Will God Let Me Divorce a Narcissistic Spouse?
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- Опубліковано 8 лют 2025
- Being married to a narcissist can leave you feeling like you only have two choices: resign yourself to a life of misery or pack your bags and leave
but before you make a decision that will change your life, forever....Let's talk about 3 crucial categories to consider when contemplating a divorce from a narcissistic spouse.
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Psalm 139 1-16 awesome.
Hebrews 4 13And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.
James 1 5If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.
Song of Solomon 2 10-14 10My beloved spoke, and said to me:
“Rise up, my love, my fair one,
And come away.
11For lo, the winter is past,
The rain is over and gone.
12The flowers appear on the earth;
The time of singing has come,
And the voice of the turtledove
Is heard in our land.
13The fig tree puts forth her green figs,
And the vines with the tender grapes
Give a good smell.
Rise up, my love, my fair one,
And come away!
14“O my dove, in the clefts of the rock,
In the secret places of the cliff,
Let me see your face,
Let me hear your voice;
For your voice is sweet,
And your face is lovely.”
Matthew 24 32,33
I'd like to recommend a book for you: Invisible: When Fear and Shame Cause You to HIde.
Do you offer personal counseling?
I was married for 17 years to an abusive narcissist & there was no intimacy on any level. Just control through emotional, physical, mental & financial abuse. We cohabited until I finally filed for divorce. Then, the church people all blamed me & looked down at me & I left that church. He put on excellent display for the public eye. We had children so I waited for 17 years. I had planned it all out for years. Never regretted leaving. I’ve had peace from God. Very difficult decision. But, my marriage was a farce & a lie.
I am so proud of you!!! That was the right thing to do !! Bravo !!
You sound exactly like like me. A lot of people in the church didn’t understand. I waited til my youngest was 18 years old. The abuse was horrible. I prayed and Prayed, God told me to leave! The church world said God would never tell me that!
@@marlenehellmann8223 My heart goes out to you. Although, I know once you left you never looked back, I didn’t!!
Unbelievable that the church members told you both that ! It is horrible. God never want us to stay with someone and to be unhappy. Those people are fanatic they have no idea who God is and make you suffer by their words. I am glad you are happy now !
Same here...planning my way out now. Will leave him in about two years. After accumulating enough money
Betrayal is not just about infidelity. Repetitive lying is also betrayal.
Repetitive lying is the person need help which maybe spiritual. We as human constantly judge persons by their physical action but we much get to the source of their actions through prayer to the Lord and you maybe surprise. It can be generational sins and that person need deliverance. 😊
For sure!! Especially one who lives a double life!!
@@ericmckenzie6994 Exactly. I have been praying for my lying husband and binding the evil powers, and God showed me the source of his lies, and exposed all this, and gave me the will and ability to understand and forgive. He gave me my husband, so I took it to God, and He helped. Time will show if things have changed for good. God is good. Lies may result from the insecurities and narcissist cycles, even with a good person that still needs healing or deliverance.
Narcissist will never admit they need help
Exactly. My ex wife is the same way
Forgiveness does not mean enabling. God tells us to get away from toxic people and forgive them from afar.
AMEN!!!
You are 100% correct. Forgiveness is NOT reconciliation either. And getting away from toxic people is a must if you're to ever heal. A book called Invisible: When Fear and Shame Cause You to Hide explains exactly why that's critical
It's not your job to forgive when there is no sorrow, no repentance. It's your job to learn and grow
I agree
God tells us this where pls?
I was with my narcissistic husband for 30 years. If I didn’t divorce I would not be alive today. Thank You JESUS for Your deliverance.
Why 30 years?
@@Frank00 DON'T DO THAT!
If you can't be empathetic, then leave be!
Your opinion is not necessary or needed in the personal experiences a person is willing to air, it is not an invitation to come flaunt your opinion or a public polls arena for the elections.
If the concept of FELLOW FEELING is alien to you, then dignify yourself and keep silent.
BE DECENT IN HOW YOU CHOOSE TO TREAT PEOPLE.
26 years for me. He left me two months ago…and convinced the kids to turn against me, too. I’m only alive today because of God.
30 years too long!
@@jgg3701 same. They do so much damage and they couldn’t care less
My ex narcissist cheated, had orgies, called me delusional etc. He was verbally abusive. I prayed, fasted for a year and God released me from the marriage.
Godbless you JESUS is so good pleased you got freedom 🙏
@@joeywalton905 what prayer???
What fasting schedule???
@@nmc1859 isn't that personal?
@@AmandaCoates-x1e yes! Fasted for a week. Prayed,praised Him and let Him lead me
@@joeywalton905 in the Bible it’s clear you were free to leave once he had cheated. It seems like the fasting and praying was spiritually helpful to you, and that’s great, but you already had clear Biblical rights to leave.
This is a subject that I think the church really neglects. Abuse in any form is a covenant breaker. For thirteen years I put up with too much, And I was told by my church that God hates divorce, but he also hates abuse. I gave God the chance to fix my marriage, and I was discarded by my narcissist wife. Scripture says If an unbeliever wants to leave let them leave for your call to live in peace. I probably should have acted sooner to leave the marriage.But I didn't have the confirmation that I could from council. But I can honestly say that I'm a better person because God made me a better person. Thank you for your insight on this matter, Because many counselors and pastors would but touch this subject. Yes God hates divorce, but he also hates abuse
When the author of Invisible: When Fear and Shame Cause You to Hide submitted the manuscript to the publisher. They accepted it saying: "The Church needs to see this." The church does neglect abuse and some pastors often enable and defend the abuser.
I'm just waiting on the green light from God so I can finally divorce my narcissist husband
Seems that men are always the ones classed as narcissist and the abuser. Thank you for the words in your comment.
@@jimmy031408 I agree with and relate to your comment/experience 💯💯💯
You hit the nail on the head when you said abuse is a covenant breaker. In some cases, there is no covenant at all, but just a contract. And yes, most people in church leadership don’t have a clue, as they are governed by a religious spirit. Like the Pharisees of old, they read the letter of the law but ignore the Spirit of the law, God Himself.
I read this quote in a book I used to own on divorce from a pastor's perspective: " God cares more about the 2 individuals in the marriage than he cares about the marriage itself." The explanation went on to say that the abuser needs God's intervention to see their sin and repent and be made whole and the victim of abuse needs safety, healing and comfort from God to be made whole. The husband and the wife are both in need of God's touch, but if one of them is not able to let God in, Satan wins. That was the story of my "Christian marriage".
And then…? So they’re both condemned to hell because one spouse won’t receive God?
@@ashleynicole9423 who said getting a divorce condemns you to hell?
Thank you sooo very much for sharing this 🙌
That’s a false quote. There are no 2 individuals once a marriage takes place, because they become one flesh. This is literally embodied in children, and God cares more about the child in the marriage than the two individuals. It is a spiritual union, and God does not see the two parties separately.
Thank you for addressing the people out there who are abusing the word abuse. I am one of the ones who is being falsely accused of abuse. It’s a challenging situation, and many friends and family members have turned against me without asking me any questions. I have let it hurt me, I have retaliated in anger. But, I am beginning to understand that if God is all I have, then I have all I need. I can’t expect things from other people to benefit me. We are all fallen human beings. I cannot hold any grudges or resent anyone. I simply choose my response, now as I am responding to God alone. I can treat my surroundings as though it is a simulation and a test from God. Not taking anything personally. When people treat me badly, or say harsh things about me, or make assumptions, or reject me - I simply regarded as a test, and renew my strength in the Lord. I choose to respond with kindness and love. Not every situation, because God does call us to rebuke certain things. But overall, I would say if you let an abuser get you all broken up, then you play into the enemy’s hand. Don’t allow it. Just respond as God directs you to respond. Then, take no offense. Then live in spiritual peace, and according to God‘s will.
@@wyattbrule12688 Beautiful 🙏🏼
This is a profound level you have acheived brother
This is an awesome place to be, and dare I say... ONLY God. When provoked it's hard not to react in a unfashionable way. If ONLY you could just literally tube out on another frequency!! Would that even work, I'd hear, are you listening... What did I just say??! How rude.... Sometimes you can't win😳
Unfortunately "counseling" with or for a narcissist cannot work. They already believe they are smarter than the person helping. They already believe they are either God's chosen child or actually equal to or above God
Yes! He said God told him that when I don’t speak to him I wasn’t speaking to Him (God). Because he is God’s child.
Oh my days, I thought I was the only one that experienced this. My estranged one thinks he's a god.
@@gringotaxis2296 you hit the nail on the head
I left!! No adultery but I left!! So glad I did!! Found a wonderful man and married for 31 years until the Lord took him home. Yes ! The silent treatment IS abuse !! Especially when 6 months he pouted !! Bye. 👋
This is utter nonsense. Everyone thinks everyone is a narcissist. God can heal your marriage if you remain faithful.
Finally after 18 years of his adultery. I divorced the narcissist. I felt guilty and struggled but once he started bringing women to our home and our marriage bed I could no longer deal with the deliberate disrespect. Narcissists will continue in their infidelity and exploiting your kindness. I’m so happy now that God has healed me. I know it was the right thing to do. Praying for those who feel stuck. You do not have to tolerate infidelity from your spouse. Leave these demonic toxic relationships and don’t look back!
One adulterous relationship breaks the marriage vows. You don’t have to put up with any more.
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
Since my 12-year relationship ended, I know how hard it is to say goodbye to someone you love.
But I couldn't just let him go, so l did everything i could to win him back. I finally went to a spiritual counsellor for guidance, and he helped me win back his love.
It's fascinating! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor and how can I get in touch with one most effectively?
Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers and he's the best spell caster to ever live
Thank you for sharing this valuable insight. I just looked him up, and I'm genuinely impressed.
Did God let you marry him in the first place ?
Because not all marriages are okayed by God although he blesses all his children .
Facts
Yes. My mother stepped outside of God's will and married my father. God gave her innumerable times to leave, but she stayed until it got extremely extremely bad. My dad had an affair their 1st night home as a married couple.
No I didn't listen to God I take accountability this marriage wasn't from God at all I repented
@@shirlspark_stardust the good news is that our God is a forgiving God
God's commandment, Christians are to yolk with other Christians... AKA...Marry only Christians. 🙏🏻✝️
God knew I would have never left. I didn't know what a narcissist was because the therapists for 25 years said it was me, fed me 20,000 POISON PILLS, and years of therapy where they ignored TRAUMA......giving my narc the ammo to blame me because "they said its you!" BUT HEY, IT WAS ONLY 43 YEARS!
So God literally raptured me out of bed 3 years ago and saved me. I had 17 physical issues including malnutrition that was killing me! The onset of 2 eating disorders, autoimmune disease, many things.
I did NOT know I was being abused because they sad it was me....bipolar! Took every pill, showed up for every session that he would never attend to help or learn how to help me!
He cheated on me with my BFFs and probably others, drug abuse, financial catastrophe, controlling me by stonewalling, and gaslighting! I have endured flying monkeys and victim blaming. I've lost everyone because they chose him.
So 3 years ago, I was ready to start the circular argument again! My husband was even angry that i was seeking God for help. God literally picked me up and said "ENOUGH!" I threw him out the next day!
Today, God has given me peace and contentment. I'm still in my wilderness healing mind, body, and soul. It's me, Jesus, and my kitten in my RV! It is the best! I'm so grateful to God for rescuing me because I would have died had HE not told my to leave! I thought I was supposed to stay for God......He said,"ENOUGH!" AND now my life is His! It's faith and obedience!!! Oh, how I love God!
Thank you for your channel. You have helped me learn! I appreciate you!👑🙏💜
Congratulations! I can relate! U glow girl!!😊❤
The Lord Jesus is all we need Sister ✝️👑🥰💖
@@ohsocoolmitali I've been in counseling for over a year with an awesome Christian counselor. My criteria was....you must believe I should live my life for Jesus because He rescued me from this! I will not take 1 poison pill because I'm not bipolar! Narcissistic Abuse can not and is not my fault! I've made great progress! Thank you for your kindness! Be blessed!👑🙏💜
@@ohsocoolmitali well, if you mean counceling with my narcissist....I tried that! When he realized I was really done, because he never participated in any of my therapy that fed me the poison and bad therapy......he made flying monkeys of the "church counceling team" so it was 5 against 1!
Was that your point?
@@Mikaiah72 I'm so sorry.....my brother's narc wife destroyed our family! It is so difficult to see.......then you can't unsee it!
May God bless you and heal your heart & spirit!👑🙏💜
Will God let you divorce a Narcissistic spouse? Yes. He does not like divorce, but He LOVES YOU more than he hates divorce.
THANK YOU. Needed to hear this.
Nice
I needed to hear that.....
is also Jesus stated if your donkey fell in dog, you get them out on the Sabbath.....so 'break' the Sabbath, cause of Love for the donkey........I AM MORE VALUABLE THEN a DONKEY...NOT GUILTY OF DIVORCE CURSES IF DIVORCE MEANS LOVE FOR WHST JESUS LOVE, MY PEACE OF MIND
@@danielmiller1302 You know, I've been raised to believe divorce is wrong not just because God hates divorce (which is addressed well above), but because the marriage relationship is supposed to be a type of the marriage of Christ and the church-bride.
(From a woman's perspective but I think it can be applied in reverse as well...just etymology doesn't fit as well with "wife")....That said, "husband" is from "husbandman" ~ a husbandman was a gardener and did the things gardeners do...watered, fertilized, waited patiently, weeded, prayed, etc. He didn't manipulate the plants, lie to them, refuse to care for them, give them the opposite of what they needed, etc.
SO...if there can be a real shepherd and a hireling...I think there can be a real husband (or wife) and a false one. And the false one would be like the false god systems. God didn't ask us to stay attached to these gods, he told us to smash them, leave, come to Him, marry the true husband. SO....I've been taught NO divorce, and if you do...definitely NO remarriage until they're dead. Which means that I'm supposed to pray for an Abigail-Nabal situation? For God to bring about his death? I think not... Surely in cases where there is a false husband that's no husband at all (or wife remember)...you can divorce him and marry the true husband (or wife) when you find him...wouldn't that make sense?
Maybe I'm just justifying what I would like to do...but hard for me to believe that my current marriage is a type of Christ and the church in any way (unless Christ is abusive, manipulative, gaslighting, triangulating, and smear campaigning his church). Hard for me to think God wants that example to my kids and the world to continue... Or that I'd be an "adulturer" if I found the true husband, and married him...
Just some thoughts. I'm curious for people to poke holes in it, if I'm just justifying what I'd like. Or to tell me that makes sense if that's the case.
I mean it states in Ecclesiasticus if the wife isn’t in alignment to just get a divorce…. Narcissism is demonic it’s real we have to let it go separate bind and burn and be renewed after surviving it taking the lesson and knowledge for what’s it has taught us so we may conquer the things we are truly wrestling with in this day and age as we suffered from days of old from the beginning of man’s time on this plane!
THANK YOU JESUS FOR RELEASING ME FROM UNHOLY SOUL TIES!!!!❤❤❤❤
Amen, amen!
Amen
Halajuah AMEN ❤🎉❤
Where are soul ties in the Bible? Jesus is your intercessor from Heaven! But, yes, these crazy people should go sleep in graveyards outside town…more in line with where their souls are.
As a family law attorney and advocate for divorcing people and a Christian, I appreciated your video. Abandonment includes emotional abandonment, which can be considered abuse. If any pastor or priest condemns you for leaving a toxic, abusive spouse, they are giving you advice contrary to scripture. I wish more people knew this. This would save many lives.
This! I don’t believe God desires for his children to live in misery in a marriage that doesn’t honor Him.
I believe in Corinthians Paul is clearly speaking of abandonment as a situation where your partner physically leaves and refuses to live with you. Emotional abandonment is a vague term and can mean nearly anything. I went through a severe illness for some months and was severely depressed and not adequately attentive to my ex’s needs. Somehow that situation became grounds for a divorce in what was a previously happy marriage with two young children.
@@ItsNomadScientist clearly what you went through is not what is meant by emotional abandonment. Being inattentive due to illness is not what I’m talking about. Being married to an emotionally absent spouse (married but having no emotional support, as in the spouse is physically present but that’s all there is) is in fact sufficient for a spouse to walk away. Here’s the truth: it is not God’s desire to be married and miserable. When your spouse is only physically present in the relationship, that is not a true marriage. That’s not God’s design for marriage. Physical presence is enough to sustain a relationship.
*isn’t enough to sustain a marriage.
@@GracefulStrengthCoaching Thank you for your response. I agree physical presence isn’t sufficient for a good, happy, healthy marriage. But if we examine scripture, I believe the teachings on marriage and divorce are clear, and I don’t think we see support for the idea we can leave a marriage because we aren’t receiving adequate emotional support. See 1st Corinthians 7:10-11 for a specific example.
I sympathize with people in emotionless marriages and I believe they ought to do everything they can to fix that. But when we rely on our feelings over scripture, I think that is a bad precedent, and ultimately will only increase our sorrow and suffering in this world.
If any of you reading this are not married but engaged and are seeing red flags, please get out of it while you can! If you're feeling pressured into it, please speak to someone! I almost married someone that Not only was I not in love with but thought I was supposed to give him a chance because he was in love with me, but who turned out to be controlling and possessive. The closer our would-be wedding day got, the more stressed I was feeling. I finally confided in one of my aunts and she asked me, "Then why are you getting married?" I told her my situation and that I was trying to make it work for his sake, and she helped me get up the courage to stand my ground, and I called it off. He didn't make it easy, but I managed to break it off.
And if you do manage to call it off, whatever you do, do not give in to his request to speak to you alone because he will try to pressure you back in to it! That was done to me as well, and I gave in, but I still managed to pull out before we would have married! Once you call it off, one-on-ones are completely out of the question... _for _*_your_*_ sake!_
...I've been there.
Thank you for sharing your story to hopefully keep others from years of torment!
@@hisloveisreal-lookup1711 you're certainly welcome, whatever helps spare someone else what thankfully I was spared.
I so can relate!
My narc husband abandoned the marriage. I took it as God telling me it's time to get out. In the beginning stages of divorce now.
Best of luck to you. You deserve to be happy and the narc's abandonment was a gift.
God bless you 🙏🏼. Father opened my eyes and told me last year to legally get out. My divorce was finalized last August. Bless you 🙏🏼❤️. Freedom in Jesus name
Experienced the same thing except narc husband won't file for divorce because he says we don't need one and now he has a new "wife". The level of delusion is ridiculous.
Thank you Kris, your understanding of God, the scriptures and reality, gives you this Biblical approach to divorce. Many churches are dogmatic on divorce, putting people in bondage and making their abused life of no effect. God is love, anything outside of love, is not of God. The scriptures state: "Turn away from evil and do what is good; seek peace and pursue it" Psalm 34:14 🙏🙏♥
Truth about the enemy attempting to put people in bondage & making their abused life of no effect.
Churches have to be dogmatic about divorce just like Jesus was dogmatic about divorce whenever he spoke on it. If you give people an inch they will take a mile. Some people believe their spouse occasionally saying mean or insensitive things to them is abuse. Others think withholding sex is abuse. Jesus was firm in his decision on marriage and his expectations. We need to be careful in doing what we want to do and then tagging on “God would want me to do that because he loves me” to justify to ourselves. If you think God wants you to live a cushy life free of persecution we need to examine what Bible you’re actually reading.
My wife had multiple affairs and withheld sex from me. After reading and studying every passage of the Bible concerning this topic it’s plainly evident that I have a moral obligation to seek reconciliation if it’s an option.
Married 35 years and completely emotionally neglected from day one. After years of working on myself, to be a better wife believing it would help him to be better too. He has never changed. He is a compulsive liar, manipulating and completely self absorbed. I have forgiven, literally 70 x 7, and I can go on no longer. I have made the gut wrenching decision to seperate and all of my adult children have encouraged me that they believe it is the right decision. I have no intention to divorce or remarry (no thanks, once bitten...) Thank you for your very helpful videos.
Im dating a beautiful woman who was 23 years abused and narcissistic relationship with her ex husband when she told all her life I got shocked 😳 and really sad 😞 what she have been through… I give all my my love , comfort, respect heart and I will make her happy and I will treat as princess 👸
You are a real man
Go's bless you foe loving your wife
She's the victim.
You better.
You are not allowed to marry her, though. She was free to leave that man, but you cannot marry a divorced woman if her spouse is still alive.
@doriesse824 shut up with your stupid rulebook
A captivating video summary, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@@elladonaldson-lh6ncSpiritual as in Godly? Or spiritual as in “put a spell on you?”
I left and divorced. My ex was manipulating, cheating, using, and I am praising God for the peace and freedom.
❤ Thank you Kris! This is something I needed to hear from my church when I was still married. My narcissistic spouse cheated on me, lied to me, talked badly about me behind my back, verbally emotionally and financially abused me. I went to several different people in the church and was told to stay, to forgive, go home and pray for him. it’s time churches open their eyes and stop condoning abuse because I can tell you no amount of praying will change someone that does not want to change.
The issue is the advice they gave you was Biblical, you just didn’t want to hear it. God has higher expectations placed onto his children, there are exceptions to God’s idea of a lifelong covenant but those exceptions are contradictory to his will in our lives. We are called to conform to Christ’s image and we commit adultery and abuse him on the daily yet he forgives us and gives us life.
If your spouse is dealing with you treacherously according to Malachi 2, get a divorce. The Lord has been a witness to how your spouse has dealt with you. If there is financial abuse, emotional abuse, etc. divorce. The Lord doesn't want you to be chained because of the Law.
I'd agree. I left for those reasons. The stress was making me extremely sick. If you're not growing with God and your marriage together it is attacks of satan!
Infidelity can also mean - very little love for you. And excessive love for their past friends, people of opposite sex, extreme interest in sports of some sort neglecting all marital duties and family chores etc.
Kris, your content is SO good and so biblically sound. Thank you.
I was wondering if you could do a video on how narcissism manifests in women and/or addressing the deficit in resources for men who are in these kinds of relationships. It seems like it’s a default in the Christian and counseling space that the man is always at fault and responsible
This is the single best video on narcissistic marriage I have ever seen and i have been watching this type of content for 5 years
I thought the abuse I endured was 'a normal part of life' and tried healing on my own
Having God has allowed me to finally start healing after my own efforts
Thank you for this video, I needed it.
Yes. I believe so. No one gets to destroy your life and abuse you. That is a covenant breaker. No one should stay with an abusive spouse, regardless of what kind of abuse. It’s evil and destructive.
The Lord recently brought me to your channel in answer to prayers regarding my failed marriage. I can't thank you enough for the biblical wisdom, and sound counsel.
please just be careful planting yourself in other’s idea of Christianity and God. The scripture is the ultimate teacher and if you really discern it without having your mind made up before I think you would find that most divorces are unbiblical and ANY divorce based on being unhappy is not justified in God’s eyes.
You speak the truth. My father is an evil narcissist who abused my kind and devoted mother and us for decades. My mother hanged on until her dementia kicked in. I dont know whether she should have left, but it is truly cringe worthy to see people lightly throwing the word "abuse" around when they are the entitled ones. It takes an abused to identify abuse of the term abuse.
Thank you for this video I have been thinking about divorce and I've just been praying and seeking for answers. Thank you.
I prayed and waited for many years for things to change, but finally realized that God cannot change a person’s free will. I have no guilt about leaving because I did everything I could, but it takes two. My husband blames a relative for my departure when he himself is the cause. I hope to provide a place of refuge and safety someday for wounded women who have no hope and no place to go. To those who can leave such a toxic situation, I say go, especially if you feel suicidal like I did. I do not believe a loving God wants His sons and daughters to suffer. Marriage should be a refuge - place of love, kindness and safety, and never abuse.
Thanks for all you do and for all you have been through, Kris. I appreciate you!
I was just wondering, did you ever pray that God would change your heart?
@ Constantly! Learning to love the unlovable has been the greatest challenge of my life, but in the end I no longer wanted to live and begged God to take me home to be with Him. Instead He provided a new home, a place of peace and safety. Recently I discovered something I had never fully understood in 2 Timothy 3:1-6 in which Paul described many traits of a narcissist, after which he said, “From such people turn away.” He didn’t say turn away from them unless you’re married to such a person. Is God mad at me? Absolutely not! He saw the abuse, He saw how hard I tried, how long I endured it, and is closer to me now than ever before.
33 years…I haven’t left yet because I have told myself over and over that it isn’t bad enough or that others have it worse than I do. The manipulation cranks into high gear every time I try to follow through with divorce from my “Christian” husband. I’ve been told I don’t have a Biblical reason for divorce by those who only know the scriptures where the word divorce is specifically mentioned, still he has gaslighted, manipulated, and abandoned and neglected our family for years. Trying to work on my courage. Thank you for the videos!
My ex was verbally abusing me for 26 years. When I realized that he was a narcissist , I prayed for God to deal with him because it got too hard for me. Watching these videos really helped. I stopped taking his bait , and quit giving him his supply then after a few months of this he just came in the house and out of the blue decided to divorce me. The day I dropped him off he filed. I told him to his face that he was a narcissist and I believe that set it in motion. He never loved me . He told me many lies over the years and I’m sure he cheated. Can’t prove it but there were times that he said he can’t tell me where he was over night . He has a security job so he got away with those lies. He needs God’s saving grace . I do pray for him and his salvation.
This video has a lot of wisdom. I left my husband 35 years ago and you've helped me admit that I never really tried to fix the situation or even asked the Lord to help, at least that I remember. I know that he was a terrible person and a dangerous man and I do believe that it was important for me to get out but I feel terrible that I really just fled without even praying about it. I started praying for him about 4-5 years later and was very damaged by the 4 years in that marriage. Theree is no doubt he is a complete narcissist, although I didn't know what the word meant until I found your channel.
I thank God that I did leave but am very repentant for doing it my way.
Thank you Kris for making these videos. I pray that God will continue to use you to pound sense into us mortals.
I have also come to see that I was, for many years, a narcissist also. I didn't know what it was called but God showed me a big mirror about 10 years ago and He has been helping me change in a zillion ways. Hallelujah.
Excellent video! Everything you said is spot on!!!! Love how you touch on those who exploit the word 'abuse.'
That piece about separating first is golden. When I asked for it, I was told it's not an option. Stay or leave for good. Also, as soon as I asked for it, things just got worse. I have found mercy and grace in the healing hands of God. I have also discovered the power of forgiveness. For myself and for him. I see now that this was always the path, to get me to where I am today, in conversation with the Almighty. Listening to one's heart is truly a divine adventure. I was a luke warm believer before and today I am all about serving our God, by example and by staying close to the word. Thank you for this video. It's been 2,5 years of separation (yes, these types take that long). The process is physical, emotional and spiritual. I found the physical to be of least influence in healing. God wants healing for all, no matter where you are, in a good or bad situation, He just wants us close, and when you are close, you will know in your heart and through his voice what you need to do in every single step. ♥🌹🌈
Thank you! I no longer feel any shame. I know it was Justified Divorce, per God. ❤🙏
Hello I am so sorry if this sounds weirds but you wrote such a nice and wonderful comment. I can tell your very positive person, if it's . Okay with you l'd love to be friends❤
I was miserable and broke trying to keep my narcissistic wife happy
I consulted an excellent family therapist.
He asked me why I stayed.
I said “I made an oath before God”
He replied “But God wants you to be happy”. I had not thought of that.
I tried to get her into therapy, but she refused and commenced divorce proceedings
In retrospect, God saved me. I was being let out of jail.
I am living very happily now.
Thankyou God🙏😊
Thank you for posting this,,,as this is me right now with my narc wife. Thank you and God Bless you
Thank you Minister Reece God Bless you ♥️🙏🏾😇
I needed this 😢 I’ve been in a narcissist marriage for 20years . I’m thankful for testimonies that are being shared thank you all for giving me hope 🙏🏽😞
Wonderful video. So many great answers here, and churches need to remember that divorce (whether justifiable or not) is NOT an unforgivable sin and NO sin should make anyone a second class citizen. God loves you more than he loves your sin and he knows that we struggle with normal relationships, let alone abuse. Repent, make an effort to do better next time, get counseling, move on.
Omgosh thank you ! Whew
"Search me oh God, and know my heart..." ❤
Yeps. He allows divorce for many reasons.
AMEN AND AMEN 🙏 I KNOW THAT I KNOW THAT I KNOW I HAVE WALKING RIGHTS!!❤
Thank you for articulating everything so clearly. I’ve been told so many times to stay in this abusive marriage. That it’s better to be together And it’s no grounds for separation.
I so appreciate this. I haven't told anyone at all about my struggles, not even my closest friend. Somehow I'm scared to put it into words. In November I finally gave up all hope for my marriage, and since then I've been struggling to pray. Thank you Kris for your sound biblical perspectives and guidance.
Just found your channel after praying for a Christian woman’s perspective on this very topic. I’ve been researching Narcissism for some time now. Watching Dr. Les Carter and trying to understand it and just today I was praying about hearing from a Christian woman’s perspective and I thank God for finding you! I hope you will help stop the static in my head about how I’m supposed to feel and react as a Godly woman. Everyone has advice but no one and I mean no one understands me and what I’ve gone through and continue to go through. The monkey wrench is that I know I’m a sinful person and I know how I want to be treated but it gets real hard when the person who is supposed to love you the most in this world can so utterly destroy you with little or no remorse and carry on like you’re the problem. It can make a person question themselves!
I have been married for nearly 25 years to a narcissistic man who has never consummated our marriage and there has never been any intimacy, companionship, or resolve of anything. Just control through silence, gaslighting, and denial of any of my emotional needs. We cohabitate, as roommates with no respect.
I am still here because I made a commitment to and before God to stay where he put me. But, I have been less than cordial in my fulfillment of the commitment.
Thank you for this video, I needed to hear your wisdom.
Leave! You’re in a one sided commitment
You really need to leave.
With no physical abuse & adequate financial security, maybe stay? It could be ur life ministry 🤷🏼♀️
U certainly sound calm & know ur worth! U may be a warrior! U have been a warrior till now, surely-with the Lords grace ofc.
It will just get worse. I know. I've been there.
You have a piece of paper not a marriage and you are confused. You need to betterment yourself spiritually, financially and leave
Thank you so much for addressing this topic so wisely and sensibly. God bless you.
Thank you for your courage and kindness to talk about this very complicated subject. Those who have never experienced narcissistic abuse don't even know these kinds of people exist. And when these narcissists go to church, are charismatic and giving to the public, it's even harder for people to comprehend. I was fortunate to have a counsellor who had the same experience I did, so that he could speak honestly and frankly about my wife's condition and the fact that it likely is a lost cause. It's just heartbreaking that our friends can add insult to injury over these situations. Thank you for your kindness and understanding Kris. God bless you!
This is going to help SO many people. I wish I had information like this when I was married due to the neglect aspect. Sending this to a friend!
In Cor. it says if she leaves not to remarry. This tells me I can leave but not remarry until death. Not that I ever want to remarry after my narcissistic (Christian) marriage. But as for now I stay, my children are better for now. If the Lord doesn’t come back soon, I am leaving when my youngest is older. My oldest says it is pretty bad, but most of it is text book narcissistic mental behavior. I told her if he used money as a weapon like he does everything else I probably wouldn’t have able to last as long as I have. But through my 24 year relationship I sure have stayed close to God. I is just nice knowing that he doesn’t love me so I don’t have to expect it anymore.
You are taking that scripture out of context.
Jesus clearly states that divorce is permitted because of the hardness of our hearts preventing us from finding true love. The Bible is just making clear that it's not supposed to be this way. It's just like Jesus raising the standard to perfection only to show us how far we fall short.
@@GeraldJacobsUA-cam the Bible makes it clear never to divorce. If you remarry it is adultery. Always. But “IF” she leaves not to remarry. Leave, but never remarry until there is death involved. Every scripture verse talks of upholding Gods view of marriage. True love doesn’t trump that fact. She can leave. The husband still has a responsibility for sustaining her, but remarriage is off the table. In this day and age, though, I would not expect my husband to still provide a roof over my head after I leave. No contact would have to be the way to go has he has gotten pretty pissed just because I have gone out to the store without him. I first pointed this out because I have had scripture thrown in my face in regard to a woman’s role in the marriage, completely ignoring his role altogether. She can’t fulfill her role if she is gone??? Well 1 Cor states IF she leaves. I will never remarry, or commit sexual immorality, and my conscience will still be intact before God. I will not be sinning because I left a Narcissist. If he divorces me; I am still not to remarry until death is involved. So if we are both healthy that may never happen. Marriage is a serious commitment.
@@thewhatsup "the bible makes it clear to never divorce".
Jesus: "for the hardness of your hearts divorce was permitted".
@@GeraldJacobsUA-cam yes, but not remarriage.
@@thewhatsup we are meant to marry in the will of God, unfortunately because of our fallen nature we are prone to deception.
Marriage and children take precedence over our mistakes.
We are not to take marriage lightly and cannot divorce for just any reason, but falling in love with a psychopath who pretends to be a angel of light is no small matter.
That marriage isn't valid in the eyes of God as it is a scam and it's better to divorce that fall prey to legalism.
Remember men also had rules for the sabath, but the sabbath was made for man, not man for the sabbath
my ex husband told me to my face, i was easy to manipulate. divorced 7 months now after 9 years. thank God for the way of escape
Mine started a smear campaign with several women he had emotional affairs with and met with them every day. We've gone to many Christian Marriage Counselors which state that he groomed them. He coerced me to sign a premarital Prenup about to expire. Since I won't sign any more papers, he went to another lawyer to pass our Marital Estate to his kids. The Cortisol level went up to 333 and I lost 50 lbs. He caused me a Broken Heart Syndrome Heartattack with 196/126 blood pressure and ALL my left side went numb. Surgery was done to put a wire mesh into my heart to check what was wrong. He filed for divorce saying that I am the controlling one (since I won't sign any legal paperwork without a lawyer). I feel like he has broken the Marriage Covenant. I feel so ashamed with this breaking of the Marriage Covenant.
HE broke the marriage covenant, NOT YOU.
He broke the marriage covenant, but not you. Narcissistic abuse has ruined your health but he broke the marriage contract🤔.
I watched my mother have a heart attack 2 strokes mental abuse but she stay for the marital covenant. She's dead now! You are correct on one thing, she's dead from broken hearted syndrome! yes.
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My mother was treated like you and she died of pancreatic cancer at 58. But she stayed married😢
@@ladyofthecreek279 How?
Thank you for clarifying the truth and helping others to understand! God Bless!!
God bless you... you have made everything so clear to me .... after 28 years of "good" marriage with no real intimacy.
I think you just know when you have outgrown a relationship. Biggest red flag is there is nothing left to say that is positive because there is no respect.
I listened to this...after stopping it a few times, for validation. I left a really abusive marriage after 11 years, we had 2 children, there was physical abuse, infidelity on his part, gas lighting, and honestly I believe he is more than narcissistic, he's psychotic, as he tried to kill me when inwas pregnant with our youngest son.
I thought wveryrhing was up to me, but I was so young. As I grew up, I grew wiser and closer to God. I did none of these things you described. If only I had this to listen to 25 years ago. I could have gotten real help, but everything worked out as I moved on with my life.
For the last time, yes! Leave the preditor. Leave. Don't look back. Do yourself!
Thank you Kris! I have felt God’s nudgings in my experience and you are right. I was miserable when I didn’t follow through, at peace when I did.
Thank you soooo much! You’ve been an esencial help in my healing process. God bless you brave woman of God. 👏🏻
Thank you for your videos.
This is the first time I have seen anyone else who use scriptures to help me understand how to look at my situation with scriptures and explained how I should handle it.
I've been trying to save My marriage.
Knowing that God hates divorce.and never saw it the way it was explained. Thank you so very much and I will be praying for anyone else who's going through this.
I have had some terrible things happen in my life.death of my 3 siblings and my mother. And it was every two years that I lost one of them. I endured it for 8 years and I believe that what I am going through now is the most depressing and devastating thing I have ever have to go through..God bless all who will have to go through divorce. know that you are not alone and you are being prayed for.even by some you have never met. Thank God for the body of Christ sincerely Nelson
Not only did He give permission,He helped me on every leval.Kris what if infidelity means turning their backs on the faith,running to the world?
THANK YOU FOR THIS INFORMATION!! Blessings to you!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for sticking to Biblical teachings.
God bless you for your help.
I didn’t even know what a narcissist was, but God showed me. Being with a narcissist is the worst torment I ever experienced in my life. Especially the silent treatment and not to mention he found a different Pastor and manipulated the Pastor to say I was the problem.
Extremely wise, godly advice. Thank you for validating victims and giving sound direction
Wow, this is so uplifting, it’s important to stay inspired. I feel a deep sense of emptiness, it’s been 2months since jack left and everyday feels like an eternity without him. My mind’s been flooded with memories of our time together. It’s so painful that I’d never get to experience the little things with him again. zI’ve texted him several times telling him how much I miss and want him sadly he replied none. Guess all I can do is just hold unto the memories.
It’s ok to grieve dear It’s clear that you’re not just missing jack but a part of yourself that you shared with him. Your message to him is a testament to the love you still have for him. It’s takes courage to be that vulnerable. It’s ok to feel the pain of heartbreak but don’t loose hope. My own heart break story is one of devastation . It was sudden and brutal leaving me lost. Desperate for solace and guidance, I reached out to a spiritual counselor who was recommended by a friend for help.
That sounds intriguing, I’m curious what exactly does the spiritual counselor do?
His name is Father Tosin and he's an amazing spiritual counselor who specialize in helping people reconnect with their ex
I’m grateful for your suggestion, you have no idea how much this means to me.
Thank you for this view on being married to a narcissist. Most don’t admit this and say just leave u deserve better. They don’t seem to understand that it’s not that simple when you are truly trying to follow God
Thank you for this video, I know that I was meant to see it. ❤️🙏
🪙🪙🎀Absolute Gold🎀🪙🪙🙏Thank you so much Mrs. Reece!!🙏
I've been wondering where the fine line is. I have been putting my faith in Christ and THIS is exactly what I've been lead to believe. Just nice hearing and getting validation. Now just to watch my scenario unfold
Amen on the abuse I was physically and mentally abused for over 10 years and when I tried to get help it was hard.This do to false claims from a lot of people and had to prove and I did get help and got a restraining order finally but please never say false abuse because women like me have really been threw this trauma.
Because the 2 years I got to know him the gas lighting the stuff you hat goes on with it. Wow. It might have been going on for years. So grateful for finding your channel.
I’m so grateful for this video.
If he tries to kill you, RUN! CHOOSE LIFE! You and your children choose to live and serve The Lord.
People, including Pastors, condemned me for divorcing a adulterous narcissist that tried to kill me. I am now happily married to the man God chose for me. In God's eyes and in my own mind, I have only been married once, to my now husband.
Ďakujeme.
I asked God in prayer this morning if I should continue to stand for my marriage having been abused by a covert narcissist who left me with all the bills and ran back to his narcissistic mother who hates me after i started to call him out on his manipulation and intimidating moves and mind games.. Thank you Yahweh for confirmation 5/19/24
I'm on the same boat as you... I'm married to a narcissist man and I want to know if God wants me to finally file for divorce.
Wish I had this info 46 years ago! Divorced after 28 long arduous years of marriage-held in by the dogma of til death do you part. Ironically was major-league manipulated because of my faith. Perfect push button. Happy now, praise God! Thank you for your good work.
My ex-spouse was trying to kill me. He cheated on me with men and women. He abused me in every way possible. Lied to my friend, so I lost her friendship. I met his lover-girlfriend. My marriage was almost 20 years. Now, I need to do the work of forgiveness. I will probably have to do all the "leg work".
Thank you I think that was a helpful video. My husband worls out of town and it is as if God is allowing this separation for our good
I was in a 29-year marriage with an extremely narcissistic man. I was also unequally yoked. I had been with him since I was 15. I stayed because I had 4 children with him, and also due to pressure from others about what a "Christian woman" was supposed to be. I had it in my mind that I "MUST KNOW" that I did everything I could think of to make it work, and it completely destroyed me. When I finally got the nerve to file for divorce, my ex-husband started spreading lies about me "having sex" with every man at his work. I don't even know those men. To this day he still tells our adult children, and anyone else he can, that he doesn't feel comfortable at his job because he knows all those men laugh at him because they have all had his wife. I must admit, that still kills my heart to this day because I AM NOT that kind of woman. And he actually believes his own lies. Anyhow, immediately after my divorce, like within months, I remarried. I had found a man that loved the LORD and preached the gospel. One that prayed with me, cried with me, made me tear down my walls and trust him and let him in. He actually forced me to trust him, and though I felt forced, I did make the decision to believe him. He told me I could be vulnerable with him, and that's what GOD wanted. Within months, so much changed. And I was scared. He started gaslighting me every time I had to go home (we lived 2 1/2 from each other). He started shredding me, telling me I didn't truly want a Godly man, I wanted to be in control, and how Genesis says the woman will always desire to control. He started telling me love was a "verb" and my actions would show my love, and that "if I loved him" I would... . And I felt like I had to prove to him he was wrong. Something didn't set right with me. But he was SO WONDERFUL out on the streets. So compassionate, so loving, had such a desire to share the WORD of GOD with people, and he was loved by his entire community. It really confused me. He would tell me preachers go through such severe spiritual warfare, way more than almost anyone else, and it looks ugly, and theor women need to have patience with them and support them no matter what. I do know some of this to be true, being that I am a pastors daughter, but still something didn't sit right. I ALWAYS second guess myself. I have become so untrustworthy with my own thoughts that I just don't know what is right or wrong anymore. Fast forward a bit, my Daddy suddenly fell extremely ill, and I had to take him to the hospital. This started a GREUSOME and long battle for my Daddy's life. During covid, I couldn't be with my Daddy. He did not have covid, but this happened during covid. They literally tortured my Daddy to death. All he'll was breaking lose and the LORD told me not to travel anywhere, but to stay and fight for my Daddy, and help give my children support. My Daddy and Mama had both lived with us, Mama passed from cancer, and Daddy was heavily grieved and lonely, so we all stayed together. My Dad was the only true father my children knew. So, my conviction was "stay here, no traveling." I was severely gas lit for that. My Daddy passed, and a couple of months later my sister was murdered, and my (now) husbands Mama passed. Needless to say, there was massive grief from all angles. He pushed me a couple of months later to marry him. I did want that, but I felt in my heart we should wait. When I said that to him, I was gaslit again, saying I was faking my love for him, how I never truly wanted him, how GOD wants us married, etc etc. So what did I do? I conceded. Do you know what I got? A courthouse wedding with no one to celebrate with us. I felt so small. A couple month's later he moved from. The town he lived i and came to live with me. Ever since then, life has been pure hell. He took everything from me. I used to sing for the LORD, but not anymore. Because he told me many times, "some songs women just shouldn't sing" and how women have no place in ministry outside of their home. How women are to support theor husband's even if he is wrong, being wrong, doing wrong, no matter what, he cones first. How I was supposed to listen to him, and he would relay what GOD wants from m because he is my head. He yanked every single ounce of my value, my self esteem, my unique qualities, my sense of humor, my dreams, my desires, my simple opinions, from me and mostly told me how stupid they all were. He thinks I am supposed to look like a female version of him. Literally. I don't even know who I am anymore. I am TRYING to cling to the LORD and see my value through HIS eyes, and figure out what HE wants of me. I just can't do this anymore. I know it's all my fault, but I can't live like this anymore. I get NO spiritual guidance, leadership, prayer, encouragement, love, NO intimacy WHATSOEVER. Not physically, not emotionally, not spiritually, not mentally. All he does is feel sorry for himself, dialect, point out everyone else's flaws, except for his people of choice.They can do no wrong. And those are ONLY people who either pat his back, or that he gets things from. They are "good people." Anyone connected to me? From his mouth they are "pieces of sh**." He tells me all about how no one else is ever there for me but him. Look where they all are, none of them care about you. Etc. Etc.
I am not allowed to listen to other preachers because not only are none of them "spiritual enough" but I am to learn strictly from him and no other man. Yet, we don't go to church because "everyone is fake." While I do agree there is a lot of fake, there are also many whom aren't. And as I point out to him "we're fake too. We put on fake smiles and tell everyone we are fine, when we AREN'T. " He cries at the drop of the hat. He apologizes when he sees in ready to leave and starts telling me how sick he is, and how he needs my encouragement. And says "you're so quick to encourage others, and have so much patience with everyone but me." Talks about how he doesn't want to live. Etc. Etc. Same thing every time. He initiates a talk that seems like it's actually going somewhere, and tosses everything I tell him from my heart the next day.
To be honest, in both marriages, what has HARMED me the most... is the lack if intimacy. It really torments me, and quenches the SPIRIT so bad. I am a VERY loving woman. I am a servant. The love of GOD compels me. When I don't get love from my HUSBAND, my LEADER, my PROTECTOR, ETC. THAT MAKES ME HATE MYSELF, MY LIFE, LOSE HOPE, AND WONDER WHY I DESERVE TO BE HATED SO MUCH. I say to myself, "You're vile. You're wretched. How can the LORD ever be proud of you? Yes, HE does love all... but YOU are an exception. You are putred. You have NO value." I can tell you that a withdrawal of intimacy IS ABUSE, and it IS a violation of the covenant made before GOD ALMIGHTY. HE HAS BROKEN HIS VOWS TO THE LORD, AND TO ME. AND ANYONE WHOM WILL EVER TELL A WOMAN GOING THROUGH THIS THAT WHAT I JUST SAID ISN'T TRUE... THEY ARE LIARS!
LADIES, I BEG YOU... DON'T LISTEN TO ANYONE BUT TYE LORD! YOU DON'T HAVE TO STAY IN THIS! HE DIDN'T CREATE YOU TO BE ABUSED! EVEN THOUGH I OFTEN TELL MYSELF OTHERWISE. THAT IS NOT COMING FROM OUR GOD!
DON'T LISTEN TO THE WRING VOICES. JESUS SAID "MY SHEEP HEAR MY VOICE!" LISTEN TO HIM! 😭😭😭
Yes, leave and get healing so you do not attract another narc.. good lord I am so sorry you had to endure this. :(
Fantastic presentation 👏
I am very surprised how you are so knowledgeable about the word of God. I love your humility in explaining with honesty and using the Bible to support the truth. I am in agreement with what you are saying and not only that but it is my belief based on the word of God. God bless you my sister continued to share these important wisdom. ❤❤❤
Thank you Kris. You are absolutely right. I divorced 3 years ago. I was emotionally abuse and abandoned near the end. I was more than time.
God is faithful and He looks after us.
Thank you for this ❤
Excellent video Kris ... I just LOVE you!! Really excellent video .. Thank you!! God bless you and your team ... BTW absolutely beautiful color on you. 🙌🕊️✝️
Thank you 🙏🏻
Yes that lavender is stunning on you
Thank you Kris for another excellent teaching.
My ex and I met today for a few hours, discussing our divorce. She apologised, i forgave her. She wanted me to sign the papers with no questions asked. Under duress i signed them four months ago. Where it goes from here is up to us and God. We had a good time reminiscing in the park and at Taco bell. It was nice to see her smile again, even though she is going through some awful issues. I pray for her comfort and peace, having family issues over the situation she got herself into. My heart aches for her. We hugged each other, quite long 2 times before we parted today. I hope to treat her again in the future.
Does she have narcissistic traits
I'd just like to add its not just women being abused... I'm a male that has been abused and manipulated... So would be good if you could include men in your perspective... Thanks
Married?
One of the best videos on the topic, 100% agree x
My counselor did a check in and asked how the area of depression was going, I said I'm okay I don't have someone screaming at me anymore and putting me down!
I think of the song from the Titanic movie soundtrack, “Unable to Stay, Unwilling to Leave”. That is where I think I am at right now.
God Bless🌹
This is it💞 eventually... My key to exit the toxic prison, where i was brainwashed to believe it was all me & my paranoia due to CPTSD. 24years later😢
Thank you for the clarification!
First off, thank you for tackling this incredibly difficult topic. You accurately and carefully navigated this in a God honoring way. One humble thought I have is that the word infidelity in Matthew 19 is porneia from the Greek. It actually does not simply entail adultery which seems to have crept into modern hermeneutics. The word is interpreted as sexual immorality in most of the new testament, yet somehow has lost it's original context and relationship to the multiple words in the Hebrew texts, that it replaced. Second thought, for those who insist upon their emphasis on " God hates divorce" , I usually direct them to Proverbs 6:16-19, which talks about the things that are listed in all of categories you mention in your excellent video. Again thank you and God Bless!
AMEN and thank you Kris