I get it, I've been selling drugs since I was 15, because of that I made enemies of other gangs and even the police but hey at least I stood for something
@@diogocourinha4943 No, man. Quotes do not work like that. You just want to feel worthy of your actions. There is more courage in doing good deeds than bad ones. Do not be lazy and don't blame your situation, so you have to excuse yourself.
@Kvothe Windrunner OMG are yall dumb, I didn't sell anything, I was being sarcastic, I gave an example where this quote can be misused, they try to make it seem like the quote means something positive, I'm showing you it doesn't, it isn't something to be appreciated its something to be analized carefully, any crook can use that quote, it doesn't make him better as the quote would suggest
@@Paganichi That should be obvious, man. A lion means the ones in the high positions. Sheep means weak ass people. And the strong always think they are "Strong" until they got themselves killed by someone even weaker than them. That's why "Few stood against many" and "The Weak defeats The Strong" also exist
@@MichaelJayyKRUMPS Then you got it. Tywin thought highly of himself, without knowing any better. And for Tyrion, i think the word "Wolf" fits him more, but that depends on how you wanna call him, so it does not matter.
@@kevinvandenoetelaar5880 You may be taking the word "hero" too literally, because a firefighter is absolutely a hero by virtue of his heroic deeds.The figurative use of the word here represents a lifelong self development journey, one who honestly and decisively embarks on a path and fights for his beliefs. The main idea of the video is to stop being a one-size-fits-all people pleaser, and to honestly decide on one's values.
@@kevinvandenoetelaar5880 It's nice to call firefighters heroes, but in the literal sense they are not. They are trained to go into fire during dangerous situations and do exactly that in exchange for money. I'm sure there are plenty of firefighters who posses 0 heroic qualities. I'm sure there are more than plenty of firefighters who left children to burn because they lost their cool.
"A man who cares too much about what other people think is not going to be attractive to women because a desire for popularity is inheritly a feminine trait." Gold.
I think the “don’t care about what other people think” mindset should be taken with a grain of salt because most people need a minimum level of likability, popularity, and social circle size in order to have good mental health. “Just don’t care what they think, bro” is pretty trash advice for friendless outcast loner males; they need to raise their status and likability to gain the social connections necessary to get the things they want in life.
Just by personal experience, I have to disagree a bit with Jordan Peterson at this point. I think women are generally more agreeable than men with strangers. Men are way more agreeable than women with family members, partners, close friends, and even their own children. At least that is the case in my family and social circle. I'm wondering, what is your personal experience about this topic?
@@janschneider8647 It's not Peterson's opinion. There's a lot of psychological research and literature that shows that women are more agreeable on average. Of course, this is the psychological trait agreeableness, so it might differ from another definition. I don't mean to disagree with the rest of your comment. I need to think about it more. Just saying that agreeableness has been studied, and he's just quoting literature.
I love masculine men. Feisty with integrity and stands by his principles, yes please. Simultaneously, I love being feminine, submissive, and nurturing.
Ezekiel Watters I know they do, sadly. In doing so they’ve given up their true power. I don’t know why a woman would prefer to do the things, when all she has to do is be a lady and her man will do the things for her. She handles domestic life and the home, and he slays dragons for her and for their family. Pretty simple. But that’s a bygone era. Women have been brainwashed to think they need the same power that a man has, without realizing the power they already had that was complimented by the man’s power, and now it’s all screwed up.
@@kimmywimmy7305 It wasn't perfect--nothing in this world ever is--but it was a pretty sweet deal all things considered... a pragmatic division of labor that played to the strengths of each and compensated for their respective weaknesses, but most of all it allowed men and women to breathe and simply be what they are and do what they were created to do: support and compliment one another while providing a healthy stable environment in which to raise children. Today's kids are the real victims of the current state of affairs.
Ezekiel Watters you’re right, it wasn’t perfect, it’s definitely better than this broken family situation so many are in. Yes, kids are the true victims. Kids are not “resilient.” Kids adapt to survive, but they get damaged without that basic foundation. Then they grow up and have to deal with the damage, or not deal with it and continue the cycle.
I'm a 58 year old Male and have seen the decline of masculinity a problem that has worsened and accelerated since 2009. Glad I still remember the days when having a pair was normal for men. I have never cared what other thought or think of me and the ladies seem to like that.
I haven't seen a "man" since the 80's. They simply don't exist anymore. There are men who try to be "alpha", but it's not the same, it's a cartoon exaggeration based on fantasy. Being a dick is not being a "man".
Some women may be attracted to you initially because of your masculine boldness. But very sensitive women might not be able to handle it in the long term. Especially women who really care about what people think of them.
Don't listen to this lie. It's actually easier to become masculine if you are a man. Feminine men are programmed to be feminine. They ain't born to be feminine
Even among them, there is distinction. I'm training to be a lawyer and I have to pay attention to my agreeableness, because I can be a real b*tch if I need to be. The lawyers I respect and trust are assertive and disagreeable, but also kind people to a certain degree. The ones trying to fake it with hypermasculinity are obvious to spot and very neurotic.
@@shawnellemartineaux6212 The trick is, if you don't know something, then don't take a position (open your mouth). But if you know for sure you are right-Then be assertive and as disagreeable as you like, the difference is either arrogance or confidence ("arrogance" is misplaced/undue confidence).
I asked some friends recently what they thought of me at first , the overwhelming response was , 'we didn't like you' why I asked , ' your very opinionated'. I have absolutely no problem with this , in fact it shows I'm worthy their time.
I feel you, but guess what? that just makes you to discover it for yourself. I learned by my own experiences and learned from others. Become the Man U want to become, improving yourself to better than your dad ever is
Get over it,that's the only way to true manhood.i went through the same thing and some of my friends went through worse,but guess what, it doesn't matter,in fact I appreciate and understand my dad
I don’t think I’ll ever understand a man that doesn’t want his masculinity. If ur group doesn’t like u being masculine I’m gonna guess it’s ur group that’s the problem. There are very few girls that want a guy that’s weak or things along that line.
George Bush are you handicapped or did you just not watch the video he talked about how some men didn’t want their masculinity so they would appeal to people, because people wouldn’t like their masculinity.
Being masculine is more risky, but being feminine isn't worth it since it doesn't guarantee social approval anyway. Some will be disgusted by your weakness and plenty of people will just refuse to like you no matter what.
@@travis6694 Think of all the things that make people uncomfortable/scared in life, but would be helpful to master. Stuff like public speaking, dancing, working out, removing the filter on your opinions, etc. Masculinity is about seeing one's fears as challenges to be conquered. Women at their core are afraid of risk, and you can see through certain clues that they just don't get the same satisfaction from accomplishment as men do. They would rather be WITH a winner than become a winner themselves, but what it takes to be a winner changes with the times and your own personal situation. You have to be flexible without looking for excuses to not get ahead. You can still look feminine while acting masculine, but usually the masculine drive to succeed tends to manifest itself in the way you look as well. So if you see someone who looks feminine to you because of shrimpy arms and soft voice when talking to girls, it is most likely tied to a lack of masculine drive that would have otherwise motivated them to work out and deepen their voice to display confidence. Part of what makes it so complicated is simply because our very feminist society doesn't want to acknowledge the benefits of masculinity. They try to confuse the issue and frame masculinity as being emotionless and sexually compulsive. Actual masculinity would encourage mastery of one's emotions/compulsions, but to many women admitting they tend to not have such self control is offensive so it's easier to just demonize.
Within the first 30 seconds, that just felt pretty great to hear. Even when it comes to stuff like living a more meaningful life, it's better to have a few real friends than a lot of fake ones. Faking for popularity doesn't build character. Being yourself despite all the hardships is what strengthens you as a man and an individual. As someone who tries to be good and tries to succeed while trying to be the best I can be, it's hellish, but I won't give up Cause what's the point in anything if I can't even be myself?
“If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.” “Now is the time to get serious about living your ideals. How long can you afford to put off who you really want to be? Your nobler self cannot wait any longer. Put your principles into practice ― now. Stop the excuses and the procrastination. This is your life! You aren’t a child anymore… From this instant on, vow to stop disappointing yourself. Separate yourself from the mob. Decide to be extraordinary and do what you need to do ― now.” ― Epictetus ca. 100 AD
Very nicely explained 👍. Masculine means fearless, strong willed, decisive without misuse your power. Masculine man are kind, humble, good hearted when dealing with good people
True yet it is also ammunition for women to use against a man. Say hi, he's too nice. Say nothing and he's an asshole. Damned if you do and damned if you don't
If you will righteously leave she will righteously stay. She won't let you play? Take your ball and play somewhere else. -Patrice O'neal the pimp the legend
When I was growing g up I always worried about people liking me and didn't realize that was a problem. now that I am 54 I don't care whether people like me or not. I've also never felt the need to be super popular or the center of attention. I was confident it who and what I was and felt that would be enough. sadly it wasn't because girls and later women ignored and rejected me, didn't appreciate or value me.
It's 100% true. Be unapologetic about your views and opinions. Woman can't help but love a man who gives 2 shits what people think. I’ve seen this in action and it's so true.
Mostly yes, but it's only true up to a point. A woman loved me, but then I refused to take the covid jab and started protesting against lockdown policies and became pro-Trump. She bought the mainstream narrative and basically saw me as having gone crazy, as well as me engaging in behavior that she thought would hurt others. And so she dumped me.
Thank you. This is stuff dads should be teaching their boys. I grew up without a father and I'm realizing how much I have absorbed female traits and working on correcting that thanks to channels like yours. Its not about playing a role but naturally accepting an being what you are.
Hello Alexander-- I got on my masculine journey over a year ago. Every area of my life improved, including my marriage. I am happier than I have ever been.
In Native American culture, woman were in charge of building and maintaining the shelters. Everything pertaining to the home and house was womans domain. Quite a lot of Native American societies were matriarchal as well. That did not mean that woman ran everything. Men and woman still had their places and duties in life. Society was balanced and functional. But woman were valued at every stage of life and it was the eldest, most wise woman, of the village, who had the last say, in everything that happened. We in today's culture, are out of balance on so many levels.
No one can lose what he does not have. No one can lose universal social approval... because no one has universal social approval. Whoever understands that is set to social freedom, even if married.
I have been watching you’re videos for a while now and as a 25 year old man who has grow up with mostly women in my life you videos have been very insightful. I just notice I’m not subscribed, I just fixed that. Thanks for the amazing content.
"If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too; ... Or being hated, don’t give way to hating, And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise: ... Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it, And-which is more-you’ll be a Man, my son!" ~Rudyard Kipling
I wish I had this info when I was 18 years old. For all you young ones out there, take heed of what Alexander says. You have a harder social environment to live in (social media, the decline of western civilization) but you at the same time have access to knowledge as never before in history through the internet. Seek out the truth and use it to make you a better person but be mindful of the added dangers of the age we live in.
I’m gonna boldly express my masculinity by saying that you need a haircut, and you can boldly reject my suggestion by saying you need no ones aproval but your own
I needed this. I really needed this. I care so much about what others think. It’s damaged my life so much but I needed that awareness to really see it.
Yeh, I stopped caring what other people think of me years ago. All you have to do is ask, “is this person better than me?” Better could be taller, stronger, smarter or whatever. If the answer is no, then why worry about what they think of you?
Mr. Grace, you knocked this one out of the park. This is one of your most helpful videos. Thank you for your effort. What you stated is why I do not care what people think of me in general, because as a Slav in America, I am well aware of just being white but also not a Anglo-Saxon is polarizing in and of itself.
I really wish I had this kind of information when I was still in school, bec. I would've been MUCH better off than I was!... Alex, IMHO, you and your channel is an essential part of the next gen of guys developing into truly High Quality, REAL MEN... I only wish I had this type of info and channels like this online when I was a teen and 20-something, as my life would've been much better by now than it currently is!... Any younger guy watching Alexander's videos, consider yourself VERY lucky to have him as a mentor, along with the internet and all of the other modern resources available at your fingertips in order to be learning all of this kind of stuff at a younger age, because knowing and understanding this kind of stuff will help you throughout your life, and in EVERY situation, not only just with your interactions with women! I am approaching 50 years "young" pretty soon here, so it might be a little bit too late for me in some regards for certain things, but I still learn from and really appreciate this channel in any case! Alex, you deserve more subscriptions, because if everyone in the world, both guys AND girls, knew and understood all that you talk about here on your channel, (and on your Patreon page), then this whole world, and espec. the dynamic between men and women now, espec. in the "dating and relationship game", would ALL be MUCH better off than it currently is rn!... So keep up your awesome work to try your best to help society in general with your knowledge and understanding of what it truly means to be a good person, and just to be a human being!
I partly disagree with you. If you are a man you must be bold enough to state your opinions without fear of offending anybody. But also, if you are in the later stages of masculinity development, you should be able to state why you think you are right to have that opinion. And you should also be able to admit you were wrong (and get a stronger caracter) if somebody shows you where you are wrong (Ideally with your help in the process in proving your opinion to be wrong). Know this: when a man can understand what is really wrong and right, and why, then he has no constraints anymore. He knows where he is stepping and why he is making that step. There is no insecurity about his actions anymore. He knows what emotional displays are fair and when they are not. He is still insecure, but he is able to harness it to advance his world knowledge about human behaviour (he also harness the insecurity of others). Alpha males are naturally leaders. Leaders are naturally judges. So that is why men NEED a good sense of justice. That is what guides his actions. Sadly it is hard to find fair justice knowing people nowadays.
You are partially right, yes it's true that men should be judges and should have strong values but not many men are like that. You will often find pseudo alpha-males that are a big shot when it comes to talking and say what they think without a care if the other party is offended. They quite often verbally confront others, specially nowadays through social media. But they quickly back off when the stakes are real, like a physical fight. Of course in ancient times a man should also defend his ideas through force when needed. Naturally, this also leads to "might makes right" and the raise of tyrants to the leadership of their tribes. So is a balance. A man should be masculine enough to express his ideas without fear, strong enough to defend his ideas through force but also diplomatic enough not to put everyone against him and intelligent enough to recognize when he is the wrong. This lead to a code of honor among males, like dueling in ancient times. But we lost that in modern society since fighting each other became a crime.
he never claimed that you shouldn't admit when you're wrong and be an ignorant/arrogant ass... he just let you know that part of being a man is saying things and having opinions that others won't agree with.. you don't have to be a dick.. just be you even if it means you'll lose all your friends
You have a point here in what an alpha is however I'll add this: An alpha is someone who is fully invested and committed, really think about this because a lot of people don't get this. There can be weak alphas including the fact that not everyone is 100% all the time. A great example of this was that there was steel work here in Ontario years ago the moment the work dried up divorce shot up 100%. I say this so people can see that essentially not every woman can be fully invested and committed in her family or union, it's just temporary. Yes an alpha is a leader they will decide for the pack. Decisions are always a security issue which is inherently a MALE TRAIT 96% or higher. An example of a decision is whether they would come across two mushrooms and one is poison and one is not. They then will decide which mushroom is safe to eat for the group. If they choose wrong they then like you said correct themselves, where this knowledge spreads and permeates throughout the group. However there can be the chance that one mushroom while poison doesn't affect you right away, but over time it will! This is still a security decision where male foresight is highly crucial to the group's survival and way of life and whether the group acknowledges their leader and trusts them. I'll give you a real life example! I dated this girl once who had a job, she tried to get me to work there with her, but I sensed something was off about the female store manager who gave the interview. She wanted me to *Commit/invest right away (use my alpha self).* Later on the girlfriend told me of a problem that had arisen I can't remember the details but the brown guy and another white guy had left the store. To my knowledge they were the backbone of operations and she couldn't keep them. They had found another job and invited my girlfriend to join them at another job I remember her indecision, but I remember my answer, I told her to go with those men! A few months later she would find out that the manager of her former store had messed things up so much that she was essentially not allowed to hire people anymore and was only store manager in name again I forget the details, but this was the best example I could draw from memory. You can find these traits in any male which is why I say every male is potentially an alpha. Finally I will say this for people who continuously harp on Beta. Like alpha there can be strong alpah's and there can be weak alphas the same goes for beta. The major difference is beta usually is in the realm of not being so committed or invested. They can even be below, on par, or better than alpha they just wont commit or they just don't give a hoot. This doesn't make them weak usually because like being on any team you're going to have to be able to tangle with and against other teams and their alpha's! Final point which many of you have seen as a leader or the alpha many people will want to be alpha or see themselves as alpha or like them. Remember beta doesn't always necessarily care for such recognition. Women cannot determine who is beta or alpha she can only sense what she likes and does not. Leave the judgment up the men who have real stake in the game!
When a man has high standards and acts in a congruent manner regardless of social/peer pressure, he will be 'hated' by many people and yet, will also be respected by most.
Great video. I would alter "masculinity provides" to masculinity "produces". To a man, he is producing based on his unique manhood. To women/society, he is providing.
Ever since I realized what this video says and started to practice it the result was exactly that...polarizing. A masculine man feels comfortable in his own skin....don't really care if most won't like it.
Dude I mean idk if its an asian thing but I've gone to the extent of considering myself autistic for not caring about what all the people around me think. I used to carry myself as someone who tried to be a leader, someone who had beliefs and tried to make his actions shoe them. Being masculine can be so polarizing nobody is even going to want to be around you. Thats's where I'm at right now. My friends are so sheep minded it drives me nuts but as soon as an asian steps outside your 'place' you get shut down so I don't blame them. This is definitely what I've needed to hear for a long time since I've acted it out since a young age but never had anyone ever tell me I was on the right track. Thanks to people like Alexander and Jordan P for being the paternal role models we never had.
Great Video. Now I understand my behavior in the last 10 years. I always care of what other people think about me. Being happy if the group likes me... But always asking myself why my relationships were so bad. Now I understand all of that. The problem is I have no idea how to start to be masculine.
It's easy, just stop thinking of what people would say and do only what you think is right for you. Be honest, straightforward and don't waste your time. That's quite hard actually :-)
I watched this video and it inspired me to go for my goals. As a result I finally bucked up the courage to try and switch colleges. I was too late and will now have to go into the world of work. My point being that I finally made peace with my choices and went for it and can now move on. I don't care so much about my masculinity, I do however see value in being assertive and getting on with life and not to live in fear and indecision.
“Nothing is free and everything comes at a price” only applies as an absolute to men. It may often be the case but it’s not an absolute for women the way it is for men.
women pay the price regardless if they take an alpha or beta. If they take an alpha she will have to accept far stricter boundaries. If she takes a hardcore beta she is going to be repulsed by him. It's the hybrid that works best for thjem but even they are rare.
@@polishpimp4233 if she takes an alpha she’ll never have to pay for a thing for the rest of her life and will accomplish every goal she has vicariously through him. If she takes a beta she’ll be repulsed by having to tell him how to do all that for her without asking. A woman will always resent a man for not being an alpha.
You have made my day man!! Personally, I have no major problems in cutting certain toxic people loose that I may come across from time to time. Upon reflecting on that I came to the conclusion that it isn't that hard for me to do so because I'm not a guy with so many friends. I value quality more than quantity and therefore I'm not so attached to the majority's expectations.
👏 Bravo! Another great video! It made me sad to learn that enemies are inevitable when bold, principled, and masculine. I try to be an amiable guy, liked by others, because life is too short to seethe and hate. But I will take being respected long before being accepted.
Before the video starts, get a bumble advert, questioning masculinity and having people in it say it's basically old fashioned, it can or should mean anything you want it to mean, it's potentially not good for men to be masculine, etc. The video starts - Alexander starts talking about how some men don't want to develop their masculinity and fear social disapproval. Don't listen to those who would try to shame you for your masculinity, lads - they are fearful and jealous of what we either have, or are able to develop.
I use ad blockers so sometimes I forget ads even exist, but now it's really frustrating to think of all the men being brainwashed by ads like the one you describe.
symbungee - I suspect, and concede I might be wrong, that the ad algorithm might be deciding that the type of people watching Alexander Grace videos are single men who would like to improve their attractiveness to women.
@@Neptunianist Symbungee just sounds like the type to look for reasons to nitpick and doubt things that don't even warrant doubting. Reminds me of one time I saw a guy try to explain to a woman that the world is much bigger than her group of friends and there are a lot of crazies out there. He said something like, "somewhere out there is somebody licking a sidewalk as we speak" and her immediate response was, "none of my friends would do that" 🙃
Irony of Bumble is that it forces women to make the first move, because feminists assume whatever is the norm for men is the position of power. Unfortunately for them, the one making the first move is the subordinate in the interaction.
Imagine someone who literally throws away everything for the approval of others. One day they are put into a position where two people want something and they have to choose. I was once that person. And I can tell you 8 years 20k debt and recovering from the damage they did to me, and I can say no-one respected me. Nor was it at any point worth it.
I needed this dude, you’re right about the fear of possibly losing approval of others. You, my friend, have changed my path and view on things in life for the better. I’ll see how things go from now on. 👍
I remain small because I'm not acceptable. I've grown to not wanting that acceptance most of the time. If it's not what you know, but who you know... well, I don't know hardly anyone. I'm very defensive, because I half way expect physical attack at any point. It takes quite a lot of contact for me to relax. This has been conditioned into me by dozens of people over my childhood years. It doesn't matter how large I am. I can't stop an entire mob. I'm unwanted.
As you complete yourself, as you WORK, as you WORK MORE and WORK EVEN MORE, gain strength, mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually, learn and become self-dependent, some will hate you and seek to stop you. That's good. Some will love you for who you are based on what you are capable of doing. Most will never really know you and not really care.
Of course he is a prophet but he isn't the example you can follow your whole life It is Only Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him every one should and everyone CAN follow
Not gonna lie, been watching your channel a awhile and you definitely have some solid contents but this specific video to me is probably the cream on top of the cake. Please expand or do another video related to this topic. Interviewing girls is cool but this is better. Also a Jordan Peterson fan.
Honestly I never cared about what people think and speak my mind on things but all the girls around me doesn't find me attractive but just "rude and insensitive" and many more things. Me being polarizing doesn't work at all because the reality is that women say and do 1 thing and just change their mind and say something else because women will just randomly change their standards on men and to more specific guys. So really no matter what I do, I will never be attractive, the only chance I have is my looks but I'm average looking. So I'll just be in limbo
Being rude and masculine isn't the same. Women think alike to form bonds with other women because safety in numbers thinking. They will only be attracted to masculine men if they truly think hes able to take on anything that comes his way otherwise her safety will be in danger. Just my 2 cents.
Plz talk about Female Chamaeleons ( Woman who will mimic the behavior of men and get the validation so that they can use that validation to get attention or manipulate them once the guys is hooked)
gave up smoking just over 2 years ago, using a drug called champix. turns out I was one of the small fraction of a percent of people who have a reaction. no more sex drive, how much simpler life has become.
@@MiguelTavaresMAT possibly, but PROVING it was the drug that caused it would be VERY difficult and insanely expensive to attempt in Australia and I refuse no win no fee lawyers who would take 90% of everything anyway. it is what it is, adapt and go on.
I’m glad you addressed the concept of polarization. Polarization can be a good thing. We do well to ask ourselves: Should we polarize ourselves in favor of Good or in favor of Evil? There is no valor in avoiding polarization just because someone thinks polarization itself is bad.
Exactly. Do not care about what others think about you. In fact, let them even judge you. It doesn’t matter because you basically don’t care. Actually it’s even good you’re not liked by everyone.
Hey AG, I’m curious, have you ever made a video covering something along the lines of “male value” from a woman’s perspective? I’ve noticed over the years that women seem to view men for their current value and almost never for their future potential (even when there is clearer a lot). They only want the winner not the one who’s might win.
"You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life." - Winston Churchill
I get it, I've been selling drugs since I was 15, because of that I made enemies of other gangs and even the police but hey at least I stood for something
@@diogocourinha4943 No, man. Quotes do not work like that. You just want to feel worthy of your actions. There is more courage in doing good deeds than bad ones. Do not be lazy and don't blame your situation, so you have to excuse yourself.
@@diogocourinha4943 😂😂
@@grotgrabinski7068 wait you didn't get the sarcasm did you
@Kvothe Windrunner OMG are yall dumb, I didn't sell anything, I was being sarcastic, I gave an example where this quote can be misused, they try to make it seem like the quote means something positive, I'm showing you it doesn't, it isn't something to be appreciated its something to be analized carefully, any crook can use that quote, it doesn't make him better as the quote would suggest
“A lion doesn’t concern himself with the opinion of sheep.”
-Tywin Lannister
And that Lion was killed off by the one that he called "Sheep", not to mention, that "Sheep" was his own son, based on the way he treated Tyrion.
@@Paganichi
That should be obvious, man. A lion means the ones in the high positions. Sheep means weak ass people.
And the strong always think they are "Strong" until they got themselves killed by someone even weaker than them.
That's why "Few stood against many" and "The Weak defeats The Strong" also exist
@@御雷零-p5x All that mean is that you can't judge a book by its cover. Trion was always a Lion, Tywin just couldn't see it
@@MichaelJayyKRUMPS
Then you got it. Tywin thought highly of himself, without knowing any better.
And for Tyrion, i think the word "Wolf" fits him more, but that depends on how you wanna call him, so it does not matter.
Don’t underestimate a cornered animal would apply to Tyrion.
"You cannot be a hero without creating enemies"
Wow 👍
Not entirely true tho I get the messege. A firefighter entering a burning building to rescue a kid is very much a hero without having created enemies.
@@kevinvandenoetelaar5880 You may be taking the word "hero" too literally, because a firefighter is absolutely a hero by virtue of his heroic deeds.The figurative use of the word here represents a lifelong self development journey, one who honestly and decisively embarks on a path and fights for his beliefs. The main idea of the video is to stop being a one-size-fits-all people pleaser, and to honestly decide on one's values.
@@kevinvandenoetelaar5880 Some people will say he did it for clout and hate on him and envy him in secret...
@@kevinvandenoetelaar5880 It's nice to call firefighters heroes, but in the literal sense they are not. They are trained to go into fire during dangerous situations and do exactly that in exchange for money. I'm sure there are plenty of firefighters who posses 0 heroic qualities. I'm sure there are more than plenty of firefighters who left children to burn because they lost their cool.
“You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.”
-André Gide
"A man who cares too much about what other people think is not going to be attractive to women because a desire for popularity is inheritly a feminine trait." Gold.
So every politician is feminine?
@@nordichellas3155 In systems that reward broad support over deep support, yes.
@@nordichellas3155 Yes. The only “politician” that’s masculine is a king
I think the “don’t care about what other people think” mindset should be taken with a grain of salt because most people need a minimum level of likability, popularity, and social circle size in order to have good mental health. “Just don’t care what they think, bro” is pretty trash advice for friendless outcast loner males; they need to raise their status and likability to gain the social connections necessary to get the things they want in life.
@@nordichellas3155...yes , mainly a bunch of 5- toed sloths in biz suits...yes men
agreeable people want people to like them. women are more agreeable than men.
-Jordan Peterson
@JJ Bookman ...I don't think it means what you think it does!
@JJ Bookman how about you clarify things for us and point it out whats wrong the comment i just made
Just by personal experience, I have to disagree a bit with Jordan Peterson at this point. I think women are generally more agreeable than men with strangers. Men are way more agreeable than women with family members, partners, close friends, and even their own children. At least that is the case in my family and social circle.
I'm wondering, what is your personal experience about this topic?
@@janschneider8647 It's not Peterson's opinion. There's a lot of psychological research and literature that shows that women are more agreeable on average. Of course, this is the psychological trait agreeableness, so it might differ from another definition.
I don't mean to disagree with the rest of your comment. I need to think about it more. Just saying that agreeableness has been studied, and he's just quoting literature.
@@janschneider8647Can you explain to me detail why are men are the one who's more agreeable in the family?
I love masculine men. Feisty with integrity and stands by his principles, yes please. Simultaneously, I love being feminine, submissive, and nurturing.
Most women like a masculine man, and always have, but they still want to be able to control him... like a tiger on a leash. It doesn't work that way.
Ezekiel Watters I know they do, sadly. In doing so they’ve given up their true power. I don’t know why a woman would prefer to do the things, when all she has to do is be a lady and her man will do the things for her. She handles domestic life and the home, and he slays dragons for her and for their family. Pretty simple. But that’s a bygone era. Women have been brainwashed to think they need the same power that a man has, without realizing the power they already had that was complimented by the man’s power, and now it’s all screwed up.
@@kimmywimmy7305 Your in tune with your femeninity
@@kimmywimmy7305
It wasn't perfect--nothing in this world ever is--but it was a pretty sweet deal all things considered... a pragmatic division of labor that played to the strengths of each and compensated for their respective weaknesses, but most of all it allowed men and women to breathe and simply be what they are and do what they were created to do: support and compliment one another while providing a healthy stable environment in which to raise children. Today's kids are the real victims of the current state of affairs.
Ezekiel Watters you’re right, it wasn’t perfect, it’s definitely better than this broken family situation so many are in. Yes, kids are the true victims. Kids are not “resilient.” Kids adapt to survive, but they get damaged without that basic foundation. Then they grow up and have to deal with the damage, or not deal with it and continue the cycle.
I'm a 58 year old Male and have seen the decline of masculinity a problem that has worsened and accelerated since 2009.
Glad I still remember the days when having a pair was normal for men.
I have never cared what other thought or think of me and the ladies seem to like that.
I blame F.R.I.E.N.D.S.
I haven't seen a "man" since the 80's. They simply don't exist anymore. There are men who try to be "alpha", but it's not the same, it's a cartoon exaggeration based on fantasy. Being a dick is not being a "man".
I'm 15. How can I gain my masculinity?
He'll Yeah in 2009 life went haywire.
@@jokinpty223 Basically, all Sitcoms.
Wow this is a eye opener. I will start being bold.
*Let's go bold!*
Some women may be attracted to you initially because of your masculine boldness. But very sensitive women might not be able to handle it in the long term. Especially women who really care about what people think of them.
Doing what someone on the internet tells you because you think it will get you chicks isn't exactly "bold".
@@GoogleAreEnemyCombatants Maybe he wants to become more masculine?
@Anthony Thompson Fair. Nor is it masculine
It's easier to be a feminine man, it's hard to become masculine
@Gila6918 casey zander
It's healthier for men to do the hard work and develop strong masculinity
I will stay feminine.
Don't listen to this lie. It's actually easier to become masculine if you are a man. Feminine men are programmed to be feminine. They ain't born to be feminine
It‘s difficult to be masculine without a father figure..
Now you can begin to see why so many barristers are male, the whole essence of the job is sticking to a point of view and arguing it.
Oh I thought u said 'barista' and I couldn't figure it out 🤷♂️
I noticed the best of the best lawyers, especially those who defend the accused in court are all men.
Even among them, there is distinction. I'm training to be a lawyer and I have to pay attention to my agreeableness, because I can be a real b*tch if I need to be. The lawyers I respect and trust are assertive and disagreeable, but also kind people to a certain degree. The ones trying to fake it with hypermasculinity are obvious to spot and very neurotic.
@@shawnellemartineaux6212 The trick is, if you don't know something, then don't take a position (open your mouth). But if you know for sure you are right-Then be assertive and as disagreeable as you like, the difference is either arrogance or confidence ("arrogance" is misplaced/undue confidence).
@@kingkang6877 Common mistake 😂
I asked some friends recently what they thought of me at first , the overwhelming response was , 'we didn't like you' why I asked , ' your very opinionated'.
I have absolutely no problem with this , in fact it shows I'm worthy their time.
There's a fine line between "opinionated" and "asshole."
Why did you ask that? Just assume they like you if you spend time with them.
Are we equating opinionated with masculine?
Umm opinionated isn’t always masculine. Confidence is quiet and insecurities are loud.
I was saying that it was interesting the reason why people initially didn't warm to me. Nothing to do with being masculine or not.
The stronger the enemies the more glorious the hero will be.
I wished my dad tought me how to be a man. He spent his life terrorizing me and beat me. Thanks dad...
I feel you, but guess what? that just makes you to discover it for yourself. I learned by my own experiences and learned from others. Become the Man U want to become, improving yourself to better than your dad ever is
@@cocamedia6375 thank you guys
@@maudlynn5554 thank you
He couldn't have taught you because he didn't know himself. You need to learn from other sources. All the best with that
Get over it,that's the only way to true manhood.i went through the same thing and some of my friends went through worse,but guess what, it doesn't matter,in fact I appreciate and understand my dad
Life is much better when you stop caring what others think of you. The fact that it makes you more masculine is just an added benefit.
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This is lowkey one of your best videos. Everyone needs to understand this.
He's good at explaining r types but not K. It's interesting to hear his take though.
Here here
I don’t think I’ll ever understand a man that doesn’t want his masculinity. If ur group doesn’t like u being masculine I’m gonna guess it’s ur group that’s the problem. There are very few girls that want a guy that’s weak or things along that line.
George Bush are you handicapped or did you just not watch the video he talked about how some men didn’t want their masculinity so they would appeal to people, because people wouldn’t like their masculinity.
Being masculine is more risky, but being feminine isn't worth it since it doesn't guarantee social approval anyway. Some will be disgusted by your weakness and plenty of people will just refuse to like you no matter what.
I’m confused by feminine men. Like if you act girly or have earrings? Or you are thin and not muscular? Or is it more about personality or maybe both.
@@travis6694 acting feminine means seeking approval of others
@@travis6694 Think of all the things that make people uncomfortable/scared in life, but would be helpful to master. Stuff like public speaking, dancing, working out, removing the filter on your opinions, etc. Masculinity is about seeing one's fears as challenges to be conquered. Women at their core are afraid of risk, and you can see through certain clues that they just don't get the same satisfaction from accomplishment as men do. They would rather be WITH a winner than become a winner themselves, but what it takes to be a winner changes with the times and your own personal situation. You have to be flexible without looking for excuses to not get ahead. You can still look feminine while acting masculine, but usually the masculine drive to succeed tends to manifest itself in the way you look as well. So if you see someone who looks feminine to you because of shrimpy arms and soft voice when talking to girls, it is most likely tied to a lack of masculine drive that would have otherwise motivated them to work out and deepen their voice to display confidence. Part of what makes it so complicated is simply because our very feminist society doesn't want to acknowledge the benefits of masculinity. They try to confuse the issue and frame masculinity as being emotionless and sexually compulsive. Actual masculinity would encourage mastery of one's emotions/compulsions, but to many women admitting they tend to not have such self control is offensive so it's easier to just demonize.
As a man being feminine is a guarantee of not being liked but being masculine has the potential of being liked by some.
Within the first 30 seconds, that just felt pretty great to hear.
Even when it comes to stuff like living a more meaningful life, it's better to have a few real friends than a lot of fake ones.
Faking for popularity doesn't build character.
Being yourself despite all the hardships is what strengthens you as a man and an individual.
As someone who tries to be good and tries to succeed while trying to be the best I can be, it's hellish, but I won't give up
Cause what's the point in anything if I can't even be myself?
@@MDStepko In other words, develop on your terms rather than everyone else's.
Preach! 👏🏼💯🌟
You're no clown. Well said.
“If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.”
“Now is the time to get serious about living your ideals. How long can you afford to put off who you really want to be? Your nobler self cannot wait any longer. Put your principles into practice ― now. Stop the excuses and the procrastination. This is your life! You aren’t a child anymore… From this instant on, vow to stop disappointing yourself. Separate yourself from the mob. Decide to be extraordinary and do what you need to do ― now.”
― Epictetus ca. 100 AD
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Masculinity is capability
What an answer!
Very nicely explained 👍. Masculine means fearless, strong willed, decisive without misuse your power. Masculine man are kind, humble, good hearted when dealing with good people
Yes.
True yet it is also ammunition for women to use against a man. Say hi, he's too nice. Say nothing and he's an asshole. Damned if you do and damned if you don't
This is one dude both white and black men support. Great video once again. We men should really stick together
As Patrice O'neal used to say, you gotta be willing to take an "L"
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i see a patrice o neil comment, i like
If you will righteously leave she will righteously stay. She won't let you play? Take your ball and play somewhere else. -Patrice O'neal the pimp the legend
My happiness is paramount
Patrice O'neal
When I was growing g up I always worried about people liking me and didn't realize that was a problem. now that I am 54 I don't care whether people like me or not. I've also never felt the need to be super popular or the center of attention. I was confident it who and what I was and felt that would be enough. sadly it wasn't because girls and later women ignored and rejected me, didn't appreciate or value me.
It's 100% true. Be unapologetic about your views and opinions. Woman can't help but love a man who gives 2 shits what people think. I’ve seen this in action and it's so true.
any examples?
Mostly yes, but it's only true up to a point.
A woman loved me, but then I refused to take the covid jab and started protesting against lockdown policies and became pro-Trump. She bought the mainstream narrative and basically saw me as having gone crazy, as well as me engaging in behavior that she thought would hurt others. And so she dumped me.
Thank you. This is stuff dads should be teaching their boys. I grew up without a father and I'm realizing how much I have absorbed female traits and working on correcting that thanks to channels like yours. Its not about playing a role but naturally accepting an being what you are.
Hello Alexander-- I got on my masculine journey over a year ago. Every area of my life improved, including my marriage. I am happier than I have ever been.
In Native American culture, woman were in charge of building and maintaining the shelters. Everything pertaining to the home and house was womans domain. Quite a lot of Native American societies were matriarchal as well. That did not mean that woman ran everything. Men and woman still had their places and duties in life. Society was balanced and functional. But woman were valued at every stage of life and it was the eldest, most wise woman, of the village, who had the last say, in everything that happened. We in today's culture, are out of balance on so many levels.
No one can lose what he does not have. No one can lose universal social approval... because no one has universal social approval. Whoever understands that is set to social freedom, even if married.
I have been watching you’re videos for a while now and as a 25 year old man who has grow up with mostly women in my life you videos have been very insightful. I just notice I’m not subscribed, I just fixed that. Thanks for the amazing content.
Masculinity don't mean you need women approval a pychopath gets more women's approval pointless having a dating coach for a worn out feminist
Where have you been all this time. You’re so well read.
Since there is no new JP content coming out until he recovers I'm glad I have this as a substitute.
"If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
...
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise: ...
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And-which is more-you’ll be a Man, my son!" ~Rudyard Kipling
I wish I had this info when I was 18 years old. For all you young ones out there, take heed of what Alexander says. You have a harder social environment to live in (social media, the decline of western civilization) but you at the same time have access to knowledge as never before in history through the internet. Seek out the truth and use it to make you a better person but be mindful of the added dangers of the age we live in.
I’m gonna boldly express my masculinity by saying that you need a haircut, and you can boldly reject my suggestion by saying you need no ones aproval but your own
I do agree with you. He is wasting his potential. 🤷♂
You could also say that focusing on one's looks is a feminine trait.
@varmastiko2908 not necessarily. All people are looks based in order to assess if someone is a threat or worth their time.
This video right here.. Has been missing from youtube. Now it’s complete. 👍🏼
The fact that I have always felt this, but have never been able to verbalize it!!! Wow. Thank you!
I needed this. I really needed this. I care so much about what others think. It’s damaged my life so much but I needed that awareness to really see it.
I always wondered why people either love me or hate me. Now I get it. Thank you. Subbed.
Yeh, I stopped caring what other people think of me years ago. All you have to do is ask, “is this person better than me?” Better could be taller, stronger, smarter or whatever. If the answer is no, then why worry about what they think of you?
So... if the person was taller, would you worry?
Mr. Grace, you knocked this one out of the park. This is one of your most helpful videos. Thank you for your effort. What you stated is why I do not care what people think of me in general, because as a Slav in America, I am well aware of just being white but also not a Anglo-Saxon is polarizing in and of itself.
I really wish I had this kind of information when I was still in school, bec. I would've been MUCH better off than I was!...
Alex, IMHO, you and your channel is an essential part of the next gen of guys developing into truly High Quality, REAL MEN... I only wish I had this type of info and channels like this online when I was a teen and 20-something, as my life would've been much better by now than it currently is!...
Any younger guy watching Alexander's videos, consider yourself VERY lucky to have him as a mentor, along with the internet and all of the other modern resources available at your fingertips in order to be learning all of this kind of stuff at a younger age, because knowing and understanding this kind of stuff will help you throughout your life, and in EVERY situation, not only just with your interactions with women!
I am approaching 50 years "young" pretty soon here, so it might be a little bit too late for me in some regards for certain things, but I still learn from and really appreciate this channel in any case!
Alex, you deserve more subscriptions, because if everyone in the world, both guys AND girls, knew and understood all that you talk about here on your channel, (and on your Patreon page), then this whole world, and espec. the dynamic between men and women now, espec. in the "dating and relationship game", would ALL be MUCH better off than it currently is rn!... So keep up your awesome work to try your best to help society in general with your knowledge and understanding of what it truly means to be a good person, and just to be a human being!
I partly disagree with you. If you are a man you must be bold enough to state your opinions without fear of offending anybody. But also, if you are in the later stages of masculinity development, you should be able to state why you think you are right to have that opinion. And you should also be able to admit you were wrong (and get a stronger caracter) if somebody shows you where you are wrong (Ideally with your help in the process in proving your opinion to be wrong).
Know this: when a man can understand what is really wrong and right, and why, then he has no constraints anymore. He knows where he is stepping and why he is making that step. There is no insecurity about his actions anymore. He knows what emotional displays are fair and when they are not. He is still insecure, but he is able to harness it to advance his world knowledge about human behaviour (he also harness the insecurity of others).
Alpha males are naturally leaders.
Leaders are naturally judges.
So that is why men NEED a good sense of justice. That is what guides his actions. Sadly it is hard to find fair justice knowing people nowadays.
You are partially right, yes it's true that men should be judges and should have strong values but not many men are like that. You will often find pseudo alpha-males that are a big shot when it comes to talking and say what they think without a care if the other party is offended. They quite often verbally confront others, specially nowadays through social media. But they quickly back off when the stakes are real, like a physical fight. Of course in ancient times a man should also defend his ideas through force when needed. Naturally, this also leads to "might makes right" and the raise of tyrants to the leadership of their tribes. So is a balance. A man should be masculine enough to express his ideas without fear, strong enough to defend his ideas through force but also diplomatic enough not to put everyone against him and intelligent enough to recognize when he is the wrong. This lead to a code of honor among males, like dueling in ancient times. But we lost that in modern society since fighting each other became a crime.
he never claimed that you shouldn't admit when you're wrong and be an ignorant/arrogant ass...
he just let you know that part of being a man is saying things and having opinions that others won't agree with.. you don't have to be a dick.. just be you even if it means you'll lose all your friends
You have some points but a man is neither emotional or insecure, those are traits of a woman.
@KK C exactly, of course in today's society we don't fight anymore unless is absolutely necessary. But in ancient times, it was different.
You have a point here in what an alpha is however I'll add this:
An alpha is someone who is fully invested and committed, really think about this because a lot of people don't get this. There can be weak alphas including the fact that not everyone is 100% all the time. A great example of this was that there was steel work here in Ontario years ago the moment the work dried up divorce shot up 100%. I say this so people can see that essentially not every woman can be fully invested and committed in her family or union, it's just temporary.
Yes an alpha is a leader they will decide for the pack. Decisions are always a security issue which is inherently a MALE TRAIT 96% or higher. An example of a decision is whether they would come across two mushrooms and one is poison and one is not. They then will decide which mushroom is safe to eat for the group. If they choose wrong they then like you said correct themselves, where this knowledge spreads and permeates throughout the group.
However there can be the chance that one mushroom while poison doesn't affect you right away, but over time it will! This is still a security decision where male foresight is highly crucial to the group's survival and way of life and whether the group acknowledges their leader and trusts them.
I'll give you a real life example! I dated this girl once who had a job, she tried to get me to work there with her, but I sensed something was off about the female store manager who gave the interview. She wanted me to *Commit/invest right away (use my alpha self).* Later on the girlfriend told me of a problem that had arisen I can't remember the details but the brown guy and another white guy had left the store. To my knowledge they were the backbone of operations and she couldn't keep them. They had found another job and invited my girlfriend to join them at another job I remember her indecision, but I remember my answer, I told her to go with those men!
A few months later she would find out that the manager of her former store had messed things up so much that she was essentially not allowed to hire people anymore and was only store manager in name again I forget the details, but this was the best example I could draw from memory.
You can find these traits in any male which is why I say every male is potentially an alpha. Finally I will say this for people who continuously harp on Beta. Like alpha there can be strong alpah's and there can be weak alphas the same goes for beta. The major difference is beta usually is in the realm of not being so committed or invested. They can even be below, on par, or better than alpha they just wont commit or they just don't give a hoot. This doesn't make them weak usually because like being on any team you're going to have to be able to tangle with and against other teams and their alpha's!
Final point which many of you have seen as a leader or the alpha many people will want to be alpha or see themselves as alpha or like them. Remember beta doesn't always necessarily care for such recognition. Women cannot determine who is beta or alpha she can only sense what she likes and does not. Leave the judgment up the men who have real stake in the game!
When a man has high standards and acts in a congruent manner regardless of social/peer pressure, he will be 'hated' by many people and yet, will also be respected by most.
This channel NEEEEDS to blow up this guy is a gem of a creator 💎keep it up bro!
happy to be a lone wolf.
Facts
yea bro lone wolf straight
Same 💪 sometimes a lonely road is the path to a strong destination
With battle scars
Being a lone wolf isnt anything to be proud of, the idea is a flawed way of modern thinking. Men especially need tribes to help eachother grow.
We live in a society today when everyone wants to be liked. To true opinions, no honesty. Great words there, mate.
Great video. I would alter "masculinity provides" to masculinity "produces". To a man, he is producing based on his unique manhood. To women/society, he is providing.
One of the best videos on the internet. Also laughed with "it's a feature not a bug" from the software world.
There is no bigger turn off that a masculine woman
It's how women feel about feminine men
Ever since I realized what this video says and started to practice it the result was exactly that...polarizing.
A masculine man feels comfortable in his own skin....don't really care if most won't like it.
Dude I mean idk if its an asian thing but I've gone to the extent of considering myself autistic for not caring about what all the people around me think.
I used to carry myself as someone who tried to be a leader, someone who had beliefs and tried to make his actions shoe them.
Being masculine can be so polarizing nobody is even going to want to be around you. Thats's where I'm at right now. My friends are so sheep minded it drives me nuts but as soon as an asian steps outside your 'place' you get shut down so I don't blame them.
This is definitely what I've needed to hear for a long time since I've acted it out since a young age but never had anyone ever tell me I was on the right track. Thanks to people like Alexander and Jordan P for being the paternal role models we never had.
I like your content,and your influence, while talking about "...some like it and subscribe...." and turning your eyes to the button, got me.
Be bold, and mighty forces will come to your aid.
I'm a 17 y/o guy and I'm glad I found your channel.. You make alot of sense 👍
Here's a false Christian who believes in evolution and not creation
Great Video. Now I understand my behavior in the last 10 years. I always care of what other people think about me. Being happy if the group likes me...
But always asking myself why my relationships were so bad.
Now I understand all of that.
The problem is I have no idea how to start to be masculine.
It's easy, just stop thinking of what people would say and do only what you think is right for you. Be honest, straightforward and don't waste your time. That's quite hard actually :-)
@@alexmashkin863 it’s not easy, but it’s simple
I watched this video and it inspired me to go for my goals.
As a result I finally bucked up the courage to try and switch colleges. I was too late and will now have to go into the world of work.
My point being that I finally made peace with my choices and went for it and can now move on.
I don't care so much about my masculinity, I do however see value in being assertive and getting on with life and not to live in fear and indecision.
“Nothing is free and everything comes at a price” only applies as an absolute to men. It may often be the case but it’s not an absolute for women the way it is for men.
women pay the price regardless if they take an alpha or beta. If they take an alpha she will have to accept far stricter boundaries. If she takes a hardcore beta she is going to be repulsed by him. It's the hybrid that works best for thjem but even they are rare.
@@polishpimp4233 if she takes an alpha she’ll never have to pay for a thing for the rest of her life and will accomplish every goal she has vicariously through him. If she takes a beta she’ll be repulsed by having to tell him how to do all that for her without asking. A woman will always resent a man for not being an alpha.
You have made my day man!! Personally, I have no major problems in cutting certain toxic people loose that I may come across from time to time. Upon reflecting on that I came to the conclusion that it isn't that hard for me to do so because I'm not a guy with so many friends. I value quality more than quantity and therefore I'm not so attached to the majority's expectations.
This video just opened my eyes. Thank you.
I learned so much from Alexander. Thanks!
Lesson of this video: Don't try to be loved by everyone. Just be based.
👏 Bravo! Another great video!
It made me sad to learn that enemies are inevitable when bold, principled, and masculine. I try to be an amiable guy, liked by others, because life is too short to seethe and hate. But I will take being respected long before being accepted.
I think man need to think about their social status too. No one was safe when alone not back then at least
yeah but then again it’s more feminine to cling to safetiness
I Think that is the most helpful video u made till now. I really needed this. Thank you Alexander.
Before the video starts, get a bumble advert, questioning masculinity and having people in it say it's basically old fashioned, it can or should mean anything you want it to mean, it's potentially not good for men to be masculine, etc.
The video starts -
Alexander starts talking about how some men don't want to develop their masculinity and fear social disapproval.
Don't listen to those who would try to shame you for your masculinity, lads - they are fearful and jealous of what we either have, or are able to develop.
I use ad blockers so sometimes I forget ads even exist, but now it's really frustrating to think of all the men being brainwashed by ads like the one you describe.
I've never had such an ad from a dating site.
Does your comment say more about you and your search history than anything else?
Maybe it's your frame.
symbungee - I suspect, and concede I might be wrong, that the ad algorithm might be deciding that the type of people watching Alexander Grace videos are single men who would like to improve their attractiveness to women.
@@Neptunianist Symbungee just sounds like the type to look for reasons to nitpick and doubt things that don't even warrant doubting. Reminds me of one time I saw a guy try to explain to a woman that the world is much bigger than her group of friends and there are a lot of crazies out there. He said something like, "somewhere out there is somebody licking a sidewalk as we speak" and her immediate response was, "none of my friends would do that" 🙃
Irony of Bumble is that it forces women to make the first move, because feminists assume whatever is the norm for men is the position of power. Unfortunately for them, the one making the first move is the subordinate in the interaction.
I'm 18 and I think I'm very lucky to have found this.
Imagine someone who literally throws away everything for the approval of others.
One day they are put into a position where two people want something and they have to choose.
I was once that person. And I can tell you 8 years 20k debt and recovering from the damage they did to me, and I can say no-one respected me. Nor was it at any point worth it.
I needed this dude, you’re right about the fear of possibly losing approval of others. You, my friend, have changed my path and view on things in life for the better. I’ll see how things go from now on. 👍
very juicy video, hit the nail on the head!
This should be the first video every single viewer watch, it is core
A wise man once said:
“A happy woman is a miserable man, a happy man is a happy relationship” - Patrice O’Neal (1969-2011)
Patrice O'Neal was an Oracle for Men. His final work Elephant in the Room was a work of art.
I always felt "happy wife, happy life" was bullshit. Next time I hear it, I have a response.
This dude helping me rediscover my manhood one video at a time.
Thank you sir.
I remain small because I'm not acceptable. I've grown to not wanting that acceptance most of the time. If it's not what you know, but who you know... well, I don't know hardly anyone. I'm very defensive, because I half way expect physical attack at any point. It takes quite a lot of contact for me to relax. This has been conditioned into me by dozens of people over my childhood years. It doesn't matter how large I am. I can't stop an entire mob. I'm unwanted.
Given your trauma it might help to sesk therapy.
I had similar views in the past - you have to realize most people are not evil
@@samuelallan7452 Well, most people didn't actively torment me growing up, they just ignored me and my tormentors. Passivity is not a virtue.
I think a lot of this comes down to confidence and self esteem
The key to feeling masculine is to have enough testosterone. Look after your health. Stay fit and don't undersleep.
there are gay men with lots of testosterone
@@somerandomguy7458 there are mentally disturbed men with lots of testosterone
And don't fap for reasons other than treating pain.
As you complete yourself, as you WORK, as you WORK MORE and WORK EVEN MORE, gain strength, mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually, learn and become self-dependent, some will hate you and seek to stop you. That's good. Some will love you for who you are based on what you are capable of doing. Most will never really know you and not really care.
Prophet Jesus (may peace & blessings be upon him) is a beautiful Example for Human beings to Follow!
Great Respect For Him!
Of course he is a prophet but he isn't the example you can follow your whole life
It is Only Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him every one should and everyone CAN follow
Indeed, There is great guidance in the life of Prophet Jesus (may peace & blessings be upon him).
@@ifrazali3052 Where do you get your information on how Muhammad lived? From the Koran, from the hadith or from the Imam?
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@@londonoxfordstreet indeed
Your comments are 100% correct. Good advice for young men
"It takes a man to become best girl"
- gigguk
Wow. Thank you so much for this video, you have opened my eyes. This is so true that it almost scares me
Not gonna lie, been watching your channel a awhile and you definitely have some solid contents but this specific video to me is probably the cream on top of the cake. Please expand or do another video related to this topic. Interviewing girls is cool but this is better. Also a Jordan Peterson fan.
Since you know so much how come I never see you do an infield pull ??? With your massive knowledge Alex.
Honestly I never cared about what people think and speak my mind on things but all the girls around me doesn't find me attractive but just "rude and insensitive" and many more things. Me being polarizing doesn't work at all because the reality is that women say and do 1 thing and just change their mind and say something else because women will just randomly change their standards on men and to more specific guys. So really no matter what I do, I will never be attractive, the only chance I have is my looks but I'm average looking. So I'll just be in limbo
Women won't ever respect a man who they don't see as rude and insensitive. Women always bad-mouth men they admire.
Being rude and masculine isn't the same. Women think alike to form bonds with other women because safety in numbers thinking. They will only be attracted to masculine men if they truly think hes able to take on anything that comes his way otherwise her safety will be in danger. Just my 2 cents.
And you changed my life, sir
You can't make an omlette without breaking a few eggs.
"It's not a bug, it's a feature" Well said. Just started following you today. Thanks for sharing this message/your Message.
All i need now is a majestic beard
👍 100% Agree. I could careless what other's think about me. I know who I am.
Please talk about healthy age gap between man and women in marriage and does this also help to build a happy married life.
Your answer... 10 years her senior.
It's not only the age gap but also a stage of life gap. I mean couple 18 and 30 it's very different from 40 and 52. Take that in consideration.
If her age has 2 digits she too old
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@@nighnkarnaout6835That sounds suspect AF.
Nailed it yet again my brother!
Plz talk about Female Chamaeleons ( Woman who will mimic the behavior of men and get the validation so that they can use that validation to get attention or manipulate them once the guys is hooked)
This is exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you 🙏
gave up smoking just over 2 years ago, using a drug called champix. turns out I was one of the small fraction of a percent of people who have a reaction.
no more sex drive, how much simpler life has become.
Is there space for legal action?
@@MiguelTavaresMAT possibly, but PROVING it was the drug that caused it would be VERY difficult and insanely expensive to attempt in Australia and I refuse no win no fee lawyers who would take 90% of everything anyway.
it is what it is, adapt and go on.
I’m glad you addressed the concept of polarization. Polarization can be a good thing. We do well to ask ourselves: Should we polarize ourselves in favor of Good or in favor of Evil? There is no valor in avoiding polarization just because someone thinks polarization itself is bad.
Exactly. Do not care about what others think about you. In fact, let them even judge you. It doesn’t matter because you basically don’t care. Actually it’s even good you’re not liked by everyone.
So a man's judgement was based on his usefulness.
I really needed this brother. Great video.
Hey AG, I’m curious, have you ever made a video covering something along the lines of “male value” from a woman’s perspective? I’ve noticed over the years that women seem to view men for their current value and almost never for their future potential (even when there is clearer a lot). They only want the winner not the one who’s might win.