Why Being Around an INFJ is Like Being on Drugs
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- Опубліковано 22 бер 2024
- In this video I give my take on why being around the INFJ personality type is like being on drugs. This applies particularly to other MBTI personality types. When others are around us they experience extreme reactions - both positive and (sometimes) negative.
By understanding this, the INFJ can avoid the pitfalls that typically arise when interacting with other types.
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The Fellowship of the Ring - Frodo peers into Galadriels Mirror
The Matrix - Morpheus gives Neo the choice of the blue or red pill
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It is also important for INFJs to know that we can be wrong. We may see a future or have a vision, but we might be the deluded ones in some cases. We should not get caught up in the INFJ hype. We are still just human, like everyone else, and can make mistakes. Be authentic, but be humble.
Good point!
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This definitely should be pinned as the top comment
Totally agree. We are just humans with different brain wires. I can't stand biased INFJ channels.
We aren't like the red pill from the Matrix. We are more like Kassandra from the Iliad. We keep telling people what is going to go wrong, but no one believes us until it's too late.
I've used this Cassandra reference sometime back in one of my poems. :3 So, I can relate. Slowly letting go of needing to be accepted in one way or another while unleashing the magic of my being...It can be challenging at times but it's also fun if I can continue to let go and accept my quirks and truth. Etcetera. 💌🥲🎁
This is so true. And if you've got a lot of Pisces, or 12th house involvement, they might throw you in prison like they did her.
This a thousand times this!
That’s the point of my entire life.
Same shit..
Every single woman who broke up with me or I broke up with has come back eventually wanting me to be friends. We're different, people notice that.
Same. Except they want to get back together dating.
We Infj want to help people better themselves...we
"Say hints" like Saints. 😇
Yeppp... They wanna be friends or friends with benefits or restart a relationship or whatever... But they always come back..... 🥴
@@granthutchins2016 agape = unconditional love
philia = love for your brothers and sisters
eros = romantic love
yes, I have had that experience....
I wish I didn't do this to people, it's scary. I see demons in people. When I see the specific smirk, I know who I'm dealing with.
OMG. You're forcing me to see it too right now in some people who are important in my life.
@@websurfer5772 I'm sorry. I hate that I see it too. Especially when I see their eyes go dark, that is even scarier. Maybe be careful what you say and do around those who have these qualities.
@@bumblebee_ms Good advice. Thank you. 🌼
@@websurfer5772 My pleasure. Best of luck.
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Most people don't like truth tellers. It really stinks having to hide who I am and dampen my abilities at work. It's a tricky thing to figure out just how much of myself I can let show to both maintain my mental health and keep the paychecks coming in.
I can relate to that. But I am not going to stop telling them the truth. If they can't take it then it is their problem not mine.
You know, the problem with hiding away the truth or softening it too much is that it doesn’t work. I’ve done this many times in my life, and it always ends up in a disaster. So, my conclusion from literally years of research is to be humbly yourself. this means telling your truth, and not forcing anything on anyone. So I say, go with the truth, but with a lot of kindness and humility. One example I think of is with things I like, or don’t like. If someone likes something I try to relate to them on it, but now I’ve started to tell them you know, I’m not really that interested in that subject. maybe I won’t be able to talk to them about bass fishing or whatever it is, they like, but at least they won’t ask me to go fishing with them either. lol! As for the abilities, they will creep out just enough to make everyone dislike you anyway if they’re that type of person. So be humble, but go ahead and show your abilities in my opinion.
Jay
Jay
@@INFJcircleWell, if you ever thought people hate liars try telling the truth.
"Most people are not just comfortable in their ignorance, but hostile to anyone who points it out." ~ Plato
When one tells the truth . Then be prepared to lose friends . But, were they friends in the first place .
Using tact when communicating the truth I find to be the most effective way. Also how people react to you telling them the truth is on them. The truth simply is as it is.
A difference I’ve felt is that while other people might be ashamed or terrified by their flaws and insecurities, I own mine, and I work to address them over time
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Same here
Yes
This was the exact reason I had to do a major "social cleanup" and confront friends and family that were enjoying the benefits of me being an infj, but didn't want the whole complete me. This guy was explaining exactly my last friendship. I stopped being myself completely and felt like I only lived to make the people around me happy. Confronting them about this realy weeded out the ones that wanted the complete authentic me and the selfish ones who were using my helping nature. I have never been happier then how I feel now.
You're far more mature than I, for me it's usually only two speeds: continue people pleasing or door slam... nothing really in between.
@@dually81It will come. When time passes and your boundaries are getting pushed too far, you will find energy like Jolinda to free your self. But at first:
Know thy self.
@@Markbenwisch Thank you 🙏🏾
I'm only comfortable expressing myself and being vulnerable in INFJ spaces.
@@dually81 I know. Seek out for Sensors and learn from them. If they are to be trusted, you can gain competence in physical approaches while being introverted, which is very attractive to women by the way. That's how your tendencies as INFJ in being helpful and responsable can thrive amongst others very well without being misjudged.
@@Markbenwisch Definitely
For me, there is nothing better than being understood. We go through life usually being the most aware person in the room, so it's almost a relief when the tables are turned and a woman can "read me" and see through the chameleon mask.
I play a good introvert, but the battery gets depleted quickly.
I consulted for a company recently. They wanted a quick fix for something they had been doing incorrectly for at least 4 years. I first wanted to understand their needs and why they did things the way they did. 2 hours into collecting data and 1 hour speaking to them. I reported back to my boss what they needed and a plan. My boss was delighted at my work. The clients were not. They did not want to see how the handling of their business had lead them to where they were. They did not want to change those patterns. They expressed their annoyance at my "not showing them how" to fix it. Unfortunately, this is more often than not my interaction with most people. They do not want to look. They'd rather stay in ignorance than change. People do not want to hear me. ~Infj
Very relatable!!
I easily point out stupid... and shocked Pikachu is always the reaction
Ever watch those Business Rescue reality shows? Nine times out of ten, the boss/owner doesn't have good boundaries and isn't enforcing them on their employees. The boss/owner also needs to give more direction, rules to follow, and they need to give more power to their managers to correct employees, hire, and fire.
And the bar owners need to stop drinking. (Boundaries on Self.)
Is it like that?
@@patrickglaser1560 Sometimes they surprise me with a shocked Baby Yoda.
@@websurfer5772 Yes. The mentality needs to shift but very few are prepared to do that.
INFJ "The Original Red Pill" 😂
Yes! lol.
Jay
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The INFJ is the Red Hot Chilli Pepper amongst all personalities!
Agreed...
⌚️ out for ⚫️ 💊
thats why eyeryone hates us until they come back ten years later
I’m an INFJ and a behavior analyst, and this is my WHOLE career.
What a cool career.
This is my dream career as an INFJ
Behavior analyst? Is this an invented profession for the people who wouldn’t want to study years to become a real psychologist?
@@Devi_Seona you seem miserable
@@Devi_Seonathey often are psychologists or orthopedagogues.
I serve as a mirror for others in most cases. There’s always a wide array of reactions to this. Most people don’t want the truth about themselves.
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Right, careful who you hold the mirror up for. Retaliation can sting!
@@pagardener2953 retaliation doesn’t scare me. Their reactions are entirely their problem.
So true! And it's hard to stay around people who don't want to wake up
A million thanks for this video. If you never watched another video on INFJ this one sums it up completely, honestly. I could never understand why people so over reacted to me. I am an attractive, mannerly, kind person. Too often an inocuous comment would upset someone for no reason, even a compliment can be mis-construed. people didnt seem to have a problem criticizing me about everything. By the Grace of God, I found my calling
as an international consultant and forensic accountant. It took a while but I found people who wanted, needed Truth and were willing to pay for it! You are so correct in your assessment. You have to eliminate all the naysayers from your life, because there is a whole world of folks who value your trustwothiness, straight constructive thought for making things better, deep analytical abilities. Be your self, be kind,, realize you have been given a gift, even if it sometimes feels like a curse. God bless❤️
I’m so glad you commented the part where you said, “people didn’t seem to have a problem criticizing me about everything “ yes I know that oh so well! I wonder what we put out into the world that people think they can do that to us? But I do try to warn people about that because when I finally do snap you might have to commit yourself to some kind of therapy afterwards. Also I totally resonate when you said our personality feels like a curse! I’ve said that so many times! 😂😂 also may I ask…what is a forensic accountant and international consultant? 😊
Great comment, you’re very welcome for the video. I’m glad you found your calling giving out truth. yes, just being ourselves causes an intense reaction from some people. I agree it’s a gift that sometimes feels like a curse, thanks for your insight!
Jay
I so resonate with your story. I retired 5 years ago from IT consulting and now a corporate leadership coach, for fun. At 70 I now really have less patience for people latching on to me and not being accountable for their life. If you come to me for help and continue to do the same things over and over, you will lose me and my support. On the other hand, I have clients that have been with me for 3 years, who do the work and have become the best of who they are and better people overall. It frightens me at times that they have become addicted to me and maybe challenged to let me go.
I feel the gift I have been given is to really see who they are and give them permission to show up and fully live their lives, putting boundaries in place to no longer be taken advantage of.
@@beckyb1797same for me , I’ve always noticed that people have no problem at all giving me criticism. They would be offended if I give that back to them.
I’ve also done forensic accounting and operations consulting. I pretty much fell in to forensic accounting because I had operations clients that had embezzlement and didn’t know it. It was a wild time with clients and the criminals that worked for them.
Most people don't want to hear the truth 🤷🏼
Sadly, this is true.
Jay
They can't handle the truth.
An INFJ isn't satisfied with anything BUT the truth-- first and foremost with ourselves.
I don't like games, I don't care if I belong to a "clique", and I'm fine standing on whatever I do. Good or bad. But most people want to seem "right", so they have to make you "wrong" by default.
Not doing this for people anymore. I don't have time for dishonest people anymore -- it just doesn't make things better, so might as well go down swinging.
No, they don't. It's so frustrating.
Truth is death!
I don’t think those kind of people know that they don’t have to take everything so damn personal.
Infj cancer introvert here from Seattle WA❤️🫶🏻❤️
I have read more INFJ posts then I can count. This is the best because you are looking at this type from a different angle, like you're handing from your knees and swinging. I was well into adulthood when I learned about the MBTI in a psyc class. My heart raced and I wanted to jump and run in circles. Something had explained my weird-ohness.
I am happy for my younger INFJ bros and sisters. The earlier you hear about this stuff the more it can help.
Totally agree, the earlier the better. Thank you so much I appreciate your comment!
Jay
I'm an INFJ with an INFJ friend and i can tell you that when i talk to him, i know he's going to figure me out. It's scary, but also freeing. We need people like us too sometimes. I provide the same for him. If he talks to me about something, he knows I'll get to the heart of it.
I know you feel.
I wish I could articulate these ideas as well as you. Thank you for this service.
Thank you my friend! I appreciate you :)
Jay
The accuracy of this video is uncanny
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Thank you!
Jay
This uncannyness of this accuracy is also a video!
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How many Infjs prefer a life without kids ?
Me🙋🏼♀️
Here I am
depends on my partner, if he is a responsible father I would.... and then would i marry a irresponsible person...... no never.so the answer is yes and no.
Me too
@@shazrakawajir2904 This is what exactly I thought when I saw the comment 💯
I've has people say that they have a renewed confidence in themselves after spending time with me
That’s such a good thing!!
We also create a feeling of safeness & for those who are going through things the feeling is intoxicating & sometimes create limerence. Some can feel a connection due to our ability to mirror them. But when we show them their true selves many can’t handle it & ghost us 😢 or when we feel we can be ourselves around them that’s when we learn if they’re really our friends or just like how we make them feel. 😢
Maybe this is why my friends disappear
@@sarahmoeller7578 if so then they were never your friends to begin with. Infjs tend to have very few friends. I’m fine with it. I’ve learned to be careful who inlet in & not to get my hopes up or to think we’re friends until time has passed & they’ve slowly gotten to know me. It’s a painful reality, but I do hope you have at least one friend who has proven themselves over time. If so cherish them. They are worth more than gold. ❤️🩹
Sadly, I didn’t ghost him, he ghosted me.
I truly cared and was not shocked or scared by his authentic self, but he chose the toxic people destroying him and treating him poorly over someone who genuinely cared for him. I was interested in who he really was and not just what he could do for others. …
It really sucked when he believed the lies of the others that were around him who I could tell did not care at all about him and just what they could get out of him- including his wife. he chose all of them over the group of friends that truly wanted to be there for him and understand him.
It’s so sad .
I truly deeply cared about him as a person and it still sucks a year and a half later …
Why are some people obssessed with us but wont approach us ?
Cuz you're freaking intimidating to them. You unmask them and see them for who they really are.
@@lextor4712or you may just not seem friendly.
They also don’t appreciate as much either
Ppl like predictability, it creates safety for them bring in control of how ppl might be.
They can't read or control us, (usually) and that is VERY risky for them, being in the unknown.
Also ppl like to be lied to , as long as it makes them feel good...they like to be BS:ed, because that’s all they know, and that’s what they do as well, BS others
When they see a truthful almost transparent person, it creates fear in them because it is never seen or heard of & again it's unknown territory.
They want to know what's coming.
They are obsessed with us, because we acknowledge them & see them & listen to them.
Ppl don't feel seen, heard or understood, that’s why they get an obsession with us, because they want to be saved or feel good about themselves again
I've always seen myself as a bridge builder. Someone shares details about themselves and I start building a verbal bridge towards their dream. It often shocks them because we barely know each other but I come from such a sincere and honest place that they almost always find it inspirational. Over the years my daughter has found great comfort in the fact that I truly see her. I do have to steward it carefully because other people want to use me like a "Tinkerbell" and shake me over a person and request that I tell all about them like some kind of party favor. It took many years to learn how to navigate users. My personality type "Can Do" "Helper" etc attracts those who just want to suck people dry and then move on to the next do gooder. Boundaries are very important even if you enjoy flexing your talent and giftings. The best thing an INFJ can do is encourage and develop the young INFJ to enjoy who they are to their fullest potential. Learning how to steward their discernment so it doesn't fall into suspicion. Learning how to navigate the prophetic in an honoring way etc.
I can so relate to this. Try being ASD L1 on top of INFJ. That's my life. Consequently I need lots of alone time and space. I stay single because of it as well. But I'm also a spiritual person so I know I'm not really alone and I'm pretty content in my life though it's not easy sometimes. Right now I am experiencing Autistic burnout so I'm laying real low. I like what Drew Barrymore calls herself, "A happy little hermit".
Infuse and adhd 😂emotional rollercoaster ❤
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I am an INFJ with complex PTSD and find Jay's videos such a help. Life is hard.
I am sorry things are hard, but glad to know he us helping you. I'll give him a follow! @@annmowatt7547
I sometimes feel as if I'm only truly at peace when I'm at home reading complex science books. When I have to interact with the world is when I experience exhaustion.
It’s tiring when people don’t take our advice. We are constantly predicting future outcomes and no one believes us.
Being an infj without the knowledge and tools to understand and have compassion for myself caused me to attract very dangerous people who caused me a world of pain. I'm thankful for the knowledge I have now but still trying to heal from intense shame. I'm no longer gullible and I no longer assume people have good intentions which is good but I'm a bit resentful for being this personality type.
That’s a hard thing to realize.
I’m not an INFJ , but I had a very close INFJ friend who didn’t realize this until he shoved away the group of us that actually cared about him…
I think it truly hurt him and us all .
I’m not sure if he’s figured it out yet because he’s not reached out to anybody .
The hard thing was one of those people who was treating him extremely poorly with his own wife… she was awful to him in front of people and behind his back.
He ended up cutting off a group of people that were truly looking out for him and making sure he was doing OK.. just wanting all of his INFJ gifts and his kindness and servitude at his expense.
In the end , he blamed me for what other people were doing and kept them with him instead of seeing what actually was going on… even worse I got to hear the rumors was awful. People spread to undermine his opinion of me.
Trying to be a friend and understood him I could tell he had not experienced very often: Someone genuinely caring about his state and what he needed, his interests and desires and thoughts.
I guess those people I was dangerous because I was waking up this INFJ just by being a friend and caring… He started seeing the toxicity around him and started challenging those people, but they destroyed the whole social group before he could kick any of them out and for some reason whatever they said to him caused him to believe that I and others were the ones that needed to be removed.
Im too late😢 but here i am im trying to get up😊
damn you hit the nail right on the head deadcenter. only an INFJ can understand an INFJ - thank you.
I know an iNFJ and we can't get each other on a deep level, she is so closed off, very easy going on the surface... have a hard time really believe she is Infj? 😮
Just yesterday, yet again another person was trying to convince me that I am crazy &/or there is something wrong with me. What they don't realize is that I am simply a mirror that is being held up to their face. I am not who they think I am, but a clear reflection of who they are, have been and will be forever be. Now where is my Windex?
I’ve changed several peoples lives, significantly, through conversation. They’ve told me so later. It’s helpful to know that I have a tribe and am not just a weirdo.
As an ENFP, I love you guys! We are so similar and complimentaryly different.
It's true we want to run with the herd when asleep. But once awakened to our fullest potential... there is no falling back asleep.
You've always been able to see the veil of the matrix. Please give us a little compassion for when we see it for the first time... and then must live in the new state of 'being'.
It's a total mind f*ck and sends us to the therapy chair...
Thank you for your work on waking up the world! It might seem like a thankless gift somedays... but I'm hoping you'll read this and keep going!! ❤❤❤
being a infj is hard ,, strangers can talk to me for hours but i find it so difficult to make friends as most are so fake
My friend always makes me feel significant. I'm so glad that she is kind to me; not just because she is an INFJ, but because she is truly kind-hearted. I feel so happy, I am happy to have her.
I'm an INFJ and a mental health therapist. Let that sink in...
I am loving you!!!😂
@@Kim-oo9vv 😂😂
W😅 lovee it
@@cristinaapas1625 ❤
It means we all love you more!!! Haha ❤
I remember the first time I realized I had a profound effect on other people. I had about an hour conversation with a substitute teacher when I was in 7th grade, only to find out a couple weeks later from another teacher that conversation had led this substitute to realize that she had taken the wrong path, was leaving education, and going back to school to pursue something else.
It’s family that can’t accept me. Friends and colleagues love me
You can't choose who your blood relatives are but remember that family is actually a choice.
And I love you too sweetheart!!! ❤🧡🤎 Hugs 💛
So true...Perhaps this is due to the fact that they've "known" you the longest.And that seeing
"who you are as opposed who you were" would
require that they do the same for themselves.
Its like that stoic quote about "friends wanting
you to better your life, but not beyond their own situation.
I have family that, if I allowed, would bleed me
dry, energetically and financially, all while
proclaiming their love for me, This is perhaps
among life's toughest lessons to learn. I'm not
saying they're evil, only that they don't appear
to have any conception of actual love.
Been told I'm like home , always make people comfortable an a hug from me is healing, I can see the best in people an want the best for everyone. I see u because I see me. I now know why some people get irritated with me it's because some don't wanna see the truth. An I irritate peoples demons. I appreciate all u do. Thank you for allowing us to understand ourselves better. Bringing us into our power more & confident in ourselves ❤❤❤ thx Jay
This is giving me so much insight into some of my struggles with my new job. Thank you!!
I just had a discussion with a very good friend of mine. He is avoiding his responsibility in a failed marriage . I told him my honest opinion, and he ended up upsetting with me or so. I am sorry but I told him about the risk he was taking even before embarking on such a serious commitment.
Spot on!! That’s why we make great coaches. I became a coach out of desire to put this “thing” about me somewhere for good. It feels so good to show up authentically. I can’t wait to collaborate with a team of like MBTIs and change our worlds🧡
I find it hard to be my true INFJ self.. I feel like I'm too intense for people to handle... So I have a kinda 'Normie' alter ago so I can coexist with the rest of humanity peacefully... It makes me very uncomfortable to shine light on my achievements.. so I often shrink myself 😢 How can I be my true powerful self when I live amongst a bunch of unawakened NPCs. This is especially hard where I live in Japan, where people are trained to follow the herd from birth.. I really dont know how to live.
This! I seem so plain and boring and then get sad no one seems interested in my creativity.
I tried to be myself from the start with some new friends but still enden up with: "You were not who I thought you were." 😢
Now i understand why people get attracted towards me like even some random strangers. They always try to talk to me and a lot of people just look at me like i am a some kind of interesting person or something. I always felt like am i an alien because of the huge amount of affection that i got from people but now i understood why all this happens 😅
We are like an acid trip!
Yep! 😂
Jay
That is a funny way to put it. I liked that.
Yes we are!
Is it impossible for an INFJ them self to feel trippy around another one? Ever since I met this dude I have felt so trippy, one year soon... miss him badly and it feels like something Else than just being in love.
@@somethingbambi875 Check out the term limerence - an INFP.
Muhammad Ali the boxer best quote 'Float like butterfly, sting like a bee.' Best describe infj..Don't cross us!! Terrible wrath coming😆
Thanks Jay! You have found your true calling by helping other INFJs embrace their true nature. I am so grateful.
I appreciate that and appreciate your donation as well. Thank you so much! 🙏
Jay
another excellent video, jay! thank you! 🤗
being authentic from the onset of new relationships has been tremendously liberating (and efficient! i'm not wasting my time on folks who don't vibe with me. 😂) and has helped me to quickly develop the type of deep connections i so crave with the folks who do stick around.
cheers to letting our freak flags fly. ❤
Exactly right, and you won’t have as many people in your life. And really that’s awesome, because the ones you do have will be the ones you vibe with. Thanks for the great comment, let that flag fly!
Jay
Thank you for helping me understand these things and reminding me to always be myself!❤
You are welcome!
Jay
This right here! Authenticity is healthy. Their denial is nothing I can fix.
Once again spot on for me and my situation right now. I have an alcoholic who is one of the most brilliant people I have known. He is struggling to become sober, but I see a huge successful life ahead of him. I see him making plans and opening , up that he is no long a victim, but has to face his own demons first. At first he ran from me and did not want my help. But now he is much more open. Thank you Jay, you really have this INFJ in real perspective and terms for the rest of us
Thank you so much for this comment, yeah, we can help people and be there for them but only if they want that help themselves. I hope your friend wants help. Sounds like he has a bright future (and a great friend) if he gets it.
Jay
Beautifully stated, thank you! A great tribute to we who truly care and softly just know.♥
This sums up my entire life. Thank you for the excellent content you put out. 🤗
Genuinely insane how accurate you are. I knew these qualities about myself, but I didn't realize how common they were amongst other INFJs. I love it. Thank you
People have said "youre like a drug" to me.
Thank you so much for this validation and encouragement!
Thank you for sharing. I didn't think others see some things the same way. It makes me want my old friends circle back. I'll have to get another going.
The mirror the subconscious perception… learning things everyday.. knowing your boundaries things calm . Off & on interest then watching videos like this then you start realizing & things make sense again. Great video 🤘INFJ-A
Thanks so much, appreciate the comment!
Jay
Thank you for these videos brother it’s rare to even find other INFJs much less a whole channel for us I wouldn’t want to be anything else I love being INFJ and I’m also an Empath on top of that
Those mind blowing reactions has hurt me so badly - sadly I need to protect myself more and more without isolating and becoming alone in life. I learned a tough lesson that attachment is not connection & attention is not love.
I started to notice this effect I'm having on people and now I choose to be around a little people and the right people because this world is filled with inauthentic people who automatically get triggered by my presence.
This!
Thank you for providing us with such a pleasant learning experience. As an INFJ, I can attest to all that was shared. :)
Great video. A lot of people think they want the truth until the truth isn’t what they want to hear. We can be refreshing and then triggering when it gets too deep. And then with space they miss that bc they realize how rare it is. And yup I have been ghosted a few times.
Thanks for the effort this gives me hope
Mind blowing great video thanks❤
I really needed to stumble on this to see something I didn't understand of myself. Just learned I was this "kind" recently. I know how "I am" and do what you said.. keep those like I am close at hand. Thank you sir. 😊
I fell deeply in love with an INFJ several years ago. Letting him go is my biggest regret
I hope you don't mind me asking, what mbti are you? And why did you let him go?
@@bumblebee_ms ENFP. I let him go because I'm a Christian and he was not, though he had strong Christian values (which is a big part of why I was so attracted to him). At the time I thought I was doing the right thing; and maybe I did do the right thing. But I've been rethinking it lately and wondering if it would've been ok after all. Now I'm trying to figure out the attitude I should have about "us" moving forward. But whatever attitude I shift towards, it's certain (minus an unlikely "act of God") that he and I are over forever.
I appreciate you asking. I don’t really have people I can talk to about him in real life so it's very nice to tell someone. I'm tearing up a bit now
@@MayBlake_Channel I am so sorry you let him go and now regret it, it sounds like a true love story. As for me, I have no one in general to talk about anything, so I totally understand how you feel. I would love to hear more about it if you want to disclose. Like, how long ago, how long did it last, how did you meet, what you had in common or not, and was he at least spiritual? etc...
@@MayBlake_ChannelYou’re not wrong for letting him go. If God is important to you it’s natural to want a partner who shares that same degree of reverence for Him.
Also, having Christian values isn’t the same as actually practicing Christianity. A person could have a strong moral compass and still not accept Christ.
Don’t feel guilty about letting someone go because your core values weren’t in alignment.😊
id say you didnt deem him worthy enough as holding on to your beliefs no matter what was more important to you than to be with him. I guess this is how you felt at least, and since it isnt a secret that most women are kind of slaves to their feelings as these are their only guiding system in this world when it comes to relationships you cant really be blamed. The percentage of woman being able to recognize their emotions and feelings while standing on top of them in their mind and not letting their decisions be controlled by them must be far under 1%. But decisions have consequences :/
Great video with which to start the weekend Thank you
You are very welcome!
Jay
Excellent insight and good expostulating. Thanks for this.
You are welcome!
Jay
really like your way of speaking the feeling of being an infj - thnx
All of this is so true. So relate. 🌿
Oh my God, now this explains a lot. There have been people who basically as soon as they saw me were literally acting as if they were on drugs, looking at me as if I am some type of candy that they are eating with their eyes and soul or something I could not understand what is their deal :D
So thankful I realized quite recently I am an infj, I was so lost before!
Thanks for creating the videos!
Thanks for expressing your mind, I resemble what you said but what it’s quite difficult is why wouldn’t they know, it’s very obvious to me as INFJ,I know by seeing and talking just as easy as that
My infj T came out of trauma and codependency
Glad to have found your channel, this kind of content is always good for our sanity. Also, makes me laugh a bit how you look like an Infj.
Wow .., i know I do these things .... Thanks for your thoughts and insights.
You explained what I experience. Thanks.
I love how you mention to just be ourselves. That is what most resonates with me. I tend to trigger others just like you mention and the advice to be something different than what I am that other people say just doesn't feel right. It's like I am this way for a reason and trying to be inauthentic doesn't make sense.
So true, one of the reason i moved and work in a different country where i know very few people ....
I tried that too, it went south quickly. It doesn't matter where we go, people are the same everywhere.
There's a major difference between identifying with the myers-briggs label infj as a connection of how our minds and hearts operate vs identifying as an infj to boost an insecure ego. The latter, if not careful, leads to a narcissistic outcome.
Bless you for using "addictive".
I actually never say " harsh truths" like criticizing someone's appearance or status .. I respect, adulate and appreciate the ones I love deeply and service them with all I have
But I draw the line when there is exploitation or manipulativeness.. or when I see self serving morality where the other person draws me into a narrative by twisting the highest good for his own benefits against me
That's when I start telling them the truth about what they're doing
Thanks for insights and deep analysis of INFJ's! I'm a Christian conservative and I find it really hard sometimes, because some conservatives are too uncompassionate and unempathetic towards some groups of people. But I stand by my values.
Thanks for videos . Now ,i understand why i wear mask when being around people 🙃 😌 😅
You're welcome 😊
Jay
@@INFJcircle what do you mean by "Jay?!
@@maryamismail7119that’s his name😊
Its his name @@maryamismail7119
Your videos are great! I’d love to see a video about the INFJ woman please!
I'm an infj-a! It's exhausting but don't know how to be any other way
Good stuff
The worst thing probably is being an infj is a sponge. Absorbing people's energies.. both good and bad, which is why being around the right people who healed me is really important
love your content
This is very refreshing. I always knew I was an INFJ but I didn't really grasp how accurate it was. I was like "Very rare, cool. Anyways..." Then I watched one of your videos just for fun, and I'm super surprised how accurate this is. Love the videos, thank you for the content :)
Great video 😊
Love the visuals❤
Thank you 🙌
Jay
I have trust issues, so this video was very difficult for me to hear, but it's what I needed. Thank you.
Your voice is gold.
Can relate big time👍crazy crazy crazy
So true
As an INFJ, this is one of the reason why I eventually became a yoga teacher.
I’m not a shrink neither a saviour. Just someone who see people without any “glasses”.
Yoga is a good media to gently transmit good vibes to people without creating too much addiction. 😉
Ive never had a video explain myself so well. Its so hard to make friends or date as me. Lol.
💯 % INFJ. I didn’t know I was until about 4 years ago my husband came across personality tags and he told me that fits me to a T. I was like, riiight…then I read about this rare personality and I could believe how accurate! It really helped me to know this. It gave me much more confidence in myself and why I am like I am. I really love your videos, and truly I’ve listened to others, but you are the most accurate I’ve heard! Thank you!,
All right just started watching the video somebody will play by play. When you say massive reaction, I mind they can be not good 😅 the things that you bring out aren't always things that they want to deal with.... I'm really bad about stamping myself a lower grade, to give someone a boost. We do draw in the broken but I'm saying that's not always a good thing for us. I tend to bend my personality to make other people comfortable.
Thank you so much ❤😊
Aaah, yes! "People who need help, want to improve, have an open mind and a growth mindset." 🙏
Cool Video Bro 🌹
Attempt to socialize:
Accidentally validate someones deep insecurities.
😅😂