no but actually the way you break down every avenue of the process of even beginning to start on these kind of things are sooo helpful. a lot of "self help girlies" on youtube kind of just throw random, vague advise at their audience and it feels kind of hard to realistically impliment without feeling like youre doing it wrong. i really appriciate the way you give so many examples and even relate it to your own experience in the past, its really hard hitting stuff ! you've really inspired me to rewrite myself as well
Yeah it feels as though she’s actually thinking about the advice she’s giving instead of giving vague advice she’s heard before a bunch of times and thinks she understands
7:44 "why couldn't I be a f-cking bird or something?" simultaneously burst into laughter and tears because I've thought this exact thing and just... whew.
In case anyone else is struggling to narrow down their core values here's what I did: 1. Go through the list (I used the same one she did in the video) and just highlight every word that resonates with you. 2. Take the highlighted words and group them by meaning (eg. liberty, independence, and freedom might go together, or fun, humor, and joy go together) 3. Take the 5 biggest groups and pick one word from each to represent that core value. Tada~ There's your 5 core values! Just figured I'd share since I'm way too indecisive to narrow a 200 word list down to 5, and this made it easier for me :P
I just turned 49 and I love watching your videos for two reasons: 1. I remember so much of this angst from my 20s. You're not alone! Many (maybe most, maybe all) of us go through this too, and just living through your life will help teach you how to "contain multitudes". I hope that's not condescending, I mean for it to be reassuring. 2. I spent the last 3 years helping out my increasingly ill and infirm parents, culminating in 2023 in hospitals, a nursing home, and their deaths. So much of *me* has been my role of "caregiving adult child" that I'm once again stopping to think "just who the f am I??!!". So, this is one of the new life phases where your advice is very helpful (even to middle-aged Gen X ladies). Thank you!
Also GenX and agreed. Sorry to hear about your losses. A YTer said (sorry I can’t remember who to credit) looking back your highs are never as high as they felt in the moment but your lows are never as low as they felt at that moment either. IDK if that helps, but it clicked for me. Lost my Dad in 2018 and my Mom is on the other side of the country with dementia. Here’s to figuring out who the eff we are in our late 40s!
The advice in this video was very revolutionary for me personally. Sometimes I get so hung up in my "identity" I forget that it changes day by day and the fact that, that isn't a bad thing. Your video really helped me gain clarity on what matters most to me. It seems obvious... but looking at these five words as almost a mantra keeps you grounded while also embracing change
watching this as a Buddhist is a pretty interesting ride. this is basically the gen z version of anatta (no-self) and anicca (impermanence) with some healthy doses of dukkha (suffering), the three characteristics or marks of existence. anyway, you're very entertaining, this is wonderfully edited, and really enjoyed this. dramatically gazing over a body of water is also my favorite way to find myself (:
I’ve become disengaged with my search for myself, part of me thinks I’m too old to “discover” anything about myself anymore - like that was for when I was younger, and if I didn’t find anything good or interesting already, that means it isn’t there at all. Something about this video reminded me that there’s no reason to stop trying to understand myself better. Change and growth really are continuous, and if I feel detached from myself that may be something I can fix with a little attention. Thank you for sharing something authentic and thoughtful with me. ❤
Thank you for this. This is the first video that felt really personable. I’ve tried to watch so many other guidance videos, but none of them got my attention (I have such a short attention span). Your editing adds that bit of pizzazz the other channels we’re missing, keep up the amazing work!
Today was the day I realized there are people out there who have the exact same thoughts and experiences that I do and that I am in fact NOT that uniquely miserable. This is good. Subscribed. Inspired. Or maybe having an ADHD episode. Idk yet.
Charly, your last video on how to ACTUALLY change your life was so inspiring and I can't believe you've done it again with this one! This year I'm looking to change that part of my life entirely. I've rejected my own needs for others for FAR too long and I'm ready to take the reins on life and actually enjoy it instead of worrying what others will think. It's going to be so hard starting out but I know that difficulty now will become proof of capability. I'm so excited to take these steps and it's so comforting and inspiring to see this video when I'm going through it all now.
Frohes neuees: )) I am LIVING for your creativity, it feels like mini movies (the quality of your videos I MEAN ❤) just packed with life lessons. but real. and raw. This series will become my New Year's tradition to binge watch
Let me tell you: It takes such an intelligent use of humour to implement your down moments in a funny "storyline". It's so refreshing to watch. Thank you
i used to be obsessed with the concept of self help. i loved being engulfed into it, making myself feel better every day. at some point, i stopped and realized that its all bullshit. this video is the first one in years that actually made me want to listen instead of saying "i know all of this but i wont do it anyway so why bother". thank you, stranger on the Internet. your advice sticked.
I used Scott Jeffrey's method from his list of 200 that said to let your values reveal themselves to you because you don't actually CHOOSE your values they choose you - and through his exercise of defining meaningful moments in my life AND moments that made me feel frustrated angry and upset (suppressed values) I've narrowed it down to my top 5: winning, connection, performance, loyalty, and experience. I NEVER would have chosen those before doing the exercise. All that to say 1. Don't pick your values, see which ones have chosen you to be expressed. 2. What do I do now? How do I use the information that I value winning? 🤣🤣
It is absolutely insane how I managed to find this video. It’s so amazing. The video had a relevant topic to me, the shots were changing to keep the video interesting, and I felt like I was genuinely thinking and got new and original advice as I watched this video! Thanks. I hope to see you channel grow and thrive
I think I'm on the same struggle bus with you and it feels so comforting seeing someone who's just in the process of figuring things out and not already having figured it out. Also the variety of ages and backgrounds in the comments are so nice.
When we're forced to define ourselves in people-pleasing words for resumes and the like (personal brand, gross), I think it's lovely to hear reassurance like yours! Thank you!
I’ve been really struggling lately, so thank you for this video. There’s been several tragic and sudden deaths in my family and inner circle of friends in the past year. It launched me into a bad place mentally. I’m trying to get out of that now, and the first thing I need to figure out is “who I am” after these losses. Thank you so much for sharing your insight and being vulnerable - it really made an impact on me. I wasn’t expecting to, but I teared up at the end. I wish you all the best 🩷🩷🩷
Back with an update for my 5 areas: Stability, Playfulness, Kindness, achievement and self-reliance. Thanks again for this video I've found it really helpful x
this video was so refreshing. there’s so much pressure to create resolutions for ourselves that aren’t even based in our idea of who we are but rather who others want us to be or who they appear to be. the binging the self care advice is so real and i’ve had to learn to listen to my own inner voice/guide. figure out what works for me, what i need adjusting in my life, reflecting on my standards and things i want to learn in this lifetime, and want to experience. thank you for such a thought provoking, introspective conversation. also the “dont yuck on my yum” part absolutely KILLED me😭 youre hilarious
It's nice that the previous video on this is like D&Dified CBT (like one of the comments mentioned), this is actually simplified ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy). Where you focus on accepting everything, your feelings, and how how you are, defusing techniques to not go into negative spirals, and then check what your values are, and focus on living by them.
I RELATE TO YOU SO MUCH. Thank you for being you and using your platform to create videos like these. My therapist knows about you because of how helpful you have been haha : ' )
I am 54 and still figuring out who I am and who I want to be. The difference from my 20s and 30s is that I am enjoying figuring it out, rather than feeling like I’m behind in life.
RIGHT WHEN I NEEDED IT I SWEARRRRRR ive been getting into core values lately as well and i finally need to go through that long ass list to pick mine ahhaha but i swear, ur advice always speaks to me on such a deep level like i can relate SO much to the state you've been in bcs thats me rn and i'll just really have to work towars the much needed change...THAT IM OBV SCARED OF TOO
oh you are a SCHOLAR (but without the elitism), you broke it down so easily when it is such a complex topic, i am in awe. Your previous video made a huge impact on me, and this one feels like a sweet bonus on top, thank you for what you are doing
These videos are so precious ❤ I am continuously coming back here, re-watching and trying to learn as much as possible. I am on the same journey of re-discovering myself as you are. Thank you for your efforts and for your content ❤❤❤
as a borderline baddie undergoing years of therapy, self relflection and the literal most amount of energy i can muster at any given moment to grow and learn through a literal constant stream of literal trauma " everytime that life changes we change" has been the final key to it all. in ways it has completed me being finally seen. for someone to know, even if they don't know me, that being absolutely broken means absolutely building yourself up. there isn't something wrong with me, i am actually a human being doing my absolute best through a literal stream of literal trauma. thank you for your content. I hope as, with this, i finally come out with videos that you see them. maybe even like them. you tight af.
You may not know but I can relate to almost all your issues, thank you so much for these videos Cinderella, these videos really helped specially when my physical appearance insecurity is at its peak, god bless
I really really love ur videos !! :] The way you explain things while at the same time trying to figure them out yourself feels kinda comforting, like not being alone on a journey. also love the way u edit your videos, big fan and inspo 'cause someday I would like to also make videos. ( sorry my english is not fluid but I just wanted to express my appreciation for your channel ok bye :333 )
the way i subscribed in the first 20 seconds lmao the writing, the editing, your humour and authenticity... it's been a while since i've felt so seen!!!! hope your channel blows up soon!! you deserve it 🕊
Thank you so much for this video (and for the others, too)! I'm in a similar situation as you were back then and you're giving me some kind of perspective and inspiration for the next steps. It's nice to resonate with someone. Besides, your videos are really high quality, your filming and editing are just so good. ✨
Your videos are so challenging to watch (but in a good way, don’t worry)! I tried to listen to them like you listen to a podcast, when you just put on headphones and go do your skincare routine or organize your room, but I kept feeling like I wasn’t really understanding everything (maybe also because English is my second language, I guess? Your subtitles are a life saver, by the way) and it just annoyed me because I really relate to you, your crises and journey, so anyways, what I want to say is that you are one of the few creators that make me want to actually sit down and pay full attention to what I’m watching. You’re amazing, keep making videos, they’re really helpful💖
I subscribed at "those values might be getting as much love as the middle child and I know what I am talking about because I am the middle child" Done. I'm convinced.
thank you so much for breaking down each.and.every.step. of the process and including your own experienceT_T when you feel your absolute zero and dont believe that there's even a need for "you", seeing a realistic, non perfect, "clumsy" solution out of a similar stupor is really grounding. like wow u really feel seen
oh wow, this made realise why i never stick to exercising. it's not that i dont like it or can't make time for it, it's just that i dont see myself as a performer just lifting weight or running on the treadmill. that performer wants to go on walks and dance and jump, and thats ok!!
Having a 'mid-life' crisis and being unable to leave the house due to severe agoraphobia... I am quite literally going through that right now and really felt that haha. I feel like I've been frozen in time after losing the title of 'student' because I've been one most of my life and now I don't know what to do outside of it? Been going through some of my lowest lows and "I'd be fine not waking up tomorrow" has been a trending thought for me too... I enjoyed the video very much, felt like a nice pep-talk from someone who actually gets it, hopefully I can follow soon too.
Okay ever since you uploaded the video I’ve been narrowing down my list, I think I’ve finally got it: authenticity, community, bravery, knowledge, confidence. … im a Hufflepuff with severe Gryffindor tendencies 😁
thank you for doing this series, its very helpful !!! i'm almost 26 yrs old and i find myself stuck in yet another degree i dont care about (already dropped out twice before) and feel kind of lost in my life. ur speaking to my soul lol
I never thought I was gonna put on a comment: "I'm those who never comment on a video but.." But yeah, I'm one of those who never comment on a video, I just left hearts and lots of very explicit emojis on my favorite artist videos, but I'm sure he'll never get to see them. If you ever read this José Madero I love you and eventhough you don't believe in energy and the universe I KNOW WE BELONG TOGETHER. Ok, now... I really want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video. You made laugh, made think, made me wonder and made me to take action. I've been dealing with high levels of anxiety my whole life and this month has been really hard. I wish I could be a bird too. Some of those chickens weird people have as pets. I've been lost, not knowing what the f do with my life. I'm a mom so that adds some extra stress cuz I can't smoke the whole day blaming my birth chart for being a saggitarius with a heart of a scorpio. I'm 30, and my life has been complicated and yet I try really hard to be a good person and to like me. But time to time I've got lost and sad. And your video was a big hug. Thanks for sharing, for being real and vulnerable. I really feel good now.
Thank you so much for the work that you put on this video and for sharing your experience 😍 The beginning of the video was like listening to my internal dialogue the last few years but you actually provided en outlet if not a solution. For once, I did the exercise and my list at this moment is: - Justice - Creativity - Respect - Humor - Peace of mind I need to figure out what I want to do with my life to embody that but I'm excited to think and work about it ☺
wow I am pleasantly surprised by this video. This is exactly what I got taught in therapy. One of the most actually helpful videos I have seen on here.
ur channel is sososos amazing, all your videos are like EXACTLY what i need at the moment and it is so reassuring to know that the very speciifc thing that im going through is also something so many other people are facing at the moment and on top of that the solutions/actionable advice you give are so top tier!! like it is helpful and fun and not overwhelming. i hope your channel is so very successful in 2024 and you have an amazing time this year in every possible way
You are gold girl. I feel like we're the same person, but you're the version from somewhere in Europe that has evolve more and it's now finding me to share all your precious "secrets" (wink). anyway keep it up please!!!
this is the first video of yours for me and I'm kinda in love (sorry for the drama) the way you express yourself does feel incredibly authentic. thank you ❤
Another great video! I think establishing those core moral values is really important to understanding the "self." I remember a while back I made a list of tenets for myself that I try to live by, and it's such a good exercise to think about your thinking and your beliefs. We are fluid and change, and it can be so easy to be scared of becoming someone else, but being alive is a process and not a single point in time, and I think that that's way more comforting than being stuck in one box labeled with my name. Happy 2024, I'm excited to watch more of what you make. :)
I love this sooooo much! Gonna try out finding my main morals now as I really love that concept. You're videos are so fun to watch but also inspiring xx
First let me say, I love your videos. I have been trying to identify my core value too around New Years, as I have stumbled upon the concept in another video. Both creativity and community are up there. The first one was pretty obvious for me as I kind of always knew I valued creativity, but the second one already explains so much for me. I never really noticed before, how much community matters to me. Compassion is big one too. So it makes sense why you're videos resonate with me. As for the other core values, I feel like I still have to figure out which ones I really see as a priority.
exceptional video wtf. not that i didnt expect it to be good when i clicked but honestly your storytelling skills completely caught me off guard. you are really really talented!! thank you for this 🤍
i always love your vids and watching this helped me out so much! i’ve been telling myself over and over again my whole life i can’t accomplish the goals i dream of, but watching this helped to quiet that critical voice :) excited for what you create this year!!
It was quite hard to pick out my present core values as there are many that are quite important to me. I ended up with these 5: Assertiveness Balance Truth Spirituality Quality When I looked at it the first time, it felt weird to have no value that is about others as I am a very empathic and compassionate person. But, when I thought about it.. This is a kind of time in my life where I need to focus on maintaining balance between me and others and that I need to embrace myself and my good qualities first to be able to take care of people I care about. It was hard but quite fun! Have a great day
Omg wie kann dein Englisch so krass sein. Ich hab nicht gecheckt das du ein german girly bist ✨ Danke fürs runterbrechen von einem soooooooooo komplexen Thema. U inspired me 🥹
unrelated but i love how your name is a joke on iCarly. anyway, your last two videos helped me a lot and I love how they look with all the editing and sounds. wishing you the best
no but actually the way you break down every avenue of the process of even beginning to start on these kind of things are sooo helpful. a lot of "self help girlies" on youtube kind of just throw random, vague advise at their audience and it feels kind of hard to realistically impliment without feeling like youre doing it wrong. i really appriciate the way you give so many examples and even relate it to your own experience in the past, its really hard hitting stuff ! you've really inspired me to rewrite myself as well
Yes I love her content I feel like I manifested her 😭
Yeah it feels as though she’s actually thinking about the advice she’s giving instead of giving vague advice she’s heard before a bunch of times and thinks she understands
7:44 "why couldn't I be a f-cking bird or something?" simultaneously burst into laughter and tears because I've thought this exact thing and just... whew.
i thought the same exact thing and also burst into laughter ahahahah
I predict your channel will blow up this year, the originality, humour, quality of content and editing us just beyond amazing
I was just about to write the same thing!
She’s seriously underrated
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Facts!!
I was thinking this too
In case anyone else is struggling to narrow down their core values here's what I did:
1. Go through the list (I used the same one she did in the video) and just highlight every word that resonates with you.
2. Take the highlighted words and group them by meaning (eg. liberty, independence, and freedom might go together, or fun, humor, and joy go together)
3. Take the 5 biggest groups and pick one word from each to represent that core value.
Tada~ There's your 5 core values!
Just figured I'd share since I'm way too indecisive to narrow a 200 word list down to 5, and this made it easier for me :P
great advice, thank you!!
Just tried this thank you so much :D
Love this, thank you
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OMG THANK YOU
I just turned 49 and I love watching your videos for two reasons:
1. I remember so much of this angst from my 20s. You're not alone! Many (maybe most, maybe all) of us go through this too, and just living through your life will help teach you how to "contain multitudes". I hope that's not condescending, I mean for it to be reassuring.
2. I spent the last 3 years helping out my increasingly ill and infirm parents, culminating in 2023 in hospitals, a nursing home, and their deaths. So much of *me* has been my role of "caregiving adult child" that I'm once again stopping to think "just who the f am I??!!". So, this is one of the new life phases where your advice is very helpful (even to middle-aged Gen X ladies). Thank you!
Also GenX and agreed. Sorry to hear about your losses. A YTer said (sorry I can’t remember who to credit) looking back your highs are never as high as they felt in the moment but your lows are never as low as they felt at that moment either. IDK if that helps, but it clicked for me. Lost my Dad in 2018 and my Mom is on the other side of the country with dementia. Here’s to figuring out who the eff we are in our late 40s!
Narrowed my top five to:
- growth
- passion
- connection
- clarity
- acceptance
The advice in this video was very revolutionary for me personally. Sometimes I get so hung up in my "identity" I forget that it changes day by day and the fact that, that isn't a bad thing. Your video really helped me gain clarity on what matters most to me. It seems obvious... but looking at these five words as almost a mantra keeps you grounded while also embracing change
You edit so well it’s crazy
thank you so so much!!
watching this as a Buddhist is a pretty interesting ride. this is basically the gen z version of anatta (no-self) and anicca (impermanence) with some healthy doses of dukkha (suffering), the three characteristics or marks of existence. anyway, you're very entertaining, this is wonderfully edited, and really enjoyed this. dramatically gazing over a body of water is also my favorite way to find myself (:
This and "let's not waste another year in your head" felt like a warm hug
I’ve become disengaged with my search for myself, part of me thinks I’m too old to “discover” anything about myself anymore - like that was for when I was younger, and if I didn’t find anything good or interesting already, that means it isn’t there at all.
Something about this video reminded me that there’s no reason to stop trying to understand myself better. Change and growth really are continuous, and if I feel detached from myself that may be something I can fix with a little attention.
Thank you for sharing something authentic and thoughtful with me. ❤
you are the only youtube that I can't watch on 2x speed
Thank you for this. This is the first video that felt really personable. I’ve tried to watch so many other guidance videos, but none of them got my attention (I have such a short attention span). Your editing adds that bit of pizzazz the other channels we’re missing, keep up the amazing work!
Today was the day I realized there are people out there who have the exact same thoughts and experiences that I do and that I am in fact NOT that uniquely miserable. This is good. Subscribed. Inspired. Or maybe having an ADHD episode. Idk yet.
Charly, your last video on how to ACTUALLY change your life was so inspiring and I can't believe you've done it again with this one! This year I'm looking to change that part of my life entirely. I've rejected my own needs for others for FAR too long and I'm ready to take the reins on life and actually enjoy it instead of worrying what others will think. It's going to be so hard starting out but I know that difficulty now will become proof of capability. I'm so excited to take these steps and it's so comforting and inspiring to see this video when I'm going through it all now.
Frohes neuees: )) I am LIVING for your creativity, it feels like mini movies (the quality of your videos I MEAN ❤) just packed with life lessons. but real. and raw. This series will become my New Year's tradition to binge watch
core values: purity, peace, power, love, knowledge, happiness & bliss
So glad to have stumbled across this video its soooo cinematic!!
Let me tell you: It takes such an intelligent use of humour to implement your down moments in a funny "storyline". It's so refreshing to watch. Thank you
i used to be obsessed with the concept of self help. i loved being engulfed into it, making myself feel better every day. at some point, i stopped and realized that its all bullshit. this video is the first one in years that actually made me want to listen instead of saying "i know all of this but i wont do it anyway so why bother". thank you, stranger on the Internet. your advice sticked.
my top five values, in no particular order, are: playfulness, hope, bravery, passion, and kindness.
I used Scott Jeffrey's method from his list of 200 that said to let your values reveal themselves to you because you don't actually CHOOSE your values they choose you - and through his exercise of defining meaningful moments in my life AND moments that made me feel frustrated angry and upset (suppressed values) I've narrowed it down to my top 5: winning, connection, performance, loyalty, and experience. I NEVER would have chosen those before doing the exercise.
All that to say 1. Don't pick your values, see which ones have chosen you to be expressed. 2. What do I do now? How do I use the information that I value winning? 🤣🤣
I love the way you create content keep going and thank u for making this series ❤❤
thank you so much I am genuinely so glad to hear people are enjoying what I do ☺️
i love knowing that smosh was your inspo for learning english bc it leaks out sm in your humor :,)
It is absolutely insane how I managed to find this video. It’s so amazing. The video had a relevant topic to me, the shots were changing to keep the video interesting, and I felt like I was genuinely thinking and got new and original advice as I watched this video! Thanks. I hope to see you channel grow and thrive
I think I'm on the same struggle bus with you and it feels so comforting seeing someone who's just in the process of figuring things out and not already having figured it out. Also the variety of ages and backgrounds in the comments are so nice.
When we're forced to define ourselves in people-pleasing words for resumes and the like (personal brand, gross), I think it's lovely to hear reassurance like yours! Thank you!
OMG GIRL YOUR VIDEO EDITING!!! I didn't expect a cinematic experience. Thank you! 😭
I’ve been really struggling lately, so thank you for this video. There’s been several tragic and sudden deaths in my family and inner circle of friends in the past year. It launched me into a bad place mentally. I’m trying to get out of that now, and the first thing I need to figure out is “who I am” after these losses. Thank you so much for sharing your insight and being vulnerable - it really made an impact on me. I wasn’t expecting to, but I teared up at the end. I wish you all the best 🩷🩷🩷
Back with an update for my 5 areas: Stability, Playfulness, Kindness, achievement and self-reliance. Thanks again for this video I've found it really helpful x
this video was so refreshing. there’s so much pressure to create resolutions for ourselves that aren’t even based in our idea of who we are but rather who others want us to be or who they appear to be. the binging the self care advice is so real and i’ve had to learn to listen to my own inner voice/guide. figure out what works for me, what i need adjusting in my life, reflecting on my standards and things i want to learn in this lifetime, and want to experience. thank you for such a thought provoking, introspective conversation.
also the “dont yuck on my yum” part absolutely KILLED me😭 youre hilarious
THE LABELING BIT WAS SO GREAT YOU ARE BRILLIANT
I've done a similar exercise and I chose 3 values: purpose, belonging, and persistence.
It's nice that the previous video on this is like D&Dified CBT (like one of the comments mentioned), this is actually simplified ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy). Where you focus on accepting everything, your feelings, and how how you are, defusing techniques to not go into negative spirals, and then check what your values are, and focus on living by them.
the editing, the commentary, everything>>>>>
I RELATE TO YOU SO MUCH. Thank you for being you and using your platform to create videos like these. My therapist knows about you because of how helpful you have been haha : ' )
I am 54 and still figuring out who I am and who I want to be. The difference from my 20s and 30s is that I am enjoying figuring it out, rather than feeling like I’m behind in life.
RIGHT WHEN I NEEDED IT I SWEARRRRRR
ive been getting into core values lately as well and i finally need to go through that long ass list to pick mine ahhaha but i swear, ur advice always speaks to me on such a deep level like i can relate SO much to the state you've been in bcs thats me rn and i'll just really have to work towars the much needed change...THAT IM OBV SCARED OF TOO
Positive & productive content? Definitely something I need to consume more. I appreciate your videos ✨
3:00 - truly cannot be understated. excellent video
oh you are a SCHOLAR (but without the elitism), you broke it down so easily when it is such a complex topic, i am in awe. Your previous video made a huge impact on me, and this one feels like a sweet bonus on top, thank you for what you are doing
These videos are so precious ❤ I am continuously coming back here, re-watching and trying to learn as much as possible. I am on the same journey of re-discovering myself as you are. Thank you for your efforts and for your content ❤❤❤
as a borderline baddie undergoing years of therapy, self relflection and the literal most amount of energy i can muster at any given moment to grow and learn through a literal constant stream of literal trauma " everytime that life changes we change" has been the final key to it all. in ways it has completed me being finally seen. for someone to know, even if they don't know me, that being absolutely broken means absolutely building yourself up. there isn't something wrong with me, i am actually a human being doing my absolute best through a literal stream of literal trauma. thank you for your content. I hope as, with this, i finally come out with videos that you see them. maybe even like them. you tight af.
This video should have WAY more views!
Thanks for making this!!😊
you are my new favorite youtuber. this is the channel this is the one
You may not know but I can relate to almost all your issues, thank you so much for these videos Cinderella, these videos really helped specially when my physical appearance insecurity is at its peak, god bless
I really really love ur videos !! :] The way you explain things while at the same time trying to figure them out yourself feels kinda comforting, like not being alone on a journey.
also love the way u edit your videos, big fan and inspo 'cause someday I would like to also make videos.
( sorry my english is not fluid but I just wanted to express my appreciation for your channel ok bye :333 )
the way i subscribed in the first 20 seconds lmao
the writing, the editing, your humour and authenticity... it's been a while since i've felt so seen!!!! hope your channel blows up soon!! you deserve it 🕊
Thank you so much for this video (and for the others, too)! I'm in a similar situation as you were back then and you're giving me some kind of perspective and inspiration for the next steps. It's nice to resonate with someone. Besides, your videos are really high quality, your filming and editing are just so good. ✨
I’m living for all this insight. Please keep going!
Your videos are so challenging to watch (but in a good way, don’t worry)! I tried to listen to them like you listen to a podcast, when you just put on headphones and go do your skincare routine or organize your room, but I kept feeling like I wasn’t really understanding everything (maybe also because English is my second language, I guess? Your subtitles are a life saver, by the way) and it just annoyed me because I really relate to you, your crises and journey, so anyways, what I want to say is that you are one of the few creators that make me want to actually sit down and pay full attention to what I’m watching. You’re amazing, keep making videos, they’re really helpful💖
I subscribed at "those values might be getting as much love as the middle child and I know what I am talking about because I am the middle child"
Done. I'm convinced.
thank you so much for breaking down each.and.every.step. of the process and including your own experienceT_T when you feel your absolute zero and dont believe that there's even a need for "you", seeing a realistic, non perfect, "clumsy" solution out of a similar stupor is really grounding. like wow u really feel seen
oh wow, this made realise why i never stick to exercising. it's not that i dont like it or can't make time for it, it's just that i dont see myself as a performer just lifting weight or running on the treadmill. that performer wants to go on walks and dance and jump, and thats ok!!
Having a 'mid-life' crisis and being unable to leave the house due to severe agoraphobia... I am quite literally going through that right now and really felt that haha. I feel like I've been frozen in time after losing the title of 'student' because I've been one most of my life and now I don't know what to do outside of it? Been going through some of my lowest lows and "I'd be fine not waking up tomorrow" has been a trending thought for me too... I enjoyed the video very much, felt like a nice pep-talk from someone who actually gets it, hopefully I can follow soon too.
Okay ever since you uploaded the video I’ve been narrowing down my list, I think I’ve finally got it: authenticity, community, bravery, knowledge, confidence. … im a Hufflepuff with severe Gryffindor tendencies 😁
you are amazing! i wish your channel to blow up this year!
I am really happy I found your channel. I am going trough a super rough break up right now and I really needed to hear this.
This is one of the best self help videos I’ve seen on UA-cam hands down. You are hilarious and authentic and I am so glad I found your channel
thank you for doing this series, its very helpful !!! i'm almost 26 yrs old and i find myself stuck in yet another degree i dont care about (already dropped out twice before) and feel kind of lost in my life. ur speaking to my soul lol
i love your channel so much.
thank you so much!! ❤️❤️
did not expect to leave this video with a new perspective on life!! thank u SO much.
Oh my god this video threw me into therapy and doing those tips. I am currently feeling the exact way you did there. Oh my god. Gorge ily.
I never thought I was gonna put on a comment: "I'm those who never comment on a video but.." But yeah, I'm one of those who never comment on a video, I just left hearts and lots of very explicit emojis on my favorite artist videos, but I'm sure he'll never get to see them. If you ever read this José Madero I love you and eventhough you don't believe in energy and the universe I KNOW WE BELONG TOGETHER.
Ok, now... I really want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video. You made laugh, made think, made me wonder and made me to take action. I've been dealing with high levels of anxiety my whole life and this month has been really hard. I wish I could be a bird too. Some of those chickens weird people have as pets. I've been lost, not knowing what the f do with my life. I'm a mom so that adds some extra stress cuz I can't smoke the whole day blaming my birth chart for being a saggitarius with a heart of a scorpio.
I'm 30, and my life has been complicated and yet I try really hard to be a good person and to like me. But time to time I've got lost and sad. And your video was a big hug. Thanks for sharing, for being real and vulnerable. I really feel good now.
Found this channel in my recommendation. I left the video hoping EVERYONE could have this video in there as well . Great video🔥
Thank you so much for the work that you put on this video and for sharing your experience 😍 The beginning of the video was like listening to my internal dialogue the last few years but you actually provided en outlet if not a solution. For once, I did the exercise and my list at this moment is:
- Justice
- Creativity
- Respect
- Humor
- Peace of mind
I need to figure out what I want to do with my life to embody that but I'm excited to think and work about it ☺
GREAT SCRIPT & EDITING !!!! you deserve more recognition
wow I am pleasantly surprised by this video. This is exactly what I got taught in therapy. One of the most actually helpful videos I have seen on here.
you are just so talented omg
ur channel is sososos amazing, all your videos are like EXACTLY what i need at the moment and it is so reassuring to know that the very speciifc thing that im going through is also something so many other people are facing at the moment and on top of that the solutions/actionable advice you give are so top tier!! like it is helpful and fun and not overwhelming. i hope your channel is so very successful in 2024 and you have an amazing time this year in every possible way
You are gold girl. I feel like we're the same person, but you're the version from somewhere in Europe that has evolve more and it's now finding me to share all your precious "secrets" (wink).
anyway keep it up please!!!
girl the wohle bit with the sticky notes that ended in prick had me on floor, ur so funny and creative!!
I can't recall the last time that I left a yt comment however this video was so creative ad meaningful that I felt the need to say that publicly
"it's so exhausting to live" felttt😂
please continue doing this!!! I love this series
this is the first video of yours for me and I'm kinda in love (sorry for the drama) the way you express yourself does feel incredibly authentic. thank you ❤
Another great video! I think establishing those core moral values is really important to understanding the "self." I remember a while back I made a list of tenets for myself that I try to live by, and it's such a good exercise to think about your thinking and your beliefs. We are fluid and change, and it can be so easy to be scared of becoming someone else, but being alive is a process and not a single point in time, and I think that that's way more comforting than being stuck in one box labeled with my name. Happy 2024, I'm excited to watch more of what you make. :)
i love your content. truly healing.
This video was actually very helpful.
This series is amazing thank you
Thank you so much for making this video and putting this out there in the universe!
this truly resinated so much with me, I am so glad I found your channel!
you are my new hero
this was a cinematic masterpiece
I just kinda sobbed this whole video
I love this sooooo much! Gonna try out finding my main morals now as I really love that concept. You're videos are so fun to watch but also inspiring xx
First let me say, I love your videos. I have been trying to identify my core value too around New Years, as I have stumbled upon the concept in another video. Both creativity and community are up there. The first one was pretty obvious for me as I kind of always knew I valued creativity, but the second one already explains so much for me. I never really noticed before, how much community matters to me. Compassion is big one too. So it makes sense why you're videos resonate with me. As for the other core values, I feel like I still have to figure out which ones I really see as a priority.
exceptional video wtf. not that i didnt expect it to be good when i clicked but honestly your storytelling skills completely caught me off guard. you are really really talented!! thank you for this 🤍
You are such an inspiration. Thank you so much!
ok so for right now, in this period of my life, i found my top 5 core values to be:
1.Independence
2. Connection
3. Enjoyment
4. Courage
5. Skill
Frohes neues 🎉
I love ur channel so much
exactly what I needed ❤
i always love your vids and watching this helped me out so much! i’ve been telling myself over and over again my whole life i can’t accomplish the goals i dream of, but watching this helped to quiet that critical voice :) excited for what you create this year!!
This video is so good...inspiring, funny, comforting, aestetic❤
Best Person, Best Content ever
It was quite hard to pick out my present core values as there are many that are quite important to me. I ended up with these 5:
Assertiveness
Balance
Truth
Spirituality
Quality
When I looked at it the first time, it felt weird to have no value that is about others as I am a very empathic and compassionate person. But, when I thought about it.. This is a kind of time in my life where I need to focus on maintaining balance between me and others and that I need to embrace myself and my good qualities first to be able to take care of people I care about.
It was hard but quite fun!
Have a great day
Omg wie kann dein Englisch so krass sein. Ich hab nicht gecheckt das du ein german girly bist ✨ Danke fürs runterbrechen von einem soooooooooo komplexen Thema. U inspired me 🥹
I have to say, having 99+ texts from friends is not a problem I’ve ever had
unrelated but i love how your name is a joke on iCarly. anyway, your last two videos helped me a lot and I love how they look with all the editing and sounds. wishing you the best
you deserve so many more subscribers