Dr Fox You truly nailed this, intro, middle and summary. You have been my psychologist (thank you) for 3ish or so years now. At times, you get me slapping my couch, leg or even better, a loud perfectly connected clap while I literally yell out loud 'You are a psychic!'. You have a special way of exposing your humanity/humility, exhaustion and absolute perseverance and commitment as you troop through every possible angle or way to say that he same thing in every posdible way. You have made me sad, happy, excited, bored, ordinary, extraordinary, special and most of all and this is consistent, you have made me more resilient and determined to keep mastering being content with waiting things out. Patience for the people. Your presence and sincere will to break through is the thing above all that has changed me. You have managed to sooth sooooo many people with Love and passion. What a beautiful soul 🙌
I regenerate when i have time for myself. I write down all my inspirations and ideas and i love to sort them in systematic todo-lists what gives me e clear structure and plan what to do next to improve my life and to achieve my goals. I have autism, but i think writing down all good ideas can helf the most people, to have a plan and goals☺️💖
I appreciate you bringing clarity to how my brain works. I never realized how certain behaviors affect my energy. Thank you for not only bringing insight but also providing helpful solutions. I can definitely tell a difference in how I feel when I do things like going outside.
I'm so glad that my video was able to help you gain insight into how your brain works! It's amazing how small changes in behavior can have a big impact on our energy levels. Keep up the great work!
one energy depleater i experience as an autistic person is masking! it's exhausting trying to people-please and script myself in a society that discourages me from showing up as who i am. i saw research suggesting that it's common for autistic folks assigned female at birth to develop BPD and BPD traits. that describes me, so i'd believe it. but, as someone who loves to draw, i completely agree with the importance of having a creative outlet! keep grooving 🎸
@@LuckyL0kiWomen aren’t assigned at birth. I’m so sorry you have been led to believe this. Autistic teens are prime targets for this ideology. Please look after yourself x
Starting small and setting some minimum time helped me make these rechargeable activities part of my lifestyle without them feeling like chores. For example, I run for exercise. My affective minimum is an easy mile. Or maybe just a 10 minute walk in the rain. I play music and drums have been a great outlet for me. I just try and sit down 3 times a week and play them to a click. Those activites are then part of my lifestyle and don't feel demanding. 🙂
Very good point about the scrolling. I feel the same way. Ever since I started scrolling. Videogames don't hit the same. My brain prefers the emotional stimulation of seeing a super happy video followed by a super depressing vid 20x a day
It took ages to realize I'm stuck in overanalyzing my history, blaming, ruminating and actually DO the good things and be in the present, to breathe and catch the moment. I can't really say when / how this shift happened (for me, I think finding Faith did the nudge I couldn't do myself) , I wish there was a magic trick everyone could feel safe enough to be present, stop / not overdo the emotional drain and start doing the emotional recharge, to live again, be playful, and build something new. Every person is unique and wonderful and I wish everyone has the chance to get support from someone like you! Your videos (and workbooks) are great, especially when not able to get other help. Thanks so much! ❤
Thanks for bringing this subject up and thanks for being here. Your timely and wonderful thoughts and advice have helped me greatly. I did have an experience I would like to share. We do need to remember that while having an artistic outlet can be good. However there are those of us who when we make a mistake. The building or filling of the battery flips into a drainer. Example, for Christmas I was given one of those wooden snap together puzzles. I started putting it together. Well one of the pieces would not fit. No matter how many ways I have tried it just would not go together. This really has bummed me out. So later that day my partner said something to me and I was set up. Now after watching this and in looking back at what happened I have realized just what happened and why. If you are a perfectionist an artistic outlet may not be a good thing, as it is with me.
Can you do a video on BPD and insomnia? I have suffered with sever chronic insomnia for over a decade, and it is nearly impossible to regulate your emotions when you are chronically sleep deprived. On the rare occasions that I have a restful sleep and wake up actually feeling refreshed, I am a COMPLETELY different person. Insomnia is torture, and the anticipatory anxiety of not sleeping on daily basis fuels the cycle. It is enough to decimate your quality of life, not to mention your relationships. I would love to hear your perspective on this, and if you have encountered this in your practice and what the research shows about their association.
❤thanks again, Dr. Fox. I recharge by doing crochet. This keeps my hands busy and chills out my brain. I think it is important to do something for yourself that is positive and will not feed maladaptive behaviors down the road ( drugs, alcohol ). Make time for yourself!
Just went through an emotional episode. I have challenged my comfort zone and had a need to set time to absorb the experience. This time not feeling guilty for taking the time to set the adjustments. I went through this process many years ago and now have a need to appreciate the growth and move on to live a more fulfilling life. I feel a need to celebrate this emotional moment and hope for the best. Something does feel off but will deal with that when I am ready, but I know I have crossed a threshold of an emotional break through.
Watch the video for the fullest, most informative content & here are the bullet points... Battery drainers... - people pleasing -spending too much time on the phone scrolling -fear, doubt, stress -not exercising -food of poor nutritional quality -sitting too long -spending too much time thinking about the past -setting unrealistic goals w/an appropriate timeline and metrics to help you get there Battery energizers... -get outside, move around, and get some sunlight -exercise -eating well -listening to music (not while on your phone) -really connecting with someone else (who is healthy not critical or draining) -get a healthy amount of sleep -have a creative outlet (write, draw, paint, photography, music, garden) Be sure to listen to the entire video for important clarifications.
Thank you, Dr Fox. This was really insightful. My emotional battery has been drained for years, and seeing there are ways to recharge is hopeful. I'd love a video about how to restore social battery. I've always had a low social battery, but due to the pandemic (and dealing with long covid), my bpd flaring back up, and an almost complete loss of my support network over the last year (very traumatic), I feel like my social battery is permanently dead, and I have no idea how to restore it. I know how important a support network is for those of us with bpd, but building a new one seems impossible when I'm too exhausted and scared of talking to others, much less meeting others and building new relationships.
Thank you for this! This one and a couple of your other videos have really helped me today. I’ve been struggling a lot recently. I would love to see your dog in a video.
I'm so glad to hear that my videos have been helpful to you! It means the world to me to know that I can make a positive impact. Keep pushing through, you've got this!
Your videos came into my life at just the right time! This makes perfect sense. Thank you so much for all of your videos especially the BPD ones; they’re truly validating. ❤
The imagined scenarios are exhausting but in my case, the worst one usually comes true. However even then the outcome is beyond my control so it's still a waste of energy.
This video is definitely an energy lifter for me. Your videos are always so relevant and timely when we need it. Thank you, Dr. Fox.
I’m so glad to hear that. Stay strong 💪
Very timely. Thank you.
Oooh, same. Wish you some peace soon!
Thank you so much Dr. Fox. In these busy days, it is easy to forget how to recharge ourselves.
Recharge your battery comment response
Dr Fox You truly nailed this, intro, middle and summary. You have been my psychologist (thank you) for 3ish or so years now. At times, you get me slapping my couch, leg or even better, a loud perfectly connected clap while I literally yell out loud 'You are a psychic!'.
You have a special way of exposing your humanity/humility, exhaustion and absolute perseverance and commitment as you troop through every possible angle or way to say that he same thing in every posdible way. You have made me sad, happy, excited, bored, ordinary, extraordinary, special and most of all and this is consistent, you have made me more resilient and determined to keep mastering being content with waiting things out. Patience for the people.
Your presence and sincere will to break through is the thing above all that has changed me. You have managed to sooth sooooo many people with Love and passion. What a beautiful soul 🙌
Could you please share with me how to get in touch with this Doctor. First time I heard him and I really like him. Thank you very much.
I regenerate when i have time for myself. I write down all my inspirations and ideas and i love to sort them in systematic todo-lists what gives me e clear structure and plan what to do next to improve my life and to achieve my goals. I have autism, but i think writing down all good ideas can helf the most people, to have a plan and goals☺️💖
I appreciate you bringing clarity to how my brain works. I never realized how certain behaviors affect my energy. Thank you for not only bringing insight but also providing helpful solutions. I can definitely tell a difference in how I feel when I do things like going outside.
I'm so glad that my video was able to help you gain insight into how your brain works! It's amazing how small changes in behavior can have a big impact on our energy levels. Keep up the great work!
one energy depleater i experience as an autistic person is masking! it's exhausting trying to people-please and script myself in a society that discourages me from showing up as who i am. i saw research suggesting that it's common for autistic folks assigned female at birth to develop BPD and BPD traits. that describes me, so i'd believe it.
but, as someone who loves to draw, i completely agree with the importance of having a creative outlet! keep grooving 🎸
I’m glad the video was helpful. Be well.
@@pema7159 no, i do not. this issue effects trans people as well.
@@LuckyL0kiWomen aren’t assigned at birth. I’m so sorry you have been led to believe this. Autistic teens are prime targets for this ideology. Please look after yourself x
Starting small and setting some minimum time helped me make these rechargeable activities part of my lifestyle without them feeling like chores.
For example, I run for exercise. My affective minimum is an easy mile. Or maybe just a 10 minute walk in the rain. I play music and drums have been a great outlet for me. I just try and sit down 3 times a week and play them to a click. Those activites are then part of my lifestyle and don't feel demanding. 🙂
January 5, 2024
Your ability to articulate bpd is unmatched 🙌
I’m glad my videos are helpful. Be well.
Very good point about the scrolling. I feel the same way. Ever since I started scrolling. Videogames don't hit the same. My brain prefers the emotional stimulation of seeing a super happy video followed by a super depressing vid 20x a day
It took ages to realize I'm stuck in overanalyzing my history, blaming, ruminating and actually DO the good things and be in the present, to breathe and catch the moment. I can't really say when / how this shift happened (for me, I think finding Faith did the nudge I couldn't do myself) , I wish there was a magic trick everyone could feel safe enough to be present, stop / not overdo the emotional drain and start doing the emotional recharge, to live again, be playful, and build something new. Every person is unique and wonderful and I wish everyone has the chance to get support from someone like you! Your videos (and workbooks) are great, especially when not able to get other help. Thanks so much! ❤
Emotional battery comment response 
Emotional battery comment response 
You are the best Dr. Fox!
Thanks for bringing this subject up and thanks for being here. Your timely and wonderful thoughts and advice have helped me greatly.
I did have an experience I would like to share. We do need to remember that while having an artistic outlet can be good. However there are those of us who when we make a mistake. The building or filling of the battery flips into a drainer. Example, for Christmas I was given one of those wooden snap together puzzles. I started putting it together. Well one of the pieces would not fit. No matter how many ways I have tried it just would not go together. This really has bummed me out. So later that day my partner said something to me and I was set up. Now after watching this and in looking back at what happened I have realized just what happened and why. If you are a perfectionist an artistic outlet may not be a good thing, as it is with me.
Can you do a video on BPD and insomnia? I have suffered with sever chronic insomnia for over a decade, and it is nearly impossible to regulate your emotions when you are chronically sleep deprived. On the rare occasions that I have a restful sleep and wake up actually feeling refreshed, I am a COMPLETELY different person. Insomnia is torture, and the anticipatory anxiety of not sleeping on daily basis fuels the cycle. It is enough to decimate your quality of life, not to mention your relationships. I would love to hear your perspective on this, and if you have encountered this in your practice and what the research shows about their association.
❤thanks again, Dr. Fox. I recharge by doing crochet. This keeps my hands busy and chills out my brain. I think it is important to do something for yourself that is positive and will not feed maladaptive behaviors down the road ( drugs, alcohol ). Make time for yourself!
*Thank you, Dr. Fox* You are always most helpful!
This can apply to most people who don't say no, over busy or stick to a planned limited schedule. Great video as usual.
Just went through an emotional episode. I have challenged my comfort zone and had a need to set time to absorb the experience. This time not feeling guilty for taking the time to set the adjustments. I went through this process many years ago and now have a need to appreciate the growth and move on to live a more fulfilling life. I feel a need to celebrate this emotional moment and hope for the best. Something does feel off but will deal with that when I am ready, but I know I have crossed a threshold of an emotional break through.
Watch the video for the fullest, most informative content & here are the bullet points...
Battery drainers...
- people pleasing
-spending too much time on the phone scrolling
-fear, doubt, stress
-not exercising
-food of poor nutritional quality
-sitting too long
-spending too much time thinking about the past
-setting unrealistic goals w/an appropriate timeline and metrics to help you get there
Battery energizers...
-get outside, move around, and get some sunlight
-exercise
-eating well
-listening to music (not while on your phone)
-really connecting with someone else (who is healthy not critical or draining)
-get a healthy amount of sleep
-have a creative outlet (write, draw, paint, photography, music, garden)
Be sure to listen to the entire video for important clarifications.
Thank you, Dr Fox. This was really insightful. My emotional battery has been drained for years, and seeing there are ways to recharge is hopeful. I'd love a video about how to restore social battery. I've always had a low social battery, but due to the pandemic (and dealing with long covid), my bpd flaring back up, and an almost complete loss of my support network over the last year (very traumatic), I feel like my social battery is permanently dead, and I have no idea how to restore it. I know how important a support network is for those of us with bpd, but building a new one seems impossible when I'm too exhausted and scared of talking to others, much less meeting others and building new relationships.
Thank you for this! This one and a couple of your other videos have really helped me today. I’ve been struggling a lot recently. I would love to see your dog in a video.
I'm so glad to hear that my videos have been helpful to you! It means the world to me to know that I can make a positive impact. Keep pushing through, you've got this!
Needed exactly this, exactly now ❤❤❤❤❤
I like your content and knowledge such much, thank you!!😃
Brilliant video thanks!
Your videos came into my life at just the right time! This makes perfect sense. Thank you so much for all of your videos especially the BPD ones; they’re truly validating. ❤
I'm so glad! Be well
such a great topic with helpful suggestions. i feel seen!! thank you!!
You’re very welcome 😊
The imagined scenarios are exhausting but in my case, the worst one usually comes true. However even then the outcome is beyond my control so it's still a waste of energy.
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Dr Fox 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💙💙💙💙💙🩵
When it comes to psychology you're riffing like freebird. I'm way out of practice guitar wise also, but I'm crazy enough to eat a bat like ozzy.
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I really like what you say and I wish you would be my best friend. Perhaps I will seek consultation with you.
When are gonna see that guitar playin' ?? 🤔🫣😁
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