As an infj I feel like I’m friends with everyone and no one at the same time most of the time. I’m constantly trying to make everyone else around me comfortable and happy. But am pretty sure that hardly any of them actually “see” me at all. They just like the way they feel around me. It’s hard, sometimes.
Agreed 1000%. I let people ramble about whatever while I stay quiet so I don’t seem selfish lol. I hardly bring up stuff about myself cuz I don’t wanna seem selfish.
I'm an INFJ and I've started to notice, with my friend's book club that I attend, even though I'm not the "host", i definitely play that role in leading the conversation. It's almost an out-of-body experience to watch myself take the lead (perhaps too much?) and guide the conversation in a way that includes everyone. So yeah - im the total "mom" of the group. But here's the thing: not only do i want to make sure everyone feels included, but im genuinely interesting in hearing EVERYONE'S response to the questions, which i don't feel from the others - i feel like they like to hear themselves talk more than listening to each other.
Very interesting. I felt like a momma bear around my younger siblings (lived with 4 total) but.. want to join a book club as well. It’s wonderful to hear that you can bring people together the way you do.
Yes, this sounds very INFJ to me. We will take up a leadership role if we have to in order to make others feel included. Dominant Ni also makes us feel a bit separated from the world at times. Like there’s a layer of separation there or something That may be what you’re feeling there. sounds like you’re doing great work by the way!
The problem with all the functions being completely opposite of eachother is that both INFJ and INFP are very "paradoxical" where they love and hate something at the same time, and their lives are mostly a living paradox, like loving humans but also hating humans at the same time, Having big goals but always busy doing nothing. Etc Etc
I'm future oriented like a typical INFJ, but I can get caught in one of those loops where I reminisce over and over on something in the past, thinking about what I did wrong, where I went wrong, and how I could have handled it better.
I feel like some of us ruminate on the past in order to "master" the future? Like we're prepping for it by reviewing the past and how the future may unfold, because we acknowledge how much one has to do with the other? My little theory ❤️
I cut people loose so easily it almost seems callous. Whether that be childhood friends or family members. Yet, I can be super nostalgic and reminisce about the past because I have much more fond memories of them despite the trauma experienced than in my present life despite being very future oriented as well.
I’m glad to know about MBTI because it helped me understand why I felt so different than most people, and had a hard time fitting in! Now I just see that I’m one of the more rare types. Whew!
It's true about getting a strong intuition about someone, but then doubting my own intuition. 😅 Then I tell myself to trust my intuition. It's also called discernment.
Wow this video was amazing thank you so much!!! I am definitely an INFJ and I've come to realise through my growth and self-improvement, I have actually developed the strengths of an INFP too. I know what I want in life and what I feel but I share this in a very INFJ way where I protect social harmony. I am also an ideas generator then use my INFJ skills to obsess, hone in and get stuff done. So I'm beginning to feel balanced as a person. I also have days where I 'plan' to be spontaneous which involves no planning, just a plan not to plan 😂 It also frustrates me in a group setting where I see others feeling anxious or uncomfortable and welcome them in warmly, but I have yet to have anyone do the same for me when I've been feeling that way too.
Until now, I haven't been able to definitively determine whether I am an INFJ or an INFP. I understand that online tests aren't always accurate, so I've been studying the eight cognitive functions in depth. However, the process has left me feeling confused. I notice that I exhibit INFJ behaviors and thought patterns in some situations, while in other aspects, I definitely display INFP traits. By the way, in the online tests I've taken annually over the past 8 years, three times I've been classified as INFJ and once as INFP. Apart from the unquestionable "I," my scores for the other three letters (NFJ) fluctuate around 50-60%+-. I used to firmly believe I was an INFJ. For instance, when entering a room, I could immediately sense the overall atmosphere and everyone's emotions. Sometimes, it even felt like I had some sort of superpower, able to perceive things that others couldn't. Another example is that many people might think someone is nice, but just by seeing them and having a brief conversation, I would intuitively feel I should stay away from that person. Although I couldn't explain why, facts would eventually prove that my intuition was correct. This sense applied not just to people but also to analyzing events and making decisions. like a human radar. However, the cost of having this "superpower" has led to extreme mental exhaustion. Perfectionism has also made me very passive in doing anything, as I procrastinate out of fear of failure. Being overly concerned with others' opinions prevents me from allowing myself to make any mistakes. Disliking conflicts, I force myself to please others. All these factors have caused my internal struggle to worsen, bringing me to the brink of depression and even suicidal thoughts. At the time, I didn't understand why I was so unhappy. I could hardly perceive my own emotions correctly. If others were happy, I was happy; if others were anxious, I became anxious too (and back then, I didn't even realize my emotions were syncing with others'). Expressing my own emotions was out of the question. Later, as my suicidal thoughts emerged, perhaps my body instinctively sought self-preservation, so I turned to many psychology books, beginning to face my inner self. I practiced turning off my Fe, focusing only on my inner feelings, and dedicated time to understanding myself. Through continuous and deliberate practice, I gradually stopped caring about others' opinions, no longer feared making mistakes, and tried to be more flexible and spontaneous. After finally overcoming my internal struggle, I took the test again and found I had become an INFP. The intuitive "superpower" I once took pride in wasn't as strong as before. I started showing more INFP characteristics, though I still retained some INFJ traits. Occasionally, I would still be influenced by the emotions of my surroundings and people, but I could quickly refocus on myself. Over time, my sensitivity to the environment diminished significantly. I began to express my own stance and feelings, no longer just pleasing others for the sake of harmony, and cared more about my own feelings. Could these changes have affected my Fe? And it seems my Ni has also changed. I'm not sure. For example, I still tend to make plans because it gives me a sense of security. When it comes to new people, events, or situations, I still need to do a lot of research and schedule everything in advance to feel at ease. For most things, I need to clearly know what I should do and what the next steps are. And I'm very future-oriented, before all the changes, I almost never looked back. This is very INFJ, right? However, at the same time, I don't have just one goal. I'm interested in many things, and although these interests haven't changed much over the past decade, they are quite diverse. I'll be interested in A for a while, then switch to focusing on B, then C, D, E, and eventually back to A. A jack of all trades but a master of none. And I start to think about the past from time to time, although most of the time I would think about how my past experiences affected me now (not sure if this kind of recollection is an INFP trait or an INFJ trait?). But anyway, this is still very INFP, isn't it? I've seen many people say that personality doesn't change, but I seem to have changed quite a bit. This has left me increasingly confused.
You just described me so well. I always write down what I want to say especially when the conversation is a difficult topic or when I want to avoid triggering others.
I agree. I am an INFJ who married an INFP. This is so spot on. We have always said we are so much the same but with just enough difference to keep things interesting. I'll have to share this video with him. He's going to love it.
Hi WM, She 100% wanted to be with me and saw me as I am. Also I can be alone with her. She tends to have nice even emotional energy. I'd totally given up on finding somebody that I could hang out with full time. We've been together 15 years now and I'd say INFP is very compatible IF you can acknowledge and understand the cognitive differences. Cheers
I love INFPs, because they will tell me when they are not happy but they can also see if they are wrong and apologise for it as they understand what my feelings can be. Some of the best people around me are INFPs because I know i can trust their words. ❤
Additionally, both types share the traits of being empathetic, compassionate, and idealistic, but they express these qualities in different ways based on their dominant and secondary functions.
i think infp need the seed to start with, and they are spontaneous and enjoy the creative journey keeping options open, not using judging function. in contrast infj needs to know the end in some way. to know the end from the start is because we see patterns.
In terms of values, one thing I’ve noticed as an INFJ is that I could only identify them, in comparison to others. That is, the experience of interacting with others revealed these values to me, as opposed to me intrinsically knowing of their existence. Being FE-auxiliary is challenging for me to know who I am (self). I can’t rightly know who I am, unless I have a basis of comparison via interaction with others. Another challenge, is that I sometimes mistake the emotions of others that I absorb, as my own. A lot of people who donate to charity, for instance, are heavy FE users - so, they want the unfortunate people/animals e.c.t., not to suffer, because they can feel it (absorb emotions). FI users who donate to charity, do so on the basis of what their internal self proposes (feels) - if the organisation’s values align with their internal ones strongly, for instance. We identify patterns, but detail-oriented tasks/work is SUPER draining. Our ability to identify patterns, is often at a high level view and conceptual. We can have many ideas/insights but never take action, due to underestimating how much energy it would take to follow through. That’s the bane of being an INFJ 😂
Totally understand what you’re talking about when it comes to knowing your “self.” very much an INFJ thing. interesting points about charity, too, never thought about that.
Literally today, I needed to go eat something when I first got up, but you know what I did instead? Went in the other room and wrote a song. Spent 3 hours on it. Forgot to feed myself. 😆 Was it worth it? Yes. Was I still hungry after I was done? Absolutely. But if that ain’t an INFJ indicator, I dunno what is. 😆
@@INFJcircle the thing is though, I can relate to both INFJ and INFP traits, so I’m not sure which one I am, but I might be a lil more INFJ, but at times I feel more I’m INFP. What am I? I’m not sure. 🤔
Good one, Jay. It seems to me that INFPs have better boundaries. As an INFJ, I'm still glad to be the one who may have sloppy boundaries, but I also reach out to the person standing alone. Another thing: I have 2 friends I think are INFPs, but I can't inspire them to take the test; whereas, I jumped at the idea of finding a way to explain myself. I love the MBTI. I must add: you are a great speaker. Many youtubers talk incessantly about themselves. You get to the point and explain your topic well. It's obvious that you "write first."
One way to inspire them might be to have them read descriptions of each of the 16 temperament type. Then ask them which one describes them the best. Then tell them they can take a free simple test to see if it confirms their intuitive guess. If the test result is consistent with their guess, then most likely they are that type. If the test result is different from their guess, their guess is more likely their type, and the test result was inaccurate. This has been my experience.
Probably your friends are ISFPs. I have a hard time imagining INFPs not being interested in knowing more about /understanding themselves. However, I can see how an Se user like an ISFP who might resemble an INFP might prefer to life real life rather than relying on theoretical explanations.
I didn't know forgetting to pee and drink water was an INFJ thing 🥲🥲 I also find myself sitting in the weirdest most UNCOMFY positions for AGES and then I'm like why didn't I move and get more comfortable????
I’m an INFJ and my twin sister is an INFP so I love watching videos which compare the two personalities and this is definitely us. I also never realised my clumsiness was because I’m an INFJ and because I’m often focused elsewhere that I walk into things. Finding your channel is helping me understand myself so much more.
@@stephanie_smith it’s very cool isn’t it. We are best friends for sure. I don’t actually think there is anyone else I have ever felt so comfortable with xx
I tested years ago and got INFP. I tested about a year ago and got INFP. I just tested a couple days ago and got INFJ-T which seems more accurate but I am still unsure. This video will maybe help. This is nuts. I really do think the INFJ-T determination is so correct. I care about other peoples opinions and how they feel, I also struggle with knowing myself/my morals/ and even what I want to do. I notice right away the person who feels left out in a group and will work to bring them in, make eye contact, and make them feel welcome. I always will stand up for what is right and I cannot stand other peoples lapses in moral character and ethics because i hold mine so high. Whenever I detour from them I am stuck inside my head. I beat myself up for having lapses in moral or ethical dilemmas.
My best friend is an INFP and I’m INFJ. Absolutely love him and we can keep up with each other talking about abstract things. The differences between the two types definitely resonates with our dynamic. He helps me explores all the possibilities of life while I help him narrow down choices. He also has a problem with maintaining discipline and I’m always reminding him of that.
This is exactly the difference. Thanks for sharing that,INFP‘s are daydreamers and have tons of ideas, but they have trouble following through. All the conditions have to be perfect for them to get started.
The clumsiness is real, my friend says I’m accident prone 😂 I train Jiujitsu almost daily, spend lots of time outside and even played football when I was younger… doesn’t matter in the slightest bit. The door frame/counter/corner of furniture is the real enemy
I have been accused of being an INTJ more than once but never an INFP. However I test as INFJ. I do hyper focus on my interest like nobody else I know and my intuition can make some people kind of uncomfortable along with me getting some strange looks at times. Not always easy being an INFJ.
It’s definitely not easy being an INFJ. And yes, we can definitely make people uncomfortable at times. The tests are pretty accurate in my opinion. even online tests, as long as the person is being honest.
I have been both because of the level of important of the subject matter or interest and morality that may be considered and their level of honesty or dishonesty that they convey towards me.
I see it like this: an INFJ is the one who might where more minimal, modern, elegant clothes with strong cuts, and the INFP might be more drawn to mixing and matching, wearing what they find on the street, flowing clothes. The INFJ will likely have a very curated and minimal home where the know exactly what they want to place in it and where, and the INFP will be more likely to go with the flow and collect what they find, and keep things of sentimental value. An INFJ as a musician will want structure and to tend to every last detail, and the INFP might be more open to jamming and seeing where the flow takes them. An INFP is pensive , brooding, analytical, and calculative, and INFP dreamy, flowing, possibly a bit more chaotic. Im an INFJ and have come up that way for years, but I used to come up as an INFP in my younger years. Interestingly, I did wear more flowing clothes back then, I would travel the world a bit aimlessly, dreaming and writing poetry and not being so concerned with end goals or career creatively. Nowadays I’m all about things being curated, together, minimal, and envisioning and seeing through my end results and objectives very thoroughly before I undertake things.
I think I'm Infp and I decorated my home with items that I collected along the way and had sentimental value and I Def dress like you wrote. Flowing is my feeling on things. Great observation
@@rosellaboduroglu Hehe, indeed! Actually I’m an INFJ and my home is a conglomerate of things I collected and found along the way too, but I think in a different way than an INFP- I was for instance extremely specific about what I wanted- I wanted an acrylic chair but couldn’t afford one- then I found one outside my building shortly after 😆 My friends had left some of their woodwork shelves behind but I was very specific to not wanting many browns or dark colors in my flat, so I painted them white. That kind of thing. And everything either fits into the aesthetic goal perfectly, or serves a function, and minimalism is always the goal. I know another INFJ and we laugh about how people always ask us why we don’t have more furniture 🤣 And on the note of Infp- I’m sure not every infp wears flowing clothes (though many do) buuut, the feeling of flowing is definitely there ;)
I used to test as INFP, but now I test as INFJ. Honestly, listening to this video, I'm even more confused than before because I have traits of both. However, I really appreciate your being kind about exploring the distinctions. When I began looking into this, the first video I saw was a Frank James video where he got really angry at people for not knowing which they were, implying they're either fraudulent or stupid. It made me not even want to explore the topic for a while.
Yes, I think one of the best ways to tell which type you are is to think about whether you love structure and to have everything planned out (INFJ) or you’re more spontaneous in your decision-making (INFP).
@@INFJcircle Well, I value play, but I always need to proceed with the structure I derive from it. So, for instance, as a writer I spend more time on the inspiration phase than most, but I'm a heavy plotter.
@the infj circle , I know this was a few weeks ago, and it might be a bit redundant, but I would very much appreciate it if you did a comparison of infj and enfj. This comparison was so insightful. I'm an infj and my husband and one of our sons are enfj. So I'd love a comparison of those types. Thank you so much for your videos. I was laughing when you got to our SE and said we're probably a bit clumsy. Just the other day I tripped over my dog gate while carrying all my coffee cups from the dishwasher to the coffee cabinet. I fell hard and broke all my cups. I do this sort of thing a lot. My husband was mad because it looks like he beat me up and he had told me multiple times not to go over the gate, lol 😂
I'm someone who has been typed professionally, self+ online and through study... As an INFJ, I actually find myself often doubting my type .. and thinking I could be an ISFP and INTJ. I resonate with INFP but I can feel a very clear difference between the two, obviously due to using completely different functions. Our fourth function is not as difficult as our shadow 😂 I don't use my Ti ... Verbally, or outwardly- I won't outwardly ask "why" or question people. BUT I'm constantly asking questions internally, and my internal dialogue is STRONG. As a childhood abuse survivor my Se works quite a bit better than maybe some others in different circumstances... BUT I miss stupid random details and the bumping into things and not eating etc, such an issue haha. BUT I noticed the interactions between people, what people are wearing, directions, and the "vibe" of a space quite accurately.
Question to the INFJs: I’m a 49yo INTJ, and also having polar Se, have had many clumsy moments in my life, though I challenge myself to be more mindful about objects relative to my body, so I’m not as accident-prone anymore, but it does require conscious effort. As for my question, I don’t know if it’s due to adaptive evolution, but I have a very HARD SKULL. 💀 This has been advantageous to me, for reasons obvious to our respective types, and I was wondering if y’all also have similarly protective “built-in helmets”for skulls. When I bump something with my head, or if something falls on my head, I’ll say “Ow,” more reflexively or perfunctorily than anything, but it never actually hurts. I’m sure there’s a threshold to that, but in my half-century of living, I don’t recall ever experiencing ouchies from either hitting something or something hitting me, with regard to my head (body is a different story-I bruise like a peach, so that kinda sucks 🍑).
I'm an INFJ and my partner is an INFP. I never expected to feel like the assertive one in a relationship. This was a fun video! I really thought he and I would understand one another SO MUCH more easily than we actually do! 😅
🔥👏 Alright brother, this one was definitely very very helpful. Not that your others have not been, but I think I have a big brain moment here… I see the pattern of my life in what you described. I believe strongly to be naturally my an INFJ, but I’ve learned to become an INFP. And so I truly believe I am both or a better way to put it, it seems to me that the INJP is the Yang to the Ying of INFJ. A better way to explain it maybe is, and INFP is a broken or mastered INFJ. Meaning as INFJs get deep into a topic. Once they’ve mastered it, they turn to their INFP if pushed far enough. Not that we don’t like to keep the peace and feel everyone’s vibes, but because when you’ve mastered patterns others have and you’ve gone through, you’d through the BS and start becoming the pessimistic side of the very observant INFJ. Meaning the INFJ may observe and have targeted objections as we do. But sometimes when carried off to areas unexpected where control is taken, we can revert to an INFP very easily. Another way to explain the INFJ is the logical side of us, where the INFP may be the emotional part when we get tired of the same story or see the same patterns repeated with no one learning no matter how much you put in to help them. Seeing my point? I think the INFP is the dark side of the INFJ or the mastered side of it. Though you can have an assertive focused point as an INFJ, you can still see the whole game board like the INFP. What seems the INFP is “unfocused on”, May be a missed understanding that they as an INFJ, didn’t see value in one topic and moved to another or can be they resolved the puzzle that gave them satisfaction to move on, seemingly unfocused. Not necessarily because they are, but because it may have been only a piece of the bigger picture that others can’t see, reverting back to the INFJ. The INFP becomes more assertive the more he understands a matter and sees patterns in peoples behaviors that when found to be dishonest or lingering for reasons we can trace back to, we may assert he INFP and get more direct to the point and what appears as the INFP emotional side. Again INFJ seems to represent our logical, everything is good side and planned out. INFP is the mastery or the war zone of the INFJ. Most times when we’ve had enough of the BS and no longer see the priority as keeping everyone happy, but in fact stirring the pot to get the overall results and to wake up a sleeping people in their own creative way. Hope I made sense. As it seems everything you said made perfect sense to me, but I see myself in both. The side of me I originally intended and still have all the time as I revert to it naturally as it’s who I am naturally. But with experience, I’ve seen the INFP come out roaring which is very unlike me. It’s been learned through experience. So I think you guys may need a new “alphabet title” I suppose because I think, one’s the logical side, the other is the emotional side. Hope you can clarify or add to this if there was any light bulb moments! Thanks again for what you do brother! Again it’s awesome to see others think as you do! 🔥😎
I think the first time I took the personality test, I got INFJ. I didn’t believe it was true, so I took it again and intentionally picked answers that were not INFJ answers because there seemed to be no mention of sensitivity. I’m still unsure which one I am, I was relating to both of them. Maybe I’m an INFJP? 😆
I got infj the first time too and second guessed myself also. I took two other tests to confirm but just answered honestly. I got infj every time. However after the 3rd time I could see the pattern and how I could effectively make the test say whatever I wanted it to say. At that point I questioned the whole validity of the tests and had to obsessively research. I also took the "which type of introvert are you" tests and got "yes". Lol
Not sure if this is an infj thing but I hate imbalances of any kind. Whether it's imbalances of power, justice, fairness, and even an imbalance picture frame hanging on the wall!😂 if it's more tilted to the right, I will be sure to correct that. Everything in the house and at work has to be neatly and properly organized.
As an INFJ, I always trust myself when being put on the spot to answer controversial questions. I know that I would not offend anybody and that my response will only further explore and discover the complexities of a subject or issue in question. We answer questions with questions and feel contempt with getting into the nitty gritty of the “grey” area.
Definetely an INFJ. When I did the test it came out 3 times INFJ and 3 times INFP. Now I know I am an INFJ, all the description you give resonates with me. I am indeed a chameleon - INFJ according to MBTI and a Reflector according to Human Design. So now I just have to learn myself how to use it as a strength in the world, as well as everything else. Thanks for the video.
I first took the MBTI test at a large company, the managers wanted to see what our teams skills were and to help us work better together. My results were so close on these types I really couldn’t choose. Probably the chameleon effect of being there in the group 🤭🤣Thanks👍🏼Your different scenarios comparing INFJ to INFP confirmed I’m INFJ💃🏻
I live in Dallas, Texas, USA, and grew up in the White Rock Lake Area. We have a lot of white shale rock everywhere along the roadsides, in fields. People might have a difficult time managing the white rock when they install an in-ground swimming pool in their back yard. At about age 45, I asked myself, “what is this white rock that I have grown up with?” And off I went into a deep dive about the Cretaceous Era, ancient oceans, mountain formation, marine life dying, etc……I still enjoy reading about “White Rock” today, but not to the extent that I did during the initial learning phase. My work is as an interpreter: American Sign Language and English. I have a BA and an MA in Psychology. Geology is no where near my professional interests. But as an INFJ - that’s how I am -- “oh, let’s learn about this now”. And off I go on a deep dive into research and learning.
Yep, and I think if you imagine that you studied white rock for maybe three hours, and then we’re onto something else that would be like an INFP. I don’t want to put time limits on them, but they typically move on from things pretty quickly. Basically a “not so deep dive.” Thanks for the comment!
You know what, My first experience of INF stuff begin when I was in Elementary school. My friends seems to talk trash about 1 of my close friend but they kept it from me. So I started to ask my friends about it but she told me a lie. I can feel it, strangely. The doubt in me is not going away, it is still here in my heart. Thats the time I know she was lying. But yea I avoid the conflict by saying "well thanks for the information." And left her
Sir, I want to thank you for this information. I've been struggling to determine which of these I was for almost 5 years. You just provided the clarity I've been searching for all this time. Thank you so much!
I love learning new things and mastering them, and then moving on to mastering something new. It’s been that way my whole life so I have acquired a lot of great skills and different life experiences. I’m a Jack of many trades and a master of each. Early in life I learned to evaluate all of my interests, dreams, and passions and then choose the best things to pursue and almost always succeeded with whatever I took on. I had no problems sticking with the things I took on and achieving them. In fact, doing otherwise would have made me feel like I failed. I love the words.. failure is not an option. Your video was really good at noting the differences between the INFP and INFJ. I’d previously thought I was an ENFP but that’s most likely because I did a lot of self-love and overcoming social anxiety work in my early 20s. So I can be extremely sociable and authentic (despite being so unique) however I don’t tend to like long drawn out social events and will actually avoid them at all cost. 😂 I’m also well liked and attract people. I prefer close one on one conversations over group chats any day. I’m also psychic, so it’s just been a normal thing for me to sense what people are really feeling, and if someone is evil or up to no good, I often know it right away no matter if they’re trying to present themselves otherwise. It’s a great trait to possess as it keeps me safe, especially living overseas. I don’t approach, respond, or talk to anyone I sense is up to no good. I fully trust my intuition. I do tend to hold back a great deal of information in my conversations with others, but not because I am trying to fit in, but rather because I know more than they know and more than they can handle knowing.
I'm the type of person who has trouble with getting a consistent type. My more consistent types are the intuitive introverted ones. It's hard to narrow it more, though. I'm narrowing down to feelers, because I think I tend to worry and focus a lot on society and human relationships, in contrast to people who are amazed by data, structures and theories related to objects or non social aspects. However, between INFP and INFJ is hard to say. I don't feel the mom of a group of friends. Though I see myself watching someone cold and asking people if they wanna go home because it's cold even if I'm not cold myself. I feel like I have strong opinions and values in certain topics, but I feel I have trouble seeing my worth without others. I feel conflicted between keeping harmony and staying true to myself. I feel bad lying about my opinions for others to feel ok, and I feel bad sharing my opinion if it makes others feel uncomfortable or weird out. Ultimately I tend to not share, because I'm going to feel bad both ways, so the choice is about making people uncomfortable or not. Rather not. I also feel like I'm the type of person who nobody loves and nobody hates. Because nobody bothers to know. Though part of the problem is my strong tendency to withdraw. I also wonder if I value harmony because of Fe or is a personal value developed from Fi. I remember as a child kids getting angry for stupid things midplay, the harmony being disrupted, and not agreeing with any part... and going away from classmates and go play with kids from the other class because they were playing without stupid arguments in between, craving for harmony, and scaping from the conflict of choosing a side. I see traits of both INFP and INFJ in my... sometimes even some INTP... rarely INTJ. It's like I know who I am under specific contexts, and sometimes test are very general, and it's hard for me to know my general behavior, because a tiny change in context can make something align better or worse with who I am and change my willingness to engage with people, be open about ideas or be organized.
I’m pretty sure I am an INFJ, but I have a lot of trouble identifying and expressing my own feelings, and I also struggle to read others’ feelings, too. I do try to find ways to relate to others’ experiences in order to connect to them. I’m socially awkward lol. To say the least.
I've taken the mbti test in the past, but the last 2 times I got INFJ and that was taken about 4 months apart. The absorbing of emotions hit me because I've had that tendency since I was very little. My parents told me I got upset one time because I couldn't tell someone was laughing really hard, but it was a loud, intense emotion and that's all read. I also didn't handle any loud noises or expressions of anger from others well. It's always like feeling the physical tension corsing through my entire body when it happens, even if I have nothing to do with it. This includes movies and videos too. I handle it better now that I am older, but too much in one day can wear me out. The writing part was very accurate too.
Better question is INFJ versus ISTP, in my opinion. Lots of similarities. Same four functions, just in different order. I’d like to see a video on that.
I just told my friend at work take this test last week and she got INFP and I’m INFJ! You’re spot on as always and this video was very helpful to understand my friend better. Thank you 🙏 nil desperandum
My son is INFP, and I’m INFJ. This is relatable for us especially planning. He likes for me to do the planning, but he knows I will think about what he likes and wants.
Two important clarifications: Infps are deeply sensitive and intuitive,and often empathic - like infjs. Two: infps do not form views or make decisions based on "opinions", but on feeling. Opinion is based on left brain rational thought, or often can be. Intuition is based on a felt sense of things. It is not an opinion, but an intuition - or at least, it often is. Among the most highly intuitive and empathic infps, it is definitely not so much opinion, but intuition. But of course, an infj would view intuition as mere opinion, because they are more thinking based, than feeling based, although, of course, everyone has both sides. An infp would present the infp/infj differences subtly but strikingly differently. Since i am an extreme rarity, with two dominant modes that compliement, alternate, and can be synthesized with each other, i can give a more subtle comparison of infp vs infj, because i am BOTH. (Imagine the sensory overload, with all of that information flooding in and through one person! So, I need HIGH degrees of solitude and peace, and very selective company and environments, or i burn out fast - or simply have to leave the situation very quickly.)
@@INFJcircle Or, the person I tried to include starts being really nasty to me and then ignores me once they are introduced to others. This happens to me all the time. People are so unbelievable! It's one of the reasons why I am isolating, I am so exhausted with every scenario I am in. I never am in a winning situation. I'm really done with all the nasty people in this world. (I don't mean to sound morbid, it is what it is for me).
I a INFJ but I am fast at making decisions. It is always clear what I want and what I don't want. I am married with an INFP and it is a dream relation. I am very focused yes my will is strong.
i thought i was infp but you really helped me figure out the difference, I really feel the counterculture part & thinking pattern you mentioned, thanks
I would say planning is important to us because we dont want to waste time on things that we have no interest into. Vacation for example, what a waste of time on the surface level. But if we plan out some intriguing things to do during this time, sign us up!
It is really interesting. There was a "season" in my life where people would call me -- people I didn't even know, to give them counsel. They would tell me their life's story and cry, etc. and I don't even know how they got my telephone number.
I'm not sure if I feel what other people are feeling, or if I just know what they're feeling... I'm pretty sensitive to other people's energy, and will leave a situation if the energy doesn't feel comfortable, but I can often shift other people's energy just by being around them.
I randomly got obsessed with Spyro Enter the Dragonfly for seemingly no reason. Found the documentary on its development, got hooked on the music for the game and downloaded its soundfonts so I could mess around in Studio One. And I’m still confused as to weither I’m an INFP or INFJ. 😆
Great video, a lot of it resonates! It’s as if you’ve given examples from my own life. Love how you put emphasis on how MBTI is our map, or how Jung said it is the skeleton. Bravo my fellow INFJ😊 In regards to planning out things; I always have a plan A, B or C because being too rigid in your plans (simply sticking to one plan) can spoil it as well when unexpected things happen. Usually when I have to opt for plan C I’m more flexible and go with the flow, because not everything is within our control. Plan C is when I let things take it’s own course. It is important that we try to integrate our opposite side, our repressed or underdeveloped functions to be more complete. Being an INFJ has gotten me into “trouble” a lot…I can laugh it away now usually because I accept myself more and understand where it comes from. Sending much appreciation ❤
Yes, our planning is interesting. It’s sort of like our organization, it makes us feel better but we don’t particularly like doing it. Whereas INFP typically do not like a plan at all. It makes them feel stifled.
I'm definitely an infj .. thank you for clarifying that I also feel pretty sure my mother is an infp even though she typed as a infj it just didn't seem to fit her
I'm definitely an INFJ then. It's funny, I was talking to my husband last night about your videos and how you were probably writing a script for it and what you were probably going to talk about. And you did exactly as I had predicted. Very spooky lol
I don't get why people are so caught up with "infp can't reach their goal cuz they're indecisive". Our "goal" is the journey cuz Si. For example, Ni goal might to get good at guitar while Si goal is to play guitar as often as possible. And being open to many ideas is not inherently worse to lockin in to one (tho like everything, balance is needed), since we're more likely to jump into opportunities when they (usually randomly) come.
Hahaha, this was great! At a loss for words when put on the spot - check. Often get unexplained bruises - check. Questioning everything from birth - check. 😆 Love it, thank you Jay!
Infp has Fi hero. It’s SO different in presentation. Infp will be very well-aware of how they feel. Infj will be very well aware of others feelings. Infp is more music-obsessed. Also infj is more badass, can be alpha of all the types when needed.
Thanks for sharing, yes dominant Fi makes a world of difference. I have basically went around my whole life getting my “mood” off of others, only in the last 7 years or so have I been able to break out of that cycle!
I'd rather be an INFP! since I'm an INFj and ASD, I cannot stand conflict and feel as an infj yet I'm very unflexible with my values and cut contact quickly if people do not align with my inner values. I keep quiet though to avoid conflict. Thsi is quite uncomfortable actually....
Very interesting information. I started out trying to understand what was wrong with me. My goal was to become my true authentic self. You can improve and control the things that you do not like about yourself. You can also refine the strengths that you do have by learning from your mistakes. Also your childhood plays a huge role in how difficult this journey has been for most of us. God bless
I am an INFP...15 tests later.. still an INFP😅. I do have some of the qualities of an INFJ Focusing on one subject at a time, but with a different approach. Eg doing research on Apraxia and end up knowing about all the processing disorders there is and how they interlink. I love peace and harmony and usually keep my feelings for myself, but at the same time I am very risk orientated, therfore I will voice my opinion if I feel like doing so.I do however sense what people feel and it happens that I do say something that triggers them to open up to me, which leaves me super drained at the end of the day. I have an INFJ boyfriend. The harmony, being able to be alone with someone without feeling awkward and the emotional connection is out of this world. I have never experienced this in my whole life❤
As an INFP-T (turbulent type, read self-critical) I can understand the confusion. I am very empathetic and do notice patterns and can predict outcomes. Friends often ask me, "do you ever get tired of being right" after my predictions come true. I am very attune to other peoples motivations. I also struggle to put myself first and am a magnet for narcissist. I can easily lose myself in romantic relationships. And, according to the 16personalities website, we INFP (mediators) "are the most likely personality type to significantly change their behavior depending on who they are with." Perhaps the difference is, I tend to worry about what other people think about ME. I worry and notice how other people feel and react to situations in relation to ME. I don't pick up on positive emotions and feedback nearly as well as negative ones. So while I am a very caring and loyal friend, I suspect INFPs are more self-centered than INFJs. Ps. that didn't feel good to admit.
The INFJ's 'Se'...you might drive somewhere and not remember anything between point A [the take off point], and point B [the destination point]. That's a weird realization [where was I that whole time behind the steering wheel?].
Thanks, Jay, for sewing all of that together so clearly! Yes, I am an INFJ 😎🔬🔎📝✝️📖💟. I have not considered other types before and probably won’t at any other time either. My intuition pretty much informs me about others, as you’d know yourself. I did take a photo of the two types from my iPad onto my phone and collaged them, when you started, to enable me to follow you more effectively that I would understand the differences, which is probably rather INFJ of me. Hope you have a great day! Mine has just begun. G’day from Jae in SA (South Aus) 🇦🇺
Definitely the end of the day here! I’m glad you enjoyed the video. I’ll probably do some more of these kind of longer educational videos in the future with some other types too.
@@INFJcircle Jay, you have an appealing face and manner so whatever you do I’ll enjoy it. I also like getting your email talks, too . I live in a rural area of three villages near the coast with lovely beaches, and having INFJ company is always good! I do have my own Christian Yt channel, btw, if you touch my icon here. It’s from one of my paintings having been a designer and an artist 30 years 🙂
I feel strange though, as I can feel the emotions of others, I can feel how they’re feeling.. But, I’ve also been through so much trauma that I can more than likely relate to their experiences too. Like, it will hit me, “I went through this too!” Although, it’s more the experience rather than the emotional aspect. I feel their emotions, they talk about what happened, and then it brings back memories. I’m definitely an INFJ, but I’m more of an open book, always explaining who I am and what I am because no one tries to understand and they create assumptions and lies, but at the same time, I’m still mysterious. It’s a way of comforting people, sometimes in their distress, you tell them your experience a little. So they don’t feel alone. My emotions are jumbled though, I rarely know what I’m feeling unless it’s powerful and can’t be ignored. What you said about when we feel other’s emotions, it then unlocks ours was mind blowing! Really, thank you for the video.. The biggest difference between INFP and INFJs, is that we INFJs don’t really accept our uniqueness fully, we think something is wrong, but INFPs are complete individualists and rock it. Not that any other MBTI type is unique, but we INFJs are soooooo hard to understand. Even for an INFJ. I’m drawn to help and heal people, and have been my entire life. I’m surrounded by INFPs in my family, and I felt off because of that drive to help and hardly think for myself. But I’m happy that what I am has a name.
I chameleon, but I feel like it's just me opening up my data input reciever unit and starting to download everything that I can from this individual, usually to immediately determine if they are a threat to me, when they aren't it seems I can help them with some kind of change breakthrough, where as if the individual isn't receptive to change I will just retreat and stop all downloading. I often will isolate myself from all people because I don't know how to half way interact with others no matter how much I might want to. I usually make people uncomfortable with my behavior but it's usually because I'm just displaying what I'm getting from them.
right its spoken in the abstract but its very concreate but anything powerful in the wrong hands is a problem to many people are making a mess of it with no natural talent or gifts in psychologically (mbti) but socionics is way better way more in depth but always look to psychological types and conscious orientation carl jung and van der hoop
The only problem with these personality types are all those introverted intuitions types are my traits but im more on feeling what other feels. .i just dont know why, i can feel someone how they feel. .i can sense their fear. .
Then so, in my positive side im infj, and my negative side im infp, sometimes im sharp in speaking things, just dont care. .well it depends on the environment you blend in. .😅😅. .but surely im infj. .in your early age, you can learn it already inside your home with your family. .
MBTI - Just one of many lenses for understanding: The Jung Meyers-Briggs personality indicator (MBTI) is the best there is - especially if you (a) don't take an overly simplistic, cookie-cutter, pigeon hole view of it, which is a stupid to do with anything; and (b) you integrate the *partial* understanding from one way of looking at personality, such as mbti, with other modes of understanding personality, such as reflection, meditation, journalling, conversation and interaction, observation, feeling and analysis - and also, Eastern and Western astrology, numerology, and other personality indicators; while (c) *realizing* that we always have free will, despite our unique, innate, natural tendencies, and we are many-faceted beings, who are also capable of slow or sometimes swift change. (Yes, I am the master of the pre-amble. What else would we expect from a philosopher?!) In terms of MBTI: I'm an extreme rarity - i am most definitely a hybrid of *both* infp and infj. Zero question. And yes, it is possible. I am living proof. I'm an extremely rare one - in mbti terms: a combination of the two rarest personality types: infp *and* infj. I am an infp predominantly, with nearly equal tendencies towards infj: the inf basis is core, but being able to use both hemispheres of the brain, almost equally, and i can use and integrate both modes, and fluctuate between which one is predominant, sometimes by choice, sometimes involuntarily, by circumstance, adapting by choice or by intuition, or by empathy, moment to moment. Being empathic, intuitive, extremely independent, and also, with razor sharp analysis *and* synthesis capacities, i am genuinely both infp and infj: likely 55/45%, or nearly equal in both aspects. For my work, as a writer, philosopher and social-political analyst, it makes for rare gifts. For personal life, it makes things fascinating, rich, complex, and also, extraordinarily intense, sometimes to overload levels. A blessed but extremely challenging path! ua-cam.com/video/9-TepZ0WVKQ/v-deo.htmlsi=hXr5ndqgajiZ7YLw (This video is just one of *many* interpretations of mbti types, remember!!! And it's *far* too black and white in thinking, btw.) By the way, the infp is best described as the Idealist Healer - this is their main drive in life, be it focused on individuals, groups, communities, nations, ecosystems, plants, animals, or the world - or in my case, all the above. Jung would be one of many examples, or types of Healer Idealists. The infj is best described as the Idealist Protector. The same applies: it can be on an individual level, up to a global level. In all cases, their deepest drive is to protect others. Gandhi, Zapata and MLK were all perfect examples - and three of my greatest heroes. So, i am a Healer/Protector Idealist, by nature - and to my core. Nothing comes above these twin drives, both stemming from compassion and love. All else can and will be sacrificed for this. J. Todd Ring, San Cristobal, Mexico My books, essays, podcasts and interviews are on: Rumble UA-cam Spotify WordPress Substack BlogSpot Pinterest Facebook Twitter/X Amazon And in all great independent bookstores.
I have taken the test 2 times in my life. When I was young around 20, I was an INFP. When I was given the test again in my 40s I came back as an INFJ. I was told that you usually do not change.........I wonder how this happened. After watching this video, I am still just as confused. I think I am more INFJ, but would really like confirmation......LOL
CS Joseph has a video called “who are the INFP’s?” he’s always a bit harsh in his analysis of every type, so be aware he’s not just picking on INFP‘s, but if you watch that video, he goes into a bit more depth on the functions. All of the functions can vary in strength in each of us individually and that’s why sometimes we can’t figure out our type. I tried to stay simple in this video, but I’ll make more in the future that addresses the functions a bit deeper.
You know ur an infj when you randomly drag someone into ur conversation to make them feel good but then immediately disappear when they're comfty😅
lol! Yeah I was def not super at home in that environment. I was like “here man, let me save you and leave!”
I most definitely have this trait.
Exactly 😂
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Your an INFJ if you constantly check videos like this to validate what you already know.
Yes, and that’s a very INFJ thing to do! Because we aren’t sure about our “self.”
Yes exactly...I constantly doubt if I am a infj lol 😂
Agree entirely. I wonder all the time about this.
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So true!😊
As an infj I feel like I’m friends with everyone and no one at the same time most of the time. I’m constantly trying to make everyone else around me comfortable and happy. But am pretty sure that hardly any of them actually “see” me at all. They just like the way they feel around me. It’s hard, sometimes.
Agreed 1000%. I let people ramble about whatever while I stay quiet so I don’t seem selfish lol. I hardly bring up stuff about myself cuz I don’t wanna seem selfish.
this!!!! 😭
This!!! 😩
Yep! That's exactly how me and my INFJ boyfriend are too! Sorry it sucks the way people are!
Same here
I'm an INFJ and I've started to notice, with my friend's book club that I attend, even though I'm not the "host", i definitely play that role in leading the conversation. It's almost an out-of-body experience to watch myself take the lead (perhaps too much?) and guide the conversation in a way that includes everyone. So yeah - im the total "mom" of the group. But here's the thing: not only do i want to make sure everyone feels included, but im genuinely interesting in hearing EVERYONE'S response to the questions, which i don't feel from the others - i feel like they like to hear themselves talk more than listening to each other.
Very interesting. I felt like a momma bear around my younger siblings (lived with 4 total) but.. want to join a book club as well. It’s wonderful to hear that you can bring people together the way you do.
Yes, this sounds very INFJ to me. We will take up a leadership role if we have to in order to make others feel included. Dominant Ni also makes us feel a bit separated from the world at times. Like there’s a layer of separation there or something That may be what you’re feeling there. sounds like you’re doing great work by the way!
I feel one aspect of an IFNJ, is the ability to see through things. Most don't possess that .
Yes, and even the INFP has the tendency to go in with herd mentality and not question things as much.
Yeah, like gimmicks of now a days.
YES!!@@TheFloridaTraveler
@@INFJcircle yep, i agree
I don’t get this! Didn’t you say INFP know their feelings and values and don’t care about what others think as much?
The problem with all the functions being completely opposite of eachother is that both INFJ and INFP are very "paradoxical" where they love and hate something at the same time, and their lives are mostly a living paradox, like loving humans but also hating humans at the same time, Having big goals but always busy doing nothing. Etc Etc
I'm future oriented like a typical INFJ, but I can get caught in one of those loops where I reminisce over and over on something in the past, thinking about what I did wrong, where I went wrong, and how I could have handled it better.
I get that too. I will doubt my past decisions sometimes. But I’m future oriented (for the most part) as well. Thanks for the comment!
Jay
Yes, I do that sometimes as well. We can be pretty hard on ourselves sometimes. But most of the time I’m thinking about the future like you.
I feel like some of us ruminate on the past in order to "master" the future? Like we're prepping for it by reviewing the past and how the future may unfold, because we acknowledge how much one has to do with the other? My little theory ❤️
I cut people loose so easily it almost seems callous. Whether that be childhood friends or family members. Yet, I can be super nostalgic and reminisce about the past because I have much more fond memories of them despite the trauma experienced than in my present life despite being very future oriented as well.
I’m glad to know about MBTI because it helped me understand why I felt so different than most people, and had a hard time fitting in! Now I just see that I’m one of the more rare types. Whew!
I totally get you, it is a huge help for those of us who know we are different!
Jay
It's true about getting a strong intuition about someone, but then doubting my own intuition. 😅 Then I tell myself to trust my intuition. It's also called discernment.
I am pretty decisive, about big stuff. The little stuff, not so much. -INFJ
Wow this video was amazing thank you so much!!! I am definitely an INFJ and I've come to realise through my growth and self-improvement, I have actually developed the strengths of an INFP too. I know what I want in life and what I feel but I share this in a very INFJ way where I protect social harmony. I am also an ideas generator then use my INFJ skills to obsess, hone in and get stuff done. So I'm beginning to feel balanced as a person. I also have days where I 'plan' to be spontaneous which involves no planning, just a plan not to plan 😂 It also frustrates me in a group setting where I see others feeling anxious or uncomfortable and welcome them in warmly, but I have yet to have anyone do the same for me when I've been feeling that way too.
I wanted to write something similiar. I think this personality types can much learn from another.
Until now, I haven't been able to definitively determine whether I am an INFJ or an INFP. I understand that online tests aren't always accurate, so I've been studying the eight cognitive functions in depth. However, the process has left me feeling confused. I notice that I exhibit INFJ behaviors and thought patterns in some situations, while in other aspects, I definitely display INFP traits. By the way, in the online tests I've taken annually over the past 8 years, three times I've been classified as INFJ and once as INFP. Apart from the unquestionable "I," my scores for the other three letters (NFJ) fluctuate around 50-60%+-.
I used to firmly believe I was an INFJ. For instance, when entering a room, I could immediately sense the overall atmosphere and everyone's emotions. Sometimes, it even felt like I had some sort of superpower, able to perceive things that others couldn't. Another example is that many people might think someone is nice, but just by seeing them and having a brief conversation, I would intuitively feel I should stay away from that person. Although I couldn't explain why, facts would eventually prove that my intuition was correct. This sense applied not just to people but also to analyzing events and making decisions. like a human radar.
However, the cost of having this "superpower" has led to extreme mental exhaustion. Perfectionism has also made me very passive in doing anything, as I procrastinate out of fear of failure. Being overly concerned with others' opinions prevents me from allowing myself to make any mistakes. Disliking conflicts, I force myself to please others. All these factors have caused my internal struggle to worsen, bringing me to the brink of depression and even suicidal thoughts.
At the time, I didn't understand why I was so unhappy. I could hardly perceive my own emotions correctly. If others were happy, I was happy; if others were anxious, I became anxious too (and back then, I didn't even realize my emotions were syncing with others'). Expressing my own emotions was out of the question. Later, as my suicidal thoughts emerged, perhaps my body instinctively sought self-preservation, so I turned to many psychology books, beginning to face my inner self. I practiced turning off my Fe, focusing only on my inner feelings, and dedicated time to understanding myself.
Through continuous and deliberate practice, I gradually stopped caring about others' opinions, no longer feared making mistakes, and tried to be more flexible and spontaneous. After finally overcoming my internal struggle, I took the test again and found I had become an INFP. The intuitive "superpower" I once took pride in wasn't as strong as before. I started showing more INFP characteristics, though I still retained some INFJ traits. Occasionally, I would still be influenced by the emotions of my surroundings and people, but I could quickly refocus on myself. Over time, my sensitivity to the environment diminished significantly. I began to express my own stance and feelings, no longer just pleasing others for the sake of harmony, and cared more about my own feelings.
Could these changes have affected my Fe? And it seems my Ni has also changed. I'm not sure.
For example, I still tend to make plans because it gives me a sense of security. When it comes to new people, events, or situations, I still need to do a lot of research and schedule everything in advance to feel at ease. For most things, I need to clearly know what I should do and what the next steps are. And I'm very future-oriented, before all the changes, I almost never looked back. This is very INFJ, right?
However, at the same time, I don't have just one goal. I'm interested in many things, and although these interests haven't changed much over the past decade, they are quite diverse. I'll be interested in A for a while, then switch to focusing on B, then C, D, E, and eventually back to A. A jack of all trades but a master of none. And I start to think about the past from time to time, although most of the time I would think about how my past experiences affected me now (not sure if this kind of recollection is an INFP trait or an INFJ trait?). But anyway, this is still very INFP, isn't it?
I've seen many people say that personality doesn't change, but I seem to have changed quite a bit. This has left me increasingly confused.
You just described me so well. I always write down what I want to say especially when the conversation is a difficult topic or when I want to avoid triggering others.
I need to start writing down what I wanna say to avoid the urge to interrupt so I don’t forget what I wanted to say.
@@DoofenSpyroDragon16 same, I hate looking back at a conversation and wishing I had mentioned something.
Great job on this vid. I'm married to an INFP and you've outlined the differences splendidly.
I'm glad! Very cool that you’re married to an INFP!
What did your infp partner do that made you love her?
I agree. I am an INFJ who married an INFP. This is so spot on. We have always said we are so much the same but with just enough difference to keep things interesting. I'll have to share this video with him. He's going to love it.
I sent this to my wife. She often wonders why I care what other people think 😉This vid will explain that it's hard wired!
Hi WM, She 100% wanted to be with me and saw me as I am. Also I can be alone with her. She tends to have nice even emotional energy. I'd totally given up on finding somebody that I could hang out with full time. We've been together 15 years now and I'd say INFP is very compatible IF you can acknowledge and understand the cognitive differences. Cheers
I love INFPs, because they will tell me when they are not happy but they can also see if they are wrong and apologise for it as they understand what my feelings can be. Some of the best people around me are INFPs because I know i can trust their words. ❤
Additionally, both types share the traits of being empathetic, compassionate, and idealistic, but they express these qualities in different ways based on their dominant and secondary functions.
my dad is an INFP, forever idealistic and positive, and I love that as an INFJ
i think infp need the seed to start with, and they are spontaneous and enjoy the creative journey keeping options open, not using judging function. in contrast infj needs to know the end in some way. to know the end from the start is because we see patterns.
In terms of values, one thing I’ve noticed as an INFJ is that I could only identify them, in comparison to others. That is, the experience of interacting with others revealed these values to me, as opposed to me intrinsically knowing of their existence.
Being FE-auxiliary is challenging for me to know who I am (self). I can’t rightly know who I am, unless I have a basis of comparison via interaction with others. Another challenge, is that I sometimes mistake the emotions of others that I absorb, as my own.
A lot of people who donate to charity, for instance, are heavy FE users - so, they want the unfortunate people/animals e.c.t., not to suffer, because they can feel it (absorb emotions). FI users who donate to charity, do so on the basis of what their internal self proposes (feels) - if the organisation’s values align with their internal ones strongly, for instance.
We identify patterns, but detail-oriented tasks/work is SUPER draining. Our ability to identify patterns, is often at a high level view and conceptual. We can have many ideas/insights but never take action, due to underestimating how much energy it would take to follow through. That’s the bane of being an INFJ 😂
Totally understand what you’re talking about when it comes to knowing your “self.” very much an INFJ thing. interesting points about charity, too, never thought about that.
Literally today, I needed to go eat something when I first got up, but you know what I did instead? Went in the other room and wrote a song. Spent 3 hours on it. Forgot to feed myself. 😆
Was it worth it? Yes.
Was I still hungry after I was done? Absolutely.
But if that ain’t an INFJ indicator, I dunno what is. 😆
Yes! Once we get locked in, we can’t stop!
@@INFJcircle the thing is though, I can relate to both INFJ and INFP traits, so I’m not sure which one I am, but I might be a lil more INFJ, but at times I feel more I’m INFP. What am I? I’m not sure. 🤔
I can relate 100%. I can't for the life of me understand why I get brilliant insights when I am so tired or exhausted
Good one, Jay. It seems to me that INFPs have better boundaries. As an INFJ, I'm still glad to be the one who may have sloppy boundaries, but I also reach out to the person standing alone.
Another thing: I have 2 friends I think are INFPs, but I can't inspire them to take the test; whereas, I jumped at the idea of finding a way to explain myself. I love the MBTI.
I must add: you are a great speaker. Many youtubers talk incessantly about themselves. You get to the point and explain your topic well. It's obvious that you "write first."
Yes, I love MBTI too. The boundaries thing is a very good point. Thank you so much for the kind words. I really appreciate that!
One way to inspire them might be to have them read descriptions of each of the 16 temperament type. Then ask them which one describes them the best. Then tell them they can take a free simple test to see if it confirms their intuitive guess. If the test result is consistent with their guess, then most likely they are that type. If the test result is different from their guess, their guess is more likely their type, and the test result was inaccurate. This has been my experience.
@@369ladynada Thanks for responding. They won't read about the other types. They aren't that curious, while I am outrageously curious.
Probably your friends are ISFPs. I have a hard time imagining INFPs not being interested in knowing more about /understanding themselves. However, I can see how an Se user like an ISFP who might resemble an INFP might prefer to life real life rather than relying on theoretical explanations.
Infj married to an infp here. This is so my husband & me. 😊 this was helpful.
Glad it was helpful!
Can you imagine what life is like for the INFJ with PTSD 🤯 Every sense and trait tripled, and that’s likely on a good day.
I don't think I ever met an INFJ or an INFP without CPTSD from their childhood. But they tap into their enormous power as they heal themselves.
Thanks from a fellow INFJ, in middle age, a gal, who appreciates your work, very much.
Thank you so much, been sick but getting back to everyone. I really really appreciate your donation and I really really appreciate you!
Jay
As an INFJ I drifted off into my own thought while watching several times so I had to redo parts. Lol I dig the video
Lol...me too!!
It happens! Thank you for watching.
I didn't know forgetting to pee and drink water was an INFJ thing 🥲🥲 I also find myself sitting in the weirdest most UNCOMFY positions for AGES and then I'm like why didn't I move and get more comfortable????
Too relatable 😂
I think I’m INFJ with INFP tendencies.
This is very INFJ!
100%... Learn to stretch like a cat every day
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@@Thilosophocl3s yeah
I’m an INFJ and my twin sister is an INFP so I love watching videos which compare the two personalities and this is definitely us. I also never realised my clumsiness was because I’m an INFJ and because I’m often focused elsewhere that I walk into things. Finding your channel is helping me understand myself so much more.
Watching your videos really helps me to understand myself better and not feel so guilty about being who I am. Thanks!!!
That is awesome, that’s what it’s all about, thank you for watching and being a part of the circle.
I always thought I was an INFP, but after this video I believe I am a hybrid! Is that possible?
When I decide that I'm going to do something it's as good as done.
One of the better INFP/INFJ vids I've seen. Thank you!
Thanks for this! Just listening now. My daughter is INFP
So cool that you have an INFJ and an INFP in the same family!
Me too... my teenage daughter is an infp, and I'm an infj. We are both artists too. We have some of the best conversations!!
@@stephanie_smith it’s very cool isn’t it. We are best friends for sure. I don’t actually think there is anyone else I have ever felt so comfortable with xx
@@INFJcircle it truly is. I’m going to listen again on my way to trapeze as I think I fell asleep as listened at night last time 😂
I tested years ago and got INFP. I tested about a year ago and got INFP. I just tested a couple days ago and got INFJ-T which seems more accurate but I am still unsure. This video will maybe help. This is nuts. I really do think the INFJ-T determination is so correct. I care about other peoples opinions and how they feel, I also struggle with knowing myself/my morals/ and even what I want to do. I notice right away the person who feels left out in a group and will work to bring them in, make eye contact, and make them feel welcome. I always will stand up for what is right and I cannot stand other peoples lapses in moral character and ethics because i hold mine so high. Whenever I detour from them I am stuck inside my head. I beat myself up for having lapses in moral or ethical dilemmas.
My best friend is an INFP and I’m INFJ. Absolutely love him and we can keep up with each other talking about abstract things. The differences between the two types definitely resonates with our dynamic. He helps me explores all the possibilities of life while I help him narrow down choices. He also has a problem with maintaining discipline and I’m always reminding him of that.
This is exactly the difference. Thanks for sharing that,INFP‘s are daydreamers and have tons of ideas, but they have trouble following through. All the conditions have to be perfect for them to get started.
The clumsiness is real, my friend says I’m accident prone 😂 I train Jiujitsu almost daily, spend lots of time outside and even played football when I was younger… doesn’t matter in the slightest bit. The door frame/counter/corner of furniture is the real enemy
I have been accused of being an INTJ more than once but never an INFP. However I test as INFJ. I do hyper focus on my interest like nobody else I know and my intuition can make some people kind of uncomfortable along with me getting some strange looks at times. Not always easy being an INFJ.
It’s definitely not easy being an INFJ. And yes, we can definitely make people uncomfortable at times. The tests are pretty accurate in my opinion. even online tests, as long as the person is being honest.
@@INFJcircle thank you for putting in the work here.
I have been both because of the level of important of the subject matter or interest and morality that may be considered and their level of honesty or dishonesty that they convey towards me.
I see it like this: an INFJ is the one who might where more minimal, modern, elegant clothes with strong cuts, and the INFP might be more drawn to mixing and matching, wearing what they find on the street, flowing clothes. The INFJ will likely have a very curated and minimal home where the know exactly what they want to place in it and where, and the INFP will be more likely to go with the flow and collect what they find, and keep things of sentimental value. An INFJ as a musician will want structure and to tend to every last detail, and the INFP might be more open to jamming and seeing where the flow takes them. An INFP is pensive , brooding, analytical, and calculative, and INFP dreamy, flowing, possibly a bit more chaotic.
Im an INFJ and have come up that way for years, but I used to come up as an INFP in my younger years. Interestingly, I did wear more flowing clothes back then, I would travel the world a bit aimlessly, dreaming and writing poetry and not being so concerned with end goals or career creatively. Nowadays I’m all about things being curated, together, minimal, and envisioning and seeing through my end results and objectives very thoroughly before I undertake things.
I think I'm Infp and I decorated my home with items that I collected along the way and had sentimental value and I Def dress like you wrote. Flowing is my feeling on things. Great observation
@@rosellaboduroglu Hehe, indeed! Actually I’m an INFJ and my home is a conglomerate of things I collected and found along the way too, but I think in a different way than an INFP- I was for instance extremely specific about what I wanted- I wanted an acrylic chair but couldn’t afford one- then I found one outside my building shortly after 😆 My friends had left some of their woodwork shelves behind but I was very specific to not wanting many browns or dark colors in my flat, so I painted them white. That kind of thing. And everything either fits into the aesthetic goal perfectly, or serves a function, and minimalism is always the goal. I know another INFJ and we laugh about how people always ask us why we don’t have more furniture 🤣 And on the note of Infp- I’m sure not every infp wears flowing clothes (though many do) buuut, the feeling of flowing is definitely there ;)
I used to test as INFP, but now I test as INFJ. Honestly, listening to this video, I'm even more confused than before because I have traits of both. However, I really appreciate your being kind about exploring the distinctions. When I began looking into this, the first video I saw was a Frank James video where he got really angry at people for not knowing which they were, implying they're either fraudulent or stupid. It made me not even want to explore the topic for a while.
Yes, I think one of the best ways to tell which type you are is to think about whether you love structure and to have everything planned out (INFJ) or you’re more spontaneous in your decision-making (INFP).
@@INFJcircle Well, I value play, but I always need to proceed with the structure I derive from it. So, for instance, as a writer I spend more time on the inspiration phase than most, but I'm a heavy plotter.
@the infj circle , I know this was a few weeks ago, and it might be a bit redundant, but I would very much appreciate it if you did a comparison of infj and enfj. This comparison was so insightful. I'm an infj and my husband and one of our sons are enfj. So I'd love a comparison of those types. Thank you so much for your videos.
I was laughing when you got to our SE and said we're probably a bit clumsy. Just the other day I tripped over my dog gate while carrying all my coffee cups from the dishwasher to the coffee cabinet. I fell hard and broke all my cups. I do this sort of thing a lot. My husband was mad because it looks like he beat me up and he had told me multiple times not to go over the gate, lol 😂
This was the best breakdown of the two traits Ive ever seen.
Thanks!
I'm someone who has been typed professionally, self+ online and through study... As an INFJ, I actually find myself often doubting my type
.. and thinking I could be an ISFP and INTJ.
I resonate with INFP but I can feel a very clear difference between the two, obviously due to using completely different functions.
Our fourth function is not as difficult as our shadow 😂
I don't use my Ti ... Verbally, or outwardly- I won't outwardly ask "why" or question people.
BUT I'm constantly asking questions internally, and my internal dialogue is STRONG.
As a childhood abuse survivor my Se works quite a bit better than maybe some others in different circumstances... BUT I miss stupid random details and the bumping into things and not eating etc, such an issue haha. BUT I noticed the interactions between people, what people are wearing, directions, and the "vibe" of a space quite accurately.
Question to the INFJs:
I’m a 49yo INTJ, and also having polar Se, have had many clumsy moments in my life, though I challenge myself to be more mindful about objects relative to my body, so I’m not as accident-prone anymore, but it does require conscious effort.
As for my question, I don’t know if it’s due to adaptive evolution, but I have a very HARD SKULL. 💀 This has been advantageous to me, for reasons obvious to our respective types, and I was wondering if y’all also have similarly protective “built-in helmets”for skulls.
When I bump something with my head, or if something falls on my head, I’ll say “Ow,” more reflexively or perfunctorily than anything, but it never actually hurts. I’m sure there’s a threshold to that, but in my half-century of living, I don’t recall ever experiencing ouchies from either hitting something or something hitting me, with regard to my head (body is a different story-I bruise like a peach, so that kinda sucks 🍑).
I'm an INFJ and my partner is an INFP. I never expected to feel like the assertive one in a relationship. This was a fun video! I really thought he and I would understand one another SO MUCH more easily than we actually do! 😅
This is the best explanation!
Thank you!
Excellent work. I always question myself and have wondered, yet again, if I am an INFP. I am, thanks to listening to you, definitely an INFJ. Or am I?
Questioning yourself is a very INFJ trait, an INFP would be more sure of what they feel. See what I did there? You sound INFJ to me from this comment.
🔥👏 Alright brother, this one was definitely very very helpful. Not that your others have not been, but I think I have a big brain moment here…
I see the pattern of my life in what you described. I believe strongly to be naturally my an INFJ, but I’ve learned to become an INFP. And so I truly believe I am both or a better way to put it, it seems to me that the INJP is the Yang to the Ying of INFJ. A better way to explain it maybe is, and INFP is a broken or mastered INFJ. Meaning as INFJs get deep into a topic. Once they’ve mastered it, they turn to their INFP if pushed far enough. Not that we don’t like to keep the peace and feel everyone’s vibes, but because when you’ve mastered patterns others have and you’ve gone through, you’d through the BS and start becoming the pessimistic side of the very observant INFJ. Meaning the INFJ may observe and have targeted objections as we do. But sometimes when carried off to areas unexpected where control is taken, we can revert to an INFP very easily. Another way to explain the INFJ is the logical side of us, where the INFP may be the emotional part when we get tired of the same story or see the same patterns repeated with no one learning no matter how much you put in to help them. Seeing my point? I think the INFP is the dark side of the INFJ or the mastered side of it. Though you can have an assertive focused point as an INFJ, you can still see the whole game board like the INFP. What seems the INFP is “unfocused on”, May be a missed understanding that they as an INFJ, didn’t see value in one topic and moved to another or can be they resolved the puzzle that gave them satisfaction to move on, seemingly unfocused. Not necessarily because they are, but because it may have been only a piece of the bigger picture that others can’t see, reverting back to the INFJ. The INFP becomes more assertive the more he understands a matter and sees patterns in peoples behaviors that when found to be dishonest or lingering for reasons we can trace back to, we may assert he INFP and get more direct to the point and what appears as the INFP emotional side. Again INFJ seems to represent our logical, everything is good side and planned out. INFP is the mastery or the war zone of the INFJ. Most times when we’ve had enough of the BS and no longer see the priority as keeping everyone happy, but in fact stirring the pot to get the overall results and to wake up a sleeping people in their own creative way. Hope I made sense. As it seems everything you said made perfect sense to me, but I see myself in both. The side of me I originally intended and still have all the time as I revert to it naturally as it’s who I am naturally. But with experience, I’ve seen the INFP come out roaring which is very unlike me. It’s been learned through experience. So I think you guys may need a new “alphabet title” I suppose because I think, one’s the logical side, the other is the emotional side.
Hope you can clarify or add to this if there was any light bulb moments!
Thanks again for what you do brother! Again it’s awesome to see others think as you do! 🔥😎
you're an INFP. You use a lot of creative Ne
I think the first time I took the personality test, I got INFJ. I didn’t believe it was true, so I took it again and intentionally picked answers that were not INFJ answers because there seemed to be no mention of sensitivity.
I’m still unsure which one I am, I was relating to both of them. Maybe I’m an INFJP? 😆
I got infj the first time too and second guessed myself also. I took two other tests to confirm but just answered honestly. I got infj every time. However after the 3rd time I could see the pattern and how I could effectively make the test say whatever I wanted it to say. At that point I questioned the whole validity of the tests and had to obsessively research. I also took the "which type of introvert are you" tests and got "yes". Lol
After watching the video, I’m definitely more of an INFJ, I just overthink and get nervous when people accuse me of being mistyped 😅
Not sure if this is an infj thing but I hate imbalances of any kind. Whether it's imbalances of power, justice, fairness, and even an imbalance picture frame hanging on the wall!😂 if it's more tilted to the right, I will be sure to correct that. Everything in the house and at work has to be neatly and properly organized.
As an INFJ, I always trust myself when being put on the spot to answer controversial questions. I know that I would not offend anybody and that my response will only further explore and discover the complexities of a subject or issue in question. We answer questions with questions and feel contempt with getting into the nitty gritty of the “grey” area.
Definetely an INFJ. When I did the test it came out 3 times INFJ and 3 times INFP. Now I know I am an INFJ, all the description you give resonates with me. I am indeed a chameleon - INFJ according to MBTI and a Reflector according to Human Design. So now I just have to learn myself how to use it as a strength in the world, as well as everything else. Thanks for the video.
Finding the balance between these two types would be magical
I first took the MBTI test at a large company, the managers wanted to see what our teams skills were and to help us work better together. My results were so close on these types I really couldn’t choose. Probably the chameleon effect of being there in the group 🤭🤣Thanks👍🏼Your different scenarios comparing INFJ to INFP confirmed I’m INFJ💃🏻
I live in Dallas, Texas, USA, and grew up in the White Rock Lake Area. We have a lot of white shale rock everywhere along the roadsides, in fields. People might have a difficult time managing the white rock when they install an in-ground swimming pool in their back yard. At about age 45, I asked myself, “what is this white rock that I have grown up with?” And off I went into a deep dive about the Cretaceous Era, ancient oceans, mountain formation, marine life dying, etc……I still enjoy reading about “White Rock” today, but not to the extent that I did during the initial learning phase. My work is as an interpreter: American Sign Language and English. I have a BA and an MA in Psychology. Geology is no where near my professional interests. But as an INFJ - that’s how I am -- “oh, let’s learn about this now”. And off I go on a deep dive into research and learning.
Yep, and I think if you imagine that you studied white rock for maybe three hours, and then we’re onto something else that would be like an INFP. I don’t want to put time limits on them, but they typically move on from things pretty quickly. Basically a “not so deep dive.” Thanks for the comment!
@@INFJcircle I deep dive into topics for extended periods of time: weeks, months, more.
WOW! I love what you do for a living and what you have spent your life studying!!
Except for the rocks! 😂😅
You know what, My first experience of INF stuff begin when I was in Elementary school. My friends seems to talk trash about 1 of my close friend but they kept it from me. So I started to ask my friends about it but she told me a lie. I can feel it, strangely. The doubt in me is not going away, it is still here in my heart. Thats the time I know she was lying. But yea I avoid the conflict by saying "well thanks for the information." And left her
Sir, I want to thank you for this information. I've been struggling to determine which of these I was for almost 5 years. You just provided the clarity I've been searching for all this time. Thank you so much!
I love learning new things and mastering them, and then moving on to mastering something new. It’s been that way my whole life so I have acquired a lot of great skills and different life experiences. I’m a Jack of many trades and a master of each.
Early in life I learned to evaluate all of my interests, dreams, and passions and then choose the best things to pursue and almost always succeeded with whatever I took on. I had no problems sticking with the things I took on and achieving them. In fact, doing otherwise would have made me feel like I failed. I love the words.. failure is not an option.
Your video was really good at noting the differences between the INFP and INFJ. I’d previously thought I was an ENFP but that’s most likely because I did a lot of self-love and overcoming social anxiety work in my early 20s. So I can be extremely sociable and authentic (despite being so unique) however I don’t tend to like long drawn out social events and will actually avoid them at all cost. 😂 I’m also well liked and attract people. I prefer close one on one conversations over group chats any day.
I’m also psychic, so it’s just been a normal thing for me to sense what people are really feeling, and if someone is evil or up to no good, I often know it right away no matter if they’re trying to present themselves otherwise. It’s a great trait to possess as it keeps me safe, especially living overseas. I don’t approach, respond, or talk to anyone I sense is up to no good. I fully trust my intuition.
I do tend to hold back a great deal of information in my conversations with others, but not because I am trying to fit in, but rather because I know more than they know and more than they can handle knowing.
I'm the type of person who has trouble with getting a consistent type. My more consistent types are the intuitive introverted ones. It's hard to narrow it more, though. I'm narrowing down to feelers, because I think I tend to worry and focus a lot on society and human relationships, in contrast to people who are amazed by data, structures and theories related to objects or non social aspects.
However, between INFP and INFJ is hard to say. I don't feel the mom of a group of friends. Though I see myself watching someone cold and asking people if they wanna go home because it's cold even if I'm not cold myself.
I feel like I have strong opinions and values in certain topics, but I feel I have trouble seeing my worth without others. I feel conflicted between keeping harmony and staying true to myself. I feel bad lying about my opinions for others to feel ok, and I feel bad sharing my opinion if it makes others feel uncomfortable or weird out. Ultimately I tend to not share, because I'm going to feel bad both ways, so the choice is about making people uncomfortable or not. Rather not.
I also feel like I'm the type of person who nobody loves and nobody hates. Because nobody bothers to know. Though part of the problem is my strong tendency to withdraw.
I also wonder if I value harmony because of Fe or is a personal value developed from Fi. I remember as a child kids getting angry for stupid things midplay, the harmony being disrupted, and not agreeing with any part... and going away from classmates and go play with kids from the other class because they were playing without stupid arguments in between, craving for harmony, and scaping from the conflict of choosing a side.
I see traits of both INFP and INFJ in my... sometimes even some INTP... rarely INTJ.
It's like I know who I am under specific contexts, and sometimes test are very general, and it's hard for me to know my general behavior, because a tiny change in context can make something align better or worse with who I am and change my willingness to engage with people, be open about ideas or be organized.
I’m pretty sure I am an INFJ, but I have a lot of trouble identifying and expressing my own feelings, and I also struggle to read others’ feelings, too. I do try to find ways to relate to others’ experiences in order to connect to them. I’m socially awkward lol. To say the least.
I've taken the mbti test in the past, but the last 2 times I got INFJ and that was taken about 4 months apart. The absorbing of emotions hit me because I've had that tendency since I was very little. My parents told me I got upset one time because I couldn't tell someone was laughing really hard, but it was a loud, intense emotion and that's all read.
I also didn't handle any loud noises or expressions of anger from others well. It's always like feeling the physical tension corsing through my entire body when it happens, even if I have nothing to do with it. This includes movies and videos too. I handle it better now that I am older, but too much in one day can wear me out. The writing part was very accurate too.
Better question is INFJ versus ISTP, in my opinion. Lots of similarities. Same four functions, just in different order. I’d like to see a video on that.
I just told my friend at work take this test last week and she got INFP and I’m INFJ! You’re spot on as always and this video was very helpful to understand my friend better. Thank you 🙏 nil desperandum
My son is INFP, and I’m INFJ. This is relatable for us especially planning. He likes for me to do the planning, but he knows I will think about what he likes and wants.
How nice for you.
Two important clarifications:
Infps are deeply sensitive and intuitive,and often empathic - like infjs.
Two: infps do not form views or make decisions based on "opinions", but on feeling. Opinion is based on left brain rational thought, or often can be. Intuition is based on a felt sense of things. It is not an opinion, but an intuition - or at least, it often is. Among the most highly intuitive and empathic infps, it is definitely not so much opinion, but intuition. But of course, an infj would view intuition as mere opinion, because they are more thinking based, than feeling based, although, of course, everyone has both sides.
An infp would present the infp/infj differences subtly but strikingly differently. Since i am an extreme rarity, with two dominant modes that compliement, alternate, and can be synthesized with each other, i can give a more subtle comparison of infp vs infj, because i am BOTH. (Imagine the sensory overload, with all of that information flooding in and through one person! So, I need HIGH degrees of solitude and peace, and very selective company and environments, or i burn out fast - or simply have to leave the situation very quickly.)
OMG!!!!!!!! I broke my DAMN toe last week. You are scaring me!!!!!
Omgosh, this is me, I try to involve outsiders, but it always backfires on me. Thanks, Jay.
The people who are leaving that person out do sometimes get angry that you brought them into the group. Sad.
@@INFJcircle Or, the person I tried to include starts being really nasty to me and then ignores me once they are introduced to others. This happens to me all the time. People are so unbelievable! It's one of the reasons why I am isolating, I am so exhausted with every scenario I am in. I never am in a winning situation. I'm really done with all the nasty people in this world. (I don't mean to sound morbid, it is what it is for me).
As an INFP some things you’ve contrasted I’ve leaned more towards the INFJ.
I a INFJ but I am fast at making decisions. It is always clear what I want and what I don't want. I am married with an INFP and it is a dream relation. I am very focused yes my will is strong.
i thought i was infp but you really helped me figure out the difference, I really feel the counterculture part & thinking pattern you mentioned, thanks
I would say planning is important to us because we dont want to waste time on things that we have no interest into. Vacation for example, what a waste of time on the surface level. But if we plan out some intriguing things to do during this time, sign us up!
It is really interesting. There was a "season" in my life where people would call me -- people I didn't even know, to give them counsel. They would tell me their life's story and cry, etc. and I don't even know how they got my telephone number.
I'm not sure if I feel what other people are feeling, or if I just know what they're feeling...
I'm pretty sensitive to other people's energy, and will leave a situation if the energy doesn't feel comfortable, but I can often shift other people's energy just by being around them.
I randomly got obsessed with Spyro Enter the Dragonfly for seemingly no reason. Found the documentary on its development, got hooked on the music for the game and downloaded its soundfonts so I could mess around in Studio One.
And I’m still confused as to weither I’m an INFP or INFJ. 😆
Maybe I just don't need to fit into any boxes! I'm fine with just being who I am, and constantly growing and changing.
Great video, a lot of it resonates! It’s as if you’ve given examples from my own life.
Love how you put emphasis on how MBTI is our map, or how Jung said it is the skeleton. Bravo my fellow INFJ😊
In regards to planning out things; I always have a plan A, B or C because being too rigid in your plans (simply sticking to one plan) can spoil it as well when unexpected things happen. Usually when I have to opt for plan C I’m more flexible and go with the flow, because not everything is within our control. Plan C is when I let things take it’s own course.
It is important that we try to integrate our opposite side, our repressed or underdeveloped functions to be more complete.
Being an INFJ has gotten me into “trouble” a lot…I can laugh it away now usually because I accept myself more and understand where it comes from. Sending much appreciation ❤
Yes, our planning is interesting. It’s sort of like our organization, it makes us feel better but we don’t particularly like doing it. Whereas INFP typically do not like a plan at all. It makes them feel stifled.
I'm definitely an infj .. thank you for clarifying that I also feel pretty sure my mother is an infp even though she typed as a infj it just didn't seem to fit her
I'm definitely an INFJ then. It's funny, I was talking to my husband last night about your videos and how you were probably writing a script for it and what you were probably going to talk about. And you did exactly as I had predicted. Very spooky lol
Now that is spooky! I’ve had some kind of weird things happen this week myself!
I’m a writer first as well. This all makes sense. Thank you. -infj
I don't get why people are so caught up with "infp can't reach their goal cuz they're indecisive". Our "goal" is the journey cuz Si. For example, Ni goal might to get good at guitar while Si goal is to play guitar as often as possible.
And being open to many ideas is not inherently worse to lockin in to one (tho like everything, balance is needed), since we're more likely to jump into opportunities when they (usually randomly) come.
Well, now I'm questioning who I "thought" I was.
I think I failed my previous personality test lol
Hahaha, this was great! At a loss for words when put on the spot - check. Often get unexplained bruises - check. Questioning everything from birth - check. 😆 Love it, thank you Jay!
Infp has Fi hero. It’s SO different in presentation. Infp will be very well-aware of how they feel. Infj will be very well aware of others feelings. Infp is more music-obsessed. Also infj is more badass, can be alpha of all the types when needed.
Thanks for sharing, yes dominant Fi makes a world of difference. I have basically went around my whole life getting my “mood” off of others, only in the last 7 years or so have I been able to break out of that cycle!
INFJ here. “Grace” was my nickname when I was little because I was always running into stuff. I often feel like a walking head. 😂
lol!
I'd rather be an INFP! since I'm an INFj and ASD, I cannot stand conflict and feel as an infj yet I'm very unflexible with my values and cut contact quickly if people do not align with my inner values. I keep quiet though to avoid conflict. Thsi is quite uncomfortable actually....
this made me laugh at myself as an infj 😂 this helped cleared my confusion bw the two. Thank you! (:
Very interesting information. I started out trying to understand what was wrong with me. My goal was to become my true authentic self. You can improve and control the things that you do not like about yourself. You can also refine the strengths that you do have by learning from your mistakes. Also your childhood plays a huge role in how difficult this journey has been for most of us. God bless
I am an INFP...15 tests later.. still an INFP😅. I do have some of the qualities of an INFJ
Focusing on one subject at a time, but with a different approach. Eg doing research on Apraxia and end up knowing about all the processing disorders there is and how they interlink.
I love peace and harmony and usually keep my feelings for myself, but at the same time I am very risk orientated, therfore I will voice my opinion if I feel like doing so.I do however sense what people feel and it happens that I do say something that triggers them to open up to me, which leaves me super drained at the end of the day. I have an INFJ boyfriend. The harmony, being able to be alone with someone without feeling awkward and the emotional connection is out of this world. I have never experienced this in my whole life❤
As an INFP-T (turbulent type, read self-critical) I can understand the confusion. I am very empathetic and do notice patterns and can predict outcomes. Friends often ask me, "do you ever get tired of being right" after my predictions come true. I am very attune to other peoples motivations. I also struggle to put myself first and am a magnet for narcissist. I can easily lose myself in romantic relationships. And, according to the 16personalities website, we INFP (mediators) "are the most likely personality type to significantly change their behavior depending on who they are with."
Perhaps the difference is, I tend to worry about what other people think about ME. I worry and notice how other people feel and react to situations in relation to ME. I don't pick up on positive emotions and feedback nearly as well as negative ones. So while I am a very caring and loyal friend, I suspect INFPs are more self-centered than INFJs.
Ps. that didn't feel good to admit.
The INFJ's 'Se'...you might drive somewhere and not remember anything between point A [the take off point], and point B [the destination point]. That's a weird realization [where was I that whole time behind the steering wheel?].
When you drive on auto pilot
Thanks, Jay, for sewing all of that together so clearly! Yes, I am an INFJ 😎🔬🔎📝✝️📖💟. I have not considered other types before and probably won’t at any other time either. My intuition pretty much informs me about others, as you’d know yourself. I did take a photo of the two types from my iPad onto my phone and collaged them, when you started, to enable me to follow you more effectively that I would understand the differences, which is probably rather INFJ of me. Hope you have a great day! Mine has just begun. G’day from Jae in SA (South Aus) 🇦🇺
Definitely the end of the day here! I’m glad you enjoyed the video. I’ll probably do some more of these kind of longer educational videos in the future with some other types too.
@@INFJcircle Jay, you have an appealing face and manner so whatever you do I’ll enjoy it. I also like getting your email talks, too . I live in a rural area of three villages near the coast with lovely beaches, and having INFJ company is always good! I do have my own Christian Yt channel, btw, if you touch my icon here. It’s from one of my paintings having been a designer and an artist 30 years 🙂
I feel strange though, as I can feel the emotions of others, I can feel how they’re feeling.. But, I’ve also been through so much trauma that I can more than likely relate to their experiences too. Like, it will hit me, “I went through this too!” Although, it’s more the experience rather than the emotional aspect. I feel their emotions, they talk about what happened, and then it brings back memories. I’m definitely an INFJ, but I’m more of an open book, always explaining who I am and what I am because no one tries to understand and they create assumptions and lies, but at the same time, I’m still mysterious. It’s a way of comforting people, sometimes in their distress, you tell them your experience a little. So they don’t feel alone. My emotions are jumbled though, I rarely know what I’m feeling unless it’s powerful and can’t be ignored. What you said about when we feel other’s emotions, it then unlocks ours was mind blowing! Really, thank you for the video.. The biggest difference between INFP and INFJs, is that we INFJs don’t really accept our uniqueness fully, we think something is wrong, but INFPs are complete individualists and rock it. Not that any other MBTI type is unique, but we INFJs are soooooo hard to understand. Even for an INFJ. I’m drawn to help and heal people, and have been my entire life. I’m surrounded by INFPs in my family, and I felt off because of that drive to help and hardly think for myself. But I’m happy that what I am has a name.
I thought I was infj, but now I'm pretty sure I'm an infp!
I chameleon, but I feel like it's just me opening up my data input reciever unit and starting to download everything that I can from this individual, usually to immediately determine if they are a threat to me, when they aren't it seems I can help them with some kind of change breakthrough, where as if the individual isn't receptive to change I will just retreat and stop all downloading. I often will isolate myself from all people because I don't know how to half way interact with others no matter how much I might want to. I usually make people uncomfortable with my behavior but it's usually because I'm just displaying what I'm getting from them.
Idk... I tend to be pretty dedicated to my goals, and do obsess on things...I LOVE a deep dive.
right its spoken in the abstract but its very concreate but anything powerful in the wrong hands is a problem to many people are making a mess of it with no natural talent or gifts in psychologically (mbti) but socionics is way better way more in depth but always look to psychological types and conscious orientation carl jung and van der hoop
The only problem with these personality types are all those introverted intuitions types are my traits but im more on feeling what other feels. .i just dont know why, i can feel someone how they feel. .i can sense their fear. .
Then so, in my positive side im infj, and my negative side im infp, sometimes im sharp in speaking things, just dont care. .well it depends on the environment you blend in. .😅😅. .but surely im infj. .in your early age, you can learn it already inside your home with your family. .
MBTI - Just one of many lenses for understanding:
The Jung Meyers-Briggs personality indicator (MBTI) is the best there is - especially if you (a) don't take an overly simplistic, cookie-cutter, pigeon hole view of it, which is a stupid to do with anything; and (b) you integrate the *partial* understanding from one way of looking at personality, such as mbti, with other modes of understanding personality, such as reflection, meditation, journalling, conversation and interaction, observation, feeling and analysis - and also, Eastern and Western astrology, numerology, and other personality indicators; while (c) *realizing* that we always have free will, despite our unique, innate, natural tendencies, and we are many-faceted beings, who are also capable of slow or sometimes swift change.
(Yes, I am the master of the pre-amble. What else would we expect from a philosopher?!)
In terms of MBTI:
I'm an extreme rarity - i am most definitely a hybrid of *both* infp and infj. Zero question. And yes, it is possible. I am living proof.
I'm an extremely rare one - in mbti terms: a combination of the two rarest personality types: infp *and* infj.
I am an infp predominantly, with nearly equal tendencies towards infj: the inf basis is core, but being able to use both hemispheres of the brain, almost equally, and i can use and integrate both modes, and fluctuate between which one is predominant, sometimes by choice, sometimes involuntarily, by circumstance, adapting by choice or by intuition, or by empathy, moment to moment.
Being empathic, intuitive, extremely independent, and also, with razor sharp analysis *and* synthesis capacities, i am genuinely both infp and infj: likely 55/45%, or nearly equal in both aspects.
For my work, as a writer, philosopher and social-political analyst, it makes for rare gifts. For personal life, it makes things fascinating, rich, complex, and also, extraordinarily intense, sometimes to overload levels. A blessed but extremely challenging path!
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(This video is just one of *many* interpretations of mbti types, remember!!! And it's *far* too black and white in thinking, btw.)
By the way, the infp is best described as the Idealist Healer - this is their main drive in life, be it focused on individuals, groups, communities, nations, ecosystems, plants, animals, or the world - or in my case, all the above. Jung would be one of many examples, or types of Healer Idealists.
The infj is best described as the Idealist Protector. The same applies: it can be on an individual level, up to a global level. In all cases, their deepest drive is to protect others. Gandhi, Zapata and MLK were all perfect examples - and three of my greatest heroes.
So, i am a Healer/Protector Idealist, by nature - and to my core. Nothing comes above these twin drives, both stemming from compassion and love. All else can and will be sacrificed for this.
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I have taken the test 2 times in my life. When I was young around 20, I was an INFP. When I was given the test again in my 40s I came back as an INFJ. I was told that you usually do not change.........I wonder how this happened. After watching this video, I am still just as confused. I think I am more INFJ, but would really like confirmation......LOL
CS Joseph has a video called “who are the INFP’s?” he’s always a bit harsh in his analysis of every type, so be aware he’s not just picking on INFP‘s, but if you watch that video, he goes into a bit more depth on the functions. All of the functions can vary in strength in each of us individually and that’s why sometimes we can’t figure out our type. I tried to stay simple in this video, but I’ll make more in the future that addresses the functions a bit deeper.
OMG I literally hit my head with the wall or walk in doors and doorknobs like everyday my mom makes fun of me 😭 I always thought I’m just weird 💀