Yeah my brother in-law is running out of money. And recently he yelled at me, he had a reason . But he seems to think I never understand and so I went away for a week and I didn’t respond back.. Now he will not talk to me, I’ve joked and tried with him. He deleted me off of Facebook as well.
Yes, after spending a while with them, they become predictable. They pitty play, the twists, the victim games, the lies; the cicle becomes boring for a sparkling positive and creative person.
Promiscuity. it gives them multiple sources of supply, and ensures they always have new supply ready to go when the main supply bails, or is discarded.
Definitely true. My covert narcissist was in multiple affairs for years, but always told me I was the one doing that. They are pathological liars to the end. They will never be honest with you no matter what!!!
Omgggg yes they try to make it seem your the one playing them, meanwhile they’re the ones messing around cause they need to know they can seduce any and everybody thinking you would never notice but what goes around comes around.
He thought he could control my reactions, but I never engaged in that nonsense. I discarded him then he tried to control me through his silence and then his smear campaign. He chose the wrong gal - I have control of myself. That’s all I need.
So true when you take control back they go nuts. They crack into pieces. They can't handle it. You mess with there minds. You flip the card back on them.
100pc spot on!!!!!...they wouldn't dream of doing it to people outside as they need the adoration!!!..."look at me, what a wonderful person l am "....Jekyll and hyde personality!!!!!...
Thanks for your videos...I can really relate to them. I grew up with a narc Father and a Mother who was in denial and always making excuses for him. I was robbed of my childhood because of him. I would describe him as a controlling bully who is soul less and numb to all feelings (his own and others). From the outside everything looked ok, I was well fed and clothed and lived in a nice house. He was a pillar of the community! Behind closed doors and when my Mother was at work I was physically and emotionally abused. This went on for 19 years untill I left home. Narcissists are tyrants who destroy lives....get away from them as quickly as possible. I'm 48 years old and have mental health problems because of him. They are very dangerous people!!
So true Clarice. I know a female covert narc who is way older and is dating a teenager. I tried to understand why and now I know it is for control. She gets this teenager to do anything for her!
@J P My ex-narc told me she had dated a teenager before. She stated his *mind* became so screwed up. He ended up in the *state hospital* . I didn't know what a narc was when I started dating her. Now that I have done research, and after all this 47 year old woman put me (46) through. I can just imagine the *trauma* , that teenagers will endure dealing with these ☢️ people.... Hell, she almost drove my old experienced ass insane.
@John Staples I hear you. A teenager may look at a older person from a physical standpoint but they fail to understand how they can be manipulated and used on an emotional level. To eaches own but the teenager or young adult does not have the emotional maturity or insight especially to deal with a toxic, malignant narc. Easy prey for the Narc to Control and possibly ruin. I pray for all
This is exactly how I remember the sum of all the efforts, in every living moment, of a relationship attempt. You dont get clarity in the fog of their presence. You slowly regain yourself in zero contact. You reach that point in aftermath that chills go down your spine realizing you were being murdered mentally. No exaggeration. And always, always with introspection to understand how you got there. Most likely, a vulnerability. Once that is abated, you cannot get caught in a situation you now have knowledge of. Plus the heightened awareness of what you havnt yet seen or experienced. Then, with the collective education, you can reach discernments without having to go through the gauntlet of someone else disorder.
Narcs are also habitual and cannot handle spontaneous changes . They live by a regimen, and if there are changes, they have to re-adapt, which can be difficult for them
Fathers a covert narc, I was 9 when I was had a TBI because he didnt want to drive me to school. The brain trauma with the cognitive dissonance etc..my brain is mush and no one knows my state of being.
Imo control is for a relationship, to keep one person as a means of wealth and if applicable status. To have a "base", both foundation and home from which they can do as they please, to get what "supply" they can. It's also to keep as many people as they can, for as much "supply" as they can get... but "supply" is what they really need, control is just a means to get it. Without "supply" they would crumble, go "hungry", and possibly insane or suicidal.
It is indeed Clarice one of their biggest fears and point to not to be in control. A narcissist thinks when they are in control the other party will be loyal to them, adore them, stay with them under all circumstances, never doubt their intentions. I ended the relationship with my covert narcissist ex partner because I was fed up with her lies, flaws and fake self. It was one huge façade. One, she thought by putting demands I maybe would break and be completely under her influence or two she could easily go on to her next supply. It was option two. That's when my boundaries were finally reached after stretching them up so many times in a short period in our relationship. It was the final push out of this fake and toxic relationship.
THEY HATE THEMSELVES, TOTALLY THE ONES THAT ONLY GOD CAN LOVE...THEY WANT TO BE US,THEY WANT US TO BE THEM...REMEMBER 'THE ONE WHO POINTS THE FINGER AT YOU, HAS THREE MORE POINTING BACK AT HIM...
Yes, I’ve seen the multiple masks of narcissists in full HD play right in front of my eyes. 👀😳😱 and I’ve seen and heard multiple personality changes while narc is sleep talking. 😮😳😬
It's much more tiring for the person who lives with them..!!!.never knew anything about NARCISSISM then,...the pieces in the puzzle all fit now..!!!!🤔🤔🤔 split personality!!!...to the people on the outside they are charm personified,..the people they live with have to deal with their shit..!!!!they really are two people😈 🤯🥴🥴😱
It must be that's why their so mentally insane. Just keeping up with all the people they cheat with must be hard work just remembering who's who and where to and when to meet them is a time table within its self. Total nut jobs
Fear is the driving force of all control. Probably why it’s considered a sin punishable by Hell. All Liars, and Fearful will have their place in the Lake of Fire
I remember when my Narc once had control over me at the work place. It was so bad that I almost had to quit my job and it was also worse at home through text messaging. But once I started getting my family involved she got scared but it was still bad at work. But when my two aunts came to visit my workplace she was nowhere to be seen
The last thing I said to my narc mother was...I am not doing what you want me to do and that is really what your problem is. It was like a malfunction occured and for once she had no response. Praying this no contact lasts the rest of my life this time. Great video as always
At the beginning of the relationship i hadn’t noticed the control game but when I did, I told him to go control HIMSELF and that he wasn’t going to control me 😡
“You’re judging me!” “I am the glue that holds my family together!” “I am my children’s only parent!” “I wish you’d do what I’m doing” These phrases just echo in my head in retrospect. Fear of losing control....that’s exactly why the female covert narcs in my life were always so fearful
Absolute truth, All throughout my 26 years of marriage...my ex complained of me being controlling because he could not control me..I love all your videos..many thanks. I found out about Narcissistic people only a few months ago after trying to figure out what was wrong with my husband..
So if you have a good-looking male therapist Christian therapist who knows everything about you. Which a therapist seems to be entitled to know in order to help you then they can control you manipulate you. And then tell you you're the crazy one.
A narcissist whom I know just intimidate me yesterday, she waited for me at the entrance of a mall with 4 men with her. She called me and ask me that why I am ignoring her boyfriend. She told me if I am her friend I should not ignore her boyfriend and ask the four men telling am i right guys.! What I did is I shouted her why you want to control me. She get rage. I show to her that I am not intimidated with the four men. I knew she and her boyfriend wants to get something from me.
Why do they need control? It's because their egos have been shattered long ago, in early childhood, by their own narcissistic parents. The ego recognizes boundaries between people, it reality tests, and it maintains a reasonable self-image and stable identity. You'll notice narcissists can do none of these things. That's because the narc's ego is defunct. People talk about narcissists having big egos, but I think that they actually have busted ones. Their own narcissistic parents never allowed autonomy, so the narcissist never developed a real sense of self. We're all just ego functions to a narcissist. We have to prop them up 24/7. They're like one-legged men who need crutches. We're the crutches. That's what we are---a crutch for an emotionally crippled person.
@The Last Spartan I wouldn't call them "losers.". I would cal them " psychotic," because under the mask of sanity, they're insane. You can't get rid of mental illness by making someone else mentally ill, but they keep pursuing this failed strategy. Narcissists want to visit their mental illness on others. They think they can just "put" it in another person, like someone pouring water into a cup, and presto-changeo---it's gone! They're not sick anymore! It's an tacit admission that they know they're unwell. If they didn't know it, they wouldn't be trying to "put" it on others. They're not as unaware as some people think. Forget how they superficially act. All narcissists know they're head cases, and they're pissed off at those with greater mental health. They hate it!!!
I hate when people blame childhood trauma as an excuse for the Narcissist's behaviour, most people went through childhood trauma but did not choose to become demonic as the Narcissist. Also I don't know if anyone has really thought through that not all Narcissist had a bad childhood or was spoiled at childhood. All I know is Narcissist are born evil and what ever trauma they go through just kind of ignites it. Trust me I am speaking out of experience. I have dealth with seven Narcissist, my whole life is with Narcissists to the point where I became suicidal. O0n my way to recovery now. Two were marriages, two were my own blood brothers, two were my own children, boys that I gave birth to and one is my landlord. I know for sure they are born evil they are Demons dangerous and nasty people they will not care to destroy their own family just to be right for the even trivial things. They are sick, blaming it on childhood trauma is one of the reasons that has made them get away with their crimes because it's almost as if people have to feel sorry for them while they can not stop at anything to destroy you. I was left with four boys to raise, was always called a bastared and useless by their dad my first grandious Narcissist x husband. The second was a covert Narcissist I had my little girl by he was deadly and was camilioon.
Well done Clarice, another brilliant video. Thank you for the great reminder that with Narcissists it is all about control, I was begining to forget this, I will make sure this time I keep it in mind always as I am still under attack. May God be with you and bless you in Jesus Name. Thank you so much. Ian.
everything you sed I have bin true it with a narcissist friend thank you very much for in lighting this it will keep me awake from these narcissist in future 👍
Control is such a hard thing to see but I see how very much it underlies everything. Apparently, when someone else has all my control, I feel very much anxiety, and I can't figure out why. I have been pondering that for a long time and now I think that I need to address how to take my power back! Thank you Clarise for reminding me of this BOTTOM LINE. It is the only thing that completely explains what is happening with me and my father. He got control very early so I barely had a sense of what my own will was! When someone says I can do anything I want, I don't know what to do. But I am certainly going to work on that, Clarise!
I really don't get how they can keep such a mindset. It's beyond ANYBODY'S ability to control people, places, and things long-term. You would THINK they would eventually figure that out--their lives are literally strewn with actual evidence of that fact. And in figuring that out, you would think the next logical step would be to implement change, because obviously their way doesn't work and is the common denominator in their chaotic, unsatisfactory lives. But, that would be the healthy, adult thing to do. I guess I would still rather be the narcissists' victim than the narcissist, despite the pain they put me through. I have a CHANCE at better--what chance does an untreated, unmotivated narcissist have?? I can ALMOST feel pity for them. Almost.
My narc ex-wife would go through my closet searching every pocket, go through my car searching the glove box and console, go through my emails when I wasn't there, go through my cell phone searching for evidence of infidelity or whatever. She never found anything and was sorely disappointed because I had nothing to hide. Of course she did this because she knew that she herself was untrustworthy and she expected others to be like she was. Her flying monkey birth family have tried four times in the past year to contact me for her. I've gone 100% no contact and that is exactly the way it will remain. Karma will do the rest.
The narcissist like older lonely weman they can control them I was 18 older than my narc he was always asking me didn't I fell good becase a younger man wanted me.I would never say yess He just continues on and on trying to get the answer he wanted.. He been out of my life for 21/2 years Thank you God
Your articles are right where they are supposed to be, now i certainly know what these people are they RIP your heart out. Thanks for these information.
Enjoy ignoring narcs. Enjoy live without them. Celebrate and keep going living your life and make sure that you understand how pathetic it makes you having to support an controlling mindfuck. Just walk away and celebrate and chill out.
I agree but some Narcissist like my ex who wants to be so Control is a shame he has no control over his life. I see it as a parodox control as I was dealing with a low budget type Narcissist.
I always thought my ex Narc was embarrassed of me and that's why I never got to meet his friends. I soon realized he just didn't have any friends. When I lived with him he didn't allow me to have my friends over at all. And if I did he would avoid them all together and make fun of them after they left. Snarky comments like "Dig the blue hair... Cute she still dresses like it's 1986."
Realise this is an old video but what I truly find to be amazing is how a woman who barely finished high school could become this smart this manipulating this controlling in such a short time with no training whatsoever! How does this happen! Doctors take at least eight or more years!
Thank you very much this was so informative I am so well spoken!! People often speak about what’s a narcissist do I want to know what do you do where is available to help them?? LOVENJOI 💕💕💕
Oww wowww??? I never know that. Gratefully i am not like that. But am i a narc??? Pls be true on me. Im ready to change n make correction in my life seriously for better for me n other people n make sure i n other feel good for each other n feel comfort
My religious group has a narcissist, she has an extreme competitive nature and fiercly fights for leadership. I rely on my spiritual practice for support but this person has a very negative effect on my life. All my life, my relatives have done damage because they are narcissists, finally my knowledge of this disorder has given me to tools, i.e. no or limited contact have helped me. This situation is something I need to deal with because I need my religious practice. Any advice?
When you become unpredictable they go MAD.
HA! Yes they do . Well said my friend !
Yeah my brother in-law is running out of money. And recently he yelled at me, he had a reason . But he seems to think I never understand and so I went away for a week and I didn’t respond back.. Now he will not talk to me, I’ve joked and tried with him. He deleted me off of Facebook as well.
@@24casfur good riddance to him then 😆
Yes
😁👌👍
Yes, after spending a while with them, they become predictable. They pitty play, the twists, the victim games, the lies; the cicle becomes boring for a sparkling positive and creative person.
Amen!!! OMG!! 💤 SO LAME!!
Bullying is a must for narcs
Their tactical.
Bully them back
@@1010QUEEN7 It wouldn't bother them, better off pretending they don't exist if you want to maintain your sanity
I see
Hate, need, control...what a miserable little existence...
Being unhappy and miserable
is the narcissist favorite meal.
Especially when they loss
control of their prey.
Promiscuity. it gives them multiple sources of supply, and ensures they always have new supply ready to go when the main supply bails, or is discarded.
Definitely true. My covert narcissist was in multiple affairs for years, but always told me I was the one doing that. They are pathological liars to the end. They will never be honest with you no matter what!!!
Omgggg yes they try to make it seem your the one playing them, meanwhile they’re the ones messing around cause they need to know they can seduce any and everybody thinking you would never notice but what goes around comes around.
He thought he could control my reactions, but I never engaged in that nonsense. I discarded him then he tried to control me through his silence and then his smear campaign. He chose the wrong gal - I have control of myself. That’s all I need.
Good girl! Stay strong because the narc wants to destroy who they can’t control.
So true when you take control back they go nuts.
They crack into pieces.
They can't handle it.
You mess with there minds.
You flip the card back on them.
Narcs by nature are aggressive, and aggression is used to control others
You hit the nail on the head!!!!!!
100pc spot on!!!!!...they wouldn't dream of doing it to people outside as they need the adoration!!!..."look at me, what a wonderful person l am "....Jekyll and hyde personality!!!!!...
Also, without control, it disempowers them, and they feel inadequate
Facts
They are 💪
And resentful victim!
They Narc didn't break me down. I left him know that I am a strong person, so I like to see them frustrated at not being able to break me down.
Thanks for your videos...I can really relate to them.
I grew up with a narc Father and a Mother who was in denial and always making excuses for him. I was robbed of my childhood because of him. I would describe him as a controlling bully who is soul less and numb to all feelings (his own and others).
From the outside everything looked ok, I was well fed and clothed and lived in a nice house. He was a pillar of the community!
Behind closed doors and when my Mother was at work I was physically and emotionally abused. This went on for 19 years untill I left home.
Narcissists are tyrants who destroy lives....get away from them as quickly as possible.
I'm 48 years old and have mental health problems because of him. They are very dangerous people!!
Hi Andrea...thank you for sharing. I am so sorry to hear of your personal experience with these devils. You are a strong woman. I wish you Peace🌷
You nailed it! Control is what they can’t live without.
@The Last Spartan 👏
@@psychictruth5037 ghggggg
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So true Clarice. I know a female covert narc who is way older and is dating a teenager. I tried to understand why and now I know it is for control. She gets this teenager to do anything for her!
Wow
She also feels “forever young” and a younger partner is physically “perfect” so it’s superficial mostly
@J P My ex-narc told me she had dated a teenager before. She stated his *mind* became so screwed up. He ended up in the *state hospital* . I didn't know what a narc was when I started dating her. Now that I have done research, and after all this 47 year old woman put me (46) through. I can just imagine the *trauma* , that teenagers will endure dealing with these ☢️ people.... Hell, she almost drove my old experienced ass insane.
@John Staples I hear you. A teenager may look at a older person from a physical standpoint but they fail to understand how they can be manipulated and used on an emotional level. To eaches own but the teenager or young adult does not have the emotional maturity or insight especially to deal with a toxic, malignant narc. Easy prey for the Narc to Control and possibly ruin. I pray for all
@Desiigner And we men have to start voicing out on the *female* abusers....
Control is a form of witchcraft or blind witchcraft
How to get rid of them. I had stronghold prayers for freedom restoration
True! Narcissist cant live with out power & control!
At final discard you’ll hear “I won because….. “.
This is exactly how I remember the sum of all the efforts, in every living moment, of a relationship attempt. You dont get clarity in the fog of their presence. You slowly regain yourself in zero contact. You reach that point in aftermath that chills go down your spine realizing you were being murdered mentally. No exaggeration. And always, always with introspection to understand how you got there. Most likely, a vulnerability. Once that is abated, you cannot get caught in a situation you now have knowledge of. Plus the heightened awareness of what you havnt yet seen or experienced. Then, with the collective education, you can reach discernments without having to go through the gauntlet of someone else disorder.
I experienced this in my whole relationship. I had to finally run
Narcs are also habitual and cannot handle spontaneous changes . They live by a regimen, and if there are changes, they have to re-adapt, which can be difficult for them
They need and cannot live without someone to abuse.
Sad but TRUE!
Good bye to some one who wants to destroy my life and brain! I need my dearest brain. Be with those ‘s healthy at all! Run!
Fathers a covert narc, I was 9 when I was had a TBI because he didnt want to drive me to school. The brain trauma with the cognitive dissonance etc..my brain is mush and no one knows my state of being.
Thank you, I thought my eyes was open to these creatures, but you just open them even wider thank you.
*Narcissist* mindset: ‘It’s better to be feared than loved’....
Wow
They are Machiavelli followers
@@dontbelongherefromanother yep
More true words have never been spoken
True however they live in fear, because anger is driven by fear.
Imo control is for a relationship, to keep one person as a means of wealth and if applicable status. To have a "base", both foundation and home from which they can do as they please, to get what "supply" they can. It's also to keep as many people as they can, for as much "supply" as they can get... but "supply" is what they really need, control is just a means to get it. Without "supply" they would crumble, go "hungry", and possibly insane or suicidal.
Exposing the narcissist could be very easily retitled "exposing the devil"
And be 10000000000000% ACCURATE
First time my ex pissed me off so bad that i yelled at her, she literally burst into laughter and couldnt stop
It is indeed Clarice one of their biggest fears and point to not to be in control.
A narcissist thinks when they are in control the other party will be loyal to them, adore them, stay with them under all circumstances, never doubt their intentions.
I ended the relationship with my covert narcissist ex partner because I was fed up with her lies, flaws and fake self.
It was one huge façade.
One, she thought by putting demands I maybe would break and be completely under her influence or two she could easily go on to her next supply.
It was option two.
That's when my boundaries were finally reached after stretching them up so many times in a short period in our relationship.
It was the final push out of this fake and toxic relationship.
More than control they want to avoid negative emotions.
THEY HATE THEMSELVES, TOTALLY THE ONES THAT ONLY GOD CAN LOVE...THEY WANT TO BE US,THEY WANT US TO BE THEM...REMEMBER 'THE ONE WHO POINTS THE FINGER AT YOU, HAS THREE MORE
POINTING BACK AT HIM...
@Too Much straight facts!
Truth!!
@Too Much THEY ARE THE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS 24/7, 365..
Yes, I’ve seen the multiple masks of narcissists in full HD play right in front of my eyes. 👀😳😱 and I’ve seen and heard multiple personality changes while narc is sleep talking. 😮😳😬
All this stuff they have to do sounds tiring.
Imagine how much energy and time they spend trying to control someone and they're not even in control of themselves! ( it's witchcraft)
It's much more tiring for the person who lives with them..!!!.never knew anything about NARCISSISM then,...the pieces in the puzzle all fit now..!!!!🤔🤔🤔 split personality!!!...to the people on the outside they are charm personified,..the people they live with have to deal with their shit..!!!!they really are two people😈 🤯🥴🥴😱
It must be that's why their so mentally insane. Just keeping up with all the people they cheat with must be hard work just remembering who's who and where to and when to meet them is a time table within its self. Total nut jobs
It's exhausting for the victim ,I can assure you that.
@@switchieone4488 😆👏
Fear is the driving force of all control. Probably why it’s considered a sin punishable by Hell. All Liars, and Fearful will have their place in the Lake of Fire
You are so spot on. I did a video called What Drives The Narcissist ua-cam.com/video/feBPJ41_kHU/v-deo.html and you said it, FEAR!
Exposing the Narcissist Thanks for the video! I’ll check it out now! ❤️
I remember when my Narc once had control over me at the work place. It was so bad that I almost had to quit my job and it was also worse at home through text messaging. But once I started getting my family involved she got scared but it was still bad at work. But when my two aunts came to visit my workplace she was nowhere to be seen
Good for you, I had to leave my job. Her crap, just became to much to endure.... ☢️
I left my job, too. But I'm grateful because I can sleep at night. No more NARC.
Everything mentioned in this video is spot on; I was saying yes to everything and especially to the manipulation and control.
The last thing I said to my narc mother was...I am not doing what you want me to do and that is really what your problem is. It was like a malfunction occured and for once she had no response. Praying this no contact lasts the rest of my life this time. Great video as always
At the beginning of the relationship i hadn’t noticed the control game but when I did, I told him to go control HIMSELF and that he wasn’t going to control me 😡
Defintely bullying to control for sure.
They are just evils!
True!
“You’re judging me!” “I am the glue that holds my family together!” “I am my children’s only parent!” “I wish you’d do what I’m doing” These phrases just echo in my head in retrospect. Fear of losing control....that’s exactly why the female covert narcs in my life were always so fearful
This was insightful. The NEED to be controlling is just as important as to control. That is very insightful
Yes my older sis are a Narcissist definitely
“In their Robotic minds!” 😂😂😂 I hate those people...
They are terrible
Definitely true from my experience with different covert narcs.
Very true,since im in relationship with narc,i have no friends anymore
Absolute truth, All throughout my 26 years of marriage...my ex complained of me being controlling because he could not control me..I love all your videos..many thanks.
I found out about Narcissistic people only a few months ago after trying to figure out what was wrong with my husband..
Thank you for making this video and here it is I thought that I was the problem.
You don’t deserve it, cause you are a proper human.
So if you have a good-looking male therapist Christian therapist who knows everything about you. Which a therapist seems to be entitled to know in order to help you then they can control you manipulate you. And then tell you you're the crazy one.
A narcissist whom I know just intimidate me yesterday, she waited for me at the entrance of a mall with 4 men with her. She called me and ask me that why I am ignoring her boyfriend. She told me if I am her friend I should not ignore her boyfriend and ask the four men telling am i right guys.! What I did is I shouted her why you want to control me. She get rage. I show to her that I am not intimidated with the four men. I knew she and her boyfriend wants to get something from me.
You are simply the most exquisite magician! I LOVE you Clarice! 🤩🤩🤩
🌹🤗
Why do they need control? It's because their egos have been shattered long ago, in early childhood, by their own narcissistic parents.
The ego recognizes boundaries between people, it reality tests, and it maintains a reasonable self-image and stable identity. You'll notice narcissists can do none of these things. That's because the narc's ego is defunct. People talk about narcissists having big egos, but I think that they actually have busted ones. Their own narcissistic parents never allowed autonomy, so the narcissist never developed a real sense of self.
We're all just ego functions to a narcissist. We have to prop them up 24/7. They're like one-legged men who need crutches.
We're the crutches. That's what we are---a crutch for an emotionally crippled person.
Your comment is very interesting. Being a narcissistic crutch is so incredibly draining!
100pc right !!! And very draining ...your the giver & there the taker!!!...
@The Last Spartan I wouldn't call them "losers.". I would cal them " psychotic," because under the mask of sanity, they're insane. You can't get rid of mental illness by making someone else mentally ill, but they keep pursuing this failed strategy.
Narcissists want to visit their mental illness on others. They think they can just "put" it in another person, like someone pouring water into a cup, and presto-changeo---it's gone! They're not sick anymore!
It's an tacit admission that they know they're unwell. If they didn't know it, they wouldn't be trying to "put" it on others.
They're not as unaware as some people think. Forget how they superficially act. All narcissists know they're head cases, and they're pissed off at those with greater mental health. They hate it!!!
I hate when people blame childhood trauma as an excuse for the Narcissist's behaviour, most people went through childhood trauma but did not choose to become demonic as the Narcissist.
Also I don't know if anyone has really thought through that not all Narcissist had a bad childhood or was spoiled at childhood.
All I know is Narcissist are born evil and what ever trauma they go through just kind of ignites it.
Trust me I am speaking out of experience.
I have dealth with seven Narcissist, my whole life is with Narcissists to the point where I became suicidal.
O0n my way to recovery now.
Two were marriages, two were my own blood brothers, two were my own children, boys that I gave birth to and one is my landlord.
I know for sure they are born evil they are Demons dangerous and nasty people they will not care to destroy their own family just to be right for the even trivial things.
They are sick, blaming it on childhood trauma is one of the reasons that has made them get away with their crimes because it's almost as if people have to feel sorry for them while they can not stop at anything to destroy you.
I was left with four boys to raise, was always called a bastared and useless by their dad my first grandious Narcissist x husband. The second was a covert Narcissist I had my little girl by he was deadly and was camilioon.
Yes I agree and can relate to everything you said. And with the knowledge we're taking our power back.
Very sad but 💯 Facts
Well done Clarice, another brilliant video. Thank you for the great reminder that with Narcissists it is all about control, I was begining to forget this, I will make sure this time I keep it in mind always as I am still under attack. May God be with you and bless you in Jesus Name. Thank you so much. Ian.
He wants to have power over everyone.
Love your voice, vocabulary & content!
Narcissist need fresh supply but its staile after 2 months and take away the praise
That's when they start nitpicking about trivial things to get narc supply
Thank you Clarice you are SPOT ON THE TRUTH Queen 👑 💯
Yupp absolutely nailed it! Loving these videos thank you ❤️👌
I appreciate your explanation.
Thank you.
I miss my narcissist. I still feel that I could have improved her with more love, although I gave a lot of it, but I feel I could have done more.
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Never will work . They don’t want to change.
Yess its sadly nothing but misery with them 😭
everything you sed I have bin true it with a narcissist friend thank you very much for in lighting this it will keep me awake from these narcissist in future 👍
This should be called the everything you need to know about Bonnie
Thanks Clarice, learning so much from your videos...
You are so welcome!💖
Your videos are the best for me and what I'm going thru with my husband...ty
Control is such a hard thing to see but I see how very much it underlies everything. Apparently, when someone else has all my control, I feel very much anxiety, and I can't figure out why. I have been pondering that for a long time and now I think that I need to address how to take my power back! Thank you Clarise for reminding me of this BOTTOM LINE. It is the only thing that completely explains what is happening with me and my father. He got control very early so I barely had a sense of what my own will was! When someone says I can do anything I want, I don't know what to do. But I am certainly going to work on that, Clarise!
Know your power! Know your worth! Happy Holidays and thank you for your support in 2022!🙏
I am willing to let go of love and control to be happy.
What's sad is you totally buy into it. Or I'm sure there's a present or cash or something. You don't do anything without a payout
We think we're in a reciprocal relationship. But there's no relationship, just bondage.
@@lisarochwarg4707 that's it. Narcs aren't altruistic when they help others
I really don't get how they can keep such a mindset. It's beyond ANYBODY'S ability to control people, places, and things long-term. You would THINK they would eventually figure that out--their lives are literally strewn with actual evidence of that fact. And in figuring that out, you would think the next logical step would be to implement change, because obviously their way doesn't work and is the common denominator in their chaotic, unsatisfactory lives.
But, that would be the healthy, adult thing to do.
I guess I would still rather be the narcissists' victim than the narcissist, despite the pain they put me through. I have a CHANCE at better--what chance does an untreated, unmotivated narcissist have?? I can ALMOST feel pity for them.
Almost.
my narc wife has gps on my phone and car , she trys to control my feelings,
My narc ex-wife would go through my closet searching every pocket, go through my car searching the glove box and console, go through my emails when I wasn't there, go through my cell phone searching for evidence of infidelity or whatever. She never found anything and was sorely disappointed because I had nothing to hide. Of course she did this because she knew that she herself was untrustworthy and she expected others to be like she was. Her flying monkey birth family have tried four times in the past year to contact me for her. I've gone 100% no contact and that is exactly the way it will remain. Karma will do the rest.
Leave her. You deserve better.
I’m no Narc but I’m glad what I saw on her phone still text her ex and another lad she was working with .....I walked out on her
RUN , RUN , RUN and never look back.
True. Thanks🌹🌹
Thanks I need it
Control is just an illusion.
Thanks for a very informative video
My pleasure💖
The narcissist like older lonely weman they can control them I was 18 older than my narc he was always asking me didn't I fell good becase a younger man wanted me.I would never say yess
He just continues on and on trying to get the answer he wanted..
He been out of my life for 21/2 years
Thank you God
@@Shirleyjeanholt narcs always find ways to bring others down
100% thank you
You have said it all ma'am.
I see through my stbx covert narc husband now, he even tried to control me after discarding me. These people are insane!
Your articles are right where they are supposed to be, now i certainly know what these people are they RIP your heart out. Thanks for these information.
this abasute is sooo Deeeepppppp🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Just describe my ex-covert narc to the science. Thankful to God I got away I’m grateful & blessed🙏🏽
Straordinariamente chiaro.!
Since i have a brother that is a narcissist you described his behavior to a T.
This is why your life is a piece of shit. But as long as mommy is still your supreme ruler what's that matter.
Enjoy ignoring narcs. Enjoy live without them. Celebrate and keep going living your life and make sure that you understand how pathetic it makes you having to support an controlling mindfuck. Just walk away and celebrate and chill out.
Thank you for hope us
I agree but some Narcissist like my ex who wants to be so Control is a shame he has no control over his life. I see it as a parodox control as I was dealing with a low budget type Narcissist.
Ba'al-Lord, owner, posessor, husband!
Greek mythology Ba'al (Bel Belos)- deity of Semites, founder of Babel (Babylon-word salad)!
Aryan root Bhal "to shine"- Covert, overt, malignant.. narcissists are all false lights!!!
I always thought my ex Narc was embarrassed of me and that's why I never got to meet his friends. I soon realized he just didn't have any friends. When I lived with him he didn't allow me to have my friends over at all. And if I did he would avoid them all together and make fun of them after they left. Snarky comments like "Dig the blue hair... Cute she still dresses like it's 1986."
How sad...no friends but talking smack about yours. SMH
Well this is so true
so so thank you ms❤
You are very welcome.
Solid video!!!
I am done .....
They would take all your goodness the are so so jealous and immature just like little kids stuck in a tantrum ❣️✨🙏🏼
Wow... It's true....😲😲😲😲
FACTS!!
Realise this is an old video but what I truly find to be amazing is how a woman who barely finished high school could become this smart this manipulating this controlling in such a short time with no training whatsoever! How does this happen! Doctors take at least eight or more years!
Thank you very much this was so informative I am so well spoken!! People often speak about what’s a narcissist do I want to know what do you do where is available to help them?? LOVENJOI 💕💕💕
You are so welcome. Please check out my blog for an answer to your question clariceonnarcissism.com/
Oww wowww??? I never know that. Gratefully i am not like that. But am i a narc??? Pls be true on me. Im ready to change n make correction in my life seriously for better for me n other people n make sure i n other feel good for each other n feel comfort
My religious group has a narcissist, she has an extreme competitive nature and fiercly fights for leadership. I rely on my spiritual practice for support but this person has a very negative effect on my life. All my life, my relatives have done damage because they are narcissists, finally my knowledge of this disorder has given me to tools, i.e. no or limited contact have helped me. This situation is something I need to deal with because I need my religious practice. Any advice?
Narcissist don't do happy!
I loved this video! Excellent insight!!
Glad it was helpful!