I have BPD, NPD, cPTSD and I had severe anxiety. After 3 years I don't meet the diagnostic criteria for NPD anymore and managed to weaken all my BPD symptoms, but anxiety still has a huge grip on my life. Moving to another city next month and even though I look forward to this so much, I still feel sick so often, cry and feel like I am losing everybody. But I have overcome so much with the help of therapy now, I will beat this, too! Thank you for this video!
That’s an amazing achievement with your BPD and NPD, it’s not easy to put in that work. Anxiety sucks so much, keep going and good luck on your new city
@@TJ-kk5zf Before I got the labels and diagnoses I was dead inside and severely depressed. I was suicidal, but instead of following through with it I contacted two friends who helped getting me to a hospital and from then on everything got better. It was a slow process and I still have issues, but those depressed times are like a past life. So I am myself, but I learned how to treat me better, how to treat other humans better, how to handle and overcome my anxiety. I agree about labels possibly keeping you stuck. But if you commit to change and work on yourself labels are simple guidelines. I used them to find out what to work on.
My instinct tells me to stay in those four walls, I have good reason to be fearful. I don’t trust anyone 100%. I can’t even watch your videos since 12/23. I can’t even watch the news as I can’t control my emotions, etc. I can’t even talk on the phone as the negative tone I’m getting, I don’t want that either I can’t do it right now. Great video!
I understand that sometimes it's hard to trust and step out of your comfort zone. Take your time and remember that you're not alone in feeling this way. We're here to support you!
@@DrDanielFox As you see, this is the first time I have been on since about two months ago. Thank you for the kind words; I will keep them in mind. Thank you!
Thank you Dr. Fox ❤ I needed to hear this, especially at the start of this new year. I will definitely return to this video for help and guidance. You are one of the few special Docs 🙏
Thanks Doc. For too long I’ve been working towards a goal that was not a guarantee. Finally the doors have closed for this opportunity, and I am at peace with it now, but I do regret all the mental and emotional angst I put myself through by essentially needing this thing to happen. I put all my eggs in one basket. The stress has had physical repercussions which I regret. But moving on I will remember… there are no guarantees.
Love this video tackles alot of what I've been working on I think the last few years since my domestic violence episode ..... I use like Susana in girl interrupted the word ambivalent to discibe my struggles ( not that all with bpd have this same surface content ) but alot of my axiety also have had the issue of self dismissing...... that I can have the tendency to distrust my own abilities do to like you said my past and at one point even current choices ( made grate chages in this issue currently) and your right the more I trust my ability to make the best probable outcome with healthy choices and succeed in making my life better the more confident I get in making choices.... even of they change who stays in my life....... recently puting a choice/boundary down with my partner paying tribute to my inner desires and self guidance we had a big fight and got distant but over time he understood my ground and even relized its for the best made it so I am not ambivalent as much to know if what I want is valid .... grate video
Hi Dr fox i was wondering if you could please make a video on consistency and motivation I have a few destructive coping skills. And I'm working on challenging them in therapy. And I find I'll be going a few days where I'm like yay! This is going to be it no more destructive coping skills I will do this I'm capable. Then after a few days I give up because I like that high feeling of power and accomplishment but when that goes I feel bored and uncomfortable just having to rely on discipline and not motivation. And this all-or-nothing thinking makes it really hard to stay consistent with challenging my destructive coping skills. Any advice or just general information about how to go about this would be great.
Thank you so much for reaching out and sharing your struggles. It takes a lot of courage to acknowledge destructive coping skills and work on challenging them. I'll definitely consider making a video on consistency and motivation to provide some guidance and support. Hang in there, you're doing amazing!
I kinda wish this came out a long time ago, but I would know what I know now. Right now I'm paying for all the negative behaviors I had. My husband of 23 years say we are now separated 😢 We are still living together, because I have MS and can't take care of myself. I'm hoping that I can change my behavior he'll love me again 😭
Your videos are really helpfull. I just recently understood and saw my whole life and patterns more clearly. The fear has been a huge companion for years. I would like a video on how bpd effect friendships. As an adult i always long for connection but when a new person comes to near I reject them or are to scared to even make plans with them. Sincerly thank u for shareing your knowledge. Many thanks for all the insights from a follower from Sweden😊
I'm so glad to hear that my videos have been helpful to you! Understanding our patterns and fears can be a huge step towards personal growth. I'll definitely keep your suggestion in mind for a future video on how BPD affects friendships. Thank you for your support and kind words!
I have lost the desire to have a social life with this disorder. This has created a very isolated and lonely life because I don't trust myself anymore.
I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling isolated and lonely. It's important to remember that you're not alone and there are people who care about you. It might be helpful to reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or professional for support.
Mr . Fox I'm in a Texas can I please see you. Borderline personality has taken my left away. Please I really need your help or if you can with 100% refer me to someone in the Dallas area. I would be so grateful .
I don’t have any “walls of fear.” I have walls of “stay away from me” and “people are terrible” You’re only lonely if you like being around people. 🤷♀️
I was just like you for a very, very long time (over twenty years) because of severe depression and anxiety. I started out "normal" and quite friendly. 30 years on SSRIs screwed ME AND my personality up. 10 years of that on mood stabilizers made it exponentially worse. I quit working at the end of 2019 cuz I was losing it. It took me 4 years, but I figured out I had severe hypothyroidism (Hashimoto's), went Keto for diet, cut 125 mg from my mood stabilizer, and a few other med changes. Changes I suggested based on MY research and got doc approval. Get regular sleep, take meds at same time every day, I feel good again. Sleep was my last big thing. Insomnia at least since 2010. Finally started getting SOME sleep in 2018 when I got on rx for sleep. People are too important not to include them in your life. I've isolated myself for over 20 years. I am DONE with that $h*t. I hope you find a way to see people are mostly good. They are terrible to us when WE are terrible to OURSELVES.
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I have BPD, NPD, cPTSD and I had severe anxiety. After 3 years I don't meet the diagnostic criteria for NPD anymore and managed to weaken all my BPD symptoms, but anxiety still has a huge grip on my life. Moving to another city next month and even though I look forward to this so much, I still feel sick so often, cry and feel like I am losing everybody. But I have overcome so much with the help of therapy now, I will beat this, too! Thank you for this video!
That’s an amazing achievement with your BPD and NPD, it’s not easy to put in that work. Anxiety sucks so much, keep going and good luck on your new city
Why don't you let go of all the labels and just be yourself?
@@TJ-kk5zf Before I got the labels and diagnoses I was dead inside and severely depressed. I was suicidal, but instead of following through with it I contacted two friends who helped getting me to a hospital and from then on everything got better. It was a slow process and I still have issues, but those depressed times are like a past life. So I am myself, but I learned how to treat me better, how to treat other humans better, how to handle and overcome my anxiety.
I agree about labels possibly keeping you stuck. But if you commit to change and work on yourself labels are simple guidelines. I used them to find out what to work on.
@@lanaroberts9929 Thank you! It's possible for everyone suffering from these things, though. But it really needs commitment.
Breakthrough, fear, comment response 
My instinct tells me to stay in those four walls, I have good reason to be fearful. I don’t trust anyone 100%. I can’t even watch your videos since 12/23. I can’t even watch the news as I can’t control my emotions, etc. I can’t even talk on the phone as the negative tone I’m getting, I don’t want that either I can’t do it right now. Great video!
I understand that sometimes it's hard to trust and step out of your comfort zone. Take your time and remember that you're not alone in feeling this way. We're here to support you!
@@DrDanielFox As you see, this is the first time I have been on since about two months ago. Thank you for the kind words; I will keep them in mind. Thank you!
Here kitty kitty kitty .. 😺 thank you Dr. Fox
Another great video. Thank you, Dr. Fox.
Hi Dr. Fox. I just wanted to say your videos & your workbooks have helped me immensely in my mental health journey. You’re an inspiration to me
Thank you so much for this video and everything you've done over the years for us, who really need people like you. Thank you Dr. Daniel.
Thank you Dr. Fox ❤ I needed to hear this, especially at the start of this new year. I will definitely return to this video for help and guidance. You are one of the few special Docs 🙏
Thank you for everything, Dr. Fox!
Thanks Doc. For too long I’ve been working towards a goal that was not a guarantee. Finally the doors have closed for this opportunity, and I am at peace with it now, but I do regret all the mental and emotional angst I put myself through by essentially needing this thing to happen. I put all my eggs in one basket. The stress has had physical repercussions which I regret. But moving on I will remember… there are no guarantees.
It's important to learn from experiences like this and grow stronger. Keep pushing forward!
Love this video tackles alot of what I've been working on I think the last few years since my domestic violence episode ..... I use like Susana in girl interrupted the word ambivalent to discibe my struggles ( not that all with bpd have this same surface content ) but alot of my axiety also have had the issue of self dismissing...... that I can have the tendency to distrust my own abilities do to like you said my past and at one point even current choices ( made grate chages in this issue currently) and your right the more I trust my ability to make the best probable outcome with healthy choices and succeed in making my life better the more confident I get in making choices.... even of they change who stays in my life....... recently puting a choice/boundary down with my partner paying tribute to my inner desires and self guidance we had a big fight and got distant but over time he understood my ground and even relized its for the best made it so I am not ambivalent as much to know if what I want is valid .... grate video
Hi Dr fox i was wondering if you could please make a video on consistency and motivation
I have a few destructive coping skills. And I'm working on challenging them in therapy.
And I find I'll be going a few days where I'm like yay! This is going to be it no more destructive coping skills I will do this I'm capable. Then after a few days I give up because I like that high feeling of power and accomplishment but when that goes I feel bored and uncomfortable just having to rely on discipline and not motivation.
And this all-or-nothing thinking makes it really hard to stay consistent with challenging my destructive coping skills.
Any advice or just general information about how to go about this would be great.
Thank you so much for reaching out and sharing your struggles. It takes a lot of courage to acknowledge destructive coping skills and work on challenging them. I'll definitely consider making a video on consistency and motivation to provide some guidance and support. Hang in there, you're doing amazing!
I kinda wish this came out a long time ago, but I would know what I know now. Right now I'm paying for all the negative behaviors I had. My husband of 23 years say we are now separated 😢 We are still living together, because I have MS and can't take care of myself. I'm hoping that I can change my behavior he'll love me again 😭
Breaking through fear comment response 
Thank you Dr Fox!
Your videos are really helpfull. I just recently understood and saw my whole life and patterns more clearly. The fear has been a huge companion for years. I would like a video on how bpd effect friendships. As an adult i always long for connection but when a new person comes to near I reject them or are to scared to even make plans with them. Sincerly thank u for shareing your knowledge. Many thanks for all the insights from a follower from Sweden😊
I'm so glad to hear that my videos have been helpful to you! Understanding our patterns and fears can be a huge step towards personal growth. I'll definitely keep your suggestion in mind for a future video on how BPD affects friendships. Thank you for your support and kind words!
I have lost the desire to have a social life with this disorder. This has created a very isolated and lonely life because I don't trust myself anymore.
I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling isolated and lonely. It's important to remember that you're not alone and there are people who care about you. It might be helpful to reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or professional for support.
Do you have a email where we can ask you questions directly?
Why is there so much resistance to repair with a bpd ?
Mr . Fox I'm in a Texas can I please see you. Borderline personality has taken my left away. Please I really need your help or if you can with 100% refer me to someone in the Dallas area. I would be so grateful .
I don’t have any “walls of fear.” I have walls of “stay away from me” and “people are terrible” You’re only lonely if you like being around people. 🤷♀️
I was just like you for a very, very long time (over twenty years) because of severe depression and anxiety. I started out "normal" and quite friendly. 30 years on SSRIs screwed ME AND my personality up. 10 years of that on mood stabilizers made it exponentially worse.
I quit working at the end of 2019 cuz I was losing it. It took me 4 years, but I figured out I had severe hypothyroidism (Hashimoto's), went Keto for diet, cut 125 mg from my mood stabilizer, and a few other med changes. Changes I suggested based on MY research and got doc approval. Get regular sleep, take meds at same time every day, I feel good again. Sleep was my last big thing. Insomnia at least since 2010. Finally started getting SOME sleep in 2018 when I got on rx for sleep.
People are too important not to include them in your life. I've isolated myself for over 20 years. I am DONE with that $h*t. I hope you find a way to see people are mostly good. They are terrible to us when WE are terrible to OURSELVES.
I became antisocial on purpose.