Strongly exaggerated that men get horny on anything at any time. Personally, I lost attraction for my ex. girlfriend. After a few years, I no longer saw her as something sexual, but as a friend - or as a sibling. When that happened, nudity from showers etc. didn't matter at all. The sexual attraction was gone and so was the desire to have sex with her. The image of the perpetually horny man who suddenly gets an erection and gets horny at the mere sight of a nipple, roughly, is very simplistic and sterotype, one might say. It is an image that may be true of some men, but far from all. If women want a man who is sexually interested in her, she also needs to make sure that the man does not put her in the friend zone. Then it can end with the man also ceasing to see her as something sexual - whereupon the attraction disappears. And here some of the same rules apply as for men, don't gain too much weight, make sure you don't sit at home in front of the TV every night with the bowl of chips in front of you wearing unattractive sweatshirts, don't disturb your femininity and show that you want to be someone your partner looks at sexually, etc.
@@schahrzadmorgan As I'm sure you know, testosterone drives sexual desire in men. Some men have more of this hormone than others. There are many other factors, too, emotional and physiological. If a woman is overtly physically attractive but has a nasty personality, many guys will not find her sexually appealing at all, as I’m sure you also know. There are far too many factors that go into sexual arousal in men than could be mentioned here.
its not all about the man women go through a lot of body changes due to hormones and mood swings. Going through menopause will be a bitch and there's nothing sexual about those feelings so if a man wants love not only sex he needs to understand women are not the fantasy this is reality.
No guys, if you don’t want to go to the effort, you don’t have to go gay - just don’t get in a committed relationship and pay for female company. You pay for it anyway. One way or another, you will pay, at least when not in a relationship you don’t have to deal with the BS
It is interesting that men constantly need to work for their value, while women do not need to work for their value at all. - Women mainly just need to make sure to preserve and not demolish their value too much. Men love women fart differently than women love men. Men love women for real, women love men under the premises that they provide value. Men love women idealistically, women tend to love men from an opportunistic standpoint.
As a woman I disagree. To have my man happy I must stay fit, keep a home, be a good mom, enjoy sex, be intellectually interesting and emotionally healthy.
@@schahrzadmorgan Most of the values such as "stay fit", or remain "emotionally healthy" mainly consist in not degrading the original value that a woman possesses in the opposite sex. A man has no original value for a woman, he needs to build up a value. A "garbage man", to put it harshly, has no value at all with any highly valued woman. A highly valued man can find love in a woman who works at McDonalds or a woman who has basically accomplished nothing at all and take her as a partner. A woman's love for a man is therefore under the condition that a value has been successfully built. A man's love for a woman is based on the woman's original value, and that remains if the woman can manage her value well. My point is that men's and women's love for each other is different - in the same way that men and women are different in most other ways.
I think that - ultimately - relationship is not about unconditional love. There's a very basic trait of relationship that makes it very much conditional - it is with a specific human being. Unconditional love is for everybody and anybody without any discrimination. So, understanding that, the undeniable conclusion is - relationships are a game of give and take, period. We give something and absolutely expect something in return. It might not sound too romantic, but that's just how things are. And when one side of the partnership is not getting what they need for a long enough time - things will go south. That's a certainty.
The OP sounds fatigued or frustrated. So I'll meet this response with empathy. In one breath we say familiarity can breed less desire which I agree with. And then ask same person to be an emotional doormat or thereof. That said, I do not think the modern power dynamic between men and women is sustainable. It is too femme centric, meanwhile it is the masculinity that gets the panties. I know women are told they can have it all but you can't with rare exception.
According to my wife, all the problems in the world can be traced back to a single source-me. Of course, that really makes me want to be intimate with her-NOT!!!
@@schahrzadmorgan, It took me a long time to see it, but I was played. I’ve heard it called “Shit Testing.” I was ignorant of what was going on and allowed it to happen, so to that extent, I made myself a victim and have paid a high price financially and otherwise through the consequences of going along to get along. I’m not doing that now, but a lot of time has ticked off the clock. Down the highway of life, there’s no where to turn around. Nevertheless, you provided good information in this video that really would have helped me as a young man. Now, I can see areas where I went wrong. That’s my consolation prize.
Dudes stay single. Modern women are the biggest waste of time and a super bad investment of time. Dealing with a goofy who is emorionally unstable is a pointless task. You lose your mind while she gains your money. Enjoy life and let these jokers be.
"Respond but don't react"... "Express your difficult emotions. If you're angry, say so. Don't just say you're fine". What gives? Men have to handle women's feelings, but keep their own in check- sort of. Express them to your woman, but don't make yourself too vulnerable. Let's face it-- you can't win. Why all the head games? And then women need to respect men? If men don't play these games right then they get disrespected and discarded? Hmm. . Sounds like an elaborate game of control and manipulation.
We'll, not exactly. You're working to get your woman to truly lust after you, which is different than pity sex or duty sex. But the best result of becoming stronger physically and mentally, is how you will feel about yourself as a man. Getting better sex is a secondary benefit. And if these changes don't save your current relationship, you will be better for the next one.
I really enjoy this information but I have a hard time with this. This is not the dynamic while dating, this only happens once you as a man commit to her. Things start to change in the female mind set once a male commit to her and slowly she start to wonder if there something better out there and the moment you relax as a man you enter the friend zone, I find this dynamic a bunch of BS and prefer to stay single and date.
This shows IMO that in the U.S. or western world once a man commits, sex becomes a game you can't and won't win. She blatantly states pity sex, duty sex or no sex. She goes on to explain that you must now unbundle all of her complex and ever changing emotions to maybe get lucky. The best solution is to stay single and possibly look in a foreign country where women are traditional not entitled.
I'm 70, married 36 years (only marriage for both). You are teaching me things that I wish I knew when we were first married. This is the 4th of your videos that i've watched. I hope your channel blows up because you are far more informative and interesting than any of the other relationship coaches. I love how candid you are. You don't hold back. The more I watch the angrier I become. And that's a good thing for me. It's too late for me and too late for our marriage. We just have to ride it out and put our energy into our grown girls (women) and their kids. Nevertheless, I'm now a fan and I'm gonna rip into you videos and just enjoy the truths, enjoy your personality and presentation and just get angry all over again. At least I'm feeling something.
@@markrist4238 Can't put my finger on exactly why, but being "angry" with oneself doesn't seem like it would be a good thing to be doing. At the same time, I know what you mean... And, yes, I too hope this channel "blows up." The content is full of meaning and value.
Ps again and again women imagine men are sexually simple, with an on of switch, no we don't want to have sex with someone who's pissing us of , lying , neglecting children etc etc etc . Oh and then there is female accountability ?
Really good video. I must be doing something right, my wife is pretty low maintenance and we’re still having a lot of sex even after 35 years of marriage
Morgan, your content in this video is the answer to why the Bible even says , that those who choose to get married will have troubles of all sorts…. Because of all the work you’ve explained, to keep the women.
Great video. As a man who has been married for 37 yrs. I agree with everything you said. I also liked the part where you say that if it seems like too much work stay single. I know many young men now that are doing just that. If you do not desire to have a family why would you want to be locked down to one girl who will want to have control of your sex life?
True. I think there has to be a reason for marriage whether children, a joint business, a joined social cause. It can't be just to avoid loneliness or count on regular sex.
Hmm. Definitely don't want to be constantly tested. My experience is that being in a relationship is like walking through a minefield. At any moment, something could explode in your face, considering how complicated life is. And there are so many attractive people around to “monkey branch” to, as people nowadays always seem to have someone waiting in the wings for you or your partner to run to. My advice would be to go it alone or seek out platonic relationships only. Ideally, buy a 45-foot luxury yacht and spend your life sailing around the world; it’ll take your mind off all the pros and cons (mostly cons) of being in an “ordinary” long-term relationship. Remember, too, that life is so comfortable for most of us that we have nothing better to do than sit around and focus on how good or bad our romantic relationships are.
Sounds like your problem is the women you choose. Stop settling for crazy women; there are plenty of sane ones out there, and if you can't find any, it's probably because they're avoiding you, which means you should ask yourself why. Hence this video.
Oh! How I wish I had known you in person before. Thanks a mil LADY! I love your insights & experience. May you thrive to enlighten the entire human Race.Thank you
Thanks for confirming what everyman knows, that its impossble to please a woman and much better to focus only on things we can control, diet, health, investments, hobbies and trying to help other men with their struggles.
Thank you for your honesty. I've been married for 45 years, always looking for more sex and never understanding my wife's reluctance. At this point I get duty sex ever 2 weeks. I now believe that doing it more is just not in the cards for us.. that the work it would take (for the mere higher probability of more sex) is just not worth the effort. At least i can now be more realistic and focus on the aspects of our relationship that are satisfying for both of us. The pros of our marriage greatly outweigh the cons. We do love each other. But the realization still sucks bigtime. My main takeaway is that i want to remember to not get mad at her about it. But you are also reinforcing my belief that monogamy for men was never natural nor realistic. It's one more way that modern day society and values have perverted the natural order. Therefore, "cheating" is only wrong if we get caught.
She may need to go for a gyna check up, WOMEN have major issues with hormone imbalance which can ruin their minds. She may need a new adventure as well. Try creating healthy space with one another aswell.
How about post menopause lack of sexual libido? That sucks and has got nothing to do with me. I’m not into my mate doing me favors. I want passion not go ahead and do what you need to do. Not happening. When drive and desire is one sided I’d just a soon skip that shit. I understand it’s not her fault but is it mine if I stray?
Obviously , This is biology at work . We are not meant to reproduce as time goes on. Understand that perimenopause and menopause is a very difficult time for many women . It’s likely She’s having lots of symptoms and suffering in silence . Eg mood swings, hot flashes, difficulty sleeping , aches , feeling blah, low energy , even feeling sick . Hormone Replacement therapy ( estrogen , progesterone and maybe even a small amount of testosterone) can help and diet and exercise like walking . You can talk to someone about it , then talk to her. I am a firm believer in starting with one small action . Eg give each other a massage, go for a walk around the lake and hold hands , etc ( and yes your point of view is valid )
But I'm falling behind with all my hobbies and projects already. Why would I give myself another job? I know this video is well meant but I haven't got the time for any more of that.
@@schahrzadmorganOur concerns are as to what might happen if women watch this video of yours. It could start a fire and we older chaps don't have a working extinguisher to put it out anymore. Could you prevent women from watching it, somehow?
Of course you do not have to do that if it has a little importance to you. This video is for men who wish to satisfy their ladies and have them exited about you. I do not understand why you even bothered to watch it and comment on this, especially when you are so busy 😁
"We want you to express your difficult emotions." No you don't. You do not want men to open up at all, except women just want to listen in to make sure the relationship is still working. Anything else the man tells her, she doesn't care.
Really great! I agree with everything you said more or less but I'm not here to quibble. I would like to see some videos about older couples and their sex lives. I'm 72 my wife is 73 and we have been married for 49 years. We have some physical issues which have caused some emotional issues.
Looking good Scharzad. Like the top. I’m a woman and I’ve been in long term relationships after awhile the sex just becomes so boring it’s sad but I don’t know why. It’s not exciting anymore even tho I love the guy. Apparently it’s very common issue for men these days that married woman stops putting out. 🤷♀️
As soon as a relationship is nothing but work, its time to go. Working all day to come home to work some more? Dont think so. Lots more to do on this planet than just sex. If you have money you can always get some booty now and then and still do all the things you want to do. Still, I like your honesty and you seem like a genuine lady!
It sounds like you are saying that if a man attends to her every need for connection and intimacy we will have great sex, but you started out saying that if men do exactly that, the woman will not respect him, not desire him. You can't be a masculine man and still bow to her every wish and desire.
The sad facts are; about 50% of marriages fail (reasons why don't mater to the stats) 30 to 33% of marriages are sexless (less than 8 times a year) or platonic (no sex, a roommate lifestyle) Why would a (not dick thinking) man invest, money, emotions, future and time into this item on the list of things to do with your life? for many of us the winning move is not to play and move on with a P.Q.F. life. (peace, quite and free) anyway you are easy to listen to, I find you fun to hear out and one more honest comment won't hurt your channel
This information is very accurate but it just goes to show that modern women aren’t worth the effort. You do all of this, for what? What do men get in return?
I enjoy your frankness. Enjoyable that you share your own experiences as you go along. A shame that your ex-husband was a poor match for you in the bedroom. Your confidence that you exude is very appealing.
These silly tests are understandable when you are getting to know someone new. However, later in the relationship, these tests are just excuses for bad behavior. If she is trying to test us by disrespecting us constantly, our interest disappears very quickly. Couples should be adding value to each other lives not manufacturing drama. Strapping a landmine to our foot and going tap dancing is not what men want from a relationship. We should be on the same team, not enemies.
Very interesting, part of the problem is the lack of education in the humanities. Most of education is angled towards the quick fix of capitalism whereas art and culture can help people understand who they are.and how they think about who they are. I find your articulation great.
French psycho-analyst Christiane Olivier (I'm assuming, you don't inow her. If you do, sorry for assuming) wrote a book about female psychology in 1982 and, according to her, women need to be "nurtured" by their partner (I'm paraphrasing). Her exact words were that women saw the penis as a maternal breast that would give them the affection their mom never gave them (which I find extremely funny). So a woman will desire you at night if you treat her well all day long. What's your opinion about that?
Nice fucking work. I love it, as a man I feel like you’re right on the money. Thank you! For helping men heal, It’s way past time to bring back healthy masculinity 💪❤❤❤ And, you look great🔥
It sure looks like that what drives men and what drives women is not really reconcilable , that the aspirations both sexes have are not realizable in a long term, married relationship. It could also be that we, men and women, simply have expectations that are not realistic. Nature has programmed us to make lots of baby’s in the first phase of courtship and this is then pretty much Mission Accomplished for Nature. What comes after that is mainly making sure the kids are safe and fed, the rest is just stuff Nature is really not bothered with.
So let me get did right, a man should goes through life works, protect, provide and doing things to your woman the day before to warm her up to get sex the next day mean while playing more mind game. But you take 10 seconds to explain when a woman want sex and then explain encylopedia of the woman side. Got it. Leave relationship alone.
What if men and women were the same in the areas you insist only women are alike in? And women's general perception of men was the opposite as believed, or applied to as many women as to men? Or worse yet, more to women than men. Generally speaking, many women fit the description given of men's desire, and vice versa. Yet if a man who fully understands his emotional and sexual needs finds himself in a relationship with a woman who feels strongly about these believes, the romantic relationship will very likely not work, just because she isn't capable of understanding her man beyond the mentality or common believe of what women generally tell other women about the average men. As if the woman understands both herself and him better than he will ever be capable of understanding himself. And that's when some men have no better choice than to understand that his relationship with his current partner may as well be a lost cause. Unless he's willing to gamble years of wasted time and emotional anguish on something that we still yet seeing the same results on, decade after decade, regardless of what he's communicating with woman about how most of these generalizations aren't necessarily true, or applicable to all men alike. Nor women. One can only wander..."
There are countless groundbreaking studies that undeniably prove that an overwhelming number of females are either lesbians or bisexuals. The phenomenon of lesbian pornography being powerfully adored by female spectators only solidifies the fact that their attraction overwhelmingly leans towards their own gender, leaving little room for men to capture their attention. Some may argue that women are simply drawn to men's personalities, but let's be real here - that's a feeble and inaccurate form of attraction. The absolute truth is that practically all females feel an intense magnetic pull towards their fellow females, so much so that finding a heterosexual woman is as rare as stumbling upon a mythical unicorn or catching sight of a UFO. It's like a cosmic event that barely ever graces our existence.
@@schahrzadmorgan asex therapist and educator, shares that "female porn watchers are 186% more likely to check out lesbian porn in comparison to male users. " A recent PornHub report also shows that "lesbian" is the most popular category for female viewers of this digital porn portal.
Add a reply...Most women are either bisexual or gay but "never straight", a study suggests. Research has found that though lesbians are much more attracted to the female form, most women who say they are straight are in fact aroused by videos of both naked men and naked women.
I totally understand. For men a lower libido is usually due to low testosterone or medications that lower libido (blood pressure, antidepressant, anti-anxiety). It could also be a lower physical attraction if the woman gained weight or is critical etc. A conversation could clear this up.
Do you know what is at the core of his lowered interest in sex (age, health, weight (him/you), nagging, busy, stress? Have you noticed increasing in arguing and who usually instigates?
@@clacclackerson3678 he's not depressed. But he has been taking taurine recently which increases testosterone and we just finished moving into our new apartment and he was interested this morning and I don't know if its my imagination or not but it seemed so good. Not that it wasn't good before but it was more back to how it was in the beginning.
This sounds more like you are describing a romance novel than reality. How to get your woman to crave sex? Step 1: Be hot. Sure that'll work, but it's a bit obvious and not really a workable plan for most of the male population. That's like saying the best way to be a good novelist is to write great stories. However this and your other videos are a good insight to the female psyche. I just wonder how universal they are.
Just be fit, dress decent, have something going on, be interesting, don't be needy, confront/deal with challenges. It's not complicated, however most men are lacking in fit/dress decent for starters. Or they get pouty if they don't get sex (needy).
The ONE and ONLY way to get a women desire you and giving wild s3x is to be in situationship. Once she starts pulling back, ignore her and start another situationships with someone else. Bonus tip : you can have many situationships in parallel, it's called maintaining a rotation.
@ Schahrzad Morgan Are you sangle? Real connection...authenticity is my desire. If so Let's go Dutch with an English accent... ☕☕Coffee at First (no Star bucks) mom and pop style. The flora 🌻and🥀💮 fauna should be nice at an botanical/Japanese gardens before it dies in summer scorchers. Take care and I look forward to connecting. subtle touching subtle flirting cocky funny humor sigma male style on purpose beyond a mate on purpose beyond money be on your own mission as a man... think Jacque Gusto and Steve Irwin find a passion and follow it and others will want to be in your energy even for a moment but remain on purpose living your things that feel passion. This self love and passion will transfer into passionate lover
I really like your style and you speak a lot of truth and sense. But ... Lol 😊 Every single bit of advice on such matters always boils down to the same thing: men having to be saintly and perfect beings in the hope that a woman might notice and then give us some love. That dynamic is not balanced. Things without balance come apart. I think you speak truth, really I do, but for it to work, don't you also need a woman to understand her man and put equal effort into making him happy as he does her? It's the imbalance in the dynamic of a relationship that makes men 'give up'. Not just us being 'dirty dogs'.
Well, I think it's fair to say that message (one of equal responsibility in relationships, especially where intimacy is concerned) isn't voiced enough in our culture. Thanks for the reply and a belated merry xmas!I
Strongly exaggerated that men get horny on anything at any time.
Personally, I lost attraction for my ex. girlfriend. After a few years, I no longer saw her as something sexual, but as a friend - or as a sibling. When that happened, nudity from showers etc. didn't matter at all. The sexual attraction was gone and so was the desire to have sex with her.
The image of the perpetually horny man who suddenly gets an erection and gets horny at the mere sight of a nipple, roughly, is very simplistic and sterotype, one might say. It is an image that may be true of some men, but far from all.
If women want a man who is sexually interested in her, she also needs to make sure that the man does not put her in the friend zone. Then it can end with the man also ceasing to see her as something sexual - whereupon the attraction disappears.
And here some of the same rules apply as for men, don't gain too much weight, make sure you don't sit at home in front of the TV every night with the bowl of chips in front of you wearing unattractive sweatshirts, don't disturb your femininity and show that you want to be someone your partner looks at sexually, etc.
Yes thank you. Men aren't 24/7 sex machines and they can lose attraction as well if the woman let's herself go or gets needy etx.
@@schahrzadmorgan As I'm sure you know, testosterone drives sexual desire in men. Some men have more of this hormone than others. There are many other factors, too, emotional and physiological. If a woman is overtly physically attractive but has a nasty personality, many guys will not find her sexually appealing at all, as I’m sure you also know. There are far too many factors that go into sexual arousal in men than could be mentioned here.
its not all about the man women go through a lot of body changes due to hormones and mood swings. Going through menopause will be a bitch and there's nothing sexual about those feelings so if a man wants love not only sex he needs to understand women are not the fantasy this is reality.
@@schahrzadmorganif women are not turned on by naked men then she is definitely a lespean
No, have a younger sister@@Bilbobaggins818
No guys, if you don’t want to go to the effort, you don’t have to go gay - just don’t get in a committed relationship and pay for female company. You pay for it anyway. One way or another, you will pay, at least when not in a relationship you don’t have to deal with the BS
It is interesting that men constantly need to work for their value, while women do not need to work for their value at all. - Women mainly just need to make sure to preserve and not demolish their value too much.
Men love women fart differently than women love men. Men love women for real, women love men under the premises that they provide value. Men love women idealistically, women tend to love men from an opportunistic standpoint.
As a woman I disagree. To have my man happy I must stay fit, keep a home, be a good mom, enjoy sex, be intellectually interesting and emotionally healthy.
it works both ways!!!
@@schahrzadmorgan Most of the values such as "stay fit", or remain "emotionally healthy" mainly consist in not degrading the original value that a woman possesses in the opposite sex.
A man has no original value for a woman, he needs to build up a value.
A "garbage man", to put it harshly, has no value at all with any highly valued woman.
A highly valued man can find love in a woman who works at McDonalds or a woman who has basically accomplished nothing at all and take her as a partner.
A woman's love for a man is therefore under the condition that a value has been successfully built. A man's love for a woman is based on the woman's original value, and that remains if the woman can manage her value well.
My point is that men's and women's love for each other is different - in the same way that men and women are different in most other ways.
100% correct! Todays world is telling us to do the opposite of how we build or preserve our value.
I think that - ultimately - relationship is not about unconditional love. There's a very basic trait of relationship that makes it very much conditional - it is with a specific human being. Unconditional love is for everybody and anybody without any discrimination.
So, understanding that, the undeniable conclusion is - relationships are a game of give and take, period. We give something and absolutely expect something in return. It might not sound too romantic, but that's just how things are. And when one side of the partnership is not getting what they need for a long enough time - things will go south. That's a certainty.
To summarize: it is always the man's fault. Got it.
Make the best of the game, u finally decided to digest
Your victim mindset won't help you!
The OP sounds fatigued or frustrated. So I'll meet this response with empathy.
In one breath we say familiarity can breed less desire which I agree with. And then ask same person to be an emotional doormat or thereof.
That said, I do not think the modern power dynamic between men and women is sustainable. It is too femme centric, meanwhile it is the masculinity that gets the panties.
I know women are told they can have it all but you can't with rare exception.
According to my wife, all the problems in the world can be traced back to a single source-me. Of course, that really makes me want to be intimate with her-NOT!!!
@@schahrzadmorgan, It took me a long time to see it, but I was played. I’ve heard it called “Shit Testing.” I was ignorant of what was going on and allowed it to happen, so to that extent, I made myself a victim and have paid a high price financially and otherwise through the consequences of going along to get along. I’m not doing that now, but a lot of time has ticked off the clock. Down the highway of life, there’s no where to turn around. Nevertheless, you provided good information in this video that really would have helped me as a young man. Now, I can see areas where I went wrong. That’s my consolation prize.
Dudes stay single. Modern women are the biggest waste of time and a super bad investment of time. Dealing with a goofy who is emorionally unstable is a pointless task. You lose your mind while she gains your money. Enjoy life and let these jokers be.
"Respond but don't react"... "Express your difficult emotions. If you're angry, say so. Don't just say you're fine". What gives? Men have to handle women's feelings, but keep their own in check- sort of. Express them to your woman, but don't make yourself too vulnerable. Let's face it-- you can't win. Why all the head games? And then women need to respect men? If men don't play these games right then they get disrespected and discarded? Hmm. . Sounds like an elaborate game of control and manipulation.
Nailed it. Don't listen to what this woman says literally because none of it makes sense, but do pay close attention to learn their nature.
Work twice as hard to get the same thing you've been getting all along. The juice isn't worth the squeeze.
We'll, not exactly. You're working to get your woman to truly lust after you, which is different than pity sex or duty sex. But the best result of becoming stronger physically and mentally, is how you will feel about yourself as a man. Getting better sex is a secondary benefit. And if these changes don't save your current relationship, you will be better for the next one.
I really enjoy this information but I have a hard time with this. This is not the dynamic while dating, this only happens once you as a man commit to her. Things start to change in the female mind set once a male commit to her and slowly she start to wonder if there something better out there and the moment you relax as a man you enter the friend zone, I find this dynamic a bunch of BS and prefer to stay single and date.
Step #1: don't get married.
Let the church say AMEN
Step 2 don't get married
This shows IMO that in the U.S. or western world once a man commits, sex becomes a game you can't and won't win. She blatantly states pity sex, duty sex or no sex. She goes on to explain that you must now unbundle all of her complex and ever changing emotions to maybe get lucky. The best solution is to stay single and possibly look in a foreign country where women are traditional not entitled.
Just go gay mate.
Definitely don't get married!
All women are exactly the same.
Majority of females or lesbians eastern women are no exception
I'm 70, married 36 years (only marriage for both). You are teaching me things that I wish I knew when we were first married. This is the 4th of your videos that i've watched. I hope your channel blows up because you are far more informative and interesting than any of the other relationship coaches. I love how candid you are. You don't hold back. The more I watch the angrier I become. And that's a good thing for me. It's too late for me and too late for our marriage. We just have to ride it out and put our energy into our grown girls (women) and their kids. Nevertheless, I'm now a fan and I'm gonna rip into you videos and just enjoy the truths, enjoy your personality and presentation and just get angry all over again. At least I'm feeling something.
I'm glad you're angry and giving yourself permission to feel angry. Angry at who?
@@schahrzadmorgan myself. My naivete.
@@markrist4238 Can't put my finger on exactly why, but being "angry" with oneself doesn't seem like it would be a good thing to be doing. At the same time, I know what you mean... And, yes, I too hope this channel "blows up." The content is full of meaning and value.
@@dolittle6781 yes, you’re right that it’s counterproductive to be angry with oneself. Thank you for kind response
Never too later. Never.
Ps again and again women imagine men are sexually simple, with an on of switch, no we don't want to have sex with someone who's pissing us of , lying , neglecting children etc etc etc . Oh and then there is female accountability ?
You are so emotionally intelligent your explanations are right on. Thank you for clearing up the multi faceted female. You are a gem
Really good video. I must be doing something right, my wife is pretty low maintenance and we’re still having a lot of sex even after 35 years of marriage
Morgan, your content in this video is the answer to why the Bible even says , that those who choose to get married will have troubles of all sorts…. Because of all the work you’ve explained, to keep the women.
Marriage is a TOTAL waste of time. Its a man betting half his wealth that he could keep a woman happy (which they never can be)
Great video. As a man who has been married for 37 yrs. I agree with everything you said. I also liked the part where you say that if it seems like too much work stay single. I know many young men now that are doing just that. If you do not desire to have a family why would you want to be locked down to one girl who will want to have control of your sex life?
True. I think there has to be a reason for marriage whether children, a joint business, a joined social cause. It can't be just to avoid loneliness or count on regular sex.
Hmm. Definitely don't want to be constantly tested. My experience is that being in a relationship is like walking through a minefield. At any moment, something could explode in your face, considering how complicated life is. And there are so many attractive people around to “monkey branch” to, as people nowadays always seem to have someone waiting in the wings for you or your partner to run to. My advice would be to go it alone or seek out platonic relationships only. Ideally, buy a 45-foot luxury yacht and spend your life sailing around the world; it’ll take your mind off all the pros and cons (mostly cons) of being in an “ordinary” long-term relationship. Remember, too, that life is so comfortable for most of us that we have nothing better to do than sit around and focus on how good or bad our romantic relationships are.
Your minefield metaphor is apt. Marriage is like fighting In Ukraine
Sounds like your problem is the women you choose. Stop settling for crazy women; there are plenty of sane ones out there, and if you can't find any, it's probably because they're avoiding you, which means you should ask yourself why. Hence this video.
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How I wish I had known you in person before.
Thanks a mil LADY!
I love your insights & experience.
May you thrive to enlighten the entire human Race.Thank you
Women are too much work. I get nothing for all that work! NOPE Sheesh!
all you get is Drama, delusion and basic sex. Defo not worth the effort.
Love is not desire. So true
Thanks for confirming what everyman knows, that its impossble to please a woman and much better to focus only on things we can control, diet, health, investments, hobbies and trying to help other men with their struggles.
Thank you for your honesty. I've been married for 45 years, always looking for more sex and never understanding my wife's reluctance. At this point I get duty sex ever 2 weeks. I now believe that doing it more is just not in the cards for us.. that the work it would take (for the mere higher probability of more sex) is just not worth the effort.
At least i can now be more realistic and focus on the aspects of our relationship that are satisfying for both of us. The pros of our marriage greatly outweigh the cons. We do love each other. But the realization still sucks bigtime. My main takeaway is that i want to remember to not get mad at her about it. But you are also reinforcing my belief that monogamy for men was never natural nor realistic. It's one more way that modern day society and values have perverted the natural order. Therefore, "cheating" is only wrong if we get caught.
She may need to go for a gyna check up, WOMEN have major issues with hormone imbalance which can ruin their minds. She may need a new adventure as well. Try creating healthy space with one another aswell.
Great video. Hard to believe you only have about 5 percent likes. Good information. Thanks for sharing.
How about post menopause lack of sexual libido? That sucks and has got nothing to do with me. I’m not into my mate doing me favors. I want passion not go ahead and do what you need to do. Not happening. When drive and desire is one sided I’d just a soon skip that shit. I understand it’s not her fault but is it mine if I stray?
Obviously , This is biology at work . We are not meant to reproduce as time goes on. Understand that perimenopause and menopause is a very difficult time for many women . It’s likely She’s having lots of symptoms and suffering in silence . Eg mood swings, hot flashes, difficulty sleeping , aches , feeling blah, low energy , even feeling sick . Hormone Replacement therapy ( estrogen , progesterone and maybe even a small amount of testosterone) can help and diet and exercise like walking . You can talk to someone about it , then talk to her. I am a firm believer in starting with one small action . Eg give each other a massage, go for a walk around the lake and hold hands , etc ( and yes your point of view is valid )
@joneil0022 talk is cheap.
if she can give you sex she aint doing her job. Go get your needs met
Really appreciate your no-bs, honesty and directness. Valuable insights. Learn a lot from your comments. Please keep it up. Thank you.
But I'm falling behind with all my hobbies and projects already. Why would I give myself another job? I know this video is well meant but I haven't got the time for any more of that.
Falling behind because.....?
The idea is to have something going on. You probably already do.
@@schahrzadmorganOur concerns are as to what might happen if women watch this video of yours. It could start a fire and we older chaps don't have a working extinguisher to put it out anymore. Could you prevent women from watching it, somehow?
Of course you do not have to do that if it has a little importance to you. This video is for men who wish to satisfy their ladies and have them exited about you. I do not understand why you even bothered to watch it and comment on this, especially when you are so busy 😁
@@JH-pv6rd It's called "a sense of humour". You should try one.
@@barrysnelson4404 was it sarcasm? Sorry, still don't see where is a joke.
Also, a depressed man almost certainly won't be too interested in having sex. Just saying.
Women sound like horses.
You are not far off.
I love how direct you are ❤
If your wife truly loves you she will always desire you. I learned that from 52 years of marriage.
If she still initiates sex after 52 years of marriage, I want to know the inside story!
"We want you to express your difficult emotions."
No you don't. You do not want men to open up at all, except women just want to listen in to make sure the relationship is still working. Anything else the man tells her, she doesn't care.
Really great! I agree with everything you said more or less but I'm not here to quibble. I would like to see some videos about older couples and their sex lives. I'm 72 my wife is 73 and we have been married for 49 years. We have some physical issues which have caused some emotional issues.
another great video schahrzad. keep up the great work 😘. david
Looking good Scharzad. Like the top. I’m a woman and I’ve been in long term relationships after awhile the sex just becomes so boring it’s sad but I don’t know why. It’s not exciting anymore even tho I love the guy. Apparently it’s very common issue for men these days that married woman stops putting out. 🤷♀️
thats why men should say HELL NO to legal marriage 🙌🏽
Majority of women are lespos
Love this Woman all advice she gives is accurate. We men need to listen and communicate with women better.
I am taking notes 📝 -
Well, let me know if there are some factors I left out.
As soon as a relationship is nothing but work, its time to go. Working all day to come home to work some more? Dont think so. Lots more to do on this planet than just sex. If you have money you can always get some booty now and then and still do all the things you want to do. Still, I like your honesty and you seem like a genuine lady!
It sounds like you are saying that if a man attends to her every need for connection and intimacy we will have great sex, but you started out saying that if men do exactly that, the woman will not respect him, not desire him. You can't be a masculine man and still bow to her every wish and desire.
The sad facts are; about 50% of marriages fail (reasons why don't mater to the stats)
30 to 33% of marriages are sexless (less than 8 times a year) or platonic (no sex, a roommate lifestyle)
Why would a (not dick thinking) man invest, money, emotions, future and time into this item on the list of things to do with your life?
for many of us the winning move is not to play and move on with a P.Q.F. life. (peace, quite and free)
anyway you are easy to listen to, I find you fun to hear out and one more honest comment won't hurt your channel
This information is very accurate but it just goes to show that modern women aren’t worth the effort. You do all of this, for what? What do men get in return?
I enjoy your frankness. Enjoyable that you share your own experiences as you go along.
A shame that your ex-husband was a poor match for you in the bedroom.
Your confidence that you exude is very appealing.
Interesting points. Thanks
These silly tests are understandable when you are getting to know someone new. However, later in the relationship, these tests are just excuses for bad behavior. If she is trying to test us by disrespecting us constantly, our interest disappears very quickly. Couples should be adding value to each other lives not manufacturing drama. Strapping a landmine to our foot and going tap dancing is not what men want from a relationship. We should be on the same team, not enemies.
100% this woman is talking from a fairy tale. She is divorce so I wonder why. Poor guy😂.
Very interesting, part of the problem is the lack of education in the humanities. Most of education is angled towards the quick fix of capitalism whereas art and culture can help people understand who they are.and how they think about who they are.
I find your articulation great.
Our mothers do turn us into 'nice guys' and will be a shoulder to cry on when women reject us! My mom turned me into a nice guy but rejected me too!
Oh I'm so sorry. How did you turn that around?
What are some of the book titles behind you that you recommend to read?
It depends on what your interest is. Chris Williamson is a well respected podcaster, and he has a book list for men.
French psycho-analyst Christiane Olivier (I'm assuming, you don't inow her. If you do, sorry for assuming) wrote a book about female psychology in 1982 and, according to her, women need to be "nurtured" by their partner (I'm paraphrasing). Her exact words were that women saw the penis as a maternal breast that would give them the affection their mom never gave them (which I find extremely funny). So a woman will desire you at night if you treat her well all day long. What's your opinion about that?
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NO SHE HAS WORK TO DO// WITHOUT ME SHE IS NOTHING//I AM THE GREATEST DEMORAT OF ALL TIME// WITHOUT ME THE WORLD NEVER TURNS////THE REPORT SAID
Thanks!
Oh, thank. Pardon my late reply. UA-cam just notified me of my Super Thanks. I didn't even know people could do that.
I agree completely.
Nice fucking work. I love it, as a man I feel like you’re right on the money. Thank you! For helping men heal,
It’s way past time to bring back healthy masculinity 💪❤❤❤
And, you look great🔥
your last line was what your whole message was about 😂
Thank you
youre welcome buddy 🙌🏽
I was staggered when a former girlfriend confided that when she was younger she could climax just by kissing. That just amazed and thrilled me.
Interesting. I never heard of that.
@@schahrzadmorgan Me neither. But climaxing through nipple-caressing alone is possible for some.
The vol is too soft. Louder recording please 🙏
Your video are a 💎. You are really helping men out
Thank god for the street walkers
That sounds sketchy and trashy but you do you.
It sure looks like that what drives men and what drives women is not really reconcilable , that the aspirations both sexes have are not realizable in a long term, married relationship. It could also be that we, men and women, simply have expectations that are not realistic. Nature has programmed us to make lots of baby’s in the first phase of courtship and this is then pretty much Mission Accomplished for Nature. What comes after that is mainly making sure the kids are safe and fed, the rest is just stuff Nature is really not bothered with.
As one traumatized kid, this makes perfect sense.
You are amazing in Your statements , like how You move , during Your explanation.
'' If you are not ready to do it go gays, try other men it is alot easier''???? i respect you Shahrazad but what you said is pathetic i admit
Great Video. You really encourage me. I was married for over 20 years, 4 grown kids, and this really encourages me to try again. Well see. LOL
nah let it go
So let me get did right, a man should goes through life works, protect, provide and doing things to your woman the day before to warm her up to get sex the next day mean while playing more mind game. But you take 10 seconds to explain when a woman want sex and then explain encylopedia of the woman side. Got it. Leave relationship alone.
Schahzrzad how do you own your sexuality please make a video
Give love and acceptance to all parts of yourself.
What if men and women were the same in the areas you insist only women are alike in? And women's general perception of men was the opposite as believed, or applied to as many women as to men? Or worse yet, more to women than men.
Generally speaking, many women fit the description given of men's desire, and vice versa. Yet if a man who fully understands his emotional and sexual needs finds himself in a relationship with a woman who feels strongly about these believes, the romantic relationship will very likely not work, just because she isn't capable of understanding her man beyond the mentality or common believe of what women generally tell other women about the average men. As if the woman understands both herself and him better than he will ever be capable of understanding himself.
And that's when some men have no better choice than to understand that his relationship with his current partner may as well be a lost cause. Unless he's willing to gamble years of wasted time and emotional anguish on something that we still yet seeing the same results on, decade after decade, regardless of what he's communicating with woman about how most of these generalizations aren't necessarily true, or applicable to all men alike. Nor women.
One can only wander..."
There are countless groundbreaking studies that undeniably prove that an overwhelming number of females are either lesbians or bisexuals. The phenomenon of lesbian pornography being powerfully adored by female spectators only solidifies the fact that their attraction overwhelmingly leans towards their own gender, leaving little room for men to capture their attention. Some may argue that women are simply drawn to men's personalities, but let's be real here - that's a feeble and inaccurate form of attraction. The absolute truth is that practically all females feel an intense magnetic pull towards their fellow females, so much so that finding a heterosexual woman is as rare as stumbling upon a mythical unicorn or catching sight of a UFO. It's like a cosmic event that barely ever graces our existence.
Lol I disagree completely. Where's your data?
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Add a reply...Most women are either bisexual or gay but "never straight", a study suggests. Research has found that though lesbians are much more attracted to the female form, most women who say they are straight are in fact aroused by videos of both naked men and naked women.
Women make men have too work all the time they maintain household so men can be around
I like your points. You are a beautiful woman!😊
in other words be the perfect man and iI might put out.exactly what do women need to bring to the table?
Better question, why don't you wanna be a perfect man for your wife? Better just leave her to a better guy.
I am in a long term relationship. I would like my man to want more sex. The sex has become less frequent.
I totally understand. For men a lower libido is usually due to low testosterone or medications that lower libido (blood pressure, antidepressant, anti-anxiety). It could also be a lower physical attraction if the woman gained weight or is critical etc. A conversation could clear this up.
Do you know what is at the core of his lowered interest in sex (age, health, weight (him/you), nagging, busy, stress? Have you noticed increasing in arguing and who usually instigates?
@@ApriliaRacer14 I think he is interested in holding off somewhat until we have a more stable environment. We have been discussing having a child.
@@Nutritionistheanswer There is your answer. Or he's depressed.
@@clacclackerson3678 he's not depressed. But he has been taking taurine recently which increases testosterone and we just finished moving into our new apartment and he was interested this morning and I don't know if its my imagination or not but it seemed so good. Not that it wasn't good before but it was more back to how it was in the beginning.
This sounds more like you are describing a romance novel than reality.
How to get your woman to crave sex?
Step 1: Be hot.
Sure that'll work, but it's a bit obvious and not really a workable plan for most of the male population. That's like saying the best way to be a good novelist is to write great stories. However this and your other videos are a good insight to the female psyche. I just wonder how universal they are.
Just be fit, dress decent, have something going on, be interesting, don't be needy, confront/deal with challenges.
It's not complicated, however most men are lacking in fit/dress decent for starters. Or they get pouty if they don't get sex (needy).
Great vid champ
May I contact you?
Your in for a WILD RIDE !!
No however you may suggest topics here in the comments.
@@schahrzadmorgan Coolbeans...
I'm just fascinated by you. Cheers!
@@Aonexia LOL !!!!!
@@jtgmail459 I know that I can't be alone...?
Mens, we need to get back to school again 🤦♂
The ONE and ONLY way to get a women desire you and giving wild s3x is to be in situationship.
Once she starts pulling back, ignore her and start another situationships with someone else.
Bonus tip : you can have many situationships in parallel, it's called maintaining a rotation.
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@ Schahrzad Morgan
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You are really good.😍👌😎
thanks 🙌🏽
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Sweet woman 🤠🤠
I really like your style and you speak a lot of truth and sense.
But ... Lol 😊
Every single bit of advice on such matters always boils down to the same thing: men having to be saintly and perfect beings in the hope that a woman might notice and then give us some love.
That dynamic is not balanced. Things without balance come apart.
I think you speak truth, really I do, but for it to work, don't you also need a woman to understand her man and put equal effort into making him happy as he does her?
It's the imbalance in the dynamic of a relationship that makes men 'give up'. Not just us being 'dirty dogs'.
Of course a woman must honor her man.
Well, I think it's fair to say that message (one of equal responsibility in relationships, especially where intimacy is concerned) isn't voiced enough in our culture.
Thanks for the reply and a belated merry xmas!I
Thanks!
Oh, thank. Pardon my late reply. UA-cam just notified me of my Super Thanks. I didn't even know people could do that.
@@schahrzadmorgan you are welcome. Enjoy your perspective.