How To Stop Being Angry At Someone Who Hurt You

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  • Anger is a natural feeling and it's usually preceded by sadness, disappointment, loss and whatnot but most of the time, it derails us. We will always have people that will hurt us, it's up to you to create your hero story.
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    Dr. Paul Jenkins
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 776

  • @marywolfe7293
    @marywolfe7293 6 років тому +469

    my anger comes from hurt and the feeling of being disrespected, especially when I know that I am bring treated differently than other people. In other words, it's selective for some people to pick the people they want to take their stuff out on.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  6 років тому +49

      Mary - that's a common source. I wish I could wave some magic wand that would have people treating everyone with respect, but since I have no such wand I'm putting my focus on helping people with their choice to respond in a productive way regardless of how people treat us. Wishing you the best! DrPaul

    • @ahmedsa2330
      @ahmedsa2330 5 років тому +28

      Mary when people disrespect you you juste have to wait for the perfect moment and disrespect them back without angre and they will leave you alone

    • @jesserichardson5880
      @jesserichardson5880 5 років тому +32

      I feel the same way Mary. Unfortunately there are people out there always looking for someone they can take advantage of. It’s happened to me and it’s very difficult for me not to be mad about it. They’re not always easy to spot but when you’re able to spot them just stay away from them. Nothing good comes from being around people like that.

    • @jelw3197
      @jelw3197 4 роки тому +3

      mary wolfe thats racism

    • @earthtoalice
      @earthtoalice 4 роки тому +14

      I feel you Mary. It is such a yucky horrible feeling, and one that I have been struggling with for quite some time. I struggle to know where to go with all of this rage that has built up in me for years, and I end up getting very depressed. I get so angry at the feeling of unfairness and injustice. I am seeking out as much help and guidance as I can get, because I think there are still vital parts of me that still do not understand how to best manage this in real practical ways and move forwards, and pieces of advice like 'let it go,' 'forgive' etc feel too abstract and I need more solid help with how to actually do those things. Imagine if we could figure it out - it would be Wonderful.

  • @Saeg-yog
    @Saeg-yog 4 роки тому +69

    I came here angry, then i cried.. then i used my blanket as a cape.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +8

      Goth- O, I hope the video helped you work through your emotions. Thank you for watching.

    • @parisrain1546
      @parisrain1546 4 роки тому +6

      I used mine as a kleenex.

    • @aslreview419
      @aslreview419 2 місяці тому

      Tears down my face too.

  • @me_eh
    @me_eh 4 роки тому +27

    "Sure you have villains in your life,
    But whats the purpose of a villain?
    To illuminate you as a hero!" 😯👏👏

  • @selenachannel2782
    @selenachannel2782 5 років тому +258

    I'm now angry at me being angry lol

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 років тому +15

      Watch out for that trap Selena - thanks for watching. DrPaul

    • @Dp-hu8pr
      @Dp-hu8pr 3 роки тому

      Lol

    • @Dp-hu8pr
      @Dp-hu8pr 3 роки тому +1

      Lol

    • @littlemissy8356
      @littlemissy8356 3 роки тому +1

      Plx don't do that. This video talks down to people, and that doesn't help.

    • @baldthanos4614
      @baldthanos4614 3 роки тому +1

      You might be hangry☝️🙂

  • @kattoledo1501
    @kattoledo1501 4 роки тому +105

    When he said "breathe" I started breathing and instantly crying. Now I must watch a video about how to stop being sad with someone who hurt you XD

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +5

      Kat Toledo, I hope the video helped. Thank you for being on the channel. There are a couple more videos you might find useful:
      "Be Grateful When Depressed" - ua-cam.com/video/cjPYJGEi4_E/v-deo.html
      "How To Stay Positive No Matter What - Happiness Is a Choice" - ua-cam.com/video/nu680PRnZys/v-deo.html
      I think you may also like my book "Pathological Positivity". We are giving it away for free right now, you just pay for the shipping. If that sounds interesting to you, here is the link: drpauljenkins.info/freebook

  • @AnDitaLee
    @AnDitaLee 4 роки тому +73

    I’m dealing with anger bc my boundaries are being violated

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +14

      Andy Lee, that is frustrating. Get clear on what you control and what you don't, then move forward.

    • @joseandrada264
      @joseandrada264 Рік тому +2

      I read somewhere that anger basically exists for defending your boundaries,so don't feel guilty about it
      "Anger sets your boundaries by walking the perimeter of your psyche and keeping an eye on you, the people around you, and your environment. If your boundaries are broken (through the insensitivity of others, or in any other way), anger comes forward to restore your sense of strength and separateness"

  • @ejackson680
    @ejackson680 4 роки тому +37

    When the student is ready the teacher will appear. Thank you!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +2

      Thanks for watching and commenting, E Jackson.

    • @vsanchez9142
      @vsanchez9142 3 роки тому +2

      I’ve never heard this saying before. Thank you, you helped me become a little wiser today

  • @elanorerigby987
    @elanorerigby987 3 роки тому +42

    I searched how to forgive and found this wonderful man who obviously cares very much for others. He explained how I am hurting myself by not forgiving. I won't tell my victim story. I have done enough of that. I have been living with this awful anger. This man has enlightened me to understanding why I am angry. I think I am ready to forgive now. Thank you kind sir.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +2

      Elanore Rigby, forgiveness can be a journey for major happenings. I am so glad we are able to connect.

  • @Candy-mz5wo
    @Candy-mz5wo 4 роки тому +82

    1- When you are angry activate frontal part of your brain and shut down fight fight part
    2- breathe nice and slow. It helps you to reverse anger effect.
    3- take it less personal. other people experience same type of hurt. It is not personal. Your not special. Get over yourself it’s not about you.
    4- it is about poor desicions of person who hurt you
    5- take FULL responsibility of how you feel. when you see there is a choice it becomes a choice.
    6 - create a hero story. Don’t be victim become a hero

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +3

      I love your summary, Beg Beg. Thank you. Honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV.

    • @Candy-mz5wo
      @Candy-mz5wo 4 роки тому +2

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV you have changed my life by there is no hero without villains sentence.

    • @Evelyn-lg6sl
      @Evelyn-lg6sl 3 роки тому

      I look in the mirror & I AM THE HERO✨🌟✨

    • @meliel1715
      @meliel1715 3 роки тому +7

      "Take it less personal". Kinda hard when you've been abused for 40 years

    • @stingcobra8538
      @stingcobra8538 3 роки тому +1

      @@Candy-mz5wo you're*

  • @AlFairoz
    @AlFairoz 4 роки тому +31

    I get so angry I cant control myself and then I just break into a cry and lock myself in my room thanks this really help

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      little panda, glad the video is helpful.

    • @littlemissy8356
      @littlemissy8356 3 роки тому

      How does this help you if you are lockiing yourself in your room?????

  • @rolkstone
    @rolkstone 5 років тому +77

    i love this. i get into rages so bad i can feel it physically affecting me. i had the cops called to my house once because neighbor's thought my yelling and crying was two people and not one. i like your down to earth style. your point about how it's not a choice until it feels like one is so spot on and this is the first Ive heard it put that way. it's like ego or something wants to hold onto anger once it starts.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 років тому +5

      Thank you for watching, W M. It is great that you can see how anger is affecting you in multiple ways. Here is to a calmer 2019 for you.

  • @pancakedreamer8588
    @pancakedreamer8588 3 роки тому +9

    As someone who bottles up most of my anger, I really needed this.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +1

      Rhinocom, I am glad it arrived on time for you.

  • @amiadaron
    @amiadaron 4 роки тому +9

    His voice itself is so soothing!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      Thanks, amiadaron. And also thank you for being at Live On Purpose TV.

  • @SkaterBlades
    @SkaterBlades 4 роки тому +24

    I was betrayed by a group of "friends" when i was dealing with depression. I was suicidal and they cast me out of the group after which i attempted suicide. I've been in lockdown for about 4 months now and that sadness has turned to rage and has been festering for months
    EDIT: For the record it was an LGBT group and i was so pissed at them i was at a point where i was trying to find conversion therapy to become as distant from them as possible. Now I'm reaching a point where i don't feel anything for anyone. No empathy, no joy seeing or talking to others, no sadness, no anger. I'm becoming numb to other people

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +12

      SkaterBlades, it sounds as though you have been dealing with a lot. Not everyone is like the group you were in, there are kind people everywhere. I hope you are getting help to deal with the depression and sadness you are feeling. Reach out to others in different ways. Get in an online group or try to help others.

    • @emilygibbons3433
      @emilygibbons3433 Рік тому

      Please look after yourself. The sun will Shine for you again. God bless you.

  • @ashleykindheartministries
    @ashleykindheartministries 2 роки тому +10

    This was so encouraging!!! I see now that I truly forgive my ex for stealing my precious children for four years, and that I am not letting anger overrun my life, but am letting my circumstances create empathy in me, instead of bitterness. Yay JESUS!!!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 роки тому +2

      Ashley, this is so inspiring. You will live a happier, healthier life in the long run.

  • @meliel1715
    @meliel1715 3 роки тому +3

    My anger comes from over 35 years of abuse, mockery, being on the receiving end of rage from my sister. I feel disgusted calling her "my" sister. She is a horrible narcissist & psychopath. And hating her makes me physically ill. I have forgiven her 50000 times at least. I don't want to do it anymore. She is reckless and doesn't care about anybody's feelings. She mocks my 75 year old mother and winks at me as if it's a joke.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому

      Meli El, Boundaries and distance may help you. I understand it may be difficult to cut all ties as you have your mother to consider, but you can let her know you won't be interacting with her.

  • @foxie8638
    @foxie8638 3 роки тому +7

    I'm repeating myself but... This is pure gold!

  • @kenziemacdonald4386
    @kenziemacdonald4386 5 років тому +36

    Thank you so much😭😭 this has helped me so much. You are a true gift for sharing this with us.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 років тому +2

      So grateful that the video resonated with you, Kenzie MacDonald. Welcome to Live On Purpose TV.

  • @vasco1983
    @vasco1983 5 років тому +18

    I'm blinded by anger toward someone. I fell for the lies of a woman that
    told me she was being abused by her husband so I took her to live with
    me. She would tell me things about him that were horrid, she had a lot
    of issues mentally and emotionally, but back then I couldn't see it was
    an act so that she could manipulate me by playing victim. I broke up
    with her because she drove me crazy many times with nonsense arguments.
    We share the same workplace so it's hard for me to avoid her, and to
    make matters worse she's back with her husband, and apparently being way
    happier than ever, as if I was the instrument to fix their
    relationship. I spent money on lawyers when I was trying to help her,
    all money from hard earned savings, spent money to find her an apartment
    when we broke up... I don't mind her being with someone, finding a
    partner, but GOING BACK WITH HIM??? It makes me feel like the stupidest
    human being on the earth. And I feel like she's mocking me now because
    that guy goes to my workplace to check her. I want the worst for them, I
    can't help it. I swear I pray God for them to be so happy that they
    might decide to move somewhere else, but I'm lying to myself... It's
    driving me crazy... Can't help it, I want retribution. How can I feel
    pity for them when I see her rubbing in my face that she's happy with
    that bastard?? Again, I don't mind her being with someone, I'm convinced
    of my decision of breaking up with her, but her being back with him is
    the biggest offense life could give me after all the sacrifice I did.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 років тому +2

      vasco 1983, it sounds like you aren't moving on from the relationship. Consider coaching, you can get a fresh outlook on the situation and figure out how to move past this episode and begin to care for something else.

    • @bufubufu8258
      @bufubufu8258 4 роки тому +2

      Wow i thought my situation was bad . U should watch ams video so you cant spot a women like that incase you meet someone like that again

    • @BEAUTYnIQ
      @BEAUTYnIQ 4 роки тому +7

      @vasco1983 .. consider they deserve each other .. consider you dodged a bullet by getting out Now .. consider if shes that emotionally immature that she drives him crazy too .. consider she left a man which she had solemnly vowed and promised to and that broken promise of hurt and lies could hav been you, with children, plus affected your family, etc etc .. consider that acting out like that in a rela is only a sign of a much deeper problem .. consider with that pattern that their manifestation of issues will repeat itself again .. consider that if one has to 'act' happily renewed around you its probably not that 'happy' .. consider that in time youll realize you were played but at least you were real .. consider that the lessons we are taught mean the most when we love ourselves enough to giv us permission to Heal .. I hope you know the spirit on which I say this, my friend ..

    • @littlemissy8356
      @littlemissy8356 3 роки тому +4

      Never, never get involved between 2 people's romantic affair for any reason.

    • @lizabella4885
      @lizabella4885 3 роки тому +1

      Vasco1983 the woman sounds like a narrsastic person,.. Hopefully you've healed from it,.. You were dooped!.. I hear ya,.. But it's been almost a year for me,.. & I still get flare ups of anger,.. It's just the process I guess we need to go threw,..

  • @fionam3735
    @fionam3735 3 роки тому +3

    I went from trauma to fear to confusion to resentment and to anger sometimes in no particular order.. My ex husband and parents got together and ruined my reputation and sadly want me destroyed. My ex has control issues and manipulates people easily, my parents live in total denial of anything that doesn’t suit them and being called out threatens them. I have been the scapegoat and black sheep all because I seek the truth. I have been treated worse than a murderer however I am free to find my own tribe and rewrite my story. I thank god for people like you and many others that have helped keep the light on in what was a dark place 🙏

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +1

      Grace Kelly, you are very welcome, thanks for being a part of our positive community.

  • @loveandllife
    @loveandllife 3 роки тому +6

    Anger is a natural response when we perceive that our boundaries have been violated if you meet someone stronger, also it is a response when you try to control someone weaker that’s why we see so many angry parents at their kids or angry husbands at their wives. Instead of analysing your feelings get yourself in a stronger position and make the other people choose how they feel. I stopped being polite and nice to bullies, I challenge them and if they get angry they can practice what dr Positive tells them.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому

      Love and Light, I hear what you are saying, but I think anger is a secondary emotion and there is a primary emotion that is not being dealt with that triggers the anger. Thank you for your thoughtful comment.

    • @joseandrada264
      @joseandrada264 Рік тому

      "Anger sets your boundaries by walking the perimeter of your psyche and keeping an eye on you, the people around you, and your environment. If your boundaries are broken (through the insensitivity of others, or in any other way), anger comes forward to restore your sense of strength and separateness."

  • @lemaianh5746
    @lemaianh5746 10 місяців тому +1

    Thank God I came across this video. Anger consumed me and it made me feel weak and depressed. Worse than feeling angry at others, I felt angry at myself for allowing myself to be misled. But will work on myself now. Thank you!

  • @Bram18222
    @Bram18222 4 місяці тому +1

    3:43 is the best thing ive ever heard. i am sick and tired of people telling me not to take things personally when IT IS PERSONAL! ITS ABOUT ME!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 місяці тому

      It really is. We take that in and then decide how we are going to act.

  • @sherryhawn9357
    @sherryhawn9357 2 роки тому +4

    I love how you break it down to bite-sized thoughts and actions - so helpful and digestible!

  • @theducklinghomesteadandgar6639
    @theducklinghomesteadandgar6639 6 років тому +11

    I have watched three of your videos this morning and I have been struggling with the subjects of the videos I watched!!! Thank you so much for sharing and posting these videos!!! You have instantly helped me with so much!!! All my love and blessings & grace from our LORD ABOVE, today and always!!!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  6 років тому +3

      A hearty Live On Purpose welcome to The Ducking Homestead and Gardens! So honored to be on your team - glad you're here. DrPaul

  • @carolbenavidez2228
    @carolbenavidez2228 3 роки тому +13

    Been obsessed over hurt and it's destroying me. Then I found this video. Shocked at how differently you presented this, especially about making my reaction a choice as opposed to helplessly drowning in rage. I believe this video will be a positive turning point. THANK YOU!!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +2

      Glad it was helpful! Carol Banavidez, welcome to Live On Purpose.

  • @SunshineBlueSkies
    @SunshineBlueSkies 5 років тому +10

    Wow thank you for explaining that so perfectly. I just hope I can remember it and use it. Thank you

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 років тому +2

      That's the great thing about the video, you can watch it again at any time, Patience S. Honored to be on your team.

  • @micheledomin-jones4062
    @micheledomin-jones4062 4 роки тому +4

    Is it possible to have tears of understanding ? This gave me so much clarity I’m now crying

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +2

      Michele Domin-Jones, Yes, absolutely. Our emotions come out in different ways. You are now ready to take it to the next level.

  • @albertstubbs4492
    @albertstubbs4492 4 роки тому +4

    " i was going kind of crazy a moment ago with anger " ... man so happy i find this page thanks man god bless you. I feal alot better.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      You are welcome, Albert Stubbs. I am so glad the video helped. Please feel free to come back to this video anytime, or maybe another video on the channel can be of some assistance to you. Thanks for watching, it's an honor to be on your team.

    • @albertstubbs4492
      @albertstubbs4492 4 роки тому +1

      Thank you , God bless you .

  • @robertadams5863
    @robertadams5863 3 роки тому +2

    I'm suffering through severe depression. Just watched about 5 to 6 videos of yours. And it helped a lot.
    Thanks a lot for spreading smiles and helping in my depressed times. 😃

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +1

      Robert Adams, honored to be a member of your team.

  • @daliadeak1015
    @daliadeak1015 4 роки тому +2

    ‘There’s a reason why you’re having challenges, it’s to illuminate you as a hero!’ Love this entire video, thank you so much :)

  • @littlemissy8356
    @littlemissy8356 3 роки тому +1

    This video totally talks down to people. That is the last thing anyone needs who is looking for information.

  • @nancybrooklyn
    @nancybrooklyn 5 років тому +2

    Thank you so much for showing the 4 sides of anger /victim and also how an angry person can change their perspective to handle anger and victimhood in a unique way! My brother has been holding onto this anger / victimhood against one person for over 7 years .. I plan on sharing this video with him!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 років тому

      Thank you for sharing, nancybrooklyn. I hope your brother is able to let go of the anger and begin healing.

  • @taidilla
    @taidilla 11 місяців тому +1

    This was the video that really helped me deal with a situation that's overwhelmed me for almost a year. All other video just blame you and make you even more angry. But this calmed me and gave me practical guide to move forward

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  11 місяців тому

      Thank you for letting me know. Better days ahead.

  • @lilrduenas2728
    @lilrduenas2728 5 років тому +2

    Spot on Dr.Paul👏 thank you.

  • @KLT828
    @KLT828 4 роки тому +6

    This has really helped me. Thank you😌

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      Kelsey T, Glad the video is helpful to you, honored to be on your team.

  • @kristamt9752
    @kristamt9752 4 роки тому +2

    Oh man I needed this!!!!! Thank you!!!

  • @anp7997
    @anp7997 4 роки тому +4

    Dear sir
    First of all i want to thank you for uploading this video
    I have gained so much by just listening and following you
    You are a great teacher and a guru.
    Your knowledge is deep and you have healing power.
    May God bless you with the best things on earth.
    You are a blessing to mankind. I just don't have enough words to thank you.
    In this evil world people like you are true heroes
    Thanks so much sir. Lots of respect

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      Wow, I am very grateful for your comment, A N. Thank you. I also appreciate you being a part of the Live On Purpose community. : )

  • @steffwyatt1862
    @steffwyatt1862 Рік тому +2

    Love this!
    After leaving my abusive ex of five years (me and my daughter were assessed as high risk by our local domestic abuse service), nearly 5 years after leaving him and 1 year after moving out of the same area as him, I’m no longer in the level of survival mode I was in a year ago and before.
    I can finally look at my feelings without a sense of imminent danger around me. I was good at looking at my feelings and choosing how to feel, but that was still alongside living 500 metres away from my ex on a restraining order so it was harder. I can do it fully now without looking over my shoulder.
    This is a really good video.
    And now I’m volunteering in domestic abuse. I started creating my hero story 4 years ago and it’s really paying off now! I love my story!!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  Рік тому

      Thank you for sharing! Your story has hope and I know it will help someone.

  • @tommykaira8775
    @tommykaira8775 Рік тому +1

    Dr Paul Jenkins is the GOAT of emotional advice and counselling, no one even comes close to him handling complex issues such as this like a pro. Thank you Dr Paul keep up the good work.

  • @elaine170
    @elaine170 4 роки тому +2

    Damn! That’s what I needed! That repressed and anger is coming out. My dad was abusive so I learned anger was bad. Well that’s what I associated that emotion. I felt the anger and I release it!!! I’m living now!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      I'm so glad the video helped, ElleJ! Thanks for watching Live On Purpose TV.

  • @lisawhite1548
    @lisawhite1548 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you for this video, it has helped me a lot. After accepting #3, taking full responsibility for my feelings, it also helped me a lot to read the 7 stages of grief to realize what feelings I've been having and what feelings are normal. My loss and anger had nothing to do with the death of a person but loss of a part of my life. The stages of grief are the same.
    Thank you for you channel and all the work that you are doing!!!

  • @edeleo11
    @edeleo11 5 років тому +2

    Thank you! Really learning a lot of helpful things

  • @tamradenoyer473
    @tamradenoyer473 2 роки тому +1

    Such good information. Thank you!!!!

  • @pavitrashanbhag8338
    @pavitrashanbhag8338 3 роки тому +3

    All your videos are so enlightening and empowering. Thank you.

  • @hope9672
    @hope9672 3 роки тому +2

    "It's not a choice until you see it as one" - awesome

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +1

      It really is! Love your screen name, Hope.

    • @hope9672
      @hope9672 3 роки тому

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV thank u! =)

  • @RushLoftis
    @RushLoftis 6 років тому +21

    You’re awesome dude

  • @lindavarghese9949
    @lindavarghese9949 4 роки тому +4

    SUPERBBBBBBBB DR PAUL .thanks alotttttttt for ur valuable advices ....

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +1

      Linda Varghese, glad you enjoyed the video, great to hear from you.

  • @lidijabasanovic9779
    @lidijabasanovic9779 3 роки тому +1

    Clean, simple, true, strong, an advice forever. Thank you 🌷

  • @latiatowlai8848
    @latiatowlai8848 2 роки тому +4

    I love this - I am hero and the villains only exist to make me shine! This statement is going in my art journal. Thank you so much 💓💗💛💖☺

  • @jacoblutz1818
    @jacoblutz1818 4 роки тому +20

    This video was the most helpful 10 minutes I had in over 9 months. God bless you!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +2

      Jacob Lutz, thank you. Glad to have you at Live on Purpose TV.

  • @ljj2779
    @ljj2779 4 роки тому +1

    The insight in this video was very needed. I’ve been dealing with anger and resentment for years and this video was very spot on.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +1

      Ljj277, I hope you are getting to the point where you can remove the anger and resentment so you can feel peace.

  • @kirstyriver7689
    @kirstyriver7689 Рік тому +2

    This is so well done. This video deeply changes my mood when I watch it when angry.
    Which is rare.
    So well put and thanks.

  • @nahilarious8217
    @nahilarious8217 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you. I really needed this.

  • @MariaSantana-ul5wd
    @MariaSantana-ul5wd 2 роки тому +1

    Bless you brother. This is gold.

  • @alixhice
    @alixhice 2 роки тому +2

    Wow. I’ve recently been through a highly traumatic experience and have been working on my box of anger. This advice is really going to help me on my way. Thank you Dr Paul.

  • @zvimusic8432
    @zvimusic8432 Рік тому +1

    Your my hero! Much love from New Zealand 🙏💚

  • @papichulo5792
    @papichulo5792 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you this helped me! Changed my vibration from low and now I’m smiling

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +1

      I am so happy to hear that, Papi Chulo. It's an honor to be on your team.

  • @Jets1713
    @Jets1713 4 місяці тому +2

    Ex roommates in my university crossed a lot of boundaries with me and knew it bothered me when I couldn’t sleep because of there inappropriate behaviors.
    When I approached it. I got gaslight because I was the bad guy but these things that aren’t allowed on campus in the first place.
    I left but I still feel angry they walked all over me.
    I will move on, but I have no obligation to forgive them.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 місяці тому +1

      I am glad you are moving on for yourself.

  • @yoyoyo5621
    @yoyoyo5621 3 роки тому +1

    oh that kinda shifted the perspective for me. When I think of it as sort of human adversity we all share. This is about me overcoming adversity and becoming a real hero...

  • @FemmeIntangible
    @FemmeIntangible 5 років тому +1

    Amazing video ❤ Thank you!

  • @instructivesilence359
    @instructivesilence359 10 місяців тому +1

    Amazing advice! Exactly what I needed to hear. I am a better person for having watched this video. Thank you.

  • @yurinhaschmidt3082
    @yurinhaschmidt3082 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you Dr Jenkins! (And to your wife too, she is wonderful as well!). I am so surprised that you don’t have more views… you really illustrate how to handle the anger emotion effectively and live a thriving life despite of challenges. God bless you and your family.

  • @vjcarter4657
    @vjcarter4657 2 роки тому +1

    LOL. Love it. That’s EXACTLY what we do! And what I am currently doing!

  • @emberlite
    @emberlite 4 роки тому +1

    Thanks for posting this video. I may need to watch it a few more times before it sinks in.
    I just started a new job (3 months in) and already I'm getting attitude even though I keep to myself, and treat others with kindness, work super hard and help out. I always start each day fresh and I'm really aware of my internal state. I also go to therapy but I feel like I'm just learning to deal with OTHER peoples' bad behavior.
    Even if I have a horrible day, I could never take it out on someone or treat them rudely. I think it's important to cultivate compassion. It boggles my mind that other people are so unaware of their internal state and can easily take it out on people or not listen to others. It just feels like I have to bear everyones' poor emotional regulation.
    I can be really nice (which honestly should just be the damn baseline standard but it isn't,) and I think people think they can take advantage of it even though I can set healthy boundaries and say "no."
    I literally do not get what is so hard about being nice to people!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      Amber Mitchell, life just goes better for everyone when we are kind. I am glad you understand that the only person you can control is yourself. I hope your positiveness wears off on the others around you.

  • @katherinelydon7306
    @katherinelydon7306 3 роки тому +1

    Your videos have given me hope and practical advice. Thank you. I especially like how you explain how to forgive someone, dealing with anger and how not to take things personally. You are truly gifted.

  • @sudhakarankandaswamy9776
    @sudhakarankandaswamy9776 4 роки тому +1

    I'm a hero now. Thanks.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому

      sudhakaran kandaswamy, yes you are! Now you know you are capable of rising high and helping others. Thank you for watching.

  • @jenmascaro4014
    @jenmascaro4014 9 місяців тому +1

    Damn! That was some tough love right there. Helpful though and I’ve needed it, for months. Thank you.

  • @Sellbuynjhomes
    @Sellbuynjhomes 3 роки тому +1

    Really needed this, thank you

  • @duanewente457
    @duanewente457 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you.. I've been through the hurt, the blaming myself, and was just into the blaming them part... Was recently in a break-up where I didn't want to go anywhere but they wanted to leave.. It's been tough. I appreciate your help.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +1

      Glad you are here in our community, Duane Wente. Thank you for sharing.

  • @joaniekmiller
    @joaniekmiller 2 роки тому

    This is such good information… Thank you

  • @excellentchoices
    @excellentchoices 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you Dr. Paul once again 👍👍 it’s so amazing how we always have choice and control.... May we all choose to take responsibility for our stuff and do our best to become hero’s 🙏 that’s my plan 👍👍

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому

      You are very welcome, Susan. Glad you are in our positive parenting community.

  • @colemang60yearsago23
    @colemang60yearsago23 3 роки тому +1

    Wow I really needed this video. Thanks so much for providing this free content.

  • @amybostic1439
    @amybostic1439 Рік тому +1

    I needed this right this moment

  • @christinatoros0l69
    @christinatoros0l69 3 роки тому +1

    You're awesome! I needed this for years. God bless you.

  • @stacyming543
    @stacyming543 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you for your time

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      Stacy Ming, you are very welcome. Happy to do it.

  • @bernadetteallen5415
    @bernadetteallen5415 5 років тому +1

    I just love your approach!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 років тому

      Thanks, Bernadette Allen. Glad to have you at the channel.

  • @suetucker9264
    @suetucker9264 2 роки тому +1

    We all have lessons to learn in this life, and we only grow from adversity; Consider it a gift rather than a punishment!

  • @shahanwazmondal3180
    @shahanwazmondal3180 2 роки тому +1

    Needed this today, thanks a ton

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 роки тому +1

      You are welcome.

    • @shahanwazmondal3180
      @shahanwazmondal3180 2 роки тому

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV damn you replied to my comment on a three year old video ! Means a lot , sir

  • @Juicybeachgirls
    @Juicybeachgirls 4 роки тому +5

    “It’s not my fault, UGHH!” Hahhha I love it!😆

  • @generalcrisis3650
    @generalcrisis3650 3 роки тому +1

    Mind blown when he said we should not take it personally for "it's not new, there have been thousands of other people in history who went through same things when they were in your situation. It's inevitable when you are one of the citizens on the planet earth"

  • @stevestegman998
    @stevestegman998 5 років тому +2

    I cannot thank you enough,how it makes clear sense,life love,attretion is all a choice,its how we think,and react and survive persaonal trials and diffuculties is what matters.God bless you Dr
    Paul and your sharing of knowldege..😀

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 років тому

      Thanks, Steve Stegman, honored to be on your team.

  • @joseandrada264
    @joseandrada264 Рік тому +1

    I think it's easy to ubderstand that we get angry when we are hurt.
    Ironically the people who get angry the most, tends to be the nicer and caring ones

  • @Haru-un9zn
    @Haru-un9zn 4 роки тому +1

    This is a great video thank you so much for uploading this

  • @kinghuds
    @kinghuds Рік тому +2

    Thanks bro for the talk

  • @sunnypark4096
    @sunnypark4096 3 роки тому +1

    Dr. Paul, I strongly agree with you ... choice for changes. To need support in dealing with discouragement, anxiety, and the realization of painful truths about themselves.

  • @TheMadComposer
    @TheMadComposer 4 роки тому

    Thank you for this!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      You are welcome, Ken Dandelas. Honored to be on your team.

  • @damienrodriguez4453
    @damienrodriguez4453 3 роки тому +1

    I appreciate this a lot. I'm trying to grow up right now in my life, this gives me another perspective to being upset. Thank you.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +1

      Damien Rodriguez, good for you. Adulting can be challenging, we are here for you.

  • @skym821
    @skym821 4 роки тому +7

    Haha oh this guy is so real. Laughing at parts. Great video.

  • @BR549DBH
    @BR549DBH 5 років тому +5

    God bless you for this video.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 років тому +1

      You are welcome, Robert Thomas, thanks for watching.

  • @seanyshepfit
    @seanyshepfit 2 роки тому +2

    I'm angry that someone I trusted and really cared about betrayed my trust and disrespected me completely.

  • @muccia7328
    @muccia7328 2 роки тому +1

    I'm sorry to say I really needed this today. Thank you for the energy switch and actional and reasonable steps 👍

  • @greenpea9412
    @greenpea9412 7 місяців тому +1

    Wow, well I don't know what to say other than thank you for the wake up call. I am absolutely feeling each and everything you said in the first four examples of anger. I don't want to feel as I do which is why I searched for some reasoning. I now feel like I have some help getting past my anger. I have had it all the time but didn't see it this way.
    Moving past how I feel will still not be easy but I at least can start working on a constructive way to get out of this misserable moment in time. I have been holding onto my anger for well over a year and it has dimmenished who I am inside. It has affected my work and relationship with others. I have always known it's going to be me that needs to change my mind set but my hate and anger have kept me feeling sorry for myself. No excuse for me to continue with the blame game.
    Sir I want to say thank you and I hope you see my comments and know you have helped a complete stranger find himself again. I am grateful.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  7 місяців тому

      Your post made my day. Better days ahead for you and everyone in your life.

  • @31JerBro
    @31JerBro 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you I believe I really needed this.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      Jeremiah Brooks, glad we could help. Thanks for watching.

  • @amelianashe6947
    @amelianashe6947 Рік тому +1

    This guy is GOOD. LOVE the use of humour and reverse psychology! Made me laugh my way out of my anger and prevented defensiveness. Very helpful too.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  Рік тому

      Thank you, glad to hear the video is helpful for you.

  • @eponymoususer8923
    @eponymoususer8923 2 роки тому +1

    I think a lot of the anger at people who are trying to hurt you is that it’s not about you. It’s a problem that you’re not being considered important, you’re not respected in the situation, and that invisibility and invalidation creates the hurt that needs protection. That’s what the anger does. A person sees invisibility as a threat, and anger makes certain they’re seen.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 роки тому

      Yes, they want to lash out. Anger is secondary to the other need in their life.

    • @eponymoususer8923
      @eponymoususer8923 2 роки тому

      Taking that into account, I think it’s less that they WANT to lash out, and more that it’s an instinct that’s just too much of a challenge for them to overcome. They lack the emotional development and resources to handle the situation with anything but the crudest of emotional tools.

  • @mikebucur8461
    @mikebucur8461 3 роки тому +1

    Great video!!

  • @Omwerestron9
    @Omwerestron9 3 роки тому +1

    thank you for this

  • @MegsCarpentry-lovedogs
    @MegsCarpentry-lovedogs 3 роки тому +1

    Whoosh! This vid is recalled up on the playlist as the hurt of betrayal resurfaced. Didn't see the betrayal coming either! Love your passion Dr. Paul. Get a great kick out of your expressions while you talk. Awesome! If one thinks about it, the adversity and villans bring some of us to your video's where YOU get to shine as a HERO! AWESOME EH! 💯. 💚Positivity idea is that the betrayal has awakened me to notice that I need more work on being hurt, accepting it etc. Plus, I get to revisit your video's eh! 😉 Thank you Dr. Paul. Hope you had an OK day. 😀 🇨🇦

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +1

      Meg's Carpentry, I like how you are facing this latest betrayal and taking the positive steps to put it into perspective and move past to create something better.

  • @rogerlittreal642
    @rogerlittreal642 4 роки тому +1

    Great video.... thank you!!