I know right! Some people who don’t know me well don’t realise that my ‘spontaneity’ is in fact not spontaneity as it is planned inside my head first then made to be seen as me being spontaneous! 😂
A grande questão é: Qual dos MBTI's preenchem todos estes requisitos? Não adianta falar que é o ENFP porque considero a personalidade deles muito volátil e não parecem preencher bem o segundo requisito.
- someone who can make us more spontaneous, make us take breaks from being a crazy planner - someone who has a fixed identity - someone who can decide what they want and not just be okay with "whatever" - someone whos not afraid to slap us back into reality - someone who respects our boundaries - someone whos willing to accept advice, open-minded - someone who appreciates our way of thinking and how we see the world - someone who appreciates a good listener and like to be unravelled
IRYL My 20+ yr ESTP partner has the 1st half of the list without a doubt, but there have been some definite struggles on the latter items over the years. 😂
I'd say ENTPs are the best fit as long as they are using their Fe; sharing Ti and Fe with them means they can truly understand how you feel while having a sligthly different way of looking at the world, after that I'd say ENFP and ENFJs. INFJ x INFJ is also realy good though, if both aren't too similar and one is active like an ENTP generally is.
I feel exactly the same i feel so different so weird like I'm an alien here and my deep talk weirds people out and it's just so hard to find someone like me
INFPs actually tend to end up doing this to me quite a lot, because I tend to have similar interests to them, and while I invest all my energy in the relationship, they just end up using me like a counselor and not treating meike I'm a friend, more like I'm their occasional advisor.
I still don't understand how I even work lolz being an eye of Jay doesn't suck but it's definitely different most times I love it because I feel so different. And when I'm really on fire I often predict what people are about to say next very easily but it's a lonely road no one can relate to me except another infj and I have yet to meet another. I hope to become the first worldwide famous infj wish me luck
@@lyrical_profit9518 It's a lonely road only if you want to make it feel like a lonely road. I've found that not only INFJs can relate to me, but also other NF(Idealists) types. It's not hard to find some of those. Also,I do wish you achieve your dreams - which seem to be fame-related - but I'll have to let you know that INFJs are very well established in the "famous spectrum" already (M.L. King, Nelson Mandela, Ghandi, even Hitler, as well as some more recent writers, psychologists, celebrities etc). So yeah,you won't really be the first famous INFJ but I surely do hope you achieve your dream of becoming famous and using this fame for an objectively good cause.
When someone asks a question, it's not rare for me to ask, "what do you mean?" Not because I don't understand the question necessarily, but because I could interpret the intent of the question in several different ways.
“Can we come back to earth? This is where we live.” As an INFJ girl, I can confirm that I really need someone to help me with this. I can spend HOURS in my own world.
INFJ male Can totally relate.... it's a blessing in disguise, sometimes I get so lost in myself it frustrates the shit out of me..... best thing I can do is write it all out in a diary or something, hope it helps and take care of yourself.
@@prakhargoyanka3891 Yo, good luck to you too! Writing down stuff is probably the best thing to do, other than talking to someone. I for one, don’t like to open up to people and seem to keep everything in my own little bubble. So good luck, but be careful! Don’t let your thoughts turn negative, or everything will go downhill! I know from experience, so just be careful. What helped me a lot is making and doing goals, it enables me to do something everyday, stay away from negative thoughts/feelings, and helps me become a better person. So have a good day! 😊
@@shayla_lesk1542 We are (INFJ's) entrapped within an infinite feeling of longing, left over from "the event" in our lives where we felt comfort during chaos provided by another person or habitual activity at a stage in our lives when our imaginations were still at full throttle. The world to us was on a path too isolation from the moment of awareness but our beauty lies within the anomoly of constant awareness and our ability to describe our thoughts and desires in the poetic justice we lend the world. U are adored for being unique and human.
But I'm an INTP. I don't make myself visible enough for this to be useful. 😂 I'll set up an omnidirectional infrared signal from my phone or something.
I, an INFJ, would really appreciate a partner who inspires me and helps me to improve myself and get me to do things I actually always wanted to do in a direct but not forcing way. Idk of this makes sense
I'm INFJ and I need someone who's helpful and makes me feel appreciated. I don't want to feel like someone's mommy doing everything. I'm pretty easy to make happy. I don't like feeling used or unappreciated
Same here... I am also an INFJ. I like genuine people who don't try to take me for granted. Emotional manipulation or self centered behaviour is a big turn off.
People thought I was spontaneous for booking a trip to Ireland 3 days before the flight - but the truth is as an INFJ I have thought about this trip for months if not years and planned to the hour my itinerary before booking the flight. With our over analysing brain, we are often full of ideas and plans, some fully formed and thought out, but are simply only executed on a whim making it seem spontaneous.
drzmak exactly. I make big sudden changes (according to others’ perspective) but i plan meticulously because the fallout from traveling suddenly without planning well is never pretty nor something my sensitive self wants to deal with. I wanna know I’ll be in a safe comfy bed and eating well etc.
Same. People always tell me "oh going to london for uni is expensive" like I haven't been planning it since I was 15. Like trust me it was a big decision but I'm fucking ready!
@@anne-lisepollet5071 indeed, I kinda loved the way he said it and then I giggled when he said "not in a bad way" cuz for me, it was not necessary to clarify...😅
I thought when he said that, that we are trying to unravel a person's inner most thoughts ,like unraveling a dark chocolate Hershey kiss, to get past that rough foil and into the rich inner workings of a piece of chocolate.
My boyfriend is an INFJ and I am an INFP. We literally have this discussion a lot "I want what you want" "No, you tell me what you want." "No you decide..." At the end we often have to guess what the other one wants. I am trying my best to make him feel safe to set boundaries. I am uncomfortable with deciding for him too much. Also as I am an INFP he is one of few people where I feel seen, heard and understood. We can deep talk for hours. However, he loves giving advice and helping others and I don't him to give too much, as I don't want him to exhaust himself. I want him to know that he is worthy of being cared for and listened to too. So I guess that's why I am watching videos about INFJs at 2am.
It sounds like you need to build trust that he can and will share his wants and needs. Perhaps a conversation about what his boundaries, wants, and needs are might help to create that foundation? Or practicing as a hypothetical, just to build trust and comfortability around those kinds of conversations ahead of time? Perhaps he’ll have a suggestion how he can earn your trust in this area.
Don't forget honesty. I don't know about the other INFJ's, but if you lie to me, I never fully trust you ever again. Especially if you lie to me while seemingly opening up to me. It makes me feel weirdly offended and ruins what little trust I have in the beginning
Except in relationship. For the worthed one, we can try to give second chance since they lied as a nature to survive or protect theirself. We can let them know its better to be honest even hurt, rather lie but we already know behind the scene.
Frank: How I talk sounds weird... Me an INFJ: What do you mean you talk weird? I understand exactly what you're saying. Frank: ...except to my fellow INFJ's who are right there with me. Me: Oooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh, makes sense.
As an enfp I think the infj way of speaking is charming :D because it's so much more concise than my rambles, but still has emotional elements. Idk that's how my boyfriend speaks he's an infj
I hadn't thought of this but wow... This is going to save me a lot of time on the dating scene.... ME: are you into personal growth DATE: Umm not really ME: Next 😂 🙏🏼🙂
Yes. Growth is huge and nonnegotiable. And FJ does NF talk all the time. I need to make my ESFJ husband watch all his videos so he understands it’s not just me...😂
SJ Percy ask about books they like etc. people agree about anything but what do their actions show? If they are into personal growth you will see it throughout their life and how they talk. 😊🌸
Frank: INFJs question their identity a bit too much sometimes Me, an INFJ, who wanted to post something about certain traits, but was afraid it would not resonate with other INFJs and who would therefore question my identity, causing me to question my own identity: *sweats*
Me as an INFJ: Gives great advice to others regarding life, the universe and everything; Can't advise myself about practical matters pertaining to general living on Earth🤔😭
I love that about my husband, an INTJ. He knows when I'm not ready to hear something and chooses his timing wisely, but is also a deep and mysterious person. After 16 years of marriage, I still learn things.
Except I have been advised not to use too many negatives in the dating profile (e.g. what you are NOT looking for in a partner) because you could end up sounding resentful or cynical. I don't agree or disagree with this, but I have been following this rule
Yep! I follow everything he says and usually can pick up on the thoughts he doesnt finish too 🤣 It is funny seeing that play out in real life though! My friend is an ENFJ/P and while she can keep up with me most times, there are moments where she looks at me like I'm an alien freak and has me re-explain everything.
Or you get with the NT who can listen and be all “So what you just spent 30min saying is xyz.” (In one short sentence) And NFs are all - “Yes! Exactly!” -- Hillary J ENTP/NF Interpreter 😉
Raziax They usually just add extra stress to my life with minimal benefits. I really can’t speak for everybody, but a lot of people know what it’s like.
Wait, what does this mean? As an INFJ you eventually realize that you don't need a partner? As in, you find out you don't need or want a husband/wife? Just as long as you have friends - which are necessary as you say... ?
One day I woke up and realized most my friends were INFJs. I believe I offer my INFJ friends and family these things that they crave: 1) Structure and direction 2) My INFJ friends like to be around loudly quirky people because it makes them feel less weird and more comfortable opening up 3) Loyalty, reliability and honesty are paramount to an INFJ, who are often taken advantage of by other types 4) INFJs like my directness because they feel comfortable when they know what their role is and how they fit in 5) INFJs hate manipulation, and they would rather be asked for a favor or even commanded. INFJs usually enjoy working under me because there are no games or hidden expectations to navigate. Everything is clear and the rules are known and fair. 6) INFJs tend to come out of the woodwork to be the wingman for my masterplans. They like big plans that enact change. They want to make an impact. 7) I like to break down and discuss theory and ideas, and INFJs love joining in and discussing things they thought no one else cared about
So what is your personality type? INTJ? Everything you said makes perfect sense to me. We are team players by nature and though we can lead we don't feel obsessed with being the leader or controlling the show. We are great wingmen or partners in crime.😉 It sounds like you have a pretty good grasp of things to me. 🤙
I’m an ENFP and my husband is a ISTJ. when I talk all nonsensical it amuses him. One time we were at the beach, sitting on the sand, enjoying a romantic night. I was staring at the water deep in thought and he turned to me and said “what are you thinking about” and I said “how many dead bodies do you think are in the ocean?”. His reaction was priceless and he knew right away what kind of person I am 🤣
Holy shit!!!! I thought I was the only one. I live in San Diego and have completely freaked myself out at the beach over the past many years here. Tee-hee! How many dead people? Are you old enough to remember the Tsunami? I was not in the water for over a year.
Dead human bodies in the ocean? Interesting thought. How many permafrost, megafauna carcasses are now thawing out, and drip drip dripping their ancient funk into the streams>rivers>oceans of the planet? Skin, hair, bone, and flesh that hasn’t been kissed by oxygen or the sun’s light for over 12,000 years...now slowly marinating in a soup of polar meltwater and cradled by oceanic currents. I’m sure we’ll adapt.
ENFP passing through here! Just a little appreciation post for you INFJs. Some of my closest friends are INFJs, and I can only speak for what I know from my friendships with them, but I truly cherish the special bond I have with each of them. We're comfortable enough to have deep conversations with each other, and appreciate each other's related, yet not identical, views on the world. Like looking at two different sides of the same coin. The other's perspective often stops us in our tracks. Sometimes INFJs have such a unique take on the world, and it's incredible. I also feel like we see aspects of each other that other people seem to miss. Being people who easily understand others but often find themselves feeling pretty misunderstood, I think it’s something we both really appreciate. INFJs are so sharp and intuitive, it's like they see a part of me I wish the rest of the world could see. I think we can also sense each other's boundaries and needs for space, and it ends up feeling really safe with them. I also love how INFJs are planners. I can be kind of an easily-distracted, go-with-what-I-feel-right-now mess myself, so I like that about them. But most of all I love how INFJs are usually great listeners, because I have so much I want to share, like I'm just bursting to share all my ideas and am longing for someone to actually want to listen and share them with me. I feel like INFJs are great people to share a lot of this with. In fact, I think you'd be appealing to different kinds of people because of your many good qualities. oh my goodness I've digressed and written an essay. Is anyone actually going to read this? Anyway, I think you INFJs are so interesting, complex, insightful, and you can also be very sweet. I hope you know you’re great and I know that not everyone really "gets" you, but I hope you find the meaningful relationships in life that you’re looking for :)
Thank you so much! I am an INFJ female and I really needed this. I have had my share of people who say that I am very boring or rude and all that non real stuffs about me. I somewhat am happy to know that people like us and that they want to have us in their lives. 😄😄
Awww this INFJ loves what you wrote! I enjoy hearing other types’ perspectives of us, and what you said about infjs seeing a different part of others that many might not see really resonated with me. I believe I have a gift for being able to see people for who they really are and understand them better than most. I’m glad that you noticed that!
I can relate. But I've been practicing taking a leap of faith and just saying "go!" when I'm over thinking about something I'm about to do, and it's definitely been helpful for me.
what exactly is "over" thinking. Like Mozart, I do exactly the right amount of thinking, not one thought more or less. What other persons do is not my issue.
I'm INFJ and I had a dream a few nights back where my perfect partner did something unexpected that I never knew I always wanted: I wanted to go to him but I was afraid of rejection so instead I laid on the floor near his room and just went to sleep. He came out - saw me - laid down next to me - pulled me into his arms - and also went to sleep. It - was - perfect!
I am an INFJ and I tend to be attracted to extroverted people. I need someone who can take me out of my comfort zone and yes, slap me out of my INFJ "haze" that I occasionally dwell on..lol
Same here. Not romantically tho. I like having extroverted friends to carry me around and take me out of my comfort zone. I'm a good listener so they can talk as much as they want xD
I just realised you’re one of the few channels that has the decency and consideration to announce when a youtube ad will show up. That’s pretty INFJ, I feel I would do the same thing 😂
I used to work as a drug counsellor and one of my colleagues once said that when she watched me work with clients it was like seeing someone perform open heart surgery without the person even noticing! I took that as a massive compliment!
I'm an INTJ currently dating an INFJ and I literally never felt what I feel now. She is the only one who can warm my heart and the beautiful thing is how mutual everything is about us. There are some difference in our personalities but they seem to compensate each others. I tend to be more conscious about my feeling but also more judging about them, while she is less of that but still super understanding. I love everything about her, don't wanna loose her.
Right there with you, never had a relationship go as well as it has with my INFJ, we’ve been engaged a few months now, but honestly I knew she was the one I wanted to marry within months of our first date. To be fair we’re childhood friends so that wasn’t a completely uninformed decision, basically all I needed to know was how things would change after the relationship changed, if that makes sense.
I just really love it that I feel "normal" when I watch your videos and read the comments, finally. It's quite a relief. Thank you for sharing this and putting an effort into this.
Ditto. I often feel bad about not having friends. But, listening to you feels like friendship to me. I'll make sure I listen more often especially when I feel I need a friend. Because listening to you is validation.
Same. I felt most of my problems with my personality were uniquely my own, in spite of the various other INFJs I'd encountered. Now with this channel, I've never felt so seen before.
Are those traits of being very intospective, and overly deep, and relenting, and having lots of boundaries and abstract and subjective typical INFJ traits? Im INFJ and man this guy sounded so familiar to me. I didnt know anyone else thought like this. I mean, i went to a psych for depression and now im stuck being tested for autism because i couldnt give yes/no or 1-10 answers. It would be awesome is this was just a personality thing.
LOL I feel like I'm from Planet nice and everyone else is living on planet ahole. LOL ex scuze my language. I married an ASpie. I shoulda got at least an NT.
It's frustrating seeing all the INFJs crying that they are single and can't find anyone while describing qualities and behaviours that nearly perfectly match XDDD. This entire video was just one additional piece of my confirmation bias lol
It is the inferior Se at work. I love changing hair, makeup, outfit style, and accessories. I am surrounded by people who hardly ever change their preferred appearance. I am the only one constantly switching appearance.
@Frank James I should really stop checking my notifications in public. I should wait till i get home to freak out over the fact that you hearted my comment. It's so hard to keep cool while internally being like *Jbdhbskabfnbsjakdbakaj* 🤦♀️ Don't stop doing it tho 😂
That’s why INFJ’s are so rare and complex. It’s so hard to figure us out completely. We look like extroverts on the outside by doing spontaneous things time to time but are deeply inherent introverted geeks lol
You are 100% correct on that, because Logic although abstract is an emotion as well. I would give you more in greater detail, but it is ridiculously complex which I'd rather not have to go through.
One of my closest friend is an INFJ, i'm so lucky. Everytime I talk about a something he understands. Unlike others who got weirded out because we base on Emotional Logic.
I have an INTP friend who is incredibly good at taking one of my hour long bumbling ramblings and translate it into about 3 solid sentences. It's amazing.
I'm a female INFJ... I was married when I was a 17 year old teenager, I divorced 2 years later when I was 19... I'm 67 now.. and I don't think that I'll ever get married again. I love living alone. I had a Great Aunt who married young and her husband died soon after, she lived to be 105 years old and was happy alone.
Ha! That's awesome. Verbally i am like a gun slinger. I always have a great retort. As for acting spontaneous, I'll get back to you when I have a plan for that.
@@jerryb7185 It's like even when I think I'm doing something spontaneus, I already have plans for what could happen what could go wrong and what to do xd
Watching this as a very happily married INFJ and you’re basically describing my relationship with my husband. It makes me even more thankful than I already am to have found such a compatible partner. Don’t give up, INFJs, there’s someone out there and you’ll totally know it when you find them. ♥️
Me too. The first thing I noticed about my husband was his kind but bright eyes, and the connected way in which he talked to everyone he came into contact with. So I knew right away that he was not only a kind heart, but had spark and drive too. He's extremely practically helpful, and enjoys personal growth like I do. One thing that's different about us is that he is perfectly happy to speak his opinions about other people (he is from New York- I'm from humble New Zealand), and I actually find that really refreshing. I'm not outspoken and don't like saying negative things about people (even if they are kind of horrible people), but he'll say it, and I'll be like- "Ouch, that's harsh!" but secretly be celebrating because that's what I would want to say- if I were bolder! I don't know what personality type he is- he doesn't like being put in a box, so he won't take it. I wouldn't be surprised if we were both the same, but with variations on the scale (like maybe he is a bit less introverted than me, and more assertive- like a strong INFJ?) But we both accept each other for who we are, which is wonderful.
🤗 since i studied these videos about INFJs and read the comments from fellow INFJs, i felt so relieved because finally i found someone who is the same as me, i don't feel all weird and all alone anymore because i know scattered around the world i still have my INFJ brothers and sisters that i am bound to meet later in my life 🥺🥲
I am INFJ. My husband is ISTP. While I am planning he is doing. He will quietly take charge of things without being bossy, which I love. When we're planning to go out, I will take a while to get myself together, while he is ready to go. He frequently says to me "I'll be in the car waiting." Lol. I love our differences, but our similar introversion and values tie us together. He's the best.
you're so fortunate. I'm ISTP who was married to an INFJ and it was a disaster. She was like some sort of alien whom I could get a handle on sometimes, and oftentimes, just couldn't relate to. well, plus she had OCD and some other issues, lol. I would often be like, "Who are you? What planet are you from?" lol. Never, ever will I date an INFJ again, lol. I want someone who is simply not crazy. lol
I’m infj and my long term boyfriend is an istp! It was a very bumpy relationship at first, but we’ve come to understand eachother better with time and each have matured and come to learn what we need to be fulfilled (thankfully) I love that for you, goals!
Well, I see an alpha male as knowing who he is and what he wants. A gentleman would respect my boundaries. These points were made in the video. Also if he is secure enough in himself, he may not mind being gently unraveled.
80% of my life is lived inside my head. And the over planning an event or situation is just sometimes confusing I really wish I could understand myself.
I'm INFJ and all I really want in a partner is someone who supports me when needed but also lets me be independent. I need someone who can tie me down to earth but also set me free.
As an INTP who has a crush on an INFJ... We get along super well, and she's legitimately told me she's the most comfortable around me and one other person... I don't think we'll ever be a thing, despite how devoted my feelings for her have been for years... she's so amazing, smart, unique, fun, energetic.. and while she's very confident on the outside, which is impressive, she's very anxious underneath... which makes it even more impressive that she acts confident. Im so laid back though- im open to conversation about all kinds of things, but I feel like i'm not 'passionate' enough for her... I love just listening to her talk and think, even about the more taboo and disturbing or political topics... *sigh...* I love that woman so much-
“I can’t even think of something spontaneous…” 😂. Meanwhile my ENFP brain already has 3 examples. INFJs are so cute and absolutely wonderful human beings. Can’t wait to squish my INFJ later today. 😊
look i'm spontaneous okay? sometimes i get a muffin with my cup of tea when i go out to write at the cafe does an unspontaneous person do that? i think not
@@anniksart907 Is it spontaneity to cancel a meeting (in the last moment) with your friend 'cause you'd rather stay home? Or that, that I late many times 'cause things didn't turn out as I expected? -I wasn't planning to be late...
"that NF way of talking" PREACH sis omg, ENFP gal here and i swear people think i can't speak english sometimes because i can't figure out how to make sense 😂
People like you make me feel like I am actually an ENTP... You just seem more ENFPish than I do, mainly because I can't jingle jango the boogle doot that well outside the internet, and even online, I sometimes just dive into debates and spend hours arguing about the sex of the angels, or the hell is happening on my feed...
I am an infp and my partner is an infj and here is somethings i noticed about him 1. he can be very sensitive to things 2. he constantly is overthinking 3. i started to always notice things he doesnt say and he appreciates that alot 4. but when i do something small just as an appreciation of him, he is really really grateful for that he always overthinking things and it can be both good and bad. But thats where i come in to help him with that and he needs someone to tell him where its too much so like the video said calling him out. Don’t be afraid to call them out at times because thats what they or as i know my partner who is an infj thats what he needs as he’s constantly in his head. But i see no problem with that as i do love him dearly PS this is just to share information about an infj not to criticize them in anyway!! i hope whoever reads this has a better understanding of infjs
Yep do not critize them, you gotta be kind with them, you gotta understand how we feel, we already are very harsh on ourselfs, we need someone to make us feel at ease, we are very emotional and sensitive. Dating life for us is an struggle.
Yes! I'm with INFJ also, and I have never met a guy like that before. I keep telling him 😂 we had to adjust at first because of our insecruties and stuff, but we talked about it alot and now it's great. 😊 I honestly never met a guy like that before and still in shock and impressed about him 😂 we can chat for hours and never get tired.
@@mindabobis7601 yeah, I think she meant she really needs it because we mentally prepare for everything and not really as spontaneous, as Perceivers, so 😅
@minda Bobis I had this definition of spontaneity in mind, since I would describe myself as a planner: “the quality of being natural rather than planned in advance” I can adapt to others as needed, but I definitely prefer to mentally prepare when able. My ENTP, on the other hand, loves spontaneity. He prefers to go about life “winging it,” in his words.
As a male INFJ, He'll provide you with a mystery worth exploring. Just remember to communicate clear boundaries and allow the space to grow with each other
When I met my partner he talked me into going on holiday with him and his whole family after 3 WEEKS! Still can't believe I did that . It's 10 years later now!
WOW. I'm an INTP and I'm not sure a partner could get me on a family vacation after three *years*. My own family hasn't managed to wrangle me into one in three *decades*.
I'm an ENTP, and my wife is an INFJ. We just celebrated our 15th anniversary; I attribute that to us both realizing each other's strengths and weaknesses and, henceforth, building on them to create balance. I constantly find it pretty amazing how different our brains function in so many regards, yet we are also so much alike, not in spite of said differences, but because of them. It's seemingly paradoxical but true, nonetheless. As with any relationship, it is give and take, finding compromise, and putting one's ego aside long enough to consider the other's perspectives and the subjective nuances which create said perspectives.
I'm in a studying my infj crush bcz I really don't get it when infjs saying this, but would u mind if u give more explanation to it? Do the infjs getting hurt and plan a revenge when they yield like that?
oh I was asking my infj bf about his boundaries so I don't accidentally cross it and make him sad but he is like eh ... boundaries is something we will set once we reach that problem. I 'm not sure if he was polite or he is just unsure whare his boundaries are at this point either way I will try to be mindful about what I say and do to him. INTP here ( gosh I'm so bad at acting like a normal person but trust me guys I'm trying so hard )
This makes me laugh, since I'm an ENFP, and my dad's an INFJ! Very different personalities, but ENFP and INFJ just gel together so well, it's insane. On behalf of ENFP daughters everywhere, thank you for your service!
omg my mom is an ENFP and I'm an INFJ, that's so funny. I find we're somewhat different but I also remind us a lot of herself and we complement each other really well
My gf is an INFP and I feel like she's my twin soul. We are very similar but at the same time very different, completing each others flaws. She pushes me to do things I wouldn't normally do because of my overplanning nature but at the same time she understands me and how I feel. She supports everything I decide to do and I do the same with her. Through different paths we usually end up agreeing on everything and we spend a lot of our time speaking about infinite topics. She changed my life and since we got togheter we grew up a lot.
@KnightlySkye each person is obviously different, but I noticed some patterns about INFJs, including myself. We like to observe topics from different point of views but we don't like conflict and "black and white" situations, at least when presented with aggressive tones (so pay attention to the way you unleash your Fi if you are an INFP. Probably for you it's easy to figure out what Is good and what Is not, for INFJs, instead, it's kinda difficult to stand firm for something). We also like to be listened when we give suggestions to others and We like to feel special for our personal way to conceive the world, and when we share that view with someone, we like to discuss (peacefully) about It. So when your friend starts to talk about deep topics you should try to understand his point of view. Also you should try to ask him questions about it and try to partecipate to the conversation presenting your own opinions. If the tipic Is difficult or uninteresting for you, try to make a link to something similar that you like. In the end the most important thing to avoid with an INFJ Is to make him feel invisible. Just listen and partecipate, he will be grateful to you.
INFP (F) + INFJ (M) highschool sweethearts here. Married 23 years, basically grew up together as a couple. This video was spot on from my (infp) perspective. Sometimes I'm still not sure if I married a guru or a serial killer, but I'm still having fun
Spontaneous, respects boundaries, bring us back down to earth sometimes, has their own identity, open to advice, a fellow NF or someone who appreciates our feelings based abstract minds! 👍
@@chelseaclark-martin6357 yes infp infj is a great combo. On the exterior we are very much alike but inside we approach things from different angles. The cognitive stack is mirrored if I recall correctly so we complement each other
this is the most relatable comment ever. it's so hard to have such high standards, cause no one fits in them, so I better just stick with my imagination :)))
For some reason, I always get along the best with ENFPs and INFPs. ENFPs are the most fun to be around. They know how to make me laugh, and I feel they get me. INFPs are the best to talk to and be awkward around. We are comfortable with our awkwardness around eachother where it becomes a joke. I know, that they know, I get them and vice versa. I feel refreshed after hanging out with either one, and I feel like they bring the best out in me.
I'm an INFJ and my best friend online is an INFP: we're exactly like that. She gets awkward or says something that she has to reword, then I'll get awkward too and just laugh it off with her and continue with our convos. I can have deep convos with her easily, as well as stupid ones. It really is refreshing. I feel understood and like our energies match.
Yes! And it's also because INFP and ENFP are very similar and ENFP is the most introverted of the E's. I used to be ENFP but it changed to INFP not too long ago. I am getting way more introverted, that's why. 😘
As an INFP I only can say that you're not the only one who can read people. The experience for an INFP guys with INFJ girls are like turning the obvious into the most difficult chess game or deathrun on your life. As soon as you start ghosting her they come back, and then starts all over again. So it's not fun for us. INFPs, INFJs and ENFPs are like a magic trio of weirdos.
I’m an ENFP male who is engaged with an INFJ, and this video has more than anything served to reinforce the idea that ENFP’s are (dare I say) the best match for INFJ’s. Every one of these qualities are embodied by an ENFP’s Extraverted Intuition (spontaneity, open mindedness, capable of understanding INFJ thought processes, okay with being unraveled and hearing new perspectives) and Introverted Feeling (Strong Fully-Formed identity, Empathy, can appreciate uniqueness of INFJ). I’ve been in many relationships before meeting my fiancé, and can say from the other end that no other type (in my opinion) can appreciate the qualities of an ENFP to the degree that INFJ’s can.
I need someone who knows when to talk and when to remain silent and enjoy our silence. Idk why but it's really fun 😩👌 And actually, my crush is that type of person. I'm an INFJ and he's an INTJ. We get along together so well. But unfortunately he doesn't like me back, sooo 👀 :")
Yes, I can be quiet for hours, thinking thinking... talking ruins my process... and hubby asks "what's wrong?" And I look up dazed and blank, nothing. And then he is SURE... something is up babe...
My husband is an INFJ and I'm an INFP. His constant planning drives me bonkers sometimes; but overall, we get along really well. We've also been friends for 20 years. 💜
That's interesting. I'm an INFP, but I don't think I'm very spontaneous because of my Si. Although I do sometimes wing it, and I don't plan things as much as my SJ parents. I'm trying to imagine how an INFJ could be even less spontaneous than an INFP.
@@lalakuma9 We do have inspired actions, which are very spontaneous, unless one is living in a way were one is really holding oneself back. But that has nothing to do with the type. Our inferior/aspirational Se IS spontaneous, but mostly in bursts here and there over a day, over a week, not "any time" like an ENFP for example, our shadow type. Or of course, Se-doms.
@@Moonchild-sb3fz if still together, did the INFP have to adjust and habituate something like - attentive care, - curiosity, -small acts of service, - dive into and motivate your passions, -bring you outside to sensory fun experiences if you ruminate in NiTi, etc? Im in infp infj rs, and I love to adjust like this but I wonedered if it's common and that you iNFJs feels loved in a particular way that we need to adjust to or understand in the habitual sense
my intp ex was way too spontaneous for me resulting in our breakup (you can guess just what kind of spontaneity im talking about) granted, besides that, I was extremely comfortable with her and could both read eachothers minds. Which is why I'm still friends with her to this day
@@soni8995 lol If you are just starting to date, I wouldn't make too much of my comment. And it has nothing to do with being chaste, it's just needing to be alone to truly relax sometimes. Plus I've always had strange sleeping patterns.
Dude I had an infj gf and I feel like I may have pushed her boundaries and I think it caused problems and tension between us. I feel bad about that. She seemed very sensitive and valued things strongly and I maybe didn't respect that enough
Someone made the same mistake to me and I door-slammed him, but guess what? Even after a long time of no contact he managed to reach out again and gave a sincere apology and we're friends again and have a better relationship than we had before
I think it's probably why we broke up. If I had known that at the time I probably would have acted differently and taken her more seriously. It's hard to know when you see it for the first time. Sometimes I wish I could redo it. But I can't. Just learn for the next girl I guess. I think our personalities clashed a little bit which I feel way bad about. We both felt bad.
I'm INFJ and my husband is ENFJ (he just tested recently though lol, I didn't know his personality type until a few weeks ago). His extroverted side helps to balance me. Our 5 year wedding anniversary is next month ❤
Its going to be a happy marriage for y'all! Im an ENFJ and my wife is INFJ. Its a pleasure getting to know and understand yalls type, like a massive fascinating treasure chest with no bottom.
Me too! But I'm INFJ and he is INFP. He's more logic than me, but he can understand my words, and tell me how my words connect with the real world. Because I live in my own world 😂
Not an INFJ, but I've heard that INFJs will frequently need to know how their partner feels. If that's true, then that's something that a potential partner will have to be comfortable with as well. P. S. You seem happier somehow recently, FJ. ☀️
For me, that means leaving the house seriously, my spontaneous is usually just bothering to go outside for once, even just walking around the neighborhood is all I do ~
Im an INFP dating my INFJ boyfriend and i love our relationship dynamic. We have such similar personalities, and hobbies. We are able to understand each other very well. Were both empathetic and we never feel misunderstood with each other. I definitely am more spontaneous where he is more of the planner and it works out. If he plans to much, then i plan things for us, and i remind him to live and enjoy the present and not to worry too much, as we are both HEAVILY over-thinkers. Our self awareness and kindness is amazing and I’ve never had a better more compatible partner. I love studying INFJS and ways i can understand him more and be a better partner 😊 We can talk for hours and while we both can be stubborn, we both love to improve ourselves and take into account advice that the other is giving, and actually make those changes ❤️
INFJ male here. I never fall instantly for someone. More often than not I start falling for my long-term female friends, after spending months, if not years, perceiving them sjmply as friends. This has usually led to rejection, of course. Here's some advice for girls who are into INFJ guys in general or have an INFJ crush. I do understand that there is more in human psychology than categorizing people in MBTI types, but this is me, a protoype of INJF speaking. And I understand it's frustrating and hard. Trust me, we also sometimes wish we weren't like this; we'd be happier. If I am allowed to oversimplify things, INFJs are some sort of addicts and they are addicted to three things: 1. intelectual stimulation (e.g. the one which is found in philosophy, literature/movies, board/card/video strategy games, etc). 2. people we love, both friends and grilfriends/boyfriends. 3. spreading, advocating for and defending our core principles and values and our philosophy. In terms of 1, we are like every other analytic, scientific and philosophically orientated person; we would kill for a good argument and a good discussion and we can easily recognize bullshit and ignorance. In terms of 2, we are like dogs. We love unconditionally and we expect the same. Once we find our human, we very rarely abandon or betray him. In terms of 3, we are like religious prophets - we will defend our beliefs with our flesh and blood, if necessary. While this may sound lovely and cute, this combination can create hell for both INFJs and their partners, especially if INFJ is not a healthy person and has experienced serious issues in the past. Anyway, here are some practical advice, for girls, from a male INFJ: 1) Don't try to be smart and impress INFJ by throwing some mysterious, unclear, logically incoherent quotes. INFJs ARE NOT mystics! More often than not we are fond of INTJs, INTPs and ISTJs specifically because of their ability to be very rational and fact-minded. 2) Instead, attempt to stimulate his intelect. Don't be afraid that you will say something wrong, as long as you are humble and you provide reasons and arguments that support your idea. If you have absolutely no idea how you could do this, then simply suggest playing some games where you need to think or watching a movie which is not too superficial. 3) If you see someone laughing at or dismissing his core principles (usually those concerning morality and interpersonal relationship, society&politics, etc), and this doesn't have to be something too rude - saying "stop philosophyzing, lets go for a drink" also hurts INFJs, UNDER ABSOLUTELY NO CIRCUMSTANCES approve such behavior verbally or non-verbally. This is one of the reasons we are so, so, so much into ENFPs. They almost never do this. We don't expect from anyone to take our values for granted and to agree with them. It's perfectly fine to disagree. But when you see us talking about them (and trust me, you'll know when we do), don't attempt to change the subject until we get to the point, don't act as it's not important and don't say something just for the sakes of saying something. If you get an INFJ boyfriend, then there's one more important advice: 4) Love him and show him that you love him. Every single day. But don't mistake this for neediness, we are probably the only type which doesn't think that a 3 month imprisonment in an empty, small, dark cell is actually a punishment. We will survive your absence. We just think it's so sexy when you love us.
non-binary INFJ here, I have to say your comment is a fairly accurate descriptor of how I am also🎯. Solid advice 👍🏽It's just so hard (from my experience) to find people who would fit these criteria and follow this advice lol🥲
I’m an INFJ girl and I think I’m gonna be single for my entire life hahah
Same here
I can relate.
Same
Same :c
I feel this
Any single INFJ women out there, we’re a rare breed.
just gotta keep dodging those hungry boys
That will be exhausting from personal experiance 2 INFJ dont mix well
Yes
@@gunjanjain5746 Hiya!
damn yeah, we are 😂😂
“I can’t even think of something spontaneous because it’s so outside of my day to day life” 😂 lmaooo me
I was snickering, I would be planning the example beforehand if I knew it was gonna fly out of my mouth.
I know right! Some people who don’t know me well don’t realise that my ‘spontaneity’ is in fact not spontaneity as it is planned inside my head first then made to be seen as me being spontaneous! 😂
@@BethsarimIAM He planned it this way to be funny.
i bought games on christmas sale.......on a whim, even though i saved and planned for the sale to come up......but that counts, right?
@@Bjorick no excuses for shopping addictions, or collecting OCD, or must buy now on sale plan to use later...
1. Spontaneous
2. Sure of their identity
3. Able to understand your NF talking style
4. Able to be direct
5. Won't test your boundaries too much
thank you so much, dear♥️
Shit.
Looks like I fucked it up with 5.
Me ENTP guy probably now understood why he fucked up with the girl he loves
No 5 is a deal breaker for me.
Much appreciated !
A grande questão é: Qual dos MBTI's preenchem todos estes requisitos?
Não adianta falar que é o ENFP porque considero a personalidade deles muito volátil e não parecem preencher bem o segundo requisito.
- someone who can make us more spontaneous, make us take breaks from being a crazy planner
- someone who has a fixed identity
- someone who can decide what they want and not just be okay with "whatever"
- someone whos not afraid to slap us back into reality
- someone who respects our boundaries
- someone whos willing to accept advice, open-minded
- someone who appreciates our way of thinking and how we see the world
- someone who appreciates a good listener and like to be unravelled
What type does this typically fall under? This video really soothes my relationship soul, however I don’t believe I will find her.
@@TaxEvasi0n Well I'm an INTJ and this description fits me pretty well ;) ... when I start to open up to someone
IRYL My 20+ yr ESTP partner has the 1st half of the list without a doubt, but there have been some definite struggles on the latter items over the years. 😂
I'd say ENTPs are the best fit as long as they are using their Fe; sharing Ti and Fe with them means they can truly understand how you feel while having a sligthly different way of looking at the world, after that I'd say ENFP and ENFJs. INFJ x INFJ is also realy good though, if both aren't too similar and one is active like an ENTP generally is.
What do you mean by unraveled?
I’m an INFJ and require a partner who is emotionally independent and can’t live without me. Does that make sense? Ok.
😂😂😂....sadly, it makes perfect sense to me. Lol🤦🏾♀️😂😂😂
@@lauriel.4667 yes it makes sense right?! I needed that validation fellow INFJ
Yes, you want that person to have a solid frame of who they are and are extremely attracted to you. That is the ideal for the average person
Perfect sense!
Completely!
I'm an INFJ and I really need someone for deep talk, ugh everyone is robbing my energy with nonsense bs.
Just.lisa_marie this this this !!!!!
I feel exactly the same i feel so different so weird like I'm an alien here and my deep talk weirds people out and it's just so hard to find someone like me
Same!
INFPs actually tend to end up doing this to me quite a lot, because I tend to have similar interests to them, and while I invest all my energy in the relationship, they just end up using me like a counselor and not treating meike I'm a friend, more like I'm their occasional advisor.
perioddd AHSH
Me, an INTP who is romantically interested in an INFJ person (and totally isn't studying how they work): Interesting.
ME, ive been looking into them for 2 weeks and i still cant understand how they work
I still don't understand how I even work lolz being an eye of Jay doesn't suck but it's definitely different most times I love it because I feel so different. And when I'm really on fire I often predict what people are about to say next very easily but it's a lonely road no one can relate to me except another infj and I have yet to meet another. I hope to become the first worldwide famous infj wish me luck
@@lyrical_profit9518 It's a lonely road only if you want to make it feel like a lonely road. I've found that not only INFJs can relate to me, but also other NF(Idealists) types. It's not hard to find some of those. Also,I do wish you achieve your dreams - which seem to be fame-related - but I'll have to let you know that INFJs are very well established in the "famous spectrum" already (M.L. King, Nelson Mandela, Ghandi, even Hitler, as well as some more recent writers, psychologists, celebrities etc). So yeah,you won't really be the first famous INFJ but I surely do hope you achieve your dream of becoming famous and using this fame for an objectively good cause.
same gurlll
Rare bird! Can you teach that to other women?
When someone asks a question, it's not rare for me to ask, "what do you mean?" Not because I don't understand the question necessarily, but because I could interpret the intent of the question in several different ways.
Vincisomething yesss.I feel you.
Yes. My most used word is why?? I just wanna know what someone is thinking and really what is the point!!! Give me the bottom line!!!
I'm an INFP and I also see many angles
yeah me too. i hope the people i am talking doesn't think i don't understand what they are talking about.
Indeed... 😌
“Can we come back to earth? This is where we live.”
As an INFJ girl, I can confirm that I really need someone to help me with this. I can spend HOURS in my own world.
INFJ male
Can totally relate.... it's a blessing in disguise, sometimes I get so lost in myself it frustrates the shit out of me..... best thing I can do is write it all out in a diary or something, hope it helps and take care of yourself.
@@prakhargoyanka3891 Yo, good luck to you too! Writing down stuff is probably the best thing to do, other than talking to someone. I for one, don’t like to open up to people and seem to keep everything in my own little bubble. So good luck, but be careful! Don’t let your thoughts turn negative, or everything will go downhill! I know from experience, so just be careful. What helped me a lot is making and doing goals, it enables me to do something everyday, stay away from negative thoughts/feelings, and helps me become a better person. So have a good day! 😊
@@shayla_lesk1542 We are (INFJ's) entrapped within an infinite feeling of longing, left over from "the event" in our lives where we felt comfort during chaos provided by another person or habitual activity at a stage in our lives when our imaginations were still at full throttle. The world to us was on a path too isolation from the moment of awareness but our beauty lies within the anomoly of constant awareness and our ability to describe our thoughts and desires in the poetic justice we lend the world. U are adored for being unique and human.
@@prakhargoyanka3891 yeah writing in a diary helps but then I procrastinate and get lost and then don’t do it 🤣
Imagine INFJ + INFJ, will they create a world for them or live in their own?
I'm really curious about INFJ/INFJ dates.
Everyone should just have a sims marker with their personality type above their heads 😂
But I'm an INTP. I don't make myself visible enough for this to be useful. 😂
I'll set up an omnidirectional infrared signal from my phone or something.
Ellie B. Haha 😂 yes that way people can still find you if needed, but you can keep your space!
Lol 😀
If they so desired.. xD
@@ellieb.1231 if that even exist i can prank more stupid people hey this is a great idea
I, an INFJ, would really appreciate a partner who inspires me and helps me to improve myself and get me to do things I actually always wanted to do in a direct but not forcing way. Idk of this makes sense
Perfect sense. Also direct but not critical or making fun of me.
i am your 100th like. Congratulations!
Get yourself an ENFJ.
Yes, it's called motivating someone and not boss them 😉 makes total sense.
IT IS MAKING HUGE SENSE 😁
I'm INFJ and I need someone who's helpful and makes me feel appreciated. I don't want to feel like someone's mommy doing everything. I'm pretty easy to make happy. I don't like feeling used or unappreciated
Heidi Bemis Agreed. Someone who takes advantage of my kindness or tries to use me is just asking for the ‘Door Slam’ 🚪 💨
Same here... I am also an INFJ. I like genuine people who don't try to take me for granted. Emotional manipulation or self centered behaviour is a big turn off.
This is perfect
Totally agree with this!
Same
People thought I was spontaneous for booking a trip to Ireland 3 days before the flight - but the truth is as an INFJ I have thought about this trip for months if not years and planned to the hour my itinerary before booking the flight. With our over analysing brain, we are often full of ideas and plans, some fully formed and thought out, but are simply only executed on a whim making it seem spontaneous.
drzmak exactly. I make big sudden changes (according to others’ perspective) but i plan meticulously because the fallout from traveling suddenly without planning well is never pretty nor something my sensitive self wants to deal with. I wanna know I’ll be in a safe comfy bed and eating well etc.
drzmak I hope you enjoyed your trip 🇮🇪
Same. People always tell me "oh going to london for uni is expensive" like I haven't been planning it since I was 15. Like trust me it was a big decision but I'm fucking ready!
I feel you 😂😂😂
People think i am so spontaneous for getting tattoos "on a whim" but honestly I think about them for YEARS
"That sounded a little sinister, but I didn't mean it in a bad way "
What a very INFJ thing to say😂
In the end wasn't it quite charming?! The idea of unwraping a gift or observing a flower slowly blooming...
@@anne-lisepollet5071 indeed, I kinda loved the way he said it and then I giggled when he said "not in a bad way" cuz for me, it was not necessary to clarify...😅
I thought when he said that, that we are trying to unravel a person's inner most thoughts ,like unraveling a dark chocolate Hershey kiss, to get past that rough foil and into the rich inner workings of a piece of chocolate.
My thoughts I ment
Yea, I noticed it that way and saying literally same words when he said it
My boyfriend is an INFJ and I am an INFP. We literally have this discussion a lot "I want what you want" "No, you tell me what you want." "No you decide..." At the end we often have to guess what the other one wants. I am trying my best to make him feel safe to set boundaries. I am uncomfortable with deciding for him too much. Also as I am an INFP he is one of few people where I feel seen, heard and understood. We can deep talk for hours. However, he loves giving advice and helping others and I don't him to give too much, as I don't want him to exhaust himself. I want him to know that he is worthy of being cared for and listened to too. So I guess that's why I am watching videos about INFJs at 2am.
Haha cool, I'm an INFJ and my boyfriend is an INFP 😄
If he's anything like me - trust me, he prefers you to decide for him. If he makes a decision of his own you'll be the first to know 😂
It sounds like you need to build trust that he can and will share his wants and needs. Perhaps a conversation about what his boundaries, wants, and needs are might help to create that foundation? Or practicing as a hypothetical, just to build trust and comfortability around those kinds of conversations ahead of time? Perhaps he’ll have a suggestion how he can earn your trust in this area.
I will take one of you please, kindly point me in the direction where I can locate a clone
Don't forget honesty. I don't know about the other INFJ's, but if you lie to me, I never fully trust you ever again. Especially if you lie to me while seemingly opening up to me. It makes me feel weirdly offended and ruins what little trust I have in the beginning
I’m also an INFJ and that’s the same with me
Absolutely amen to this.
THIS
Except in relationship. For the worthed one, we can try to give second chance since they lied as a nature to survive or protect theirself. We can let them know its better to be honest even hurt, rather lie but we already know behind the scene.
@@florentineflorentine5059 true
Frank: How I talk sounds weird...
Me an INFJ: What do you mean you talk weird? I understand exactly what you're saying.
Frank: ...except to my fellow INFJ's who are right there with me.
Me: Oooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh, makes sense.
This means u haven’t understood what he meant until he explained tho.
INFJs are sometims a walking paradox arent they
As an enfp I think the infj way of speaking is charming :D because it's so much more concise than my rambles, but still has emotional elements. Idk that's how my boyfriend speaks he's an infj
@@valeriapebble I don't understand lol I'm an INFJ
@@jasminemedellin5824 it's ok I don't understand either 🤣 like I get on side stories about the side stories
I think every INFJ needs a partner who is into personal growth. Also, it would be really cool to see a video all about "NF" talk.
Agreed. I stated the same; personal growth
What kind of personal growth?
I hadn't thought of this but wow... This is going to save me a lot of time on the dating scene....
ME: are you into personal growth
DATE: Umm not really
ME: Next 😂
🙏🏼🙂
Yes. Growth is huge and nonnegotiable. And FJ does NF talk all the time. I need to make my ESFJ husband watch all his videos so he understands it’s not just me...😂
SJ Percy ask about books they like etc. people agree about anything but what do their actions show? If they are into personal growth you will see it throughout their life and how they talk. 😊🌸
Frank: INFJs question their identity a bit too much sometimes
Me, an INFJ, who wanted to post something about certain traits, but was afraid it would not resonate with other INFJs and who would therefore question my identity, causing me to question my own identity: *sweats*
HAHAHHA my exact thoughts
i swear i’ve tested myself at least 8 times hahaha
Yesss currently sweating right now!
Lmfao love u guys !!! XD 💖🌟 ENFJ here
Yoooooooo
Me as an INFJ: Gives great advice to others regarding life, the universe and everything; Can't advise myself about practical matters pertaining to general living on Earth🤔😭
SAME lmaooo
I do the same thing holy shit XD One second Im helping a friend and the next I forget the tea kettle has been screaming for the past 5 minutes LMAO
TRUE
yes, the same problem what we have to do guys? I don't wanna be useless
ATTACKED!! 😂
So, my dating profile:
*Need someone who doesn't push my boundaries, but allows me to gently unravel them...*
hhh, I'm still looking for my girl. the weird thing is I found myself opening up in my profile and don't care who's gonna watch it !!
I love that about my husband, an INTJ. He knows when I'm not ready to hear something and chooses his timing wisely, but is also a deep and mysterious person. After 16 years of marriage, I still learn things.
Yes, yes my Princess 🙃 xoxo💗
🔥🔥🔥
Except I have been advised not to use too many negatives in the dating profile (e.g. what you are NOT looking for in a partner) because you could end up sounding resentful or cynical. I don't agree or disagree with this, but I have been following this rule
"let's come back to earth .. this is where we live, WELCOME" 😂 as an INFJ, I need to tell that to myself all the time !
😂Same almost every day
Same 😂
i was lost in thought when he said that and had to rewind to see what i missed
My partner tells me that almost daily.
It reminds me of a conversation I had with an INFJ friend the other day. I said something like that. I felt bad afterwards, though. ENFP here hahah.
me, an INFJ : *knows what i need in a relationship*
sees this video in recommendations: lets find out if im right
same
Ditto
Well...? What's the verdict?
"U need someone..who maybe even understands, wat ur trynna say" - Frank 2020
*Sigh*. If only...
“You guys have watched my videos right? You know that half of what I say is like ‘what?!’” No. Native INFJs. Fluent in INFJ.
Same! I get everything he says, or doesn't finish saying.
Exactly. 😂 When he said that, I was like - I don't understand, I fully understand you.
Yep! I follow everything he says and usually can pick up on the thoughts he doesnt finish too 🤣 It is funny seeing that play out in real life though! My friend is an ENFJ/P and while she can keep up with me most times, there are moments where she looks at me like I'm an alien freak and has me re-explain everything.
yep...!
Or you get with the NT who can listen and be all “So what you just spent 30min saying is xyz.” (In one short sentence) And NFs are all - “Yes! Exactly!”
-- Hillary J ENTP/NF Interpreter 😉
INFJ’s need relationship experience only to realize they don’t actually need a partner....friends are a necessity though
THIS!!
Raziax They usually just add extra stress to my life with minimal benefits. I really can’t speak for everybody, but a lot of people know what it’s like.
Wait, what does this mean? As an INFJ you eventually realize that you don't need a partner? As in, you find out you don't need or want a husband/wife? Just as long as you have friends - which are necessary as you say... ?
Martha Murray Yes. But that’s not for everybody that seems to have this personality type though. That’s just me.
Whats a friend
One day I woke up and realized most my friends were INFJs. I believe I offer my INFJ friends and family these things that they crave:
1) Structure and direction
2) My INFJ friends like to be around loudly quirky people because it makes them feel less weird and more comfortable opening up
3) Loyalty, reliability and honesty are paramount to an INFJ, who are often taken advantage of by other types
4) INFJs like my directness because they feel comfortable when they know what their role is and how they fit in
5) INFJs hate manipulation, and they would rather be asked for a favor or even commanded. INFJs usually enjoy working under me because there are no games or hidden expectations to navigate. Everything is clear and the rules are known and fair.
6) INFJs tend to come out of the woodwork to be the wingman for my masterplans. They like big plans that enact change. They want to make an impact.
7) I like to break down and discuss theory and ideas, and INFJs love joining in and discussing things they thought no one else cared about
Hold up… what do you do and do you need more help because you sound like an awesome thought partner to work with…
You looking for any new employees? Lol
So what is your personality type? INTJ? Everything you said makes perfect sense to me. We are team players by nature and though we can lead we don't feel obsessed with being the leader or controlling the show. We are great wingmen or partners in crime.😉 It sounds like you have a pretty good grasp of things to me. 🤙
Same here. They tend to be okay friends, less okay romantic interests for me.
Where do I sign up lol
I’m an ENFP and my husband is a ISTJ. when I talk all nonsensical it amuses him. One time we were at the beach, sitting on the sand, enjoying a romantic night. I was staring at the water deep in thought and he turned to me and said “what are you thinking about” and I said “how many dead bodies do you think are in the ocean?”. His reaction was priceless and he knew right away what kind of person I am 🤣
As an ENFP, I approve this comment 🤣🤣🤣🌈🐻👍
I really want to meet an ISTJ, a complete polar opposite of my personality hahaha
🤣😂🤣😂👍
Holy shit!!!! I thought I was the only one. I live in San Diego and have completely freaked myself out at the beach over the past many years here. Tee-hee! How many dead people? Are you old enough to remember the Tsunami? I was not in the water for over a year.
Dead human bodies in the ocean? Interesting thought.
How many permafrost, megafauna carcasses are now thawing out, and drip drip dripping their ancient funk into the streams>rivers>oceans of the planet? Skin, hair, bone, and flesh that hasn’t been kissed by oxygen or the sun’s light for over 12,000 years...now slowly marinating in a soup of polar meltwater and cradled by oceanic currents.
I’m sure we’ll adapt.
@@iumcon8647 Okay, that's disgusting.
ENFP passing through here! Just a little appreciation post for you INFJs.
Some of my closest friends are INFJs, and I can only speak for what I know from my friendships with them, but I truly cherish the special bond I have with each of them. We're comfortable enough to have deep conversations with each other, and appreciate each other's related, yet not identical, views on the world. Like looking at two different sides of the same coin. The other's perspective often stops us in our tracks. Sometimes INFJs have such a unique take on the world, and it's incredible. I also feel like we see aspects of each other that other people seem to miss. Being people who easily understand others but often find themselves feeling pretty misunderstood, I think it’s something we both really appreciate. INFJs are so sharp and intuitive, it's like they see a part of me I wish the rest of the world could see. I think we can also sense each other's boundaries and needs for space, and it ends up feeling really safe with them.
I also love how INFJs are planners. I can be kind of an easily-distracted, go-with-what-I-feel-right-now mess myself, so I like that about them. But most of all I love how INFJs are usually great listeners, because I have so much I want to share, like I'm just bursting to share all my ideas and am longing for someone to actually want to listen and share them with me. I feel like INFJs are great people to share a lot of this with. In fact, I think you'd be appealing to different kinds of people because of your many good qualities.
oh my goodness I've digressed and written an essay. Is anyone actually going to read this? Anyway, I think you INFJs are so interesting, complex, insightful, and you can also be very sweet. I hope you know you’re great and I know that not everyone really "gets" you, but I hope you find the meaningful relationships in life that you’re looking for :)
Thank you so much! I am an INFJ female and I really needed this. I have had my share of people who say that I am very boring or rude and all that non real stuffs about me. I somewhat am happy to know that people like us and that they want to have us in their lives. 😄😄
@@sakshipathak7298 you're very welcome! people who think you're boring or rude just don't understand your very special complexity, in my opinion! :)
Awww this INFJ loves what you wrote! I enjoy hearing other types’ perspectives of us, and what you said about infjs seeing a different part of others that many might not see really resonated with me. I believe I have a gift for being able to see people for who they really are and understand them better than most. I’m glad that you noticed that!
@@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202 thank you so much!
@@janellegarden4689 aww yay, I'm glad you liked what I wrote then. :) I'm sure you do have that gift, and it is indeed a gift!
Overthinking is part of me. It's the only thing I'm good at. But you're right sometimes we need to chill out.
"Don't overthink too much" that was my advice to myself
overthinking is my everyday habit
I can relate. But I've been practicing taking a leap of faith and just saying "go!" when I'm over thinking about something I'm about to do, and it's definitely been helpful for me.
what exactly is "over" thinking. Like Mozart, I do exactly the right amount of thinking, not one thought more or less. What other persons do is not my issue.
Oh dont forget, don’t get too attached !
I'm INFJ and I had a dream a few nights back where my perfect partner did something unexpected that I never knew I always wanted: I wanted to go to him but I was afraid of rejection so instead I laid on the floor near his room and just went to sleep. He came out - saw me - laid down next to me - pulled me into his arms - and also went to sleep. It - was - perfect!
Sounds like a perfect dream
girl your dreams sound like my day dreams..... 💀💀
Strange loll :D
I am an INFJ and I tend to be attracted to extroverted people. I need someone who can take me out of my comfort zone and yes, slap me out of my INFJ "haze" that I occasionally dwell on..lol
A I most definitely
Hi where is your profile pic from? Its cool
phoebe phoebe - it's from a classic anime called Galaxy Express 999... The character is named Maetel.
@@ai4052 thanks ! Is it any good? My favotite anime os cowboy bebop :D
Same here. Not romantically tho. I like having extroverted friends to carry me around and take me out of my comfort zone. I'm a good listener so they can talk as much as they want xD
I just realised you’re one of the few channels that has the decency and consideration to announce when a youtube ad will show up. That’s pretty INFJ, I feel I would do the same thing 😂
Do you have a premium account, bu any chance ? 🙄😉
Wow, as that came up, you comment was the one I was going to read and I thought exactly that.
The first time in UA-cam history a youtuber announces an ad. He is truly one of the few people that is capable of impressing me.
Yes very cool 😁
I used to work as a drug counsellor and one of my colleagues once said that when she watched me work with clients it was like seeing someone perform open heart surgery without the person even noticing! I took that as a massive compliment!
That is for sure a very nice compliment. Take it to your heart.
I'm an INTJ currently dating an INFJ and I literally never felt what I feel now. She is the only one who can warm my heart and the beautiful thing is how mutual everything is about us. There are some difference in our personalities but they seem to compensate each others. I tend to be more conscious about my feeling but also more judging about them, while she is less of that but still super understanding. I love everything about her, don't wanna loose her.
Right there with you, never had a relationship go as well as it has with my INFJ, we’ve been engaged a few months now, but honestly I knew she was the one I wanted to marry within months of our first date.
To be fair we’re childhood friends so that wasn’t a completely uninformed decision, basically all I needed to know was how things would change after the relationship changed, if that makes sense.
Marry her ❤
Awwww❤❤
I am an INFJ (F) happily in a safe and secure relationship with INTJ (M)
Awww same thing infj with infp, we have been together for a long time.
I just really love it that I feel "normal" when I watch your videos and read the comments, finally. It's quite a relief. Thank you for sharing this and putting an effort into this.
Ditto. I often feel bad about not having friends. But, listening to you feels like friendship to me. I'll make sure I listen more often especially when I feel I need a friend. Because listening to you is validation.
Same. I felt most of my problems with my personality were uniquely my own, in spite of the various other INFJs I'd encountered. Now with this channel, I've never felt so seen before.
Are those traits of being very intospective, and overly deep, and relenting, and having lots of boundaries and abstract and subjective typical INFJ traits? Im INFJ and man this guy sounded so familiar to me. I didnt know anyone else thought like this. I mean, i went to a psych for depression and now im stuck being tested for autism because i couldnt give yes/no or 1-10 answers. It would be awesome is this was just a personality thing.
Yep. The loneliness of it all gets so hard to bear sometimes. This stuff really helps me feel less like ill be alone forever.
I know. I totally feel you. Everytime I watch his videos I sort of felt at home or someone understands and I feel all happy.
Who else feels like "The ONE" for you maybe an alien sometimes and can't be found on earth?
LOL I feel like I'm from Planet nice and everyone else is living on planet ahole. LOL ex scuze my language. I married an ASpie. I shoulda got at least an NT.
🙋🏾♀️I found my alien and managed to mess things up with my insecurities😔Definitely don’t think another one will be on earth lol
🤣🤣🤣 Yeah
me!
It's frustrating seeing all the INFJs crying that they are single and can't find anyone while describing qualities and behaviours that nearly perfectly match XDDD. This entire video was just one additional piece of my confirmation bias lol
Well, for a not spontaneous person, you're very spontaneous with your hair, Frank.
Aida Denisa it’s the most spontaneous thing we may ever do.
I change my hair all the time. I say it is the artistic soul in me.
It is the inferior Se at work. I love changing hair, makeup, outfit style, and accessories. I am surrounded by people who hardly ever change their preferred appearance. I am the only one constantly switching appearance.
@Frank James I should really stop checking my notifications in public. I should wait till i get home to freak out over the fact that you hearted my comment. It's so hard to keep cool while internally being like *Jbdhbskabfnbsjakdbakaj* 🤦♀️
Don't stop doing it tho 😂
That’s why INFJ’s are so rare and complex. It’s so hard to figure us out completely. We look like extroverts on the outside by doing spontaneous things time to time but are deeply inherent introverted geeks lol
As an ENTP who’s been married to an INFJ female for over 26 years, it’s definitely been an adventure. Communication is key
well INFJ's talk with Emotional Logic, an a lot can't take it or get weirded out by it.
from my experience.
You are 100% correct on that, because Logic although abstract is an emotion as well.
I would give you more in greater detail, but it is ridiculously complex which I'd rather not have to go through.
....that is SO true 👍👊
Trueee
One of my closest friend is an INFJ, i'm so lucky. Everytime I talk about a something he understands. Unlike others who got weirded out because we base on Emotional Logic.
aftonology101 what are you on about. Abuse doesn’t form an INFJ personality.
I have an INTP friend who is incredibly good at taking one of my hour long bumbling ramblings and translate it into about 3 solid sentences. It's amazing.
My INTJ friend do that too! It's so good, that someone can "translate" your "bla,bla,bla" in 3 sentences, that other people understand.
😆 Love it.
INTP's can do that so well!! Thank god for having them.
Hah! I just commented on that up the thread! As an ENTP I do that for NF friends ALLLL the time 😂
I do this for my INFJ wife. I love it.
ENFP here, and INFJ's are my favorite type of people 😅
Also an enfp; same .
ENFP here. I also agree. They are adorable and kind of mysterious xD I find them fascinating and fun and cute.
Wow I used to test as ENFP in high school, now in college I test as INFJ 🤷♀️
ENFPs pair well with INFJs :)
Yay 😊 I am an ENFP and my wonderful boyfriend is an INFJ
I'm a female INFJ... I was married when I was a 17 year old teenager, I divorced 2 years later when I was 19... I'm 67 now.. and I don't think that I'll ever get married again. I love living alone. I had a Great Aunt who married young and her husband died soon after, she lived to be 105 years old and was happy alone.
INFJ: cant spontaneously come up with an example of something spontaneous. 😆
Ha! That's awesome. Verbally i am like a gun slinger. I always have a great retort. As for acting spontaneous, I'll get back to you when I have a plan for that.
Lastrelationshipwas25yrsagolivedondrinkingandonenightstandsimstillkindahotsoicangetlaidjustnotsober
Yess 😫, im always anxious when people starting to ask my decision spontaneously, like hold up i need to think--
YAAAAASSSSSS!!!!!
@@jerryb7185 It's like even when I think I'm doing something spontaneus, I already have plans for what could happen what could go wrong and what to do xd
Watching this as a very happily married INFJ and you’re basically describing my relationship with my husband. It makes me even more thankful than I already am to have found such a compatible partner. Don’t give up, INFJs, there’s someone out there and you’ll totally know it when you find them. ♥️
Me too. The first thing I noticed about my husband was his kind but bright eyes, and the connected way in which he talked to everyone he came into contact with. So I knew right away that he was not only a kind heart, but had spark and drive too. He's extremely practically helpful, and enjoys personal growth like I do. One thing that's different about us is that he is perfectly happy to speak his opinions about other people (he is from New York- I'm from humble New Zealand), and I actually find that really refreshing. I'm not outspoken and don't like saying negative things about people (even if they are kind of horrible people), but he'll say it, and I'll be like- "Ouch, that's harsh!" but secretly be celebrating because that's what I would want to say- if I were bolder! I don't know what personality type he is- he doesn't like being put in a box, so he won't take it. I wouldn't be surprised if we were both the same, but with variations on the scale (like maybe he is a bit less introverted than me, and more assertive- like a strong INFJ?) But we both accept each other for who we are, which is wonderful.
You know his type?
I hope I can say this one day. I'm 26 and never been in a relationship. :( I'm losing hope lol
Same girl!
@@Mycuriousnature he’s probably an ENFJ or ENFP
infj are not just a personality they are a family a big family that is spread around the world
😊😊😊🖤🖤
🤗 since i studied these videos about INFJs and read the comments from fellow INFJs, i felt so relieved because finally i found someone who is the same as me, i don't feel all weird and all alone anymore because i know scattered around the world i still have my INFJ brothers and sisters that i am bound to meet later in my life 🥺🥲
Umbrella Academy?
I'm the only infj in my immediate family
I really appreciate your words 🥺. I think youre RIGHT!!!! 🖤🖤We are conected by our minds O.O
You basically just described my therapist....oh boy.
I am INFJ. My husband is ISTP. While I am planning he is doing. He will quietly take charge of things without being bossy, which I love. When we're planning to go out, I will take a while to get myself together, while he is ready to go. He frequently says to me "I'll be in the car waiting." Lol.
I love our differences, but our similar introversion and values tie us together. He's the best.
omg i want this😭
you're so fortunate. I'm ISTP who was married to an INFJ and it was a disaster. She was like some sort of alien whom I could get a handle on sometimes, and oftentimes, just couldn't relate to. well, plus she had OCD and some other issues, lol. I would often be like, "Who are you? What planet are you from?" lol. Never, ever will I date an INFJ again, lol. I want someone who is simply not crazy. lol
I’m infj and my long term boyfriend is an istp! It was a very bumpy relationship at first, but we’ve come to understand eachother better with time and each have matured and come to learn what we need to be fulfilled (thankfully) I love that for you, goals!
So happy for you.
Im an ENFP and im in love with an infj. Just wondering you opinion, do you think my extroversion will be a hinderance in our relationship?
As an infj woman, I respond best to an alpha male that is a gentleman. I simply melt at his command.
Yes so do I....
Definitely...
Wow this is exactly it ....
Maybe your INFP not an INFJ. I’m an INFP and I totally realize Id love a gentleman who can sooth me and also true masculinity
Well, I see an alpha male as knowing who he is and what he wants. A gentleman would respect my boundaries. These points were made in the video. Also if he is secure enough in himself, he may not mind being gently unraveled.
80% of my life is lived inside my head. And the over planning an event or situation is just sometimes confusing I really wish I could understand myself.
I over pack for everything! ~
I understand you so much...
I feel so understood by this comment
same 😂🤣
Lunastaria SpiritDiva YES YES.i remember being on this one school trip(it was for 2 days)and I had packed a TON of cloths.
I'm INFJ and all I really want in a partner is someone who supports me when needed but also lets me be independent. I need someone who can tie me down to earth but also set me free.
As an INTP who has a crush on an INFJ...
We get along super well, and she's legitimately told me she's the most comfortable around me and one other person...
I don't think we'll ever be a thing, despite how devoted my feelings for her have been for years... she's so amazing, smart, unique, fun, energetic.. and while she's very confident on the outside, which is impressive, she's very anxious underneath... which makes it even more impressive that she acts confident.
Im so laid back though- im open to conversation about all kinds of things, but I feel like i'm not 'passionate' enough for her...
I love just listening to her talk and think, even about the more taboo and disturbing or political topics...
*sigh...*
I love that woman so much-
Me, almost exactly the same, as an INTP who have a crush on INFJ girl. Also fell so deep.
*wipe little tears*
So you got friendzoned by her, also maybe she is manipulating you.
I hope it works out. Sometimes it just takes an INFJ some time... but she will never leave once she surrenders.
@aftonology101 How's that Toxic Femininity treating you, though?
Go get her man.....lol
How is it possible to have so many hairstyles
Suaveness
He IS blue steel!
it's a blessing... and a curse
Are you kidding? For the behavior chameleon of the MBTI world, it's a natural thing! ;)
Jeremy!! You missed the Live Stream!! Shame! Lol anyway hope you are well!
As an INFJ, I appreciate you giving us a heads up whenever an ad is gonna play👌🏻
Literally 😂
Same here -INTJ
Absolutely, me too. REALLY confortable u.u
Yess it's funny and I like the thrill of not knowing if the ad will actually play XD - INFP
100% I found this so cool not gonna lie
“I can’t even think of something spontaneous…” 😂. Meanwhile my ENFP brain already has 3 examples. INFJs are so cute and absolutely wonderful human beings. Can’t wait to squish my INFJ later today. 😊
look i'm spontaneous okay? sometimes i get a muffin with my cup of tea when i go out to write at the cafe
does an unspontaneous person do that? i think not
depends, what type of muffin? if you say one kind, then no...... :D
Woah now calm down! Next you're going to get a cupcake just to mess with us 😨
That is my exact definition of spontaneous. Although I'd probably use the mobile app to order so I don't get flustered at the counter.
@@anniksart907 Is it spontaneity to cancel a meeting (in the last moment) with your friend 'cause you'd rather stay home? Or that, that I late many times 'cause things didn't turn out as I expected? -I wasn't planning to be late...
Admit it, you find the perfect muffin flavor and then get it every time you decide to be spontaneous. 😀
Best thing about a rotary phone: Plenty of time to change your mind, while dialing😃
Yes!!! Lol And plenty of time to decide whether you want to pick it up as it won't jump to voicemail after five rings!
Does the rotary phone work? I have one just like it but never tested it because there is no land line service in my house. Looks very cool tho
😂
Right!?!?🤣😂
I have that same phone...😂🤣😳. Couldn’t believe it when I saw one at Franks house! INFJs...
"that NF way of talking" PREACH sis omg, ENFP gal here and i swear people think i can't speak english sometimes because i can't figure out how to make sense 😂
I absolutely want an NF talk explanation video. It makes no sense.
I agree!! -a fellow enfp
People like you make me feel like I am actually an ENTP... You just seem more ENFPish than I do, mainly because I can't jingle jango the boogle doot that well outside the internet, and even online, I sometimes just dive into debates and spend hours arguing about the sex of the angels, or the hell is happening on my feed...
I am an infp and my partner is an infj and here is somethings i noticed about him
1. he can be very sensitive to things
2. he constantly is overthinking
3. i started to always notice things he doesnt say and he appreciates that alot
4. but when i do something small just as an appreciation of him, he is really really grateful for that
he always overthinking things and it can be both good and bad. But thats where i come in to help him with that and he needs someone to tell him where its too much so like the video said calling him out. Don’t be afraid to call them out at times because thats what they or as i know my partner who is an infj thats what he needs as he’s constantly in his head. But i see no problem with that as i do love him dearly
PS this is just to share information about an infj not to criticize them in anyway!! i hope whoever reads this has a better understanding of infjs
Yep do not critize them, you gotta be kind with them, you gotta understand how we feel, we already are very harsh on ourselfs, we need someone to make us feel at ease, we are very emotional and sensitive. Dating life for us is an struggle.
Yes! I'm with INFJ also, and I have never met a guy like that before. I keep telling him 😂 we had to adjust at first because of our insecruties and stuff, but we talked about it alot and now it's great. 😊 I honestly never met a guy like that before and still in shock and impressed about him 😂 we can chat for hours and never get tired.
Dang I'm also an INFP and an INFJ she's just toyed me, borderline evil and crazy stuffed with pain. Like wtf is wrong with INFJ people?
@@ErikAdalbertvanNagel hahaha I just read my comment. I'm not with my INFJ anymore because he lied to my face so I dumped him. I can't tolerate lies.
@@ErikAdalbertvanNagel everything? Lol. I'm even scared of myself. 🥲😂
I like that you would cue the youtube ad because it feeds my INFJ need for predicability.
yellayeah yessss.
and the second an add didn’t show up I would be mad.
How does he knows a ad will going to happen?????
Poonam Thakur you get to choose where to insert the ads.
And the ads don't interupt a sentence.
When you’re an NF and you’re trying to go on giving your opinion on a complex topic and end it with a “I don’t know if this made sense but yeah..” 😅😂😂
Omg that's me. Lol
I say that all the time too!
Literally word for word🤯😅
As an ISTP, I can’t understand NF’s... I’m totally fine with NTs and SFs but I don’t comprehend how feelings can be “so complicated”😂
@@Laura-Yu We are basically just winging it at this point lol if it flows, it goes 😂
Spontaneity? 😱 Yeah, we need to mentally prepare for everything. 😂
@@mindabobis7601 yeah, I think she meant she really needs it because we mentally prepare for everything and not really as spontaneous, as Perceivers, so 😅
@minda Bobis I had this definition of spontaneity in mind, since I would describe myself as a planner:
“the quality of being natural rather than planned in advance”
I can adapt to others as needed, but I definitely prefer to mentally prepare when able. My ENTP, on the other hand, loves spontaneity. He prefers to go about life “winging it,” in his words.
Michelle Kaminer this. This is what I’ve been trying to put into words for years
I'm falling for INFJ. I am ENFP myself. He's like no one I ever met before and I'm eager to see how far we will grow
Me too
Same here
As a male INFJ, He'll provide you with a mystery worth exploring. Just remember to communicate clear boundaries and allow the space to grow with each other
I'm dating an ENFP gal as an INFJ! Communication and boundaries! Don't press him too hard and he should indicate what's comfortable c：
How did it turn out?
“Welcome to Earth. This is where we live.”
Yeah, fine, I guess.
nope, we are passing through! For me there is a forever home in Christ.
I thought that was funny too
When I met my partner he talked me into going on holiday with him and his whole family after 3 WEEKS! Still can't believe I did that . It's 10 years later now!
WOW.
I'm an INTP and I'm not sure a partner could get me on a family vacation after three *years*. My own family hasn't managed to wrangle me into one in three *decades*.
I know! Mine has a fascination with just "dropping in" to visit people.....without calling and Washington first! 😱 it's been 24 years....
Lol she met my parents after 3 weeks and I met hers after 4. (Not 10 years though)
“what world are you living in”..
me: starts thinking
“earth this is where we live, welcome”
me: huh.. oh yeah *rewinds video*
Oh god I literally did the same thing. XDDD
@@laniagultom Pausing requires a foresight and level of self-awareness that I aspire to reach someday. My hat is off to you. 🤣
😂😂😂
This happens to me a lot and I'm INFP lol
I didn't realize I do the same thing quite a lot until I read this comment... ya got me.
I'm an ENTP, and my wife is an INFJ. We just celebrated our 15th anniversary; I attribute that to us both realizing each other's strengths and weaknesses and, henceforth, building on them to create balance.
I constantly find it pretty amazing how different our brains function in so many regards, yet we are also so much alike, not in spite of said differences, but because of them. It's seemingly paradoxical but true, nonetheless.
As with any relationship, it is give and take, finding compromise, and putting one's ego aside long enough to consider the other's perspectives and the subjective nuances which create said perspectives.
It's ok having boundaries was stupid anyway is the most INFJ thing I've ever heard 😆💀😭
That is totally what I came here to say!
He was SO spot on with that!
I'm in a studying my infj crush bcz I really don't get it when infjs saying this, but would u mind if u give more explanation to it? Do the infjs getting hurt and plan a revenge when they yield like that?
oh I was asking my infj bf about his boundaries so I don't accidentally cross it and make him sad but he is like eh ... boundaries is something we will set once we reach that problem. I 'm not sure if he was polite or he is just unsure whare his boundaries are at this point either way I will try to be mindful about what I say and do to him. INTP here ( gosh I'm so bad at acting like a normal person but trust me guys I'm trying so hard )
@Isegard Historically, normal people have made the world a worse place.
Exactly! 😂
I'm INFJ and my daughter is ENFP. We find it hilarious how our personalities are but get along so well.
This makes me laugh, since I'm an ENFP, and my dad's an INFJ! Very different personalities, but ENFP and INFJ just gel together so well, it's insane. On behalf of ENFP daughters everywhere, thank you for your service!
omg my mom is an ENFP and I'm an INFJ, that's so funny. I find we're somewhat different but I also remind us a lot of herself and we complement each other really well
It's the best combo!
Yeah my sister's an ENFP and I'm INFJ and we're practically best friends 😅
Yup, my brother is also ENFP and we've been close since childhood.
My gf is an INFP and I feel like she's my twin soul. We are very similar but at the same time very different, completing each others flaws. She pushes me to do things I wouldn't normally do because of my overplanning nature but at the same time she understands me and how I feel. She supports everything I decide to do and I do the same with her. Through different paths we usually end up agreeing on everything and we spend a lot of our time speaking about infinite topics.
She changed my life and since we got togheter we grew up a lot.
What are you
@@PixelUA-cam INFJ (mistyped as an INTJ for a long time in the past)
@@draak382 ohh noice
I was wondering what kind of things you like about your gf
My crush is infj and im infp so.. yeah 😳😂
I’m an INFP! And my life long best friend is an INFJ we’ve never had a fight in our lives and we’ve been friends for 13 years
@KnightlySkye each person is obviously different, but I noticed some patterns about INFJs, including myself.
We like to observe topics from different point of views but we don't like conflict and "black and white" situations, at least when presented with aggressive tones (so pay attention to the way you unleash your Fi if you are an INFP. Probably for you it's easy to figure out what Is good and what Is not, for INFJs, instead, it's kinda difficult to stand firm for something). We also like to be listened when we give suggestions to others and We like to feel special for our personal way to conceive the world, and when we share that view with someone, we like to discuss (peacefully) about It. So when your friend starts to talk about deep topics you should try to understand his point of view. Also you should try to ask him questions about it and try to partecipate to the conversation presenting your own opinions. If the tipic Is difficult or uninteresting for you, try to make a link to something similar that you like.
In the end the most important thing to avoid with an INFJ Is to make him feel invisible. Just listen and partecipate, he will be grateful to you.
INFP (F) + INFJ (M) highschool sweethearts here. Married 23 years, basically grew up together as a couple. This video was spot on from my (infp) perspective. Sometimes I'm still not sure if I married a guru or a serial killer, but I'm still having fun
When it’s 3 am and you are about to go to bed but you spot a new Frank James video.
Same!😂
4 am here
5 am, just woke up 😄
Ditto
Same
If anyone talks to me about their problems, they are getting advice whether they want it or not haha. I can't help myself
Yup same here!!!!!xd.even if they didn't ask for it
Don't ask if you don't want the truth or advice
Same here! 😂
@@robin-chat2812 that's right! 🤭
Haha
Spontaneous, respects boundaries, bring us back down to earth sometimes, has their own identity, open to advice, a fellow NF or someone who appreciates our feelings based abstract minds! 👍
Chelsea Clark-Martin , obviously you are what we are looking for. Lol
Oh I’m the INFJ! My husband does all of this for me though. He is INFP.
Chelsea Clark-Martin - your coalescence of the video, it made me laugh. 🧡
@@chelseaclark-martin6357 yes infp infj is a great combo. On the exterior we are very much alike but inside we approach things from different angles. The cognitive stack is mirrored if I recall correctly so we complement each other
So true about the advice omg! Always giving my partner advice and he's always telling me to shut up haha.
I'm an INFJ woman and married an ENTJ guy. I highly recommend this combo 👌🏽
Why?
I'm just going to stick with my imaginary partner for the rest of my life.
iluvcandy56 omg me me me
this is the most relatable comment ever. it's so hard to have such high standards, cause no one fits in them, so I better just stick with my imagination :)))
Same
and I thought i am the only one with this idea😅
Most of INFJ been there!
But hey; you gotta feel that body on body sensation...
Most magnificent feeling 😂
For some reason, I always get along the best with ENFPs and INFPs. ENFPs are the most fun to be around. They know how to make me laugh, and I feel they get me. INFPs are the best to talk to and be awkward around. We are comfortable with our awkwardness around eachother where it becomes a joke. I know, that they know, I get them and vice versa. I feel refreshed after hanging out with either one, and I feel like they bring the best out in me.
Happy to read about your views for us♥️
~INFP
I'm an INFJ and my best friend online is an INFP: we're exactly like that. She gets awkward or says something that she has to reword, then I'll get awkward too and just laugh it off with her and continue with our convos. I can have deep convos with her easily, as well as stupid ones. It really is refreshing. I feel understood and like our energies match.
Yes! And it's also because INFP and ENFP are very similar and ENFP is the most introverted of the E's. I used to be ENFP but it changed to INFP not too long ago. I am getting way more introverted, that's why. 😘
As an INFP I only can say that you're not the only one who can read people. The experience for an INFP guys with INFJ girls are like turning the obvious into the most difficult chess game or deathrun on your life. As soon as you start ghosting her they come back, and then starts all over again. So it's not fun for us.
INFPs, INFJs and ENFPs are like a magic trio of weirdos.
@@AnnieIsaLau sorry but you can't just changing types, unless your brain rewired somehow. The E shining from you by only this comment tho.
I’m an INFP and my hubby is an INFJ. In the humble words of Forest Gump, “We are like peas and carrots.”
I am INFJ and my fiancé is INFP.
When we just met he used this exact comparison!! ♥️
Same :D I'm an INFP and my husband is an INFJ. We are married since 4 year. People often wonder how well we fit together. ^^
I was overthinking my infp-infj relationship but I guess it will be alright, thank you all❤
I’m an ENFP male who is engaged with an INFJ, and this video has more than anything served to reinforce the idea that ENFP’s are (dare I say) the best match for INFJ’s. Every one of these qualities are embodied by an ENFP’s Extraverted Intuition (spontaneity, open mindedness, capable of understanding INFJ thought processes, okay with being unraveled and hearing new perspectives) and Introverted Feeling (Strong Fully-Formed identity, Empathy, can appreciate uniqueness of INFJ). I’ve been in many relationships before meeting my fiancé, and can say from the other end that no other type (in my opinion) can appreciate the qualities of an ENFP to the degree that INFJ’s can.
…don’t forget Te! 'Looking for people who call them out!', bringing INFJs back to earth 😂
I need someone who knows when to talk and when to remain silent and enjoy our silence. Idk why but it's really fun 😩👌
And actually, my crush is that type of person. I'm an INFJ and he's an INTJ. We get along together so well. But unfortunately he doesn't like me back, sooo 👀 :")
my partners always seem to think im mad ;-; like.. man im just as confused as you are ;-;
Yes, I can be quiet for hours, thinking thinking... talking ruins my process... and hubby asks "what's wrong?" And I look up dazed and blank, nothing. And then he is SURE... something is up babe...
Yes!!!
Yes! I have a couple friends that feel the need to constantly ask questions when I'm with them. Oh wow, exhausting. Like let's just *be* for a bit.
@@fawnnyoon8659 exactly lol, people tend to think that im sad/mad most of the time because im silent uh
My husband is an INFJ and I'm an INFP. His constant planning drives me bonkers sometimes; but overall, we get along really well. We've also been friends for 20 years. 💜
My dad is an INFJ and my mom is an INFP, and they get along very well most of the time.
They've been together for about 17 years and counting!
The more you give him "the good understanding" of it, and appreciate what it can mean and do, for him and you, you got him big time :) Keep going
That's interesting. I'm an INFP, but I don't think I'm very spontaneous because of my Si. Although I do sometimes wing it, and I don't plan things as much as my SJ parents. I'm trying to imagine how an INFJ could be even less spontaneous than an INFP.
Same dynamic with my INFJ husband and me. I was an INTP but it changed a little over recent years.
@@lalakuma9 We do have inspired actions, which are very spontaneous, unless one is living in a way were one is really holding oneself back. But that has nothing to do with the type. Our inferior/aspirational Se IS spontaneous, but mostly in bursts here and there over a day, over a week, not "any time" like an ENFP for example, our shadow type. Or of course, Se-doms.
I'm an INFJ and I have a INFP partner rn. We clicked. Like damn, I haven't found a connection this deep with him to anyone.
Update?
Me too!
We've almost been together for 2 years now and it's amazing:)
Me too 😍😍😍 we have been together for one year now and it is absolutely beautiful and amazing ❤❤❤
Same! I’m an INFP & my boyfriend is an INFJ and I’ve never been in a relationship that flows so easily
@@Moonchild-sb3fz if still together, did the INFP have to adjust and habituate something like - attentive care, - curiosity, -small acts of service, - dive into and motivate your passions, -bring you outside to sensory fun experiences if you ruminate in NiTi, etc? Im in infp infj rs, and I love to adjust like this but I wonedered if it's common and that you iNFJs feels loved in a particular way that we need to adjust to or understand in the habitual sense
As an INFJ man, my INTP girlfriend is the best partner I could ever ask for. We always balance each other out and we never argue
my intp ex was way too spontaneous for me resulting in our breakup (you can guess just what kind of spontaneity im talking about) granted, besides that, I was extremely comfortable with her and could both read eachothers minds. Which is why I'm still friends with her to this day
First response that came to mind: Separate bedrooms
🙏🏻🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
drivethrupoet oh yes
Yup, I had one! 😂
@@soni8995 lol If you are just starting to date, I wouldn't make too much of my comment. And it has nothing to do with being chaste, it's just needing to be alone to truly relax sometimes. Plus I've always had strange sleeping patterns.
YESSSSSS!!!! Someone who understands that and doesn't take it personally...wah wah wah!!
Dude I had an infj gf and I feel like I may have pushed her boundaries and I think it caused problems and tension between us. I feel bad about that. She seemed very sensitive and valued things strongly and I maybe didn't respect that enough
That's such a great thing to say, I like to think my ex might have something like that cross his mind.
Someone made the same mistake to me and I door-slammed him, but guess what? Even after a long time of no contact he managed to reach out again and gave a sincere apology and we're friends again and have a better relationship than we had before
I think it's probably why we broke up. If I had known that at the time I probably would have acted differently and taken her more seriously. It's hard to know when you see it for the first time. Sometimes I wish I could redo it. But I can't. Just learn for the next girl I guess. I think our personalities clashed a little bit which I feel way bad about. We both felt bad.
@@Nonamagic he may have. You never know. I know I think about it a lot.
@@jeremysmith9694 you can still apologize to her. I think that if you are very honest with her it can make things better.
I'm INFJ and my husband is ENFJ (he just tested recently though lol, I didn't know his personality type until a few weeks ago). His extroverted side helps to balance me. Our 5 year wedding anniversary is next month ❤
God bless you both ❤
God bless ya❤️
Its going to be a happy marriage for y'all! Im an ENFJ and my wife is INFJ. Its a pleasure getting to know and understand yalls type, like a massive fascinating treasure chest with no bottom.
I am an 80 year old INFJ woman and I finally found a ENFP man and I would HIGHLY RECOMMEND
IT!!! EXCELLENT combination !!!!!❤
We do need to be told when we’re overthinking even though as an INFJ we can possibly take it personally haha
Everyone knows I'm a Leonine INFJ Fire Ball Fire Cracker, with the Mars Scorpio temperament and Death Glares to match ~
@@lunastariaspiritdiva8662 😱😱😱really ?? 😱😱😱😂
I'm INFP and my Husband is INFJ, it's amazing relationship...
Me too! But I'm INFJ and he is INFP. He's more logic than me, but he can understand my words, and tell me how my words connect with the real world. Because I live in my own world 😂
You know you love FJ when the notification pops up on your phone and you watch the video straight away
Frank: talks
Me: yes, I agree, yes, that's correct, absolutely
Not an INFJ, but I've heard that INFJs will frequently need to know how their partner feels. If that's true, then that's something that a potential partner will have to be comfortable with as well.
P. S. You seem happier somehow recently, FJ. ☀️
hmm...I'm INFJ and it's easy for me because I can absorb other peoples emotions - which can be overwhelming.
As an INFJ, I will say that is true, but most of the time I get to absorb their emotions, I just need their confirmation about it.
We need to know, but we almost never need to ask.
@@lextor4712 me too
This is true bc i definitely need this 😂
"I can't even think of something spontaneous..." Literally me. (INFJ) 🤣🤣🤣
For me, that means leaving the house seriously, my spontaneous is usually just bothering to go outside for once, even just walking around the neighborhood is all I do ~
A big one I have noticed as a need is a partner who will be patient and understanding, who will listen and try
Yes yes yes!!!
Yeeees 😭♥️
Yess. You're right !
Im an INFP dating my INFJ boyfriend and i love our relationship dynamic. We have such similar personalities, and hobbies. We are able to understand each other very well. Were both empathetic and we never feel misunderstood with each other. I definitely am more spontaneous where he is more of the planner and it works out. If he plans to much, then i plan things for us, and i remind him to live and enjoy the present and not to worry too much, as we are both HEAVILY over-thinkers. Our self awareness and kindness is amazing and I’ve never had a better more compatible partner. I love studying INFJS and ways i can understand him more and be a better partner 😊 We can talk for hours and while we both can be stubborn, we both love to improve ourselves and take into account advice that the other is giving, and actually make those changes ❤️
INFJ male here. I never fall instantly for someone. More often than not I start falling for my long-term female friends, after spending months, if not years, perceiving them sjmply as friends. This has usually led to rejection, of course.
Here's some advice for girls who are into INFJ guys in general or have an INFJ crush. I do understand that there is more in human psychology than categorizing people in MBTI types, but this is me, a protoype of INJF speaking. And I understand it's frustrating and hard. Trust me, we also sometimes wish we weren't like this; we'd be happier.
If I am allowed to oversimplify things, INFJs are some sort of addicts and they are addicted to three things: 1. intelectual stimulation (e.g. the one which is found in philosophy, literature/movies, board/card/video strategy games, etc). 2. people we love, both friends and grilfriends/boyfriends. 3. spreading, advocating for and defending our core principles and values and our philosophy. In terms of 1, we are like every other analytic, scientific and philosophically orientated person; we would kill for a good argument and a good discussion and we can easily recognize bullshit and ignorance. In terms of 2, we are like dogs. We love unconditionally and we expect the same. Once we find our human, we very rarely abandon or betray him. In terms of 3, we are like religious prophets - we will defend our beliefs with our flesh and blood, if necessary. While this may sound lovely and cute, this combination can create hell for both INFJs and their partners, especially if INFJ is not a healthy person and has experienced serious issues in the past.
Anyway, here are some practical advice, for girls, from a male INFJ:
1) Don't try to be smart and impress INFJ by throwing some mysterious, unclear, logically incoherent quotes. INFJs ARE NOT mystics! More often than not we are fond of INTJs, INTPs and ISTJs specifically because of their ability to be very rational and fact-minded.
2) Instead, attempt to stimulate his intelect. Don't be afraid that you will say something wrong, as long as you are humble and you provide reasons and arguments that support your idea. If you have absolutely no idea how you could do this, then simply suggest playing some games where you need to think or watching a movie which is not too superficial.
3) If you see someone laughing at or dismissing his core principles (usually those concerning morality and interpersonal relationship, society&politics, etc), and this doesn't have to be something too rude - saying "stop philosophyzing, lets go for a drink" also hurts INFJs, UNDER ABSOLUTELY NO CIRCUMSTANCES approve such behavior verbally or non-verbally. This is one of the reasons we are so, so, so much into ENFPs. They almost never do this. We don't expect from anyone to take our values for granted and to agree with them. It's perfectly fine to disagree. But when you see us talking about them (and trust me, you'll know when we do), don't attempt to change the subject until we get to the point, don't act as it's not important and don't say something just for the sakes of saying something.
If you get an INFJ boyfriend, then there's one more important advice:
4) Love him and show him that you love him. Every single day. But don't mistake this for neediness, we are probably the only type which doesn't think that a 3 month imprisonment in an empty, small, dark cell is actually a punishment. We will survive your absence. We just think it's so sexy when you love us.
non-binary INFJ here, I have to say your comment is a fairly accurate descriptor of how I am also🎯. Solid advice 👍🏽It's just so hard (from my experience) to find people who would fit these criteria and follow this advice lol🥲
This is me but as an INFJ female.
never been more relatable!
INFJ here married to an ENFP ❤️
My husband is INFJ and I’m an ESTP...we really compliment each other and we’ve grown a lot. Married 27 years. Frank, go ESTP!
I'm dating an INFJ girl and this is exactly what I am. I am so excited about practicing being more sensitive and caring to them.