you have duplicates of. I did that in our garage when planning wall-mounted storage and it is so much easier to function there now. I'm using the same method to deal with paperwork and older computers and software that got disorganized with some filing cabinet changes and stash-n-dash behavior and old-fashioned procrastination. In order to get clarity, I have had to break the Flylady rule about only getting out what you can put away in 15 minutes. But though it is taking a number of months (not continuously, I need enough energy and the right mindset to work on it effectively and I don't have that energy/mindset continuously), breaking this rule has saved me from the reason it hasn't gotten done in the past: out of sight, out of mind. I love how you said "I dream of the day I get control over my home." If you start by picturing clearly what you DO want, it is easier to let go of whatever doesn't fit that scenario.

    • @poolahpot
      @poolahpot 5 років тому +11

      Start with 30 bags in 30 days. It helped me so much!

  • @mbyrd6713
    @mbyrd6713 5 років тому +1

    Oh wow, thank you soooo much! My house has me ready to just about pull my hair out. There's just so much clutter. I'm going to start the fly lady system and I can't wait to see the results. Thank you for your openness and honesty. I know I can tackle this now.

  • @rachelleenya5994
    @rachelleenya5994 5 років тому +4

    UA-cam recommended your channel to me. Thank you for showing your realistic house from before and now. Nothing is more discouraging than watching a "Clean with Me" video where they are basically just disinfecting an already immaculate house. Ugh.

    • @TheSecretSlob
      @TheSecretSlob  5 років тому

      Thank you! Haha I felt the same way :)

  • @Esther_33
    @Esther_33 3 роки тому

    thank you so much for posting an honest representation. when every room is messy and chaotic, its hard to know where to start. i just started the 21 day challenge. on day 3. cleaning my sink everyday is a great goal for me. i did not clean it even weekly before... i know so bad!