I think that some marriages are not put together by GOD or even blessed, but our desire. If we do not have the blessing of Almighty GOD, the marriage is doomed to failure.
💯Agree! Personally I think most marriages, including Christian marriages, nowadays are outside of GOD’s will. Too many want to rush in and not seeking GOD’s will or timing or discernment and the marriage turns out to be plagued with problems. Many are the result of a wolf in sheep’s clothing taking grotesque advantage of an unsuspecting sheep and heavily manipulating them into rushing into marriage or eloping with them… only for the sheep to realize they were conned by an abuser and forced to leave for their own safety.
any marriage, under any culture, or religion, or lack of.....the marriage is sanctioned....otherwise, on conversion one would have to remarry or leave that relationship, and it never happens...ergo....the marriages are put together, by God...
The enemy got our marriage of 25 years. Both believers, wife filed, irreconcilable differences. We're divorced by the state but still married in God's eyes.
If your wife left you for any other reason than why God allows then it is possible that she is not a believer at all. Consider the following. "By this we know that we have come to know Him, if we keep His commandments. "The one who says, 'I have come to know Him,' and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him; " (1 John 2:3-4)
What you mean you still Married in God’s eye? It is because you want to become so Godly but you guys ended up in divorce and started blaming each other. Due to the inner shame and guilty conscious, don’t make excuse saying this(Romans 14:22). What about Jesus(God) himself saying the Samaritan women on the well that she had already five husband and he even recognized them. So if your wife had already married, in God’s eye she is married to a second husband like a Samaritan women.
Where do you get your interpretations from? I don't find any of that in the Bible at all. I've been studying divorce and remarriage for over two and a half years, and the Bible for 30. Nowhere does it say you are allowed to remarry if you're the innocent party it just doesn't. Man assumes that because it sounds fair and right to them. God's ways are not our ways. A covenant is for life until death do you part. Like they say you cannot unscramble eggs. You are correct that fornication is a type of sexual immorality ,and that is what the earliest manuscripts used fornication. Fornication is sex between unmarried people therefore married people cannot commit fornication. The fornication exception clause was written for the Jews because of the the betrothal period . If a man found out the next morning after they consummated the marriage that his wife was not a virgin he was allowed to divorce her and remarry. You really need to go back and study and not follow man. If a man divorces his wife and she marries another he causes her to commit adultery. No mention of whether she is the innocent party or not. We cannot add scripture or assume anything. I rather play it safe and honor my covenant then satisfy my flesh to be in another romantic relationship. The reason these different Bible translations use words like sexual immorality or unchasty or unfaithfulness is because of copyright laws. It's really sad because when you change those words it changes the meaning of what the original intent was for. We need to be very careful who we follow for our spiritual knowledge. Stick to the Bible. Go back and read what the earliest church fathers wrote about marriage. It is completely different from what we teach today, and that is a sad truth.
Porneia/Fornication/Sexual Immorality are situations where the participants are married and single. Married people commit fornication by having sex with someone with whom they are not married. For Matthew being about the betrothal period, why did the Pharisees ask Jesus about marriage and he answered them about the betrothal period. Pharisees: Can you divorce your wife for any reason? Jesus: You can't separate from your fiance for any reason except her cheating on you....or it is adultery. As far as remarriage goes, it had been happening for centuries, sometimes for the accepted reasons and sometimes for the wrong reasons. Jesus never talked directly about homosexuality, either, but he didn't need to as the topic was assumed. Why didn't Jesus and Paul tell everyone....."Some of you have been married to other people besides your current spouses and the former spouses are still alive....you need to leave your current spouse....have your former spouse leave theirs and then the two of you rejoin....That or just stay single....(though it's going to be a lot harder for the women). Question-have you given away all of your possessions to the poor? Why not? Jesus said to.
so if I'm a believer and she's defiantly not shes all new age well crap, I can remarry? cause I dont really want to be alone for the rest of my life :(. can u plz clarify for me.
Read 1 Corinthians 7:15. Paul was very careful to say I, not the Lord . He insinuated that if the unbeliever leaves the marriage, the, the believer is not bound in such circumstances.
Can I get a divorce if my spouse commits adultery? Never! Can I get a divorce if my spouse is abusive to me? No! Can I get a divorce if I no longer love my spouse? Absolutely not! Can I get a divorce if my spouse has abandoned me? No, you can't! So, under what circumstances can I get a divorce? Absolutely none. The Bible is absolutely clear: only death can dissolve a marriage in God's sight. Our only option is to separate from our spouse and stay single. If things get better between our spouse and us, we can get back together (1 Corinthians 7:10-11, Bible). But what about the exception in Matthew 5:31-32 and Matthew 19:1-9? There is no exception in Matthew’s gospel: Once you are married, you are married for life. No one in the Bible ever got a divorce for adultery or fornication. There was no need for divorce because those found guilty were stoned to death. All divorces were for reasons other than adultery or fornication. Once married, always married until death do us part, with no exceptions. This applies to all human beings, regardless of whether you are a sinner or a saint.
I'm a lawyer and i find the arguments for and against remarriage in the video compelling. The texts can reasonably be construed using various principles and the language itself makes it plain when you read the verses at least twice. It doesn't even seem unreasonable that God in his mercy would allow for the innocent party to remarry in the highlighted circumstances. He remembers that we are dust and i understand that he is even more gracious than our own justice systems regarding these matters... whatever the case God bless and may he speak to our hearts seeing as his law has been written on our hearts also.
I've never understood how this is applied to abusive marriages. Was I not allowed to leave my abusive spouse and have to suffer until he kills me or until I commit suicide? After 15 years, I HAD to get out. So how does this apply to abusive marriages?
*Speaking as someone who endured 13 years of covert narcissistic abuse from my husband (only because all I heard from other Christians (ignorant of and soft on the issue of abuse) is “GOD doesn’t like divorce so just be a good wife and pray for him.* *Friends, that is one of the most Biblically ignorant, loveless, Un-Christlike and dangerous things you can say to anyone who is being abused! Abuse is an extremely serious matter which can escalate to irreparable harm and sadly even death of the victim(s) and should NEVER be taken lightly!* *I can confidently say that I speak from the LORD that although Scripture may not mention the issue of “abuse” regarding marriage and divorce…*. *GOD MAY NOT LIKE DIVORCE, BUT GOD VEHEMENTLY HATES ABUSE AND DEEPLY LOVES AND CARES FOR THE VICTIM AND DOES NOT WANT THE VICTIM TO STAY IN THAT SOUL-DESTROYING NIGHTMARE , BUT TO HELP THE VICTIM TO LEAVE THE ABUSER! FOR THE SAKE OF THE VICTIM’S SAFETY, THEIR VERY LIFE AND SOUL AND RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND THAT OF THEIR CHILDREN, IF CHILDREN ARE INVOLVED!* *PRAY FOR THE ABUSER TO REPENT AND GET RIGHT WITH GOD. ASK THE LORD TO HELP YOU TO GET OUT OF THAT SITUATION, TO HELP YOU TO FORGIVE, BUT STAY FAR AWAY FROM THE ABUSER AND LET GOD HANDLE THEM HOWEVER THE LORD WILLS, WHILE THE LORD HELPS AND PROTECTS YOU, THE VICTIM!* *Abuse is a blatant violation of the marriage covenant. Abuse is demonic and vehemently against GOD. It is hate, not love. Hate is m*rder in CHRIST’s sight. Unless the victim gets help and leaves the abuser, it can destroy the victim from the inside out or physically, or drive the victim to suicidal depression, or into sin and bitterness and be destructive to their relationship with GOD! NOT ANYTHING OR ANYONE IS WORTH THE DESTRUCTION OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD!* *It is IMPERATIVE the victim IMMEDIATELY leaves the abuser and stays far away from the abuser to save their own life and soul and that of their children if children are involved! INCLUDING DIVORCE!* *The Scriptures say if one spouse divorces the other let them remain unmarried or reconcile… CONSIDER WISDOM HERE- and heed the very serious warning to NEVER reconcile with an abuser no matter how much they “promise to change”, don’t fall for it! It is wisdom to remain unmarried, far away from the abuser and be very thankful to the LORD!* *And if you as the victim feel there has been any damage to your relationship with GOD (perhaps any bitterness, or unforgiveness, anger or anything else it may be) then ask the LORD for forgiveness and healing, and to help you to walk in love (coupled with wisdom and establishing/maintaining healthy boundaries) and help you in restoring right relationship with Him!* *Psalm 23:* *”“The LORD is my Shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me to lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still waters. He restores my soul; He leads me in the paths of righteousness For His name’s sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; For You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; My cup runs over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me All the days of my life; And I will dwell in the house of the LORD Forever.”* _______ *Psalm 23 AMPC:* *”The LORD is my Shepherd [to feed, guide, and shield me], I shall not lack. He makes me lie down in [fresh, tender] green pastures; He leads me beside the still and restful waters. [Rev. 7:17.] He refreshes and restores my life (my self); He leads me in the paths of righteousness [uprightness and right standing with Him-not for my earning it, but] for His name's sake. Yes, though I walk through the [deep, sunless] valley of the shadow of death, I will fear or dread no evil, for You are with me; Your rod [to protect] and Your staff [to guide], they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my [brimming] cup runs over. Surely or only goodness, mercy, and unfailing love shall follow me all the days of my life, and through the length of my days the house of the Lord [and His presence] shall be my dwelling place.”* *Also PSALMS 91 & 103 ….* *Grace and Peace!*
@@wildfornature_ I am so sorry you went through that! Praise the LORD that He brought you out of it! I hope all is well with you now! I pray the LORD will restore to you many-fold the good for all the trouble you endured! ❤️ Please share my comments on social media if you like. I believe victims of abuse, especially Christians, need to know that they have rights and that GOD loves them and is on their side and wants to help rescue them! No one deserves to be abused and should never be made to feel that GOD is so against divorce that He is actually against the victim’s well-being and leaving a life threatening situation. In many cases divorce has proven the only recourse the victim has to truly protect them and any children involved, and be free to heal and go forward with their life. Love and blessings in CHRIST! ✝️🙏❤️
Stay single or reconcile the Bible says. No one has to stay in abuse. I have now been single and celibate for 20 years as God showed me remarriage was adultery and this is what the Bible clearly says.
I sinned against God and my wife. She asked for a separation. I accepted that because I hurt her. I will not date no matter what. If we reconcile great, but if not we will remain separated, and I will remain single and celibate forever.
Never been married here . I started dating a divorced woman and realized that God takes marriage very seriously. I originally wanted to marry her so we could be together intimately. Later realized that marriage is so much more than that. I don’t think I would be a good husband anyway. So I will just remain single and celibate. This is good discipline
@@4VRFIERCEapparently religion says you go to hell if you remarry. But I have not ripped John chapter out of my Bible. May I suggest you get a new Bible that has not removed John chapter 4.
Ephisian 5: 31 > For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32 > This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. I think we should not overlook the next verse [32], which clearly states that “I speak concerning Christ and the church”. The author is applying or extrapolating the concept of Christ being the groom and the Church is his faithful bride to husbands and wives. This is the context, i think. Genesis 2: 24 > Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. This verse explains that men should couple with women. Matthew 19: 5 > and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 9 > I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery. The context of this account has to be considered. Some Pharisees wanted to pick on Jesus and test his knowledge and he answered in the context of the Torah. He knew their intentions to smear him. Jesus did not acknowledge Moses “certificate of divorce” as Law. Matthew 5: 32 > But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the grounds of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. The whole context of the Book of Matthew has to be considered. The Book combines the Law (old testament) and the new covenant (testament). 18 > For truly, I say to you, until heaven and earth pass away (end of times), not an iota, not a dot, will pass from the Law until all is accomplished. Basically Jesus is telling us the door is closed under the Law. Which is similar to Genesis 3:24 - So he drove out the man; and he placed at the east of the garden of Eden Cherubims, and a flaming sword which turned every way, to keep the way of the tree of life. Matthew 11: 28 > Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 > Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 > For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Matthew 6: 12 > and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. (Lord’s prayer extract) Malachi 2 And now, O ye priests, this commandment is for you. This is out of scope since it is addressed to the priests. It deals with Israel breach of its covenant with God. Divorce and remarriage is a forgivable sin. Source: ESV
Abuse is emotional, mental, (almost always) financial, and sexual abandonment, even if no physical abandonment occurs. Abusers are OFTEN serial cheaters. For those reasons, domestic abuse IS Biblical grounds for divorce. ✌🏼
Thank you, thank you thank you so much for opening up more of my understanding to marriage, remarriage and adultery and what’s covered in the Bible if you remarry in cases from the word of God, that would allow you too. You really broke it down my brother and I got a better understanding. Thank you so much I appreciate you allowing God to use you.
there does not seem to be any exceptions....many use fornication, to be sexual immorality, where as sex, out of the covenant relation has its own term....adultery....and the other is to assume that not under bondage means not bound.....it is a delicate issue, and I, for one, dont want to get caught up, on the wrong side of this teaching.....
Thanks for the video it was very insightful, and I will be reading more of the full verses that were mentioned. I'm in the middle of divorcing a believer who has chosen for years to not give up adultery so even though I'm already in the midst of divorcing him, I am still trying to educate myself on what God has said about the matter. Again, great content on info 👍🏾
It says if you are divorced or you marry someone who is divorced, you commit adultery. There is no verse that explicitly allows for remarriage. I am separated and will stay 😢such until I die.
@@HamiltonRowan-r6z Brother in Christ! If you believe remarry is allowed or if you believe remarry is not allowed keep this between you and God.(Romans 14:22) Jesus permitted divorce only in the ground of sexual immorality. The innocent victim is guiltless and free to act, if his/her conscience is not blaming. You shall know the truth and truth shall make you free. First if we go in OT. The punishment for adulter is to put to death.(Deuteronomy 22:22-24). But in NT the forgiveness of Jesus is received instead of put to death and pressed more on the law of (Deuteronomy 24:1-4) by only in the cause of sexual immorality you have to give divorce to the spouse because at that time the people used to divorce spouse at any cause of indecency. Jesus hate the murder of the man doing by the law of Moses in OT so he stoped the killing of people in NT because he came not to kill, murder or destroy but to bring life and life eternal. Only thing Jesus change the law of the OT by showing mercy and stoping the killing. And we see apostle the Paul next, that he allows one more ground for the divorce and remarry, if unbelieving spouse leave. In such case it is not bound and free to act because he knows the danger for their soul and family living in that toxic relationship. Jesus never against the law of Moses but make it more complex. If the divorce and remarry happen without the biblical ground of NT, the abundance grace and forgiveness of God can help you to carry on in this situation, erasing the guilty conscience and to serve God in great joy! Remember to seek the guidance of Holy Spirit and in prayer and repentance God will do great thing! Peace be to you❤️
@@HamiltonRowan-r6z brother in Christ! If you believe remarry is allowed or if you believe it not allowed keep it between you and God according to what you approves.(Romans 14:22) The innocent victims is free to act if his/her conscience don’t condemn them. In OT(Deuteronomy 22:22-24) the law was to put to death to the adulterers. But in the NT, Jesus replaced it by forgiveness because he hates killing, he came to this world to give life and life eternal. Instead Jesus pressed more hard to the law of Moses (Deuteronomy 24:1-4) by only giving ground for divorce on sexual immorality rather than any indecency that is found in a spouse in that verse.(Mathew5:31-32)Another ground for divorce and remarry is Paul the apostle. If unbelieving leave, let it be so. They are not bound spiritually and morally because Paul knows the danger of that kind of relationship to their soul.(1 Corinthians 7:15)Jesus was never against the law of Moses rather he shows mercy than killing and bloodshed in OT. Moses, Jesus and Paul are all on the same side. Remember our God is unchanging God. He is same in the OT,NT and eternity. If you are divorced and remarried without the biblical ground of NT, remember the grace and forgiveness of God flows abundantly to the sinner. Please spend your time in prayer and guidance of the Holy Spirit. God will make a way cause he is not the author of confusion. And always keep your conscience clean cause God will judge every intention and motives of the heart and mind and will reward accordingly to their deeds.(Jeremiah 17:10) Peace be upon you❤️
@@HamiltonRowan-r6z Brother in Christ! If you believe remarry is allowed or not allowed keep this faith between you and God that you approves(Romans 14:22). The innocent victim is free to act if his/her conscience doesn’t condemn. In OT (Deuteronomy 22:22-24) the law of Moses is to put to death to the adulterers. In the NT the forgiveness of Jesus is provided instead of killing and bloodshed. Jesus pressed more hard on the law of Moses (Deuteronomy 24:1-4) because the people are allowed to divorce in any cause of indecency their spouse committed rather than sexual immorality (Mathew 5:31-32). Jesus was never against to the law of Moses but he preferred mercy and forgiveness then killing and bloodshed. Another ground for divorce and remarry is given by Paul the apostle(1 Corinthians 7:15). If unbelieving leave, let it be so. Cause he/she is not bound spiritually and morally and free to act. Paul knows the danger of this situation to the soul. Jesus, Moses and Paul are always on the same side. Our God is unchanging God. In OT, NT and eternity. If you are already divorced and remarried not in the biblical ground of NT remember our God’s grace and forgiveness flows abundantly to the sinner and erase the guilty conscience. Please spend your time in prayer and always ask for the guidance of Holy Spirit and keep your conscience clean cause God will judge every heart and mind of the people and rewards them according to their deeds (Jeremiah 17:10). Peace be upon you❤️
It has been very confusing topic that not bound means not bound spiritually and morally in amplified version and in kjv is written not under boundage, it means free. Since it become confusion among Christianity please keep this between you and God.(Romans 14:22). The writer should have write if the unbeliever leave let him leave. Then it will make a sense of one particular thought. why would writer wrote ‘not bound’ then?
My parents 😢 divorced long ago when I was just a kid Later on my dad remarried but my mum is still single i don't know how I can share this message 😢 with them since they have never been in good terms
I'm in a similar boat. Is it possible the message is for you? To give you clarity regarding their marriage? Or to help others in a similar situation? Either way, sure to both love and honor them when they do honorable things. Remain focused on Christ, and share Christ. And all things will come together for good, and for His glory.
What you can do is pray to God to forgive any iniquities, unknown or known between all parties. You can pray that He brings your parents to a point of repentence and convicts them. Keep praying. Maybe you could even pray for the opportunity to address it all with them. 🙏 ❤
The scripture seems to be directed towards those instigating the divorce not the receiver who doesn’t have control over it. Is anyone else seeing this?
No not really. Women didnt really have the option of divorce since they could be drowned ' just for asking. And if your husband has sex with someone else it isnt technically adultery since adultery is a crime against a man. Denying him his rights over a woman.
dont underestimate the power of wanting/needing someone; its not unheard of for suddenly singled people to promptly take up another relationship within a couple months, and get remarried within a year. everyone needs someone.
There is a time for grief, and only One who truly knows that grief to whom we can pour out everything we think and feel, just as He invites us to (Psalm 62:8).
@@Lauren-vd4qeI really need someone but I’m unclear on what God wants me to do. My wife divorced me over three years ago while we were both unbelieving atheists. Then I was saved a year later. I’ve been desperately lonely and in need of companionship but I’ve been all alone all this time now. I’ve been praying for my ex-wife to be saved and for reconciliation but she is now seeing a new man and they go on trips all over and spend lots of time together while I’m alone and suffering terribly. I’m only 46 years old so unless the Lord returns soon I have a lot of years probably left to keep going on like this. I don’t know what to do except keep asking the Lord for guidance and trusting in Him.
Less than a year is way, way to fast to hope for something like that. A sound relationship, strong enough to survive marriage, takes a long time to form, months or years. That comes after the time needed to heal from the loss of a spouse, which could be months or years. I think, if a widower married in less than a couple years after the event, it would become the hardest relationship he ever experienced.
a couple years? i doubt most people wait that long. I wouldnt. I lost a spouse to divorce, now im married almost 50 yrs. and i met n married him in 9 months, its going well. @@joshuakarr-BibleMan
The bible is clearly about remarriage after divorce. The bible does allowed separation or a divorce but NEVER get remarried. Jesus and Paul says the same thing about remarriage. 1 Corinthians 7:39 Paul says only way to remarry is death of a spouse. People like to change Jesus words to make themselves feel better. Only death can one get remarry. Jesus said remarriage after divorce that person shall be called a adulterous. You can't get around Jesus teaching. Paul gave more details about separation but still said like Jesus only death on a spouse to remarry. This is a hard teaching to grasp but the bible is clear about remarriage after divorce.
Naw. People are adding way too much. The rules are different for men and women. Marriage was made for man. There is no Scripture against a man remarrying whose wife divorced him.
@@matthewbrown9027 Paul says that about a WOMAN. Now find me the Scripture that charges a MAN with adultery if his WIFE LEAVES HIM and HE remarries (a woman that is eligible obviously). I'll wait.
@@MoonMoon-fx1op Matthew 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery; and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery: Whosoever is the man and marry another commieth adultery.
Hmmm he reads from many translations so far removed from kjv.. you can divorce but never remarry.. as long as your covent spouse lives you may not remarry luke 16:18 mark 10:11-12 romans 7 2-3 .. your 2 choices are remain unmarried or be reconciled.. no 3rd choice because all remarriage while your covenant spouse lives is adultery.. people look for loopholes to appease their flesh.. die to you flesh ... but be doers of the word not hearing only deceiving yourselves..
Matthew 19:9 is the same in KJV. The presence of the exception in this verse cannot be ignored. 1 Cor 7:15 is actually even clearer in KJV than in other translations because it uses "bondage" rather than "enslaved." You speak of loopholes, but you blind yourself to his words as well as that of his Apostle. And Romans 7:2-3 is descriptive, not prescriptive. The passage is not a teaching about divorce, but the nature of the Law.
Pray pray pray and stay single by faith knowing God has the power to perform heart surgery on her and bring her back to you. Just remember that if God does convict her heart and she repents and comes back to be reconciled unto you, how can she if you are in another relationship?
IF she remains single then there is a possibility of reconciliation but if she marries another man she can never be your wife again. That said, it sounds like you have been abandoned by an unbeliever and you are free to move on.
I only found God with my second wife my first wife committed adultery and had an affair and our marriage fell apart but as I said I found God with my first wife but feel sometimes I’m committing adultry and therefore need to leave my second wife which would break her heart and my kids hearts or hope that my first wife dies before me what a situation to be in may Hod have mercy on my soul in Jesus’s name 😢 AMEN
If your first wife committed adultery and had an affair then the divorce was certainly allowed by God. You have ZERO to feel guilty about. ZERO. Live your life and take care of your family.
Thank you. This really cleared up a question I had. But I still don't want my wife to divorce me, even if I have the biblical right. I love her dearly. 😢
This video shows how confusing this topic is, especially in the Church. I am coming to the conclusion that God hates divorce, but is merciful. IMO, Jesus plainly says that anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. I believe this is what shocked His disciples to say then that no one should get married.
What if a pastor is married and his wife cheats on him numerous times, and he keeps forgiving her because he wants to save and keep the marriage desperately, but then she files for a divorce, is he able to continue to pastor a church? Any thoughts and if so , would love scripture to back it up and if ur gonna use the “must be the husband of one wife” I feel like I need more
@@christoprighteous8199 where in scripture does it say that? Especially being divorce in the Bible is allowed ONLY for adultery and obviously if someone passes away unfortunately , so yes, if you can back that up with scripture, I would appreciate it, have a blessed day and night
@jennamarielovesjesus12 common sense tells us that. Not bound is no longer bound. Also a personal relationship with the Savior. ASK Him He will answer.
I had to look at these scriptures again as the years have gone by and I forgot them. I wondered if I am in the clear to one day date again. Apparently I am. I think my circumstance would be confusing for people to understand. I was thinking how some Christians feel like they need to go up to every divorced or remarried person and tell them to repent. I think they should be very careful with that. If they are just like having a chat and the person mentions hey my hubby and I just were not a good fit so we divorced and now I am engaged that might be a good time to let them know but just asuming every divorced person or remarrying person is in sin and confronting them is crazy and a bit nosy.
If a wife divorces her husband for any other reason than HIS sexual immorality or abandonment then she is to never remarry for as long as he is alive. Plain and simple.
Sometime it is just not very pleasant, to do the right thing. Our flesh and our desires want something different. Mine, too. That's when all of the liberal interpretations come in. And born again virgins.
I'm not passing judgment on anyone but why are people so obsessed with getting remarried. What about focusing on your relationship with God and making Him a priority.
How do you serve god without a husband? Do you not know that women were created FOR the man (1 Corinthians 11:9) to be his companion and helper (Genesis 2:18) and to get married, bear children and keep house (1 Timothy 5:14))? I think you have been deceived by feminism and you need to repent.
I divorced my abusive ex bc he was immoral. BUT, if YOU are stuck in a verbally/physically abusive marriage, go live elsewhere where he cannot find you, get a different job, move far away from him. go no contact. eventually he WILL COMMIT THAT sin of immorality, then u can divorce him. worked for me! only took him a couple months to realize i was NEVER coming back, so he found other willing partners. easy peasy!
From what you said, I would judge your former husband as a sucker, too (Proverbs 22:14; Romans 1:21,24). "The two shall become one." If they separate, do they separate as the same, or does a piece of each go with the other. If the second, it is obvious why God hates divorce. If the second, what upsets you the most now, the piece of him that remained in you, or the piece of you now missing, or both. May the Lord complete your healing and may the Lord bring your former husband to his senses.
@@deanfry879 when i left, trust me, there was NONE of him left with me, except a very bitter taste for men and marriage altogether. i dont think he will come to his senses, hes deceased very likely.
@@Lauren-vd4qeNobody is saying you should have stayed in that sort of situation. I would have told you to leave. However, I would not tell you to divorce in that situation. And, I agree that if he commits adultery during that separation, you have biblical right to divorce.
Well, if we were all perfect then Christianity is a dead fish in the water. Jesus said that our sin are forgiven when we accept him. This isn't a license to sin but it definitely does not mean that you are unforgiven if you have divorced.
So i remarried but my first wife was not a believer in Christianity, i encouraged her, but she was pursuing other religions, the relationship was very unstable and we both agreed on divorce, and im trying to find answers
Paul insinuated in 1 Corinthians 7:15 that if the unbelieving spouse leaves, the Christian is not bound in such circumstances. But, he clearly stated that those were his words and not the Lord's. Ask God to show you what to do.
@@samuelzulu9731 It depends on the situation. Abandonment by an unbelieving spouse and sexual immorality by the other spouse. (Matthew 19:9 and 1 Cor 7:15).
@@aquatalliahbouchon5005 - "All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness;" (2 Timothy 3:16)
I think I know the answer here but just to check; Is a believer bound a believer who left? Or is unboundness only permissible if the guilty party was an unbeliever?
I have heard a pastor named Mike Winger argue that if Matthew 18 is carried out to the extent it's possible, trying to win back the brother or sister from their unrepentant sin and they still will not listen, we are to regard them as an unbeliever. In the case that they profess Christ but divorce their spouse willfully without grounds (sexual imorality, for example) and will not repent of it and be reconciled, the abandoned believer is not bound per 1 Corinthians 7, regarding them as an unbeliever. It'll take working with other Christians to try and win them back first, but if they cannot be won, Mike argues we are free to remarry and are not expected to keep the marriage covenant alone without them.
Malachi 2:16 does not say that. You're citing a mistranslation. And Jewish divorce always permits remarriage. The purpose of the certificate of divorce (called a get) is to allow remarriage without it being adultery, and the bridal payment is to be used as a dowry for another marriage as well. The problem is that Jews in the 1st century were trivializing the grounds for divorce.
If I divorce my husband who is an unbeliever and he tells me he’s too young to change and not just in a quiet way but roars like a lion towards me when it’s a case of encouraging him to be a good Christian. Can I divorce him and then remarry? Cos I’m tired.
@@samuelzulu9731 - Scripture reference on separation please? Here is one that comes to my mind. "But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband" (1 Corinthians 7:10)
Here is what the bible says about your situation. Part 1 - Divorcing an unbeliever - "But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?" (1 Corinthians 7:12-16) Part 2: Instruction to a wife married to an unbeliever. "In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, 2as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior." (1 Peter 3:1-2) Notice that verse says "without a word". You should not be talking to your unbelieving husband about how he needs to change. How is it even logical that you would expect an unbeliever to act like a Christian? If you want to have a positive effect on your husband, follow 1 Peter 3:1-2 and submit to him in everything and show him good and respectful behavior and trust God for the outcome.
Wishy washy teaching here. Scripture is clear, only death breaks the marriage covenant (Romans 7:2-3). Remarriage after divorce is adultery ( Mark 10:10-11, Luke 16:18) and fornication or sexual immorality is taking about the engagement period, Jesus said what God joins together let no man separate( Matt5:32, 19:9). You even say it in your vows "to death do us part". You can divorce but cannot remarry while your spouse is alive (1 Cor 7:10-11).
The Romans 7:3 and 1 Cor 7:39 are talking about someone who is married, not biblically divorced. Jesus was talking about marriage because that's what the Pharisees asked him about. In that case, people now couldn't even break an engagement. If you initiate a divorce, you shouldn't remarry. If an unbeliever does, you are no longer under bondage to that relationship. If you aren't enslaved, you are free. 1 Cor 7:15.
Vows to love honor and cherish as long as you both shall live. For good times and bad times. Those things are said too. Take the entire not the selected.
My husband has several children with different women during our marriage. He left me and my daughter 10 years ago. He did make an attempt to fix our marriage however he still committed adultery with several women - We are unable to file for annulment due to monetary concerns. At the moment he has opted to build a new family with his current partner, they have a daughter. Is this not grounds for me to pursue separation and be open to remarriage with someone else ?
Oh boy. What Bible aren't people reading? Jesus said if you love me keep my commands. He said no divorce. I've been single for 7 years because God is my priority, if I can do it anyone can.
Sis, you are FREE to divorce AND remarry if you so desire! This man broke the scripture down so plainly, so I'm not sure why others on here keep saying the opposite. When a scripture says a person is free or except for, those are exceptions Jesus and the apostle gave so that a person doesn't have to live in misery while their spouses constantly cheat on them or abandons them. You are free according to Scripture. Why else would Paul have said, a brother or a sister is not bound(marriage covenant) in such cases! When a man or woman constantly is cheating on their spouse, they broke the covenant of marriage, which is why Jesus mentions, except for the cause of fornication.
My husband is a false prophet and used his vision as an excuse to leave the marriage. Do I still wait for him or can I divorce and remarry, since his vows were a lie? Will going back to a false prophet condem me to hell for his wrongs?
If you were abandoned, you are free to remarry. "But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. " (1 Corinthians 7:15)
So why is the divorce rate so high among alledged believers. If God is so prepared to deal with two sinners coming together, why are the people who claim to believe in Him not so ready. We make more rules about marriage than God did. Jesus quoted Isaiah 29:13 about people who knew the words of the law very well, yet somehow used it as though it was their own law. Could it be there is so much divorce among believers because, just as we do not measure up to God's law and need a Savior, so we do not measure up to each other's laws and need to be saved from them by a Savior.
I am ready after 17 years…. I forgive my spouse but I truly believe this was us NOT GOD! Eight years ago I began the process and didn’t go through with it but it’s been a struggle these past 8 years. Both are miserable together when trying to make it work. We work better separately! Pray for us!!!
Marriage is tough and only peaceful if both are following the instructions given in God's word. That said, the Christian husband should be teaching his wife what the bible teaches and helping her to become a better wife as instructed in Ephesians 5:25-27. If it is the wife who trusts in God then she need to be following 1 Peter 3:1-6.
Yup. Believers are required to maintain a marriage, once they create it. The "better or worse," and the "till death" vows aren't mere tradition. They are solemn vows, sworn before God and He takes vows seriously. If a believer walks out of a marriage, then it us a sin against God and against the other spouse, and against any children, and against the church, and against society. Still, we can't repay the sin of abandonment with the sin of divorce. Now, after all that, if she starts a sexual relationship with somebody else, then that is adultery, and grounds for a divorce. No, Scripture says a married couple must not separate, but if they do, then they should be reconciled to one another.
@@joshuakarr-BibleMan Marriage shouldn't be a form of idolatry. Though important, it isn't perfect. The Bible offers two reasons for divorce and if divorce is Biblical, the implication is remarriage. Sexual immorality (Matthew 19:9) and abandonment by an unbeliever (1 Cor 7:15). Critics cry out "but it doesn't SAY you can get remarried!" It didn't need to as it was assumed that this would happen as it had gone on for centuries. Jesus pointed out the importance of marriage and how it wasn't to be taken lightly. There is no "no fault" divorce.
@@Thomas116-m2n Well said. These divorced/remarried You Tube videos are full of vicious legalist Catholics or ex-Catholics full of vitriol like they are something right out of the Spanish Inquisition. If the bible commanded divorced believers not to remarry, then I could understand their viewpoint. As is, the implication is that divorced people are once again single, and free to remarry (or remain single).
Let God lead and guide you in the right path. People have their own opinions about what it means rather they quote scriptures biblical or not. I'm not saying the scriptures are wrong or ignore scriptures, because we cannot change the word of God. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding. If you follow Christ more openly he will direct your path. Let God be true and every man to be a liar.
If you in your right mind are depressed, not happy, and have done everything in your power to fix the marriage and yet there is resolve on ether end. Leave you can repent and move forward with forgiveness. No person deserves to live in hell and not have the opportunity to have a healthy marriage just because of an old estimated rule either
If a spouse commits adultery then the innocent party is not bound to them. Because God allows divorce due to adultery. So he doesn't hold the innocent party accountable. It's like the marriage is null and void
What if you marry a person who agrees that they want children but-conveniently after marriage-they "change their mind"? It seems like if they lied about something that they knew was a deal-breaker for you than there should be freedom to divorce and marry someone else? Is that the case or does God want you to stay miserable?
@jenisebrooks4308 I understand. Basically you are saying that biblically if a person tricks you into marrying them by hiding a deal-breaker you can leave them-but you have to be alone forever. Under those circumstances most people will stay in their miserable marriage. This means that-more or less-God is rewarding the deceitful person. It gets me how pastors can say (with a straight face) that marriage is a "blessing." Oh boy, how "lucky" we are that God gave us this "blessing"! If this is God's idea of a blessing, I hate to see what his idea of a curse would be. So really, I am further ahead to technically stay single, have a baby with a woman, then repent and then marry her. At least that way I know I will have a child.
@@Alexander44665 and this why God is the judge. Honestly he knows our hearts he knows if we really want to please him. There are many situations that don't fit what it's supposed to be EXACTLY!! That's why he did what he did. There's a difference in divorcing because of personality conflicts vs divorcing due to abuse. Perhaps a surrogate mother to get your child and stay Marr how the lady feel about that??
So, If a man commits adultery against his wife and divorces her, Years later recommits his life to Christ and repent of his adultery is he still allowed to remarry another who is a strong Christian? Yes or no? Any advice would be appreciated
For a very detailed and in depth explanation of this subject, put the following terms into a search engine and read the article that pops us. Berean Patriot Divorce Remarriage
First of all God will judge all the intentions and motives of our heart and mind and according to our deeds he will reward. Remarry is allowed in old and New Testament in Deuteronomy 24 and 1 Corinthians 7 in particular case. But if your conscious is feeling guilty and always in inner shame then if you marry also you are in misery state of conscious.(Romans 14:22)
My boyfriend of almost 20 years days he won’t marry me because he cheated on his first wife and she divorced him. She has remarried. Can’t the offender remarry if the ex has? He also won’t have relations with me and hasn’t for 12 years. I’m not willing to spend the rest of my life like this.
the Bible does not make a provision, for this....if one separates or divorces the options are to reconcile or remain unmarried.....not reconcile, if possible...
@@aquatalliahbouchon5005 Chill dude. She's obviously living in sin and a Christian shouldn't be sleeping with some dude who doesn't marry her first. But my point was that if she's living like she's married then in the eyes of the Lord why would it not be a marriage? In the eyes of the law its a common law marriage.
What about Leviticus saying that If a wife has been unfaithful to her husband for her husband to present a certificate of divorce and a monthly stipend for her to live on?
@@philipbuckley759 Yes. HE said that you shouldn't divorce unless your spouse commits sexual immorality against you (Even the Pre-Erasmus definition was sexual immorality between two people who weren't married to one another). If they do, you may divorce. By Law, remarriage was permitted and expected as that is what the divorce certificate says which is why the word 'remarriage' isn't mentioned. 1 Cor 7:15 mentioned that one is not enslaved to another an unbelieving spouse who has departed. The word "enslaved" is used as there as a woman who was abandoned and not divorced was known as an "agunah," or one who is "chained" or "anchored." Paul is stating that she shouldn't be in that situation. Again, a legal divorce by law (and yes, they existed), meant that a person could marry again, so there was no need to mention it. Question for you, Phil. I've seen you on just about every one of these types of videos for, literally, years. Do you ever try to lead someone to Christ, by talking about salvation and grace or do you just enjoy pointing fingers? Your answer will likely tell you where you stand with your own salvation.
I think the question should be, "Were you forced into the marriage in the first place?". Lots of marriages are unhappy, but there are those who would take God at his word and stay committed, especially if there is no abuse or sexual immorality. The concept of dying to yourself is found in Luke 9:23, in which Jesus said, "Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross DAILY and follow me." Your unhappy, non-abusive marriage is your cross in this context; you are then called to take it up and follow after Christ, because in Him is no abuse or unhappiness.
1 Peter 2:18-21 tells us that as Christians, we are called to suffer as Christ suffered for us. Read the following: "Servants, be submissive to your masters with all respect, not only to those who are good and gentle, but also to those who are unreasonable. For this finds favor, if for the sake of conscience toward God a person bears up under sorrows when suffering unjustly. For what credit is there if, when you sin and are harshly treated, you endure it with patience? But if when you do what is right and suffer for it you patiently endure it, this finds favor with God. For you have been called for this purpose, since Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example for you to follow in His steps," Now as a husband, are you teaching her the bible and calling her on her sin? You are called to do that you know. consider Ephesians 5:25-27: "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless." Also consider this as how Jesus loves His bride the church: "‘Those whom I love, I reprove and discipline; therefore be zealous and repent." (Revelation 3:19)
I got married and we did divorce. I cannot stand her and she felt the same way. About 15 years later I did remarry and feel its to the right person. I watched other videos on this topic and what I came away with is some sins cannot be forgiven. So honestly I am not worrying anymore about it. I am trying to live the happiest life possible until I die, then I know I am going to hell. And sadly will pay for my sin then. I stopped going to church and threw out all my bibles and stopped praying. And a weight was lifted off me, I no longer feel guilty or bad. Just focusing on being a good person and dont need the church to look down on me because I am human and made a mistake in my early 20's. For those that keep the faith and dont remarry I respect that too. Thank you for this video it did help me reassure myself I made the right choice to leave religion and just try to be a good person. We each walk down our own paths. Sadly mine is the wide one. Peace everyone
We are saved by faith in Jesus, not good behaviour. We are all sinners who need a saviour. If we could be saved purely by how we live, then there was no need for Christ to die. (If we sin, God may discipline us, as his children, but that is a separate issue from salvation.Don't forget the thief on the cross)
There are more verses in the gospels that do talk about marriage and divorce. Besides the only unforgivable sin is the blaspheme of the Holy Spirit. Not Divorce. In any case it is not a degrading sin different then any other sin. What I am against is using divorce as a weapon to 'control' the flock which to many shepherds, wrongly, seem all to happy to use. The reference 'sexual immorality' in the verse mention is explicitly, when the bride is found to be Not a Virgin. In which case the marriage would be undone after that first marriage night! Moslims(some) accept child brides(before puberty) which I am totally against! There is a divide among Muslim Scholars on this. The Prophet Mohammed seemed to have married and consumed the marriage with a nine year old girl. I am not in a position to know if this is true or not. But there is a letterlijk divide among their Thinkers on this issue. Which I am strongly against.
A first time marriage is marriage a divorce is a divorce if one has remarried and tried to get back with the first it’s called condemnation and against Gods will!! Adultery is adultery no matter what
Matthew 5:28-29 - JESUS said: “But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. So if your eye-even your good eye-causes you to lust, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.” So to answer your question, YES, the practice of or addiction to viewing pornography is also adultery and a violation of the marriage covenant.
jesus mentioned a seeming contradiction to moses's allowance for divorce by saying remarriage was adultery.Because the mystical unity of a married couple remains ,and so he says according to moses we are allowed divorce without the old testament law condemning remarriage to another as adultery but the mystical unity of the two remains according to God,that the two original married couples are still connected and its a breaking of a covenant.Then so this lesson shows we are all human sinners against 10 commandments and hopelessly cannot be saved without asking Jesus to forgive us of our unavoidable human sin.
This can be a tricky subject.....God loves us all and we do sin. I know He is just to forgive if we made mistakes concerning this topic. I'm divorce and so was my new husband, and we got married and we are saved and will stay together......I know the Lord understands and loves us and honors our new commitment.
No He doesn't. He only honors the the commitment and covenant with your first husband. If your first husband is still alive and you are remarried, you are living in sin and commiting adultery.
That's why you say till death do us part, you and your spouse are making a covenant before the most high to remain together until death. Getting a divorce isn't a sin, but if you divorce for whatever reason, Jesus said you are to remain unmarried or be reconciled to you first spouse. It's one man and one woman for life. God doesn't honor second or third marriages, only the first. Hope this provides clarity. God bless you 🙏🏾.
Thank you for this interesting video. I had to think about the last words you said "....even if the divorce or remarriage is not covered under the exception clause of...." The logical consequence of your words are that a person can remarry, although not being "allowed" to still be under God's love (????). Thrrefore, when analysing your statement, fact is that a remarried person, in the case of God not agreeing, really continues living in sin. And that is deliberate sinning (Hebrews 10,26) with fatal consequences.
All sin is deliberate. By your rationale, a believer who is a former heroin addict, ends up relapsing and dying from that relapse. He's going to Hell, correct? It was his last sin, so....
@@Thomas116-m2nyes, in my understanding he would go to hell because if he had really asked Jesus for help, if he had put his soul at the feet of Jesus, Jesus would have healed him. When Jesus heals, you are healed. Also, if God saw a chance of turning to him, I am sure he would give the addict a chance once more. Looking at divorce again: When 2 Christians get divorced and one gets married again, hence breaking the marriage, he can ask for forgiveness but has to get divorced from his second spouse and live by himself to obey God's will. Otherwise it would be equivalent to a bank robber coming to belief in prison. One would then think that he was saved. But if he does not return the stolen money to the bank, he is not saved.
@@kerstenukatz8672 Stealing and a marraige covenant cannot be compared. We may remarry wrongly - and need to repent of an adulterous decision - but it is still a real marraige, with new vows, and to leave would be sinning again.
@@AndersonChao-vs3zf - If she abandons you you are free to remarry. "But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace. " (1 Corinthians 7:12-16) Not remarrying a woman who has married another man. This comes from the Old Testament but God's moral law is the same today as it was back then. "“When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out from his house, and she leaves his house and goes and becomes another man’s wife, and if the latter husband turns against her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her to be his wife, then her former husband who sent her away is not allowed to take her again to be his wife, since she has been defiled; for that is an abomination before the LORD, and you shall not bring sin on the land which the LORD your God gives you as an inheritance. (Deuteronomy 24:1-4) Your situation is slightly different but notice the phrase "since she has been defiled". Taking a former wife back who has married (and had sex with) another man is an abomination to the Lord.
It is true that God hates divorce. It is one man and one woman for life. However in the context of Matthew 19:9, adultery is the act of remarriage, not the sex act which is fornication. Meaning if a person is divorced for a reason besides fornication, they are labeled an adulterer at the point of remarriage. However, the blood of Jesus cleanses all sin, except for blasphemy of the Holy Spirit, which is an unrepentant sin. Therefore you can remarry but simply repent and ask God for forgiveness. At that point you go and make the second marriage work and strive to not depart. Adultery is defined by context and is a forgivable sin. As seen in 1 Corinthians 6. It is better for an unmarried person (which can be a person that was never married, widow , or divorced person) to marry than to burn with lust as seen in 1 Corinthians 7
I’m not sure I’m understanding you correctly, are you saying one can remarry knowing they are sinning and then ask for forgiveness? Also according to scriptures, fornication is having sex when you’re not married, while adultery is when at least one of the parts is married, which could potentially lead to divorce and remarriage and when scripture say it is better to marry than to burn in lust, it’s obviously saying that to the unmarried (people who’ve never been married and to the widow), that message is not for the divorced, else it would contradict itself.
@@wendymtzc "Now the Spirit [a]expressly says that in latter times some will depart from the faith, giving heed to deceiving spirits and doctrines of demons, 2 speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their own conscience seared with a hot iron, 3 forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from foods which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth."- 1 Timothy 4:1-3 NKJV This verse highlights that Christians would depart from the faith and forbid marriage. This is not referring to the Roman Catholic Church, since Catholics are not Christians and the Catholic denomination doesn't come around until centuries after Christianity began (33ad). To tell an unmarried man(whether it be never married, widow, or divorced) that they cannot get married to an unmarried woman(whether never married, widow, or divorced) is forbidding marriage. You can't be married and unmarried at the same time. The law of marriage is understood through the Law of Morality, which is one of the three types of laws within the Law of Moses. Other types are ceremonial laws (i.e. tithing, offerings, keeping the Sabbath, etc.) and civil laws (I.e. murder, stealing, etc.). Though the Law of Moses was nailed to the cross(Colossians 2:14), the Law of Morality still applies to us today. For example, the world was populated through siblings marrying, such as Seth in Genesis 5 and Abraham marrying Sarah, his half-sister. Incest wasn't outlawed until the Law of Moses(see Leviticus 20). However, the Law of Christ does not actually specifically mention that siblings are not allowed to marry. That is because we learn that incest between siblings is immoral from the Law of Moses. That's why it is mentioned that it written for our learning(Romans 15:4). "9 And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery-unless his wife has been unfaithful.[d]” 10 Jesus’ disciples then said to him, “If this is the case, it is better not to marry!” 11 “Not everyone can accept this statement,”Jesus said. “Only those whom God helps.12 Some are born as eunuchs, some have been made eunuchs by others, and some choose not to marry[e] for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven. Let anyone accept this who can.”"- Matthew 19:9-12 NKJV Verse 9 directly refers to "adultery" as the marriage act. The context defines the word, not the commentary. Adultery can mean sex with a person outside of marriage, along with lusting after someone in your heart, and practicing idolatry. In this context, "fornication is the sex act, which addresses the physical act of infidelity". The act of remarriage is what is called "adultery". When Jesus makes this statement, it is before his death, meaning that the Law of Moses, which came from God, was still in effect. Jesus did not contradict the Old Law. "“When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some [a]uncleanness in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, 2 when she has departed from his house, and goes and becomes another man’s wife, 3 if the latter husband detests her and writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her as his wife,"- Deuteronomy 24:1-3 NKJV When Jesus makes his statement in Matthew 19, he is referring to Deuteronomy 24, which gives an example of a woman being divorced for uncleanness and getting remarried. The second man is acknowledged by God as her husband. You can't be married to two people at the same time in the eyes of God. "10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from herhusband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to herhusband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife."- 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 NKJV Departing means the same thing as divorce. When you divorce, you become unmarried. The first priority for a divorced person is to be reconciled to their original spouse. However, if they choose to marry someone else, it is labeled adultery. However, it is impossible to commit "adultery" if the remarriage is acknowledged as a marriage in God's eyes. Meaning if a homosexual marriage is not considered a marriage. Adultery is a sin that can be cleansed by the blood of Jesus. " Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor [b]homosexuals, nor [c]sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were [d]sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God."- 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 NKJV The Bible does not teach that having sex with your spouse is sin. The sin was getting remarried, but that person is still your spouse. A good example is John 4:16-18 "16 Jesus said to her, “Go, call your husband, and come here.” 17 The woman answered and said, “I have no husband.” Jesus said to her, “You have well said, ‘I have no husband,’ 18 for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; in that you spoke truly.”"- John 4:16-18 NKJV To put this in simple terms, the woman could very well have been married and divorced four times and separated from the fifth husband, before dating another man. Another scenario could be that she was married and divorced five times and was with a sixth man that she would likely marry. Either way, all five of the woman's marriages were acknowledged in the eyes of God. My question to you is who does 1 Timothy 4:1-3 allude to as forbidding marriage? Where is the direct command, approved example, or necessary inference that God doesn't acknowledge when a person that was divorced for a reason besides fornication gets remarried? Why don't you believe that the blood of Jesus cleanses all unrighteousness as taught in 1 John " But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin. 8 If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."- 1 John 1:7-9 NKJV Where is the command for a person put away for fornication to remain single until they die? Jesus suggests that though they commit adultery, mercy is given for them to remarry. It is a choice. Not all people have the give to become eunuchs and remain celibate. "10 His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” Jesus Teaches on Celibacy 11 But He said to them, “All cannot accept this saying, but only those to whom it has been given: 12 For there are [c]eunuchs who were born thus from their mother’s womb, andthere are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He who is able to accept it, let him accept it.”"- Matthew 19:10-12 NKJV
@@MichaelMichaelJr 32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of FORNICATION, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery… the exception has never been adultery or immorality, that garbage is coming from newer Bible translations, we can agree to disagree
@@wendymtzc”And whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery”. This verse that you just quoted clearly identifies adultery as the act of remarriage. How are you drawing a different conclusion, when the text you used affirms my stance? Agreeing to disagree is the problem, because you will leave here teaching error on this subject, after I’ve shown you to be wrong. That is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit, which is the ONLY unforgivable sin. You must keep scripture in context. “Adultery” in the context of Matthew 19:9 is the act of remarriage not sex. The sin is remarriage after the first marriage ended not for fornication. Remarriage is a one time act, not an ongoing act. Just as when you steal or murder you are labeled a thief or murderer. However, if you are not a Christian you become one by hearing the gospel, believing that Jesus is the Son of God, repenting from you sins, confessing that Jesus is the Son of God, and water baptism for the forgiveness of sins. And at that point you become a Christian and receive the indwelling of the Holy Spirit(Acts 2:38). If a person commits adultery as a Christian, they simply repent and ask God for forgiveness (1 John 1:8-10). From that point you go and sin no more, making your second marriage work. Once you are forgiven of the sin of adultery, you are no longer labeled an adulterer. Having sex with your wife is never called adultery or fornication. God acknowledges a marriage that was formed through adultery, as I have proven in Deuteronomy 24:1-4. Jesus’ statement in Matthew 19 does not change the Law of Moses. He was better explaining adultery. The subject of Matthew 19 is “divorce”. Jesus acknowledges that not everyone divorced will remain single after divorce. In verse 10, his disciples suggested that it is better to remain single after marriage, but Jesus stated that not all people can accept that saying. Some could be made eunuchs and remain celibate, while others did not have that gift of celibacy. That’s why it is stated in 1 Corinthians 7 that it is better for an unmarried person to marry than to burn with lust. Context matters “10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. 11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. 12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.”- Matthew 19:10-12 KJV
@@MichaelMichaelJr adultery is having sex with someone other than your spouse and that does not always involve getting a divorce and remarrying, so you’ve shown me to be wrong at all, but if that makes you feel better go at it, you also clearly don’t understand what blasphemy of the Holy Ghost mean but whatever, have a good day
Thanks and God bless you for that ( I respect & appreciate you Got questions team) but are you sure you are not reading things into the scriptures? Because only adultery on the part of the woman seems to be addressed in all of them, just as remarriage for a man (not innocent party) whose wife has committed adultery seems to be lawful; I dont want to assume that just because it feels just, its what the bible actually says.
You never mention mark or luke why? Mark was the first gospel written. 1 Corinthians 7:39 says when you can get remarried. Why don't bring this up? Its in the same chapter. So sad.
oo i didn't know that so if I'm a believer and she's defiantly not shes all new age well crap, I can remarry? cause I dont really want to be alone for the rest of my life :(.
"But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?" (1 Corinthians 7:12-16)
I quote no scripture, but with little grace of God in me: In a situation where one of the partner take it as an opportunity to misbehave because of the higher level of the other in the service of God. This is the problem of Christianity or Christian Leaders, wives misbehave badly because of no divorce.Christian Leaders by majority has bad children.( No divorce is only applicable to a genuine transform woman and man , not just believers because Satan is also a believer.
@christoprighteous8199 my point is that all of these videos giving divorce remarriage instruction always end up saying that whatever crazy situation you have created, just repent and keep going. God doesn’t seem to be visibly punishing punishing couples who are in unbiblical remarriages.
The correct translation for Corinthians chapter 7 verse 15 is that you are not under bondage. It doesn't mean you are not bound to the marriage covenant. It means you are not enslaved to keep this spouse happy, and content if he is restricting your worship to Christ .you are loosed from the responsibilities of a wife but you are still married under the covenant. Again translating it the way you have makes the other scriptures confusing and contradictory.
Then you're still enslaved to that spouse. You just contradicted yourself in that statement. If you are not under bondage, you are ....yep! You guessed it, free from that person in your life. They have left you and aren't coming back. No, you're no longer married to them if they divorce you as that is what divorce means.
I am not enslaved to my husband . I am free to worship God in peace. Marriage is not enslavement. I will honor my marriage covenant I made with God and my spouse whether he comes back or not. Our marriage and vows are a threefold covenant we both made with God. Only death ends it. I only follow what Gods word says not mans. I'm not going to risk my relationship with God just because I might get lonely for a partner. Or use the same excuse everyone else uses that God wants me to be happy. Our life here is but a vapor ,and then were gone. I don't want to be called an adulterous women. God commands us to pick up our cross if we want to follow him. That means we have to give up our worldly, and fleshly desires. Sometimes that can be very difficult, but through the power of the Holy Spirt we can run away from any ungodly temptation that crosses our path. You need to be born again for the Holy Spirt to do a good work in you. That means full surrender to Jesus Christ. That means not only believing in him, but also obeying his commands. You have to do both. .@@Thomas116-m2n
@@philipbuckley759 read the scriptures. So was David, Abraham, Moses (Moses was divorced), and Jacob committing adultery when they married and had multiple wives? The word Adulty Jesus in Mark 10 is using is μοιχάω moicháō is singular in form. What about Math 19 or Corth 15? There is NO verse in the bible that tells you once you messed up and got divorced that you must break up a family and most likely children, this would be sinning again by divorcing. This important issue would have been clearly spelled out. You are not looking at the bible in context, you have to look at ALL scripture and have context. Actually in Det once you are divorced and if she marries another you can NOT go back to the first husband.
@@philipbuckley759 Your perspective from a Christian church standpoint is extremely radical and is not endorsed by 99.99% of churches or scripture. According to your viewpoint, a significant portion (50%) of the Church would face division, resulting in the detriment of family and children's lives. It would transform into a harmful environment, leading to the abandonment of faith by children influenced by this false teaching at unprecedented levels. No theologian who reveres God would advocate for this stance. I recommend examining Dr. John MacArthur's teachings or other conservative pastors and theologians like Dr James White on this matter.
@@j.p.5716It doesn't matter how some interpret it as unbiblical; they believe that any marriage involving a divorced person is unbiblical, and those involved will face eternal damnation. In their view, the solution is to divorce your spouse and break up the family, without considering the emotional harm this would cause to the children. We already know the negative impact of broken families on children. If everyone followed this logic, the world would become a playground for evil. Children might question why they would want to serve a God who destroys families. It's distressing to hear this preached daily, as it contradicts the message of God's grace.
Also we should mention here the woman at the well who had seven husbands ans she is not even married to the last. But jesus was still respectful and referred to him as her husband
John 3:16 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal . God forgives divorce when you repent asking for His forgiveness. Depend on God not man. How can so many doubt Gods forgiveness, Gods grace and Gods mercy. False teachings. God forgives.
What if you love talking about Jesus all the time what your spouse doesn’t wanna hear it all the time. you are a fasting and praying reading a Bible every single day, but your spouse doesn’t show any interest. I pray for her every day.
Sister.... I see kjv scripturally both men and women can be abused, especially spiritually. ..... And both men and women can lie, and SAY they've been abused when they have not. My recommendation to you as a woman and being very well studied in the one true Bible.... I do understand that "God is not willing that any should perish" including a wicked abusive spouse. I recommend you have males such as the church, elders or Born. Again, friends go to your husband and share the TRUE gospel with him...AND WARNING him of his abuses of you....if he truly has. God says (he will not bring judgment unless he first sends a messenger).... But according to spiritual hierarchy, you as his wife, or as a woman are not qualified to be that messenger. But another man is. I have been used by God to warn men including pastors of their rebellion to his word.... ....and abuse of women, or the sheep, and I've watched God either kill that man literally, cause him to abandon her, In which case she is not under bondage... .... or tear down his church. 0:06
Although, Christ said we have no grounds for divorce except for sexual immorality, which I agree with. Only the death of a divorced or current spouse can grant us the right to remarry. I would even go as far to say reconciliation between two separated couples, apply only if a divorce hasn't been finalised. It appears that the tradition was a men being unsatisfied with the marriage, would depart from his wife without divorcing her and go on to remarry themselves. Also, Christ declared it's forbidden to marry a divorced woman because it's considered adultery. Matthew 5:31 Also 1 Corthians 7.
Grace to you Brothers and Sisters in Christ. Can we except all that Jesus taught on this issue because remarriage was graciously allowed following the divorce concession He mentions in Matthew 19:8? Yes we can and SHOULD!!! That is exactly how we should draw our conclusions about why this way of committing adultery occurs. If we preserve the CONTEXT we will properly understand that the ensuing adultery was inadvertent and consequential. Otherwise we are going to perceive it as the adultery that was punished, making the situation more dire for those involved. So the million dollar question, is the view you have come to believe following biblical truths chronologically or randomly selecting scriptures to build a subjective perspective? The narrative developed will NOT be the same!! Blessings
Now what about abuse instead of sexual immorality? Is abuse the same like sexual immorality? Imagine a woman being abused verbally she will get completely destroyed in soul if she would not get separated. How on earth could she THEN have to stay married with a person that is constantly (!) abusing her verbally? To then say she must stay unmarried until her husband gets normal might be a prayer request but is it a must for her to wait until he gets normal again after lets say ten years of abuse? I am not talkong of some months of bad behavior but of a constant abusive treatment where she gave her husband let us say several clear opportunities to repent and make a decision for a change.
No, verbal abuse is bad but it does not qualify you for divorce. If I were you, I would try and find out from my husband what I was doing wrong that caused him to be unhappy with me and fix it.
THE QUESTION IS.... "What does (THE BIBLE) say about divorce and remarriage". THAT BEGS THE QUESTION..... Which Bible? MEN..go to God the father DIRECTLY, asking HIM DIRECTLY, If HE has preserved his word from generation to generation? WHEN He answers you directly after you have sought him with your whole heart.... .. Begin the studying it from Genesis to Revelation..... And you will find, as I have every word every jot every tittle from Genesis 1 to Revelation 22 ...points to the answer to this question.
[Malachi 2:16] Does not say that "God hates divorce".(Do better research) that is a translational error exclusive to the KJV.but the Hebrew text does not read that way.remember,Yahweh divorced Israel [Jeremiah 3:8]
Can I get a divorce if my spouse commits adultery? Never! Can I get a divorce if my spouse is abusive to me? No! Can I get a divorce if I no longer love my spouse? Absolutely not! Can I get a divorce if my spouse has abandoned me? No, you can't! So, under what circumstances can I get a divorce? Absolutely none. The Bible is absolutely clear: only death can dissolve a marriage in God's sight. Our only option is to separate from our spouse and stay single. If things get better between our spouse and us, we can get back together (1 Corinthians 7:10-11, Bible). But what about the exception in Matthew 5:31-32 and Matthew 19:1-9? There is no exception in Matthew’s gospel: Once you are married, you are married for life. No one in the Bible ever got a divorce for adultery or fornication. There was no need for divorce because those found guilty were stoned to death. All divorces were for reasons other than adultery or fornication. Once married, always married until death do us part, with no exceptions. This applies to all human beings, regardless of whether you are a sinner or a saint.
try a better translation, as not under bondage is not akin to not bound...and fornication is not sexual immorality.....sex, out of the marriage covenant has its own term....adultery....so flee this false teacher...
HEADS UP.... Some who comment on these channels, have themselves committed adultery, and refuse to acknowledge THEY Resolved the marutal covenant...... So they twist scripture to make it seem like their FAITH-ful spouse commits adultery, if they remarry.
The only reason Jesus gave for a legitimate divorce, is "porneia" interpreted quite rightly as "fornication" by both the Protestant King James Bible writers and the Roman Catholics and the Pope. It cannot mean adultery, as Jesus had already excluded that meaning by saying sex in a second marriage (even with all the divorce and remarriage paperwork), is continuous adultery, proving it does not break the marriage bond, and similarly in Romans 7:1-4 Saint Paul repeats this fact). In other words if for instance a woman tries to pass herself off as a virgin, but on the marriage bed it is shown by her anatomy she is not, the man who just married her can legitimately divorce her - and yes! they were married without consummation, it is a covenant, or Christ would have been born out of wedlock. The teaching of Jesus is therefore to stay a virgin before you marry. Selling your virginity would be an act of prostitution, Many murders by abortion have been committed because of sex before marriage......
May I suggest you read John 4:16-26. The Samaritan woman who had 5 husbands on the end believed on Jesus. Redeemed ones do not go to hell, but religion and the traditions of men put them there. SO… stand on your soapbox and pound your chest, tell God how righteous you are, and not like the publican who sins. I the publican will humbly beat my chest asking God to forgive me of my sins and rely on His mercy and love toward me. It’s about the condition of the heart, a truly repentant heart God touches by His mercy, and causes hope to arise again. May you, or no one in your religious circle get touched by divorce and remarry.
I think that some marriages are not put together by GOD or even blessed, but our desire. If we do not have the blessing of Almighty GOD, the marriage is doomed to failure.
I 💯 agree
💯Agree! Personally I think most marriages, including Christian marriages, nowadays are outside of GOD’s will. Too many want to rush in and not seeking GOD’s will or timing or discernment and the marriage turns out to be plagued with problems.
Many are the result of a wolf in sheep’s clothing taking grotesque advantage of an unsuspecting sheep and heavily manipulating them into rushing into marriage or eloping with them… only for the sheep to realize they were conned by an abuser and forced to leave for their own safety.
any marriage, under any culture, or religion, or lack of.....the marriage is sanctioned....otherwise, on conversion one would have to remarry or leave that relationship, and it never happens...ergo....the marriages are put together, by God...
Did you take a vow? To death do us part?
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Thanks!
The enemy got our marriage of 25 years. Both believers, wife filed, irreconcilable differences. We're divorced by the state but still married in God's eyes.
If your wife left you for any other reason than why God allows then it is possible that she is not a believer at all. Consider the following.
"By this we know that we have come to know Him, if we keep His commandments. "The one who says, 'I have come to know Him,' and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him; " (1 John 2:3-4)
@ scotchbudmeister9018 Thank you someone gets it
What you mean you still Married in God’s eye? It is because you want to become so Godly but you guys ended up in divorce and started blaming each other. Due to the inner shame and guilty conscious, don’t make excuse saying this(Romans 14:22). What about Jesus(God) himself saying the Samaritan women on the well that she had already five husband and he even recognized them. So if your wife had already married, in God’s eye she is married to a second husband like a Samaritan women.
what scripture says "In God's eyes" a divorced person is still married?
Where do you get your interpretations from? I don't find any of that in the Bible at all. I've been studying divorce and remarriage for over two and a half years, and the Bible for 30. Nowhere does it say you are allowed to remarry if you're the innocent party it just doesn't. Man assumes that because it sounds fair and right to them. God's ways are not our ways. A covenant is for life until death do you part. Like they say you cannot unscramble eggs.
You are correct that fornication is a type of sexual immorality ,and that is what the earliest manuscripts used fornication. Fornication is sex between unmarried people therefore married people cannot commit fornication. The fornication exception clause was written for the Jews because of the the betrothal period . If a man found out the next morning after they consummated the marriage that his wife was not a virgin he was allowed to divorce her and remarry. You really need to go back and study and not follow man. If a man divorces his wife and she marries another he causes her to commit adultery. No mention of whether she is the innocent party or not. We cannot add scripture or assume anything. I rather play it safe and honor my covenant then satisfy my flesh to be in another romantic relationship.
The reason these different Bible translations use words like sexual immorality or unchasty or unfaithfulness is because of copyright laws. It's really sad because when you change those words it changes the meaning of what the original intent was for.
We need to be very careful who we follow for our spiritual knowledge. Stick to the Bible. Go back and read what the earliest church fathers wrote about marriage. It is completely different from what we teach today, and that is a sad truth.
Porneia/Fornication/Sexual Immorality are situations where the participants are married and single. Married people commit fornication by having sex with someone with whom they are not married. For Matthew being about the betrothal period, why did the Pharisees ask Jesus about marriage and he answered them about the betrothal period. Pharisees: Can you divorce your wife for any reason? Jesus: You can't separate from your fiance for any reason except her cheating on you....or it is adultery.
As far as remarriage goes, it had been happening for centuries, sometimes for the accepted reasons and sometimes for the wrong reasons. Jesus never talked directly about homosexuality, either, but he didn't need to as the topic was assumed. Why didn't Jesus and Paul tell everyone....."Some of you have been married to other people besides your current spouses and the former spouses are still alive....you need to leave your current spouse....have your former spouse leave theirs and then the two of you rejoin....That or just stay single....(though it's going to be a lot harder for the women).
Question-have you given away all of your possessions to the poor? Why not? Jesus said to.
so if I'm a believer and she's defiantly not shes all new age well crap, I can remarry? cause I dont really want to be alone for the rest of my life :(. can u plz clarify for me.
Read 1 Corinthians 7:15. Paul was very careful to say I, not the Lord . He insinuated that if the unbeliever leaves the marriage, the, the believer is not bound in such circumstances.
Can I get a divorce if my spouse commits adultery? Never!
Can I get a divorce if my spouse is abusive to me? No!
Can I get a divorce if I no longer love my spouse? Absolutely not!
Can I get a divorce if my spouse has abandoned me? No, you can't!
So, under what circumstances can I get a divorce? Absolutely none. The Bible is absolutely clear: only death can dissolve a marriage in God's sight. Our only option is to separate from our spouse and stay single. If things get better between our spouse and us, we can get back together (1 Corinthians 7:10-11, Bible).
But what about the exception in Matthew 5:31-32 and Matthew 19:1-9? There is no exception in Matthew’s gospel: Once you are married, you are married for life.
No one in the Bible ever got a divorce for adultery or fornication. There was no need for divorce because those found guilty were stoned to death. All divorces were for reasons other than adultery or fornication.
Once married, always married until death do us part, with no exceptions. This applies to all human beings, regardless of whether you are a sinner or a saint.
I'm a lawyer and i find the arguments for and against remarriage in the video compelling. The texts can reasonably be construed using various principles and the language itself makes it plain when you read the verses at least twice. It doesn't even seem unreasonable that God in his mercy would allow for the innocent party to remarry in the highlighted circumstances. He remembers that we are dust and i understand that he is even more gracious than our own justice systems regarding these matters... whatever the case God bless and may he speak to our hearts seeing as his law has been written on our hearts also.
I've never understood how this is applied to abusive marriages. Was I not allowed to leave my abusive spouse and have to suffer until he kills me or until I commit suicide? After 15 years, I HAD to get out. So how does this apply to abusive marriages?
Seperation NOT Divorce. Even if you remained seperated to safety. No biblical grounds
*Speaking as someone who endured 13 years of covert narcissistic abuse from my husband (only because all I heard from other Christians (ignorant of and soft on the issue of abuse) is “GOD doesn’t like divorce so just be a good wife and pray for him.*
*Friends, that is one of the most Biblically ignorant, loveless, Un-Christlike and dangerous things you can say to anyone who is being abused! Abuse is an extremely serious matter which can escalate to irreparable harm and sadly even death of the victim(s) and should NEVER be taken lightly!*
*I can confidently say that I speak from the LORD that although Scripture may not mention the issue of “abuse” regarding marriage and divorce…*. *GOD MAY NOT LIKE DIVORCE, BUT GOD VEHEMENTLY HATES ABUSE AND DEEPLY LOVES AND CARES FOR THE VICTIM AND DOES NOT WANT THE VICTIM TO STAY IN THAT SOUL-DESTROYING NIGHTMARE , BUT TO HELP THE VICTIM TO LEAVE THE ABUSER! FOR THE SAKE OF THE VICTIM’S SAFETY, THEIR VERY LIFE AND SOUL AND RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND THAT OF THEIR CHILDREN, IF CHILDREN ARE INVOLVED!*
*PRAY FOR THE ABUSER TO REPENT AND GET RIGHT WITH GOD. ASK THE LORD TO HELP YOU TO GET OUT OF THAT SITUATION, TO HELP YOU TO FORGIVE, BUT STAY FAR AWAY FROM THE ABUSER AND LET GOD HANDLE THEM HOWEVER THE LORD WILLS, WHILE THE LORD HELPS AND PROTECTS YOU, THE VICTIM!*
*Abuse is a blatant violation of the marriage covenant. Abuse is demonic and vehemently against GOD. It is hate, not love. Hate is m*rder in CHRIST’s sight. Unless the victim gets help and leaves the abuser, it can destroy the victim from the inside out or physically, or drive the victim to suicidal depression, or into sin and bitterness and be destructive to their relationship with GOD! NOT ANYTHING OR ANYONE IS WORTH THE DESTRUCTION OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD!*
*It is IMPERATIVE the victim IMMEDIATELY leaves the abuser and stays far away from the abuser to save their own life and soul and that of their children if children are involved! INCLUDING DIVORCE!*
*The Scriptures say if one spouse divorces the other let them remain unmarried or reconcile…
CONSIDER WISDOM HERE- and heed the very serious warning to NEVER reconcile with an abuser no matter how much they “promise to change”, don’t fall for it! It is wisdom to remain unmarried, far away from the abuser and be very thankful to the LORD!*
*And if you as the victim feel there has been any damage to your relationship with GOD (perhaps any bitterness, or unforgiveness, anger or anything else it may be) then ask the LORD for forgiveness and healing, and to help you to walk in love (coupled with wisdom and establishing/maintaining healthy boundaries) and help you in restoring right relationship with Him!*
*Psalm 23:*
*”“The LORD is my Shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me to lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still waters. He restores my soul; He leads me in the paths of righteousness For His name’s sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; For You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; My cup runs over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me All the days of my life; And I will dwell in the house of the LORD Forever.”*
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*Psalm 23 AMPC:*
*”The LORD is my Shepherd [to feed, guide, and shield me], I shall not lack. He makes me lie down in [fresh, tender] green pastures; He leads me beside the still and restful waters. [Rev. 7:17.] He refreshes and restores my life (my self); He leads me in the paths of righteousness [uprightness and right standing with Him-not for my earning it, but] for His name's sake. Yes, though I walk through the [deep, sunless] valley of the shadow of death, I will fear or dread no evil, for You are with me; Your rod [to protect] and Your staff [to guide], they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my [brimming] cup runs over. Surely or only goodness, mercy, and unfailing love shall follow me all the days of my life, and through the length of my days the house of the Lord [and His presence] shall be my dwelling place.”*
*Also PSALMS 91 & 103 ….*
*Grace and Peace!*
@@kristafloral This is exactly how I've always felt in my heart and mind about it!! THANK YOU 🙏🙏
@@wildfornature_ I am so sorry you went through that! Praise the LORD that He brought you out of it! I hope all is well with you now! I pray the LORD will restore to you many-fold the good for all the trouble you endured! ❤️
Please share my comments on social media if you like. I believe victims of abuse, especially Christians, need to know that they have rights and that GOD loves them and is on their side and wants to help rescue them!
No one deserves to be abused and should never be made to feel that GOD is so against divorce that He is actually against the victim’s well-being and leaving a life threatening situation. In many cases divorce has proven the only recourse the victim has to truly protect them and any children involved, and be free to heal and go forward with their life. Love and blessings in CHRIST! ✝️🙏❤️
Stay single or reconcile the Bible says. No one has to stay in abuse. I have now been single and celibate for 20 years as God showed me remarriage was adultery and this is what the Bible clearly says.
I sinned against God and my wife. She asked for a separation. I accepted that because I hurt her. I will not date no matter what. If we reconcile great, but if not we will remain separated, and I will remain single and celibate forever.
May God be with you. I am in the same boat. I don't know what will happen to me now.
@@dwightwilliams311wait so you go to hell since you’re divorced ? Can you get married again
@@alexhamilton624 being remarried will exclude you from Gods kingdom?
Never been married here . I started dating a divorced woman and realized that God takes marriage very seriously. I originally wanted to marry her so we could be together intimately. Later realized that marriage is so much more than that. I don’t think I would be a good husband anyway. So I will just remain single and celibate. This is good discipline
@@4VRFIERCEapparently religion says you go to hell if you remarry. But I have not ripped John chapter out of my Bible. May I suggest you get a new Bible that has not removed John chapter 4.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7' is what we all need. Save your relationship, save your marriage right now by learning and living these words by heart.
Ephisian 5:
31 > For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 > This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
I think we should not overlook the next verse [32], which clearly states that “I speak concerning Christ and the church”. The author is applying or extrapolating the concept of Christ being the groom and the Church is his faithful bride to husbands and wives. This is the context, i think.
Genesis 2:
24 > Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
This verse explains that men should couple with women.
Matthew 19:
5 > and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’?
9 > I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.
The context of this account has to be considered. Some Pharisees wanted to pick on Jesus and test his knowledge and he answered in the context of the Torah. He knew their intentions to smear him. Jesus did not acknowledge Moses “certificate of divorce” as Law.
Matthew 5:
32 > But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the grounds of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
The whole context of the Book of Matthew has to be considered. The Book combines the Law (old testament) and the new covenant (testament).
18 > For truly, I say to you, until heaven and earth pass away (end of times), not an iota, not a dot, will pass from the Law until all is accomplished. Basically Jesus is telling us the door is closed under the Law. Which is similar to Genesis 3:24 - So he drove out the man; and he placed at the east of the garden of Eden Cherubims, and a flaming sword which turned every way, to keep the way of the tree of life.
Matthew 11:
28 > Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
29 > Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
30 > For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
Matthew 6:
12 > and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. (Lord’s prayer extract)
Malachi 2
And now, O ye priests, this commandment is for you.
This is out of scope since it is addressed to the priests. It deals with Israel breach of its covenant with God.
Divorce and remarriage is a forgivable sin.
Source: ESV
Abuse is emotional, mental, (almost always) financial, and sexual abandonment, even if no physical abandonment occurs. Abusers are OFTEN serial cheaters. For those reasons, domestic abuse IS Biblical grounds for divorce. ✌🏼
Cope as much as you want. Bible in no way allows divorce except sexual immorality. Abuse is no grounds of divorce
@@CristianoRonaldo-li9gu ok
Thank you, thank you thank you so much for opening up more of my understanding to marriage, remarriage and adultery and what’s covered in the Bible if you remarry in cases from the word of God, that would allow you too. You really broke it down my brother and I got a better understanding. Thank you so much I appreciate you allowing God to use you.
there does not seem to be any exceptions....many use fornication, to be sexual immorality, where as sex, out of the covenant relation has its own term....adultery....and the other is to assume that not under bondage means not bound.....it is a delicate issue, and I, for one, dont want to get caught up, on the wrong side of this teaching.....
Thanks for the video it was very insightful, and I will be reading more of the full verses that were mentioned. I'm in the middle of divorcing a believer who has chosen for years to not give up adultery so even though I'm already in the midst of divorcing him, I am still trying to educate myself on what God has said about the matter. Again, great content on info 👍🏾
It says if you are divorced or you marry someone who is divorced, you commit adultery. There is no verse that explicitly allows for remarriage. I am separated and will stay 😢such until I die.
Romans 14:22
@gideonshiwakoti5111 How does this verse speak of remarriage?
@@HamiltonRowan-r6z Brother in Christ! If you believe remarry is allowed or if you believe remarry is not allowed keep this between you and God.(Romans 14:22)
Jesus permitted divorce only in the ground of sexual immorality. The innocent victim is guiltless and free to act, if his/her conscience is not blaming. You shall know the truth and truth shall make you free. First if we go in OT. The punishment for adulter is to put to death.(Deuteronomy 22:22-24). But in NT the forgiveness of Jesus is received instead of put to death and pressed more on the law of (Deuteronomy 24:1-4) by only in the cause of sexual immorality you have to give divorce to the spouse because at that time the people used to divorce spouse at any cause of indecency. Jesus hate the murder of the man doing by the law of Moses in OT so he stoped the killing of people in NT because he came not to kill, murder or destroy but to bring life and life eternal. Only thing Jesus change the law of the OT by showing mercy and stoping the killing. And we see apostle the Paul next, that he allows one more ground for the divorce and remarry, if unbelieving spouse leave. In such case it is not bound and free to act because he knows the danger for their soul and family living in that toxic relationship. Jesus never against the law of Moses but make it more complex. If the divorce and remarry happen without the biblical ground of NT, the abundance grace and forgiveness of God can help you to carry on in this situation, erasing the guilty conscience and to serve God in great joy!
Remember to seek the guidance of Holy Spirit and in prayer and repentance God will do great thing! Peace be to you❤️
@@HamiltonRowan-r6z brother in Christ!
If you believe remarry is allowed or if you believe it not allowed keep it between you and God according to what you approves.(Romans 14:22) The innocent victims is free to act if his/her conscience don’t condemn them. In OT(Deuteronomy 22:22-24) the law was to put to death to the adulterers. But in the NT, Jesus replaced it by forgiveness because he hates killing, he came to this world to give life and life eternal. Instead Jesus pressed more hard to the law of Moses (Deuteronomy 24:1-4) by only giving ground for divorce on sexual immorality rather than any indecency that is found in a spouse in that verse.(Mathew5:31-32)Another ground for divorce and remarry is Paul the apostle. If unbelieving leave, let it be so. They are not bound spiritually and morally because Paul knows the danger of that kind of relationship to their soul.(1 Corinthians 7:15)Jesus was never against the law of Moses rather he shows mercy than killing and bloodshed in OT. Moses, Jesus and Paul are all on the same side. Remember our God is unchanging God. He is same in the OT,NT and eternity.
If you are divorced and remarried without the biblical ground of NT, remember the grace and forgiveness of God flows abundantly to the sinner. Please spend your time in prayer and guidance of the Holy Spirit. God will make a way cause he is not the author of confusion. And always keep your conscience clean cause God will judge every intention and motives of the heart and mind and will reward accordingly to their deeds.(Jeremiah 17:10) Peace be upon you❤️
@@HamiltonRowan-r6z Brother in Christ!
If you believe remarry is allowed or not allowed keep this faith between you and God that you approves(Romans 14:22). The innocent victim is free to act if his/her conscience doesn’t condemn. In OT (Deuteronomy 22:22-24) the law of Moses is to put to death to the adulterers. In the NT the forgiveness of Jesus is provided instead of killing and bloodshed.
Jesus pressed more hard on the law of Moses (Deuteronomy 24:1-4) because the people are allowed to divorce in any cause of indecency their spouse committed rather than sexual immorality (Mathew 5:31-32). Jesus was never against to the law of Moses but he preferred mercy and forgiveness then killing and bloodshed. Another ground for divorce and remarry is given by Paul the apostle(1 Corinthians 7:15). If unbelieving leave, let it be so. Cause he/she is not bound spiritually and morally and free to act. Paul knows the danger of this situation to the soul. Jesus, Moses and Paul are always on the same side. Our God is unchanging God. In OT, NT and eternity. If you are already divorced and remarried not in the biblical ground of NT remember our God’s grace and forgiveness flows abundantly to the sinner and erase the guilty conscience. Please spend your time in prayer and always ask for the guidance of Holy Spirit and keep your conscience clean cause God will judge every heart and mind of the people and rewards them according to their deeds (Jeremiah 17:10). Peace be upon you❤️
The reference to being ‘bound’is NOT a condition for remarriage, but rather provides the option of leaving the spouse, that’s all.
The scripture you just quoted word for word.
What chapter and verse is that in the KJV Bible?
I can't find it.
@@DouglasNicholson-ff6ep not under bondage....1 Cor 7.15
It has been very confusing topic that not bound means not bound spiritually and morally in amplified version and in kjv is written not under boundage, it means free. Since it become confusion among Christianity please keep this between you and God.(Romans 14:22). The writer should have write if the unbeliever leave let him leave. Then it will make a sense of one particular thought. why would writer wrote ‘not bound’ then?
Incredible clarity here, thank you.
James 3:1 - Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly.
My parents 😢 divorced long ago when I was just a kid
Later on my dad remarried but my mum is still single i don't know how I can share this message 😢 with them since they have never been in good terms
I'm in a similar boat. Is it possible the message is for you? To give you clarity regarding their marriage? Or to help others in a similar situation? Either way, sure to both love and honor them when they do honorable things. Remain focused on Christ, and share Christ. And all things will come together for good, and for His glory.
@@JoinUsInVR Amen 🙏🙏
Sounds like your dad is living in adultery, while your mum is ok. I'm sorry you had to go through this.. no one wins in divorce 😥
@@autumn_o-222 yes it's not a good experience for me
What you can do is pray to God to forgive any iniquities, unknown or known between all parties. You can pray that He brings your parents to a point of repentence and convicts them. Keep praying. Maybe you could even pray for the opportunity to address it all with them. 🙏 ❤
The scripture seems to be directed towards those instigating the divorce not the receiver who doesn’t have control over it. Is anyone else seeing this?
Especially for a man
er....no.....there is no innocent party, in a divorce...
(except in Luke 16:18 (or Matt 5:32) when it forbids a man to married a divorced woman, whether she instigated the divorce or not.
No not really. Women didnt really have the option of divorce since they could be drowned ' just for asking. And if your husband has sex with someone else it isnt technically adultery since adultery is a crime against a man. Denying him his rights over a woman.
My dad wont get remarried probably since he just lost his wife to cancer randomly this year and i lost my mom
dont underestimate the power of wanting/needing someone; its not unheard of for suddenly singled people to promptly take up another relationship within a couple months, and get remarried within a year. everyone needs someone.
There is a time for grief, and only One who truly knows that grief to whom we can pour out everything we think and feel, just as He invites us to (Psalm 62:8).
@@Lauren-vd4qeI really need someone but I’m unclear on what God wants me to do. My wife divorced me over three years ago while we were both unbelieving atheists. Then I was saved a year later. I’ve been desperately lonely and in need of companionship but I’ve been all alone all this time now. I’ve been praying for my ex-wife to be saved and for reconciliation but she is now seeing a new man and they go on trips all over and spend lots of time together while I’m alone and suffering terribly. I’m only 46 years old so unless the Lord returns soon I have a lot of years probably left to keep going on like this. I don’t know what to do except keep asking the Lord for guidance and trusting in Him.
Less than a year is way, way to fast to hope for something like that.
A sound relationship, strong enough to survive marriage, takes a long time to form, months or years.
That comes after the time needed to heal from the loss of a spouse, which could be months or years.
I think, if a widower married in less than a couple years after the event, it would become the hardest relationship he ever experienced.
a couple years? i doubt most people wait that long. I wouldnt. I lost a spouse to divorce, now im married almost 50 yrs. and i met n married him in 9 months, its going well. @@joshuakarr-BibleMan
Love this channel. Thank you for this knowledgeable video ❤
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This still leads to confusion. People accept and interpret what they want to believe
Romans 14:22
The bible is clearly about remarriage after divorce. The bible does allowed separation or a divorce but NEVER get remarried. Jesus and Paul says the same thing about remarriage. 1 Corinthians 7:39 Paul says only way to remarry is death of a spouse. People like to change Jesus words to make themselves feel better. Only death can one get remarry. Jesus said remarriage after divorce that person shall be called a adulterous. You can't get around Jesus teaching. Paul gave more details about separation but still said like Jesus only death on a spouse to remarry. This is a hard teaching to grasp but the bible is clear about remarriage after divorce.
100 %
Naw. People are adding way too much. The rules are different for men and women. Marriage was made for man. There is no Scripture against a man remarrying whose wife divorced him.
@@MoonMoon-fx1op Paul is clear on this issue. 1 Corinthians 7:39 Paul said death of a spouse then can one remarry.
@@matthewbrown9027 Paul says that about a WOMAN. Now find me the Scripture that charges a MAN with adultery if his WIFE LEAVES HIM and HE remarries (a woman that is eligible obviously). I'll wait.
@@MoonMoon-fx1op Matthew 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery; and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery: Whosoever is the man and marry another commieth adultery.
How can it be an exception clause But then God says you are bound as long as your spouse lives
Hmmm he reads from many translations so far removed from kjv.. you can divorce but never remarry.. as long as your covent spouse lives you may not remarry luke 16:18 mark 10:11-12 romans 7 2-3 .. your 2 choices are remain unmarried or be reconciled.. no 3rd choice because all remarriage while your covenant spouse lives is adultery.. people look for loopholes to appease their flesh.. die to you flesh ... but be doers of the word not hearing only deceiving yourselves..
I agree with you on this but this guy on the video is misinterpreting the scripture. This guy is a LIAR
Matthew 19:9 is the same in KJV. The presence of the exception in this verse cannot be ignored. 1 Cor 7:15 is actually even clearer in KJV than in other translations because it uses "bondage" rather than "enslaved." You speak of loopholes, but you blind yourself to his words as well as that of his Apostle.
And Romans 7:2-3 is descriptive, not prescriptive. The passage is not a teaching about divorce, but the nature of the Law.
KJV is not the absolute standard. There are translations that are more pure than the KJV.
@@isaacramos8052which ones?
My divorce was finalized yesterday I love my wife so much I really don’t know what to do I begged her to stay and fix the problem but she said no.
sadly there is not much that you can do....
Pray pray pray and stay single by faith knowing God has the power to perform heart surgery on her and bring her back to you.
Just remember that if God does convict her heart and she repents and comes back to be reconciled unto you, how can she if you are in another relationship?
IF she remains single then there is a possibility of reconciliation but if she marries another man she can never be your wife again. That said, it sounds like you have been abandoned by an unbeliever and you are free to move on.
I only found God with my second wife my first wife committed adultery and had an affair and our marriage fell apart but as I said I found God with my first wife but feel sometimes I’m committing adultry and therefore need to leave my second wife which would break her heart and my kids hearts or hope that my first wife dies before me what a situation to be in may Hod have mercy on my soul in Jesus’s name 😢 AMEN
You're exempt from this, you were not a believer when you got a divorce. You are not committing adultery.
My dear brother, read the book Divorce, God’s gift of love
@@mfrihet8294 thank you 🙏 I will look into this I have spoken to God many times about this now and feel a lot better about my situation
@@aquatalliahbouchon5005 Thankyou I have spoken to God many times about my situation and feel a lot better about it now 🙏
If your first wife committed adultery and had an affair then the divorce was certainly allowed by God. You have ZERO to feel guilty about. ZERO. Live your life and take care of your family.
Thank you. This really cleared up a question I had. But I still don't want my wife to divorce me, even if I have the biblical right. I love her dearly. 😢
Those provisions are only allowances, not requirements.
you are incorrect on the remarriage. It's clear in scripture remarriage IS adultery. You are lying to other believers here.
It depends on the situation. Abandonment and sexual immorality are exceptions.
@@Thomas116-m2n no they are not. There is no verse to say they are exceptions.
@@aaronhaskins9782 the verses are in the video, A child covering his ears saying I cant hear you does not make the words go away
This video shows how confusing this topic is, especially in the Church. I am coming to the conclusion that God hates divorce, but is merciful. IMO, Jesus plainly says that anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. I believe this is what shocked His disciples to say then that no one should get married.
You didn't even mention the first three verses of Romans chapter 7
Women, if your spouse is cheating or beating you. Make a plan and leave. God would not have you being abused.
Leave but not remarry
Where is the verse about abuse? Even physical abuse? I have never been able to find that one.
What if a pastor is married and his wife cheats on him numerous times, and he keeps forgiving her because he wants to save and keep the marriage desperately, but then she files for a divorce, is he able to continue to pastor a church? Any thoughts and if so , would love scripture to back it up and if ur gonna use the “must be the husband of one wife” I feel like I need more
You can divorce but cannot remarry.
If the wife, who committed adultery was not a believer, the other party is not bound to them and us free from that marriage.
If they are free can the pastor remarry? I really need to understand 🥺🥺🙆
@@christoprighteous8199 where in scripture does it say that? Especially being divorce in the Bible is allowed ONLY for adultery and obviously if someone passes away unfortunately , so yes, if you can back that up with scripture, I would appreciate it, have a blessed day and night
@jennamarielovesjesus12 common sense tells us that. Not bound is no longer bound. Also a personal relationship with the Savior. ASK Him He will answer.
I had to look at these scriptures again as the years have gone by and I forgot them. I wondered if I am in the clear to one day date again. Apparently I am. I think my circumstance would be confusing for people to understand. I was thinking how some Christians feel like they need to go up to every divorced or remarried person and tell them to repent. I think they should be very careful with that. If they are just like having a chat and the person mentions hey my hubby and I just were not a good fit so we divorced and now I am engaged that might be a good time to let them know but just asuming every divorced person or remarrying person is in sin and confronting them is crazy and a bit nosy.
If a wife divorces her husband for any other reason than HIS sexual immorality or abandonment then she is to never remarry for as long as he is alive. Plain and simple.
Sometime it is just not very pleasant, to do the right thing. Our flesh and our desires want something different. Mine, too. That's when all of the liberal interpretations come in. And born again virgins.
I'm not passing judgment on anyone but why are people so obsessed with getting remarried. What about focusing on your relationship with God and making Him a priority.
Are you married?
@@giftedtheos No. My relationship with God is more important than finding a husband.
Where do you say the desire for companionship and marriage come from in the first place??@@aquatalliahbouchon5005
How do you serve god without a husband? Do you not know that women were created FOR the man (1 Corinthians 11:9) to be his companion and helper (Genesis 2:18) and to get married, bear children and keep house (1 Timothy 5:14))? I think you have been deceived by feminism and you need to repent.
@@j.p.5716wow, you're mad.
The bottom line is to be sure that you marry the right person and commit yourself to each other and stay married
I divorced my abusive ex bc he was immoral. BUT, if YOU are stuck in a verbally/physically abusive marriage, go live elsewhere where he cannot find you, get a different job, move far away from him. go no contact. eventually he WILL COMMIT THAT sin of immorality, then u can divorce him. worked for me! only took him a couple months to realize i was NEVER coming back, so he found other willing partners. easy peasy!
@nathanaeldavid6238 verbally n physically abusive then took up with other females.
From what you said, I would judge your former husband as a sucker, too (Proverbs 22:14; Romans 1:21,24). "The two shall become one." If they separate, do they separate as the same, or does a piece of each go with the other. If the second, it is obvious why God hates divorce. If the second, what upsets you the most now, the piece of him that remained in you, or the piece of you now missing, or both. May the Lord complete your healing and may the Lord bring your former husband to his senses.
@@deanfry879 when i left, trust me, there was NONE of him left with me, except a very bitter taste for men and marriage altogether. i dont think he will come to his senses, hes deceased very likely.
@messengeroftruth3811 oh so i should have just stayed as a punching bag; got it. Im NOT going to do that. HE was the one that screwed up not me.
@@Lauren-vd4qeNobody is saying you should have stayed in that sort of situation. I would have told you to leave. However, I would not tell you to divorce in that situation. And, I agree that if he commits adultery during that separation, you have biblical right to divorce.
Well, if we were all perfect then Christianity is a dead fish in the water.
Jesus said that our sin are forgiven when we accept him. This isn't a license to sin but it definitely does not mean that you are unforgiven if you have divorced.
divorce is not a sin, as the options are to reconcile or remain unmarried...
divorce is not the issue, it is the remarriage...
So i remarried but my first wife was not a believer in Christianity, i encouraged her, but she was pursuing other religions, the relationship was very unstable and we both agreed on divorce, and im trying to find answers
You are still married remember marriage is till death do you part and nothing less. God bless.
Paul insinuated in 1 Corinthians 7:15 that if the unbelieving spouse leaves, the Christian is not bound in such circumstances. But, he clearly stated that those were his words and not the Lord's. Ask God to show you what to do.
@@samuelzulu9731 It depends on the situation. Abandonment by an unbelieving spouse and sexual immorality by the other spouse. (Matthew 19:9 and 1 Cor 7:15).
@@aquatalliahbouchon5005 - "All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness;" (2 Timothy 3:16)
I think I know the answer here but just to check; Is a believer bound a believer who left? Or is unboundness only permissible if the guilty party was an unbeliever?
I have heard a pastor named Mike Winger argue that if Matthew 18 is carried out to the extent it's possible, trying to win back the brother or sister from their unrepentant sin and they still will not listen, we are to regard them as an unbeliever. In the case that they profess Christ but divorce their spouse willfully without grounds (sexual imorality, for example) and will not repent of it and be reconciled, the abandoned believer is not bound per 1 Corinthians 7, regarding them as an unbeliever. It'll take working with other Christians to try and win them back first, but if they cannot be won, Mike argues we are free to remarry and are not expected to keep the marriage covenant alone without them.
Malachi 2:16 does not say that. You're citing a mistranslation.
And Jewish divorce always permits remarriage. The purpose of the certificate of divorce (called a get) is to allow remarriage without it being adultery, and the bridal payment is to be used as a dowry for another marriage as well. The problem is that Jews in the 1st century were trivializing the grounds for divorce.
VERY GOOD POINT..
I wonder how the naysayers are gonna get around this truth?
They'll figure out a way, I'm sure of it.
I'm SURE of it. !
But the New Testament gives additional instructions.
If I divorce my husband who is an unbeliever and he tells me he’s too young to change and not just in a quiet way but roars like a lion towards me when it’s a case of encouraging him to be a good Christian. Can I divorce him and then remarry? Cos I’m tired.
Hell no, dear, but separation fir reconciliation purposes is allowed.
@@samuelzulu9731 - Scripture reference on separation please? Here is one that comes to my mind. "But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband" (1 Corinthians 7:10)
@@j.p.5716 the one you have said is the one just read it thoroughly from the start
Here is what the bible says about your situation.
Part 1 - Divorcing an unbeliever -
"But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?" (1 Corinthians 7:12-16)
Part 2: Instruction to a wife married to an unbeliever.
"In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, 2as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior." (1 Peter 3:1-2)
Notice that verse says "without a word". You should not be talking to your unbelieving husband about how he needs to change. How is it even logical that you would expect an unbeliever to act like a Christian? If you want to have a positive effect on your husband, follow 1 Peter 3:1-2 and submit to him in everything and show him good and respectful behavior and trust God for the outcome.
No but you can separate for a while until he changes if he's too stubborn
Wishy washy teaching here. Scripture is clear, only death breaks the marriage covenant (Romans 7:2-3). Remarriage after divorce is adultery ( Mark 10:10-11, Luke 16:18) and fornication or sexual immorality is taking about the engagement period, Jesus said what God joins together let no man separate( Matt5:32, 19:9). You even say it in your vows "to death do us part". You can divorce but cannot remarry while your spouse is alive (1 Cor 7:10-11).
Remarriage for a man is not always adultery. Stop adding to Scripture
The Romans 7:3 and 1 Cor 7:39 are talking about someone who is married, not biblically divorced. Jesus was talking about marriage because that's what the Pharisees asked him about. In that case, people now couldn't even break an engagement. If you initiate a divorce, you shouldn't remarry. If an unbeliever does, you are no longer under bondage to that relationship. If you aren't enslaved, you are free. 1 Cor 7:15.
not under bondage is not akin to not bound a term that the writer had just used....@@Thomas116-m2n
Vows to love honor and cherish as long as you both shall live. For good times and bad times. Those things are said too. Take the entire not the selected.
My husband has several children with different women during our marriage. He left me and my daughter 10 years ago. He did make an attempt to fix our marriage however he still committed adultery with several women - We are unable to file for annulment due to monetary concerns. At the moment he has opted to build a new family with his current partner, they have a daughter. Is this not grounds for me to pursue separation and be open to remarriage with someone else ?
Oh boy. What Bible aren't people reading? Jesus said if you love me keep my commands. He said no divorce. I've been single for 7 years because God is my priority, if I can do it anyone can.
Sis, you are FREE to divorce AND remarry if you so desire! This man broke the scripture down so plainly, so I'm not sure why others on here keep saying the opposite. When a scripture says a person is free or except for, those are exceptions Jesus and the apostle gave so that a person doesn't have to live in misery while their spouses constantly cheat on them or abandons them. You are free according to Scripture. Why else would Paul have said, a brother or a sister is not bound(marriage covenant) in such cases! When a man or woman constantly is cheating on their spouse, they broke the covenant of marriage, which is why Jesus mentions, except for the cause of fornication.
@@TheTif129 Lord have mercy, you're telling this woman to go live in sin because her husband is. And people wonder why Satan is devouring them.
@@TheTif129 - Thank you
@@aquatalliahbouchon5005Bible says except for sec immorality and his husband clearly did that
My husband is a false prophet and used his vision as an excuse to leave the marriage. Do I still wait for him or can I divorce and remarry, since his vows were a lie? Will going back to a false prophet condem me to hell for his wrongs?
You can divorce but cannot remarry as long as he is alive. Romans 7:2-3, 1 Corinthians 10:11-12, Luke 16:18, Mark 10:11-12.
If you were abandoned, you are free to remarry. "But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. " (1 Corinthians 7:15)
What happens if the couples are believers and one of them passes away early from cancer or something of that nature?
If the spouse passes away, the other is free to remarry.
@@lifeofaninteriordesigner1305 That’s what I figured. Thanks for the reply.
You're free to remarry.
So why is the divorce rate so high among alledged believers. If God is so prepared to deal with two sinners coming together, why are the people who claim to believe in Him not so ready. We make more rules about marriage than God did. Jesus quoted Isaiah 29:13 about people who knew the words of the law very well, yet somehow used it as though it was their own law. Could it be there is so much divorce among believers because, just as we do not measure up to God's law and need a Savior, so we do not measure up to each other's laws and need to be saved from them by a Savior.
No those who divorce are fake Christians and have never known the Lord in the first place
Western culture. Christians in non-Western cultures don't divorce as much
@@giftedtheos Too bad the world is getting so westernized. Maybe there will be some holdouts.
I am ready after 17 years…. I forgive my spouse but I truly believe this was us NOT GOD! Eight years ago I began the process and didn’t go through with it but it’s been a struggle these past 8 years. Both are miserable together when trying to make it work. We work better separately! Pray for us!!!
Marriage is tough and only peaceful if both are following the instructions given in God's word. That said, the Christian husband should be teaching his wife what the bible teaches and helping her to become a better wife as instructed in Ephesians 5:25-27. If it is the wife who trusts in God then she need to be following 1 Peter 3:1-6.
What about when a believing spouse abandons their believing spouse? Is the one who gets abandoned up a creek without a paddle ?
Yup.
Believers are required to maintain a marriage, once they create it.
The "better or worse," and the "till death" vows aren't mere tradition. They are solemn vows, sworn before God and He takes vows seriously.
If a believer walks out of a marriage, then it us a sin against God and against the other spouse, and against any children, and against the church, and against society.
Still, we can't repay the sin of abandonment with the sin of divorce.
Now, after all that, if she starts a sexual relationship with somebody else, then that is adultery, and grounds for a divorce.
No, Scripture says a married couple must not separate, but if they do, then they should be reconciled to one another.
@@joshuakarr-BibleMan Marriage shouldn't be a form of idolatry. Though important, it isn't perfect. The Bible offers two reasons for divorce and if divorce is Biblical, the implication is remarriage. Sexual immorality (Matthew 19:9) and abandonment by an unbeliever (1 Cor 7:15). Critics cry out "but it doesn't SAY you can get remarried!" It didn't need to as it was assumed that this would happen as it had gone on for centuries. Jesus pointed out the importance of marriage and how it wasn't to be taken lightly. There is no "no fault" divorce.
@@Thomas116-m2n it is fornication, and not enslaved is not akin to not bound...
@@Thomas116-m2n Well said. These divorced/remarried You Tube videos are full of vicious legalist Catholics or ex-Catholics full of vitriol like they are something right out of the Spanish Inquisition. If the bible commanded divorced believers not to remarry, then I could understand their viewpoint. As is, the implication is that divorced people are once again single, and free to remarry (or remain single).
Let God lead and guide you in the right path. People have their own opinions about what it means rather they quote scriptures biblical or not. I'm not saying the scriptures are wrong or ignore scriptures, because we cannot change the word of God. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding. If you follow Christ more openly he will direct your path. Let God be true and every man to be a liar.
If you in your right mind are depressed, not happy, and have done everything in your power to fix the marriage and yet there is resolve on ether end. Leave you can repent and move forward with forgiveness. No person deserves to live in hell and not have the opportunity to have a healthy marriage just because of an old estimated rule either
there is a way, that seems right, to man, that leads, to death, and this topic is the most common way to forfeit your salvation..
If a spouse commits adultery then the innocent party is not bound to them. Because God allows divorce due to adultery. So he doesn't hold the innocent party accountable. It's like the marriage is null and void
The bible says that if you confess your sin and repent of your sin you will be forgiven. How do you repent by continuing on in that sin?
What if you marry a person who agrees that they want children but-conveniently after marriage-they "change their mind"?
It seems like if they lied about something that they knew was a deal-breaker for you than there should be freedom to divorce and marry someone else?
Is that the case or does God want you to stay miserable?
Divorce but remain single
@jenisebrooks4308 So, basically as long as you (not you personally) can trick someone into marriage then you are stuck. So God rewards dishonesty.
@@Alexander44665 no I said divorce but remain single.
@jenisebrooks4308 I understand. Basically you are saying that biblically if a person tricks you into marrying them by hiding a deal-breaker you can leave them-but you have to be alone forever. Under those circumstances most people will stay in their miserable marriage. This means that-more or less-God is rewarding the deceitful person.
It gets me how pastors can say (with a straight face) that marriage is a "blessing."
Oh boy, how "lucky" we are that God gave us this "blessing"! If this is God's idea of a blessing, I hate to see what his idea of a curse would be.
So really, I am further ahead to technically stay single, have a baby with a woman, then repent and then marry her. At least that way I know I will have a child.
@@Alexander44665 and this why God is the judge. Honestly he knows our hearts he knows if we really want to please him. There are many situations that don't fit what it's supposed to be EXACTLY!! That's why he did what he did. There's a difference in divorcing because of personality conflicts vs divorcing due to abuse. Perhaps a surrogate mother to get your child and stay Marr how the lady feel about that??
What about what Jesus says in Mark 10-10
So, If a man commits adultery against his wife and divorces her, Years later recommits his life to Christ and repent of his adultery is he still allowed to remarry another who is a strong Christian? Yes or no? Any advice would be appreciated
NO
Thank you for your honesty
So in short we believers should not remarry or get married to anyone who has been divorced?
For a very detailed and in depth explanation of this subject, put the following terms into a search engine and read the article that pops us. Berean Patriot Divorce Remarriage
First of all God will judge all the intentions and motives of our heart and mind and according to our deeds he will reward. Remarry is allowed in old and New Testament in Deuteronomy 24 and 1 Corinthians 7 in particular case. But if your conscious is feeling guilty and always in inner shame then if you marry also you are in misery state of conscious.(Romans 14:22)
Still not clear to me.
You said as an exception a none believer leaves the marriage but what about a fake believer one who pretends to believe but not so?
I have broken that bond before and l knew better l hope the lord forgave me
reconcile
There's no where God said He won't forgive. Don't be too hard on yourself. Satan will use the situation to accuse you, don't allow him.
@@aquatalliahbouchon5005 - Stop being that woman who comforts another woman in her sin. God does not approve of that.
Hosea wife gomer was she a adulterer while she was still married to hosea? And if a man gets divorced while the ex-wife is still alive can he remarry
What if you’re both unbelievers and separate. Then meet someone and both of them become believers. Is this rule for just believers?
Unbelievers are unknown to the law of Christianity before. So there is excuse in such cases I believe.
My boyfriend of almost 20 years days he won’t marry me because he cheated on his first wife and she divorced him. She has remarried. Can’t the offender remarry if the ex has? He also won’t have relations with me and hasn’t for 12 years. I’m not willing to spend the rest of my life like this.
the Bible does not make a provision, for this....if one separates or divorces the options are to reconcile or remain unmarried.....not reconcile, if possible...
if you've been together sexually then you're pretty much already married
@@mygodismightyIs this supposed to be some kind of a joke? She's living in sin. Lord help me.
Oh boy. Are you a believer? If so, you have been living in sin. I need to quit reading these comments.
@@aquatalliahbouchon5005 Chill dude. She's obviously living in sin and a Christian shouldn't be sleeping with some dude who doesn't marry her first. But my point was that if she's living like she's married then in the eyes of the Lord why would it not be a marriage? In the eyes of the law its a common law marriage.
What about Leviticus saying that If a wife has been unfaithful to her husband for her husband to present a certificate of divorce and a monthly stipend for her to live on?
Jesus said....but I say, unto you.....
@@philipbuckley759 Yes. HE said that you shouldn't divorce unless your spouse commits sexual immorality against you (Even the Pre-Erasmus definition was sexual immorality between two people who weren't married to one another). If they do, you may divorce. By Law, remarriage was permitted and expected as that is what the divorce certificate says which is why the word 'remarriage' isn't mentioned. 1 Cor 7:15 mentioned that one is not enslaved to another an unbelieving spouse who has departed. The word "enslaved" is used as there as a woman who was abandoned and not divorced was known as an "agunah," or one who is "chained" or "anchored." Paul is stating that she shouldn't be in that situation. Again, a legal divorce by law (and yes, they existed), meant that a person could marry again, so there was no need to mention it.
Question for you, Phil. I've seen you on just about every one of these types of videos for, literally, years. Do you ever try to lead someone to Christ, by talking about salvation and grace or do you just enjoy pointing fingers? Your answer will likely tell you where you stand with your own salvation.
A monthly stipend for her to live on? I challenge you to show that verse.
So i have to endure a marriage i dont wanna stay in even if she isnt abusing me or cheating on me?
Does god want to force me into unhappiness?
I think the question should be, "Were you forced into the marriage in the first place?". Lots of marriages are unhappy, but there are those who would take God at his word and stay committed, especially if there is no abuse or sexual immorality.
The concept of dying to yourself is found in Luke 9:23, in which Jesus said, "Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross DAILY and follow me."
Your unhappy, non-abusive marriage is your cross in this context; you are then called to take it up and follow after Christ, because in Him is no abuse or unhappiness.
1 Peter 2:18-21 tells us that as Christians, we are called to suffer as Christ suffered for us. Read the following:
"Servants, be submissive to your masters with all respect, not only to those who are good and gentle, but also to those who are unreasonable. For this finds favor, if for the sake of conscience toward God a person bears up under sorrows when suffering unjustly. For what credit is there if, when you sin and are harshly treated, you endure it with patience? But if when you do what is right and suffer for it you patiently endure it, this finds favor with God. For you have been called for this purpose, since Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example for you to follow in His steps,"
Now as a husband, are you teaching her the bible and calling her on her sin? You are called to do that you know. consider Ephesians 5:25-27: "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless."
Also consider this as how Jesus loves His bride the church: "‘Those whom I love, I reprove and discipline; therefore be zealous and repent." (Revelation 3:19)
All Deuteronomy 24:1-4 says is that a man is not to take back an ex wife if she has been married to another man since the original divorce.
I got married and we did divorce. I cannot stand her and she felt the same way. About 15 years later I did remarry and feel its to the right person. I watched other videos on this topic and what I came away with is some sins cannot be forgiven. So honestly I am not worrying anymore about it. I am trying to live the happiest life possible until I die, then I know I am going to hell. And sadly will pay for my sin then. I stopped going to church and threw out all my bibles and stopped praying. And a weight was lifted off me, I no longer feel guilty or bad. Just focusing on being a good person and dont need the church to look down on me because I am human and made a mistake in my early 20's. For those that keep the faith and dont remarry I respect that too. Thank you for this video it did help me reassure myself I made the right choice to leave religion and just try to be a good person. We each walk down our own paths. Sadly mine is the wide one. Peace everyone
Go to church that will accept amd love you
The only sin you will go to hell for is not trusting in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.
@@j.p.5716
Amen
We are saved by faith in Jesus, not good behaviour. We are all sinners who need a saviour. If we could be saved purely by how we live, then there was no need for Christ to die.
(If we sin, God may discipline us, as his children, but that is a separate issue from salvation.Don't forget the thief on the cross)
There are more verses in the gospels that do talk about marriage and divorce. Besides the only unforgivable sin is the blaspheme of the Holy Spirit. Not Divorce. In any case it is not a degrading sin different then any other sin. What I am against is using divorce as a weapon to 'control' the flock which to many shepherds, wrongly, seem all to happy to use. The reference 'sexual immorality' in the verse mention is explicitly, when the bride is found to be Not a Virgin. In which case the marriage would be undone after that first marriage night! Moslims(some) accept child brides(before puberty) which I am totally against! There is a divide among Muslim Scholars on this. The Prophet Mohammed seemed to have married and consumed the marriage with a nine year old girl. I am not in a position to know if this is true or not. But there is a letterlijk divide among their Thinkers on this issue. Which I am strongly against.
this is not a Muslim site....
A first time marriage is marriage a divorce is a divorce if one has remarried and tried to get back with the first it’s called condemnation and against Gods will!! Adultery is adultery no matter what
so you remain unmarried....
Does pornography, addiction count as adultery?
Sin
Matthew 5:28-29 - JESUS said: “But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. So if your eye-even your good eye-causes you to lust, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.”
So to answer your question, YES, the practice of or addiction to viewing pornography is also adultery and a violation of the marriage covenant.
no....
No
Did God Forgive Hoseas wife?
jesus mentioned a seeming contradiction to moses's allowance for divorce by saying remarriage was adultery.Because the mystical unity of a married couple remains ,and so he says according to moses we are allowed divorce without the old testament law condemning remarriage to another as adultery but the mystical unity of the two remains according to God,that the two original married couples are still connected and its a breaking of a covenant.Then so this lesson shows we are all human sinners against 10 commandments and hopelessly cannot be saved without asking Jesus to forgive us of our unavoidable human sin.
A balanced view.🙏
This can be a tricky subject.....God loves us all and we do sin. I know He is just to forgive if we made mistakes concerning this topic. I'm divorce and so was my new husband, and we got married and we are saved and will stay together......I know the Lord understands and loves us and honors our new commitment.
No He doesn't. He only honors the the commitment and covenant with your first husband. If your first husband is still alive and you are remarried, you are living in sin and commiting adultery.
That's why you say till death do us part, you and your spouse are making a covenant before the most high to remain together until death. Getting a divorce isn't a sin, but if you divorce for whatever reason, Jesus said you are to remain unmarried or be reconciled to you first spouse. It's one man and one woman for life. God doesn't honor second or third marriages, only the first. Hope this provides clarity. God bless you 🙏🏾.
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emotion, the foundation of false teachings...
Thank you for this interesting video. I had to think about the last words you said "....even if the divorce or remarriage is not covered under the exception clause of...."
The logical consequence of your words are that a person can remarry, although not being "allowed" to still be under God's love (????).
Thrrefore, when analysing your statement, fact is that a remarried person, in the case of God not agreeing, really continues living in sin. And that is deliberate sinning (Hebrews 10,26) with fatal consequences.
All sin is deliberate. By your rationale, a believer who is a former heroin addict, ends up relapsing and dying from that relapse. He's going to Hell, correct? It was his last sin, so....
@@Thomas116-m2nyes, in my understanding he would go to hell because if he had really asked Jesus for help, if he had put his soul at the feet of Jesus, Jesus would have healed him. When Jesus heals, you are healed. Also, if God saw a chance of turning to him, I am sure he would give the addict a chance once more.
Looking at divorce again: When 2 Christians get divorced and one gets married again, hence breaking the marriage, he can ask for forgiveness but has to get divorced from his second spouse and live by himself to obey God's will.
Otherwise it would be equivalent to a bank robber coming to belief in prison. One would then think that he was saved. But if he does not return the stolen money to the bank, he is not saved.
@@kerstenukatz8672
Stealing and a marraige covenant cannot be compared.
We may remarry wrongly - and need to repent of an adulterous decision - but it is still a real marraige, with new vows, and to leave would be sinning again.
what do you think that if your wife cheat on you and run away from you to marries with other ?
The scripture is clear. You are free to remarry and if she married another man, she can never be your wife again no matter what happens.
@@j.p.5716 what Scripture ?
@@AndersonChao-vs3zf - If she abandons you you are free to remarry.
"But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace. " (1 Corinthians 7:12-16)
Not remarrying a woman who has married another man. This comes from the Old Testament but God's moral law is the same today as it was back then.
"“When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out from his house, and she leaves his house and goes and becomes another man’s wife, and if the latter husband turns against her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her to be his wife, then her former husband who sent her away is not allowed to take her again to be his wife, since she has been defiled; for that is an abomination before the LORD, and you shall not bring sin on the land which the LORD your God gives you as an inheritance. (Deuteronomy 24:1-4)
Your situation is slightly different but notice the phrase "since she has been defiled". Taking a former wife back who has married (and had sex with) another man is an abomination to the Lord.
It is true that God hates divorce. It is one man and one woman for life. However in the context of Matthew 19:9, adultery is the act of remarriage, not the sex act which is fornication. Meaning if a person is divorced for a reason besides fornication, they are labeled an adulterer at the point of remarriage. However, the blood of Jesus cleanses all sin, except for blasphemy of the Holy Spirit, which is an unrepentant sin. Therefore you can remarry but simply repent and ask God for forgiveness. At that point you go and make the second marriage work and strive to not depart. Adultery is defined by context and is a forgivable sin. As seen in 1 Corinthians 6. It is better for an unmarried person (which can be a person that was never married, widow , or divorced person) to marry than to burn with lust as seen in 1 Corinthians 7
I’m not sure I’m understanding you correctly, are you saying one can remarry knowing they are sinning and then ask for forgiveness? Also according to scriptures, fornication is having sex when you’re not married, while adultery is when at least one of the parts is married, which could potentially lead to divorce and remarriage and when scripture say it is better to marry than to burn in lust, it’s obviously saying that to the unmarried (people who’ve never been married and to the widow), that message is not for the divorced, else it would contradict itself.
@@wendymtzc "Now the Spirit [a]expressly says that in latter times some will depart from the faith, giving heed to deceiving spirits and doctrines of demons, 2 speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their own conscience seared with a hot iron, 3 forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from foods which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth."- 1 Timothy 4:1-3 NKJV
This verse highlights that Christians would depart from the faith and forbid marriage. This is not referring to the Roman Catholic Church, since Catholics are not Christians and the Catholic denomination doesn't come around until centuries after Christianity began (33ad). To tell an unmarried man(whether it be never married, widow, or divorced) that they cannot get married to an unmarried woman(whether never married, widow, or divorced) is forbidding marriage. You can't be married and unmarried at the same time.
The law of marriage is understood through the Law of Morality, which is one of the three types of laws within the Law of Moses. Other types are ceremonial laws (i.e. tithing, offerings, keeping the Sabbath, etc.) and civil laws (I.e. murder, stealing, etc.). Though the Law of Moses was nailed to the cross(Colossians 2:14), the Law of Morality still applies to us today. For example, the world was populated through siblings marrying, such as Seth in Genesis 5 and Abraham marrying Sarah, his half-sister. Incest wasn't outlawed until the Law of Moses(see Leviticus 20). However, the Law of Christ does not actually specifically mention that siblings are not allowed to marry. That is because we learn that incest between siblings is immoral from the Law of Moses. That's why it is mentioned that it written for our learning(Romans 15:4).
"9 And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery-unless his wife has been unfaithful.[d]”
10 Jesus’ disciples then said to him, “If this is the case, it is better not to marry!”
11 “Not everyone can accept this statement,”Jesus said. “Only those whom God helps.12 Some are born as eunuchs, some have been made eunuchs by others, and some choose not to marry[e] for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven. Let anyone accept this who can.”"- Matthew 19:9-12 NKJV
Verse 9 directly refers to "adultery" as the marriage act. The context defines the word, not the commentary. Adultery can mean sex with a person outside of marriage, along with lusting after someone in your heart, and practicing idolatry. In this context, "fornication is the sex act, which addresses the physical act of infidelity". The act of remarriage is what is called "adultery". When Jesus makes this statement, it is before his death, meaning that the Law of Moses, which came from God, was still in effect. Jesus did not contradict the Old Law.
"“When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some [a]uncleanness in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, 2 when she has departed from his house, and goes and becomes another man’s wife, 3 if the latter husband detests her and writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her as his wife,"- Deuteronomy 24:1-3 NKJV
When Jesus makes his statement in Matthew 19, he is referring to Deuteronomy 24, which gives an example of a woman being divorced for uncleanness and getting remarried. The second man is acknowledged by God as her husband. You can't be married to two people at the same time in the eyes of God.
"10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from herhusband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to herhusband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife."- 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 NKJV
Departing means the same thing as divorce. When you divorce, you become unmarried. The first priority for a divorced person is to be reconciled to their original spouse. However, if they choose to marry someone else, it is labeled adultery. However, it is impossible to commit "adultery" if the remarriage is acknowledged as a marriage in God's eyes. Meaning if a homosexual marriage is not considered a marriage. Adultery is a sin that can be cleansed by the blood of Jesus.
" Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor [b]homosexuals, nor [c]sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were [d]sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God."- 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 NKJV
The Bible does not teach that having sex with your spouse is sin. The sin was getting remarried, but that person is still your spouse. A good example is John 4:16-18
"16 Jesus said to her, “Go, call your husband, and come here.”
17 The woman answered and said, “I have no husband.”
Jesus said to her, “You have well said, ‘I have no husband,’ 18 for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; in that you spoke truly.”"- John 4:16-18 NKJV
To put this in simple terms, the woman could very well have been married and divorced four times and separated from the fifth husband, before dating another man. Another scenario could be that she was married and divorced five times and was with a sixth man that she would likely marry. Either way, all five of the woman's marriages were acknowledged in the eyes of God.
My question to you is who does 1 Timothy 4:1-3 allude to as forbidding marriage? Where is the direct command, approved example, or necessary inference that God doesn't acknowledge when a person that was divorced for a reason besides fornication gets remarried? Why don't you believe that the blood of Jesus cleanses all unrighteousness as taught in 1 John
" But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin.
8 If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."- 1 John 1:7-9 NKJV
Where is the command for a person put away for fornication to remain single until they die? Jesus suggests that though they commit adultery, mercy is given for them to remarry. It is a choice. Not all people have the give to become eunuchs and remain celibate.
"10 His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry.”
Jesus Teaches on Celibacy
11 But He said to them, “All cannot accept this saying, but only those to whom it has been given: 12 For there are [c]eunuchs who were born thus from their mother’s womb, andthere are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He who is able to accept it, let him accept it.”"- Matthew 19:10-12 NKJV
@@MichaelMichaelJr 32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of FORNICATION, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery… the exception has never been adultery or immorality, that garbage is coming from newer Bible translations, we can agree to disagree
@@wendymtzc”And whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery”. This verse that you just quoted clearly identifies adultery as the act of remarriage. How are you drawing a different conclusion, when the text you used affirms my stance? Agreeing to disagree is the problem, because you will leave here teaching error on this subject, after I’ve shown you to be wrong. That is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit, which is the ONLY unforgivable sin. You must keep scripture in context. “Adultery” in the context of Matthew 19:9 is the act of remarriage not sex. The sin is remarriage after the first marriage ended not for fornication. Remarriage is a one time act, not an ongoing act. Just as when you steal or murder you are labeled a thief or murderer. However, if you are not a Christian you become one by hearing the gospel, believing that Jesus is the Son of God, repenting from you sins, confessing that Jesus is the Son of God, and water baptism for the forgiveness of sins. And at that point you become a Christian and receive the indwelling of the Holy Spirit(Acts 2:38). If a person commits adultery as a Christian, they simply repent and ask God for forgiveness (1 John 1:8-10). From that point you go and sin no more, making your second marriage work. Once you are forgiven of the sin of adultery, you are no longer labeled an adulterer. Having sex with your wife is never called adultery or fornication. God acknowledges a marriage that was formed through adultery, as I have proven in Deuteronomy 24:1-4. Jesus’ statement in Matthew 19 does not change the Law of Moses. He was better explaining adultery. The subject of Matthew 19 is “divorce”. Jesus acknowledges that not everyone divorced will remain single after divorce. In verse 10, his disciples suggested that it is better to remain single after marriage, but Jesus stated that not all people can accept that saying. Some could be made eunuchs and remain celibate, while others did not have that gift of celibacy. That’s why it is stated in 1 Corinthians 7 that it is better for an unmarried person to marry than to burn with lust. Context matters
“10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.”- Matthew 19:10-12 KJV
@@MichaelMichaelJr adultery is having sex with someone other than your spouse and that does not always involve getting a divorce and remarrying, so you’ve shown me to be wrong at all, but if that makes you feel better go at it, you also clearly don’t understand what blasphemy of the Holy Ghost mean but whatever, have a good day
Thank you
Thanks and God bless you for that ( I respect & appreciate you Got questions team) but are you sure you are not reading things into the scriptures? Because only adultery on the part of the woman seems to be addressed in all of them, just as remarriage for a man (not innocent party) whose wife has committed adultery seems to be lawful; I dont want to assume that just because it feels just, its what the bible actually says.
You never mention mark or luke why? Mark was the first gospel written. 1 Corinthians 7:39 says when you can get remarried. Why don't bring this up? Its in the same chapter. So sad.
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remarriage is allowed in widowhood
@@escalus84 agreed.
oo i didn't know that so if I'm a believer and she's defiantly not shes all new age well crap, I can remarry? cause I dont really want to be alone for the rest of my life :(.
"But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?" (1 Corinthians 7:12-16)
I quote no scripture, but with little grace of God in me: In a situation where one of the partner take it as an opportunity to misbehave because of the higher level of the other in the service of God. This is the problem of Christianity or Christian Leaders, wives misbehave badly because of no divorce.Christian Leaders by majority has bad children.( No divorce is only applicable to a genuine transform woman and man , not just believers because Satan is also a believer.
My old pastor used to say that divorce was God’s idea not His ideal.
Your pastor lied.
So it sounds like you can just do whatever you want, then repent, and all is fine.
Totally ignored Romans 7:2-3, Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18 and even said 1Cor 7:10-11 say you cannot remarry.
@christoprighteous8199 my point is that all of these videos giving divorce remarriage instruction always end up saying that whatever crazy situation you have created, just repent and keep going. God doesn’t seem to be visibly punishing punishing couples who are in unbiblical remarriages.
Is abuse really a ground for divorce and remarriage?
The correct translation for Corinthians chapter 7 verse 15 is that you are not under bondage. It doesn't mean you are not bound to the marriage covenant. It means you are not enslaved to keep this spouse happy, and content if he is restricting your worship to Christ .you are loosed from the responsibilities of a wife but you are still married under the covenant.
Again translating it the way you have makes the other scriptures confusing and contradictory.
Then you're still enslaved to that spouse. You just contradicted yourself in that statement. If you are not under bondage, you are ....yep! You guessed it, free from that person in your life. They have left you and aren't coming back. No, you're no longer married to them if they divorce you as that is what divorce means.
I am not enslaved to my husband . I am free to worship God in peace. Marriage is not enslavement. I will honor my marriage covenant I made with God and my spouse whether he comes back or not. Our marriage and vows are a threefold covenant we both made with God. Only death ends it. I only follow what Gods word says not mans. I'm not going to risk my relationship with God just because I might get lonely for a partner. Or use the same excuse everyone else uses that God wants me to be happy. Our life here is but a vapor ,and then were gone. I don't want to be called an adulterous women. God commands us to pick up our cross if we want to follow him. That means we have to give up our worldly, and fleshly desires. Sometimes that can be very difficult, but through the power of the Holy Spirt we can run away from any ungodly temptation that crosses our path. You need to be born again for the Holy Spirt to do a good work in you. That means full surrender to Jesus Christ. That means not only believing in him, but also obeying his commands. You have to do both.
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hee hee....married until he departs....quite the marriage vow...@@Thomas116-m2n
@@Thomas116-m2n not under bondage is not akin to not bound, as this may be a result of the reformation....
So what do you do in an unbiblical marriage? Are to couple supposed to divorce and sin again?
since when is it a sin to remove oneself, from sin....
@@philipbuckley759 read the scriptures. So was David, Abraham, Moses (Moses was divorced), and Jacob committing adultery when they married and had multiple wives? The word Adulty Jesus in Mark 10 is using is μοιχάω moicháō is singular in form. What about Math 19 or Corth 15? There is NO verse in the bible that tells you once you messed up and got divorced that you must break up a family and most likely children, this would be sinning again by divorcing. This important issue would have been clearly spelled out. You are not looking at the bible in context, you have to look at ALL scripture and have context. Actually in Det once you are divorced and if she marries another you can NOT go back to the first husband.
@@philipbuckley759 Your perspective from a Christian church standpoint is extremely radical and is not endorsed by 99.99% of churches or scripture. According to your viewpoint, a significant portion (50%) of the Church would face division, resulting in the detriment of family and children's lives. It would transform into a harmful environment, leading to the abandonment of faith by children influenced by this false teaching at unprecedented levels. No theologian who reveres God would advocate for this stance. I recommend examining Dr. John MacArthur's teachings or other conservative pastors and theologians like Dr James White on this matter.
Need more information. How is your marriage unbiblical?
@@j.p.5716It doesn't matter how some interpret it as unbiblical; they believe that any marriage involving a divorced person is unbiblical, and those involved will face eternal damnation. In their view, the solution is to divorce your spouse and break up the family, without considering the emotional harm this would cause to the children. We already know the negative impact of broken families on children. If everyone followed this logic, the world would become a playground for evil. Children might question why they would want to serve a God who destroys families. It's distressing to hear this preached daily, as it contradicts the message of God's grace.
Also we should mention here the woman at the well who had seven husbands ans she is not even married to the last. But jesus was still respectful and referred to him as her husband
Is a husband's p0rn addiction considered sexual immorality and thus grounds for divorce and remarriage?
John 3:16
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal . God forgives divorce when you repent asking for His forgiveness. Depend on God not man. How can so many doubt Gods forgiveness, Gods grace and Gods mercy. False teachings. God forgives.
What if you love talking about Jesus all the time what your spouse doesn’t wanna hear it all the time. you are a fasting and praying reading a Bible every single day, but your spouse doesn’t show any interest. I pray for her every day.
Please read the whole chapter of 1 Corinthians 7. That should give some clarity regarding your questions
If they cheat,then I do not know why he would not want you to find a more suitable person
My husband,said he is a better friend than husband
If the person has been abused, disrespected and robbed,then you need a divorce!
Sister.... I see kjv scripturally both men and women can be abused, especially spiritually.
..... And both men and women can lie, and SAY they've been abused when they have not.
My recommendation to you as a woman and being very well studied in the one true Bible....
I do understand that "God is not willing that any should perish" including a wicked abusive spouse.
I recommend you have males such as the church, elders or Born. Again, friends go to your husband and share the TRUE gospel with him...AND WARNING him of his abuses of you....if he truly has.
God says (he will not bring judgment unless he first sends a messenger)....
But according to spiritual hierarchy, you as his wife, or as a woman are not qualified to be that messenger. But another man is.
I have been used by God to warn men including pastors of their rebellion to his word....
....and abuse of women, or the sheep, and I've watched God either kill that man literally, cause him to abandon her, In which case she is not under bondage...
.... or tear down his church. 0:06
Hello
Although, Christ said we have no grounds for divorce except for sexual immorality, which I agree with. Only the death of a divorced or current spouse can grant us the right to remarry. I would even go as far to say reconciliation between two separated couples, apply only if a divorce hasn't been finalised. It appears that the tradition was a men being unsatisfied with the marriage, would depart from his wife without divorcing her and go on to remarry themselves. Also, Christ declared it's forbidden to marry a divorced woman because it's considered adultery. Matthew 5:31 Also 1 Corthians 7.
Grace to you Brothers and Sisters in Christ.
Can we except all that Jesus taught on this issue because remarriage was graciously allowed following the divorce concession He mentions in Matthew 19:8?
Yes we can and SHOULD!!!
That is exactly how we should draw our conclusions about why this way of committing adultery occurs. If we preserve the CONTEXT we will properly understand that the ensuing adultery was inadvertent and consequential.
Otherwise we are going to perceive it as the adultery that was punished, making the situation more dire for those involved.
So the million dollar question, is the view you have come to believe following biblical truths chronologically or randomly selecting scriptures to build a subjective perspective?
The narrative developed will NOT be the same!! Blessings
Now what about abuse instead of sexual immorality?
Is abuse the same like sexual immorality?
Imagine a woman being abused verbally she will get completely destroyed in soul if she would not get separated.
How on earth could she THEN have to stay married with a person that is constantly (!) abusing her verbally? To then say she must stay unmarried until her husband gets normal might be a prayer request but is it a must for her to wait until he gets normal again after lets say ten years of abuse?
I am not talkong of some months of bad behavior but of a constant abusive treatment where she gave her husband let us say several clear opportunities to repent and make a decision for a change.
But she made a vow and none forced her to do so. Sorry
Also God allows separation is such cases
Not only separation for sure.
You need to see the whole context Jeszs speaks in.
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No, verbal abuse is bad but it does not qualify you for divorce. If I were you, I would try and find out from my husband what I was doing wrong that caused him to be unhappy with me and fix it.
The goodie two shoes approach. If you get remmaried it's adultery ongoing. Gid dies love you enough to punish. Otherwise he wouldn't be a good father
THE QUESTION IS....
"What does (THE BIBLE) say about divorce and remarriage".
THAT BEGS THE QUESTION.....
Which Bible?
MEN..go to God the father DIRECTLY, asking HIM DIRECTLY, If HE has preserved his word from generation to generation?
WHEN He answers you directly after you have sought him with your whole heart....
.. Begin the studying it from Genesis to Revelation..... And you will find, as I have every word every jot every tittle from Genesis 1 to Revelation 22 ...points to the answer to this question.
[Malachi 2:16] Does not say that "God hates divorce".(Do better research) that is a translational error exclusive to the KJV.but the Hebrew text does not read that way.remember,Yahweh divorced Israel [Jeremiah 3:8]
Can I get a divorce if my spouse commits adultery? Never!
Can I get a divorce if my spouse is abusive to me? No!
Can I get a divorce if I no longer love my spouse? Absolutely not!
Can I get a divorce if my spouse has abandoned me? No, you can't!
So, under what circumstances can I get a divorce? Absolutely none. The Bible is absolutely clear: only death can dissolve a marriage in God's sight. Our only option is to separate from our spouse and stay single. If things get better between our spouse and us, we can get back together (1 Corinthians 7:10-11, Bible).
But what about the exception in Matthew 5:31-32 and Matthew 19:1-9? There is no exception in Matthew’s gospel: Once you are married, you are married for life.
No one in the Bible ever got a divorce for adultery or fornication. There was no need for divorce because those found guilty were stoned to death. All divorces were for reasons other than adultery or fornication.
Once married, always married until death do us part, with no exceptions. This applies to all human beings, regardless of whether you are a sinner or a saint.
God doesn't allow divorce, no matter what, unless commit adultre
try a better translation, as not under bondage is not akin to not bound...and fornication is not sexual immorality.....sex, out of the marriage covenant has its own term....adultery....so flee this false teacher...
I read what Jesus said about divorce and remarriage and it was very clear to me. It seems like people are looking for loopholes.
HEADS UP....
Some who comment on these channels, have themselves committed adultery, and refuse to acknowledge THEY Resolved the marutal covenant......
So they twist scripture to make it seem like their FAITH-ful spouse commits adultery, if they remarry.
The only reason Jesus gave for a legitimate divorce, is "porneia" interpreted quite rightly as "fornication" by both the Protestant King James Bible writers and the Roman Catholics and the Pope. It cannot mean adultery, as Jesus had already excluded that meaning by saying sex in a second marriage (even with all the divorce and remarriage paperwork), is continuous adultery, proving it does not break the marriage bond, and similarly in Romans 7:1-4 Saint Paul repeats this fact). In other words if for instance a woman tries to pass herself off as a virgin, but on the marriage bed it is shown by her anatomy she is not, the man who just married her can legitimately divorce her - and yes! they were married without consummation, it is a covenant, or Christ would have been born out of wedlock. The teaching of Jesus is therefore to stay a virgin before you marry. Selling your virginity would be an act of prostitution, Many murders by abortion have been committed because of sex before marriage......
May I suggest you read John 4:16-26. The Samaritan woman who had 5 husbands on the end believed on Jesus. Redeemed ones do not go to hell, but religion and the traditions of men put them there. SO… stand on your soapbox and pound your chest, tell God how righteous you are, and not like the publican who sins. I the publican will humbly beat my chest asking God to forgive me of my sins and rely on His mercy and love toward me. It’s about the condition of the heart, a truly repentant heart God touches by His mercy, and causes hope to arise again.
May you, or no one in your religious circle get touched by divorce and remarry.