Agents of the Narcissist How to Deal with Flying Monkeys
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- Опубліковано 6 чер 2024
- In the third part of the series Darren Magee discusses Agents of the narcissist, and how to handle flying monkeys. The abusers who carry out an agenda to continue the narcissistic abuse of spreading lies, and smear campaign, gaslighting and stalking. So how to handle the different types of flying monkey?
Different types include:
-Those who are 'ghosting', ignoring
-The malignant type who love gossip, constantly poke for a reaction (reactive abuse)
- hose who stalk, 'go fishing' for information to feedback to the narcissist, look for something to trip you up with.
-The fearful, who carry out the abusers agenda out of fear for themselves
-The naive, those who think they're helping or trying to fix your relationship
-Respond, don't react
-Act with integrity
-Be polite and measured
-Recognise when you are being provoked, withdraw if you have to
-Don't fall for reactive abuse tactics
-Be assertive, not aggressive
-Block numbers, social media if you have to
-Behave with self respect and dignity
-Don't forget why you left
-Have limited, safe, measured contact.
-Don't go looking for revenge
-Don't set out to antagonise
-Don't become the very thing they accuse you of
Most of all - STAY SAFE
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This is a re upload of an older video. I've tried to improve the sound so hopefully it'll be a bit louder.
Brilliant
Something to mention to is many times you’re gonna leave them and they want to win and have the upper hand so they will run out and file for divorce even if you weren’t planning on getting a divorce you were just consulting with an attorney like you weren’t gonna get a divorce right then and there you’re on the fence they will jump and pull the trigger for you which is a blessing in disguise but you might not be ready but they’ll be scared of the abandonment and they will be on you first and move on to the girl that they had in a relationship anyway because they always have another girl that’s pretty common they’re a compulsive liars pathological liars amazing actors and actresses and they are also really good at multiple relationships and cheating.
@@innerwestie1446 genius!!! Agreed as he knows this stuff!! Too many so called narc experts haven’t a clue AMD mislead people!!
He is RIgHT!!! Starve them!!!! That’s how you get peace and win your freedom. They always want to win! This will kill them inside! They feed off this crap! Don’t you dare lower yourself to them!
Thank you very much Darren ❤ I'm completely in the middle of such a "battle" with my younger sister manipulating everyone around. Even my lawyer....!.
And I will follow your advice step by step.
Thank very much I feel this one will help greatly 🎉. Hope it's not too late though.
Hope I'll be able to watch your live (because of very bad weather and internet 😊🎉🌊)❤
"Flying monkeys is lying monkeys." Best thing I have heard today.
A Flying Monkey(s) can KILL you and Never Ever underestimate them.
Yesterday was the first time I heard of "flying monkeys" and wondered what it's all about. At first, I thought it's about pet monkeys 🐒.. but now, I realized they exist in social media, especially in Twitter..
@@justmeonthebeach it’s taken from the Wizard of Oz - the wicket witch has flying monkeys who do her bidding
When they can't get dirt on you, they'll just make something up or they'll tell an untruth and exaggerate it to something to a point where it doesn't represent what it really is IS LYING indeed. (And if you read between the lines, they're quite loud and proud about. All I can say is karma. It might not happen overnight to them, but eventually you will see it happen.)
Interestingly, in some cases, flying monkeys are narcs themselves and assist their fellow narcs. Also, based on my personal experience with flying monkeys, they are just as worse as the narc and extend drama and misery for the victim.
That's generally the case.
There karma is each other because like we all know they really can't stand each other they just enjoyed bonding over hating you....once I left it took a while but ALL HELL BROKE LOSE...THEY WILL EVEN TRY AND HIDE THE BEHIND THE SCENE DRAMA so you don't realize that your absence is causing and upraw....the main flying monkey who helped abuse me end up being the new scapegoat...lol...I hope he survive it...#NO #REST #FOR #THE #WICKED
@@giftedhands4207 there's a saying...a house built on a deck of cards won't stand. I believe this to be true with flying monkeys and the primary narc. Eventually, one or the other will turn on each other, and in some cases, they will turn to the targeted victim to go against the main narc or flying monkeys. I don't want any part of it and will sit back and watch things go up in smoke.
@@giftedhands4207 they love drama and to them, it's like being a spectator in a Roman coliseum watching someone being tortured to death
You have described my sister; she is now doing the dirty work of my mother. It’s sheer and utter hell.
Integrity, authenticity, assertiveness, self-respect, boundaries, no contact or low contact should starve the flying monkeys and their ring master. Thank you for your help and support Darren.
This was so prominent at a nursing unit I worked at.toxic at its core. This one narc came to work at our unit,it was amazing how fast dynamics changed.i recognized her right away ...she knew I could see tru her, she never mucked with me..
I didn’t realize how bad abuse was until I started researching Narcissistic abuse
Yeah it's quite shocking when you get wise to them. But lucky us we are wise now. Narcs are EVIL
it may be the worst form of emotional abuse there is, IMHO
Me too
Flying monkeys usually will not ask you about the lies told them by the narcissist. Instead, they assume it is true and start watching you to see how you react almost like they're watching a movie and have popcorn. Or they will start making fun of you and laugh whenever you walk by or whenever you are in the same room as them.
Always flying monkeys are under control by a narcissists she is an invulnerable , she is lack love,she couldn't gets love from the narcissists only following him to get some love!
I have to remind myself that it is not my problem that other people are fooled by the narcissist
It’s the evil leading the brain dead
I sometimes call them "narcissists by proxy," Darren. In my experience, they have far more disappointing than the narcissist.
That is a really good description thank you for sharing
Indeed
Indeed... I'm not angry with the narassist, I'm angry with with friends who turn out to be flying monkeys
@@cherryblossom3043 exactly ....the main narc is already a REPROBATE and the ARE FULLY AWARE that they are being used to abuse you...THEY MADE THE CHOICE to agree with evil.
I think it's important to remember that flying monkeys, whilst they both agents and enablers of the Narc, are often just as empty and broken, nothing more than emotional toddlers.
Knowing this can help you keep perspective, and to be above their childish (albeit hurtful) behaviours.
They are jealous of your strength, that you have authenticity. They only go for you for what they don't have, they crave reaction. Deprive them of this.
Shut them down and live your best life full of fun, love, laughter and true friendship.
And make sure to give a wriitten victim impact statement to the judicial court clerk first, with the support of a witness who witnessed the trauma suffered by the victim and how it also affected the family.
Silence is golden, and it works. Great videos! :)
It's powerful
@@franklinstephen3268 'Lo.
As a *really* desperate measure, tell them you can't see them as you are "self isolating!" Let them think it's because of covid! Reality is, you are self isolating from *them* ! 😷😄
@@Tryagain563 really great idea! 😍
@@Tryagain563 why lie? spineless? You don't owe narcissist' any explanation
I found the best way to handle them all is to cut them all off...it can be that simple.
You end up finding out this idea of "everyone thinks so-and-so about you" can only to a specific group of people colluding against you. Chances are you probably know you need to cut them all off to be free.
Then they might boast that you're just "running away from yourself" and "the truth." Then again, their only audience is full of toxic people like themselves and NO ONE needs these people like those
Just deal with them like you deal with any other criminal. - Yes, that mostly means, keep your distance and don't engage.
If you make the mistake to talk with them, assume that everything gets recorded. - regardless if that's legal in your country.
Thank you
Thats true. I was a victim of an evil narcissist who destroyed my home a stole my property. Her flying monkey friend recorded the conversation when I told her what happened. Their excuse? I was a hoarder. Yes. Sick terrible evil people.
U r right
I only communicate with my ex spouse via text so it's all on record!
My question, what's wrong with that?
From my point of view I started communicating only via text because eye to eye contact ended constantly in denial as of in her terms,I did not say that and or I can't remember that!
If no contact isn't possible and you have too communicate sometimes because there are little children involved, my advice...record everything,too safe yourself afterwards!
@@Lonewolf_rider 1. If you want to record anything, check your local laws beforehand. 2. If you're recording, the other party will be allowed to do the same, so the other party can cut it together, take it out of context aso.
That's why you should only communicate in text. Furthermore text communication (e.g. email) gives you a record of everything, so no "I already said that" or "I never said that".
I’ve done this more than once. Just staying calm and let them unravel and break apart. It’s so satisfying.
They can destroy your life using these misguided people. The sociopath depends on your socialization, on your sense of decent behaviour. If you don't want to talk to them (for example), the flying monkeys are employed to help make you look insane, bad, etc.
This guy's brilliant. Soothing, relaxed and concise manner.
Thank you for your list of suggestions in coping with these misguided people. I have changed my opinion regarding politeness. I now belive that the teaching of social norms is a piece of our problem. I believe that I must always behave with civility, but I am reassessing the need to "be polite" with wicked people.
Yaaaas. Exactly what I've been realizing. We allow them to do what they do.
It's true, but unfortunately anything else feeds the narc.
I regret talking to my enmeshed brother so much. I thought he would mediate. But he just went back to my parents and told them i was mad/bad/angry. He never said "all she did was tell you that you hurt her." It's too late to respond. I reacted. I know what really happened but it's tòo late.
Lastly, the narc wouldn't have power if flying monkeys didn't support them. It would be interesting if the flying monkeys naturally gravitated towards the narc's victims. Now, that would be refreshing. The naive flying monkeys should use discernment before taking sides with the narc to avoid abusing the target
One of my breakups ended with all our friends taking sides, even when I told them not to. One of them was actually what I thought was a friend of mine, and she sided with him and rejected me. very hurtful especially because of the surprise. Life goes on, I met another man, I left the city and I settled elsewhere. Ten years later, she called me to apologize for her behavior. She wanted to come back into my life, and of course, I refused. What good is a friend who betrays you when you need her the most? She just proved that she was never on my side and all the time I spent helping her when she was in the same situation was a waste of time. So you don’t have to talk to somebody you’re going to leave anyway.
When you take sides in a breakup, you actually tell the person that you reject "I will never be a part of your life again". Don’t expect a return, and if you’ve made a mistake, accept it and learn your lesson so you don’t do it again. Because at the end of the day, you’re the one who loses someone worthy and helps someone unworthy.
My biggest hurdle in trying to find a therapist that can help me recover from being raised by a psychopath is finding someone who doesn't justify the inaction of all of the grown ups that I grew up around.
Every therapist I've tried has tried to make me the peace maker with all of the family members who didn't act. As if, no one in my family knew how dangerous my mom was to me. I need to take the high road. I need to be the forgiver. I need to start healing the relationships. Somehow, all of the therapists I've encountered thought my initiating the fixing of the problem with my mom's flying monkeys was the key to my recovery.
This video in general gives me some peace, some brain calm about all of that. But there was one statement that stood out.
When I was a kid I might have wondered how they didn't see what was going on but as an adult, I recognized comments from all of them that revealed they did know and just chose not to help me.
The statement 'Chances are they knew as well' was such a breath of fresh air. It literally felt like a cool fall breeze had blown through my summer heated mind.
I've been at the point of allowing those relationships not to burden me for a few years. It's not been easy. Having a knowledgeable grown up reinforcing my current process is a great respite.
Thank you.
Eventually, you don't and you can't! Sometimes they're more hostile/ toxic than the narcissist In the long run. BECAUSE ALL BIRDS OF A FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER!!
All these videos on narcissism are my stepson to a tee. I told my wife we will never live in the same town as he does, thankfully he lives in New York and we are in the Midwest. But if he ever moves here. I'm moving .
I can't imagine being in our 80's and having him around...
Thank you for for your advice, it's of great help. Unfortunately I do react and I need to stop, but I find this behaviour extremely frustrating
Thanks Darren, this is great! Yes, keeping ones integrity. Don't feed them. So much wisdom in everything shared here.
Absolutely .I have done this. I have held my dignity and integrity. However I will tell my story the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I suffered so much oppression that I have to share it. I have to warn others about these Narc tendencies and have them awaken to the trauma they are suffering. There are already flying monkeys in the world gossiping and back biting. I don't honestly care what is said or concocted in my name. I find decent people will make up there own minds. It's all the subter fuge and deceit and Plausability that the flying monkeys manifest that is produced and directed and scene set by the Narc they actually are in the web and in the Narcs spell and I will always be open and honest about the most dreadful experience of my life.
Watch for the button pushing. I just recently attended my son's big birthday party. I sat back watched the Narc and he wandered through the crowd like a stray dog pushing himself on others especially women. I sat with family at the table. I watched he was pathetic a lost soul.
Then my son's school friends made their way to my table hugged and showed how pleased they were to see me.
The girls all too as they remembered the days when they came to our home and were wined and dined and treated well by me. They were always made welcome. I was overwhelmed with these now older adults showing so much love and respect. I did Not have to walk about the room currying favour with my son's friends. They came naturally to me and were happy chatting about now and past days. At one stage I caught site of the Narc. He was Glaring over at me with the most envious look in his eyes
arms folded over his chest (in I'll protect myself mode). He was sitting alone, those at the table were circulating and he looked the sad foolish man he was.
It did wonders for me. I felt my worth first time in a long time. He didn't make me feel uncomfortable or threatened in anyway in his company. Inside I knew I had reached another landmark in my healing. On the way to the exit door at the end of the night I was quietly ignoring him as I walked passed his table. When I heard him call my name. I could have just walked on. However I turned round he said "Cheerio" and I held my dignity and held my head high said Goodbye and walked as light as a feather feeling a FREE WOMAN and at peace. The couple of drinks may have helped though!!
Yes, thank you, this video was very helpful! One thing I've found with the coworkers (who are nobody's boss) that are constantly trying to control with questions like "...Did you do this...did you do that?", while you're busy trying to do your actual job; is to respond with a question, like you said.
"Why do you ask?".
Inevitably they respond with "Because I want to know!".
At which point I just look at them and say "Interesting...". This seems to make them back off.
This is exactly what I needed to hear today as I just had an incident this week. Thank you for the validation, particularly the "they'll say you're ghosting." They *have* accused me of worse, so what's it matter that I'm not responding? Safety is priority.
I have a malignant narcissistic mother and a covert mother in law. Both matriarchs. I left my mother ( no more abuse for me) and she finally stopped interfering with my kids and husband. Now my MIL is still working on me. She wants to be in my business all the time. It's tiring to undo this generational pattern. I know in my case, it stems from Victorian England. All family members are put in competition with each other to see who is the best and gives the most to Mum.
No wonder Harry divested
If I can I just cut them out completely, go no contact like I do the narcissist, they're not worth the hassle, if they're willing to be ignorant or cruel they are not worthy of being in my life.
I love the quote: "Flying monkeys are lying monkeys". Thanks for the video.
Thank you Darren for explaining it so eloquently and clear to us. I have starved the narcissists neighbour of supply, she has since moved overseas and has left a trail of crap behind, ie flying monkeys in my block.None of them speak to me anymore that I don't care as they aren't my cup of tea its what they are doing banging talking outside my balcony leaving dog faeces and it goes on!!!
I try and be up beat but sometimes it's just so hard to keep up beat all the time. The trouble is what's coming next. The women narcissists has been knorring away at me for 4 long years!! How they are allowed to share this planet with us humans baffles me greatly!!
I think it baffles me also. I may know the use however likely I do not as I still see them as human with their own inner workings. I still do
The narcissists won’t reach out & apologise but they use these Sheeple (flying monkies) to retrieve you.
I just filed for divorce. His narcissist momma and 2nd exwife are flying monkeys lol. Blocked, deleted from my life. I deserve better than that!
Love the examples of questions and the suggestion to do ask questions as a management strategy!
5:57 This is the most important thing. You can't have a rational conversation with some people completely loyal to narcissitic people. You have to realize you can't make them enforce boundaries or assert themselves for their own protection. You can't do it for them, either. They have to stand/leave and do it on their own.
So odd, I wish I had know this 20 years ago when my narcissistic wife had suffered narcissist collapse and was in the psych hospital. She trained the nurses, the drs, her attorney, relatives, school principals, neighbors, and even recruited the Child Protective Service to believe that I was an abusive monster. I feel like I was alone against an army. I was lucky in the end because all her claims were baseless and the children and I were freed of her toxic abuse. I wish that some healthcare professional had recognized her for what she was and my family didn’t have to go through that enormous strain.
Can you make a video about how to deal with the pain of having a narcissistic mother, how to get past it
Thank you for your suggestion
You might check out the channels of Dr. Les Carter, The Crappy Childhood Fairy, and Michele at From Surviving to Thriving. (If you aren't aware of them already) Wish you well.
1- Ego-Monsters Suck.
2- Flying Monkeys Are Suck-Ups.
3- Victims Have to Change Their Own Behaviors
So Their Lives Won't Suck.
Got it.
Thanks, Doc.
✌️
Maybe victims want to move beyond victimhood, and transition into self empowerment.
@@sherrybonnett4827 and HOW do you propose that with NO support🙄🤦♀️??
@@iclickedbecauseiamtiredofs4630 there are all sorts of avenues of support out there, and it is possible for a person to learn to do their own inner support, through mindfulness, meditation, journaling, getting out into nature, diet, etc. I wish everyone wellness on this healing journey!♥️
I wish i had understood this long ago. It would have saved my ear drums and nervous system. You present this very clearly.
I think the narc needs the flying monkeys and will try different people looking for the ones who will jump in. It's partly because the narc exerts so much energy creating the scenario that it's just easier to go along. Also, they get a nice bonding experience, united by having a shared objective.
They don't care about the narc really and all these alliances will prove to be fickle.
I hope exiting the scene takes all the fun out of it for them.
Those are not people I want anything more to do with at all.
"Not my circus, and not my "monkeys"!!!
I found you channel today, thank you for the information on how to deal with Flying Monkeys & The Narc. These people are hell and I have been dealing with them for years. It’s amazing how they always win people over by their disgusting lies. I have lost a few family members which has caused a great deal of pain for me, however I do realise now these particular members are lost in the Narcs web of lies so I have had to maintain a strict boundary. I have struggled how to treat these people & there is so much I want to say to them, but I know how I would look to them & others. Your advice sounds the most sensible of ‘ Keep one’s dignity’ so I will follow your advice & thank you very much for your wise words. 🙂
This is the simplest explanation of flying monkeys I've heard. Thank you. Love your accent 😅💜
Flying monkeys are lying monkeys 🙊 😂 love this! Thank you 🙏🏽 ❤
This was very helpful! Thank you for your insights. I can see clearly the roles that family members play now and it affirms how I have been proceeding. Don't feed the monkeys or the beast! Doing so is a self-esteem wrecker. Thank you!
Thank you so much.its helpful 🙂. They get rewarded by narcissist for gaining supply on their behalf.
Boundaries are key 👌, protect your peace 1st.dealing with a lot of these currently.
Yes, the narc is very generous with them. - They're doing contract dirty work for him.
I recently found your channel....subscribed on the spot. You have helped me tremendously. God bless you!
Brilliantly explained
You have nailed it Darren. Spot on! Thank you 🙏
Thank you so much for these very thoughtful videos, they have really helped. By the way, your remark in another video about unfairness being a major block to getting over this treatment was brilliant - just knowing that helps enormously.
It’s been ver6 helpful..Thankyou Darren
This is very helpful, thank you!! Very clear so that a lay person, can comprehend and identify.
Listing the ssential points is very helpful, thank you so much. I get to see my entire take away out of your video, in seconds! Helps the mind clouded by trauma...
Thank you for very helpful information. I totally agree with your sensible advice and appreciate your wise approach.
I don’t think quickly on my feet, so my response to questions from the monkeys about the N is either complete silence or wait two seconds and ask “So how about those Mariners?” (local baseball team) They get the picture.
This was perfect!! Thank you.
I want to thank you so much for your insight, this has helped me tremendously beyond words. Will be putting this into effect right now.
Beautifully talked about in a very calm and concise manner...
Thank you. 👍👍👏👏🙌🙌
My side of the story does not matter. I’m not explaining myself to anyone. But it’s good to know, they are no longer welcome to sit at my table.
Another great video as a substitution for therapy. Thank you
Marvellous. Truly.
13 years on. Targeted, and I approached the situation just like this.
It is a lot to work through. My integrity is intact.
It has hurt. It has disappointed. It has lost me ‘fun time’ opportunities. It has ‘cost me friends’ (or were they friends?!!!! No, I have now understood).
I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. But now, I feel, I wouldn’t change a thing.
It actually has been more hurtful to experience the flying monkeys than the ‘abuser’
The abuser is dead. Flying monkeys continue.
I’m me, and I’m intact. Praise God.
Your info is great. Thank you 😊💓
Wonderful advice!
Thankyou. I can attest to this being the best way to stay sane in the face of the craziness. It helps to hear you say it to succinctly :)
Perfect advice. Thank you...
This was very helpful. 🙏🏻
Great advice....Ask them a question back....give them nothing....
Thank you so much! this was so helpful!
Great advice. Some 'flying monkeys' are being misled, are honest, and I pity them. I wish they could be saved, but they have chosen the side of the abuser against the abused. Unwittingly they are victim blaming. Their bad.
This entire video is 100 percent true. OH MY GOODNESS.Emotional blackmail is out of control.
Good analysis and suggestions Thank you
Great advices. To get to where one is prepared to keep constituted will usually be of greate use. How ever, many need help against dealing with situations where accusations of appearing too passively, or of being passive due to low empathy, is used to harm them by gradually tearing them down.
One will under a long range of conditions not have the liberty to break out of such conditions where institutions appointed by government are involved. At least not without risking bad, or even the worst possible consequenses. This costs vast amounts of suffering within the societies it occures, as truth could be that when dealing with people on matters involving professional possitions and ranks this could even be involving what is practically determinational rights. Then claims may at worst even be seeming to be appearing as a result of an individual keeping well constituted psychologically, which as it appears from my angle may be all that someone needs to create an in fact unavoidable hell.
Building oneself into a character enabled with defence against evil mindsets of narcissistic kinds is always a must, not the least on the path to be of good use as an indipendant and free person of a human being. In a reality containing possible or even probable misuse of coercive measures, though, it seems that due to the count of involved losses of just personal constitution, and no doubt also of suicides, developing advices for survival above the obviously missed wreck, or even above the not that impossible corps, where measures would be the very hardest to accept as true parts of reality, will actually at some point become a must on behalf of not that few. I might actually add "what ever one might think," but then again, as some few to my knowledge have said, "what would be the point," which indeed is a part of the equation the way I've got it in my mind.
Advices of the kind sought to by Darren Magee are nevertheless of good use to everyone having to deal with simular measures to those he uses as examples, and I'd hate to be interpreted as in any way underestimating their value. Even while some would still miss advices where also physical means are involved, in particular where threats of such measures are used, bearing in mind that there may be no such thing at all as simply calling the police, or a lawyer, or anyone else, the kind of mindset adviced to by Magee will take a person longer then what otherwise might be the case, as having worked with preparation and with self confirmation while not being under forced influence tends more often then not to leave a way back, somehow, allthough there are examples of even this constituating only a partial truth. We only have the tools that we have, and those defending a tough reality are not few. Cruelty might still be a thing often seen as more or less commonly hated. Alas, even cruelty is by some loved as a part of plain schadenfreude, or otherwise involved with envy, or with a so low level of empathic abileties that profit makes it an option, and combinations are in no way what this conserns prohibited what reality concerns, what ever the law might otherwise suggest.
We're often speaking of a sort of adhesion where matters involving hidden cruelty are likely to create tragedies, in particular where people considered to be of lower ranks are facing it, but there are also cases where people are thought to be "more durable in relation to serious measures", the way I happen to remember it expressed. "Lower ranks" by the way if I may, is by no measures to be read as "of lower value", even if one may not always imply "quite the opposite".
It's been said to me by indeed experienced people what such measures involves that the last anyone should do is to presume misunderstandings not possibly to be part of many, if not most, among conflicts, but said on behalf of the involvements relevant here, presumed to involve at least narcissistic mindsets, if not even what is or borders to sisiopathy, my own hopes for that claim is practically shreaded, being myself somewhat shreaded or not.
you're a gem! thank you
Really great insight. Thank you.
Very true thank you for this advice much appreciated It
Excellent information!!
Thank you Sir, So very helpful, God bless you!
usually they just make up that you or someone is flustered or bothered even when they aren't, they believe their own lies its amazing, that they need it to be true so badly that all they have left is to buy their own bs and you can't talk them out of it and there's no point.
I did exactly everything mentioned in this video. Wish it was uploaded much earlier
Good video, brilliant!
Very helpful indeed, and I do enjoy the informative tone of your videos. My younger golden child brother is a terribly naive flying monkey, some of the calls in the 2 years leading up to cutting contact were quite nasty and you could see him trying to navigate through following our covert narcissist mothers distortions and bidding, and trying not to come across as clueless when speaking to me. There were no winners in these conversations. But you could see he was becoming more and more entitled, and more preloaded with distortions when he'd call.
In the end I cut contact by blocking them both, no explanations, nothing. I just blocked them and moved on with my life. You cannot defend this sort of abuse without distortions repeatedly coming back.
The trouble is narcissists often have unwitting stooges through whom they operate to control the wider circle. These unwitting acolytes are often 'paid' with praises, threatened and cajoled in equal measure - then unceremoniously dropped once they no longer fulfil their purpose. The narcissist may even attend their funeral and make out what great and valuable friends they have been - then move on to other targets ...
These "unwitting" stooges know exactly what they're doing. And they don't only get payed with praises but also with things that have a money value, like goods and (mainly) services.
So helpful!!!
Trust me we will NEVER forget why we left
A Flying Monkey is also an evil narcissistic abuser that like to hunt the victim they also want to suffer and die.
Mine passed away from Internal bleeding illnes that I was unaware of. He had a business of helping ptsd patients etc. His flying monkeys still follow me and those flying monkeys are pd Depts etc. Unbelievable!!!
I thought Agents of Narcissist was a great name for a band but it doesn't roll of my tongue.
So helpful!!!!!! Ty!
GREAT CONTENT! please consider getting a mic I would love to listen while I do things around the home, I have 2 dogs that make noise lol
Narcissists hate you no matter what, nothing you do will change it. So why bother, just ignore them.
Twenty mins after being released from jail and presented with an order of "protection," narc was texting me, and his friends driving up and down my street yelling out their window at me. I was outside doing yard work but if I hadn't I wonder if they'd probably try to break in, as he tried 3 times after. So I think those were flying monkeys?
Uh, the Narc or Snitch may be well connected in the community you both reside in. What they are is called Gang Stalkers and they can be very dangerous especially if they do not FACE consequences the normal joe would suffer to be held to. Avoid them and anyone associated with them. They are watching and tracking you and if you have any questions, let me know.
Scott
That's horrible.
Another huge thing that's being done to me is accusations, something I'm supposed to do to stop the harassment, yet it's secret,only the community, buisnesses around know all these things, I'm a bad person, but everything is so secret no resolution, except to confess my whole life of course,it's just an excuse to keep control,people would not believe what's been done,it's just highly unlikely, which is how they get away with it,coercive control is what it is,using my support system, family,and work mobbing anytime I get a job,and people lots of people support this because the smear campaign, but they won't confront!Why does this make sense to people? It's very clear to me .
My God,have you met my mother?!! Actually,count your blessings you haven't and never will. Spot on
What wise advice.
Evil woman who wanted to destroy me stole my clothes shoes jewelry and career work too. Her skin went translucent and I saw the demon there.
I was warned 3x in my mind in white letters CON, CON, CON. These people are so dangerous.
Excellent!
I found that questioning the flying monkeys accusations from the Narcissist helps, they immediately start thinking and question the accusations especially if it was someone you were once close to, like for example if they say I think you were being like this towards the children, say do you really think I would act like that or do you really think that about me... Question why do they believe the accusations and that helps put back logic into the Narcissists crazy lies
I went no contact with my narcissistic older sister 7 months ago. I'm pretty sure she tries to get information about me from my other siblings, do I am very guarded as to what information I let others know. Too bad it has to be like this, but at least I'm living in peace now.
Been binge watching you videos. Really good stuff. Grew up with a sibling who I realise fits all the descriptions of a narcissist. Is there a way they can be healed if they goto confession since they never admit to anything they do wrong? Always playing innocent, justifying their behaviour and playing the victim and tearing ppl down in the process. Can you also do a video on the Gospel for today on Judas? Today it's from John 12:1-11 From a psychology point of view how would you classify Judas? I like that saying from Star Trek you dropped in the video on the altruistic narcissist: Bandits who twirl their hair are easy to spot but villains who clothe themselves in good deeds are well camouflaged. Traitors wait for the right season to flourish, to sow death in the name of virtue.
I have three siblings that acted that way
Excellent video
Raised with a narc mother and believed her version of events- wow i have been an FM and i have apologized for it- not all FMs know