7 WORST Rude Behaviors in 2024
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On the subject of using phones WHILE DRIVING: in some states in the US it's ACTUALLY ILLEGAL to use your phone WHILE YOU'RE DRIVING
Also I give you points for The Simpsons in your points. You for sure know comedy 🤣🤣🤣
Yes people who suddenly stop, or go slowly in the middle of steps or go to the side so you can't get past.
I've watched your channel for a few years now and have enjoyed seeing a younger person understand the importance of manners, self respect and respect. I enjoyed this video up until the point you decided to call a generation of people "boomers". Many times that word is used in a derogatory way. We happen to be your elders and where I'm from, respecting your elders is one of the first lessons you learn when you're a child.
I see so many men with zero manners. Pushing ahead of women. Not holding a door for a woman. It disgusts me. It's like "who raised you, wolves?"
@@annmariecarmedy6588They don't even bother to say "excuse me," and heaven forbid if you call them on it. Then, you're the enemy. I say, "take yourself to another planet. You're just in the way here."
When large groups take up the entire sidewalk! So rude!
Absolutely!
I live in Sicily, where one person , never mind more, can take up the entire pavement 😂, it's a remarkable skill. And people (especially tourists) walk out into the road without looking, making me get off my bike if I'm lucky enough not to fall. The marked cycle paths are used by pedestrians, runners, motorbikes and of course for parking
The talkers in grocery stores that spread across the whole isle and don't care that Im trying to shop with a baby and toddler and need to get things on the isle they're blocking then act rude when I say excuse me very politely. Manners are dead. An elderly man ran over my foot in Costco then got pissed at me over it🤪🤐 I just moved on. People are so tightly wound its not worth it to say anything.
the ones that pitch tents on the sidewalks, and use the gutters as toilets are the worst!
The Supreme Court is hearing arguments about what to do about this. It's hard to believe this is in dispute.
@@mariecurie7491 Italia is different. You are excused in my book. It is Gen Z Americans I cannot stand doing this
This video should be shown in high schools, universities and everywhere else as basic guide to humans how to not behave!😂
High school? Too late!
@@ottie1954😂😂😂😂 true
Or hear me out, parents, yes the parents should raise their kids appropriately. You know do their job as parents. Schools are for academic education.
@@Blondie77128 yes they should, but remember- not everyone has parents..
@@Blondie77128 That's not working thought is it? so what do we do? leave responsibilities to careless parents who also lack manners? Exactly why this should be taught in schools.
Boomer here. In my times, accepting an invitation and then not showing up would be unforgivable. Such a person would never be invited again. Even if your mother had just died, a brief phone call would still be expected.
A general principle, which my mother instilled into me very firmly: "Who do you think you are, that you should have the right to inconvenience someone else or make someone wait for you?"
I am a young person and I think this way too!
I get this. But they damn well better be prepared to wait if it's the weekend and it's my only time to sleep in and they want my company early. I don't play with my sleep and who the hell are they to require me to be sleep deprived to stay in their good books? No thank you!!!
@@nzingahoney So don't make plans for a time that isn't suitable for you. It's that simple.
@@deezed6478 I usually don't. No early weekend dates for me. But there was this one time a friend invited me and I was doing my self care thing and her friend expected everyone there by 8 just like on Mondays. Um NO
@@nzingahoney But in that case, you will have politely declined the invitation to begin with. (More politely than you have just worded it here... After all, they were not required to know that you need to sleep late on weekends...)
Taking a picture is one thing, but expecting the entire world to stop because you're creating content is something else. And then when girls go with 'Do you know who I am?' tone of voice and mannerism. How embarrassing..
A great video!
I even walk faster when I cross the street...
Narcissism
Jane Austen said “Manners is what holds a society together. At bottom propriety is concerned for other people. When that goes out the window, the gates of hell are shortly open, and ignorance is king”
Now we see why we are where we are
Beautiful. Which novel is this quote from?
wow, she said that beautifully
I hate three things:
1. People who start filming around them without realizing there’s other people who maybe don’t want to be filmed. They literally aim towards everyone else around them
2. Going out to eat with friends and when the food comes they take forever to take the perfect picture of the dish. I don’t mind them taking one picture but sometimes they take forever to do it, or even move the plate around so they get it perfect.
3. The same friends at the restaurant who spend the whole evening looking at their phones instead of spending time with us. That’s really rude.
I’ve never used social media (apart from UA-cam and Pinterest), so maybe I don’t know what I’m saying but I find these attitudes to be really rude.
Great video!
#2 my fiance mom does and she won't let us eat until she got her "perfect" photos. We stopped going to her house and outplaces with her.
Your message sums up the way I feel to a point. This is why a lot of times I prefer to just go out to eat alone because it takes away the whole enjoyment of spending time and enjoying a good dinner.
Still nowadays there are People, who openly throw their Litter on the Street 😮 or out of their Car! Not quite Environment friendly.
And I see Tins and half emptied Beverages at Bus Stops. Also when a Bin in nearby. But there are other People who want to use the Station Seats!
😊 ❤ 👍
If you're traveling to a major city (ie. New York, Toronto, Vancouver, Los Angeles, etc.) and you're walking around texting or taking pictures... just stand to the side near a building, and let people walk past. It's common sense!!
As a baby boomer, what I enjoy about your channel is all that you are teaching young women today. We always appreciated an invitation and showed up, and on time. We always dressed nicely and exhibited good manners. There seemed to be a lot more self respect when I was growing up. I find it so refreshing to see what you have done with your life Anna, Showing young ladies or any woman that we can turn our life around and make good choices for ourselves. You really have become a lovely young woman. We need good role models today.
What a kind message ❤️ thank you for that
I am forever grateful that I grew up before social media and mobile phones. My parents taught me how to behave in public and sadly, good manners are in short supply nowadays. I feel so sorry for young people who seem lost in this world, particularly when they are inconsiderate of others and ignorant of how they appear.
Live in Staten Island, New York City 40 years ago, before social media and mobile phones. People were worse if at all possible. The takeaway is that suckittude and bad attitude is nothing new, merely has escaped its traditional boundaries as the Narcissism Wave moved across our society.
Kids will display the manners they are taught. Many of these kids have no positive role model and that's a shame, especially in this world of social media and all.
Yeah, raised by baby boomers, Gen X. So what the hell happened? Why didn’t we pass this down?
Daycare
@@Blondie77128 daycare
Most of these are just about being a nice, respectful person. I agree with everything.
Absolutely
I can't point my finger on the timeline where the sense of community was overpowered by the saying "you don't owe anyone anything". We do owe respect and basic manners to the people around us and we do have to take into consideration how our actions impact them.
I notice that people will tell you about themselves, but never ask how you are doing. And then, if they do ask, they look pained to have listen to the response, or worse: pull out their phone. Like you say "me, me, me" and nothing else.
Narcissists.
Yes it seems a lot of people are like that. I would not waste my time with them.
I struggle with avoiding small talk - if in a quick hello people ask how I am doing, I often just respond, “Hi, good,” and don’t ask how they are. It’s been on my mind if this is bad manners to not ask in return when I know what their answer will be.
I have good relationships and so many people I care about and I never hesitate to ask them how they are when I have time for a conversation.
Did I write this?? I have realized this for years ...
People ask "Hey how are ya ?" but often don't listen for a response...or actually don't expect a response. I had a friend ask me that question to which I replied "I'm short!" She wasn't expecting that! 🤣🤣 She stopped in her tracks and said "What did you say??" I repeated my answer with the addition of saying "You're always asking me that question but never honestly stop to listen to my response." After that, she was a little more kind, a little more mindful of manners. Mind you, I'm not an important person but I think it's a bit rude to ask a question and never wait for the person's response.
Super flakiness is such a pandemic! So many times people don't even bother to answer invites. And when they do "maybe" means no and "yes" means maybe. They are so scared that something "better" may come up. Or if they'll "feel like" coming in the moment. It's super immature and self-centered.
The lack of manners nowadays is astounding. I had people RSVP to my wedding, ask for their +1s to attend, and then neither of them showed for the actual wedding. People who don't say "thank you" when you go out of your way to help them. People who will go to church, dressy events, etc in bike shorts and a tube top. The list goes on!
The lack of RSVP, So rude!!! I would never invite to anything ever again.
I'm with you about going to church in shorts and tube tops! No please 👍👍 Save that type of clothing for other places. However much we dislike someone's church attire, we can say at least they've come to service. 😊😊Then maybe some kind person can take that person aside and privately suggest more appropriate attire if/when we get to know them more. It's a tricky situation and where I live people often are more inclined to be super-casual/super-sporty than "wear your Sunday best". Still I have to admit, I'm happy to see they're attending church.
@@uscitizen898 I don't like seeing skin in church. What are women thinking?
That happened to me at our wedding! And what gets me is women that come to church in the tightest clothes possible and cleavage cut down to their nipples while they praise the Lord with gladness
I went to a wedding ,and what the girls wore ( and they were decent girls) made them look like they were on the take ,I couldn’t believe it - spits up to your crunch, so low,it barley covered there nipple.!😢
What scares me is the amount of people glued to their phones while DRIVING!!!! I grew up in the 90's, no cell phones yet. I cannot imagine anything so important that I need to look at my phone while doing 70 on the highway!!
Also manners is a big pet peeve. The amount of absolutely rude, entitled people walking around scares me. No please, no thank you, very demanding. Ugh
@healthychick9450
Their were cell phones in the late 90s , no smartphones but yes cell phones.
@@sleepyJem1982 But those were huge. LOL
Please don't act like cellphones weren't used in cars same as pagers.
Agree. The most frightening thing is who gets killed while idiots are on the phone or I have even seen people reading books? I certainly would not want to live with that. Selfishness is dangerous.
Oh I agree! It's so dangerous. A lot of newer cars have CarPlay and your phone is hooked to your sound system in the car. Love this! My husband's car reads his text messages to him and lets him respond. And why not use your car to answer the phone as well? Technology is great. 🙂
It saddens me when i'm on the bus or doing some errands and i see parents with their babys talking on the phone all the time. Or writing massages or playing games. Come on! Interact with your children!!! Smile at them, talk to them!!! Show them something in the environment, what ever!!! But DO something with them. It really breaks my ❤ to see these babies, trying to get eye contact with their parents and all they do is looking at their phone. As a parent these things CAN wait, it's not an emergency. We just think we have to be available all the time. No, we haven't. We survied many years before the phone was invented. The world doesn't stop, when you are not on your phone for 30 minutes. You will survive!
Some people shouldn't have kids.
I’ve been around so many small children in my life - it’s saddening how many children have to go to speech therapy or have major delays in learning to communicate clearly. You just gotta talk to the little people!
If I could I would give you 1000 thumbs up. I agree it's a very sad thing I myself see so often and I could throw their phones away.😢
Unfortunately, this is so true! When still commuting, there wasn't a single ride on the train, when there wasn't at least one child crying for attention while the parents were on the phone. Even being a mother myself, it was grating on me and it made me angry on behalf of the child. Depending on how the seats were arranged, if the child sat opposite or next to me, I'd often end up talking to the child (I wouldn't have been able to read a book anyway, with an upset child close to me...). Sure, it wasn't my responsibility, but being a parent I couldn't help but take pity, and I also didn't want to make a scene telling off the parent. Once, I did say something and was told that the child (around 2) was just crying because she was tired. Okay, fair enough, but how about taking your child onto your lap and help it settle? Nope, the little one had to cry itself to sleep, because mum was busy on her phone. Anyway, what's the most shocking is, that some of these parents didn't even notice that a stranger (meaning I) was talking with their children, which is just next-level concerning, thinking about it. Looking back, I probably would've been able to take at least one of those children by the hand at one of the stops and leave with it unnoticed by the parents... - It's such a terrifying thought! 😢
I have seen small 3 year old children walking behind their parents while their parents are on their phones walking infront. They should not have kids!
People are very rude these days can’t see that changing thanks Anna ur a special breed
I think regarding 'social responsibility', people have been trained to see one another as disposable, and easily replaced. Like I don't have to put in effort with you because I can just find another person I can call friend until they're not convenient anymore. You see it in dating all the time. People will break up for the most asinine reasons because it's easier to find a fresh, new, exciting partner, than work on building a serious relationship with the one you have.
There is the old saying 'Better the devil you know'
I have a friend , she is 45 yo , phone addicted… instagram all that bull stuff.. and i got fed up of her on the phone every time we go about to eat. I told her that that behavior is so rude and she said that i am antiquated 😮 and that simply she can’t change who she is. It is unbelievable the degree of narcissism of some.
Her phone is important than you. That's not a friend.
Absolutely agree - i think that the "Age of the Influencer" is coming to an end and people are sick of the main character syndrome that people display in public
I certainly hope this narcissism is fading out.
yea. I had family RSVP to my wedding, some did not show up or even let me know they were no longer coming. they also didn't apologize...I was thinking...I paid for your seat....now I can't get that money back.
Hella rude
God that would have been so fckn annoying. That's one of my biggest pet peeve.
I wish people realized not only the inconvenience but also the hurt they can cause others by blowing off invitations, especially to important events. Many these days will say, "Well, it's an invitation, not a summons." That's exactly why I had ZERO guests at my wedding 😅
I don't know if the rest of the world is different, but when I drive in Vancouver, I'm Terrified of pedestrians walking unconsciously with their phones! When they're standing on the curb zombied-out on their phones, I'm terrified they're just going to step into traffic, right in front of my car. Terrified! Maybe they're clueless about what driving is like as they just "uber" everywhere. They are oblivious and unconscious. It's awful! Thank you Anna for talking about this horrible situation!
I don't think they're unconscious, most people can't walk when they're unconscious. Imagine having surgery and you just get up and walk away lol
@@FreePigeon right, their legs move, they're oblivious and disconnected from reality. They don't have to look after their own safety ... The rest of us are supposed to be responsible for their welfare. It didn't used to be like this!
@@FreePigeon right, their legs ARE moving, and their endlessly scrolling fingers. That's the problem. They are oblivious about the actual world around them. Their world exists only on a tiny screen. Who's responsible for their safety? Certainly not them! It has to be me, driving as if I expect one of these walking zombies to walk in front of my car at any inappropriate moment, desperately trying to make eye contact so I know they're actually aware of a vehicle approaching. I'm sick of them.
Right! The scrollers are ass bad as those on horse tranquilizers.
I’m in the lower mainland, and yes, I find this with people too. Especially in the grocery stores, it’s mostly immigrants that are completely unaware of their surroundings, or they just don’t care to move becasue I’m white.
You are so right! I can’t stand the phone obsession either. I miss the days before Facebook. Even now, I can sit there with my phone on the table, and I look around to see everyone else buried in their phone. It’s sad
I’m so glad you’re bringing this up. I believe we’ve gone from one extreme to the other. In the past, people minded their manners but they also catered to others. Then, society rebelled, refused to cater to others, but forgot their manners in the process. When society rebelled, they left their children behind along with their manners. No one was there to teach children how to comport themselves because everyone was too busy working. Every decade it got worse especially with the advent of cell phones, the internet, social media and influencers like Kim Kardashian. Manners have become a thing of the past and people are celebrated for their increasingly bad behavior. Rebellion may have been the initial reason, but what we have today is the result. And we’ve tipped the scales. We need to go backwards in many, many ways in order to begin to go forward. I just hope the world realizes this very soon.
It’s absolutely ridiculous these days! Is everyone gone completely mad? People like yourself are rare and very few left in this world
A dangerous hive mind is developing. We have to hold the line and be a good example of decorum, thoughtfulness, consideration and manners. It all matters!!!! Thank you so much for sharing your content!!!!!
Someone has to say it out loud, thank you Anna 👏👏
So we are obsessed about ourselves and then wonder why we are a “lonely” society? …. Etiquette helps us connect with others. ❤
when some people sitting on the bus, have half an hour drama with somebody on the phone , oblivious that fellow passengers not necessarily want to hear every intimate detail of their life , also in the past we had unwritten rule that when passing people on the street some move a bit to their right and others from opposite direction move to their left not to bump into each other, nowadays there are plenty who always walk in the centre expecting only you to move away. Also people watching their favourite programmes on loud speaker on the bus , i once witnessed someone watching a football match on full sound on the bus :))
Absolutely enraging and revolting 💯 how little they respect others
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I cannot stand when people talk on speakerphone in public!! Second hand embarrassment 🫣
"when some people sitting on the bus, have half an hour drama with somebody on the phone , oblivious that fellow passengers not necessarily want to hear every intimate detail of their life"
THIS. I find it the most annoying thing ever. And in Italy a LOT of people do that, both in the streets and on buses or other public transportation. Like they are the only people left in the world. I don't know how they could expose themselves like this in public, I would be super embarassed!
And also the last thing you said: "people watching their favourite programmes on loud speaker on the bus , i once witnessed someone watching a football match on full sound on the bus :))" Very annoying, indeed!
I worked as a receptionist in a hotel and you can't imagine the amount of people that ask to book a holiday but then fail to let you know if they are really coming, and give you telephone numbers which are always unavailable. I mean, i had to call a lot of them multiple times and when they answer they are like: i thought it was authomatic for you to think that i don' t want to come anymore.
NO, IT'S NOT!! You are rude!
As well as rude, it is also irresponsible.
That's why you are often asked to pay in advance ...
Anna: I'm quite a bit older than you, yet, I can tell you that everything you are saying is absolutely true. When I was younger, the world was a VERY different place. You are completely correct...the world and society have become truly disgraceful, imo. Thank you for sharing this. Rosemarie ❤
Hm. Rosemarie tell us of the old days. I find even your comment is full of the fragrance of elegance.
What's YOUR problem??!
@@roseyc.5846 I am sincere. Not sarcastic. I really really liked your comment. I do want to know. Yesterday I sang Moon River for an uncle who has pancreatic cancer. I haven't even seen Breakfast at Tiffany's. Seriously I want to know what it was like instead in the old days when femininity was celebrated in so many ways.
@@roseyc.5846 I honestly didn't mean sarcasm. Forgive the hurt please. I really meant I want your perspective
We always need reminders about etiquette.
What a great video. I live in South Florida but I grew up in Wisconsin. I'm 69 and I have never seen so many people that are so unaware of what is going on around them as I have here in South Florida. It is crazy. Everyone acts like they are the only person in the world. They are clueless whether they are driving, walking on the street, in a business or standing in a line at a place of business. What bothers me the most is people standing in line for 20 minutes talking on their phones or to the person next to them and then when it's their turn to be waited on they are not prepared. For instance at the PO. Their packages aren't wrapped, they don't have the address or the QR code ready, they don't have their payment ready and the list goes on and on. It slows everyone else down but they don't care about anyone else's time. It's all about them and they don't care. That felt good to vent. Ty!
You should speak up don't be afraid. Say out loud "good day everyone please have your stuff ready so the rest of us don't have to spend irretrievable time waiting for you to get it out!" Do it loudly but politely. They'll resent it but they will do it grudgingly
Everyone in Las Vegas needs to see this lol ❤
I’m sorry ppl are being mean to you online. You aren’t doing anything negative to anyone. Just helping women with their voice and path.
I also disgust when they include other persons (strangers) in their photos. What if they didn't want to be captured?
When you are in a public space you kind of agree to be photographed or filmed, there should be no expectation of privacy in a public space.
@@anoukc6928 That's the legality of this but what about manners? Not everyone wants to be filmed in a restaurant, or a hotel foyer, or at a theatre.
@@annalyticManners are also letting people filming and taking photos of a public space, which is also their right. As I said, people shouldn't have the same expectations of privacy in a public space as opposed to a private space (e.g. yards).
@@anoukc6928 It's very poor form.
That was brave and to the point, I fully agree. We're living in The Therapeutic Era. People are so focused on themselves, that every little quirk is taken as a personal attack or insult. The slightest nudge and sparks fly. They've become intolerant, feel victimized and "unsafe" (the in-word of the twenties), react entitled and self-righteous. Growing up today, where every whim is nurtured (whether by family, society, or schools), they remain demanding children. The old advice "Never explain, never complain" or "Take it like a man" has been replaced by "Be loud, be obnoxious, raise hell, claim your own..."
The saddest part is that this hasn't made anyone happier or more confident in themselves. Those who grew up cultivating inner-restraint know that it allows for contemplation, dignity, and compassion. It also keeps you aware of the realities of life and that no one promised us that life was going to be a never-ending party :)
I think that this generation doesn’t know what manners are. It’s amazing how they can be rude to everyone else but want everyone to respect them. My mom always said treat everyone how you want to be treated. You don’t know what the future holds and if you are mean to someone now but in the future your life might depend on that person to save you
I'm so sad about people who RSVP'd and then do not end show up! I'm teaching at a big university and students sign up to go to office hours. It's a dedicated time for them to talk to me about what we can do to help them thrive in their learning journey. Alas, some students just book an hour and never show up. It's annoying because this hour could be given to another student or just do my own research and class prep.
Instead of
Halas,
I think the word you want is
Alas.
I agree with your comment.
Many people seem to be chaotic in their thinking, with no connection between what they say they are going to do and what they actually do.
Yup. I am a high school teacher. I gave up after school practice quickly after realizing most people would not show up. They're costing themselves learning opportunities. ANY student doesn't show up I go to my own agenda. I'm always telling my students there's only one form of adult abuse by children or youth: they waste our time and we have LESS of it!
I completely agree with all of these points and have thought them myself. Personally I could not imagine telling the hostess I will attend and then not showing.This is unacceptable especially when you can be honest with them and tell them you have a previous engagement. Cheers Anna 🥂another fabulous video.
Some lady tried to cancel Anna talking about how she's changed. Now she's all about being less materialistic. She made it sound like it's wrong to change and grow. The cancel culture is really horrible
Stupid is what it is. My late dad always used to say "Wise men sometimes change their minds. Fools never do."
Airpods with noise cancellation should also be banned in public as people aren't only becoming screen glued zombies but also deaf, disoriented screen glued zombies. You can't even get their attention when you need to...
I definitely agree with you!
Yes it is wild.
i wear headphones because I live in NYC (born and raised) and the amount of RUDE people that insist on having a speaker phone conversation or Facetime at full volume or scroll through SM videos at full volume without any regard for others is at an all time high. I wear big, over-the-ear headphones. I can't stand when people or strangers come up and try to talk to me when I clearly have headphones on, meaning I do not want to be bothered. PERIOD. Strangers are not entitled to have a conversation with me, and I wish they would respect my boundaries. When I have to interact with someone, the headphones come off and I have a conversation. When I go to check out and have to interact with another person, I take the headphones off (although I do self-checkout to avoid interactions). I am very polite, been told numerous times that its rare to meet a woman these days with manners, grace, elegance and kindness. I treat others the way I wish to be treated. However I wear the headphones for my sanity. Also to avoid sexual harassment and any harassment from men in the streets.
Actually as a user of them I should confirm you. I used to use them because of my social anxiety 😥 but I know how even dangerous it can be for myself.
Some people use them for sensory sensitivities, for me they play the same role as wearing sunglasses when driving on a sunny day.
Hello Mrs. Bey! What happened to the weekly uploads? You don't realize how's valuable and informative your content is.
We need it more than ever.
Much love and keep up the good work 🫶🏻
It's demanding to do it. Ask any content creator. Life is gonna life
Finally someone talked about these things aloud. Thank uuu!
I am SO glad you talked about the cancel culture. It's absolutely true how we go against one another even if our opinions don't align. It's very sad indeed 😮
And imagine, in so called FREE countries. Tragic😢
I think it's, in part, because everyone feels so invisible and almost no one is living in the present moment, anymore. They think because they aren't aware of anyone, no one is aware of them. And, honestly, they are absolutely right 95% of the time. Everyone is lost in their own little heads and not living in the present moment AT ALL. I was walking down the aisle at Target the other day and a woman in her 50's walked by and LOUDLY *belched*! She'd made no attempt to hold it in and it rivaled what my teenage son can do! When I stopped and stared at her, I realized she had absolutely no awareness of her environment and she wasn't really even there. Her mind was faaar away in some past memory or some future worry. When I looked around to see if others were reacting like me, I could see no one else was aware of her, either! They, too, were faaaar away. (Granted, it's Target and no one wants to be there. ;) But, unless I'm at a vacation spot, I see this everywhere I go.) No one is living in the present moment anymore and they are missing their whole life!
Hmph!!!! You spoke a whole word there 💯
Underrated comment!! This is 100% true. And you know what is Strange to me? All those people want to be loved and seen, but are far away. How can they reach each other?
I agree with you about phones. No one lives in the moment, the worse is when you are at a restaurant and the person you are with are scrolling or typing, total lake of manners. Thank you for your content ❤
To be honest. Yes, be prim and proper and have manners. Manners and common sense are lacking nowadays.
THANK YOU ANNA 🙌🙌🙌🙌 couldn’t agree more! ❤❤
finally someone is adressing this global lack of civilised manners in society. This is dramatic downshift in standards.
Sooooo hard to live in times when most of people have no manners, no consideration of others and entilement galorre attitude 🙈
Yeah, I don't get all that either. It's like being rude to people is fashionable or something. 🤦🏾♀️
I absolutely agree with all your observations. I find myself disgusted and furious every day about the lack of manners and inconsiderate behavior all around me. The situation is particularly awful in Vienna. Interestingly, I had a very different experience during my one month travel through France (not Paris) last summer. People, no matter how crowded an area was, looked out for each other and apologised if they ever bumped into you. If we only all watched out for each other, life would be so much more pleasant for everyone. Let's stop living vicariously through the digital world and using our elbows everywhere!
Rudeness, Self Centredness..... Thank you for calling this behaviour out. And what ever happened to showing gratitude
example... Getting married in the 70's a THANK YOU NOTE handwritten would be sent . Not anymore.
or if you give a VERY LARGE GENEROUS $$$$ gift on birthdays, etc.. and not receiving a THANK YOU. Even a text email or phone call would be the very least. Handwritten notes NOw those definatley make a huge lasting impression.....
2 Types of People GIVERS and TAKERS. I want to continue to be a Giver but it's becomming more and more difficult!
I couldn't agree more! I've been to baby showers where I purchase a gift and take time to attend the shower and when I get there I have to fill out an envelope with my name and address and on a note write what I bought because the mother to be is to busy to write thank you notes🤯 SO RUDE.. what about the guests.. They're busy too
I still write letters, make small cards, print my own writing paper sometimes. Besides thinking of topical subjects, humorous events, I like to enclose a small gift, perhaps two special teabags, chocolate sample, a handwritten poem. Mementos of good times.
The narcissism in this country is just ba-sh*t crazy.
Such good points, Anna! It's disappointing to see how far we've gotten away from manners in the past 10-20 years.
Your dress is beautiful!
there should be a law prohibiting walking and staring at the phone at the same time!
"Elegant" conversation - one word to avoid at all costs is the filler word LIKE
I agree 100%. And if sometimes I point, verbally or not, on people's behavior, they look at me like I am weird here and I'm asking something strange. So rude behavior for many people now, unfortunately, it's something normal.
I know someone who planned a birthday party for a friend and then tried canceling at the last minute and asked the rest of us who RSVP to “please join her”🙄
I wholeheartedly agree! I especially dislike instagram "models" having selfie stick "photoshoots" that block access to stairs, doors, etc.
Boomer here. Absolutely agree, especially with the part about social responsibilities and cancel culture. Thank you.
Vicarious embarrassment. That's what I have for today's society. The obsession with social media is insane at this point and watching other people do stupid stuff for views online is highly unattractive to me.
Like all that awful posing for selfies - the pouting, the getting the right angle, the hair fluffing - from someone just on a train or a bus. It's sickening!
Love the clothes you wear. You should call your clothing line “Timeless”
A person's behavior toward you says more about who they are, than about you. ❤
I'm bothered by people being on their phones in general honestly. If we are spending time together why do you have to be on your phone, why not enjoy the moment. Obviously there are times and places for taking your phone out for pictures, taking a call, looking something up, etc. In general though I don't think it necessary to be on your phone around people you are spending time with.
Jag har följt dig i flera år och Jag älskar verkligen den inriktning dina senaste videor har tagit. Du tar verkligen upp viktiga ämnen och har alltid en sådan balanserad och sund syn på saker och ting ja "sunt förnuft" har blivit en sällsynt syn nu för tiden 😅 Jag är verkligen glad för din utveckling och ser hur din kanal och följeskara växer och att du använder ditt inflyttande på världen genom att verkligen vara ett föredömme. Tack för att vi får ta del av dina goda råd och vägledning Anna... Det känns som att Din väg till uppgradering har varit en väg till sinnlig, kroppslig och själslig upplysning 💖😌 mvh Stephanie
Tack för ditt fina meddelande. Det går ända in i själen ❤️
Gosh. Is it Swedish?
@@nzingahoneyyes❤
Instämmer helt med detta meddelande - du inspirerar så mycket Anna 🙏🌷
Thank you for your video.❤️ I am concerned that nowadays we are only taught that we should fulfil our own needs, instead of realising that we are individuals in a complex society with people who also want their own space. I notice, for example, that people listen to loud music in public, or talk about their affairs on the train. People often ask me about my financial situation, how much something cost, or how I am going to finance my pension later. People lack the distance and the feeling for which topics and questions are appropriate in which social situations and which are not. It is really sad, and I wish that the whole old money trend would finally focus on manners rather than clothing.
I agree. It seems society has lost all common sense, etiquette, and good manners in general.
Welcome back Anna ❤
What's incredibly tragic to me is that essentially everything you have posited here in your video are things I was already raised with, already instructed to believe. My mother was an extraordinarily elegant woman who passed when I was 14, and if one day I can possess 1/100th her elegance I will be a very happy and very refined woman. My father was an exceptional husband to my mother as well, and he passed when I was 19. All to say that, these seem like very basic fundamentals of politeness that have been lost in daily life. I'm rare in that I'm a Gen Zer who had "Boomer" parents because they had me late in life, but I often wonder if that may be why I appear to inherently understand the basics of kindness and politeness that seem to be lost on my similarly-aged peers. Excellent content as always, Anna.
You are blessed to have had them. I want to have kids still and I am already 43. Maybe my kids will be like you. I want two, a boy and a girl.
@@nzingahoney It's certainly still possible! I was my parent's only child, and I am 23, so my mother was a good deal older than you when she had me, and both of their deaths were not related to their ages. Be the confident, manifesting, elegant and beautiful woman that you are. I have no doubts that you will be a wonderful mother.
@@brooke26019 thank you SO much for the kind words. 💖
@@nzingahoney likewise! 💖
The problem arises when other people's bad behaviuor is impossible to avoid and you get ill because of it...(family, colleagues, neighbours....)
Leave them all behind and get out into the countryside whenever possible.
when people don't use headphones on public transport and we all have to listen what they are watching or listening at the moment!! or when they have call on speakers....
And we are the weird ones for wanting to interfere with personal freedom 😞
I agree with this so much ! Spatial awareness is sorely lacking these days, in person and on the road. Social skills seem to be diminishing at such a rapid pace, and politeness seems rare. Though we moved to a smaller town, and manners are a bit more prevalent here..
I still remember your old video where you mentioned people showed up to the opera house in jeans and T shirts XD
I live in south london, they are rude in the shop ,walking in the street, driving in my car ..EVERY WHERE ..they drive me crazy .
It's getting to the point ..it's safer to stay away all together 🙄😡
I am astounded at the rudeness of people canceling or pulling no-shows with service professionals. From Hair Stylist to Dentist, attorneys, physicians. I’ve had multiple conversations where these professionals have had to implement policies to ensure their clients show up on time if at all. Very sad indeed.
I'm actually struggling on social media when it comes to comment sections. Even I comment positively and respectful, I still encounter rude, toxic and arrogant anonymous people. I answered them nicely but still, they throw invectives against me. So frustrating.😒
Thank you, Anna.
Just randomly, I came across an old Emimen.(US White Rapper, big in late 90's) track called " without me" and another called "slim shady".
These tracks were huge at the time.
The arrogant, self centred attitude in them, that is mostly a parody, was a reflecfion of the beginning of the behaviour we see now.
It seemed funny at the time, but was never going to end well, knowing the a generation of kids were growing wtih this as their 'norm'.
Adopting rap culture by many people under 40 yo has contributed greatly to this decline in manners and behavior in public and towards others.
I 100% agree with you on everything! Classy Modest women are rarely seen anymore.
100% Agree!! I am from the generation that was born and grew up pre internet and even with only black and white TV. The changes I have witnessed over the years are mind boggling. Thank you for speaking up! Bless you.
Anna this is the absolute truth, thank you for addressing this topic
No sane person could ever be an Anna Bey hater. Not possible. You are beautiful Anna!
I totally share your opinion on this topics Anna. I have been thinking and saying for the last 10 years that people find courage online they don't have in real life, and that's why they behave badly behind a computer screen.
The other nonsense with phones is also crazy. I do hope things will get better as everyone dislike these bad manners and at one point it will reverse.
Like loud speaking over the phone in the street or in public transportation which is so common and annoying here in France.
When on a narrow sidewalk, a man comes the opposite direction and doesn't even move a bit, so you (a female) have to make room for him. Geeezz chivalry is dead
Want you to make a podcast about dressing elegant to a pub
cannot tell you the amount of times people are blocking entire doorways and walkways, standing there on their phones, and when i politely ask to get by they look at me as if i'm the rude one. all. the. time.
Responsibility is crucial. Knowing how to behave... I'm boomer 😄. I just find out that I'm a lady already 😂.❤ God bless you, because ladies are needed to create gentle men from young men. Then the world becomes an effortless place to be in. In a presence of gentleman each woman is a lady. That would be the world😊.
You are ABSOLUTELY 💯 RIGHT ❤❤❤❤
Driving through San Francisco I encountered rudeness Maximus. People waddling across the street as slow as possible in the crosswalk so cars cannot get through. They are so obnoxious they walk slow so by the time they are across the light is at least yellow, if not red.
When I’m out with my boyfriend, my brain is offline and my phone is on airplane mode 😂❤
I totally agree with everything you said. Thank you for pointing them out.
I 100% agree with each and every single point that you've raised in this video. And how you put it that we are not alone here on earth... that's exactly what most people seem to be forgetting!
Very very very true!! Thanks for bringing this!!!
I'm glad you made this video. Unfortunately, I don't know how we can get the people who need to see it to pay attention. Deeper than just our interactions in our day-to-day lives, I'm also bothered by the online conspiracy theorists who seem to leave no room for compassion and awareness when they describe how they think society should change. Social responsibility like not using your phone while you drive, not driving while under the influence, not posting sensitive/offensive material online etc. somehow gets turned into an argument about individual rights. If you were a good person, you wouldn't want to do those things anyway!
When it comes to elegance, common sense and empathy are your best bets
I love your balanced approach! Yes, we can achieve middle ground. Great video!
The first one with the walkways for sure! I feel as though everyone just bumps each other and doesn't apologize.
From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU Ana!
Yes, you are so correct on every single point.
I truly appreciated this episode. I also have noticed people with bad manners and those not respecting the proper dress code for the occasion. It costs nothing to be nice and to have good manners and it goes a long way. It will it make the other person feel good and it will also make you feel good. Show respect for others and also for yourself. Respect yourself and others will respect you. On one's self-improvement journey, avoid gossip and negative comments about others. If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all. As Eleanor Roosevelt said so eloquently, great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people. Continue the great work.