I so needed to hear this. At 37 (married, no children) it's been a couple of years since I've made a friend who I haven't been introduced to via a workplace setting. Once a friend is made, keeping in touch with them is another story. I've had an internal struggle lately - Should I have more friends? Isn't it healthier to have friends? Should I want to be doing something with someone other than my spouse and/or family? Thanks, Ryan & Joshua.
Through my 30's I shed all my friends like the dead weight they were. Now at 43 I've realized that I only talk to my wife and kids, I have zero relationships outside my family. Every time I try and talk to people my values stop me from spending more time with them, it usually takes about 15 mins or less listening to someone talk to realize I want nothing to do with them. I'm content with what I have. Less is more.
@@nocando89 Hello, I’m second generation. My dad is from Mexico and my mom is from Texas. My parents are very close and that’s how I grew up. Just pretty much the nuclear family. My husband is from a divorced home where his parents moved on and had other lives/kids. He’s kinda odd man out. So it was easy for him to adapt to how I grew up.
The most beautiful thing of all is that we are all different and so we can share experiences and learn from each other. I wish you guys a lot of success. 👍☺️❤️
Crazy timing guys, on this video! I was just talking to someone yesterday and said "I haven't made a new friend in two decades". I think it's time to get out there and do something about it! 😉
I'm getting divorced, i live in a different country to my family, and i have zero friends outside of people i lunch or coffee with at work. The struggle is real!!
This description of "need" is so reflective of unresolved issues in the parental relationship in the first few years of life.. It's like there was not a healthy weaning process or growth process.. I think we need to collectively re-evaluate teachings on parenthood. We shame having relational needs..It really is Ok to both need and want a relationship(s).. we are generally social creatures.
To make friends , you first have to love yourself and stop "need friends" . Take a deep breath , relax , read books , exercise , you are on a good road
Needed to hear this today. I’ve been very isolated for years after a long illness. I’m 35 and spend most time with my husband. I’m quite content, but do feel I’m missing out on meaningful friendships. Think it’s time to get myself out there ❤
making friends is hard, but nowadays i can make friends with people who are in different countries and have the same interests and hobbies as me. I do get the modern day complexity tho of not having the PHYSICAL present aspect of said friendships though
It sounds like you're saying that the skill set called "socialization" that homeschoolers are still being raked over the coals about isn't taught in schools??? Say it isn't so!! :D In homeschooling circles, we, the parents, do the work. We find where the meet-ups, we join the fb groups, we organize outings and put out invites into the community. We introduce ourselves around at the meet-ups. When we find others we resonate with (the ones we share values, interests, and experiences with), we invite them into our homes where the conversation can go a bit deeper. We invite them back over and over to solidify the friendship. Friendships take work and commitment. It is also important to distinguish between playmates, acquaintances, and friends. There is value in all but they require different levels of energy input into them. When a playmate or an acquaintance is mistaken for a friend, too much energy is put into that relationship with very little return. Stop following friends and acquaintances on fb and other social media.
@@TheMinimalists already signed up! OMG me and mum will have to take a photo with you too. we absolutely ADORE you both! *hugs and love from the UK* :D
Sounds like you're a very bones person. But perhaps too hard on yourself? All humans are toxic, to some extent...okay, maybe not Mother Theresa. But most of us have a genuine authentic personality that is worth knowing. (At least you recognize your b.s.. That is extremely rare. Many people are oozing with it and have no awareness).
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Now I'm 33. I can see why this is a struggle for many people. Work friends are really not friends unless you develop the relationship.
I so needed to hear this. At 37 (married, no children) it's been a couple of years since I've made a friend who I haven't been introduced to via a workplace setting. Once a friend is made, keeping in touch with them is another story. I've had an internal struggle lately - Should I have more friends? Isn't it healthier to have friends? Should I want to be doing something with someone other than my spouse and/or family? Thanks, Ryan & Joshua.
Making friends..is definitely one of my struggles
Is there an award for most 'pod-castable' voices?! Thank you for having quality content and sounding great doing it!
As the Buddha put it: to get a noble friend, be a noble friend ;D
Through my 30's I shed all my friends like the dead weight they were. Now at 43 I've realized that I only talk to my wife and kids, I have zero relationships outside my family. Every time I try and talk to people my values stop me from spending more time with them, it usually takes about 15 mins or less listening to someone talk to realize I want nothing to do with them. I'm content with what I have. Less is more.
I’m almost 50. I’m always with my hubby, the kids and my parents. We’re a tight group. It’s how it should be. I don’t feel alone at all.
Wow...I totally feel the same. I’ve got a few friends that I talk to but overall, I’m more interested with doing things on my own and my daughter.
@@moneyallspent7117 Are you from the south? I feel like more people in the south are interested in small knit, groups with history?
@@nocando89 Hello, I’m second generation. My dad is from Mexico and my mom is from Texas. My parents are very close and that’s how I grew up. Just pretty much the nuclear family.
My husband is from a divorced home where his parents moved on and had other lives/kids. He’s kinda odd man out. So it was easy for him to adapt to how I grew up.
Mental degradation
we all dont need friends until you realise you are socialy isolated and have noone to talk with
I am 30 and I have friends from all ages in my neighborhood, more real friendships than in the past
The most beautiful thing of all is that we are all different and so we can share experiences and learn from each other. I wish you guys a lot of success. 👍☺️❤️
Crazy timing guys, on this video! I was just talking to someone yesterday and said "I haven't made a new friend in two decades". I think it's time to get out there and do something about it! 😉
Hi
I thoroughly enjoy the wisdom that you two bring to the table. The chemistry of your friendship is a nice bonus as well.
I'm getting divorced, i live in a different country to my family, and i have zero friends outside of people i lunch or coffee with at work. The struggle is real!!
This description of "need" is so reflective of unresolved issues in the parental relationship in the first few years of life..
It's like there was not a healthy weaning process or growth process.. I think we need to collectively re-evaluate teachings on parenthood. We shame having relational needs..It really is Ok to both need and want a relationship(s).. we are generally social creatures.
To make friends , you first have to love yourself and stop "need friends" . Take a deep breath , relax , read books , exercise , you are on a good road
That's not true
Needed to hear this today. I’ve been very isolated for years after a long illness. I’m 35 and spend most time with my husband. I’m quite content, but do feel I’m missing out on meaningful friendships. Think it’s time to get myself out there ❤
Beautiful, Guys ! Thank you ! And continued blessings to your wonderful friendship !
Just subscribed to your channel after seeing you both on Dave Ramsey....I’m intrigued 💕
5:00 TOTALLY agree... You have to put yourself out there 💝💝💝
In my early 20's, not in college or military so this is actually quite helpful to me :^)
Was it harder back then? I have never made an effort to make friends until now i am 57.
I'd like to hear the 20 different ways to make friends because I am struggling with coming up with ways to put myself out there 🤔
making friends is hard, but nowadays i can make friends with people who are in different countries and have the same interests and hobbies as me. I do get the modern day complexity tho of not having the PHYSICAL present aspect of said friendships though
I think I like the idea of having friends more than actually having them.
As a married man with no kids, it feels doubly hard because my married male friends have kids and I don't, and men without kids are usually single.
Cool! The book comes out on my mom's Birthday!
It sounds like you're saying that the skill set called "socialization" that homeschoolers are still being raked over the coals about isn't taught in schools??? Say it isn't so!! :D
In homeschooling circles, we, the parents, do the work. We find where the meet-ups, we join the fb groups, we organize outings and put out invites into the community. We introduce ourselves around at the meet-ups. When we find others we resonate with (the ones we share values, interests, and experiences with), we invite them into our homes where the conversation can go a bit deeper. We invite them back over and over to solidify the friendship. Friendships take work and commitment.
It is also important to distinguish between playmates, acquaintances, and friends. There is value in all but they require different levels of energy input into them. When a playmate or an acquaintance is mistaken for a friend, too much energy is put into that relationship with very little return. Stop following friends and acquaintances on fb and other social media.
Do you think you will come to the UK for a tour on your book? :)
Possibly! Sign up for our newsletter and you’ll be the first to know when it happens. www.theminimalists.email
@@TheMinimalists already signed up! OMG me and mum will have to take a photo with you too. we absolutely ADORE you both! *hugs and love from the UK* :D
This is something which I definitely need her in my life so thank you so much I am so looking forward as Iam in a train to London
What do you know? To make friends, you only have two options. You dominate or you suck up. You can only have a friendship when two people are unequal.
I'm just glad that I got rid of all my friends before I could infect them with my toxic BS.
Sounds like you're a very bones person.
But perhaps too hard on yourself?
All humans are toxic, to some extent...okay, maybe not Mother Theresa.
But most of us have a genuine authentic personality that is worth knowing.
(At least you recognize your b.s.. That is extremely rare. Many people are oozing with it and have no awareness).
Glad that I am complete in an empty room. :)
II know iam going to love the book I want it plz
You don't, unless you are rich with social status. Then suddenly everyone wants to be your friend.
Do not believe everything you think.
Feel like I met decent ppl from outside of the town I live now. Maybe I should just move
I need friends, i feel lonely at times ( if you need a friend, say hi)
Have to listen to an entire lecture just to get advice, get to the point already! Lol
Thumbs down: 9 min video and 2 min worth off relevant content based on the title.
first minute I could tell this video would be a waste of time
🗣〰️〰️🌐💚🖤💙🤎🦸♀️🦹♀️ great insights