If a husband refuses to provide for his wife is that abandonment? Also what is a nonbeliever? So many claim to be saved and love Jesus, how do we know?
He is correct that just because a serious sin (abuse, neglect, drug use, financial negligence, etc) is not listed as an explicit biblical ground for divorce does not make it any less valid. He is also right to reject the notion that you cannot remarry after a valid divorce. You don't need explicit permission to do something that isn't recognized as sin in Scripture.
1 Corinthians 7:10-11: 10To the married I give this command - not I, but the Lord - a wife is not to leave her husband. 11But if she does leave, she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband - and a husband is not to divorce his wife.
If I am already divorced and remarried, how do I repent? What should I do to make it right in God's sight? The options for repentance in this situation include leaving your current partner and reconciling with your original partner if possible. If reconciliation with your original partner is impossible, you should remain single. You have a difficult decision to make-you can either continue to live with your current partner for the rest of this life or choose to live with Jesus for all eternity, but you can't do both.
"No civil, legal, religious, cultural, or state divorce is valid in the eyes of God. This includes all human divorces that have taken place on planet Earth since Adam and Eve sinned. Not a single one of them severed the one-flesh union of a lawful marriage. They all took place without God’s permission. They were all unilateral decisions, as they are to this day, and will be to the end of time."
The Bible covers all situations and circumstances regarding divorce and remarriage. For example, no one has to stay in an abusive situation because the Bible says you can seperate, or reconcile. Those Divorced (while their spouse is still living) must remain unmarried or reconcile. Moses allowed divorce in the old testament because people's heart's were hard. BUT, Jesus said, it wasn't that way in the beginning of creation; marriage is a Covenant (let no man seperate)...never was it in God's plan that we get divorced (two are one flesh). Bible is clear in several scriptures, if you divorce, you can NOT remarry or you will be an adulterer, if your wife or husband is still alive and/or has NOT died. And, No adulterer will inherit the Kindom of God. Word for word, The Bible says, "So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress:" if he/she depart (divorce/separate) remain unmarried or reconcile 1 Corinthians 7:11, Romans 7:2-3; Luke 16:18, Matthew 5:32, 19:9 etc. Remarriage is for Widows/Widowers. Marriage is for Virgins and Those Burning with Passion/Lust (ie. Fornicators/ Repentant-Fornicators never married). Divorce is for None (Death do us part). Jesus SAID fornication-he used greek word, “porneia” Matthew 1:18-24………Mary and Joseph had not come together yet. They were betrothed....Joseph found Mary pregnant and was thinking of “putting her away”...In other words, BEFORE Joseph had taken Mary to wife, they were considered as husband and wife by Jewish customs, even though the actual marriage ceremony had not been fully effectuated. For example scripture reads, in Matthew 1:19-20, "Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not wanting to make her a public example, was minded to put her away secretly. But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit." None of us can deny that Joseph COULD put Mary away for “porneia” before the final wedding (during the betrothal). Since we see Jesus using both Porneia (fornication) AND Mocheia(adultery), it should cause us to wonder why He chose to use two different terms.
Views that have also been expressed on Standing Strong For Marriages channel, which does not agree with those who are standing for their covenant (one flesh) marriages to be reconciled.
In marriage, sexual immorality always = Adultory. The Greek word used here is Porneo which also means Fornication (as correctly translated in the King James bible), which can only happen outside of marriage . An example for this occurrence would be Joseph an Mary. Marriage is seen by God as a Covenant, so the rules of a covenant applies in marriage. The marriage covenant is binding till one of the parties dies, then only can you re-marry.
God instituted marriage, and it's remarkable that in the second chapter of Genesis, there's a statement that Jesus later quoted and that Paul references as fundamental. Genesis 1 says, "God made male and female." Genesis 2 states that it's "right for a man to leave his own family, to leave his parents and to cleave to his wife." The word "cleave" is powerful; it signifies being glued to his wife, sticking and staying attached to her for as long as they both shall live. This sets the standard for the relationship between male and female as intended by God: one man married to one woman for life.
Can I get a divorce if my spouse commits adultery? Never! Can I get a divorce if my spouse is abusive to me? No! Can I get a divorce if I no longer love my spouse? Absolutely not! Can I get a divorce if my spouse has abandoned me? No, you can't! So, under what circumstances can I get a divorce? Absolutely none. The Bible is absolutely clear: only death can dissolve a marriage in God's sight. Our only option is to separate from our spouse and stay single. If things get better between our spouse and us, we can get back together (1 Corinthians 7:10-11, Bible). But what about the exception in Matthew 5:31-32 and Matthew 19:1-9? There is no exception in Matthew's gospel: Once you are married, you are married for life. Once married, always married until death do us part, with no exceptions. This applies to all human beings, regardless of whether you are a sinner or a saint.
Can you explain Matthew chapter 19:9 this is Jesus talking, And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committed adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away, doth commit adultery. Jesus used the word wife and literally said the word except please explain what that means. It sounds like an exception to me coming from the mouth of Jesus and he’s not talking about a fiancé because that’s like putting away your girlfriend of course that’s not a sin.He said the word wife.
@@danielhipp5541 The word fornication implies outside of marriage, as with the situation between Joseph and Mary, He planned to divorce her due to fornication (outside of marriage, they were engaged).
@@wesselpretorius2824 I do get that but he said wife. if you put away your fiancé, we know that that is not a sin that’s like putting away your girlfriend it’s a mute point there’s no sin there. I understand what you’re saying. I’ve heard that all my life, but he did say wife you got to admit that there is a argument there we can’t deny that he said wife not fiancé.
@@wesselpretorius2824 I Corinthians 7:27-28 it says here if you are lose from a wife and you marry again, you have not sinned. please explain all this I just wanna know the truth whatever the truth is.
The state in Wich a couple is married should offer treatment and counseling instead of a divorce or separation depending if the couple has children and the first child should be given up for adoption and can't live with their birth parents untill the age of 21.
I think one of the big reasons why believers ask questions about divorce, it's not merely for separating from their current spouse, but it's to know if there are any loopholes to marry someone else. When Jesus says, "Except for sexual immorality", that doesn't mean that is the only reason for divorce. What Jesus is saying in Matthew 5:32 is that if you divorce your wife, you cause her to commit adultery. Unless she has been unfaithful, then she would have already committed adultery. Paul says in Romans 7:1-3 that death of the spouse is the only reason you can marry another. Even *IF* Jesus meant that sexual immorality was the only reason you could divorce your wife, that doesn't therefor mean you are now free to marry a new woman. You must remain unmarried. "whoever marries a woman (or man) who is divorced commits adultery" Matthew 5:32.
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. However, the wife, in the above scriptures, is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews (that Jesus was speaking to) were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39. Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel. The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7. Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death. The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. Christ's death on the cross caused the Jews to become dead to the law of Moses, so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the ordinances of law of Moses as justification, over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the ordinances of the law is no longer possible, for Israel, and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15. Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife. Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned, by an unbelieving spouse, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way some translations word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not enslaved" which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, which is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 shows the Apostle Paul giving those who are abandoned permission to remarry, do not understand the command that Christ gives is to an abandoned husband, in 1 Corinthians 7:11, and that he "must not divorce" his wife, and his wife is commanded to "remain unmarried or else be reconciled" to her husband. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh, due to one's unbelief, puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, and himself, by implying that Paul has issued an opposing command to verses 10-14 in verse 15. Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16. The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions. The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24. Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans, and likewise Luke to evangelize the Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
Both deal with Unfaithfulness. It is Unfaithful to abuse your spouse Spiritually, Emotionally, Verbally, Financially, Sexually or Physically. Pornography is included in adultery because it is Unfaithful. Intimacy avoidance I s included in an Unbeliever leaving because it dooms the spouse to a life without love. See Deut passages on the requirement for loving even a slave wife. Counsel from the Whole of Scripture.
@@shelleyd9910 Another Pharisee. You adding to scripture. Unfaithfull and Abuse is not the same meaning. Seperation yes FOR abuse no divorce.. As gor the rest of your comment you add to scripture as you go along. As for old testament about divorce we are not umder mosaic law.
Child molestation is sexual immorality and cheating. As soon as the spouse touches one of the kids, it's over. The spouse is supposed to protect the other. If there's physical abuse then the spouse has abandoned their role. Therefore, divorce is justified.
According to some here, a wife should allow the husband to molest the children because it isn't during the betrothal period. Also, they believe that that the wife should allow the husband to beat her and the children within an inch of life due to "marriage permanence," or she loses her salvation. You have read that scripture, haven't you? The one that said that second marriages should be deserted and that the individual should return to the former spouse? Wait.....
@@Thomas116-m2n it's a general rule. of course there are exceptions. God isnt agaisnt common sense. Jesus did break the sabbath to save people, didnt He?
I don’t know about divorce, but it’s emotional adultery and Messiah’s teachings really pointed to heart issues. Is she repentant? Do you want to restore the marriage? There is hope in forgiveness and putting in boundaries. Only you can answer some of those questions.
@@amyeverett2676 thanks Amy for your input on this subject. I want to reconcile but I feel that she will continue to do this every time we have a disagreement.
This UA-camr has given a lot of information that is not in the scriptures while giving other information out of context. Correction: The context of "I hate divorce says the Lord God" is not that he hates divorce by itself but rather that he hates divorce because it means someone has sinned --- either by divorcing and remarrying for the wrong reason (leading to sin of adultery), or divorcing and remarrying for the right reason (spousal adultery having occurred). Just a divorce by itself is a certificate. Correction: The bible doesn't teach divorce as a last resort - anywhere. Divorce is a remedy for when the sin of adultery has occurred. (Matthew 5:32 and 19:9). Think of it this way: If someone shoots my arm off out of anger, the bible teaches that I must forgive him --- but I may still have to live with one arm. Correction: Paul does not teach divorce for abandonment in 1 Corinthians 7:15. That's a huge stretch in reading into verses. 1) Paul would not be contradicting Jesus, 2) Paul would have used the word divorce as he had in other places when he was actually talking about divorce - but didn't 3) divorces puts a nail in a coffin that might otherwise be a situation of repentance and reconciliation, 4) the goal of Paul's teachings is to "keep the peace" which is already achieved by separation or "let them leave" and 5) God defined marriage as two becoming one and it is hard to see how divorce fits into this principle.
You would never understand until you have been left behind in the cold to take care of your family and left you with a third party. Have some compassion to people that are going through pain not only emotionally but also going through financial problem due to abandonment . What this youtuber is saying is correct. Until you been in the same situation, you will never fully understand....
@@Bebe-hz5tg Oh I understand. I lost everything because of abandonment and lies by my wife. I lost my wife, house, livelihood/business, friends, kids, reputation all essentially overnight while in an icu bed fighting for my life after an accident. The courts made sure I got my kids back. I know of that which I speak. I am divorced forced by the courts but I still wear my ring.
@@shadowmist1246 sorry to hear that. I believe the bible is meant to guide us but I'm sure God being a merciful and loving God will understand what we are going through in life. And I'm sure he wants us to be happy. If a marriage is broken due to adultery and abandonment. I believe God will allow divorce to give us peace in our mind. He wouldn't want us to be stuck unhappy for the rest of our life. Hope and wish you all the best in your life. God bless 🙏
@@Bebe-hz5tg You are right that God is merciful and loving and he does understand what we are going through and even allows hardship to get us back on track. And yes he wants us to be happy. As for God allowing divorce, he already gave his position on this. Adultery severs a marriage and therefore divorce and remarriage is allowed for the unadultering party. If no adultery, then one is to stay single if separated --- which is my current situation. Jesus and Paul have given instructions to the married to prevent adultery but in Matthew 19:9 and 5:32, Jesus also covered post-adultery.
@@shadowmist1246 God is telling me you don't need to remain single. If that's your choice then so be it but if someone like you who went through abandonment, pain, financial problem, heartache due to this abandonment and wish to remarry after his divorce then God is OK with it. God is saying the Bible is meant as a guide and not to be taken as the deal breaker in your life because God also would want the person who went through a rough abandonment to move on with his life. New love means new hope. Get rid of your ring. That's just making you more miserable and always reminding you of what has happen to you in the past. You need to move on but like I said if you choose to be single. Then that's good for you.
The state in Wich a couple is married should offer treatment and counseling instead of a divorce or separation depending if the couple has children and the first child should be given up for adoption and can't live with their birth parents untill the age of 21.
"Once you're married, you're married for life; only death can undo it!"
Thank you for posting this video. I found it very informative and helpful.
Marriage cannot be undone; when you're married, you’re married for life; only death can undo it!
If a husband refuses to provide for his wife is that abandonment? Also what is a nonbeliever? So many claim to be saved and love Jesus, how do we know?
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He is correct that just because a serious sin (abuse, neglect, drug use, financial negligence, etc) is not listed as an explicit biblical ground for divorce does not make it any less valid. He is also right to reject the notion that you cannot remarry after a valid divorce.
You don't need explicit permission to do something that isn't recognized as sin in Scripture.
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1 Corinthians 7:10-11:
10To the married I give this command - not I, but the Lord - a wife is not to leave her husband. 11But if she does leave, she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband - and a husband is not to divorce his wife.
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If I am already divorced and remarried, how do I repent? What should I do to make it right in God's sight? The options for repentance in this situation include leaving your current partner and reconciling with your original partner if possible. If reconciliation with your original partner is impossible, you should remain single. You have a difficult decision to make-you can either continue to live with your current partner for the rest of this life or choose to live with Jesus for all eternity, but you can't do both.
That last reply was the forty first comment on this page.
"No civil, legal, religious, cultural, or state divorce is valid in the eyes of God. This includes all human divorces that have taken place on planet Earth since Adam and Eve sinned. Not a single one of them severed the one-flesh union of a lawful marriage. They all took place without God’s permission. They were all unilateral decisions, as they are to this day, and will be to the end of time."
The Bible covers all situations and circumstances regarding divorce and remarriage. For example, no one has to stay in an abusive situation because the Bible says you can seperate, or reconcile. Those Divorced (while their spouse is still living) must remain unmarried or reconcile. Moses allowed divorce in the old testament because people's heart's were hard. BUT, Jesus said, it wasn't that way in the beginning of creation; marriage is a Covenant (let no man seperate)...never was it in God's plan that we get divorced (two are one flesh). Bible is clear in several scriptures, if you divorce, you can NOT remarry or you will be an adulterer, if your wife or husband is still alive and/or has NOT died. And, No adulterer will inherit the Kindom of God. Word for word, The Bible says, "So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress:" if he/she depart (divorce/separate) remain unmarried or reconcile 1 Corinthians 7:11, Romans 7:2-3; Luke 16:18, Matthew 5:32, 19:9 etc.
Remarriage is for Widows/Widowers. Marriage is for Virgins and Those Burning with Passion/Lust (ie. Fornicators/ Repentant-Fornicators never married). Divorce is for None (Death do us part).
Jesus SAID fornication-he used greek word, “porneia” Matthew 1:18-24………Mary and Joseph had not come together yet. They were betrothed....Joseph found Mary pregnant and was thinking of “putting her away”...In other words, BEFORE Joseph had taken Mary to wife, they were considered as husband and wife by Jewish customs, even though the actual marriage ceremony had not been fully effectuated. For example scripture reads, in Matthew 1:19-20, "Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not wanting to make her a public example, was minded to put her away secretly. But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit."
None of us can deny that Joseph COULD put Mary away for “porneia” before the final wedding (during the betrothal). Since we see Jesus using both Porneia (fornication) AND Mocheia(adultery), it should cause us to wonder why He chose to use two different terms.
Views that have also been expressed on Standing Strong For Marriages channel, which does not agree with those who are standing for their covenant (one flesh) marriages to be reconciled.
Yea, seems many channels on YT dont agree with the marriage permenance view. 😢
In marriage, sexual immorality always = Adultory. The Greek word used here is Porneo which also means Fornication (as correctly translated in the King James bible), which can only happen outside of marriage . An example for this occurrence would be Joseph an Mary.
Marriage is seen by God as a Covenant, so the rules of a covenant applies in marriage. The marriage covenant is binding till one of the parties dies, then only can you re-marry.
God instituted marriage, and it's remarkable that in the second chapter of Genesis, there's a statement that Jesus later quoted and that Paul references as fundamental. Genesis 1 says, "God made male and female." Genesis 2 states that it's "right for a man to leave his own family, to leave his parents and to cleave to his wife." The word "cleave" is powerful; it signifies being glued to his wife, sticking and staying attached to her for as long as they both shall live. This sets the standard for the relationship between male and female as intended by God: one man married to one woman for life.
Can I get a divorce if my spouse commits adultery? Never!
Can I get a divorce if my spouse is abusive to me? No!
Can I get a divorce if I no longer love my spouse? Absolutely not!
Can I get a divorce if my spouse has abandoned me? No, you can't!
So, under what circumstances can I get a divorce? Absolutely none. The Bible is absolutely clear: only death can dissolve a marriage in God's sight. Our only option is to separate from our spouse and stay single. If things get better between our spouse and us, we can get back together (1 Corinthians 7:10-11, Bible).
But what about the exception in Matthew 5:31-32 and Matthew 19:1-9? There is no exception in Matthew's gospel: Once you are married, you are married for life.
Once married, always married until death do us part, with no exceptions. This applies to all human beings, regardless of whether you are a sinner or a saint.
Can you explain Matthew chapter 19:9 this is Jesus talking, And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committed adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away, doth commit adultery. Jesus used the word wife and literally said the word except please explain what that means. It sounds like an exception to me coming from the mouth of Jesus and he’s not talking about a fiancé because that’s like putting away your girlfriend of course that’s not a sin.He said the word wife.
@@danielhipp5541 The word fornication implies outside of marriage, as with the situation between Joseph and Mary, He planned to divorce her due to fornication (outside of marriage, they were engaged).
@@wesselpretorius2824 I do get that but he said wife. if you put away your fiancé, we know that that is not a sin that’s like putting away your girlfriend it’s a mute point there’s no sin there. I understand what you’re saying. I’ve heard that all my life, but he did say wife you got to admit that there is a argument there we can’t deny that he said wife not fiancé.
@@wesselpretorius2824 I Corinthians 7:27-28 it says here if you are lose from a wife and you marry again, you have not sinned. please explain all this I just wanna know the truth whatever the truth is.
The state in Wich a couple is married should offer treatment and counseling instead of a divorce or separation depending if the couple has children and the first child should be given up for adoption and can't live with their birth parents untill the age of 21.
What is considered abandonment?
I think one of the big reasons why believers ask questions about divorce, it's not merely for separating from their current spouse, but it's to know if there are any loopholes to marry someone else.
When Jesus says, "Except for sexual immorality", that doesn't mean that is the only reason for divorce.
What Jesus is saying in Matthew 5:32 is that if you divorce your wife, you cause her to commit adultery. Unless she has been unfaithful, then she would have already committed adultery. Paul says in Romans 7:1-3 that death of the spouse is the only reason you can marry another.
Even *IF* Jesus meant that sexual immorality was the only reason you could divorce your wife, that doesn't therefor mean you are now free to marry a new woman. You must remain unmarried. "whoever marries a woman (or man) who is divorced commits adultery" Matthew 5:32.
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. However, the wife, in the above scriptures, is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews (that Jesus was speaking to) were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39.
Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel.
The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7.
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death.
The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. Christ's death on the cross caused the Jews to become dead to the law of Moses, so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the ordinances of law of Moses as justification, over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the ordinances of the law is no longer possible, for Israel, and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15.
Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife.
Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned, by an unbelieving spouse, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way some translations word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not enslaved" which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, which is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 shows the Apostle Paul giving those who are abandoned permission to remarry, do not understand the command that Christ gives is to an abandoned husband, in 1 Corinthians 7:11, and that he "must not divorce" his wife, and his wife is commanded to "remain unmarried or else be reconciled" to her husband. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh, due to one's unbelief, puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, and himself, by implying that Paul has issued an opposing command to verses 10-14 in verse 15.
Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16.
The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions.
The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24.
Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans, and likewise Luke to evangelize the Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
🥲👌🏻 kind sir. I appreciate your efforts. Thank you.
Abuse is biblical grounds for divorce?
@@grant2149 which scripture?
Sorry i was asking i see i wrote it wrong.
@@grant2149 separation, not divorce, according to the scriptures.
You said if there is any other reason for divorce except 2 biblical reasons. YOU SAID POSSIBLY. NO!!!!!! THERE IS NO OTHER BIBLICAL REASONS!!!
Both deal with Unfaithfulness. It is Unfaithful to abuse your spouse Spiritually, Emotionally, Verbally, Financially, Sexually or Physically. Pornography is included in adultery because it is Unfaithful. Intimacy avoidance I s included in an Unbeliever leaving because it dooms the spouse to a life without love.
See Deut passages on the requirement for loving even a slave wife.
Counsel from the Whole of Scripture.
@@shelleyd9910 Another Pharisee. You adding to scripture. Unfaithfull and
Abuse is not the same meaning. Seperation yes FOR abuse no divorce.. As gor the rest of your comment you add to scripture as you go along. As for old testament about divorce we are not umder mosaic law.
@@grant2149 Jesus was talking to people who were so.....
So the 10 commandments don't matter?
Child molestation is sexual immorality and cheating. As soon as the spouse touches one of the kids, it's over.
The spouse is supposed to protect the other. If there's physical abuse then the spouse has abandoned their role. Therefore, divorce is justified.
According to some here, a wife should allow the husband to molest the children because it isn't during the betrothal period. Also, they believe that that the wife should allow the husband to beat her and the children within an inch of life due to "marriage permanence," or she loses her salvation. You have read that scripture, haven't you? The one that said that second marriages should be deserted and that the individual should return to the former spouse? Wait.....
@@Thomas116-m2n it's a general rule. of course there are exceptions. God isnt agaisnt common sense. Jesus did break the sabbath to save people, didnt He?
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Is internet cheating grounds for divorce ? Even if she didn't have physical sex ???
I don’t know about divorce, but it’s emotional adultery and Messiah’s teachings really pointed to heart issues. Is she repentant? Do you want to restore the marriage? There is hope in forgiveness and putting in boundaries. Only you can answer some of those questions.
@@amyeverett2676 thanks Amy for your input on this subject. I want to reconcile but I feel that she will continue to do this every time we have a disagreement.
This UA-camr has given a lot of information that is not in the scriptures while giving other information out of context.
Correction: The context of "I hate divorce says the Lord God" is not that he hates divorce by itself but rather that he hates divorce because it means someone has sinned --- either by divorcing and remarrying for the wrong reason (leading to sin of adultery), or divorcing and remarrying for the right reason (spousal adultery having occurred). Just a divorce by itself is a certificate.
Correction: The bible doesn't teach divorce as a last resort - anywhere. Divorce is a remedy for when the sin of adultery has occurred. (Matthew 5:32 and 19:9). Think of it this way: If someone shoots my arm off out of anger, the bible teaches that I must forgive him --- but I may still have to live with one arm.
Correction: Paul does not teach divorce for abandonment in 1 Corinthians 7:15. That's a huge stretch in reading into verses. 1) Paul would not be contradicting Jesus, 2) Paul would have used the word divorce as he had in other places when he was actually talking about divorce - but didn't 3) divorces puts a nail in a coffin that might otherwise be a situation of repentance and reconciliation, 4) the goal of Paul's teachings is to "keep the peace" which is already achieved by separation or "let them leave" and 5) God defined marriage as two becoming one and it is hard to see how divorce fits into this principle.
You would never understand until you have been left behind in the cold to take care of your family and left you with a third party. Have some compassion to people that are going through pain not only emotionally but also going through financial problem due to abandonment . What this youtuber is saying is correct. Until you been in the same situation, you will never fully understand....
@@Bebe-hz5tg Oh I understand. I lost everything because of abandonment and lies by my wife. I lost my wife, house, livelihood/business, friends, kids, reputation all essentially overnight while in an icu bed fighting for my life after an accident. The courts made sure I got my kids back. I know of that which I speak. I am divorced forced by the courts but I still wear my ring.
@@shadowmist1246 sorry to hear that. I believe the bible is meant to guide us but I'm sure God being a merciful and loving God will understand what we are going through in life. And I'm sure he wants us to be happy. If a marriage is broken due to adultery and abandonment. I believe God will allow divorce to give us peace in our mind. He wouldn't want us to be stuck unhappy for the rest of our life.
Hope and wish you all the best in your life. God bless 🙏
@@Bebe-hz5tg You are right that God is merciful and loving and he does understand what we are going through and even allows hardship to get us back on track. And yes he wants us to be happy. As for God allowing divorce, he already gave his position on this. Adultery severs a marriage and therefore divorce and remarriage is allowed for the unadultering party. If no adultery, then one is to stay single if separated --- which is my current situation. Jesus and Paul have given instructions to the married to prevent adultery but in Matthew 19:9 and 5:32, Jesus also covered post-adultery.
@@shadowmist1246 God is telling me you don't need to remain single. If that's your choice then so be it but if someone like you who went through abandonment, pain, financial problem, heartache due to this abandonment and wish to remarry after his divorce then God is OK with it. God is saying the Bible is meant as a guide and not to be taken as the deal breaker in your life because God also would want the person who went through a rough abandonment to move on with his life. New love means new hope. Get rid of your ring. That's just making you more miserable and always reminding you of what has happen to you in the past. You need to move on but like I said if you choose to be single. Then that's good for you.
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The state in Wich a couple is married should offer treatment and counseling instead of a divorce or separation depending if the couple has children and the first child should be given up for adoption and can't live with their birth parents untill the age of 21.